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34

I’m so happy you made this post. I work in the entertainment industry and I always “joke” about how male photographers & videographers are inherently creepy. It’s always like performative sexualization
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 11:29 PM
154

Mainly not wanting to be intimate as much as the woman or seemingly having a “low” sex drive for a healthy man in their 20s/early 30s. The key here was they all made the woman feel like there was something wrong with her sex drive like it was too high or something. Along with the usual of not being able to stay hard or last long, the list the OP have essentially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 09:37 PM
189

I’ve accurately diagnosed SEVERAL of my friends boyfriends/dates with porn sickness and they always doubted me…but I was ALWAYS right lol Edit one of the keys was that the man always made the woman feel like something was wrong with her or her sex drive was too high when really, he didn’t want to be intimate a normal amount cuz of his porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 09:23 PM
20

Yup. Men use compliments as downpayment for sex or to manipulate us to do what he wants in general (platonic relationships included).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 02:47 AM
21

WOW this is a new one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 10:36 PM
2

Omg you can do that?? I really need to talk to a lawyer. Not married but I need something like this in place cuz their dad has already shown signs he’s out sl*tting it up and would subject our kids to random trashy women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 06:51 PM
3

Totally agreed, I respect that nobody is obligated to explain to me at the end of the day. It is exhausting and nobody owes me an explanation. Thank you for taking the time to respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:36 PM
2

Hmmm yes I can see where you’re coming from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:34 PM
3

Thank you for your thoughtful comment, I totally see what you’re saying. It makes sense especially taking into consideration the specific situations and the people who said it that I’m thinking of. And yeah the desensitization of most people to women’s issues in general
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:03 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to explain. I feel you completely, I did not word it the wisest. I also learned a few things about the FDS community from your comment. Yes I’ve read all the recommended reading and sidebars, etc. this isn’t that, it’s a cultural thing that does make sense in terms of the community itself. I don’t get how I would learn why what I’m saying is wrong if nobody chooses to explain (referring to why my original comment was wrong). I was attempting to ask for an FDS perspe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:00 PM
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I don’t see this as a “what about men” comment. I was asking what you ladies think about this idea that is pervasive in a lot of cultures in the USA especially. I’m not defending the idea itself. I’m really disappointed not many are engaging in intelligent discussion about this topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:47 PM
7

Thank you for your response, yes I see what you means and I agree. I was curious because in the USA this isn’t really agreed on in many communities of color.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:46 PM
19

Men have spent all of time trying to make it seem the other way around ...wow the lie is real ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:46 PM
14

Ugh thank you. The ladies here are obsessed with OLD and i never understood why? You just get to wade through an even bigger sea of LVM than you would in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:20 AM
25

This sub totally opened my eyes to that concept actually being a tool of the patriarchy so men can have access to sex. Many have been through it, you’ve seen the light now and can live better for you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:14 AM
13

This is my own personal opinion. There’s nothing “wrong” with your guys age gap. But, the specific ages of 23 vs 27 are at veryyyyy different stages in life. If you’re in a western society, best case scenario he really is thinking about having kids soon because he’s around 30 years old (which is when a lot of people these days have kids in the USA). Vs you at 23 which is still in explore mode (not meaning that in a sexual or dating way, just in life in general). Does that make sense? Worst case …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:06 AM
12

You have to be tactful if you care about maintaining the friendship. Sometimes people aren’t ready to hear or follow certain ideas, they might need time to get used to it or process.... I do a few things. I ask if they want my opinion or just to listen. I ask them questions like “do you feel like that’s enough effort for you?” or “do you feel like he’s matching your energy in X situation?” or “do you feel like he’s cheating” or whatever basically pointed questions that kind of get your point acr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:52 AM
16

Lol right why would you be jealous of their LVM? Like you cant easily get one if you did want to? Or do they feel that you actually couldn’t get one? Either way it goes, I don’t think they are real friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:46 AM
59

Gender based violence....also should be known as a hate crime. Fits the definition as far as I can tell? Someone correct me if I’m wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:37 AM
446

This is how serial killers’ girlfriends describe their boyfriend in their true crime documentary 30 years later. “Something was off when he could only come while I was playing dead...but I don’t know”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:20 AM
74

100%. Men do it all the time. We should be fine with it too esp to protect our safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:14 PM
29

Yep!!! I have lied and said I wasn’t just to not have the condom discussion. Thankfully even the lower value dudes I slept with wore condoms no problem, if they didn’t I wouldn’t have slept with them. But I didn’t wanna have any discussion about it and I felt that if they knew I was on BC a few might have tried to push it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:13 PM
117

And they wonder why we dont report
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:11 PM
34

