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| 66 | Real Talk: What I’ve Learned About “High-Value” Men After Dating One (Or So I Thought)Anyone who has to say they’re ’high-value’ isn’t one. High value comes from action, not words. Just like a man can say he loves you but does his actions actually convey that? Judge a man by his actions, not words. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/25 10:27 AM |
| 14 | Women do really become invisible when their youth and beauty are gone. Thoughts on this?As someone who’s always been average looking, I’m always invisible 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/25 07:17 PM |
| 11 | How did your life change when you lost weight?I was never overweight, but I carried all the weight on my face which made me look far more overweight than I actually was. I only lost around 5kg (~10lb), going from 55kg to 50kg (110lb to 100lb) but all that fat went away from my face and I now look sculpted. During my glow up journey my self esteem went up, I started wearing makeup, and changed my style so that I wore fitted clothes rather than baggy jumpers. The difference was night and day. I had been punched twice in the street by two rand… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/24 10:26 AM |
| 3 | Should a second chance be given to men who “cancel” on first dates by not texting you the day of the date or canceling last minute?No. A man who is truly invested would never run the risk of you thinking that he’s not interested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/24 08:35 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on men who won’t let you look at their phone?I’ve never felt the need to look at a man’s phone, but if he’s being extremely protective over his phone privacy there’s usually a reason why. Normal people won’t appreciate snooping but also don’t care that much about leaving their phone lying around if there’s nothing to hide. I once dated a guy where during dinner he needed to go to the bathroom. I didn’t think anything of it but he suddenly sprinted back to the table, snatched his phone (I didn’t even notice his phone on the table!) stuffed … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/24 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?Thank you, I will be checking out your book recommendation! He did everything ‘right’ except the meeting parents part and the future planning. (In fact in the beginning he even said he wanted to be with me forever). I’ve met all his friends and colleagues, so I genuinely thought we were progressing. Perhaps he freaked out about marriage, perhaps I did something during the relationship that made him think I was no longer the one. I’m going into nun mode for a bit to see if there are things I can … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/24 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?He remembered all my favourite foods, travel desitinations and shows. Whenever we went out on dates or I went over to his he’d have all my favourite foods ready. Always had my favourite ice cream flavour in his fridge. There were a few countries on my travel bucket list that I don’t ever remember telling him, and he remembered and took me out on weekend trips there. One time I was sick and he came over and looked after me and went home really late after I was put to bed. These were not the actio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/24 08:04 AM |
| 3 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?Thanks for your insight! And yes I agree he didn’t do it intentionally as he’s generally a good man (just didn’t feel I was ‘the one’ for him). It’s on me next time to figure it out faster so I’m not wasting time | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/24 03:09 PM |
| 3 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?Thank you for sharing! I’m so happy it worked out for you and it gives me hope I will also find the One <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 09:42 PM |
| 6 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?Thank you! I’m still grieving and I miss him terribly, but gut feeling is telling me it was the correct thing to do even though I don’t like it | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?I’m sorry you’re going through something similar! I hope you get the clarity you need in your relationship <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 06:16 PM |
| 11 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?Yes next time I will ask earlier during the relationship in regards to the future. I didn’t ask this time as he treated me so well that I assumed we were on the same page (big mistake) - that’s a painful lesson learned not to make assumptions! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 03:14 PM |
| 61 | The One Who Got AwayYou guys broke up and he’s married. You’re hoping to be engaged to the man you’re currently seeing. There is nothing to be gained in responding to your ex and it could potentially lead to cheating. If this happened to me I just wouldn’t respond. The past is the past, learn the lessons from it to better your future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/24 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Is this a red pill tactic men use?I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a coffee date if that was what the man offered upfront. They’re a really good way to meet someone without having a lot of pressure in having the date go well. However, the issue with the two guys you were speaking to was that they did a bait and switch which doesn’t settle so well with me. I dated a bit before meeting my partner and I had that happen once, where a guy offered to take me out to dinner first but the night before he switched it to drinks at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/24 09:03 AM |
