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That makes sense, but for the people who see leagues as a way to “rise or climb” like men it might be healthier for them or some of them to think of it like that. If there are “levels to this shit” that means a man can try to find things to get to the next level.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:15 AM
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Yes sadly agree women just think he can change but so do men tbh with women too its sad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:05 AM
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OP what your missing is that this isn't women specific. Even in video gaming this is seen people in general have issues with accountability. Your honing on women but what about men who choose known cheaters because they are hot, or toxic women because they are hot, or men who let themselves go in a marriage because “I married her and provide she should like me as enough now” This goes both ways. Yes its true some women make horrible choices with men BUT I bet if you track that you will find that…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:03 AM
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LOL what? Literally only 15%-25% of men actually work out and exercise regularly in the us and prob less have a decent physique literally getting decently muscular is at minimum top 20% which is all you need to make most women give you a shot lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 04:40 AM
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Because only 20% of people in the us have a gym membership and plenty don’t even use it. That means being fit puts you in top 15% of men lmao it’s so broken and most men don’t abuse it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:07 AM
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Bro I think most people realize that at this point. The bar is in hell all women want is a nice body at least to get in the door lmao why do we guys get upset over this?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:05 AM
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this is horrible advice lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 06:14 PM
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yep men have it on easy mode they just are not competent enough to realize it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 05:54 PM
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i agree with your take but women have the same demands in other ways, as men we should be happy the bar is so low, literally work out and women will view you as a higher tier or value guy despite what you offer that’s pretty impressive lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 05:45 PM
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idk if therapy will help him people like this need to feel control over their life, i would just say go to the gym consistently
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:04 AM
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lmaooooo honestly as far as getting your foot in the door this is true
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 11:28 AM
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While I agree with you OP the issue is autistic men are inherently polarized. If you’re a high value autistic you will inherently chase greatness in security, fitness, competency. So yes the men who realize how broken these three are will not struggle at all especially with other autistic women. But the men who don’t know or even worse are lied to intentionally/unemotionally by those closest to them are cooked. So it’s not like these men are acting entitled they just were misled but some are gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:28 PM
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That makes a lot of sense tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 08:30 PM
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I don’t think anything is cherry picking, there is a pattern here that is worth discussing from a non emotional standpoint especially with gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 06:44 PM
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This is why I have openly stated that I want to encourage my child to be in therapy when I have one likely in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 06:16 PM
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What is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:41 PM
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I can’t wait for this thread to blow up. Thank you for making it. I’m excited to read the discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:12 PM
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One of the best post if not the best on this site. Sums up the entire issue currently and what people are afraid to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 06:28 PM
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Doesn’t apply to me i’d let her peg me if that’s her thing who cares if it makes her happy idc
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:02 AM
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Again this is just close minded thinking at its best
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:07 PM
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The thing your missing here is people who perform mental gymnastics like this tend to apply them in other areas. You have to make peace with some people can’t uhhh be super self aware to see the irony in this thought process and take it as dodging a bullet that could bite you in the ass later in another area if you were to date them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 12:46 PM
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Please send me your deleted comment i need that back it was something i wanted to save
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:52 PM
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Being direct fixes that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:17 PM
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so how would u recommend men get better at masking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:08 PM
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are these your issues or theirs and what would be your advice for how to overcome this stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:07 PM
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Its most certainly looks. I have a career in process, am kind, communicate well, want kids, am financially secure etc. Its my looks. I check every single box except looks. And once I check that one all of a sudden everything will change because that's how the world works
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:47 PM
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I'm average my personal prospects are extremely high I have a career etc I'm passed over due to one reason
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:40 PM
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The average woman does not want to date the average man
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:34 PM
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If its that easy you could solve the single man crisis
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:02 PM
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Not a red puller but a realist. I recognize that a lot of red pill concepts exist within modern day but people are too low elo to be real about them. The same skills that let me get to diamond or higher in video games are the same skills people lack irl. Accountability for one. I don't think Red pill is the way but I accept it got quite a few things right about people and I find when people deny or say those things don't matter they end up the most unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:59 PM
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That can be true sometimes yes, but other times it’s also just being a delusional person. Either way, instead of saying men are unattractive and ending up single at 30 somehow as a woman do the work to start to find other men attractive aka the healthy ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:24 AM
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which is hilarious because a guy willing to invest that hard should be considered valuable not worthless but i don’t expect high level thinking from most people tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:02 AM
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Or maybe women have horrible choices in men on average at times, and can’t notice a man until he is the total finished product and worth far more than investing when he was a start up but growing. I know me personally I am that guy and I’ve seen women around me ignore me, or worse choose other men who have let them down constantly. I see it with some other men as well it’s weird in my eyes but I consider it a elo problem. Like I said objectively women make terrible relationship choices it seems …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:37 PM
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LMAO this is just not true. Like cmon now. Women choose clearly horrible men quite often, men they have to pay for, men who cheat on them, abuse them etc. All while ignoring the guy who wants to give her the world just for chasing feelings lmao cmon now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:15 PM
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That’s a lie lmfao, it’s because they don’t feel the thrill from the safer man. That’s all there is to it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:07 PM
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Because when you find a person who is into you and decently attractive around your age and no kids and is willing to be a “partner” it’s a rarity. Something many people don’t realize these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 04:26 PM
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Sure would
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 03:48 PM
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yep crazy good deal
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 12:36 PM
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Your asking for too much self awareness from people. Reaching this level of thinking starts from a young age imo, and most people in america don’t have the ability to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:03 PM
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I support this
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:58 AM
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Yeah and a lot of people can’t perceive getting there or getting it done.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 04:22 AM
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Men should learn to just keep it simple. Tell women this is a test run, like a game we split the first 3, and if this makes it to 4 and you still are feeling me then I know this is going somewhere so expect me to pay majority for the rest of how long this lasts. Then she knows your standard is to pay but your not also wasting money on just any women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 08:58 PM
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The looks threshold isn’t crazy but to get there the perceived work is crazy. For me I’ve got about 90 days of consistent work till I get there. But that’s 90 days of discipline as well
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 07:22 PM
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If you’re already married that’s different. We are talking about men getting feet in the door
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:07 PM
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Not really, you hit the nail on the head earlier. The issue is the looks threshold is such an outlier or rather not balanced with the mean that it means when guys hit it, they go from 0 women to 80 women, and then that’s when they DO intentionally not put in effort with women because they don’t have to. If a woman wants that high effort she needs to be there before he has 80 women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:06 PM
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that’s just not true at all
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:03 PM
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I support this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:58 PM
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Gender D is tough but it sounds like your handling if it as best you can
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:57 PM
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LOL i just realized what that means
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:55 PM
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Yeah but it’s a trade off a post 30 woman loses a lot of power and has to work twice as hard as the man usually so just let it go and be glad you get to be on top for longer if you put the work in
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:51 PM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:56 PM
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sounds awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:47 PM
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Because she is a loser to society but men don’t select for appeal to others as much as women do we don’t care about facebook if she looks good to us and treats us right
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:36 PM
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I’m with you if she can do the basics and wants to play maid and take care of the home, we can more than likely reach an agreement tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:35 PM
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This isn't a woman problem this is a parent problem. People need to stop putting this stuff on one gender. The truth is this is the cycle don’t care HOW it started but it starts. One woman grows up with issues she dates loser men, has self esteem, trauma bonds etc, finally gets pregnant, becomes a single mom or has a toxic partnership—-raises that child in it and THAT girl will seek what feels familiar on a subconscious level that she will not ever adknowlege and the cycle continues. same goes f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:25 AM
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Biggest issue with hypergamy is its not being pushed back into reasonable levels with good parents and you just end up with bad parents bad kids loop. Wanting the best you can get is fine, turning down great because you think you can do more is stupid. Many women today are playing deal or no deal down to the last case even tho statistically they already won at above average even if he isn't chad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:44 PM
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great post totally agree i’m tired of people being so disconnected to understand attraction principles don’t come easy to everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:19 PM
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And this is less to do with people and more to do with society etc. If women or men to do the work and challenge their irrational thoughts towards attraction and traits they can be happy. Sadly most if not at least 50% of people can’t do the work and won’t be happy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 08:24 PM
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Trauma cycles if parents fuck up kids fuck up. Behind everyone single woman choosing shitty men is a mom who chose one:
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 08:20 PM
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i agree except part of the issue is women being delusional that they can do better than others
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:21 PM
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Trans issues has nothing to do with the democrat owrty
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 08:24 PM
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There are always signs. This narrative that people push is so damaging and Im sorry you have been subjected to it. Its the same thing as men fear mongering other men saying they grew apart….from their wives or fell out of love. When the facts are it wasn't random it happened due to negligence, lack of accountability, and communication etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:02 PM
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Please reread my post
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:57 PM
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Yes. Your mother failed you. Its a damn shame our generation dealt with so many shit parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:49 PM
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I believe there is always signs take care and learn there is always signs and if you don't see them ask others
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:30 AM
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Er no not healthy men at least unless he has a super good job he doesn't not want u afking at home
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:28 AM
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Environment if you have competent parents you avoid a lot of stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:08 AM
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That doesnt happen often and even if it did you set documentation in place to protect yourself from it. But yeah poorly choose men def do use their women as starter wifes, avoidable by neither party taking each other for granted and good vetting and communication just skills most people lack. Picking a good guy is very easy. It requires competence and deep understanding of the market which a lot of single women lack as they want to feel special not “win”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:01 AM
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Lmao. I'll let you read my response as the same applies. If you are that closed minded on subjects like these you got a lot of growing to do mentally
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 09:16 PM
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Okay a verified standard is a standard is a standard because breaking the standard means its clear that its a difference on a key scale. My standard of if you are going to be late text me and let me know. Breaking this clearly shows a lack of respect for the other person. Your standard of a guy should pay. Because if he doesn't it means he won’t in your relationship. Your standard is based off an unwritten rule that is not clearly understood by all parties involved that could be a lack of commun…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 09:15 PM
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Because its not a verified standard its a mind reading one
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:10 PM
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That's a strange jump. Perhaps he isn't wasteful and isn't going all out because he doesn't know you yet to waste resources on you lmao. I love when men/women project unsaid standards that don't hold up if everyone did it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:48 PM
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None of this stuff matters. If you want a happy healthy relationship be fit and she will be putty in your hands. Everything becomes cute and sexy when your fit. The icks become something she ignores easy. The reason for this is most women I have seen who are not in happy healthy relationships have not done the self work to push past toxic messaging or self work to realize what really matters, they let their feelings dictate life
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:46 PM
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yeah I would sounds dooe
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:03 PM
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Latter but by 25 I'm picking a guy who is on the fast track to making good money has good morals and is willing to get Iinto fitness. We both sign a contract for staying fit, regular therapy, and go 50/50 and live a happy life till he cheats and I take all his shit, or he doesn't and we stay happy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:02 PM
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Great post its the latter for most people. However it's the latter UNTILL they realize it should be the former. For women this tends to hit at around 30 since they see a huge drop off in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 12:58 PM
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That woman is a major example why men hesitate with women who are 30 and older. Her entire youtube page is shit show, she has vods on narcissistic parents, how she is happy to have no friends, how she is an introvert, and to top it off she is gorgeous. You can bet 1000% she has had great suitors and turned them down as she got older, been in toxic relationships, and is reached a point where the great guys don’t want the older woman who refused to get her shit together while younger. No offense b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 12:36 AM
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Honestly, I would be very hesitant honestly. She has really played around for quite some time. I would have a lot of questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 12:17 AM
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Personality is subjective if two people can be good honest strong friends of opposite sex they can be good couple long as they are hot/attracted to one another Personality is a joke
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:47 PM
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So you show cleavage and skin to impress other women and feel confident?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:46 PM
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Once again that's not a good response. People who talk like that with so much confidence that it couldn't happen to them are the ones easily swept up in it. You don't go play with fire just because its around you always and never tempts you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:45 PM
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Wdym
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:44 PM
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That is NOT the same thing as going out with your single girlfriends who are dancing with men and stuff while u go “yeah that's not peer pressure at all!”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:43 PM
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Its very relevant actually if you are a married man or woman who hangs with singles tget do more activities you may not want or need to be engaged in. And peer pressure is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:49 PM
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If your dancing with other women who cares but if your dancing with other men….
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:26 PM
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Yes for sure. Nothing wrong with that but does dancing pertain to dancing with her single girlfriends? Or dancing with random guys
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:25 PM
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Agreed. Women hit 30 and its clear they are on the down trend if they hit it single. Men not so much long as they are putting in the work
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:04 PM
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You don't need it sadly because as long as ur physically up to par people will be biased towards what you say and lean it towards it being good
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:02 PM
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Depends on context. Spamming sexy Instagram thirst trap photos would be frowned upon, and tank tops I doubt it but depends on where I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:55 PM
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Because the idea is that the behavior you engage in is a representation of your freedom+signaling you are single+maturity at a stage in life. When you get a legitimate partner that is when you start considering transitioning to the next stage. You can still do some of the stuff from before but not as often essentially in theory
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:42 PM
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Single mother one child that's not hard to come back from if you work on your mental
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:34 PM
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Yes that's how gender D works they quite literally feel uncomfortable in their own skin and they want to put on a different skin or kill themselves A person with real GD would be suicidal even in an island as the gender assigned at birth
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:28 PM
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Thats extreme and you know it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:25 PM
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Yes and No but the issue is the damage is done. Imagine how it feels for men to have their developmental years essentially traumatized by hearing backwards messages seeing women close to you be used broken and when you the guy who genuinely likes her for her to be rejected for reasons you COULD fix but no girl ever is honest about. Like this produces either Bruce Wayne type men who are traumatized don’t trust others but are genuinely kind OR you get most of the time men who snap and become Joker…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:21 PM
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That's fine I bet you didn't resd
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:14 PM
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Idk what your saying
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:13 PM
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The answer is one you didn't list. A merger of sorts women become more aware of chasing toxic men/men out of their league, start looking for the best they can reasonably do at their relaxed state. For example I know a woman who isn't super fit but she works out 3 days week is reasonablly healthy. That's her base. She needs to look for a man within reason if that not a chad who is ripped and works out 5-6 times a week. Anyway by women becoming more self aware of the cognitive biases and pitfalls …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:36 PM
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Agreed I wish people realized people who are trans have a difficult path to walk they don’t need others beating them down
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 11:13 AM
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If you hate it for him be honest did you leave him better off. This is another reason men end up filled with hate. Women who they trust the most reject them and lie to them, saying “just not a good fit” When all they really need is some tough love and some real advice. Go lift, high protein the more attractive you are the easier dating will be etc etc. But if I had to guess you rejected him said you don’t feel the spark and we got another lost man out there about to either go full incel or red p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:05 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 09:56 AM
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You want the truth this is it. Go to the gym 3-5 times a week for one year. Eat high protein. Your body will make it so humans expectations of your social skills go waaaay down because your body is a buffer. That’s it. That’s the most autistic answer I can give you. Your playing an rpg most can’t see and you can cheat and win in it because most refuse to admit its an rpg.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 09:56 AM
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Then with them all you have to do is appeal to their logic (feelings) and you win. The self aware autistic woman is drawn to good body and autistic guy. The unselfaware is drawn to same thing but doesn’t know why. Find a girl who engages in uncool not “feminine” things. If she is doing something that the fsm wouldn’t approve of unless majority of women are doing it you got a good shot at her being autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 12:35 PM
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find an autistic woman and all these problems vanish
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 12:23 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:13 PM
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I wish some men could realize that logic is powerful but the human emotion is part of what makes us human, sometimes you have to accept peoples differences and shortcomings etc and just make it work. But yeah your right I guess its a cognitive thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:50 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:27 PM
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What I find interesting I think is men can’t accept that some women would rather live in peace and just not know. If she didn't cheat the baby is yours why does she NEED to know you did it, and why can't she just be human and not be okay with the implication she did it? I have been falsely accused of sexual harassment as a young boy it was horrible and made me doubt my own reality, I would never want a woman to feel like that, if I do a test its for me alone and she doesn't need to know unless t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:08 PM
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Oh you got plenty of time you are straight chilling. I finish my masters next year at early 30s you are fine honestly. The black thing is because as black people we have a cultural background and experience that other races are not subject too. And I understand that as certain hairstyles looks etc do not work for some women aka they don't approve of them from me so I need to look a certain way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:29 PM
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As a black man I just wanna say the fact your honest about the stuff crossed out is proof you bring something to table self awareness and a desire to work on yourself How old are you if you don't mind me asking, and dw I'm not hitting on you I'm obsessed with another girl atm but I just feel maybe self disclosing myself might make u feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:09 PM
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Well said Misty
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 05:53 PM
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what the guy above said was right women don’t want to be treated like friends tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 02:30 PM
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I think this goes back to men being lied to that best friends doesn’t lead to relationships Men just wanna be loved but learn friends isn’t that. Tbh tho it is it’s just men are lied to why it doesn’t work when in fact it works really fucking well So men place no value on friendship cause it never worked anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 02:27 PM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:53 PM
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no you need SA for that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:36 PM
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personality plus SA
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:36 PM
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Are you trolling? That is not what gaslighting is in this context. I’m pushing back against you saying autistic men always end up with their wife playing mommy and all the other roles unwillingly not your experience the fact you accuse me of gaslighting you tho is a bit of a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 08:43 PM
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Because tact is a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:21 PM
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LMAOOOO this shit had me rolling
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:17 PM
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Bruh two of the goat anime’s and you didn’t like them that’s kinda wild, I bet you didn’t watch many episodes, why the hell did she become your ex she sounds like a keeper don’t tell me u fumbled the bag
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:14 PM
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jesus ur ex likes anime and you said no? thats all i need to hear def not a good fit, you had the keys to the castle my man
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:54 PM
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It’s a guide both sexes can follow as a man it would make things much easier why would i care
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:49 PM
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Yeah and once again the issue ur ignoring is autistic people DO have empathy also your source is from 2019 mine is from 2022 find something more relevant please. And I bet if i go look at that studies limitations it’s based on oh fucking boy. m a woman married to an undiagnosed autistic man. In my experience, he cannot either feel or express empathy when I am sad, worried, or even enjoying myself. His reactions are purely analytical: if I’m sad, he’ll list all the reasons I shouldn’t be (or this…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:30 PM
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That’s not true at all, and PLENTY of women do those things for men in general. I personally hate clothes shopping and figuring out what to wear in terms of very well picked out outfits if my future wife wants me to dress nice i’ll give her a card a limit and tell her to go nuts. That’s the closest thing i think to mommy mode for me. AND again TONS of men have their wife go into full mommy mode cook clean pick up their shit etc that’s not an autistic only problem that’s a shit man problem but su…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:18 PM
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Well D day is febuary 1st. So assuming that day goes exactly how I plan Id say 1 year of dating and then prob proposal after that so prob maybe sometime in 2026 wedding
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:50 PM
