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It's difficult to decide what should be an achievement if it's only in comparison to how difficult it is for someone else. Should we not applaud for geniuses or natural athletes? When attractive people fall in love, should they get a simple pat on the back? If you consider it an achievement to be be hot, that's perfectly fine. It's a useful trait to have. If you measure that by how much casual sex you can get, I start to squint. Again, it's perfectly fine to want to be hot and to want casual sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:56 PM
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:I
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 05:58 PM
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Women volunteer slightly more than men and are overwhelmingly psychologists and therapists. Women also go to art museums slightly more often and are most of the curators. They also mediate more often, though it's usually done along with something else like yoga, tai chi, or qi gong. Philosophy is the one genre where men outpaced women in reading, and men are the majority of philosophy majors. So, sure, you could say women are in general less interested in philosophy. Really really. Most of the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 05:35 PM
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What would you consider something of substance? I know there are definitely some women who are just addicted to their phone, but I wouldn't consider them the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 05:06 PM
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It sounds less like women are overwhelmingly basic and more like you're uninterested in the same things, making women seem boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 04:41 PM
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When something I find attractive in a personality is being shown. I like really nerdy men. When they're babbling about the 2024 transformers movie for 2 hours straight, it's attractive to me. He stays more attractive because now I know his personality and thoughts that I find sexy. I can't always figure out what's drawing me to someone. Sometimes it just feels like instinct, like it's inevitable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 04:24 PM
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Idk, as a women I got approached the most when I was very skinny with almost no muscle definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 06:17 PM
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No??? It's a violation of civil rights??? I can't tell if you mean that in a free market way, but discrimination of protected classes is fully illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 02:47 PM
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I wouldn't phrase it as owing deals, moreso the reduction of discrimination in the workplace. At least in the United states, we consider equal opportunity employment to be the most ethical. Maybe it's different for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 01:09 PM
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Sure. That's not a good thing, and not something I'd want to happen even more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:57 PM
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You're really asking why women would be unhappy about being locked out of business deals because of their gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 02:24 AM
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These are...so many different women...idk if I'd even call most of them progressive. Men do definitely experience a strict definition of masculinity. (I, personally, think that's because femininity isn't considered something to aspire to) With voting (in the USA), I'd say men also suffer under the current system and would benefit from a more progressive ideology. Similarly, a man who doesn't succeed under the system is less traditionally masculine. They're not less of a man, but they are less (a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:33 AM
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The women who deny it don't care about height. The women who do care about height don't feel a need to speak up when people say women care about height. If you say women don't care about height, you'll get mostly comments from men saying we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 07:40 AM
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I don't think you're completely wrong. There are definitely women who take rejection very, very badly. Probably because of those women's temperament, but also because there's still a belief that men love sex and will fuck any time, anywhere. Women who don't approach also wouldn't have as much experience with romantic rejection. On the other hand, it feels like men are less likely to notice when they've been rejected. If they're not staunchly turned down, it can be barely registered. However, if …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:59 PM
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It'd sound like you're casting a spell on them "DEFENESTRATE!" "BLINNEN!"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:27 PM
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Blinnen? It's an archaic way of saying stop. But considering people don't always listen when you simply say stop, it'd need a cultural overhaul to make it effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:18 PM
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I'm beginning to realize how many people consider a scenario rape only when there's physical force (and maybe drugging) involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:39 PM
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Stoplight system for everyone!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:37 PM
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Idk if I'd conflate inherent worth with loving yourself. While I do kind of see your point, which I think is sex obsessed men will always need sex to an unhealthy degree, I don't think that's all or even most men. Additionally, I think those men could benefit from a cultural change where they're seen as valuable, even if they don't believe it (or don't care).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:35 PM
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I mean...the sub is about sex and gender issues....I guess it could mean "sex, and its gendered issues"....feminism seems very relevant... But sure, we can talk about just men who want to get laid. They also have inherent worth as a human being, like all human beings. A man who desperately chases relationships (or sex) to define his self worth and soothe his ego will feel awful. He'd clearly benefit from Hooks' idea, even if it wouldn't erase the loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:02 PM
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The men who are complaining aren't the only ones affected by patriarchal standards. It's also children and teenagers. You know, kids who deserve to know that they're worth something just for being alive?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:26 PM
