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14	Men on here are contradictory Is that what single women tell themselves and use to justify not dating? If you are so sure, why not screen for it? Oh that's right, I guess that wouldn't be possible if you automatically label 95% of men as having bad personalities and likely telling yourself there's no point in dating because the 1in20 odds of meeting a "good guy" aren't worth your time. Obviously not all women, but you get my point. And yes, I realize the danger some people can pose, but you can still get to know people in pu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 09:25 PM
0	What’s a common mainstream/blue pill dating belief that you think is incorrect? I get the impression you've given up, and I'm sorry to hear that. The dating culture/apps seem to only make things worse in my experience, but I do hold on to hope that I will find my other half eventually. I am a bit of an optimist in that sense. Chances are if a person were to type out exactly what they were looking for, it would apply to a large portion of single partners, but finding them is the problem. I also don't think words can accurately describe what a person is truly looking for. But…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 10:50 PM
1	The amount of American women willing to have sex with a guy within 30 days is the same amount of American women willing to split a bill on the first date. But this sub does. That’s an overgeneralization. Some people here might argue that certain boundaries are wrong, but not everyone shares that view. Everyone has boundaries, so for some to suggest they are wrong for having a particular boundary they don't share is hypocritical to say the least. We are not all the same. Easy solution: VET THEM OUT. Otherwise, they don’t have a legitimate issue, they just want to whine about the choices they make. Dating women isn’t like a job, they can absolutely …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/26 06:14 PM
2	The amount of American women willing to have sex with a guy within 30 days is the same amount of American women willing to split a bill on the first date. I’m not arguing that women with boundaries are wrong, or that men shouldn’t pursue selective women. My point was narrow, that you introduced the idea that some women only date men who pay for meals and resources, and then treated that as a normal expectation. I just asked for consistency, because if we call an escort transactional for getting paid for companionship, why don’t we apply the same label when someone expects payment (in food, money, or resources) for the girlfriend experience? Bringi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 11:06 PM
1	The amount of American women willing to have sex with a guy within 30 days is the same amount of American women willing to split a bill on the first date. You’re taking what I said slightly out of context. I wrote, “you seem to be acknowledging and even citing studies that support…,” not that the studies literally say that, lol. But you’re right that I should clarify. My line “a portion of the female community may be using men for resources and free meals in dating” is my interpretation of the pattern you described, not a direct quote from your sources. The actual studies show, for example, that a majority of women (61%) do not find it extremely o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 07:42 PM
2	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries Yup, I feel you, and it’s kind of ironic. This is basically the same point women use when they say men aren’t inherently entitled to sex and it shouldn’t be something they’re expected to freely give (which I agree with and support). But in another post, the OP agrees and cites studies showing that a portion of the female community won’t date a guy unless he pays for meals and lets them use him for “resources.” That dynamic isn’t really any different from an escort exchanging companionship for pa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 06:44 PM
1	The amount of American women willing to have sex with a guy within 30 days is the same amount of American women willing to split a bill on the first date. You seem to be acknowledging and even citing studies that support the male perspective, that a portion of the female community may be using men for resources and free meals in dating. My question is, what’s the functional difference, morally and practically, between an escort and someone who expects different forms of “payment” (resources, monetary support) for the girlfriend experience? If we’re going to call one exploitative or transactional, why don’t we apply the same label consistently, reg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 04:54 PM
1	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries You’re right that a boundary only controls what you agree to do, and the other person absolutely gets to react however they want, including being "furious" or calling it a deal‑breaker. I’m not saying they can’t do that. What I’m saying is that when a man sets a boundary around refusing unpaid labor early in dating, people are quick to judge him as “weird,” “arrogant,” or “unwilling to help,” while the exact same boundary‑setting from a woman is usually treated as “healthy” or “reasonable.” That…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 03:41 PM
1	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries I’m not going to debate what counts as a lie and what doesn’t. The definition is clear, and it raises questions about how many other times people choose to muddy the waters instead of being truthful with their potential partner or partner. If someone can lie about something so small and insignificant, who’s to say they won’t keep lying about other things? A relationship built on lies from the very beginning is problematic for a variety of reasons. I don’t know why there’s a stigma around telling…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 02:13 PM
