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Social dysfunction, shitty traffic, 9 months of gray. Single working people in the PNW are gluttons for punishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 02:18 PM
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That's because the RP isn't meant for someone in your position. You learned what you needed to, and now you don't need it anymore. Simplified exaggerations are necessary for 'loser' men who can't get the fundamentals into their heads. The world is never so simple as those distillations meant for newbies. Once you move beyond being a 'loser', the necessity of nuance comes into the picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 05:36 PM
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Absolutely. The MOST important thing is how a girl treats you. Especially when you get past having sex. I'm willing to give any girl a 'first date benefit-of-the-doubt', but if this is how she always rolls, it's a no from me. I can deal with the initial shit tests, but if they are incessant, it is because she is DEEPLY insecure. It's not worth continuing further, because at some point it just becomes disrespectful.
/r/seduction17/07/19 07:20 PM
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This one is actually pretty easy. She's 30, so she's on the clock. She doesn't want to hook up anymore, she's looking for a relationship. It doesn't help that she's still going through the hook-up motions though! “why would you pick me, i mean look at me” This is her 'fear of abandonment' coming out to play. She wants to have a long-term relationship that leads to marriage. And she wants it right now. The problem with these two things is that they don't generally go together. LTRs take time to d…
/r/seduction27/04/19 01:45 AM
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Actually, the living at home thing is neither here nor there for me. It's n-mom. She will scare women off.
/r/seduction27/04/19 01:27 AM
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Dude, you're an adult. Unless your mom is giving you money, you are under no obligation to let her live with you. Not to mention that women you try to date will find your situation to have red flags.
/r/seduction26/04/19 08:03 PM
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Given Louis C.K. was doing actual sex crimes at the time No, Louis CK, although creepy and weird, did not commit a crime. In fact, he got verbal consent from the women he masturbated in front of, and left the person who did not consent alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 12:51 AM
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Right now, I over analyze and obsess about the future. Because you don't actually know what you want. Part of this is experience, part of it is knowing which ball to keep your eye on, and part of it is how you communicate. Experience seems to be something you have, and can continue to get. So I won't go into that. But as far as figuring out which ball to keep your eye on, I highly recommend going through your memories of every girl you can remember dating, and making a written list of things you…
/r/seduction14/04/19 06:41 AM
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She could just want to go snowboarding with her friend. I would go and see what the vibe is. Don't read too much into it just yet, but the fact that she's facilitating things is a good sign. If you get up there and she's down, she'll probably make it very easy for you.
/r/seduction30/01/19 06:14 PM
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Only flaw I see in this whole thing is he isn't very selective with who he invites. Mostly just sends a blanket invite. So you will see very average looking girls, which is kind of strange, but at the same time it's cool since everyone gets invited despite looks. I bet he doesn't give those things a second thought. That is done by design, because he is actually a friendly/social person. When you invite everyone, you're for real. It's not solely about bagging the 10 with the hot ass, though that …
/r/seduction30/01/19 05:17 AM
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Thanks dude. It's a long post, but I think it's a valuable process that does require a bit of time to go through, but it truly pays dividends, immediately and in the future.
/r/seduction02/01/19 06:30 AM
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We barely know each other and I found myself obsessing over just a girl only because she seemed interested in me. In reality she’s just being nice. So how do I get over her[?] Okay, first things first. GOOD JOB: You realized that you were going a bit far with your feelings. That's a REALLY good thing. So kudos dude. Really. In the short term? I'd just ask this girl out. You're 20, you work at a coffee shop. If she says yes, fuck yeah! If she doesn't, just be cool. Don't treat her like shit becau…
/r/seduction01/01/19 04:58 AM
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If you base attractiveness solely off of looks, then yes, it is quite difficult to change.
/r/seduction15/12/18 03:04 AM
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just pay attention to what they say and do, and you will quickly find most women very dull or foolish. Fucking preach. the trick is to not pay attention to their looks and all that stuff. In the words of my best mentor: the most important thing is how she treats you.
