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| 73 | Misogynists deleted their videos and accounts because of this badass Tiktoker Drew Afualo! She tells women to keep their standards high and know their worth. Her good-looking BF treats her like a queen. This is the living proof that FDS works. Keep your worth and standards high. <3LOVE HER | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 09:51 PM |
| 7 | What are some goals to accomplish before 30 that aren’t a relationship or a house?That’s good advice thank you. I luckily have no debt at this time in my life, and having an emergency fund is a good idea - I should get on that. | /r/askFDS | 17/04/22 11:01 PM |
| 115 | Men resent women who help them💯💯💯 Men will grow snappy and irritable and dismissive when you try to handle their sloppy lives. It can become instinctive as a woman to be as helpful and giving as possible. That it will make us the best possible partners - but we need to set up a boundary for ourselves. These men aren’t our children. We don’t need to pour everything into their well-being. And I’ve done it myself. I’ve cleaned up after a man, got him his lunch, remembered every little detail on his life and did what I could to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 10:24 PM |
| 7 | Living With MenOh she’s basically his unpaid therapist. When she was at a birthday dinner for a family member, he called her to rant about how he didn’t know what he wanted to do with his career and I kid you not, she had to listen to him on the phone for 2 hours. She sat in the bathroom the whole time - missed the main course and dessert. Wasn’t an emergency, he just wanted to talk about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 09:46 PM |
| 57 | Living With MenOh she’s basically his unpaid therapist. When she was at a birthday dinner for a family member, he called her to rant about how he didn’t know what he wanted to do with his career and I kid you not, she had to listen to him on the phone for 2 hours. She sat in the bathroom the whole time - missed the main course and dessert. Wasn’t an emergency, he just wanted to talk about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 09:46 PM |
| 31 | Subtle signs a man is going to be a terrible fatherRed flags, saying cutesy things like “our kids would be so cute” or “we could call our kid XYZ” and conjuring up with lovely image in your mind but never showcasing any responsibility in their life that would actually correlate with being a supportive parent and partner. I see so many of my friends with guys that do this. They get their hopes up by being cute and playing along with the romanticised idea of having kids - but they never wash their own clothes and don’t have a stable job and have n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleThank you, this is great advice. I need to divert my energy where it is needed and will fulfill me. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 04:27 PM |
| 2 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleThank you, I appreciate it ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleI agree and I apologise | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleThat’s a good point and I will delete this post. I just got caught off guard. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleGood point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 03:50 PM |
| 40 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settle“You’re not getting any younger” like, dude, how’s your hairline doing? How the beer gut coming along? Has the porn addiction caused ED yet or what? Men love to try to scare women this way and I’m so sick of it. If they wanna be petty then I’ll be petty right back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 03:05 PM |
| 30 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settlePREACHHH 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 I swear I get so many messages telling “men don’t want you because of XYZ” and I’m like : The men are hitting me up, they’re in my dms, they’re being too forward at parties, they’re trying to escalate things. They think that the problem is that I’m some spinster who can’t get a date. That is not the issue. Here’s what’s up : I don’t want any of these guys. I want something better than that. I only want to be with someone who will make my life better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 03:02 PM |
| 57 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleYeah, I doubt homeboy would get past a conversation with a FDS woman because he knows he’s not gonna get a blowjob on the first date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 02:59 PM |
| 58 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleMy mental health problems have been present since childhood and I started to self harm at 14 but of course the reason I have bouts of sadness is because of the FDS sub. “A mouthy masculine woman” has literally never seen a picture of me, so is clearly projecting what he fears in women. I’m actually extremely introverted and am 4’11 and underweight. But if he is scared of weight lifting, loud women, then I’ll happily be that. “You’re not getting any younger” Absolutely hilarious attempt to scare … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 02:50 PM |
| 187 | Living With MenSee, if I sent this to my friend (who is a bang maid to her boyfriend) she would consider the “emotional support” the thing that he does for her. And this “emotional support” is calling her pretty when they’re alone, and giving her a boost of validation after a long day of cleaning up his crap and organising his life and putting up with his childish ways. And she would consider that an equal exchange of effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 12:48 PM |
| 170 | How do you perceive big d*ck energy?It’s a level of self assurance that feels like they’re not trying to overcompensate in other areas of their life. Being calm and patient of others who are maybe slower or weaker than him. He shows that he doesn’t feel the need to prove some kind of masculinity - he knows he is masculine and doesn’t need external approval. Being able to handle jokes about himself with ease. Not gaining resentment for others. “Girls never liked me growing up, I hate them all” “that guy didn’t invite me to his drin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 04:13 PM |
| 43 | Men have such rancid energyI feel you. I work around hyper masculine (usually to cover up massive insecurities like balding or having feelings) men who talk loudly and crudely about other women with such arrogance. Plus a few racist remarks here and there. But I can’t say anything because they are such bros with every other man that I know that nobody would stick up for me. Plus they’re super aggressive that I know they would try to hurt or intimidate me if they knew I was going to complain about them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 04:14 PM |
| 661 | Men are two-faced & will say one thing to you & a whole other thing about youThis is why I don’t take it seriously if men start flattering you - they know that women will take it to heart, and therefore will be more pliable. Also this woman wears scrubs so I assume she’s a doctor or nurse - and she fosters kids. If a man did these things, he’d be worshipped like Jesus. Someone who is hardworking and compassionate and generous. Somebody admirable. But to men that shit doesn’t matter - she’s just t*ts and an easy lay 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 09:02 PM |
| 10 | How hard it is to find a decent man? I am starting to get really upset.Do you have any friends? I find that having active and a varied friendships are a real key to having a fulfilling life, and that some people think that a romantic partner will fill this hole. Nourish and care for your friendships. Join new communities and groups and clubs. Yoga, books, knitting, meditation, kickboxing, baking, choir etc. Find something you enjoy and some people to enjoy it with. I try to view life as a ton of opportunities to make new friends and get new ideas. And if you want t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 10:05 PM |
| 22 | Have any of you had an actual relationship from tinder?I dated a guy from Hinge but we just didn’t vibe as a couple. We’re still friends and he’s a decent guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 09:56 PM |
| 16 | Don't describe yourself as kind or empathetic to men.I would consider myself a kind and caring person. And it was used against me. My ex was able to see that I held this quality in high esteem. He would say “you’re the kindest person I’ve ever met” and “you are so sweet” and “you’re such a good person” It made me so happy and validated. I felt like being good was the best thing of all. But when I did things he didn’t like, such as calling him out on his behaviour or getting frustrated with him, he would turn it on me. “I don’t know, you’ve been re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 08:59 PM |
| 97 | pickme glamorizing doing it all. there's no prize for doing it all🤡I was raised by a single mom and her version of “hot mom shit” was being the first person in her family to go to university, start her own business, buy her own house, travel all over the world and wearing the designer clothes that she couldn’t afford growing up. Not cleaning stuff for some guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 08:04 PM |
| 140 | pickme glamorizing doing it all. there's no prize for doing it all🤡“Hot mom shit” 😆 yeah, because men give a shit about menial household chores. Usually the “hot girl shit” archetype is a girl getting dolled up to go out dancing or sunbathing or having a girls night and typically her attitude is confidence to the maxxxx. But now it’s being adopted by put upon wives to make themselves feel special for basically being an unpaid janitor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 06:23 PM |
| 5 | The most effort this dude has put into anything. Block and Toss.Jesus, I went to more effort when I wrote a letter to a guy who cheated on me to tell me how much he hurt me (was young and naive and would never do that again) If I was writing a heartfelt apology because I hurt someone I loved, it would be on nice paper, with a great pen, and the whole letter would be about how sorry I was and that the other person did not deserve it. It wouldn’t be this scrawl on a ripped piece of paper, looking like a ransom note, stuffed in a ziplock bag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 02:30 AM |
| 191 | 💯Men’s version of “fixing” a person is more about moulding you into the female version of themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 03:39 AM |
| 474 | 💯Bruh no. After he’s had his boost, he’ll be gone, along with all the energy and love that he took from you. And do you think that a guy will hang around you in hopes of healing your trauma and trust issues? Do you think a guy will think “I can fix her”? No. You’ll be left figuring it out alone. So don’t bother with this saviour shit. It doesn’t even work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 12:56 AM |
| 250 | I understand the sentiment of this post was to tell women it is not our fault when a man has erectile dysfunction. I like many of her sketches. However, I think she forgot a lot of men also have (PIED) Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... May I ask FDS sisters, how can we best tell the difference???I dated a guy who was depressed, an alcoholic and was nervous around me - and he never had a problem getting an erection. Weirdly this coincided with the fact that he didn’t watch porn. 🧐 Once again, women are assigned to be their partners and their own therapists for something that has nothing to do with them. I’ve only hear of ED affecting young men because they have a porn addiction. So quit trying to convince these girls that the reason their 24 year old boyfriend can’t fulfil a basic human … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:43 PM |
| 97 | I haven't had the sex I want eitherYep, I feel this. Guys will practically be humping my leg, they’re so sex focused but when I want to do anything, it’s met with an annoyed sigh. Anything that required effort from them got an eye roll and a “no”. Even if it was just asking them to sit up or move further up the bed. I’ve asked for foreplay, different positions, different locations … never got any of them. Never got an orgasm either. But anything he wanted, he got. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:05 AM |
| 28 | Just noPeople are saying “as if” but I see girls doing this for guys all the time. My friend has bought SO MUCH shit from Victoria’s Secret to treat her boyfriend with - while he’s walking around in the same sweatpants he washed 2 years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 10:30 PM |
| 7 | A joke eh?What a catch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 04:19 AM |
