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10000kg/r/askMRP24/10/24 05:09 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/26 10:30 PM
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Have you done this before, threatened breakups from an emotional place?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/26 04:52 PM
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This fella is like looking into a time machine. I'll have to read some of his OYS. Merlin you've gotta slow down and breathe. You're doing all of this with the wrong mindset still. Bobby Peru told me this years ago, but the mindset is everything. You're trying way too hard for your desired outcome. I've been there. It's cliche at this point but you really do get what you want when you stop caring about getting it. Let this chick go. Let this image you have of yourself go. Youre clinging too tigh…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/26 04:49 PM
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Small surplus every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/26 03:31 AM
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Wow 140, ok so first good work getting to 196. You mentioned in a recent OYS your recent weight gain has been mostly fat so yes lower the surplus. This shit takes time. Small surplus and just grow, skip the whole bulking then cutting thing. Lean gain.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/26 12:09 AM
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Holy fuck why are you eating 4k cals? You're just going to get fat. My lifts are double yours for reps and I eat 3k during bulks and I'm 200lbs 11% bf. Who gave you this advice? Drop to 3k cals. Drop the weights to something you can do 5 reps. Once you can do that weight for 8 reps, add weight. Don't do any stupid programs with periodization or pyramids or deloads or intensifiers. Do a basic upper lower 4 day split for the next couple years, because you're at least 1-2 years away from having a d…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/26 09:35 PM
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I know you hate yourself. How about you work on that?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/26 12:08 AM
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This is unreadable. You seem manic. Take a chill pill broski, you can do less and focus on one thing at a time. I was the same way.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 08:20 PM
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It's performance anxiety. You're trying to impress her by being the man. See fucking her as a shared experience vs something you're doing to her. You're trying to fuck her better than other guys in your head.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/26 03:16 AM
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Stfu sidebar and lift
/r/askMRP18/02/26 07:53 PM
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Doubt your wife is a brat, more likely you just suck more balls than you think. The fact you're on 10 OYS and thinking your wife is the problem confirms you suck balls. Business travel, come on man. Wallowing in this guys blame game with him.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/26 01:11 AM
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You're putting cart before the horse. Game is easy when you don't care how it lands. That's 80% of game anyways. I tried gaming my way out of oneitis for years. I still got butthurt when my game "didn't work". There's a reason frame is step one. You're not shit without frame, just another nice guy, dancing monkey, clown, performing to get his needs met. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/s/LJiuCV8W8X Follow this 👆 Learning game comes in phase 2, probably late phase 2.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/26 03:58 PM
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Stop the unattractive self deprecation. It's not humility, it's gross.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/26 12:11 AM
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I blindly followed a lot of advice in the past. "grab her and fuck her" blablabla. Some women love it, some don't. There's a lot of performative alpha shit here sometimes. It works if that's who you are, it doesn't work if you're new and don't fully believe that about yourself. Demonstrated good captaining/leadership to whom? There is nothing wrong with feel good dad stuff. If you said I took my kids sledding, I felt good about the leadership - great. You ended it with talking about your wife ya…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/26 11:29 PM
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Your actions are fine, but nothing worth writing about. Normal activities, good. The comments that your wife smiled at you, said she was happy with you, loves you even though you annoy her, that shows you're calibrating to the validation she's giving you. You think it's a win. What that shows me, is your wife feels superior to you and thinks she is your judge. You agree with that frame. Take the kids sledding because you want to. Take her approval with a grain of salt. Her text was her placating…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/26 06:52 PM
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You care too much about your wife's validating remarks. You're like a little kid. You basically did nothing this OYS, you felt good and you took the kids sledding.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/26 05:50 PM
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If it were possible for you to stay in the laughing and fun state, you would have done it by now. Your answer was more about your wife's reaction than to what you'd experience if you stopped whining and bitching. You're doing everything to affect your wife's behaviour. Stop this, you cannot affect your wife's behavior, only observe it. You need to detox yourself from your wife. Get serious about practicing non-reaction to her disapproval - these show up as slights, jabs, shitty tone etc. Likely …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/26 05:38 PM
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I feel fucking overhelmed, thoughts spinning back and forth about what should i do, this improvement is more important or that. I did a list of what my ideal self would be, and trying to change things according that. Start by slowing down. You're doing this for yourself, not your wife. You will always have yourself, therefore there are no stakes here. You need to detach the emotional hose from your wife and learn to be your own person. Laughter and fun after some bitching and whining from the tw…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/26 10:51 PM
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He said that and smiled. Not her. She does not want him to push through. OP she wasn't in the mood that night, in the morning she was. Don't overthink it. You didn't DO anything to get sex. You talked a hell of a lot the night before (bad) and she was in the mood in the morning (good). Your job is to lose weight and stop caring if she says no when she isn't in the mood. All this push "she wants you to push through" advice on mrp is for when she's attracted to you and being bratty, not when she t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/26 10:42 PM
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Much better.
/r/askMRP15/01/26 10:46 PM
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"Don't initiate at bedtime" is a cope for the unattractive. Initiate whenever you want, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if she fucks you or not. The only thing that matters right now is that 25% body fat. A good goal for you is to initiate 2x a week no matter what. They don't have to be successful. Your wife initiates anyways, not like you're hard up. Easiest fuckin starting point in the history of mrp. Another good goal is to take the next step in STFU, funny comebacks. Crack jokes. Agree …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/26 10:45 PM
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"Yes" "No."
/r/askMRP15/01/26 10:31 PM
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You don't need to have a higher smv to have boundaries. 1) fix your confidence, you do that by actually doing worthwhile things for yourself you fucking bean pole. 6'8. Imagine the attention you'd get if you had a lean muscular physique any physique that was height appropriate. 2) when she starts yakking about her bf, you don't have to engage. Say hey that sounds like work stuff, then go do something worthwhile for building yourself up - like eating or the gym. 3) if she asks if you're ok with i…
/r/askMRP15/01/26 10:29 PM
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All of your pissy arguing shows you are not, in fact, starting to get frame lmao. Shut the fuck up is step 1.
/r/askMRP15/01/26 09:59 PM
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Olympic lifting is dumb. Your diet should be your #1 priority, you are fat as fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/25 03:33 PM
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Eh give yourself permission to seek validation when you're out practicing your game. You're gonna do it regardless, might as well push your comfort zone while you're at it. Part of the journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 10:42 PM
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The result doesn't matter for you yet. Your result is how your wife responds. The goal isn't to get your wife to love you. The goal is to be a rad dude that all women want to love. Practice exercises for the week. Pretend women are playthings to toy with.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 12:32 AM
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Pulling it off in a way that's good for you. You're too young to know what that means. You're in your gf's frame and you don't even realize it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 06:45 PM
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Who gives a shit. Cocky and funny out the asshole for this nonsense. You care way too much. Go fuck other girls.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 06:41 PM
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Stick with that lifting plan for 3 months and judge your results. Try shifting from noticing praise from colleagues and boss. Instead notice if you like your colleagues and boss. You're not going to be able to stop scanning for ioi's because you need their validation that you're attractive. Work on not caring, and just noticing when it happens. You don't need to scan for them. You're not satisfied by the external validation because you know you're desperate for it, and you know that's wrong. Als…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 06:17 PM
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If nobody else wants you l, why should she?
/r/askMRP19/12/25 07:06 AM
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No you haven't. Overwhelming majority don't cheat. Sidebar books mention to not cheat. MRP is literally comprised of retards who had to come to a subreddit to learn how to become attractive men. Remember that when you read posts and comments - unless mrp approved or a mod, the comments have a good chance of being retard fodder. M means red pilled after you get married. That's it. It doesn't mean how to fix your marriage. Red pill is about figuring out how to be a self sufficient masculine man, w…
/r/askMRP19/12/25 07:06 AM
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So don't cheat??? I don't wanna cheat either, so I don't. I have, and I can, but I don't want to. My wife doesn't need to know my decision. You don't need any special posts or resources to not cheat. Do what you want.
/r/askMRP18/12/25 09:45 PM
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Why does it matter if your progress is slow? It doesn't. Marriage contract is null and void. She doesn't owe you anything in exchange for your resources and emotional availability. Carry on with the dancing monkey covert contract program.
/r/askMRP18/12/25 09:34 PM
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Negotiated desire, wait - negotiated duty sex. It's solely YOUR responsibility to be able to get your needs taken care of. First fucking book on the sidebar. Everyone here is gay, if we weren't we wouldn't be posting on a fucking dork subreddit.
/r/askMRP18/12/25 09:13 PM
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Hell yea.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 09:06 PM
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Things that trigger me always invoke a thought process in myself to dive into it and see why. It's a great diagnostic tool, helps me to root out remaining issues within myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 04:04 PM
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I have never seen examples in your writing of ego, blarg. There is something I've often seen in hoa posts, and this bored&sucks comment. It's like a lack of self-acceptance almost. I cannot explain it but it triggers something in me that I have disliked about myself, so it comes through very clearly to me. It's like bravado and bullshit to try to convince themselves how awesome they are, but if that were the case - why talk about it? Hoa posts are a fantastic resource. I'm not disrespecting the …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 07:40 PM
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Yes I've read twotsm. I think it's easy to get carried away with the spiritual gayness, hoa does it often also. I see it as getting too into yourself, ego turning your demeanor from confidence to arrogance, thinking you're some sort of magestic being who has it all figured out. It's tacky. I've been there. Rational self confidence vs irrational self confidence. I prefer to stay more grounded.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 04:18 PM
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Sex is a reward for her once you're the prize. She's denying herself sex, it's a shit test. Don't sweat it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 12:22 AM
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Your OYS are all super heavy on your wife. Surprised nobody's called you out yet. Your wife's obviously into sex with you (assuming she's also overweight - easy mode) so I don't think you've really had much opportunity for outcome independence, mental point of origin etc. What are you doing to push your comfort zone outside of your relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/25 11:26 PM
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Something about this comment is incredibly cringey and I can't place it. Dark masculine. What.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/25 11:19 PM
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Mrp stat
/r/TheRedPill10/12/25 08:59 PM
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"make sure you've explored your options in case of divorce" "ha! Fag, you're totally worried about it" Lol
/r/askMRP10/12/25 08:49 PM
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Explain, beg, hell I'd even bribe mommy to let you stay in the current house. Just please don't take away your approval mommy!
/r/askMRP10/12/25 08:47 PM
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Hang on, so you didn't have enough energy to lift non-heavy weights, even though you had a ton of stored energy around your midsection, and you want to take 3 months to lose a measly 8lbs, get to the upper limit of fatness for a bulk, and then eat at maintenance and focus on strength. This makes no sense. Cut at 2k cals, suck it up, get down to 10-11%, then lean bulk to 15% max. How many sets are you doing, assuming your x5 is reps I lost 20lbs in 3 months for reference. 20>12%.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 09:48 PM
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Ok weight loss progress is fine. 20 is too high though, stick to 10-15% between bulks and cuts.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 09:07 PM
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He can't lie and say hes a stud. Just shut up and smile.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 08:28 PM
