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So does this mean that if Paige were to dress more conservatively and be slightly more prudish, she would not have ended up with Alberto?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/17 09:57 PM
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Oh wow, maybe AWALT lol, but LDR's are not really relationships anyway, unless there was a near end in sight. I appreciate your answer, really enjoyed reading how you and your wife got together. My mother also pursued my father. I have been direct with this guy and the last text was him saying it will be nice to go on a date with me. He disregarded the texts I sent him after which were of a funny picture and also other random stuff, but anways at least I got a date with him!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/17 03:14 PM
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Great answer, thank you so much. Honestly I've been doing it all wrong, this forum has shown me this. So at the party were you more interested in the other two girls that you were chatting up, and became more interested in your wife when you went on the date with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/17 08:27 PM
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He messaged me! He said it will be nice to go out with me, next weekend as he can't this one :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 08:22 PM
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:) he texted saying would be nice to see me, he can't this weekend but next weekend! I'll message him most days until then so he doesn't forget about me :p
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 08:22 PM
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This is super super helpful! Not just for him specifically, but men in general. It scares me because I'm afraid of rejection, even though I'm not afraid to compliment men who I don't like. Btw this guy I don't have a chance to see him in person. He could be afraid to say yes, he was quite shy around me, but not around his friends. He got on with my brother as well. The last text was me asking about the date and saying I'm available in half term. Yes I used that specific word :) Shall I text anyw…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 06:15 PM
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Awesommeee thank you so much, I've learnt so much :):)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 05:37 PM
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Cool, thank you :) it's mainly me initiating and he doesn't really answer questions back, but is always positive and nice when he answers. But he's traveling for work so that could be why, and is arranging a date to be in our city so we can go out. Not sure what he likes, i know he loves sports like basketball!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 05:21 PM
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Ok, even just asking how his weekend was? It won't bother him considering he barely knows me?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 05:00 PM
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I appreciate it a lot! I don't come off as shy, but with men I'm afraid of rejection, and have never actively pursued a guy. I'd like to change that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 04:59 PM
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This has truly made me think. Thanks, I think I've been doing it all wrong in the sense that I think I'm showing interest by maybe acting friendly instead. Over the weekend I sent a cute photo of myself and wrote that I'm enjoying the sun in the park and hope it's not too snowy where he is in a conference. He answered with smiley faces saying the snow is melting, no mention of the foto or anything. This forum inspired me to be more direct so last night I wrote saying I'd love to go out with him …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 04:44 PM
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Thanks, this forum inspired me to do that. I've asked him out saying I'd like to see him, have yet to hear from him :) if he rejects, I'm still glad I did it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 04:37 PM
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I can see where you're coming from. I've asked him out, let's see what he says
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 02:50 PM
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Are you British, what has your experience been?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:09 PM
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Yes I've been in this city 3 years, but in the country for 6 years. Tried to make friends with British women because they seem very nice, but they aren't interested and they mainly stick to their own cliques. My ex boyfriend had a large group of British friends, i've seen how they act, they act like they don't care. I tried to be friends with these girls by talking to them at parties, they completely ignored me. Some women here are super nice of course. Some are really feminine. A lot of them ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:09 PM
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Not very open with their emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:01 PM
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Lovely, good to know, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:00 PM
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Ok, thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:59 PM
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inb4? not sure if she is in to you, some people don't know how to show interest
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:01 PM
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That to me sounds like a way to get you interested. I've done this as well to be honest.. Not with guys I don't care about though. Do you have a chance to see her again?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 11:34 AM
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Thanks, this is something I'm learning :) I think I was a bit aloof with him at the start, or at least just friendly and not flirty. But on Saturday I suggested getting a drink before meeting my friends, but timing didn't work out, and he said he'd like to see me on another day and asked when I'm free. Last night I told him 'half-seriously' that I want to see him during my half-term if he is also up for that. He hasn't answered yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 11:27 AM
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good to know, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 11:15 AM
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Thanks, i'm with GroovyEFS on this one...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 11:14 AM
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yes but apparently all women are like beta men, or at least that's the ideal :p
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 08:57 AM
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Yes but that is only one aspect of RPW. You can be cheerful and approachable, but maybe not respect men or let them lead for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:32 AM
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Totally agree. Our generation in general feel entitled to a lot of things, which is where the term snowflake comes from
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:28 AM