| 2 | Snoring boyfriend :(Oooh thank you! My boyfriend does say that he wakes up with a super dry throat so it’s a possible cause of snoring. Hopefully the doctor does not diagnose him with any medical issues and we’re going to give the humidifier a try, fingers crossed it’s the solution! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/24 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Snoring boyfriend :(From what I’ve observed he only snores when he rolls onto his stomach - he falls asleep on his side and then rolls over during the night. I don’t know if that might be a possible cause of the snores and I’m going to try encourage him to see a doctor in case it’s sleep apnea. I’m hoping this can be improved and I won’t have to resort to sleeping in a different room when our relationship grows 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/24 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Snoring boyfriend :(Thanks for this! I’m going to try gently prod him into seeing a doctor to test for sleep apnea as others have suggested. He has said the cpap machines look very uncomfortable so I’m not sure if he would be open to using it even if diagnosed. If he won’t use one then I won’t nag him into getting it. I’m going to get a white noise machine and test that the next time I stay over at his place. Hoping I can eventually get used to it and not have to sleep in a separate room 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/24 05:40 PM |
| 5 | He doesn’t want children. Did I fail to inspire him?This is such a heartwarming story! Congratulations on finding your soulmate and your Christmas baby ❤️ thank you for giving me hope that I can start a family one day too :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/23 11:41 PM |
| 3 | He doesn’t want children. Did I fail to inspire him?Thank you! I definitely got too invested before asking the important questions and will learn to do that sooner for the next time. I’m very grateful to him for providing such a healthy and happy 7 months for me! Not looking forward to having that conversation with him but I know he’ll understand as he’s genuinely a wonderful man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/23 10:51 PM |
| 31 | Have you noticed whether it hurts/helps you if you have a career?I come from a poor background. When I first started dating I dated men of similar economic backgrounds, ie broke. Two broke people do not make for fun dating times (unless the man is very driven and ambitious and has a clear path out of it) After one too many dates where I had to pay for both of us because the man ‘forgot’ his wallet (I wasn’t even expecting him to pay everything, just his half of the meal) I decided to stop dating. Going on dates and having to pay for the man (who contributed n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/23 12:05 AM |
| 15 | Those of you who waited until marriage to have sex, was it worth it? And those who did not, was no big deal?Thank you for your feedback! Your relationship with your husband sounds really sweet and I hope to find that happiness in marriage one day <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 12:02 AM |
| 2 | Were you attracted to your husband/partner from the first date?Wow this is great thank you! The article quite accurately matches my experiences in regards to how I ‘fall’ for men and it’s a relief to know it’s common/normal for women to feel that way. It looks like I might have to give it a bit more time and vet carefully rather than trying to force myself to feel attraction | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/23 10:35 PM |
| 3 | Were you attracted to your husband/partner from the first date?Thanks for the suggestions! So far we’ve only been on dinner dates so there’s not much opportunity for his masculine side to come out - I’ll let him know I’m keen on some physical activities and see how he responds | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/23 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Were you attracted to your husband/partner from the first date?Thank you! He is very good to me so I’m hoping the attraction will build. Just out of curiosity, why would sparks on a first date be a red flag? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/23 09:52 PM |
| 6 | Were you attracted to your husband/partner from the first date?Thanks for your insight! I don’t feel any ick, and I’m ok with the idea of kissing him etc. However there isn’t any desire and I’m not drawn to him (yet). Will give this one to two more dates to see as I don’t want to drag it out for longer | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/23 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal to constantly be asked your age by men that have no romantic interest in you?Thanks for the reminder! I can get defensive sometimes and since it’s a question I dislike, I need to remind myself that most people aren’t trying to annoy me with it 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/23 12:32 PM |
| 0 | Is it normal to constantly be asked your age by men that have no romantic interest in you?I like this! 🤣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/23 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal to constantly be asked your age by men that have no romantic interest in you?Thank you for this! I had a read about the DARE from the guy’s POV - I must admit I rarely go on TRP so it’s good to get into the mindset of guys who ask this. I like your suggestion of responding with ‘21’ as well - another poster said to say jokingly that I’m 12 which has the similar idea of making it obvious I won’t be answering that question! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/23 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to balance a career with being a rpw?Thank you! It’s good to get the male perspective and know that what I consider an ideal relationship is possible | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/22 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to balance a career with being a rpw?Thank you! Yes I agree it is a journey (one in which I’m only just beginning so I have a long way to go) | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/22 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to balance a career with being a rpw?Thank you for your input! It’s really helpful for me to get insight on how other women view this duality and achieve the right balance between their masculine and feminine. Really inspiring to hear that you have the kind of relationship which I aspire to - there’s still a lot of self work for me required before I’m ready for that stage :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/22 05:42 AM |
