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-Raksu-/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 10:27 PM
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I also have talked to guys about my values and stuff. It can definitely go through one ear and out the other. He doesn't listen to words, he listens to actions.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 07:13 PM
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I'm getting the vibe that he wants your dates to be later in the evening because he potentially doesn't have gentlemanly ideas in mind. It's good that you declined the things you did. Boundaries. Accepting him paying for an Uber could have been harmless, though. He wanted to provide for you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 12:50 AM
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No need to frown, just zero smile. I've had frown lines since age 13, it's not fun.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 12:42 AM
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Allow myself to look happy, glance at his face at least once. Typically when I'm in public, I put on this neutral not looking to be approached expression on my face. It potentially looks scary. When I see a man I don't mind being noticed by, I allow myself to look happy with life. I AM happy with life, I just don't like it when it makes me get approached by dudes I don't want to get approached by. Know what I mean?
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 02:30 AM
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I don't like it when people tack in "education" when listing ways to be attractive. If you want to be a career woman/working mother, yeah, you might need higher education. But, do you want to attract a man who wants a career woman? I sure don't.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 12:28 AM
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My dad stopped wearing his ring years ago because it stopped fitting. It felt like an unnecessary cost to get it resized. (My mom got a new diamond on a special anniversary, though). Everybody at my dad's job knows he's married and has a boatload of kids. Does the cashier at the grocery store need to know, too?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 02:19 AM
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Hey, good on you for trying to mentor the SIL.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 06:18 AM
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I've heard it said that it's a numbers game. You're going to find your person faster if you go on lots of first dates. Matthew Hussey gives good advice, but I'm not sure he's always very marriage-minded.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 12:24 AM
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This!!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 09:02 AM
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I hate that he waited so long to tell you this. Obviously he knew his feelings on monogamy long before proposing to you. He's wasted your time.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 10:31 PM
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Some of the individual attitudes I've read in this sub have certainly made me cringe. I've composed comments, but end up deleting them because I'm sure the mods will delete them anyway or give me some kind of warning. I fully consider myself a red-pilled (Christian) woman, but not to the same degree others are. It's fine.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 05:46 AM
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I didn't read your entire post, but I will say this anyway. Kids/teens these days keep their parents at such arm's length that parents don't even try teach things anymore. Would your mom feel like she's always forcing you to do or learn things? Social media and internet addiction can make kids unbearably cold towards the people in their household.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 05:37 AM
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People are way too serious in here.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 07:18 AM
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The more confident I get (been in a retail job 4 years now that has made me a better person, somehow), the more power I feel I have over men. I wore makeup when I was younger, but I didn't get as much positive attention back then because I was very judgmental and standoffish. Now I'm 30 and the interested dudes are everywhere. I don't mind.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 03:06 AM
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Lol I'm not sure why I got downvoted. Self-deprecation not welcome here, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 02:53 AM
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I can pee and wash my hands in 3 mins, can't start a load that quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 02:51 AM
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So the dirty laundry is just sitting in the machine, separated, things turned inside out, pockets emptied....all you need to do is put in the detergent and turn it on? Getting a load of laundry going takes way longer than it takes to go for a quick pee....
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 11:04 PM
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attachment issues, fear of intimacy, poor self worth, trauma, mental health problems I'm doomed.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 10:45 PM
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I find it funny how men will disparage women for settling for less physically attractive men. What is she SUPPOSED to do when the more attractive men don't want to get married and have kids when she wants to? There's a reason you see beautiful women paired up with somewhat homely dudes. He isn't necessarily making a ton of money, either.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/22 05:36 AM
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He encourages you to look taken. What, like wear a fake wedding band?
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 07:32 PM
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How old are you now and are you currently in a committed LTR?
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 11:47 PM
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Yeah, in the 1950's. We don't live in that world anymore. Childhood and immaturity has been majorly extended, for whatever reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 10:23 PM
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A non-religious woman in her early twenties who is willing to settle down and marry likely has low self-esteem ie doesn't realize her true beauty yet. That's my opinion. My parents had their last kid (#14) in their mid 40's, just fyi.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 10:21 PM
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That's right, many women who go the SAHM homemaker way end up having to teach themselves
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 01:30 AM
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24 year old man child, forget about it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 10:56 PM
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I think you got downvoted for saying she should be 20 years old. I have a 20 year old sister. She is a literal child.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 10:20 PM
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A man in his thirties who picks a very young woman, I see it as him feeling like he has something to prove, which is a turn-off. Now, a rich 75 year old man who picks a 34 year old woman, that's a different story. Her brain is fully mature.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 10:18 PM
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Exactly. Both Meghan and Catherine HUSTLED to get near those men.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 10:10 PM
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Also, if he doesn't know she exists, they won't meet until it's too late. He'll be with someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 10:07 PM
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Yeah I think a lot of people have this problem.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 10:11 AM
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If he's saying he likes short chubby women, and you are not that, be careful that this isn't an attempt at negging.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 12:35 AM
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I was a live-in nanny for a while. The mom was a witch sometimes, but she did recognize the importance of tokens of appreciation. I got a birthday cake, and a gift. I got a giftbag at Christmas as well as a small bonus. And she gave me clothes that no longer fit her, usually the day after being a total b. Lol that 14 months of my life I will never forget.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 12:28 AM
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Sometimes bi or pan guys come across as gay. Don't just assume he's gay.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 11:58 PM
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It's not slacking yet, unless you want like 5+ kids
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 07:02 AM
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I think it's really good that you don't have kids with someone you're no longer with. This alone sets you apart from many other equally attractive women in your age group. And unless you're looking for a hardcore church-y type, I don't think your sexual past will matter.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 04:02 AM
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Getting ghosted and/or unmatched (after some decent conversing) on my dating app of choice is a weekly occurrence for me these days. "Next!"
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 05:23 AM
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You and me both, sister
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 08:59 AM
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He might be the type of person who thrives during that last minute crunch. I wouldn't worry about it. Cross that bridge (his money running out) if the time ever comes.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/22 10:06 PM
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At age 19 I was nowhere near mature enough for a relationship, and in hindsight am very glad I didn't start one. I kinda tried, but with guys who weren't interested. Age 25 is when the brain is fully matured, no?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 10:17 PM
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If you already have a career and are frowning at the thought of leaving it someday soon, maybe this isn't the ideal relationship for you. You might be less traditional. Will you be embarrassed or annoyed forever about staying home, will you take it out on your future husband?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 10:05 PM
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He honestly doesn't sound all that high value. Like, tell us what he does for a living and let us decide LOL
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 01:46 AM
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Paying her rent on her birthday is another detail you could've included in the post.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 06:51 PM
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Best response. There are guys out there who WON'T have literal crushes on other women and monthly back and forths with them. OP deserves better. Anyone would.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 06:49 PM