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The majority of your mental energy is how can I win my wife back from Kevin. Maybe if I act like Nick Miller I will win her back. She came, this shows I am acting more like Nick Miller, that'll show Kevin hahah take that Kevin! Why are you still 20% fat, how fat were you on day one? Bro. Turn your brain off. Relax. A bigger problem is my legs are asleep on the can from reading this and I don't think I can get up.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 08:27 PM
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This is all still bullshit. You haven't even started leading yourself and you're doing all this talking and planning with your wife. Do you really think all this talking has done anything? You're 6 months away from grasping even basic concepts here. You're still nice guying. Your head is still up your wife's ass. You'll do this for a few years until you realize you're still doing it to fix your wife. It won't work. You literally have no concept of what you're doing yet. Go on a talking moratoriu…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/25 06:11 AM
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If you had any frame at all it wouldn't matter if you made her your gf or not. You could handle whatever. This wouldn't even register in your brain.
/r/askMRP24/11/25 03:21 AM
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Momma's boys ain't it
/r/askMRP09/11/25 04:23 PM
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Get all up in your head about it until you can't get a boner. Works for me every single time.
/r/askMRP07/11/25 02:07 AM
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Allowing it means staying with her after she cheats. Divorcing her after she cheats is what not tolerating it looks like. Plates that you don't care about, who cares? You can lose interest if she goes on frequent GNO's. Do whatever you want, but you cannot control your wife to the point she will never cheat on you. It's out of your control. You can only be the prize, and divorce her if she cheats.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/25 12:01 AM
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I came back to read this again, it's basically the nuts and bolts of the soft next. No getting upset. No making rules. No threats.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 11:52 PM
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Good. Try to remember that during your next struggle - what's happening here, why, what is it teaching me, what do I need to do. Edit: I just saw your post history. None of this awesome advice is applicable to you. Your purpose here was to be the vessel for other guys who are worth a shit to read. Try not to get fatter for your next OYS in 6 mos.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 07:30 PM
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Fucking hell I'm stupid is humbling yourself to be validated. Preemptive "I'm just a retard". I mentioned it in the comment above before I even saw this ahah the noobie template goes unchanged. Step one is always relax. Relax bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 07:02 PM
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This is blarg being straightforward lol. It's like jeopardy, he's showing you the thoughts your mind should be producing, letting you find the mental models that produce them. Imagine a math problem in school where you have to show your work. You're given the answer, you have to figure out the correct formula (mental models) that produce that answer. Trust everyone here commenting that the mental models you currently have are poor, and creating poor actions/beliefs/results for you. Don't doubt a…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 06:52 PM
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10/10. Eye opening. I used to struggle with understanding half of the stuff you wrote, I found it very esoteric. It seems your writing style has changed to something I find easier to understand. I got a lot of value from these comments blarg thank you. Regarding GNO. The odd GNO is fine, every wife I've seen going on regular gnos cheated and is divorced. My friends wife, constant GNO. If I wanted to I could fuck her. She is bored. She tells me she is bored. Banning GNOs might buy you some time w…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 06:48 PM
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You are in denial that your wife is interested in this guy, you know you suck and your ego won't allow you to face that fear head on. It would paralyze you. I've been there. When I was garbage, I was paralyzed. Now I'm not, I think it'd be her loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 06:42 PM
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1) Athol kay has never been a Chad in his life. The guys here have more accurate knowledge. 2) Allowing another man to have sex with your wife means it happened and you don't divorce her. Borings example is about plates, he doesn't give a fuck enough about them to care. 3) You cannot fear your wife cheating. If she cheats, she loses her prize. Your only focus should be actually being a prize.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 06:40 PM
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This is cope.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/25 11:15 PM
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Way too needy. You scared the cat. She correctly placed you in the needy beta category. Start over, read the sidebar, build yourself a life. Don't chase women.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/25 11:12 PM
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This post is validation seeking. You're talking about how other guys monk mode sucks but your monk mode is legit. It's retarded and gay. Just be normal.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/25 09:03 PM
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Have you read anything? Light switch effect. Next month you could be the best guy on the planet. I think you're overreacting and spiralling a bit. Your wife is definitely spiralling, due to having a fuck up for a husband. Calm yourself down.
/r/askMRP06/10/25 07:16 PM
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This is a childish take and will not work whatsoever if your goal is to lead your wife to contribute more in the marriage. If you're wife acts shitty, it's because you're shitty. If you're worth a damn, you won't have to boss your wife around. She'll be tripping over herself to please you.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/25 09:14 PM
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Eh you're doing fine. Your whole mental health paragraph is fine, as long as it's just the beginning stages and not a permanent coping mechanism. Becoming your own role model is good stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/25 06:21 PM
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Eh you're 3 weeks in. Stop worrying about it, just make some goals and hit them, and continue lifting and learning about nutrition and fitness. It'll come, don't overthink.
/r/askMRP14/08/25 06:59 AM
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Lazy ass making excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/25 07:14 PM
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Why are you still fat at 34 weeks in?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/25 12:09 AM
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What's your fucking opinion on it, educate yourself and make a decision that is literally the red pill.
/r/askMRP30/07/25 05:09 PM
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The quote is from NMMNG
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/25 08:36 PM
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Although I agree with you, moving on to other women won't solve his issue. His problem is with himself, he's not living life for himself. Other women will end up the same. This one is definitely no longer his turn though.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/25 04:14 PM
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"I'm getting better at it, at least it only took me 2 weeks to tell you this time" I suffer from the same mental illness, I just don't give my thoughts any weight. It's old programming, still running. Whenever you catch yourself all up in your head (which I'd imagine is near constant), say to yourself never mind allat, what am I going to go do? Replace the endless chatter with action. Any action.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/25 01:58 PM
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Weight scale and MyFitnessPal. Just like for a fat guy, but in reverse.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/25 01:55 PM
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K why?
/r/askMRP09/07/25 01:54 PM
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Man, turn off your fucking brain. Stop thrashing against yourself, just change.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/25 12:13 AM
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What is the big deal about eating here? Do you have an eating disorder or something?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/25 11:37 PM
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Do you know why I said these things
/r/askMRP02/07/25 09:43 PM
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1) stop apologizing for maybe being autistic 2) stop explaining why you decided to respond 3) stop downplaying your opinions by repeating how you're not an expert 4) stop giving advice when you're brand new
/r/askMRP02/07/25 08:14 PM
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You're pedestalizing the one duh
/r/TheRedPill18/06/25 02:09 AM
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I'm you from the future. I'd demote to plate while you focus on fixing your shit. You do you.
/r/askMRP11/06/25 02:14 AM
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Long distance plates, that's a new one.
/r/askMRP24/05/25 05:25 PM
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Let the fact that you need inspiration from others to "be mrp" be your inspiration. This is retarded.
/r/askMRP20/05/25 11:40 PM
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Sounds minor. Who cares.
/r/askMRP20/05/25 12:13 AM
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You're angry at her because your brain doesn't know that it's focusing on the wrong thing. Divorce yourself from your wife aka outcome independence. Once you progress to being your own man, it won't matter to you if these situations happen or not.
/r/askMRP20/05/25 12:13 AM
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Aka now that the novelty is gone, there's nothing about you attractive enough to pique her interest. How is that her fault? I'd argue she's actually a great wife for putting in the effort to wear lingerie and blow you even though she isn't attracted to you. STFU lift and read. She's prob sad because she's coming to terms with the fact she's married to a bonehead.
/r/askMRP19/05/25 08:50 PM
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What are the few boundaries and in what ways do you make it sting?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/25 01:00 AM
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Ya tease, you don't want to upset her or let her know it's a boundary. Be nice about it
/r/askMRP28/04/25 09:11 PM
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Why do you care about this nonsense? What's this got to do with you? You're 23 with a girlfriend. Focus on yourself fuck head.
/r/askMRP19/04/25 05:06 PM
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You care way too much. "I expect respect" "because I said so!"
/r/askMRP19/04/25 04:59 PM
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On what planet is that a reasonable reaction lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 02:28 PM
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I wouldn't stay in the relationship with her if I didn't value her. I love my wife, but I don't put her above my values.
/r/askMRP29/03/25 05:12 PM
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You're in no place to focus on her words or her actions. You have no frame, no independent concept of self. You still believe in the imaginary bonds of husband and wife. You are here to learn a new mask to wear to get sex from your wife.
/r/askMRP27/03/25 01:54 AM
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Ya keep focusing on your wife's actions instead of her words............ Just whatever you do, all your focus on her.
/r/askMRP27/03/25 12:19 AM
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Hallelujah blarg good stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/25 12:15 AM
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Guys get it all backwards here. We come here and focus on understanding female dynamics, try to make sense of every behaviour and word and nuance, the details of how they think how they feel how they operate, so we can use that knowledge to manipulate them into validating us. Then, for some, we fail enough times and stop caring about female dynamics, or we succeed at the manipulation and realize we still feel empty, that winning her validation is unfulfilling and meaningless. We start to realize…
/r/askMRP26/03/25 11:47 PM
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You need to build up your confidence. If you divorced now, you could flirt and fuck other women on easy mode and gain the confidence you lack.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 12:28 AM
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This I agree with, he doesn't have the frame and status yet to tell his wife he wants to shoot his cum in her asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 12:24 AM
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You can absolutely be thought of as a pervert and get the ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 12:22 AM
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Don't explain yourself to this homo. He's new, he sees other guys shitting on people, so he's shitting on your post thinking you're new. This faggot has never given anything of value to anyone here. He spends more of his time commenting to others as if he's an authority figure, than he does on fixing his own shit. Caretaking others to avoid his own problems.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 06:23 AM
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Solid list of condensed winners.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 08:26 PM
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Fuckin new guys lol
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 08:07 PM
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Look into protein Sparing Modified fast by Lyle MacDonald. It works.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/25 07:43 PM
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Microtears are debunked but you have the overall message right.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 01:07 AM
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Yea you fucked that up ahaha. Yes you're anger phase, it comes out in your bitchy thoughts and replies. "wtf?" - anger phase getting perplexed because she's accusing yoh of that - anger phase and not understanding core concepts. I get it. You're still learning. Don't sweat this shit keep going. Stop being so logical. Her - I was without you all weekend You - don't worry my sweet petunia I'm here now - initiate The one simple trick you're looking for is having this 👆 be your constant atmosphere s…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/25 09:43 PM
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Yea nbd just part of the journey. OP you don't have to listen to her feelz just cuz she wants. You want to do what YOU want. I personally wouldn't give a fuck if she came home snotty. I tease anyways and say aww you must have missed me. Gives her an opportunity to enter my playful frame, if she doesn't take it meh. I wouldn't keep listening to her moan at me though, idgaf if that's what SHE wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/25 09:38 PM
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Baller post I've seen this before irl.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/25 02:54 AM