Ugh how are you gonna have a MP and also not do anything extra???! That’s your only redeeming chance dude! I had one encounter, it wasn’t a true MP I don’t think, but it was MP size when soft but still regular sized when hard. I still couldn’t deal, it was just too weird. I’m not saying I’m right lol but I just couldn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:10 PM
40

Not surprising. Man children are very likely to work in entertainment. Source-I also work in entertainment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:08 PM
325

Ugh yep. Realizing they don’t want a conversation they just want to talk at me, was a hard pill to swallow. I kept trying to, you know, help? Provide insight? Otherwise why are you talking to me about it? But no, they just wanna dump (or “vent” as one put it to me smh) so they feel better. They don’t actually value our input.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:06 AM
40

Ugh I always hated this song and this helped me realize why. Side note I know people think he’s hot, but he looks like a creepy serial killer to me. It’s the eyes or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:21 PM
33

Ugh yeah realizing both my parents were LV sucked a lot. I also have no contact with either of them. I guess it’s not directly to do with dating, but I believe these things have a huge impact on individuals adult dating lives...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:48 PM
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Lmfao this is so funny to meeee! He tried it! You have leveled up and he can feel it lol keep traveling baby! I love Pita Hut, BUT a man better never try and take me on a date there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:37 PM
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I also saw the screenshot posted and thought it was a man posing as a woman lmfaoooo. I’m good on that shit!!!! It’s not a compliment! it means dude either doesn’t know what he’s doing/putting pussy on a pedestal too much while also not getting any....doesn’t have any form of physical self control....or watch too much porn. HARD pass lol puns. There’s a thing where men purposefully control their ejaculation for various reasons. It can be a good thing, from what I understand it increases sexual s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:24 AM
62

Omg I recently heard another similar story of a friend of my cousin, but he was secretly addicted to heroin! What the fuck this is a fear of mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:16 AM
22

Yep. Babying them only makes it worse. It becomes just another thing they feel entitled to. Learned that the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:42 AM
19

Learned this when I got into a serious long term relationship. Majority of my male friends were orbiters which I didn’t know until they stopped acting like friends after I got into this relationship. Like they would respond to me if I hit them up, but they stopped hitting me up first or doing any friendship behaviors. I was like wow y’all were just trying to get with me in some capacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:46 PM
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This. Most men don’t love women, they like the version in their head (based on their mom, media, porn, etc) which is never just human. This makes me so sad. Women deserve better. Edit to add, I also noticed most men don’t think women have anything important or smart to say, so they don’t actually enjoy conversation or are able to have one, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:17 PM
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Ugh yeah sadly YouTube people are rarely ever experts on the stuff they talk about, cuz literally anyone can make a YouTube video. It’s more their personality that people like and that makes them credible to people, even if what they are saying isn’t right. I hope this doesn’t come off as hating, but i mean it more from a human psychology perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:11 AM
7

Right, I meant “someone” can regret. My bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:41 AM
6

Honestly in 2021, 90% or more of jobs just don’t care, even in corporate. Usually people saying that are out of touch. You constantly being shamed for it says a whole lot about the people you are around and it’s sad. Exceptions would be - very high end lawyer or doctor, CEO or high position of a huge company where a lot of old white men already run things...any super formal position basically, and I mean SUPER formal. Like not just a lawyer but a lawyer for like the 1% . Other than that I promis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:05 AM
3

I have never cooked for a man regularity when we both are working. If he can’t cook then he needs to buy our meals and I’m only cooking when I genuinely feel like it, want to, etc. meal prep my own lunches etc. I could see it working if you cook and he does all cleanup and grocery shopping tho. I never do a mans laundry. I will if he has a few things that can be thrown in with mine, but he also does mine if the reverse is true but generally take care of your own personal belongings. I think we a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:57 PM
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They may not have a name for it, but as you said, the behaviors and “strategies” trickle down to the average man. It’s the media, it’s movies/music/entertainment, it’s porn, it’s all of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:48 PM
9

If you agree to be exclusive. Like if he literally says “let’s not see other people” or “I am not seeing other people anymore”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:45 PM
73

Heartbreaking. You can regret losing your virginity to him and also have been groomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:40 PM
18

Lol I was gonna comment on the TLDR.....the most useless TLDR in the history of reddit. Can I just say that corporations trying to use social media is so hilarious lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:46 PM
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OMFG THIS IS GOLD I can’t believe I haven’t thought of this It’s the end all for this argument Oops I stuck my finger up your butt, IT DOESNT MATTER THAT YOU WERE DRUNK! YOU SEEMED LIKE YOU WANTED IT! YOU DIDNT SAY NO! Or whatever the fuck excuses they use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:33 PM
8

Thank you! It’s not privilege to have more access to.... abuse, harm, etc. all for some maybe mediocre dick we don’t even want. One night stands aren’t safe for women and usually aren’t pleasurable. Matter of fact, they aren’t pleasurable for men either deep down but their psychological and sexual issues convince them that’s what they want in life smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:27 PM
24

