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Exactly. One of the things that I find most attractive about my boyfriend is how committed he is, not just to me, but any time he shows signs of being a loyal/committed person in general. I don’t feel like our relationship is lacking in excitement at all. If he seemed flaky or disloyal, that would not increase excitement at all, it would push me away from him and make me lose interest. I would be having way less fun with him
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 10:31 AM
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I find it really attractive actually. The idea that women are only into “excitement” and bad boys is bullshit. Yeah there are some women like that but they have issues, and don’t represent women as a whole. Also commitment doesn’t have to be boring
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 09:10 AM
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I won’t fuck anyone unless we are committed. I’m not sexually interested in anyone who isn’t “husband material”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:38 PM
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Pretty much when I found this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:59 AM
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Pretty much when I found this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:57 AM
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Pretty much when I found this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:56 AM
0

That’s not revenge porn, that’s just revenge…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 01:22 PM
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True love
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 12:34 AM
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Let me know when you think of something
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 09:17 AM
1

No but the general consensus on here is that women are terrible because of hypergamy, yet men are somehow fine
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 09:09 AM
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Ok but apparently that’s like their version of hypergamy, and it isn’t any better
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 09:01 AM
1

And men’s hypergamous nature doesn’t benefit women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:54 AM
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So why do men complain so much about female hypergamy when their version is no better?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:36 AM
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I’m a virgin girl and I’m not saving myself for marriage specifically, but only intend to lose it to someone I really love and am in a committed relationship with. So if that person wanted to save it for marriage than I would. Also women may have more options, but they tend to be less likely to take them than men
/r/seduction26/06/21 04:36 AM
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I’m a virgin girl and I’m not saving myself for marriage specifically, but only intend to lose it to someone I really love and am in a committed relationship with. So if that person wanted to save it for marriage than I would
/r/seduction26/06/21 04:36 AM
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Demisexual isn’t a label I use for myself, although maybe it partially fits? Idk. I don’t require an emotional connection to feel sexual attraction, but it does help a lot. Bonding with someone basically just amplifies the attraction I feel for them, so if they’re not attractive to me at all in the first place then they still won’t be even if I really like them as a person. My point isn’t that looks don’t matter, it’s that muscles don’t matter. It’s just not one of the factors that majorly influ…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 06:39 AM
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No, I date guys who I have a connection with and who I feel safe around, and also who I am attracted to. It’s just that him being muscular doesn’t really impact my attraction to him that much. If a guy is physically imposing but is gentle and sweet with me and I trust him then I won’t feel threatened. If I develop feelings for him then I probably will find his muscles attractive, but only because I already like him. The muscles probably won’t be the actual cause of the attraction. I could just a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:39 PM
5