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Yea I'll try again. Used up or single mothers... bro stop thinking you're better than women. You've been here 10 years and it seems you haven't learned a thing except to hate women. Bring your ego down about 100 notches. Learn to be kind, make friends, socialize with women and men. Fuck some fat girls and single moms. You have misplaced anger, women are not the enemy. Go lift.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/25 02:09 AM
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Ahahah keep that demeanor when she's acting up and you're set
/r/askMRP23/01/25 05:30 PM
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Haha I remember the early days, I felt the same way. You refuse to DEER because you don't need to justify or defend yourself from anyone, they do not have the authority to judge you. An example - you're walking your dog along a sidewalk minding your own business and a homeless man comes up to you and says hey! You should be walking your dog on the street, not the sidewalk. Would you do what he said? Would you try to reason with him to convince him that it's ok for you to walk your dog on the sid…
/r/askMRP23/01/25 04:21 PM
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You're asking us for the best manipulation techniques to have an easy and problem free life Mr nice guy.
/r/askMRP23/01/25 01:01 AM
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I see your pov. Mine differs in that I wouldn't discuss it with her, I would just enact the boundaries and let her figure it out (or not).
/r/askMRP22/01/25 07:32 PM
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You've got it all wrong that's why. She's not responsible for meeting your needs. You are. That means, you have to do what it takes to get your needs met. If you want pussy, you have to be attractive to women. If you want more money, you have to produce better results at work. If you want to look and be strong, you have to lift weights and eat properly. Mrp basics - be attractive, don't be unattractive. The sidebar tells you how to be more attractive and less unattractive. Being butthurt, poutin…
/r/askMRP22/01/25 05:56 PM
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Then you should see that feeling cheated is a sign you have a covert contract. She either meets your needs or she chooses not to, and you go breakdancing by yourself or with someone else.
/r/askMRP22/01/25 05:43 PM
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Sure but in your example, what do you think feeling cheated is a sign of?
/r/askMRP22/01/25 02:48 AM
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Sitting down and talking about the previously agreed upon sex is not in the sidebar. STFU when you feel this urge. She'll put it in her ass of her own accord when she's attracted to you.
/r/askMRP21/01/25 10:41 PM
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Yes we run on emotion here, and negotiate desire. Those are the advanced level mrp lessons. Natty jew, you should be mrp approved.
/r/askMRP21/01/25 10:38 PM
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Her frame is, she has a problem with everything, you guys will discuss it. Discussing issues does nothing. Do you enjoy listening to her drama? I prefer to have fun, tease, have positive interactions with women. I'll listen occasionally when I deem it actually important, but 95% of interactions are positive. Your frequent posts show there are way too many bs conversations happening. Keep AM, a&a, have fun with it, but you seem to think you should just endlessly do am and AA. Just say one thing, …
/r/askMRP19/01/25 05:04 PM
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At this stage, she isn't attracted to you and everything she says is nonsense to see if you'll acquiesce. You are letting her be the judge of your behaviours. I get it, when you are new to this and are freshly unplugging, you don't have any semblance of a clue of what is what. Rather than discuss with her, you are much better off deciding what kind of guy you want to be, deciding whether you've been acting like that guy, and adjusting based on your own judgement. Your mental point of origin is c…
/r/askMRP19/01/25 04:00 PM
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No! If they have an attitude you don't deal with them. Mentally unattach your head from this one particular woman's asshole Jesus christ. We need to talk about this blablabla - restate your boundary in 7 words max then shut the fuck up to all her bullshit responses which are just tests to see if you're a bitch ass pussy
/r/askMRP18/01/25 09:45 PM
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You don't understand because you still think like a beta. You do not have to talk to lead. You do not have to talk. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. "I'm not talking about relationship problems anymore." Then, whenever she wants to discuss a "problem", you can say I'm not talking about this. You're getting sucked into her drama every single time. Just worry about leading yourself for now, you're in zero place to lead anyone. Keep yourself in a good mood, don't worry about her …
/r/askMRP18/01/25 09:42 PM
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Ya no changed behaviours such as good sex life suddenly dying after 10yrs when she gets a new job...........
/r/askMRP16/01/25 01:09 AM
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Your wife is asking for space and you're concern is the fucking laundry lmao. You have allowed your wife to be a stay at home mom while you work, except you also do all the stay at home part. Because you're so whipped, you have zero time for yourself to go to the gym, have a life, or see the reality of how fucked up your situation has always been. You aren't going to "get back to who you used to be." You used to be a pussy, and you are one now. You always did everything, she just fucked you so y…
/r/askMRP16/01/25 12:55 AM
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She has a strong frame and sees herself as the prize. You're her plate.
/r/askMRP09/01/25 10:52 PM
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I think some of the guys commenting think every girl is a complete whore lol. A lot of women prescribe to the Disney fantasy also. They want to fall in love and explore. This is playing with their emotions, it is solid game for short term relationships. Not every chick is a club rat one night stand.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/25 11:24 PM
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It's not an excuse, it's fucking retarded and will delay your growth. Drop that bullshit as fast as possible. You pay your penance by improving. It benefits your family, but more importantly it benefits you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 10:35 PM
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It's a result of being shitty for so long, and learning everything was your fault for being a weak man. At some point, you have to start noticing your improvements and deciding you're no longer shitty. I suffered from this also. It's a misguided attempt at paying penance for your years of bullshit, a form of self loathing. It's still weakness. The faster you put in the work, the faster you'll see results in yourself, and the faster you will grow your self respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 09:10 PM
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Ok it's probably going to be hard to get that hard edge with your wife in that case. The only advice I can give is, it's ok to be a dirt bag with your wife. Remember, we're animals and we're here to fuck shit up and fuck. I dunno how to grow that mentality when you haven't got the previous experience of being a degenerate while single. My wife has low self esteem also, even though she's very attractive. I've seen success leading her out of them by becoming more attractive, not trying to fix her …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 04:46 PM
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Good man. Talking to women, call it talking to women. Opening sets is for autists. They're people lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 06:04 AM
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I think it's just the novelty stage of being attractive for the first time in his life. The entire FR was validation seeking. The paradox of mrp is if you're posting about how mrp worked and how awesome you are now, you still don't get it. This place is training wheels. I guess it's relatable to career betas who are the majority here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 06:02 AM
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Start from scratch, go fuck some fatties as rut busters, get a rotation of them going, start taking shots at hotter girls, work your way up. You'll just naturally learn what works and what doesn't. 2 years at 4-5x a week, I know guys like you. Typically they get fatter, doing the same old bullshit in the gym. 25% body fat as a regular lifter is pathetic dude. Figure it out. Go read everything on lean gains and from bony to beastly, it'll teach you the info. Then cut cut cut.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 12:54 AM
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Why do you want to have a kid when your life isn't sorted yet? Sounds retarded. I'd fix your shit first.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 11:34 PM
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I tried fake it til you make it also, it was incongruent. If you don't like your wife, throw her to the wind and do your own thing. Improve yourself. She'll come around or not. Mine became more likeable.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 11:26 PM
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Decent. TLDR I called out shitty behavior but by doing so showed that I care too much and gave a response to a shitty game my wife played. The one who cares the least has the most power. Instead of a race to who can care less, just care about yourself more.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 11:10 PM
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How many women have you slept with in total? I'm gonna be honest, the vibe you give out is nerdy and soft, very low aggression, low masculine energy. You seem very nice, very safe. Where is the fire? Nm I saw church and fun teacher. You're a big softie. You've been conditioned to be a big soft nice guy. You should spend some time deconstructing that programming before even thinking about fucking (language, sorry). 5 kids white picket fence happy church family was the dream, wasn't it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 10:44 PM
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That FR reminds me of me when I was 19-25 and an insufferable egomaniac lol. It worked stellar with women, but it's still empty. It's like a delayed adolescence. Bragging about IOI's from a 50 yr old woman. Not the end goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 10:10 PM
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It is absolutely dancing monkey and a CC. Just make chatting and flirting part of your personality, whether your wife sees or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 09:11 PM
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I’ve been so singularly focused on improving my physique that I haven’t bothered to flesh anything else out. For the first ~30 OYS I hadn’t taken any real action, and used the future and fantasizing about ‘how things would be’ as an ego to soothe myself about my failures today, so I shut that off for several months and focused on ‘winning today’, with a few specific metrics like lifting, cardio, and calories. In a way, this is really just OYS ~20 since I started to actually do the fucking work. …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 09:08 PM
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Who's gonna tell him sleeping in another room will be a relief for his unattracted wife? Buddy if i were you I'd be happy with twice a week forced intimacy. Women can typically handle forced intimacy once or twice a week, but they need a few days to forget how awful it was. Daily forced intimacy is really gonna break her down. She might start vomiting on you. Not only that, but with that much forced intimacy, you're far more likely to notice how forced and empty it feels too. It might lead you t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 10:08 PM
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When I was new, I read to go out without saying where, and when asked, tell her you went "out". Active dread is about as see through a manipulation attempt as it gets. Fucking retarded, and any woman who falls for it is retarded. Mine just started doing the same thing. Introducing faggot games leads to a relationship full of faggot games.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 09:58 PM
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Correctemundo.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 09:45 PM
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There is hope for you yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 09:50 PM
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Do it & let us know how it works, otherwise it's just verbal diarrhea
/r/askMRP06/12/24 09:35 PM
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First off. You aren't "continuing" to not care lmao you're talking about it with your wife, you're posting about it, you're thinking about it. You care. This is your ego bullshit ting you. 2nd "continuing" aka pretending to not care being an effective way to get an overt comfort test = covert contract. You are trying to act in ways that will illicit a specific response. That is called larping. A needy and insecure guy would strategize on a forum on the correct actions to take to get his desired …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 08:54 PM
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Everyone but blarg is congratulating you but this was weak and needy. You're still larping and doing dancing monkey. You need your wife to go on your boring, routine breakfast date or else you get butthurt. You are obsessed with your wife's actions. She was testing you to see if you're still needy, once you showed her you are, she rewarded her beta with sex. Start thinking of yourself as a free, independent man, vs a husband. We tend to unconsciously view ourselves through this covert contract l…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 05:37 PM
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La la land thinking.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/24 10:05 PM
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Why don't you just not take the bait? Your a&a sucks. Yes honey I'm a real meanie. All u gotta say. Whatever nonsense she responds with, just smile knowingly and go back to what you were doing.
/r/askMRP01/12/24 07:19 PM
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Yep my wife was a demon and now she's very sweet and respectful. I read the sidebar, started working on myself, set boundaries, and once my time and attention had value, I enforced them. Wasn't as complicated as I made it. Took a few years. It will take you longer since you haven't read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP21/11/24 10:23 PM
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Ahaha yes. Your squats are so disproportionately low btw. How can you row the same as your squat. Go do squats 3x a week fuck your doctor.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 05:13 PM
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Exactly, who cares if it influences others? Maybe aside from your kids. It's your belief about a marriage that is what's wrong. Your marriage is just whatever. Something dumb you agreed to when younger. You assign way too much importance to it. That's WHY it's your problem area. Focusing on your marriage and dead bedroom is why you have a bad marriage and dead bedroom. If the rest of your life is so great, get more fulfillment out of it. Make it even better. Tune it more so that it gives you all…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 05:11 PM
