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| 2 | Women Aren't a Monolith is Just "Not All Men" for Women.I'm not sure if you remember what #notallmen came from. It wasn't a response to "men are dangerous," it was a response to #yesallwomen. The general sentiment wasn't that all men do shitty things, it was a response to women (nearly) universally having stories of sexual harassment, sexual assault, and/or other sex-related misconduct by men. Due to the circumstances, they aren't really equivalent. I would be very interested to learn more about mistreatment men have experienced at the hands of women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/26 01:54 AM |
| – | CMV: Women who cannot orgasm through penetration don't experience the same level of bonding/emotional attachment to their partnerFirst, I think for most women, regardless of how they orgasm, other aspects of a relationship create stronger bonds/emotional attachment than sex and orgasm ever can. I have orgasmed through only penetration, but only twice ever. I would not describe it as creating a stronger bond or emotional attachment at all. I'm quite distracted when I orgasm, tbh. It's uncommon for my boyfriend and I to have sex without both of us coming, but sometimes I choose to not come (he would always be interested). I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 10:13 PM |
| 1 | The Manosphere Preys on Immaturity, Not Misogyny or EntitlementWhat changes to the paradigm seem both plausible and likely to help? Genuinely looking for ideas. Are there any current groups advocating for good changes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 12:50 AM |
| 6 | CMV: It's women fault men are in a lonliness epidemicIf women are still becoming increasingly lonely despite that, why do you think it would help if there were more men's spaces? Just looking to understand your reasoning. If other factors weren't the primary issue, why would women be lonely at similar rates? (Per the link in my prior comment) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/25 01:25 AM |
| 11 | CMV: It's women fault men are in a lonliness epidemicHow is this representative of society as a whole? I feel like different things are far, far more involved in the loneliness epidemic. Women wouldn't have increasing levels of loneliness and isolation too if the reason men were lonely is that women were stealing all the socialization. https://aibm.org/research/male-loneliness-and-isolation-what-the-data-shows/ If everyone is more lonely, why blame women instead of a variety of societal issues? It seems that several "men in sheds" groups started p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/25 01:18 AM |
| 20 | So many women are married to gay men and they don't realize itFor clarification, are you asserting this because you are a gay man who has felt the need to stay in the closet and marry a woman in the 2020s? Or because you've seen this happen to a couple and it was obvious to you that the woman's husband was gay yet she was oblivious? Also, what region/country are you in/does this alleged situation happen in? Not where I live, no reason for an adult to be in the closet here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/25 10:58 AM |
| 1 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenI'm not sure you're understanding. It isn't a female prerogative. Being female doesn't make you have control over abortions. People have agency of their own bodies. The inequality here is that some people are able to get pregnant and some people aren't, including many women. Being able to make your own medical decisions is (or should be) equal for all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 01:45 AM |
| 1 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenNot having "access" in this context implies generally implies that laws or infrastructure issues are forbidding them from access. No one is forbidding them access. It's okay, words can be confusing sometimes, don't worry about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 01:12 AM |
| 1 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenMen have just as much access as infertile women? I understand that you're saying that people can't dictate what medical procedures someone else has. What point are you fitting this into? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 12:30 AM |
| 1 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenIt's not because they're women, it's because they're pregnant lol If a woman is not pregnant, she doesn't have any say. Just like a man who isn't pregnant. It's about someone being pregnant, not about someone being a woman. That's why it isn't relevant. If lesbians used an organ donor to get pregnant and then the one who is pregnant decided for whatever reason to have an abortion, her partner would have no say even though she's a woman. If a man could get pregnant, his partner would have no say.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 11:50 PM |
| 1 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenDo you agree that everyone (in the same geographic region and healthcare access) has the same access to abortion then? Not sure what your point is. I guess we agree? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 11:06 PM |
| 1 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenOkay, can you help me here? Please explain what your point is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:15 PM |
| 1 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenI believe in magic ✨✨🪄✨🪄🪄✨ Can we talk about the issue at hand now? Like about how the pregnant person has jurisdiction over their own body, and the equal rights of biological parents can only exist at all once a child exists outside of someone's body? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 08:37 PM |
| 1 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenOkay. I did read the whole thing, that's how I got here. I was just trying to clarify. So you were talking about permission to make choices about abortion, and how only women can. This whole line of discussion is to talk about that. You see, it's whoever is pregnant who gets to decide about their own body. That's not because other people's opinions don't matter, it's because one person's body is at stake. It's not inequality for pregnant people to make medical decisions for their own bodies. Thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 08:17 PM |
| 0 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenIt depends on definitions, and not really relevant to the conversation at hand. The point is, people who are pregnant can get abortions. If you were pregnant, you would have as much access as any other pregnant person. No one is forbidding you any more or less than they would forbid anyone else. Is that not relevant to you? Sure. But that doesn't mean that getting an abortion to avoid bodily damage and risk of death is something given to women but not men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 07:59 PM |
| -1 | If Men Possess No Obligations to Care for Their Children, Then They Possess No Rights to Those ChildrenAnyone who is pregnant and in a place with access can get an abortion. That ability goes for anyone who is pregnant. You might say that only women can get pregnant, and sure if you want to think of it that way, but nobody's saying that men, if they occasion should arrive, are barred from getting abortions. Anyone whose body is going through a bunch of shit that could permanently alter or even kill them should be able to opt out of their body being used that way just as much as anyone should be a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Do you think it's understandable/valid that femdom usually has its own flavor different from maledom?Yeah, of course, I was talking about why the concept of non consent would be a scenario that women might desire to have control of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 10:50 AM |
| -2 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingwtf is social hypergamy lol For your first point, you do know that hypocrisy requires a double standard of some kind, right? This is not the reverse of women complaining about hypocrisy in men (assuming they're complaining about actual hypocrisy, such as "men with body counts in the 20s refusing to date girls with a body count higher than 5 are hypocritical"), this is men referring to women not doing what they want as "hypocrisy." They are not the same lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it's understandable/valid that femdom usually has its own flavor different from maledom?I'm sorry, I thought you were still asking about the differences between real kink and porn. What is your question about gender dynamics? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Do you think it's understandable/valid that femdom usually has its own flavor different from maledom?Try reading BDSM smut on archive of our own with tags like "good BDSM etiquette" or something, they're typically way more accurate than video porn at least, and some arequite realistic. Chastity exists, and riding crops exist (though paddles and floggers are way more popular in my experience). Bondage exists, though for many people extensive bondage is more of a special occasion thing. Bratting is very common as a style of submission (definitely more popular with female subs, but there are defin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Do you think it's understandable/valid that femdom usually has its own flavor different from maledom?I mean, do you think that sex in real life is like porn sex? One of the most important things that people who don't know anything about kink besides porn need to know is that choking isn't standard and is considered risky or "edge play" and needs to be specifically discussed before any pressure is put on the throat | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 06:46 PM |
| 4 | Do you think it's understandable/valid that femdom usually has its own flavor different from maledom?Why don't people actually do BDSM the way it's done in porn? Porn is theatrics. Real BDSM really varies depending on people's personal preferences, but it tends to be way more about the connection and power exchange between the people involved and such. There's a lot more focus on the feelings, both emotional and physical, and less on things that show easily on camera. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it's understandable/valid that femdom usually has its own flavor different from maledom?I don't doubt that men experience a ton of sexual shame too, especially men who had religious or otherwise sexually repressive upbringings. I think it's just less ubiquitous than for women. Gimp suits are considered bondage. They're typically tight and restrictive and/or include harnesses or places to secure restraints, and gimp masks are very restrictive. One thing to keep in mind is that real BDSM and kink that people do in their lives and relationships doesn't generally resemble porn BDSM, wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 05:03 PM |
| 5 | Do you think it's understandable/valid that femdom usually has its own flavor different from maledom?Am girl but not flaired. It can be really different depending on who the intended audience is. There's some pretty good analysis out there about women being more likely to be interested in being the "victim" in CNC or otherwise wanting to be pushed by a man's desires into sex because of the lineage of female sexually being repressed and demonized (whore, slut, loose, immoral, roasties, etc etc). If it's bad to want sex, but you still want sex, it's a workaround to avoid anxiety about whether wha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: What is worse selling sex or buying sex?Not all the domestic violence is between romantic partners, it can be with anyone you know or live with. A single man could get violent with roommates or their parents or something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 01:40 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: What is worse selling sex or buying sex?Does this qualify as nuance? (Am woman, not flaired so I can't do a top level comment) If we are considering only a person individually buying services for themselves or individually offering services performed by themselves (not organized crime/human trafficking), on average, buying is worse. We know this because when a variety of factors inhibit the ability of men to buy sex, domestic violence increases. This effect has been documented at different times and in different countries. If you're b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/25 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Q4RP: What're your thoughts on femdom?I'm submissive to my boyfriend, but we occasionally kinda "switch." The difference is, when he's dominant there's a power exchange component, while when I "take charge," there isn't. He's an excellent Dom, and him being in a dominant role with me is our default. Our idea of switching is basically him laying down and me working him up and teasing him and treating him to an intense blowjob, often with some sensory play complements. For me, it's a different way to engage with my sexuality and a way… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 04:44 PM |