“They slept in the same bed...Even tho nothing happened...” GIRL WAKE UP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:27 AM
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Uhhh so the first pic....do you not see an inherent inequality there? Women want power because we don’t have it. I don’t see how that’s the same as wanting sex and “not being able to get it.” Also most men who complain about not getting sex as “easy” as they would like, either have major confidence issues or are approaching women wrong or just plain overvalue sex. That’s not the same as wanting power-control over our lives, agency, advancing career, safety, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:07 AM
16

I don’t have a doula unfortunately but I am using a midwife instead of a traditional doctor. I feel that she’s more in tune than regular doctors, compared to what I’ve heard about them from friends and on the internet. She has talked to me about some stuff you’ve mentioned in your post so that’s something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:02 AM
35

Yeah a great way to check what he’s been creeping (meaning, looking without necessarily interacting) on is by checking his explore page!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:29 PM
38

Oh god this hit too close to home, I’m 4 months right now. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:48 PM
245

Great post. Also, does he follow a lot of Instagram/social media “models” or “dancers” (strippers, only fans, twerk vids) which is soft porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:48 PM
81

Yup! If anything they need to wait longer cuz they are used to having access. Also MGK...I coulda guessed he was LV before seeing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:54 PM
0

Clearly 😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:17 PM
1

You just won’t stop with the over simplification lol life might be that easy and black and white for you, but it’s not for everyone. Like if your kids are starving and you have no other way to feed them, and you steal, is it “wrong”? Read a philosophy or ethics book for godssake lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:34 AM
11

Thanks for sharing these examples!! We need more of this on here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:27 AM
7

Lol wow you just like to make generalizations huh lol I didn’t even argue at all 😹 I’m just aware in the real world, “stealing is wrong” is a huge simplification. It’s a little deeper for a lotta people and situations than high value and low value. I’m not saying stealing should be considered a high value behavior tho if that’s what you’re implying lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:04 PM
3

Well that’s an extremely simplistic way to look at it lol but I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:02 PM
90

I know it was meant as an insult but “How to enjoy the permanent company of your cat, flat.....but never be a placemat!” sounds......correct. The whole “take it or leave it when leave it sounds attractive” like....is the author trying to say that’s why FDS is wrong? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:04 PM
6

Agreed. Cheating is a psychological thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:54 PM
15

Smh so sad. It’s because those are commonly stolen items. But like, for a major Corp store, the loss is really minimal and if someone is stealing contraception, I think it’s likely better they ultimately don’t get pregnant, so...let it go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:52 PM
1

Lol you are missing my point still. It’s all good tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:50 PM
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So you’re basically saying OPs question is moot? Like that situation would never occur so why worry? P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:43 AM
1

So how do you vet for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:42 AM
1

Yes, so how do you vet for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:41 AM
3

Yes but the examples you gave do not explain how to vet for this type of man. The original question is that, he’s a seemingly HV man in every way with no other red flags, how can you specifically vet for this issue?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:34 PM
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I feel like the posts you gave won’t vet for a HVM seeing you as a consolation prize and leaving you for his 10 if she becomes attainable to him in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:39 PM
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It’s not so black and white...yes they may genuinely care for you, they may even love you, but if you are the consolation prize you could be left for what they consider a 10. It’s not that they don’t make effort as time goes on. Of course they make effort and continue to-they want to keep you. They aren’t gonna mess it up and like I said, they most likely do genuinely care for you. Until they don’t. You are their best option-for now. Even HVM in every way could deep down have this instinct/feeli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:34 PM
40

Facts. I’ve had sooooo many short guys try to get with me. So many.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:13 PM
19

She said “some of my 1400”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:02 PM
13

This is a great way to put working through emotional issues. Your brain wants to protect you so you figure out how to never let it happen again, therefore calming your anxiety or the replays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:55 AM
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This is a great example of a high value action. Doesn’t mean he’s a high value man. I dislike the term green flag cuz it implies an equivalent positive counter to a red flag. But green and red flags are not the same. A LV man may do some HV actions what would be “green flags.” It doesn’t make him a high value man. A LV man will use “green flags” as manipulation. It’s not the same in the reverse-a seemingly HV man does something that’s a red flag and so has shown himself to be LV. The term “green…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:27 PM
3

Great point. Communication is pointless when it’s one sided or about BASIC ASS SHIT. But there is a time and place for real communication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:17 PM
22

God the “you too bro” just killed me. What an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:13 PM
9

What my brain HURTS I can’t with these reverse psychology gas lighting bullshits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:17 PM
20

