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I met my husband online at christianmingle.com. I went online because I go to a tiny little church with no young people, & the larger churches in town were a lil too big & bust busy for me; not a large crowd person. I had been married once before, & made some mistakes, both in myself & in choosing a mate the first time around. I took a good, hard look at myself to make sure I was the best I could be before getting back into dating, & was VERY specific about what I was looking for in my profile; …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 01:25 AM
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I definitely second the keto diet, or at the very least, reducing the number of sugar & carbs you consume. I've done keto in the past, & lost some weight without trying too hard. I am currently eating a nearly keto diet for my gestational diabetes, so I don't have a choice but to eat healthy for my baby. I was diagnosed about a month & a half ago, & even though I'm pregnant, I've lost 15 lbs since my diagnosis (don't worry, my doctor said this is normal & isn't concerned). Which, honestly, I'm w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 01:41 AM
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Right? I mean, there are some occasions where a vacuum/ crockpot/ iron would be a little insensitive, like say, a big anniversary (5, 10, 25, etc.) but birthday? Christmas? Heck yeah buy me that vacuum!😂
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 01:23 AM
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Do all women hate getting vacuums as presents? I've been eyeballing a battery operated stick vac for use on the hard surface floors, or possibly a Roomba in the future. If my husband surprised me with either, I'd be stoked! I love tools that make my life easier, & I have quite the collection of them, from kitchen gadgets to power tools!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 06:10 PM
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Thank you! I am glad I could help!
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/20 06:39 PM
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I can definitely agree with the part about men who lack integrity & a strong will end up pushing their wives into more masculine roles & eventually, resentment. I can say that because, well, a few years ago, that was me. My ex husband struggled with depression & his sexuality, both of which I was somewhat aware of when we married, but he assured me he'd dealt with both. Well, he hadn't, & it made him into a man who lacked leadership skills, ambition, & overall masculinity. I had to step up & tak…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 05:40 PM
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I honestly wouldn't worry about it. The past is in the past. You can't change it; the only thing you can do is learn from your mistakes & move forward. My husband & I weren't each other's firsts. We were honest about past partners with each other when we first started dating, & we both understood we weren't perfect people & had made mistakes. We grew up, wised up, & moved forward. Then we found each other. Do I wish my husband was my first? Sure. All the time. But I can't go back & change that, …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 04:53 AM
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Lolololol the names 🤣. We have my husband's mountain lion rug on the wall in our living room, but as a hunter myself, I think it's pretty cool. I hung some girly stuff up with it that looks nice. I've mixed rustic with chic into a style that both of us can agree on :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 03:49 AM
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Girl, just go. Four years is nothing in the grand scheme of things. I was with my ex husband for nearly 4 years, and that seems like a lifetime ago- a mere blip of time in my past. I've been happy remarried to a wonderful man for 3 years now. Trust me, the ones who act like children as adults NEVER change. I dated a guy in high school & into early adulthood that acted JUST like this. He couldn't hold a job, blew all his money as soon as it hit the bank, & expected me to bankroll him when he was …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/19 04:28 AM
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I think it's completely normal for a woman to want to be the SAHW/SAHM. We're kinda wired that way. Only recently has the pressure to be the woman that "has it all"- the family, the career, etc. been applied to women. I've always known I wanted to be a wife. I never wanted the career, didn't want to join the rat race & compete with the men. I have always wanted to have an amazing marriage & take care of the home. I also wanted to be an artist- I am currently self-employed as such with a part tim…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 08:14 PM
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You need to probably list up front what it is you're looking for. I met my husband on a Christian dating website, & in my profile I listed the following: that i was looking for marriage, was willing to have children, wanted a man who demonstrated leadership & was the type of person I'd be willing to submit to, what my religious/political views were, & some of my hobbies. I also listed what I was NOT looking for in a man & a relationship. Obviously, don't bare your entire soul online to total str…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 09:00 PM
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So very thankful for my wonderful hubby & how hard he works for us ♡. I'm very thankful that, even though most of the time he works 6-7 days a week (and has had to work more than 30 days straight before) he still makes time for me ♡. He took the whole week off for our anniversary (which will be 3 years tomorrow) & is graciously helping me install new flooring in my art studio/office. "Aren't you glad you married a guy who knows his way around a saw?" he asked. Yes. Yes I am ♡♡♡♡
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 01:16 AM