/r/seduction15/12/18 02:58 AM
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What if you're just wasting your time? What if she doesn't try half as hard as you do? What if she only sees you as a friend? The point of the excellent advice above is this: for what reason would you be romantically interested in someone like that? If she's wasting your time, NEXT. If she can't put forth any effort, NEXT. If she doesn't see your potential as a lover, NEXT.* The things you've listed are deal-breakers. If all women are treating you in such ways, then you need to up your game. But…
/r/seduction15/12/18 02:54 AM
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Lots of good advice here, but I'd suggest you seek out some therapy too. The rhetoric of the incel community can really do a number on your mental health. Read 'Feeling Good' by David Burns, and go talk to someone. That, along with HSTAHCM's advice at the top, will definitely put you in a better place.
/r/seduction25/11/18 06:48 AM
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Hey mate, I totally forgot to get back to you here. Hope you see this. A good example is when you come on a bit strong, paying a girl a lot of attention right after you meet her. Now, we would generally identify this as needy, and that might be true, but it depends on if she has earned that attention from you. If it was truly awesome to meet her, she is exactly what you're looking for, and you're able to communicate that to her in a way that she trusts, you can basically pay her all the attentio…
/r/seduction14/11/18 11:43 PM
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It won't be very meaningful to you, as it is about what kind of woman I am looking for, and what kind of relationship I want. It's a very individual thing.
/r/seduction08/11/18 05:14 PM
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Nothing. It's asking her the question when you have not qualified her at all that is a problem. I literally have a written list of things that are deal breakers, and another list of things I'm looking for in a woman. I often ask questions disguised to show me what kind of woman I'm dealing with. If I find she is the kind of girl I'm looking for, I can ask directly, and it's not seen as overly forward. If you ask before doing the work before that is an issue, because asking if she has a relations…
/r/seduction08/11/18 04:18 PM
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Exactly this. I've seen this more and more as social media has come to rise, which happened as I became more successful with women, so it could be either or a bit of both. But I do notice a lot of female friends not listing a relationship status, or posting pictures of them and their partner (even though everyone in our social circle knows they're dating.) Then you look at his page, and he has the relationship status listed, and all sorts of pictures.
/r/seduction08/11/18 04:12 PM
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Here's an example... Let's say that you want to be seen as living an interesting life. You could say that exact thing, and then follow it up with a bullet-point list about the things you do that are 'interesting'. This would be bragging; you're not doing it to capture her interest and/or investment, you're doing it for your own ego. It's seen as unattractive because A) doing it for your own ego with someone you don't know is socially inept, thus you might be out of the tribe soon, B) you're givi…
/r/seduction08/11/18 05:45 AM
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There's lots of ugly dudes, and dudes with huge foreheads who get laid, have girlfriends, and get married. Myself included (hooray receding hairline!) And frankly, if a woman were to reject me outright for my looks/forehead, I would consider myself lucky, because that is shallow. So, your looks are not your problem. Your social skills are. I feel deeply uncomfortable around women because I’m attracted to them but I feel like they view me with contempt. Some women probably do view you with contem…
/r/seduction31/10/18 07:02 AM
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But we'd have to pull them out of your... Oh... I see what you did there.
/r/MensRights11/10/18 04:16 AM
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Well, if she misses you so much, she should have thought about that before breaking up with you. That's just dumb. Being friends with this girl will just ease the hurt for her. Don't do it. She's a grown ass woman, let her deal with her feelings.
/r/seduction04/09/18 04:21 AM
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He ain't no fool, he wants the real thing.
