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Pay attention to that optimistic urge within you when you come across posts regarding "having a mission". Something within you is trying to send you a signal. Keep digging. Lean into those feelings.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/24 05:31 AM
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I think that may be over complicating things a bit. If she’s game to meet up at 10pm, just a few short hours after initiating conversation, then she is absolutely interested in hooking up. There is no need to say anything extra. She’s giving you the bounce pass for the layup. Don’t screw it up by trying a trick shot. Sometimes common sense trumps theory, and I believe that to be the case here. Don’t get too caught up in appearing Red Pill, or making sure that she or other people KNOW that you’re…
/r/TheRedPill18/07/24 06:58 AM
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The “wear something tight” line sounds good in theory but it can often trigger their ASD. I wouldn’t advise. Being too forward and too overt about sex can often tank the meeting or conversation. They don’t usually like it when sex is being discussed blatantly. They like a subtle building of tension so that it can play out with them telling their friends “idk, it just sort of happened!”. They’re there to hookup, but they won’t admit it consciously to themselves, or to others. Of course you want t…
/r/TheRedPill17/07/24 08:29 PM
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Red Pill has officially gone mainstream and is now synonymous with Andrew Tate/hustle culture bullshit. The spiritual aspect is almost entirely gone, which if you spend the requisite time here reading, you soon learn is the overarching message, rather than material things like women, money, or larping as a TikTok entrepreneur.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/24 05:07 AM
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Surely this will end well.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/24 08:50 AM
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Please, OP, leave it up, so that this comment right here ^ which was better that the post itself, can remain up forever.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/24 04:33 AM
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You did the right thing brother. Your gut instincts were telling you something and realistically, do you really want your LTR to be some bar-going chick who stays out all night at crack houses? Doesn’t exactly sound like a catch. Good things await you with this new RP knowledge my friend.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/23 04:26 AM
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Yes but I strongly wonder if this is universal amongst all women or just reserved for the toxic types. It’s not healthy to need to stir up problems because you’re addicted to the sex afterwards, or the brief honeymoon period that comes with making up. Much of the drama started is one giant comfort test. They get aroused and relaxed by you speaking and alleviating their worries or displaying strong masculine beliefs. So if they have stuff bothering them or their insecurities within the relationsh…
/r/TheRedPill14/10/23 07:13 AM
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Lol yeah, I’m not dropping 20k on drinks so that I can compete for a club slut that I shouldn’t be dating anyway. You don’t pass nuclear shit tests. That being said, if you can’t pass them, they’re not actually even tests. They’re just displays of toxic behavior and a very clear signal that this girl is to be next’d immediately.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/23 06:21 AM
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This is a very interesting scenario and both sides of the argument here in the comments have valid points. You very well could be overreacting since she offered to show you the texts right away, however the bad gut feeling cannot be ignored, especially since the guy was interested in her, and she did indeed accept his invite to go out before. It sounds like she wasn’t into him, but she obviously found him attractive enough at one point to accept that invite out. Please keep us updated on what ha…
/r/TheRedPill31/07/23 07:29 AM
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I 95% agree for most people, however the knowledge of the red pill can be taken to a different level once it’s internalized to such a strong degree. At a certain point, you become the pill. There is no strategy anymore. You have merged with the concepts and ideas. When that happens, you develop an IDGAF frame that is borderline unbreakable. Men have emotions and insecurities and anxieties and everything else that a human does. When you’ve internalized the pill so strongly, you can express whatev…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/23 07:56 AM
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Stopped reading after the first 25 words. Move on to someone else
/r/TheRedPill04/11/22 11:02 PM
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On the line about: you think she’d be involved with me if I weren’t better than her? This is spot on. Statistics literally back this up. 90% of women marry upwards. It is a proven FACT that you are indeed perceived as better than her just by her being with you. That is your confirmation.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/21 01:38 PM
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I really do appreciate all the time and effort that went into building the new site. It is the right idea and lord know it was a smart one with the way Reddit is with censorship/left wing BS, etc. But the site just isn’t the same. This sub was excellent, and beyond helpful, not just for me but for thousands of others. I beg of you to please, please reopen this sub.
/r/askTRP21/11/21 10:39 AM
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I mean I guess you’d really find out whether she’s being flirty or bitchy depending on whether or not she makes you book your own room. If you tell her straight up no, I’m not doing that, then she’ll either get nervous and have you sleep with her, or say eh, alright, as in she doesn’t really care too much what you do.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 06:55 PM
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Then that’s your perception my friend. Either way, the advice would be to ignore these girls, so in the end, there isn’t much of a difference no matter how one interprets it.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:06 PM
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Yes. A toxic form of it. Although relatively harmless now, this can be an indicator of more toxic, harmful shit testing down the line. Even though it’s a bizarre way of showing interest, the juice is not worth the squeeze.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:01 PM
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Oddly enough they most likely are all attracted to you. You’d be invisible to them if they thought you were ugly or weird. This is all shit testing. By remaining stoic and keeping your frame, you’re only getting more attractive to them. Now that being said, if they’re fat or the shit testing is toxic, just ignore them.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 06:06 PM
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I’ve done this many many times with great success. Don’t let the regurgitated female speak of “ewww that’s so creepy!” And “I would never go to a guys house on the first date” skew your perspective. Girls will move mountains for the dicks they’re interested in. I’ve had girls come over my house and have sex with me, all while telling they’re their friends they wouldn’t be going. Some will say no out of principle, but who cares. It’s all a number game anyway. Eat pizza, play Mario kart, put on a …
/r/askTRP07/06/21 09:19 AM
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Just imagine how annoying her far left socialist shit would be in 20 years from know when she’s a fat miserable nagging child bearing bitch. You dodged a major bullet.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 04:32 PM
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It’s not really unfair as it is dumb for both sides. Obviously she’s just trying to procure a beta provider by training him/conditioning him/setting the terms of the relationship so that it’s understood she will dispense pussy when SHE wants, not him, yet at the same time, I really have no sympathy because the guy is free to turn down this arrangement and walk away at any time. He’s freely choosing to accept these ridiculous terms.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 11:38 PM
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Good call man. I know it sucks, but for her to even explore such a thing means she’s mentally checked out, lost desire (which cannot be reignited), and the relationship has been over for at least a little while now regardless of you guys still being together on paper. No harm no foul. It’s just nature. There’s a lot of bright sides to this too. Now you have the opportunity to go out, fuck fresh new girls, and inspire those cock craving doe eyes instead of the cunty bored eyes your gf is probably…
/r/askTRP22/05/21 08:21 PM
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Lmao beat me to it
/r/askTRP22/05/21 05:42 PM
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Yes, this is exactly what I’m wondering as well. Girls don’t go from being high quality LTR material one day to springing questions about starting an only fans the next. There will be obvious signs along the way to let you know immediately that this is nothing more than a plate at the very best.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 07:15 PM
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I think we all understand OP’s point, and his message makes sense. However there is an unavoidable game to be played, and you must play it well. While it is seemingly unfair and retarded that we are chastised for what we want and saying it openly, that is unfortunately the nature of the beast, and it is not changing. This is how human beings are. You must play this game more efficiently rather than scoff at how unfair and stupid the game is.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/21 04:46 AM
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They are signs of impulsivity and a high likelihood of boredom. Also, it’s just common sense really, did you ever meet a chick that was covered in tattoos, piercings, or has multi colored hair that wasn’t a fucking nut job?
/r/askTRP13/05/21 06:40 AM
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This
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:39 PM
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Are you interested in LTR’ing her? You’ve vetted her for 7 months. What conclusions have you drawn in terms of her being a suitable partner?
/r/askTRP27/04/21 05:13 PM
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Jealous is a product of the ego. Since all human beings have an ego, all are liable to feel jealous. Is it a necessary emotion? Is it a 100% guarantee that you’ll always feel jealously? No. This is where you can exercise your free will. Meditation helps GREATLY to transcend these uncomfortable emotions like jealously, guilt, regret, bitterness, anger, etc. To be genuinely red pilled is to transcend these more base emotions, accept them for what they are, and proceed from there. A good indicator …
/r/askTRP27/04/21 06:05 AM
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I’ve been feeling this for a few months myself. I’m currently in an LTR with a high quality woman for 2.5 years now. Although she’s everything a red pilled man would want in a partner, if at all, I find myself yearning for variety. While there are many ways we can look at this on a personal, internal level, don’t discount the effect that your brain, and primitive subconscious desires can have. It’s what we were wired for. Literally to spread our seed to as many different women as possible. Surpr…
/r/askTRP20/04/21 08:38 PM
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Just some constructive criticism here, but drop the trendy cool guy lingo with the “say less”, “aye” and “imma” BS. It’s very cringe and comes off like you’re 15. Get rid of the emojis. Converse like a grown man. Again, not being a dick for the sake of being a dick. I myself have noticed a drastic difference when I became more stoic and direct.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 01:33 PM
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I believe I’m at this stage as well. My longtime friends aren’t bad people, but I can see that they are incredibly blue pilled. All adopt mainstream leftist news ideologies, watch porn and jerk off constantly, are all whipped by their GF’s, etc. Sometimes I wonder myself what would it be like if I do totally outgrow them. It seems lonely. Who would I hangout with at that point? Would I even want to associate with people of higher status? Maybe they’re boring and I have nothing in common with the…
/r/askTRP10/04/21 10:10 PM
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Listen to the community OP!!
/r/askTRP07/04/21 05:10 AM
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Lmao I love how she equates changing her last name to getting put onto the deed of a house. As if they’re even remotely comparable. What in gods name do you get out of that deal exactly? Please man, please, do NOT add her onto that house. It will be the back breaker for you. And in all honestly, with the attitude that she has (I’ll change it when you add me), I’d be extremely cautious about the future of this marriage and her in general. She has sought out a man to provide for her, you, secured …
/r/askTRP07/04/21 05:08 AM
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C’mon man. You already know the answer. And so does the community here. The thing that jumped out to me was she does everything for me sexually. This is most likely why you LTR’d her. Just be honest with yourself. No harm no foul. The mind can use many many clever rationalizations to justify sexual scarcity. Next as soon as you can.
/r/askTRP28/03/21 10:10 PM
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Honestly in a situation like this I can see you telling your dad and tell him not believing you or refusing to accept it, and he proceeds to go on with his day suppressing the fact that he might be getting cheated on. This is how most men are. Betas who are comfortable within the confines of their reality. Lift that veil and they get scared. This is why we don’t talk about RP in public. The simps will get outraged for you challenging their ideals and expectations of there being one special princ…
/r/askTRP10/03/21 04:12 AM
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99.99% of women I’ve met in real life are hyper liberal and say similar things. Being that they are obsessed with social status, it’s no wonder they align with the political side that gets you cancelled or left out if you don’t align with it. They are the biggest conformists ever and apply zero critical thought. It’s all hive mind/group think/regurgitation. I oscillate between law 38 and then speaking my mind with a solid frame. No fucks given does work, but depending on size of the group it pro…
/r/askTRP08/03/21 04:47 AM
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Whatever you speculate their past to be, multiply it by about 10x and then you have the truth.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/21 07:11 PM
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You’re just horny. Next.
/r/askTRP04/03/21 07:27 PM
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She’s insecure & trying to increase her value/make you jealous. Definitely not worth anything but plate status. I’ve hard nexted girls like this because I find the behavior to be toxic & malicious. Oneitis is indeed creeping in or this wouldn’t have been posted at all.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 02:59 AM
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Bingo
/r/askTRP02/03/21 02:57 AM
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You provided the emotional validation that the medicinal alpha masseuse doesn’t give her. It’s ok to be upset by her behavior, it’s a normal reaction, but, it does mean that you need more girls immediately. You’re the plate in this situation, not her. Just start by being honest with yourself. If you felt hurt, jealous, mad, etc. Make sure you accept that or else you will not grow. Make sure you’re not using the red pill to accomplish your underlying beta goals (finding your Disney princess). *si…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:10 AM
