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My suggestion would be to not go for couples counselling (yet...), right now you are gradually becoming more self-aware of your own weaknesses. You are only now beginning to work on yourself. You need to fix your issues, and work on your frame. Without these things, couple counselling will not go well at all... Tell your wife you need to work on other things first, and revisit the idea in 6/12 months. Over time you will know if you need couple counselling, however, most people here (including my…
/r/askMRP08/09/18 02:49 AM
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I used to be extremely indecisive, I would agonize over a menu for ages, because I couldn't make up my mind. You may or may not be as bad as me, but you are still indecisive. Gradually I learned some painful truths: not making a decision is still making a decision, no one is coming to save me, sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith and be confident that you will handle the outcome. ​ I am confident you have an answer inside of you for what you should do, whether you listen to that voice…
/r/askMRP06/09/18 10:58 PM
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I am a professional, and I treat these for a living. Going heavy will only aggravate it. Best to ease off pulling exercsies (such as rows, heave dead lifts). You can still train legs with squats, lunges, machines. Pushing is ok. Start daily stretches of forearm muscles. See physio/osteopath for good soft tissue release, and elbow joint loosening up. Use a tennis elbow brace. These days, lots of typing seems to be the main culprit. Takes 3-6 weeks for resolution, if managed properly. Dry needling…
/r/askMRP24/08/18 02:07 AM
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You WERE (STILL) beta, SO OWN it. " Yes, you are absolutely right, I was (am) more sensitive".
/r/askMRP19/08/18 11:59 PM
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Relax buddy. You are just at the beginning of your journey, and you are starting to push back, and your wife doesn't like it. She is going through her standard ways of manipulating you. Firstly using guilt to get you to stay at home, you succumb. Then she is giving you shit about other things. Now you are starting to push back, and not putting up with it. Her subconscious goes in overdrive, and gradually increases in intensity (screaming, kicking), it doesn't work, then next level - insults and …
/r/askMRP26/07/18 10:41 PM
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Many guys have been where you are now. The resentment,the anger, the frustration. It took me quiet a while to realise, the anger was actually towards myself for being such a pussy all my life. This is important for you to realise and internalize (it will take time...) She is the way she is, because you allowed it and enabled it. Your wife is only a small part of your whole life. Work on yourself (physical, mental, emotional), hobbies, kids, work etc. Use her for practice (kino, sex, flirting, sh…
/r/askMRP24/07/18 11:33 PM
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The truth is, she started to change, when I stopped giving a fuck about what she does or doesn't do. I am not there, yet, but things are better. Read, lift, get on with your life. Realize, and remind yourself that your life WILL be better, with OR without your wife.
/r/askMRP02/07/18 11:25 PM
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You have presented 3 choices. What about 4th, dropping dead weight from your life? You come here, you complain about your wife being crazy, lazy, and incompetent. You keep asking us how to change your wife. You can't change your wife. - Why are you not considering getting divorced? What value is she bringing to your life? What about her is so appealing to you, that you are putting up with so much crap? You can't force your wife to get a job. She has to realize, she needs to contribute and willin…
/r/askMRP02/07/18 11:00 PM
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You still trying to negotiate desire. Its weird for her to give you a blowjob, because she doesn't find you attractive. She doesn't find you attractive, because you trying to be her girlfriend. Stop rationalizing her lack of sexual desire for you. It is not her hormones, or age, or romance. Its YOU. You are the the wall between you and your wife having sex. You are still trying to be the dancing monkey - trying to impress her, so she can offer you some sex. The only puppy to kill, is your EGO, t…
/r/askMRP30/06/18 03:36 AM
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" Her company is worse than no company. " Your words. You keep repeating it, you acknowledge it, but have not internalized it (that's why you put up with that nonsense still). I will come back to that later. Your daughter - Leaving your daughter with an incompetent person, to teach (or force) her to become more responsible is not the way to go. Its one thing to not bother with a pile of dishes or laundry, to teach someone to become responsible, however, leaving a helpless 20 month old for the sa…
/r/askMRP29/06/18 10:21 PM
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You are right about the size of my hamster. My post was not about looking for advice or affirmation, there was no question in the end. I know what I am working on, and the next obstacle that I have to tackle. My post was about sharing an experience. I am fully aware that I am my biggest obstacle, took time, but I got there. I am also fully aware that I am the only one that can change. BUT, until I internalize it, my hamster will have a run here, and there. Until then, I will use what I can to ge…
/r/askMRP20/06/18 01:09 PM
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She is not fucking anybody. The point of my post was, when the hamster takes off, small things turn into major drama, and reality becomes screwed. Now I am at a point that I realize whats going on, just cant control it yet...
/r/askMRP20/06/18 12:53 PM
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Thanks. I am following Dr. Glover, the more of his staff i read/listen the more applicable it becomes. I will be enrolling in his next course.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 12:50 PM
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All my blood tests are normal, I get bloods every couple of month. I am on some heavy duty meds (autoimmune) so need to keep checking how everything ticks. My issue is not T. My issues are very low self-esteem/self worth all my life, never had a frame, and chronic anxiety (hereditary). Ironically I am in the medical field, and only realized all this in the past 12 months. I am working on it, seeing a therapist, books, classes, and gradually overcoming one obstacle at a time. My post was not abou…
/r/askMRP20/06/18 12:49 PM
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May be you missed the point of my post. I am not bitching, and not asking for advice. I know my issues/weakness, and working on them. I wanted to share an experience. How a thought/idea/experience helped snap me out of the hamster wheel, and back on my path. I also wanted to share how the hamster can completely overpower your senses.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 12:41 PM
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needed to read this today...
/r/askMRP18/06/18 09:00 AM
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Game - at home better, outside close to none. But found lots of useful info, in the post on game. Reading, and will start more practicing. (I am coming from severe social anxiety) Tweaked personal hygiene. Work - overflowing. This is starting to bug me. I will have 10-11 hr day, make good money in that day, and drive home wondering, WTF am I doing? Is this what I want ? Need to finish some expensive home projects, then start to overview work/finance situation. Training - light right now, arthrit…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 10:52 PM
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For beginners, its not a good idea to reject sex. They still need validation, they dont have frame, or self confidence, and its usually done out of anger. By now, you should have sex on your terms. If you feel like sex regardless of her enthusiasm, you just go for it, if you cant be bothered with starfish, you leave it. Some days I will just go for it, because I want a release. A couple of nights ago, i initiated and during sex, wife was all frigid, and I was not in the mood to work on it. I pul…
/r/askMRP05/06/18 04:35 AM
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I was a mommy's boys for most of my life, and as a result had many similar conversations with my wife "you always take their side" "you never back me up". There was always friction with my parents, because they would do something, (usually little things), that would piss my wife off, and I would not confront them OR my wife. In my mind, I always tried to keep the peace. (and in retrospect, I had my parents on a pedestal, and in my eyes they could do no wrong....) Your wife can see a lot more abo…
/r/askMRP04/06/18 10:58 PM
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You are going through a process of change, you are internalizing new things, and letting go of some. It is normal to go through a flat patch, as you subconscious tries to re-calibrate. The progress is never linear, some go through cycles of anger, apathy, excitement, frustrations etc.