/r/MensRights22/07/18 11:55 PM
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New Rule for you: Always go for a kiss on the first date. ALWAYS. One day, you will not need this rule. But right now you do. You may get shut down, but you still MUST GO FOR IT. Some other posters mentioned kino, escalating slightly with that first, and getting to holding hands. This is good advice. I usually structure my dates so there is an opportunity for a little walk. This is usually the perfect time to hold a girl's hand. If she's comfortable with that, then usually a kiss is no big deal.…
/r/seduction22/07/18 01:32 PM
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Lots of comments talking about how you need to work on conversation skills. While that might be the right course of action, I don't think it is. I think the problem is much deeper. have my shit together Do you often find yourself using the word 'should'? For example: "I 'should' be able to have successful dates." If so, all this does is magnify the issue. You don't completely have your shit together yet, and that is absolutely OKAY. Take a deep breath. Repeat after me: Fuck 'should.' Make that a…
/r/seduction22/07/18 11:35 AM
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Yeah, that will not get the average guy laid.
/r/seduction01/07/18 03:59 AM
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Yeah, and some public broadcasters are actually pretty balanced, like PBS. I watched the McLaughlin report for years on there, and that would not fly on left-wing outlets.
/r/MensRights21/06/18 09:19 AM
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It does seem like she just wants the attention, which means she's a waste of OP's time. Especially if she is going to treat him poorly in return. The possibility of him bedding this girl is low, and will take a significant amount more effort than finding a new girl who actually likes him and will treat him with respect.
/r/seduction18/05/18 02:35 PM
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Doesn't matter which. She is not going to treat you very nicely either way. Don't even go there. EDIT: "Which bikini do you like? Oh, you won't ever see me in one." 1) Who the fuck does this girl think she is? 2) This is straight-up bitch behaviour. If she's gonna treat you like this, I don't care how famous a girl is on insta, I don't care what she looks like, and I don't care how well she fucks, she is not worth your time.
/r/seduction18/05/18 12:29 PM
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I think so. There is a limit to how much you can block out thought and you really can't block emotion. You can control how much that behaviour shows through your actions though. And in the long run, modified behaviours can work to change what is causing thoughts and emotions. But in the short term, brain is gonna brain. If you stay rational though, you can stop these thoughts from going too far and sabotaging you. It's not "don't have those thoughts," it's more "stay realistic and grounded when …
/r/seduction07/08/16 03:05 PM
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I imagine a too perfect version of her, putting her to such a high standard that she can't possibly reach. I'm thinking of things that might happen between us... but all I'm really doing is mentally jerking off to my idealized version of what it could be. You have come across your answer here. You can't magically stop doing this, but you can interrupt your brain and make sure that these little fantasies don't go too far. It's okay to think of "what could be." But it's not a good idea to get too …
/r/seduction06/08/16 11:05 AM
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As opposed to a pussy who deletes his posts...
/r/seduction05/08/16 10:56 AM
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Xiaomi phones are good for this. Straightforward setup, lots of dual sim options, and dirt cheap.
/r/seduction05/08/16 10:53 AM
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Not to beat a very dead horse, but it's Seddit. Not exactly the white knight corner of the internet here...
/r/seduction05/08/16 10:40 AM
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I've been sitting here trying to think of how to properly articulate this point. Good work.
/r/seduction05/08/16 10:00 AM
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I think your point of view is valid and completely reasonable. For me, holding this view helps me avoid violence until it's necessary. Because what does it really solve? Unless you're in serious physical danger, it doesn't help at all. Edit: Words are hard.
/r/seduction05/08/16 09:37 AM
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Seeing this sentiment a lot in here. While I agree with you from an ethical perspective, there's a problem: the cops probably won't.
/r/seduction05/08/16 07:56 AM
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Nope. I'm not your mother. I don't think you truly appreciate the gravity of your situation. People on here who will give you soft advice and be overly understanding don't give a shit about you. They just want to feel good about themselves. Shape your shit up. You're lucky you weren't arrested. Who knows, the girl you assaulted may have filed a police report.