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At least validate him that his dancing has changed his wife's behaviour. After all, his entire focus is still on his wife, every single response from op has been about her.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 02:55 AM
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Did you tell your doc not to worry as you don't do any heavy lifting as it is? Lmao got em
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 11:50 PM
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Ok if you've never lifted at all, that is the likely explanation. Tell me your program? PPL? I would (and do) run a 4 day upper lower split, 5-8 reps, 0-1 RIR. I try to stay within 10 and 16% BF.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 03:15 PM
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Don't compare yourself directly but you should notice a trend of how you stack up in general. Had you never lifted before in your life? Like good on you for the progress but I think you need to ramp up the effort. My fucking eyes are gonna pop out of my head when I'm doing squats sometimes. Maybe your T is low.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 01:27 PM
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I disagree on the recomp. These lifts are weak as fuck, 16% is too fat, 8 months is far too long for this poor progress. OP what are you doing at the gym?? Get on a 3 month cut right now, til you're lean and skinny, while upping your intensity on your lifts. Then go to a 500 cal surplus and lift twice as hard as you're currently lifting. Your lifts are ridiculously weak for a 200lb man. You're suffering from major fuckarounditis. You lift less than a highschool kid. Where is your drive for gains…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 07:58 PM
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You read it wrong.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/24 11:38 PM
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I dunno whenever I used to fuck em they'd do whatever I said no matter how ruthless I was. I had one try to shit test me once but she immediately said Jk and never tried again. You don't even notice shit tests with girls 2-3pts below you. It's laughable. Great practice to understand what amused mastery is.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/24 01:26 AM
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Ok love u thx
/r/askMRP24/10/24 05:14 PM
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I went through this cycle many times. Its foolish to think the emotional control arrives once and for all. It's a process, you will fuck up again. Don't beat yourself up, realize when you're fucking up, and learn to calm yourself down.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 02:21 AM
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I suppose if you don't want children, and go through relationship to relationship as the beta comfort guy, you could still have multiple lovers. They will likely be less attractive, and treat you poorly, but if you're okay with that and don't get attached (unlikely, as beta men attach very quickly) you could theoretically be happy enough. Could go red pill lite and just date down your whole life. Find a cute chubby girl with low self esteem and do the balance of frame and comfort, without making…
/r/TheRedPill23/10/24 12:07 AM
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Oh I think I was calling one of these guys a f *Aggot in another comment. Mrp speak for no frame afc. There's some major differences in the 2 subs and tactics, being an older married guy I am less inclined to next and more inclined to focus on frame. Shit tests do not bother me. Insults don't rattle. Trp I can see nexting a woman for disrespect, although if you're being disrespected there is probably a good reason for it. In a marriage, if you've fallen to the point your woman disrespects you, i…
/r/TheRedPill22/10/24 11:11 PM
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Sorry I'm used to mrp where people get ragged on. I read the rules, duly noted.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/24 11:04 PM
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This is true.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/24 04:37 PM
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Life is only tough for betas. Life is easy and amazing. Low smv girls will never shit test, that's one strategy sure. Higher smv girls will shit test. They're easy as fuck to pass, while finding them amusing. Nothing a girl can say to me rattles me. Nobody can disrespect me. Frame 101. This shit is basic red pill guys. Pass a few shit tests and that girl who is "emotionally" draining to you will instead be treating you like a king. If her shit testing is increasing it is because you're showing m…
/r/TheRedPill17/10/24 04:30 PM
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You boys are going to have to learn how to pass shit tests. Your egos are perceiving tests as disrespect to be punished. They're just shit tests. Chuckle them off. This is all in the sidebar.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/24 01:51 PM
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You have no frame.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/24 01:42 AM
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He doesn't say accept the shit. You easily pass shit tests with a&a or AM. A "man" walking away because of shit tests lol.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/24 01:42 AM
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This faggot is nowhere near any place to nuke anything.
/r/askMRP07/10/24 07:43 PM
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Read the sidebar. Women ARE using you to fill a need. That's how women love. I answered your questions. You haven't read enough sidebar to understand, then again you wouldn't need to ask. Who cares about her values? You cannot vet a woman. Frame and boundaries. Good luck with your reading.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 07:38 PM
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My answer doesn't validate you as being special so you're having trouble accepting it, and now talking about a dude in Turkey. Yes they are all basically the same when showing genuine desire. Genuine desire can be caused by multiple things. Hysteric bonding is also genuine desire. So what? What is "doing better"? Spinning a single mom plate forever?
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 07:21 PM
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Oh, so why'd she immediately ghost when she realized you wouldn't commit? Just because you didn't fall for it, doesn't mean that's not exactly what was happening. This will always be the case with single moms. So she makes money. Does she have security? Does she have a father figure for her kid? Does she have someone to give her comfort? No.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 07:08 PM
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She was beta provider shopping using her tools to the best of her abilities. Once you married her, you would see a decline in her efforts. The fact you don't know this proves this situation would have happened exactly as I described. Yes that's what genuine desire looks like, but unless you're actually that guy, it will be temporary. That's what trp is, teaching you to always be that guy. In this situation, she genuinely desired a new provider for her kid. You ain't special.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 07:05 PM
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This actually happened to me, a girl I was fucking came over with some friends to spend the night. They were drunk (as was I) She asked me if I wanted to fuck, sure why not? As we finished up, her girl friend, girl 2, walked in. The girl I slept with immediately acted passed out. Weird i thought, as I left the room. 15 mins later cops showed up and put me in the car. LUCKILY the girls other friends told cops that me and her were an item, we frequently slept together, I didn't rape anyone. It tur…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 05:15 PM
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What the fuck is this bullshit lol
/r/askMRP07/10/24 04:44 PM
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Strongly disagree. Trp teaches you how to be secure attachment, plus some hidden extra knowledge about women. Seeing the world for what it really is, and accepting reality, is becoming secure with yourself. No longer looking for external validation, becoming your own source of validation. Not looking to a woman to provide you love. That is secure attachment to a T.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/24 09:46 PM
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Thumbs up. I also think once you surpass them in smv, no matter if they were able to catch up, they'll always see you as above them.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 06:33 PM
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Has your wife stepped it up physically since the before picture and lost weight also, or is your smv now miles ahead of hers? Is she physically equal to you in smv?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 05:42 PM
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Remember when you're having an emotional tantrum, that it's just your temporary bitchiness. STFU and let it pass.
/r/askMRP19/09/24 04:27 PM
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I don't believe it was his decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 11:45 PM
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He was getting divorced.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 10:10 PM
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He's asking why you'd need a hard confirm.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 07:17 PM
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I didn't ask.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 09:04 PM
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You're trying to bash your wife over the head into acting how you want her to act, instead of being the great catch. End result neither wife will be disrespectful, but one situation will have the wife genuinely feeling respect and the other will be afraid of upsetting her snowflake husband. Guess which of these guys every single commenter has told you you are?
/r/askMRP30/08/24 08:40 PM
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Oh the guy posting daily on askmrp is telling me what's up lmao. There is no disrespect possible from anyone if you respect yourself. You also probably are too bossy. I had that issue before. I'm still bossy, I just remember to cut my wife and kids some slack because they're not as driven as I am to do things the way I want them done. They do a good job and are genuinely wanting to help. I would have changed my name in her phone to "Tha Bossman" or some dumb shit. You'll get there eventually. Fo…
/r/askMRP30/08/24 08:28 PM
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She's not flirtatiously testing you yet. She's testing to see if you're even worth flirtatiously testing. Test results = NOPE lol retard.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 08:14 PM
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Retard. Your obsession with not looking like a passive pussy is what makes you a pussy. You're acting like a short dude with the giant truck, or a skinny dude who takes a ton of roids and then gets super aggressive when he feels wronged. You're acting like a tough guy. If you were confident and secure you'd chuckle about so-called slights. You'd tease.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 08:11 PM
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Ahaha be butthurt instead, that'll show her!
/r/askMRP30/08/24 08:00 PM
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The why is because your self worth isn't high enough to laugh it off, because you believe she might be right. Solution is to fix that about yourself. Eventually you won't have to "set" boundaries. I used to be a fag like you. My wife told me not to be bossy the other day. I said but I am the boss!!! and picked her up and held her sideways with a shit eating grin. She smirked and pretended to punch me, then blew me right there in front of the whole town while cherubs played their trombones. It wa…
/r/askMRP30/08/24 07:59 PM
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6ft 250lbs what the fuck have you been doing in your home gym, eating Doritos? You have 60-70lbs to lose with those lifts, plus probably a year once you're hot for the ego you'll develop to fade. Delusional. Your wife did what she had to do to support her first kid, had a few more with you and now the youngest is old enough to only need your child support. She don't love you bro she never did. Your turn's up.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 04:58 PM
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STFU.
/r/askMRP14/08/24 11:03 PM
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Great link. Echoes the process here. Indifference game while getting out of wife's frame, control game once you're in your own frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 11:02 PM
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Bitch you could lower your bf to 9% and then gain muscle back to 157. If you don't care about a more fuckable physique, get the fuck off mrp and quit asking why your wife treats you poorly. You are a fucking retard - you come to a forum to learn how to become more masculine and then choose to ignore the first most basic and easiest step. You are wasting yours and everyone else's time. What was your trt protocol? How much and how often were you dosing? If you needed trt how do you figure you can …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 09:43 PM
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She is hypercritical, bitchy, controlling, rude, demanding, disagreeable, bossy, and can be unkind, etc. at the worst of times. Which seems like most of the time. Is this because I lack leadership and am not handling things? It's because you don't care that you weigh 157lbs @ 5'10 and 15% BF.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 09:36 PM
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Stay out of your friends heads, you don't know shit about the difference between what they present externally vs what they think internally. They could be the shit, they could be just as fucked up as you. Who cares.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 08:28 PM
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That sucks about the stuff that happened. Push yourself to thrive anyways. "That fuckin sucked, but I'm going to be whole regardless." Your biggest obstacle is you care about what your wife thinks of you. Your anger phase needs to be directed at yourself, your wife shouldn't be able to alleviate your anger. I'd be angry that I'm weaker than an 85yr old man. I'd be angry that I have no backbone. I'd be angry I have no sense of masculinity. That would piss me the fuck off, and no sweetness from my…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 03:37 PM
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You have no dread, you accepted no sex for 6 months and haven't left yet. After 6 mos of dry dick you ought to be out of the house 6 days a week doing stuff for you (including other women). Your marriage is dead, you killed it, focus on your own life. Maybe she'll come around, maybe not. Doesn't matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 06:03 PM
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You have the hobbies and lifts of a 68 year old woman. Scheduling a doc appointment for dry vag is going to lead to even more dry vag. Do you know how to be charming or playful? Your oys reads like you're the type of guy who doesn't ever swear. Honey it's time for our daily fellatio. I wish you were more self-lubricated during this time of intimacy, I shall schedule you an appointment with our doctor to get to the bottom of this. I am assuming you have only ever slept with your wife? EDIT: I jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 05:37 PM
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Yessir and if that was your original phrasing, that was your original thought process.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/24 02:42 PM
1