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I don't wish ill upon anyone that did me wrong in high school. In fact, I am on a friendly basis with all of them when I run into them in public. It just seems to be a trend that a lot of the ones that thought they were such "hot shit" in high school really ended up not being as such as adults. Really, the only reason I know what's up with any of them is that it was such a small class in a rural area & several of them are still around.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 06:46 PM
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Not what I was saying at all. More pointing out that karma got the ones who decided it was appropriate to bully kids based on what they had/ didn't have or their personalities.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 06:32 PM
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Not really. Small, rural town high school where partying was the "only thing to do". If you're hard on your body when you're young, it's not going to be good to you as you age. There are a lot of kids from my class who are doing well; they didn't fall into drugs & went on to get college degrees & careers. But yeah, you'd be surprised how many men start balding, or even turning grey, in their 20s- not just at my school, but other kids I knew growing up.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 01:13 PM
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I'm 28. I wasn't allowed to have a smart phone as a teen, & neither were my siblings, who both did sports & were extremely popular. I was weird in high school because of my own nerdiness, not because of my lack of a smart phone. I didn't get Facebook until I was 19, outta high school & had my own apartment. Rather than buying me a smart phone because "everyone else has one!" my parents taught me responsibility by having me get a job, pick out my own phone & pay the bill. Sure, it wasn't a smart …
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/19 10:33 PM
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If their peers are going to ostracize them for something as stupid as not having a smart phone, then they're shit peers that don't deserve to have friends anyways. I didn't have a smart phone when all my friends did, & they didn't give a shit. I got a basic phone for calls, texts & picture messages at 17 when I was driving & got a job. I bought my first smart phone at 20. No one ostracized me, & I turned out just fine. Children do not not to be awarded the latest & greatest technology just for e…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/19 01:48 PM
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Agreed! Although my husband & I are going to take it a step further & say no smart phones until age 18, & they can buy their own & pay the bill. They'll get a basic phone for calls/ texts when they learn to drive. I didn't get a smart phone until I was 20, & I don't think any kids of mine need a smart phone as a child.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 03:34 PM
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She is darling! That is what I aspire to be in my old age. Definitely following her now!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 06:42 PM
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I read somewhere that the deep south is the most obese area of the US. That could be why you're seeing it so commonly.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 06:39 PM
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🤣 possibly, but it's not as big of an issue where we live- rural area.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/19 12:55 PM
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My mom always made us clean the house before we went on vacation. As kids, we hated it, & often whined & said it would still be there when we got home. Now, as an adult, I totally get it. Coming home to a clean house is so much more relaxing than coming home to a dirty one!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/19 05:26 AM
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Dollar Store nail polish is so much better than people give it credit for! I paint my toes with it, & they'll last a month!
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 03:26 PM
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If you know someone who is an Avon rep (without being a complete psycho MLM cultist, lol) I LOVE their eyeshadow & eyeliner. My mom is a rep, so I get most of my beauty needs from her. I also have a thing for their jewelry... 😜
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 06:13 AM
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One of the things that helped me get my mojo back after having been sick on & off for over a month (I work in a school- those little kids are little walking plague viruses) was to go get my hair done. I had a trim & style, & instead of going home & going back to my old, somewhat lax, way of taking care of my hair, I actually paid attention to the products the stylist used & bought some for myself. No more dry hair for me!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 02:52 AM
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He literally stood up to his mother for my sake. When we first started dating, MIL didn't like me much, & even went so far to try & break us up. When he decided his mother wasn't going to win the battle, and that he & I were getting married regardless of how she felt, he no longer allowed her to speak ill of me, & even went so far as to tell me that if his mother didn't get over herself, that he would cut her out of his life & not look back. Hearing him say that made me believe that if he would …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 02:48 AM
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My sweet husband said it first. We had only been talking to each other over Skype for about a month after meeting online. We hadn't even met in person yet. I had just divorced earlier that year, & wanted to be VERY cautious getting into another relationship. He knew this, but after all our late night conversations, he threw caution to the wind. He knew he loved me, & even though i didn't really want to make it official until we met in person, I knew I loved him too. He told me he didn't care; he…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 01:38 AM
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Also, wear your sunglasses & a hat when outdoors! Keep the sun off your face & outta your eyes!
