-hypnose Archive

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–	The idea that a guy is morally obliged to date an old chick just because he’s old is regarded You/they should date (legally) whoever you/they’re genuinely attracted to. Who are we to stand in the way of someone else’s happiness? Younger men being more attractive is also true. Youth is generally associated with physical attractiveness across all genders. And the idea that women are primarily attracted to money just isn’t universally true. Plenty of us are financially stable and don't care about the ''it'' lifestyle. Some of us just need someone sexy and fun and sweet, with integrity and s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 10:20 AM
–	What do women think about a guy who ignores them? I’d probably just assume he wants to focus on work, and honestly that would make me feel more comfortable sitting near him on a professional level. I don’t like being interrupted when I’m working either. If it were a work crush, though, I’d definitely find little excuses to ask for his input. I’ve done that before, and the man did the same. It was fairly obvious on both sides because we worked in entirely different departments 😅	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 01:29 PM
1	Marriage is a substitute for love. It was always a social contract, and still is. It's not necessarily good or bad, and it can make your life either easier or hell, depending on the quality of your relationship. I'm personally neutral about marriage, leaning towards no.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 08:23 AM
–	Most women are NOT happy being single Sometimes you’re unhappy either way, and you have to choose the version of unhappy that feels calmer. Not every decision is between good and bad. Sometimes it’s loss vs loss, or fear vs fear. In those cases, I think the better choice is often the one that brings less internal upset and that lets you breathe a bit easier, even if it still hurts. And sometimes you could be happy with either option, with a man or alone. It’s just a different kind of happiness. Different choices create different liv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/26 03:10 PM
–	How have your dating habits changed as you became more aware of how men behave on dating apps? For some, what that woman did works. People have different dating styles, and cultures differ too. In some countries people start with sex or casually, but once they are seeing each other regularly, there’s often an implicit expectation of exclusivity, even if it hasn’t been formally declared. Multidating is not normalised everywhere.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/26 08:37 AM
4	Decentering Women Isn’t Anti-Woman. It’s Actually Feminist and Healthier for Men Too Also. Revealing your views and justifying your views are not the same thing. Revealing means stating what you believe. For example, saying “I support X policy” or “I vote for Y party.” That is simply disclosing your position. Justifying means defending that belief in an argument. It means explaining your reasoning, responding to counterarguments, and potentially engaging in a back and forth debate. Someone can be perfectly comfortable saying what they believe but not interested in debating it wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/26 05:10 PM
3	Decentering Women Isn’t Anti-Woman. It’s Actually Feminist and Healthier for Men Too I can't read all links. But looking at the figure, men and women don’t actually look that far apart. The differences are statistically significant, but both groups are clustered pretty close together on a 0-2 scale. Genuine question: how does that research relate to the original post about men decentering women? I’m trying to understand the connection you’re making.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/26 05:03 PM
3	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. Hugs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/26 12:53 PM
1	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. Coffee?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/26 12:16 PM
1	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. Hello cutie pie, I hope you slept well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/26 11:59 AM
1	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. All I know is that people are not algorithms. It is not about applying a uniform rule to every man or “making someone wait.” It is about when the moment feels right with that specific person. Attraction, comfort, chemistry, timing, emotional safety, all of that varies. Different connections unfold differently. A woman’s body is not a public commodity, just like a man’s commitment is not a public commodity. No one is entitled to either because of what happened in someone’s past. If someone feels …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/26 11:16 AM
3	What Made you Decide to have Casual Sex and How did it make you Feel? I started something mutually casual just once. At that point I really didn’t want to spend emotional energy but still wanted to flirt and sex after a year of being celibate by choice. I picked someone much younger at a different life phase. Incredibly good looking and fun to talk to. The sex wasn’t that good but that guy was generous with compliments and did some things that validated my desirability at my old age. So I didn’t regret it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/26 07:27 AM
