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u/Ubermensch33 is spot on. My only add when it comes to being the “hardest working member of the family” and, in your mind, not “deserving” sex unless you do all these “things” and constant self improvement is the example of my wife’s friend. Her husband drinks excessively, smokes weed every day multiple times a day, is in average shape (at best) and is more often unemployed than not. Gets laid all the time. When and how he wants. You know what, despite all those other things about him, he’s sup…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/21 01:46 AM
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You’re asking the wrong questions. Instead of asking US “am I a cuck/can’t handle orbiters” you need to ask YOURSELF; “am I a man who is okay with my wife having sex with other men while we are married” or “am I not”. Pick one and commit. Fully and totally 100%. Whichever you prefer is “you do you”, but pick one and commit.
/r/askMRP19/08/19 08:54 PM
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Yep. Not advocating the subreddit, just advocating not jerking off to porn instead of gaming the wife. It’s super easy to have a wank and watch some porno and passive aggressively think “look at me, I’m not having sex with my wife, that’ll teach her!” when in fact she’s hoping desperately that her low tingles beta husband will do exactly that and end up reinforcing the underlying lack of attraction. It’s much harder to say, “well, I’m horny, the wife is my only outlet. Guess I better up my game”…
/r/askMRP26/02/19 03:52 PM
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I would recommend no-fap and no-porn. Both are instant gratification that are too “easy” IMO. There’s no gaming, no escalations, no behaviors that you need to learn to game your wife. Also, it will let you “lean into your discomfort”. Becoming truly OI, eliminating covert contracts as well as having sex just to validate your ego can all benefit from no porn and no fap if you aren’t getting laid regularly. You can recognize the feelings and the emotions that are created and let them pass over you…
/r/askMRP25/02/19 08:57 PM
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Yes. If this guy is/was fucking your EX-fiancé why is he worth any extra seconds of your time? Complaint to his boss for whatever reason will likely just let him know that he got the upper hand on you. Don’t go digging through the trash applies to all aspects of a prior relationship IMO.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:42 AM
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So what if your wife sucked a dick that was bigger, better, harder than yours? Just assume it was. So many ‘men’ assume MRP is about being the best lay their wife ever had. Guess what? Probably not. Be the best you. That’s all MRP/RP is. Anything else is a masturbation fantasy. “Too swole”? Fuck off.
/r/askMRP02/12/18 01:42 AM
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You’re assuming the fat balding guy has a hangup about a BJ that happened 15 yrs ago. I’m not a therapist but I’d say you likely need one. Do you lift? Read the sidebar yet? Zero history with “wife” in post other than when she wasn’t actually your wife. Leaning troll, if this is real then please get out of your own head.
/r/askMRP02/12/18 12:53 AM
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Pretty sure that MRP is about putting you in the center of your life, not putting the woman in the center. Dread game, STFU, dealing with shit tests, SGM, etc etc, is all about going through the process of making you the best you possible. Then you can decide if you stay or go or whatever. Your wife isn’t broken or not broken regardless of your thoughts on “beta bux” etc. She’s just a reflection of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/18 05:45 PM
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You make over 200k a year? Buy your own cage, plates, and bars. Online. Have them shipped to you. People do this regularly who make way less. Build your own. Not shilling, but online businesses like Rogue Fitness have all this stuff. It’s cheaper than the gym. Will pay for itself easy in a year or two.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 05:55 PM
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I notice a plethora of new posters talking about being red-pilled immediately upon subscribing to the sub and how they are probably going to leave their wives soon or should leave right away. Fix yourself first before “fixing” your marriage. Compared to where I was a couple of years ago I know there’s no way I’d want that version of me to make any real decisions about my future other than reading, lifting, and unfucking myself.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 09:45 PM
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If you want to get divorced get divorced. If you don’t, then don’t. It’s got nothing to do with “strength” and all to do with owning your own decisions. You made the bed you’re lying in. It’s 100% up to you and only you to decide what to do about it and when.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 06:35 PM
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I have a beard. I like it. Therefore I keep it. Clean. Groomed. The way I like it. Why would I care if anyone else likes it or not?