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Lmao, wild thing to say. But you think a man who is confident in himself and his worth won't have an easier time socializing?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:11 PM
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Actually reading myself back, I've clearly stayed up too late and my brain has become noodles.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:16 AM
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Okay, how about this. Instead of inherent worth as something given freely to men without expectations, I worry that it will become another thing that men could be expected to perform. Her quote is about deconstructing those gender roles. I worry that the "deconstructed" gender roles will simply become a new one. For example, women can now wear pants and be considered feminine (kind of). However, women are expected to revert to wearing dresses for events like weddings and galas. Men would be allo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:15 AM
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I'm worried that rather than changing the expectations men have, it'll add to them. (Only if you don't delineate between being a person of inherent worth and being a man of inherent worth) I think our society is still so hung up on gender roles, that if you even try to key being a person of value to masculinity, you'll only add to the existing gender roles. If that makes more sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:19 AM
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It sounds like a reframing of inherent worth set in the context of deconstructing patriarchal standards in boys, which is super cool and necessary for any feminist society (egalitarian, if you prefer). I worry that in practice, it won't be balanced with the belief that other people also have inherent value. Or that it'll get tangled with existing patriarchal ideas as in "If you're not constantly confident in yourself to express your inherent worth as a man, you've failed! Raaagghhh!" Otherwise i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:03 AM
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It absolutely is, I was just adding a bit more context.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:36 AM
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I would consider a woman on a date to be neutral about having sex compared to "did not want to have sex or acted like she did not want to have sex". In this case with touching and kissing being referenced, those are both things that can happen completely outside of sex. I'd only consider it a violation of consent if one person was actively pulling away or indicating they didn't want it. To be clear, I'm not saying all of the behaviors covered in the study are manipulative or coercive. I was just…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:34 AM
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Within the study, it was clarified that the men were strangers, and the women had already expressed disinterest. So it'd be a man you had already turned down doing that. Participants were asked “In the past four years, how many times have you used any of the following strategies to get (or try to get) a woman to have some type of sex when she did not want to have sex or acted like she did not want to have sex? (Only women you have recently met—no sex or dating history with them beforehand).”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:35 PM
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I think what a lot of people are trying to point out is that it can be both socially acceptable and pestering/coercive. That this study is trying to highlight benign behaviors that are contributing to a larger culture of dubious consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:06 PM
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Sure, there are moments where asking multiple times can be completely ethical. I'd argue that token resistance and playing coy do contribute to rape culture though. There are also moments where the person is asking multiple times in order to badger or break down the other person. Which, considering the paper's topic is about "Isolate, Inebriate, Intimidate, Repeat", are probably more relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 06:15 PM
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Participants were asked “In the past four years, how many times have you used any of the following strategies to get (or try to get) a woman to have some type of sex when she did not want to have sex or acted like she did not want to have sex? (Only women you have recently met—no sex or dating history with them beforehand).”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:35 PM
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If within your relationship, you've said you don't want to be touched or asked again to have sex, yes it was coercive. If within your relationship, you feel comfortable and safe when she does those things, it's not coercive. There's no basis of trust or mutual understanding with a stranger. If all I've communicated to him is "not interested", he has no reason to think that will change. A stranger also wouldn't know my boundaries like your girlfriend knows yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:06 PM
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God I hope so. Dating someone younger for their looks is so much more palatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:57 PM
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Because purity is something you can only ever lose. To maintain it, it necessitates living less life, knowing less. Even falling in love can make you "less pure" if you don't stay together forever. On a more personal note, because I hate being hit on by creepy, old men who are 2x (and sometimes 3x) my age. Who truly think the most interesting thing about me is how I look.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 04:57 PM
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Well...yes? Beauty standards usually aren't about trying to look poor. Maybe cosplaying it at most, while still signaling wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 04:50 AM
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Well, yeah? Liberals are all about small changes and personal liberties? I'd think progressives and leftists would be way more interested in abandoning gender roles in dating. I obviously can't speak for all younger women, but frankly the ones near me don't need someone else's money that badly. Maybe the shrinking supply of provider men will lead them to be more appreciated? Maybe it'll push women to accept less traditionally masculine men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 04:47 AM
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He became less domineering as the books progressed because the fmc didn't like how he was treating her. That was literally the main tension in their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:20 AM
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Conservative women will stay waiting for their provider man, and egalitarian women will date men they like as equals? Most of the women in my immediate circle aren't looking for a "high status" man. The only one who is wants to be a sahm, and still plans on working part-time. The messaging about prince charming has changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:45 PM