/r/askMRP01/06/18 10:39 PM
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In the beginning, it was a bit weird taking wife out. I would plan things (what I thought she would like to do), and she would be an unwilling/bored/reluctant passenger on that night. I would be trying all sorts of things to keep her "entertained/happy'. Now I plan a night that I would enjoy, with or without her. If you are organizing an evening, plan the night that you want to have (places to eat, places to go to), be prepared and organised (reservations, tickets, parking etc), dont be a comple…
/r/askMRP29/05/18 07:57 AM
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I m not sure what you consider "redpilled", but you know little to nothing. Your "right amount of dread" is non-existent, based on your interaction wit your wife, if you were even at dread 1 , you would have passed that test with ease, and had some fun along the way. You made the most basic mistakes: you didnt STFU, you DEERed, you got butthurt, you are completely in your wife's frame, and you run at any sight of conflict. You also have an ego issue. You dont want to be called a "pussy" because …
/r/askMRP21/05/18 04:21 AM
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See someone, and get a proper diagnosis. Dr. Google is not the way to go... I see a lot of people like that. There are a few things that don't add up about your case. Adductors/abductors oppose each other, generally you would have pain in one or the other. I would expect pain on weight bearing exercises, especially squats. Your symptoms are on bench, and overhead press. Bench is lying down, so no weight bearing at all, or hip movement. Off the top of my head things to consider: - Hernia - Lumbar…
/r/askMRP09/05/18 10:35 PM
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Why not just have a babysitter organised for every time you need to go out, now. This way you don't rely on her to be there on time. When its just you two, sure you can go without her, when kids involved, its different. In situations like this, I think to myself what would I do if I was single? Also works as a bit of dread, where you don't actually need her for anything.. Not sure you could do anything as punishment...
/r/askMRP30/04/18 05:07 AM
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The good part, you are becoming aware of these behaviors, you are thinking about them, and you are asking questions. All this is part of the progress. If you continue doing this, it will improve over time. The bad part, it may take a long time.. Depending how fucked up your thinking is. I am trying to reprogram/rewire pretty much most of my thinking process when it comes to me interacting with the world (nice guy , people pleaser, social anxiety...) Things that I have found that help: - Sidebar …
/r/askMRP25/04/18 10:26 PM
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From your post " she is high value, she is strong, smart, intelligent, fit, sociable, high IQ, values male leadership". A woman like that wants a man, that is better than her in most of those qualities. She wants a higher value man, intelligent, sociable, fit, strong, independent man, who is a strong confident leader, that she can follow. Someone who can pass her shit tests, put her in her place from time to time, and have strong boundaries. Instead, she has you.... someone who is desperately tr…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 07:01 AM
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You got in ahead of me, and pretty much posted my situation, so thank you. I am around 15 months in, and about 6 months ago, it started to feel like the rope was slowly pulling. Wife was following my lead a lot more, sex frequency was still about 1/week but quality was improving, general mood at home was grad improving. I stayed my course, continued working on me. Past 1-2 months, wheels have completely fell off. I am still staying my course, keep working on me, OMS, house/kids etc. Wife is depr…
/r/askMRP17/04/18 09:07 AM
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I will add my 2c. My view is " wounded ego" (noobs, and me still....) holds you back. A "healthy ego" gets you further ahead in life.
/r/askMRP12/04/18 10:13 PM
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beige philip show - dante nero podcast. ex- stripper/pimp, if anyone knows females, he is the man.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 08:41 AM
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I found this post useful, however, I am not at an exit. I think its one of those post, where if you need this info, then you are not grown enough and likely to repeat your mistakes, if you are ready for an exit, you have worked on your weakness and this post is of no use.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 08:36 AM
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You did not mention symptoms down the leg, so I assume you dont have any. I also suspect the pain is at the top of your buttock, and to one side, around the dimple area in your back (we all have 2 around lower back area, one on each side). If it was the deadlift, you would have felt it come on that night, or next morning. The drive is probably the cause, and I dont think its your disc. Most likely, the sacro-iliac joint became inflamed/tight from prolonged sitting in uncomfortable position, and …
/r/askMRP14/03/18 03:09 PM
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The whole interaction sounds like "where do you want to have dinner? You decide , no you decide.. etc. Etc..." except replace dinner with divorce. This is an opportunity to be more assertive, and stick to you boundaries. You are still influenced by her emotions, and she is playing you. The whole divorce talk, wanting you to apologize, cold shoulder, not talking, pushing your buttons, is all about getting you back into her frame. Its hard in the moment not to get sucked into the drama, but keep p…
/r/askMRP05/03/18 08:04 AM
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Your wife wants a man that she will be attracted to, AND she IS giving you chance after chance to do it... Instead you are letting your ego and hamster run around telling you " I feel I deserve better....I feel I deserve a partner with desire" Stop fantasizing about what you deserve... You deserve nothing, from no one. This will sting, but you will get over it. You are pretty early on, and some of this mental changes take a long time to sink in. Many men (including myself) start off with mentali…
/r/askMRP28/02/18 11:55 PM
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Holy shit... I just realized I may have started stage 3. Wife has been a bitch, sex tapered off, I cant be bothered dealing with her nonsense more and more, passing shit tests makes her furious. I am owning my shit, and getting better, and more comfortable at it. No matter what happens next, continuing to improve my life, fixing my issues, is my number 1 priority now. But reading this will make getting through next phase easier, and should keep my hamster at bay.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 01:04 AM
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I used to like your post, but they are still about the same thing, and only getting longer and longer, as your hamster runs in circles, trying to convince yourself, (and partially us) that you are doing all you can, and still not getting sex, or getting where you want to be. You can write all you want ( i did not even finish reading your post...), rationalize all you want, track sex, or other goals all you want, and still be miserable. You are trying to convince us that there is something wrong …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 04:16 AM
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You are a train wreck. Let me tell you what I see. You are pretty intelligent, possibly more than you give yourself credit for. ADHD is hugely over diagnosed. Some one who needs a lot of mental stimulation, if they don't get it, they are lost, and have a lack of concentration. You are displaying a lot of avoidance behavior (drinking, video games, boring life), I dont know why you are doing this, but, you will need to find a good therapist to help you get through it, or at least get to the bottom…
/r/askMRP08/02/18 01:26 AM
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Start saving. Before you spend money on anything, you put an amount away every paycheck. This may mean dropping some things, (takeaway food, expensive coffees, expensive hobbies/habits) Ask for a pay rise, or work on getting a pay rise Review your spending, rent, shop around for a better deal on utilities/phones/subscriptions, consolidate credit cards, and debts. Try and get a lower interest rate on existing loans. Budget your expenses, and spending. Now, you should see some growth in your savin…
/r/askMRP05/02/18 09:56 PM
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You are correct, telling her what I want.