| 15 | The true problem with today's society is women have been radicalized far more than menMaybe social media has radicalized non-college-educated white men, and they were easy targets because they haven't learned critical thinking and are insecure about how so many women are smarter than they are. After all, we've never had a president be so extremely out-of-step with the typical functioning of government. Them supporting Trump is the radical position in the context of US history. There being a difference between two groups doesn't tell us which or if either group is "more radicalize… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 06:18 PM |
| 2 | The Venn Diagram of men who complain about small penis shaming and the men who complain about Bella Ramsey is a circle.Middle aged mothers with huge sagging tits from breastfeeding several children are extremely sexually dimorphic. Arguably moreso than a skinny teenaged girl. You don't mean literally feminine, you don't mean sexually dimorphic, you just mean like a hot teenage girl. Glad we figured it out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 10:14 PM |
| 2 | The Venn Diagram of men who complain about small penis shaming and the men who complain about Bella Ramsey is a circle.Makeup was originally just as much for men. High heels were originally for men. Short hair for men is actually a fairly recent development in history. Pink was considered a masculine color. Very little of what we consider masculine or feminine is natural and it very easily could have been different than it is Here's a fun example. Taking hot beverages (tea, coffee) without cream and sugar is considered masculine in the US. However, it's the opposite in theUK. There are historical reasons for th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 10:00 PM |
| 2 | The Venn Diagram of men who complain about small penis shaming and the men who complain about Bella Ramsey is a circle.Bro. The hair starts coming during puberty. By the time someone has gotten through the puberty and is sexually mature, they have been growing pubic hair for a while. Most girls start growing pubic hair by 11. There's literally nothing in our evolutionary psychology that makes being clean shaven in the pubic area masculine or feminine. For some ethnicities, women don't have leg hair at all, but they still definitely have pubic hair. There isn't a huge difference in the amount of pubic hair men an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 05:30 PM |
| 2 | The Venn Diagram of men who complain about small penis shaming and the men who complain about Bella Ramsey is a circle.Being hairless in those places was a sign a being pre-pubescent. Having lots of pubic hair but less leg hair was feminine. Having lots of pubic hair and lots of leg hair masculine. It's changed now, but it's completely delusional to imply that absence of hair always meant "feminine" when it actually always meant "child." Men and women seem to grow similar amounts of pubic hair anyway. I prefer a man to be completely clean shaven, it's not masculine or feminine, it's doing specific grooming to ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 04:06 PM |
| 4 | People obsess over women initiating divorce because they believe women should stay miserable in marriages.There's a cognitive bias called Ultimate Attribution Error that people on this subreddit in general would benefit from understanding. It's basically a tendency to attribute bad actions by people who aren't in your group to them being bad people or malicious, and bad actions by people who are in your group to unfortunate circumstances or an anomaly. At the same time, it would be assuming that good actions by people not your group are an anomaly or a result of favorable circumstances while good ac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/25 04:59 PM |
| 8 | Women create PatriarchyI have personally experienced a man saying "ew nasty you're supposed to shave that shit" after begging to see more of my body and being really into me. It wasn't a full bush either, just lightly trimmed. So even if you maybe haven't been influenced as much as other people, it is definitely a thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/25 05:31 PM |
| 6 | Women create PatriarchyLet me try with a really basic, simple example. Pornography can essentially "teach" men what is desirable for the appearance of female genitals. This can result in men finding substantial public hair on women gross, even though it grows naturally, and even though it was typically considered sexy decades ago. Consider also Venus de Milo. It was created by a man and intended to depict an ideal female body. But the breasts are fairly small and the waist isn't extremely defined. The ideal here and n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/25 05:13 PM |
| 7 | Women create PatriarchyAre you familiar with Wuthering Heights? Or Pride and Prejudice? Both of these pieces of classic literature include women agonizing over how they need to marry men who they don't like because of their status. Things aren't as bad as they were generations ago, but there are conservative families where this kind of thing still exists, where families forbid their daughters from marrying someone with no financial prospects and encourage or even try to create matches with more suitable husbands. You … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/25 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Women create PatriarchyI don't think men made me this way. I think an extremely repressive patriarchal system made my great great great great grandmother this way, and she taught her daughters that they need to appeal to a powerful man to have a good life, and they taught their daughters. I think that same patriarchal system resulted in a lot of things that are bad for men in the modern day. I'm very concerned about men tbh. But let's try to figure this out. Where do you think the logic of what I was saying breaks dow… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/25 04:35 PM |
| 9 | Women create PatriarchyWanting a man of higher status is a desire created by patriarchy. If a woman is unlikely to be able to improve her own status and security by herself because of her gender, then getting a higher status man is her best bet for her own and her children's future. Things have improved a lot since women weren't able to open their own bank accounts, but it wasn't that long ago. It takes a long time for culture to overcome the effects of a time when women couldn't own property. Women raised in conserva… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/25 04:24 PM |
| – | Being able to have sex at any time is still a privilege.If manicures aren't advantageous to you, how the heck is it an advantage? If it's coupled with a chance of manicures making you pregnant, does it become a disadvantage at that point? Maybe it's actually a pretty nice situation to have to search around for a nail tech whose style you love and who has an opening instead of having an increased risk of someone scraping up your cuticles without your consent? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 01:47 AM |
| 6 | Q4M: Why aren't men as into Consensual Non-consent or raep fantasies as much as women?It seems to have a lot to do with shaming of female sexuality! I know to a lot of men on here, it doesn't feel like women's sexuality is shamed, but basically any kind of religion has it ("wearing normal comfortable summer clothes will cause your brother to sin! Your body must be hidden and you must do your best to prevent people from seeing you at a sexual being!") and most schools have it ("if your body is too visible, you will be punished because it will distract other students/teachers"). Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/25 06:00 AM |
| 1 | I don't believe there is such a thing as "Toxic Masculinty"Bro, people generally have to be at least a little sneaky or selective about how they do that unless there's nepotism and the like involved. Did this study you're talking about even control for factors like that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 10:44 PM |
| 1 | I don't believe there is such a thing as "Toxic Masculinty"None of that is the same thing as tearing other people down and disrespecting other people even if they're in positions of authority. It's really those components that can hold someone back unless they already have power | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 10:31 PM |
| 1 | I don't believe there is such a thing as "Toxic Masculinty"It's beneficial only if you're being sneaky about it or you're already in a position of power. I've seen plenty of people get shunned or fired for being a full of themselves dick who can't work collaboratively and respectfully with others | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 09:49 PM |
| 1 | I don't believe there is such a thing as "Toxic Masculinty"Being someone perceived as tearing down others instead of building themselves up on their own merits will not serve you in the real world. That's not a good person to have around. It is beneficial to you to be able to work well with others in a lot of situations. It seems like someone hurt you, and I'm sorry about that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 09:15 PM |
| 1 | I don't believe there is such a thing as "Toxic Masculinty"I think you've exemplified toxic masculinity better than any of us possibly could, great job | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 07:47 PM |
| 1 | I don't believe there is such a thing as "Toxic Masculinty"How is building your own strength "serving others"? Respecting other people isn't the same thing as serving them. Try again? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 06:19 PM |
| – | I don't believe there is such a thing as "Toxic Masculinty"A lot of toxic masculinity could also be described as insecure masculinity. A guy knows that strength is masculine, but he isn't secure in his own strength, so he tries to remove other people's strength to feel stronger in comparison. He's anxious and miserable, and he's making other people miserable as he tries to convince others and himself of his own strength. A guy knows that leadership is often thought of as masculine and he's insecure in his own masculinity, so he freaks out and thinks his… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 05:53 PM |
| 1 | The Red Pills Critique of Hedonism: Understanding the RootsI honestly don't think Destiny is "just" anything. He's a bad person in many ways, but has a lot of good traits as well. He has good things to say and good arguments that can help people, and I think someone would be foolish to get involved with him interpersonally in any way. He also has some incredibly unthoughtful takes and has increasingly lost perspective over time which makes more and more of his takes suspect. Eh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 10:58 PM |
| 1 | The Red Pills Critique of Hedonism: Understanding the RootsYeah, that's fair enough. I still don't prefer the idea of using someone like Destiny as an example of being poly lol, he's definitely an outlier in almost every respect as a person haha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 10:46 PM |
| 1 | The Red Pills Critique of Hedonism: Understanding the RootsIs your assertion in the debate basically that red pill is more suitable for unthoughtful people? That's kind of what I'm getting from your response here, but correct me if I'm wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 10:45 PM |
| 1 | The Red Pills Critique of Hedonism: Understanding the RootsTo address a different part of your thread than I did in a different comment. This sounds like you're basically saying that we need to strict rules dictating behavior or else people will do bad stuff. This argument seems really similar to Christians saying that atheists will do evil stuff because they don't have fear of God keeping them on the straight and narrow, which is an argument that has been debunked pretty thoroughly. It turns out that shitty people are going to do bad things whether the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 07:02 PM |
| 2 | The Red Pills Critique of Hedonism: Understanding the RootsDestiny is a streamer who has been brain rotted by streaming so much. Generally, anyone who sees success for a long time streaming is going to be well above average in narcissism and lose a ton of normal human perspective and grounding. It's wild to base your impression of polyamory in practice on Destiny. I've been poly for more than a decade, I've seen the good and the bad. I can answer questions if you're actually curious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 06:37 PM |