Wow you articulated something key for me. I had this experience with a man and I was so bewildered why whatever I asked for prompted him to say something so dramatic/absurd in response (I can’t remember what the exact issue was) but it all makes sense now. It’s sad how many “minor” abuse tactics they use to subtly control us. Also your comment made me realize that my mom uses those same tactics and I’m even more disturbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:00 AM
15

Lmfaoooo or they make a fake first move....I liked a guys pic once and he DMs me just a question mark. I bit for laughs and said “what”. He replied, “nothing it just seemed like you were trying to get my attention” lmfaooo laughed for days at that one and also unfollowed of course 😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:54 AM
21

This is the most accurate answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:48 AM
42

Yes. Similarity, when calling men out on something. they like to deflect because the way we expressed it didn’t meet their obscure expectations of exactly how to communicate with them in order for them to actually do something we want. Like, you were “too emotional” or “too mean” or you didn’t choose the EXACT right time to discuss this with them. Or at least that’s been my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:44 AM
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I’m happy to see it too!! I know FDS is a stepping stone on the way, it at least acknowledges the fake empowerment movement. It just goes waaaayyyyy deeper than that. DM me any time to chat about it if you want lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:15 AM
17

ugh a man who has a stay at home wife, meaning at some point he agreed to the arrangement, only to resent her later for “not doing anything”......only to have his life fall apart when she stops doing those things 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:35 PM
7

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:51 PM
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Sometimes it does. They may not be aware of it fully, but some do feel those feelings of guilt and it usually manifests in anger, usually taken out on their woman (surprise surprise). This is purely anecdotal based on what I’ve seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:50 PM
351

No further mention of the child he’s been a father figure to for 8 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:57 PM
9

Girl DONT get me started!!! Lol I have so much to say about this topic. Everything you said is 100% true. People are waking up a bit now I think? But yeah most people don’t even care even if you tell them this stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:43 PM
9

Oh, over 90% of producers at record labels, both huge companies and small independent labels, have dicks. There is a huge lack of women producers. It’s something I try to work on as much as I can. Then there’s the producer/executive. The worst kind. Looking at you Jermaine Dupri 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:23 PM
2

Great point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:19 PM
18

Omg preachhhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:18 PM
12

EXACTLY!!!!! I work in the industry and have researched a lot of it’s sorta hidden history out of personal interest. A lot of secrets are coming out now tho. This is anecdotal but the past few years I saw several women rappers from my city get signed to major labels per rwar. They are literally without exception hyper sexual look and hyper sexual lyrics, to start with. That’s how they got label eyes on them in the first place. Examples from this year Erica Banks and Yella Yella (both Texas rappe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:13 PM
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Agreed! To your point about whether or not they are pressured into having this image or making this type of music....the answer is known. Yes they are. This is well documented. People assume that huge music artist have a lot more agency than they do. That goes for men and women, but let’s be real women have the shorter end of the stick. These artists entire public image is crafted by the label. Every public appearance they make, every outfit they wear, every song they put out. So no, once you si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:52 PM
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There’s another factor to this- Cardi and Megan are signed to major record labels and their entire gimmick is catering to the male gaze under the pretense of empowerment. This is the fallacy of thinking that because I’m “choosing” (Spoiler they are not choosing) to be naked that I’m somehow not being exploited. I agree that women should be and do whatever we want without having to worry about respectability politics, especially black women in the US. But let’s not pretend like these women are em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:22 AM
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Lol a man told me once that a woman NOT forgiving a cheating man is weak....explain that one 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:28 PM
24

This whole game is childish...yes it can be fun but it’s more like for a drinking night with friends or something. If a guy did this on the first few dates that would be a turnoff alone, without even the mind games aspect. They need to grow up 😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:11 PM
2

What the actual fuck did I just read??! I’m logging off for the day 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:15 PM
2

Early commitment is actually a red flag so I see no positives here. Drop him.
/r/askFDS10/03/21 12:09 PM
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I’m happy I didn’t get screamed at or abused, but when I got into a serious relationship, a lot of my male “friends” who I thought were genuine friends, basically stopped doing any friendship behaviors. Like if I hit them up they would respond but they never hit me up first anymore or acted like a friend in any other way lol. I didn’t even realize they were orbiters until then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:43 AM
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Yes this is a red flag, esp if a lot of his past relationships were with much younger women. Go!!!
/r/askFDS10/03/21 10:46 AM
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This is something men complain about?! I’ve heard it all...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:59 AM
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Wisdom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:55 AM
7

Thank you for confirming lol it’s definitely acceptable in some pockets and has been for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:46 PM
2

That’s why I said “in some cultures” ..................lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:46 PM
16