So? They could also be used to hurt me. I’m attracted to men I feel safe with
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:22 PM
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Cos women don’t really care that much about muscles, men just think they do because that’s what THEY care about, and they project that onto women
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:18 PM
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No they don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 05:31 PM
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If you are not capable of being in a LTR, you are not high-value for anyones who wants a LTR, which is a lot of women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 07:57 AM
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If you are not capable of being able in a LTR, you are not high-value for anyones who wants a LTR, which is a lot of women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 07:57 AM
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Nope, literally just LTR +ATTRACTIVENESS (to me) + PERSONALITY. Never felt the need to monkey branch, and I can’t see that ever happening. Also, I’m not dating a 6’4 Aryan Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 12:32 PM
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I wouldn’t think someone is unappealing just because others do, I would make that judgement for myself. I literally said I wouldn’t date someone I wasn’t attracted to. It’s right there in my comment, did you even read it? As for the broke/child support part, I kind of assumed that was covered in the part where I mentioned previously that I don’t care about money. If he has debt, that’s his own problem, but I would be interested to know why because that could reveal important information about hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 12:28 PM
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So what does high value mean then, if having positive traits has nothing to do with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 08:36 AM
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The point is, his comparison isn’t really accurate to real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:58 AM
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Yeah exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:38 AM
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What do you mean, “regardless of whether he wanted a relationship or not”? Literally the whole point is the he DOESN’T want a relationship, which makes him low-value to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:38 AM
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Exactly. I would take poor, short, unknown Keanu Reeves over a rich, tall, famous asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:13 AM
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I just think it’s so sad how dead set they all seem to be about something which is completely wrong. But oh well, their problem I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:12 AM
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It’s not that he sucks, it’s that he isn’t high-value TO ME. He lacks an important relationship quality. Sour grapes would be if he was looking for a LTR, just not with me. I’m talking about a scenario where he is not at all relationship-minded.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:11 AM
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It’s actually hilarious how much men on here have tried to explain my own experience of attraction to me, as if they somehow know better than me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:01 AM
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I’m genuinely confused my what the problem is here? I’m someone who is only interested in LTR, not casual sex. Therefore a high value man, to me, is someone who has qualities that make him a good LTR partner. If he doesn’t have those qualities (for example not actually wanting to be in an LTR) then I, and many other women, would not consider him to be high-value
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:00 AM
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True, but SMV isn’t enough for me to consider a man, high value overall
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 11:12 PM
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Expensive car or clothes don’t do anything for me. Interesting stories maybe, but they don’t have to be about travel and you don’t have to be rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:56 PM
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I have never been attracted by someone buying a round at a bar
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:51 PM
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I mean I get what you’re trying to say, but there’s no correlation between how attractive I find someone and how wealthy they are. All the other factors are so much more important
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:47 PM
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Whatever. I never said that no alpha traits are subconsciously attractive to me, I just meant that wealth and status aren’t. But you’re not gonna accept that so you’re right, agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:32 PM
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I only speak for myself, and personally I wouldn’t sleep with anyone before commitment. If lots of other women are sleeping with him, then maybe he’s high value to that type of woman but not in general, because there are plenty of women like me who wouldn’t value him as a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:31 PM
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I don’t give a fuck how “alpha” a man is. I know what I find attractive, and it’s not wealth and status. If it’s a genuinely great man who shows great relationship potential but just doesn’t like me specifically, rather than being opposed to relationships as a whole, then your whole self-rationalisation thing would make some sense. But I’m not talking about that, I’m talking about a man who just is not relationship material, so I really wouldn’t feel like I’m missing out
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:24 PM
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Well yeah, it’s not like I think we’re gonna break up over this haha, I just prefer to keep my reddit account private and anonymous
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:17 PM
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Over how much time? It’s always been like that for me. Also, wealth and status aren’t parts of the ‘whole package’ that I particularly care about. Confidence isn’t even necessary attractive to me either. You’re so close with the idea that female to male attraction is based on more than just looks, but you haven’t quite got it yet
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:16 PM
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I am truly attracted to my boyfriend, and him having good qualities that are valuable in a relationship contributes to that. My primal instinct is not to mate with every good looking guy I see, which makes sense as an evolutionary strategy because that would be terrible for me and very unsafe. I instinctively respond best to men I feel comfortable with and safe around, who I also think look good. If I don’t detect that he would be kind to me, gentle, caring, and committed l, then I wouldn’t feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:03 PM
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Haha I know, it’s more if he sees this
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:57 PM
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Well in that scenario he does want to. If he genuinely was not interested in a LTR, rather than just cautious, then he would not be a suitable LTR partner
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:55 PM
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Oh whoops I misunderstood, too tired haha. I don’t wanna give his actual height but he is quite tall. Idk about abs cos of how little I actually get to see him in person due to covid
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:52 PM
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Ok. I still like him
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:44 PM
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It’s just the way you phrased it suggested that I would be lying to myself and pretending I was never attracted to a man when I actually was. When in fact, his lacking in good relationship qualities would genuinely reduce my attraction to him. It’s kind of like if I was someone who was only into guys over 6 foot, and I found out the guy I liked was actually way shorter than I initially thought he was, that would make him less attractive to me. It’s the same thing: finding out new information abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:44 PM
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I’m not sure I could name a feature haha, just him in general really. I like his hair, eyes, face, body shape, everything really. I mean I’m a straight woman, so I find men attractive by default, but my attraction to men isn’t something I really think about very much because it’s not really relevant or appropriate in most situations - also, I have better things to do with my time then lusting after random men. However it is relevant and much more appropriate when the man in question is my boyfri…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:40 PM
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I meant someone who didn’t want to be in a LTR in general. It’s completely different if he’s fully able and willing to commit in a LTR, but not to me cos I’m too ugly/low-value for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:26 PM
