33Merlin11 Archive

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5	Guys I fucked up so hard today Glad I read this today. Going on a date tonight with a girl who I feel is out of my league, but we have a lot in common that most guys wouldn't considering we're both into spirituality. Instead of thinking she's out of my league, I should just be focused on creating a real connection with her and showing her I'm interested in her thoughts and emotions. Thanks!	/r/seduction	17/10/19 04:45 PM
5	Guys I fucked up so hard today I'm not the OP just appreciated the information haha. Still learning how to interact with woman I'm interested in and the knowledge you dropped is highly valuable!	/r/seduction	16/10/19 11:09 PM
19	Guys I fucked up so hard today Thanks for the in-depth post!	/r/seduction	16/10/19 10:52 PM
2	Stepping Through WINDOWS to Massively increase Your Success - (Med-Adv "Game" topic) I'm still a bit new to dating/flirting/seduction but I don't feel this is a overly advanced thing to focus on early-on, though I guess it depends on your ability to multitask and be quick on your feet. Thanks for the in-depth post! Going to save it and reread it later to instill the information.	/r/seduction	15/10/19 11:03 PM
1	Really struggling with turning conversation flirty If a woman is showing cleavage do you allow yourself to stare even if she notices that you're looking?	/r/seduction	14/10/19 06:47 PM
5	Really struggling with turning conversation flirty You are probably not showing your sexual interest strongly enough.	/r/seduction	14/10/19 06:32 PM
3	Really struggling with turning conversation flirty I've got the exact same problem. I think it just comes down to practice. Being flirty feels, to me, like something that should be spontaneous and capitalize on events happening in the present moment, trying to have scripts is just going to make things feel forced. I have slowly been experimenting with being more direct with my sexual interest and making more risky jokes and it is almost always received positively. The more positive experiences I have, the more I want to have those experiences. I…	/r/seduction	14/10/19 05:25 PM
1	girls tell me I'm nice and awkward Learn some impressive skills. Fitness related stuff is always good	/r/seduction	10/10/19 07:31 PM
4	UK teen facing jail after he touched a girl whilst trying to befriend her Agree	/r/seduction	10/10/19 04:43 PM
1	Social Conditioning In Dating So pretty much just don't try to overthink things and instead just try to focus on enjoying their presence and company? I find this is a lot easier to do in person, I find myself feeling much less anxious and flustered, I think because I have a lot more information to go off of (facial expressions, body language, etc.) and can adapt my style based on the information I receive. When I'm texting, I feel so clueless as to what I should be saying and if they're still interested. When I can't get an …	/r/seduction	10/10/19 04:15 PM
1	Social Conditioning In Dating Hmmm, I think you're onto something. My current self image is one of competence and skill but not fully developed competence and skill. I still have a lot of work to do on myself that I am consciously aware of and thinking about. So even though I'm more competent and skilled than most people, I'm still not as good as the best, and the best is who I'm going for. So even though realistically I can continue building myself while building a relationship, subconsciously I don't feel ready yet to be w…	/r/seduction	10/10/19 04:09 PM
1	Social Conditioning In Dating I just don't feel confident. I feel like I'm going to make mistakes and make a fool of myself. But I don't know why I feel like that. I am a very competent person. It's not that I don't feel worthy, I'm actually very picky and know the kind of girl I would be most compatible with. It's just when I find them, and especially when they show interest, I get super flustered and anxious/nervous. It's not really a fear of being rejected, I guess it's more of a fear in myself being unable to perform as …	/r/seduction	09/10/19 07:54 PM
5	Social Conditioning In Dating My problem is I still don't fully understand why I get social anxiety when it comes to interacting with woman that I'm interested in. I'm not afraid of rejection at all. I'm usually very confident in myself and my abilities and value. But as soon as an attractive woman starts flirting with me, I freeze up and social anxiety makes it extremely difficult to think and talk clearly. I know logically there's no good reason for it but it still happens. I actually get flirted with kind-of regularly, bu…	/r/seduction	09/10/19 07:01 PM
2	I was initially attracted to this community because it taught “I’m not good enough” was just a limiting belief that kept you from a good dating life. But after approaching hundreds of girls & getting rejected countless times, I feel like maybe that belief was right all along. Anyone else feel this? Are you in shape? Do you keep yourself well groomed? Do you maintain your hygiene? Do you practice your social skills (trying pickups does not count)? Do you hold eye contact? Do you make jokes that are slightly risky? Do you actively show sexual interest in them? If you can answer yes to all of these then I don't see why you would be having any issues. I'm average in looks but I'm fit and really take care of myself and I keep eye contact and try to confidently talk without studdering, opting fo…	/r/seduction	07/10/19 06:55 AM
1	You've waited all week for Friday... Yeah, definitely. I was boring AND awkward a few years ago. But I force myself to socialize every time I go out. At first it sucked and I resented it, but now I kind-of crave it. What I would recommend is getting good at a hobby and using that as an icebreaker. For me it's fitness, I love fitness and it gives me something to talk about with people. You have to remember that nobody owes you anything. If you want someone to want to talk to you, you need to have something of value to bring to the t…	/r/seduction	05/10/19 04:27 PM
2	You've waited all week for Friday... As long as you have personality and are not boring, most people in most places don't mind giving up a few minutes to talk. I do it all the time, everywhere I go. Even in stores. But at local parks I specifically look for people walking dogs. 99% of people walking dogs will be friendly and approachable.	/r/seduction	05/10/19 03:25 PM
2	Guys who couldn't get women, what changed? I'm here for you bud. Quick background: nonstop video gaming my entire childhood lead to extreme social awkwardness and an inability to informally socialize comfortably. This gave me very intense social anxiety, making it really comfortable to try to socialize. It wasn't until I was 25 that I actually started improving on my social skills. At this point I had been expelled from high school 2 weeks in and finished 9th, 10th, 11th, 12th grade and all of college online. I had no social experience, …	/r/seduction	04/10/19 11:35 PM
1	You've waited all week for Friday... Completely agree. Some jobs make it difficult but there are always options. I work the standard 9 to 5 and I'm in an office with only 2-3 other people 90% of the time so little room to flex my social muscles there. No problem, I've got from 5 to 10 to work on my social skills, so I do. I go out and exercise at local parks and the beach and I talk to as many people as I can while I'm out. No excuses. Work off hours like night shift with 10-12 hour days? Get a 24/7 gym membership and talk to peopl…	/r/seduction	04/10/19 11:16 PM