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Freudian username
/r/askTRP30/01/21 01:27 AM
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/r/askTRP28/01/21 02:34 PM
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Simple, clear, actionable. Very useful comment. Thank you.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 07:43 PM
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Thank you for this. I don’t see it as victim hood per se, but unresolved anxiety. The thrust of what you’re saying is true and useful, though. I’ll do an update.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 07:43 PM
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Thanks so much for taking the time to write this, man. Insightful and actionable. Accurate too. I should do a progress update since I have put a lot of this to practice, and am seeing an internal change as well.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 07:41 PM
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Thank you so so so much for this. All of it is incredibly helpful and I will work on this. For all the toxicity rap this place gets, there’s valuable insight from someone like you. Thanks again and again.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 11:19 AM
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Thank you so much. I would say this is accurate for me at the moment. I am slowly realizing this and I have begun working on it. I still have a long way to go.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 11:08 AM
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Thank you so much for taking the time to respond thoughtfully, brother. Here’s what I am taking away from you: I should ask myself whether I can do this while in a relationship with her. More and more, I think the answer is no - despite me really wanting it to be yes. I am gradually becoming more outcome independent on this. Stop worrying about power dynamics and focus on emotion management. This is brilliant and more in line with my approach when I am not anxious. Which brings me to the point a…
/r/askTRP19/01/21 09:15 AM
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You took too long to get there which is why you even had to go nuclear. Let women chase you.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 07:16 AM
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My church lays have been some of the horniest
/r/askTRP16/01/21 06:45 AM
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No
/r/askTRP16/01/21 06:44 AM
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“I hear you. Thanks for letting me know.” Then let her be.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 06:42 AM
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If it serves you
/r/askTRP16/01/21 05:54 AM
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One of the best all-around responses I have seen on this sub. Brilliant, brilliant reminders throughout. I especially love the reflection on how this isn’t a self-help community, but a sexual strategy sub with the self help bits to help you focus on yourself and on living a purposeful, mission-driven life for YOU. Because that’s how you get most things you want in life. Is your life serving you?
/r/askTRP16/01/21 05:50 AM
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Soft next. Don’t expect anything - good or bad. Just focus on yourself and your growth.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 05:45 AM
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Hey OP, what you are feeling is understandable but I hope you get to a place where you realize that you are not responsible for anyone else’s decisions. Including someone as dear as your mother. The guilt is understandable because you feel that your taking her to the home sped up her decline. But you took her there you to get the care she needed that you couldn’t provide. You’re fine. And the fact that you’re seeking help is great.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 05:44 AM
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Great response and don’t explain further. Don’t even think too much about it. Let her do the thinking and imagining.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 05:31 AM
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“Don’t explain your philosophy. Embody it.” - Epictetus
/r/askTRP15/01/21 07:33 PM
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I've had an open LTR before that worked out quite well for me. But it was because I had gotten to a point where I truly did not care one iota whether I would lose that girl to someone else. We broke up about 1.5 years after I initiated the "open relationship" talk with her. First and foremost, you can't just bring up the conversation. You've got to have cultivated the kind of relationship with her where that kind of talk feels natural - a relationship where she is completely in your frame but fe…
/r/askTRP12/01/21 06:38 PM
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Merry Christmas brother! Great great list...
/r/RPChristians25/12/20 05:08 PM
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*meaning I didn't treat her as sexually as I do others
/r/askTRP25/12/20 05:03 PM
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There was a period in my life where I spent a lot of time in solitude, reading, writing and discovering/creating self. There was also a time last year where I had so many plates - almost too many - and I was the fucking man. I’m not exactly there right now but I’m on my way back to both those things.