| 12 | Valentines Day is for Women not Men.I think these are kind of cultural stereotypes that aren't as common in practice as media/social media presents it. I am a woman, and I don't care about Valentine's Day. I mean, it's nice to have an excuse to have some extra bonding time, but I do not want to go to restaurants or other extra-crowded places, and I'm not really a flowers person. I would find it very sweet to get some chocolate or a nice dessert. I would be interested in exchanging massages and having good sex. I've met several wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/25 06:11 PM |
| 2 | I dont care what anyone says. The red pill is saving livesHonestly, I understand your point, but it's one of those things where different audiences have different needs, and a message that's helpful for one person can be completely toxic for another person. A great example of this is nutrition views online. Some people are prone to developing eating disorders or are recovering from an eating disorder, and for them, a message to give yourself permission to eat things that taste good and to nourish yourself through sensory experience instead of just seei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/25 09:34 PM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵That kind of raw, insatiable attraction is always going to have an element of mental chemistry in it tbh. You can't just look at a photo of a guy and be unable to keep your hands to yourself, there has to be something in body language communication and feeling desired. There are physical components as well, of course. Personality has multiple factors, ideally I want someone with solid amounts of mental sexiness, intelligence, thoughtfulness, humor, a good balance of caring without being too upti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/25 05:52 PM |
| 2 | A man should never be vulnerable with his partner, since women can't handle men's emotionsSome women are like this, some aren't. Me and my boyfriend cried about our mothers together very early after meeting in person, we talk to each other about all our struggles, and we have incredible sex with regularity and are extremely attracted to each other. I think the vulnerability makes everything about the connection better. Not everyone can handle that, and those people have to settle for a more shallow connection. It sucks to suck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/25 01:05 AM |
| 1 | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.Assuming that they're aware of the child, there are ways for men to establish that they are the father and prevent the child from being given up. It's not a perfect system, but technically, the rights are equal. It sounds like the crux of our disagreement is whether it's acceptable for an innocent child to be completely screwed. I say it isn't, and the system should be altered so that children aren't screwed and parents (of any gender) have more freedom. You say that it's not necessary to change… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 08:44 PM |
| 1 | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.Financial abortions (by men or women, there are cases where the father has full custody and the mother pays) cannot be permitted until the economic system is fixed. It's an economic issue, not an equal rights issue, not a medical or bodily autonomy issue. Hell, I personally knew a woman who paid child support and her ex had full custody of her two kids. With the system functioning as it's supposed to, men and women have equal choice once the child is born. They both are supposed to have to agree… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 08:30 PM |
| 1 | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.Women pay child support too. Whoever isn't caring for the child pays. If it's 50-50 for care, no one pays. Most of the time if a man fights for 50-50 custody, he gets it. No one should be compelled to pay, but that's an economic system issue. But parental obligation to the child is equal for men and women these days in the US. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 08:14 PM |
| 1 | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.It's not the only reason, but it's the only reason that necessitates abortion instead of another solution. Bodily autonomy is the only reason to choose abortion instead of another option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 08:07 PM |
| 1 | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.Okay fine. What if the first pregnancy is an uncomplicated vaginal birth with no tearing. Vagina generally bounces back after a few months, it looks different but is basically the same inside. No lasting hormonal changes or damage to the structure of the body, etc etc. The second pregnancy, the baby becomes much larger. She gets lower back pain that persists for the rest of her life. Her ribs are forced further apart. After an agonizing twelve hours of labor, a c-section is needed. The structure… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 08:00 PM |
| 1 | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.In your mind, there may not be much difference between one pregnancy and more. But at this point I must sadly conclude that your mind is an idiot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 06:47 PM |
| – | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.I disagree with those women who try to make a personal responsibility argument about child support. But from what you've said, those women probably aren't abortion rights activists. A woman making an argument doesn't mean that they can be assumed to also make another argument. You're trying to mindread when you say that the primary reason is not bodily autonomy. You don't know. But I think we can agree that bodily autonomy exists as an issue here. Bodily autonomy the issue that makes abortion es… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 06:35 PM |
| – | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.I don't understand why you aren't seeing the bodily autonomy aspect, including for women who have already had children. There's more damage with every pregnancy, and the danger doesn't go away and can even increase. Do you think being forced to have a pregnancy and go through childbirth is no longer a horror if someone has done it before? And if a woman can give the kid up for adoption, then it logically follows that bodily autonomy is the only reason remaining to abort instead of giving up the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 06:10 PM |
| – | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.I don't think you've really thought through your position. I agree that society should support children through taxes. Conservatism is really at fault for both denying abortion and necessitating compelled child support. But a couple things: 1) it is absurd on it's face to say that someone who has already been through childbirth wouldn't have a bodily autonomy reason to avoid doing it again. My mother had five kids, it did more damage to her body than mothers who had one or two. And even on the p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 05:40 PM |
| – | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.I don't think it's true that most women get abortions "purely" because they don't want to raise kids. If that was the case, they could just give the kid up for adoption, and if they're organized about it, they could probably get their medical bills covered by the adopter. But most people would prefer to not have their body go through that, even if they aren't left with a child at the end. It's undeniable that giving birth has the potential to be massively more impactful than losing a percentage … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 12:25 AM |
| 1 | The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion.I haven't personally seen abortion rights activists put much attention on the topic of parental obligation. I've seen them advocate for better social programs for children who are born - better education, access to food and healthcare, etc. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but it's really not the norm for pro-choice activists. Can you or OP give any examples of people who both advocate for abortion rights and child support? Just so I can understand what rhetoric we're talking about. I think the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/25 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Women who complain about being infantilized should police other women for wanting to be infantsThe idea of "having it all" for women is being a fully attentive and active employee, primary parent, wife, and homemaker while also maintaining fitness and grooming (hair, nails, skincare, makeup, etc etc). And being a leader also. Men don't have the same wide ranging expectations. This is the result of people still having lingering "traditional" attitudes toward gender even while things have been changing in economic expectations of women. To be clear, realistically most people don't expect wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/25 11:52 PM |
| 21 | Women who complain about being infantilized should police other women for wanting to be infantsI think you misunderstand what "girl dinner" is. Cheapness isn't really that much of a factor. It's doing something quick and easy because you've had a long day at work and you're by yourself and you don't want to feel obligated to put effort into cooking something. With our social idea of men and household cooking, it would just be considered "normal" for a single guy to do something quick and easy after a long shift. And that's not even getting into the eating disorder side of how "girl dinner… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/25 02:22 AM |
| 1 | There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later.Getting laid? Probably not. Getting into a relationship? Sure, if part of your issue is not getting a lot of opportunity to get close to neurodivergent girls who tend to want people who share their interests and don't necessarily care about the typical physical/appearance stuff that a lot of women care about. That is, assuming you're open to getting with nerdy neurodivergent girls. I've seen this work for people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Would you support men having the right to “abdicate” a pregnancy?I'm not flaired, but I just want to say that abortion advocacy is, for many, mostly about pregnancy and giving birth, not about having to be a parent. A child doesn't have to kept and raised. I think the woman should have full choice when she's the one facing a painful, body-altering and potentially lethal situation. Once there is a child, I think both parents should have an equal amount of say. If both agree to giving up the baby, that's that. Adoption, legal baby drop off locations in some pla… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/25 06:55 PM |
| – | If women are hypergamous, does this mean that social status is more important that everything else?Red pill can't agree about their own points smh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/24 11:06 AM |
| 1 | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADMy boyfriend has a truly massive dick, and while I can take a good chunk of it into my mouth (only sideways because it gets so wide it rubs against my molars at the back of my mouth), he can enjoy things a lot with a lot of hand work combined with mouth around the tip. It's been a fun journey working out what I can do with him. I'd had a range of dick sizes before, and I enjoy a variety of sizes (smaller dicks can do targeted internal pressure that's really good that he just can't lol), but ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 02:00 PM |
| 2 | The man vs bear "debate" is a case study showing that women struggle with logic and are overly emotional, and thus not worth arguing with.The premise of the question is that it's "a bear" or "a man". Cubs aren't a concern, and it's less even a matter of "scaring off" a bear as it is knowing that a bear isn't interested in attacking a human. People wear bells to alert bears at a distance about their presence. Unless we're talking about a polar bear or something (which we can probably assume that we aren't if we're talking about a typical woodland situation) and if the person being asked the question has familiarity with woodland sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/24 04:43 PM |
| 5 | Women have a problem with logic.Can you explain the logic of the DOJ + math violence statistic? Does it assume that all violence results in charges? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/24 10:21 PM |
| 4 | Q4W: What would you do if your male friend or partner told you he had some manosphere beliefs?I'm not flaired, but I am a woman, and I've actually experienced this. This was a friend of a friend who was visiting from out of town and we were all spending a lot of time with him while he was in town. Tbh, I had already gotten vibes that this friend treated men and women differently or made biased assumptions based on gender, but he was nice and respectful about it, so I didn't really mind. One day as I was giving him a ride, he started talking about how he wants a girlfriend/wife one day, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 07:00 PM |