| 3 | Is it possible to balance a career with being a rpw?Thank you! I’m glad to find some more like minded women on this sub. And yes I agree, the proper balance is key - something which I am still working on! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/22 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to balance a career with being a rpw?Thank you for your input! And that phrase makes more sense now when it’s the other way around…I always thought it was weird as you could certainly have a cake and then eat it - thought it was one of those weird English quirks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/22 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Would you give a guy feedback if he asks why you don’t want to continue with him?I do genuinely want to stay friends with him (we’re in the same friendship circle) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/22 08:00 PM |
| 3 | Guy I’m dating tells small lies (presumably to impress me)Thanks very much for your detailed feedback! He’s 31, so not exactly young. I’ve gotten some really insightful comments from everyone (thank you all!) and it does make me question his behaviour. Our next date is next week so it gives me some time to make up my mind. Thanks again! <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/22 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Under what circumstances would you go back to an ex?It felt like he intentionally didn’t pay, because in the past when we dated he was always extremely exact about how we’d split the bill. The waiter didn’t split the bill. He told her he’d pay his share and I’d cover the remaining. When I paid the remaining I noticed my amount was 80% of the bill, so I asked the waiter why my half was so high, that was when he spoke up and said ‘oh sorry I forgot to pay’ - and he still had his card in his hand, so he could’ve paid. He then asked me to cover for h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Under what circumstances would you go back to an ex?The bill was always split in the past, so I wasn’t expecting much different. But always in the past he was very meticulous about the amount split. He was standing next to me when I asked the waitress why my bill was so high, and he then told me he forgot to pay - despite him literally still holding his credit card in his hand so he could’ve paid his share right then and there. He asked me to cover for him and he’d pay me back later and so that’s what I did. But it weirded me out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Under what circumstances would you go back to an ex?Well, I paid for his food. He forgot to pay for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Under what circumstances would you go back to an ex?The latter - I basically ended up paying for his food because he forgot to pay for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 02:40 PM |
| 1 | The ‘why are you still single’ question...I love this response - thanks for the suggestion! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 10:39 PM |
| 18 | The ‘why are you still single’ question...Thanks very much! It looks like I’ve been overthinking this too much 🥰 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 08:48 AM |
| 2 | Feeling like my kindness is being taken advantage of and unappreciatedThank you! It sucks that you’ve had to experience that - I’ve noticed that many people are not receptive to constructive criticism and they can get defensive when it is given. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/22 10:03 AM |
| 2 | Feeling like my kindness is being taken advantage of and unappreciatedThank you, I had to look up codependency as I wasn’t familiar with the term - and found some of the signs scarily accurate - most notably I have a profound need to apologise to everyone even when I haven’t done anything wrong. That book sounds very interesting and I’m going to give it a read - hopefully it will help me as much as it has helped you <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/22 09:59 AM |
| 8 | Feeling like my kindness is being taken advantage of and unappreciatedThank you so much for your advice! The tip about giving from my overflow and not my reserves has made me realise I’ve usually given from my reserves, and this is what makes me feel exhausted after giving something to watch out for in the future <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/22 03:02 AM |
| 2 | How to not feel resentful over (ex) friend taking advantage of my kindness? (And not get taken advantage of again...)Thank you for the encouragement! That’s a really interesting piece of text, and is really helpful as a reminder to myself that I should continue being kind to others despite any negative experiences. I’ve always been quite poor at setting boundaries with friends - looks like this is a good life lesson on setting stronger boundaries. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/22 04:54 AM |