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See, that's something you could've included in your post.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 06:46 PM
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He should be telling his gf about the woman who's sniffing around, whether or not she's "a friend". And the comment about choosing a Nordic girl next is very specific and WEIRD.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 06:39 PM
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Yes, they come at you from every angle.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 06:21 PM
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I totally agree. There are so many shows and movies I've watched that as I'm watching them, I can see the brainwashing they're trying to do. I try to look past it and enjoy the storyline and my favourite actors' work. The whole time I'm watching it, though, I'm annoyed/uncomfortable to a certain degree. But, I figure I'm steadfast and strong in my beliefs, so it's ok to be exposed to a different lifestyle. Then I find myself thinking things like, "Hey maybe I'm being a little unreasonable with m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 07:56 PM
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I think it's creepy that you tried to set her up at such a young age. And later you told her she should either get a part time job or look for a husband? This can't be real. At least not taking place in North America.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 07:25 PM
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I'm thinking this might be a fake story as well. Why do people do this?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 07:23 PM
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I see. Cool. Your bf is much older than you are, then?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 09:59 PM
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Very curious about this mentor situation. How did you decide to get a mentor, and how did you meet him?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 10:23 AM
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Not all restaurant food is unhealthy. And anyway, moderation.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 10:14 AM
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Some wise words. Came in useful to me, too.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 05:02 AM
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And dark chocolate
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 04:51 AM
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You wanting to be more educated and have something to fall back on someday (to make more than minimum wage with) is hurting him a little too much. He should try to see it from a woman's point of view. There's no way a partner can prove he'll never cheat on you or divorce you in the future, besides a wedding vow. But, wedding vows get broken all the time. Even IF you were to be happily married forever, when your future kids are older, you and your husband might decide it's best for you to get a j…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 04:49 AM
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I used to be subscribed to this guy's youtube channel. After a while, the stuff got old. Men sitting around complaining about how they got shafted by bimbos. He makes a lot of good points, I'll give him that. Just a lot of negativity.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 11:29 AM
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Yeah, they probably make the assumption that I'm far right or something. Or they're travel-obsessed and can't imagine a life where their gf/wife doesn't go travelling with them. I've done plenty of international travel already, I'm happy to road-trip around my own country in future.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 06:06 AM
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Noted! I will remove evidence of vaccination status from my profile and see if it makes a difference. As a social experiment of sorts. And then wait and see when they ask me my status (or make a remark that makes it seem like they've assumed I've gotten it). I don't care if they care. I want the best man for me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 06:00 AM
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I can't see myself falling in love someone who didn't share my values. In lust, sure.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 08:02 AM
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I certainly think men care more about a woman's educational background now than they used to. She can have many positive attributes about her, but if she's not educated enough, her beauty and all that doesn't matter. I say this as an attractive (people tell me, is how I know) but less educated woman on Bumble. Most of my matches unmatch me soon after conversation begins, presumably because they take a gander at my profile (they don't read them when they're swiping) and change their mind. Or mayb…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 08:00 AM
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Reddit showed me this post because it knows I'm in the same situation. We are kindred spirits, you and I lol I've just started counselling for my anxiety (session #3 tomorrow) and I'm hoping it'll make me "better" soon, because I am itching to get out there. I tend to self-sabotage, but I don't want that to happen again.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 06:49 AM
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She's certainly got poise.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/22 07:46 AM
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Ah yes, I just read to the end. A vetting process, indeed.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/22 06:47 AM
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I don't think anyone should compare their situation with Kate and William's. Royals and the wealthy in general need to be super super super careful. People are constantly trying to con them, I would think.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/22 06:45 AM
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Being FB friends with someone is not regular contact. FB is seeing what a person posts on their feed, when the algorithm allows it. Maybe an ex of his is a funny or smart person who posts good stuff. Simply because they were a couple in the past, he needs to block her out of his life completely? When he sees her on the street, he needs to glance nervously at his current gf to see which way the wind is blowing that day? Why are you so insecure in your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 05:17 AM
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I agree
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 03:02 AM
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I mean, Lance is probably suffering in silence, but he's choosing it. I agree, MYOB. The couple needs to figure out their own issues.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 03:01 AM
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They've been in the same friend group for a long time, apparently. So, maybe OP does know him well.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:59 AM
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I can say that teenage boys will be crude to just about anyone, no matter how much or little skin they're showing. I got harassed by a group (well one boy in particular made the lewd comment) while I was working. A manager saw/overheard, and he kicked them out of the establishment. The boys didn't realize he was a worker because at my store the managers blend in as customers for the most part.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 02:01 AM
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Try to not dwell on past blunders at all, whether they are relationship related or otherwise. It's not healthy to ruminate. Focus on doing your best today. I MAJORLY overshared stories/info with friends I wasn't very close to AT ALL, when I was in my early twenties. Thinking back on it makes me feel sick and very stupid, so I try to not think about it. I'm older and wiser now, I won't make the same mistakes again. Ask yourself before you open your mouth to share, is this putting my best foot for…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 08:42 AM
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Has your husband said that you can no longer afford to be a one income household?
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 01:58 AM
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It's better to be alone than with someone who doesn't respect you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 11:02 PM
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For me, a dog or cat would be an unnecessary expense and stress. Yeah, maybe if I was in my 40s and still single, I'd get a pet. But I'm not in my forties yet.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 10:38 AM
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I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 10:04 AM
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For some, that would be a dream come true scenario. I wonder if perhaps he's not the one for you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 01:03 AM
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My mom had babies from age 24 to 44 (dad is 6 months younger). I hope this is an indication that I might not have issues. So glad it worked out for you in the end. Very odd the blatant lying from doctors, makes you wonder if they're in cahoots with IVF clinics haha...
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 06:21 AM
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I'm so glad I never got tiktok
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 10:52 PM
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That is his hope.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 10:35 PM
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Make sure it is just repeating his words and not "adding" to his words. My mom does this thing where she verbally adds things to my dad's ranting (about anything), and he understands it as her contradicting him. And he gets upset. She's been doing this as long as I can remember. At this point I think she definitely knows that it bothers him, but she does it anyway. My dad is a dick towards her in some ways, so it's probably a tit-for-tat thing they have going on. There might be something happeni…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 01:24 AM
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That actress has fake boobs and lip injections. There's always going to be some woman out there willing to go though more cosmetic procedures than you are, making them "more attractive". Almost everyone has a pointless celebrity crush or fantasy. Every man out there will say yes if their favourite celebrity woman comes onto them (extremely unlikely it'll happen), and every woman out there will say yes if their favourite celebrity man comes onto them. In reality, unless your partner suddenly come…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 12:51 AM
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I feel for you. As much as I complain about the world of dating today in North America and Europe, there are worse problems in dating and marriage in other parts of the world. It can be difficult, but I believe you can break free and not go though what you witnessed. Edit: grammar
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 04:25 AM
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I'd casually remind my SO of an upcoming important day. Something like "Oh man, the mall's going to be packed this weekend."
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 12:27 PM