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Honestly, I was originally more fine with age gaps before I heard more of the reasonings that older people want one. The whole "more pure, less jaded" stuff is just...repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:50 PM
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We do, that's true. The hurdle for a man to be considered stylish is quite low though. Clothes that fit properly, don't clash, and match the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:44 PM
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To me, thoughtfulness in a relationship is best shown through actions that show consideration. Think if you're getting her jewelry, buying it in the metal she wears, if you're standing up to get water, bringing her a glass too, remembering what foods she's allergic to. Small acts that show that you know her and also think about her. I understand that most men prefer direct communication. I wouldn't say they're super great at it. When men are feeling emotions like frustration and stress, it can b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:04 AM
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Thoughtfulness, style, and communication skills are the big three imo Side note, I'm pretty sure women who are calling themselves queens for changing a tire and having a job are joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:41 AM
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1) This is clearly a personal opinion. There's no reason for you to say it's not worth it for other women. 2) There are plenty of hot guys to have sex with. Truly so many. 3) If you can't communicate like an adult, of course the sex will be bad. If you're too shy or too afraid to speak up for what you want, you will not get it. If you need aftercare, use your words. If they're being to rough, use your words. Help them help you. Unlike a relationship, they don't have a ton of time to learn everyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:17 PM
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Most times it's, "Oofta, that's real rough." Other times it's, "Wow, that's such a different experience compared to everyone else in my life. Crazy. The diversity of life." The most rare is just, "Yikes. Someone might be a tad evil." Although, I tend to seperate personal complaints and conversations about structural issues. Like a man might complain that there isn't a changing table in the men's restroom. That's a personal complaint, which is rough, all I have for that is sympathy. Compare that …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:51 PM
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Order would matter in this case because you want to understand her perspective better. Her perspective is that past experiences have less impact on current relationships. You'd need them to be in the past to understand. Someone who engages in casual sex probably puts less meaning on it compared to an engagement ring. The ring is meant to signify commitment, sex can just be pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:33 AM
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Technically, you'd be following the same path as her later than her. To follow her path more closely, you'd have to sleep with multiple women and then find a woman to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:19 AM
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Lol, a little bit. I am curious how reconciling attraction and relationships work with trad men who consider women to be immature?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 02:03 AM
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So....how does attraction to those "little girls" work? Is having to father your partner unattractive? Neutrally attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:07 AM
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Never. It's cruel, pointless, and non-specific enough to ever be something someone should hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:53 PM
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Hello yes bartender I will take 2 and 3 with a side of whimpering
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:16 AM
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What I'm describing isn't simply a relationship with a power difference though. It's an already unhealthy relationship made worse through a power difference. Kink was meant as an example, since it openly acknowledges power differentials and the hurt they can cause if improperly managed. Unless you'd disagree that toxic or even abusive relationships inflict harm that lasts?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:35 PM
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And the man has emotional harm when he works like a dog without appreciation or care. My point is first that a healthy relationship can't survive if it's adversarial. Second, that a power difference can make arguments worse. A power difference can give one partner some extra bullets in their chamber. If they both put down the guns, it doesn't matter. However, if they both like to carry a gun, the bullets are something they both have to keep in mind. I know I like to speak in more abstract scenar…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:59 PM
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The serious harm is that an inability to reconcile different boundaries will end the relationship. They can build resentment and hatred. The less powerful person who compromises can begin to assume might means right. I consider emotional harm to fall under serious harm. I also don't think every disagreement is crossing a boundary. I think the way people handle them can cross boundaries. (Think personal insults, references to past arguments, comparisons to pervious partners)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:26 PM
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Well, unlike in a kink dynamic where you should've had discussions on limits before playing, vanilla relationships tend to take a more amorphous route to boundaries. A really common example of that can be bringing up past arguments during a current argument. One partner can find that unfair and derailing, the other can consider it bringing up relevant information to explain their feelings. A completely normal disconnect of boundaries in a relationship. If there was an additional power dynamic on…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:23 PM
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Just like in kink, a power imbalance requires managing. If the powerful one unintentionally uses their dominance to walk all over the less powerful one's boundaries, you can do serious and lasting harm. Similarly, if the less powerful one is unable to articulate their boundaries or maintain them without the dominant micromanaging them, they can hurt themself and their dominant. Within a romantic relationship where they're both very attached, the dynamic can last far longer than it should. It's t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:00 PM