Hey thats helpful. Thanks for the succinct explanation.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/24 02:40 PM
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Perhaps FA tendencies, but I have read on the sidebar to need the other person less than they need you. It's in MMSLP, Rollo. My point was - she claims he was not her type and is a douchebag but I am ignoring her words and looking at her actions: he successfully got his cock in my wife. Action - I am currently taking the advice from Attached and speaking openly from my frame, noticing when an urge for passive aggressive protest behaviour starts and shutting it down, and instead, being assertive …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 11:21 PM
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Feeling like I didn't deserve to set boundaries because I wasn't yet attractive (to whom???). That is profound. Thank you for mentioning this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 10:35 PM
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Yea advice - you don't have to do anything
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 10:27 PM
2

Yes sir I stated in my OYS that my internal is what needs the work. I have struggled immensely with the internal. I agree, I admitted to being a dancing monkey in my OYS. I have been basing my "success" on how attracted to me my wife acts. I'm going to try considering my relationship as incompatible and see if that helps me focus on my own needs and desires. Welcome any advice on fixing this. Honestly, my definition of the prize is being the fun attractive person that needs the other less. The h…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 12:01 AM
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I am 3 years in. I stopped being an alcoholic Have stopped being abusive Lost 30lbs of fat and gained 25lbs of muscle Got a promotion from tradesman to supervising a crew of tradesmen, doubled my income Went from zero friends to a solid group of friends Started a new sport Bought a motorbike Started a weekly coed social activity Sorted out my social anxiety, learned to conversate and flirt sober. Have become a better parent
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 07:27 PM
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I hear you about not needing the fats, I'll see where I can cut them out. I take fish oil and niacin for cholesterol. I left mrp for awhile. It was time for me to post in weekly OYS and figure out where I'm fucking up. Thanks for the comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 12:47 PM
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I decided against the aspirin. I've read the e+c works well enough. Macros 1800 cals 202g protein 112g carb 60g fat. I agree about the mission, I haven't got a life long mission yet. For now, my mission is basic frame building. Agree on therapy, I like to understand the why and then focus on the actionable behaviours to shift to a more ideal mindset. Also agree on the jacked part. It does not matter all that much. It's nice, I do it for myself. Nobody actually cares. I'm already jacked enough. E…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 03:04 AM
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I am not saying that I need a secure or someone more anxious. The book suggests anxious matches up with a secure. I want to work towards a secure attachment. I dislike being avoidant also, avoidant has the same anxiety as anxious. From pulling, I get to recreate the childhood dynamic that I have to chase love or it will be unavailable to me. I do tend to become avoidant once I catch my tail yes. Pls explain the irony comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 08:02 PM
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Asked me for connection tonight. I said yea babe. You want lovin? She shit tested "maybe." I said nah I don't deal with maybes. Maybe another time. I'm not pursuing.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 07:23 PM
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He's not wrong, but there's a nuance.. You being more fun regardless is good. You being more fun in order to make your wife be more comfortable is a cc. If she becomes more comfortable, great. You cannot act with the expectation that she'll react in a certain way.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 06:42 PM
1