2	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries You’re right that people don’t control how others react to their boundaries, and someone is absolutely allowed to say whatever they want if they don’t like those boundaries. A boundary only controls what you agree to do, not what the other person thinks or says about it. That said, my point has always been about how certain boundaries, such as men refusing unpaid labor early in dating, are judged differently than women’s boundaries about intimacy or time, even though both are just “these are my …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 01:45 PM
1	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries And then he attacked her and called her names when she decided that his situation wasn't something she wanted to be a part of. You went pretty dark here, buddy, and judging by the OP’s post, the only person showing signs of getting emotional or hostile was the other party, when he says, “She was furious. The boundary was reasonable. The reception was not.” He wants to set a boundary and then judge women who say that because of that boundary we aren’t compatible. Where did you read that? The OP w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 06:29 AM
1	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries You can fault people for being too honest, sure. Everyone is different, and if that’s what you feel is best, sure. I won’t fault you for it, lol. Your suggestion that being too honest will harm relationships is fair in some cases, but it doesn’t mean honesty itself is the problem as it can also be about how someone reads boundaries, how they react to receiving “no", or how they handle being told something they don’t want to hear. I think the real issue is when “too honest” becomes disrespectful …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 05:42 AM
6	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries I don’t think we need the insults to distract from the points here, can we try and leave them out going forward? I think your comment might be significantly shorter without them. "No, I didn't. Now you're not even reading my words at all. I'm not sure if I prefer the strawmanning or whatever this is." In response to the OP’s comment about not helping move, you said, “I help my friends and they help me because we like each other and are there for each other.” So the “move” part was my wording, bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 05:23 AM
4	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries In reality people don't like hearing that you just don't like them or trust them enough to do them a favor. I agree, that would hurt, but that’s not what the OP said. The OP set a boundary, nothing more. You’re viewing that through a negative lens because you’re not accustomed to people standing up for themselves for something like that. If you personally enjoy doing manual labor for people, cool, whatever floats your boat, but not all men do. A person’s time is valuable, and while I’ll 100% inv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 03:43 AM
12	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries In order for you to claim "I proved his point," you'd have to deliberately ignore what his actual argument was and the specific terms used. You said your friends helped you move, but two people who aren’t officially dating yet are not friends, hence your response to this point is invalid. You're right though, it doesn’t prove his point it just disproves your point in an attempt to invalidate his. One could argue that indirectly proves his point though, but I won't, lol. I’m saying his example is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 03:26 AM
6	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries Do you like it when a guy asks you repeatedly for sex, day after day, after you’ve already told him you’re not ready? No, that’s annoying as hell, and it feels like he’s not respecting your boundary. This guy, on the other hand, came out with it right away, nipped it in the bud, and made it clear that all this physical‑labor exploitation is off the table until they’re official. Otherwise, who’s to say there wouldn’t be more requests down the line? You’re also suggesting he lie to the girl by say…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 02:03 AM
14	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries And that's all a separate issue from the fact that you call this a "boyfriend thing." I help my friends and they help me because we like each other and are there for each other. "Manual labor" in the western world isn't gatekept behind heterosexual relationships. You proved his point right there: your friends helped you, not some random guy you just met who was then surprised by a request to help your friend move. That’s the difference. I’ve helped friends move too, but if a girl I just met, som…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 01:52 AM
1	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries Preach!	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 12:58 AM
2	CMV: The “grass is greener” effect is much stronger for women in dating than men I think some people (both sides) just like to criticize, doesn't matter if there's nothing wrong, they will just look for something to be wrong/different, even if arbitrary, and then use that to complain/comment or stir the pot, so in that sense, I agree with your theory. I think another part is, because both sides are critical of each other, it becomes exacerbated when friends/family will chime in and say something negative about the their partner. There are studies that show when the same narr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 10:22 PM
3	Men should be happy to pay for the first date I don't consider it bold to assume men get more generous as time moves on. From a monetary perspective, very few people go on trips or buy jewelry/presents for a first date. What does happen is feelings grow into love, so that's likely the "magic moment" you're referencing. The reality is, you're focusing solely on money in relationships, which is a red flag for most guys. If you can't even get to the first date without bringing up money, it questions your intentions long-term. You're right thou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 04:05 PM