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Chemistry includes phyisical attraction and emotional, I said this already. But you said friendzone which means you already met the emotional aspect of being great to be around. You are emotionally fulfilling if you are in the friendzone otherwise you wouldn't be such a close friend. I have no increase in my confidence, I told her from day one the plan what I was doing, that I fully think I'm right in my assessment of how she views me and other men. And no other women are not in my sphere doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:47 PM
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I'm not dating her I'm not at the level I need to be yet, I've got 6 more months of training before I physically hit the totality standard I need. And we are not talking about personality. If you are friendzoned by someone and they actively enjoy hanging out with you, personality is not the problem contrary to the misinformation women push.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:45 PM
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Okay what your not being transparent about is how value plays into this. The reason something or someone loses or gains attraction is they possess qualities you VALUE. Okay so when you tell men "I don't feel the spark" that doesn't do anything they just roll the dice again. When men understand it not as a produce of FATE but of one that they have agency over and can change with hard work...THEN you have something you can work with. ONCE again spark/chemistry are BUZZ words that stand for "what I…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:37 PM
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Because being treated like a brother is because of a few reasons. Lack of sexual attraction. Sexual attraction comes down to physical and emotional. Assuming she isn't toxic and enjoys your company the emotional is COVERED. So that leaves physical. Why is she not attracted physically? Because she feels in her heart she can do better physically hence why you are not attractive to her. Emotionally and Personality wise you wouldn't be BEST FRIENDS if you didn't have that. I'm literally doing this e…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:29 PM
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Did you even bother reading my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:23 PM
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i agree with this, for all it’s worth every “random divorce “ i see is never random
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:57 PM
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Chemistry and spark isn’t real it’s just do you find he is valuable market wise and would other women want him
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:53 PM
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If a person man or woman HF cannot have empathy then that’s not an autistic thing that’s a them problem. Your experience sounds horrible but quite frankly you are not really describing how this is any different from men wanting to fix issues. For the sake of your statement please give me a scenario in which these ND men displayed no empathy. I will say this if they truly don’t feel it towards a woman they “love” that’s an issue in itself. Also you have been with two autistic men, both who were m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:51 PM
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It’s more that people judge others by their own limitations which to be fair most people are limited as fuck so finding someone willing to go the distance even with direction is low
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:21 PM
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Because I am convinced that women have equated autistic men to low functioning stubborn non self reflective hard stuck autistic men. Let me say it this way. The autistic bad experience is from the point you describe, the neurotypical bad experience can be the same thing but he just can do social stuff well while being a terrible partner long term, no self reflection no ability to clean after himself etc TLDR i think women are saying all autistic men are bad without realizing autistic men CAN be …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:01 PM
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High functioning autistic men have empathy you can cherry pick sources if you like but yes they have empathy. Murders having forms of disorders including autism does not mean autism = no empathy Faking normal social behavior? What an ableist comment. A group of autistic men and women’s behavior socially is vastly different from neurotypical they are not faking anything if anything the autistic men and women of this world have to cater to YOU they have to fake it for you. And one more the same qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:57 PM
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Autistic men are the best to date long term, and women are raised with long term values. Social skills only matter in a short term context of impressing other neurotypicals they are not what makes or breaks home life and autistic men can mask easily for short term they have empathy so idk what that take is what’s most interesting to me is people don’t realize the way most neurotypicals value social status etc earlier in life falls off the older you get so it’s not even a long term quality with s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:12 PM
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Your calling autistic men failure from the start is the issue what’s more humorous to me tho is NT thing autistic men are an issue when in fact they can be the best men to date as there are zero mind games and tons of communication
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:57 PM
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Imagine blaming autistic men lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:54 PM
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Goku follows his passion and is not sex focused at all, she chases him and is obsessed with him because he leads his own life vegeta is just inherently toxic from start but gets better somehow krilloan literally is willing to risk the entire universe because he stands on a value that that woman isn’t so bad and deserves to have a chance to live it’s pretty wild
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:11 PM
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lmaooooooo tbf those stories are as red/purple as u can get
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:11 PM
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Not true. EVERYONE has to think about this one day. But by thinking about it now you’re ahead of the curve. #The reason men and women let themselves go during a relationship is they don’t know they never had to think about it. As a man exploiting this current dating system i’ll give you the cheat code. https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sjyp6p5C4MYfXVvx0HSpd?si=W_uygpF9S_WaFUDJ-zpnzA&t=7 That’s it. This girl i’m obsessed with proving that her intial take of me is bullshit i’m living it. 6 months …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:09 PM
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if a woman jumps ship easy she is fucking stupid fuck do u care it means she is bad at life and u dodged a bullet she’s probably gonna continue to fuck up when it comes to dating it’s not ur problem people gotta stop taking baddies problems personally
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:03 PM
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u picked a shit woman idk how u wanna blame all that other stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:59 PM
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Incels are not even on your radar If you are a single woman your main issue is ignoring chad usually And that’s easy once you do some deep diving and reflecting
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:57 PM
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I think you are overthinking this. Some women who are SM are not delusional in that way. They KNOW getting another good man to sign on board is very lucky. They also “value” you for that. If you tack on being attractive you might be chillin
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:56 PM
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The toxicity in terms of toxic mindsets. Example dating apps are toxic for most women and make them over inflate themselves, toxic friends or social media make them think they are missing etc, toxic mindsets on how a secure relationship should make them feel
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:55 PM
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Okay that’s just not true. Women do it all the time when they remove the toxicity that is bringing them down it takes critical thinking and work something many people can’t do
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:44 PM
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woah pal little far what ur describing is a toxic woman not ALL single mothers act like this i’m currently persujng one myself and i know she wouldn’t act like this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:43 PM
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I'm saying framing it as men saying drop your standards is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:33 PM
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If you get a horrible scar, or something happens that makes you uglier your self acknowledged value might lower People in dating are trying to get the BEST they can. That's why attraction isn't real its based on making people feel like they got something valuable. I'm literally in the midst of proving my theory correct right now as we speak. The point is women think of it as lowering their standards, but in truth its asking realistically in this market what is my value and what am I REALLY worth…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:31 PM
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If she pulls that u just walk lok
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:14 PM
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False attraction is value related
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:09 PM
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true
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:21 PM
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Speak for yourselves i fucking love ALL those things and pray my future wife dabbles in it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 01:36 PM
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agreed i don’t support it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:25 AM
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Eh that’s fair i can agree with that for HS
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:25 AM
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Ehhhhh you don’t get with someone expecting them to change CORE VALUES. A cheater or lier or maturalistic person is someone you don’t worry about. BUT someone who hasn’t maximized their potential in VALUE but is in progress is different. a guy in grad school to be a lawyer with good grades should be viewed with some of the same attraction as a lawyer not saved till the end and he reaches final goal
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 01:06 AM
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not at all potential is a quality that exists and very important in dating market
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:59 AM
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???????? that’s one of the exceptions?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 11:09 PM
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If women in our life tells us we are fine just the way we are and we trust them that’s how it goes the women are wonderful effect is real there is a reason men end up bitter at red pill if every woman you trusted and were into said ur fine just not their type you wouldn’t think you weren’t fine u would think you can’t do anything it’s not about being rational it’s about TRUSTING the women in our lives to be honest with us it also plays into why men end up using women and dehumanizing them becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 07:25 PM
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true
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 07:11 PM
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oh yeah no it’s stupid hence why i quote purdue anyone woman who does this shit is instant red flag and turn off for me because it means she is very emotionally led and in her feelings i usually run away
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:03 PM
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You miss an opportunity with a woman who wants you to “pursue her”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:00 PM
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If a man hears a woman say he’s fine and the right girl will come along instead of saying you need to lose weight you are not hot enough, what do you think the man will believe? This is why men get mad at women, if you just told men the problem they would actually go fix it, but instead women want to straight up lie to men for ages and think they are not contributing to the problem There is no test when men are not given a fair chance at it, i believe GOOD fathers fix this problem but single mot…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:42 PM
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The ocular pat down is an interesting thing. I’m glad you mentioned that because a lot of women fail it as well. What is more interesting though is the fact that women móreso seem obsessed with denying it’s existence as if the admitting it and letting others know it exists is a threat to them if everyone was aware of it as women tend to be i think i could agree it’s a test but it’s not a test when u don’t know it exists it’s a bad faith test as for the second part no, no one wants to be a fixer …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:24 PM
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then u don’t pay attention to the nuances of life i guess because most people are insanely predictable show me 10 couples at random and ill show u the patterns and trends
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:13 PM
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yes they are soooooo much fun until years later the couple is in a therapists office trying to figure out how to “communicate” years later
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:09 PM
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i can hack it but i like the idea of women putting a man to the test instead of judging them most men will fail still as i deeply believe most r shitters but the idea of finding a few diamonds before they become full blown resentful chads is appealing who seek to harm women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:08 PM
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All hot single men are yes bad. This is how it works. You don’t find a hot single man unless he recently became hot, left a toxic relationship and has done the work to figure out why he got in it, or he is a player, or he just moved to a new location idk how this is new to you, this is just how markets work good products get snatched off shelf if u see something that looks good that is undiscovered either it JUST came out OR most people have realized it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:06 PM
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i think the games that neurotypicals play and do to each other for the sake of fun and excitement burn away as they get older and more mature etc so i just skip that step that i find boring say what u mean and let’s move on
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:04 PM
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Here is the best answer to most women problems or rather problems men have with women set the standard tell them what you won’t deal with and then play ball either she matches or you move on i’m autistic so i tell women straight up i don’t enjoy mind games tell me directly what u want or ur risking not getting it some agree some get upset and those i just move on from if they want chad instead of me that’s fine i know im better long term idc
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:58 PM
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yeh most people not good at that skill it requires high critical thinking tbf and u have to realize that if u do have potential you are the minority not majority most people do not have potential so when they judge u it’s usually a reflection of how they see themselves and then how they project and perceive it to be the same for others
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:50 PM
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yeah sheep mentality if a woman can’t notice a man in progress that’s her L
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:08 PM
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yep i know it’s why im trying to give her a shot with myself but will she take it? dunno ill find out in february but by then i believe i will be the best option she will have/ever have in terms of value and commitment if she rejects me because she thinks she can do better she is doomed and ima go be chad for a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:45 PM
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i hope not they r trash imo for not noticing his potential
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:43 PM
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you are correct some people need to be protected from themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:41 PM
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Makes logical sense to me this is how i intend to raise my future daughter to view dating anyway because va voom men are usually toxic or power crazy or married chances of you stumbling on some self made high value man is random as fuck unless he just Recently got there within last 6 months to a year otherwise he’s a player
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:40 PM
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I think this is a great solution tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:37 PM
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yep my best friend is like this sadly she is about to turn 30 still single and ugh but i got hopes between 30-30.5 she will turn it around if not tho she’s lost i guess
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:32 PM
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basically this if a woman is single for too long it’s her own design if she isn’t fat
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:36 PM
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cap
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 08:22 PM
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I mean it’s not even a shocker or a big deal most women have the same mindset towards single dads lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:36 PM
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this does happen we just don’t say it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:06 PM
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lol humanity is so doomed no wonder many couples are unhappy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:49 PM
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Well fucking said
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:24 PM
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as a man who is in training to be a therapist and also has his own therapist i can say you are pretty much spot on the truth of most of men’s issues is the same of women just a lack of accountability and horrible child raising done to them as a child causing rippling effects on their adulthood the DIFFERENCE between men and women is due to the nature of dating women can avoid dealing with issues due to this early prior to 30/kids and men cannot as they feel the effects from like 18+ lots of men …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:20 PM
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yeah most SM imo come from people who make really stupid fucking decisions thinking a child will fix a person or make a man want to be better
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:57 PM
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yeah it’s crazy hypocritical they are not willing to date single dads LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:54 PM
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u must be a high value one then who knows how to date with a child and also have good morals it’s not common but it does happen however age etc play into it not sure how old u are
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:53 PM
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bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:36 PM
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Lmao and this is why men are unattractive. Who would want to raise kids with such a defeatsst mindset? My gosh if half of the men watched anime and really internalized some of that strong mindset stuff you would do a lot better
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:54 PM
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Not only do i not care i welcome it. I’m doing it now and it feels amazing to know it was never my personality or type or spark bullshit it was never fate dealing me a bad hand and me feeling powerless it was literally i was unfit—-something i could fix in 6 months to a year 7 months later i’m down to 17% bodyfat and almost 30 lbs less and the woman who told me i never had a shot is starting to do very very odd things towards me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:40 PM
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If i saw his face 9/10 he’s fat are you projecting? are u fat also no flame just asking
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:32 PM
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That’s not what i mean at all. If you can’t tell someone the hard stuff you will never have a happy relationship because you will expect the hard stuff to self work itself out. If you can’t tell him why he is unattractive you are not a real friend first off and second your not able to carry the trait needed for a LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:32 PM
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His weight impacts his face. Women don’t like dad boss i’m not even getting into this delusional take again. If he got fit his facial structure can change it happens all the time to women and men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:30 PM
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The scavenger hunt isn’t real. Be fit Be financially secure Have a career Don’t be toxic Know how to communicate Have passion Be decent dresser Obviously have car and house if you can do that you already appeal to 80% of women cause most men can’t do that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:29 PM
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then you are doomed to failure/bad relationships probably and that’s me being blunt cause we are online if u can’t tell a friend why he’s unattractive or keep it real with him and push him in some directions ur not gonna be able to have real convos with a long term partner where u call them on their shit u want mind reading which is a trap MANY women fall into and why i only date autistic women thankfully to avoid that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:27 PM
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yes this is why a lot of marriages fail also women do not learn how to keep it real with men if you want a strong marriage start it out by saying if you or i get obese we are going to get divorced—-that sets a tone for the truthfulness that will exist in said relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:23 PM
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short answer yes long answer it’s because she didn’t think he COULD change when women say ur not attractive but won’t tell u why it’s not the fear of “if he changes and i still don’t like him omg” it’s the feeling that he won’t change if you actually change it’s ACTUALLY worth more than starting out that way no human being has the ego small enough to watch someone self improve to something they like for them only to watch another woman walk away with it that’s just basic psychology people claim …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:20 PM
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yep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:18 PM
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biiingo
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:17 PM
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which is why women don’t raise strong men usually but that’s another issue for another day sometimes hearing “you are dog shit and need to fix your shit” is what it takes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:16 PM
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agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:15 PM
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No. DO tell the man because then he can do one or two things accept it or fucking improve. Walter bonds wanted to play for the nba and the coach said he couldn’t. The coach said you can’t jump you can’t shoot from x spot etc He spent all summer fixing those things came back and the coach told him yeah you can make it. Just because SOME people are weak and can’t handle the truth doesn’t mean you get to decide for them OP. I have the same issue with my friend irl atm, and guess what I just said fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:13 PM
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this is actually just a human failure—-if the wife said i’ll be happy if you get fit many men would do it it’s just people lying to each others
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:03 PM
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People have fluidity. The issue is some more than another. I’ll give you example i just went clothes shopping with my female friend i hope to be attractive to if i level up. I can’t clothes shop for shit but I gave her money and she picked me out a few outfits. So with her influence she can dress me how she wants and i don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 05:08 PM
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such a horrible take it’s such a projection
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 12:34 PM
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the point is women won’t give a man the chance to become that by laying the cards out
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 12:34 PM
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okay let’s try this again he’s effeminate (personality) but fat he’s ur type he just needs to slim down is my point
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:29 AM
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Because people have different ideas about what is authentic. I don’t like getting hair cuts. But if my future wife was extremely turned on by them i’m indifferent and would glaaaady do it. Different people are indifferent towards changes people have a weird view of people being static. I think majority are but i think people too easily discredit those who are not. People should let the person decide if they are static on the variable of attraction not decide for them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 11:01 PM
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That’s def not it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:49 PM
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You can change traits and develop traits
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:48 PM
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this post is 100% true it’s not shame it’s reality people just don’t like living in reality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:55 PM
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Because men are not attracted to status some women are just not objectively attractive as others women like status and it boosts men up
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:50 PM
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yes Nts live some interesting and sometimes coinflipy type lifes it’s why when they get divorced they say “we grew apart” and believe it ur autistic be happy it means u see people’s bullshit for what it is i can’t say i need to get fit so i’ll be attractive to this woman it makes people cringe i have to say i’m getting fit fire ME and idc what the result is cause i’m strong and confident!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:55 PM
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that’s NOT HOW DIVORCE works lmao that’s some stupid myth men tell each other if a woman “wins” divorce it’s because the man doesn’t want to get dragged for his shit in court most divorces end in both parties either doing MUD and getting nothing because it all goes to lawyers or one spouse rolling over because they cheated etc women do not EASILY choose divorce that’s some dumb low braindead speak that men preach because they are too stupid to see the truth behind it divorces is NOT simple
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:25 AM
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if a woman has an incentive to divorce u chose wrong divorce is horrible and anyone who says it’s worth it or downplaying it is lying to you, it’s the death of your own existence etc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:12 AM
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yes but when you truly love and value someone that doesn’t happen is the point, that stuff builds up over time people don’t just “wake up” and say they are unhappy that’s just the lies people tell themselves idk why but it’s a neurotypical thing for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:05 AM
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no they got married because it felt right but on paper if u asked others prob or a marriage counselor they would say this is not the best idea people go into marriage thinking it’s a solid deal only to realize it never was from the start due to the foundation of their relationship and how it functioned people who are extremely happy with their relationship just see marriage as a title nothing truly changes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:58 AM
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Your chances of divorce go down if you get married based on using logic and feelings not just one or the other like most people
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:25 PM
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Imagine calling men pussified lol that’s such an insult
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 12:45 PM
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Yeh u def should communicate that with the men but eh to each is own
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 12:35 PM
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bond is established it isn’t easily broken
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:47 AM
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Don’t get fat either of you, communicate, and never take each other for granted
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:19 PM
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basically this but it’s a personal loss it’s not your problem
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:46 AM
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i read that all parents make or break their kids early on
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 11:07 PM
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what is usp
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:24 AM
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You have a brain OP congrats your one of the few don’t really get debate premis thi
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 07:09 PM
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She CAN make herself higher value it’s not impossible most don’t tho, so usually it’s him settling or he really likes her in general
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 07:08 PM
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single mothers get hate as i said before because they not only rejected the good men as if they were not good enough but chose worse men so men have hate at them for that i have already said this
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:18 PM
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that’s not how that works the process if about breaking down WHY you are attracted to this person if you literally cannot write down a few paragraphs of qualities and traits u like about someone that means they mean nothing and can be replaced by the next person easily
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:13 PM
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single mothers share a lot of the same traits if u take a single mother and place them next to a woman who has had tons of sex but never gotten pregnant u can tell the difference one knows A+B=C the other feels like it might be diff
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:12 PM
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okay ur def trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:10 PM
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are u trolling first you said my post was narcissistic and bad then i explained it’s how neurodiverse people see the world and u are now saying u don’t know what i’m talking about where did i lose you if ur a childless woman your first choice is not going to be a single father over a man you can build a family with if that’s the case then that brings that man down a peg and he must make up for it it’s very simple
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:10 PM
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sexuality is different than just thoughts it’s in a brain chemistry level not thoughts
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:08 PM
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it’s the burden of being neurodiverse we see the world by input output and patterns you NT see it as feelings etc if i see single mothers settle constantly after not doing it then so be it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:05 PM
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please go look up what cbt is
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:03 PM
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it makes sense, if a “good man” actually dates a single mother she is lucky, especially if he’s moderately attractive the sad truth about SM is in order for a man to choose them over other women it means she needs to have “more” The issue is most SM after childbirth use the excuse of childbirth to not get “tight and right” So this means physically they can’t appeal to the higher tier men so they must eventually settle or stay perma single THEN they need to find a man who actually has good father…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:34 PM