| 9 | stripping / OF aren't actually "empowering" no one genuinely wants to do themIt doesn’t even make sense because the amount of women who need to take drugs to go through with this shit and then become addicts is heavily documented. Is that just an unrelated coincidence? I don’t see a lot of people needing drugs to go through with taking a yoga class or doing gardening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 08:51 PM |
| 14 | stripping / OF aren't actually "empowering" no one genuinely wants to do themYeah, this shit is so empowering, that’s why women who are from poor or disenfranchised backgrounds make up the majority. See that guy in a suit who’s got nerves of steel and 6 figures in the bank? Yeah, I bet it’s because he pretended to be a little boy and suck lollipops for profit online so that creeps can jerk off to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 08:49 PM |
| 61 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laid“The average girls can turn out to be sweethearts and blow your mind in bed” Yet the whole point of the post is that you use them as objects so that you can reach the objects of more value. They talk about women like they’re dogs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:10 PM |
| 11 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.I feel like I’ve de-cantered so hard that no guys actually want me to be their girlfriend. Not gonna lie, it makes me sad because I would love to be in a loving and committed relationship but the only men who approach me want sex so I guess it’s a a nuns life for me at 27. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 04:14 AM |
| 14 | What's the FDS view on "reading" porn?Reading erotica is a very different thing from consuming and contributing to the pornography machine so I wouldn’t say it’s the same thing. It’s not as addictive and less likely to cause ED. I would have only 2 questions to keep in your mind, 1. What kind of erotica is he reading? And Is he telling the truth? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 10:47 PM |
| 98 | How dare rich and successful men not have harems of 16 year old virgins, like I would have If I had even 1/10th of there powerWomen who continue to live past the age of 35? Disgusting. These men are truly gonna die alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 08:21 PM |
| 330 | How dare rich and successful men not have harems of 16 year old virgins, like I would have If I had even 1/10th of there powerAlso, it’s a lose-lose scenario. If these men were with 24 year old Victoria Secret models, then the women would be deemed “shallow gold-digging whores”. I mean, how pathetic do you have to get to think that men who have been in long term marriages with supportive women are somehow “losing” at life. “Can you believe Barack has been in a long committed marriage with a highly educated and successful woman who has raised two children with him on top of being a graduate of an Ivy League college, a b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 05:22 PM |
| 642 | How dare rich and successful men not have harems of 16 year old virgins, like I would have If I had even 1/10th of there powerThe sheer audacity of saying that Mark “inbred alien” Zuckerberg has an unattractive partner … like, are you looking at this guy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:50 PM |
| 49 | pickme pays for everything and lets him sleep with other girls! he gets to have his cake and eat it tooYou wipe his ass for him too? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:51 AM |
| 7 | Therapy lines that are used for manipulationA guy I dated, who was a therapy veteren at that point, told me that I was “harassing” him because I was trying to get hold of him during a pregnancy scare. Went through the whole thing by myself, and I still turned out to be the bad guy. Also, the only reason I was having this scare was because he had told me he was going to use a condom but he didn’t. 🤷🏻♀️ These guys have the language to make you feel guilty and make you question yourself when they don’t have the slightest bit of guilt about … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 12:23 AM |
| 2 | How do I help my friend who is with a LVM?Thank you, this is really helpful ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 26/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 133 | Dating men who are grievingI’ve dated a freshly grieving man and let me just say that I would NEVER recommend it. It is so easy to fall into the habit of becoming his caretaker when he’s grieving and it’s such an easy excuse for his behaviour. “Oh, but he’s grieving, he’s hurting” etc. And I say this as a woman who has been through grief from a young age. Funnily enough, I managed to deal with all myself but men need extra tenderness and care somehow. Women are so enamoured by men who show emotion that we just take all th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 01:18 AM |
| 499 | When they show themselves in the second message…. Boy bye.Jesus, these guys are obsessed with sex. Even the horniest, most celibate women are still capable of having a normal conversation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 04:35 PM |
| 66 | This kinda chaos is what happens when people believe to live in a dream-world where sex means nothing and men don't cheat (emotionally or sexually)“I’m not mad at him for enjoying the threesome” is just a sex positive way of saying “don’t worry I’m not actually going to hold him responsible for having passionate sex with another woman in front of me and then ignoring me with then showing sure signs that they will have sex in the future behind my back all on Valentine’s Day” Then why are you upset sis? By you’re own logic, this is a normal and good thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 70 | Zero Effort Valentine’s DayDo you think a guy would actually do NOTHING for Valentine’s Day for a woman he loved? A woman he wanted to impress? A woman he planned on marrying? Nah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 05:23 PM |
| 72 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.Yeah, I’m sure he’s gonna make some long lasting, deep friendships and that lying about something that can be easily found out quite quickly definitely won’t come back to bite him in the ass and make every person think he’s a complete weirdo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 03:58 PM |
| 13 | Feeling grateful that I’m not embarrassing myself this Valentine’s DayBoth of these men sound like a big waste of time and space. And I have also done something for a man who literally did NOTHING for me on Valentine’s Day so I feel that pain. And I actually had hope. I thought “maybe he’ll get me flowers for Valentine’s Day?” This was the same guy who was invited to my private birthday dinner and didn’t even bring a card or a gift or offer to pay. It was my birthday and he got a free meal out of it without giving a damn thing. No more buying gifts for guys who do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:51 AM |
| 13 | Feeling grateful that I’m not embarrassing myself this Valentine’s DayIt honestly sounds like he posts that shit to rub in your face and to be like “see? I don’t need you, I got someone else” because it probably hurt his ego that you dumped him and he felt incompetent. Hence why he jumped on the dating apps and moved on super quick with no introspection | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:47 AM |
| 44 | Feeling grateful that I’m not embarrassing myself this Valentine’s DayThis is the same woman who defended her boyfriend whenever he got his ejaculate over a book I had lent her that was very personal to me and had got me through some dark times. He never apologised and she defends him to this day. Also “at least she still believes in the idea of a loving relationship” - are you implying that I don’t? I wasn’t saying that love doesn’t exist or that there aren’t genuine display of love out there. And yeah it’s sad but it can be embarrassing too. Especially since I’v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:29 PM |
| 151 | Feeling grateful that I’m not embarrassing myself this Valentine’s DayI’ve always thought he would be a cheater but I didn’t know if I was being paranoid. He is quite flirty with other girls but I don’t know if he would actually go through with it. He goes out to clubs and gigs without her so I feel like he has ample opportunity. She’s always saying “he would never cheat because he knows I would probably end up finding out . Also his friends would tell me” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:09 PM |
| 23 | Men asking for Instagram or WhatsApp prior to meetingFor real. I swear that the majority of men here think that being intimate and romantic with a woman is “gay”. I legit had a guy who didn’t want to kiss me in a park during the day because there was some lads in the park and he felt embarrassed doing it where other men could see. A full grown man. 🙄 From my experience, French men cheat but at least they aren’t terrified to want you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 05:36 PM |
| 142 | Men asking for Instagram or WhatsApp prior to meetingIn Ireland, guys will just ask you to the pub and treat you like a friend. No proper dates or romance. And it’s always 50/50. You basically are just one of the lads but he expects to get a handjob at some point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 10:49 PM |
| 49 | Women can be very kind to each other. I'm tired of society acting like were only catty to each otherThere is nothing in this world that compares to talking to another woman who understands you. Today I was on a hospital table, having a Pap smear and crying my eyes out because I have a history of sexual assault and it just brings back the feeling of pain and helplessness. But a nurse held my hand the whole way, telling me that I was brave and that she was with me the whole time. Even though I cried and shook, she held me tighter, even after it was done. It made it less scary and I didn’t feel a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 10:03 PM |
| 19 | Don’t buy into indulgent couples content - especially around Valentine’s DayI agree 100%. I used to have a real urge to post every little thing about my ex, because I was utterly obsessed with him. And I realise now that it was all due to my insecurity. I thought if I posted and cemented him in my life and showed everyone he was mine, I would feel secure and happy and loved. Because I didn’t feel loved or secure at all. Because he was cheating on me, and lying constantly. If I made sure that everyone envied me, then maybe it would actually work out. Nope. Now I post for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:57 PM |
| 35 | When your 11 year old son starts watching violent and degrading rape porn all you gotta do is let him know that it's totally not a guidebook nor an okay portrayal of women!An 11 year old? That’s a child. A child who’s mind is already being formed by porn and developing addiction. All ideas about sex and intimacy will now be formed by the pornography industry - awesome 👍🏻 All of his future relationships will be affected by this. And you might as well get the viagra in bulk now because he’s probably gonna have ED by 21. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 01:04 PM |
| 135 | I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselvesI once dated a guy and he was skinnyfat and complained about his body and felt threatened by fitter men and always had something shitty to say to bring other people down. But when I asked him to go on walks by the beach with me in the mornings (which is my routine) he said “no way, I’m too tired. Just gonna play video games until you get back” When I did yoga stretches, he told me it was all stupid nonsense. When I said I wanted to join a womens boxing class, he told me I would never get the str… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:14 PM |
| 235 | I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselvesMen who whine about how “girls only want guys who look like Thor” are usually the ones who are allergic to the gym and have greasy pizza boxes on their floor. Guys who actually take care of themselves don’t really have the time to wallow in self pity and blame their beer belly on women. All of my childhood friends have boyfriends and not ONE of them are in shape. So clearly, the schlubby guys still have no problem getting girlfriends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:10 PM |
| 122 | I’m speechless and his excuse is even more sickening.We all know that feeling where you’re stressed from work and so you rape your partner, as they are crying and begging you to stop and you manage to orgasm from that. Classic symptom of being stressed from work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 05:12 PM |
| 382 | Age Gaps in the MediaThe Leo picture 🤢 Edit: I got so many crying men in my private messages trying to defend Leo’s right to have his fat belly crushing some girl fresh from her teens. I guess these men idolise this pathetic behaviour and aspire to be this emotionally bankrupt and care so little for their appearance. Also, they fail to understand something so basic as “if a man sees the women he’s fucking as interchangeable, then he probably doesn’t see them as human beings” or “old fat men choosing young impression… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 02:10 AM |