1	QFW: Do you care if the guy doesn’t dress or prepare all that well for a date, if he still picks you up and takes you there, pays for everything, and tries to treat you in a special way? Well, on behalf of women, thanks for noticing her effort. As for your question, if you smell nice and your clothes are in decent condition, I don’t see why that would be a problem. If the venue is not dressy, then wear what feels comfortable, and she can do the same. If you are going somewhere fancy, then yes, you would need to dress accordingly. It also depends on the kind of jeans and the kind of T shirt. For example, I love a black jeans and black T shirt kind of man. Maybe it’s a good opport…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 08:57 PM
1	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. Yeah, I agree that kissing is super important. It’s a great indicator of chemistry, and the first or second date is ideal. It’s also okay to politely suggest going back to your place for another drink, if she feels comfortable (it's important to mention that ''if''). That’s peak assertive gentleman energy. But insisting? That’s not assertive or cool.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 07:52 PM
4	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. If the idea turns you on so much, who am I to debate?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 06:49 PM
4	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. Are you insane? I’m just responding to your points. Yes, I could have put the “I only go out with men I’m attracted to” part in a separate paragraph or used quotes or something. I’ve rejected men I was physically attracted to because they behaved like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 06:22 PM
1	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. Way too fast is when I’ve just met you. A good time is when I’ve gotten to know you a little better and feel comfortable around you, both on a human and physical level. When I’ve built at least some trust that, if we do sleep together, I won’t be cornered, coerced, guilted, overpowered, or have any of my boundaries pushed. If I’ve known you for a while through work, friends, or something similar and we decide to date, then yes, first date sex would be totally fine with me. I’ve probably been cur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 06:15 PM
6	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. Not so far... Even if they did, I would only consider it if they were polite about it and behaved in a non-entitled / sexually non-aggressive way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 06:05 PM
3	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. :S I’ll take you at your word. If that’s universal, then it explains a lot	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 05:56 PM
4	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. Oh wow. This is insane, especially when you think about how vulnerable we are as women, locked in a room with a stranger who could physically overpower us and do whatever he wants without necessarily getting consent. I will not even comment on the lack of concern about protection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 05:54 PM
2	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. I don’t go out with men I’m not physically attracted to. It’s not about superiority. It’s about feeling safe. But I suppose that’s not something you have to worry about in your micro world. It’s one thing to suggest something sexual POLITELY, or talk about how each of us operates. It’s another to be physically forward with a stranger or to try to sext them soon after meeting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 05:45 PM
27	Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far. I've literally had men lose their chance with me because they tried to turn things sexual way too fast. When I said it was too early, they told me they were being forward so I would not friendzone them. These were men I was ATTRACTED TO (up until that point). What they didn't seem to understand is that pushing for sex early didn't make them more attractive. It made me feel rushed and reduced to a yes or no decision, instead of someone they actually wanted to get to know. If money is an issue, do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 02:38 PM
1	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? I think this issue makes more sense when you look at how severe symptoms can actually be. I have friends who throw up, faint or have extreme cramps on the first day of their period. That's not just discomfort. It can mean being unable to sit upright or focus. At that point it feels more like a temporary medical impairment than a routine inconvenience. I'm not saying all periods should automatically qualify for accommodation. But when symptoms materially interfere with basic functioning, that see…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 04:39 PM
–	Many women use sex as a reward in dating and relationships. Except when the sex is good. Then it's used as a personal reward/treat	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 04:20 PM
–	The phrase “choose better” isn’t about picking me over Chad, and that’s a disingenuous statement You’re switching denominators. The 20% refers to onset within abusive pregnancy cases, not total births. You can’t divide that again by the general population and call it 1%. That’s not how conditional probability works. Also, significance isn’t defined by majority. In risk modelling, a 20% onset cluster around a specific milestone is meaningful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 04:11 PM
–	The phrase “choose better” isn’t about picking me over Chad, and that’s a disingenuous statement On the first point, you’re assuming that if a man already has a rotation of women, he has exhausted all possible incentives. Impression management is a well-documented phenomenon across genders. On the pregnancy statistic, saying “80% didn’t” is mathematically irrelevant to the claim being made. The claim was that pregnancy can function as an onset or escalation point. If 20% of abused pregnant women report first-time violence during pregnancy, that means 1 in 5 cases began at that milestone. In…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 02:33 PM