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Very true. I was a live-in nanny for a wealthier family when I was younger. The dad had met the mom at a restaurant where she bartended, when he was going through a nasty divorce. She heard through the grapevine that he was going through a divorce. She set her sights on him and "befriended" him. It took 10 years and 2 kids together before he married her, but he did eventually marry her. She married up financially, he married up looks-wise. Win-win.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 12:14 PM
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Ah, sorry. Somebody else had a very similar post in the recent past, then. Sad that it's so common.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 12:37 AM
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Did you post about this before?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/22 10:20 AM
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Yeah I'm into equal rights, in that regard. I'm lactose-intolerant, no way am I going to pretend otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 06:25 AM
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You met him once, and the next communication is relatively late at night, asking you if you want to "do something" on Saturday.....if it was me, I'd feel like he was testing me to see if I'd be a willing booty call.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 06:22 AM
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What mystique?
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 03:11 AM
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I draw the line at leaving things strewn about the floor. Only very young children should be doing that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/22 09:48 AM
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You have my permission to cut your losses and run. He's a liar and nothing good will come of him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 06:58 AM
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Lol I don't know why you got so downvoted. Some solid points in there.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 06:43 AM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 06:40 AM
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I'm in the same boat. That's probably why this post even showed up in my feed. 29, values, wish I lived in an era (or area) where it wasn't hard to fit in with these values.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 04:11 AM
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When he has the baby for 2 hours, is it 2 hours straight with nothing interrupting you? Some people are trying to say that you both have the same baby skills, because you're both learning at the same time. But I doubt that. And I'm not being anti-man, I'm being realistic.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 01:06 PM
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That may not have been her dad's only reasoning for refusing. My dad didn't and isn't paying for my school, but he'd be creeped out on my behalf if some man I was dating offered to pay for things. He'd be like, "And what's he expecting in return?"
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/21 06:58 AM
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Men don't like to rock the boat when it comes to their male friends and their activities. Maybe your husband knows that his married friends enjoy this woman's company, and he's not willing to be a "block". Is this woman going to stick around these guys forever? Surely her fiance will put up a stink eventually. Like, when they're married perhaps.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 04:25 AM
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He knows that she craves communication/talking things out. So, if he does do that, she "wins" on some level, and his ego doesn't want that. I could be reading too much into it haha
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 04:08 AM
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They're both being dumb, but true.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 04:05 AM
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Same. I'm grateful to be living with men only (my brothers).
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 04:04 AM
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Yep yep and yep... Lol No reaction is sometimes the best reaction.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 04:02 AM
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I think if OP was more respectful of her husband's need for sleep, he would stop being nasty, at least in that regard/situation. Who knows what other ongoing spats they have.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 11:23 AM
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No, he shouldn't have to sit you down. Men don't like telling other grownups what to do, especially their wives. Almost like if he does, the woman wins in some way? I think lot of men would rather simmer in silence and be offended or passive-aggressive forever. Why does the bedroom have the best light and mirror? Just replicate it elsewhere. It is THEEEE easiest way to make the "nasty" behaviour stop.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 11:19 AM
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Is OP's husband frustrated? Frustration is an emotional response to stress. What stress is a husband who gets sex once a week experiencing? The stress of less sex? Is it stressful because less sex = she doesn't love him as much as she used to? I'm trying to understand.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:23 AM
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Socioeconomic status (low-paying job, no college education), and I don't wear makeup or fancy lady clothes. Don't see myself changing these things, either. Who knows, maybe I'll be singing a different tune when I hit 30.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 10:34 AM
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I don't think he should be involved in financing your education, if that's what he's suggesting. That's just awkward and potentially sugar daddy-esque. If he was your husband it'd be different.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 10:12 AM
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(29F) I'm slender and have good bone structure (I've received many compliments from women), but I have low RMV and it's why I have a hard time finding men to try dating. Yet, I'm not really willing to put in the work to change my circumstances (education, job). So, either I'll be alone forever or I'll be very pleasantly surprised when an awesome HVM deigns to pursue an authentic marriage-minded relationship with me. A lot of guys at work like me, but they aren't what I have in mind for me. They'…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 01:42 AM
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I keep my mouth shut around my family (mostly dad) and it keeps me out of unnecessary confrontations. It's not a nice way to live. I hope one day I find a partner around whom I can state my opinions and beliefs without fear of majorly offending or upsetting them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 01:30 AM
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Was he touched inappropriately as a minor? Have you talked about your childhoods?
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/21 10:24 AM
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I'm playful and childlike and I attract guys, but then I push them away. Good times. Therapy = needed.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/21 10:24 AM
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Your cons are not so bad as to cause him to pause in proposing to you, please believe me on this. If on the off chance they are, a good partner would communicate to you about it. The only decent reason IMO a man could have for inviting his partner to live in his house before engagement (especially when both were raised Christian), is if one or both have stated out loud that they don't believe in marriage. Some people have given you advice on how to broach the marriage topic. I'd straight up say,…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 01:22 AM
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I'd cry myself to sleep if my SO and the father of my child told me I needed to try to ward my anxiety off with mental fortitude. Don't know what else to say besides chin up, sister. And maybe he needs to be linked some articles.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 11:57 PM
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I, too, recommend Stefan's talks.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 01:14 AM
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My mom had my youngest sibling at 44 and a half... no issues
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 01:12 AM
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It seems to me like OP is settling with this older man. I get it, he's "safe". But she's already unhappy. The frustration/sadness of this situation is getting me down and I don't even know her lol
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/21 04:11 AM
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I think even if you don't see coffee guy ever again, you should still consider breaking things off with Mr older man. You're not happy. Just my 2 cents.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/21 04:08 AM
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I think the lawyer probably would have given or loaned the money, but the woman didn't want to be beholden to him in any way. She enjoys their "equal" power dynamic. She's maybe living in fear of being dumped if she isn't independent enough, so that to me is sad.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 01:41 AM
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I think you shouldn't have called the restaurant to check. He failed to follow through, no point in trying to make him feel like he hadn't. It puts a damper on the evening when it's your birthday and somebody who said they'd take care of plans does not take care of plans. Don't ask after the plans, let him tell you what's taking place. If anything, a cute little "I'm excited to see what you have planned" could be motivational for next time.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 04:10 AM
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I'd like to see what she looks like in frumpy pajamas, no makeup, and hair in a ponytail. If she looks good then, THEN she's a 9/10.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/21 01:55 AM
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Same, I'm kind of against perfumes in the workplace. I suggest that if people must do it, they do the tiniest spritz on their skin before they put their clothes on. That way, the wearer mostly only smells it and feels good. Others won't have to smell it, unless they're coming really close.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 06:36 AM
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I've recently been thinking I should try harder to look more feminine, myself... In your profession, I would advise, don't do things that can take away from your professional-ness. People might not take you as seriously if your hairdo is super fancy, or if looks like you spend an hour on your makeup. A simple French manicure and a "natural" makeup look is perfect, in my opinion. And maybe the tiniest spritz of perfume, but only on your skin, not on fabric.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 06:31 AM
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How long had you been in contact/messaging before the first date? Just curious.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/21 09:07 AM
2

