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| 1 | What makes men in situationships be REALLY and honestly emotionally close one day and distant the next?Moods. Men have moods. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/26 11:50 PM |
| 2 | My storyOh shit. Good point. She didn't think that through or maybe she has so much money she doesn't care. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/26 02:16 AM |
| 7 | Wife started calling me "weak" and talking about divorce after I had a rough couple of days this weekI also got that vibe from this | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/25 08:28 AM |
| 2 | Nearly three-quarters of same-sex divorces in 2019 were between female couples, despite female couples constituting only 56% of same-sex marriages.The comment got deleted. What was it in essence? | /r/BlackPillScience | 08/06/24 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Wife left meAh, gotcha. Your mention of internet trends made me think there was something that happened two years ago that might have influenced her decision. I was thinking like the Barbie movie or something like that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Wife left meCurious what you mean by this. What was the trend? How are you able to be so specific about this? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 02:57 PM |
| 3 | California and life time alimonyThen you're making the right choice. Don't ever leave your son. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/24 12:57 AM |
| 2 | California and life time alimonyIs that really an option? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 11:07 PM |
| 3 | PatheticMove fast, but not so fast you make mistakes. She's in a honeymoon haze right now. It will be easier to get divorce terms in your favor. She thinks that branch she's grabbing is strong and stable. Let her think that. Fuck her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/24 02:32 PM |
| 2 | I'm hurtingYou should probably be mad. That means you've fully understood just how nasty this was and how diabolical she is. What exactly did you do/say? What led up to this? Why did CPS take your kids? No judgment here. Just helpful context. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/24 02:25 PM |
| 12 | Externalizing everything still miss herHey man, I'm in a similar place and have similar thoughts. I think as men, we are looking at the situation logically and saying "it doesn't add up." It's hard for me to wrap my head around how someone could not make life decisions without factoring in the logical side, but, especially if your wife was an externalizer, that's not how many women operate. They're operating on emotion first and then, second, on the narrative they've constructed to explain the decision to divorce that was made based … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Having Lunch with my STBX todayHey, I don't think it's a terrible idea to build rapport going into mediation. Might help her be more generous. But, if this has a chance of going sideways and turning into conflict, maybe not. Also, mind if you share the specifics on the agreement on the house? We're looking to do something similar and I'm not finding a lot of good solutions online. In our case, she will be keeping the house but can't afford to pay me out right now. To avoid refinancing at high rates, I want to be flexible on w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 03:31 PM |
| 1 | How did you guys grieve your marriage and the future you planned?Make sure every other holiday is in the contract. If you end up doing them together, that's great. But at least having that written in their guarantees you a legal right to 50% of holidays. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/24 07:31 PM |
| 3 | LL wife cheat?Women will bend over backwards to blame it on the man. "Well, what was HE doing that made her want to cheat?" Like, bro, that's called fucking victim shaming and we don't do that to literally anyone but men these days. It's so similar to "well, what was she wearing?" | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/24 09:22 PM |
| 1 | What was the cost of your "Contested" Divorce?What state are you in? | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/24 05:34 PM |
| 1 | What was the cost of your "Contested" Divorce?And your kids need you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/24 05:55 PM |
| 2 | What was the cost of your "Contested" Divorce?How long were you married? Curious about the no alimony. Any child support? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/24 07:56 PM |
| 5 | I thought it would help…Thanks for sharing all this, man. I relate to parts of this, especially the feeling that I'm the only one that appreciates how much the divorce is going to affect the kids long run. My wife does not seem to understand that divorce is terrible for kids. Doesn't seem to think it's a big deal. It's frustrating, it really really sucks. Not sure what else to say. A lot of people around here say it gets better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/24 08:48 PM |
| 5 | I never want to do this again.And yet as men were expected to keep our baser impulses 100% contained 🙄 | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/24 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Where did you move out to?At one time, marriage was kind of a shitty deal for women. Now, the pendulum has swung really, really far the other way. Solution? Never ever marry again and tell all the men in your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/24 02:33 AM |
| 1 | In the shortest way possible, if someone were to ask you to describe the loving relationship you have with your son, what would you say exactly?Time | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/24 04:46 AM |
| 3 | The more I think about it ..That sucks bro. Sorry to hear how unfairly you're being treated. Total bullshit she would get half the current value when she didn't make any payments in the interim. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/24 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Any experience this, Divorced now for like a year but I'm still low key in love with my ex, I lose interest in current love affairs cause they never live up to her?Oh damn. Yeah, definitely something to make sure no one else can see! | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/24 05:55 PM |
| 11 | I don’t know what to do…1 OP, she is NOT the one. It's hard, yes, but you MUST take this golden opportunity to cleanly cut ties and find the woman you deserve. This bitch AINT it. I promise you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/24 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Any experience this, Divorced now for like a year but I'm still low key in love with my ex, I lose interest in current love affairs cause they never live up to her?It helped me to make a list of all the things I didn't like about her and all the crazy messed up shit she did over the course of our relationship. When I found myself wishing I could be with her, I'd review that list. Often, I'd add to it as I remembered even more things. This helped me to stop idealizing her and our relationship. Often, we are longing for a fantasy that only exists in our minds and we need a little help remembering reality. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/24 12:45 PM |