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Nah it's gotta be Ana mains.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:47 PM
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The only times I can imagine telling someone else to take out the trash are either if I'm actively cooking or if I see they're on their way towards the bins. Which would fall under "please get it done now." Even then, it's more of a cry for help because I've overestimated my ability to multitask. The thought of having to regularly tell my partner to take out the trash is....deflating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:21 PM
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Because I'm not old or naive enough to think that I should speak over other people's experience. I don't know how women exploit men in a relationship. I don't, neither do my friends (at least to my knowledge). I know in theory how men can exploit women for sex, but similarly, haven't experienced it. Both my friends and I have sex when we want sex. Hard to exploit something that was freely and knowingly given. I spoke on what I'm confident on, that timing isn't a good enough indicator of desire. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:53 PM
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I don't have much to say about the level of likability men experience, nor how women exploit men in relationships. My only gripe was using timing of sex to measure desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 06:09 PM
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It's being able to show pictures of him if I get assaulted. Also, unlike catfishing where it's immediately obvious if the person is misrepresenting themself, I can't do the same with someone I know literally nothing about. I'd be much more interested if it was a version of a literally "blind date" in some sort of dating event, especially if it was held somewhere I go often. That way the people hosting it know their identity, and I'm not meeting a stranger alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 06:08 PM
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Out of curiosity, maybe a couple times. The worst that'll happen is we're not attracted to each other. Although, I'd worry about safety a bit more without any way to identify the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:28 AM
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It's called topping from the bottom. Some kinky people hate it, some love it. It pairs well with a service top!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:05 AM
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Sorry...I was very sleepy. My point was that immediate sex just implies that the man is likable enough to have sex with. It could be that she prefers to establish sexual compatibility early on, she drank an extra glass of wine and there was low lighting, or that she just likes having sex. I'm not saying that having sex tells him nothing. I just think the quality and quantity of the sex is a much more reliable indicator compared to the timing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:02 AM
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She can want to immediately and still not have sex. Frankly this all sounds like people making judgements because their last gf didn't desire them much. Except now they're grasping at straws to find ways to keep it from happening again.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 05:39 AM
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If you consider personal boundaries to be a soft limit instead of a hard limit, sure. I usually think breaking them indicates a lack of control more than overwhelming desire. It sounds more like a romance novel trope that people have internalized and now expect their partners to act out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:41 PM
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Cheaters cheat because they're selfish and self absorbed. There is no one hot enough to keep a cheater from doing what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:53 PM
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I think enough people have pointed out that women can, in general, just date people they're attracted too. Regarding "She will jump your bones immediately if she really, truly wants you," this assumes both that "true" sexual desire will always take precedence over personal boundaries and that desire doesn't wax and wane.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:51 PM
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I think the biggest difference is what people are considering bodily autonomy. For example, when women are saying "I don't owe you sex," they're generally saying it in the context of their consent isn't for sale. When this instance of bodily autonomy is violated, we're looking at sexual assault and rape. (Which, i think we all agree are bad things) Whereas when we look at the contexts that men are bringing up bodily autonomy, they're expected to give labor without reciprocity or pay for dates. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:03 PM
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To clarify, did you mean most women are habitually dating bad men, or did you mean most women are dating up in some way?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:46 PM
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Mildly. The fake moaning and obvious performing is really off putting though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:34 AM
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Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:43 PM
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It seems like you're conflating love and relationships. You can have unconditional love within a conditional relationship. I love my friends. Nothing brings me joy like seeing them happy and cared for. However, if my friend began on a self destructive downward spiral. If they refused any help or assistance. Especially if they became resentful of me trying to help. Our relationship would have to change. That doesn't mean I don't love them. By the time the relationship ends, I'd probably still lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:33 AM
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Women, in general, enjoy having sex. Most of us are not having sex for alternative reasons. I'm going a solid 95% of men who have had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:43 PM
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I think it's just an age thing. I'm younger, I date equally young people. If he's inexperienced it's easy to mix up "put your best foot forward" with "run at her as fast as possible so she can't escape". If I get the feeling that's the case, I usually suggest a more chill vibe or an activity that keeps his hands busy. I genuinely think guys could benefit from a little more gossip. I've never been a proponent of sharing details, but I'll always recommend someone if I think they'd be a good fit wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:49 PM
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This one guy does just want casual sex, yeah. His flair is literally casual > relationship. Extrapolating that to more men isn't going to be that useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 06:46 AM