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I believe this is one of the most important questions that can be asked here on TRP. I believe that yes, you should. Some girls are indeed sluts and will cheat no matter what you do, but it’s your fault for not vetting them properly and LTR’ing such a low quality girl. In other cases, the girl might be of higher quality and better LTR material but cheats anyway. One can only assume that it’s due to your frame breaking down over time, not being on your purpose, caring too much, pedestalizing her,…
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:35 AM
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I guess the “she gave me shit” was supposed to be a fair warning to us all about what to come in the subsequent paragraphs.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:27 AM
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This is literally every girl. 95% of them are just really bored.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/21 10:59 PM
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Corey Wayne is an excellent starting point for beginners who are sick of being blue pilled. He’s definitely not politically correct. He’s a vocal trump supporter, and he has the balls to even speak on topics such as masculinity and how to not take women’s shit, which by today’s standards, is politically incorrect. There is however thr3 business aspect to him where he still tries to sell you the Disney fantasy in the end, because I believe he knows that most people discovering his stuff are blue …
/r/askTRP19/02/21 11:26 PM
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It sounds like you’re interested in something resembling an LTR. That is fine. Vet very very intensively, and always keep the RP principles in mind that it is just your turn.
/r/askTRP19/02/21 11:21 PM
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Lol it happens man. I’m in an LTR and fortunately haven’t had a reason to breakdown or cry in front of her, but, my mindset is that I really don’t care. I found that you can do anything you want if you just don’t care. This will be sub communicated very powerfully to her and other women alike. The women that leave you for it, gladly let them leave. They weeded themselves out for you. As far as I’m concerned, if I feel like I need to cry, or want to cry, then I’ll cry. Whatever happens as a bypro…
/r/askTRP19/02/21 12:21 PM
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Do not tell her. She will 100% rationalize and turn your snooping into the bigger issue here, which is high indication of her cheating. I would monitor the situation for SLIGHTLY longer, and perhaps in that time you can get the concrete evidence you need. But, that gut feeling is rarely wrong, and you’ve already found the muted/suspicious message stuff. Start detaching yourself mentally now. Whether she’s cheated on you or not, it doesn’t hurt to further detach yourself and remind yourself to ca…
/r/askTRP19/02/21 12:15 PM
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So basically she didn’t mind until she did lol
/r/askTRP19/02/21 10:55 AM
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True abundance would tell you that there are many other good quality LTR worthy girls out there. This girl isn’t special. If your SMV is indeed as high as you perceive it to be, you’ll have a plethora of options.
/r/askTRP16/02/21 07:36 PM
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Idk what you did to her exactly but let this one go and don’t look back. Stuff like this gives me a bad gut feeling like they’re the type of girls to seek out an opportunity to come at you with rape/abuse allegations. Quite frankly, who cares if she walks.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 08:18 PM
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Just here to provide a different sort of comment in case you’re eventually looking for ways to rationalize her behavior. Take a look at all these comments and always remember that the community is rarely, if EVER, wrong.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 09:57 PM
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This was fucking awesome man. Thanks a ton for the notes. I’m short, here’s what led to her best friend saying what she said: I have had a rough & stressful year, and did not take care of the problems that were bothering me. It started to make me super negative and my girlfriend started to notice. She said a very direct comment to me “you’ve been negative lately, can you please stop?” This comment stuck with me and had me contemplating deep existential questions. It made me feel deep, deep lonel…
/r/askTRP30/01/21 07:28 PM
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This was excellent. Thank you
/r/askTRP30/01/21 07:11 PM
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Don’t rely on external voices to tell you how successful you are, or how well you’re doing in life. Understand that 99.99% of people have a distorted perception of the world and think that success comes from making money, acquiring possessions, prominent job titles, and a host of other superficial things. Don’t let lost people insist that you’re the one whose doing it wrong. Go beyond it. You’ll quickly see how the tables turn. People will go from hating you (because your actions and disregard f…
/r/askTRP30/01/21 07:06 PM
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Because they care. Keep up the good work.
/r/askTRP30/01/21 02:45 PM
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It’s definitely not that. Just reading the situation it’s pretty obvious that it’s her being jealous/trying to sabotage my GF’s love life. Her own relationships suck ass and she’s jealous that we actually have a quality one
/r/askTRP28/01/21 10:40 PM
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Straight to the point. I like it. If this ever does become a strain for me that’s affecting me day in and day out, I’m gone. The good news is that my LTR has completely taken my side during this and is not happy with her cousin at all right now because of what she said.
/r/askTRP28/01/21 01:46 PM
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I truly have man, I’ve been dating my GF for two years now and in that time I’ve always made a strong effort to try and form a good bond with her cousin because I realize that they’re like sisters. Me and her having a good rapport was important. Since day one she’s been standoffish and cold. She never engages with me, she doesn’t pay attention when you talk to her, she’s constantly texting or always on her way out to the bar. She never stops to talk or hangout with me and my LTR. We’ve invited h…
/r/askTRP28/01/21 10:11 AM
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Thanks man, this comment was really helpful. It’s very easy to be taken off guard by such a comment like “I don’t think he’s the right boyfriend for you”, but I’m getting clarity and adjusting my frame so that it’s genuinely let go of. Her cousin clearly didn’t like me from the start since I didn’t fit her mold. She exclusively dates guys are aren’t much different than walking talking ATM machines. Meanwhile, my LTR is begging me to eat her ass daily. Actions speak louder than words I guess. I m…
/r/askTRP28/01/21 05:55 AM
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This comment hit home. I’ve been feeling existential loneliness quite a bit myself. I oscillate from accepting the female nature as it is and not getting upset about it, to experiencing crippling loneliness at times when the women in my life sometimes show their true nature a little to bluntly and dismiss the struggles of a man as being weak, beta, whining, etc. Throw in a shitty family support system and beta friends and you’ve got yourself one big recipe for an existential crisis.
/r/askTRP28/01/21 05:08 AM
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How would that explain all of her boyfriends? The guys she supposedly does like. They’re literally all interchangeable sacks of soy. I’m not joking. They all look and act the same way. Fat, soft, and betabux in every sense of the word. They’re not charming, they’re needy, they’re way too available with their time, and so on and so on.
/r/askTRP28/01/21 04:29 AM
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I think you guys fuckin hit the nail right on the head with your insights. It’s quite hilarious how girls such as the cousin are taken, but only on paper. They’re still longing for alpha cock while they’re with the betabux. I guess this is why they try to sabotage girls that actually have someone more red pilled. I can’t imagine girls, or anyone really, who are genuinely fulfilled in life trying to sabotage and tear down others. Usually you see them offer support, encouragement, show excitement,…
/r/askTRP28/01/21 12:10 AM
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A FaceTime first date sounds like the worst thing of all time.
/r/askTRP25/01/21 03:15 PM
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Glad someone here can relate. It’s fully dawning on me now how unchangeable the situation is with them. To be honest the depression I’m feeling currently is in large part due to seeing how alone a person in this situation truly can be. That’s a big reason why I’m now paying someone just to talk about it. (Therapist).
/r/askTRP23/01/21 07:30 PM
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1.) a sudden change in my demeanor via text is without a doubt going to be brought up in person, and she’s going to be curious as to why I’m distant. This is an inconvenience and a pain in the ass that I’m looking to avoid or mitigate as best as possible without causing unnecessary stress. 2.) In another reply, I wrote that issues with my family are a large reason why I’m feeling less than stellar. I’ve drastically reduced contact with my immediate family as they’re manipulators who tend to kick…
/r/askTRP23/01/21 03:47 AM
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I actually do have my own online business that I built from the ground up, and it keeps me busy almost 24/7. (I think it’s ironically contributed to the ongoing depression due to burnout). So the surface level mission is there. But to me that’s secondary to my actual mission which is introspective work. “Spiritual” sort of work if you will, mainly through meditation, reading, writing, etc. That’s when I truly feel the most purposeful. Dealing with all of the other surface level bullshit, online …
/r/askTRP23/01/21 02:17 AM
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Thanks man. Probably the simplest and most direct route to go. I have some pretty twisted family dynamics that she knows have been bothering me as of late. (Raging narcissistic father, enabler mother, and narcissistic older brother who my parents also enable.) I’ve been trying to detach myself and pull away from all of them and have been met with ridicule, shame, and other forms of manipulation in an attempt to keep the wholesome family image together.
/r/askTRP23/01/21 12:21 AM
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Calm down dude. I could give two shits about who’s in office. I’m literally explaining what I’m experiencing. Maybe it’s different for you where you live. Maybe your region is a little more open minded, but where I’m from you are socially shunned for having a differing opinion from the masses.
/r/askTRP22/01/21 12:33 PM
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Well said. I 100% agree. Thanks for the perspective recalibration, it was sure as hell needed
/r/askTRP22/01/21 07:35 AM
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Thanks man, I’ll definitely check it out ASAP
/r/askTRP22/01/21 07:12 AM
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There’s quite a lot in there I agree with you on, like being confident, lifting, and ideally putting this all in the rear view mirror while putting the mission at the forefront. That’s undeniably good advice. I wish it were that easy to just go about saying whatever you want. It’s one thing to maintain a strong frame, which is critical, but it’s something entirely different to say what you truly believe in today’s world. There will undoubtedly be negative consequences for carrying yourself this …
/r/askTRP22/01/21 07:09 AM
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I totally get where you’re coming from, but I’m more so speaking in terms of day to day life. Practical applications. I hear about friends being cut off from their groups for offering an opinion that differs from the ones pushed in the mainstream. Friends within groups afraid to speak up or give an opinion different than the majority because it’s not politically correct, and knowing that they’ll be cast out. So the cancel culture is very real. People also have the power to collectively report yo…
/r/askTRP22/01/21 06:44 AM
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What you’re allowed to say out in public, or on social media for that matter, seems to have been reduced tremendously as of late. If you even suggest the idea that the elected leaders for “the left” are just as incompetent as “the right”, you’re accused of being sore sort of shame word like racist, misogynist, trump supporter, etc. This also goes for shedding light on the hypocrisy of feminism. I do agree though that masculine men are extremely rare nowadays in this feminized world. Men are brou…
/r/askTRP22/01/21 06:09 AM
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You’re definitely right. It seems like the last year and a half was a conscious effort to divide everyone and make people choose sides. And as an overarching goal, cause psychological distress. I’m not sure I ever needed monk mode more than right now.
/r/askTRP22/01/21 05:54 AM
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Lol god damn. Pure savagery.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 04:15 PM
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I just want to convey to you what a fuckin strong individual you are to go through that, and still be able to power through to this day. You have no idea the amount of mental fortitude that takes, and you are putting it on display each day. Keep powering through man. You will begin to heal. As weird as it may sound, I’m sure many of the men here would agree with me that they wish they had the mental strength that you clearly possess. We’re here for you.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 06:14 AM
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Completely agree. About 99% of questions on asktrp and various topics written about on here could all resolve themselves with doing whatever you want and not caring. The key to all of it is not caring. Genuine outcome independence. Paradoxically life seems to reward you more for this disposition.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/21 08:51 AM
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I think an hour would be my absolute limit. But yes, FaceTime with her to verify that she is who she says she is.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 12:16 AM
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Lmao She’s a headcase. Hard next. Find a more normal girl, yet continue to ignore her nudes. She’ll love it yet won’t go full retard like this girl
/r/askTRP02/01/21 08:10 AM
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That’s how I feel at this point. He is my brother and I care about him, so underneath my irritation and anger about his actions I’m trying to access the compassion I have for him. I don’t want to seem him continue to get worse and worse as time passes by, because that’s certainly what will happen. He’s an incel that will 100% grow more negative and hard to be around as he gets into his 40s. My LTR and I have a great relationship (I vetted her very well thanks to the pill), so it’s pretty importa…
/r/askTRP27/12/20 10:07 AM
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I’d love to, but he’s just one of those people that would rather be right than happy. I know that if he ended up finding either a girlfriend or consistent success on the dating scene to occupy his time, he’d stop with this neediness, which has definitely gotten worse since I got into an LTR. It’s almost as if he knows that I won’t have the same amount of time to devote as before, so he’s ramping up his neediness so the day comes where I “blow him off”, and he can claim I’m ditching him. I knew t…
/r/askTRP27/12/20 07:26 AM
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It can actually be a really favorable position for you right now. It’s fine to feel guilty, it’s normal. Especially when you know that she wants to date you and you don’t want an LTR, so by default you’re going to “hurt her”. This situation can also serve as an excellent screening procedure. If she’s in love with you, and you reiterate that you just want to keep things the way they are, (take it day by day, etc.) then she’ll either agree to those terms because she truly does like you the person,…
/r/askTRP17/12/20 02:38 AM
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Completely out of the question as LTR material. FWB at best.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 03:09 AM
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Genuinely dont care and it’ll radiate outwards
/r/askTRP01/12/20 09:04 AM
8