–	The phrase “choose better” isn’t about picking me over Chad, and that’s a disingenuous statement On the first point, you're assuming that a man’s only incentive is sex ''right now''. But some enjoy novelty, ego boosts, the buildup or the fantasy. Some are really not in a rush... On the second point, you're describing one possible dynamic, not the only one. People engage in impression management early in relationships. They present themselves in a socially desirable way and relax over time once they feel comfortable. On the third point. Increased dependency and reduced likelihood of exit can…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 01:59 PM
2	How Can We Hold Space for Male Victims of Violence While Acknowledging Women’s Safety Concerns in Dating? Men need more support than they are currently getting. As society changes and gender roles shift, many of them are left without clear guidance or spaces where they feel understood. I think that’s partly why harmful or toxic advice has become so popular. For some men, it feels like the only place that is explicitly “for them,” even if the message itself is damaging. I love men and I try to understand them. But we all need to do better in how we raise boys, how we show up as family members, and ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 01:10 PM
–	The phrase “choose better” isn’t about picking me over Chad, and that’s a disingenuous statement First of all, a man can have a rotation of women and still be perfectly patient about having sex later. So timing alone does not really tell you much about his intentions. That said, I agree it is generally better to get to know someone before moving forward. But even then, there are no guarantees. Sometimes someone genuinely thinks they like you, and later realizes they do not. Sometimes they like the idea of you more than the reality. Sometimes they get to know you better and realize it is not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 10:57 AM
8	You're a slim, shorter (5'5 and under) 20-something Girl. What Are Your "Asks?" Over a decade ago, but not quite two.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 11:09 PM
4	You're a slim, shorter (5'5 and under) 20-something Girl. What Are Your "Asks?" Oh you lucky girl.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 10:40 PM
11	You're a slim, shorter (5'5 and under) 20-something Girl. What Are Your "Asks?" These Viking ones were head turning. I had a soft spot for the grunge guys. Eddie Vedder was so my type back then!	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 10:20 PM
47	You're a slim, shorter (5'5 and under) 20-something Girl. What Are Your "Asks?" When I was 20 I was 5'3 and slim. I liked men with long hair and sweet smiles who listened to rock music and wanted to go to concerts and to the rock nightclubs every Saturday.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 09:54 PM
–	"Dating for men is so easy. You have to be normal" Is one of the most cringe and false statements of all time Yeah, it’s an unfair statement. Dating is not easy for anyone. However being socially aware makes a huge difference. This is my definition of 'normal'. As a woman dating men, I’d love a short call to hear your voice. I don’t need two hour nightly “boyfriend” calls about how work was or what you ate before we’ve even met. Don’t bombard me with reels and constant messages, but also don’t take 48 hours to reply to a simple text. There’s a middle ground. Talk to me about yourself. I genuinely want t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 04:07 PM
–	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? This is true too. When I think about these things, I often remember an old colleague of mine who struggled with dating for years. He was an average looking guy, very personable in my opinion, but things just never seemed to click for him. Then one day he met a woman on the apps and they hit it off immediately. He told me that when he went on their first date, he just knew. He said it felt easy and right in a way it never had before. He ended up proposing to her in an escape room, and her respons…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 10:00 AM
–	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? Effort is something we all have to put in socially, whether it’s dating, friendships, work, or family. No one really gets to opt out of that. I understand that it hurts when you feel like your effort is not being returned. That can be demoralising. Repeatedly putting yourself out there and not getting reciprocity can only wear you down. But very often, women are also doing effort, just a different kind. We are trying to gauge compatibility early on. We are assessing safety, values, emotional mat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 09:00 AM
1	What’s keeping the red pill alive? If you actually get to know people from different walks of life, different levels of attractiveness, and different genders, you’ll see it’s not that simple. Women don’t live in “tutorial mode”. They deal with a different set of challenges and risks. Some men struggle deeply in dating. Sure. But so do many women, just in ways that are less visible to men who are focused on their own lane.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 07:55 AM
–	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? I don't mind that as much as wasting my time!	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 07:51 AM