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I’m not talking about a man who just doesn’t like me, specifically, because he finds me ugly or whatever. I’m talking about a man who just isn’t interested in relationships and shows no sign of being able and willing to commit. They way he is, as a person, is romantically unattractive to me. So it’s not a case of “oh he doesn’t like me? Well I never liked him anyway so THERE” it’s more like “he’s cute... oh wait he’s a fuckboy? No longer cute”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:24 PM
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Oh thank god, a sensible person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:19 PM
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I honestly have no idea how objectively good-looking my boyfriend is. I personally find him to be the most attractive guy ever, but I am very heavily biased to the point where Idk what a random woman would think of him. I actually wasn’t particularly attracted to him at all when we first met, and he isn’t at all what I imagined my type to be, but as I got to know him and became romantically attached to him, he became more physically attractive in my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:19 PM
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I wouldn’t say exactly uniform. I mean there are some features that generally are considered more attractive than others, so there are some men that are generally considered handsome and some who are generally considered ugly. But there is definitely variation between women in terms of what they find attractive. I consider quite a lot, if mot most guys I meet who are my age to be attractive on a basic level, but that’s generally not enough for me to actually desire them. I don’t mean that they d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:15 PM
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Also, I know not every woman is like this, but personally I find it hard to seriously be attracted to a man I couldn’t see myself in a relationship with
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:07 PM
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I’m far to lazy to try and change a man. Also far too insecure - I don’t believe myself capable of actually changing a man, so even if he did seem to change I wouldn’t trust it to be legit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:06 PM
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I don’t wanna describe his exact appearance on here in order to maintain at least and illusion of anonymity, what exactly do you wanna know about him anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:59 PM
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Haha I’m just telling the truth, it’s up to you if you’ll believe it or not. I think you’re missing the key factor here, which is that I still have to like this man, which means he does need to have some good qualities and be attractive enough to me (idc how attractive other women find him). It’s just the things that were mentioned aren’t deal-breakers for me. If you asked if I would date a man who I found to be ugly, rude, disrespectful, etc then my answer would absolutely be no, I’m not gonna …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:57 PM
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I think it really depends on the woman. A lot of women, such as myself, would absolutely not want to be with a man who is not a good relationship partner, so his relationship ‘skills’ are really important.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:54 PM
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No it’s: if he’s not a good relationship partner, then he’s not a good relationship partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:52 PM
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Not if I personally found him unattractive. However, if he’s not conventionally attractive, but I’m attracted to him regardless, then he would be high-value to me. I don’t find being short to be a turn-off, so that wouldn’t really affect his value to me. I’m aware that being tall is a requirement for a number of women, so this person might not be considered high-value in general - in fact he almost certainly wouldn’t, seeing as he’s “unattractive” which suggests that no woman is attracted to him…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:51 PM
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If I liked him and he seemed like he’d make a good boyfriend, none of that would matter. If the reason nobody else likes him is because he’s a generally unappealing person, then chances are I will also find him unappealing. But I would judge that for myself, and not based on what other people think of him. If I find him attractive then great, that’s one less barrier in the way of our relationship (I don’t think it’s fair to date someone you’re not attracted to), but whether or not I actually wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:45 PM
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What cap?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:37 PM
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I would date one if I found one I liked. But I’m not gonna look because I’m already taken
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:37 PM
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Does high-value only refer to the sexual market value? What about relationship market value?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:36 PM
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I deem a man willing to commit as attractive, which is why I don’t go for chads. I’m sure there are woman that do, and they’re the most visible, but that doesn’t mean they’re the only ones
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:34 PM
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I would happily be in a relationship with a short, broke, unpopular nobody who I liked. I would rather be single than with a tall, rich, popular man who I don’t like.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:27 PM
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Well a lot of women also value LTR-minded men, and a lot of women don’t care that much about money. Therefore a high-value man who isn’t interested in a LTR is an oxymoron, regardless of whatever other good qualities he has
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:26 PM
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Depends on the person. What I consider a high-value man could be quite different from what another woman does. Personally, my goal in relationships is a LTR therefore I value qualities that make someone good LTR material. I don’t think you can say that you’re objectively high value just cos you’re tall and rich, although that does often help
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:24 PM
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If a man is not interested in a LTR, which is what I would want, then I would not consider him to be High-Value. It’s not all about money, height and status or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 07:09 PM
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No, I would hate that. Being attracted to my boyfriend’s personality and character makes me more attracted to his looks, they’re not like two completely separate things in my mind. I don’t think a romantic relationship can really work without physical attraction - that doesn’t mean both parties have to be objectively attractive, they just have to attracted to each other. So I wouldn’t mind if I was objectively ugly and my boyfriend was aware of that but still felt attracted to me regardless, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 05:24 PM
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Yeah I’ve got nothing against traditional values, it just kinda depends what those values are. Not promiscuous? Great. Misogynistic? Not so great
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:28 PM
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I know, it was just the first thing that came to mind as an example. But just as I can imagine a woman being sexually aggressive, dominant, slutty etc and still feminine, a man could easily have the opposite traits and still be at least masculine enough for me to be attracted to him. As for a real-life example I can’t think of any celebrities off the top of my head who I know would fit that description, but that’s largely because I don’t know any well enough to know about their ‘inner traits’ an…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:47 PM
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I think it’s perfectly possible to have traits associated with one gender without actually feeling or looking like that gender. For example I myself have some traits that are seen as more masculine than feminine (eg competitiveness in sport) but that doesn’t make me feel like a man in any way, and the way I present myself is very feminine. So I see no reason why a man who values relationships over sex and is romantic and perhaps even a bit ‘emotional’ would feel like a girl inside, or present hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:04 PM
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Well in that case I want the internal feminine qualities without the external qualities. I wouldn’t want him to be exactly like me, because I’m quite shy and unwilling to take the lead/dominate so my best match would be someone a bit more dominant in that regard - and for that I’m willing to accept him being a little more “masculine” internally, but not to the extent where it becomes off-putting. But I can’t see myself becoming sexually dissatisfied because my man is too romantic/kind/not slutty…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:44 PM
