3timemom Archive

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3	We don’t talk enough about the “Settle Down” woman enough If she’s a 9/10, drama-free, loyal, smart, and humble then she’s a great catch. But those are like unicorns, rarely seen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 07:08 PM
19	We don’t talk enough about the “Settle Down” woman enough It’s like “Roses” by Outkast…. “Real guys go for real down to mars girls” rather than the hotties that think that their poop don’t stank.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 01:15 AM
4	We don’t talk enough about the “Settle Down” woman enough The hot woman eventually gets old and no one ever settles down with her if she has nothing going for her but her looks. Lots of men would take a cute girl who is not obnoxious and drama over a drama filled hot girl. They’ll sleep with the hot girl, but not marry. She’ll end up alone after she hits the wall.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 12:14 AM
1	CMV : As a Man i believe using Game and Manipulation is immoral, but i believe u have to do it because otherwise u cant compete, and this is actually sad. My husband never played games on me. We were high school sweethearts, deeply cared and supported each other through college and beyond, then got married and now have three kids. We never had any sexual partners before each other and are so grateful for that. Game might get you casual sex (which is honestly not good in the long run), but it won’t get you love. Be honest and truthful and you will find the right person for you. It’s hard for both men and women to find that person (yes, it’s easier …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 07:56 PM
47	Is it considered a female privilege that almost all women have access to live out all of their fetishes/sexual fantasies in real time with only the slightest of efforts? Tbh very few women want to be doing these things with random people. It doesn’t feel good just being used by some random weirdo.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/22 03:24 AM
12	Is it considered a female privilege that almost all women have access to live out all of their fetishes/sexual fantasies in real time with only the slightest of efforts? Yeah, I’m a woman who’s been sexually active for the last 10+ years usually multiple times a week (with the same guy) and I’ve never had issues with it lasting too long and causing problems done there. If that happens, they might need more lube.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/22 03:23 AM
1	Have you ever turned a woman down for her body count? Good on you. I like seeing men who actually value their virginity and the virginity of their future spouse. My husband and I were both virgins when we met and I feel like it’s helped our relationship/marriage a lot. Everything is much more special this way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/22 04:44 AM
2	Have you ever turned a woman down for her body count? Good on you. I like seeing men who actually value their virginity and the virginity of their future spouse. My husband and I were both virgins when we met and I feel like it’s helped our relationship/marriage a lot. Everything is much more special this way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/22 04:43 AM
1	Prettier, dumb women will always triumph over an average to less attractive intelligent women. As a stay at home mom to (soon to be) three, I take offense to you saying we are spoiled or get to relax. Stay at home moms work hard too. In fact, if I went to work, I’d be paying more for someone to watch my kids (or to put them in daycare), than I would be making in the workforce and I have a college degree. I stay home out of practicality, not because of my looks lol As for your post, I do think men tend to value looks over intelligence but more so when sleeping/dating around then when marry…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 08:48 PM
1	Why is porn hated by so many women? All for that, within reason (totally fine to have boundaries). Luckily me and my husband both aren’t very kinky for a few reasons: We haven’t watched porn since we were married - so over 4 years. Porn really causes people to be into weird, often unnatural kinks (ie. Anal sex - yes, it is unnatural to want to get poop on your penis or to have someone stick stuff it up your poop hole. Yes, porn stars “prep” for it, but it’s still gross). We are adults with kids, jobs, etc. We aren’t idle all day t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 03:34 PM
1	The lock and key analogy is irrational, because it entails a premise that isn't agreed upon to begin with I honestly do think it has a lot to do with the woman’s purity as well. I don’t think I would have felt that way had I already slept with a few guys. It would be strange to value a guy’s virginity when you don’t value your own. It’s your own way of coping to say that none of it matters at all. I do know a handful of women who have said that they wanted a man that kept himself pure because they did themselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 05:42 AM
2	The lock and key analogy is irrational, because it entails a premise that isn't agreed upon to begin with I honestly can’t speak of what most women value. I can say that anecdotally women I have known did tend to get jealous of their partner’s previous relationships and compare themselves to those women, which must not be that great of a feeling. In terms of our culture, it does seem what you are saying is propagated a lot in the media. However it’s hard to separate what women actually feel vs what the media represents and what women who blindly follow the media value based on what they are told to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 05:35 AM
2	For those in successful, happy relationships, what advice do you have for the PPD community? A few pieces of advice from someone who’s been with their husband 13 years (married 4) has 2 kids with 1 on the way: Save yourself for the right person - preferably till marriage. It’s a lot better not having baggage or anything to compare your spouse to. Studies show it decreases the chances of cheating and divorce too. Don’t give up on a good relationship. We have had some bad fights but made it so far by not throwing the towel. Don’t watch porn (mostly aimed towards men, but for women as well…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 04:11 AM
2	The lock and key analogy is irrational, because it entails a premise that isn't agreed upon to begin with But is it really much different than telling a girl that no guy will ever want to be with her or marry her, etc.? It hurts both genders to say that they aren’t desirable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 04:04 AM