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 05:37 AM
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You're welcome. That's not very nice the way he puts you down about your income. If you're trying to be in a more traditional relationship, and he wants a traditional woman, then, yes, you're going to make less than him. And it's not a competition. People that lord their income over other's... that's just immature behavior. I think some women seem to confuse high value with high earning. Just because a guy makes lots of money, or has a good career, doesn't mean he's high value, at least not RMV.…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 01:15 PM
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Yes, trust me- if your family knows it's going downhill, chances are they'll be happy for you. I know mine was. My grandma even said "He was never good for you anyway". Well darn it, grandma, why didn't you tell me sooner! Lol. Honestly, I think they'd be happier knowing you're safe & happy, rather than worrying about you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 01:02 PM
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I feel the same way about my hubby. I'm very proud of him & how hard he's worked, & continues to work. I've enjoyed watching him grow over the last 3 years, and I too, am excited to see what he becomes! 😀
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 10:27 PM
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I second the feeling of freedom after leaving a bad relationship! You won't be lonely forever. Your family isn't going to hate you (at least they shouldn't). You'll have time to heal, work on yourself, & become the woman that attracts the man you're looking for. You'll finally be able to breath- that's how I felt after my divorce. I'm now married to a wonderful man. The heartache doesn't last, OP. ♡
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 09:06 PM
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I'm so sorry, dear- this sounds tough. I was in a rough spot at your age as well, so I really feel for you. The lying & the anger are both big "no" items in my book, and I dealt with that in several relationships when I was your age. My first bf I dated from age 17-19 was a very angry, immature guy who spent his money like crazy, borrowed from me without repaying, & often took his anger out on me- yelling, screaming, etc. The night I knew it was over, though, was when i had just moved outta my p…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 09:01 PM
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I loved this part too. When my husband & I started dating, he didn't have much- in fact, he was still living with his parents & working for their business. But I saw the drive he possessed, & even though we were stretched pretty thin the first 2 years together, through my husband's determination & work ethic, we are now MUCH more comfortable. I know he will continue to reach higher & be an excellent provider :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 08:39 PM
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PREACH! So much "yes" all this! These are the questions you need to ask yourself in any relationship if you want it to last! With my ex, it was a solid "no" to all this, hence why the marriage failed. I WISH my mother had gone over some of this with me as a teen! I was so naive when I entered the dating world, I messed up big time in my first marriage. Happy to say, I can answer "yes" to all these with my now husband ♡. Ladies, check yourself on these points in your relationships or before enter…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 08:35 PM
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Yes! I love all of this, & I see a lot of myself in what you said! Don't envy the three other girls and the attention they get, OP, - a lot of it is negative, & because you see yourself as a lower SMV than them, it could cause you to accept advances from "just any guy" because "he's as good as I can do" and that can get you into trouble! After several failed relationships & one failed marriage, I'm speaking from experience! Build your confidence naturally, & be the woman you want to be that attr…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 03:24 PM
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You're welcome! Yes, I have lived a lot for someone who is just going on 28, but I'll be damned if I let it ruin my future! Good luck to you!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 04:12 PM
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Oh no. Nopey nope nope! Lying is the biggest deal breaker for me. Ex husband was a habitual liar- everything from things he did in his past (why lie about the band you were in in college?) to make himself look cooler to lying about his online affair & stealing money from our account & playing dumb when I asked about it. I don't think pursuing a relationship worth this guy is a bad idea.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 03:58 PM
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I've never been to college. I'm never going. My husband knew this when we met. I'm very educated in hands on, worldly, real life stuff, because I've been living on my own & working since I was 19. I am now, at 27, a professional artist, & hubby & I are living comfortably- owning a home, 3 cars, considering a family, etc. He only took a semester of college & had only ever worked the family business when we met. He now has a good job that will become a career. I'm not bashing college, but I will s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 03:48 PM
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We all make mistakes- some of us give into the hypergamy, some of us make different dumb choices (yo!- that's me). The important thing here is that you learned a lesson from said mistakes & don't plan on repeating them. I lost my v card at 17 to a guy I thought I was going to be with "foreveeeeerrrr". Spoiler alert- it didn't last past 2 years. We fought a lot, & the final straw was him coming at me with a raised fist during an argument. He didn't hit me, but that was the end. Then I dated someo…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 03:26 PM
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I hope you enjoy it! And yes, thank God she did. It would've been a lot more difficult otherwise!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/18 02:59 AM
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"Created to be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl. For those of us with a Christian background, it is a wonderful book that really helps women understand & appreciate their role in marriage. It also gave me a huge appreciation for my husband & his role in the marriage. Sure, my MIL did NOT like me when hubby & I first got together (she even tried breaking us up), but I'm glad she gave me the book & has since come around :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/18 12:28 AM
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We are very blessed ♡. And good luck to you! Just be the very best version of you. You'll fond someone!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 02:11 PM
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It is! I love my husband so much! He just got to work for the day, & I already miss him lol
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 02:07 PM
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Gosh, there are so many- I'm so blessed! But these are a few of my favorites (in no particular order): 1. Going to bed together every night. Rarely ever does one of us stay up & watch tv. We pretty much always climb into bed together, kiss, cuddle, & drift off to sleep together every night . I love the feeling of security ♡ 2. An amazing sex life because we are completely in love & totally trust each other. 3. Having someone to cook for, someone who appreciates it. 4. Being able to totally trust…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/18 05:05 AM
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Any time he helps you, make sure to thank him. Wear his favorit outfit to dinner. Bring his food to him at the table or have his place set at mealtime. If he's so inclined, get his opinion on a hairstyle/color you're considering (hubby and I picked out together a color I'm going to get this fall). Aaand... this one may sound a bit cheesy, but whenever hubby fixes somthing for me, lifts something heavy I can't, or kills that HUGE spider in the bathroom, I tell him he's my big, strong man and that…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 10:36 PM
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Don't be sad about having to try online dating- it's where I met my husband. We have been together 3 years, married 2. The thing about quality men is, they're busy guys. They're not usually thinking about picking up women at the grocery store- they're there to get groceries. They're on a mission. You need to meet men in an environment that encourages a more flirty attitude. I understand not doing the party/bar scene; that's not my thing either as I'm not overly fond of drunk people. What you can…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 02:50 PM
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My husband prefers me in leggings, girly tops & boots. He's also good with the jeans/t-shirt look. He prefers both of those outfits over skirts/dresses. He likes me best with my hair up, I prefer myself hair down, so I alternate back & forth. He likes me to keep my toenails painted & appreciates that I wear jewelry. Sometimes, when we go out, he'll request a specific outfit. Over all, he likes my style, & usually tells me I look nice regardless of what I'm wearing ♡
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 06:48 AM
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Lol kayaking is so much fun. Hubby & just bought newer ones that are more stable & hold more weight so we can go into the mountains & handle rougher water & pack in camping gear. Can't wait until we get to plan a float / camp trip! The first couple times, it can be a little scary, but once you get your balance, it's awesome. Last time we went to the mountains with our new rigs, hubby & I the ourselves into the "waves" (they were kinda small, but still) no fear! And writing is even cheaper than a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:23 PM
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CONSIDER THAT YOU'LL HAVE TO CLEAN IT. Not if I put it in the built in curio-cabinet in the dining room lol. Buying that other ceramic rooster I wanted at the hobby store! (Somebody help me lol. I have a problem!)