| 1 | Would you apply the same standards to your friends as you do to men?Thank you! I read a book about the 20/80 rule ages ago but completely forgot about it until you brought it up, and I’ve just now realised that that rule does indeed apply to my friends. Looks like it’s time to revisit that book - I could be a much better friend/person to the 20% of people in my life that really matter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/21 10:11 PM |
| 4 | Would you apply the same standards to your friends as you do to men?Yes I agree friends are really hard to make the older I get. The majority of my friends are from my teenage years. Thanks for it into perspective, it makes me realise that there are probably times where I have not been a good friend, and I should extend that same kindness to my friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/21 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Any (30+) success stories from online dating?Thanks for your advice! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/21 07:58 AM |
| 2 | Any (30+) success stories from online dating?Thanks for your input! If you don’t mind me asking, which platform did you use? I’m just wondering if there are ones more suitable for an older demographic :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/21 01:12 AM |
| 14 | Let’s talk about not texting him firstI personally think that once you start thinking about ‘texting rules’ it’s just going to start inducing anxiety. I’ve texted first and turned guys off. Waited for the guy to text first and he never did. Or waited for him to text first and he did, but then got resentful because I ‘wasn’t showing enough interest’. There’s really no rules to texting. The only healthy relationship I’ve ever been in, texting flowed naturally between the two of us. I never even thought about it. I can’t actually remem… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/21 04:17 AM |
| 8 | Male MGTOW forum: "Is every woman a prostitute?"MGTOW and feminists are very similar in that they generalise an entire group of people, in negative light. It saddens me that the main TRP forums also have an undercurrent of hatred/hostility for women, and teach young men that women should not be protected, but be used. What I think would be better is to teach men how to properly vet for women so that he is not used, similar to how RPW teaches women to vet for men so that only one guy earns that respect. Then again I’m not a man and I’ll never … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/21 11:31 AM |
| 6 | I made a comment by mistake. Now I've emasculated him for his current financial situation. How to move forward?Day trading is incredibly risky. The fact that he throws ALL of his money into it and doesn’t have enough to pay the groceries is worrying and signifies a gambling problem to me. If he was successful at it and knew how to manage money properly he would have enough cash reserve to pay for basic living expenses, and not have 3 card accounts with no balance in them. You’re paying for all this right now in the hopes of ‘getting your investment back’ when you’re married, but you’ve only been dating f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/21 01:09 PM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: A Metaphor for Men and Women’s SMVI agree with most of your points, but I don’t think the ‘all women want the top 1%’ notion is accurate of the majority of women, or at least not in my experience. I believe that study was conducted on a skewed test pool of online dating users. Like I’ve said in my comment, I’m not looking for the top 1%. I want someone average like myself, so that’s more like the top 40%. All my married/partnered female friends picked men who are good, ordinary men. Emotionally healthy, family orientated men. Wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/21 05:43 AM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: A Metaphor for Men and Women’s SMVThank you for the encouragement! This sub has taught me so much about bringing out my femininity. At the end of the day I guess all this ‘HVM’ concept is very subjective depending on the individual woman’s personal preferences - after all my definition of a HVM is a man who can be a good father to my future children, and is someone whom I can grow old with. I feel fairly positive I can find someone like that :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/21 05:32 AM |
| 24 | Back to Basics September: A Metaphor for Men and Women’s SMVOne thing that does make me sad about a woman’s SMV being so short is that a lot of girls have been educated to worry about relationships later in life (‘30 is the new 20!’) Then there’s also women (like myself) who suffered terribly body dysmorphia and low self esteem in their 20s due to bombardment of social media portraying only one standard of beauty. Crippling self doubt prevented me from dating. By the time I deleted all my social media, worked on my mental health and was in a place where … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/21 09:29 PM |
| 3 | Lost the RPed man of my dreams but have been left feeling it was a total manipulation...The fact that he broke up with you via text after six months shows that he was cowardly/immature. That sort of behaviour is what teenagers do. I’ve gone through a similar experience - the ‘man of my dreams’ ghosted me after 3 months of dating. Take time to process your grief and use this experience to learn more about yourself. What are the qualities you liked in this man, what you disliked. Are there things you think you could improve yourself on? Every relationship, even the failed ones, can b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/21 09:16 PM |
| 4 | I absolutely despise texting...how do I make this more fun for myself when dating?I wish more people were willing to talk on the phone! Just a little side tip on your video calls though - I think a lot of women are conscious about their appearance so they would really appreciate being told before a video call! I know that with a guy I once dated and he video called me out of the blue, I spent a good 20 seconds making sure I looked presentable before I picked up... | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/21 09:08 AM |