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men take it personal instead of mentally changing the thought. single mothers are repulsive because of the thought “she chose a shitter over a good guy like me that never would have done that she is sub human trash who is a moron” in fact it should be “she chose a shitter over me, she didn’t have a good head on her shoulders to begin with i dodged a bullet and honestly shouldn’t take it personal someone with that low level thinking did that…maybe she grew from it and will get it together now but…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:28 PM
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fuck no why would i date below i’m 6+ months consistent fit i’m not taking a woman who can’t match my energy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 10:19 PM
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because it’s not a problem limited to ND. if you can say love me at any weight or you don’t deserve me at my best you are a fucking moron and that’s almost 80% of the world saying that these days
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:24 PM
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If you get fit looks can change and do impact this zzzz so many people think looks can’t change crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:21 PM
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cbt says hi thoughts influence feelings change the way you think change the way you feel aka your feelings are not random they are based on actual tangible thoughts u think a guy is attractive for reasons and then u feel it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:15 PM
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yeah it’s crazy but if u say this out loud people get but hurt and say “find someone who loves u for any weight” bruh idc about that if i’m trolling and let myself go i should have that have repercussions in my relationship but that street goes two ways that’s all
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:04 PM
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this is not true at all, but this is how many men end up in unhappy situations women can want a man to have responsibility but at the same time that comes at a cost which is she must hold an ammount as well, otherwise u can just replace her
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:01 PM
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This is sad but true. I’m not gonna nit pick here but stay thin life is easier
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:59 PM
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all of this is just not true women want good men but don’t get how to find or how they are made and men are just lost with no guidance
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:57 PM
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huh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:56 PM
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that’s not true
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:55 PM
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Go check out dating over 30 lmfaoooo Post 30 men inherently know something went wrong with the girl if she couldn’t lock down a guy before hand either she has a kid, or kept dating toxic men, is toxic etc either way at that point she either will settle for a DBR or self improve like crazy to where she can get a good guy which would require mass self awareness that most people don’t have
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:57 PM
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yah with a man u will have a DBR with in a few years it totally is
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:50 PM
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Of men who want to FUCK
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:49 PM
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Because those make it seem like unfixable problems. Let me give you a real life example that should sum this up. My grandfather helped me pick out one of my first cars, he is getting sick now. If he….anyway this car I want till I die one day. If the engine explodes or it gets in a wreck it’s a 2009, the mechanic will say. “It’s totaled get a new one” Some people think this means it can’t be fixed but it’s saying the work and money to get it fixed would best be spent on something new. Because I l…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:49 PM
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Well your wrong, she gets no commitment at this age and most men start avoiding her but think what u want
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:41 PM
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Uhh personally as a man we want you to say the truth. I can’t fix the type, i can’t fix my personality. All those answers you gave are gaslighting basically. Now if you tell me i’m not muscular and need to get to 14% bodyfat??? Okay we can work with that. I can tangibly get to that goal, THATS why just tell me the truth and let me work, don’t have 20+ women saying “not my type” I have a long time friend who told me the same bs, and 6 months later i’m much fitter and she is much much nicer to me,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:37 PM
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mlm?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 12:11 PM
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I have to agree with this to a degree
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:15 AM
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This. Improve yourself and they look stupid as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 08:55 AM
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Follow the checklist of self improvement one of those things is holding him back. For me it was fitness
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 08:54 AM
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u would have gone to therapy if he was not worth loosing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 08:44 AM
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if he was a catch u would have risked it for him or done the work to try it idk why this concept is hard he wasn’t worth the effort
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:50 AM
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for women the wall is 30 but it can be pushed back if they are fit childless etc if they have a kid tho? and or not fit yeah it’s the wall 100% same for men tho tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:38 AM
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interest is bs anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:33 AM
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it’s never a one off
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:27 AM
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Its a human thing, some people truly can't mentally access those types of things and not feel bad People would like to believe they want to be loved no matter what weight they are but when faced with ideology that they can't do the same for others…..its hard for some reason idk its just a human thing lot of people have very “self centered/focused” on what they feel need etc
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:20 PM
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Not good enough to date, there are qualities they don't have that makes them a catch
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:00 PM
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If u don't like him its because he isn't good enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 07:53 PM
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The problem is people think people can't become attractive and write them off mentally it shows a lack of depth or understanding If someone is your reaaaaly close friend and you are not feeling it you need to be honest about why, perhaps they would correct it to meet your needs It bugs me people feel like that's not worth it One girl I know said she would be attracted if I had better clothes idc about clothes but if we dated I would give her money to make me a ken doll she was shocked I was so o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:26 PM
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The issue is you can improve or change things if you knew what they were, if women told me they will only date me if I had muscles I would have built them years ago that's motivation enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:24 PM
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U don't want sex because u find the man sub tier
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:31 PM
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Its because the rejection means they are not good enough as a person for them and that is what hurts the most
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:19 PM
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No the difference is being valued as a partner and being seen as attractive enough to not want to be with someone else who u think might be better one day
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:17 PM
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Its more your rejection meant he was not good enough in your eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:15 PM
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And they don’t like him because he is looked as not good enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:13 PM
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That's just not how real life works. Women say this because they need an out when it happens. If a glow up or significant attraction based physical or status changes women need to be able to say “he is a new person” The issue is women don't get how common or easy this is so they give statements like never etc
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:53 PM
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For the record this alsos means the man is not good enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:47 PM
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yeh that’s usually just a half lie people say imo just like we grew apart
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:58 AM
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The idea comes from the nice guy feels if the woman chose him back then he would have proved he was better by improving over time. What these men fail to realize it’s it just not realistic, for everyone who says they have potential and can improve there are 99 people who said the same thing and never did it. I agree women need to be better at recognizing it in action but that’s a parents failure tbh for not pushing back against society. If a woman was fed hoe math lessons growing up as simple tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 03:57 AM
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do you just hate men like i can’t figure out your deal
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 10:48 AM
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no laying with shit men causes this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 04:01 PM
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that’s how the friendzone works
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:14 PM
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my existence is fine but women inspire me just as i inspire myself
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:14 PM
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input output is how people work psychology is a thing because people are creatures of habit subliminal messaging is a thing also it’s a game
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:13 PM
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throwing out moral standards for the hot guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:12 PM
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Because you don’t wanna think of it like one but it basically is if you write down how it functions off of input output
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 01:26 PM
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the delusional behavior that leads to single moms
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:37 PM
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excellent answer
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:36 PM
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they are not uninteresting they are not hot
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:25 PM
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life is a video game that’s how it all works in the end play to win or don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:06 PM
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perfect comment
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:04 PM
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it is that’s the only differ
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:58 AM
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Because women go through this cycle and don’t learn till they become single moms
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:54 AM
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I don’t think that’s true I’m inspired because of her and that’s my fire but even if I can’t get her i’m still inspired because i know some woman will value my hard work i’ve put in on myself to be top tier
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:39 AM
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it’s okay to find a woman who inspires you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:35 AM
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Ehhh this isn’t quite true. Truthfully that’s low mental sheep thinking. You don’t want people like that in your life ANYWAY lol. The truth is a man needs to find a woman that he wants to be his best FOR. And pushes himself to his max for. Women want to be that woman, and yes when men get options they can abuse that but it doesn’t mean they have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:19 PM
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Have the qualities of a fictional hero u look up to. Be fit. Be financially stable. Genuinely care about others close to you. Care about making the world, and your kids life’s better for them after you pass in the actions you take and do. Bet your partner well and have respect for them and expect the same. Be willing to have moments of honest brutal truth with your family/kids. Pretty much it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:34 PM
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Yes it’s real but people don’t like when humans can be broken down to patterns or science it feels “vapid of emotion”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:02 PM
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Do you need to talk m
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:13 AM
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great post sheila take the award
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:07 PM
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while your at it please give the autists back all the great inventions we have given u NTs because we can think outside the box
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:04 PM
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agreed op seems very odd
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:04 PM
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not really what IS correlated is autistic kids learn and function differently on average, and currently most social systems are built for NT who just “get it” if u have an experienced autistic person who is well adjusted teach younger crowd it’s much easier
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:00 PM
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I see. Maybe i’m one of the individuals who doesn’t fall into that category. Second question, what are your views towards body positivity and people like lizzo?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:56 PM
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No shame because I’ve seen your results and they are great, but do you think for some people it’s a strength of will/being raised a certain way to view food? I could have done it but instead i became obsessed with a goal and have been just working out like crazy most days
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:38 PM
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Lol but seriously this take is an excuse for not trying. If you IMPROVE you will see results if you cannot accept that then don’t bother, and stay stagnant it’s people who make posts like this who never try
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:28 PM
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If every man tried and maxed out you would be correct but 80% of more don’t understand that hard work can be a determining factor when others won’t do it lmao. You can have all the genetic potential but if you leave it at that while the guy with less than you maximize his into fruition you still come out on top Women want a man who can do that i’m doing it now and if i’m correct the end of this year will prove my theory
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:06 AM
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Okay we arw assuming both the man and woman are not total morons or shitters. Now will a hvm accept anything less than the best from his partner? No because if she slacks he can find another She will rise to him or fall
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:13 PM
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biiiiingo you find strong feminist women and then boom look at the man she dates typically it’s all u need to know
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:37 AM
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Women improve after men improve. That’s how it goes. A man is invisible improves and then women want him, to get him THEY have to improve it’s the cycle
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:34 AM
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i think they are dying tbh and won’t be a thing in 10 years
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:21 AM
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i think we are getting close to that point tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:20 AM
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LMAO this is a good one. And yes i’m picking tree lmfaoooo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:12 PM
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I highly agree with this post. I’m not alpha and never will be, the idea of being domineering over others grossed me out. I am however very focused on my goals and passions while also being soft when warranted. I think more autistic men and women would do better if they stayed in their own lane tbh. And this isn’t hate against NT but it’s really difficult when communication is a key part of relationships if you and your partner have two different styles. To an NT it can be seen as over communica…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:37 PM
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then you move on if it doesn’t lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:54 AM
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Biiiingo As I get more attractive I become more liked
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 07:09 PM
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Yh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:46 PM
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Oh boy. Here goes this one. Most women wanna date up. Also men scale visually weird. I'm a 6 atm. When I get to 14% body fat ill be a 6.5 when I put muscle on that I'll be a 7/-8. Currently most women would find me invisible tbh. So am I unattractive? No but do I stand out not at all, by end of this year I will tho I'm currently 17% Last year in November I was almost 30
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:58 PM
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And what u refuse to admit is the latter stuff you mentioned is in a feedback loop with BEING visually attractive lmfao. If your visually attractive something as simple as cutting the yard can be seen as masculine because its visually attractive. The latter skills are insanely basic if u have the feedback loop of being VISUALLY attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:48 PM
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No that being said if weight is an issue make it known from get go. Have a real honest conversation about weight gain and how it affects sexual attraction etc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:45 PM
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all of these things do not matter because they literally are based off looks i’ve run this experiment irl so many times i have a friend who tells horrible jokes borderline offensive who is considered funny by women someone else says then who isn’t as attractive and it’s offensive once again and this goes especially for women, you do not have a camera on you to watch your behavior so being aware of these two concepts is uncomfortable because you usually learn the truth one is the halo effect(we n…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:40 PM
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It’s just a random lie and a stupid one humans tell
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:25 PM
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he doesn’t turn her pussy off that’s not how that works which is what i said if he is handsome she will make it braindead easy he would have to be completely disrespectful to her emotions, an asshole to fumble it if he is truly attractive and follows the 3 laws of dating anyone vet well don’t take them for granted communication
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:25 PM
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that’s not a cringy weirdo that’s a asshole don’t do that basic human psychology issue of in group vs out group mindset what ur doing at this very minute is trying to claim that the “asshole” must be cringe and our group no he’s just an asshole + unnatractive if he was kind but un he would be friendzoned if he was good looking but attractive he would be the horrible guy ur dating but can’t stop fucking as he mistreats you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:23 PM
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Looks quite LITERALLY give you interpersonal POWER. Because everything is enhanced. Words can’t do that or rizz not as easily or consistently that look other women get when they look at her man ain’t there from rizz it’s there when he LOOKS good female arousal is a lie it’s mostly looks based yes u can rizz but eventually what matters is looks and do you two actually have decent shared interests and connection rizz falls off
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:21 PM
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That’s not how psychology works. I’ll give a example. If you have watched himym. Barney develops a crazy plan to woo a girl who has rejected him. On the surface this is cringe cause bro just find a new girl! But deeper down and this is important if it SUCCEEDS it’s now an insane accomplishment and romantic as fuck. Human beings perceive others in success and failure. David goggins is cringe for working out so much because bro “it’s not that serious” Until he achieves greatness and people go from…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:18 PM
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That’s called being stupid. And no a cringy weirdo is different from a guy who does normal non attractive things sometimes but isn’t overall attractive , people get those two mixed up
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:13 PM
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OP in your fantasy world maybe. But go take a look at reddit threads from people who lost weight or got fit. MANY people complain that the people around them say “your personality” got better etc when they are exactly the same way. It’s a concept people are not cognitively aware of. Social skills do not truly matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:12 PM
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getting the girl doesn’t mean shit if deep down she acts like he’s lucky to be with her
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:10 PM
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it does all the time but the halo effect makes them seem fine
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:09 PM
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this is exactly what happens i know two women currently who act like this, and it’s not a woman problem it’s people who don’t want to do the work and self reflect on their base choices and how there is a pattern there
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:06 PM
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gonna call cap on this one
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:04 PM
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social skills are braindead easy if you can hang out with 2 guys and chat u got em
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:03 PM
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yeh it’s craaazy i’m literally doing an experiment irl atm with a girl who claimed we didn’t have a spark and proving her wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:02 PM
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Once again it’s not that deep. None of what you listed is hard in practice and that’s why MANY people get friendzoned or end up with being BEST FRIENDS with women. If your best friends with a woman or have accomplished this you got enough skills to date her your just missing looks. For Autistic men and women they don’t possess the natural skill of raising that social barrier to be attractive at various times they need the looks component and that’s okay. Cause the looks component is vastly bette…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:00 PM
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Unless your fit none of this applies. When you are not fit you are severely under leveled in a game sense so you never had a chance to see if your skills could kill the boss aka attract her
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:07 AM
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Yes this is almost always true and it’s usually just looks because being fit is not hard it’s just a hard thing for most people to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:18 PM
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This ONLY happens if billy is a shitter or got with a person who is toxic. If billy self improves his mind, body and becomes a man other women look at and desire his wife does not DB him and he does not end up divorced. Billy tends to think I love “her” that should be enough without understanding if you TRULY love her you would improve yourself to give her the best you could inside and out I've been training 6 months straight to get fit and lose weight and put on muscle to be in the best physica…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:23 PM
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This is my only issue tbh. If the “beta” gets his life together and becomes a prize other women would want he avoids this most betas are shitters tho tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:10 PM
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The only comment that makes some fucking sense. This has nothing to do with aspbergers and more to do with her staying with a total shit show of a man
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:29 PM
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thissss
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:34 AM
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good for you, it’s nice to see some healthy people what op describe is a cycle of toxicity that exists
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:34 AM
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That's not irrational to look for red flags that's called being smart. You should always be aware and looking for reasons. This person is single prior to you for one of the following. Toxic, can't choose healthy partners, recently overcame one of the previous and is now looking for a good partner OR someone died. That's pretty much it especially past 25 I would say for women and 28 for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 04:53 PM
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That is def not what that is
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:40 PM
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I think you are brain-dead. This whole post is an issue, GF of 20!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:46 PM
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Okay what's this disorder called
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:32 PM
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Chemistry is just a buzzword for physical people are just afraid to say it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 11:31 AM
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A lot of those couples are miserable nice try. get fit matters most
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:18 PM
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men* and the truth is just be fit which is what women say sorta they say they like dad bods but not really
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 05:36 AM
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Marriage only gets hard if you fuck up the three most important things. Communication, poor vetting of a partner, taking partner for granted(not valuing them/letting urself go)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:54 PM
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red pill as a concept is a joke tho the truth is just be attractive aka fit it all comes from there
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 01:20 PM
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Sounds like they failed one of the three checks of relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:26 PM
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Easily fixed too which is crazy just put in the work
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:22 PM
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i’m convinced these men just like crying tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:20 PM
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You are picking terrible men. That’s why. https://youtu.be/QLXhUKVd4fo?si=7sO-LShbVvWblmke
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:38 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:49 AM
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it’s part of being the average human
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:56 PM
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Horrible way to live and just another deadbedroom in the making. People call marriage work for that reason. It’s ain’t work when you cut the bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:49 PM
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if a man does this he is a shitter
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:47 PM
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sounds insanely toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:46 PM
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it’s called toxicity and it’s become accepted as a result of many factors
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:44 PM
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looks matter much much more presentation is everything many examples of glow up effects many women and men have gotten depressed after glowing up because people treat them so differently and say they love their personality etc when it’s just bs
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:13 PM
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but that is still logic looks are crazy important
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:53 PM
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Because we have the most history together and we know each other better than most people know us it just sucks i gotta do this alone without her to make her lightbulb go off
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:52 PM
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it’s fitness i know a bland guy everyone loves but it’s because of his looks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:49 AM
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Okay i’ll give you an example. A woman in my life who was not “attracted to me” does not feel spark. I logically know I have known her a long time know her tastes in men and tell her. If I do X you will feel something for me and it will grow. She doesn’t believe me. I am about little under halfway through my body transformation and wether she is aware or not (she isn’t) she has started treating me differently. She randomly texts me, she sends me memes, asks me about my day etc. Treats me much be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:48 AM
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And that spark is manufacturable it’s not hard to create it. Men who learn how can do it to many women, why is it so hard for you to accept this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:39 AM
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The spark is limmerece and why most relationships fail
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:35 AM
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You can in fact logic your way into it. But you have to swallow pride and ego. That means accepting harsh logic not feels good. I want a woman to love me= For me to maximize this I need to be sub 14% body fat and that’s ok
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:34 AM
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u like toxic men it’s very simple
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:32 AM
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prob not fit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:26 AM
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did u not watch vod
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:08 PM
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tell me you didn’t watch the video
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:07 PM
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agreed i know a girl who is like this with a man who she matches it is what it is if she’s happy i’m not judging how she was before the girl i like and hope to marry is a massive pick me is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:57 PM
3