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 03:14 AM
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I'm a mix of a neat-freak and a sentimental, somewhat messy fool. It's like having a daily idently crisis lol. That being said, I've seen some others mention getting rid of/having less stuff. I wholeheartedly agree. When hubby and I sold our larger, 4 bedroom house in town and downsized to a smaller, 3 bedroom house out of town, I had to get rid of SO. MUCH. STUFF. just to fit into our new, smaller residence lol. And you know what? Getting rid of all that unnecessary junk was so liberating! It w…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 03:12 AM
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That is so awful. I feel bad for that guy. I only ever say nice things about my hubby, and I'll shut anyone down if they try to badmouth him! I too, am grateful for the community. I think, in a sea of Blue Pill crap that is saturating other forms of social media, this is a breath of fresh air!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 02:52 AM
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I am very thankful for my husband's new job. He was laid off in April, and that was tough financially. Thank God for the savings account! He has been at the new job about a month now, and he's loving it. The money is good, and he's really excited about moving up in the company. Can't wait to see where he goes! Very proud of him!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 02:50 AM
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My mom used to always say "Your attitude is your choice". If I had a dollar for every time I heard that, I'd be retired now lol. But in all seriousness, you are not alone. I am a very vocal person, like, all the time. And I can also be a very emotional person. When those emotions come up, I have to CHOOSE not to act on them or say anything. It's hard, but the best thing to remember is that no one else decides your attitude. You do. We can't control how others act, but we can control how we REact…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 02:45 AM
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I mean, I might be a little biased (professional artist here) but seriously, art is a great hobby. It's something you can really pour yourself into that, if executed properly, people can really see your passion and personality shine through. My husband regularly praises my work, telling me that I'm genuinely talented and not like all those wanna-be artists out there (he is a tough critic!). HUGE confidence boost to hear him say that. Even if you don't feel like you're any good at it, if it's som…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 12:03 AM
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LOL, this reminds me of hubby and I. I was a paid member, and at the time I found him (I was doing some hardcore lurking, lol) he was not. He often likes to joke, "I had to spend a whole THIRTY DOLLARS to talk to you!" I wink and joke back, "And it was the best $30 you spent, wasn't it!"
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 11:22 PM
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You know what you want, but the question is- are you what THEY want? I met my husband on a Christian dating site. I was recently divorced (the marriage had been over for a LONG time) and I was testing the waters again. Honestly, I wasn't even really sure I would find someone so soon. What changed from the first time I went looking for a husband? Well, for one, I was a little older, wiser, and had already been burned several times by previous relationships. I began to realize that the reason I wa…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 11:16 PM
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Musical instruments are fun! I played as a kid, but it's definately something they need to show interest in. Most kids I know who's parents forced them into playing an instrument really resented that and pushed it as far away from themselves as possible as adults. See what interests him, and try culitivating those interests if appropriate. One thing I LOVE as an adult that I wish I'd done more as a teen/young adult is building stuff. I love messing with power tools. Maybe your son would enjoy bu…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 10:26 PM
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I think, personally, you need to keep your grandpa, and other good men that you've known in your life, close to your heart right now. Remember that there were, and are, good men like you grandfather, and remember that they in turn have raised good men or are becomming good men. You know your son is a sweet, kind-hearted boy with a good outlook on life- so too are other many little boys who will one day become men. If not for yourself, then love and appreciate men for the sake of your son. Never,…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 10:18 PM
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Yup! Pack hubby's lunch every day! Sometimes it's just a simple sandwich, sometimes it's homemade enchiladas, stir fry or BBQ pulled chicken. I've also made him pineapple upside down cake & thrown that in. The others guys at the mill are jealous, & his lunches are the envy of everyone in the break room lol. Makes me feel like a rock star, especially since most of them pack their own lunches & it's tv dinner meals because their wives won't cook!