–	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? Not all women want the same things, the goal is compatibility. Making an effort is important, but it has to come from a place of authenticity. If you never go to museums and restaurants and prefer to game or cook at home, then you should probably look for a woman who likes the same things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 07:49 AM
–	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? I mean there's a difference between being socially aware and performing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 07:47 AM
15	The term "ran-though" needs to end. Do these people read minds? Do they somehow know how many men I’ve slept with? If they do, that makes one of us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 09:31 PM
1	What’s keeping the red pill alive? This is not about an orphan wanting a loving family. It is more like an orphan insisting on the family that happens to be friends with the royal family. It is not wrong to want things. The problem is when we want them in one very specific form and refuse to adapt when reality does not cooperate. Comparison is not evil or moral failure. But it is often the thief of joy and keeps people stuck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 09:24 PM
1	What’s keeping the red pill alive? I don’t know what incels want, and I assume they are not all the same. But OP keeps mentioning being jealous of hot guys. I did not see him expressing envy for the “below average” guy who is happily paired up with a “below average” girlfriend. That difference matters. It suggests the issue might not just be loneliness, but comparison.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 08:31 PM
7	What’s keeping the red pill alive? Life is not fair. You can either keep chasing an aspirational lifestyle that revolves around being a hot guy surrounded by girls, or you can choose a different version of success that actually fits who you are. Not everyone is going to win the same game.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 04:55 PM
2	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? As a woman on the spectrum, I get it. I really do. That’s why I think we need to shape dating, or even the choice not to date, around who we actually are. The problem is that when you are used to masking, it can be hard to even know what your true self is. If you have spent years adapting, softening, performing, or mirroring, the line between authentic and strategic can get blurry. And at the same time, how do you discover who you are without a mirror?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 03:56 PM
5	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? Yeah, it sometimes shows after a few months of dating, when you go back to default settings and we’re left thinking, “Who is this?” The thing is, most of us are looking for compatibility, at least on some level. So putting on a temporary version of yourself doesn’t really help either party. It just delays the inevitable mismatch.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 03:51 PM
2	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? That makes me want to die alone...	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 03:49 PM
2	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women I’m 38 and there’s a specific 60 year old man I’d prioritise over most… if he was single. He’s simply radiant. Smart, and a wonderful person overall. That said he also has incredible genes - looks no older than 45. I’d date younger men (over 27) also and I have done so in the past. Same for men my age. Men are men at the end of the day. Someone who takes care of their body and mind is attractive at any age. Thats what I think as a straight woman at least.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 10:30 AM
2	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. It is strange, yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 07:41 AM
2	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. I'm 🇬🇷 and yeah we can get a bit too touchy at times to be honest 😅. The British people I know are very sweet with their partners. It does seem like fewer people are partnering up everywhere. Maybe it's a global thing, like we are all burnt out from modern dating. And everyone seems to be heartbroken. I don't know how we have managed to do that!	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 07:59 PM
4	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. To be honest, at this point in my life there is no casual guy worth me shaving everything and risking my balanced pH for 😆 Good looking people start looking very regular once you spend enough time with them, get to know them, and take them off the pedestal. Sexiness rarely comes from appearance alone. It’s hard to describe, but it’s a mix of things that catch your eyes, your ears, and your brain at the same time. I also dislike unbalanced dynamics or feeling like I have some kind of upper hand o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 05:08 PM
3	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. Yeah, I’m aware of that, and it’s one of the reasons casual sex can end up being really boring. Boring sex reduces attraction, no matter how handsome someone is. It really depends on what you take pride in as a person. If you do not care whether some women walk away thinking you were a bad lay, then that approach works fine. But if you take pride in your bedroom skills, or if you want deeper sexual validation, then it’s a different story	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 04:42 PM
