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40_year_old_playa/r/seduction30/03/13 06:54 AM
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10

She just wants the D. No relationship will come of it, don't catch feelings. Don't try to act cool or suave or sophisticated; if that's what she was after she wouldn't be robbing the cradle. Just don't say anything dumb, follow her lead, and tell her how attractive she is (but don't say "at your age" lol) because that's all she wants to hear. Your childish opinions on art or politics or music or movies or anything else are irrelevant to someone with her life experience. She wants to feel like an…
/r/seduction11/06/21 03:34 AM
1

Ask?
/r/seduction06/03/17 11:02 AM
12

Last time I hooked up with an 18yo I was 32 , and a 20yo at 43. They just want the D, don't overthink it.
/r/seduction06/03/17 11:02 AM
7

Generally you want to have an excuse like watching a movie you mentioned before, cracking a particular bottle of wine you mentioned before, showing her your fish that you mentioned before, asking her opinion on the painting or tchotchke you mentioned before, or just asking if she wants to stay over.
/r/seduction06/03/17 11:00 AM
1

We mean the same thing :)
/r/seduction08/02/17 04:18 PM
2

Isn't "Netflix and chill" code for "sleep over"?
/r/seduction06/02/17 02:10 PM
7

I believe him because I've had the same story. She was a Japanese-American flying back from meeting her strict father who was trying to get her to move to Japan and marry, so she was drinking her way through the flight feeling restricted by her domineering father and angry at his attempts to control her life. She needed to rebel against him, so I provided the means. It was a half-empty wide body, and we had plenty of room to ourselves. Full-on handjob in the air, then met up again for dinner at …
/r/seduction21/04/16 11:44 AM
2

Mainly the honky-tonks and bars, like Sue.
/r/seduction14/04/16 05:51 AM
2

Because the complainers need to outgrow it and become better people.
/r/seduction13/04/16 06:09 AM
34

This. This is why I stopped frequenting this community. The people with their heads on right being downvoted by the bitter and the jaded.
/r/seduction09/04/16 01:32 PM
4

No, he's right. You're pathetic. Well... this is a pathetic approach, at least. Making up fake stories is a retarded approach to attracting women. Or friends. Sounds to me like you don't have enough confidence in who you actually are. If you've never picked up on this, I bet the women are. Improve yourself.
/r/seduction21/12/15 05:22 PM
4

"I just made up some lies" FTFY This is stupid. BE someone women want.
/r/seduction21/12/15 05:16 PM
1

Bingo.
/r/seduction27/10/14 09:28 AM
11

What's with him scratching his arm the whole time? He looks super nervous.
/r/seduction25/10/14 12:07 PM
2

I almost always go solo. Wingmen are a crutch until you can make it on your own.
/r/seduction23/10/14 01:28 AM
1

Yeah outside of Tinder I have no idea percentages or stats. I'm an outgoing, friendly guy so pretty much talk to everyone, so get plenty of opportunities.
/r/seduction29/09/14 10:13 AM
1

80% meeting to banging ain't bad! I'm really curious to see how this compares to other guys' experience. My playing field is a bit different: I'm an early 40's professional, expat, polylingual, own a downtown apartment walking distance from the club/bar district, mainly dating cougar age: 25-35 for the most part, dipping down into 20-24 while I still can ;-) I suspect that's the age range of most guys here? Pulling women around own age (38-43) shouldn't even count, though: as long as the logisti…
/r/seduction28/09/14 01:02 PM
0

Eight times. Wow, huge sample size. OK, I just checked through my Tinder history to see how I'm doing: Sent 28 messages Received 22 replies Disqualified 4 after texting (boring, gold-digger, married, stupid) Suggested a meet-up 18 times Met 15 (2 didn't respond after suggestion, 1 said she had a boyfriend & was just looking [excuse, right?]) Disqualified 4 on meeting (stupid, chain smoker, fatter than picture, skinny/bony) Asked 11 to come home with me after the meetup Slept with 9 (6 on the fir…
/r/seduction27/09/14 02:44 PM
4

Driving home after drinking... Real alpha there.
/r/seduction27/09/14 04:12 AM
1

I have a wine cellar. I find out what variety she likes and start showing her pictures on my phone. She usually then asks to come over and see.
/r/seduction27/09/14 04:08 AM
8

Once a girl told me "I'm definitely not hooking up with you tonight," and I replied "not with an attitude like that, you won't! You need to try harder if you want to get a guy interested." And I pulled away. Damn if that didn't work some magic. By the end of the night she was all over me.
/r/seduction08/07/14 09:02 AM
1

Good to hear! It's been a good 6 months since I've bagged anyone under 25, so I was starting to worry. ;-)
/r/seduction05/02/14 02:53 PM
2