we have to approach because u guys wrote the rules
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:24 PM
2

sad but true i cannot stand people who lie like this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:11 PM
3

bingooo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:07 PM
0

i didn’t say anything about being dumb how about you follow the prompt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:58 PM
3

you didn’t follow the prompt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:57 PM
2

they are not tho which is the issue
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:55 PM
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It’s literally been at least a few days since the last one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:42 PM
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Did you even follow the prompt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:41 PM
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a bear vs a man is not a comparison i love women and respect and care for them but if a woman told me she is choosing a BEAR i would immediately see a red flag for that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:54 PM
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and you are the biggest threat to your children what’s your point
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:42 AM
2

most men don’t rape tho
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 05:27 AM
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i swear i agree this woman hates men i feel truly
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 05:19 AM
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Because again it’s horrible men will rape or women but if your doing things to be in a bad situation?? It’s the same thing as a person living paycheck to paycheck because of a shopping problem and then getting a major expense and freaking out sorta point is rape is horrible but we live in a soviet where bad people will make their move if you put yourself in horrible circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 05:14 AM
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Sad but prob true
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:34 AM
0

yes women are vicious when their feelings are involved
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:38 PM
2

go to 2x and post a thread on sex workers or porn that’s what it would be like. better yet search those threads there it’s insanely toxic on both sides and women ripping each other apart
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:25 PM
0

well spoken
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:50 PM
5

this is delusion at its finest
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:51 PM
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your trauma is showing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:49 PM
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Teaching them to be cautious of certain situations sure. But projecting your trauma in that you fear every man is not okay. Again your missing the point your choosing certain death by bear vs over a 90% chance of living fine scot free because some men are bad it’s borderline insane
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:27 PM
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It’s the LENGTH of time that matters
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:23 PM
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Because your trauma cannot be projected onto others it’s unhealthy. Your distrust of men imagine if you projected that onto your child? See the issue
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:16 PM
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she asked me for national parks statements on bears not men and most MEN are not gonna give you unwanted contact the fact women wanna take a 10% chance of death vs a 99% chance is insane
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:11 PM
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which is why rational women not dealing with trauma or issues or misandry answer man like so many women i know who looked at me like i’m intellectually disabled for asking them an obvious choice
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:09 PM
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there is no follow in the original question it’s just alone
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:07 PM
1

https://www.nps.gov/subjects/bears/safety.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:06 PM
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the man was never following you in the question wtf r u talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:02 PM
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yeah go look up how and what factors matter in bear attacks educate yourself https://youtu.be/RWAuWiTWRLA?si=aVvJXRxDQ4CyVEIQ
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:01 PM
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right it’s about taking certain death vs a 10% or lower chance to get raped or die in same manner or far worse
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:56 PM
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that is totally different in so many ways
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:54 PM
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Bears do NOT just see you as a threat you are opportunity for free meal the fuck? Your not a threat your food lmao. Again the point is your trying to make rape worse than dying horrifically to a bear
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:51 PM
2

I mean you guys chose the bear over the man
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:49 PM
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Considering the vast ages of the man and the fact that you can kick him in the nuts, poke out his eyes, stab him etc Only 20% of men or lower are even remotely fit. And from that pile now you need a small % chance of who would harm. The reason this question is deep is what it shows is women BELIEVE deep down men are evil and opportuniests and with no one to catch them would hurt a woman, which says a lot about the men these women associate with. Or how they were raised etc
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:45 PM
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If ur in that forest for 24 hours with that bear it can and will eat u
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:42 PM
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Men are focused on rape because women made it about rape saying they would rather die than be raped, which is asine tbh because your basically saying rape victims are better off dead
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:41 PM
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This isn't a game of would you rather, it's a dumb question with an obvious answer. Here is another one would you rather have a black guy with no shirt be walking behind you at night or a white guy with a gun on his side.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:39 PM
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People recover from rape and can move on to have healthy lives it doesn't impact everyone the same especially if you do the work in therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:34 PM
2

Tell me you don’t know anything about bears who run 25 mph and climb trees without telling me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:33 PM
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The chances of that man doing ANYTHING are far less than a bear eating you. You are choosing certain death in a painful way vs basically a 90% chance to live vs 10% chance of dying in a painful way or way worse way. It's just stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:32 PM
1

Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:28 PM
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You can defeat a man you cannot a bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:28 PM
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It's because it's a stupid would you rather with an obvious answer but shows how much some women have internal work to do regarding how they view men. My best friend (prob future wife) is stuck on bear despite her friends coworkers etc explicitly explaining why bear is insanely stupid. If I were to take it deeper, it's more than likely because she has never known a good man tbh and is projecting the abuse etc they dealt to her onto this question
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:26 PM
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Wrong redpill is an over reaction men have to good women not helping them, and bad women lying to them or using them. They don’t realize they need to learn what good women want and instead walk the path of manipulating and fulfilling thr wishes of toxic addiction that bad women want while hurting good women when they cross them
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:24 PM
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Lmaooo not the point and if you miss
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:30 PM
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and if you miss?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:29 PM
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Some women like it. It can be hard for men to know what healthy women want. Also maybe in their eyes you are great. Point is a lot of men ditch their friends when they get a happy girl it’s just a thing guys do. At least early on. I think you should talk to those men or future men when you feel them getting to clingy and dare to wonder what is making them feel like they need to do that with you or that it’s acceptable behavior to you in their minds
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:27 AM
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Are you introverted? ND? Maybe your picking NT men who can’t understand you. But either way it’s good you have learned from this now, I think it might help before you cut and run from men who start dropping friends to ask them why they feel like they need to do that with you. Maybe it’s something that can be explored once you know reason, like maybe they feel anxious because your so great or something who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:02 AM
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she said most men are violent and pushy there is nothing to defend bro she let her real thoughts through
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:00 AM
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a gun isn’t taking down a 1200 lb bear quickly before she charges you disembowels you before succumbing to her injuries
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:58 AM
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Horrible take and just not true. This is misandrist as fuck and if a man said most women are bitchy it wouldn’t fly
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:57 AM
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You can have as many as you want imo, but if they turn south it means your picking poorly. Also these men i do not believe did not show ANY signs of being needy children from start. If you asked your friends and family they might have seen it while you had love goggles on. Second I have seen you post here. Perhaps there is something extremely independent about you that makes men feel “left out?” and should be explored. Unless your happily taken now, maybe some self reflection if you come off a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:55 AM
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Your man could NOT take a bear
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:51 AM
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tbh it says something about the men you choose if that pattern happened AND if those men demonstrated more than one instance of that and you didn’t instantly cut ties and choose better no?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:47 AM
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I hate to say it but yes Misty is correct here. I have studied bipolar 1/2 recently and I can tell you as a therapist in training you REALLY need to do the work to keep it in check, exposing others to your major depression + hypomanic or even manic states willy nilly is NOT healthy for anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:45 AM
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Assuming we are stuck together i pick woman, the law of nature says eventually she will fall hopelessly in love with me as we are stuck in proximity and she has no other options
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:22 PM
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Totally agree with this one by far. I wish we could give gold stil
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:37 PM
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If you are say 31-35 man you should be aiming 29-30 woman give or take 2 years. Idk why a deep 30s man has a problem with any woman 25-28 if she has no kids 29+ is where it’s usually a woman with horrible judgment or is too picky and destined to be a cat lady
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:52 PM
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I heavily disagree. It’s totally fine if the woman has learned from kid 1. If she has 2 run tho. RUN. And make sure from the moment your getting serious you are NOT tolerating that second citizen “my child” shit where you are spit on for being step
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:21 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:26 PM
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Not the former
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:26 PM
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it’s because women say otherwise and avoid telling the man the truth which is also sad because many men can FIX a physical problem they can’t just “become fun”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:55 PM
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the checklist works when it’s real that’s how people work for most people it means your a catch people LIE about it tho and ignore the hidden physical part of the checklist and wonder why it fails lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:53 PM
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She chooses better instead of hoping a child will change him
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:43 PM
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Because they are boring and safe irl. And just because they say something perceived as mean online doesn’t take away from that. If they say something meant to hurt or belittle or truly mean in a mean fashion be alarmed tho. Example. My classmate has a horrible guy atm, he treats her like a sleeper, she keeps hoping for more with him and he is using her for months now. You are wasting your time and should look for better. (truth and not mean) You are dumb women suck because they chase chad. (mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:40 PM
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finally a logical woman
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:31 AM
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Okay those are just trash men in general. genuinely well meaning guys are not like that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:05 AM
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Get fit that’s it pretty privilege will carry the rest
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 10:53 AM
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if u let a guy do that your misplaying he should be marrying u in 2 years tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:52 AM
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it’s usually chad because the women men pick arnt boring safe guys typically
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:50 AM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:37 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:29 PM
2

bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:04 PM
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yeah it’s pretty toxic and makes you think women have fucked outlooks etc
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 01:52 PM
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dating on the spectrum is easy if you get fit and stay in your lane aka only date autistic chicks
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:21 AM
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how has the redpill affected you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:18 AM
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what a stupid take JUST GET FIT
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:13 AM
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preselection
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:58 AM
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you are a joke op this is not made in good faith women are not harpies who only desire hyper masculine men
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:37 PM
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this is a woman bashing post it’s claiming women are set in ways selfish and want very manly men who fit a stereotype not offering any wiggle room for what is attractive or masculineish
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:36 PM
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no one said you did
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:29 PM
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they had it and lost it probably due to him taking her for granted
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:26 PM
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Lmao yeah because you banging her and tossing her away cause you didn’t want her is comparable to her lusting after her husband giving great sex being a co-operative partner and having a strong family? Bruh get over yourself. If you think getting a short period of fucks with a woman is comparable to a high value man in the future getting all of the relationship shit plus sex later my god you must value relationships low also this is hella double standard because shit if your fucking so many rand…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:32 PM
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Lmao, not every woman is an ex party girl and even then that doesn’t make you a beta bucks. That shit is a state of being/mind. If you view yourself as less than your wife, and just security but not truly attractive but think it’s okay because you are “nice” THEN you are BB. But if you are striving for your best and get to a point where people around you notice your progress, you bet believe your sweet ass she notices too. And there is nothing more attractive than a man who is improving himself …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:31 PM
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Beta bucks is easy to avoid. You can be beta personality but what motivates you, drives you pushes you, there needs to be a fire somewhere. Be agreeable and communicate sure but at same time be fit have a great career and strive to be supportive it’s that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:57 PM
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bro you need therapy or you are a troll you post this self defeating shit constantly you must have zero rolemodels or some type of disorder idk
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:48 PM
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idk if she’s a clinger but that’s a lot of time around someone your dating can’t really live ur life during that time
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:45 PM
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why would you want someone your just dating around THAT much
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:45 PM
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i’m saying women find men who get other women hot
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:44 PM
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tbf she means more than that like you can drop ANYTHING to come to her prob more than twice a week
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:28 AM
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it’s called preselection lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:26 AM
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preselection is a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:14 AM
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u/TSquaredRecovers People are extremely predictable and follow patterns. The only exception is a person who tends to SEE the pattern and actively thinks to avoid that thought processs/behavior. Psychology is a thing for a reason. Patterns are a thing Person in that comment thread blocked me so I can’t say anything
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 02:19 AM
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u do win lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:22 PM
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that’s not the story i was calling cap about i was talking about the “mid” guy you gave a chance to
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:40 PM
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You can improve that stat lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:39 PM
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why not just try going all in for one year minimum and see if things change
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:43 PM
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Or maaaaybe reflect from each loss???
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:41 PM
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Then they don’t watch enough anime lmaoooo Anime is all about that try your best and you MIGHT succeed Idk why people would rather not try and fail than never try at all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:39 PM
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league of legends
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:22 AM
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that ends older u get
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:21 AM
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cap you are leaving something out
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:20 AM
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glance of first one and it’s it’s woe is me shit second one is even worst i used to read that shit it’s just fat people talking tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:17 AM
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Letting yourself go leads to it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:11 AM
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If a woman loves ur body she will lust for you naturally that’s how this works
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:09 AM
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League can teach you a lot about basic human psychology. If you understand the behaviors and beliefs of people irl, you can navigate it better. But yes many MANY women are delusional and over value themselves but many men are also delusional and undervalue how much work they need to do to become a man of quality. The men women want don't match them typically value/level wise so without more work a woman can’t secure them but most don’t want to do the work
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:57 AM
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Biiiiingo. Thats why you don't bother or waste time. I play league I get men or women who will decide all the time if they are not the main character doubt the best on the team and carrying they don't care and want to go next. A team game, where winning doesn't matter to them in a RANKED environment, and instead just doing the best that game matters. If that isn't delusion idk what is
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:52 AM
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Redpill is garbage
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:50 AM
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You sound like a delight
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:48 AM
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Then you are probably delusional. Standards naturally fall in the absence of choice. They only don’t fall when you think you can do better but usually that's a false assessment in the absence of hard work and a real objective look at yourself. My friend has this issue she still thinks she is a catch and at her 23-25 year old level despite being a single parent now and almost 30. She lose points for age and points for the kid. She is objectively a 6.5 now probably for most quality men
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:43 AM
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I say this time again men are doing this thing where they want delusional women to feel bad for being delusional Bruh that's WHY they are delusional A woman who cannot find a man and has good choices is inherently flawed so is a man like this let delusional people who feel they deserve the very best with no work ethic be delusional lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:38 AM
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Desperation doesn't matter if you are a high level thinker. If they are desperate but objectively a catch it's fine
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:26 AM
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Aka they were fat and should have lost weight but w/e as a side note i deep down inside so not like women or men who act like this they know physically the person isn’t enough and usually it’s weight based and can’t just speak up the lack of transparency disgusts me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 04:53 AM
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u/MistyMaisel please share your thoughts no cap tho dude you are just picking bad women AND not being attractive to the ones who can show respect and not be crazy you need both parts that’s all
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 06:57 PM
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I think they are saying women feel more entitled to safety than men. Which I guess maybe you could say that. It’s sorta like a conqueror killing men first then raping the women but leaving them alive and just leaving the children alone or even raising them to be wells off. We just sorta expect children - women - men in that order to be protected
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 05:57 PM
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usually there is more to that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 05:54 PM
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how would this even happen
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 05:14 PM
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You sound southern as fuck the way you typed that. But i agree if someone invites you and it’s a implied or explicit “date” you kinda do need to pay for them in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 03:42 PM
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Lol this bill thing is so overrated. pay or don’t pay
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 03:38 PM
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Dating is easy literally just get fit lmao. Five months in and women show me hella more positive feedback
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 03:36 PM
1

Yes sadly that’s how some people work
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:56 PM
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Yep. All of this is to say dishonesty ruins dating even more
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:43 PM
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I’m saying posting in general is just not something i agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:42 PM
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They are inflated in a sense of what women want from a guy. The basic standards have gone up for what a “good guy” needs. It’s not even a BAD thing pragmatically. What you don’t want happening is a woman “settling in her 30s” because that’s a bad marriage etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:04 PM
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These men are not being truthful with her either
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:00 PM
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Sadly true
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 04:59 PM
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It does when the gap between top 20 and bottom 80 is so massive
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 04:59 PM
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Standards have become inflated for sure, but they are also fall? I think when women get older and try apps and realize they are not working or rather they are not getting the same kinda of responses from them their standards fall rapidly tbh from what I have observed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:40 PM
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Its just what many women want deep down inside. It's not a big deal its a human nature thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:39 PM
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I kinda have to agree with this but to be fair men don't make it any easier by abusing the "power" of being a top % man either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:38 PM
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It is because we are currently in a serious turmoil situation relationship-wise. Now that women have free choice many fathers that were "decent enough" back then are dogshit tier now. You have the sons of these kids, or sons of these single mothers absolutely fucking clueless, who will either figure it out randomly, or be dogshit fathers eventually in unhappy marriages. All of this is to say its our parents faults but this generation is just lost. The pill theories are an attempt to sorta figure…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:36 PM
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LMAO you gotta admit he stood on business and that is to be respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:32 PM
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Count me out by Kendrick lamar is my go to at the moment. My idealistic [when I get the committed partner song tho] is Mirrors by Justin Timberlake and Fresh Eyes by Andy Grammer. Not sure why but those last two really apply I think to my future partner if it's who I think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:31 PM
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Fake? No. I think a lot of it is fake, I have seen people literally post happy family photos just a few months from divorce. It disturbs me. But it is not all fake, but I refuse to contribute to the scene unless its a TRULY significant happy moment I want to preserve. Proposal/wedding/graduations/MAJOR vacations/milestones not hey I'm smiling today with the fame here is a great pic of our happy life!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:29 PM
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You really think men who take care of their bodies don't naturally age better on average?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:27 PM
1