I wasn't very clear. I agree with what you said about dread being discomfort and me needing to teach her to seek comfort with my dick. For the record, my comment above was an update as she had just asked to connect after I read your comment about dread, not something I left out of original post.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 05:31 PM
2

Buy elbow sleeves for your tendonitis. Get a massage gun for the knots in your forearm muscles. Will cure your elbow issue. Not your disgusting low value wife issue...
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 05:27 PM
2

I will tell you to divorce your wife. You will either take 5 years to heal from this while struggling to build yourself into an attractive man, or divorce and have the process take 6 months. Fuck your cunty cheating wife. I would never recommend staying with a cheating wife. Take the L and start the divorce, or enjoy your depression. Reminder you still need to do the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 05:26 PM
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New info, she literally just asked me if I want to connect tonight, which is her way of saying she feels discomfort and wants to seek comfort with my dick. "I'm not having sex tonight" was her hard no line after I initated. We were spooning in bed naked, I got turned on and flipped her over and got that line. That is her go-to hard no line as far as I'm concerned, in the past she gets angry if I continue to try. A soft no is more like a sweet "nooooo" which I will blast through no problem with z…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 04:50 PM
3

Covert contract alert! You being more fun will lead to her being what?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 04:40 PM
3

OYS 42 39yo 201lbs 5'11" 13% BF. Together 13 yrs. Wife 33, 2 kids around 10 **NMMNG WISNIFG RM1-3 MMSLP TWOTSM PRAXEOLOGY FRAME subtle art of ngaf MODELS 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading attached and tactical guide to women** BP 275x5 SQ 405X5 DL 435X5 Mission: unfuck myself, build an independent life, dissolve the attachments I have, become fulfilled within. Physical Cutting @1000 cal deficit (1800 cals) Maintaining strength, focusing on strength training 5-10 reps. Will cut volume as…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 03:55 PM
1