| 3 | I absolutely despise texting...how do I make this more fun for myself when dating?Thank you! And that would be wonderful, I would love to read it! Please keep me updated :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/21 07:30 AM |
| 5 | I absolutely despise texting...how do I make this more fun for myself when dating?Thanks very much for your advice! I will keep them in mind for future dates. You’re right about needing to put in more work on the date - I realise I have a tendency to only talk and so I need to make it more obvious that I like the guy :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/21 06:51 AM |
| 3 | I absolutely despise texting...how do I make this more fun for myself when dating?Thanks for this! I guess it came from one of those common internet sentiments from guys that ‘if a girl won’t text then it means she’s not interested’. It made me sad because I have ‘lost’ a few guys in the early stages as they thought I was uninterested/cold when I don’t spend all day texting. I think perhaps the online dating scene is just not for me, as a lot of men on these apps seem to prefer texting. (Covid lockdowns in my area has made dating and meeting in person impossible currently!) | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/21 05:36 AM |
| 8 | The ScrapbookI was almost engaged to this one guy I was dating. We talked about marriage, kids, where they would be raised, etc. Everything was going along fine until one incident that made me realise he was not the one. We were on our way home after a cruise. It was midnight and the wharf was deserted. Except this one drunk guy. The drunk guy had a glass bottle in his hand. He took one look at us and shouted some abuse. I froze. I was petrified, and I watched almost in slow motion as the man raised his arm … | /r/RedPillWives | 03/08/21 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Do you accept ride offers from first dates?If it’s a guy I’ve known for a while, then sure. If it’s someone I’ve never met before, then no, and I would explain to him why. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/21 01:29 AM |
| 31 | Social media?I don’t have social media. In my experience, if a man is interested in me he’ll ask for my number, not my Instagram or snap. However it is also worth noting that I am 29, and the men I date are in that age bracket. My generation did not grow up with social media, and thus think it normal not to have a heavy social media influence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/21 02:03 AM |
| 13 | How to present RPW ideas to blue pilled friendsI personally don’t. If someone asks me about it (one of my friends did) I will tell them about it, but otherwise I keep my views to myself. If the conversation gets too ultra feminist I just stop participating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/21 09:23 AM |
| 26 | What are things about being a feminine woman/wife that can only be taught by a woman? I.e. things dads would be largely unaware of.I wish my mother taught me about boys! Or rather, provided an healthy environment for me to talk about relationships. I grew up in an ultra conservative household where my parents were authoritarian figures rather than mentors. I was not permitted to talk to boys, and got grounded once and all my phone and internet privileges taken away for saying hi to a male friend on the street. I got told I was not allowed to associate with any men because ‘all men will take advantage of you’. So of course I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/21 09:46 PM |
| 83 | How to make him want you without looking thirsty for him?You’ve already made it obvious to him that you’re open to see him again, now it’s up to him to contact you. I know it’s hard, but you’ve got to remain strong and allow him to lead. I’ve been there. I initiated things with the ‘man of my dreams’ and the more I tried to contact him, the more he faded away. It was a hard lesson but a good one nonetheless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/21 06:14 AM |
| 7 | The Case For Not SettlingI’d also like to add that a lot of men have realised women want relationships, and by saying they want marriage and kids they will have a lot more success in dating. I have met so many men on first dates who will gush about wanting to marry me and give me children, only to mysteriously melt away after the date. Or the guys who will do the hot and cold thing, and when he’s ‘hot’ he’ll start future planning, and when he’s ‘cold’ he’ll take days to reply. Learned the hard way (and multiple times lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/21 09:27 PM |
| 6 | Is it me, or is femininity being villainized but idealized?The loud voices on social media are often the minority. Most ‘normal’ people I know don’t spend much time on social media. I browse stuff but if I see something I disagree with I just move on - I don’t bother wasting my time or energy arguing with strangers on the internet. I’m sure a large majority of women think the same as me. So while it may seem like ‘everyone online’ thinks a certain way, there are many people who are different but don’t make their presence known. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 08:33 AM |
| 10 | My ultimate guide to RPW online datingIn my experience with OLD, 100% of the men I messaged first ended up putting in minimum effort to talk to me. This is just my experience - I had a 100% fail rate messaging first. Of course every man is different, and every woman has different preferences. Me personally, after my experiences, has led me to wait for a man to message first. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/21 03:52 AM |