| 2 | The darker underside of the “cool girl”I sent her a message asking if she was okay but her only reply was “yep, me and “fwb’s name” like to party and I’m quite open about that” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:01 PM |
| 50 | Ladies, take care of yourself because no man ever will!Oh I’m so sorry! This must be such an intense physical and mental strain on you right now. Really hope you are going okay. 💓 I know it’s dumb to offer help since I don’t know how you’re feeling but finding a group of women who have had the same experience might help. Like a support group or online community. Block this asshole and watch something that makes you laugh. Really do hope you feel better ✨✨✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 10:51 PM |
| 136 | I wonder why he wants to date someone 10 years younger than him…Oh my god I had the same thing with the texts. I had been seeing this guy for a few weeks and I thought we had a real connection. We had talked about our families and our struggles. I thought we had emotional intimacy I saw the texts he sent to his best friend and never even told him my name. The only way he described me was “she’s 4’11, so tiny, I can lift her with one hand. And she’s a Catholic girl too” I was just a fetish to him. Not a person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:43 AM |
| 106 | Love it when a friend reminds me how much OLD sucks. I appreciate that he showed himself so quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 02:45 AM |
| 408 | Strippers are finally coming out with the truth. Faithful and respectable men DO NOT go to strip clubs. you’re not a ‘cool girl’ who lets her man go hang out with strippers. You’re just a fool who is getting playedGirls that try to be cool and think strip clubs are cool and fun are doing such a tired performance. If you wanted to see a dance show, you could go to a jazz act or a musical show or a drag show. But no, this is a strip club. Named because the women perform naked for the sexual pleasure of men. And then they go to back rooms and jerk them off. Sometimes there are private shows where the girls are asked to perform sex acts on each other for the pleasure of old creepy businessman. So stop acting … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:02 AM |
| 128 | Does the quality of men you attract affect your self esteem?Ohmygod yes. I seem to exclusively attract wimpy, insecure guys who never grew from their “nerdy and afraid of girls” phase. No ambition, spends all of free time playing video games, gradually getting fatter because they aren’t active and eat crap. The actually established ambitious men tend to treat me more like a little sister. Don’t know what is up or how to fix it. I do look younger than my age, so I think it makes people presume things about my maturity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 02:08 PM |
| 21 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?Yes 👏🏻 yes 👏🏻 yes 👏🏻 I used to get this CONSTANTLY when I was using Hinge and all it ever told me was that, They provided so little to peoples lives that they could just up and leave without warning. They thought that a change of scenery was a suitable alternative to doing inner work on themselves. They got through life by doing the bare minimum because the idea of properly planning a trip and researching was too boring for them. They are unaware of the male privilege of being able to ditch your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:33 AM |
| 7 | Men’s “goofiness” and “clumsiness” is usually just laziness and lack of considerationExactly! A person who is considerate will take the measures necessary. My friend is constantly getting napkins and wipes for her fully grown boyfriend. I don’t know how he doesn’t feel an idiot. Is it not emasculating to have a grown woman put napkins around you like you’re a baby? I guess he gets a mom, maid and unpaid sex worker in one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 01:13 AM |
| 18 | Men’s “goofiness” and “clumsiness” is usually just laziness and lack of considerationGood for you! ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 01:03 AM |
| 18 | How do I set a boundary with this guy?That’s a good point. I did jump straight into presuming he wanted notes. He said “would you be interested in reading any of my work?” after I told him I would send him some of mine. I just instantly felt like I had to give it my all because I’m such a people pleaser. I’ve been used in the past by men who want free advice and labour and I’m so determined not to do it again. I think you’re right and I should just play it by ear. If he wants a full breakdown, I will tell him that it’s my job and I … | /r/askFDS | 28/01/22 04:28 PM |
| 13 | How do I set a boundary with this guy?Thank you, I needed to hear this. I still want to respond in a neutral and impartial way in order to “keep the peace”, so to speak. So I’m thinking of responding with, “Of course you can send me whatever you like, but just to be upfront, I typically charge for a script edit with notes and breakdown so I won’t giving my full rundown. “ If anyone thinks I should say something different, let me know ✌🏻✨ | /r/askFDS | 28/01/22 03:38 PM |
| 184 | Men’s “goofiness” and “clumsiness” is usually just laziness and lack of considerationI’ve been hoping that she’ll dump him for 2 years but this is her first boyfriend so she attaches a lot of her self worth to him. I’m just hoping that it will eventually break down and end because she is straight up mothering this man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:06 PM |
| 37 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?Nope he didn’t change at all. And I only took him back because I was so desperately in love and couldn’t handle letting him go. He cheated on me and purposefully gaslit me. He apologised and said it would never happen again. Told me he felt terrible for hurting me. About a month later, he’s texting other girls when he’s away for a work trip. Nothing changed at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 10:24 PM |
| 271 | How are men so obsessed with sex and yet still SO BAD at it??EXACTLY! Usually when you obsess over something, it will at least give you a lot of knowledge and skill in that area. If you are addicted to playing video games - you are probably good at playing and know about the latest releases and have varied opinions on consoles and gameplay. If you’re obsessed with a celebrity, you know all their work and keep up to date with their news and run fan accounts and make edits. If you’re obsessed with nail art, you’re gonna have all the tools and toppers and wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:45 AM |
| 45 | We don't do that no moreThere was a time where I would’ve taken this as gospel. I wanted to be this man’s ride or die. His strong supportive pillar, through everything. I would nourish him, listen to him, guide him, love him. And it was the dumbest waste of my time. I was cleaning up after a grown man who could barely hold down a job. I was listening to this idiot’s drunken ramblings even when he was already drunk at 2pm. I would make excuses for him when he would hurt me because I didn’t ever want him to feel bad. He … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 06:37 PM |
| 17 | Pickme rewards her husband with a blowjob after he's been sexually absent and mainly being intimate IN HIS DREAMS 😔The dream husband 😍❤️ he has a dream where he smears bodily fluids on your face 🥺 and then wakes up and does nothing 🙏🏻🙏🏻😭😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 04:53 PM |
| 19 | Pickme rewards her husband with a blowjob after he's been sexually absent and mainly being intimate IN HIS DREAMS 😔This woman is ASTOUNDED by the idea of her husband finding her sexually attractive. Jesus, the bar is so low. What’s next, she gonna let him have a threesome with his co worker because he called her beautiful one time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Why do they keep romanticizing “toxic love” ?This kind of shit would be forgivable if Megan were a teenager and just getting caught up in her feelings for a pathetic and crappy dude. But Megan is a grown ass woman who is a mom, so this behaviour just comes off childish and attention seeking. He seems like the stereotype of the guy who ruins a woman’s life and leads her down a bad road. This is the kinda relationship where the guy manages to convince the woman to make stupid decisions, despite seeming like a smart and responsible woman befo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:15 PM |
| 40 | While I try to support our sisters, this… idk how I feel about this…. Like why can’t we protest woman’s rights.It is the men who are benefitting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 09:09 PM |
| 5 | What is FDS’s view on making art about your exes and your past relationship?Thank you for such a helpful response! The comparisons to Adele and Kacey are spot on. Adele talks about heartbreak but she usually ends up revealing more about herself than the other person. You’re totally right - even though some things were affected by his actions, this should be about me. | /r/askFDS | 09/01/22 01:42 AM |
| 15 | What is FDS’s view on making art about your exes and your past relationship?First of all, the quote “my blood is mine, drained of yours” is fucking amazing and I love it. Second, that’s a good way to view it. I guess I worry about a particular project that evokes a lot of sadness. I really felt like the girl I once was, she was trampled over and she thought it was love. I made a piece to evoke this feeling because it breaks my heart to think of my past self giving myself so much grief for someone that wasn’t worth a single second. I hesitate with it because I don’t want… | /r/askFDS | 08/01/22 10:56 PM |
| 240 | Men can't admit they can't pleasure women and that's why we replace themBruh, my vibrator isn’t gonna get me pregnant, give me an std and it actually gives me an orgasm so hell yeah I’m choosing it over some guy called Trevor who hasn’t ever done his own laundry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 11:30 PM |
| 132 | Remembering Valentina Grigoryeva: 1 Year Anniversary of Being Murdered by Youtuber BoyfriendInteresting that the first place people went was requesting this man to hurt his girlfriend. It’s like a common fantasy of men - seeing how much pain they can inflict on women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 08:11 PM |
| 49 | As funny as this sounds it's really hard to find men who actually like sexYessss. I was once with this guy who preferred getting wasted to having sex. I would come over for the evening and try to touch him and be intimate and he would push me away and say “later” and then get drunk. He would rather go out with guys from work and drink at a bar than have an evening with me. I would get all dressed up and wear nice silk underwear and he would barely give me a second look while pouring a glass and watching TV. It was so strange because he later tried to gaslight me into … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:33 PM |
| 36 | 8 Signs of a Low Value ManI didn’t like the video for women - since all of the traits were related to men somehow, as if everything is about how it will make your boyfriends feel. And it felt less like a list to help women understand their flaws and become better, than it felt like a list a man made for women to do what he likes. Things like “don’t be a drama queen” and “don’t try to take control” feels like a man saying “don’t talk too much and always smile” And it wanted women to not care about their appearance but at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 07:46 AM |
| 365 | First, your wife had a baby, not you. Second? You’re the problem.“It’s been 6 months since my husband has had a melon forcibly regurgitated through his mouth, tearing his tongue and inner mouth lining open, and he STILL hasn’t performed oral sex on me - how do I tell him, he’s failed as a husband?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 04:20 PM |
| 845 | This should be how women approach sex. If he can’t make you orgasm he can’t get access. 💅🏾👑Yes queen! I did this with my ex. He kept begging for blowjobs and shit - I said I would be open to it if he made me orgasm. Guess who never got a blowjob. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:33 PM |
| 70 | [deleted by user]These dudes are crying when it was men that created the whole idea of women relying on men for financial gain since they were forbidden from education, inheritance and business. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 08:16 PM |