| 1 | q4a: is sex a need?It depends on the person. Some people will never be fulfilled without sex, others don't need it, some are even opposed to having sex. The amount of sex varies person to person and changes throughout one's life in many cases. It's kind of like, is having friends a need? I would argue that it is for most people, but some people just don't tick that way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/24 01:17 AM |
| 2 | The Orgasm Gap Is Mainly About Biology and The Rest is Entirely Women's Own FaultBoth of those examples are old, and very fortunately things have improved a lot, and I really hope they continue improving. Again, I care a lot about male victims, I talk about it with people in my life. I'm just not sure why my comment set you off on this when it should have been obvious that I was emphasizing that abuse is the abuser's fault, not the victims lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/24 12:20 AM |
| 2 | The Orgasm Gap Is Mainly About Biology and The Rest is Entirely Women's Own FaultI'm particularly concerned about male victims. I looked up news stories about that situation with Tiger Woods, and what I found was not people laughing about it. This was a comedy sketch, and the joke was at least just as much about how he was denying that there was any domestic violence. Still not a funny joke, but SNL jokes about a lot of things that are serious issues, and the studio audience laughs regardless. But anyway, some people do laugh at male victims of abuse, and those people are di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/24 10:39 PM |
| 19 | The Orgasm Gap Is Mainly About Biology and The Rest is Entirely Women's Own FaultWow, ITT people who don't have good sex and want to explain how sex is instead of educating themselves and finding a partner who wants to work collaboratively on having better sex. What's up with the logic of saying that if women put up with something, it's their fault and they shouldn't complain? For the record, I don't put up with that, I've only had one sexual encounter with someone who didn't put any effort into making me orgasm, and I never slept with them again. But I still complain about … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/24 05:45 PM |
| 30 | Society seems to believe that the average woman is entitled to her pick of the litter with menMen aren't doomed to not have close supportive friends just because they're men. I've known men who have that. I don't have a circle of close supportive friends right now even though I'm a woman, and it sucks, but I know that I have to go out and find it/make it to have that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/24 07:07 AM |
| 3 | If men don’t have a right to sex, then women don’t have a right to abortion.Should people who have religious objections to blood transfusions and therefore refuse to perform them be allowed to work as a doctor in an emergency room? Anyone unwilling to provide reproductive care should specialize in a different area. And institutions should not be allowed to pick and choose which care they provide. They could raise their profits by refusing to cover insulin, say that they think type 1 diabetes is a punishment from God and treating it is a rejection of God's will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 11:31 PM |
| 3 | If men don’t have a right to sex, then women don’t have a right to abortion.No one should be compelled to perform abortions, have abortions, or have sex. Abortions are health care, which should be available, but no doctor should be forced to do specific procedures they aren't comfortable with, whether it's because of their skill level or emotional discomfort. If someone wanting a surgical abortion can't find someone willing to perform it, that's tough luck. With medical abortions though, idk what you're talking about at all lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 11:03 PM |
| 0 | "Preselection" is one of the dumbest things i've ever heard.This feels like a serious perversion of what hypergamy means. Officially, it means dating or marrying someone of higher class or social status. Unofficially, we bring appearance and such into it. It's a bit of a stretch to say that wanting to be with someone who's good in bed but doesn't have any positives outside of that (not even necessarily attractiveness) is hypergamy. If we're specifically talking about undesirable women wanting a desirable man, sure, that's hypergamy. But the hypothetical … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 08:07 PM |
| 0 | "Preselection" is one of the dumbest things i've ever heard.By high value, I mean attractive, well educated, makes good money, etc. Hypergamy doesn't mean wanting someone who's decent or has redeeming qualities, it's wanting someone who is specifically better or more valuable than you are. I feel like your example just demonstrates my point a bit. If there's a way of selecting men that results in women getting guys that aren't more valuable than themselves, but they're known to be good to be around or have sex with, how is that hypergamy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 06:33 PM |
| 3 | "Preselection" is one of the dumbest things i've ever heard.Okay, can you explain how preselection and hypergamy are the same to you? It's not preselection if it only applies to high-value or attractive guys. If anything, they're two opposite sides of how women select guys. Hypergamy is looking for someone with the highest possible positive traits. Preselection is looking for someone who hopefully doesn't have bad negative traits and is decent enough. At least, that's how I think about it, and I'm curious about your thought process here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 05:21 PM |
| 0 | Normalize saying you have a big vagina instead of "size queen"Okay, a couple things. 1) I'm really sorry, that really sucks. Those women suck. And as I said, I know that a dick about that size can feel really good even if someone often has sex with a monster dick. So not only do those women suck, they're also wrong. 2) ~5.1 is average, and that's measured from the pubic bone by researchers, not self measurements. 4.5 is bottom 15% and 4.8 is bottom 27%. It's still not that much different than average in size, but people on the smaller side can be too uncon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Normalize saying you have a big vagina instead of "size queen"How common is it for women to complain about dick size? Like, what percentage of your friends and acquaintances do that? I know it happens, but, like, what is your experience like that the women commonly complain about dick size lol. For what it's worth, I have two frequent sexual partners, we're poly. One has a top .1% dick, the other is below average. They both feel good, they feel different, the smaller one can direct targeted pressure and the big one basically can't. I can't take the big one… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 10:30 AM |
| 1 | The fact that the majority of blue pillers not only downplay but outright deny that women have become delusional in their standards or that there is a serious issue in dating is a huge red flag and tells you they are not interested in an honest debatehttps://web.archive.org/web/20150208114509/http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-mathematics-of-beauty/ here it is, looks like it isn't actually online now, but you can see it on the way back machine. You're saying that someone who is intensely desirable by 10% of people is still an undesirable person? If someone walked into a club with 100 women in it and 10 of the women immediately approached them and started enthusiastically hitting on them while the rest ignored them, that person would be pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 08:22 AM |
| 1 | The fact that the majority of blue pillers not only downplay but outright deny that women have become delusional in their standards or that there is a serious issue in dating is a huge red flag and tells you they are not interested in an honest debateDesirability is not a binary lol, there are different intensities of desire and different people sexually desire different things. There's even research showing that some people with unconditional features are less desired on average, but the people who do find them attractive find them very attractive. Hypothetically, say you have a group of 100 women describing whether they want to have sex with specific men, with the options "repulsive" "don't want" "open to it" "do want" and "I'm already aro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 12:30 AM |
| 1 | The fact that the majority of blue pillers not only downplay but outright deny that women have become delusional in their standards or that there is a serious issue in dating is a huge red flag and tells you they are not interested in an honest debateI think this is a bit of a difference in definition. If a Chad is someone that every woman wants, he doesn't exist. If a Chad is someone that is wanted by a particularly high portion of women, he does exist. But your logic doesn't follow at all lol. The existence of a negative trait doesn't logically necessitate the existence a particular level of positive trait etc etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 08:02 PM |
| 5 | The fact that the majority of blue pillers not only downplay but outright deny that women have become delusional in their standards or that there is a serious issue in dating is a huge red flag and tells you they are not interested in an honest debateEntitlement is acting like you have a right to something or thinking you deserve special treatment, right? I have seen entitled women before, to be clear, women who try to get men to leave their partners or who sexually harass men with the apparent expectation that any man would be into it. I would call those things entitlement. I don't see it as a super common issue though. Is the problem women declining men they don't want if they're unlikely to get someone they do want? Or is the issue someth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | The fact that the majority of blue pillers not only downplay but outright deny that women have become delusional in their standards or that there is a serious issue in dating is a huge red flag and tells you they are not interested in an honest debateAre your issues women in public or women online? I would say that there's kind of a woman version of the red pill that's too accepted on Reddit in great part because it comes off as less dangerous than redpill stuff. Being too harsh on men or having an inflated idea of what you deserve is one thing, saying that people shouldn't be making certain decisions about their own lives is another (referencing people saying that women shouldn't have certain standards for who they date etc etc). That said,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Why is men’s dating advice “you are wrong”, and women’s “he is wrong”?https://youtu.be/lUoZ7qO9e5U?si=svUnm29T1ooHXurY I found this when I searched for "dating advice for lonely women" I haven't watched it all, but seems fine? I think kind of part of the issue is that blue pill women don't really look for or make "dating advice for women" type content. Most of what's comes up with that is basically the women version of redpill vibes. Blue pill as an idea wants to emphasize more egalitarian ideas of dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 04:53 PM |
| 0 | People should stop caring that some women want to fuck serial killers.Insane take. Crime harms other people actively. Some women wanting to fuck bad dudes - who is that going to harm besides themselves? Better comparison is some men only being into fictional girls in terms of evaluating the harm to others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | "Most men are bad/selfish in bed"Nah, most men have the anatomy to enjoy it a lot, they're just scared. But sure, they don't want to. But if they want to do piv, they're signing up for the more demanding role. If they don't want to do that, they can go solo or get pegged. Again, it's not fair, but it's the mechanics of the situation, and they can always decide to bow out of the topping role. It's more demanding than the v in piv sex, but it's not that bad lol. I'm just saying that you're signing up for putting effort into it if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 07:18 PM |
| 1 | "Most men are bad/selfish in bed"They are choosing the role, they could get pegged instead. If they want to be the one fucking instead of the one getting fucked, they're choosing the harder role | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 04:21 AM |
| 1 | "Most men are bad/selfish in bed"To be clear, I don't agree with the entire sentiment of your OP. What I'm kind of trying to get at is that when men decide to have PIV sex, they're choosing the harder role, and it's fine to judge their level of care in the task that they've given themselves. This obviously doesn't apply to situations where men are pressured or coersed, just when it was their choice to take on that role | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 12:03 AM |