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Not sure if this is relevant, but I've been approached on the street and on the tube asking what music I'm listening to because I seem so happy and radiant. This has happened several times, never used to happen before becoming RP. Recently was told that I was sitting so gracefully and beautifully, I wasn't even doing it on purpose. Maybe I seem approachable because I appear happy and smiley to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:24 AM
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I think it is quite obvious whether a woman is feminine or feminist by looking at how she acts online
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:17 AM
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Hehehe maybe I'll have to say this to a guy when I've decided I truly like him. I'm usually more coy and less direct, good to know being direct is appreciated though
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:16 AM
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Texting is awful -_- Much rather just see him. Is it normal for women to call a guy they only met once at a party? I do like my voice though
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 01:14 AM
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Yes, what do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:57 AM
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Lovely. And now back to reality, hope it's good :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:39 AM
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It seems like a problem in other countries too, but women here are a bit strange, plus the amount of alcohol consumed... I am more worried for my brother who now lives in the UK as well, than I am for myself. Life should be and can be simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:37 AM
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Thank you. Yeah I was debating whether this should go under RP advice or debate, but thought it was more suitable for a debate. I thought this because I wanted to know generally what people thought, but suppose it ended up being more specific about advice regarding this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:21 AM
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Do you mean because of what we said about British men? It was a culture shock for me and took me a while to adapt to the way they interact with me, coming from a country where men are very direct (Still adapting probably).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:17 AM
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:) Most women here seem nice
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:15 AM
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It does make it confusing though, because you end up guessing who likes you and who is shy and aloof. Lots of missed opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:10 AM
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I am not sure what British girls are like here, as most of my friends are international. I didn't realise that they text like that though, that sucks :/ They do seem a bit intimidating, and have never gone out of their way to make me feel included in their culture, even though I have tried! But yeah British guys don't know how to flirt unless they are very aware of the situation and actively want to change that. I am not trying to insult British people btw, I actually find British guys quite att…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:10 AM
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haha okey, phew. I was getting my tiny thong to the ready :p :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:05 AM
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Haha come to think of it the men I know who confide in these things do tend to overanalyse texts, but they pretend they don't to other people. So you don't do that anymore? Seems like even the most alpha men can be beta, which is quite nice. I like it when a guy is a bit shy but then opens up. I did text him just now again to state that I would like to see him, with an added 'x' a la British style. I can't be more obvious than this, and it was a bit difficult for me to do! Rejection hurts even a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/17 12:03 AM
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I agree, not sure I understand why. But these comments have all been super useful to me and hopefully others as well
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 11:55 PM
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He has not answered me yet, maybe he's asleep considering it is almost midnight :p I texted him something similar to what you wrote: 'Let me know when you're free, I'd love to see you during my half term! x'. Btw thanks for suggesting that I have the freedom to be a bit more forward seeing as I'm not British, I had never thought of it that way and actually living here has made me more British which I would like to possibly avoid. I will keep you updated as soon as he answers! x
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 11:50 PM
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hhahah :p It's good to be wrong sometimes, gives space to grow. Well I hope this guy is interested regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 11:40 PM
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Redpill has made me more approachable to men. I've never been feminist, but maybe bp and since reading up on rpw I've had more interest from men :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 11:38 PM
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Hello, thank you Tyler. Good idea, he has never asked for photos except at the very beginning to remind him of what I look like. I have just sent them to him because I felt like it! I think you might be right that he likes personal space. Our texting patterns have not changed since the start. I text back pretty much straight away, he takes a while to text.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 11:26 PM
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I completely agree with you, I like that as well. It is nice to have someone doing what they have to do liking working on the laptop while I'm reading my book or studying, and then being closer together naturally. The issue is getting past the initial dating stage, to that stage of being able to offer freedom as well as closeness when needed. A lot of men fear losing their freedom, because a lot of women are needy and aren't able to offer them that space.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 11:23 PM
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Serious about what, sorry? I honestly don't know if he has interests, but doesn't seem so, he doesn't seem like a player and was quite shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 11:16 PM
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aaw hahah I am so glad you agree with me, on these British guys. I'm Latin and Scandinavian but have adopted British words and even their accent at some points :). He is 27 I believe, but doesn't seem to have a lot o dating experience based on his photos.. So the texts are mainly initiated by me even though he initially started texting me. They are friendly and not very flirty because he doesn't give me much chance to be flirty... Unfortunately I deleted the text messages because he had stopped …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 11:10 PM
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I agree, but it is a bit hard to be upfront when we haven't even been on a date yet! He could be acting aloof himself, or just busy, or shy... who knows, but it does seem like he wants to go out with me but he takes his time with his sms -_-