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I think it tends to be a mix of social, (mostly) psychological, and physical. Social: Porn does literally nothing to show how a woman might make herself cum. Unless you're actively seeking out intimate, female focused porn, it's simply not that useful. (Unless the woman can cum from PiV) Women might also feel shame about seeking out their own pleasure. Thinking it's slutty, hedonistic, or wrong, they won't feel safe learning about their own body. Leading into- Psychological: She can struggle get…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 05:26 AM
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Most of the sperm are killed off by the acidity of the vaginal canal. Some survivors may be picked off by the immune system, but it's worth noting that the man's own immune system will also attack sperm if it comes into contact with blood. It's just getting registered as a foreign body. Sperm are also pretty fragile, they don't survive long, and they're pretty much designed to just swim as fast as possible towards an egg.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:54 AM
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1) Not getting treated like some mythical creature they've managed to trap and now must do everything in their power to keep. 2) Word of mouth is more beneficial for men. If I hear someone else had a lovely date with a guy, but they didn't click, he'll be on my radar. I very rarely hear about guys hyping up women unless they were an easy lay. 3) Orgasms! Men's orgasms tend to happen more often than women's during sex. It's also much less likely that sex will be painful for them. (I'm not jealous…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:32 AM
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Humans, in general, feel plenty of empathy for each other. We cringe when someone falls down and when a TV show character makes a bad choice. We anthropomorphize our animals and sometimes even our roombas. I mean, we make up whole stories about fictional characters and then cry because of them. We're a highly social animal, it's why isolation is so damaging to us and our literal, physical health. Throughout the vast majority of our history (as a species), men and women would both gather and hunt…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:02 PM
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Americans tend to feel shame, disgust, or regret after having casual sex. They also tend to have less casual sex in general. I think it's an interesting country that exists on an intersection of "sex sells" with capitalism and a sex-negative perspective from the influence of religion. Adding on a wide range of climates, making less modest clothing popular in some places, while also having an under current of disgust towards it. (Think "Well, what was she wearing") It's also particularly interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:43 AM
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We also make most of the horror movies. Somehow I don't think that makes our culture horror or murder obsessed. We just have Hollywood. Personally, I get it from moving back to America from a more liberal country.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 08:41 PM
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That...music festivals were the subculture I said have unrestricted sociosexuality... I'm also in no way a boomer. America also has Hollywood, freedom of speech, and capitalism. Of course we're gonna make all the porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 06:43 PM
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You say that there isn't a strong purity culture in america and then immediately call women 304s. Unless of course you meant 304 as a gender neutral term? I'd also argue that America tends to feel hypersexual not because it encourages lewd behavior, but because it considers everything sexual. Nude paintings and scenes in movies for example. The idea that men and women can't be just friends. Even more limited sex education in schools. Most recently, the continuous discussion on whether or not bod…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 06:24 PM
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I can't speak for all women on this, but I'd assume so considering how prevalent purity culture still is. I, personally, did consider it. When I first started dating I wondered if repressing my sex drive would mean I dated "better" people. I mean there were so many stories of princesses who sit in their castle and get rescued by a prince. Turns out I got lucky on that end. I simply do not jive well with a restricted sociosexuality (as a partner, specifically. It doesn't seem to matter too much f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 07:21 AM
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That's just...so not true. There are whole jokes about using improvised sex toys when women start experimenting. I think growing up, girls just don't tend to talk about it. I can only imagine your viewpoint being true in places that are extremely negative towards sex. As in preaching about sin and having abstinence being pushed instead of sex ed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:39 PM
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So...why do you think women masturbate if you think we have no libido?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:21 PM
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Joy and whimsy? A zest for life? Maybe even a curious mind? Passion and kindness? The inherent value of human life if you subscribe to that philosophy? Love and companionship? Pleasure and adventure? What do you mean "what does he have to offer"? Age won't make you better if you're not working towards that. There's something to be said for the youthful determination to strive to be something.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:26 PM
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By my claim, those dominant women could also be with men who like dominant women. The men who I said are a larger chunk of the population. The ones who aren't seemingly intimidated by nonsubmissive women. I don't think that anyone would disagree that being less powerful would leave you more at risk within a relationship. Nor that there are men who seek out women that are less advantaged to subjugate. Class mobility is also more limited when you come from severely improvised means. I do agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 02:16 PM
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Hm? Why do you think I lack self awareness?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:12 AM
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I claimed that within the small section of men who seem to dislike successful women, there are also men who dislike boss babes. Not because they are successful, but because they're not submissive. I also don't think that boss babes are dominant because of their success. I think they have naturally dominant personalities that contribute to their success. Even if they were unsuccessful, they would still be a dominant woman. There's a difference between a powerful woman and a dominant woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 04:36 AM