| 3 | "Most men are bad/selfish in bed"No one teaches that stuff in school, but there's a ton of information out there on getting better in bed for anyone who cares to look for it. Also, I'm a woman but have done some topping with a strap-on, and it's definitely a lot of work. It's different from men topping in piv because I don't even directly get a lot of pleasure from it. However, I feel like it's trivial to be better at it than some men are. Giving a shit about the other person's experience, being willing to work for another pers… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Women shouldn't defend women who are obviously wrong just because they are women.Okay, a couple things. It would be difficult to say that an outfit obviously "violates modesty". I'm in the US and I've lived in a variety of places in the US, and what's considered daring or immodest varies by the norms of the area. In one place, tiny shorts and sports bras are typical gym wear, but in another, not wearing a shirt is abnormal and frowned on. If someone wore something so extreme that people everywhere found it obviously "violating modesty," then I think both men and women would … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 04:47 PM |
| 24 | Women who are against and mad at paternity test. Just....why?I am a woman but I'm not flaired, and I just want to say that dudes who are worried about this should just tell any potential partner early in dating that they have seen other men and families get seriously harmed by paternity fraud and have decided that they will always want a paternity test for any pregnancy. That it's not to do with not trusting whomever they're with, but they just know that it would be an intrusive thought for them because of things outside of that particular relationship. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 05:19 PM |
| 11 | I DON'T buy that men who date a younger woman do it because they're easier to manipulateI've seen men online talk about doing this and giving advice to other men to do the same. Something like, make sure to get a girl who is young, fertile, and inexperienced in relationships so you can train her to be the partner you want | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 04:53 PM |
| 2 | How are women able to walk away from a guy so easily?I'm not sure about all of it, but the mourning the relationship before ending it was true for me. If I knew that I was going to end the relationship at that time, I would have. I don't think it's right to lead people on. But I was just resigned to being in a relationship with a lazy depressed man who would rather play porn games than do things with me, never put effort into sex, would never do dishes/laundry/etc. despite me making more money and working more, was very insecure about me doing thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/24 12:33 AM |
| – | Body count always has and always will matterThis is a real thing and is gross and misandrist and/or homophobic. I'm a bi women and it's neutral whether a man is bi. If anything I find it to be a positive for men to be bi just because it's a signifier that they aren't going to erase my bisexuality and aren't completely brainwashed about what a man is supposed to be (straight, stoic, invulnerable, only emotion is anger, etc). Straight men can be the same way, it can just take a little longer to determine those things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 02:32 AM |
| 1 | What exactly does a ‘Chad’ look like?I saw a study that indicated that women tend to vary more in what they find attractive visually than men do on average. So Chad is probably in the eye of the beholder. The amount of muscle a woman likes in men definitely varies a lot. I don't like a lot of muscle mass in a man, but there are definitely a lot of women who do. I think the phenomenon of Tumblr sexymen is an interesting look into this whole thing. A lot of Tumblr sexymen are kind of weird looking guys that you wouldn't necessarily e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 09:04 PM |
| – | CMV: A man isn't obligated to step in and save a woman from being mugged or assaulted.I am a woman, and idk dude, if I see someone being obviously harmed and I think I could do something to help, I don't think I could stop myself from trying. Same for animals. It's a different matter if it's a situation where I don't think I could help and I'd be more likely to end up in harm's way myself. I understand that people don't have an obligation to help others, but I wouldn't trust someone who doesn't have an impulse to help if someone's being harmed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/24 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Women grossly exaggerate the prevalence of drink spikingAny depressant spiked in a drink is dangerous. Why are you acting like it only really counts if it's GHB or roofies? They're hard to get nowadays because of their reputation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 02:43 AM |
| – | CMV: People put way more more sexual performance pressure on men than on women.Oh, I wasn't intending to be mocking the idea. I'm actually waiting for a new strap on belt to arrive in the mail haha. I was intending to use the "lol" as a pragmatic particle to signal a lighthearted tone or perhaps mild amusement at the idea that someone would seek a situation where they are topping if they dislike needing to be the primary performer :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/24 09:11 PM |
| – | CMV: People put way more more sexual performance pressure on men than on women.It has more to do with tops and bottoms than men and women, really. That's the mechanics of sex: tops perform. Find a woman into pegging if you aren't gay and you don't want to be the performer lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/24 04:12 PM |
| 9 | Why might women be so averse to using female (internal) condoms?It's not an option for me because my boyfriend is hung like a horse. Also, all hormonal birth control seems to worsen my quality of life. Using hormonal methods to reduce period severity or other conditions is a great option for the people it works for though! We use condoms until he gets a vasectomy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 10:24 PM |
| 2 | "Men need to treat us like human beings " is deceptivePeople dehumanize other people on the basis of gender all the time, both toward the same gender and the opposite gender. The dehumanization often involves assumptions, like assuming that someone is the same as another person of the same gender instead of treating them as an individual who might have their own thoughts, feelings and preferences that could even be at odds with what is considered typical of their gender. Dehumanization on the basis of gender can also be a lack of empathy, an assump… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/24 04:23 PM |
| 3 | "Men would fuck anything" is just female fantasy for them to feel more attractive than they really areThis was a Lonely Island reference. I'm a woman and I don't hold this attitude myself lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/24 03:35 AM |
| 1 | "Men would fuck anything" is just female fantasy for them to feel more attractive than they really areTo take this subject somewhat seriously: it seems like it's more common among men than women to have some kind of specific fetish for a type of partner. It's well-known that there's a specific contingent of men who are into morbidly obese women. Anorexia fetishists who want women who are skeletal and nearly dead also exist, and are almost universally men. If you look in the dark underbelly of NSFW subreddits, you can find ones dedicated to all kinds of hyperspecific interests, including many tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/24 04:40 PM |
| 5 | "Men would fuck anything" is just female fantasy for them to feel more attractive than they really are🎶 doesn't matter, had sex 🎶 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/24 04:11 PM |
| 3 | This whole idea of "get with someone you're not attracted to because it's your duty as a citizen"I'm still charitable based on personality, but I've seen the damage it can do to someone to be with someone who others consider much more attractive than themselves. I'm not planning on doing that to someone again lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 02:39 AM |
| 14 | This whole idea of "get with someone you're not attracted to because it's your duty as a citizen"When I was a teenager, I remember a bunch of guys talking about how women wouldn't even give them a chance, and I decided that it was a fair complaint and I would give guys a chance. I said yes to most dates I was asked on, sometimes with the disclaimer that I wasn't necessarily into them at the time, but we could see how it would work out. This was a terrible idea. It didn't matter what I said, guys would get their hopes up and, in some cases, would have a much worse time once I gave them a cha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | The gender ratio is almost even, so why are so many guys unable to land a single girlfriend, while every girl seems to be takenDon't predate on the girls lol. I almost added that as a note in my previous comment, but I didn't want to look like I assume men will do that. It's a way to meet girls with common interest, you'd need to be prepared to fully just make new friends and help some new people get into the hobby. But meeting more people and having more friends is a good route toward eventually getting into a relationship, either with those people or people they introduce you to. Just increasing one's social circle ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 08:13 PM |
| 1 | The gender ratio is almost even, so why are so many guys unable to land a single girlfriend, while every girl seems to be takenYeah, I know it varies. That said, a lot of ttrpg podcasts have a big female audience. There may well be a lot of girls in your area who really want to try it out, but they're intimidated by how male dominated the local spaces are. If you can DM, you could try hosting a game that is specifically geared toward newbies in a friendly, supportive, and welcoming environment. I'd bet there would be girls interested | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 08:08 PM |
| – | The gender ratio is almost even, so why are so many guys unable to land a single girlfriend, while every girl seems to be takenThank you. So many girls in college are single, for real. Also, bars can be majority women if it's karaoke night. I feel like I'd honestly have to really try to end up in as many male-dominated spaces as OP is saying. Also, if you want to see a majority female space with a definite presence of single women, try taking up swing dance or something. If you like it enough to get good at it, it could be a viable way to woo someone. There tends to be more "follows" than "leads," so being at all compet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Women lose attraction to their husbands more than the reverse, and that's why women divorce much more oftenI'm not sure you understand. If it's evolutionarily advantageous for that behavior to happen, there would be some mechanism that triggers it, which could be as simple as the physical and emotional intensity of taking care of a tiny baby. If a man impregnates someone, doesn't even know, it was a one night stand or whatever, they aren't going to experience a dip in testosterone. It isn't some evolutionary magic that once your sperm creates life, you have a dip in testosterone. To my knowledge, we … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 10:49 PM |
| 5 | Calling men "pornsick" is a distraction from the fact that social media has over-exposed women to choiceYou mean that you can't get a sense of that at all? And you're also hypocritically wanting someone with a much lower body count than yourself? That sounds like a rough situation :( | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Calling men "pornsick" is a distraction from the fact that social media has over-exposed women to choiceMaybe you shouldn't pursue women who seem like they would hook up with you quickly? If they'll do it with you, why wouldn't they have done it with others? Lol this is such a silly thing to say XD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 04:26 PM |
| 2 | Women lose attraction to their husbands more than the reverse, and that's why women divorce much more oftenI mean, is that because the first two years of raising a baby take a serious toll on the whole household, or because of some psychological signal to lower testosterone? If a man is raising a baby that isn't his own through adoption or whatever, is it the same? Is it the presence of a baby in general, such that men who work in NICU's or something would get the same thing, at least until they are desensitized to babies? I know you weren't asserting a causation, I'm just really curious about this s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Women lose attraction to their husbands more than the reverse, and that's why women divorce much more oftenWhat do you mean by saying that being stressed out by their wives leads to higher testosterone? Did they show a change in testosterone, or is it simply a broad correlation? What do you mean "but" poly is linked to women having higher testosterone? It seems like it makes sense since higher testosterone in women is linked to having more sexual desire. People who are more sexually desirous are more likely to choose to be poly. I don't see it as an issue regardless | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 05:10 PM |