You can still get them in your 40's, dude.
/r/seduction05/02/14 09:31 AM
4

The 40s are the best decade for a man, I kid you not. It just gets better and better. By this age you have some money, a ton of world experience, know who you are, are physically at the top of your game (a little slower but far smoother), and still young enough to enjoy everything you've got. I never would have believed it when I was younger, but the 40s are where a man truly becomes a man.
/r/seduction11/11/13 12:48 AM
8

I have a wine refrigerator. Let's pick a bottle you like.
/r/seduction10/11/13 02:47 PM
-1

Duuude, sounds like my last Friday! Internet high five: \|||| You go in, notice someone who has potential and go for it. The "buy me a drink first" move goes so well. SNL, then got a second go about 2 hours ago.
/r/seduction14/08/13 04:47 PM
2

#2. Find yourself someone who jumps at the chance to be with you! #7. ... but if he has a history of relationships lasting from 6 months or more go for it girls. That one is definitely an available option. #8. ... Make sure you are number one priority for any guy you are with. All you need to remember are these 8 warning signs he's a womanizer and before you know it you'll land yourself a good hearted stud instead.
/r/seduction04/08/13 05:50 AM
23

No PUA should ever find himself matching any of the descriptions in that article. If that's how you're coming across, you've already lost the game. But this article is useful because it gives, along with the "warning signs", the "good signs" of the kind of guys you should hook up with. It's like a PUA roadmap for the kind of guy you need to be. It's seduction gold, Jerry!
/r/seduction03/08/13 04:02 PM
10

No, they're not. I don't pull any of that shit, and I've slept with four women this week including an SNL just last night. I know plenty of guys like the article described, and no, it doesn't work. That's why they're always out at the bar: they aren't able to build up a stable of women who are into them. Any women they manage to get, they got by throwing money around. No seduction involved.
/r/seduction03/08/13 04:00 PM
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Update: Bingo. The girl who I hadn't even k-closed yet but came over "to try my chicken cacciatore" sucked me dry with 5 minutes of finishing eating it. 28yo, if anyone's keeping score. ;-)
/r/seduction09/04/13 03:35 PM
1

None was taken. :-)
/r/seduction09/04/13 05:38 AM
5

That's the best part!
/r/seduction09/04/13 05:36 AM
4

It depends on who you're after, of course. But either way, being an interesting person with far-flung interests and knowledge is hugely attractive. It's an indicator of high value.
/r/seduction09/04/13 04:38 AM
10

Oh, absolutely! You have to read her well enough to know the difference. And BTW: who's to say I don't target 22-year-olds? The last time I brought one home, I think the line was just "I'm calling it a night. Wanna stay over?"
/r/seduction09/04/13 01:54 AM
13

As Seinfeld said, "coffee" never means coffee. It's just the excuse.
/r/seduction09/04/13 01:44 AM
52

Give her an excuse. Last night's date was talking about how she enjoyed studying French, so I brought up a particular romantic French movie I liked (and have at home) and suggested we watch it over a bottle of French wine (which I already have). Of course, she didn't care about the movie or the wine, but having a reason to go other than "let's fuck" gave her the safe "platonic" excuse to go, when of course what she really wanted to do was get in my pants. You need to just keep some supplies on h…
/r/seduction08/04/13 11:50 PM
2

Michael??? /jk
/r/seduction02/04/13 04:08 PM
1

Stay in shape! Younger women love a mature guy who knows how to take care of himself.
/r/seduction02/04/13 05:13 AM
1

In one of the other comments I mention some things she said at the second meetup about why she went with me. Basically, she didn't think I was serious about it, thought I looked trustworthy, and her friend told her I was cute.
/r/seduction31/03/13 01:56 AM
1

I was competing against other foreign guys, so I don't see how the location invalidates this at all.
/r/seduction31/03/13 01:54 AM
2

He's right though, that the correct TL;DR should be: ZOMG, apocalypse opener actually works!
/r/seduction31/03/13 01:41 AM
1

It's not as simple as that. Every other guy in there was a foreigner, but she didn't go home with them.
/r/seduction31/03/13 12:34 AM
2

I guessed she was older at first, found out her age on the second meetup after I posted.
/r/seduction31/03/13 12:31 AM
10

If you were standing there at the bar with that kind of attitude, I probably wouldn't have approached you at all. So no worries. Kniaz Andrei Bolkonski asks Poruchik Rzhevsky: "Tell me, Poruchik, how did you come to be so good with the ladies? What is your secret?" "It's quite simplement, mon Prince, quite simplement. I just come over and say: 'Madame, would you like to fuck?'" "But Poruchik, you'll get slapped in the face for that!" "Oui, some of them slap, but some of them fuck."
/r/seduction30/03/13 03:46 PM
2