Oh nooooo. You are in for a world of pain my man. Go stock up on some Kleenex cuz you're gonna need it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 12:16 AM
1

Both of us used to threaten to end the relationship out of anger. I stopped, and don't want to put up with receiving it. I have oneitis. I am currently learning that I am worth setting boundaries for, and putting up with certain behaviours of the past is no longer tolerable to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/24 09:34 PM
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OYS 41 39yo 210 5'11" 13% BF. Together 13 yrs. Wife 33, 2 boys 11 and 7 NMMNG WISNIFG RM1-3 MMSLP TWOTSM PRAXEOLOGY FRAME subtle art of ngaf MODELS 6 pillars of self esteem BP 275x5 SQ 405X5 DL 435X5 Mission: unfuck myself, build an independent life, dissolve the attachments I have, become fulfilled within. Physical Nothing new. Struggling to eat at surplus in summer heat wave. Ate more veggies and hit my cardio goals. Went for a jog. Played soccer. Lifted. Trt bloodwork due soon. I will likely …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 04:39 PM
1

I agree with this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/24 02:48 PM
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When I find womens behaviour unattractive, I don't get aroused and won't initiate. In the morning she was submissive and sexually open, it turned me on, so I laid pipe. I wasn't happy with her previous behaviour, so I spent my time on other things I was more interested in.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/24 09:06 PM
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My man. Her threat to leave was nothing but a temper tantrum. This woman will not leave me unless I become pathetic again. I wanted to fuck her, so not fucking her would have been a butthurt reaction, and she was initiating by making herself available. She was seeking comfort through sex. Her seeking comfort through sex with me is something I want to encourage. I want my sexual attention to be the prize. After I fucked her, I was focused on my mission for the rest of the weekend. It seems the le…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/24 09:01 PM
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OYS 40 39yo 210 5'11" 13% BF. Together 13 yrs. Wife 33, 2 boys 11 and 7 NMMNG WISNIFG RM1-3 MMSLP TWOTSM PRAXEOLOGY FRAME subtle art of ngaf MODELS 6 pillars of self esteem BP 275x5 SQ 405X5 DL 435X5 Mission: unfuck myself, build an independent life, dissolve the attachments I have, become fulfilled within. Physical: currently running PHAT, finished a 12 wk test npp mast bulk cycle now continuing the bulk on test and mast. 185-210lbs. Npp had good physical results but the mental sides were too m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 05:37 PM
1

You already know you are attractive enough for short term relationships but not long term. Validation from 3 women is masking the issue. Go get a decent job, you need a career. Stop mentioning your ex wife, she isn't your wife anymore. You still haven't accepted that your marriage dipped into unfixable territory. It is over. Your marriage is over. Your marriage is over. Your marriage is over. Let it go bud. Turn is over, enjoyed while it lasted, onto fixing yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/24 09:31 PM
1

You haven't failed shit, it's just a girl. Improve for your own sense of self. Ego death is good.
/r/askMRP03/05/24 01:20 AM
1

Dude you aren't getting it. I'm gonna be harsh here but don't take it personally. I can't tell if you're some sort of pretty airhead tiktoker, or if you're normal and maybe a little too chilled out about life, or thought love conquers all, or what. This is the reality of the situation though: Who cares about her life, she will be better off without you in regards to her goals. Ghost if you want, it's a nice revenge fantasy. She's done nothing wrong. I personally would say, "I understand, this wh…
/r/askMRP02/05/24 09:19 PM
1

Him "leaving" her is in her best interests lmao. She's already gone.
/r/askMRP02/05/24 08:42 PM
2

He's new and exciting, your physical alpha was high but you're a one trick pony. Your wife's a retard who likes shiny new toys, she's too dumb to look for a man of substance. Whatever. Worst part has nothing to do with your brother, it's that you put all your eggs into one basket in life. Your marriage is OVER. Take the L, fix the rest of your shit, and no more international wives. You already mentioned that you're aware of all of this, which is good. Get to work. Again, take the L in regards to…
/r/askMRP02/05/24 08:38 PM
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Ah you have a unicorn lol
/r/TheRedPill01/05/24 09:52 PM
1

Man you seem annoying. You're also using mrp as your new tool to get your wife to approve of you.
/r/askMRP24/04/24 08:20 PM
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Sounds like a prissy bitch. For that reason, I'm out.
/r/askMRP19/04/24 01:53 AM
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Save this for when he has frame and isn't a butthurt tantrum throwing baby. He's still at STFU stage and is doing zero STFU. Talk and talk and talk some more about your expectations and how much respect you deserve bro. Maybe the 34th time she'll listen. SHUT THE FUCK UP you egotistical fuck. Let her sleep in the spare room! What the fuck have you got going on in your life besides fixing your wife? What are you doing to fix yourself and why is that not your sole focus? Do you play with your kids…
/r/askMRP19/04/24 12:12 AM
2

Reward her by letting her on your team when she does.
/r/askMRP11/04/24 12:38 AM
2

I stopped caring about fucking mine too. It did wonders for curing my sex for validation problem. See how I did that for my benefit and not to win a battle? It also allowed my natural desire for her to grow once the bad behaviour stopped. You're correct, she's withholding as part of this battle. I fucked her again once she came to me. She's anxious because you're not being a good daddy.
/r/askMRP11/04/24 12:28 AM
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Relax about the splitting stuff. She isn't going anywhere. Ofc she is free to leave. Worry about your own anxious frame bro lmao. Chilllll. Go read some shit about mindfulness and mediation. You're on the same team no? She isn't your adversary. Just be normal, carry on with your self improvement. I suggest mental calmness be your focus rn. Learn to be completely comfortable with yourself. Leave room for your wife to join you. When she does, up the intimacy... Unless you want to continue to break…
/r/askMRP11/04/24 12:12 AM
2

Relax. Your mindset still needs work. Don't get sucked into the mrp bullshit, none of this stuff is that big of a deal. She isn't holding anything back. I made a major mistake for a long time thinking all of this stuff was so serious. It's pretty fuckin gay when you think about it, just a bunch of fags writing esoteric fag articles lmao. Take the messages written to heart but remember it's not that serious. Being distant and aloof when you're high value grinds these LSE women down, and their wal…
/r/askMRP10/04/24 11:53 PM
1

It's the epic frame fight, and the only way you succeed is to stop needing her.
/r/askMRP10/04/24 11:15 PM
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You can grow but you'll be all fucked up and unbalanced not seeing your weak spots. Just like bodybuilding without a coach. You don't know what you don't know. Maybe if you're super smart, which you and I are not. I haven't posted for 1 year in oys while I've been unplugging. It's been a struggle and a half. You'll learn it eventually, but only due to repeating the same mistakes over, and over, and over, to the point of near mental illness. I am ready to start posting OYS again, and I am very ce…
/r/askMRP31/03/24 10:58 PM
3

Tease her. Don't be codependent. You don't need her. Be cocky. She ain't goin anywhere.
/r/askMRP23/01/24 02:48 AM
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Practical female psychology will help you understand how women operate, that will help you stop caring about these silly manipulations that you fall for. You are not red pilled brother, you have zero understanding of these basic basic concepts here. Quick fix: amused mastery, agree and amplify, tease her. It's fucking easy. Def have a good start, once you get these things figured out it sounds like you'll have a pretty solid life. Now whats your advice for starting a 1m/yr business.
/r/askMRP23/01/24 02:46 AM
5

I accept that my feelings come and go, they can be based on my childhood fears, my insecurities, my blood sugar levels, whether I met my goals for the day or not, whether I'm bored or it's raining or what I've got to look forward to the coming weekend. I accept my feelings will pass so I don't base my decisions and actions on my feelings. Personally I stopped initiating all the time, only when I really wanted it. I maintained playfulness and sexual behaviour. Wife learned my sexual attention was…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/24 10:09 PM
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Who cares why she does it? Stay out of her head Mr Monkey. I get treated well. I have random thoughtful things done for me. I'm treated with respect. I get sex when I want it (if I've been attractive). I enjoy the playful vibe going on in my house. I don't wonder while I'm balls deep if shes acting just to keep me around. None of it matters.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/24 09:48 PM
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We all have kids you bozo. Only difference is, my kids are learning how to be masculine and how to shape their own world, and yours are going to need to come to an internet subreddit for guys who grew up with pussies for dads, that may or may not still be available. Get off the internet and go practice saying no to people.
/r/askMRP17/01/24 11:13 PM
2