/r/seduction05/08/16 07:17 AM
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You need therapy. Full stop. This isn't an attack: your actions and reactions are highly concerning. You're gonna go to fucking jail if you continue down this path. I don't give a single fuck that a girl threw a punch at you. Take responsibility for yourself. Violence is NEVER acceptable. Now, was she a bitch? Totally. But she clearly had issues, and you knew it. Her saying those nasty things is like a rattlesnake shaking the rattle. It was a warning, and yet you continued to engage. Just leave …
/r/seduction05/08/16 06:37 AM
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I'm not saying that they are completely innocent per se. They are unaware at best, and tacitly complicit at worst. Wilful ignorance of the shitty parts of your movement, be it feminist or MRA, leads to having extremists that control the leading edge of the movement.
/r/MensRights11/07/16 04:15 PM
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I don't know. I have a feeling that the huge percentage of the garden variety equity feminists are unaware that this goes on. And when you point it out, they don't really understand the scale of the problem, i.e., "it's just some extremists"
/r/MensRights11/07/16 12:01 PM
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Every nerds dream.
/r/seduction10/07/16 07:45 PM
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Okay, the way you phrased the question made it seem like blocking you is the norm. If you've sent more than two messages without a response, move on. If she wants to talk to you, she will get back in touch. Otherwise, use your most valuable resource (time) elsewhere.
/r/seduction02/07/16 06:52 PM
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Pretty much this. u/thracia, she ain't interested. Move on. If you have to push a girl to the point of blocking you, ya got problems.
/r/seduction02/07/16 06:39 PM
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That's one way to look at it. I would say that disengaging completely and being unable to handle a light ribbing just makes you look like a whimp. A light rebuttal with no hurt feelings isn't losing your cool. Running away may look that way though. For someone who "doesn't give a fuck," you sure care a lot about whose frame it is, which heavily indicates to me that you have no control of frame at all.
/r/seduction29/06/16 09:35 PM
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"Not giving a fuck" is pop psychology. Sounds good, feels good, but doesn't mean jack shit. I say learn to give a fuck about the right things. For example, I give a fuck about showing you some wisdom, because I assume that is why you are on this subreddit. But I don't really give a fuck if you listen or not. If you have a social circle full of really attractive women, and you call one of them fat, whether she is or isn't, you're likely not going to be invited any longer. It's a huge social miscu…
/r/seduction29/06/16 09:11 PM
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Smart enough or no, you're going to avoid large amounts of social fallout if you follow a more subtle approach. I get the vibe that you personally haven't insulted a girl's weight yourself, or even seen someone else do it. It doesn't end well for the guy doing the insulting. I'm not saying that any guy should be overly nice to women as a default, but completely pissing them off isn't going to make them want to fuck you either.
/r/seduction29/06/16 05:09 PM
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Meh. If you're trying to hit a girls insecurities, I'd avoid weight or attractiveness. Weight could have serious social consequences for you. Attractiveness is subjective. Maybe a better route: "Wow. You're totally wife material /s"
/r/seduction29/06/16 04:30 PM
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This is a social situation. It isn't about disliking confrontation, it's knowing that these girls should be treated as they are: a minor annoyance.
/r/seduction29/06/16 04:26 PM
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I agree, but making a scene at a party looks bad. Some women are cunts, but engaging makes you look like an idiot, because guess what: everyone else knows they're cunts too! Perhaps a better way of thinking about it would be: pick your battles. If you're gonna fight make sure it is worth it.
/r/seduction29/06/16 04:25 PM
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Best not to be confrontational. Maintain your cool with the knowledge that they are cunts
/r/seduction29/06/16 02:03 PM
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Yeah, her calling herself a POC is specious at best. I'd say it's complete charlatanry.
/r/MensRights28/06/16 05:09 PM
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Seconded. It's a really good book for acquiring the right mindset for being good in bed. DEVI, bitches!
/r/seduction26/06/16 09:57 AM
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Thanks for this. This perfectly encapsulates how I feel about feminists, and feminism.
/r/MensRights26/06/16 08:59 AM
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Internet archive. Check it out!