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Yeah I accept that there are differences between men and women, especially in terms of sexuality, but I don’t think the differences are so extreme that masculinity is equivalent to extreme sluttiness. If that is the case however, then I probably would prefer a man with ‘feminine’ qualities, but that depends on how you define ‘feminine’. A man who is kind, empathetic, gentle, loyal, committed, romantic and not promiscuous would be perfect, and I certainly wouldn’t think of him as “girly” rather t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:23 PM
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But I don’t want to date an older guy. I mean a few years older, sure. In his thirties? No. We’d have nothing in common, we’d be in completely different stages of life, I wouldn’t really feel able to bond with him in the same way I could with someone my own age. And I would struggle to deal with the fact that he’d be my first, and I would be “just another one” to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:05 PM
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Well that’s no use to me for another decade then. Also I don’t want to spend my youth waiting and waiting for love, just to end up being the girl that someone settles with because he’s had his fun and got bored of whoring around. I’d love to have a man by my side who’ll grow and develop with me as we share our life together, not one who only cares about me when he wants someone to fit into the role of ‘wife’
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 03:58 PM
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It’s not really like a choice I made which I force myself to adhere to, I just don’t have that desire. For me, sex is most appealing as a bonding experience between me and someone I have deep feelings for and a real connection with, not just for fun or the sake of it. Also I want it to feel special and meaningful and I think having lots of casual sex would ruin that. I admit that me being a virgin and shy/awkward especially when it comes to sex probably contributes to that mindset, but also that…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 03:35 PM
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Haha no. Men who want sex but no relationship are of negative value to me, because they dilute my dating pool and make it harder to find the men I actually want. I’m not sure you understand how much I don’t want to sleep with them. Imagine being flooded with matches on tinder but they all want relationships with you but no sex - wouldn’t that be annoying, if you were looking for sex without a relationship? Wouldn’t you want to filter out these women so you can focus on what you’re actually looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 02:54 PM
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Well as I’m not remotely religious or spiritual, but don’t sleep around. Is it so much to ask for a man on the same wavelength as me?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 02:47 PM
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I know, dating sucks in general. I never said it was easy for men, I’m just sick of men on this sub being all “woe is me, dating it SO EASY for women cos there’s so many fuckboys out there”. As a girl with no interest in casual sex, having options for sex but only sex is worse than having no options at all. Quality over quantity
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 02:40 PM
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Which is why dating sucks for many women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 02:36 PM
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You do realise that it’s possible to text someone frequently AND make your intentions clear and set up a date early on, right? They’re not mutually exclusive. Idk exactly what you did wrong but I doubt it was texting too much. There is something to be said for limiting texting so you have more to talk about on your dates, but that’s not the same thing. When a guy texts me a lot, that shows interest and commitment which makes me see him as more of a potential boyfriend. Making a point of not resp…
/r/seduction21/04/21 10:56 AM
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That might have something to do with the difference between “creepy” and “scary”: A skeleton is creepy, a lion is scary. It’s also about consent. A woman is much more likely to consent to being sexualised by a man she’s attracted to than a man she isn’t. It sucks, but that’s just how it is
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 12:37 PM
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Complete opposite: I also dislike men with lots of partners. Every single argument men make about how experienced women make bad partners applies to men as well, it’s actually so funny that they can’t see it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 07:06 PM
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I’m a female virgin, and my ideal partner would also be a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 07:13 AM
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Man may be able to father children at 70, but it’s a lot harder at that age https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3253726/. There are plenty of other reasons to be more attracted to younger men as well, eg better health and fitness, and let’s face it, younger men are considerably more attractive than old men. Believe me, I do not find ageing attractive in men at all. If I were to date an older man, it would absolutely be despite his age, and I would have to be able to get past his unattra…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 06:39 AM
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Cos it makes them feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 11:33 PM
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Men’s fertility also drops as they age
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:37 AM
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Just cos someone worked hard to be less attractive to be, doesn’t mean I don’t still find them less attractive as a result
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 01:21 AM
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Wdym?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 07:57 AM
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Well he is to me, but I’m very biased and I don’t think I can give an objective judgement
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 10:04 PM
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The age of consent here in the UK is 16, so no.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 07:24 PM
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I mean I have no intention of dating for any reason other than looking for a LTR, unlike some people my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 07:23 PM
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But the two are linked. It a sexual virgin is more likely to be an emotional virgin than a fuckboy is
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 09:59 AM
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No. Women are attracted to the men that they personally are attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 09:57 AM
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ABSOLUTELY! As a virgin myself, I want someone on the same kinda ‘level’ as me, and with similar views about sex and relationships. I want it to be as special for him as it will be for me, and not be just another notch on his bedpost. I find promiscuity to be a huge turn off in men, and it would severely limit my ability to feel secure in a relationship, and therefore bond with my partner, if he was a slut. I think it’s hilarious but kinda sad that men don’t realise all the negative things they …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 09:49 AM
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18 year old girl here - LTR has always been my goal, I never had a hoe phase and don’t intend to. I met my first boyfriend last year and hope it last forever, even if that means I never experience anyone else. Luckily a LTR was also what he wanted, but he is a bit older and more experienced than me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 07:47 AM
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You’ve perfectly explained exactly how I feel. Sex for the sake of it doesn’t appeal to me at all, I only want it as part of intimacy and bonding with someone I love, and I want it to be the same for them. Also, I want him to enjoy sex with me because he like ME, and not just because he likes sex
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 01:17 PM
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Was these women potential sexual partners, or was it a different context? Unfortunately the attitude of society towards virgin men sucks, so they could well have just been making fun of you for seeming like a ‘loser’ in the eyes of society, rather than the fact that your virginity makes you universally attractive to women (not saying that’s ok though). However, when it comes to dating, a lot of women will still have that preference (even if they aren’t the majority). Those women are more likely …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 09:33 AM
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Yeah I’m sure that’s true for lots of people. I have no idea what I’ll be like in 5 years, although hopefully I’ll still be with my boyfriend so it won’t matter what my dating pool is like and how I feel about it. Personally, if I want a guy who’s in demand, the qualities that make him so in demand might attract me, but not that fact itself that he’s in demand. In fact that might even put me off, especially if he’s actually slept with all those women who wanted him. I also probably wouldn’t feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 09:20 AM
2