/r/askTRP20/12/20 09:33 PM
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This got me thinking of all the compliments my LTR gives me. They are almost all related to calmness and aloofness (I'm-above-this vibe). And the times I've been rattled (or equal) have been the times when she's been the least attracted. I made a list this morning of some offhand or spur-of-the-moment remarks she's made. Made me realize I've got it better than I think: •You calm me •You know you're the type of person no one can bully •You walk like you own the land you walk on •You remind me of …
/r/askTRP18/12/20 01:25 PM
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Thank you so much for this slice of positivity. I'm beating myself up right now. I'm catastrophizing over and over again. I am doing well externally. I'm with my team at a Beach resort training one of the largest orgs in the world. I literally just won a $20k award right now for my work (my company had applied for an innovation prize) but I'm chasing this vision of perfection and am not happy. I need to retrain my brain to be playful and in the moment and positive. My life is good but my brain i…
/r/askTRP27/11/20 03:51 PM
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Much better put. Thanks for all your feedback, man.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 06:30 AM
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True. I guess it's why it's said you can't be 100% RP in a relationship. "Alpheta." 70% Alpha 30% Beta.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 04:35 AM
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I've been able to spin plates in all my 4 previous LTRs without any real consequence to the quality of the relationships themselves. In my last relationship, I even did it under the cover of an "open relationship" where in our last year together (we were long distance in our last year) I slept with around 8-12 girls, around 4 or 5 of them as frequent plates. I run my main business with this ex and she's solidly in my frame, and my girl is in my frame on this as well. It's a great situation that …
/r/askTRP27/11/20 02:57 AM
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Good point. I also need to just enjoy this relationship for what it is - a fun, playful experience with a girl who's having most of her firsts with me.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 02:24 AM
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Thank you for this. I think it's worth reflecting on. My only worry is that I already do a turn of self reflection and it's working against me - going into overdrive. I need to act. I need to act. I also think I need to just game and fuck other women. I'm taking her too seriously too quickly. We're seven months in and she's a great girl who tries to please me, calls me her "great teacher" and I fuck it up cause I'm not outcome independent with her.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 02:21 AM
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TLDR: I think you can see my "explainer" mode in action here. It's a form of perfectionism that works against me. Because perfectionism is often just unaddressed anxiety. And it is the opposite of outcome independence. I've screenshotted your comment. It has prompted self reflection. Thank you. If anyone has any further practical tips on how to beat this in the moment, and overall, let me know.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 02:16 AM
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This is it. This is exactly it. I'm lacking the discipline to STFU, wait and act. And I lose frame when I do this. I find that when we start off these conversations she's mentally at a place where she completely trusts me and my leadership then I go into this logicization of emotion that is basically just emotional processing in front of my girl. Which places her as my mental/emotional equal (or worse, superior who needs to reassure me). I dig holes for myself even without her setting traps. Cau…
/r/askTRP27/11/20 02:12 AM
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The objective meaninglessness of life doesn't mean you can't create your own fulfilling, subjective meaning for all of this.
/r/askTRP10/11/20 05:49 PM
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No, you need to cool off. You can maintain the distance for a while but do not cut your brother out because of what seems like a (really badly handled and near violent) disagreement. You've got a lot to learn about your emotional management, and probably have some unresolved issues with your brother that you could deal with in the long run. For now, focus on improving yourself and becoming the best you can be - lift, read, meditate, have friends and girls, make money etc I would personally try m…
/r/askTRP10/11/20 12:31 PM
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Granted, English isn't or first language but it was funny to me then and funny to me now.
/r/askTRP10/11/20 12:09 PM
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Luckily, male attractiveness is more about power than anything else. Power - physical strength Power - social status Power - financial freedom Power - emotional strength (confidence) Power - intelligence and the drive to match You've got to look like a guy who can bend things to his will, who can create the reality he wants for himself. And who simply leaves things without much fuss if they aren't bending to his will. These things are more highly valued than looks - although being tall and a gre…
/r/askTRP09/11/20 09:45 AM
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I think there’s still a bit of a confidence or self image problem that’s limiting you If you’re jacked, confident and honest about your intentions, you’ll be fine And don’t compare yourself - there’s always people better than you
/r/askTRP09/11/20 03:38 AM
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You don’t need the cutesy Nike line - sounds manufactured... the rest is solid
/r/askTRP09/11/20 03:34 AM
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Some call this “forgive but don’t forget” meaning let go of the resentment and emotional hold they have on you while not forgetting that - until they show you consistently otherwise - they are the same POS they were. Also accept that this last part may never happen. You really can only control yourself. So accept your father for who he is (and you identifying his problems is a great start) while letting go of the resentment you have for him (this will take time, distance and a strong will) but d…
/r/askTRP09/11/20 03:31 AM
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Danger. Breaking the rules.