| 58 | To those who were cheated on and took back their exes for a “second chance” how did it change you emotionally/mentally? What gave you the strength to leave?Oh it crippled me emotionally. Every time he didn’t text back, went out with his friends, left for a work trip - I was immediately imagining him cheating again. It truly haunts your every moment. Waiting to be hurt again, waiting to be disrespected again. I tried to imagine I was Beyoncé in Lemonade - the brave woman restarting the relationship through forgiveness but it didn’t work. He was still texting other girls, I still cried myself to sleep, it still wasn’t love. I became a needy shell of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 03:00 PM |
| 18 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭Ah yes, those women who porn (who I guess aren’t real women?) because they are clearly treated so well for their skills. Why doesn’t this man date a porn actress since he thinks they have the magic power? Maybe the reality of what he is jerking off to would hit a little too hard and would have to acknowledge that even the women in the videos he’s watching constantly (“slutty stepsis gets her back door destroyed”) are human beings and not just animals bred for his entertainment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 02:58 AM |
| 141 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.You mean, men should actually listen and be interested in their wives and get her something that she would actually like and make her life better? Preposterous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 03:56 PM |
| 171 | Relationship status = singleWow, do they actually put up with this? These “kings” want to be put first but a true alpha of a pack is the provider and makes sure that everyone is nourished and happy before themselves. These are just insecure losers who need their wives to pretend they have power by playing a stupid game. “Serve me food before the kids” - imagine your ego being so weak willed and fragile that you feel small by your own children eating food 5 seconds before you do. Absolutely pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 08:19 PM |
| 31 | “Merry Christmas from me and my family, whom I hate!”“Hey babe, I’m gonna duct tape you and our daughters because it’s a funny joke about how I enforce your freedoms because I hate you all and hate what you have to say, pretty funny right?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 06:10 PM |
| 79 | OLD Is just a waste of timeYes I’ve come to realise that OLD was bad for me. Only went on one date from it and it was awful. And I honestly spent so much time talking to guys that I wasn’t even that attracted to - I was just looking for validation and I wanted to feel like the romantic part of my life was alive in some way. I just felt like a failure for being in my mid 20s with no boyfriend and never getting dates. Also I would go through periods of being on hinge for a few days and getting tons of messages and then feel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 01:41 AM |
| 750 | A "compliment" that men need to stop usingI notice that guys like being impressed by your intellect… up until a point. This guy wanted to play a hard quiz game and thought it was sexy how smart I was. After I won 5 rounds, he called the game stupid and didn’t want to play anymore and he sulked for the rest of the night. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 11:00 PM |
| 40 | Thoughts on a male heaux phase?Was he sending dick pics? What was his language like in response to receiving nudes? It could show whether or not he’s got too much porn on his brain. Also there is not a chance that he has just “forgotten” about these pictures of nude women on his phone that he has definitely jerked off to multiple times, so if he tried to use that excuse, do not believe it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 09:29 PM |
| 189 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?When was the last time you saw a sincere attempt to market to men, that involved adult male models wearing clothes meant for little boys, with make up to accentuate their baby-like features? Do men want to emulate the style and aura of a four year old boy? Do they slow their speech when they talk and play with plastic trucks with scabby knees to seem more attractive? Could a father wearing his toddlers clothes be seen as sexy in the mainstream? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 02:15 AM |
| 10 | Why do men act so nice to other people but seem to hate their own wife and children?Because the wife and kids “trap” him and subconsciously he knows he’s a shit father and husband so hates being reminded of that by being around them. Also, after a while of disappointment, kids and wives will no longer look to you for guidance or support. So the dad/husband is just the dead weight of the family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 04:44 PM |
| 13 | Remember that ex you so desperately wanted to marry?Same! I’ve become way more confident since he’s been gone and I’ve been reading a lot more and just generally happier and free. Marrying him would’ve just drained me slowly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:57 AM |
| 31 | Remember that ex you so desperately wanted to marry?Homeboy was already an alcoholic and he wasn’t even 25 yet. Was spoiled and pampered by his rich family yet could not keep a savings account to save his life. Relied on me to keep him fed and presentable. Cheated and lied and gaslit like it was second nature to him. Tried to neg me and compare me to other women when he started going bald at 23. Never bought me gifts or made any effort to make me feel special. And he never made me orgasm once. Just wanna take the time to be grateful to the univer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:53 AM |
| 489 | Ben Affleck casts blame on Jennifer Garner for his drinking problemWow, that woman is an Angel. This asshole cheated and drank and embarrassed her - yet she’s driving him to rehab and getting him food? On top of taking care of their three children? This gross old man doesn’t deserve her. Glad that she’s rid of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:41 AM |
| 6 | Acclaimed author and activist bell hooks dies at 69Rest in love, Queen ❤️👑❤️👑❤️👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:24 AM |
| 226 | Ben Affleck casts blame on Jennifer Garner for his drinking problemHe felt trapped by his devoted wife and three healthy children? Poor guy 🥺 Pretty heroic of him to become an alcoholic and cheat on his wife and then talk shit about her in a public interview after the divorce. I know that there are women that are threatened with violence if they try to leave a marriage but I think that Ben Affleck is the true victim here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:23 AM |
| 31 | NVM Ben Affleck blaming drinking problem on his marriage to Jennifer GarnerDidn’t Affleck have addiction issues before he even met Garner? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:18 AM |
| 65 | single womenI agree. I feel like my friends that are in relationships are too busy pouring their energy into their boyfriends interests and passions so all of hers just fades into the background. Plus, they have to basically be on call for their boyfriend/son and will revolve their lives around his schedule. Basically none of my friends with boyfriends do anything to make new friends or start new interests. It’s almost like they’ve retired from life. They become a more muted, watery version of themselves. M… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 03:26 AM |
| 110 | I thought for a long time that my male friends were actual friends, but everyone of them ended up trying (aggressively) to get me to sleep with them. So it's a NO for me.Honestly the only male friends that I’m sure aren’t using me as a masturbation fantasy are gay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:32 AM |
| 24 | Do you have a friend who reaches out to you when things aren't working out with her man, and then the minute they're okay, she's gone?Oh my god YES to that last comment. My best friend is such a pickme and lets her boyfriend get away with anything. Whenever I point out his shitty treatment of her, I tend to get hit with a “you’re just jealous” or “at least I have a boyfriend”. Yet, my friends with great boyfriends NEVER say this shit and never make me feel bad about my single status. They are genuinely content and happy and don’t need to be constantly reminding me how amazing their boyfriend is while also needing advice on how… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 04:11 AM |
| 916 | Woman sees tornado and frantically moves her kids to safety. Husband questions her sanity, slights her for “scaring the kids,” and foolishly goes outside.Oh my god I hate this “whoa, chill out” tone that men get when you are trying to help and get things organised. It’s like they’re desperate to always be “too cool for school” about everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 11:46 PM |
| 75 | “Cuddling”Every single time a guy has cuddled me, he has put his hand on my breast and tried to initiate sex. Most times I just gave into it. Now I honestly just don’t trust any act of physical intimacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 10:11 PM |
| 40 | Do you have any male friends?I used to have a lot of male friends but slowly, one by one, they showed me who they were. Most of them used me for free therapy and cleaning services. A lot of them just ghosted me when I no longer provided a service to their life. Honestly a lot of men don’t know what it means to be a friend. They don’t remember birthdays or check in or offer to help out in small ways. A man has never washed my dishes after I made a meal. Or defended me when men were being gross. One of my best male friends wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:05 PM |
| 0 | Men will try to make their porn-sick ideas seem like a good idea for both of youI’m her only friend at this point. She kinda stopped keeping up with friends since she met him. So I’m the only one outside of him that she spends time with. I know she values me - she is there for me when I need to talk. It would hurt her to lose me - but she has made him the centre of her life so she would choose him over anything. She’s even told me that she would stay with him if he cheated. She has a drawing he did tattooed on her body. I’ve tried to drop subtle hints that it’s not healthy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:19 AM |
| -8 | Men will try to make their porn-sick ideas seem like a good idea for both of youBlocking him will start an argument with my friend and I don’t want that. I have already opted out of going to certain events and gigs because he would be there. I do everything I can to ensure that I spend time with her at a time that he won’t be there. I do not get off on him giving me attention. He does it to other girls and I have more self respect than to want the affections of a moron who’s disrespecting my friend - I’m more exasperated that she puts up with it. My attempts to point these … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 12:34 AM |
| -21 | Men will try to make their porn-sick ideas seem like a good idea for both of youI’m not cool with him hitting on me! Why is it my fault that this guy is pervy idiot? He shows me photos he’s taken at an event of me and compliments me. I ignore. He leaves “❤️🔥❤️” emojis on my photos - I ignore. He sends me compliments in my dms - I ignore. I’ve brought it up to my friend but she just says that he’s super friendly but I can tell it bothers her. What am I supposed to do? I’m glad it’s now my responsibility to handle this instead of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 10:43 PM |
| 4 | A first year of not downloading Tinder out of boredom and depressionSame! I used to do the same on Hinge. It would feel like a boost but it would just drain me. I would waste so much of my time sifting through these messages with barely passable men that wouldn’t even want to put in effort. Not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 09:23 PM |
| 0 | This is why we block and delete, it’s as much about preventing our own harmful acts in a moment of weakness.Okay, this gives me a bit of a wake up call. I will admit, I post things in the hope that my ex will see it. Nothing crazy like this. Just photos where I think I look pretty or photos that will impress him, all in the hope that he might see them and regret leaving me. But this reminds me how pointless it all is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:21 PM |
| 9 | I came across this exercise from FDS recommended book "the power of pu*sy" and it had me a bit stumped! Would love to hear you ladies' opinions, if you'd wish to share! *WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM MEN?*Honestly I think the only thing I want from men is intimacy and fun and loyalty. I don’t even think I want a husband or someone to take care of me, I just want someone to kiss and have some fun memories with. Everything else I can get elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:09 PM |