Well yeah but the guy who knows how to please a woman must have slept with some, even if he isn’t a slut
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 04:08 AM
2

So glad I’m not completely crazy then haha!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 08:42 PM
2

Wow finally someone on PPD I agree with!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 08:27 PM
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I relate so much, omg. I don’t shame people who sleep around, (but if I do, it’s definitely more men haha cos of the double standard like you said), and I don’t think that my inexperience makes me better than anyone else because I’m ‘pure’ or anything like that, but my dating preference is less experienced men. It’s not just a decision I’ve made, I genuinely feel more attraction to guys who seem less ‘slutty’. Of course, some people prefer someone with more experience in bed, and that’s fine, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 08:13 PM
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I just people would stop with this whole “women are most attracted to experienced men” bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 08:02 PM
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Makes sense. I’m a virgin girl with basically no sexual experience whatsoever, and my ideal boyfriend would be similarly inexperienced, because then I imagine would feel more special for both of us and I would feel much more secure. Promiscuity is a huge turn-off for me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 05:35 PM
3

That’s literally just FDS
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 12:57 PM
2

That’s the dream for me, but let’s face it, unrealistic
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 09:23 PM
3

Well we agree on something then
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 09:37 PM
3

Damn who hurt you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 09:34 PM
3

Oh you’re one of those people who think all women are manipulative and awful
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 09:24 PM
3

Cool, as long as you’re not being manipulative POS about it then good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 09:16 PM
5

Well congratulations.. I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 09:13 PM
3

If your goal is never to have a girlfriend then yeah it’s probably a pretty good strategy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 09:09 PM
4

Which is why women who want boyfriends avoid red pill men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 09:07 PM
3

Oh I’m sure they are - I was just talking about my experience of it. Every woman is different and I am probably a bit of an outlier. But it’s not like men are any better when it comes to cheating, and it does seem to me that female attitudes tend to be closer to mine than male attitudes. I think that when women cheat, it tends to be less likely to be because of pure lust than when men cheat. I think that when women cheat, a lot of the time they have probably already started to lose feelings, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 07:21 PM
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I don’t think I’ve ever felt any hypergamous urges, consciously or subconsciously. I mean tbh I still don’t completely get what hypergamy even is but none of the definitions I’ve heard seem to describe my behaviour, attitudes, or subconscious urges in any way. I genuinely don’t think I am naturally hypergamous, but hey, I could be wrong so feel free to educate me further on the topic seeing as it confuses the hell outta me anyway. But thanks though, I hope he does feel that way, and if he does I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 06:51 PM
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Yeah I’m trying. I admit, however frustrating it is to hear men go on and on about “hypergamy” being women’s nature when it’s clearly nonsense and I haven’t experienced anything of the sort, I do take some comfort in the fact that if they can be so wrong about women, they can be wrong about men too
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 06:38 PM
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Not really. I notice attractive boys in the same way I notice attractive girls, or attractive guys who aren’t my type. Like I can see they look nice but am not interested in anything sexual with them, or even the thought of it. Even boys I used to kind of fancy a bit no longer seem attractive to me in that way anymore. My previous celebrity crush just looks like a regular guy now, no butterflies. Now I have a boyfriend, he’s the only person I think of in that way. Attraction for me is based on s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 06:32 PM
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Well that is reassuring. I’m just paranoid, because of all the stuff I hear on the internet, particularly on this sub, about how men are “naturally polygamous” and that kinda thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 06:21 PM
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I don’t fell pressured by other women to look good, just competitive. But that’s because I know in order to be the prettiest girls in a man’s eyes, I have to be the prettiest girl he sees. Whereas my boyfriend is automatically the most attractive guy in my eyes because he’s my boyfriend, he doesn’t need to compete with anyone else. I’d love it if I knew he felt the same way about me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 06:06 PM
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There would still be pressure, of course. But I think I’d be happy with just being attractive and having a good personality, rather than feeling I have to look constantly beyond perfect because my looks are the most important thing, and I’m in competition with all the other girls
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 06:02 PM
3