/r/MensRights21/06/16 08:45 AM
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I see your point of view, and would be completely okay with the feminist position on this if they weren't going on and on about wanting "equality." Feminism is, and always has been about women. I don't necessarily give a shit about that, except that they ride under the egalitarian banner, which is total bullshit.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 11:16 AM
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That's feminists who are sex-positive. I like them. Then there are many feminists who want maximal restrictions on male sexuality, and they scare the shit out of me.
/r/seduction14/06/16 10:32 AM
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For some reason, I was a dummy and didn't properly read your post. Given the context above, she's probably just unfamiliar with you as you've only met her once, and hence is "on the fence" about you. You didn't immediately sweep her off of her feet, but she hasn't said "no" either. I'd think of this as a "cold lead": could be possible, but will take more effort than a "hot lead." That being said, if they are both cool, it is always good to make more friends. Lots of issues crop up for seduction …
/r/seduction30/05/16 01:47 PM
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All things being equal, if she wants to bring a friend, I'd say she isn't interested. If you're experienced, you may be able to make it work, but seems like a lot of effort to me.
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:28 AM
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Actually, your standards may be too high. The most important thing is how a woman treats you. Having a girl who is hot, smart, and treats you great is a trifecta, but be reasonable and realistic. Finding fault in little details is you avoiding having an honest connection with someone.
/r/seduction18/05/16 03:01 AM
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Lots of advice on here on not being boring. Which is great, but I think that is treating the symptoms, rather than getting to the root of the problem. When girls lose interest due to boredom, it's because you haven't made them FEEEEEEEL anything. You don't necessarily have to be The Most Interesting Man In the World, and you certainly should NEVER become an Entertainment Monkey... But you do have to provide your girl with a Range of Emotions. Think up and down, like a boat in the storm. This is …
/r/seduction08/05/16 08:07 PM
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My money is on her trying to fix her boyfriend, and while she may like you, she is more fixated upon him and his issues at the moment. Go date other women, but keep tabs on her. If she breaks up with Mr. Recluse, you'll be in good shape to test the waters if you still find her attractive.
/r/seduction08/05/16 10:39 AM
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I'm glad you found something that you could use. Now, you may have been a little submissive all this time, but be careful not to swing too far into being a domineering asshat. Keep it balanced and assertive. Pick your battles wisely, and when you do, stick to your guns at all costs, unless it has been proven that you are wrong. then do from this sub what stuff attracted women And by the way, when I'm looking, I'm always looking for a gf who would eventually be wifed These two things may not be c…
/r/seduction03/05/16 03:47 PM
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Saying things like "girls only want money and a nice body" is incredibly bitchy. It's a really good way of avoiding the development of the other parts of yourself that make you valuable to women. And a good way to blame your failures on other people. This is victim-think. Like the rad-fems you see running around here... The fix for their problems is right in front of them, but it would require effort and real empowerment on their behalf. Instead, they just blame men, because it's easy, shifts re…
/r/seduction02/05/16 04:49 PM
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Such an entitled victim. Why the fuck are you here? What purpose do you have? Can you believe what you just wrote? What you have just communicated is (A) you're a whiny bitch because you don't have money or looks and (B) that you are unwilling to put in the hard work to succeed. Your "experience" is bullshit because it is warped due to your own jealousy. Why the fuck should anyone write a wall of text for you? Give me a good reason. Or to put it another way... Why would any girl want to fuck you…
/r/seduction02/05/16 03:41 AM
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Such an underappreciated comment. Preach dude!
/r/seduction01/05/16 02:53 AM
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This statement is overly simple. While true on its face, it ignores the fact that ugly guys can succeed with women, and they do all the time. If you are a victim of your "bad" looks, then nothing can help you, and you are no better than the feminists with a victim complex. A direct approach will have to be more carefree if you don't have the looks. And you're going to have to work harder to convey your value. But hard work beats genetics, every fucking time.