/r/askMRP02/05/18 08:13 PM
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Start with 5x5.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 12:34 AM
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Still don't get why you want to try to be the AMOG so hard? If this guy is half as good as you worry about him being (and you do worry about this guy, look at how much you've written about an encounter that hasn't happened yet) then negging and trying to lead the conversation, gaming his wife etc etc has a great chance of blowing up in your face and making you look like a socially retarded needy manchild. High risk, low reward. And for what? Go out, act like a normal non tryhard and get to know …
/r/askMRP09/01/17 03:09 AM
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Are you a busy guy? Want a program that is relatively idiot proof? I'd recommend StrongLifts 5x5. They have an app that is easy to use both input and output wise. I'm in my 40's as well and including some serious deloads due to injury (don't be stupid like I was) and lazy at times (3x a week should work with this program) I'm easily over 50lbs more per lift over the same timeframe and I suck. Not to criticize but to motivate. My learnings; caloric intake is important. I had a serious plateau whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 12:43 AM
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Diagnosed with low T, so after improving everything from sleep to diet and back again took the plunge. Took some getting dialed in but it has definitely been a huge win. Currently levels are trending right in the middle/upper range expected for my age (not doing Olympia level of test) Some advice: get a good doc. They should do more than just script you T cyp and leave it at that. I'm on HCG as well (keeps the nuts from shrinking and also upregulates other hormones you need) and a very low dose …
/r/askMRP14/04/16 09:34 PM
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Chad; you keep using that word OP. I do not think it means what you think it means
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/16 03:39 AM
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Not being snarky but who cares? Watch what they do, not what they say. If you're getting the behaviors you want then you're probably doing the right things on some level. Chad wouldn't be worried about whether on not she wanted to give him a blowie or was just doing it because feelz or whatever. He'd just be enjoying it.
/r/askMRP27/03/16 05:14 PM
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I hit the wall often. Right now it's on the sex front, and can be super frustrating at times but then I look back over the last ten months and see all the little shit that has added up. Hitting PR's in the weight room Best wardrobe ever Debt almost gone and saving and retirement at all time high Career going well. Not a humble brag, just that MRP works especially if and when you take it out of the context of how it works relative to your wife. I'm guessing when you say the ladies aren't chasing …
/r/askMRP15/03/16 03:13 AM
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Yes. Being a more masculine man and owning my shit has worked very well for me in my workplace. Having a mission, not being a victim, OI and abundance mentality have helped me through a series of mergers and reorganization that took out about 50% of the people in my position. This year looks to be the best I've had ever financially and professionally thanks to using RP behaviors to make me a better man in my work life as well. Recommend the "Extreme Ownership" book as a good place to start for b…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 02:05 AM
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Then don't do 200 lbs. Go low, way low and restart your progression. Say 150 or even 135lbs. Or even less. I was "squatting" 225 this time last year with shitty shitty form. Started on SL and went way low. Just finished 5x5 at 230lbs a few minutes ago. Ass to grass. Perfect form. Feel great and wouldn't be where I am now if I didn't rebuild my squat from scratch. Kill your ego and rebuild the basics at low weight and follow the progression in SL. If you are squatting 200lbs or whatever with shit…
/r/askMRP19/02/16 02:43 AM
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Progress on 60 DoD so far: Fitness: Been sticking with SL 5x5. Results look good at this stage, even better than when I had a personal trainer a while back. Hit 250lbs on DL last night for 5 reps, which is great for me and where I started. Next goal is to hit 300 on DL, Squat, and 200 on bench (always been my weakest lift) those numbers should put me in the 1.5 BW range for the first two, and around BW for bench. Not sure how long it will take, but aiming for June/July right now. Not great at pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 02:15 PM
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Got divorced from my 1st wife in Illinois. What did I wish I knew? Got a good lawyer, but should have got him sooner and not mess around with mediation or anything like that. Sure you guys might have an amicable relationship NOW, but as soon as it comes time to sort things out like custody you need to have a great lawyer on your side. You HAVE to assume she's going to want her cash and prizes and she's going to want primary custody. Maybe not 100% of the time but AWALT, and if you don't have a g…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 01:17 PM