/r/askMRP05/02/18 09:41 PM
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12 moths ago bj were once a year event, probably a birthday, and as un-enthusiastic as possible. In the last 12 months more bj than in the whole relationship (about 2-3/month, still not where I want it to be). You said you have been here for a year, and read sidebar, so I assume you got a lot of things under control (kino, passing shit tests, being fun, in good shape...) This is how I got here. Firstly, patience. Initially I started bringing up bj during the normal interactions/kino/flirting, ob…
/r/askMRP05/02/18 02:08 AM
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Please, fix the format! impossible to read...
/r/askMRP19/01/18 11:10 PM
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I had a session with Athol about 9 months ago. Based on what I told him, he indicated that there is little chance of my wife changing, and our marriage becoming something special. Is he right, I don't know, and I care a lot less now. My point is, the way you described your wife to Athol, makes her look like she is seriously damaged goods. This may or may not be true... The longer I am being here, the more the focus has changed to me, and areas that I want to change for ME. Its very easy to think…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 09:53 PM
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You hit a spot... I do wonder how much we actually like each other (or dislike....)
/r/askMRP15/01/18 08:09 AM
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I accept there is some resentment. Tell me your thoughts on " attachment issues"? There is some dread in the relationship now, however, my wife's response is more anxiety, instead of positive changes. Some of it my fault (leadership), some is her wiring.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 01:03 AM
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Thanks, some good points here. There is some anger at myself, I am angry at myself for not screening better, and ignoring red flags early on. The covert contract is gone.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 12:56 AM
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Good, you are owning up to your anger and resentment. To progress further, you need to push through it, and be who you want to be.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 08:50 PM
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How long are you planning on playing eye for an eye game??? Did it get you very far??? A bunch of strangers can not give you your answer, but we can point you in the right direction. Its your choice whether to give a gift or not. Stop reacting to your wifes moves, and be how you want to be. You are either a man that likes to give gifts (expecting nothing in return), or some one who doesn't believe in gifts. Regardless of your choice, you need to be comfortable with it, and OI. She may throw it b…
/r/askMRP12/01/18 06:46 AM
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Start changing the way you see things. Its YOUR house, how do you want it? Think what you would do if you were single, and run that way. Keep your house how you want it, for yourself. Keep an an eye on how you project it, make sure its not butt hurt (because the wife is not doing it), make sure not to seek recognition/validation from her. In my case my wife thought I am doing it to rub it in her nose, and a few time I have had to say it, "this is my house, and this is how I want things". Last ti…
/r/askMRP04/01/18 05:27 AM
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You pay for your friends vacations, dates, and video-games??? WTF. I can understand helping a friend during a tough period (rent/food), but you are sponsoring two lazy asses, OR, you are buying friendships, and love from your wife. Take the money out of the picture, will your friends and wife still be there?
/r/askMRP21/12/17 07:37 AM
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No one said it will be easy, and change is always painful. Accept, you are going through another phase of growth. Right now, your reality and your dreams/expectations came together, and its not looking good. Fuck it, at least you have a road map on how to get yourself out of this hole through MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/17 09:51 PM
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You are in a constant state of anxiety (fear, unsafe etc). If its something that has been there for a long time, there is no quick fixes. There are some basic things you can do to help it: eat properly (helps with balance), exercises (lowers stress), take better care of yourself. You also need to see someone to start working through your issues. Reading books will also help you understand some of your issues/wrong believes. Acupuncture, shiatsu, herbs MAY give you some temporary relief, but unti…
/r/askMRP21/11/17 03:08 AM
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I don't know you or your relationship, but based on your post, you are dry, very dry. I don't think you were deering, but more like an autistic job interview. So work on AM, and generally being fun to be around. Its one thing to acknowledge your failures, and past mistakes, but you are beating yourself up non-stop, Why? How is it helping?? You want respect from your wife, and yet you have little respect or love for yourself.
/r/askMRP16/11/17 05:18 AM
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Its DEERing - if the truth is, you are actually upset about the sunglasses, but to avoid confrontation you make excuses. Its not DEERing, if you actually don't care, and truly wanted to get a new pair anyway.
/r/askMRP13/11/17 05:38 AM
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Years ago, I went on a double date with my wife, and her friend and friends new boyfriend. The guy seemed pleasant enough. When we talked about jobs he said he works as car salesman, but he studied neurology, and neuropsychology, I have medical training, and was intrigued to speak to a fellow health practitioner. I asked him a few more questions about his field, and he told me he has finished his studies, and he is a neurologist. After 3-5 minutes, I knew the guy was full of shit, and lying, to …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 09:41 PM
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Great post. A bit clinical, but a good starting point to work on improving kino, and desensitizing your wife. Some guys (me included...) don't realize how much they fucked up (and scared their wives), the only thing I would add, for some guys, this would take many, many months, possibly over a year to implement, and get results.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 09:17 PM
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Good victim puke. One of the best I have seen. It will help getting it out, exercises will help, books will help. Its a long road ahead, DO NOT have kids with this woman.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 03:04 AM
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Until a week ago, I had same mentality as you, I thought, I improving here for 9 months, and nothing is working, must have just got unlucky with this particular woman. Over the weekend, I had a huge mindset shift, and finally saw, how over the years, of being weak beta, my wife developed resentment, anger, and frustration towards me. I can't change that now, I can however, work on me, which in time may create new attraction. Women don't forget anything. Its quiet likely, that your GF is still ac…
/r/askMRP28/09/17 11:04 PM
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Thanks, started meditating a few weeks ago.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 10:01 PM
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No trickle truth, situation went down exactly as described. She acted/said that she was extremely hurt, I think it was an emotional manipulation attempt. I will be spending a few days away from home, I said I will, and I dont want to go back and change my mind. This morning, I can see how things can go horribly wrong (changed locks, clothes thrown out..) I dont think my wife would do it, but who knows. I also want a couple of days, away from everything to clear my head. I spoke to her this morni…
/r/askMRP22/09/17 02:43 AM
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You are right, I removed presence and attention. I felt that my time was not appreciated, and my attention rejected. I still continued being relaxed, and fun. I can't see the middle ground. Doing my own thing looks like I dont care/remove presence, but the opposite feels like I am orbiting.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 12:57 AM
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Yes, I reacted in anger regarding sons birthday, could have handled it better, her attitude got to me. I will be fine on my own. My SMV is not where I want it yet. I would like the marriage to work out. Tried marriage counselors before, did nothing, thats why i don't see the point of doing it again. We sort of had the come to Jesus talk this morning, I made it clear to her that I will not accept some of her behavior.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 12:22 AM
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Based on all the responses, my head is clearly deep up my asshole. Thanks for the reply.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 11:52 PM
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I know I shouldn't have, it was a BP moment, she was crying she has no where to go (no friends, she doesnt speak to her family), I said I will go.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 11:17 PM
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I know how you feel man. I had my own "shift" today, and I think I reached a point of just not bothering with her anymore. You are able to refocus quickly to direct your energy to other areas. I am still sitting here stunned by my mental shift.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 09:11 AM