Can you go into more detail on how you support your immediate family? Could this aspect of your life possibly be a turn-off for some guys?
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 02:04 AM
1

I agree wholeheartedly with your last point there about dating apps. "Matching" with someone via an app takes the mystery out of the equation entirely. I think some mystery (not knowing if a man you're talking to finds you attractive or likes you as a potential gf) is all around very beneficial.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 11:08 PM
6

Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 11:02 PM
-3

When I say they suck, I mean they aren't, in their hearts, very Christian.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 11:00 PM
-3

Can't you feel those things and be all inspired and whatnot, but still pump the brakes out of self control? Is it not enough for him that you are attracted to him and want to do things, but you're being a good Christian or something? Are Christian women doomed to dating Christians only? (many of them suck).
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 10:58 PM
2

Same. I can talk to women comfortably, and men whose opinion I don't need to care about, but when it comes to trying to date... It's a self-confidence issue, I'm sure. I just wish I would hurry up and develop in this aspect.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/21 01:35 AM
1

Yeah I know, it was a bit tongue in cheek
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 06:04 AM
6

Even the bare minimum is hard to find! A man who is: respectful (of everyone), shares the same lifestyle choices / beliefs.....and that's about it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 10:47 PM
0

Troll?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 07:23 AM
2

Alarm bells going off everywhere lol
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 12:24 AM
1

That's a really good point!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 12:18 AM
2

The abortion discussion would come up within 3 dates, for me. Because I know it's a deal-breaker for many people.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/21 08:40 PM
7

I'm a little shocked OP and her man got this far (some time into engagement) before having this very important discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 08:35 PM
6

I'm going to make a huge assumption here and say that this isn't the one and only thing you "don't like" about him. Are there any other reasons he may not be the one for you? Just think about it, you don't have to share.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 08:33 PM
2

So far all my married family members are popping babies out no problem, except for one cousin out of a ridiculous amount of cousins.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 12:35 PM
19

Well this didn't happen today, but I'll mention it anyway. I was crying silently at work during my break, by myself, just overwhelmed by work related things. A male coworker was on a trajectory to his locker, saw my face, stopped walking and asked "Are you crying?" He was due back to work, but he paused to talk anyway. Told me to take a vacation, go to some lake, do some fishing lol he was trying so hard to help. When he couldn't stay any longer, he left, only to come jogging back 30 seconds lat…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 06:26 AM
1

He might be one of those that seeks attention in public, while at home he's semi normal. Just...needs more attention than most.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 06:13 AM
7

This is in a country where being groped by strangers on trains is commonplace, I take it? So good of those guys to make sure you were safe, especially since from the sound of it they were just mere acquaintances from school.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 06:08 AM
1

Oh maybe they're trying to keep it classy hah
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 08:14 AM
0