Bussy lmaoo
/r/askTRP30/11/20 10:15 PM
1

Not a great read, and really overrated. It seemed all over the place
/r/askTRP29/11/20 08:43 PM
0

You can certainly bang a 10 while being a 6 or 7 yet having impeccable frame.
/r/askTRP22/11/20 10:18 PM
1

If you remain emotionally detached then what does it matter? Go over whenever you feel like it. I can’t help but think an LTR is the end goal for guys like this rather than spin her as a plate.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 05:38 PM
1

Lmao pick up artists are literal soy boys who devote every waking second trying to get a crumb of pussy. I don’t care if I have to be celibate until the day I die, you’ll never see me dress the way “Mystery” does just to get some ass
/r/askTRP18/11/20 06:20 AM
-3

Big Lenny Approved 👍
/r/askTRP17/11/20 01:53 AM
3

It sounds like the red pill has entered your system. Whether you digest it or spit it back up is your call, but reality remains the same either way. So, it depends on whether you want to keep feeling like a little boy who gets treated like such, or, be one of the people in this world that gets treated like a king. You’ll laugh at the scenario you’re writing about in due time. How could you not? You have feelings for a girl who you’re not even dating, who doesn’t even live near you, who tells you…
/r/askTRP16/11/20 10:34 AM
2

Let this be a learning experience and just accept it for what it is. We’ve been conditioned to think that girls would never do this and that they’re such sweet and angelic souls. When we find out they’re not, it hurts. So, we must not expect them to be. When we don’t expect the compassion in the first place, then we’re not let down. Fuck this girl. Sending a lot of positive thoughts towards you and your mom. You guys got this 👊
/r/askTRP15/11/20 06:21 AM
4

FWB are by default in a vetting period. You screen for red flags with zero emotional attachment. What it sounds like is that she was doing many things right, gaining a bit of trust/emotional investment from you, and then she fucked up here with your rapist friend. The reason for this post is due to that bit of emotional attachment you formed for her, and now you’re subconsciously looking for a reason to take her back. This is all normal. But unfortunately she showed she’s not worthy of an upgrad…
/r/askTRP14/11/20 11:53 AM
1

If this guy isn’t an unlikable douchebag about his SMV (obviously I don’t the entire context here) then you should be inspired by him. From what you shared it seems like he’s a good guy with his shit together. Learn from him. Aspire to be that way yourself. Don’t become jealous, competitive, bitter. Who wouldn’t want to be around other guys that lift you up?
/r/askTRP20/10/20 10:31 AM
0

I think you went with a fine response to neutralize it. But don’t let it snowball into anything at all whatsoever. NOTHING more. She is indeed hamstering and pissed that you nexted her, and now her ego is trying to save itself. If you give her one of those snarky responses like a thumbs up emoji or “got it”, “noted”, this might piss her off further by you coming off as a smart ass and not giving her the reaction she wanted. Just leave it at “ok, thanks for letting me know. Didn’t want to make yo…
/r/askTRP07/10/20 08:16 PM
19

Lucky you. She’s sounds like a fucking loser
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 02:48 AM
3

Extremely profound, and also extremely practical to use it on individual level. I believe I am in the good times period right now and forgetting the pill. Time for a tune up.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/20 11:34 PM
19

I wholeheartedly agree that men should not talk about their problems to women. It’s not needed, it’s not necessary, it doesn’t help nor add anything positive. It can indeed make her lose respect for you, BUT That’s only if you care. And here is where I believe you must go beyond just the standard “don’t open to women whatsoever” advice. You can do whatever you want if you don’t care. Open up, stay stoic, either way, the women will still subconsciously be aware of your no fucks given attitude abo…
/r/TheRedPill04/10/20 08:46 AM
1

She’s a time waster. Using you for validation and attention. She has no intention of doing anything with you, whether that’s sex, a kiss, or even a date. She also has excess baggage (living with ex). Don’t get involved with girls you work with. No harm no foul. Move on.
/r/askTRP24/09/20 08:41 PM
7

I’ve noticed this as well in the last 2-3 years. How is it possible that every single woman you meet had a past relationship that was “toxic”?
/r/askTRP13/09/20 06:43 PM
3

Interesting question. I would wager that if you, as a man, are indeed detached emotionally and genuinely treat her as only a plate, then she is YOUR plate, and not the other way around. Why? If you’re detached emotionally, and also seeing other people, you’ll sub-communicate abundance and a genuine sense of not caring. You will not give a fuck if she herself has other people she’s seeing. If this is the case, she will be the pursuer. Women love a man that does everything right. They also despise…
/r/askTRP04/09/20 11:21 AM
5

Correct.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 11:54 PM
19

This ^ Do not straight up ask her to fuck. There needs to be plausible deniability, so that she can tell her friends “I just went over to have a beer and play Mario kart, and well, it just happened!” They despise feeling like sluts.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 10:42 PM
2

If a girl is at the point of breaking up with you, It’s done. There is no salvaging it. Whatever you had in her eyes is lost. You may be able to reconcile for a few more weeks or months but it will be a lost cause. Just move on. No great loss here
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:20 PM
19

This is insanely overdramatic. Devastated? Really? Over a pudding head tinder thot you’ve never met before? Listen man. It sounds like you’ve done a ton of reading, which is great, but it doesn’t seem as though any of it has “clicked”. No switch has been flipped yet. You know the material conceptually, yet it’s not internalized. It is not you, and you are not it. “How can I have an abundance mindset when I can’t even get a date?” This pretty much tells me all I need to know. Abundance is not abo…
/r/askTRP29/08/20 06:39 AM
55

4 guys in the house lmaoo
/r/askTRP25/07/20 09:46 AM
7

Agreed for the most part, but context matters. She must counter with a day/time if she can’t make the initially proposed day/time.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/20 09:46 PM
3

Boom. Right on man. That looks pretty much exactly what I wrote above. Excited for the eventual transition
/r/TheRedPill30/06/20 02:43 AM
10

I’m not discrediting the effort at all, a website is absolutely necessary once TRP gets shut down and it’s certainly better than nothing, or anything better than I could’ve come up with, but if the home page could essentially just be titles of posts, posts excerpts underneath and a “click to read more” button thats really all you need. Have the sidebar available permanently on a widget on the right side. Make it as simple as possible. I don’t think people are going to go for the tribe concept.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/20 02:29 AM
11