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What's your background? Do you lift? What sidebar materials have you read? How long have you been unplugging? Without that it makes it a bit tougher to give advice other than say, mate guarding, you're doing it wrong. I'm all for boundaries, but it you're talking to the wrong person about this issue by talking to rock climbing dude. Then talking to him again? About where and what your wife was doing? No. Just stop. Talk to your wife about this issue if even that. IDGAF and STFU would be better o…
/r/askMRP10/02/16 02:26 AM
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Doing carbnite/CKD myself now for about a year and have seen great results. No breakfast, just coffee, and eat a keto lunch and dinner, with a carb nite every week to two weeks. Bloodwork has been great, working on dialing it in even more during this challenge. Am at about 15% BF, down from 17.5% about a month or so ago and looking for more as I do SL 5x5. Cut out booze too which (duh) had been adding unnecessary calories to my macros and taking the edge off getting lots of awesome shit done.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/16 05:10 AM
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You just described my first marriage ending to a T. After I found MRP after replicating the same issues in my second I realized my first wife wasn't a total bitch, she was just responding to me being a weaksauce and if I had been a masculine man and owned my shit I could have repaired the ship instead of scuttling it. Of course I had a very different victim puke take on it at the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/16 01:01 PM
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Purchased it directly off of the Amazon site no problem. Congrats on hitting publish!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/16 12:50 PM
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Are you a wizard? This is great stuff. I'm not an American football fan, but the way you explain "establishing your narrative"/frame is excellent.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 12:51 PM
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Great post. Sometimes I think when we are being victims it means we have zero frame/are flailing about in someone else's. Removes the responsibility we would have for creating and living in our own frame/reality but also removes our agency. Going from victim to creating a strong frame makes me think of the Nietzsche quote: "The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 08:32 PM
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As a guy who was married and didn't work out what all the issues were in his first marriage (i.e. all the things I fucked up on and didn't take responsibility for) before embarking on his second, I'd advise you OP to work on yourself. Improve yourself, you work on you. Your GF will either work herself into the life you create for you or she won't. Make damn sure you know what YOU want or you will 100% end up in the same place as your first marriage. Honestly, how she is with you now BEFORE you a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 08:50 PM
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Seemed like you were doing pretty well with STFU, then broke frame and went 100% DEER. Regardless of what is lost in translation, whatever words you used in your response to her there were too many of them. Especially for text/email.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 11:17 PM
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Fitness: Continue with SL 5x5, for at least 3 day/week. Had been screwing around with different plans and programs with middling to no success. Too often I make excuses as to why I need to take an evening off. So far SL has been easy to follow and progression is good plus I’m owning each and every lift (ass to grass squats for example). The app is the best I’ve ever seen for tracking progress with weights as well as programming weight increases/deloading as it makes it simple and pretty much idi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 11:08 PM
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No offense but what woman doesn't have "body image issues" and consequently a "mild eating disorder" in this day and age? I might be way off base but are you possibly justifying or rationalizing her hamstering/drama/getting your commitment and attention without anything in return? Dread is dread. Women, even ones with image issues will do whatever they can to fuck men they think are worthy of fucking. The ones they can get attention from and avoid fucking they'll avoid fucking. She might be "dep…
/r/askMRP20/01/16 03:44 AM