/r/seduction01/05/16 02:50 AM
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Yes, yes you do need to seek some help. What happened to you is real, actual abuse. (I feel like this term gets thrown around too lightly sometimes, but this is not one of those times.) Good luck man.
/r/seduction01/05/16 02:46 AM
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Agreed. This would be an exception to the rule.
/r/seduction26/02/13 12:11 AM
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What if this guy also studied seduction, but wasn't very good at it? He would be able to figure him out, but also be a jealous little fuck.
/r/seduction20/01/13 06:01 AM
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If you have solid game, just take your business elsewhere. Going back is a bomb, waiting to blow up in your face. You could always use this place as a location to bounce a girl to before you take her home, as it is close to your house. Someone has complained about me talking to girls in the bar, or one particular girl has complained, thus giving the manager fuel to kick me out Pretty possible, if there are jealous dudes around, or you have a girl that you turned down that is pissed at you. Club …
/r/seduction20/01/13 05:58 AM
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Crazy attracts crazy. If that is all that you are finding, you might start with the one thing they all have in common: you.
/r/seduction07/01/13 08:41 AM
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As far as low sex drive, get your vitamin/mineral levels tested. Specifically Vitamin A, D, E and Selenium. If they are not in optimal levels, your body is seriously impaired in making testosterone. I fixed mine, and it helped me big time. Get them TESTED though, don't go blindly supplementing, except for Vitamin D (can't get enough of that!). Selenium and Vitamin A can get toxic with relatively easy compared to D. not jerking off 4 times a day I would still get your levels tested, but this isn'…
/r/seduction13/12/12 10:17 AM
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I think you need to read "Models" by Mark Manson, or look around here for some of his stuff. He is really good about explaining how to push approaching in the right way. You may consider this though: have you ever thought about the motivation of "wanting"? If you can't bring yourself to approach a girl, I say that you just don't ACTUALLY WANT to, for whatever reason. That doesn't make you a pussy. For me, I didn't get good at approaching until I had a lot of other parts of my game in place. Then…
/r/seduction13/12/12 02:14 AM
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"thanks for the compliments bro, but don't swing that way" Bottom line: You leapt to saying that you're not gay too fast. Let your behavior communicate that. When you say it so quickly, it communicates that you're not secure about your heterosexuality; that you can't rely on your behavior/persona to do the work for you. Just say a genuine thanks, that you're flattered, and continue hitting on girls; he will get the hint. Something else that results from telling him this right off the bat, is tha…
/r/seduction22/11/12 10:21 AM
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I have a very natural style that puts the walls of most girls down. They know from minute one, that you are "friends only" material. When girls have their "walls" up, it isn't necessarily a bad thing. It is just a test, to see if you're a man. They already know that you're not. The reactions I get from girls are almost always positive You should redefine "positive." It is only positive if you make forward progress toward getting what you want (sex, relationship, etc.) even the ones who aren't in…
/r/seduction22/11/12 10:16 AM
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Approach Anxiety.
/r/seduction15/11/12 06:03 AM
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Attractive men do get propositioned 'regularly', as often as attractive women. That is quite a fantasy world you live in. I believe it was Cajun who did an AMA on here, and when asked how often he had to be the one to initiate/move things forward, he said 99%.
/r/seduction31/10/12 05:01 AM
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Flaking is way too socially acceptable now Yes, but flakiness is a very good indicator of two things: 1) How solid a connection you are making when you meet women. 2) If she is a quality woman or not. The better connection you make, the lower the possibility of her flaking. After you start making better connections, if a girl still flakes on a date, it is a great indicator that you wouldn't want to date her anyway.