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I have been introvert all my life. Absolute shit communication skills, terrible in public places, could never start a conversation with strangers. You dry up, because of some insecurity/issue. Spend time thinking about it, where it comes from, what is the fear holding you back?? I am now learning how to communicate, like kids learn alphabet. I read a few books on conversation/people skills, it breaks down how the conversations flow, how to drop various hooks to get the conversation going, how to…
/r/askMRP18/09/17 10:48 PM
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I am late 30's, and until I came here 9 months ago I had 0 frame, literally, all my life, I allowed other people or circumstances to dictate my life. It took me 3 months to grasp the idea of frame, I am aware of it now, I can hold frame a lot of the time now, and the times when I do fail, I can clearly rationalize where and how I went wrong. You put an example where you wife wants to talk. If you are in your frame You either want to talk to her, and say "Yeah lets talk", or if you are busy/or do…
/r/askMRP18/09/17 10:37 PM
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My 2c worth. I spent 12 yrs trying to "fix" my wife. Her past, is not as ugly as your wifes, but my marriage resembled yours to some degree, and I was the cause of some of her issues (her parents did not approve of me, and hence they cut contact). So I carried a chip on my shoulder for a number of years. I tried to help my wife deal with her issues, every time she brought up the subject/issue, I would jump in and start planning how to help her, or what she should do. As our marriage became more …
/r/askMRP11/09/17 11:25 PM
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Thats AC joint, you could have strained it with overhead press/push movements. Back of from overhead pushing movements, put some anti-inflam gel on it am/pm for 1 week, rest, and lots of chest stretches, and shoulder stretches. You could have also strained the rotator cuff muscles, and getting referred pain. Either way, back off weights, and lots of stretching. If not better after 1-2 weeks, you should see someone. May be get a good massage as well.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 10:06 PM
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Great read. Makes me realize how far of the mark I still am.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 03:24 AM
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Wow.. The most inspirational thing I have read in my life. The BP guy really has to die completely, before you can move on. I remember reading some of your other posts (FR's, and your guide to picking up), and thinking, this guy is full of shit, he is butt hurt and acting out... This post is pure OYS. Congratulations, on the beginning of your new life.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 05:53 AM
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I think i smell venison....
/r/askMRP08/09/17 04:38 AM
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You sound like a control freak. Your whole post is , she , she , she... She owes you nothing. She is an adult, and she can do what ever she wants. You want her respect, and commitment? EARN it. Your boundaries, are based on insecurities. (why can't she talk to her exes??? because you are insecure about it)
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:57 PM
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I spent half of my life living like this, what would this person or that person (that I look up to) do in my situation. Don't go down that path. The truth is Chad, would do what HE wants....and that is what actually makes him Chad, not his specific actions, but his intent to follow his own mind. To become Chad, you have to start doing things YOUR way...
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:40 PM
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Don't listen to what she says. How is sex??? Is she enjoying it, or does it feel duty sex??? Remember - women often have plausible deniability (Their hamster, and slut defenses), instead of saying "I enjoy having sex with you, and I like it" she could be saying " I am only having sex with you to keep you happy..." Pay more attention to what she does, rather than what she says. My wife says that she enjoys sex, and yet it feels starfish/duty sex a lot of the time. So no matter what she says, the …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 02:55 AM
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Start with 100-200 pushups everyday, and 100 squats, 100 lunges. Go for a run, and do chin ups. That will keep you going, you don't even need a gym. You are a mess. You have got a ton of good advice. YOU NEED to write down a plan, on paper. Write down you daily routine, what time you should be up, time to work out, time for kids to be up, lunches/meals, laundry, reading, etc. Have it written down. When you are an emotional wreck like you are, its hard to focus, and you feel overwhelmed. This way…
/r/askMRP05/09/17 11:41 PM
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I am gradually seeing less, and less value my wife brings... It may have been like this for a long time ( I chose to ignore it...), this may change with time, or I may reach a point, where its no longer worth my time... OR Maybe its our job to lead our wives, and help/direct them to bring more value (sex, better company, things that are important) The truth is probably somewhere in between. If you expect someone to walk into your life, and be perfect, then you are chasing a unicorn. At the same …
/r/askMRP04/09/17 08:18 AM
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Being a man, is not about being able to fix everything. I know Alphas, that will pay for most things to get done by someone else, because, they value their time more that fiddling around with a screwdriver for 30 minutes. If you are trying to fix everything yourself and do a shit job, because your are a tight ass, its not Alpha. If you are paying someone to do everything, so you can be a lazy ass on the couch, its not Alpha. If you can fix something, quickly, efficiently, and properly, that is o…
/r/askMRP03/09/17 11:39 PM
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I already have a restored car, and I like to play at casino from time to time, they are all things that I enjoy! I am not delusional, trading is something I had a passion for, for years. Spent years "trading" (gambling...), took it more seriously about 4 yrs ago, worked with pro traders, did course/classes, had a mentor. It has been one of the best things to improve self discipline, and self reflection.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 11:19 PM
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That makes sense. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 03:20 AM
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Trading is a hobby, with aim of one day becoming main source of income. I trade end of day forex. I have been doing it long enough to avoid most mistakes. Last hurdle, consistent profitability (this is where you successfully combine strategy, psychology, money management), before I increase the trading account.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 12:54 AM
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Yep. Did the diet, acupuncture, herbs, pretty much tried everything... Strong meds is the only thing that works at the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 01:41 AM
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It doesn't matter what sets her off.... She will test you, if you stand your ground, she will act as if its the most horrible thing you have done, and 10min later act as if nothing happened ( I am sure you have experienced that by now...)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 10:08 PM
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Right now, the more I own shit, the more pissed she is...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 10:05 PM
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All that just to say, your wife threw a test, and you failed it miserably?? And you try to justify your behavior with delving into the topic way too much. The topic is irrelevant, it could have been about one of your kids health, or the neighbor, or the war in Syria. The way I see. You initiated, she rejected. Sounds like you got butt hurt, she smelled blood. She starts to throw shit tests/baits you (she knows your buttons) (Women FLIRT through shit tests, think about that....). You fall for it.…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 01:06 AM
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It does sound like I have learning disability... Lol. I am reading a ton everyday. I have covered a few other books in between, and get to WISNIFG at night, and only manage to get through a few pages ( I re-read dialogues, and play them out in my mind). The bottom line, its a priority now to finish, so that's what I will read first. Weight - due to combination of arthritis, medication, and excuses, its a slow progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 11:23 PM
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I have an autoimmune arthritis, which flares up from time to time (I am on meds/herbs, trying everything...) 10 weeks ago had a flare up, joints swelled up, so no lifting for about 6 weeks, just cycled/hydro. Started lifting again 4-5 weeks ago, and gradually trying to build up. Unless arthritis goes into remission, my lifting will likely to be up/down.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 11:09 PM
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How??? Where do I draw a line between being a fun/happy person, and a mental nurse??