I know they don't care how virtuous she is today if she wasn't in the past, I'm merely explaining the change in lifestyle. It'd be interesting to see how a guy would react to a woman simply not going along with hanky-panky. She's perfect in every other way, he's absolutely mad about her, but she just gently turns him down when he tries to start that. I'm sure many a guy would walk away.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 10:51 AM
2

I cried silently during my break at work today, I was just going though some mental turmoil and I didn't feel like holding it in (because then it might burst later when I'm back on the salesfloor). A male coworker as soon as he realized I was upset came up and tried to fix me hahaha Such a sweetheart.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 10:15 AM
2

Now we're talkin! Yep, I thought engineer FOR SURE. Actually almost laughed out loud. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 10:11 AM
-2

I totally get you with the other people's children thing. I worked with kids for quite a few years, and it was pretty horrible. I thought I'd be good at it (and I was, to a certain extent) because I grew up in a large family with lots of kids, basically babysat my entire youth. Buuuut it is nowhere near the same as taking care of other people's kids according to their rules. Parents are so freaking inconsistent with discipline that their kids become easily spoiled, then the nanny has to deal wit…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 10:06 AM
6

I didn't realize putting "no hook ups" in your bio could result in a ban. Back when I was on it years ago, I saw it in quite a few bios.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 09:59 AM
11

I would subscribe, even just for sheer entertainment value. It's bound to be better than a lot of the things we look at/read.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/21 02:09 AM
5

That was super vague and not very helpful at all, but thanks for contributing.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/21 02:05 AM
1

I sort of understand that man-brain mentality, my brother-in-law explained it to me and I saw the points, but...what if she's truly a born-again Christian? She's just screwed, no pun intended?
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/21 02:04 AM
2

Same, God-fearing, very strict morals, but I don't like any of the churches in my area. The ones that are ok have woman ministers, and I don't like that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/21 02:01 AM
3

It's so true about wearing more feminine clothes. When a man sees an obvious clue like that, he's more likely to be the kind of man he wants to be. In your case, helping you with the thing in the hardware store.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/21 01:58 AM
4

Lol I tried the Christian dating sites, and they're just saturated with men looking for sexual relationships. Christianity means nothing to some people, unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/21 01:55 AM
1

Nice, good for you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/21 01:51 AM
4

Don't completely discount your friendly neighborhood pub. Happy hour can be a very...happy hour. I'll see myself out.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 04:11 AM
2

I have the same thing - I shrink away from physical contact. It probably just means you need things to go slowly. Nothing wrong with that. I personally had an emotionally negligent father growing up AND I was sexually abused during my preteen years, so.... I look forward to dating!!! Sigh.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/21 07:33 AM
1

Bolivian flute music....I'm crying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 09:45 AM
3

I'm 5'3 and a 110 pounds on a good day (sometimes it dips a few pounds below, but I like to say I'm 110), and I have stretch marks just from gaining weight a BIT too fast during puberty. They're in random places: inner thigh, outer thigh/hip, boob, butt. I call them my growing up scars. If you have an awesome personality and all that good stuff, no worthwhile guy will turn you down because of some stretch marks. That's what I think, anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 08:09 PM
2

I never once thought I'd drop off a future baby of mine at a daycare.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/21 06:06 AM
1

Yeah the dual income and the lavish lifestyle isn't my thing, either. I've lived a somewhat simple and frugal life my entire life, anything else I think would feel off.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/21 06:03 AM
1

I don't want in-laws who turn their nose up at us or are ashamed of us.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/21 05:56 AM
1

Interesting. I might go visit a few random subreddits now.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 07:36 AM
4

To all the women balking at the idea of not becoming highly educated, how many years will it take you to pay off your student loans? Will you expect your future husband to help you pay it off, or even pay it off himself entirely?
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 07:19 AM
4

I wish I came across men with your mindset in my daily life. Maybe I do, we just don't end up talking to each other.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 07:14 AM
3

I don't like the word "submissive". It seems to imply that a woman doesn't speak her mind ever and just always agrees, generally acts like a boring doormat. We need to come up with a replacement word lol
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 07:13 AM
0

*spiel
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 07:01 AM
9

What if a woman is content with a minimum wage job, has a simple goal of getting promoted within the company (to the disappointment of her highly educated mother), but is "smart" in many subjects, has read many books, speaks well, and attracts people with her personality and smile? Does anything make up for a lack of college degree?
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:59 AM
3

Yup, this is why I don't bother looking at Asians as husband material. They're so hyper focused on status and pleasing their parents. You definitely don't get to be a SAHM, because grandma and grandpa will be taking care of the kids for free. It's not my scene.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:51 AM
-2

Yeah, you pretty much can't bring up the idea until you're pushing that baby out.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:48 AM
1

Do you put turmeric into smoothies or how do you incorporate it?
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 08:58 AM
4

Please don't say "ruin". You can still be beautiful with blemishes. When somebody loves you, they see past minor blemishes. When YOU love you, you see past minor blemishes. Continue to care for yourself and about yourself, and just enjoy life. That being said, do wear a wide-brimmed sunhat or a baseball cap on sunny days.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 08:56 AM
2

Keep being true to yourself, people will be drawn to you, even if they don't realize it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:13 PM
5

Your writing was just right, totally followable.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 08:15 AM
2

It might be useful remaining professional friends, networking and all that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 07:53 AM
5

Dang, this post came at a good time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 06:05 PM
0

Yes...yes... start by cleaning your room hehehe
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 08:40 AM
1

You're 18 right now, have just graduated from high school I'm guessing... Slllloowww down. You don't know what the world will look like in 5 years. And if you've taken the CVac you might not have kids, anyway, due to fertility issues down the road. Downvote me to oblivion, I can take it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 08:25 AM
2

I'm guessing they feel self-conscious about their gossiping whenever they see OP lol
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 03:34 AM
1

It's different in Europe. Even uber-Christian groups have their mothers working outside the home, kids in daycare.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 03:33 AM
1