The website is not good. It really does need an entire overhaul into something more similar to Reddit.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/20 10:25 PM
4

Yeah, it really is a major red flag if the girl is asking you something like this early. If you’re in an LTR for upwards of 6 months or so I can understand it. But keep your guard up for girls that ask about how much you make, what kind of car you drive, etc.
/r/askTRP16/06/20 08:04 PM
1

Get rid of the smiley face ASAP
/r/askTRP16/06/20 02:52 AM
2

Get down on your knees and thank god that you found the red pill.
/r/askTRP03/06/20 12:11 AM
13

Don’t feel guilty for not being attracted to her anymore.
/r/askTRP04/05/20 06:40 PM
1

Nathaniel Brandon and Julien from RSD both touch on this in different ways. It’s your self concept, and basically it’s whatever subconscious story you’re telling yourself. Very profound and life altering stuff.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/20 04:09 AM
21

Or think that the guy would want her back after hearing something like this lmao
/r/TheRedPill04/05/20 04:04 AM
1

The art chicks are unbearable and weird anyways. Just move on lol
/r/askTRP25/04/20 10:20 PM
2

Hey guys I just want to say thanks for all of the tremendous feedback as per usual. I read everyone’s comments and took into consideration what everyone had to say, and it did help out a lot in grounding me. I feel more like myself today and my beliefs have not wavered. I’ve been applying the truth with great success for a while now. Only a fool would start to compromise and bend to what an outsider is pressuring him to do, think, feel, believe, etc. I’m going to look for a male therapist going …
/r/askTRP25/04/20 03:09 PM
2

In this last appointment I was explaining how I felt that a little bit of complacency was setting in in my LTR, and she’s carrying a bit more attitude than say at the beginning of the relationship when both parties are on their best behavior. I don’t see anything wrong with what I said, because pretty much anyone will tell you that it’s true. People put on their best face in the beginning because they want it to go well. I’m pretty sure this is widely accepted across the planet when you first me…
/r/askTRP25/04/20 02:58 PM
2

The LTR is starting to feel a bit burdensome nowadays. Now granted in the grand scheme of things, the health of the relationship is fine. No fighting whatsoever, she follows my lead, no manipulation, always “fuck yes” when it comes to making plans. These are things I value greatly. However she definitely gets into these periods of being mopey and anxious and doesn’t really do much to fix it. It seems as though there’s always a woe is me problem. Essentially it’s a systemic issue. There’s no actu…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 10:31 PM
5

Hey man I appreciate that. Especially coming from an EC. Im really considering a switch to a male therapist. This woman is a masculine female who I can tell likes to assert her opinions. Aka: her personal biases. I brought up my hesitations about settling down in an LTR and how I’ve been feeling a bit trapped as of late, as well as these desires for being single again which have been popping up more regularly. I almost felt like I was being shamed for not hanging out with my GF more frequently a…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 10:14 PM
8

Yeah it is probably worth trying at this point. I didn’t like the vibe from my (female) therapist today and felt like she was judging me heavily for what I expressed about how I see relationships, etc. I’ve only had a couple of appts with her so far so it’s not off to a great start. It doesn’t help me if her personal biases are going to be put forth
/r/askTRP24/04/20 09:57 PM
1

Thanks a lot man. This is what I needed to hear today
/r/askTRP24/04/20 09:48 PM
24

As far as the dating/women issues go it is pointless and that is my fault for bringing it up today. I do have other issues I want to work through though unrelated to the dating game, so that’s originally why I sought out therapy. (Family issues, no one to talk to about any of it, etc.)
/r/askTRP24/04/20 09:47 PM
4

Thanks man. I appreciate it. Today in particular was a lot of discussion about my LTR. We’ve been in an incredibly healthy relationship for a year and half now (because I lead the way with what I’ve learned here), but shared with my therapist that I’m getting a bit bored and feel trapped. I do not want to settle down, and I still have a desire to date and bang other chicks. This was seen in a negative light and it frustrated me. Why must every relationship be boom or bust? So if we don’t get mar…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 08:54 PM
2

That’s what I’m trying to remind myself right now. Normally it wouldn’t bother me because I know the TRP principles are rooted in truth, but I guess I’ve just been seeing the disgusted, “you’re evil” reactions a lot in a short amount of time recently and it’s getting to me. I’ve applied the TRP principles with incredible success so far, and today in particular I was sharing how I don’t wish to be legally married or really ever cohabitate with a woman. She’s said that this perspective was rooted …
/r/askTRP24/04/20 08:49 PM
22

I’ve had 3 therapists now (had to switch twice due to them being flakey and unable to keep appointments) and they are very BP. It’s really, really hard for me on the days where I want to address an issue that’s about women, dating, relationships, etc. because I know it’s not going to do much good. I try to finely craft my words to make them not as harsh while still getting my perspective across, but I’m always given BP suggestions. My perspective always ends up being looked at as the issue, and …
/r/askTRP24/04/20 07:55 PM
10

Thanks man. Reminders of why I adopted the whole TRP philosophy is exactly what I was aiming for with my post here. I actually just got out of a therapy appt (which prompted this post) and I did try to do that as best I could, because I KNOW how another woman typically reacts when they hear a mans perspective that’s through a TRP lens. They’re shameful and that’s what I felt covertly during the appt. Women do not like to hear the truth of how they behave, that’s for sure.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 07:52 PM
17

Ego. Women do not care if they’re nexted by guys that they are disgusted with (betabux) & looking to leave. However if nexted by a guy who owns at least 51% of the power in the relationship then her ego will be bruised. It leaves her without closure. Not the closure you’re thinking of. Closure as in she can’t be the one to end things. What happens quite often is that girls will go to all ends of the earth to try and patch things up, only for the weak minded boyfriend to give in, and then she sel…
/r/askTRP17/04/20 09:23 AM
3

Yes, but not intentionally. What I mean is that this post is inherently rooted in neediness. We can give you the best advice in the world, but paradoxically the fact that you’re going to go out and TRY to apply it will work against you. You can re-spark a woman’s interest by genuinely not caring. This means forgetting about them altogether. Again, genuinely forgetting about them, not trying to convince yourself that you’re over them. They must not be a thought in your mind anymore, that’s how yo…
/r/askTRP17/04/20 04:36 AM
42

What’s the context? If she’s an LTR next her. This is why vetting them hard is important. So it doesn’t even get to that point. If it’s a plate literally ignore it. Do not even acknowledge that she said anything at all and pretend to remember something you wanted to say earlier to get off the subject. If she continues to press, and essentially gets mad at you for not acknowledging what she’s saying, take it as a powerful indicator that she is not a quality woman. She clearly brought it up for th…
/r/askTRP17/04/20 04:32 AM
2

By breaking up with her
/r/askTRP17/04/20 04:09 AM
43

“I have a crush on her”. Unacceptable past the age of 12.
/r/askTRP15/04/20 10:25 AM
1

Agreed. Admittedly you could vet plates or potentially plates less strictly, but it’s important to know that you’re not sticking your dick in crazy. You need to always make sure you’re not going to be killed or be falsely accused of something
/r/askTRP13/04/20 06:42 PM
73

I’ve rarely found a woman of any quality to have many hobbies. Scrolling IG and binging Netflix shows are the extent of their interests. Occasionally working out? But it almost seems like they do it because it’s expected of them, because fitness is trendy now.
/r/askTRP13/04/20 06:40 PM
2

It’s contextual. Obviously it should be lower with age. An 18 year old who has slept with 1 guy is in better standing than an 18 year old who’s slept with 5. I’d say that if you ever hear a number that’s more than 10, disqualify they as a potential LTR. That being said, any number you hear will probably be a fake one.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 06:55 PM
1

This is a severe case of ONEitis my friend and self deception will only dig your hole deeper. I was in a very similar position with a girl who was out of state a few years back. I went to great lengths to convince myself and the community that I didn’t have oneitis. My oneitis was incredibly profound. I now abide by the mantra “I do not know better than the community”. She is about wreak havoc on your mind. Please, please block her number and forget she ever reached out.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 06:51 PM
1

I personally wouldn’t do anything. Everything is in your favor here. She’s completely in your frame and that’s a good thing. I know it sounds manipulative in a sense but you’re not doing anything intentionally. You’re literally just doing a school project with 2 female partners. If your GF gets jealous that’s her problem. So what happens if you don’t “provide enough comfort” and apply too much dread to the point where she does something to try and retaliate? (cheats, flirts, etc.) Well then cut …
/r/askTRP09/04/20 06:45 PM
2

This goes a lot deeper than you’d think. You never lost anything. “Nothing real can be threatened”
/r/askTRP06/04/20 06:54 PM
12

This ^ her power play failed
/r/askTRP05/04/20 05:58 PM
20

Lmao is your name Thad by chance?
/r/askTRP28/03/20 05:10 AM
1

I mean, it’s possible but that wasn’t the main takeaway for me. I’d double check on that but the main reason I’m scratching my head is: Why is this girl concerned with dying your hair and shaving your chest? Who even says something like that? The age gap is nothing crazy either. 26 and 18 is not unheard of. She’s making this out to be like you’re a senior citizen who’s passed his prime. The bigger issue here for me is that it seems like you’ve already formed some type of attachment with her. The…
/r/askTRP27/03/20 09:45 PM
4

This is...weird.
/r/askTRP27/03/20 05:20 PM
16

Not only that, but once they become interested in you and you start to listen to them speak/hear what they have to say, they almost seem retarded. So think about that. They didn’t all of a sudden become retarded once they became fat. They were stupid when they were attractive too. Don’t let their looks scare you off.
/r/askTRP26/03/20 01:20 AM
2

“Neato”
/r/askTRP18/03/20 04:18 AM
2

Sounds like trickle truth to me. She slept with him and is admitting to only a tiny portion in order to alleviate her guilt. No need to blow it up into a huge ordeal. Just say “this is all becoming too much drama for me” and hard next. You’re going to be viewed as a monster either way, so who cares.
/r/askTRP16/03/20 12:09 AM
1