2	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. Yeah I agree, interlocked fingers are super intimate. Ours was more like the mitten type of handholding. We also come from a culture where physical affection is common. So handholding, cuddling, or me sitting on his lap didn't necessarily mean that we had deep feelings or that we were a couple. It was more like a physical attraction thing (well, with some affection mixed in, as we are not made of stone 😊). I do think there's something beyond what we can see and we can't know what it is! I often …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 04:37 PM
30	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? I would feel really bad if a man felt he had to perform and exhaust himself while hanging out with me. Why force a connection if it's not there and you are not having fun?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 03:47 PM
3	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. I don't think the hand holding was the deep kind of intimate, it was more part of physical attraction. Yeah, it was a mix of spiritual/religious beliefs that felt off putting to me. Nothing malicious but sat weird with me. That said, 200 years ago I would have probably thought that they were cool😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 03:21 PM
5	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. It depends on what matters to you. If you just want to rack up numbers for yourself or for an ego boost, then sure. But you will never really know what those women think of you afterward. I never told the men I slowly stopped seeing that the sex was below mediocre because I tend to be polite If you want women to actually fantasize about you long after you’re gone, then develop your personality and learn how to relate to them. Looks or game might get you in the door, but that door will close quic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 01:33 PM
15	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. I’m only one woman, so I don’t know if that’s enough data for you. What you’re saying is partly true. But attraction that’s mostly based on looks can disappear just as quickly as it appears. I’ve only consciously had something casual with one man because he was genuinely one of the most gorgeous men I’d ever met. He was much younger than me and in a completely different life stage, which is why it was casual from the start. He was also funny and affectionate - loved holding hands. But one night,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 01:14 PM
–	It doesn’t matter what your personality is as a man, you’ll always be seen as less than Don’t say that man…. It makes me sad 🫂 it’s simply not true.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 10:31 AM
1	Most men aren't desperate for sex/relationship, their issue is that they want to find someone who accepts the lowest possible effort. I come from a culture where, yes, men are generally expected to pay at the beginning. But it is also a culture where fighting over the bill is considered good manners. I appreciate when someone I'm seeing “fights” me for it and I occasionally have to sneak behind his back to pay. If someone would not want to go to a coffee shop, concert, or gallery, that is completely fine. But it tells me we value different experiences. I am not looking to drag someone into my life, and I am not willing to shri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 02:30 PM
2	Most men aren't desperate for sex/relationship, their issue is that they want to find someone who accepts the lowest possible effort. This is not about luxury or draining anyone’s resources. I am not asking someone to “throw cash into a fire” for a different coffee shop. I am talking about initiative and intentionality. A coffee costs the same whether I suggest it or he does. The difference is effort. Planning something simple and saying, “I thought of this place, let’s try it,” signals interest. It has nothing to do with money. It could just as easily be a free concert or a gallery opening. Framing women as financial sinkhole…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 02:10 PM
0	Most men aren't desperate for sex/relationship, their issue is that they want to find someone who accepts the lowest possible effort. He can take me to the one that makes great coffee even if it looks basic. I do not care about aesthetics as much as I care about intentions. I want him to share his experiences with me. Tell me why he likes a place. Introduce me to something new. And sure, suggest somewhere neither of us has tried so we can discover it together. That is not a lot to ask.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 01:22 PM
2	Most men aren't desperate for sex/relationship, their issue is that they want to find someone who accepts the lowest possible effort. As if we do not already need an hour just to shave, buff our heels, fix our hair, moisturize everything, and pick underwear and clothes that look good but can also come off without getting stuck. The first and last time I was up to something casual at home, I lit candles, made tea, put out snacks, played nice music, and did all of the above prep. He showed up in sweatpants. Empty handed. And not even smelling good. I mean, fine. Maybe we are not a match for something deeper. But at a basic level…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 01:17 PM
0	Most men aren't desperate for sex/relationship, their issue is that they want to find someone who accepts the lowest possible effort. Truth is, I have met so many men who ask, “So… where are you taking me? / Where should we go?” And sure, I know good spots for food, drinks, coffee. I can suggest places. That's not the issue. What is rare is a man saying, “Hey, I was thinking we could grab coffee. There is one place that makes a great one, and another I have not tried yet but it has cool decor. They are both in the city center. Which would you prefer?” Even that small detail tells me everything about how things are going to pro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 01:03 PM