| 2 | went on a social media cleanse and feel mentally better than ever.I deleted Instagram 5 years ago and never looked back! Social media was the cause of my mental decline as I started to hate myself, and once I had no more visual stimuli to compare myself to others I started to appreciate all the beauty that was around me in the real world <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/21 09:13 AM |
| 27 | In defense of femininity. I’m really tired of seeing ultrafeminine habits get dismissed as “basic” (vent)I think it depends on the company you keep, and just owning your femininity. Somewhere around my mid 20s I deleted all my social media. A lot of my insecurities went away because I stopped comparing myself to other women. I also formed new friendships with women who encouraged and supported other women. Spending less time around girls who gossiped allowed me to stop judging other women. I gush about my plants, my pets and my love of sewing at work - yes people still tease me about it, especially… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/21 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Very late bloomer here...my brain turns to mush whenever I’m around a man I’m attracted to...any tips on how to calm down?Thank you for the tip! I will try and implement this! 😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/21 06:15 AM |
| 6 | My boyfriend didn’t pay for drinksNot the OP but I’m just curious - what’s the ‘correct’ response to a redpill test on splitting bills? I personally think that a guy who won’t pay isn’t putting in effort in impressing a woman, and his level of interest isn’t high. Curious what others think? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/21 11:04 PM |
| 4 | Encountering aggressive/violent male strangers - ways to protect myself?Thank you for your feedback - I can be a pushover when it comes to confrontations and I think others sense that about me. Krav Maga sounds really useful (and fun!) There’s a class near my work which I’m planning on going for a trial lesson for :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/20 07:02 AM |
| 5 | Encountering aggressive/violent male strangers - ways to protect myself?I’m sorry to hear you’re going through something similar. It’s painful that society judges women so harshly based purely on appearance :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/20 02:43 AM |
| 7 | Does anyone else worry they’re infertile?I used to worry about this, until I realised I could adopt children if I couldn’t conceive. Obviously adoption isn’t for everyone, but for me it really helped my mindset and I no longer have that frantic panic of ‘what is I can’t have children?’ | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/20 12:56 AM |
| 6 | Thoughts on arranged marriage?My family (Asian) is ultra conservative and my grandmother and one of my aunts had an arranged marriage. My grandparents were happily married for 50 years and my aunt is approaching her 30th anniversary. A colleague of mine (Indian) moved to Sydney from India to marry her husband. She has been married for 12 years now, with 3 children. From what I can see they are both devoted to each other. Personally I think it can work under the right circumstances. Ie the matchmaker (usually involving member… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/20 02:41 AM |
| 3 | The Book “Fascinating Womanhood”: Have you read it?Thanks for the recommendation! I haven’t read it but now I want to :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/20 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else grinning and bearing through a career while hoping to be a homemaker one dayI would be what you consider one of those ‘career’ women. I’ll be honest I don’t enjoy the corporate environment, but I need the stability of my pay check. I used to be an artist and boy I can tell you not knowing when your next commission is and living the boho life was even more stressful to me. While I would love it to one day start a family with a HVM, I would not want to be a SAHM, at least not permanently. I wouldn’t want to be financially dependent on someone else for the rest of my life,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 09:47 PM |
| 5 | I’m worried that my earning potential/ambitious career is too ‘masculine’ and off-putting to men?I haven’t been in a relationship actually...I used to be very shy as well so would always hide at home. And yes you’re right, I haven’t met anyone I feel is up to my standards (mature, responsible, and is actively working towards a goal/ambitions) You’re right about getting new hobbies though! I currently volunteer weekly at my local soup kitchen for the homeless which eats up a lot of my spare time, but unfortunately all the other volunteers are retirees. I have considered reducing some of the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/20 06:54 AM |
| 2 | I’m so confused by the whole ‘who pays for the date thing’...in my observation masculine men get really turned off when I pay?Thank you for this! I just realised I may have subconsciously been displaying the type A behaviour you mentioned. I don’t verbally push for commitment, but I do like to talk about how much I like children and how I see myself starting a family in the future very early in the dating stage. Perhaps it is a wake up call for me to relax and just enjoy the time that I spend with the guy. I do admit I find this whole dating thing very hard! I didn’t start dating until my mid 20s (focused way too much … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/20 06:47 AM |
| 2 | I’m so confused by the whole ‘who pays for the date thing’...in my observation masculine men get really turned off when I pay?I define masculine as a guy who behaves in a chivalrous manner - ie approaching me, opening doors for me, being protective of me. Now that I think about I don’t actually have a list of qualities to define a man, it mostly comes down to a ‘vibe’ I get from him. Perhaps this is the area I need to work on and have a better vetting process. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/20 09:19 PM |