Haha yeah just gotta be lucky
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 05:59 PM
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Idk, it’s not for me to judge, although tbh probably not, let’s face it. But I wouldn’t mind being single if I knew it was just because of my personality - my personality is very much who I am, and I’m (mostly) happy with it, so if someone else doesn’t like it then I don’t really care and wouldn’t want to date them anyway. That wouldn’t be anywhere near as depressing as knowing that I’m just not pretty enough - something that’s much less of a reflection of who I am, and something that I’m actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 05:59 PM
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Shame there’s a reason this is called a fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 05:47 PM
9

Omg this is my dream
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 05:44 PM
12

I would love that. It would make me feel under less pressure to look perfect all the time, and I’d feel so happy knowing I could be valued for my personality. I’d also feel much more comfortable with into machine with men and more able to open up to them/trust them. I would feel much more secure in the relationship, and less upset that I know he’ll always lust after other girls and lose attraction to me as time goes on
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 05:44 PM
1

Why would I?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/21 07:39 AM
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I can’t speak for womenkind as a whole, but I am genuinely attracted to those traits. Yeah, maybe having those traits alone won’t be enough to attract me to a man, but if an average looking man demonstrates positive qualities like these, I become more attracted to him
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/21 12:23 AM
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Haha they all say that. Well you’ll just have to take my word that I’m not lying- why would I, anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 04:43 PM
2

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 02:31 PM
3

Wow you guys all seem to have really shitty friends. My friends have only ever told be they like my boyfriend and think he’s really nice. I know they wouldn’t care if he was poor, or not the most attractive. I could only imagine them criticising my choice in partner if he didn’t treat me well
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 02:31 PM
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The internet mostly. Whenever a man say AWALT there probably are some women like that, and they’re likely more visible than other women (eg more attractive/promiscuous) so men think that that’s all there is. Then they go on subs like this and have their irrational beliefs confirmed. Neither myself nor any of my female friends have expressed attraction to a guy for being an asshole, but apparently every girl every man sees is like that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 02:12 PM
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Because men have a pre-conceived notion of what women are like and refuse to listen to actual women who contradict that. Well at least that’s the case in this sub. Every time a women says something like “I actually do want a guy who is kind, and not an asshole” men just say “nah she’s lying, women definitely only like assholes” and then give advice like “be mean to her and then she’ll like you”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 02:00 PM
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If a man is so extremely emotionally vulnerable that it gets to the point of being off putting (like cries dramatically over absolutely everything), then it would be equally off putting if he were a female friend with that behaviour. For me it’s not about masculinity - on the whole I like a guy to be able to be vulnerable/show weakness around me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 10:56 AM
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I’m a girl, and I’d be much more into a guy that shows he’s serious about investing in me than someone who doesn’t seem that into me and like it’s just a bit of fun for them. Either extreme could be potentially off putting, but personally I find lack of interest/investing far more off-putting than being into me and expressing it
/r/seduction03/02/21 11:20 PM
3

Absolutely not, if my theoretical bf opened up to me about stuff that would just make me feel closer to him
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 08:48 PM
2

I completely agree. If men had less of a reputation for just going with any girl who will accept them, even if he doesn’t actually like her that much, I would be much less reserved and hesitant when it comes to dating
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 05:35 PM
1

Haha yep
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 07:03 PM
1

According to this sub, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 06:44 PM
2

Same, join the Unicorn Woman club
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 05:40 PM
2

Be prepared to be told that we are either lying or don’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 05:33 PM
2

Still not signing up lol. In this scenario I’m assuming he already has my attention seeing as we are having a conversation. During the conversation I might be thinking “oh so this is the guys all the other girls are raving about... not sure exactly why, but whatever... I mean maybe his eyes are cute? Idk, he doesn’t excite me personally but maybe there’s something I’m not seeing” after the conversation is over he’s just a guy I had a conversation with. If his game is good, I can judge that for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 05:32 PM
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Personally, I would probably just be trying to work out what it is that makes him so irresistible. If I was previously interested in him to an extent, but then found out he had a gf and lots of other girls were after him, that would actually put me off. I don’t want to have to compete for my man, and his already being in a relationship makes him unavailable to me anyway, and therefore not someone I have any interest in pursuing. As a result, I would think of him in a less sexualised way, and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 04:29 PM
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Haha ikr, you can never win
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 12:23 PM
2

