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| 162 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship? | Conversation | 4025808 | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 10:06 AM |
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| 74 | How is it that I got most of my best girls while unemployed?Because you got more time for the job hunt and they see you as more chill and free, so more time to fuck | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 12:40 PM |
| 8 | Settling downOnce you've had seen enough you'll see through their bullshit, and your tolerance for bullshit goes lower. It's gonna get you jaded faster but you still gotta keep searching for that rough diamond in the mines. Keep at it man | /r/seduction | 02/03/25 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Is this why men are giving up on their life and resorting to hookers or even worse taking their own lives?Seattle freeze man, get out of here and move to Vegas or NYC if you want lots of hookups. Wouldn't recommend relationships there though due to its transient nature. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 12:15 PM |
| 22 | I was in 7 year long relationship and learned being single is underratedBest and motivating response on this thread. Would vouch as a reminder to never get complacent in the relationship / marriage. | /r/seduction | 21/11/24 01:09 PM |
| 3 | Had an Amazing Night, Then Got Completely Ghosted Why Does This Happen?Various reasons: Could be they wanted a one night fling, and then life goes back to normal. Maybe they even have bf and they were fighting, but then decided to resolve the relationship instead. Could have changed their mind, or found someone better. That's why try and escalate as much during that same day, if one night stand sex is what you're looking for. If you want a relationship, well.... that's a whole different story all together. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 12:21 PM |
| 15 | I Challenged Myself to Approach 1 Girl Every Day for 30 Days—Here’s What I LearnedPoint 4 - you're being resilient which is great. Also unrelated but if you approach multiple people on Friday night plus weekends it can help increase your reps so you can find more mistakes and learn from them. | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:39 AM |
| 9 | How are you able to tell at clubs/bars if girl DTF during a convo or looking to go home with someone BEFORE you open?If the same girl specifically knocks onto you many times, or gets their arse near you multiple times, or sees their eyes and goes straight into you, you know you've got it. | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 10:30 AM |
| 19 | How are you able to tell at clubs/bars if girl DTF during a convo or looking to go home with someone BEFORE you open?Some of my experiences included: - stares at you and waves at you - bumps into you at the club (obvious one) - complies with you to go on the dance floor - able to make out with you - if she initiates it then definitely, otherwise if she complies with you making the first move then ok - she herself says the place is boring, and to go somewhere else | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 02:45 AM |
| 1 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Long term relationship | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 04:02 AM |
| 0 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Speaking on behalf of my friends, they were. And yes I was too. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 06:54 AM |
| 1 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?You don't but marriages and defacto relationships are the best way to ensure that the children have the best childhood growing up, obviously provided that the parents are in a healthy relationship together | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 12:34 AM |
| 8 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Good luck man, hopefully one of them blossoms to a relationship which is ideally what you'd like to have. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 03:58 PM |
| 3 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?I can see your point, however for some it will get to a stage where you'd eventually want to settle down and start a family, passing off your legacy to the next generation is something they would want to consider. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 03:49 PM |
| 12 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Could be the answer here. Used to happen to me often until I had my first LTR. I (think) I have a case of mild asperger/autism so women would suss that out and reject me afterwards. I could really pique their interest at first so hence I could date a lot, keep them entertained but get rejected quite a lot for no particular reason. In some of the case of my friends, they probably have some social skills they're lacking. Will suss out too. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 03:31 PM |
| 2 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?"I feel like there are many resources for guys who can't get laid, but less so for guys who can't keep a girl for the rest of their lives." This is actually true. It was considered the default thing in the past, but I think with the state of dating in this day and age, this should be factored more into consideration - how to keep a girl around after getting laid given the disposability of men and women through dating apps and all. Took me two years to find my first proper LTR when I had started … | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 03:13 PM |
| 9 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?To pass on your legacy to the next generation. Also long term companionship if with the right person, is way better than anything else. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 02:29 PM |
| 3 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?My experience is that the of the girls who asked me to be exclusive, I've had decent sex with (not fabulous or anything) them with varying degrees of dates, some at first date, some 2 months later. They eventually get clingy with me for my other traits (travelled a lot, knows a lot about host country + other countries, can relate easily to the people) and then ask me to be exclusive. Now I'm in a LTR, so I guess this is moot for me but I want to share my experiences so it might help people solve… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 02:00 PM |
| 22 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Hm, I also noticed a lot of guys who get married or long term relationships are usually not the confident types, looks wise may vary, but I do know that they don't seem to talk to women a lot (or seem to be good at it). They may have found their significant other during high school, college or at work. My personal experience is that at work, some girls who are in LTR's seem to be ok with their boyfriends, but they give me a glance as well and seem a bit happier to see me. Maybe give the occasion… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 01:53 PM |
| 3 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?If you have that mindset it can potentially lead to poor relationship outcomes - because lust comes before long term potential. Being good at sex is not a good indicator as to whether the relationship will work out in the long run. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 01:34 PM |
| 8 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Online dating apps give more quantity but it's not the right quality for your type. So could be a pointer. Definitely agreed on the point where bars/dance floors aren't good for LTRs. So that's an obvious no-go. Having said that, I did meet my LTR through bumble, and she asked me to be exclusive, which I had accepted due to lack of relationship experience at the time. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 01:25 PM |