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That sounds more like a specific type of guy who both wants a submissive wife, and is also insecure about his ability to be the dominant in the relationship. Not only does he need her to act submissive, he also needs her to be unable to stop being submissive. He needs power, in this case financial, in order to feel secure. Personally, I'd count that as a different guy. Compared to a man who both wants a more traditional relationship and is fine with his wife being powerful outside of the relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:38 AM
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Op is like...100% using ai to respond, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:07 AM
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I'm sure there are some men out there who are intimidated by successful women, I definitely don't think it's most men or even a lot. The only instances I tend to see it are when the wife starts earning more than the husband. If the husband has decided his value in the relationship is his ability to provide, he might assume the wife will now be less committed to him. Alternatively, you have the men who say they dislike boss babes. These men don't really care that she's successful, they just disli…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:58 AM
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If I was born male? Yeah. Probably. My parents raised me and my brother basically identically. I, personally, haven't struggled with getting dates ever. Similarly, none of my friends or family have struggled too much with getting dates. I probably would've gone into tech, which would've made me a little insufferable. It's unlikely that I would catcall women or treat them like some unknowable entity to impress. Household labor has always been equally split in my family. I like romancing people ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 07:26 PM
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A mental block can definitely be one reason. Women do, generally, experience more shame around sex. Especially women from a conservative or religious background. That shame can manifest as a purely mental block, or as a refusal to be adventurous in partnered sex. I would bet that the mental block is less the root cause more than the behaviors it can cause ie unable to communicate about pleasure, not understanding their own body, embarrassed to be seen touching herself. On a higher level, I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 06:06 PM
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I agree. Social media has over emphasized accountability over personal responsibility for both genders. As more people post their personal lives and complaints over the internet, we place them in a role of influencer too often. The guy who complains about dates using him for a free meal and the girl who complains about guys using her for sex are not celebrities. It's more important for them to show personal growth in their everyday lives than apologizing to whoever read their post. I get that re…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 02:22 AM
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Probably not, but this sub has been helpful for irl interactions. After all, you can't change someone's mind if you don't understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 05:58 PM
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The same body parts on men are less sexualized as the ones on women. Chest on men? Completely fine. Wear a compression top, run shirtless, swim without a shirt Chest on Women? Tight shirt is slutty, running in a sports bra is slutty, bikinis are slutty. In my state being shirtless is completely legal for women. How many do you think actually go shirtless? I'd call that modesty. Ass on men? Totally chill. Sag your pants, wear baseball pants, the only thing that's less chill in america is not wear…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 05:39 PM
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Usually we call the people who beat down on people they deem lesser "bullies" instead of "women".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:35 AM
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Omg are we bringing "I can fix him" back into style
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:26 PM
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I got a major flu that knocked me on my ass for like two weeks. Downloaded reddit out of boredom. Purplepilldebate popped up in my feed and I saw someone saying "juice wasn't worth the squeeze" which is something I'd heard from two of my kids at camp. Those two kids were struggling to fit in. So, I figured that popping in here might help me to understand them. I keep coming back because some of the debates are interesting and some are so wacko.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:40 AM
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Women have friends exactly like that too. I have a dear friend who moved away, we were childhood friends. I've known her coming up on 16 years. Once a year or every two years, we either have a call or meet up for brunch. I love her dearly. It always feels like she's in my life even if we're not in constant contact. When I am dating someone, they need to be close to me, not just dear. Loving someone isn't enough if we're barely a part of eachother's lives. Additionally, a romantic relationship ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:52 AM
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I get that this is supposed to be an argument about women dating men with fewer pro-social traits, but being able to strike up and navigate conversations with strangers is one of the most important ones. I say that as someone who is so so so introverted. You can have as many wonderful characteristics as prince charming, but if you're unable to show them, how am I supposed to know? The most information I have about you, is the information you share. That can be with your clothes, looks, or words.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:05 AM
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I need to be physically attracted to them to have a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:55 PM
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I think a lot of the cultural narrative around having children shifted from "if you're iffy on children, might as well have them so you don't regret it," to "if you're iffy on having children, don't have them. The child deserves parents who want them." A lot of younger people don't feel financially stable enough to have children. Women in America are treating giving birth as a true choice, not an expectation. People aren't happy with local politics and climate change. It's a lot of different rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 08:19 PM