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 11:02 PM
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I have been writing up my OYS for the last 3 days, might as well be the first one. I wanted to do my next OYS, after finishing WISNIFG, but that book is soooooo tedious, and such a slow read for me... I am 3/4 finished, and making time every night now to read it. 8 months since coming here. The Good Gym consistent 3/week. Last few weeks started to inc weights, as the body is feeling good. (DL 170-180, bench 130-140, shoulder press 80, instead of squats leg press with 300) Feeling stronger. Takin…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 09:03 AM
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I had similar (I call it mini main event) with my wife a week ago. Just like you I couldnt think of anything to say, so I did STFU, the only difference was I threw in some comfort, hugs, holding her. Since then, wife has been cold/withdrawn. I just get on with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 04:03 AM
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You are no where near "I don't give a fuck land". You are in a massive sea of anger, and you will drown yourself, your ship, and your crew.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 10:31 PM
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I am a fan of "Beige Philip Show" You can get all episodes for free on app "podcast addict" . Mindset.com I also like, James Marshall, you tube videos, Its PUA stuff, but most of it is inline with RP.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 10:12 PM
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Princess will try every possible way to get her beta bitch back, and it will go on for months. It will be in a form of anger, guilt, comfort, and the triad will never stop. The only things that can change, is how you deal with it. Your only option is to work on yourself, learn the new ways, gradually change.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 10:07 PM
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Yep hurts like hell... I am 8 months in, and it still stings from time to time... When you snap at your wife, remember, it was not her fault, this should make the sailing smoother.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 08:09 AM
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You are going to have a night out with your wife, and you want to ruin it by talking about feelings??? DON"T!!!!!!!!!!!! Plan a fun night, BE fun, DO silly/crazy/fun things, Kino, Tease, make her feel like she is with a cool/fun guy, not an emotional tampon that wants to know how she feels at this point in marriage. Come here daily, and read, read, read.... you have a lot to learn.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 04:48 AM
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Firstly you are not OI, .... because you are here, complaining. That probably means, you act OI around your wife, but you are still not there. It takes time, until then, fake it till you make it. Sex is still your goal, probably because its validation. That needs to change. If you were single, you would go for weeks or more without sex, and not be bothered, because there are many other things to fill your life with. Adapt similar attitude now. I don't know how you initiate, but if it comes acros…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 04:28 AM
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Inspiring her... Thats next level. Still have a long way to go on leadership. And another book to add to the list............
/r/askMRP15/08/17 12:54 PM
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Still working on the submissive part. She has had this trait for a long time, way before I came here. I am more than happy to run the show, and take the heat, if it gets hairy. Its more about her handling things, if i am not there.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 12:45 PM
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I provide comfort, when she is having a melt down, " I am so stressed, I feel overwhelmed, are we doing the right thing..." I deal with shit tests " it was all your idea to do this... have you called x, y z, .... what are you going to do about x, y ,z,..."
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:39 AM
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It took us 12 months to get pregnant with my first one, I was 33. Started to get tested, was told my swimmers were slow, and then my wife got pregnant. With second child , first go, and she was pregnant. Don't waste your time/money, keep going, and enjoy yourself! If after 12 months still nothing, then start looking into it.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 10:50 PM
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She is on a verge of her PERIOD (also known as PMS), which is a lovely combination of hormones, and general discomfort, add in a hot, smelly, busy city, you have a perfect storm. You had no choice but to take her back. In the future, track her cycle better. Use this experience as a learning step. When you take a 3y.o. out for a whole day, there is a lot of preparations. Food, water, extra nappies, extra clothes, etc. and even with best planning, sometimes you have no choice but to come home. So …
/r/askMRP14/08/17 10:20 PM
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You will never trust your wife again... You are finding excuses to stay (your son, guilt, obligation), because you are afraid to be on your own? You are punishing your wife, with online dating. You are looking for external validations. Where exactly is your son benefiting from this whole scenario??? You need to move on, for you own benefit, and your son.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 10:45 PM
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Since taking Red pill 8 months ago, I watch TV once per week. Friday night with wife/or by myself I will watch a movie or a doco. The rest of the week, there is soooo much shit to do, read, gym, house chores, hobbies, meditate, walk etc. etc. etc. Get out of the house, lead a life that interests you! If she wants space, show her the door, and get on with your life.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 10:33 PM
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The answer is in your own post. You are still in her frame... You are afraid of her emotions (yelling, judgments, demands etc) Women can smell this subconsciously, and the message you are sending her, is you can't handle her (and her emotions), and if you can't handle her - how are you going to keep her safe? All this equals to weakness, weakness leads to lack of respect. What are you afraid of? Where is it coming from? Whats the worst thing that will happen? What do you mean by co-dependency? Y…
/r/askMRP09/08/17 10:55 PM
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Well, you already doing a lot better than me... I listen to this videos in the car/walks/gym, you don't actually need to watch them. You should find the 2nd one more useful, its breaks down social anxiety
/r/askMRP07/08/17 11:11 PM
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Shit tests === Female way of flirting.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 11:03 PM
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Hopefully I can give you a hand with social anxiety, since its something that has plagued me all my life. The reason you need to be out, is not to dread your wife (its a side effect), but for you to have interests/hobbies/fun. What would you do if you were single? Would you sit at home and be boring, or get out, and try meet new people? Do you want to have fun in life? Well, fun is not going to come looking for you, so you need to get out to start enjoying your life. I don't know how bad your so…
/r/askMRP07/08/17 10:42 PM
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This should explain to you some of your feelings, and where it comes from. I have re-read this sooo many times. This was posted by drt_pr, I highlighted some very specific areas for you.... Just like you, I wanted my wife to love me like she loves our kids, and spent years frustrated AF, until RP... "Son, As you are coming of age, your desire to be loved by a woman is growing. To feel the daily warmth of a woman by your side. To have and to hold. This is a natural instinct and one of the stronge…
/r/askMRP02/08/17 11:18 PM
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I have 0 cold approaches. I am still working on reducing my anxiety in social situation (cafes, shopping centers etc). I am still working on starting conversation with strangers, without pooping myself. I get what you are hinting at, anyone can dig up excellent information, but nothing will change until you apply it... BTW happy to share situations/approaches for morale building!