| 2 | Why are you guys seriously dating shortly after divorce?Ah nice tip. I'll prob raise many flags because I don't use it. Could be worth a shot though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/24 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Why are you guys seriously dating shortly after divorce?How are you meeting all these attractive women looking for a fwb? Where are the hot single in my area? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/24 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Going through Divorce... Co-own vs sellingHow does one grease the edges? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Anyone just say "fuck it" and blow everything up when there aren't any "traditional problems"?Why do you suspect he may be a narc? I'm not making the connection. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 05:27 AM |
| 4 | Story of a doormatYou are doing the right thing and freedom is within your grasp. DO NOT GO BACK. That story was really hard to read but it sounds like you're aware of your mistakes. Continue grey rocking. Stay strong. You're on the right path. We're here for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/24 07:48 PM |
| 3 | How does someone do this to their family?Hang in there brother. Find a way to break the cycle. Give yourself 8 hours of screen time a day but commit to doing something productive with the rest. Exercise. Cook a healthy meal. Read a motivating book, take one step to improve your life, etc. It's not impossible and that's how I know you can do it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/24 04:39 AM |
| 3 | LonelyHinge is working pretty well for me if you haven't tried it yet. Bumble not so much. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 10:32 PM |
| 6 | Karma Finally got herAckhsually, karma, as Buddha described it, is exactly that... the sum total of your choices and the consequences of your actions. It's just a term that's been abused by pop culture and warped by religiosity. Buddhism is good stuff. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/24 06:49 AM |
| 1 | The Abundance Mindset - Dating after DivorceGotcha. Thanks! Sometimes I forget how useful newspapers are... and that they exist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 07:59 PM |
| 6 | I think I have officially lost.Yeah, sounds like you might be horribilizing yourself a bit, OP. Your mistakes prob aren't uncommon and they didn't happen in a vacuum -- more than likely these mistakes happened as part of unhealthy relationship patterns you both contributed too. No reasons to blame yourself or feel unnecessary guilt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 07:57 PM |
| 1 | The Abundance Mindset - Dating after DivorceWhat kind of events? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 02:04 AM |
| 0 | Gloating Parent(s) During the Divorce?Yeah dude sorry your dad sucks ass! Wtf. Cut that god damn kid-competing loser out of your life. At least keep him at arms length so he can't hurt you anymore. Fuck him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 03:03 PM |
| 1 | The light switch affect..Holy fucking shit bro. I am so sorry. Reminds me of the chick from Gone Girl. Scares me there are crazies like her living amongst us. We could date them for years and never realize what they are hiding below the surface. Nightmare fuel. Never marry! | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 03:42 AM |
| 1 | For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce...What's the deal with teachers? I would think they would be quality people? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/02/24 04:37 AM |
| 1 | For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce...What's the deal with teachers? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/02/24 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Emotion control tips?Ignore everything and don't react is great advice and I just want to add onto that... go into every interaction expecting that she will try to push your buttons. This is so you won't ever be caught off guard. When you see yourself feeling emotions and reacting, think to yourself "she is trying to push my buttons and the best thing I can do in this situation is to not react." My therapist told me to picture a stop sign in my mind to interrupt the trigger --> emotional response pattern. Keep a rec… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 02:10 PM |
| 3 | I wrote 3 letters todayThings will get better. Hang in there my friend. Things will not always be this difficult. You can always count on things changing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Life is good, men in your 40sKeep your chin up and hang in there. It is a longer process for some but the rest of your life will not be like this. You can always count on things changing! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 05:27 PM |
| 2 | Wife having an affairNavy takes this very seriously too. Not sure about other branches. A buddy of mine had his ex locked up for adultery. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 05:23 PM |
| 2 | Having a very hard timeAny advice for someone getting ready for first mediation session? I know to get 50/50 shared custody. What else? Any tips? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/24 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Having a very hard timeHow did you find the proof? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/24 07:04 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever “let her go” or given up while you was still married?Yeah OP, you definitely won't be alone through your 20's. Do NOT marry her because if that fear. It's irrational. Break up, date other women, and find the right one. You are SO young. Don't waste your youth with a sour meat suit. Get out there and get laid! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/24 06:02 PM |
| 3 | Alimony and tax filing anger (again)Curious about this too. Seems like a woman would just say peace out and find someone who will marry her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 10:39 PM |
| -1 | Wife shifts the Blame for Consequences of her Decision to File for DivorceThe effect on the kids is definitely the hardest part to cope with. But, remember, it's not all your fault this happened. In fact, in many situations no one is to blame. Two people just can't figure out how to get along. It happens and it's no one's fault. But yes unfortunately the kids have to deal with our mistakes. Very unfair but as long as you do a good job co-parenting they will be fine. Definitely try to get more time with them though! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/24 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Freshly divorced and deeply depressed but also glad it’s over and know it’s for the best.Oh yeah, can totally relate. It's been about two weeks for me. And, yes, very mixed feelings about the relationship and what hurts the most is feeling like my family is gone. But, my family isn't gone, just different. As far as missing my wife, not sure how healthy this is, but it has helped me... I make a list of all the things I don't like about her and all the fights and bad memories. This helps me stay focused on the things that were bad rather than idealizing her, and helps me remember why … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/24 11:58 AM |
| 1 | Why do women like to see us suffer even when they are the ones that chose to leave ?You alright bro? Here to talk if you want to vent. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/24 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Felt like I am speaking to a wall in court, feeling defeated and in a dark place.Is this true? Wtf | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/24 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Seeking Advice: Contemplating Divorce but Seeing Hopeful SignsWhat do you mean by this? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/24 12:15 AM |
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