Horse blinders when you take her out in public. Works for me.
/r/askMRP17/01/24 08:41 PM
1

If you stopped with the crybaby learned helplessness stuff and started doing some internal work, you might become happy and confident enough to move back into your master bedroom aka your wife's bedroom. Master. Bedroom. That you were sent out of. In your house. By your master. Sidebar. Ps don't think I didn't see you deleted your dead bedroom post before commenting here lol stop worrying about what I'll think about you. I don't matter in your life. Thats a gold nugget to you.
/r/askMRP17/01/24 08:36 PM
0

Victim alert 👆
/r/askMRP17/01/24 05:08 PM
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As far as practical ways, have you tried not letting your wifes mood affect you? Being committed to your gay vows means mrp can't help you to improve your life. The solution is to become worth a damn, quit being a pussy, stand up to your wife if you don't like something, and if she gets violent you divorce her because she's violent. Pretty fuckin simple. Or you could walk on eggshells as to not anger your wife. You're a battered wife lmao.
/r/askMRP17/01/24 01:16 AM
2

Give your pregnazoid calm non-needy comfort, while you build yourself up. She isn't going anywhere. If she's a cunt about it, don't even sweat it. Chuckle it off and say there there my little pregnazoid. That's AM. It's that fuckin easy. Then go do whatever, carry on w your day. Rinse repeat.
/r/askMRP11/01/24 01:36 AM
1

You are easily 25lbs too fat for your weight and lifts. Look at pics of sub 12% BF. That is your goal. 190 and 11% is just ok at 6ft. Kinda small still.
/r/askMRP11/01/24 01:32 AM
1

Accept your losses. Let the rage go. Sunk cost. Big deal.
/r/askMRP11/01/24 01:26 AM
2

Hot shit because you know you're not. A confident happy man provides different beta than a needy insecure man would. You can give your pregnant wife comfort from an abundant place, a confident man doesn't worry if providing beta will mean he's slipping back to his old faggot self. A man with real frame cannot slip back. I give my wife lots of comfort, she barely got any for a decade. If it's met with increased shit tests so what? I don't fail them so it's irrelevant. Stop being cocky until it co…
/r/askMRP11/01/24 01:24 AM
2

What's stopping guys in 25+ year LTRs from becoming the younger cat again? You're literally here to reinvent yourself because the you of today is a faggot. And if old pussy doesn't eventually jump on board you can find new pussy.
/r/askMRP11/01/24 01:11 AM
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Top 2 percent of earners I'll have you guys know wah wah wah lmao That was a perfect opportunity to practice STFU. This stuff is so easy once you lose the ego and stop taking every little thing personally. Your ego problem is due to low self confidence. Your wife isn't your problem. You're fine. Internally, deep down, way back at some point, you're fine. Your mental models suck, and you're all screwed up inside, and externally you look like a bag of milk, but you can work on all of that. Relax. …
/r/askMRP11/01/24 01:09 AM
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"Then bounce" lmao nice. I have put trampolines together, I wouldn't trust 70% of women to do it. Btw you're DEERing sir. Op, redwalls frame is(was) let her do it herself. My frame is: I would build it for my kid's safety sake. What's yours? Do that. Faggot.
/r/askMRP08/01/24 07:31 PM
1

Your options for an LTR are limited, cuz you're a giant fucking faggot. Your ex is going to be just fine without you, because you're a giant fucking faggot.
/r/askMRP07/01/24 10:02 PM
1

The parts you're missing: 1) accepting that you aren't shit 2) accepting that that's ok. The beauty of changing your mental point of origin is that once you make yourself the only authority that matters, your opinion is the only one that matters. Try that for liberation. Relax. Quit worrying about all this stuff. Mrp finally worked for me once I stopped trying so fucking hard.
/r/askMRP07/01/24 07:38 PM
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Do you not have anything better to do with your time? Make a clean break. Assemble your kids trampoline for your kid. Stop doing stuff for your ex, you two are weird. You're weird bro. Get on with your life. Take a break, your marriage ended, let it go, build your own life.
/r/askMRP07/01/24 07:25 PM
3

Assembling a trampoline is for his kid.
/r/askMRP07/01/24 07:22 PM
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45kg bench talking about giant antlers after being voluntold by his wife to fix other people's issues thinking he's superior to a giant personal trainer fella and his brother in law lmao fucking ego. I know your type. You suck. Your need to convey superiority is due to knowing you suck. You're on mrp, so you're a complete loser, but not as much of a loser as your sadsack brother in law though. Right fellas?? Continue "trying" to cut until you actually do it, then bulk. Skinny fat faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/23 11:24 PM
2

Fighting your way out her frame would be beneficial to the strength of your frame, should you decide to do that. Being single doesn't automatically develop your frame. The trope "I used to be alpha" is just single guys with single guy frame immediately falling into their woman's frame once they met a woman they wanted to LTR. It's easy to maintain frame when it's random sluts you're banging. I predict you'll be right back where you started if you don't stick around to actually develop a verified…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/23 10:54 PM
2

Why would you want to? I did it but I wasn't just a lazy beta, I was also a full on alcoholic abusive insecure asshole with zero self esteem, self respect, respect for others, or attractive qualities. I can't think of many reasons to not start fresh.
/r/askMRP19/12/23 01:09 AM
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Chill the fuck out is what you do. You're hysterical like a teenage girl. Do you want to stay with your wife or not? That's all it comes down to. If yes, quit being a fucking faggot. If no, quit being a fucking faggot. She's prob not even schizophrenic, just living in severe emotional turmoil from being stuck with a complete fucking faggot who couldn't decide if he liked his wife or not. You're a disgrace dude.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 01:23 AM
0

There is no "right person for you", which is why you're being down voted.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 01:19 AM
2

Finally an answer you understand and agree with* Stick to basics, not this "am i generating enough dread" bs. You don't even like fucking your wife, you are still doing it to prove you're attractive enough. You have many miserable months until you figure it out, don't sweat any of it. Once you're attractive, none of this will matter. You'll just do what you want.
/r/askMRP15/12/23 10:42 PM
2

Should would need to bla bla bla you half ass everything. Fuck off and fix all your shit before asking dumb questions.
/r/askMRP15/12/23 10:33 PM
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Dread is a byproduct of you being rad. Not some things you do with the intention of scaring her into fucking you. I tried every single way to covert contract my wife into more sex, didn't work. Even when it did, it was only temporary and never satisfying. Dread is the why fixing yourself works, not the how. Horns did an updated dread article. Read it.
/r/askMRP15/12/23 07:46 PM
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Now this is one rational male. Op if you can't get childless women, keep improving til you can
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 06:23 PM
1

Your wife didn't do any of these things to you. Are you drunk right now? Quit crying. You let all of it happen, because you didn't know any better. Now you have the tools to learn the correct mindset, to live your life for you. Now shut the fuck up.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 10:55 PM
1

We are still misunderstanding regarding the being vs getting point. The entire time my point was being me IS what I want. Me wording it poorly does not change my intended answer. It is, and has been my answer this whole time. You are going to have to believe that, or not. Because it seems you're focused on getting what you want as the goal. Side goal perhaps. It's a nice benefit, I like good sex. It's not my goal. My goal is to control my own life and happiness. At the sacrifice of what you natu…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 09:41 PM
1

No, you're interpreting it in reverse. Being me IS what I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 01:25 PM
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Being who I want to be IS what I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 12:01 AM
2

OYS 39 37yo 190 5'11" 13% BF. Currently cutting from a bulk of 213lbs Previously diamondunlucky9120 NMMNG WISNIFG RM1-3 MMSLP 12steps of dread TWOTSM PRAXEOLOGY subtle art of ngaf MODELS 6 pillars of self esteem UNCHAINED MAN Back from an OYS break. Haven't stopped lifting reading working. BP 265x5 SQ 385X5 DL 405X5 I spend my time thinking about what I want to do, what I have to do, who am I, who do I want to be, and how do I get there. I'm thinking what I want my values to be. Honest, calm, co…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 10:52 PM
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