2	Men should be happy to pay for the first date These “natural providers” don’t want to be generous for even one meal. The first date is an "interview" of sorts, and a couple are not considered "dating" until the second or third date, the same way you have second and third job interviews. As such, men are not the "natural provider" for someone they've never even dated before or don't even know if they will date. Similar to how an employer doesn't pay a person for their first/second/third job interview. Expecting generosity upfront sounds more…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 02:39 PM
1	Men often don’t really know what they’re attracted to I don't think men blame women if they want to feel respected or admired, and especially not because they want their man to be nice to them. I mean, if you look at it another way, no guy is going to blame his gf for breaking up if he was the opposite of what you're suggesting, so stubborn/resistant, cold/harsh, dismissive/contemptuous, disrespectful/indifferent, critical, invalidating, and emotionally distant. That right there is a bad relationship and either gender would realize they caused the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 01:14 PM
3	Men often don’t really know what they’re attracted to They want her to be agreeable. They want her to be nice to them. They want her to admire them. They want to feel respected, appreciated, and important in her eyes. They want warmth, encouragement, validation, emotional comfort. For agreeable, one could argue people associate with like-minded individuals as we frequently see political preferences listed in dating profiles. But I could argue that I don't want my partner to blindly agree with everything I say, I want to be challenged in a healthy w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 12:05 PM
5	Genuinely, if a good portion of women fear and dislike men as a whole, why should men interact with women? I am not surprised by this. I knew a guy who got horribly ill after eating cooking (not his partner/family) but from another person, and no doctor could figure it out. After a couple of years (still sick) he did an uncommon test that found very high levels of rare toxins which aren't found in the environment and haven't been used for over half a century. Turns out they were used historically as a poison and I remember he showed all the articles that pop up when you type in the name of each and "…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 11:03 PM
1	What do the 'not all men' crowd have to say about the atrocities happening in Ozoro? wow, where did that come from?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 02:31 AM
2	High value men mostly end up with high value women it is quality NOT QUANTITY I agree, quality over quantity, but I'm not sure how you think I was arguing for quantity after waiting for 3 years to find someone who met a standard that is no longer relevant. I'm talking about looking for a "true connection" and you're interpreting that as I want quantity over quality, like what? Men like you are stuck in scarcity and do not even realise. I think it's a bit much to presume you know the type of person I am from a few words on a page, especially cons…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 02:30 AM
1	This question is primarily for men, but open to anyone. If you woke up as a straight woman, what kind of partner would you go for? I would look for skills in communication, understanding, respect, ability to compromise, down to earth, open minded, open (I know this takes time). I would avoid partners who are shady (body language included, I'm a keen observer of peoples body langauge), if they hide/avoid topics (within reason is permitted), emotional dysregulation issues (excluding serious causes like death of loved one, car accident, etc). I would adapt to whatever lifestyle is necessary for what we agree we want. In past r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 05:52 PM
3	High value men mostly end up with high value women That's fine, you know your worth. The issue becomes when you have to choose if you should remain single or settle. Finding a "true connection" with a person gets incredibly difficult the higher your standards are. I waited for 3 years looking for someone that shared a value of mine (not money, not aesthetics) and have now given up. I could keep holding out for my equal, I did 3yrs standing on my head because I just don't gaf, but at the end of the day I think a true connection is the only thing …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 03:24 PM
4	High value men mostly end up with high value women I agree that it is unlikely, but there are rare exceptions. I read somewhere that women don't care if a man makes significantly less money, but I don't believe it to be true. The same way a dime won't be "settling" for a 7. People want as close to "equals" as possible, both financially and aesthetically. It's shallow, but it is what it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 02:56 PM
–	Is it possible that Gen Z /alpha men can do better with women than previous generations? I didn't realize sexbots hit ~$200M last year. Okay well no one can blame guys for using them to dodge endless rejection in apps+IRL, along with scams and bots. That's just adaptation in a brutal market. I guess it's natural selection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 02:20 AM
1	What do the 'not all men' crowd have to say about the atrocities happening in Ozoro? 100%, I don't dispute that. It was mentioned elsewhere that rape is due to the victim being weaker than the perpetrator, and biologically, it is significantly weighted in men's favor. The issue is, I don't know a single male that would condone this "festival", but just because some men have lost their fricken minds doesn't mean all men are bad. There could be something in the water, a brain parasite, or even a meningitis outbreak that is causing this ludicrous behaviour. Side note, there actuall…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 01:16 AM