| 75 | What theme would you like to see displayed more in movies?Women legit loving being alone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:17 AM |
| 84 | Can you share your thoughts about “Why men love bitches” by Sherry Argov? I personally don’t understand why it gets recommended so much, half the book is about modeling yourself to male expectations.It was personally really helpful for me as I became new to relationships. In a chapter she describes how so many girls will sit happily in a guys room for a date, just watching him do things and they’ll just smile and be gracious. I recognised myself in that. The need to be the nice, polite, patient girl and put up with everything. I actually found it energising to read about how you shouldn’t actually care at all. I know that it won’t work for everyone and that the idea of doing everything for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:23 PM |
| 25 | Men are emotionally stuntedMy ex had recently lost a family member and I was comforting him. His response was to deny that he was upset all the time. “I’m fine. Everything is fine” And when his mother was showing her grief, he told her that she needed to start fresh and move on. It has been 2 months at that point. The complete lack of understanding of emotions was astounding to me. Of course, he would eventually show his sadness (at 3am after a lot of drinking) and I would be his emotional sponge, soaking it up for him. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:13 AM |
| 2 | This made me feel dirty, I'm glad I broke up with himThat is exactly what I’m craving - the dopamine hit. I never got any lovebombing messages though. I did get “I’ve been thinking about you. I’m sorry. I hope you’re okay. I want you to be okay” after 3 months no contact. Which just feels like pity to me, and that why I feel quite powerless. I don’t want to be pitied. I have gotten a lot better though. To take that hook out, I like to remind myself how dumb and immature and selfish he was and that someone like that does not have any business havin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 01:25 AM |
| 5 | This made me feel dirty, I'm glad I broke up with himOkay, I can admit that I have some more growing to do because this message just made me realise that I want this. I have longed for a message like this from my NVX and I know I won’t ever get it so it makes me want it more. I know he’s a gross, bad man and I don’t even want him back - I think I just want the closure of knowing that I wasn’t nothing to him. I want some of the power, because he’s always had it. So yeah, I’m super glad you are in a strong place to put this message in the trash wher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 12:10 AM |
| 25 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?These guys say “low libido” when the truth is these men are just undesirable. Do they not see how unexciting they must seem to their partners? Their emotionally and physically exhausted wives that have everything dumped on them and have an ungrateful partner who doesn’t cherish them or excite them or surprise them or value them. These men think they are just owed sex for life, on tap, whenever they want, regardless of how she feels. It’s clear that sex has nothing to do with HER and her pleasure… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 10:05 PM |
| 8 | Why do men think that saying "enjoy being single forever" is supposed to insult us?Have they never seen communities of older women making food and doing crafts and chillin with their animals? Women live longer without men and have less stress and we form strong bonds with other women - it’s the men who should worry about being single forever. They’ll be the ones with no community. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 08:42 AM |
| 179 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?Yep, I feel this with friends and their ugly boyfriends. Their bfs will chat to me and compliment me and my friends will give me death glares and then be pissy with me. As if I give a crap about their annoying boyfriends. It really ruins my mood because I did nothing wrong but I’m getting cold treatment because of it whereas he gets off the hook and she’ll probably suck his dick later anyway. I hate it more when they try to show off to me about how their aMAziNg boyfriend when just a minutes ago… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 12:34 AM |
| 2 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?Never happened to me. And now I’m just suspicious if they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.I agree in theory but I can understand how waiting for the right person to just show up in your life can feel pointless. I’m 27 and I’ve already given up the idea of having a family because the chances of the right guy that would be a good father just entering my life out of nowhere feel very very slim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:00 PM |
| 13 | REMINDER: Do not clean up for dirty scrotes and make them feel cozy in their filth *busy none* they can find *one* hour out of the week to clean their scum.My mom works 15 hours in the day, 6 days of the week and she would NEVER let her bathroom get to this state. That is completely disgusting. The only excuse for that bathroom is if he lives alone with a severe mental illness, in which case he needs medical care, not a desperate girlfriend to scrub his shit-encrusted toilet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 12:38 PM |
| 132 | John Mulaney’s ex, Anna Marie Tendler, leveling up!!I love that she focused on herself and her art and she is flourishing. ☀️ especially now that she doesn’t have to carry around all his drug and alcohol issues, she can just be responsible for her own life and it looks like it’s going great 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 07:14 PM |
| 30 | If he has to think about why he loves you, he doesn’t love you.“You are smart, and I love the way you think” “You’re so funny and you make everything a laugh” “You work so hard and have a great work ethic” “You are so thoughtful towards others” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 04:53 PM |
| 22 | Why do guys remain friends with ex girlfriends while seeing other girls?Seriously. I’m not in regular contact with any guys from my past. | /r/askFDS | 06/11/21 03:17 PM |
| 33 | He (27M) revealed he was a virgin…Nobody’s really mentioning it but being bad at kissing is a big red flag for me. It’s such an instinctual thing that it show a lack of chemistry if he can’t do it right. Also it means the sex will be like that but way more awkward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 12:15 AM |
| 8 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.Didn’t he cheat on his wife? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:01 PM |
| 5 | How to forgive yourself for consenting to an abusive sex? (potential trigger warning)Going through this myself and it’s a tough road. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:33 PM |
| 8 | Spotted in another sub. Subtle red flag that I (as a short-legged woman) have experienced too!Oh yeah, I totally notice this in guys now. I’m 4’11 and so I’m not the fastest. Recently on a date, this guy would just walk ahead of me and I had to rush behind him, like I was an unsupervised child. It just shows immaturity and lack of understanding of romance. They don’t even understand the tenderness of walking next to someone. Plenty of guys know this and will walk beside me, attentive and enjoying my company. There’s no excuses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 01:28 PM |
| 84 | What do you think of MGK & Megan Fox? Apparently MGK cheated on Sommer Ray to be with her, then tried to make himself look like the victim when he was already dating Megan.Classic ugly guy who uses the hot girls to boost his ego | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 12:11 AM |
| 43 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”“Casual sex is a relationship” EXACTLY. Why do people act like it’s normal to separate sex with intimacy? As if sex is a business transaction you would have with anyone at all, with no factors to take in. You have to know the person. Trust the person. Have chemistry. Communicate well. Arrange meetings and places. Bring them to orgasm and know the details and steps to get there. And be naked and vulnerable and as close as physically possible. Quit acting like it’s as casual as buying a newspaper … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:19 PM |
| 31 | Men who only pursue you romantically after your “glow up”Yeah, I never got guys interested in me until I had a “glow up” and it just annoys me because a lot of them are guys I’ve known for a while so it’s clear that they never actually considered me good enough until now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:07 PM |
| 34 | Followup to yesterday's question: When do you first remember being told that a boy is mean to you when he likes you?Literally don’t remember because it’s been so ingrained in my mind since I was a child. If a boy pulls your hair, pushes you, calls you names, ignores you, is rude to you - it’s a sign of him being a big softy that cares about you so you should just take it as a compliment and not bother people about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 11:07 PM |
| 14 | Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him?First time was 6. Was sat next to the boy who had anger problems and threw things at the teacher. I was the shyest and most quiet in the class and they said it would be “good for him”. Then it happened again at age 9. Was seated in an area with all of the most disruptive boys in order to help them “calm down”. Happened multiple times in secondary school/high school. Never once was my own comfort and ease of learning considered. These experiences just made my shyness worse because the boys were s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 10:05 AM |
| 1 | Talk to your ex’s exI would love to do this but my ex is quite a charismatic person and still vaguely in touch with a lot of his exes even though he treated them bad and I am scared they will have a loyalty to him and tell him that I’m reaching out to them. Then I’ll be the “crazy bitch ex” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Knowledge Share: What Feels Good For You During Sex?Couldn’t agree more on the “girl on top” thing. I just don’t get it. I love intimacy and touching and passion. But when I’m on top I feel like I’m just by myself sitting on a cucumber while somebody watches me. To be fair, I’ve only have one sexual partner and he clearly wasn’t very good. I love missionary and wrapping my legs around a guy and I love feeling as close as possible. I haven’t orgasmed during sex before so can’t give you any info on that. 🤷🏻♀️ God, my sex history is so disappointin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 08:44 PM |
| 13 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoThe most serious relationship I was in, he was doing this. Talking about his ex that was “the one who got away” that he screwed up and wishes he could change the past and blah blah blah. Now I haven’t talked with him in years and I do sometimes wonder if I’m in the new “one who got away”. Maybe I’m thinking too highly of myself, but the last thing I heard from him was a message saying “I’m ashamed and embarrassed and sorry” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 02:33 PM |
| 139 | Why do some men prefer receiving oral sex over intercourse? Are they pornsick or are they just selfish?A guy once admitted that he liked getting head because it would feel like revenge for the girls he never got in high school, and he would imagine them, especially if he came on their face. So. Gross. | /r/askFDS | 10/10/21 11:07 AM |
| 10 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherLegit believed that this was the best man I had ever met and was willing to do anything for him: alcoholic/addict/criminal history (the only reason he wasn’t in jail or homeless was because his family came from wealth referred to beautiful women as vain or stupid in order to feel better about the fact that he was balding at 23 with a beer gut on the way cheated, and had cheated with other girls constantly eroded my self esteem by gaslighting me and hitting me with small insults at random lied ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:04 PM |
| 3 | What part of leave me alone do LVM not get?This guy wrote a whole essay about his concern that you’ll be alone as if his pathetic-ass isn’t insecure as hell at the idea of a woman from his own culture not putting up with male bullshit. This guy has a lot more to lose being “sad and alone” - who’s gonna be washing those clothes and making his meals every day? Can guarantee he doesn’t do that himself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 10:51 PM |
| 147 | Jesus wept (photo not mine)I just presumed that a guy that managed to get close to such successful and beautiful women would know what he’s doing, but I guess not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 12:18 AM |