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 08:04 PM
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Oo! That sounds awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 07:34 PM
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Really well said! And so many people overlook basic courtesy. I always serve my husband first at the table, be it at home or at family gatherings.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 08:53 PM
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Oh snap! Never thought about out-doing them with their own men! But you're right; us being awesome & feminine like that should extend to those around us- even if we occasionally use our girl game to one-up those harpies!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 07:10 AM
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A nighty to sleep in? You must be camping somewhere warm! When hubby & I went camping, we were sleeping in a tent on an air mattress in the mountains. I slept in sweats, 3 layers of shirts, and the thickest pair of socks I own, because it was only like 40° F that night! So did hubby lol. I second that ladies that recommend girlie but functional. Protect your legs and arms from sun & bugs. Accentuate your figure & get it in girlie colors. Black athletic leggings are my go to, because they are com…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 03:31 AM
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I'm not sure if me saying "you should" has had a negative effect on my husband; he hasn't indicated as much. I definitely defer to his judgement much more now, but I really feel like saying it this way will really help me to "check myself" in conversation!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 02:59 AM
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Stealing the "have you thought about" approach, because I'm a "fixer" sometimes &this sounds like it'll really help me!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 02:42 AM
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When we do/say nice things for/to our husbands, they definitely benefit, especially in public. They are proud to have us when others notice! I pack my husband's lunch every day. Homemade food, even if it's just a sandwich, invokes a bit of jealously from his coworkers, who are either single or have wives that make them bring microwave meals to work (that they have to pack themselves!). They envy him (he talks me up a lot lol) and a couple even asked if they could trade lol. When you lift him up,…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 01:58 AM
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Uuuuggghh the women that complain about their husbands! It usually says a lot more about THEIR character than their husbands'. I will always ONLY say nice things to others about my husband. He works too hard & is too good to me to say otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 01:53 AM
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Thank you! :) I'll look into it!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 01:26 AM
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I will look into that!
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 06:34 PM
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Never tried it, but I'll look into it. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 06:34 PM
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Lol my bestie uses this same method. Maybe I need to break down & try it!
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 06:02 PM
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I've thought about a water softener. We live in a rural area & have a well. My parents live in the same town, also on a well, & they have a water softener. We've discussed it, but perhaps we'll have to revisit that conversation. I'll look into that paste though! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 06:02 PM
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Anyone have tips on how to deep clean a tub? Bought an old house last year, & I just can't seem to get our bathtub clean! >:(
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 04:03 PM
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I agree with you, especially on the boundaries thing. It's very unhealthy for both parties involved. Ick!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/18 08:50 PM
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I've often heard it said that the happiest couples are the ones with the smallest social media presence. The more photos, updates & whatnot they post, the more they're just trying to prove that "happiness" to themselves, or at the very least, enjoy the "likes" and attention they get.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/18 04:20 PM
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One of the things I love doing is telling stories, be they from my childhood, now, or just jokes I've heard, in an animated & fun way. I'm a serial hand motioner when talking, & it's amped up when I tell stories. I also make sound effects (explosions, anyone?) & other gestures to illustrate what I'm talking about. Case in point- when hubby & I first met in person (we'd been chatting over Skype), I told him the story of the semi truck that blew a tire in front of us (mom & I) on our way into town…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 11:13 PM
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I'm going to order that exercise bike, set it up in the living room, & use it every day! Already asked hubby if I could, & he said go for it!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 10:50 PM
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How I respect my husband: Thanking him for all his hard work. He works hard so I can be a SAHW. I have a part time job during the school year, so he is the primary breadwinner, & I want him to know I'm grateful. I tell him I'm proud of him for working so hard & impressing his bosses. I'm proud of his work ethic. Do my very best to not nag him. I am not perfect, so it does still happen sometimes, but I try very hard. I also try to be loving, even if I'm upset with him. Try to avoid eye rolling, c…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 08:32 PM
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Yup. Too many kids running households today. Not good!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 08:18 PM
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THIS. My mother loved us dearly as children, but expected us to grow into capable adults with our own wings to fly with. My parents were married 7 years before I was born (mom was only 19 when they married), & they are still married to this day. The marriage was never shuffled aside for us, & I think my siblings & I greatly benefited from it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 08:17 PM
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Yup. You can't fulfill your role as leader/captain if you are second best. Good on you! This was my husband's attitude as well.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 08:13 PM
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Every relationship is different, but I was raised to believe the "love your husband, love your kids" in that order. If the needs of your spouse are met, they're less likely to leave you, & when their needs are met, so too will the needs of the children be met. If you married before the kids were born, then they exist because of the marriage, the marriage doesn't exist because of them. Before you were parents, you were spouses. This is why, if hubby & I have kids, there will be no co-sleeping. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 03:52 PM
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YES! The best example kids get about relationships come from their parents having a healthy marriage. My dad was a truck driver when we were kids, so mom was home alone with us a lot. We did all kinds of stuff together, but I never felt like I was the be all, end all to her existence. If I had a dollar for every time my mom told me "you're not the center of the universe" or "the world doesn't revolve around you", I could've retired at the age of 12 lol. She made sure we knew we were loved & cher…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 03:04 PM