–	Is it possible that Gen Z /alpha men can do better with women than previous generations? Lol, what? Actually, genuine question out of curiosity, which is more appealing, presuming both guys are equally skilled/matched, one that has a high body count, or one that has a low one but makes use of sexbots? Do you take issue with sexbots because there are "shared" ones, but private ones would be acceptable? I have never used one but my ex did buy me a flesh-a-light when she had some female issues and I tried it literally once, not sure that counts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 12:47 AM
–	What do the 'not all men' crowd have to say about the atrocities happening in Ozoro? He's right, it isn't limited to gender either, women rape too. People all around the world are losing their minds and becoming unpredictable. It's not safe no matter where you live.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 12:34 AM
1	Can bigoted beliefs lead to being a predator? pedophiles aren't really worse than people who over power and rape women or take advantage of someone intoxicated I disagree Questions for people to answer: When people discover their longterm partner is a terrible person ( predator, killer, abuser...) where their any signs especially certain beliefs? Some people can do an amazing job at hiding their true self, and other times people can change or be changed due to health issues. Most people don't realize the latter, but it happens more often th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/26 11:05 PM
8	Q4M: What is the real reason y'all want to go out for drinks? Not everything has an ulterior motive or is a battle to "break" women, lol. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Drinks do help calm nerves, yes, but I would be more than happy to grab an ice cream and walk through a park/zoo/museum/art exhibit/botanical gardens or similar while enjoying a wonderful conversation with a beautiful lady and at the same time learning if we're compatible. If at the end of our time together we're not compatible, at least you can say it was great ice cream and a good tal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/26 07:26 PM
2	Men should ask permission before asking sexually explicit questions There are a lot of topics I feel uncomfortable discussing, and if I voice that and it is ignored, I liken it to bullying as there are distinct similarities. It's almost as if people do it just because they get enjoyment/pleasure from seeing you uncomfortable (in my experience), it's all provocation. Your coworker is a typical *ss, I know A LOT of guys like that. I have spoken up and lost friendships as a result, but quality over quantity. I would just ignore all his messages that aren't work rel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/26 03:31 PM
2	What Is the cause for lack of empathy for men's dating problems? Not sure where I said it's not a gendered issue, but I'm sorry if I gave that impression, that wasn't my intent. Even studies show biologically a male is more likely to express physical anger-aggression 1.5x more than women, and when coupled with the fact the dating classified ratio is 1000:1 for M:F, it is sadly inevitable. My point was the mental health angle that affects both genders. Just because men express their mental health issues through physical aggression doesn't negate the mental hea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 11:19 AM
–	What Is the cause for lack of empathy for men's dating problems? I granted your point by admitting it appears more with men? More male offenders by sheer numbers alone. I will concede it appears more with men, but I think that is in part because the ratio in classifieds is like 1000:1 M4F vs F4M. I am not excusing it, just saying I think men outnumber women significantly in the active dating scene, so women have a much higher likelihood of experiencing this behaviour.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 09:56 AM
–	What Is the cause for lack of empathy for men's dating problems? What? How am I discrediting her? I literally said it happens to both genders, but more to women. I even wrote "I am not excusing it". And what do you mean by "making up a whole "fake scenario", do you want a picture of the scar for proof, or to tell you how it got infected and caused me further pain? How about a police report? Want me to take a poly-graph? Here's one, do you want to talk to my daughter who put in writing she saw daddy covered in blood? I don't know how else I can "prove it" to y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 09:21 AM
–	What Is the cause for lack of empathy for men's dating problems? This happens to men as well, I was very nearly murdered (within 1") by a woman, in front of my young daughter (5yrs old), and lost half a pint of blood all over the floor. I was really sick/weak at the time, and I didn't expect it, so it was easy to be thrown to the ground. At least your date bought you dinner, lol (EDIT: bad joke, sorry). This isn't a male specific issue, it is a societal issue. People are losing their minds and doing things that are unpredictable to say the least. I will conce…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 03:58 AM
2	The hate on single moms seems to have stopped now. This is proving my point.... Is it though? I am not 100% fine with red flags for a lady without kids, and I would argue a red flag for a lady with no kids is likely a deal breaker, whereas a single mom would be more of a yellow flag as there is a lot to discuss. The whole discussion is like a marriage contract really, but to jump right into that during the first stage of a relationship is not always reasonable because neither party really "knows" each other (presumably). Again, I'm not against d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/26 09:54 PM
3	The hate on single moms seems to have stopped now. I think there's some insecurity involved too. Think about a regular date/relationship without kids, there are numerous metrics each partner uses to "evaluate" the other. Now throw a kid into the mix, and it can feel like trying to urinate in front of a war tribunal where everything a man does is criticized or spun negatively no matter their intention, because we all know there are different parenting styles. Some parents (not specifically women) prefer to "baby" their kids, which won't sit well …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/26 05:23 PM