Omg that was a genuine haiku, right amount of syllables in each line and everything, good bot
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 07:54 AM
2

Finally, something on this ridiculous sub that I agree with
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 07:52 AM
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I think men generally tend to fall in love quicker and more passionately than women do, and therefore seem more romantic/put more effort into the relationship. But they also fall out of love quickly too, so the romance doesn’t last
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 09:51 PM
2

Facts are facts, regardless of how people feel about them or their motivations
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 04:53 PM
3

True, I just don’t see the relevance to the discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 04:45 PM
7

PPD has shifted my view of relationships and men in general to something much more negative than I’d like it to be
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 04:23 PM
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It doesn’t matter whether or not men care about women’s feelings or not, that’s completely irrelevant to the discussion. The point of the original post was that females’ easier access to sex is not the privilege men think it is, because sex is not inherently valuable to women. My comment was in response to the all the male commenters saying “Well if you don’t want to have sex with someone, then don’t” as if that was the solution to the problem. I was pointing out that women generally DON’T have …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 04:19 PM
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Even if that were true, what does that have to do with my comment or the original post? EDIT: If this were any other sub I would assume it’s sarcasm. On here however, I genuinely can’t tell
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 03:43 PM
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All the men saying “well just don’t have sex with people you don’t want to”... yes that’s the point. Women often don’t want to have sex with most men, for reasons outlined in the post, therefore the opportunity to do so is absolutely worthless at best
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 12:36 PM
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Well I’m not really a fan of it personally, but it’s probably made things better for some people
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 11:54 PM
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I’m here to remind myself how shitty dating is as a women, so I don’t let down my guard
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 02:34 AM
2

And is that supposed to be better?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 02:23 AM
1

What?? I would be devastated if my bf cheated on me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 02:11 AM
2

Yeah, what’s the point of working hard to convince someone to go out with you when they’re just not that into you?
/r/seduction26/12/20 06:00 PM
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Well it certainly seems to me that if a man won’t form an attachment to me, he won’t behave like a man who is attached to me. And I find it hard to believe that a man who has slept with loads of women without forming an attachment, would suddenly form that attachment to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 11:50 PM
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But surely it’s just common sense that the more people someone has sex with, the less they bond over it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 08:41 AM
1

So are you saying men who sleep around bond just as much over sex as men who don’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 08:34 AM
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Well if you looked at my actions, you would see that I’m telling the truth but obviously you’re going to have to take my word for it. I’m sure there are plenty of women who do tend to go for more experienced men, but I don’t think it’s because they know they have a high n-count. It’s much more likely to be because of the traits he has that have allowed him to become high-N, such as knowing how to seduce women. Also, the confidence that comes from being sexually successful. But I don’t think many…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 02:51 AM
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But I’ve given valid reasons to justify my preference, you haven’t
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 02:34 AM
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Personally, I do actually want a virgin, or if not, the lower the count the better. However that’s largely because I am virgin and I want to date someone on the same level as me, so I understand a more sexually active woman wanting a man who at least knows what he’s doing. So yeah, perhaps most women don’t exactly want virgins, but that doesn’t mean they want man-sluts either. In the same way, most men don’t want to date sluts, but they also generally don’t want to date prudes like me. However, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 04:50 PM
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No because that preference doesn’t make any sense, and would therefore be very niche. Also that isn’t actually your preference, so it’s hard to take that seriously when I know it’s not real. The traits you just described are unattractive in everyone, male or female. N-count however is different, because unlike fatness, low N-count has already been established as an attractive trait in for females to have, with logical reasons given as to why that is the case (pair bonding, faithfulness etc). My …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 03:55 PM
3

I don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 09:40 AM
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EXACTLY. I’m female and it’s so important for me that my partner and I have a strong bond and that he values me as much as I value him. I’m SO SICK of this idea that women are attracted to high N men. Absolutely not, it’s such a turn off knowing that my experiences with him are something that he’s already had with other girls, and I’m just another one. I would find it difficult to trust that he is truly attached to me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 08:36 AM
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I don’t think most people INTEND to compare their partners, but I think they still do subconsciously
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 09:05 PM
2

Haha no it doesn’t 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 11:05 PM
4