/r/seduction18/10/12 06:58 AM
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Get the sand out of your vagina. It will help you to stop whining and do something about your situation. You can't control your height, but you can control how you think and behave about it. That said, if the ONLY reason a woman isn't attracted to you is your height, she is shallow as fuck, and you wouldn't want to be with her anyway. Another way to look at it: these women are testing you to see if you are uncomfortable about THEIR height. If you are, then you show that you're insecure. If you'r…
/r/seduction18/10/12 04:31 AM
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You'd have to become seriously good at dancing to have status in that circle. I disagree. Status in any social circle is about behavior, and even if you aren't a great dancer, if you behave as a high-value male would, you will still be perceived as high status and be able to attract women. Now, when it comes to regulars, you are right, they all know each other, and some of them would judge you based upon your dance skill. So be it. But consider that every night of social dancing has new girls th…
/r/seduction18/10/12 04:18 AM
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I'm going to say this with all the love in the world behind it: stop being a pussy. You said it yourself, it is a one way ticket to winning women over. WHY NOT TAKE THAT? You're sitting here, on Reddit, why not do something that would easily up your game? Do you actually want to be better with women? You might start with exploring WHY you feel that way about dancing. I'm going to guess that it has to do with you own shame about your sexuality (dancing is often analogous to sex) and/or desire for…
/r/seduction18/10/12 04:12 AM
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Don't treat her like your male friends. That's not cool.
/r/seduction17/10/12 09:32 AM
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SOCIAL DANCING. I can't believe someone else didn't mention this already. Start with salsa. I have seen seriously attractive girls that are into that dance. I personally prefer swing (for reasons other than seduction) and there are some attractive girls in it as well.
/r/seduction17/10/12 09:31 AM
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I think we agree to disagree. Awesome. I really like it when people can have discussions, present ideas, and this result happens for valid reasons. If I was in a relationship. I am newly in a relationship, and please do not assume anything about me. While I do not identify as a "PUA," (I'm a relationship guy myself) I am between Seducer and Master Seducer at this point in my life, after a SHIT LOAD of learning and experience. I've done the work and learning that I needed to do, and now I am here…
/r/seduction17/10/12 09:10 AM
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Friendship? Perhaps... but far more often than not, FWBs don't work out because one side develops feelings, because it is, in fact, more than "just friends." It is "with benefits." You're fucking. You can't have it both ways. Sex gets messy, yo. Although you can't have it both ways (platonic friend and romantic partner) that doesn't mean a long-term, monogamous relationship always develops. I think the biggest thing here, is that in your situation is that your feelings ran out: you knew you were…
/r/seduction17/10/12 02:02 AM
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I would call it an exception to the rule, you lucky dog. If she, in fact, had no romantic feelings. There will always be exceptions to rules or solid theories in the dating world, I just never plan to encounter any of them. If I do, awesome. If I don't, then I haven't wasted my time looking for them.
/r/seduction17/10/12 12:51 AM
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Explicit sex is not the driving force for a healthy relationship, you can have physical attraction without anything in common. Yes, absolutely. A relationship based ONLY on sex is not really a relationship at all. It's just sex. And there is nothing wrong with that. :) I guess my point is that some guys may think that you can have a romantic relationship without sex, which is a folly. You can't. It isn't the only thing that is necessary to have a good relationship, so we are agreed there. Guys c…
/r/seduction16/10/12 10:12 PM
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Okay, I see now. It didn't read that way to me. Again, it is a high risk line, even for texting. Benefit is, you'll either solidify her interest, or she won't reply at all, allowing you to move on. Either way, she won't be on the fence about you.
/r/seduction16/10/12 09:48 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction16/10/12 09:46 PM
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I've been thinking about this over the last couple of hours, and the biggest issue I have with it, is that it could potentially cut some guys off of the sex that they need to progress in their dating lives. Having sex can be a hugely therapeutic act for would-be seducers to become better with women. I know for myself, that when I started to get laid regularly, I got less needy, and my results with women progressed much faster. Contrast this with times when I was in a dry-spell (for many reasons …
/r/seduction16/10/12 07:44 AM
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Well, you wouldn't necessarily have to bang her. In my opinion, any intimite contact, such as kissing, oral sex, and other non-intercourse acts, even though they are not "sex" as defined as putting your dick in her pussy, are not platonic actions. However, I have seen women explain away anything less than sex as still "just friends." IMO, it is bullshit, nevertheless I believe that sex is the ultimate form of not being platonic, and cannot be explained away as "just friends" after the fact.