A HVM will fuck on the first encounter too, if you let him. Sadly you just have to work on your own self control and wait a bit longer while you really vet him.
/r/askFDS08/03/21 07:11 AM
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It’s always been a part of some cultures esp in the USA. Atlanta and the south in general for example, going to the strip club in certain circles is very normalized and has been since the 90s at least. I’m not saying I personally think it’s ok, but it hasn’t been as stigmatized as you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:06 AM
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If anything you need to vet celebrities harder because they are spoiled and used to getting women, varying levels of narcissism, etc. speaking from experience. celebrity or rich doesn’t mean HV. It’s a sad fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:43 PM
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I’m pretty sure Taylor Swift is a known pick me lol I don’t listen to her music but she gets a lot of shit even in mainstream media for her relationships. That being said celebrities totally deal with the same crap as regular women. Just because you are rich, famous, and/or talented doesn’t automatically make you a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:40 PM
1

Thank you for the support. I was thinking about doing this.
/r/askFDS05/03/21 05:57 PM
1

Thanks for the recommendation I’m getting it off lib gen later today
/r/askFDS05/03/21 05:57 PM
1

It’s crazy because things seem normal 99% of the time, but something will trigger a situation and it’s really bad. It has progressively gotten worse which is why I’m here now. Thanks for the advice. I’m working on the money aspect. I guess it’s not that I want to “win” a court battle, it’s just that I know things will get bad.
/r/askFDS05/03/21 05:56 PM
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That comment was awful everything. What an ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:22 PM
44

I have heard some hopeful stories of ladies on here with HV sons. But yeah it’s not easy I don’t think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:31 PM
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The pain in her voice is heartbreaking to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:18 PM
63

I pray every day the baby in my stomach is a girl 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:37 PM
10

This is easy. Block and delete and don’t look back.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 01:04 PM
4

Ugh. We are “desperate” to get married but if we don’t get married there something wrong with us. I’m so tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:52 PM
7

Good on you!! How does she take all this info? Asking cuz I’m currently raising a daughter as well, she’s only 1. But I’m trying to prepare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:38 PM
12

This is why FDS preaches against OLD. I would love to hear some high value man success stories from OLD cuz I have literally never heard a single one to support the idea of finding a HVM online???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:32 PM
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This is something I’ve noticed as well. They don’t care about the quality of their sexual partners only the total amount of them. L/NVM that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:17 PM
9

Awww I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:01 PM
14

I support this 100000%. How much are the boards and what size?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:07 PM
25

lol facts! if a man throws any type of emotional fit about going to the strip club....RED FLAG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:05 PM
6

Great songs! I can’t stomach Alicia since the whole swizz beats thing but it’s an amazing song
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:04 PM
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It’s a not all men situation, and on top of that he’s playing the victim when he’s the one in a position of power. He’s making it all about him. This is exactly what FDS preaches against.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:36 AM
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Wow best reply I’ve seen for this one!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:56 PM
44

To your question, can a LVM change to a HVM with the right woman? Do I think it’s impossible? No. Do I think it’s likely? Hell no. LVM generally do not change. It can happen but it’s very unlikely. Even if he did have a genuine change, he will never have love and respect for you on the level you deserve because of your history together. He would most likely devolve back to LV if you got back together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:11 AM
10

I literally started crying when you said “I’ve lost so much of my spirit to men” it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately and all the things I put myself through and how it affected my personality and life in general. I just think about that I feel like they took my spark. It’s really hard to cope with, or at least I’m having a difficult time right now. Thank you so much for sharing your story!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:33 PM
1

Adventure time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:15 PM
28

Thank you for this!!! I always see women (in this very sub, of all places) romanticizing family life and being a mom, and even at its absolute best, it’s no walk in the park.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:37 PM
4

Thank you for you kind words!! Seriously I needed that right this second, I appreciate you! Your mom did a great job then. I’m taking notes for my own kids lol you never know what path life will bring you but it’s nice to know there is still hope if you work hard. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:17 AM
9

This is amazing! Im so happy you were able to experience that. How do you think they learned to be HV?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:04 AM
9

I don’t have a good answer because I struggle with the same questions. It applies to like anything we teach them too. They act helpless a lot to put that burden on us, even if they are “learning.” I do think that a very few men are genuine, but at the same time may end up resenting you after you teach them or whatever. At the end of the day, it isn’t our job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:01 AM
7

Exactlyyyyyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:13 PM
7

Great points. I also had the thought when she said “everyone in the village accepts me as one of their own” and I was thinking, “hmmmmmm doubt it” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:15 PM
3

Pick me slave, haven’t heard that one yet 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:12 PM
68

Men see spending money on something as assigning that something value. If they don’t spend money on you they don’t value you. Also this is how THEY think, but they get mad at “gold diggers”.....ok....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:29 PM
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Oh. My. God. It’s bad enough w the “Dom/sub” nonsense but then he has never made her cum, never even tried one time, and never talked about. What’s she getting out of the dom/sub thing then? Side note it’s not hard to make women cum, this is a combo myth of the patriarchy and keeping women out of tune with their sexuality, as a culture (I can only speak to western cultures tho). So men don’t have to try or can feel better about themselves, and also control women easier. Edit for spelling I was t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:14 PM
113