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Idk how big of an issue this is, as you don't really sound like that type of women, but don't do the creepy mom obsessed with her kids thing. Love your son, cherish him, & raise him right, but don't get weird about it. Idk about the rest of you, but those moms that run around in those shirts saying "mama bear", "I'll hurt you if you mess with my kids", or "mama shark" (what?) make a woman seem a bit unhinged. Like, I'm a woman & those ladies make me wanna run away, because they're always posting…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 02:41 PM
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Aw, I wish! Rural continental US. We go hiking with the bears lol.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 01:20 AM
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I love painting & singing! I think opera would be fun too :) I used to play the clarinet. Maybe I should pick it up again? Lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 01:01 AM
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Art is an awesome & my most favorite hobby :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 12:59 AM
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I need some more friends like you guys in my area! I love hiking & would love to pursue it more seriously, but I need peeps to go with!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 12:54 AM
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Artwork. I'm a professional wildlife painter, but because it's so much fun, it doesn't really feel like a job. I've been doing "art stuff" my whole life- painting, color pencils, sculpting... if it's hands on & creative, it's my thing lol. Woodworking. I love using power tools & building stuff, including the custom frames for my paintings. I used to teach a monthly ladies class that taught women to use tools & build stuff. Saws, drills & whatnot are so fun! I love hiking, but a leisurely stroll …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 12:52 AM
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If you have short hair, like a pixie cut or some other bob, grow it out. I know some men are ok with shorter hair, but the majority of men, my hubby included, love long hair. I made the mistake of "rocking" a totally butch haircut from 7th- 10th grade (those were dark years lol). Thankfully, hubby & I didn't meet in high school lol. If you have long hair, make sure you're taking care of it. Regular trims, high quality shampoos/conditioners, maybe even a little color (I'm going to book a color ap…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 03:16 PM
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Oh man, yes. The angry tweets about evil capitalism posted from iPhones while sitting in Starbucks is more than ironic lol.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/18 04:00 PM
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Congrats to you for not getting indoctrinated lol. I've lived my whole life in rural US and am very conservative. I'd probably burst into flame just stepping inside NYC city limits lol.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/18 01:50 PM
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Lol I totally agree with the not sharing your thoughts as an RP or conservative. The first time you do, BAM! Those BP/liberal "friends" are gone. I lost SEVERAL "friends" just by contradicting their opinions.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/18 01:45 PM
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I'm going to second this one, because I was in the same boat earlier this spring! My husband was laid off back in April. That in & of itself is a whole fiasco involving a beta male that didn't like my alpha hubby & stirred the pot until he was removed from the workplace, but I digress.... During that time, there was a bit of moping, a bit of foot-dragging.... and I will admit I wasn't always the best helper. There were days I was stressed about finances & I too, would fall into the trap. Thankfu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/18 01:34 PM
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You're welcome! If he sees you're dressing with him in mind, he'll enjoy your outfits more!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/18 11:55 AM
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You're welcome! If he sees you're dressing with him in mind, he'll enjoy your outfits more!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 08:22 PM
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Have you tried asking him what he'd like you to wear? Maybe select a couple outfits & ask which he prefers? My husband will often tell me, "Hey, I love it when you wear X outfit, could you wear that tonight?" So I started asking him occasionally what he'd like to see me wear. Every man has his style preferences- my husband would see me in leggings, Ugg boots & this cute hat he bought for me EVERY time we went out if he had his way lol.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 03:54 PM
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Notes are awesome. I remember having a rough time in middle school/high school, & my mom left me a few notes in my lunch box during those times. Recalling the memory makes me smile ♡. I think I shall do the same for hubby.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 05:26 PM
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Oo, yes! I need to add notes occasionally! I even have a notebook I keep on the counter where I pack the lunchbox. Good idea!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 05:16 PM
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So this one might sound a bit silly, but I recommend packing his lunch to take to work. Whether it's his favorite sandwich or awesome leftovers, he'll appreciate the fact that you made it. My mom has packed a lunch for my dad for over 30 years, & I know he appreciates it. I pack my husband's lunch every day. Most days, it's his favorite sandwich. He says it tastes better because it's made with love lol ♡. The other day, he & the guys were talking on their lunch break about wives, & my husband he…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 02:20 PM
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Definitely second the thought of speaking with a male councilor. Is there a pastor or elder of the church you can trust that your husband respects & would be comfortable speaking with? If your husband is angry with women, speaking with a female councilor isn't going to work. He's already got walls up against women, and a man would better understand his mindset. After all, we ARE wired differently!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 02:08 PM
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These are all great traits, ones that my husband has that I truly admire. Definitely make sure he knows you appreciate those traits! Listen & engage when he talks about the spiritual and other topics he enjoys, & thank him for his insight. Hubby & I talk like that all the time, & I try to remember to thank him, especially when he teaches me something new!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 01:55 PM
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My hubby is the same way. He doesn't like the full face mask of makeup- he says it looks really fake because most women don't properly apply it. Also, he doesn't like the idea of not really being about to tell what I look like. Plus, I hate the feeling of covering my whole face. I did it for a play in high school (stage makeup is very extreme) & felt like I was suffocating. I only play up my eyes & occasionally add a little lip color.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 03:04 PM
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Painting. Even though being an artist is my job, it's still something I really enjoy. Spending time with my best friend or my mom. Bonus if it's a spur of the moment day trip or a planned getaway for a day or 2. Walking the dog to the post office. Conversations over coffee. Reading, which I need to get back into. I haven't read a book in months!