| 456 | Jesus wept (photo not mine)I’m still baffled by the fact that I was having sex with a man that had dated models and actresses, a self-proclaimed ladies man, and when I started rubbing my clit, he stopped and said “what are you doing?” I said, “what do you think I’m doing?” … He legit didn’t know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 10:46 PM |
| 79 | I hate talking about my abuse to my friends with boyfriends because it makes them look goodBut would you go back home and make the comparison in your head? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:37 PM |
| 42 | What happens when a forever girlfriend finally gets married.How desperate do you have to be to settle for this? Her self esteem must be so low, poor thing. This was HER wedding but it doesn’t seem like anything was done to make her feel special. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:09 PM |
| 15 | If the sex was bad: don’t you dare tell him he did a good jobI was coerced into losing my virginity and I might even go as far to say that it was forced penetration. I still tried to be nice afterwards and when he was acting all sheepish, I tried to make him feel better. He would never consider it wrong because I was being nice to him after the fact and I was so in love with him that I chose to overlook the fact that my pain and tears didn’t seem to matter over his orgasm. If there is the smallest feeling that something was off, please listen to that feel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:26 AM |
| 23 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..I’ll drink to that 🥃 The weed addiction, the bad sex, the lack of reliability. Won’t make that mistake again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 01:48 AM |
| 21 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..100%. The same guy who proudly said he doesn’t stand for racism also loudly said the N word after a couple of vodkas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 11:40 PM |
| 44 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..While drunk, he told me that he believed gay people to be abnormal and had something wrong with them. This was a guy from California that had said he was a proud ally and very laid back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:11 PM |
| 36 | Rant about my weird dateYet, I still feel like crap after he messaged me telling me he sees me just as a friend. I was planning on rejecting him anyway but the fact that he doesn’t even like me just makes me feel so ugly. I thought this might be the first guy that actually wanted to be with me but no - still nobody has ever wanted me. It’s hard to feel high value when nobody wants you. | /r/askFDS | 06/09/21 07:41 PM |
| 8 | I’m planning my own date and now I’m less excited - what should I do?Thank you for such a thoughtful and understanding answer. I’ve ordered a second hand copy of “Women Who Love Too Much” so thank you for the recommendation. 💗 I know I should just cancel and never talk to him ever again but I know I’m just going to go on the date anyway, just to get it done. I might just tell him that I don’t want to plan it and make him decide. It’s so hard because this is the closest I’ve come to going on a date in years. I felt so good to finally just have somebody to talk to … | /r/askFDS | 29/08/21 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Anniversary would’ve been next Friday and…I always like to plan a treat for myself on those hard days that remind you of someone. For instance, on my exes birthday, I would plan to go swimming with my friend. Or to have a movie night with myself. Or buy a new cute outfit. Something that was about me, and my enjoyment. Almost like I was treating myself for getting through something so hard. “Well done, me” You should do the same. You’ve made progress. You are great. | /r/askFDS | 29/08/21 02:14 AM |
| 19 | I’m planning my own date and now I’m less excited - what should I do?Because I’m so used to arranging a place to eat (with work/friends/family) because of my food allergies and because I’m picky. I just went into default “I’ll pick a place” and now I realise my mistake. Don’t know what to do to fix it | /r/askFDS | 29/08/21 02:05 AM |
| 41 | Why are so many men so unhygienic and disgusting?I’ve gotten so used to guys showing up smelling of weed and wearing slouchy loungewear that they haven’t changed out of in days that one time I was genuinely speechless when a guy had ironed a fresh shirt and washed his hair. It floored me. It was the most basic effort but it was more than I had ever seen. His shirt also has a nice scent of fabric softener. It actually made me feel like he cared about his life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 09:48 AM |
| 4 | I hate my self!Sis, don’t hate yourself. Being naive and trusting are not terrible crimes. You were full of love and affection and took misguided steps because of it. Now you will have this learning experience and grow because of it. This guy is a creep and pathetic and he’s the one that deserves the shame. Take this as a reflection on how gross men can be. Hope you are doing well and have a better experience next time. | /r/askFDS | 09/05/21 11:52 AM |
| 7 | Dating a lovely guy - and I feel dead inside.You’re just not attracted to him. That’s it. Nothing he did, nothing you did. I think it’s normal for us to keep going out with a guy because he ticks a lot of boxes but I personally think that if you don’t have some want or attraction for the person, then it’s just settling. You seem very self aware and smart, so I think you would be aware if you were self sabotaging a relationship with a guy you really like. I have struggled with self sabotage and I find it usually happens when I feel like I’m… | /r/askFDS | 08/05/21 01:39 PM |
| 18 | High Value Dates OnlyThe men in their early 30s asking me to go out for a walk with them really show how little they are gonna value my time. Plus if this is his attempt to impress you, then it’s only gonna get worse from here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 06:08 PM |
| 2 | For my own peace of mind: He just has to be lying about this situation not being personal, right?But they weren’t awesome guys if they ended up making your life and mental health worse. Definitely do get back into therapy, it is really helpful for getting clarity. And I believe that the right person will make it easy for you. I’m single myself so I might just be talking nonsense, but from talking to people who are in long term and healthy relationships, they tell me that falling love felt very calm and natural and easy. I try to remember that whenever I’m getting stressed over some guy, he’… | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 03:49 PM |
| 15 | For my own peace of mind: He just has to be lying about this situation not being personal, right?You need some self love. It just sounds like he’s in a bad headspace but he does like and trust you and it’s case of wrong timing. You were right to properly let him go though. It’s not healthy to wait around for someone. I had an abusive ex and he really made me feel like there was something inherently ugly and broken about me so I understand how much that mindset can cripple you. I just remind myself that those ugly feelings came from his own ugly soul. All that insecurity was his own. A truly… | /r/askFDS | 26/04/21 09:13 PM |
| 12 | Overthinking questionA grown up gives the break up the time it needs and moves on. And honestly if a guy is genuinely interested in you and is over his ex, he’ll not hesitate to delete the old anniversary photos or Valentine’s posts. Excuses like “it’s time consuming” or whatever just means they are prioritising their relationship with them over you. I mentioned to a guy once that I had looked at his Instagram and the next day I noticed that that he had deleted all the old photos of his ex. So it is possible. I don’… | /r/askFDS | 25/04/21 11:34 PM |
| 8 | Scrotes Are Mad 🗣😂I think about this whenever I remember my abusive ex was already balding at 22. Haven’t seen him in years and i feel at peace knowing that he’ll always be ugly, inside and out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Am I being ghosted?Your anxiety was valid. You weren’t being crazy and he was being a shitty person for making you feel that way and then getting angry when you finally voiced your feelings. No wonder you got dramatic - it’s not normal to bottle everything up and to feel low in a relationship with no care from your partner. I know it’s painful right now but you need to cut off contact and leave his life with dignity. You are a completely unique person and he’ll never find anyone exactly like you. Plus, his emotion… | /r/askFDS | 08/04/21 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Am I being ghosted?What you wanted was very fair and normal - and wanting things to be properly resolved is normal too. This is speaking a lot more about his emotional immaturity than anything to do with you. | /r/askFDS | 08/04/21 03:13 PM |
| 0 | Am I being ghosted?Don’t speculate about how things might’ve been. You’ve no idea what other problems might have come up in the future. And if the relationship was fragile, then let it break. You’re really beating yourself up about this so I really suggest you focus on yourself and properly loving and caring for yourself. | /r/askFDS | 08/04/21 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Am I being ghosted?Hey, don’t be like that. Everyone messes up sometimes and this is hardly an unforgivable offence. You didn’t intentionally hurt anyone and you apologised - so stop blaming yourself. Also men who get “freaked out” by emotions are mentally 8 years old and aren’t able to have an adult conversation. Give yourself some love and forgive yourself and remember that a relationship is supposed to go both ways and it’s not all resting on you. If he made you feel crazy and irrational then he probably wasn’t… | /r/askFDS | 08/04/21 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Am I being ghosted?He’s sulking and is getting power from ignoring you. It’s not that big of a deal and you’ve apologised so there’s nothing else for you to do. Just give him time, he’ll probably end up texting you at some point but don’t go running to him. Keep yourself objective and look at how he’s handling this argument because it’s an indication of how he will ha for all disagreements | /r/askFDS | 07/04/21 11:38 PM |
| 5 | My nvm expected me to put the groceries awayEw | /r/askFDS | 30/03/21 09:54 PM |
| 1 | My heart is getting really heavy as I'm preparing to leave my boyfriend. Any support appreciated.Dude, reading this is painful because I was the same. Making excuses for a loser that didn’t deserve it. He cheated and didn’t care to give you pleasure or make you feel safe in bed? You’ve won this. I’m so happy for you. I know you’re looking at those beautiful moments right now and trying to be kind but remember that those beautiful moments exist because of your good, and loving heart. Not because of his unfaithful ass. There’s so much to discover and experience in the world and you will trans… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 10:31 PM |
| 48 | I kind of get annoyed when I see my friends spending tons of money on their boyfriends who never do the sameThis is a really interesting insight. I used to do so many things for this guy, little gifts, thoughtful surprises and I think deep down I thought it would make him realise that I’m special and therefore love me more and be thoughtful in return. It didn’t work. Because the person who truly loves you, won’t need any reminders or prompts to love and adore you. | /r/askFDS | 13/03/21 08:34 PM |
| 28 | New relationship and my partners masturbation seems excessive.I agree with the other commenter that it’s only been 2 months and that you don’t know enough to know that it’s a great relationship yet, so give it time before you decide he’s perfect. That being said, I’m not quite sure what it is that you are concerned about. When you asked him how frequently he masturbates, I presumed that was at the start of the relationship so it’s probably different now. Does he masturbate even if you’re there? Do you think it’s an addiction? Need more information to know … | /r/askFDS | 10/03/21 03:00 AM |
| 14 | Things your rapist can use against you in courtThis is why I know I could never actually do anything about the guy that assaulted me. I was so attached to him and didn’t think he was doing anything wrong. I was the one always apologising to him. Everyone who saw me would say that I was so dependent on him and I sent him so many paragraphs. Nobody on this earth would believe that I was crying and shaking when he took my virginity. I bled the whole of the next day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 11:49 PM |