This is sooo validating thank you!!! My mom got full custody of me (Dad walked out) not sure how cuz I was so small. What I do remember was a years long legal battle after that in family court over child support and other issues, where the FEMALE judge continuously took my dads side and ultimately said he didn’t owe my mom a lot of money that should have been paid to her. Now I was a kid so I don’t know the details but I do know the story overall did not add up with the rhetoric we always hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:56 PM
97

Lol nah I’m out ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:51 PM
28

Yes! IRAs and index funds for mid to long term wealth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:21 PM
7

Thankfully same! but I totally agree with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:12 AM
19

Omg I was traumatized from that one too, it crosses my mind like once a day 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:57 AM
17

Wow good idea as a work around lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:55 AM
15

Definitely a USA thing so nasty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:55 AM
34

Men don’t develop empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:45 AM
42

They see compliments as a down payment for sex. They think women are universally flattered by this (I mean, pick mes don’t help). After I realized this, I saw how much guys were gassing me just to get in my pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:44 AM
59

Omfg you hit the nail on the head. Every woman I know has been abused in some way and yet continue to be fucking badass and also not abuse other people cuz of their issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:38 AM
40

Ugh yes even HVM. You can literally never let your guard down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:35 AM
12

Honestly you can’t escape it. I can’t count how many times I was looking busted and still got creeped on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:21 AM
17

The inherent easy nature and low bar of online dating will always attract LVM in my opinion. HVM usually don’t have time, whereas LVM do. It just doesn’t seem likely to be improved due to the inherent factors of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:09 PM
104

Our screams are for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:01 PM
44

Oh god I never realized the level of propaganda of the patriarchy, that’s so disturbing. I always knew these type of “compliments” to women felt weird to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:54 AM
28

Great thoughts and analysis. Numbers and logic to back up our intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:11 AM
9

I’m happy you brought up the porn thing. A young male relative of mine, his mom wouldn’t even let him get regular YouTube on his phone....but he is allowed to play Grand Theft Auto (if you don’t know...lots of soft porn) alone in his room whenever he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:27 AM
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I do see what you’re saying, but how do you know if a guy isn’t a porn watcher? Like do you just talk to them? What if they are lying? How can you tell? I don’t have a good answer myself. I think I just got lucky right now...he understands the reasons porn is bad intellectually and we share all electronics so if he’s watching without me knowing he’s being very meticulous about erasing a trail. He could totally be doing just that tho. You always have to be prepared to find out something that will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:44 PM
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Ugh yes this is true but I hate that even HVM have to be trained. We can’t just be natural we have to do extra shit in order to be treated right or continue to be treated right, even with a HVM. Obviously that’s an over simplification but the idea is just leaving a bitter taste in my mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:37 PM
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100%!!!!! Americans really romanticize romantic relationships. Not everyone may agree with this, but I never saw “getting married and having babies” as a life goal, even before I was truly FDS. And if you’re single you haven’t reached your goal so you are a failure. Also with the romanticizing...a lot of people falsely think they will be happier in a relationship or raising a family because they aren’t being realistic about the pros and cons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:05 PM
35

God the wisdom in this post. Lifestyle matching matters!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:02 PM
28

Sadly Erica Mena is a classic pick me. Safaree isn’t the first. The fact that she dated Rich Dollaz says it all. She clearly has self esteem issues, sad cuz she’s gorgeous but possibly didn’t take time to work on her personality and relied on her looks too much, hence the low self esteem. Just a guess. Anyways LHH always has trash men. I work in the music industry and I do not date men in my field for a reason. Seen too much know too much lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:42 AM
10

Facts good point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:28 PM
22

I made this point on another post this week...women tend to romanticize marriage and children but don’t realize statistically, this is true. Especially with kids, often times women just don’t realize the physical, emotional, psychological toll on you until they are living it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:20 PM
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Wow I love this. Actually there’s probably a lot FDS women can borrow from Buddhism. A lot of encouraging acceptance, etc. It’s not Buddhism but have you read the Tao Te Ching?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:09 PM
69

If anything, being a high-earning woman attracts them more smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:38 AM
25

Yeah turns out HVM stick to a certain age range, within their own age. Older HVM (45+) generally won’t have a wife more than 5-10 years younger from what I have seen/heard/read. The lower under 40 they are, the closer to their age they will date, meaning women 5 years or less younger than them. Any gap more than that means...they are a pedo predator. In my opinion. Young girls can get young guys easier, I guess. But I don’t want to date younger guys either lol so I’m good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:07 PM
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You pretty much got the take away points that I would think of. You are being awesome about it, don’t be discouraged. Live your life. Dating is only one part of it. Side note, as an empath, be very careful of men being too vulnerable too fast. They can sense you being an empath even if they don’t know what it is, and will take advantage without even realizing it, at best. At worst, divulging too much sensitive information early is also a way to get you to bond and feel sympathy in order to manip…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:01 PM
7