1	Alluring power is real and it's toxic to deny it. Imagine an enormous bowl of berries. It is huge, maybe effectively endless. Some of the berries are safe to eat. Most are poisonous. Does that mean you have unlimited safe berries? No. You have unknown berries, with a small number of safe ones mixed in. “Unlimited strangers” does not magically become “unlimited safe options” just because some strangers turn out to be safe in hindsight. Safety is not known in advance. If it were, women would not need to assess risk at all. The fact that harm is p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 04:00 PM
4	Alluring power is real and it's toxic to deny it. In many places, women initiating interest is still read as sexual availability rather than simple interest. We have to communicate interest while simultaneously enforcing boundaries, and those two things are very often interpreted as contradictory by men. For example, we are labelled frigid or uninterested when we show interest but do not escalate physically on someone else’s timeline. That is the dilemma I am describing. As for the comparison to women owning property, that was changed through c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 03:47 PM
3	Alluring power is real and it's toxic to deny it. In which world are you living? Because if that one exists, I would very much like to join you. Dating apps do not provide unlimited safe options. They provide strangers. Behaviour does not reveal itself without in person interaction. And you never know how someone will react to rejection, boundaries, or disappointment until you are already exposed to them. You may not have to think about this as a man, but that does not make it any less real for women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 03:41 PM
4	Alluring power is real and it's toxic to deny it. You are wrong. In my experience, conventionally attractive men are often the most straightforward. Precisely because they have options, they do not need to manipulate or misrepresent their intentions. They can say what they want, suggest something casual (as in "Can you come over tonight?"), and accept a yes or a no. They won't allocate extra energy.... The real problem is not good looking men existing, or women choosing them. The problem is men who are unclear, entitled, or resentful, regardles…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 11:07 AM
8	Alluring power is real and it's toxic to deny it. “Choose better” ignores the reality that you can only choose from what is presented to you. It pretends women have perfect information and control in situations where we very clearly do not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 09:55 AM
3	Honesty is ruining romance Having a filter is a basic social skill. It is not the same thing as being dishonest. Having standards is attractive, whatever those standards look like. I cannot respect people who rate their partners as 4 /10. It reads as though life simply happens to them, rather than them actively participating in it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 09:53 AM
7	Alluring power is real and it's toxic to deny it. For better or worse, women are physically vulnerable in dating. I have had multiple men from dating apps suggest a drive as a first date. That is either perverted or completely clueless behaviour, but either way, why should it be my responsibility to educate them about women’s vulnerability? We are expected to watch our drinks at all times. If a waitress brings a drink while we are in the bathroom, we do not touch it. We have to think carefully about when it is safe for a man to know where we li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 09:45 AM
2	Should you seek infatuation when dating? How does he expect her to show her investment or infatuation? She may very well feel both, but choose to be discreet about it, especially early on. Instead of expecting overt displays, he could look at things like consistency, genuine excitement about meeting up, and her overall presence and engagement. Expecting big emotional gestures just makes someone more vulnerable to being love bombed anyway. As a neurodivergent person myself, I know I have fallen for this nonsense far too many times to kn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 09:27 AM
53	Are woman's lives nowadays more stressful than in the past or in some ways worse than in the past? I come from a rural family, and when people talk about how women’s lives were simpler or less stressful in the past, I always think of my own ancestors. In the early 1900s, my great-grandfather had to leave the family and relocate on his own for years to earn enough money to build a house. At the same time, my great-grandmother walked barefoot every day, around 10 km back and forth, multiple times a day, leading a donkey to the nearest beach to collect sand so the house could be built. The build…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 07:06 PM
2	It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your own You do realise men can reciprocate all of that too, just on a different day of the week, right? Well, except maybe the sitting-on-the-lap part...	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 06:18 PM
3	It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your own What you fail to understand is that this is the kind of sexual behavior in men that creates trust and desire. If a man treated me like this in bed, I’d give it back tenfold. I’d go full 1950s housewife on him. I’d untie his shoes, run him a bath with the best essential oils, give him a massage. I’d spoon-feed him an appetiser, a main course, and dessert. Then I’d sit on his lap and ask him to do what he wants with me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 04:38 PM