/r/askTRP08/11/20 12:28 PM
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100% It certainly was a shit test, she's being all lovey dovey today but I'm a little distant.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 01:05 PM
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You do care, that's why you asked us on here. But you do have a point that you have nothing to lose here - so don't act like you do.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 07:14 AM
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It just means that that's not YOUR definition of success (a good life) and you've got some work to do to define that for yourself.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 07:12 AM
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I'm pretty sure she isn't cheating yet. I might have to drop her before it gets there because I feel I have been to warm and oxytocin and beta.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 07:09 AM
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Plus it’s not like some betas don’t get women for short periods of time. People have different reasons why they’re with other people.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 10:13 PM
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Don’t get angry and more importantly don’t show her you’re angry.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 10:12 PM
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I knew she was going to shit test me and I made her feel like I allowed it for my amusement 😂 I’ll add more making fun of her next time - I do this quite a bit Interested to see your response to the other guy asking for you to expound on “good responses in key moments”
/r/askTRP06/11/20 10:11 PM
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Thanks bro. She’s quite smart. My two questions on dopamine/attention conditioning is 1) how do I treat the normal times - I naturally err on the side of warmth and over correct with strength 2) how do I make clear the association between the reward/withdrawal with her action(s) without revolting to a conversation? What times warrant spelling it out?
/r/askTRP06/11/20 10:08 PM
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Thanks G!
/r/askTRP06/11/20 09:17 PM
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You’re early. Even your mindset is green. One of the good cards nature dealt us is we get more attractive as we age - if we take even minimal care of ourselves and improve even slightly year on year.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 08:57 PM
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Registered, logged in but can’t see how to post it there. Any help from the community?
/r/askTRP06/11/20 08:54 PM
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I would struggle even telling them apart at first. (Is she trying to please you or herself?) Don’t go overboard with the warmth. Just be present, listen, tell her she’s fine and hold her or move her somewhere else. My girl always tells me “you make me feel small - I love it” when I recognize her little comfort tests.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 08:44 PM
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It’s very easy for TRP to make you feel like you need to be perfect. You don’t. You need to strive towards being as good as you can be while respecting and accepting what you already are. Regarding Tinder, it’s a numbers game that you shouldn’t let get to you.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 08:20 PM
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You’re playing a perfection game we tend to do when we’re starting out on TRP. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be outcome independent. Try again. If you don’t like how she responds, leave it. Don’t orbit, don’t think too much about it. You’re good.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 08:17 PM
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This is what I wish I did for my current LTR. Might have to end it since I’ve made her too comfortable. But she was a really great candidate for an LTR and quite submissive in the beginning (still not too bad right now) but I don’t know if I’ll have the patience to train her properly right now. We’ll see. I got comfortable myself - and was going through a redirection of mission - so I won’t beat myself up. I may have to dump her in a month or few if I think it’s not worth the training effort.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 08:14 PM
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Even more so since she gets more simp treatment than the average girl.
/r/askTRP04/11/20 05:01 PM
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First, you realize that reality is what it is and not what you want it to be. Both from personal experience and observing the experiences of others, you realize that the fundamentals of TRP align the closest to the reality of the sexual marketplace. Secondly, the basic message of TRP is this: improve yourself. Define yourself, focus on yourself and improve yourself. All else flows from there. That is amoral - might even be the moral thing to do. Finally, as a synthesis of the other two points, T…
/r/askTRP02/11/20 11:58 AM
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First, you’re overthinking this. But we all do - create problems out of nothing when we care. You mention not being emotionally invested but the length and style of thinking here shows you care quite a bit. Going forward — a plate shouldn’t occupy that much headspace. It doesn’t matter whether she understands or not. What matters is communicating with YOUR ACTIONS not just your words. “You’ll make it up to me” has worked for me in the past
/r/askTRP01/11/20 08:49 PM
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Brilliant discipline on your part. Keep going.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 11:24 AM
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Soft next. Don’t initiate contact, and let her make the effort to come to you always.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 09:01 AM
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This. Read the sidebar over the next few weeks. Internalize those messages.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 06:54 AM
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Don’t contact her. And when she comes back, plate her - on your terms.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 06:12 AM
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Find your mission (define it yourself) and devote to it. Everything else flows from that.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 06:11 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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