It's not all about looks and physical fitness, that's for sure! Confidence, respect, and the ability to provide...way higher on the list.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:28 AM
1

5 or 6 with money to pay for a personal trainer, hair implants, nutritionist, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:35 AM
1

Which goes to prove that men don't mind gold-diggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:34 AM
3

Ok then just make eye contact and smile briefly. Baby steps.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/21 08:33 AM
4

You don't even have to ask him out. Just smile and talk nicely, say funny things. Maybe throw in a compliment. See where it goes from there.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/21 10:21 AM
1

Yes, we are not impressed by video game prowess in any way, shape, or form. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/21 07:42 AM
1

Are you a younger man? It matters what the age group she's interested in cares about.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/21 08:13 PM
2

I agree. I have no idea why any woman would want the stresses of being a specialist.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/21 08:11 PM
1

And then just keep it a secret for the rest of her life that she was banging some other dude while he was in love with her and she knew it. Solid plan.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 08:35 AM
4

I feel like she's only still seeing guy1 because she's addicted to the sexual connection. She should've let go of guy1 at the first sign of flakiness, and gone all in with guy2.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 08:33 AM
4

Guy1 is very much "why buy the cow when..."
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 08:26 AM
4

I think it's ok to not keep up appearances for the first while. A daily shower and hair brushing is a lot for some new mothers, especially if dad didn't take time off.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 10:40 PM
5

Maybe eat more often, the same amount of calories, but with more intervals. I'd be so pissed off if I was ravenous a lot of the time, I don't know how you do it XP
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 10:36 PM
5

I would guess there is no way to know right off the bat, just like how there's no way to know if someone's a serial killer right off the bat. Go with your gut.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 06:46 AM
3

I'd have the kids first, myself. But, if OP hasn't found Mr Right yet, she might not find the kind she wants without being educated first. I'm guessing she wants a wealthier guy, someone who makes as much money as she will make one day in her chosen field. Those wealthy guys aren't too keen on marrying and having kids with someone who simply "plans" on a certain path. "Oh I want to have kids first, it makes more sense this way. I'll start studying as soon as the youngest turns 2." But then after…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 10:20 AM
1

Ooh, care to share your favorite horror films?
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 05:51 AM
1

Thank you for the support!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 05:49 AM
2

That's funny. My sisters and I, we laugh at "not like other girls" girls, and here I am being called one.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 05:48 AM
1

My favourite youtube comedian started a podcast with another youtube comedian, with whom he often did video collabs. From there they started a musical collab. They call themselves TMG (Tiny Meat Gang) because they're short. They write silly songs with some crude humor, and it's just generally fun and catchy stuff. I've been self-conscious about liking TMG ever since I shared a song with a guy on a dating app (we were song-sharing), after which he ghosted me.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 05:45 AM
1

Wow, I've got some rude responses in here. Thank you to the ones being respectful.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 10:10 AM
1

I've heard it said that one can expose too much about themselves too quickly, so I was wondering if this might be one of those situations.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 10:09 AM
6

A woman can keep a man despite not putting a whole lot of effort into her appearance, if she has a really agreeable personality, and if the guy has been having particularly bad luck finding a good woman up until her. I've seen it happen. That being said, it shows a certain level of respect for the man and the relationship if she (and he, as well) try to look put together. I know a woman who looks just really disheveled a lot of the time, and her husband doesn't say a peep about it. He adores her…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 05:53 PM
7

Avoid the habit of being on your phone while walking around. Don't close yourself off from social interaction. Make eye contact, it gets easier the more you do it. Be open to meeting and befriending people from different walks of life, but also don't be afraid to leave social circles that you find are becoming detrimental to your personal/social development.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 03:45 AM
1

Preach
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 12:18 AM
1

Unless he's keeping his true colors to himself for a while, if not for a long time. He and I had been platonic (tho he liked me) friends for like 5 years (he dated women on and off) before we finally tried dating. It wasn't until we started dating tho that he started revealing his true character. I had put him on such a pedestal I almost didn't break it off despite the things I was learning. I told my sisters all the things he'd said, and about his behavior (because I like feedback from them and…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:43 AM
1

Ya of course. Just, if she knows everything about him that I know about him, she's a strange one for sticking around. He said some "problematic" things to me, as did his family. But I guess there's someone for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:34 AM
12

So many red flags I don't even know where to start. Just no.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 11:26 PM
2

After I broke off a budding relationship with my last (and first) bf, he went and found a single mom who will never leave him for the reasons I did, because (I believe) single moms have lower standards. Sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:38 PM
52

I almost cried reading this. He is treating you so poorly. Every sentence of his that you quoted is bad and wrong. His apologies are not sincere, I hope you can see that. I don't know if his words and thought processes and deeds are linked to his own past trauma, but it doesn't even matter. He shouldn't be in a relationship until he can acknowledge he has a problem, wants to change, and puts the work in to make that change. You do not need to be there to hold his hand during that process. Time t…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 09:42 PM
20

Ugh, what a horrible situation to find yourself in. Such fancy food is highly unnecessary, and expecting payment, especially when there are unemployed people in the group. Very insensitive. Maybe eat a heavy meal right before, arrive after they've finished the main course, have a small helping of dessert, and bring your own alcohol.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 11:29 AM
3

I don't go by BMI because I have a neuromuscular disorder. I don't know what other people's reasons are for not taking BMI seriously, though.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 04:59 AM
1

I feel like I'm too thin to look good (like, naked), but men seem to like what they see out on the street. I'd say I have a thin/curvy figure, a sexy gait, and a twinkly smile. Maybe those things help.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 11:56 AM
3

That's the kind of guy I'd like, one who is willing to get to really know me before literally scaring me off with innuendos.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/20 08:21 AM
5

Best response so far.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/20 08:17 AM
4

Hahahaha I think he'd either hang up by the second sentence or would be laughing silently for so long you'd think he hung up...
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/20 08:13 AM
50