I look decent, but as I mentioned in another comment, there were plenty of better-looking younger guys there.
/r/seduction30/03/13 03:30 PM
2

Fluent is rare. But they all know the word "sexy". I met her again tonight, and this girl doesn't speak English worth crap. If Japanese gave me any advantage at all, it was simply the ability to communicate.
/r/seduction30/03/13 03:26 PM
21

OK, so yeah, I look decent: 6'1", runner (i.e. low body fat), and wearing a suit after work. But there were plenty of guys there who were taller, more muscular, more handsome and--in particular--much younger. She's 29, I'm 42. I'm convinced it was the confidence, brashness and bravado that caught her interest.
/r/seduction30/03/13 03:20 PM
10

It's not the paradise of pussy that people make it out to be. There are plenty of lonely foreign guys over here, and women can pick and choose among them. The place I was in was filled with foreign guys, most of whom were going home by themselves as usual. So I was definitely competing on an even playing field. And even at a disadvantage: there were a lot of younger guys in there. The point to focus on is: why did she go home with me and not one of the younger, hotter guys?
/r/seduction30/03/13 03:14 PM
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Absolutely, you're right. The thing is, I haven't fully wrapped my head around this myself yet to be able to explain it. What compelled me to post it was the fact that I always thought the apocalypse opener was bullshit, but last night I got my dick wet within 20 minutes of trying it. I would love to hear your insight into what I was doing that worked so well. Any commentary you can give about what were some of the key points in the interaction would be great for helping other people interpret w…
/r/seduction30/03/13 02:54 PM
5

In trying to figure out how this worked, I think that was one of the keys. When she raised an objection, I accepted and embraced it without changing our goal. When she said "maybe" she should go back, I accepted her nervousness instead of trying to talk her out of it, and diverted to the park with wine, but still in the direction I wanted to go. We kept going towards my place even while she was nervous about going. Stopping at the supermarket was a great way to defuse tension. Shopping together?…
/r/seduction30/03/13 02:41 PM
4

I dunno. The kicker about this was how few words were spoken. I never got more than 5 yards inside the door and was in the room for probable less than 5 minutes before were on our way out. I doubt the language used mattered.
/r/seduction30/03/13 02:34 PM
14

She did enjoy it. :-) I just walked her to the station to catch her train home after night 2 at my place. Called her this afternoon, said "hey this is 40yoplaya from last night, why don't you come over around 7." Some interesting things she said: "I didn't think you were serious about going right home, but I wanted a chance to talk to you more." "I couldn't believe I was doing it, but you seemed nice, and I felt I could trust you." "When I went to tell my friend about you, she saw you and said y…
/r/seduction30/03/13 02:31 PM
1

I'm pretty sure you can't get anyone but a golddigger in that case.
/r/seduction30/03/13 09:10 AM
3

Mostly Japanese except for "Hi" and "you are so sexy," which I think sounds better in English even to people who don't speak much.
/r/seduction30/03/13 09:08 AM
1

When I'm accused of that, I just smile at them for a few moments and ignore it, moving the conversation along past it. and ignore it, moving the conversation along past it. They know you are, but it's actually a good thing: it shows other women are interested in you, and women are attracted to guys other women are attracted to.
/r/seduction30/03/13 07:59 AM
1

Being older is great, as long as you're not some fat schlub. I'm 40 and just last night picked up a girl who's probably late twenties or just barely thirty with an Apocalypse opener. There is no way that would have worked if I didn't keep myself in shape. Imagine someone my age with a gut and extra chin trying that. No way, no how.
/r/seduction30/03/13 07:56 AM
12

I've only used it before as a joke. This is the first time I've tried it seriously. I was shocked as hell that it worked. I still can't quite believe it.
/r/seduction30/03/13 07:39 AM
1

I can't do any better than recommending reading everything in the sidebar.
/r/seduction29/10/12 04:54 AM
1

If you played everything perfectly, why did she cheat? Something' not adding up, and I think like everybody else is saying, you need to be more introspective and understand yourself better.
/r/seduction29/10/12 12:39 AM
5

Let me give you another perspective. As someone who is handsome and nearly 6'2", I also get a twinge of inferiority when a guy 6'4" enters the room. Or at least, I used to, until I realized that it's only about attraction between she and I, not a contest between he and I. If she ends up leaving for some other guy, it's because I didn't hold her interest well enough. Work on inner game and make yourself the kind of person she's truly attracted to.
/r/seduction29/10/12 12:37 AM
1