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Re-read and practice WISNIFG and NMMNG. Understanding and using things like fogging and broken record helped me deal with language that I thought was shaming and accusatory but was really just my reaction to it. Meanwhile till you internalize the sidebar material STFU will be your friend. Still use STFU when wife ambushes me with shit tests when I'm tired and the ol' mental mainframe isn't processing as fast or efficiently as I need to respond appropriately.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 07:02 PM
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Glad to hear you've recovered and thrived after your health issues. Don't get involved with this woman again. You've spent $150k on litigating the divorce because of the "shenanigans " of the lawyers? Having been though a contested divorce myself I'd say the lawyers have very little to do with how much drama your divorce was; they'll do whatever their client wants them to do. You want a simple break, split assets yadda yadda? Your lawyer will do that. You want to delay proceedings and make this …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 03:04 AM
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Triggered!!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/16 02:44 AM
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Nice start! My recommendations; 1) Medical. Get that shit checked out and cleared. I've had one stroke myself, 100% recovery, got imaged and checked and cleared for resistance training. Even if you've decided Zumba dance is your crossfit, get your medical squared away yesterday. 2) Diet. Whether paleo, keto, or just eating less calories, improve your eating lifestyle. Eating less calories and good quality food will be 70-80% of your body recomposition. At least. 3) If your medical is cleared and…
/r/askMRP13/01/16 12:51 PM
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Hi me from a year ago! You don't want to be who you used to be; that guy has led you to be the blue piller you are now. You want to be someone else, a newer, better version of old/old and current you. Read, STFU, and lift seems like a MRP trope, but speaking as someone who has been exactly in your spot it is exactly what you need to begin to unfuck yourself and own your own shit. It's not easy either. Almost 6 months in and I'm only just starting to truly get it. Lifting has been huge not just b…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 02:11 AM
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THIS
/r/askMRP14/11/15 04:25 AM
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100% this. Unplugging dad to a 16 mo old, and this book is for baby sleep training is like the sidebar material is for MRP. Lot of it may seem counterintuitive at first but really does work.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 04:46 PM
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Before MRP I did the same thing. Got the wife a new iPad early this year pre-MRP and she didn't even open it till a few months ago. I don't have the link to the post on my phone but I'm pretty sure if you search for "Skittles" on the forum you'll find the answer you're looking for.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 01:33 AM
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I'll bite. No, test levels aren't related to being an 'alpha'. I'm on trt, at physiologic levels for my age. Was super low before I started with many symptoms. I won't bore you with them as the only real takeaway was that even when they were higher than the original goal as my doctor and I were dialing it in, I was still a beta and acting like a whiny bitch. I've been on a lower dose for a long while now and it has fixed many of the symptoms I was having however, reading, lifting and getting shi…
/r/askMRP25/09/15 03:31 AM
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Used to have this issue in the past and had similar situation where I changed jobs, made great raise, good new organization and wife talked about moving in a year or two after I started, for no other reason than feelz. Here's what worked for me: 1) STFU. Don't debate the hamster about job changes, and don't complain about work either. Whether I've had a great day or the shittiest day in my history, she won't know either way. One she doesn't care. Two, she really doesn't care. I come home and act…
/r/askMRP22/09/15 08:47 PM
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I work out alone and got around solo lift and safety issues by getting a power cage. Have it in the garage and a full plate set and barbell plus bench. Squats, bench, etc, no worries. Local gym dumped all their rack and free weight setup for machines so I went online to Rogue Fitness and cancelled the gym membership and purchased my own setup. I do a CKD (cyclo ketogenic diet/carb nite approach) and essentially have a cheat evening every 1-2 weeks. Have been able to continue dropping weight and …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 07:41 PM
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Sounds like you're under a lot of stress. /u/strategeos_autokrator's posts on stoicism helped me a lot. Used to get mad insomnia years ago. Melatonin (I use a liquid form from Life Extension) and l-theanine have been life changers in terms of helping me get to sleep and stay asleep. ZMA helps too (zinc, magnesium, and B6 combo I think). Everything else a previous poster said about limiting caffeine late in the day etc is spot on. Good luck.