Don’t let ol Ray Ray getcha!
/r/askTRP16/03/20 12:06 AM
15

This is one of the more difficult parts of the red pill, if not the most difficult. I can safely assume that this post was generated mainly out of feelings of guilt and regret. I’ve yet to see one of these posts “just for the hell of it”. The fact that this is even a thing, means that you in fact care a good amount. And that is totally normal. The wavering back and forth, the feelings of regret, guilt, feelings that you might be making a huge mistake and letting something “perfect” slip through …
/r/askTRP13/03/20 08:56 AM
2

This is spot on. The guys who resort to the cool guy nicknames as I call them (bud, buddy, kid, chief, big guy, boss, guy), are hyper aggressive due to being incredibly insecure. Ironically enough these guys can probably be swayed to follow your lead just by you holding frame. Due to them being insecure, they’re probably lost and looking for someone who seems like they have the answers to life. This is often how cult like followings start. To get into a sparring match of cool guy nicknames is to…
/r/askTRP12/03/20 08:42 PM
5

Sweet Jesus, Golden.
/r/askTRP18/02/20 11:19 PM
5

Perfect
/r/askTRP14/02/20 03:23 AM
1

It’s only a shit test when you care about it. Imagine if you had multiple other women you were talking to as well as an active mission in your life? You wouldn’t even notice nor would you hop on here to ask about it.
/r/askTRP10/02/20 08:27 AM
3

Lmao I started cringing so hard as I went down the list.
/r/askTRP05/02/20 10:41 PM
2

It’s the shedding of old skin
/r/askTRP04/02/20 10:13 PM
7

Do some questions really need asking? This fat bitch just assaulted you with a fucking knife. So what of it didn’t stab you? You know people still get put in jail if they shoot at someone and miss right? Seriously man, start planning your exit now
/r/askTRP04/02/20 10:08 PM
2

“When is the last time you had sex, had a girl over, etc.?” I’ve been answering this question for years with either an agree and amplify response: “what time is it?” Or, the one that works like a charm: “out of respect for the past women, I don’t kiss and tell” She cannot press you any further because this response is almost forcing her to “understand where you’re coming from”. How can someone disagree with that response and not come off badly? It’s been very useful.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/20 01:07 AM
4

The TRP lifestyle is not just spinning plates. It’s a philosophy that is supposed to be your foundation and pervade everything you do, whether that’s an LTR or spinning plates. I definitely experienced the burnout you’re speaking of. Some are just better wired for a meaningful relationship than others. I am currently in an LTR of over a year, and it is problem free, because I’ve adopted the TRP principles to the point where they are second nature now. I am willing to walk away at any time if nee…
/r/askTRP07/01/20 06:04 AM
1

The only 2 bits of advice I can lend would be 2 facts: 1.) The unfortunate things that happened were in no way linked to you, who you are, or your worth. Don’t be afraid of getting close to someone after these events. They were not your fault. 2.) It’s completely natural to build an emotional connection to someone after 6 months. It’s normal to care, want to be around, or even feel love for them if you guys were close. Don’t let the try hard rednpillers who pretend feelings aren’t real or that “…
/r/askTRP05/01/20 09:39 AM
6

I firmly believe that if you’re at an age where going to “the club” is still socially acceptable, they you shouldn’t be in an LTR.
/r/askTRP04/01/20 04:59 PM
0

If it’s not a big deal to you, then it’s not a big deal. Who gives a damn what she thinks. This is proper frame.
/r/askTRP31/12/19 02:58 AM
2

On a side not, isn’t it funny how the first text you received was “can you tell me what I did wrong?” Followed up by “I’m sorry I’m the rudest person ever?” Remove time and attention after they do something wrong. They always know what they did. If it happens a second time, 2x as much time and attention removed. A third, next.
/r/askTRP17/12/19 07:31 PM
0

Have you had sex with her at all since she’s had a bf?
/r/askTRP12/12/19 03:08 PM
6

Many many fundamental issues going on here. First of all, you and this girl are finished. Get that out of the way now. I’d actually wager that you didn’t go full beta when you blocked her yet when you caved and apologized. Obviously something she’s been doing had been pissing you off, and dropping her because of it would’ve been fine. What joyful and abundant man has time to deal with drama such as that? Now, it’s not the most mature way to end things, by screaming and yelling. A better way woul…
/r/askTRP12/12/19 03:02 PM
141

That you’re encouraged to next every single woman when the slightest issue arises. I think the premise of being able to bet on yourself and walk away at any given notice is spot on. No one is disagreeing with the fact that in your mind, you should think of yourself as the most valuable prize on earth. However, with proper frame and setting of boundaries, you can, more often than not, correct bad behavior on the woman’s part. That is, only if you feel like correcting it at all. As the saying goes…
/r/askTRP10/12/19 07:48 PM
1

Just know that if you’re 17 or 18 and in an LTR, that LTR is about 30 days away from being over after it began.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 10:54 PM
40

I’m not downplaying his material successes. However he is a greedy condescending prick, which is not required for success.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/19 09:35 PM
155

Big kiss fan here. Gene is an unlikable asshole but you have to respect his unwavering self confidence. When he speaks about women you can feel the truth reasonate, you can tell he is passionate about his point of view. He knows what he’s talking about here.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/19 04:44 PM
10

Some people honestly have to learn by fire. You can literally try to teach and show him a more red pilled way of being, but at the end of the day, if he’s determined to live out that blue pulled Disney fantasy with a wife, kids, etc, there’s no stopping him. Being he’s your brother though and not a friend, I see nothing wrong with doing whatever you feel is right. At the end of the day you know you were only trying to help him.
/r/askTRP30/11/19 05:34 AM
2

Perineum lmaooo
/r/askTRP26/11/19 02:59 AM
2

Good work my friend.
/r/askTRP25/11/19 09:54 AM
13

The website is not good. It should not be this difficult to navigate around.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 03:59 AM
3

Unfortunately you’re not winning this. You are being sexually harassed here (if you are doubtful, try switching the roles in your mind and think about if you said that to a female employee? You’d be reported to HR and let go). However, due to you being essentially ganged up on by the women, and being perceived as a beta by them, the only one likely to be let go is you. I can only think that reframing it and using it as a shit test by agreeing and amplifying is the way to go. Acting butt hurt aro…
/r/askTRP21/11/19 07:23 AM
9

I don’t disagree with this comment at all. Solid input.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/19 11:20 AM
92

I remember that post, it was spot on. No one can deny that this situation is quite tricky. If OP truly wants to spin plates, and has no desire for intimacy beyond a very loose attachment, that is fine. It’s also fine if someone prefers to spend more of their time in LTR’s. One is no better than the other. However, one ginormous hurdle when swallowing the pill is eradicating all of the self deception. You can get all rah rah about TRP at first and declare that you just want to spin plates, yet wh…
/r/TheRedPill20/11/19 11:17 AM
24

That’s what I took away from it as well. I think it’s a way of trying to reframe it or getting validation from the community in order to finally quell some uncomfortable feelings that have been around for the last year.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/19 08:23 AM
6

Wait for her to text you while you work on your own personal goals/self improvement while also chatting up other chicks. She’ll come back around. Don’t expect it to turn into anything than a plate or FWB though. I say this because you asking if you should text her may be indicative of you holding inner expectations or being dependent on a specific outcome. Best of luck.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 12:39 AM
1

🙋‍♂️🍽🍑
/r/askTRP20/11/19 12:37 AM
3

I also agree that you’re probably selling yourself short on your own SMV. If it were as low as you speculate that it is, she wouldn’t even bother to interact with you at all. Low SMV guys are invisible to girls. Shit tests are opportunities.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 12:34 AM
3

Yeah how would he possibly pay for child support if she’s giving it up? I agree that he should get a lawyer before he signs anything but it seems like he dodged a bullet here
/r/askTRP12/11/19 11:12 PM
4

FRAME is everything. She can never love you the way you want her to. She’s not yours, it’s just your turn - “the glass of already broken”. Paradoxically, internalizing this principle has increased my relationships with women across the board. The healthy detachment on my end makes them constantly chase.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 10:58 AM
3

Spot on. They’ll look for the first opening to end it on “their terms”. My best friend was cheated on last year and he mustered up the balls to end it. He ended it in the most beta way possible but still, they broke up. This girl he was dating is the biggest narcissist you can imagine, and when he ended it, it fucking crushed her. She quickly started dating the guy she cheated on him with, all the while continuous texting my friend to get back together and sending him requests on social media. S…
/r/askTRP11/11/19 10:42 AM
8

Just know that you’re going to feel twice as hurt when things don’t work out this next time. And they won’t. You’ll feel like an even bigger cuck for welcoming her back when the TRP community is telling you not to. I’ve seen it many times where chicks literally only come back so that they can eventually break things off at the first opportunity. This is a move to restore their ego. Don’t dig through the trash. Keep on growing.
/r/askTRP11/11/19 01:43 AM
4

I honestly think that trying to ask someone out on IG actually backfires a majority of the time due to the fact that it’s on IG. It’s become a cliche in society that’s viewed negatively (mostly because it’s fat autist neck beard nice guys doing it). So, even if you have decent SMV, do not go the IG route. She will assimilate your pickup attempt on there with the gross betas. Even if she was interested in person initially (giving you her contact info a usually a good sign), her interest will imme…
/r/askTRP08/11/19 10:38 AM
39

I’d literally rather be celibate than dress like this.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/19 11:26 PM
12

ed
/r/askTRP05/11/19 11:21 AM
5

Great post and much needed. I think it goes without saying that if you are posting about a situation on here, and are looking for advice, then you hold a level of emotional investment. Merely asking at all implies that you care. This needs to be accepted by the poster. There’s nothing wrong with just accepting this fact. There IS a problem when you try to deceive yourself. It’s the guys that aren’t posting on here that genuinely don’t care. These are the guys that are nexting left and right and …
/r/TheRedPill04/11/19 02:53 AM
2

Meditate Cut porn and jerking off Lift Read the sidebar Read books Write in a journal for introspection
/r/askTRP03/11/19 07:33 PM
2

The ego is the root of all anxiety.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 10:26 PM
24

Your failures are greater than most men’s successes. Keep it up brother.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 10:25 PM
6

Yeah she’s secured someone else. Soft next, when her and him breakup, and they will, she’ll back back.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 06:24 PM
2

This thread is extremely important to the community - I hope it gets an insane amount of input from everyone so we can come up with a consensus answer, because questions like these are highly practical. A few bits of common sense: 1.) No, you shouldn’t care if the guy that asks her to dance is your uncle or an 80 year old man. 2.) You should not be LTR’ing girls who go to the club, or want to go clubbing at all. With or without you.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 05:54 PM
11