| 10 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Happened to me a couple of times before during the dating phase. Genuinely felt hurt because I liked the girl but she didn't want to pursue me further (maybe I was too good looking for her). Could be I vibed with her but she didn't feel the same way, not sure personally. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 01:23 PM |
| 2 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Yup, that's for behaviour that is obvious, and it's usually the fault of the guy. What if in theory everything goes ok, guy doesn't say anything bad, and the woman rejects? | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 01:20 PM |
| 5 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Ah, so you've got relationship qualities since you've been in one for two decades. How about those guys who've never been in a relationship but they've fucked a lot before. Any advice for those kinda guys? | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 01:09 PM |
| 2 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Ah, good answer. It's a relevant answer for the guy who ends the relationship. But what about the case where a guy (who is able to get sex easily, but wants a relationship instead of hookups) gets rejected by a girl? | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 12:55 PM |
| 4 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?It's definitely a narrower category as opposed to just hooking up, but I'm not sure if it should take that long if you've been going out and all. Or is it just that other people are equally as fucking around as each other? Not sure yet | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 12:54 PM |
| 27 | What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship?Just out of curiosity do you know why he's like that? Could it be because he seeks a lot of pleasure or something else? Lack of ability to compromise? Or? Just trying to see another perspective so I can hopefully solve a problem that a few of my friends are suffering from. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 10:33 AM |
| 1 | I finally got laid, thanks for all the advice!Seeing your post history, looks like you've done well. Hopefully you'll get a second date and not ghost. But if she does agree, use the lessons from earlier (regarding sex) and apply to this one. | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Do not ditch OLD. It’s better than Cold approach.From my experience, OLD is better. You're there for a reason - it's much easier to hold hands, initiate sexual interest because you're there either to hookup or relationship or at least romantic vibes. So don't dismiss it. I'd still say use it as an extra thing on the side of dating. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 03:29 AM |
| 1 | Men 30+ y.o. successful at game, do you get girls in their 20s?Am 28M, slowly reaching 29M next month. Hooked up with 2 girls in their early 20's. Both from bumble. Heck, 30+ girls are even more DTF. | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Gym and fitness really take things up to next levelMost importantly, watch what you eat. Ensure calories in < calories out if you're trying to lose body fat. Otherwise your gym progress will go to waste if your goal is to look for a woman. Most women look for generally good physique, not just the fact that you go to the gym. It's a sign that we take care of ourselves. But yes, groom well and make sure you have a hair cut every 3-4 weeks etc. | /r/seduction | 08/10/21 03:44 AM |
| 10 | (To All My Struggling Guys) Stop Overthinking it. This is Game in a Nutshell.Basically this. You still need to put yourself out there and make some effort to pursue, because those who know they are high quality usually do not need to make an effort to pursue other men. It's happening to me right now, had to friendzone this girl to give her the hint I didn't like her sexually / romantically. | /r/seduction | 12/09/21 04:19 AM |
| 1 | If you can't change it...1 arm pushup is impressive. Could I ask how did you do it? | /r/seduction | 02/09/21 09:25 AM |
| 1 | If you can't change it...I'm not tall (5'7') but I'm making up for it by losing body fat, going to the gym and watching calories (cutting phase right now). Girls will notice this and as long as you've got a decent looking face, they'll start getting attracted to you | /r/seduction | 02/09/21 09:05 AM |
| 3 | Made an approach and went horribly wrong lolStill worth it - every time you don't try is a missed opportunity. Just keep attending more events, ofc making sure you've dressed right and are generally fit. | /r/seduction | 24/07/21 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Update ( date with girl from gym)I love these updates. Keep it going and keep us all posted. This is the sort of encouragement we need. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 01:29 AM |
| 8 | Update (gym)Good luck with the date, feel free to keep us updated on your progress. It's great that you took the initial stride. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 03:37 AM |
| 9 | i got a girls number in the most random way imagineableF | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Major regret...Time to gym brah and lose the body fat. Helps a lot with confidence. Then hit the Meetup app and hang out with different people. Works wonders. Lucky where you at you don't have lockdowns (pity Australia right now). | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 11:50 AM |
| 4 | Major regret...Yeah even in high school I remember 10 girls were interested me. But you know if you're in the simping mode for that one girl who probably doesn't like you, then that's a bad thing. Keep all your options yo, and don't chase after one girl. Look around your others who are crushing on you. | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 11:37 AM |
| 1 | I think tonight I will ask out the girl I like from work.Good luck brother. Let us know how it goes. If the signs are there, pray that it's actually there. | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 05:34 AM |
| 1 | I approached 14 girls and got rejected 6 timesAnd then you know right away on the spot to move on | /r/seduction | 27/06/21 02:21 PM |
| 1 | I approached 14 girls and got rejected 6 timesand you catch em out that way :P | /r/seduction | 27/06/21 12:23 PM |
| 6 | I approached 14 girls and got rejected 6 timesMine is roughly 20% acceptance rate. 80% rejection. You just gotta keep pushing forward until you have enough numbers so it's easier to ask out for dates, etc. Make sure the numbers are legit though - try calling them on the spot to see if they receive something. Speaking of which, I'll need to get back to doing that when the lockdown is over (I'm Australia based btw). | /r/seduction | 27/06/21 12:14 AM |
| 32 | Not fapping just helped my finger pull the triggerThis is the reason why I stopped watching porn. Best ever decision and I don't regret anything. It's been 4 months clean :D | /r/seduction | 26/06/21 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Do you use dating apps? If so, how do you not allow them to crush your self esteem and drive you insane?I used to use them since 2015. Matches, meeting people through tinder/tantan/bumble etc was great before 2017 when it got monetised. Now matches over here are virtually none. I uninstalled them a year ago and started going out. Life has been better as I've been able to see people through meetups and other activities (although with COVID it's a little hard, but better where I'm at in Australia). | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 12:31 PM |
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