| 2 | I’m so confused by the whole ‘who pays for the date thing’...in my observation masculine men get really turned off when I pay?Thank you so much for your advice! I am still on a journey towards discovering my self worth and this sub is honestly one of the most helpful ones on reddit 🥰 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/20 09:11 PM |
| 2 | I’m so confused by the whole ‘who pays for the date thing’...in my observation masculine men get really turned off when I pay?Thank you for your input! I’m still trying to unlearn years of radicalised feminism and getting used to enjoying being on the receiving end. I still feel so awkward sometimes when people give me compliments or when men pay for me - any tips to changing that mindset? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/20 12:04 PM |
| 4 | I’m so confused by the whole ‘who pays for the date thing’...in my observation masculine men get really turned off when I pay?Ah I see, I’ve always offered on a first date...I just feel so awkward when the bill arrives and I’m just sitting there waiting for him to pay! Would you offer on 2nd/3rd dates? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/20 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Where can I buy feminine, cute and classy clothing?I watched a few tutorials on YouTube and googled some sewing blogs. Pleated skirts are literally a sheet of rectangle 3 times the circumference of your waist, so there’s no pattern required! That being said it did take me 3 tries before I was able to make a skirt that I was happy with, so I’d really recommend you do a few practise skirts on a piece of cheap fabric before using your actual one. 🥰 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/20 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Where can I buy feminine, cute and classy clothing?I started by making simple things - gathered and pleated skirts. Then I progressed onto tailoring the clothes I owned to fit me properly. That really helped me understand how a dress was put together. I’m still on the learning curve and there are clothes I can’t make well yet. But it really helps that I can tailor my clothes confidently - I can buy a lot of good quality second hand clothing and make it fit 😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/20 02:27 AM |
| 23 | Where can I buy feminine, cute and classy clothing?I make my own now...took me 2 years to learn to sew properly. It’s so worth it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/20 02:36 AM |
| 2 | How to stand up for myself in a feminine manner? (From random rude strangers)Wow, that first line is amazing! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/20 12:13 PM |
| 8 | How to stand up for myself in a feminine manner? (From random rude strangers)I was waiting to order a coffee at a cafe when it happened. Thanks for the pointers! I’m still working on my confidence and hope one day I will feel comfortable enough to say it 😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/20 08:17 AM |
| 1 | How to stand up for myself in a feminine manner? (From random rude strangers)I suppose satin would be a better description...I was a little emotional at the time I first wrote this 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/20 08:14 AM |
| 1 | ‘Don’t chase a man’...in what instance should I call him?Thank you. I needed some sense to be knocked back into me! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/20 07:13 AM |
| 2 | Am I being insecure or were my concerns legit?Thanks for slapping some sense into me. I feel a bit silly having asked him out now. Definitely a lesson learned for the future! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 11:25 PM |
| 2 | Am I being insecure or were my concerns legit?Thank you (I googled the Brad Pitt rule!) I wish more men were upfront like you (and women for that matter too) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 09:32 AM |
| 2 | Am I being insecure or were my concerns legit?Thank you! I’m staying optimistic that I’ll find a person who is genuinely interested in me 😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 09:00 AM |
| 5 | Am I being insecure or were my concerns legit?Thank you. I felt that was the case but wasn’t sure if emotions were clouding my judgement | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 08:59 AM |
| 1 | How to bring up the ‘no sex before commitment’ to a guy during early dating and not scare him away?Aaah. That wasn’t the answer I had hoped to hear, but thank you for being honest regardless! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/20 10:56 AM |
| 1 | How to bring up the ‘no sex before commitment’ to a guy during early dating and not scare him away?Thank you for your feedback! Yes I want to avoid a situation where he tries to make a move and then finds out. (It actually happened once in a past fling and the guy was so furious he stormed out...) Just out of curiosity, (in your situation) would you have stayed with her if she told you much earlier? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/20 11:45 AM |
| 28 | Any advice appreciatedYou’re 25 and have only spent a year together with your fiancée. That’s not late at all! Some people have spent decades in the wrong relationship. Try to work your your differences with clear communication, and when you have those conversations try not to let emotions cloud you. Then if people will not respect your boundaries you have the self respect to walk away (yes that does mean you need to support yourself). Otherwise you’re just sending the message that it’s ok for your boundaries to be c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/20 02:04 AM |
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