Lmao “should I plate my exes ex”
/r/askTRP30/10/19 07:32 AM
6

It’s totally normal to have feelings for someone you’ve bonded with, and I strongly disagree with the “automaton” style that’s often pushed in many posts. But from what OP said, he seemed as though he was alluding to catching oneitis type feels. When ONEitis hits and you know it, it’s best to end things and move on. It’s sort of a paradox. Once you see oneitis set in, you can be assured that things will go south shortly thereafter. It’s a constant push and pull game. A healthy level of detachmen…
/r/askTRP29/10/19 10:49 AM
5

I expect this gal to come back around once things inevitably go south with her new boy toy. However, if you were catching feels it might be best to block her now and move on. That’s up to you whether you think you can calm your beta Disney fantasies and keep her as a plate only.
/r/askTRP29/10/19 04:55 AM
11

Terrible vetting on your part to LTR a girl who’s friend are all club sluts. Why do you think this girl would be any different? Abort now my friend.
/r/askTRP28/10/19 10:23 PM
1

Dead on. The fact that she responded also tells you that she’ll be back once they break up. Good work.
/r/askTRP28/10/19 05:50 AM
3

This might also be a good reason to promote not sleeping with girls who have boyfriends. I really don’t see that talked about enough on TRP. In fact it’s somewhat applauded and encouraged to a slight degree. Yes, red pill can teach HOW to do it with ease, but a possible consequence is what OP is seeing here. The girl can resort to saying she was raped to avoid looking like a cheater and a slut. A true abundance mentality would naturally deter you from sleeping with women at work( because it’s no…
/r/askTRP23/10/19 07:56 AM
5

Deal Breakers: Is consistently late or flakes on plans. Posts scandalous pictures on social media. Has multi-colored or unnatural hair color. Smokes. Has no contact or a bad relationship with her father.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 03:34 AM
1

Nobody ever said doing the right thing was easy. Even though you knew what to do, and followed the TRP principles to a tee, you’re still a human being with emotions that bonds with other people. Everything you’re feeling is normal and it’s normal to want the community’s opinion. You did great. Onward and upward.
/r/askTRP14/10/19 01:15 AM
1

Someone raised a great question. OP, what is the situation with her friends? Are they mostly single or are they mostly in LTR’s? If they’re mostly single, are they sluts? This is honestly the biggest issue. If she’s going to cheat, this will be why.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 07:41 PM
1

Do you know what the other chick looks like? She might be a rugged butch. You better get some pictures of her first lol
/r/askTRP01/10/19 09:33 PM
2

Everything you’re felling is totally normal and natural, even the raw emotions that weren’t touched upon or expanded upon in the post. They’ll go away. In a few months or so, you’ll look back and laugh at how much you initially cared. You’ll probably still get angry and feel rage whenever you think about it but that’s not too serious at all. The sadness and depression are what debilitate you, and THATS what will fade over time. So just push through until the really bad emotions gradually fade aw…
/r/askTRP30/09/19 06:12 PM
2

Didn’t read, the answer is always yes.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 06:08 PM
1

It’s a mix of your SMV not being high enough/too much perceived beta behavior and her other options/social media attention. Basically what everyone else has been saying. But I would also wager that beta behavior is so repulsive to women, that she’d rather flake on an actual real life in person date with someone who’s a beta, and instead spend her time at home alone garnering social media attention from strangers.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 08:39 AM
1

Hey brother, a few things. Great work on the nofap streak. You’re in what some people commonly refer to as a flatline. It’s part of the withdrawal stage/symptoms of weening off porn and jerking off. You typically have no libido during this stage. Absolutely do not rub one out. It will not kick start your sex drive in the manner you think. You will fire up the neural pathways associated with jerking off, not the pathways for sex with real women. In fact, I’d wager that you need to build those pat…
/r/askTRP17/09/19 08:32 AM
3

I see both sides. I do think that frame overarches everything still so, if you maintain your frame and phrase/tone your self deprecating humor the right way, 100% can be used as an IDGAF attitude.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 08:24 AM
1

Either it’s a fake account or she’s insane. Congratulations.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 01:26 AM
5

No not really. Your sensitivity absolutely does increase by getting rid of porn and jerking off (which is obviously the goal.). So there might be some times, especially early on where you finish quicker than you’d like. But over time, you get better at managing it and can navigate it more easily. It’s like you have to retrain your body for sex again. It all comes down to time and practice. At the end of the day, it’s a way better problem to potentially have than not being able to get hard at all…
/r/askTRP13/09/19 07:45 AM
59

Knocked it out of the fucking park. On October 26th I’ll have gone a full 365 days without jerking off, and I can attest that aside from lifting weights and meditation, it’s been the biggest game changer of my life. I’m having consistent sex with Zeus like hard on’s after years of not being able to get hard and not knowing why. My habits of jerking off weren’t even that severe either, about once per day, if that. Maybe 5 times a week. So I suffered those effects even with a low to moderate frequ…
/r/askTRP12/09/19 06:44 PM
1

In short, the answer is yes. It would be very wise to be cognizant if that fact at all times and do your best to refrain from doing so. However, with a strong enough frame, you can say and own anything. That being said, still steer away from sharing your struggles. It’s not worth the effort of fighting a current that you created unnecessarily. Paradoxically remaining aloof we heighten attraction.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 09:08 AM
1

As she should be for him as well. The problem is that he valued her too much from the beginning and was dependent on a positive reaction.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 12:04 AM
1

To acknowledge with yourself honestly that you might be better suited for an LTR rather than spinning plates. Neither one is morally superior to the other. Some men are just wired for one over the other and there’s nothing wrong with that. Once you’ve acknowledged that, let it go and stop seeking it. Go do other shit related to your passions and your mission and forget about it. Date casually and let things unfold organically. Just because you’ve acknowledged that you as a person might be best s…
/r/askTRP09/09/19 09:13 AM
2

And? If he was spinning plates, as girls do naturally, there shouldn’t be a big issue. After she didn’t respond OP should’ve just brushed it off and talked to other girls. And look, she came back for Round 2. The default of men today is to idealize the Disney fantasy. They do it more so than women.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 04:20 AM
10

The only way to learn and grow from this is to first be honest with yourself. You’re most likely posting this because you are feeling guilty about trying to be a hard ass, when it was really you being upset that she ghosted you. You’re now probably wishing that you responded to her differently. I would wager that you’re looking for a LTR while claiming you want to spin plates. If you truly wanted to just spin plates you wouldn’t care that she ghosted you, and would’ve just banged her when she re…
/r/askTRP09/09/19 04:16 AM
2

That is very true. Unfortunately the only thing that will be going away if this continues will be me.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 05:00 AM
2

Thanks man.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:53 AM
1

Well I guess we’ll see now right? I flat out told her we’re paying for ourselves going forward, and that she needs to be ok with that. If her “niceness” wears off, and starts to act totally different than the last year, we’ll know that she was just trying to get me into the betabux role, we’ll also be going our separate ways.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:12 AM
1

Thanks man. Completely agree. Given how we’ve been going nearly a year without any problems, we should be able to compromise on this money issue. Which it looks like we have. Now if she fully realizes that I’m never going to be her beta bux provider and her behavior drastically changes going forward from here, then it’s done. She had some really commendable responses to what I told her today, so I’m pleased with how things turned out.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 01:58 AM
1

I agree. If she just paid me back in a timely way I wouldn’t even have to ask. I always make sure to Venmo her literally seconds afterwards if I ever owe her anything. Everything seems to be squared away. I restated my stance on it today, and as a byproduct pretty much presented an ultimatum to her. She’s ok with everything now and understands where I’m coming from.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 12:17 AM
2

Absolutely. I know she’s not special. I just seem be better off in an LTR than spinning plates. That being said, I know it’s just my turn. Thanks for your feedback man. I really do appreciate everyone helping out.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 10:12 PM
1

Thanks man. This is pretty much the route I took. I let her know very directly that I’m not going to be that guy (betabux) and that no matter where this progresses to, we’re never going to be financially intertwined. If she didn’t accept that then it was going to be over. She responded well and has been apologetic for putting her financial worries on me.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 09:39 PM
1

Yeah. I let her know that’s what she’s doing. She apologized and dropped the bitchy attitude. Hopefully it’s not going to be a problem anymore in the future. If it is it’s not going to work.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 09:32 PM
1

I understand where you’re coming from and agree, that it’s fine to treat your GF when she does a lot these things for you. She does do these things for me, and I DO reciprocate with occasional gifts or treating her every now and then, just to show that I’m appreciative. The problem is that she’s trying to get MORE. It seems she’s no longer ok worth what I do already do for her, she’s disregarding it in fact. She wants more expensive gifts, and is now expecting me to just pay for everything going…
/r/askTRP22/08/19 09:31 PM
2

That’s really what I meant by the issue is silly. We have no issues whatsoever in the relationship and never had a fight in the year that we’ve known each other, other than this money issue. So to be upset that we don’t split the bill or take turns paying, is what I meant by silly. She responded well, which was a good thing, but the situation as a whole is a bit concerning for me. The vetting never ends, so this will definitely be something I’ll be aware of in the back of my mind going forward.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 09:27 PM
2

update Hey guys, just wanted to give an update on what transpired. I let her know where I stand, and stood my ground as far as us paying for our own shit. If she did not accept this I was prepared to tell her we’re done. I told her that I understand she’s been with guys in the past that have been paid for the majority of things, and that she sees her cousins boyfriend handing her $100 bills on a whim, but that’s not me, and that’s never how I’m going to operate. I told her that if we’re going to…
/r/askTRP22/08/19 09:22 PM
1

Bingo. And this is why I never want to be her financial provider because I’m well aware that’s it’s a “What have you done for me lately” scenario. No matter how much you pay for her, or what you do for her, that will be disregarded in favor of the problem in the now.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 09:15 PM
6

Exactly. She’s said to me “to me it’s more so about enjoying things as a couple than how much we spend”. Meaning, I should just pay $40 here and $50 there because it’s having fun as a couple, except if it were flipped I doubt she would be ok with doing the same for as long as she expects me to do it.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 08:20 PM
1