Honestly that’s a better way to find a genuine connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:19 PM
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Great post. I think a lot of people, western women especially?, fantasize about being married and having a family. And like, there’s nothing wrong with that per se...yet a lot of it is based on movies and propaganda we’ve been force fed by culture, often aimed at women specifically. A lot of it stems from a grass is greener perspective. Well guess what...even in a perfect marriage, there are pros and cons to being married vs being single. People who are single now and don’t want to be, romantici…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:13 PM
3

Clearly a pdophle, no doubt at all anywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:45 AM
10

Wow so heartbreaking to hear this. I made this mistake and didn’t have anything on my own cuz I trusted him and thought we were building together. Well, at best he threw it in my face at key times when he would get mad....at worst, just not having any means of control of my life if I wanted to leave or do anything different. Would not recommend to anyone after that experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:37 AM
5

It is impressive!!! I’m really proud of you for being better than your parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:23 AM
27

Law enforcement or military careers are a red flag to me personally. People who want power and dominance over others are naturally attracted to those careers. Happy you dodged a bullet!! Follow your gut always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:18 AM
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I don’t want the second part of your comment to be disregarded. I’ve seen a lot of posts lately about OLD, and a lot women here are forgetting most dudes on dating apps are trashhhh. I know it’s a pandemic and it’s hard to meet people or whatever but barely any HVM date online, regardless of the pandemic. If you do OLD, proceed at your own risk, and it’s very important to be ruthless, as you said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:28 AM
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I don’t think it’s super pick me. It’s more about genuine heartbreak/not being able to make it work and mourning loss. Her story was just so tragic. A lot of her songs are about working through and rising above though. I think we want to put FDS approval stamp on all the music we listen to but Amy could be a gray area. Sometimes things in general are neither approved nor looked down on by FDS it doesn’t all fit into a nice black or white boxes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 09:27 PM
5

Lollll fair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:52 PM
13

Also tho, the men on the show are basically all sucking their parents dicks and the females generally have to do their own thing-either don’t talk to their parents like Christina or their parents aren’t bankrolling them, the single moms are so much more progressive....like Kim Lee’s mom. Anna of course is a queen...her parents clearly bankrolled her but she someone managed to come out with class manners and no sense of entitlement as far as they show. there’s a lot to unpack here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:24 PM
14

God for real. He looked so guilty, as he should, but that’s almost worse cuz you know the damage it did to her! Even if it was entirely her fault you can’t let your parents fucking bully her??? The only good thing I can say is that he stopped pressuring her to have another baby. He also made creepy comments to other ladies at their weird rejuve party. Just gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:21 PM
18

She was sooo impressed with him being a power ranger in the 90s....like if I’m gonna date someone “famous” they need to have their life together or it’s just not worth it! They mentioned he has money issues, he’s clearly abusive....just a mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:50 PM
17

Oh god the whining. How are you gonna be abusive/aggressive AND a little bitch at the same time lmfao.....oh wait.....that’s normal for abusers sadly smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:48 PM
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I’m so happy someone brought this up, I was gonna make a post about it too. The guys on the show sadly are all LV. Kevin is...ugh. He was “nice guy predatory” about Kellys situation and forces a date with her SOON after her breakup it’s just.....really sad. He could have played his cards right but instead he was thirsty and not understanding at all Of what she was going through. And Andrew of course is just the worst all around. I’m so happy they broke up and I hope she doesn’t go back. The wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:46 PM
9

Lol I actually never said anything about dating LVM, I think people are saying generally it’s harder to find HVM during a pandemic because most HVM are going to follow the rules of their area/take their health into consideration. That’s statistically just a fact because some people are following guidelines closer than others for whatever reason. Stop trying to read into what I’m saying as an insult to you - all I’m saying is FDS expects she will not settle for LVM just because she is desperate f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:34 AM
6