4	It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your own I don't think he's a housewife... He leans more into "pleasure dom" if I'm allowed to say so. Google the term.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 03:44 PM
2	It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your own He wrote that he felt incredible, so I will take his word for that....	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 11:54 AM
4	It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your own Well on behalf of women I thank you for thinking this way. It will come back to you tenfold sooner or later 😌 Have fun.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 07:03 AM
1	Men know that they have to compete but when it's time to act they give up to their ego Dating app algorithms are designed in ways that tend to make people miserable. I remember years ago when men of all kinds had real chances with women they met, whether for one night stands or relationships. Even when people met online back then, it felt less distorted. Older platforms weren’t built to maximize profit from rejection and constant comparison, so interactions felt more human and less punishing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/26 08:20 PM
–	Male sexuality just seems borderline antisocial to me It is scary. A lot of women grow up seeing examples that make this fear very real. What helps, in my opinion, is building a life where your security and sense of self don’t hinge entirely on one person. Education, career, friendships, and financial independence aren’t about rejecting love, they’re about knowing you’ll be okay no matter what happens. And the idea that women “expire” physically or sexually just isn’t true. Aging doesn’t erase desirability. Plenty of women remain deeply attractive …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/26 12:17 PM
–	Male sexuality just seems borderline antisocial to me I don’t know if it’s just age. This is anecdotal, but the older I get, the younger my potential suitors seem to be and, strangely, often more attractive 😂 There are a lot of people who genuinely fantasize about women older than them, more than you might expect. I was almost invisible in my twenties, and it sometimes feels like the universe is making up for it now. That said, much of the attention is still purely sexual. So what else could be going on? I do think that as women get older, we tend …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/26 11:53 AM
3	What do you think about some women being happy single and “not needing men”? I think we’re in a period in time where the way genders relate to each other is changing. As a woman, I’ve gone through different stages, including a time when I felt I never wanted to date a man again. That, for me, was emotional burnout speaking. I’ve since come to realize that I don’t need a man, but I still very much want one. Not out of dependence, but because men are beautiful in their own way and because of how I feel around them. Yes, I can drill a hole in the wall and put up my own curt…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/26 10:44 AM
1	From Past Patriarchy to Modern Dating: Why the Red Pill Backlash? There is a well known concept from economics that explains this called adverse selection, sometimes compared to Gresham’s Law or bad drives out good. On dating apps, deceitful men gain short term advantages by optimizing for attraction rather than truth. They say whatever maximizes matches, face almost no cost for lying, and benefit from the fact that honesty cannot be verified early. The truth usually only comes out after time or emotional investment, by which point the advantage has already be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 02:45 PM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? In my life, women have been able to acknowledge when my own BFs were hot, especially when they were conventionally attractive. I think this also depends a lot on culture and social norms around how openly people talk about things like this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 11:06 AM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? I'm not the person the question is for, but for some people “sexy” doesn’t necessarily mean “I want to have sex with this person.” It means "I can perceive sexual appeal or allure in them". Just like you can recognize that someone is elegant, charismatic, or magnetic without wanting to date them, you can recognize sexual energy without personal desire.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 09:32 AM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? I don’t think that’s really true. I think it’s partly one of those fashionable things people say. I’ve absolutely told friends that their boyfriend is hot or sexy and meant it, in a supportive, non sleazy way. I’ve also used the word “cute,” which is its own kind of sexy. And there are times when I don’t personally find a friend’s boyfriend attractive, but that doesn’t mean he isn't to her or to plenty other women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 08:32 AM
1	From Past Patriarchy to Modern Dating: Why the Red Pill Backlash? In the analogy, the cost of “eating that food” isn’t zero. It can mean wasted time and energy, emotional burnout, being misled or used, unsafe situations, or ending up in dynamics where someone is settling rather than genuinely choosing you. In dating terms, saying yes to low quality or mismatched options often comes with real costs. It’s not just a neutral experiment. It can affect self esteem, safety, trust, and future willingness to engage at all. That’s why I hesitate to call it privilege. A…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 05:55 AM