You exercised for a complete stranger whose life you knew nothing about (aside from the fact you went to the gym at the same time sometimes)? Not good. I work in retail, I get smiled at and chatted up by decent looking guys on a weekly basis. I assume that they are in relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 10:22 AM
1

I've heard that past abuse should not be mentioned unless it literally affects your everyday life. If it does, though, shouldn't you be focusing your energy on healing, not on a relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 11:32 AM
1

You can burn it off with exercise. Never skip breakfast as an alternative to "bad food".
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 09:56 PM
1

Being reserved but not shy, is a quality I think both men and women find attractive
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 11:20 AM
1

It was trauma-bonding. I won't go into it here, but things happened (and didn't happen) in my childhood that caused me to have difficulty forming healthy relationships. Picking a respectful person, setting boundaries, etc. Heck, even with friendships, not only romantic relationships. Now that I know I suck at picking people, I just keep everyone at arm's length. I gotta just keep trying to have a relationship, I know, but easier said than done.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 10:30 AM
6

Yeah, I think if a person keeps themselves busy (running a household is non-stop work), they don't have to think about how much they miss their spouse. You get to see him at the end of the night, that's something. Some people are alone for days or weeks on end.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 09:15 AM
2

I agree. 5 years means the guy has some kind of trust or commitment issues. Not something I'd stick around for.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 07:33 AM
3

I know now that I was merely trauma-bonding with men in the past, but who wants to bring THAT up when the "what kind of experience do you have" conversation arises?
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 05:07 AM
5

I was pretty much just talking about myself lol. I'm 28, single, been abstaining now over 2 years. I was raised a strict Christian, but my belief system hit a snag in my early/mid twenties. A common theme, I know. So yeah, I'm abstaining now, but I fear that when a guy I date finds out I'm not a virgin, he'll be "sad" that I was willing to have sex in the past, but not with him. That he'll take it personally. Men these days are super careful about marriage, they won't get married that quickly an…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 05:05 AM
3

Hahaha I am definitely a min/maxer, and I will never be happy in life LOL
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:20 AM
3

Me too, waiting for an update. From the sound of it, the relationship is not doomed. Just needs work :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:16 AM
2

I agree. OP's values may change as she gets older and comes to realize that maybe things aren't so black and white. What if she finds a guy perfect for her who isn't ready to be married for another 5 years? Is SHE willing to wait 5 years to have sex with him? Hmm.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:04 AM
3

I went to church regularly as a kid and a teenager, but as an adult I've parted with the church/religion in which I was raised. I still hold onto the main messages of the church I grew up in, I just can't believe that they are the one true faith and that all outsiders are doomed. I like the more strict Christian lifestyle, but I just don't attend a church because there are no "proper" churches in my area. They all feel not strict enough. My point: a person can be a non church-goer and still be r…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:01 AM
5

In my experience, a lot of guys don't read the bio at all. They swipe right on any and every vaguely attractive woman, then send a message if they match. They don't care what you have to say in your bio, likely because so many of them have learned that women don't say what they mean. There are a lot of women out there in the online dating world who say one thing (such as, "I'm looking for something serious"), but then they mess around anyway, if they find a hot enough guy who will only offer/acc…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 02:48 AM
1

I think that as long as the split from the ex-wife was amicable, and they share 50/50 custody (that shows it was truly amicable, I think), there's nothing wrong with older single dads.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 04:41 AM
1

I stopped reading at "gym". So much nope. Next!
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 04:36 AM
1

Lol I'm self-conscious about my voice, too. When I have to use the intercom at work, I plug my ears when it plays (it's delayed). My voice is kinda grating and sounds like a child trying to sound like a grown-up, and I sound annoyed, too. Just...yuck. So I cover my ears.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 04:17 AM
1

"Natural looking" makeup makes me laugh. Why not just go actually natural? You save time AND money...
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 04:03 AM
1

Actually, correction: I don't get honked at anymore, that was back when I made more of an effort with my appearance (BB cream, mascara, light lip colour, tight jeans). Now I just get checked out normally, maybe revved at by a passing driver when I'm waiting for the bus. The honking and cat-calling stopped when I stopped putting in an effort.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 03:11 AM
2

I have this problem, as well. Did you experience any kind of trauma as a child? I did. I assume that my unwillingness to look good or stand out (wear ANY makeup, form-fitting clothes, dangly earrings) has to do with my trauma. I'm naturally attractive, I guess? and I get checked out and honked/revved at no matter how plainly I dress or do my hair. My anxiety about getting "looked at" is so bad that on days that leaving the house is not mandatory, I will not leave the house. Yes, I need therapy :…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 03:07 AM
3

Sounds like he gets triggered easily. Probably some deep-seated childhood issues that he needs to figure out. He has to want to figure it out, though.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 02:11 AM
4

I wouldn't share my future plan/ideas with my boss. They could somehow use that info as a deciding factor in a decision.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 09:24 AM
3

I love that last sentence!
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 09:07 AM
2

I agree 100%
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 07:38 PM
1

I heard somewhere that if the prenup doesn't get renewed/updated as the life situation changes (children born, lots of money made or not made, job loss/change, what have you), then the prenup can get thrown out in court during divorce proceedings. The prenup is in no way a one and done deal, some ugly thing that you just do and then forget about for the rest of the marriage. It's going to rear its ugly head every time the financial situation changes, and that can happen quite a lot in this day a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 07:36 PM
0

I "judge" what it's a tattoo of, the reason behind it, and its quality (to some extent). I might laugh at a certain kind of tattoo on a wimpy hipster, while not batting an eye or giving a second thought to the same style tattoo on a Chad. Does that make me a bad person? Lol
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 04:45 AM
3

That's what I would do. I'd be too chicken to use any words until we've both exchanged silent smiles. Accidental eye contact happens fairly frequently. When it happens, you can give a quick genuine smile.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 10:18 PM
3

Oh and she does her videos in a style that people can just listen to them if they're too busy to watch a screen. So podcast-ish?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 08:42 PM
6