I have talked to her about this, about us just paying for ourselves, a few months ago, and she continues to be weird about it and push for her suggestion of taking turns. I do give her gifts as well. My gifts to her for her bday and Valentine’s Day were about 3x (if not more) the amount she spent on me. I also surprised her with gifts for Xmas and when I came back from vacation. Nothing extravagant but I do like to do small gestures like that to make people happy. As of now we rarely go anywhere…
/r/askTRP22/08/19 07:36 PM
0

I use protection each time and get finished with a BJ, I do not want kids at all. So all is good on that front. I think it’s just so ridiculous that my suggestion of just paying for ourselves is seen as “crazy” or even offensive to her. That can only lead me to believe she feels entitled to be paid for. Idk who she dated in the past and how they spoiled her, but even if I had as much money as the cousin’s BF, we’d be paying for ourselves. I am not her provider. Yeah, she impulsively states all t…
/r/askTRP22/08/19 06:55 PM
4

I can’t see it evolving any other way than in a mess. Unless the girl is cool with paying for themselves from the start, is there anyway to avoid the mess other than being the betabux provider?
/r/askTRP22/08/19 05:59 PM
4

Exactly. And it does not help the situation at all when her roommate (her cousin) is dating a guy who was basically born with a silver spoon in his mouth. He randomly gives her $100 bills and buys her absurdly expensive gifts on a whim. The cousin goes on to brag to my girlfriend about this, which warps her perspective. She’s expressed to me many times that she has high anxiety over what other people think. So a large portion of this problem stems from that. “What will the waitress/other couples…
/r/askTRP22/08/19 05:54 PM
2

What happens a lot is that she’ll recommend we go somewhere, or send me a link to some event that we should go to, and I’ll say “ok, that sounds like fun” and then proceeds to pout when I don’t pay for the whole thing.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 05:47 PM
10

I’ve thought about that a lot too. I know her parents don’t help her out at all with her student loans, and it costs a lot to live on her own with the shitty paycheck she has, but I can’t help but think that she does a lot of frivolous spending that I don’t see. It seems like she’s very short sighted when it comes to finances. She’s also alluded that her mom is awful with money. Very bad sign.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 05:44 PM
8

I’m going to restate my position on it today. What happens after that is up in the air. In my opinion money should never be brought into the LTR. I understand many stand by the belief that it’s a “team effort” or a “partnership”, but the social norm of “the man is supposed to pay for his woman” usually ends up taking over and ruining that ideal. She’s assimilating how much I spend on her with how much I care about her. Ironically, I spend more on her than she does on me.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 05:39 PM
-20

Well the issue is so silly that I really wouldn’t want to break up over it. But if she’s thinking long term, and is now seeing that I will never be her betabux provider, and panicking about that, then it might be the only solution.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 05:26 PM
1

I’m obviously not experienced on the LTR part due to me asking the question but personally I’d ghost or soft next the plate depending on what she did, I think texting the FWB that you’re feeling differently is fine. Again, depending on the reason you might be able to soft next. You can’t “break up” with either since you’re not dating.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 02:41 AM
1

I’m currently having the same exact problem. She’s pushing to have us take turns each time, I want to split it each time. So if it’s the same, then why does she NEED to have to take turns? Why is his splitting of the bill approach autistic and hers rational? The only answer I’ve ever gotten is that “it’s just what you do when you’re in a relationship”. I can’t think of any benefit for the man in this situation. This to me seems like a one way road to being a beta provider. Money should not be a …
/r/askTRP22/08/19 02:35 AM
3

I like this a lot. Since discovering TRP I can tell that I lean towards healthy LTR’s rather than plates too. For as long as the LTR’s last at least. I’m no longer under the Disney veil. But I like that approach. Simple and direct. I’m my case it would be true too.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 12:48 AM
2

Yeah I’ve started to. I’m barely picking up my phone to respond and overall just being a little more distant. I’m not a fan of doing this intentionally as dread should be a byproduct of a solid mission, which is good news for me, because I do have a rather important project I’m working on, so I’m passing on her complaints, and investing even more time towards the project.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 12:46 AM
10

Beta game is an option but my current LTR is really attached to me. I suspect that even that wouldn’t be enough. I think I’d have to literally suck a cock in front of her for it to work. Up until just recently everything has been great. But I’m somewhat starting to see that she has a bit of a dark cloud over her that she won’t actively do anything to change. (Sad all the time, high anxiety, complaining about the same things over and over without doing anything to change).
/r/askTRP22/08/19 12:18 AM
1

Hell yes my friend. Onward and upward.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/19 05:47 AM
1

Who’s LTR are you referring to? Yours? OP’s? Lol I’m extremely confused by your comment.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/19 10:08 PM
1

Great job in blocking her. In the grand scheme of things you did great and ended it with someone who’s not worthy of the LTR title. Make sure to not let this event anger you when you look back upon it. Have compassion for girls like this. Understand their situation, and that they’re systemically flawed. These are the types of women that will forever be unhappy, much like a millionaire who seeks his fulfillment in MORE money, and MORE possessions, she is built the same way, only with men. The big…
/r/TheRedPill20/08/19 06:16 PM
7

Hard, hard, HARD next.
/r/askTRP14/08/19 08:42 AM
1

My god honest opinion, is that she probably did not cheat on you. A little complacency always sets in in LTR’s, but not all honeymoon phases ending result in cheating. Some just cruise right in to a steady, healthy relationship with maybe a minor argument every few months. So she might initiate just a little bit less often, but that doesn’t necessarily mean much. That could very well be normal. If she has her phone open in front of you, that’s another good sign that she probably didn’t do anythi…
/r/askTRP13/08/19 05:32 PM
4

This right here, is the epitome of being in between a rock and a hard place and for most of us, the most practical type of question out there. No changes in behavior to suggest cheating, and no gut feeling of cheating, yet a find in her search history that suggests she might have while you were away. This is truly complex. As others have said there’s a couple different ways to go about it, and I’m extremely curious how this goes. Please update us if you do confront her about it. Has she ever lie…
/r/askTRP13/08/19 12:11 AM
5

It’s the same regurgitated nonsense that’s widespread across the board. This is why men just need to just do whatever they want. Once the man thinks he’s going to please the woman by giving in to her wishes of marriage, she then moves on to the next thing to be unhappy about. Non of the things she says she wants will actually fulfill her, because whether it’s a primal thing or cultural conditioning, women have highly misplaced values.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/19 01:32 AM
3

Paradoxically, I’d say that it’s your willingness to give up so easily after having based your self worth on the validation of other people if what is leading you to not get women. You are genuinely subcommunicating desperation and dependency on their approval. They can smell it. There is nothing else you need to alter physically. Many men that are unattractive are able to get women due to their frame, which is: they don’t care. So based on what you’ve said about your looks, that’s not the issue…
/r/askTRP04/08/19 05:35 PM
2

Yes, and there’s nothing wrong with it. Talk all mortality out of the equation here. Given the option between “using” a girl with a main motivator to enhance your own skills, get over performance anxieties (such as general nerves, ED, or porn induced section dysfunction) or sitting alone in your room jerking off to a computer screen, which one would you rather? Do what you need to do.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 05:28 PM
3

I think you’re both right. The world would be a far better place if this girls ideal was followed. However, what struck me about this post of hers was that that ideal seemed equally as delusional as the beta man who dreams of the Disney fantasy. It’s harsh, brutal, and cold, but the world is full of savagery much like the jungle. She has yet to take her own red pill. OP I do agree that she’s mostly trying to have her cake and eat it too. She can’t value looks and status above, “morality” for lac…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/19 04:56 AM
4

I am dying laughing lmao
/r/askTRP28/07/19 10:54 PM
3

You made the right decision at the end of the day to not sleep with her. The people telling you you should have are lost, and have a long way to go. A man with a genuinely natural abundance mentality understands that there are copious mounts of women to be had, and has the inner confidence to get any of them. He does not need to resort to, of all girls, the one that his friend has set his sights on. I cannot think of a more beta behavior than stealing a girl, whether a random one or an LTR, from…
/r/TheRedPill23/07/19 08:47 PM
3

That’s how you know you just swallowed a big fat truth pill. Pain -> growth
/r/TheRedPill19/07/19 08:52 AM
7

Never refer to yourself as a “skinny boy” ever again.
/r/askTRP15/07/19 07:57 PM
8

I’d reword it by sending an entirely different sentence.
/r/askTRP07/07/19 05:45 AM
3

What is happening to this sub?
/r/askTRP28/06/19 07:56 PM
2

She sounds nuts and you should not talk to her for any reason, ever again.
/r/askTRP26/06/19 09:04 AM
5

I can confirm. I am indeed a jacked nerdy guy that eats ass in his nerdy man cave on the regular. You can do anything you want if you own it. Frame literally is everything.
/r/askTRP25/06/19 10:49 PM
3

They do not realize it. It’s a natural and subconscious form of testing.
/r/askTRP25/06/19 10:47 PM
3

Agreed, but I think the overarching point is that you can replicate it through your frame alone. The semantics aren’t really that important here. I’ve noticed it in my own life. If I’m in a LTR, and with that woman physically, the other girls around look at me with interest. If I am in a LTR, and NOT physically with her, the girls around me STILL look at me with interest, and I believe this is due to the manner in which I carry myself. I am sub-communicating abundance in a way that is just about…
/r/askTRP25/06/19 10:43 PM
1

Good insight. And it’s a great exercise to objectively monitor yourself. If she’s lingering around and promoting feels, she needs to be blocked. The goal would be to get to that point of just soft nexting and not caring. Like a true salesman, if they come back around wanting to fuck, great! If not, also great!
/r/TheRedPill23/06/19 11:24 PM
3

Lmao god damn. Props on the guts for approaching at all! 👊
/r/askTRP18/06/19 09:23 PM
3

It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but it’s true. Much like having to internalize the fact that any one girl isn’t special, and that there’s an abundance of high quality girls out there that won’t treat you like shit, you have to do the same for your friends. Just because I’ve known them and hung out with them for years doesn’t mean I’m obligated to stay friends and put up with their beta behavior forever. At the end of the day, I need to remind myself that these subtle jabs are an indication that I…
/r/askTRP17/06/19 07:07 PM
1

I’ve been drifting away from this particular friend and the corresponding group for some time now. It just happens. He’s speeding up the process by acting like this. So that’s just how life is sometimes I guess.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 02:37 AM
2