/r/askMRP28/08/15 11:50 AM
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This is good feedback. Definitely notice more IOI's as I've improved. You make a lot of sense; I am flailing about still in my wife's frame. Still need a lot of work on OI. Will see how things are after another few months.
/r/askMRP13/08/15 08:13 PM
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Approach wise it has varied. Have been doing stuff the last few months to warm things up like the ten second kiss for a while now that she's seemed to like, as well as some light kino throughout the day whether or not I would be initiating. Try not to overdo it. She likes to pinch my ass at random times throughout the day and likes PDA when we're out and about. She complains if I don't kiss her when I get home (ie grab the little girl for hugs and kisses first) so it's a little weird in that I d…
/r/askMRP13/08/15 08:08 PM
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This is a great FR.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 11:39 AM
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All of this. I'm noob couple of months in and have gone ahead and purchased and read all the recommended material and some other stuff on top of that and guess what? This shit is hard. Knowing the path and actually walking it are two completely different things. I thought I was going slow at first and still almost set the relationship to defcon 1. OP nails it IMO with the idea that I think lot of us starting have that if we just MAP, increase our SMV then we'll get showered with porn quality sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 11:41 PM
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The War of Art by Pressfield is excellent. Definitely second this as a great book to read.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 11:45 AM
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I want to vote you up twice for this
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 01:44 AM
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I read /u/strategos_autokrator's post (which I can't seem to link to with the iAlien app) on stoicism and the recommended readings and that shit has literally changed my life. Didn't make the anger go away but when it comes I can let it pass over me and move on with my day now, keep my frame, pass shit tests etc without wearing my heart on my sleeve or backsliding to beta goblin shit pukes. YMMV, but it helped me in a ton of areas where beforehand I allowed anger and frustration to define me and…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/15 02:28 AM
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I think OP might have confused Oneitis with a "good foundation...worth keeping". Water in the face while sleeping? Smh.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 03:30 PM
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Great post OP. Have been increasing my scarcity, though not to the levels you're describing. It has helped although to Unplugging Career Betas like myself initially it was counterintuitive. Thanks for the inspiration.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 11:55 AM
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41 yo here. Had similar T readings several years ago. After long journey to try as many other options and fix other health issues finally ended up on T injections. Absolute life changer. If you really need it, it's great. Wife likes to shit test me about it but after you're on it and your levels are dialed in, you'll be IDGAF about what anyone else thinks. Morning wood is back, erections are generally great. Mood is better, brain fog gone. Happy to share my experiences in more detail if that hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 07:15 PM
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“Do not, my friends, become addicted to water. It will take hold of you, and you will resent its absence.” True, it's a movie quote, but that's the first thing that popped into my head when I saw your water comment. (Mad Max: Fury Road/Immortan Joe to his "people")
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/15 02:53 AM
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Just a RP Newb perspective here, but I think sometimes there's some Covert Contracts us Career Betas have in passing shit tests. "Hey honey! I passed your shit tests! Love me! RESPECT ME, I'M ALPHA NOW!" sort of thing. Only because I've been there and I've found that not only is IDGAF great with passing shit tests, but it's been even more important in the aftermath. So I passed a shit test? So what, I'm a man, an Oak, that's just what I do. Kind of like 'water is wet'. Whether she respects me or…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/15 12:49 AM
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She's said it was because she was worried about being back at work after being on maternity leave, so other than the days of surgery she went to work (we have a nanny that watches my kid while we work). I forget who has written or posted about it, maybe the BPP, but I think it is in keeping with AWALT, in the sense that being sick is viewed as a weakness and if you're alive and the paychecks/insurance payments are coming in then they probably don't want to watch you moan and groan in your hospit…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/15 12:25 PM
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Thanks guys for all the feedback and advice. Wife is still pissed off but haven't caved in or backed down. Definitely still have a lot to learn and internalize. Changing from BP to RP is definitely a process and I can see how it can't be rushed.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 03:37 AM
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