1	From Past Patriarchy to Modern Dating: Why the Red Pill Backlash? You keep mentioning the idea of “1000 likes.” Speaking personally, I don’t experience anything close to those numbers, and neither do most women I know. I live in a capital city and I’m fairly average looking, so I’m not some extreme outlier. I don’t think that premise reflects reality for most women. On a practical level, even if someone did receive a very high number of likes, going through them thoughtfully takes an enormous amount of time. Even with a premium subscription, it can easily turn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 05:51 AM
0	From Past Patriarchy to Modern Dating: Why the Red Pill Backlash? Dating isn’t a reward system where whoever works harder or earns more automatically gets chosen. The issue isn’t that women can’t find any man. It’s that attraction, safety, compatibility, and intent all have to line up at the same time. That dramatically narrows the pool. Filtering for those things isn’t “misaligned standards,” it’s basic selectivity. Also, statistics about obesity, income, or hours worked don’t explain desire. People don’t choose partners the way companies hire employees! When…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/26 08:45 PM
1	From Past Patriarchy to Modern Dating: Why the Red Pill Backlash? I’m not minimizing what men are going through. Feeling invisible or unwanted is genuinely painful. But women also struggle, just in a different way. Many women deal with feeling used, with men settling for them because they can’t get who they actually want, or with attention that isn’t rooted in real interest or respect. That doesn’t feel like abundance. It feels dehumanizing. Both experiences can exist at the same time. One group staring at an empty plate and another being surrounded by food th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/26 05:23 PM
0	From Past Patriarchy to Modern Dating: Why the Red Pill Backlash? All I’m saying is that having seemingly countless “options” doesn’t tell you anything about their quality. Likes, matches, or messages say nothing about compatibility, attraction, values, emotional availability, or safety. Getting 300 likes is not the same as having 300 viable partners. It just means 300 people clicked a button. I don’t doubt that a lot of men feel locked out. But “men not getting a chance” and “women having unlimited choice” are two sides of the same broken system. Women gettin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/26 04:40 PM
2	From Past Patriarchy to Modern Dating: Why the Red Pill Backlash? I'm one of these omnivores that love both sausages and eggplants!	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/26 03:21 PM
3	"The Game" - OG Red Pill, what do you disagree with? I disagree with this. Wanting to learn how to interact with women doesn’t automatically make someone undesirable or fake. Social and relational skills aren’t purely intuitive for everyone, especially with how much norms have changed. In the past, many men learned these things through family or community. That kind of guidance is much less common now. The problem isn’t men seeking advice, it’s the quality of advice (like the one posted) that’s available. A lot of it focuses on performance and man…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/26 01:26 PM
1	"The Game" - OG Red Pill, what do you disagree with? As a woman who has dated several men who later turned out to be red pilled, I can tell you this kind of advice works for a limited amount of time. After that, you actually have to show up and relate to a woman as a human being. Let me respond to your points one by one. Attraction can be learned. Communication is a skill. But attraction is ongoing, contextual, and more complex than techniques. It can also be lost just as quickly as it is gained. Developing gender neutral relational skills may be …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/26 01:10 PM
19	From Past Patriarchy to Modern Dating: Why the Red Pill Backlash? When it comes to women “winning” the dating game, consider this. If you were a vegetarian with unlimited access to every kind of sausage, would you feel lucky? Omnivores and carnivores would keep telling you that you have it easier than they do, while all you actually want is a single big, shiny eggplant to make your favorite dish. Abundance means nothing if it isn’t what you want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/26 11:34 AM
2	Why some people are successful with dating, while other people struggle for years. As an autistic woman, I partly empathize and partly disagree. Dating is for everyone, and it should be a deeply personal experience that unfolds differently for each person. There shouldn’t really be such a thing as being “good” or “bad” at dating. That said, with so much dating advice circulating online, a lot of dating behavior has become oddly predictable. Much of this advice pushes people into rigid categories and roles, when the actual goal should be compatibility. Speaking as a woman who d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/26 11:04 AM
1	Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women do I am a woman, and the way she treats him feels tacky and disrespectful. No person should treat another human being like a servant, whether that involves carrying everything, handling finances, sex, or housework. Many of the women in the comments are likely expressing wishful thinking. Not because they want to torture some poor guy, but because they want to be cherished and treated like a princess. Society often presents this dynamic as the best a woman can hope for. But that is not true. We shou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 09:59 AM