Our friend group just had a pool party yesterday, and leading up to it I treated it like a deadline to get a little more shredded, and it worked (I have a background in exercise science and recreational bodybuilding so it’s something I like to do). So I showed up looking cut and he made a remake about like “so what’s you’re diet like, you just don’t eat anymore, or...?” Trying to imply that I’m too skinny. This was followed up by him not taking his shirt off or getting in the pool because it was…
/r/askTRP17/06/19 01:30 AM
2

Yeah she’s even starting to see that he’s insecure. She noticed that he’s tried it twice now and said he seems like a bragger, so he’s trying to make more noise than usual when she’s around. Idk. He’s a soy boy so I’m not overly concerned. One of the blessings of TRP is that it allows you to cut people out of your life without losing a second of sleep.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 01:20 AM
1

Yeah it’s 2/2 now both times I’ve brought my GF around him. He doesn’t talk like this to me when she’s not around nor has he gotten ballsy like this in the past. As cringey and cliche as his jealously is, I don’t want to associate with people like that. So if it continues I’ll have to do something. Whether telling him to cut the shit or just cutting him off.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 12:32 AM
3

Wow, that’s seriously fucked up. Betas and white knights are literally ruining this world.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 12:30 AM
3

That’s how I can tell I’m heading in the right direction. I noticed exactly what it was when he did it each and every time, which tells me everything I’m doing is working. It takes a lot of mental discipline to be able to be able to laugh off the jabs and recognize them for what they are. But when you master it, it’s a very rewarding feeling.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 12:09 AM
3

I don’t blame you. It’s all about playing the game smarter.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 12:05 AM
7

Excellent stuff. It can never hurt to read stuff like this again and again to make sure it’s internalized at all times.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 12:02 AM
3

Great insights. I definitely have no desire to get into competitive shit talk with him. I never meant to make him jealous anyway so that’s his own problem to sort out. He can either ease up and I’ll move on. The fruits of life aren’t all for him to enjoy. There’s enough for everyone.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 12:00 AM
21

Yeah it makes sense. The most natural alpha males I’ve ever known were nothing but supportive, all inclusive, bringing everyone up and never saying a bad word about anyone. After reading TRP it makes a lot of sense. They have a natural abundance mentally and don’t have the need to knock anyone or feel threatened by anyone.
/r/askTRP16/06/19 11:57 PM
2

He holds a very high opinion of himself in general so that’s probably true. And objectively speaking, and by no means is this humble bragging at all, but I do believe my LTR is a good deal more attractive than this. He places a lot of value on looks, so I’m sure this also bothers him.
/r/askTRP16/06/19 11:54 PM
22

There’s probably a lot of truth to this. But wouldn’t this paradoxically backfire on him though? Not that I’m concerned with him stealing my GF whatsoever, but when guys try to subtly knock you, it sub communicates jealous/scarcity, which is a blatant beta behavior and turns women off.
/r/askTRP16/06/19 11:52 PM
16

You’re absolutely right. Maybe he’s not comfortable with who I’ve worked on becoming, and I can’t control that. That’s his problem at that point. I don’t even see him all that often truthfully. Maybe once a month, which is the same frequency as before I even got into an LTR. Maybe he thinks “I’ve changed” since getting into a relationship. Which is most likely just his knee jerk cop out reaction to veil the fact that he’s jealous. Who knows.
/r/askTRP16/06/19 11:50 PM
2

You have no idea how much the comments hurt on my very 1st askTRP post. I had extreme ONEitis for a girl who was long distance, and i came looking for answers similar to the ones you’d see over on seduction. Every single comment was what I needed to hear. That begin the synthesis of the red pill in me TRP has changed my life. The red pill does become your father figure. Who I am now, as compared to 1 year ago when I came crying on to the asktrp page, is night and day. When I see someone in my po…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/19 05:44 AM
3

Very very good progress on your streak. However. This can be deceiving. Imagine a hypothetical scenario where you don’t jerk off to porn an entire year. Great right? Should be considered a job well done. But what if, in this hypothetical scenario, you also just replaced jerking off to porn with edging to nudes. What progress is really made. The goal with nofap is a rewiring of your dopamine reward system from pixels to people. By rationalizing that “it’s only nudes, it’s technically not porn”, i…
/r/askTRP18/04/19 08:36 AM
8

This is the same dopamine rush as porn. You might as well go jerkoff on pornhub, there is no difference.
/r/askTRP18/04/19 05:44 AM
22

Agreed.
/r/askTRP17/04/19 11:47 PM
1

Yeah man she’s got some serious, serious issues. Don’t stick your dick in there ever again. Also make sure to keep the peace when you see her. It’s not worth the headache.
/r/askTRP13/04/19 01:11 AM
6

I actually find this stuff funny anymore. Block her, have a laugh, go have some cereal and get on with your day.
/r/askTRP13/04/19 01:02 AM
59

You can’t blame your dad for being a beta, he was never given a handbook on this stuff either. You can blame him if, for example, he didn’t bother to put in any time or concern for your hobbies, your well being, your interests/passions, be there for you when you were down, etc. I don’t know the whole context obviously, maybe he’s a piece of shit and there’s more to the story. Your dad is your dad, but once you discover the red pill, it really is true the the Red Pill now becomes your father.
/r/askTRP11/04/19 11:40 PM
4

I see this all the time in my social circle and I never understood it. I think it’s one of the shittiest behaviors there is, and never ceases to give me a bad feeling in my stomach. These people aren’t friends, and they need strong self reflection and self improvement to get them to the point where they are abundant enough to not try to fuck a friends ex. Do they know how many women are out there? The fact that they chose to go after your ex of all people says all you need to know about them. Ho…
/r/askTRP10/04/19 05:37 PM
0

This guy fucks ^
/r/askTRP06/04/19 06:23 PM
4

The LTR is more fulfilling than spinning plates in my experience. Although it can be more stressful due to the inevitability of catching feels. Try it and see what you like better. You’re not obligated to either. If you want to spin plates, do that. If you want a GF for a little while, do that, but you’re under no obligation to stay with her forever. Leave whenever you feel like it.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 03:26 PM
1

Why are you considering LTR’ing a girl that gets blackout drunk in general? Nevermind the several strange cocks she had inside her recently. Plate only.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 08:45 PM
17

Great fucking answer
/r/askTRP02/04/19 04:53 PM
3

Just zeroing in on one singular aspect of this post, yes, this would be the definition of a hoe, do not associate with these women other than 1 night stands and plating them at best. Feel sorry for them for their lack of inner value, don’t reward them.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 04:36 PM
6

I wish some hardened red pill wizard would legitimately test this out just to expose and basically play with the female nature like a cat plays with a ball of yarn.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 04:32 PM
6

I don’t believe that a woman’s love for a man is either black or white, I don’t anymore at least. Yes it is opportunistic and conditional. She can never love you in the same way you love them, but her opportunistic love is to varying degrees - that’s the key word. Women can absolutely be enthralled and head over heels in love with you (opportunistic love that is), but there is rarely any pinpoint moment where she just flips to not loving you. It is a gradual process in which her high degree of l…
/r/askTRP30/03/19 04:30 PM
7

Lmao this ^
/r/askTRP30/03/19 04:23 PM
1

Spot on. I’ve experienced this and realized it myself on a much smaller scale. I used to natural bodybuild and at my physical peak had a horde of beta followers and lackeys. I injured my shoulder, lost all of my gains soon thereafter was forgotten about. This showed me the true nature of reality. It was a red pill truth that I didn’t realize at the time. You jus be valuable to other people. They do not love you unconditionally (except your family). Lose your “value”, lose your friends/women.
/r/askTRP29/03/19 01:14 AM
12

You’re operating on two different levels here. If these girls are only plates and FWB, then truthfully you should not be able to be cucked. Because they are just plates and FWB means that 1) you’re emotionally detached 2) because you’re emotionally detached, you couldn’t care less whether or not they are sleeping with other people. 3) you really couldn’t care less because you’re also sleeping with other people. If you are seeing them and them only yet you have the indication that they are sleepi…
/r/askTRP28/03/19 11:10 PM
3

Would love to see a more in depth discussion particularly on number 2, this has always made me waver the most. Is it the guys fault that it ends? Or was there literally nothing you could’ve done? (I.e. a new male coworker who’s SMV is high). If you had theoretically done everything “right”, would she have rejected his and every other high SMV’s advances? It’s definitely not black and white. Given that you’ve “trained” two females the same way, one is probably much more prone to cheating than the…
/r/askTRP28/03/19 08:15 PM
1

Boom. This is it right here. It’s always better to genuinely exude the confidence as in, you do know what you’re doing, because in the long run your “faking it” will be tested and most likely crumble. (Aka: be a true red pilled man). However, this IS why girls flock to the golden balance, as you put it. The perception that you’ve got it figured out, that you know what you’re doing (whether you really do or not) makes them want to follow you. They want the answers to the questions they have, so t…
/r/askTRP28/03/19 07:37 PM
12

Always agree and amplify first with non serious answers as someone else pointed out. When she inevitably keeps on poking and prodding, just say “I don’t discuss past relationships/hookups/girls in general out of respect for their privacy” I mean, if she has a problem with this answer, then it’s really her cross to bear. How can she not understand you wanting to respect the privacy of past women? (even if it’s a lie). I’ve used this numerous times and it’s worked very successfully in defusing the…
/r/askTRP27/03/19 03:58 AM
5

99.99 percent of people walk around in an unconscious haze, completely dominated by their ego. The ego is a survival mechanism of the mind. When you get offended by a criticism, you’re not actually offended, the ego is, because what it feels is a threat to its identity - a fear of annihilation. This being said, people are constantly, constantly looking for other people who appear to have the world figured out (those who display a strong frame). They are searching for someone who will lead them, …
/r/askTRP26/03/19 03:15 AM
1

You have to go through it to learn unfortunately. However it is always better to lean towards being a dick rather than being a pushover, this due to what we all know about the harsh female nature. You have to keep your guard up to a certain degree at all times. Sinking into beta complacency, in which you’re lovey dovey and open with her at all times is a death sentence. The rules of game still apply even in an LTR. There needs to be a healthy balance, of maintaining mystery, remaining stoic and …
/r/askTRP24/03/19 06:38 PM
1

You, I, and everyone in this thread all know that both of those girls are going to reach back out to you individually. Hang loose and relax. Good work.
/r/askTRP20/03/19 10:11 PM
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