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My point is that you had a dull date. She is not inherently a dull date. She's not inherently a less interesting person because you found her less interesting. Could she have been more opinionated about everything? Sure! It would've even made her more compatible with you. Maybe going forward she'll be more open about what she wants. Maybe she'll be more open about what she wants just with a different person. You've even narrowed down your type to outwardly passionate women. That's what dating is…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:28 AM
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I don't disagree with your main statement. There are definitely people who never had to articulate facts about themselves. Either because they don't tend to meet new people, or they don't push their boundaries much. Your date definitely reminds me of me though. By my perspective on that date, it was more "Well, we went to the gallery and talked about the art. I tend to prefer looking at the techniques. He kept prying at what everything made me feel though? We got dinner and it was Greek, not my …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:07 AM
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Sorry, I was going off of you saying that him paying indicates that he likes you. I totally get that you prefer a nontraditional relationship structure. By my understanding so far, you do agree with some more traditional courting standards. Maybe more specifically with men? Since there are most social norms and risks set up around straight dating? I do understand trying to measure how agreeable someone is by how polite they are. Since men paying for dinner is the norm, it's uncomfortable to see …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:49 PM
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I'm both on the younger side, and norwegian-american. It's exactly why I'm so curious about why traditional women here have decided that spending a bit for dinner is any true indication of interest. Ignoring completely that the op was saying it could even mean he's more selfish! If the only way, best way, main way, whatever way for a man to indicate he likes you is money, that seems far too easy. He could sit there like a lump, put down a few dollars, and that's really how you tell he's invested…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:51 PM
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And I think the best way to gauge a man's interest in me is if he's asking follow up questions, remembering details that I tell him, and when he seems a little anxious. I'm sure in your social sphere, paying for a meal is the polite thing to do. It's just a bit...antiquated in mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:41 PM
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In that case, do you think other women ought to also seek traditional relationships? Because the only way I can see your viewpoint being widely applicable is that you think either it's What women should be seeking Or What most women are already seeking Otherwise it's just like...a minor cultural difference that you've decided means he's not interested/not a worthy man. Which, I mean, you can totally see why so many people disagree with that. It'd be like me, a feminist, yelling at a man for offe…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:16 PM
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This viewpoint only makes sense if you're coming at it with the assumption of a traditional relationship. A man who wants a traditional relationship, and refuses to do his part of the courting process could seem cheap or uninterested. Lots of people, however, are not looking for a traditional relationship. You've unilaterally decided that what you prefer during courting is somehow a commentary on the man's character? It's fine that that's what you want. There's no reason to act like everyone sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:22 PM
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Unfortunately, unlike jewelry, I can't take off my boobs and set them in a nice, velvet lined box.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:42 PM
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You're soooo right, those horrible, evil, slutty women are soooo asking for it. They should definitely make themselves smaller in order to avoid harassment. Like, so what you only get to live once and what you wear impacts your mood, mental health, and sense of identity. Everyone knows that when you wear more conservative clothing, you get catcalled way less. Every woman would tell you that. That's why sexual harassment stops completely during the winter. :I /s
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 11:11 AM
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God I hope so
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:09 PM
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I was trying to illustrate that it's not sexual attention from men in general that's unpleasant. It's just that a few bad apples are making women wary of any men who hit on them. I thought the jewelry metaphor would make it easier to relate to for someone who doesn't get hit on as often.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:47 PM
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I like when people compliment my jewelry. I spent a lot of time picking it out. If everywhere I went, everyday, people complimented my jewelry, I'd be pretty happy. Maybe on days where I'm tired or sick, I'd seem less happy to recieve a compliment. If everywhere I went, everyday, people complimented my jewelry and said "it's so pretty. I'd love to just take it," I would have to worry about my jewelry. If other people said to me "well, why are you wearing such nice jewelry then, they're only sayi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:24 PM
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God, would it be super crunchy crazy lady to say that I think the best way is meditation? I think of personality as at least 2 sections, your emotional side and your logical side. Both of those are shaped by all the things you've listed. The emotional side is what I consider the more difficult part to change. That's the anxieties you feel, the sadness, the stress, the rejection. With meditation you can slowly reshape what emotions pop up during new and old circumstances. Personally, I was really…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:53 AM
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Yes absolutely. That sounds like a normal relationship to me. The only traditionally masculine behavior I actively like is being lead around by a hand on my back. Otherwise it feels like we're play-acting more than being ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:25 AM
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As much as I hate to admit it, this is might be a result of watching porn. It's true that there are size queens who need x amount of inches and up. There are also women who are very tight/shallow and need x amount of inches and down. I do suspect that women choose larger penises because that's what pops up most often in porn. With a thought process of larger penis > woman seems to be enjoying herself > the larger penis is what makes it more pleasurable. Instead of realizing porn is a fantasy of …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:37 AM