Congrats!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:18 AM
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Lol I never said you or anyone else was desperate. I said FDS expects that a woman, any woman won’t settle for a LVM just because she is desperate for a family. Not that she shouldn’t want a family or should be single forever or anything else. Edit: I realize my wording could have been confusing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:14 AM
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It seems like a lot of commenters don’t really get the true essence of FDS. Handbook reading and internalizing is in order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:08 AM
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Lol that is not what FDS expects. FDS expects that you won’t settle for a guy because you’re desperate to have a family. The divorce rate is high for a reason...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:04 AM
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Single parenting is hard....harder to parent with a LV father of your kids. Thinking of it as your time being wasted is kind of missing the whole point of FDS....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:02 AM
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She said “working on yourself isn’t something you do to pass the time until you get a man. I swear so many women on this sub are terrified of being single.” I think you misunderstood cuz what you are saying doesn’t really make sense. She’s saying working on yourself is a lifelong process, not a way to pass the time until you get a man. Yes, you will “work on yourself” forever because you will always have new goals, aspirations, situations, etc. there’s always something you can do better or impro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:00 AM
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Lol WAP....still got cheated on, still alone (nothing wrong with that, just doesn’t fit their narrative), still no respect....Guys will fuck your WAP and leave you where they found you with no second thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:46 AM
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Men say “I want this” or “I’m attracted to this” and they are just talking out their ass. They don’t know what they want and it changes. Attraction is fickle anyway even under good conditions. Actions tell better than words. Edit:also why the “men like women who...” thing is even more bullshit lol they don’t even mean it deep down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:42 AM
65

Anger is an emotion. Men use “logic” to justify their emotions after the fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:38 AM
4

Oh okay yeah I see in destroying property cases
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:00 PM
2

Im not disagreeing with your point, but side question, what exactly could he sue her for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:50 PM
5

What kind of lawsuit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:49 PM
33

Okay please please please someone explain in detail how Lori is FDS?! People keep posting about her and I don’t get it. She’s a rich “influencer” who dates low value men with publicly known issues, who are also way older than her. I don’t think she should care what other people think, I’m not judging her decisions personally, but I do not understand how she’s FDS or why that’s the type of behavior we should glorify from an FDS perspective? Someone please help I really want to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:01 PM
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That’s real, I support. It’s not about looks after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:20 PM
6

This is an insightful answer. The elegant simplicity of truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:23 AM
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I dunno ladies. This is the second post about her that I’ve seen. I really don’t see how casually dating low value men that are way older than her is FDS? Can someone explain? I’m so lost. Like we should not be aspiring to date someone like Future, even casually lol. And also all this stuff about her “getting her bag”....... she was born to a wealthy and famous family. Someone make it make sense. Edit: did some googling. She’s actually Steve H step daughter but still, she’s already wealthy. Does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:01 AM
8

Ugh Tyler is sooo toxic we could do a whole post on his movies 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:02 AM
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Basically a dance challenge which is a marketing tool to make a song popular. She’s a relatively new artist that just got signed to a semi major this past year so prime time for that. The challenge is basically twerk videos with an outfit change, tic toc style
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:55 PM
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Sadly I know the artist and the producer through my job. The producer is definitely a LVM first off. Just trash. But he’s locally famous and pretty respected in my city. Most mainstream women rap is pick me shit...and strippers turned rappers who rap about mainly sex is a hot trend right now.... just makes the whole culture even more pick me. But those are the chicks who get signed, if you don’t talk about your p*ssy then you don’t get a record deal, to over simplify. There are exceptions but if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:14 PM
3

So you feel like the men she dates are HVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:53 AM
3

Mm the comments so far are making weird excuses for her and not even addressing your point......like why is getting Future of all LVM to claim you is something to be proud of? Why are all these men way older than her? I don’t know too much about her but it’s weird how the responses to this are sticking up for her on points that are pretty understood FDS no-nos? Or am I missing something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:52 AM
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It’s not how many, it’s the quality of man. low for all examples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:50 AM
15

Wanting sex is different than wanting to feel safe. That seems rather obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 09:44 AM
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Following Instagram “models” and influencers is a deal breaker for me. It’s just not worth the stress of wondering why he’s on social media at any given time. You mentioned it being addictive similar to porn cuz a lot of it is soft porn. I consider it a soft porn addiction lol I’m out ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:44 PM
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To add to the idea there’s no such thing as green flags. A red flag is the idea that a specific negative behavior or situation will negate all positives because it’s that serious or indicative of an underlying issue, etc. there’s no equivalent of a positive behavior or situation negating bad ones. Does that make sense?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:55 PM
4

I know what you mean but those traits are generic enough that they could belong to HVM or LVM. Ambition can be a negative personality trait depending how it’s used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:35 PM
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I love how you have your mom as an example-it’s not just about how men treat us but how everyone does. It’s a way of life that goes to all our relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:52 PM
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I am so sorry. This same thing happened to me it ended up being like 10,000. Ultimately I was young and didn’t really understand vetting, but I still haven’t forgiven myself. This is why a lot of advice on this sub centers around being prepared for the worst. Some guys are good at hiding LV behavior for years. You have to be ready to GO at the first sign of disrespect even if it’s 5, 10, 20 years later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:50 PM
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Ghosting for a short amount of time then trying to come back. They always acted confused when I told them they can’t do that with me 😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:47 PM
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