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:58 PM
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ding ding ding, how did you guess? Lol. He is British, I have been here for three years and a lot of men are like this.. Back where I am from, men are quite direct and it is easier. Are you British? I like this guy particularly because he has a cheeky look going on, and is passionate about his job which is very attractive to me. He wasn't shy around everyone else and was pretty funny and cool, just around me he was slightly nervous so that could wear off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:57 PM
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I understand what you mean about being shy but also outgoing, because I am like that myself. Shy when it matters... Ok GroovyEFS i will do as you suggested in your comments. Thank you x x
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:52 PM
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He he he okey, my heart is racing right now but you are right I will do it. Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:50 PM
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Love your last sentence, even though it's a bit sad. I wish I knew, but have no clue if he has other women interested in him :/ I've got him on instagram but he posts photos of his business he has just set up and is quite busy with that. I will have to find out if there are any interests in his love life, somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:49 PM
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I mean I have no clue honestly. I consider myself good looking and do get looks on the street. But then I read all these comments about how all women no matter what they look like get looks from all men. This guy is a bit overweight, shy and told me he had a bad year but was doing things to make it better. He told me about his family as well like his dad who he didn't get on with, but didn't go too deep into it. All this was just from that one night of meeting him, and we were not drunk. He kept…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:47 PM
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eek that is very scary. Won't i come across as desperate considering yesterday I asked him out for a drink and timings didn't let us, and he didn't answer my last text that I am free next Friday onwards?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:42 PM
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Hello. Okey, so even though I do initiate the texts most of the time, if they seem friendly then it doesn't count? I don't really know how to text sexually or anything like that. Also only met him that one time so don't know him too well and don't want to already start calling him handsome until we have connected more face to face,because then he might think I call everyone that, or is that backward thinking?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:40 PM
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Okey that makes sense. Thank you for your reply :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:38 PM
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cool, thank you :) So should I text him again even though he hasn't answered that last text which was sent last night? Ask him how his weekend went?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:38 PM
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Oh dear that does worry me a bit... don't want to come off as a slut. I am a traditional woman in the sense that I dress modestly and have not slept with many men. He wanted to kiss me in the toilets of the salsa restaurant and I said no because I didn't feel comfortable.. But I have been initiating most texts just asking him how he is and if he is having a good week, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:36 PM
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Interesting reply, thank you. I am not sure if he is very successful with women, but he got a bit upset when I ignored him for a bit because my friend needed help with something and he felt rejected. I spoke to him after and showed him affection and it was fine (I am good with my words and am always open and honest so maybe that was why).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:35 PM
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Thanks for your answer. How come you rejected them? they were too forward?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:33 PM
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Thank you :) Are you a man or a woman? I do look as best as I can and have a lot of attention, but sometimes not from the right kind of man that I want. I think I can be too aloof sometimes even though I'm quite smiley, but notice women around me just go for it and get the man of their dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:32 PM
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Well can be for anybody, I wasn't sure what to put in the flair. RPW forum sometimes are a bit too wishywashy but if you have any good advice I would love to hear :) I would like to know what men like though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:30 PM
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He is quite shy and kept complimenting me the whole night and affectionate, so who knows! Btw yesterday I said we should grab a drink, and he agreed but timings made it impossible, so he asked when I'm next free. I said 'Friday onwards because I'll be on holiday', and he didn't answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:27 PM
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Alright thank you, it is low! How do I show him that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:19 PM
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Well I don't act like a slut by sending revealing photos or anything. But I don't want to be too prudish either because that has happened to me before where they have assumed I am a virgin because I look innocent and shy, so I want to balance it out a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 10:11 PM
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You are right... thank you
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/16 08:36 PM
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Thank you for the recommendation. Do you think it would be useful to people who aren't married but are in a relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 07:25 AM
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You are all absolutely right, I feel terrible now that I did this. I still have some self growth to do! I truly adore him and after thinking about it, I am certain I have nothing to worry about and I can trust him. This is because he has not shown me otherwise, and he doesn't answer these messages, I just hate that they message him! Regarding the advice topic, I work for social services and he says I should work in a bank in finance to earn more money. I do not want to do this, I don't have the …
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 05:27 PM
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My good: I have felt very good around him, and he has felt good around me. He told me that he loves me on Valentine's day. The bad: I got upset when I wanted to meet up with my friend in China Town after we hung out with his group of friends in the area, but it didn't work out because he took us on the bus and I didn't have time to rearrange. Then he said I just become quiet when i get upset and it confuses him. I need to work on being more verbal when upset.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 09:26 AM
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