/r/seduction16/10/12 07:37 AM
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This girl just sounds like a bitch, no shields required. Two questions: What elements of her communication, indicates to you that she is still being receptive? I don't mean to imply that she isn't, I just want to see if you're reading her right. and Why punish yourself by pursuing her?
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:47 AM
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These are not alpha responses. They look for her approval, except for: I'll add you and we can set a first date from there.
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:39 AM
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Slow down your speech, and keep the weird shit to yourself until girls know you a little better. If they know you are an attractive guy, the weird stuff won't turn them off nearly as much. Because hey, we all have something that we are nerdy and weird about. Reveal these aspects of yourself in time. By the way, you do have shame. The sheer fact that you came on here and pointed out that you are weird and can talk too much makes this absurdly clear to me, and if I can tell, ANY woman can tell.
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:37 AM
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Oh, I see. I would say that you can be friends with women, and still be a sexual male around them. That doesn't necessarily violate the platonic intent of your friendship, unless you take it other places.
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:34 AM
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They don't dislike all shy guys. They dislike shy guys that can't fulfill their needs for drama, assertiveness, and protection.
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:30 AM
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"You're busy, I'm busy -- we'll never find time to sleep together." You need seriously good game and calibration for this line to work, and not come off completely creepy. Seriously. This line is NOT for amateurs. If you try this without the requisite savvy, I envision the possibility of you being asked to leave, or escorted out, because you freaked the girl out. "Can I get your number so I can hit on you at a more appropriate time?" I really like this one, and think it would be effective, but d…
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:26 AM
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Be a regular. I disagree with this for other reasons than already stated. She gets paid to be nice to you, and make more money for the company, so if you become a regular, the prospect of romance could fuck with her job (and them taking your money). Not to mention, you could come off as a total creep if you are a regular and don't know what you are doing.
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:20 AM
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Typically, sex has not connection to driving a potential relationship, experience and chemistry does. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding you, but only having experience and chemistry will land you in the friend zone chief. It is the act of being LOVERS that creates a relationship. It never hurts to be friends with girls, even though you may you would screw them in a heart beat. Then you are not actually friends with them. Being friends with girls means have established boundaries, that are not complet…
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:15 AM
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if you don't establish signals of initial interest such as flirting, kino, etc. then usually it becomes very difficult for a girl to see you in a romantic/sexual light No disagreement, except I wanted to add that girls can be interested with out these sexual elements if you are publicly in a relationship. Just the fact of you being with another girl fulfills their need for kino/flirting (sexuality) and if you get out of that relationship, these other girls become available to you.
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:09 AM
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You need to read the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy!" by Robert Blandon, and explore what it really means to be alpha, experienced, and honest. A lot of the problems you have are based upon deep wiring from your upbringing, and in order to fix your social problems, I think it would be most efficient if you fixed these deep aspects of yourself at the same time as learning seduction or social skills. If you don't fix these deep, internal things, they will undermine your success in social endeavors. Al…
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:06 AM
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best relationships are built from long-term friendships (doesn't have to be platonic) WHAT? Friendship is, by definition, platonic. How many relationships have you been in where you were long-term friends with her first?
/r/seduction16/10/12 04:01 AM
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You may already be good with women. But this: Text her whatever you want, as long as you want, whenever you feel like it. Is shitty advice for those who are not. Keep that in mind. Just don't try and get to know her almost exclusively via text cause that's annoying to anyone I feel. If she's not responding well then its probably because you're not doing so hot when you're actually with her. This is good advice. Completely agreed. In my experience, any time a girls been interested in me, I've nev…
/r/seduction14/10/12 09:11 AM
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/r/seduction04/10/12 07:27 AM
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