/r/askMRP01/08/17 08:49 AM
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A nice long post about how horrible/terrible/fat your wife is. Congratulations! You created that!! Now, read the books, read this forum, lift, read on dread, work on frame (you have none, you are living in your wife's frame) learn to STFU, learn to pass shit test, pass comfort test, stop cheating, be fun, be attractive, don't be un-attractive, lead your wife, eat/cook the food that you want to eat, do hobbies that you enjoy. Review in 10-12 months.
/r/askMRP31/07/17 07:28 AM
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You separated a year a go, and yet you are still posting about her here now... What does that tell you?? Why aren't you fucking other girls??? She sees you as a safe bet still, you are still her little bitch, and she knows it... Make her realize you can and will have other women, and IF she wants to be in your life, it will be on your terms. Also, fucking other women, will get her out of your head.
/r/askMRP27/07/17 10:58 PM
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I am sorry about your dad. I lost mine 3 yrs ago, I was 36. It sucks, and I still miss him everyday. Your wife was there for you, and it was a chance for you to demonstrate what kind of person you are in an extreme situation. No one will understand what you are going through, unless they have been there, and that includes your wife, so don't expect people to "get" it, and give you what you need. What you showed her, is under pressure, you buckle, and weakness is a huge turnoff for women. The sub…
/r/askMRP26/07/17 10:23 PM
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Her marriage model is, angry wife, submissive husband. That is all that she knows, and will try to play it out in her own marriage (subconsciously..) You are picking it up early on, and I think if you set clear boundaries, she will tests you for a while, but then will understand the new dynamic, and may settle down, but any sign of weakness, and she will test you again. I married a woman like that, minus the sex frequency, minus the blowjobs, minus pleasantness even on trips. I discovered MRP 13…
/r/askMRP25/07/17 01:46 AM
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Half and half. Sometimes I will tell her exactly where I am going, and sometimes i will (playfully) tell her " Ihave things to do, places to be..." She knows, I am not taking her shit now, and she doesn't like it.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 01:14 AM
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I come from a place of NO frame at all, all my life... 6 months ago, frame was just an idea. 3 months ago, I could hold frame for a day or so. Today, I hold frame most of the time..... I honestly give a lot less shit, than ever before, my issue is, ingrained lack of assertiveness, and avoiding conflict. Even though I understand the principles of dealing with this things now, the subconscious has not caught up yet, and reflexes kick in, hence brain goes into freeze mode...
/r/askMRP18/07/17 11:36 PM
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Height 5,10. Read NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, 1/2 way through WISNIFG, Models, Bluepill professor videos, this forum, and a whole lot of youtube videos. Anger has subsided a lot lately. I am no longer resenting her, I do get annoyed at myself from time to time for a shit pickle that I got myself into (picked a "project" of a wife, but than the way I was, I was always likely to pick a "project"). My aim, is personal growth, happiness, fulfillment, and stop trying to fix my wife/people. I remind myself dail…
/r/askMRP18/07/17 02:50 AM
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Wow that thread..... Thanks for the link!!!
/r/askMRP18/07/17 02:26 AM
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Wife is feeling emotional void, husband is not filling this emotional void, wife looks outside marriage to get emotions/feelz/dopamine, husband not happy about it/wants to throw a tantrum.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 08:27 AM
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Well, this is what could have happened if you picked her parking preference. This is what happened to me 3 months ago. Drove to a park with kids, a few parking spots free, I pick one, start parking, wife tells me, park over there, its a better spot, I said OK. Park in the spot she suggested, she opens the door, and tells me that its too narrow, and I should move, I said " you picked this spot!!" she replied " Well you should't listen to me, and you should do as you want" As you can see, you can …
/r/askMRP09/07/17 11:55 AM
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WTF... She is not your maid. She doesn't have to do shit for you. What you want, is a wife that wants to do things for you, and that comes from you setting examples/boundaries/frame. Imagine you are a single dad, how would you run the house/cooking?? And do exactly that. If you work long hours, then either plan/cook on weekends, OR get someone to cook for you. Have takeout 1/week, healthy meals delivered etc. There are many options. Your wife needs to know that you can and will live happily with…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 11:34 PM
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She cheated, and now trying to come up with excuses for her mistakes. Most normal people will see through her bullshit, if they agree with her its your fault for her cheating, do you actually want to have anything to do with those people??
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 12:05 AM
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A rant here and there is a huge help. I get moments like yours, and posting here helps to get it off your chest, as well as get some good solid advice (usually lift, read...) You work hard, and no one acknowledges your effort, and sex becomes an indicator of how well you are progressing ( and its still a validation for you). On one hand, you are doing well (IOI's), but on the other hand your GF is not attracted to you. BTW, she is NOT attracted to you. She is telling you what you want to hear, (…
/r/askMRP03/07/17 10:32 PM
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Her shitty behaviour went on for a few days. I did my best to maintain frame (at least on the outside, but was close to bucking on the inside....). A few days later, somewhere through the day, I slapped her ass, and she said " I take this as your apology". If it wasn't for this place, I would have never, ever worked out how to deal with women... Even now, I am seeing it, experiencing it, and still working on believing it....
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 10:50 PM
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Thank you. very encouraging.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 05:56 AM
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2 things 1. Your are still early on, so you may have shown that you are butt hurt. 2. Once women feel, that their usual tactics don't work, they increase the intensity. She is upping her pressure, to get you back in line.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 05:51 AM
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I replied " send me a pic of your breasts, and I will think about it" Silence for the rest of the day. She kicked up a shit storm that night, managed to handle it, without getting sucked in. Next day, came home from work, still getting cold shoulder, somewhere through the day slapped her ass , she said " I take this as your apology". Fucked the shit out of her that night. For a rational, logical person, still can't get my head around this fully!