| 37 | Missing cuddlingJust reading this made me feel seen. So thank you for that. I don’t know what the solution is - I guess the hope and imagining of what could happen in the future. I also have a long hot water bottle and I love cozying up with it in bed or on the couch. If the ache in your heart is bad though - watch something funny and silly. | /r/askFDS | 15/02/21 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Is him forgetting about our date a red flag?Thank you for your response. I was surprised he didn’t apologise too - that feels like the normal response. Honestly, people sticking to their time and commitments is important to me. I hold it to high regard and have been hurt by people that are unreliable and selfish - so it’s something I need to trust someone. I haven’t responded to him in 2 days and he’s messaged me “How was your afternoon? “ “Hey, is everything okay??” And I feel so guilty by not texting so I think I’m gonna have to but the… | /r/askFDS | 03/02/21 12:00 PM |
| 11 | Is this a red flag? My boyfriend got rather upset over a misleading photo of us over the holiday and it really put me off.I appreciate you giving me details, but I think my opinion is the same. If he truly saw himself being married to you in future, why would the implication of it make him raise his voice? Also, do you think it’s normal behaviour to cause an argument with your partner because of an inability to clarify something with a family member? If you posted a photo that looked like you were at the beach and people commented “are you at the beach?” even though you weren’t, do you think he would have a strong … | /r/askFDS | 02/02/21 04:02 PM |
| 20 | Is this a red flag? My boyfriend got rather upset over a misleading photo of us over the holiday and it really put me off.Okay, if he got a bit bothered by it, I could see it maybe being a situation that he was looking forward to and so didn’t want to have a fake out. (Like he had plans for an actual proposal and so didn’t want people to mistake them) However, he yelled at you about it like it was your fault (🚩) Barely anyone commented on it was all his own paranoid self projection (🚩🚩) And his main cause of anger and upset is that people might assume that he was engaged to his serious girlfriend that he has been w… | /r/askFDS | 02/02/21 02:22 PM |
| 12 | Am i broken, or do i just date the wrong men?Okay, the fact that you have to ask if YOU are broken when it was this jerk that treated you bad shows me that you need to build up your self esteem and focus on yourself. And that’s not a criticism by the way. These guys that say “you need to work on yourself” that comes from a douchebag perspective in order to make you doubt yourself instead of seeing their flaws (and they probably had a lot that you were overlooking when you were busy putting yourself down). I’m saying it from a place of a ca… | /r/askFDS | 02/02/21 11:13 AM |
| 14 | Is him forgetting about our date a red flag?Ughhhh, can’t help it. I’m always trying to give my absolute all and not let anyone down. It’s actually quite a big step for me to lay down a boundary and say to myself “no, this isn’t good enough” | /r/askFDS | 01/02/21 09:35 PM |
| 11 | Should I tell him how wrong he was to assault me?Thank you for your comment. It feels so good to be heard by someone who understands what it’s like. This guy and me are in different countries and I know he would never try to find me. I don’t want to argue with him or talk to him - I just want to tell him what he did and then block. I feel it would give me some closure to acknowledge it. The last message I sent him was “thank you, I hope you’re doing okay” and that just isn’t right for me. | /r/askFDS | 28/01/21 06:25 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with a seemingly HVM with personal life issues (family death)My ex blamed himself for his sibling dying. So make sure he is dealing with that before you jump into something serious. That’s a mindset that can get you stuck. Does he seem dependent on alcohol or drugs? This is all pretty fresh for him so keep an eye on how he seems to be coping. I can tell you really like him, just remember that he still has to prove himself to you. | /r/askFDS | 26/01/21 03:44 PM |
| 10 | How to deal with a seemingly HVM with personal life issues (family death)Not every situation is the same but my ex met me a few months after his younger sibling died tragically. This was something that ended up bonding us together. His grieving was put on me and I gave everything I had to make him feel better, to make things easier. Very high highs and very low lows. Seeing someone in a state of grief is emotionally overwhelming- especially if you are mixing intimacy and bonding into it. It can make it harder to see their behaviour clearly. I let my ex do terrible th… | /r/askFDS | 26/01/21 03:33 PM |
| 16 | There is no Dream GirlA guy left me for his ex, he said she was his “one” and she’s a hot actress. Didn’t stop him from cheating on her, mooching off of her and crashing her family’s car while high. He still talked about how perfect she was though - I think he just liked the validation it gave him to have someone hot and famous as his partner. Well she’s not his partner anymore, and neither am I - we’re far too good for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 03:09 PM |
| 10 | Worried about letting a guy pay on dates because I don't want him to think I owe him - need adviceWow it’s very insightful to hear someone who experienced something similar to me. I was assaulted by a guy (first time I had sex) and the way you described it was spot on - it’s wasn’t too traumatic and I doubt he would see it as assault. I’ve never told anyone in my personal life about the assault because I know they’d have their own perception of what it was and I know that it’s not accurate. I didn’t even realise it was assault until I described it to people online and they told me. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/21 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Men who say "past her prime" = LVM/IncelsThis kinda stuff scares me - I’m 25 and I’m worried that I’m getting too old for guys to want to invest time with me. Especially seeing as it will probably be a while before I meet a guy that is interested. I feel like my best years are over and I wasted them because I only ever had one relationship and it was abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 06:05 AM |
| 5 | Please someone tell me that I'm not a bad person for wanting to walk away from this relationship.Dude, you’re seriously grasping at straws here “he really did try. He is trying now. Maybe I’m the problem” excuses excuses. It doesn’t matter what his intentions are or the status of the business or whatever. If you don’t want this relationship anymore then that’s the end of it. Your purpose in life isn’t to make men feel better. Sounds like you’re staying with this guy out of pity and obligation and that’s not fair to either of you. Would you want someone to stay with you because they felt the… | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 04:54 PM |
| 10 | My ex ran away the moment he saw me.A guy that rushes into a new relationship after leaving a long term one is emotionally immature, especially when there’s lovebombing and he’s a serial cheater. He clearly has no ability to self reflect and will never be happy in a stable relationship if he continues in this mindset. Leave this loser in the past and be happy that his ugly ass is out of your life. Also running away from your ex girlfriend in a restaurant is so cowardly - you dodged a bullet. | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 04:52 AM |
| 7 | Someone please knock some sense into me and tell me breaking up with my ex was the right thing to doWhy are you listing reasons and excuses? If he wasn’t fulfilling his role in making your life better then that’s the only reason you need. It’s YOUR life and YOUR decision. It sounds like youre on the verge of a transformation and clearing away the stuff and people that hold you down is a part of that. You can appreciate that he did nice things in the past and wasn’t abusive and still realise that the relationship has run its course and you need to focus on yourself and find something else. You … | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 04:46 AM |
| 2 | Please someone tell me that I'm not a bad person for wanting to walk away from this relationship.You didn’t make a vow to him. You’re not married. You are not obligated to make someone’s else’s life easier. This is YOUR life. So live it how YOU want. | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 04:39 AM |
| 5 | How would you respond to this text?I would respond with a simple, cold “thank you for telling me, best of luck” Honestly it is better that he tell you outright instead of stringing you along and wasting your time. It sounds like he’s got stuff to work out so don’t beat yourself up about it. Oh and treat yourself this week, you’ve had a rough time. (And don’t overthink things - if you were withdrawn at dinner, he should’ve been concerned not turned off.) | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 04:21 AM |
| 3 | It’s been a little over a month...The waves get weaker over time, trust me. | /r/askFDS | 05/01/21 01:41 AM |
| 13 | Found violent and incestuous porn on partners phone xmas eve..Would also just like to point out that there are plenty of people with tortured, strained and complicated relationships with their mothers that DONT obsessively watch violent porn of people fucking their parents in order to cope. So don’t let that be an excuse he hides behind. | /r/askFDS | 30/12/20 06:05 AM |
| 13 | Keyword, FrustratedAre you still in contact with your exes? Are you liking and commenting on their posts? If your bf told you that it bothered him, would you get defensive about it because you highly value your ability to stay in the loop with your exes? Yeah, I thought not. From experience, guys do that Instagram bs to keep their ex on the back burner and to inflate their ego. He’s thinking of his ex and likes the idea of going back to that, or even just having the option. This guy isn’t worth it, sis. | /r/askFDS | 30/12/20 05:39 AM |
| 17 | Found violent and incestuous porn on partners phone xmas eve..Oh deaaarr. Therapy time for this dude. Long overdue by the sounds of it. Also you need to lay down the line and show him how gross this is. I think you should spend some time apart so you can process this yourself. | /r/askFDS | 29/12/20 08:07 PM |
| 117 | Found violent and incestuous porn on partners phone xmas eve..I hate to ask but what kind of incest porn is it? If it has any kind of implication of parents having sex with their children then I would leave and never look back. That is a gross and sick mindset and he receives pleasure from it. If he genuinely felt bad about it and wanted to change, he would’ve told you about it and asked for help. His immediate instinct was to lie about it. Really sorry this is happening to you. I hope you get away from this. | /r/askFDS | 29/12/20 08:22 AM |
| 16 | An oldie but a goodie. 31 year old man tries hit on a group of teenagers. Gets called a predator and argues with them instead of just leaving. Proceeds to get bullied by same group of teenagers 😂When I’m out with my friends, I instantly tense up whenever some random man comes over to hit on us because we’re too polite/afraid to tell him to leave us alone. Usually we have to leave wherever we are and pretend we have somewhere to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:09 AM |
| 2 | Should I go on dates with guys I’m not attracted to?Don’t really understand your message - I dont think he’s hot at all. | /r/askFDS | 26/12/20 09:35 PM |
| 7 | Ex wants to stay friends ??Does the hero turn to the supporting characters and explain to them the next act of the story? No - they go forward, to their next challenge, next chapter and conquer. You do not need to hold his hand, hear his side, “have a smoke and hang out”. This guy has shown he’s not up to the task - you’re not his mother, his guider, his protector, his therapist ... yet he takes from you without remorse. You have to set the standard, draw the line, step forward in your new life, without this confused man … | /r/askFDS | 25/12/20 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Does this make sense?Well done on the job offer and the clear mindset. I feel you have so much better coming in your future. This guy is so insignificant and you probably already know that. Keep living your best life. | /r/askFDS | 25/12/20 12:52 PM |
| 23 | how to deal with the fact men in your family are LVM/NVM, not having good examples of healthy relationships?Maybe the reason this all happened was so that you could break the cycle. | /r/askFDS | 22/12/20 01:45 PM |
| 5 | Is it an American men thing or?Spot on with that “they think it’s “gay” to feelings for a woman” comment. I swear guys here are allergic to romance. Anything that isn’t drinking in the pub with the lads is foreign territory. I bet half of them only pursue sex and women because it’s what “the lads” has deemed manly. Was shocked when I dated a European man and he actually wanted to talk about romance and compliment me and be romantic. Honestly forgot it was possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 12:09 PM |