| 12 | Women lose attraction to their husbands more than the reverse, and that's why women divorce much more oftenI checked out the study he linked about lower testosterone and long term relationships, and it was purely observational. They just took some college students, asked them some questions, and tested their saliva testosterone once. It honestly looks like they didn't even control for other factors that might affect testosterone. I looked for it, but haven't found anything that shows that being in a committed relationship actually caused anyone's testosterone to decrease. We need a study where we hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 04:37 PM |
| – | Gay men love men more than women doGay men can feel social pressures to look good at a similar intensity as straight women. Gay communities can also be very vicious about men being overweight or dressing poorly. I think straight men would see more physical desire from their desired sex (though not to the same extent as gay men) if they put more emphasis on looking good. Source: Am currently with a man who takes his grooming and fashion very seriously, and not only do I compliment his physical appearance way more than with previou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 11:03 PM |
| 0 | Why men must never open up to women.Idk, my boyfriend is an incredible supportive partner, but it's also an equal exchange. We've both talked each other down from panic attacks, helped lift each other up from states of depression, cried about our mothers together, the whole thing. It's not our typical state, of course, but it happens, and we both want to be there for each other in these times of human struggle and weakness. Those experiences build trust and connection with each other too. And he's a tall dominant man with a huge d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Feminism cant claim moral superiority on gender issues and gender equality without giving equal importance and providing equal effort to mens issuesWhen it comes to the work of activism, no person can champion everything, they have to be targeted to make a difference. It just doesn't make sense to say that someone who is an activist for a feminist cause must also organize for another cause, whether it's for men or something else. I dislike the kind of feminism that doesn't care about men at all. Feminists are the people I first heard educate about male victims of abuse and domestic violence, and about the way education is failing boys, so I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Are women even really afraid of men?I wrote this out for the other thread, but it got removed before I could post, and it's still pretty applicable here: You want to know the truth? I think strange men potentially have a biological incentive to overpower me for their own enjoyment. And the uglier or more disadvantaged the man, the more likely that they're desperate. Even men smaller than me could probably physically overpower me. And honestly, even men who I could overpower, I still fear being touched intimately without my consent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 05:50 PM |
| 8 | Are women finding less men are willing to help them?I think I've only seen bouncers by the bathroom at really big clubs in major cities. Most clubs I've been to only seem to have two or so bouncers by the entrance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/24 07:00 PM |
| 8 | Young women's view of their own maturity is highly overrated and sometimes narcissisticI think there are two things that contribute to this stuff a lot. One is that, at least when I was a kid, the kinds of things people praised kids for as "mature" were being poised, serious, etc. Things that were called immature were joking around, being loud, things that annoyed adults. Also being reckless in terms of potential injury. If you get college-age guys together, it's not uncommon at all for them to joke around and risk physical injury. Even guys older than that. I'm not saying it's an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 07:18 PM |
| 1 | It is always a mans fault if he can't attract women in a majority of peoples minds?There's a subset of women who fall in love with personalities more than looks. It's not a large subset, but becoming friends with this subset is the best way to end up dating them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Guys are not bad at sex-- you areTurning your partner on plus communication is even better than either on their own for sure. Communication can be sexy. "You like that? Would you like it if I sucked on your nipples or your earlobes? What have you been craving that I can do to you? Try touching me this way, it drives me wild. Fuck, that feels amazing." Etc etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/24 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Guys are not bad at sex-- you areSorry for the late reply, but what does that have to do with kinks and fetishes? I'm in the kink community, so I'm curious lol Tbh, the three most important things for getting good at sex are a desire to please someone's partner, being good at reading the other person's reactions to figure out what works, and learning how to communicate and ask questions about pleasure in the bedroom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/24 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Guys are not bad at sex-- you areWhat do you mean by the notion of fetishes or kinks? What point is moot in that case? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/24 02:00 AM |
| 3 | Would the women of PPD be okay with a tag that indicates their age and weight?As a kinkster, this is real shit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Would the women of PPD be okay with a tag that indicates their age and weight?Yikes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 04:41 PM |
| 1 | CMV: choosing the bear has been detrimental to our cause.That was about you seeming to view yourself as part of a woman hivemind | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/24 12:59 AM |
| 1 | CMV: choosing the bear has been detrimental to our cause.I never claimed to be a man lol. I'm not saying that it could be someone from the past, I'm saying that there are people who currently exist on the earth whom we would not consider modern and civilized. Uncontacted tribes come to mind. The reason I question whether you're really a woman is because you ask the initial question as if you consider yourself part of a woman hivemind, and I don't typically see people actually think of themselves that way. You can answer any way you like as long as you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/24 11:46 PM |
| 1 | CMV: choosing the bear has been detrimental to our cause.which answer appears to be the most unhinged in the mind of the general public. It sounds like this is a teachable moment then I guess, spread awareness, you can avoid being attacked by bears in the woods. (Unless it's a polar bear, then all bets are off and I would 100% choose the man. But I assumed it would not be a polar bear because it's in the woods) a modern civilized man... The question is about it being a random man. I can't assume the person would be modern or civilized or speak the sam… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/24 11:18 PM |
| 1 | CMV: choosing the bear has been detrimental to our cause.Your view appears to hinge on the idea that a bear is inherently more dangerous than a person (therefore it's silly to choose a bear instead of a person) If that premise goes away, your view falls apart, no? Are you a real woman btw? Lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/24 10:54 PM |
| – | CMV: choosing the bear has been detrimental to our cause.Hey guys, do you understand bears? If you make noise in a way that would indicate to a bear that you are there and that you are not one of their prey items, they'll generally ignore you or avoid you. They mostly just attack humans if they're intending to get food humans have nearby or if they're surprised by humans. So given that I understand how to avoid being attacked by a bear, I would think that a random man has a slightly higher risk of attacking me, and I'm not deluding myself into thinkin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/24 06:03 PM |
| 3 | Why is it normalized for women to be irritable and thus yell at their partners when before they menstruate or are pregnant?Being a bitch and physical violence aren't comparable, what are you talking about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 09:41 PM |
| 5 | Why is it normalized for women to be irritable and thus yell at their partners when before they menstruate or are pregnant?I have an actual theory on why it's normalized. I was raised in a much more traditional gender roles culture - women were expected to be stay-at-home moms, do all the cooking (with the exception of grilling), etc. Men were expected to be the bread winners and be the head of the home. It was also a very religious culture (Christianity). In this culture, women openly encouraged each other to wield their emotions against men, to train men to capitulate to their emotions. "Yes dear" "happy wife, hap… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Telling small d men to be good at oral amd fingering is emasculatingAre you just looking for people to understand that having a small dick is hard? I understand that. I understand that being short is hard too. Most women don't have the size of a man's penis as a primary consideration in finding a relationship. They care about other things a lot more. There are some women out there who have a particular desire for cumming from piv sex, but most women care about whether they enjoy spending time with someone and whether that person wants to put any effort into gett… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 07:58 AM |
| 1 | Telling small d men to be good at oral amd fingering is emasculatingYeah, that's why I said I'd suggest clitoral stimulation during piv and learning angles? How about this, if a woman had vaginismus and isn't having success treating it such that they can't tolerate penetration, do you think it would be undermining their femininity if people recommended that they focus on other sexual acts instead of characterizing themselves as sexually insufficient? Of course, you would expect their sexual partner to do things to please them like oral as well. That example is m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Telling small d men to be good at oral amd fingering is emasculatingI think the advice should be more to use clitoral vibrators during sex and learn angles. Foreplay/oral is for everyone though. For that matter, clitoral stimulation and angles are also for everyone. It also really depends on the girl, we can vary a lot in what we need to cum. I feel like the advice to get good at oral and fingering is often intended to be in response to someone being concerned that their penis itself isn't pleasurable enough and wanting to be an enjoyable and desirable lover. Pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Telling small d men to be good at oral amd fingering is emasculatingMy huge dong boyfriend is also the best at oral and fingering, which is very important because he has a huge dong that requires preparation every time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 05:36 PM |
| 3 | If woman have the choice over abortion, should men have the choice over child support?I'd say that we can't compel anyone to give birth or to raise a child, but we can compel people to contribute funds if they participate in creating a child who is alive and needs it. So we can't force men to raise children, but we can force them to pay child support. If for whatever reason the father has full custody of a child, the mother can be forced to pay child support. If men advocate for 50/50 custody, they can often get it. It's not fair (in multiple ways), but rights pre-birth can only … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:05 PM |
| – | Debate : Claiming that most People wouldn‘t cheat if a perfect replacement came is complete delusion.My concern with this is that he wasn't trying it with everyone. It really depends on stage of life and whether someone would even see any benefit in "improving" things versus staying with what they know. I think most young people have a significant potential to jump ship, but less as people get older, but even with older people there's a percentage that will want to upgrade, and there's a percentage of young people who will always want same over change, even if it's probably a positive change. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/24 01:14 AM |