Megan Fox Unlocked youtube channel. It's a Mennonite mom of two kids who does day-in-the-life videos, vlogs, cooking videos, all kinds of wholesome and fun stuff. And her kids are adorable. She talks pleasantly fast, is intelligent (she used to teach), and has a sense of humour. She doesn't rub her Christian faith into the viewer's face at all, the only time she mentions that kind of thing is when she's doing Q&A videos and she's answering questions that some viewers have. Yeah, I highly recomme…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 08:41 PM
1

Hey, that's a good point. Thank you for sharing :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 07:43 PM
4

Rephrase: The pool of decent and eligible guys that I come across in my everyday life is worryingly small.
/r/RPChristians02/10/20 02:15 AM
1

Not just a smile, but rather a genuinely smiling face during conversation
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 01:34 AM
2

I'm a conservative Christian 28F, and am considering divorcés... The pool of decent guys is so small
/r/RPChristians02/10/20 01:32 AM
1

Agreed. All your partner needs to know is if you are clean.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 01:22 AM
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I rarely initiate a "flirtation" or a banter, but if a guy starts it, I'll reciprocate. As long as I don't get total creep vibes. This usually happens at work (retail). I don't get commission, so I don't feel cheap for doing it. They're just lonely or bored men who find me charming. I could be colder, like some other female workers are when that happens, but I don't see the point. Maybe this is why I get "stalkers". Oh dear.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 10:24 AM
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Without reading any of the comments in this thread to see if someone has already said this, I say it's possible this woman who got ditched when she later mentioned marriage, she gave sex too soon. Making her, in the man's mind, an unpaid whore (Dr Laura's words). He immediately saw her as non-marriage material when she gave sex before real commitment. It's one possible scenario for sure. I'm not saying he's right to think this way, but it happens. I dated a guy very briefly who was a more devout…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 06:27 AM
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Men are just strangely confident that any woman who smiles at them must want them, or something. I think they're just wired that way. So, if that woman who smiles at them happens to be much younger, they just think "Oh cool, younger chicks dig me too." I'm 28F, I find guys my age attractive, guys a little too young for me attractive (but still legal obv), and older guys. But I must say I'm strangely more flattered/excited when an older guy likes me. Do I have...issues??
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 09:11 AM
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Yeah. It sounds like the problem will continue until you're a stay-at-home housewife, then. Funny not funny lol..
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 12:11 AM
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I meant a chore chart for both people, that both people agree on. To keep both parties accountable. Don't bring it up in anger, of course.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 09:30 AM
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Haha glad it worked out and he saw the truth!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 03:47 AM
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This is why I won't work in sales. I feel like women are expected to look wayyyyy better than men, like a whole different standard or level of good-looking/glamorous. It feels just wrong. Does it not make you upset at all?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 03:41 AM
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Have a chore chart. There's got to be a way to make it work - a way to make the arguing stop.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 03:25 AM
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Thrift shopping is the best! So many treasures out there. The only clothing items I buy new are undergarments, and on the rare occasion that I buy pajamas, pajamas...
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 03:04 AM
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If you want more kids, have more :) I know many many many devout Christian women (zero birth control) who have had kids into their mid forties. Yeah, there have been instances of Down's Syndrome, but they weren't born just to older moms. It can be quite random. My mom had 14 kids over a span of 20 years. No birth defects as a direct result of her age.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 08:07 PM
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Yes, I wanted to mention the relationship. If that's solid, it's all good. My parents had their first three babies while my dad was working and my mom was studying (and working a bit). If you want kids, you'll find a way. You don't need to be swimming in money, either.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 07:59 PM
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Hmm, I should ask my mom about her energy levels during her pregnancies. She had my oldest sibling when she was 24, and my youngest sibling when she was 44. She is THE authority. And she was pretty fit, not one of those women who after a couple kids goes "Welp, I'm allowed to be fat now, soo.." and eats like a slob and watches tv and yells at the kids. Please don't downvote me haha
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 07:53 PM
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You are serving God AND your husband making these babies inside your body, suffering and sacrificing. Your husband appreciates and admires that, and understands that it's difficult in the beginning stages. I think at this point in the pregnancy, the most your husband should expect from you is that you are kind and clean. As long as those frumpy clothes don't have stains or smells, you're fine :)
/r/RedPillWives24/08/20 11:29 PM
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How much can you miss a dog? You didn't even grow up with it. This might be a power move on your part, trying to insert yourself into their relationship (because they do still have one, of sorts). Leave them alone, stop talking about their dog and trying to control that situation.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/20 11:19 PM
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What are you looking for? Marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 10:12 PM
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Another possibly feminine thing I've noticed has a positive effect is when I use my pleasant cheerful "customer service" voice on my family by accident. Maybe I should talk more pleasantly more often? lol
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 07:30 PM
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28F Relatively new habit: making sure my legs are very moisturized before going outside in leg-baring clothes. I'm kind of embarrassed that it took me this long to start. My mom just forgot to tell me, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 06:47 AM
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In what way is it your fault? Like, what is his reasoning?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 06:37 AM
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Now OP has to decide what she wants more, a man who can provide for her and her future children (and it sounds like this guy is ready to), or a guy who shares all the same ideals.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 07:59 AM
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DrScholl's makes comfy walking dress shoes. Good for women who have foot discomfort in cheap flats.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 12:09 AM
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I would run my plans by my SO at least a day before they're scheduled to happen. In a way that he doesn't think I'm just telling him what's going to happen (like, whether he likes it or not). There has to be a vibe of him being allowed to express his feelings and that I respect his feelings and his response. Your SO might not have cared at all about the (gay) guy had you been 100% open and honest about it. Dont't sh*t-test your SO, it's not nice.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 12:04 AM
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Interesting! I have found this to be a thing as well. When I dress in a more feminine manner, I feel more pretty, am more confident, don't mind being looked at (often when I'm in my work clothes, I'm like, Gahh nobody look at me plz..) and people smile at me more. I think I shall dress more femininely more often, now!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 11:54 PM
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