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Idk if calling something "female logic" is really helping your point
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 08:13 PM
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I prefer to lust after men in the safety of my own mind tyvm. I'm not gonna make someone else uncomfortable just because I feel horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:49 AM
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You can give and recieve sympathy even if poor choices were made. If my friend buys something off the internet that's clearly ai (and I tell them it's ai), I'm still going to be sympathetic that they're disappointed and out 20 bucks. You know, because I love them and want them to be happy. You can argue that your sympathy has worn thin for these circumstances. I'd argue you overextended yourself and made yourself cynical. I'm also not a huge fan of how often accountability sounds like it's getti…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:44 PM
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7.5
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:18 PM
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Which would make him the ugliest in a group of famous, hot actors...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:48 PM
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I have genuinely no idea what that means
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:07 PM
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After a brief consultation with the group chat, the doctor Monica dated was the hottest guy. Ross tends to be lower on their lists because of his personality. If you ignore his personality, the actor is cute but can be divisive (two friends are arguing, one suspects his sweaters are what's making him hot). The leather pants are his best look. Sample size of like 6
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:31 PM
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The good news is that I'm telling, not selling. He's cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:13 PM
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"Eventually" because it's a sitcom that has 10 seasons. Literally the first episode implies that they're endgame. Their reasons for breaking up were manufactured so they can have more seasons of "will they won't they". It's definitely not a good relationship, like I said. I don't think they treated each other well. I do think Rachel is attracted to him though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:13 PM
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Eh, she does eventually. Once they get together. Idk if any of the relationships in friends are....good....or even healthy....
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:46 PM
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No way, he's supa cute. An insufferable character like basically all sitcom characters, but very cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:56 PM
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I mean I can absolutely agree that our culture makes it easier for women to foster platonic interpersonal relationships. We similarly don't face much if any stigma for holding hands or hugging so there's another dimension of being less touch starved. You could absolutely argue that men's relationships get mocked for being "too close" and that's absolutely something that should be pushed back on. You lose me when you start to equate being in a romantic relationship and having sex as being less lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:23 PM
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That seems like an overly....idealistic view of a romantic relationship. It would be lovely if people would get along because they're both regular people. In fact, your line of thinking is probably fairly in line with arranged marriages. Where it's less about the person you're in a relationship with, and more about that you've committed to a relationship. Most modern people however, prefer their relationships with a specific person. Rather than modifying your life to fit someone else, we're find…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 06:58 PM
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What? Of course women remember things fondly in our relationships. There are absolutely materialistic women who are looking for expensive dates, and women who aren't actually invested in a relationship emotionally. I definitely wouldn't say they're the majority of women. (They're a severe minority around me) The college thing definitely does happen, it's rare to marry your high school sweetheart. I've seen it be more often "we went to different schools" and "we both changed so much". I've also s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:43 PM
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I think it could definitely make sense if you think of casual sex as being chosen exclusively for your looks, and that's where you get an ego boost from. However, idk if casual hookups are usually the most attractive person a woman has ever been with. I'm especially not going to act with a hookup like he's the most attractive guy ever, but I do 100% let that instinct loose in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:24 PM
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Bars! Specifically arcade or game bars. I tried tinder once and it was so mind blowingly boring I gave up on it. Alternatively, house parties or through friends. I accepted cold approaches for a month or so...not doing that again...0 compatibility every single time. I also just love going on dates and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:02 PM
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What....what woman has ever thought that her looks aren't the most important to men...what....
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:51 PM
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If it's strictly a one night stand, I prefer men with more experience. They're less nervous, and I don't have to give as many directions. I've always finished really easily though. If I'm keeping them, I prefer men who have fun having sex. It should be exploratory and interesting. I want to suprise them and be suprised in return. That can mean they're a literal virgin or they've fucked 1000 women. Men who are like "yeah dude we totally smashed she's so easy" universally have been the worst. By f…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:47 PM
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If it helps, suffragettes in the UK used bombs and arson. So it wasn't just politely asking. I believe the US suffragettes tended to just smash windows. But after the war, it was kind of ridiculous to pretend like women hadn't earned a right to vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:21 PM
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Does this mean really attractive women who hookup with less attractive men are also ruining them for all of their future partners? Or is it even limited to hooking up? If some hot woman flirted with a man for a while is the guy still ruined? Or would it be specifically sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:20 PM
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