people seem to think travis is the one but i doubt it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 01:00 PM
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My issue with that is it can make others feel depressed to not have the same thing it’s why i refuse to do it tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:57 PM
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I regret clicking on your profile as a straight man now. And yes I hate social media i post on it like once every 3/4 years, usually bad pics intentionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:54 PM
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I wish i knew how divorce works when both members care about each other genuinely like each other and are physically attracted to each other
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:51 PM
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lmfaooooo okay that was a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:48 PM
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Well yeah but attraction matures in different ways past just visual hotness. And thank you. I’ll probably make another update every few couple of months.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:44 PM
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Maybe i should rephrase it it’s different from visual love it’s like loyalty and respect and admiration for what you have built and the history that trumps that whole visual “hotness” love. That being said you can stay fit and still age gracefully
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:42 PM
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ahh i see and yeah they fascinate me as well tbh the idea that people have different views on what makes relationships work is interesting to me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:10 PM
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I’m impressed at how well you shake off comments like that. Also that you even found this reddit of all places. How did you stumble on this subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:04 PM
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Love is replaced with loyalty over the time a different version of love. It’s different and it’s an evolved state tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 11:40 AM
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yepppp bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:45 AM
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Ehhh. I do think men can age better but, most don’t. I think men SHOULD stay with their wives when they get older. Dunno why that’s a bad thing but I do agree most men are shit, but at least that makes things easier for those of us who want to achieve. Oh and P.S. Misty my friend who I “am in love with” is starting to respond more favorable among other things…towards me with my weight loss journey and fitness movements. 5 months almost down 7 to go. Just remember you said i was wrong and a naysa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:41 AM
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why is this a post anyway IA?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:33 AM
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all of this is avoidable if you just stay FIT
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:54 PM
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A relationship is constant validation for some, it is also a major life goal box checked off like kinda owning a house
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:14 PM
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Hell nah
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:25 AM
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Fuck the mental health he is a 3 time Superbowl champion who might be remembered as Taylor swift break up inspiration for her hottest album ever. https://youtu.be/QgxKv9gzwt0?si=CU6uo5lluAa3t9jo
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:23 AM
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Being another Taylor swift breakup song is not what any man wants
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:19 AM
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It's looks. If a woman or man wants you as a close friend and has a good time with you it's looks
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:14 AM
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Yes you don’t wanna be another statistic
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:14 AM
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Ideally yes but in practice a person who has had multiple relationships is choosing poorly or a poor choice themselves And even IF it's the former it still means they are a poor choice for choosing poor choices cause their judgment is off
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:13 AM
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It's just there needs to be a distinction between dudes essentialy or ur just another random
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:12 AM
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Looks are the primary reason stuff like the friend zone exists
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 10:34 AM
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No offense but I think its more than that. She is an EXTREMELY risky pick. She has been through guys and wrote songs about her breakups it's very odd for him to want to be another dude in that roster
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 10:31 AM
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Latter physical attraction matters
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:10 PM
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Lose weight and you might be hot
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:07 PM
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Rape???
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:06 PM
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Well it might be your niche of guys? I forgot are you the girl who likes gothic dudes or maybe I got you mixed up. Also what is fatphobia pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 10:43 AM
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Confidence is bull to the shit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:58 AM
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It's unspoken. Society tends to not say things you need a very close non judgmental but objective and pragmatic person to have these kinds of discussions. I told my friend this and he damn near well wanted to punch me for being a dick, and the girl I said it too said it hurt her feelings but deep down she knew it was true. Again people know its true it's more can they accept it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:58 AM
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Women over 30 can't men inherently don't want them A woman at 30 is on a low level repulsive to some men as its a showing of a major failure to invest and capitalize on good man If you got to 30 single or as a single mom you have extremely shitty choices in men
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:44 AM
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I think this place is a reflection of true unconscious society. Stuff people know but hide from themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:42 AM
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A woman cannot change this easily at all
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:39 AM
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Single woman. She is FUCKED and the men to pick from are gonna date down in age
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:38 AM
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Bad parenting causes this but it's common yes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:32 AM
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Lifting makes you less bets for many reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:17 AM
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Looks is usually the main issue
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:46 PM
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? Not sure what you mean by this at all. If i even get to marriage with her. I got 8 months to go well 7ish
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:39 PM
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Men suck at explaining this typically so no. The only answer is get fit. As that fixes most issues
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:34 PM
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Girl i like is probably a mix of the two
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 02:56 PM
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i feel the same way about this girl currently in my life but like…idk everyone is NOT like that. And i’m not even dating her “yet”. Just because the motivation should be there doesn’t mean it will be even with a partner which can do damage to the other person when they realize not good enough for that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 08:09 AM
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okay and u want people to take that risk why? why can’t someone show the respect by doing the work before hand so they don’t risk brining issues to a relationship or at LEAST be in the process? just being able to say i got x problem but i’ve been working at it for months now and have done some work on it is a nice way to show you know and care about your issues i’ve been doing it regarding my fitness and it’s starting to pay off in regards to women in my life——just the effort and work can show
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:29 AM
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they damage others or can be impossible to work with at times
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:22 AM
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No because autistic women mask. masking is more or less copying understand subtle shit still is hard for them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:15 PM
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Because it’s a task. People can also seem happy but it’s the private
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:14 PM
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yes she is because her masking is not sustainable in private so then the guy is confused because the mask isn’t her and he lashes out or she keeps it up always and meltdowns randomly
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:13 PM
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She doesn’t really understand the drain ND people put on NT who can’t explain things subtly or the drain and push for MELTDOWNS a ND practicing social skills aka sometimes overclocking their brain can do to them her examples of autistic men are also kinda insulting as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:12 PM
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NT + ND is a bad idea. GOOD LUCK THO! Tell me how it goes when you communicate too directly for him and he wants you to “just get it”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:10 PM
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Nt men are very unhappy with ND women usually tho
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:07 PM
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Okay this is what your not getting. ND women in my experience are even MORE uhh affected by visually appealing men, wether it's conscious or unconscious for some. That means your looks tend to carry even MORE weight than NTs but on some level it's about pragmatism for them. Not women may check personality/social standing more. But NDs want the looks and interests/expressions more.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:06 PM
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ND women who MASK sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:01 PM
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She is 100% correct. Autistic women and men just instantly connect. The women need to not be fat and the men need to not be above 14/15% bodyfat and it's pretty much a match depending on interests
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:58 PM
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It's actually the women just mask better and go undiagnosed iirc
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:56 PM
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Autistic men need to date autistic women problem solved
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:55 PM
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Whole thing is bullshit. I’m currently in the process of proving this shit isn’t real and all the friend zone is is telling you 9/10 get fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:19 AM
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Yep get fit get financially stable etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 08:51 PM
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no point in that till you get fit tho
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:05 PM
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no the red pill is about looking at women as children with no accountability etc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 12:56 PM
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ur trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 11:21 AM
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if your afraid to fail then you already lost
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 11:06 AM
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sounds like they didn’t get fit in mind then
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:34 AM
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7 years to 5 years younger personality confident and polite sex —once to twice a week interests-gaming and anime and working out values-not trad con fully i treat them with respect and high value and they in turn the same—constantly want to give each other the best appearance-toned low bodyfat or even muscular both are hot on women for me kids 3—one to two girls one boy to two boys but at least one girl/one boy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:31 AM
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just post a pic op it’s very simple
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:26 AM
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As a man you can have it all if you just get fit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:11 AM
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many people LOOK happy but suffer behind closed doors
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:11 AM
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there is no red pill what there is is waking up and realizing people have wants and needs and if you want to succeed romantically you need to ask what exactly do they TRULY want
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:09 AM
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Getting fit is not that hard
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:05 AM
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Fuck no, If I let it get that bad then clearly I don't know, I know and don't care, or I know and I'm working on it actively. Either way her telling has a 1/3rd chance of being bad if I know and don't care. And if I know and don't care then I don't care about her which is a BIG issue. I refuse REFUSE to get fat in a relationship, or have a dad bod, at the same time I REFUSE to accept less than I give. Obviously pregnancy is a thing but that's a full on excuse that many women have admitted to me …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:12 AM
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CAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:09 AM
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I think its just the motivation...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:09 AM
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you say that but then for some reason women LOVE to have gym glow ups AFTER a break up…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 02:58 AM
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If i’m fucking up and not doing well with my erection or not lasting long enough for her i want her to be honest. Let me know so I can get my shit together i don’t got time for soft feelings or people giving me half truths tell me what the fuck is the truth so i can get on it with the quick ess
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 02:56 AM
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It comes down to looks but i’ll deal with this later
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 08:48 PM
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The face is not a big deal just get fit lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 08:47 PM
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Pretty much all you need these days. Too much dad bod lies going around. I think some women doubt how much men lifting do for them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:42 PM
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this
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:33 PM
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Because it’s the same concept as beauty and the beast. I’m sure you know this movie. Beast is a dick till he finds someone who treats him differently than the dick he acts like. This internal issue COULD be overcome or seriously lessened by gaining acceptance and validation from women WHICH is gained by getting fit first. He gets FIT first women warm up to him, he realizes they don’t hate him, his hate for them wanes, then it’s some minor internal work to release his remaining negativity. What y…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:13 PM
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The only advice any man needs is go to the gym get a fit body you are proud of by working at it for 1-2 years and pursue your own passions that are going to make you financially stable Everything else is subjective. Just NEVER have a dad bod despite what ANY woman says
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 05:55 PM
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TRP is definitely not where dudes should go for advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:50 PM
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why flame
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:49 PM
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Totally agree it’s mind numbing. Do the work and THEN complain if you fail like damn. You don't get what you wish for, you get what you work for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:48 PM
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then go get fit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:43 PM
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This is exactly what I’m trying to explain to you as well. u/HumpsyDumpsy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:42 PM
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You are correct it is a variable to some degree, it’s sort of like a fighting game. For some women low kicks are their weakness for others hi punch’s are. BUT what DOESNT change for either sets is damage. Increasing the overall damage regardless of weakness is what will give the best results. Aka getting fit. From there you can worry about if you have specific levels of connection or if you were friendzoned before then you probably will “magically!” be out of it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:17 PM
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I agree and disagree. I think you could be right but my biggest issue with this, is people unfortunately do not understand the difference between treatment when you have pretty privilege and you do not. So he MAY hate women and have all this hate, only to find out upon becoming attractive the hate he thought women had towards him and other men just vanished. It’s sad but true. He probably does need to do self work on the house that is his current self internally BUT it’s impossible to judge just…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:14 PM
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I just don’t understand man. This unattractive issue can be changed in one year minimum of just working out consistently and getting high protein why are men still upset?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:22 PM
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Bro just get fit LMAOOOOO
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:11 PM
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Tbh this is true
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:10 PM
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People deny it tho which is the issue
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:09 PM
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agreed tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 01:49 PM
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Picking wrong men then
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 01:47 PM
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Please tell me your story
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 01:19 PM
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If she can’t I will happily walk away knowing I tried. I also will know I’m the best she’s ever gonna get as well tho
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 12:49 PM
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this is just doomer speak lol get fit then worry about the rest
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:55 PM
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True currently I love someone who doesn’t love me back in a sexual way. However my gamble is I can change that. People need to realize sometimes if you DO love others you are willing to take gambles and risk it to demonstrate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:29 PM
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Which is why it sucks for women. Also it doesn’t help that women who do figure it out by 30 who genuinely were damaged and that’s why they made the choices and rejected the men they did along the way are mixed in with women who just had a inflated sense of self and are settling once they get a wake up call. But yes that’s why it sucks for women more than men. And why I try to explain to men you have it much easier overall if you would just get fit first.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:26 PM
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only misty would say that is your name from pokémon btw
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:23 PM
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doof?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:05 PM
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The issue with women being attracted to toxic men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:04 PM
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A good quality-great quality man. Keep in mind low quality men can easily become good/great if given some direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:19 PM
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You can love yourself and love others
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:13 PM
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Both actually. Women have a lot of their “investment value” physically and psychologically speaking into their pre 29 years. It feels very good for a man to get some of those years as they are less stressful and a time to get to know her and enjoy life without the kid timer ticking down.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:01 PM
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no lmaoooo i want to be honest with my future kids and tell me exactly how many people int their lives what to watch out for and how to avoid it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:12 PM
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yep. it’s why i tell people i dislike the idea of improving your social game when it’s modified by pretty privilege get fit FIRST THEN you will have a real evaluation of where you stand
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:11 PM
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Yeh the theme park fans are something else
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:06 PM
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If you take a young child and shove certain concepts in her brain she never can get affected by delusional concepts most people get affected by.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:05 PM
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Your not a disney fan. Once you understand it or step into their shoes you get it. It’s a magical place for people who are true fans where they modern world just doesn’t exist anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:04 PM
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Great post and agreed as fuck. You can get down to 14-15 just with cico cardio and some lifting
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:01 PM
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Because women choose. Women have the power of choice to approach or sit back, but either way they choose from a hand of deals presented to them, which depreciates at a rapid rate past 29 or if they have a kid
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:50 PM
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misty context plz on what this man beneath you rant is about
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:44 PM
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This is average for Disney lovers. GOMD literally drove to disney on a friday night at 9pm 9 hours to florida with a friend, got there spent whole day at disney on a one day pass and came back next day around 3 pm back home
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:40 PM
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Go nuts but be safe fuck do I care for?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:38 PM
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Men don’t know what women want. They can be ready for all that but not exactly know the steps to get there. Being fatherless is a real thing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:37 PM
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I miss Reddit gold
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:25 PM
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This. This is all it is. People will deny it but it's fact. Most humans also do not consistently regular their natural tendency to treat pretty people better. It's why sadly black tables in service industry are looked as less same kinda logic. It takes a VERY self aware person to admit this and then try to actively self regulate those tendencies and thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:25 PM
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There is a difference between a casual friend and a friendzoned guy. The latter has more in his favor ASUMMING they are actually friends and really get along well on some deep personal level. Yes. Being put in the friend zone is the same thing as not making that basketball team because you lack the ability to make a lay up. You can shoot, dribble etc but you NEED to figure out what your missing to make the team. It requires a real objective look. But usually it's just get fit tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:23 PM
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https://gyazo.com/491cc5ff78320a39ff73401d3fd7e623
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:18 PM
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Incorrect. My personality is average/fine but average. Financially I am stable but can do more, which is why I work at least 5-6 days a week now, saving money for when I get my career started after my degree. My looks however were subpar. I was 27-28% bodyfat, skinny but damn near well a horrid sight belly wise if I took my shirt off. 4-5 months later I'm around 17-18% body fat and I still have a lot of time to keep training and working till December of this year. Looks matter. This is how the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:17 PM
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It's more tied into women because regardless of what any lying delusional super optimistic person will say women have a lot of their relationship [investment] value tied into 28 or lower. There are exceptions like 30 or lower but the 29/30 really need to be competing with some good stuff. Beyond that the depreciation rate is heavily man favored For women that's the fun years before a man has to evolve into the father role that's what women don’t get. It's not just looks it's also the general flo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:11 PM
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Yes, the best way to break this down is how many servers in certain places would prefer white tables, over black tables. Its just due to experience and its sad but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:38 PM
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Bingo and most women who are single over 30 have this issue sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:32 PM
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I agree but a lot of men are not taught correctly this matters, same with women who are fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:01 PM
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Some men yes, but others really do need a push. For me my inspiration is making one girl as happy as possible with myself, if that fails well it is what it is, but that's my intention. Not every single guy who maximizes himself wants to abuse the success that comes with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:58 PM
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Yep thats how people operate, then they get stuck with sunken cost type shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:55 PM
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I agree but on the flipside a LOT of people cannot handle the truth. Its just the facts of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:55 PM
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Bingo, thats how men can go from the friendzone to prince charming randomly. [Not randomly they just figure out what makes them unattractive, usually its body btw.]
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:28 PM
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It makes both people unhappy. It makes women unhappy to realize the way they viewed life as if "their 30s" were going to be the perfect time to find a really awesome guy was a thing was in fact not a real thing, or VERY hard to do. It also makes men unhappy because they miss out on women with a lot of potential who just have been fed lies by society on how the system works. With men there is something strange about getting a woman's best years that carries onways because men value that time, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:17 PM
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Be fit and if gets easier
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:44 AM
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It's dsm 5 Tr now
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:43 AM
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autism isn’t even bad if you can deeply self reflect autism is bad when you are stuck in your own ways people sometimes say i’m a dick irl BUT i am unable to currently truly assess this because i am not super attractive YET. what a average man says is mean but what an attractive man says is funny i want to accurately judge which case the things i say are truly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:35 AM
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No offense but is your friend fat? And yes there is a formula for men and women. Starts with don’t be fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:33 AM
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It’s more than that and not all below average men know what women need and not all above average know either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:25 AM
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No. That logic is the same reason why we DON'T ignore single mothers and leave them to fend for themselves without government care. When systems let people fall into their own problems and just ignore them you end up with a much bigger problem. Because these individual problems for example say the single mother with no government assistance because SHE fucked up, leads to a child who tends to have a bad childhood, who can turn to crime, who can make others like YOUR life unhappy. If on a scale a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:07 AM
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The system of human psychology. This is how people frame this wrong. What you just said is why relationships end. I feel compelled to want to "improve myself" to the point where I have given it my all and know I can make my best pitch. I also want to present to her a product of myself that in theory she should recognize is a cut above other men, while also is attractive to her. If you truly care about someone you want to give them something they deep down love. As much as people want to pretend …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:02 AM
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Attractive men can and will sleep with women who are unattractive for x reasons, which can be looks, personality etc. Still they want someone they feel is up to their value and values them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:57 AM
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Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:55 AM
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Yes, majority of men in relationships are actually shit, [settling] is the ways that women do it is too much of settle, not a relaxed settle but a "at least its something" till its just not worth it anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:55 AM
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Men can easily be attractive to women due to many men being failures. If you are fit have a good career prospect, and are not abusive or toxic and financially responsible with no serious vices that’s basically all you need for most women. Unless she is delusional ofc because most men are shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:14 AM
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All top tier men want top tier women. That’s how the system works, there are very few exceptions. In my case i’m on my way to being a top tier man, but right before i peak i plan in asking a girl i know who wasn’t attracted to me 4 months ago in 8 months if she wants to take a shot at me, if she says no after me improving for one year that’s her chance gone idrc. the point is that’s a niche case most men who get to where i’m going are going to only look for the best deal they can get i’m going t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:05 AM
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Luck is just hard work made real
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:01 AM
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That’s exactly what that means. That’s how the human brain works and negotiations etc. People want the best deal they can get. If you are offered 10 years versus 20 years you take 10 and make peace because it’s a better deal. Same thing as 40 vs 80. It’s how human psychology works. People become UNSATISFIED when they think they can get more
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:58 AM
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Right but they wouldn’t have this issue if they accurately judged this stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:45 AM
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Leads to women wasting their best years in delusion and then when they wake up they have inherently lower value
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:43 AM
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That is utterly just not true in terms of high level dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:41 AM
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??? It's a real term. Also masking takes INCREDIBLE ammounts of energy. Your brain is literally in a mode that your in when your taking a test that's for 50% of Your grade to put it in Neurotypical terms. MASKING is not easy and autistic women who do it WELL will meltdown and crash so fucking hard once you start dating them because instead of just doing it publicly they have to do it during their down and rest time now too
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:40 PM
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Great post thank you for sharing. Men who Act like ND women have it easy are delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:35 PM
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Not to mention autistic women meltdown really fucking hard once you get alone with them over time and they get exhausted from masking
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:33 PM
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I can spot autistic women very easily they follow a lot of patterns
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:32 PM
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What's your point? Autistic women are also very braindead easy for autistic men to get. Just get fit and start the checklist there the rest comes after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:32 PM
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be fit and autistic women will love you it’s that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:54 AM
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huh??? you said her? she tried to get you to go bi?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 10:54 PM
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i think this is a larp
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 10:03 PM
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LOL that genetics shit is a whole lotta shit. Sure in terms of peak fitness/easiness and maybe career but outside that it ain’t no genetics shit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:15 AM
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You know how you avoid beta billy just get fit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:08 AM
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Eh no. The thing is what has happened is most PEOPLE don't critically think. For example an intelligent woman finds those traits repulsive because she has rewired her brain to find them repulsive. She knows those traits lead to bad moments and bad relationships so they are not attractive. A low value or low thinking level woman can't do that. She feels base level attraction and lets her brain turn to goo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:55 PM
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What happened
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:52 PM
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Biiiingo. Lots of women do this it's very sad but it's a lack of a father being real with them tbh imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:51 PM
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Yes unhealthy women do unhealthy things y'all gotta stop using bad examples. These women are just as bad for marriage long term what do you care?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:49 PM
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I think it's more about being realistic. For example there is a woman in my life I want BAD. I have basically outdone her in every category but one and that's fitness which Im doing as we speak. When I finish that category in 8 months she can either take a shot with me then assuming she is still single (which she prob will for various reasons) or not. But if she passes on me at that point I'm moving on. Statistically her chances of finding a man like me, who is willing to care about her and love…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:46 PM
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He prob cheated on her lets be honest
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:38 PM
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Relationships are far less complex that that at their base form. Be fit, be kind, and genuinely like the other person, also have same goals/interests/morals. Also know how to actually communicate and don't tolerate mind reading. It's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:31 PM
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Basically this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 04:10 PM
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Ehh it is a puzzle but it’s a puzzle very easily solved. Just get fit first then go from there. Majority of women want the same thing But if you want a woman on easy mode get a ND woman
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 04:09 PM