Yes you are butt-hurt: you don't like the cards you were dealt, so you're not playing the game well. Forget the cards. Even in poker, it's about bluff as much as it is about the cards. People win with crap cards because they're psychologically stronger than the guy dealt the better hand. So what if she checks out another guy who walks in? If you're attracting her it won't matter. They're walking away because YOU didn't hold their interest, not because HE has a few inches on you. Work on your con…
/r/seduction28/10/12 11:43 PM
5

I read all your comments here and all I hear is "wah wah wah, I'm not attractive enough." Clearly you need to get over your inferiority complex first: stop thinking that they're more attractive than you, stop expecting them to leave. Instead, make them find you attractive, and make them want to stay. Are you sure they're attracted to height alone, and not simply to guys who are showing more confidence and status? Also, why do you ignore the other women in the group? That's no good; even the 10 i…
/r/seduction28/10/12 11:39 PM
2

On Friday I was asked (afterwards), "how long has it been since you had sex?" "Two days" was not the answer she wanted to hear. But she's coming over next Thursday anyway.
/r/seduction27/10/12 10:15 AM
17

The biggest problem is scheduling. It's hard to see more than three or four women on a regular basis while still having time for yourself outside, and seeing them often enough to keep them on the hook without feeling left alone. On the other hand, you have more flexibility in a way. I had a date with a new girl set for Friday but she ended up postponing. So I was able to call up one of my other friends, and she's coming over to my place "to watch a DVD." (We never make it all the way through the…
/r/seduction24/10/12 01:41 PM
2

Don't do the strict rotation thing, just keep them interested and see them often enough that you can spontaneously call one up when you're bored & have some time. If you have enough of them, you can usually get a hit after a few calls.
/r/seduction26/05/12 08:05 AM
0

I'm more like you, not so rigid about calendars & dates. What works for me is having enough girls on the hook that on a given day when I find I have free time I can call around until I find somebody free. This reminds me of when I was leaving the country and broke up with 5 girls on the same day. Two by phone, three in person.
/r/seduction26/05/12 08:04 AM
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Similar night: long-term FWB came over right after work, 6:30 sharp. Had two rounds before she went home right at 9:00. FWIW, she denies being married, but will never see me on a weekend or stay any later than 9:00, so I'm a little suspicious. Do not need angry husbands showing up in my face, not after what happened with that Russian girl a few years ago. So I hit up one of the nearby bars where I know the staff & regulars, and ran into an 8.5 I've chatted up a few times but is always with her s…
/r/seduction26/05/12 08:00 AM
-5

GAME is a pointless waste of time and the sooner you get over that fact, the better. The only thing you need to know about seduction is: Be the kind of man women want to fuck Approach them See #1
/r/seduction05/03/12 11:30 PM
1

OP is completely and utterly correct about that. Women need me more than I need them.
/r/seduction01/02/12 02:44 PM
0

Bro, you have literally no idea.
/r/seduction07/11/11 11:30 PM
1

You make it sound like I never approach. It's not that at all, just that in between my going after women, I get a lot of women going after me. I'm aways approaching, always closing.
/r/seduction07/11/11 03:56 AM
-2

This show is so much like my life. I go through women like water.
/r/seduction07/11/11 03:54 AM
9

Yes, they do that in California. If, you're a guy like that character.
/r/seduction07/11/11 03:53 AM
1

This is why I go running every day and wear tailored suits. I do just sit around and have chicks come up to me.
/r/seduction20/10/11 11:55 PM
1

The thing is, I mostly am very happy with myself. If I would change anything, it would be to be happy with what I have instead of always looking for the next thing.
/r/seduction20/06/11 03:07 PM
1

Thanks for the help. /s
/r/seduction20/06/11 03:05 PM
1

No. If anything I'm escalating. It's just too easy.
/r/seduction20/06/11 03:05 PM
11

Unfortunately, being a cold asshole is one of the best hooks.
/r/seduction19/06/11 03:35 PM
2

Absolutely. It's as if I have no other way to relate to women. I created this account to ask the same question as you, after reaching 40. My friends had started calling me "Barney". All of this PUA stuff teaches you how to play people, but in the end you only see them as playthings.
/r/seduction19/06/11 03:34 PM
-12

Came here to agree with OP, but you're just being a dick about it.
/r/seduction19/06/11 03:32 PM
2

Women are out there everywhere. Just have to look around. Activity groups are a great way to hook up.
/r/seduction09/06/11 09:53 AM
1

Not really. Trying to tone things down, but it's a lot of ingrained habits and my basic personality.
/r/seduction17/04/11 03:57 AM
4

Don't try to be this guy. I am this guy. It fucks up your life.
/r/seduction30/03/11 10:59 PM
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