/r/askMRP25/06/17 11:25 PM
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Work in progress: Frame - its constantly on my mind. Every decision I make, I have to stop for a second and think. Is this what I want, or am I doing it because of other influences? Only a few months ago, I struggled with the whole concept of frame. Now I can hold frame for days. Still lose it, still feel guilty about holding frame in some situations, because I feel like I am being selfish, and the BP conditioning does not like it. I still hamster myself out of going out more often, I will use e…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/17 03:44 AM
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3 yrs ago my dad passed away (still miss him a lot). I was 36, and he took his last breath in my arms. With his death, died all his dreams, and unfulfilled life. Apart from us (his immediate family),the world does not give a shit about his death/life. The nurses were talking about their lives in the corridor, cars were beeping on the street, the clock kept ticking on the wall. At that point I realized you have to live your life to its full potential. I did not want to settle for second best, I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/17 03:44 AM
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DL 180-190, squats 110-120, bench 110-120. Going too heavy, can set off inflammation, and my joints start to swell.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 11:22 PM
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some of it, probably is.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 11:18 PM
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I dont want sex to be my life mission, but that is what it feels like right now. I am doing my best on being awesome husband: done weekend getaway, surprise dinner/lunch, kino, being fun/happy, date nights, fun family things, own shit around the house. The problem is, I dont seem to be able to get any traction with my wife, a lot of the time, she is there as an unwilling passenger. I am usually OI with that, and do things because I want to do them. Just got an sms from her: " do you intend on ap…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 10:37 PM
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Firstly I would tell her what is going on, and why. The reading I have done : NMMNG, Models, WISNIFG (halfway through it), All Blue Pill professor videos, MMSL, Athol Kay videos, Hundreds of hours of Beige Philip show (Podcast), and few other books I cant think of right now. Masturbation is down to 1/week. Kino - consistent past 3-4 months, irrespective of sex. No real duty sex, but still accepting mediocre sex. Tried therapists - they were useless. Working with a personal coach now, much better…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 10:22 PM
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Pretty sure i am not gay. lol.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 10:18 PM
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One of my issues, is I expect sex from my wife. Other issue, she is fucken frigid. She was raised by frigid mother, and she has become a frigid person herself... I will not check out of marriage, until I know I have become the best version of me for this marriage, and If things still don't improve, than I am out.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 10:15 PM
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I have made gradual gains in the gym. I have psoriatic arthritis (autoimmune), which means I cant push myself as much as I want. If i do anything wrong, body flares up, and I am out of action for 3-6 weeks. I don't think she is on a pedestal anymore, but I could do with more NGAF, and abundance mentality.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 10:07 PM
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Will not lie, no weight loss. Gym 2-3/week, body has changed, and get compliments from people that I have lost weight. I have an autoimmune condition, so dont eat wheat/dairy, no junk/take away food. My body absorbs calories exceptionally well, any weight loss for me is severe calorie cutting, which I have now started. I come from a family where everyone lived in my mothers frame. I have never seen my dad stand up to her. So this is my conditioning, so this is the area I have been working a on t…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 10:00 PM
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She has checked out already. It may be too late, or may be not. Make up your mind if you want her in your life or not... You may have been a bitch all your life, but you can finish this like a man. If you don't want her in your life, then help her pack her bags. If you do want her in your life, then man up, and give her an ultimatum. She gives you 6 months to change, with no fucking of anyone else. (she can go out, you can't control that), and see where you are in 6 months. If she breaks the rul…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 09:10 AM
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This is what I think: You worry about her feelings/emotions too much. You are still completely in her frame, and doing your best to avoid any conflict. You still have her on a pedestal. You are too scared to push back, or say no. What is the worst thing that will happen from a conflict?? She will act angry, belittle you, silent treatment?(its a way for her to manipulate you back into her frame) Your response is STFU, smile, slap her ass, get on with your things (Fake it if you have to). Do you r…
/r/askMRP08/06/17 10:38 PM
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See another therapist, try osteopath (i am one....) You need AC mobilized, and both ends of collar bone worked on.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 02:01 AM
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Don't do overhead exercises right now, will only aggravate AC. You need to strengthen rotator cuff muscle, they act as stabilizer during bench press, that kis why you have some issue. You need to find a good therapist to work on your shoulder/pecs/rotator cuff. Alternatively, a steroid injection into AC joint.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 12:37 AM
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I know exactly how you feel. I spent last few years feeling the same way. Coming home to a house in a complete mess, wife miserable, kids creating chaos, little sex or affection etc. etc. I was fuming, I would walk in and start snapping at everyone, constantly being angry at my wife for not managing the house properly, while I was working 6 days/week, and paying for everything, allowing her the freedom to be at home, buy anything she wants, live in a nice house, drive a nice car. It got to a poi…
/r/askMRP01/06/17 11:06 PM
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Really needed to read this. Got a hard no last night, rolled over to read, did my best to hide the butthurtitis. Its better then it used to be, but some days, just cant shake it off...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 12:40 AM
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I am in about the same time as you, and I think you did a decent job. I have had a few of those "don't touch me, you think that's gonna make everything OK?!" If you are beginner, then definitely STFU and walk away, but by now, you should be pushing it more, until she cracks, or gets even more pissed. Regarding PMS, for a long time, when my wife had PMS, I had a strong feeling, that I would just be better off on my own, it took me a long time to figure out that it was her PMS, that was making me …
/r/askMRP18/05/17 11:20 PM
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You are pushing back too hard... You are only a week in, and trying to change years of (YOU) fucking up, not her. Go easy.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 10:36 PM
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My wife usually feels uncomfortable me going down on her. The truth is I enjoy doing it. Last time I started getting down there, she started saying " no, don't do it, I am not comfortable with this..." At this point I looked up at her and in all seriousness said" I am not doing this for you, I am doing this for me, I enjoy it, now lay back and enjoy yourself" and she loved every second of it. Try it, may help to get things moving...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/17 09:10 AM
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You are changing, and she doesn't understand what is going on. You also have a history of cheating. Keep working on yourself, and make sure you are fun to be around. In time, she should come around, or not, but that is not why you are changing.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 09:57 PM
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Done all that, have picked her up and thrown on bed, even had her dangling head down.
/r/askMRP29/04/17 02:06 AM
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Combination of OYS/victim puke/self pity parade When things are going well, I keep my head down, and keep working, I do this OYS, when the pressure inside is building and I need to release.... Good Work - not just busy, but probably too busy, Days are becoming 12hrs. Good for finances, but affects personal, family time. Will aim at reducing slightly over next few weeks. Weight - I dont feel like I have lost weight (scales broke, so haven't weighed myself in 4 weeks), but lately, regularly gettin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 05:04 AM
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Great post! I am only 3-4 months in, and really enjoyed reading this, and also can connect with a lot of things you have mentioned. Fathering Boys - I have 2 boys, 6 and 4. My wife is similar to yours, little to no control over the kids. Best thing I found was spending time with the boys without the wife. Spend quality time with them alone, and be fun, easy going, and yet enforce boundaries. - Take them fishing, bike riding, hiking, park, do projects, etc But do it regularly/weekly, have routine…
/r/askMRP22/04/17 12:18 AM
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Bluepillprofessor has his steps of dread, I found it a pretty good place to start. He also has about 20, 10-15min audios on different steps (don't have the link, but try bluepillprofessor.wordpress.com), listen to them during commute/workouts. The sidebar books will fill in the holes. Asking questions here, is also very helpful.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 08:31 AM
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I have had similar feeling, recently, as OP. This is a perfect answer. Thank you.