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It depends on level of thinking. A pick me girl tho tends to want the same guys as other women so THOSE men want high value women that isn’t a pick me an average guy would love her tho also men really need to realize the diff from average and high value man is just being fit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 09:52 AM
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Women will gladly take a man 5-10 years older if he’s the full package maybe not you but that’s besides the point
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:35 PM
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For me it's more about “power” and at the same time satisfaction. Give them what they want and they give you everything you want and then some.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:44 PM
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lmao no it’s supply and demand once you are what they want you can charge absurdly for yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:03 PM
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Be what women want deep down
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 05:45 AM
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The point is for RELATIONSHIPS. Opening anything doesn’t mean shit it’s just sex without commitment of i gotta live with you. Yes 30 and higher women are already down the 8 ball vs 25-29 women, if you hate this it is what it is. That being said it can be made irrelevant if you use your brain as a 30 year old woman and get serious as a 30 year old competent woman is worth more than a 25 year old foolish one
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:25 AM
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Which is why men get rejected and told they are just friends. If she can’t brag it’s just not worth her effort
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:24 PM
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why do u have a female avatar as a man randomly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:11 PM
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that’s why you go younger the older woman missed out it happens
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:08 PM
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It’s not about the money when you dick ride and meet a celeb. It’s about being in the presence of that status and interacting. If i meet shannon sharpe i’m not thinking about his money i’m thinking about his achievements and how epic it is i got to meet him. that feeling is the spark but on a lower scale
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:51 PM
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? That isn’t sexist or gender based. It’s human based. Play to win or don’t play at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:48 PM
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I guess? But if you know you can be better and have those guys in the palm of your hand that you want why not do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:09 PM
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yes that is a checklist of values yes that is the spark you are correct the issue with society today is people want it to be magical not manufactured because they want to feel special main character type shit it’s the same as a woman being give a beautiful wedding ring loving it and loving you then finding out it’s a fake diamond and loosing her shit still looks the same no one can tell BUT she doesn’t feel special someone or people who understand how to create value in their lives and how to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:06 PM
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BINGO that’s why i say if your friendzoned by a close friend you are either too low value or they are delusional. Fix your cracks in your armor that other women might call out and if it’s still a no she/he is delusional or it’s a static deal breaker (politics religion childfree)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:04 PM
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Yes and no. If you are actually really good friends then it’s a lack of value. I tell people this all the time but they refuse to accept it. Idk why humans get so but hurt to know rejection is usually just you are not good enough in their eyes. This is not only fixable it’s VERY easy to exploit. Because once you do it usually you are above them and you have all the cards
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:00 PM
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100% cap. Settled and bad men sure but true catches no sir. What your describing is what happens when a woman actually is able to temporarily or permanently settle for some guy or is attracted to some static niche. What I’m talking about is women who can’t or are not ready to do that and who want real men they feel special about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:56 PM
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If he is better than you in EVERY category the spark(value) will 100% be there. Because you as a human being will recognize that the chance of finding a man as good as him is lower than finding one higher. He is a catch and a man that all your friends will openly shower you with validation saying they wish they had him? That’s the spark that’s all it is. Can you show this person off, do you feel you got a catch if so you feel butterflies and giddy for being in their area. The spark is the same t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:17 PM
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no
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:53 PM
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Objectively sure but i said to you were they catches/ objective catches can be “nice guys on paper” that’s not what i’m talking about i’m talking men that you know other women would literally feel bad they missed out on
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:12 PM
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Because to you they were not catches
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:09 PM
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Okay good responses and memes i’m gonna not respond to your trolling anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:03 AM
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Because you didn’t value them. The spark all it is is value. They make you feel special by being in their area. You feel special and different that they interact with you. Also i would be willing to bet there is more with those avoidant friends but it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:02 AM
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Women tend to universally like the same things. See pre selections No woman wants a guy she can’t make other women want. If one woman rejects you they all will by default because it means your missing that thing that makes her think other women will want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:00 AM
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yep
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:57 AM
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If your rejected by one woman your rejected by them all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:55 AM
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spark isn’t real and if they have relationship issues those tend to be friendship burdens affecting the friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:52 AM
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Friends first is much better imo and safer if you can be good friends it’s def got relationship potential always unless static issues
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:23 AM
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? I think you truly missed the mark on what I said. Let’s say i’m really good friends with suzy. Suzy weighs idk 250. She loves anime, gaming and we go to movies. She makes a move on me. I’m attracted to suzy (1/2) because we are friends and i love spending time with her. Many men here say “no spark/i’m not feeling it” same as women. The TRUTH is i’m not 2/2 with suzy physically attracted because of her weight. If she loses weight and has a glow up in a few months or a year i will be “obsessed” …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:15 AM
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attraction always matter as two single people of opposite sex who have a pref for opposite sex should be romantically attracted to each other by default always if they are TRUE friends not i “tolerate” you friends
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:05 AM
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Yes there are several static reasons for incompatible people like that, childfree, politics religion
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:04 AM
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Okay, religion is one of the static reasons for incompatibility it makes sense. Not feeling the spark/not attracted is not a true reason
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:03 AM
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It’s different when it’s sexual preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:59 AM
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Compatibility livestyles??? what
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:58 AM
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It lasts very long usually as long as both parties are aware why the original rejection took place
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:41 AM
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It’s not sexist tho not really, if your actually legit good friends you do not view them as a catch if you reject them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:39 AM
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Sounds like his value in your eyes was quite low
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:37 AM
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Spark isn’t real. It’s a buzz word for value. I don’t wanna get into this but anytime you feel attraction it’s usually because of something you value or cherish romantically about someone that is different than others. And makes them a “catch” For men this can be worse because a woman who gave them validation in a sea of none can be enough for “catch status aka you noticed me first!” Friendship is a free pass to a relationship if you are a catch. If it’s a static reason your not like religion, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:42 AM
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Dating apps don’t matter. If they matter she is delusional. If they mattered “she wouldn’t be single” Women deep down kinda “know” their level truthfully. So let’s say your a 6? And she’s a 7. She’s hoping for an objective 7.5. Someone she can show off to others and be like “I got him and you didn’t!” She isn’t truly looking for chad unless she’s delusional because if she was good enough for him she would have had him already Also ANY women with single mom kid(avoid 2+) are also objectively far …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:38 AM
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Well the issue people are missing is friendship is exactly the same as partnership tbh. It’s actually essentially a part of the recipe. If your rejected you should 100% be taking it personally because you are not in the realm of the best she thinks she can do OR she is delusional and you have a delusional friend/romantic interest. Pick one
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:30 AM
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It’s fine if she and he both feel the other is a catch
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:26 AM
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If you are truly nice you care about what she wants. She wants a fit man are you fit? Then you are not nice because you don’t care about her needs
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:25 AM
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why did you swap sexes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:23 AM
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Yep getting fat is basically where stuff starts to go wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:20 AM
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Nah it’s totally natural. Let’s look at stocks. Majority of people can’t even bother with them because it takes using brain power they don’t actively use. Your asking a woman, who is trained from a young age that certain types of honesty is rude, to reject a guy because he is too fat to say “your too fat, there is a good shot if you become fit i’d like you but i’m not totally sure” Most people can’t do that. Imagine if men did that? There would be no body positivity movement etc. Point is people…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:18 AM
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Yep, it’s kinda one reason ND people should just stay with each other for the most part
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:09 AM
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Both people usually do lol. It’s just are your “high enough level”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:06 AM
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You are not high enough value in her eyes point blank
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:06 AM
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Your missing the bigger point. The friendzone is “self inflicted” by the person not being high enough value. It’s not real, most people and yes there are some exceptions but most women will have feelings for a friend who becomes a famous star. Now you need to find the POINT where you are objectively without a doubt a catch of a man comparatively and then you are no longer a friend-zoned man Because a partner should be a friend. Figure out what your missing in terms of how good she thinks she can…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:05 AM
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north america lmao and okay well if ur the bimbo type okay hey live your life
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 12:26 PM
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And you are pink pill? 😂 Next you you will say you are NA i really hope you are not tho
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:22 AM
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Oh okay. Still 30k karma is insane how often do you be posting like wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:17 AM
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Huh? Arnt you a woman? You are a man with a troll title? the plot thickens
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 06:45 AM
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are you really talking about not being on reddit when you have 30k karma???
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 06:03 AM
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Being creepy isn’t real. either she is attracted to you (physically) and will cognitively spin your negative traits into positive ones or she won’t
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:12 PM
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this is just stupid the ops post in general, holy shit just walk up to her and introduce yourself and see if you have common interests and then ask her out all that other stuff is so extra and dumb wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:48 PM
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yeah as a man i truly don’t know why guys get burt hurt over this it’s in your favor anyway because when you price your bit creepy ur given bonus point anyway and once ur not “creepy in a woman’s eyes” it means she prob more likely to like u
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 02:11 AM
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great answer i am black and i get afraid if i see a man begins me with a hoodie on i get it it’s not a big deal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 02:04 AM
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and the 14% means women will like me instantly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 04:14 PM
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For me the 14% is needed for this girl
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 06:34 PM
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well guessers sound like they live horrible i would avoid all relationships with them i know people like this it’s a fucking nightmare
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 09:08 AM
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for me it is 14% body fat 20k in the bank that’s when i know i’m probably ready i have other check marks but there are the most nearest major 2 of most importance
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 09:04 AM
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Set a goal obtain the goal then your ready
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 08:54 AM
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1
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 02:45 AM
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Sadly I have to agree. You can be sad about your life but like Walter bond says you need to have a SHARK mindset. If it sucks figure out a plan of what your going to do to change and make it better moving forward
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 08:19 PM
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I know a few
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 04:53 PM
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Everyone in your sub group type should be attracted to you at a minimum
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:26 PM
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I don't think we are
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:23 PM
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Yeah ND women are typically well liked by everyone because they are manipulating NTs because they follow a pretty braindead set of rules for social interactions which makes it very easy to “play their game” Or the ND woman rejects all that noise and is a massive loner/homebody. Former is extremely prone to meltdowns tho because running at that level of processing in public means omega shutdowns in private cause your battery isn't just empty it's in the negative Any woman with color in her hair i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:15 PM
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Because that's how this works. People generally agree on certain subsets of characteristics that are generally attractive across the board. If you have 0 you have none. If you have 1 you have all. Women are not willing to be with a man who they feel other women won’t desire in some way. This means if you have 1 you have multiple essentially. But no you don't want ALL women to want you I mean you can but it's not the end goal. The end goal is to make sure the subset type of woman you want desires…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:05 PM
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Through a deep DEEP understanding of how human beings operate and true real reflection. I will write a fully detailed manifesto on this in December but the gist of it is. Attraction is based on being a catch to someone. Being a catch is based on rarity. Rarity is a comparison to how frequent and the ease of finding something else. Things that are higher value are harder to find as often. Other things go into this but that's all u need to know. Raise value of product, raise satisfaction, raise de…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:58 PM
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Because a man shouldn't be aiming to be two distinct women’s tastes. He should generally be the best value for HIS taste. So if a man wants fitness obsessed autistic homebody wife he needs to be the best possible man who she can get for that lifestyle It's very simple. Figure out the type of woman you want. Be the highest quality partner she can feasibly obtain for that type she is. You basically can't get rejected because the spark isn't real it's all based on your true value number in her cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:47 PM
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Depends if both parties are single Depends on if the party they are attracted to are attracted to their sex And bisexuality has stigma that may lower the value of the person. But outside yes it's value related like all things
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:42 PM
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Commit one year to pure self improvement in order to earn their love and approval. If that's not enough then understand the person is delusional and will die alone. Move on and laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:01 PM
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ND women are very easy to spot but they also mask well. The current girl of my focus is ND as fuck. Huge fake social butterfly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:53 PM
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Then you should improve to fix that. If you have one woman you should prob have majority of them that's just how it works. Women want to date men other women want
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:27 AM
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not as frequent no
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:22 PM
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I wouldn't talk about them like that. If you have to talk about your achievements more than once your just bragging. You mention them once as a resume and let the other person know your value simple
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:52 PM
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Sexual attraction is based on values. Glow ups are a good evidence of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:50 PM
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I am anything but self loathing the heck? I'm working my but off and have been the last 5 months and will continue for the next 9 months till end of this year to accelerate my growth and become a higher value person who makes this girl realize that I am the best if not prob one of the best people she will ever have the opportunity to date Def not self loathing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:26 PM
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? Being great in all areas of my life will make me unlikable? Having a desire to be the best and make my partner feel like the luckiest person for being with me is a bad quality??? It's def not
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:25 PM
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Everyone thinks in values they just do it unconsciously. I do it consciously because it's far more powerful and you can really understand it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:18 PM
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It's to have that as an option. That means I'm enough essentially and will make the woman with me happy because she knows I'm a catch, that's a very important reason to raise value, if other women don’t find you attractive none will
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:18 PM
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Because it's hidden. Autistic women tend to be much better at masking and thinking its normal, but they are extremely prone to meltdowns and hyper toxicity within their relationships so it's not worth it behind closed doors unless the NT male can bridge the gap which is hard as FUCK for NTs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:16 PM
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Correction friends of opposite sexes And I think if you are great friends the only reason attraction is not there is due to perceived lower value If two best friends are stuck on an island they will become lovers always because the value meter doesn't matter anymore only thing that matters is the other person there is no one to compare to
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:48 PM
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I despise red pill it doesn’t change the fact that all attraction is value based
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:43 PM
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If you are both single it’s a value thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:39 PM
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The lack of sexual attraction is the key marker aka lack of value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:38 PM
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It’s just problematic because it’s things people don’t like to talk about because it feels shallow processes that humans do are sometimes too horrible to talk about so they are compartmentalized if a man is rejected by a woman and she learns he has or is about to have a lot of value that he demonstrated hard work to get it’s over she instantly is attracted all attraction is based on value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:32 PM
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Women do the friends first thing tbh. But that’s neither here nor there. The truth is at the end of the day the only thing that matters is value. Value high enough women want you, too low your repulsive
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:30 PM
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To be fair. I can understand why he dropped you guys as “friends” while dating. Your friendship is an insult to him as a man which means you either misjudged his value or are correct. Based off his actions though I guess you were correct. For many men however the assumption can be wrong such as myself where I’m going through the same issue with a friend who is a girl. However I intend to defeat her and prove her wrong. That guy tho sounded like a douchebag that your judgement radar was correct o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:15 PM
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It’s called friends first. Sometimes it’s friends first concept other times it’s you are not high enough value to be a partner but i like you so i will keep you as a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:52 PM
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Idk why this upsets you. Any CLOSE friend should be relationship potential if his value is high enough
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:33 PM
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If you are just a friend you are a friend because your value is low in her eyes or his that’s just how it usually works
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:31 PM
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i ageee with this it matters quite a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 07:04 PM
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it’s complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 07:03 PM
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it’s complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 07:03 PM
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Okay so he was a shitter that’s not really a friend anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:34 PM
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If you are THAT great of friends there is some specific reasons why you haven’t gotten together or tried on either of your parts
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:33 PM
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Then his value of you or yours of his must be low romantically for some reason, or you have some incompatible non fixable issue that neither can compromise on
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:21 PM
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ur not single tho so it’s prob easier hopefully he isn’t either
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:41 PM
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Wow he must have been total shit in your eyes what a horrible existence for him to live to be valued so low
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:39 PM
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not to mention if u just want friendship he’s too low value for u so that’s an insult
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:39 PM
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You can chill with a person but the value process still runs you can unconscious think about it or consciously think about it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:29 PM
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what a insightful response that offers nothing of value at all, also i have a therapist not that it matters
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:11 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:11 PM
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romance is 100% the peak of a deep friendship shallow friendships or hey i know that guy we hang out every once in a while is not the same
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:11 PM
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See this is another point people make to deflect what is a core aspect? what is something that defines you that you can’t give up or change??? the issue with this argument is people make that decision for OTHERS. case in point i will NEVER give up anime i love it if a woman told me to give it up it would be a deal breaker I love eating twizzlers while watching anime if a girl was grossed out by twizzlers i wouldn’t eat them in front of her people should be given the agency to DECIDE what’s core …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:09 PM
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okay but that’s 1000000% a value thing he wants someone super fit and is about the life you don’t which means objectively speaking he is higher value than you, and a girl who matches his value wants that kind of body from a guy and is willing to pay the cost which is usually (work out just as hard and have a nice body like mine)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:04 PM
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he might actually idk like her? people can actually like people crazy i know
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:03 PM
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Okay and that trait is something he can acquire or hobby he can CHOOSE to learn to love for her sake if he values her overall. People can learn to love shit they are not static beings. If he is told she doesn’t feel it even though the real answer is “i can’t date a man who doesn’t listen to taylor swift” bam there u have it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:56 PM
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If you want to fuck him yeah. If your values and lifestyles are THAT different your friendship isn’t based on much of anything it would seem
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:54 PM
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romantic partner value is the only thing that matters because it’s a culmination of you in totality as a person if men/women do not want you you have training to do champions are made when no one is watching
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:49 PM
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if you are friendship (best) compatibility with someone you can be romantic if you level up. All of the BEST relationships start with two people who are close friends because they genuinely enjoy the other person. the only thing misses is the SA which is obtained via being perceived as high value and desirable if ur not desired more as a close friend u have work to do to improve or your friend is taken/delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:47 PM
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compatibility is value dude poly woman means her value in your category of monogamy is nonexistent if she raised her value in your eyes by saying she wants mono only you would start to be drawn to her if she had a situation where she let go her religion obsession and dialed it back your value in religious level of compatibility would alight and she would level up in your eyes age can’t be fixed so that’s a fixed value unless they level up so much you can look past it which is hard i feel for mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:42 PM
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Which goes back to value. A man must demonstrate his value, some women also try to ignore it for several reasons, but at X value a man’s value is undeniable and must be acknowledged and respected which leads to attraction. The same reason people have respect for Bruce Wayne is the same formula any man can use to get majority of women. Be a man who does what others assume they cannot, and prove you can and THAT is magnetic. If you can dream big and actualize it it's over for any woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:59 PM
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It's weird that most people are horrible judges of potential
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:55 PM
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And his value became more apparent prob
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:52 PM
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Relationship potential status
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:37 PM
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No u don't value them enough to see them elevated
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:33 PM
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Low value male friends is the worst feeling to have
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:18 PM
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Those are fixable boxes. If they were into you and you told them “bad with money” it's fix able. Spiritual ehhh “fake it till you make it tbh” honestly one angle with that is believing your heart is closed off to that possibility until you meet someone who makes u believe aka same way people get converted to religions. These r easily fixable value levers these “attractive friends” could fix and make u date them IF these friends really wanted to date u in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:17 PM
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Lots of women say they do but they don't really believe it they wanna believe they are special
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:49 PM
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If you were incompatible personalities you wouldn't be best friends
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:39 PM
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There is a reason for this they are too low value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:03 PM
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If they became successful and generally attractive to other women AND you are single and not dating thrm when given a shot then it's just pride or delusion. It's just an experiment I'm running on a person I know irl. Gonna prove once and for all people women especially r full of crock when they say they don't feel a “spark” by showing any man with enough hard work and a dream you can create it people just don't live in a reality where they see it as possible
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:05 PM
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Ohhhh that book. Yeah it's true but it's not true for all women, it's true prob for maybe half of them but those r women who refuse to operate outside of double standards and deeper level insight
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:02 PM
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If you knew your best friend who you were not attracted too because they seemed unsuccessful was about to become extremely successful it would make them attractive to you All attraction comes down to qualities you value in attraction category. If a guy is a best friend he meets majority of them already because you happily want to be around them, so now he's missing very key value based ones that have less to down with personality But it's fine more people will understand when I write my manifest…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:43 AM
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What book
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:37 AM
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Yes if you are great friends 100% because it means your kept there for a reason I have a girl friendzoned atm because of her shitty choices and lack of consistent ltr value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:35 AM
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It comes down to keeping men on the hook who have potential or no potential tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:33 AM
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The missing things always come down to value. If the guy was a once in a lifetime catch and your friend that places his value high enough. If a man is in the status of making a woman think one day she could be single and another woman would say to her. “He said you never gave him a shot? You let this amazing guy get away! Why is that he's so great in every way? I'm glad I found him!!! 😂” If a woman fears another woman could say this about a guy it's done you will be desired by her. Aka value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:29 AM
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Compliments matter and women fall into the gutter overtime when they realize most men just wanna fuck but not date them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:23 AM
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You have to do a lot of work to overcome this it's very hard
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:22 AM
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That's all it means because if your a good friend you guys get along so your missing attraction which comes down to value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:20 AM
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If he's only your friend and you are single it def is an insult to him as it means you view him as low value on some level
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:17 AM
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Janna sees her husband and she has the money to not worry about meaningless tasks like fixing a door. You are crazy delu if you think it's attractive to have less money but some hands to bang to things together. Now if your arguing about simple tasks that a guy COULD watch a youtube video about and make a time vs money decision then sure. But if your talking about real shit like some tedious shit someone could fuck up that's crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:21 AM
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Did you piA?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:59 AM
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Agree with this and if they realize they can succeed standards go through the roof
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:58 AM
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You are DEEP in denial if you think ANY sane person is choosing less money overall but a guy who is handy over a guy who makes far more lmfao. Imagine thinking I'll take 50-70k but a guy who can fix stuff around the house is hawt vs 90-110k but he spends 10% on getting shit professionally done Crazy logic actually crazy and shows horrible long term thought process and is more tingle thoughts Sure you feel tingly when he can fix a janky door but you sure as shit won’t when you visit Janna who is …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:55 AM
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Time is money. If they work X hours and make 6 figures and you would rather a man who makes less money but can fix things so you can keep your less money thrn do it. But most sane people would take the hard working man who pays for things to be fixed and STILL has more money than the man fixing things with his hands. People who fix odd jobs on their own either genuinely enjoy it or it's a way of life and survival it's not a feat to say I can Jerry rig something to work or fix something over 12 h…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 08:18 PM
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I was bothered by the random handy man stuff, but yeah if she is comparing a man to dad and saying dad is better then u dump her and tell her to find a man like dad
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 08:15 PM
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Behavior yes. Body language is not even worth discussing because that's going back to confidence which obviously is going to be high. Skin smell is just a random thing that is attributed to a man who is already high value in a woman eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:53 PM
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Of course and the book tells him the look she desires within reason also so he fits that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:43 PM
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I am not
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:38 PM
1