| – | Women hate age gap relationships because they are scared of being tossed aside in favour of young womenThe concern I have with this is that she's still in a stage of rapid development and you probably aren't, she may outgrow you in maturity by the time she's thirty, unless she's currently too immature for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Women hate age gap relationships because they are scared of being tossed aside in favour of young womenThere are a ton of predatory relationships in all kinds of situations, and not all age gap relationships are straight up predatory. Obviously predatory relationships are bad. If you're purposely aiming for the kind of person who won't have the experience to recognize your flaws or controlling behavior until they're already used to them, you're a piece of shit. However, I think there's a problem with age gap relationships whether or not they're particularly predatory, specifically when the younge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Women have a tendency to victimize themselves by framing past relationships that didn't work out as involving "manipulation" or "abuse"What do you mean by "too much nuance"? The only places I can see it being particularly ambiguous is when people do know each other or are interacting and it's ambiguous whether there are signals that something would be welcome, and even that only takes you so far. I guess I think of it as especially important for people to be courteous in crowded environments as much as possible, if they're civilized people. People taking liberties in that kind of situation kind of indicates that they're pretty … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/23 07:21 AM |
| 3 | Women have a tendency to victimize themselves by framing past relationships that didn't work out as involving "manipulation" or "abuse"For real! It doesn't seem to be as prevalent for men as for women, but the way our culture doesn't take male victims seriously is appalling. I've seen male victims themselves not take it seriously as if doing so would make them weak, when the truth is that suppressing the issue in their heads leaves them more compromised over time. That said, I think there might be some regional variation in attitudes, the people I know in real life who care about sexual assault care about all victims and are fr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/23 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Women have a tendency to victimize themselves by framing past relationships that didn't work out as involving "manipulation" or "abuse"I was mostly talking about why crime statistics don't cover these things that are still considered assault. And I did agree that it can't really be addressed. But idk, I think we could have a cultural understanding that sexually touching people without permission is bad and could have consequences without becoming a police state, let me know if I'm wrong on that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/23 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Women have a tendency to victimize themselves by framing past relationships that didn't work out as involving "manipulation" or "abuse"Out of curiosity, would it make a difference if it was, say, a 6'6 bodybuilder who groped you? I mean, maybe you fit that description, I don't know. But if you were obviously physically outmatched and couldn't do anything physically to the guy, would it become about equivalent to a woman groping you since you still can't really respond physically? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/23 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Women have a tendency to victimize themselves by framing past relationships that didn't work out as involving "manipulation" or "abuse"True! And that's what women do too. Get pissed and feel less safe, but not report it. Also, what if a man grabs your dick in a bar? I'm a huge advocate for male victims, we need to take sexual assault on men and boys way more seriously as a society. I know many men who have experienced sexual assault or worse, and while it's not as ubiquitous as women experiencing it, men can be put in an even worse, more isolated position afterwards, which can prevent them from truly healing for years or even d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/23 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Women have a tendency to victimize themselves by framing past relationships that didn't work out as involving "manipulation" or "abuse"You said that "these women are a minority" referencing those who have been assaulted, raped, or abused, so I was responding to that. Who else should I be responding to? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/23 04:55 PM |
| 0 | Women have a tendency to victimize themselves by framing past relationships that didn't work out as involving "manipulation" or "abuse"Most women I know have been assaulted. Getting groped in a crowd is assault, you know? It's a minority of men who assault, but they do it a lot, and I think probably a slim majority of women have experienced it. Most of it isn't reported because, you know, "someone squeezed my butt in a crowd, no clue who it was" isn't something that can really be addressed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/23 04:44 PM |
| 10 | Karen are just normal women that lost their halo effectThere are other women who will kick another woman's ass, though usually women will throw insults instead of fists. But more importantly, saying that the vast majority of customers (both men and women) are pleasant and not entitled is already enough to disprove OP's position that all women are as entitled as Karens. From my time as a server, I found the number of entitled customers to be fairly evenly mixed between men and women. In both, it felt more like a power play than anything else | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/23 04:46 PM |
| -1 | You only think women’s standards are unrealistic because you view them as a monolith.You're wrong. Source: am woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 04:11 PM |
| 1 | The body-shaming of short men on social media has reached epidemic proportions, yet there seems to be no mainstream discourse about it. Why?I agree with that, just saying that it's been years and it might be time to move onto other things. Men have it hard, tbh, I'm not discounting that at all. It's just a bit frustrating for opposition to a very old commercial and an Instagram post with a trans woman to be taking up so much attention at this point. Seems like a trap to still be putting much energy into those things. Not that I have the answers on what we should do to push things into better directions aside from just trying to be t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 07:25 AM |
| 1 | The body-shaming of short men on social media has reached epidemic proportions, yet there seems to be no mainstream discourse about it. Why?Okay, I definitely see how this isn't fair to men, but I also don't really see it as something significant one way or another in the need for attention to men's issues. Which is to say, opposing the commercial doesn't seem to do anything to say that we need to change our educational system, that men's mental health needs to be taken seriously, that loneliness is a huge problem, all of that kind of thing. Do correct me if I'm wrong, but this issue feels like a distraction from things that actuall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 02:26 AM |
| 1 | The body-shaming of short men on social media has reached epidemic proportions, yet there seems to be no mainstream discourse about it. Why?Okay, fair enough. Any recommendations for sources to learn about Gillette? I did some searching myself and what I found says that they have an ad where boys are mean to each other and mean to girls, and then men push back against bad behavior from other men. Is that right at all? From the description I can find on that, it doesn't sound like it has much to do with any of the men's issues I mentioned earlier in this thread. Was the so-called "bad behavior" from men actually healthy displays of m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:15 PM |
| 1 | The body-shaming of short men on social media has reached epidemic proportions, yet there seems to be no mainstream discourse about it. Why?I just did some searching about them as you suggested, but at least for bud light all I can find is that they advertised on Instagram with a trans woman, and I don't know what that could have to do with men's issues. Are there any articles or YouTube videos you could suggest to help me understand this a bit better? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Women don’t want men to have success in datingYou assume that people are way more self aware than they are. Or even if women do know what they want, a lot of them may be unable to articulate the factors that would go into what they want. Say, if a woman wants a man who is confident and dominant, if she just tells a man who is not displaying those traits that she likes confidence and dominance, and he's not very skilled socially, she could be inadvertently making him think that she wants to be assaulted. I'm not sure if you've ever tried to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Women don’t want men to have success in datingHonestly? If I give "bad advice" to men, it's because I think they would misunderstand "good advice." Yes, most women are attracted to dominance, myself included. But so many men are idiots socially that if I told men to be more dominant and confident, a huge number of them would think I'm telling them to be forceful and push past what women are comfortable with. So if I give men "good advice" on this topic, I could be creating a world where I am less safe. So instead I'm more likely to tell men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 03:24 PM |
| 1 | The body-shaming of short men on social media has reached epidemic proportions, yet there seems to be no mainstream discourse about it. Why?Bud light and Gillette isn't a withdrawal of attention, it's a large amount of attention - an activism level of attention, you might say. Also, what do bud light and Gillette have to do with men's issues? Genuine question, I was under the impression that the controversy there was about different things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 03:47 PM |
| 1 | The body-shaming of short men on social media has reached epidemic proportions, yet there seems to be no mainstream discourse about it. Why?Withdrawing your money, attention, and time from the mainstream wouldn't make your issues any more visible to the mainstream? I'm someone very concerned about men's issues, education gaps, height discrimination, isolation, suicide, male victims of sexual assault, how men's issues are treated like a joke sometimes. I'm more concerned about men's issues than most men I know, I think the way men's issues are treated like a joke makes a lot of men less likely to engage with it. These issues need act… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 04:47 PM |
| 2 | Do women resent men who are late bloomers?That's rough, for real. Being a salesperson does definitely require some real social adeptness, but it's a different skill than learning to get genuinely emotionally close to people, whether it's friends or a relationship. I'd generally recommend working on getting some close friends if you don't already have them as a next step for that. And if you do already have some, trying to get some that are socially successful themselves and can invite you to places where you can meet people. It can feel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Do women resent men who are late bloomers?I didn't say they weren't a valid human, just that it can cause relationship issues. By "low value" I meant specifically in a sexual marketplace sense. People should be treated with value whether or not they're in a place to have a romantic relationship. In terms of what they can do? Join a toastmasters club. Join a book club. Do things with other people to learn social skills. The threshold needed to participate in those things is much lower than what's needed for a romantic relationship. Pay a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 08:10 AM |
| -1 | Do women resent men who are late bloomers?If you read my comment, I said it was really case by case, and I even started with an example of someone who wasn't shitty. Not sure how you got the idea that I thought late bloomers were generally bad? To respond to some of what you said though, a certain level of poor social skills can be a pretty big issue, both to finding a relationship and also to being a good partner if they get one. It can make someone "low value" if they are unable to sort that out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 07:16 AM |