7	The lock and key analogy is irrational, because it entails a premise that isn't agreed upon to begin with I just replied to him, but honestly that is not true. Women who are pure themselves also usually want a guy who is a virgin himself. Honestly, it’s probably the more experienced women who want men that are experienced too. I’m glad my husband was a virgin too. Would have been really hurtful and not as special if he wasn’t. Women use insults to try to hurt a man and attacking a male’s sexual desirability is a low blow.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 03:52 AM
5	The lock and key analogy is irrational, because it entails a premise that isn't agreed upon to begin with Yeah, I hate the premise that women don’t care about their husband/boyfriend’s purity. I for one do. My husband and I were both virgins before we started dating and if he had not been, it honestly would have been pretty hurtful and not as special even to this day. I’ve seen this echoed by other women, particularly women that are virgins.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 03:48 AM
3	Why is porn hated by so many women? Not true at all. Most women who are into felons are mentally unstable themselves. Not really the women guys should be after	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 12:24 AM
2	Why is porn hated by so many women? Get yourself a nice real girl to wife up	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 12:23 AM
3	Why is porn hated by so many women? I said “lots of women” not all. Majority of women are not into felons, murderers, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 09:36 PM
5	Why is porn hated by so many women? That’s why those men are single in the first place. Lots of women can tell when men are creeps and have no moral compass…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 09:02 PM
5	Why is porn hated by so many women? That stuff is bad too…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 08:58 PM
1	Why is porn hated by so many women? My husband and I used to watch porn before we became Christian and were married. We now have a rule where neither of us watches it for a few reasons: As a Christian, it’s a sin to watch porn. “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: but I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭27‬-‭28‬ ‭KJV‬‬ You shouldn’t be lusting after people who aren’t your spouse. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 08:38 PM
34	Is it true that most women in college are promiscuous? No, the majority are not promiscuous. I graduated from college 6 years ago and I knew a handful of women that hadn’t had sex at all (basically all my friends). There are women that are promiscuous in college but I wouldn’t say it’s the majority. I will tell you that your virginity is very valuable. My husband and I have only had sex with each other (we lost our virginity to each other) and it’s the best thing ever. We were together since high school so almost 13 years and married for 4. We have …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/22 09:29 PM
2	CMV: Regardless of the type of relationship you 100%, always, every single time need to tell someone when you are sleeping with other people point blank period Rape is actually punishable by death in the Old Testament (Deuteronomy 22:25-27). The term used in verse 25 is “the man force her.” I don’t see anywhere that the man is forcing her in the passage you mention. A lot of things in the Old Testament were customs of the time such as shaving your head as a sign of mourning. I said that God literally sent a flood to kill most of human kind during the time of Noah. The world was so wicked that it was necessary. In the book of Job, God allows Satan to ki…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/22 05:09 AM
2	CMV: Regardless of the type of relationship you 100%, always, every single time need to tell someone when you are sleeping with other people point blank period Rape is not condoned in the Bible at all. If by genocide you mean the removal of really bad people through various means (ie. God even used a flood to wipe out most of the people on Earth except Noah and his family because everything was so bad), then I guess so. Jesus didn’t encourage people to leave their families, just to follow him above all other people. There’s multiple verses in the Bible about not leaving your family or spouse. “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/22 08:33 PM
2	CMV: Regardless of the type of relationship you 100%, always, every single time need to tell someone when you are sleeping with other people point blank period There’s nothing new under the sun. People have always been bad and will always be bad, it’s just more apparent in certain eras than other. Also, worth noting that just because it’s in the Bible doesn’t mean God or Christians condone it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 07:46 PM
2	At what age have you personally felt most sexually desirable to the opposite sex? Could have written this myself. I think I “hit the wall” when I started having kids. Weight gain and pregnancy/breastfeeding can do a number on you and obviously people stop looking at you a certain way when you’re a mom - which I don’t care because I’m happily married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 04:26 PM
1	Shallowness, and the value/disgust of the promiscuous women . The first four things you mention discount me entirely. Dad left my family when I was a child and is a druggie, I am estranged from him. My mom and I have a strained relationship due to some of her choices and idk if people would consider her “respectable.” I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and he’s the only guy I’ve ever had sex with and we are happily married with kids. It’s pretty messed up to judge someone’s sexual history based on something they can’t control (ie. their family history)…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 04:20 PM
1	Shallowness, and the value/disgust of the promiscuous women . Btw I don’t think either of us “settled.” We have a great marriage and have built a great life together- that means he is my ideal overall. I had a roommate in college (I was with my husband since high school) straight up tell me she would never marry the first guy she dated because “what if there was someone else better out there.” I always thought that was a bizarre and shallow way to look at people as if they were cars you could trade in for a better model.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 04:11 PM
1	Shallowness, and the value/disgust of the promiscuous women . Can attest to this. Been with my husband for almost 13 years (married for 4). Before we dated, I preferred a guy over 6 ft, he’s not. He preferred a girl that was on the skinny side and shorter - I’m not (though I was normal weight and just above average height). I also preferred a guy with colored eyes. None of these were clearly dealbreakers for us lol When I was postpartum with our second baby, I was really insecure about how I looked. I had my babies close together and it was difficult losin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 04:03 PM