/r/askMRP06/04/17 02:33 AM
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So, your wife does this, and that, blah, blah, blah.. What are you doing except whining, and feeling sorry for yourself for being left behind?? What books have you read?? She takes holidays alone, because she doesn't respect you enough to worry about you. You are not high value, your are a life support. You will not find answers here on how to fix your wife, or your marriage. Here, you will learn to become a better version of yourself, and in the process your wife and marriage, may or may not ch…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 10:37 PM
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Get a job. Be a man. Your wife is 5 months pregnant and doing 60-80hrs, while you sit on your ass playing trading games?? And you wonder why she doesn't want to have sex with you?? You trade EOD, you have nothing to show for it, you have a whole day to do things, get off your ass. Trading is a hobby, UNTIL , you have enough savings to cover 2yrs of living expenses, AND your trading account is huge (depending on you return rate, but even if you do 30% per yr, you need a trading account 3 times yo…
/r/askMRP03/04/17 11:49 PM
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I see some of the more experienced members are giving you shit about how you handled it. But, for someone new like me, a day like that would be an achievement. I know exactly what you mean when you say that every fibre of your body felt strained, and I think being "terse" and "dick" is part of the process to overcome those BP urges, before you can move on to total OI, and still be exciting, and game your wife (even when they are being shitty).
/r/askMRP28/03/17 01:31 AM
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I have no issue with kids boundaries etc. I will repeat it until they behave, and they do, when my wife is not around. The problem is, kids know they will get away with anything if mum is there... I did tell her not to go in there, because he was warned, and this is part of disciplining, and if we only do these a few times, he will start behaving properly. But, she had that crazy/emotional look on her face that meant no logic would get through. I did not want to raise voice in front of kids (don…
/r/askMRP24/03/17 09:57 PM
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Very true. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 09:48 PM
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Yes, partially I am whining. The more I self reflect, the more things I find that need to change, and some days it just seems too much...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 11:11 AM
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I am lifting, and enjoying it!, BUT, I do have a medical condition thats stopping me from pushing myself as hard as I want to, or as frequently. I am on meds, but this week particularly, its looks like the meds are not working as well now. Seeing my specialist in a month, and will talk about trying something different.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 11:07 AM
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about 2 months in now Due to a 10 day break, diet was crap, just really wanted to indulge myself ( and paid for it with 3 kgs gain) Since coming back: Work - flat out as to be expected. GOOD Gym - 1/week last week, the real reason - laziness, getting back to normal this week. Still do pool 1/week, badminton 1/week, walk dog daily. Very little shit testing past 2 weeks (or maybe I am missing them). I am not too comfortable with that for 2 reasons. 1. Could be a big one brewing... 2. I need to pra…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/17 08:26 AM
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This reads like my life story, I nearly puked...... Read your other posts, very helpful/insightful. Thank you.
/r/askMRP04/03/17 02:08 AM
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Fucked up Day 3.. Wife is all bitchy past 1-2 days, and I just could not gather will/or strength to try and make it fun for us last night. She was just lying on the couch, all absorbed in her phone. I organised the kids (read the challenge just before kids bed time, I am in Australia), and put them to bed, and could not bring myself to go down to her. I need to think about this, and work through my thoughts/reasons etc. The other 2 days challenges are a breeze! Will attempt again tonight/or tomo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 09:38 PM
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The health issues is dealt with as best as can. Its auto-immune, I am on meds, as well as trying different diets, doing supplements, and constantly trying new therapies to see if something else will work. I am definitely trying to do what you did ..Tolerate, manage, don't appease, and every day, I realize more and more, how much "unfucking myself" I have to do!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 05:26 AM
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I am fairly new here (2 months), so I may or may not be correct with my answer. I have faced similar situations with my wife for years. Different settings, but same content, wanting to feel like we are a family unit. For example, I would ask my wife on the weekend, "lets take the kids to the pool", the answer would always be no ( i have things to do at home, my legs are not shaved, etc, etc) I would get really butt hurt, especially when you see happy families playing in the pool. I can give more…
/r/askMRP27/02/17 08:18 AM
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Hi All, This is my first OYS I am 39, 5.10", around 86kg. Married nearly 10 years, and together 13. 2 kids 6/4 y.o., Self-Employed in alternative health. I have always been a very shy, introverted person, follower, nice guy. and since I didn't know what to do about some things that bothered me ( very poor social skills, low self esteem, passive/aggressive behavior, unhappy marriage) I simply accepted a lot of this, and "learned" to live with it... For most of my adult life I felt like something …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 04:20 AM
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You are right, its probably a combination of: rambo, shit test, comfort test, and the dynamics of the relationship changing. Feels overwhelming right now, trying to balance it all. Thanks for feedback, and support.
/r/askMRP14/02/17 01:42 AM
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I definitely try and include her in doing things. I am getting annoyed at her for not joining me or enjoying her time with me. I understand I need to focus more on OI. For example, organised a date night last week. Planned everything from A-Z (not to impress her, but things I wanted to do), made it fun for her, told her its a surprise, tried to build some excitement (we went for dinner and comedy show). She was frosty/unexcited. I had no expectations of sex or anything else, But, her attitude go…
/r/askMRP14/02/17 01:38 AM
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The moment you let her talk to you through a shower curtain you had seeded frame to her. She was nagging you but you were just playing Alpha with Bluepill goals. Wow didn't event occur to me to look at this way... Thank you
/r/askMRP14/02/17 01:29 AM
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Done, did it on a phone. I think its more readable now.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 01:17 PM
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Thank you for the advice. I don't feel like i went Rambo, but may be i did... not trying to get rid of her. Yeah things felt bad enough to consider if the relationship is worth it, but i always felt i wasn't doing enough, now that i discovered red pill, i know what was missing.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 01:16 PM
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Hey mate, I am VERY new to red pill, only discovered it about 1-2 months ago.... In this short period I learned enough to agree with the other people about your frame... You are still blaming/rationalizing her behavior, You SETTLED for poor sex (why would she give you anything else, if you take the scraps...), you didn't set boundaries and made it clear what the consequences of them being broken are ( you let her throw something at you, and abuse you 4 months ago, and still there asking for sex?…
/r/askMRP31/01/17 11:57 AM
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I am new here, and only now I realize how the course of my life was defined by fear, (avoiding doing a lot of things, making decisions to avoid pain, or out of fear, excuses, rationalization ....), instead of doing what was best for me. It was a painful realization. Now the hard work begins of changing... One of my daily motto now "Life begins at the end of your comfort zone." Neale Donald Walsch
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 12:56 AM
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