| 6 | Do women resent men who are late bloomers?My boyfriend didn't have his first relationship until he was almost 30, didn't have sex for the first time till he was 29, and there are reasons for that that are not him being shitty. Sexually speaking, he's an incredible lover, the best I've had, pretty remarkable since he hasn't been sexually active that long. He was determined that when it happened, he was going to do anything he could to be good at it. He found resources to study, is great with sexual communication, responds to his partners… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/23 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Non trad women, are you still expecting trad behavior from men?I'm not a trad woman. I'm poly, in the BDSM scene, etc. I don't tend to have trad requirements for men. Most of the serious relationships I've had with men, I've made more money than them, I genuinely want men to be open with their feelings and want to support them emotionally. My current boyfriend, he and I were crying about our mothers together shortly after we met in person after talking long distance for a few months. That said, there are definitely some things that I like that might resembl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/23 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manWow, some of y'all think fuckboys are actually getting laid? Lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 08:29 PM |
| 1 | I'm incredibly skeptical that personality or other characteristics can "override" lack of physical attraction - please change my mind.I've done this. My ex was fat and balding and a bit shorter than me, but he was also charismatic and funny and clever and sexually dominant, and that actually affected my impression of his physical appearance in a sense. I had a lot of people interested in me when I was 19, but I got with him and spent more than ten years with him. Over time, his insecurity with his appearance and height combined with the amount of attention I got for my appearance made him less charismatic and charming, plus he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 05:39 PM |
| 5 | Q4RP: How many women do you know actually "dual mate"?I actually kind of did the opposite. I spent the ages of 19 to 30 with a fat short balding yet steady guy and then that relationship failed (in part because he felt insecure about being shorter and less attractive than me) and I only get with people who are a closer looks match with me now. My boyfriend is a 6' with a swimmers body and an amazing personality. It's funny, I used to just think of myself as a rebuttal to incel types, personality is really what appealed to me with my ex, and because… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Who and where are these invisible women?There are all kinds of unusual ways people can experience attention from others. I have this kind of strange experience where people tell me that I'm interesting and desirable, but people rarely express interest in having a more ongoing connection with me. There's been a strange number of times where I've asked someone in my wider community to hang out and they've told me that they have wanted to spend time with me/get to know me more but had held back from initiating. It's something that's real… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 05:50 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Most men are totally okay with waiting to have sex, but they're scared of being friendzoned so they feel pressured to make moves on datesEven if some dudes feel that way, they're idiots. The better strategy is to be kinda sensual and interested, but not push for sex immediately. Make her want it. You can act romantic/not platonic without just acting thirsty | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/23 07:49 PM |
| 2 | If it wasn't for sex, most men would not bother with women.What about gay men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?I come from a middle/upper middle class family, and when I was around 18 a guy took me in a date where he was trying to leverage his family's wealth a lot, drove a really fancy car, took me to see the original artworks in their mcmansion in a gated community, the works. I found it very off-putting and told him that it seemed like he was trying to appeal to me with money, which isn't really what I was looking for. He was really, really sad that I understood his behaviors in that way (lol). To be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 08:54 PM |
| 0 | Benevolent sexism is underreportedThis benefit you're talking about is not equally applied to all women, and the ones it is, it serves to protect them and give them stuff, but that's usually combined with a reduction of their agency. Some people would happily trade a bit of agency for safety and security, but not everybody | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?And someone eating alone sounds like the number one most irrelevant thing ever. Normalize eating at a restaurant alone sometimes, I do that sometimes even though I have multiple partners. To me, eating alone doesn't indicate anything at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?I know someone like this, he's a friend of mine. I'm poly, but my primary partner has a history with him and would be uncomfortable with me hooking up with him, otherwise I would. He honestly needs to lower his standards, he wants some really really specific things in a partner, so his pool of potentials is really really small. I hope something works out for him though. He is a flawed person, but aren't we all? He's not a scum bag. Getting into a relationship is the most important thing to him i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 08:57 PM |
| – | Relationships with big age gapsDepends on the degree, but it definitely can be. For example, consider someone who has developmental issues resulting in them being permanently mentally young. Can a romantic relationship with an adult really be reasonable? I mean, who really wants to be partnered to someone who they consider significantly underdeveloped in relation to themselves? Sounds boring and/or annoying tbh. It definitely is a spectrum, and different people "end up" at different places. Consider the person in their fortie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 11:01 PM |
| – | Relationships with big age gapsI think that people who start dating are probably at a similar level (if they're not, that's the power imbalance issue/it's weird to be with someone who's significantly less developed than yourself), so if one person still has a lot of growing to do, and the other doesn't because they're already at an age where their brain is more calcified, then the one who's still growing will likely grow past the other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 10:07 PM |
| – | Relationships with big age gapsAge gaps matter a lot less if everyone involved is over 35 or 40. When I was younger, my relationships always had age gaps, and there are two major issues with them in my mind: 1) Power imbalance (varies depending on the people involved) 2) Different levels of development There's lots of talk about the first. For the second one, if you imagine a 30 year old with a 22 year old, if their levels of maturity are a good match at the beginning, they probably won't be after 5 years, say. The younger ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?Definitely. But yeah, after that experience with my ex, I don't think I would go for someone who is "below" me in multiple areas that society cares about again. I still don't care much personally, but there's baggage with that shit. And while intellectual and personality attractiveness are far more important to me as an individual, I'm finding that physical attractiveness in a partner is a really nice bonus. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?I am into the kink/BDSM scene, I help organize and run community events for this subculture in my area, and I am pretty solidly on the submissive side of the equation. One of my biggest requirements for partners is someone who can dom me. I spent ten years with a man who was short (shorter than me at 5'7 by just a bit), obese, balding, and made less money than me. I'm considered to be pretty attractive, sometimes intimidatingly so to several people. There are definitely a lot of people who saw a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 07:15 PM |
| 5 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?I'm a woman in a poly relationship with two women and one man in it, and when he has time he's planning to look for other female fwb or casual romantic relationships. Not really a rotation per se | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Why women think their Degree/Money/Career of their own is importantThe title says why they think it's important, not why they think it will attract men. Typo, perhaps? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Fiction written by women for women proves The Red PillWait, I thought the red pill was the recognition that men are disadvantaged in society because the nature of women is such that they consistently use men to their own benefit and the men's detriment. What are we saying is the red pill now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/22 08:47 AM |
| 2 | How much sex do women actually have?If you want a partner who will have a lot of sex with you, you should opt for someone who likes sex. I've found that very sexual women tend to have sex, they'll often be in relationships that involve sex most of the time or may have fwb. I know a lot of women who are on the asexual spectrum and they have less sex and also fewer relationships, typically | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/22 05:44 PM |
| 4 | QW: For those women who didn't engage in casual sex do you think you are unicorn or more common than the manosphere believes?I've had sex with about five men total, only one of which was outside a relationship or what I thought was becoming a relationship, ie casual. I think my numbers are fairly common. 31 years old now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/22 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Why do many women no longer desire sex after marriage?I was married for eight years, and the last couple years especially, sex did become more rare, occasionally more than a month between. Here are some things I would define as contributing factors, starting with things on my side: -I was on birth control which reduced my libido -I had anxiety problems and a stressful job that wasn't working for me -The way I offered sex when I wasn't already in the mood didn't work for him ("do you want to fuck tonight?" He would typically decline. He needed me to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/22 05:33 PM |
| 3 | A man reaches the age of 30 without ever experiencing sex, intimacy, or a romantic relationship (30 year old virgin). What is your initial honest reaction / assumption, can his life be corrected, and what advice would you give?My current boyfriend didn't have a girlfriend until he was 29 due to social anxiety and the effects of a traumatic childhood. He did a lot of working on himself in his twenties and gaining a foothold in a career in visual art before he felt ready to pursue a long-term romantic relationship. He's very high value and really amazing. Before I met him, I would have assumed that someone who didn't have sex or romance till so late life is probably asexual, aromantic, unmotivated, or for some reason un… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/22 07:50 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThe sulking was some of the worst of it for me tbh. And it was always my job to bring him out of it. So yeah, never again with that noise | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Would gender roles and dating dynamics be different if men didn’t prioritize sex so much? (ie: “think with their dicks”). If so, how? (tagged NSFW just in case)A small minority of women are easily capable of multiple orgasms, a small minority of women are incapable of any orgasms, and most women are somewhere in between | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 10:10 PM |
| 1 | How ''matched'' are most couples?I attempted to be with a man that most people considered less attractive and probably less accomplished than me. It was a mistake, and the lack of match made the relationship worse. Settling is a mistake. I'm not doing that anymore. To give some specifics, he was 5'6.5 while I was 5'7, he was obese while I was a healthy weight and strong hip to waist ratio, he was prematurely baldinghe made less money than me for the vast majority of our ten year relationship. To be honest, I was influenced by g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI was married to a man who was obviously less attractive than me (also a bit shorter than me, also made less money) for several years, and it was a huge waste for me. He was terribly insecure because he was with me, and it just got worse over time. Eventually called it quits and my life is so much better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 07:11 AM |
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