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 02:57 PM
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Absolutely! The bible & my Christian faith are the reason I view marriage the way I do :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 01:52 AM
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I love that last sentence. I'm currently watching my husband forge the path for us. Watching him grow over the last 3 years, & seeing where he is now, makes me so incredibly proud of him. ♡ Yes, we wives definitely need to support them as they grow. If we're the best First Mate we can be, our Captain will be the best he can be :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 06:24 PM
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I'm in the same boat. Respect us a must! I love the anchor line too. Wonderful analogy. I didn't respect my ex. He was a weird, lazy, beta man child that, when I think back to our marriage, makes me go wtf. While we are civil when we speak, I have no love for him (not hatred, though) because I can't respect him. I have the utmost respect for my husband. I'd follow him to hell & back. I'd take a bullet for him. While that attitude is definitely influenced by my deep love for him, I couldn't feel …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 06:14 PM
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I would agree that the workplace can be against us sometimes. It might depend on the area & the business though. I worked at a hardware store for a number of years, & I loved all my coworkers, including the guys. I learned a lot while working there, & made some great friends. Have you looked into jobs that allow you to work from home? I'm not talking MLM, lol. I pursue my artwork as a means of making money. Do you have any talents or interests that would allow you to do something like that?
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 12:34 AM
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And that's a great system! Our jobs at home reflect our strengths too. He mows because he has the magic touch with the riding mower, & he took the guard off the weed whacker & I won't use that death machine now lolololol. I'm good at organizing, cleaning, cooking, paperwork, etc, plus I have the the time to do all that, so that's where my responsibility lies.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 07:39 PM
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Do you need to go back to work for financial reasons? Is your boyfriend concerned about money or is he trying to help you get back on your feet?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 05:33 PM
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Personally, I think it honestly depends on the workload of the two. If the husband works more than the wife, the wife should do the majority of the housework. If the roles are reversed, husband should do more. Someone working 40+ hours/week shouldn't have to do a 50/50 split on chores with someone who works part time or who is a stay at home spouse or parent. My husband works full time. For the most part, I am a stay at home wife. I have a part time job during the school year (about 12-15 hrs/we…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 04:59 PM
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It sounds lovely! And, because he built it for you, you'll treasure it forever ♡ Watching my husband build or work on things is one of my favorite things. It's so manly, & I love it! Hardworking men are awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 02:48 PM
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I'm going to agree with the "why" on the skirts/dresses quote, because that way it was worded, it almost made pants/leggings sound bad lol. My husband & I aren't part of a religious group that requires women to dress as such all the time. There are plenty of ways to look feminine without wearing dresses/skirts all the time. I think if you're married, the best way to dress is to see what your husband likes. My husband has told me that he much prefers me in leggings (he loves dat booty lol) and bo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 01:07 AM
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She didn't cheat. She had the affair BEFORE she met the bf.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 12:45 AM
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Imagine holding that degree in one hand. Now put your husband in the other. Which one did you vow to grow old with? Which one do you want to cuddle to sleep with every night? Which one will share the ups & down of life with you? Which one has been your rock for the last 15 years? Now look at that degree again. While valuable, it is, at the moment, a stressful piece of paper that could damage your marriage. Do you want to stand there, on the day you receive that degree, knowing it cost you your m…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 07:07 PM
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Lolololol reddit needs a vomit option button XD
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 06:55 PM
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This! You want Prince Charming? You gotta be that sweet, beautiful princess. Princes don't date fat, ugly crones lol. But seriously, you definitely have to take care of yourself, put effort into your beauty, skills, personality, etc if you want a high value man. If you don't bring anything to the table, you're not worth it. High value men KNOW their worth, & they know what they want. Which is why I feel VERY blessed that my husband chose me- he's very picky! He knows he's a high value man, a cat…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 06:53 PM
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See, that's the thing- you won't. And you'll never be able to trust him. You'll always be wondering if it's a lie or not in the back of your mind. And not just when he tells stories about his adventures. Every time. People that lie all the time are revealing absolutely NOTHING about who they really are, and yet at the same time, everything. You'll never really know if they did they things they said, or like the things they've told you they like, but at the same time, they reveal that a liar is w…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 12:12 PM
