| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 326 | The audacity! | MALE DEPRAVITY | 222-much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:27 AM |
| 292 | Decline alcohol on a first date! | STRATEGY | 222-much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 06:12 AM |
| 196 | If you can't find a spouse who supports your career, stay single | QUEEN SH*T | 222-much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 09:00 PM |
| 44 | Who are your HVW role models? | QUEEN SH*T | 222-much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 06:00 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 83 | Am I crazy to think she is way out of their league? And how dare they bring such ugly dudes as options for her? At least she picked the best one.So the obese guy couldn't cut his toenails properly... probably because he can't actually reach them over his belly 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 12:10 AM |
| 18 | Tell him you don't like to drink (even if you do)It's even better if you don't give him an excuse not to drink. No one needs an excuse! If he asks for one, that's already very telling. A HVM would accept it and move on without any questions asked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 01:07 AM |
| 6 | Men Who live With Parents or RoommatesI think that's totally fair. I'm reaching my mid 30s and will probably stop considering men who live with parents/roommates soon unless there are extenuating circumstances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 11:34 PM |
| 64 | Men Who live With Parents or RoommatesI'm also in my 30s, and live in an expensive city where there are many people who live with parents or roommates into their 30s. I've lived on my own since my mid 20s because I prioritized it, but I understand the want/need to save money. At this point I would not even consider living with a roommate, and can see myself having difficulty adjusting to having another person in my space in the future, even if that person was my husband. It can be a difficult balancing act between being responsible … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 05:02 AM |
| 35 | The audacity!Believe it or not it's a Catholic one called Catholic Match. It's pretty awful in many ways (case in point) but it's the only OLD profile I've held onto for the past 3 years because the usual suspects (Bumble, Hinge, etc.) were even worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Who are your HVW role models?What is cptsd? Not familiar with that abbreviation! Never heard of Rebecca Lolosoli - will have to look her up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 09:06 PM |
| 17 | Who are your HVW role models?For a long time, I had inconsistent friends who would disappear from my life as soon as they had boyfriends. To me, this is a clear sign of a pick me - a HVW should value her female friendships highly. I have been very lucky to find a wonderful group of female friends over the last couple of years. They're badass women with good careers and other HV qualities, and we're truly supportive of each other. My mom has also taught me so much of what I know. I grew up in the 80s/90s, and she always told… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 06:26 AM |
| 16 | Always be extremely mindful about any comments, remarks, opinions, judgements or criticism from a man about how YOU spend YOUR money!I frequently buy myself treats (jewelry, purses, clothing, etc.) because I work hard and feel that I deserve it. I wouldn't tolerate being with a man who would judge me for it, because he likely would never treat me as well as I treat myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 06:11 AM |
| 21 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationTotally agree. If your religion is an important part of who you are and how you live your life, then finding someone compatible with that (whether that's someone who is of your religion or who is legitimately supportive of it) is just as important as so many of the other HVM characteristics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 05:55 AM |
| 20 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesYes! Andy Samberg! Have you ever heard him talk about his (incredibly talented and amazing) wife Joanna Newsom? He truly believes in her talent and seems genuinely supportive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 10:03 PM |
| 14 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesYeah, he's definitely got some frat bro tendencies... the d*ck pic he accidentally leaked last summer didn't help that image 🙄. He's one of my major celebrity crushes for sure, and it's at least partially because he seems to have some HV characteristics. Also... he's just a beautiful man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 10:01 PM |
| 26 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesYes! Mark seems like a genuine, humble man. He's been married for over 20 years and he and his wife met before he became famous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 09:11 PM |
| 74 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesChris Evans is far from perfect, but he's politically active and consistently calls out homophobia and sexism on Twitter. He appears to have good relationships with his female costars like Scarlett Johansson, who he has known for years. He also seems to have a genuinely good relationship with his family, and is very doting towards his adorable dog. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many LVM ask you to plan the date? Laziness is a given but are they looking for a mother figure?Agree - I absolutely would NOT give my address to my date until we're exclusive. I have declined rides home for that reason. If we're discussing where we live during the conversation, I'll vaguely give the neighborhood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:13 PM |
| 3 | If you can't find a spouse who supports your career, stay singleGood for you for getting out of that situation! We all have different paths - sounds like you're thriving now! It has actually been somewhat shocking to realize how few worthy men there really are. I've found that my career is a good litmus test - if he's obviously intimidated by it, then there's no point in continuing to see him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:05 PM |
| 7 | Decline alcohol on a first date!That's a good point about showing the courtesy to not drink if you're not - at minimum, he should ask if you mind if he has a drink. In general, I don't mind if he does - and in fact, I pay close attention to how many drinks he has! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:22 PM |
| 17 | Decline alcohol on a first date!I'm so sorry that happened to you. Stories like that are exactly why men shouldn't press you when you decline alcohol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 03:01 PM |
| 10 | Decline alcohol on a first date!I've also noticed that there are actually quite a lot of places that have a "virgin cocktail" section on their menu - I've had some delicious ones! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:59 PM |
| 3 | By random chance, I just watched 5 consecutive shows with female leads and realised how enlivened I felt after.This is so true. I've been watching more female led shows in the last couple of years and it makes such a difference. Even looking back at some of the 'prestige' shows I enjoyed in the past, the well drawn female characters was part of what drew me in. Like, Mad Men? Give me the version where Peggy and Joan are the main protagonists please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 06:28 AM |
| 5 | Why do so many LVM ask you to plan the date? Laziness is a given but are they looking for a mother figure?Totally agree. Just shows a lack of even the smallest amount of effort to find a nice place, and make a reservation. In my case it was a second date, but still too early to put up with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 05:06 AM |
| 5 | Why do so many LVM ask you to plan the date? Laziness is a given but are they looking for a mother figure?Agreed! I find the whole situation super annoying. It's actually gotten a bit better since covid regulations came into place - a lot of places that never used to accept resos do now. On the bright side, it works as a vetting strategy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 01:33 AM |
| 10 | Why do so many LVM ask you to plan the date? Laziness is a given but are they looking for a mother figure?In my city, many of the nice, trendy restaurants don't accept reservations. Unless I had looked that piece of information up ahead of time, I wouldn't have necessarily guessed that it didn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 12:44 AM |
| 28 | Why do so many LVM ask you to plan the date? Laziness is a given but are they looking for a mother figure?Ok, what about the situation where the man plans the date... but the restaurant doesn't accept reservations so you're told there's an hour and a half wait when you arrive? I personally thought this was unacceptable (he should have done the homework to find a nice place that accepts reservations so that the date would go smoothly). We ended up going to the place next door that didn't have a wait, but to me this showed a lack of planning skills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 11:15 PM |
| 58 | If you can't find a spouse who supports your career, stay singleAs a high earning professional in my early 30s, I spent much of my 20s getting an education and working hard to get to where I am today. I literally didn't have time for men who would have sucked away my time and energy, so I dated only sporadically. The societal expectation to "settle down" at my age is not only ridiculous, but insulting. My worth is not even remotely tied to my reproductive status! Why would I suddenly settle for someone unworthy because my time is "running out"? When I think … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 11:03 PM |
| 8 | NEW FLAIR ALERT (and RANT, and public service warning): SEX ADVICE SCAMMERSDr. Jen Gunter! Has written books, very active on Twitter and trained as a gynecologist. https://drjengunter.com/about-me/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:12 PM |
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