Oh because men never gain fat where they should be skinny, do they? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 10:18 PM
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Women tend to gain weight in their breasts and hips, as well as their stomach. Men just grow an ugly beer belly, and lose their hair, and can’t even make up for it with clothes and makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 08:51 PM
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As an 18 year old girl, I’m most attracted to men/boys around my age. They absolutely to not grow in attractiveness as they mature, and women actually seem to age better than men
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 02:02 PM
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I don’t admire promiscuous men, and would refuse to date one. Honestly I feel like the only people who really admire promiscuity in men are other men, and then they project that onto women, thinking that we admire it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 01:59 PM
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Aww thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 08:07 PM
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Well it’s not a conscious decision I’ve made to be put off by promiscuous men, so animal brain I guess? I’m not fighting my natural instincts by choosing to avoid man-sluts, in fact I would have to fight some mental discomfort dating anyone who wasn’t also a virgin, even if he’d only slept with one person before me. All those things men on PPD like to say about promiscuous women - inability to pair bond, more likely to cheat, have more to compare you to etc, apply just as equally to men as well,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 05:20 PM
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No, I’m a virgin female who would ideally want my partner to be as inexperienced as I am. Promiscuity in men is a turn-off
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 11:45 AM
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You just described everything that terrifies my about my future. Sometimes I think I’d rather die alone and a virgin than deal with the inevitable heartbreak that seems to come with LTRs
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 01:16 PM
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We have more options, but most of them suck and we’d rather they weren’t options in the first place. And when I do meet a genuinely good guy I’m paranoid and suspicious because of all the trash out there. Quality over quantity- I’d rather only ever be approached by high quality men with genuine interest in me as a person, than constantly approached by men I don’t like who also don’t particularly like or actually care for me. Even if that means I get absolutely no attention, that’s still better t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 11:11 AM
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It just seemed that he associated not texting with being high value which confused me a little
/r/seduction23/10/20 12:59 PM
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That’s true, and like I said I can only speak for myself so I don’t claim to have an insight into the minds of the rest of the female population
/r/seduction23/10/20 12:57 PM
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Fair enough, it’s perfectly understandable to avoid getting too attached because that makes you more vulnerable to getting hurt. So yeah, it might protect you from heartbreak, but it won’t necessarily make you seem more attractive or high value.
/r/seduction23/10/20 11:56 AM
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I’m no expert on the art of seduction and every girl is different so I can only speak for myself, but for me personally, if I’m talking to a guy who doesn’t text much and appears chill and detached and treats the relationship casually, that does not make me think he’s “high value”. It makes me feel he doesn’t care that much and isn’t really invested in me, and I would respond by withdrawing a little, and making sure I don’t invest in him until I feel like he could reciprocate
/r/seduction23/10/20 11:31 AM
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If women have such easy access to sex, surely you can’t blame them for taking advantage of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 09:27 AM
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I agree that this is common sense, but I don’t see why people only ever seem to use it against women, like men are somehow immune. I admit I’m not really qualified to comment on much of the stuff on this sub because I’m young and very inexperienced when it comes to relationships - but part of the reason I’m so inexperienced is because I want my relationships to have a deep bond and a strong emotional connection, and it just makes sense to me that the more sex/relationships I have with different …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 01:13 AM
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Not at all unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:53 PM
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SO DO MEN. The paragraph about how more dating in experience is actually beneficial to men is bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 10:11 AM
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Aww thanks. Yeah I do know that the stuff here is pretty radical and a terrible source of information about real life relationships, and yeah I agree I am definitely looking for confirmation that my negative view of relationships is justified, but it’s just kind of a habit of mine. On the plus side, this sub makes me really appreciate my boyfriend for failing to meet my expectations - in the best way possible
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:04 AM
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A PPD break would probably be good for me, but I tend to obsess about and fixate on things that cause me anxiety, such as relationships, so I keep coming back to have all my worst fears confirmed
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:46 AM
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Yeah, dating is easy for women with low standards
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:19 AM
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Nope because this sub is depressing but I for some reason I stay
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:51 AM
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That would be so attractive to me
/r/seduction18/10/20 04:24 AM
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I think there may be some truth to this, but it’s just as true for men
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 04:07 AM
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Thing is a part of me wants to fall in love, but it’s hard because I’m very guarded with my emotions, because I know that once I fall in love that’s me completely committed and loyal and I’m never gonna get bored of the person of fall out of love (unless they turn out to be horrible), or even think about being attracted to anyone else. But I struggle to see the same happening in return, so it’s so risky and I basically have to accept that if I fall in love, even if reciprocated at first, one day…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 04:16 AM
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To be perfectly honest, when I think of a relationship with a man, I don’t picture a happy future. I imagine him losing interest, wanting to fuck other women even if he doesn’t actually do it, finding me and everything I do irritating, wishing I was prettier, losing attraction as soon as I stop being young - if not before, only staying with me out of convenience, getting frustrated that I’m shy and not sexually open to what he wants to do, etc. So I often think it’s better for everyone if I just…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:43 PM
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