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I totally second this! Hubby & I were LD when we first started dating, & the scheduled chats were a lifesaver! I called him in the morning as his alarm clock. We would chat for maybe 15 minutes, then he'd get up & get ready for the day. He'd call on his lunch break, we'd talk maybe 30 minutes, then he'd get back to work. If I was working, he'd leave a cute voice mail for me. 10 pm was Skype time, usually till midnight or 1 am lol. We had tons of fun talking to each other, & sometimes Skype got a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 07:11 PM
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Speaking from personal experience, I would recommend NOT pursuing this guy. Lying to make oneself look cool is usually a huge red flag. I know he's only 17, and yes, some do grow out of that kind of behavior, but.... after having been married to & divorced from a guy who did this throughout our marriage (among a host other things), I just don't recommend guy A.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 06:44 PM
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Do your parents have a dog? Take him for daily walkies! My dog & I go to the post office nearly every day. Take up a hobby that involves working with your hands. I'm an artist- I paint, mostly, but I also love building shit with power tools & spending time working in the garage with hubby. Knitting, sewing, or whatever... just something that takes time & maybe a little discipline to achieve. Had I known at your age that I love power tools (didn't discover til mid 20s) I'd have made so much more …
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 06:01 PM
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If you're crafty, make your own decorations & invitations. You don't have to go it alone- see if you've got a trusted person to help you. My mom & I made all the table decorations, the invitations, & even the cake. It's easy to do if you make time & don't have a huge venue & guest list. You'll save some money, & maybe even make some fun memories!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/18 05:13 AM
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BAM! There you go! ;-D
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 11:40 PM
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You're probably right about the spontaneous weekend thing, but I suppose you could tell him you're going somewhere (so he expects the trip) but just not say where you're going!
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 11:22 PM
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Does your guy like traveling? #5 is pretty special! Hubby & I are hoping to go on a cruise for ours in a few years (I've never been on one; he's been to the Caribbean with his family & loved it! ). If he enjoys trips, maybe plan a weekend getaway to someplace that has special meaning to you two. Plan meals, snacks & activities during the trip that he enjoys or that you guys enjoy doing together. :) Even a quick day trip can be a lot of fun if you guys can't get away. Congrats! :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 02:51 PM
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Yes, all of the above! Thankfully they're no longer together.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 03:30 AM
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Personally, I LOVE it when men help me. But then, i haven't been poisoned by feminism to belive male help is malicious in nature. Men are helpful by nature- they're fixers, & many of them are wonderful teachers who love sharing their knowledge. Personally, I'd much rather ask for help, especially lifting something, than injure myself or my pride. Plus, if you're friendly & bubbly during the interaction, it's fun for both parties- you receive the assistance you need, & the man is happy to help th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/18 01:34 AM
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I agree with him. Us women need to stand up to our crazy sisters.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 10:01 PM
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Lol I think my husband finds the squirming funny/cute. He's a poop sometimes, but I love him ♡
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 04:38 PM
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It's really too bad that society has told men over & over again "never hit a woman" or "there's no reason to hit a woman". Really? None? I'm a woman, & I'm all for a crazy bitch getting clocked in the face if she's going after a man with the intention of doing physical harm. She's coming after you with a knife, bat, chair, whatever.... I believe you absolutely have the right to defend yourself from something like that. As an example: my younger brother (I'm the oldest, very protective of my sibl…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 04:36 PM
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I lol'd at the part about crushing the windpipe with one hand while still browsing reddit. My husband is a foot taller than me, 100 lbs heavier than me, & there is no way I'll ever intimidate him, even if I'm smarter than him at some things. If he wants to, he can restrain me with one arm, which is funny when we're playing, until I have to pee lol.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 04:26 PM
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Sounds like my hubby ♡ he is a wonderful mix of the 2. He is also not always liked or understood by people until they get to know him- he is often accused of being arrogant. He's very confident in who he is& what he wants, & that intimidates a lot of beta males & the women used to dealing with betas.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 01:55 AM
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I paint my toenails for hubby in the summertime, because as soon as it warms up, you can't get me to wear real shoes lol. My finger nails I keep as short as possible without making them look like nubs, because I'm an artist & work a lot with my hands & find that long, painted nails get in the way. Husband doesn't mind, as long as my toes are pretty lol.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 01:49 AM
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