| 65 | Will I ever be enough?This mindset in men is a sign of low self esteem, objectivisation and mental immaturity. It’s usually pornsick, fat, balding, drunk, broke, limpdicked, mooching or addicts that do this shit. I feel like men’s bitterness towards women in relationships is related to the fact that most men are kinda ugly and most women are kinda pretty. If a man EVER told me I wasn’t his type or “affordable” ... I’m roasting him dry and never letting see my face ever again. What an awful and self destructive mindse… | /r/askFDS | 21/12/20 04:01 AM |
| 34 | Drunk dialed last night. Need some support.This is a hiccup but you’re gonna start over and go no contact again. Soon it will be another 20 days and you will go even longer than last time. You’ve learned from this and you won’t do it again. Maybe try not to drink unless you are surrounded people that will dissuade you from making rash decisions. Also consider meditating on what you wanted from that communication - write out and work out all your feelings towards this person so that you’re not burying them down or associating relief with … | /r/askFDS | 20/12/20 06:46 PM |
| 4 | I woke up todayHow did he take it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 02:42 AM |
| 2 | How to still have self esteem when he wonYou’re right and I appreciate your honesty. However, therapy is not great where I live and I don’t have the extra money for it. I’ve never really told anyone in my life about the things this guy did to me and most of them are just tired of me talking about him anyway so I use Reddit sometimes to get some clear objective opinions. I know it’s not a long term solution but it does help when I’m in a dark spot sometimes. You’re probably right about me having attachment issues, but I’m not sure how t… | /r/askFDS | 18/12/20 06:15 PM |
| 6 | Is it just me, or do guys with huge dicks put in even less effort?Can relate. My (only) ex was very confident about his dick. Loved to humble brag about it. Yet he couldn’t stay hard sometimes, gave me no foreplay, didn’t touch the clit once and it was over in 4 minutes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 11:06 PM |
| 1 | I have a crush on this guy but I think he assumes I’m younger than I amI get that but sometimes it’s fun to just have a crush - also I’ve never really had a guy pursue me so without that I’d have nobody to like. | /r/askFDS | 14/12/20 08:40 PM |
| 16 | I have a crush on this guy but I think he assumes I’m younger than I amCan’t really stop myself from being attracted to people. | /r/askFDS | 14/12/20 07:40 AM |
| 21 | Please tell me what to do..That is a whole lotta male bullshit. This guy played you and there’s no other way to deal with it other than blocking him and living your best life. Easy to say, harder to do, I know. This guy knew that you were above him and so manipulated you and ground you down. He wanted the ego boost and the orgasms, that was it. I know it’s hard to hear that because I’m sure you poured a lot of love and affection into your relationship, but that is a reflection of how kind you are and how selfish he was in… | /r/askFDS | 06/12/20 07:31 PM |
| 17 | How to curb the temptation to reach out to him. Help!Don’t do it. You will feel so shitty if you do and it’s just a temporary high. Make a calendar and cross off the days it’s been since you’ve gone no contact. It helped me a lot. Seeing a nice row of crosses as the weeks went by kept me focused on my goal and proud of myself for not giving in. Best of luck. | /r/askFDS | 06/12/20 07:09 PM |
| 9 | My friend she wouldn’t mind being casually proposed to while doing dishes or taking out garbage - I hope I never get to this pointDon’t really care about the English royal family - also what they say is not necessarily how it really happened. That story was probably deliberately constructed to make them seem as humble as possible so that people would know it was “real love”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Not sure what to doI would say to tell him you’ve enjoyed reconnecting with him but don’t go too far with it. Don’t write a detailed love letter. Maybe mention that you were wondering what his intentions were and how things would’ve been if the circumstances were different. | /r/askFDS | 03/12/20 07:02 AM |
| 36 | Would you consider this a red flag?Yes I would. This is the early stages when he’s trying to impress you and put his best foot forward. Yet he’s using the time to complain and get you do the work for him. Also planning a date with someone you like should be fun - if he treats it like a chore, how will he react to things that are actually hard? | /r/askFDS | 01/12/20 02:54 AM |
| 10 | Must men be the ones to kiss you first?I need him to take the first initiative with the first kiss. I will give signals that he’s got the green light to go ahead (maintaining eye contact, not moving away) but he’s gotta take the leap and go in for the kiss. | /r/askFDS | 30/11/20 10:05 AM |
| 2 | I fell off fds wagon. I feel ashamed and like total crap.Uhh why are you beating yourself up about this? He fucked up and is gross. Call him out on his bullshit and block the shit out of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 05:42 AM |
| 4 | Do guys know you’re out of their league, even though they treat you bad?Oh don’t worry, I’m done worrying about him. He never seemed to worry about me or anything I was going through. He almost drained the life out of me and he’s not taking anything else. The only person that can stop his self destructive ways is himself. | /r/askFDS | 20/11/20 01:34 AM |
| 5 | Do guys know you’re out of their league, even though they treat you bad?This really made me see things a bit clearer. I think his self destructive behaviour and his low self worth determined how he treated me. He always had the excuse ready of “I fuck everything up” and I think that’s he saw things with me too. | /r/askFDS | 20/11/20 12:18 AM |
| 44 | Do guys know you’re out of their league, even though they treat you bad?It’s so weird you should say that because he even said to me once when he was drunk “I mean what girl would stay with me, look at me. Most girls realise they don’t want to be with me”. At the time, it made me dote on him more because I wanted to be his “one” that stood by him. | /r/askFDS | 19/11/20 07:38 PM |
| 105 | How to be HVM around your semi-famous crush?I work in an industry with a lot of famous people and one thing you learn is that they are just as flawed and boring as everyone else. Do not idolise him. He’s not this perfect person you created in your head. Even interviews and press are carefully curated. They are putting on a face for the camera. You do not know him. You need to view him as a professional that is highly successful - not an idol. Treat him with respect and manners of course but do not become his fan girl or hype woman. Excess… | /r/askFDS | 13/11/20 04:35 PM |
| 10 | He deleted his video afterwards.Experienced this and am now worried that it will be my only experience with boys fingering me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 09:31 PM |
| 12 | He deleted his video afterwards.This shit is so annoying. Funnily enough, the most sensitive and nerve-filled area of my body doesn’t feel good when your dry-ass fingers are roughly rubbing it back and forth as though your trying to scrub dirt from the bottom of a pan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 09:30 PM |
| 8 | They really tell on themselves! We've to be vigilant and not make excuses for their words.This one hurts. He would say this all the time. Last time I ever spoke to him he said it ... at this point he had hurt me like no one ever had. I didn’t understand so when he said “I don’t want to hurt you” and I wanted to say “then don’t!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 05:15 PM |
| 54 | I feel like I’m flawed because men rarely see me long-term. How can I stop comparing myself to women in committed relationships?You don’t know what those committed men are like in relationships with your friends. So don’t compare yourself to a projection. A lot of guys are staying in relationships because they have a woman managing their whole life and they don’t wanna give that up. I dont have any advice on the mixed race thing because I just don’t know. But ultimately I’ll just tell you to not bully yourself into thinking that other people are in perfect relationships and you’re the flawed one. It’s not true and you kn… | /r/askFDS | 08/11/20 10:01 PM |
| 62 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”I’m so glad someone put it into words. When I think about wanting sex, I’m never imagining the times I’ve actually had sex - it’s always a fantasy of intimacy and trust and pleasure. Something I aspire to have but not actually experienced. In reality, the guy would give me no foreplay, hurt me by going too hard, last for 6 mins, lay down a towel over his cum stained sheets and fall asleep without giving me tiniest hint of an orgasm. I felt like a sex toy to him - not a person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 01:12 AM |
| 8 | This is posted on Bumble's IG page, meaning they condone it. It's dangerous and there are so many women fawning over it.Yes to the marinade thing. I’ve experienced dudes that will talk forever about the marinades and obsess over it like it’s his life’s mission to marinade some meat. And then they’ll forget about it and throw it out or cook it incorrectly and serve it without any sides. As you said, dipshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:19 AM |
| 7 | This is posted on Bumble's IG page, meaning they condone it. It's dangerous and there are so many women fawning over it.Oh my god yes! Why don’t more people talk about how men have such a low standard of what is considered good cooking? One guy was constantly saying how good of a cook he was and that his future kitchen had to be specially designed and all that. Cooked me a steak, which was way too over salted and that’s it. No potatoes, no sauce - nothing. Just a steak. Also I don’t even like eating meat. The only other stuff in his fridge was a cold pizza from 3 days earlier, vodka and juice boxes. This was the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:16 AM |
| 15 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereOh my god this made me feel so much better. I’m from Europe but only ever had one relationship and he was American. We talked as friends for months. He invited me over to his place, he kissed me, cooked me dinner, we went out and said very sweet and loving things to each other. Eventually had sex and told each other “I love you”. And then he slept with someone else and was surprised that this upset me because “it’s not like we were dating”. He made me feel like I was being childish. I thought I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 10:40 PM |
| 3 | If a guy you are dating has someone "who got away", tell them to go get that person backThis shit hurts and I wish I had been strong enough to see that I didn’t deserve to be in that situation. Constantly hearing about how life changing and amazing this other girl was and how their break up ruined him ... it honestly destroyed my self esteem and I started self harming because I developed a lot of hatred for myself because I was nothing like this girl. It’s been 2 years since we ended things and I still presume that all guys will have someone better on their mind, even if they like … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:53 PM |
| 3 | BlowjobsWhen I had my first kiss, it was so amazing and I was so happy to be kissing him and then he immediately said “do you think you’d ever give me head?”. I awkwardly said something like “maybe, someday” but it was kinda horrible to have that said to me after my first kiss. He continued to pressure me about it- constantly asking - but I always said no because it felt so ... degrading. I still have never given oral sex and I’d need to be with a guy I really trust to do it and enjoy it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 06:52 PM |
| 9 | Men put barely any effort into their appearance and wonder why women don't compliment them“Wow, that plain, washed out t shirt you’ve been wearing for 3 days is amazing! And those old sweatpants are glorious” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 08:08 PM |
| 5 | Men put barely any effort into their appearance and wonder why women don't compliment themDudes will be wearing the same block colour, loosely fitting, low quality, fast fashion t shirt and pants with a variant on a muted brown/grey/black/blue and spend their time playing fifa and looking at their phone and expect me to find details to worship. Also, you give a dude a compliment to be nice and they get an ego and start saying shit like “she’s obsessed with me” to brag to his friends. Nobody is owed attention and compliments, you’re not oppressed Dylan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 08:06 PM |
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