A friend can easily be better
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:15 PM
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Basically this. If you want a relationship with a woman who is a friend make the two of you equal first and go from there. Friendship to dating is very easy to pull off if you do it right
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:14 PM
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So if a man made you feel butterflies and you felt the magic but secretly it was cold and calculated based on things he KNEW you found attractive and he tailored himself to fit those things how would u feel?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:12 PM
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Everyone counts value. Only some people count it subconsciously and some consciously. If you do it consciousnessly you have more control and power over someone who doesn't. Imagine you can tell me to my face you are not attracted to me and never will be. I can increase my value numbers, and booooom. Your brain couldnt fathom it so now you “see me as a new man INSTEAD of as a man who just got better” It also facilitates “sparks” for people who can't think of it like that as they feel the uncontro…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:50 PM
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Def not its value
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:44 PM
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Until you lose a hand doing something you could have payed someone to do then you realize why am I making all this money if I can't enjoy life without losing my hand
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:33 PM
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It's a trigger because it's trash
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:23 PM
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This is just a lot of bullshit what ur saying
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:22 PM
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The wall is real but its different for various people. If your black it can be a loooot higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:21 PM
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2 is more about effort displayed not hidden quests like how you described it 3 high value is a thing, women want it men have to demonstrate it and then expect the same level from the woman
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:18 PM
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I know how to use power tools, I installed locks on my own doors, I would STILL pay a professional if I have the financial means to not care If I'm making 6 figures I'm not doing any handy shit when I can pay someone whose JOB it is to do that to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:15 PM
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Fixing stuff doesn't mean your strong, having the means to pay someone who is a professional to fix something is another version of strength
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:13 PM
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The issue is the men women want use them and they project that on lesser men
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:16 AM
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Ur not strong just cause u can handy man some stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:14 AM
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Toxic take. Not everyone has the time or energy or knowhow to fix stuff. If he makes enough to pay for it he can hire someone
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:13 AM
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Yeh and if a single woman at the finish line can't be attracted to a man who demonstrated qualites most men don't have and gave her his most focus and effort on being there best self then fuck it No man will ever be able to compete with my story so rest r doomed
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:08 AM
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1 has less to do with a man doing heavy lifting and more just being able to tell if a man is truly interested, making plans doesn't mean a guy doesn't like you, but if he NEVER puts in effort and doesn't truly seem all in by his actions that's a problem 2 ain't really that bad, it's not that serious, you don’t need sex you need her doing things for you, if a woman is happily cooking for you and doing stuff you like that's a far better sign she likes you just make sure the stuff is romantic or ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 03:31 AM
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I believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:27 AM
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You value his “brain” to the point that it overrides a lot. That's a very very big thing cause its a bit stronger than other stuff. I'm the same way with this girl atm, it's why I'm devoting the next 9 months (and previous 5) to self improvement to have a shot of being of value in her eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:33 AM
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You love people based on your perceived value of them relative to yourself and thankfulness of being with them basically
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:21 AM
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It's real but it's based on value
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 12:57 AM
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Eh. It's prob around 25% of total people that you can pull from which is still plenty
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 12:54 AM
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Because most people are dog shit. You can't dwell on bad people or people who can't even think about thinking. Focus on finding the women who know what they want and understand it comes at a cost
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 12:52 AM
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??? Why would you care about those people? Also he isn't red pill at all. What he says isn't red pill concepts if anything it's more blue. All he says is if you want better be better that's basically the gist of it. And be able to think far higher
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 12:13 AM
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It's simple a person who cheats or tries to go with another man isn't worth your time if ur giving your best. I think u should watch hoe math it will help u more. https://youtu.be/hREY1FJmqpU?si=Dwcbht9PPzcJkQt0
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 11:57 PM
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Tbf love isn't real it's more based on value numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 11:52 PM
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Everyone is fine with this reality until it’s flipped on them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 04:32 PM
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No, hence why i said if i was a woman at the finished line i would ask the man what he wanted etc. I don’t assume giving him “sex” gets me there. Most women don’t openly ask men what it takes to get them there because they don’t like the answer. For my girl i have a long list of things lined out lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:05 PM
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def and they r getting better i guess but there are still times when it’s not good
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:02 PM
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stoicism in relationships is bad long term
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:54 PM
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nah a penalty in another area of life isn’t a game to me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:54 PM
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Not at all. It says your looks latter, and most men cannot do the work. What women fail at isn’t really ignoring men who haven’t done the work, it’s the ones who are mid way and still going. EVEN then it’s a bad deal. Because a man might just reach his goal and use her as a starter, so I think if i were a woman i’d be very hesitant to do that honestly. I too would wait at the finish line see the full cost and then try to fight my way to the negotiating table without SEX
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:53 PM
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yeh and i’m not gonna sacrifice my own views on how to treat others id rather just penalize them mentally and move on
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:44 PM
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and then when they text me they want a response
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:41 PM
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i’m okay with her doing that if she knows the price is higher later
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:40 PM
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stoicism is unhealthy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:40 PM
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For me it’s a bit harder can’t really detach because when i do the behavior back people find annoyance So penalties allow me to follow social protocol and actually respond in good time while not feeling like they got one over
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 11:23 AM
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eh not true get fit and burnin desire is made
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:55 AM
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nah just a friend but still same thing but i think making a penalty game that only i know about makes it much easier mentally to not care/ frames it from a disrespect for me to a hurting themselves type of ordeal
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:41 AM
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was feeling bad about people who can’t text back then realized i could just keep note and penalize them later now i feel much better
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 08:59 AM
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You are a strong woman and you should be commended for the action you've taken
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 09:17 PM
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Because it’s what people see as the last line of defense. It doesn’t function well as one though and usually it fails if you are at a point of “therapy or split.” Because it’s so much build up and resentment it’s hard to fix. It’s like brushing your teeth and flossing prevents cavities etc. And if you get one you can treat it, but if you ignore it TOO long you lose tooth
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 02:39 PM
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Couples counseling is PREVENTATIVE therapy. It is not meant to be the oh shit emergency button. It is something you should be doing so resentment and oh shit situations don’t ever happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 02:36 PM
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It’s very simple. Men need to make sure young boys are getting fit at young age. Men need to be practicing safe sex and only having children with women fit to be good wife’s and mothers. Rest self corrects over time
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 02:33 PM
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Can be but they should communicate that with person B if they feel that should be the case
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 02:31 PM
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it literally scientifically matters so hold on is childhood trauma not a thing to you? what country do you live in? you a woman who says the spark and feelings only matter are denying the impact childhood development has on people?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 05:49 PM
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alright so red flag number 1. childhood development is what shapes us as people and sets us on a path of development deeper into life if your childhood is fucked it can cause deep rippling effects to plague you deep into adulthood on a subconscious level and this is coming from a person who has studied this shit for reasons so again how was your childhood
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 05:41 PM
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okay story time why did you two split? what was the real reason
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 05:39 PM
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was your childhood healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 05:38 PM
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your checklist broken down does not match the perfect guy you talk about this dude a lot both dudes what if dude you love is actually toxic and your attracted to toxicity or push pull that has him living rent free in your head and dude two is great but healthy so you are not feeling the spark? why do u use the same two men as ur baseline
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 05:18 PM
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it’s not magic you have a type lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 05:14 PM
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another spot on post
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 05:06 PM
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that something is value based u just can’t admit what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 04:43 PM
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it’s called being a coinflip per in life they exist in games too people who do great or poorly but are never consistent
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 04:42 PM
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biiiingo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 04:41 PM
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fucking saved amazing post and i agree
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 04:40 PM
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not exactly there are different avenues to being attractive but being fit is the most easiest consistent way to do it you could do it in other ways but trial and error and personal skill/talent matter like being funny
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 07:53 PM
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Get fit and that’s basically it for men. fit men are same thing as big boobs/big but for women they just deny it and yes both sexes can be trash that’s life you need to vet
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:54 PM
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Long as she likes anime sure
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 10:15 AM
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i think you are partially right i think a deeper reason is men who didn’t know HOW to be attractive were having more lost kids and ones who were were not passing the skills to their kids if a father does his job his son should never struggle a day in dating tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:39 AM
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it’s def about looks first
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:37 AM
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I'm saying in general
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 10:39 PM
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Then put in the work mate
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:56 PM
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Uhh I would take the fat ones loosing weight. That shit is hot to me. Seeing someone go from fat to thin is amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:53 PM
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This is from the same category as thyroid problem equals weight gain can't lose weight. BRUH NO. It's important yes you can be a mommy and a dad but you are also a husband and wife staying sexy matters. Do the physical work so your kids don't have to grow up seeing two roommates raise them smh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:51 PM
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Prob right but I would rather that be the default setting. Both partners making sure the other one knows that they should be taking care of their bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 07:39 PM
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It is so find a healthy woman and give her health versions of love and stuff. Long as you are fit this is possible
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 05:55 PM
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Women make emotional decisions that are like a player in league choosing to scream ff while team is doing well
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:19 PM
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Making decisions that you would never encourage your child to make romanticly but you justify doing them because they feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:07 PM
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Great post I totally agree. Best thing to do is just be a high value man and find a good woman, don’t stress about other peoole
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 11:12 AM
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It’s a subconscious thing people do, it’s not really talked about or gone into detail because unless you accept it you can’t reject it. It’s easier to blind eye it for men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:10 PM
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It’s called bias + double standards. Everyone lies man get over it. If you can see the nuance and truth take advantage and live your life
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:06 PM
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yeh and it’s easy to be top tier because so many men r trash
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 07:29 PM
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Okay. If you think using that excuse is good then that’s a diff of opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 04:18 PM
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There is nothing wrong with being open and honest about attraction. If i put on weight my wife has all the right to stop feeling attracted to me, spoiler alert this is exactly what happens in many relationships that fail, both parties put on weight and stop being attracted. Pregnancy DOES wreck the body but for some women to use it as an excuse like 6+ months after the fact to say they can’t lose weight makes no sense. Wanting a man to “love you for you” while you are not taking care of your bod…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 04:00 PM
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LMAOOO you are an absolute failure in my eyes if you are not doing that as a man. It’s your fucking job to make sure you do your part if not more so a woman can even put herself in the headspace of wanting to feel sexy and isn’t just in mommy mode 24/7, which leads to weight gain/less sex/depression etc etc until both man and woman have checked out. If your not on it as a man post children you are a failure of a man and husband/father. You damn sure better be doing chores/helping with child care…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:50 PM
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Top 20% just go to the gym
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:48 PM
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Supply and demand less high quality men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 01:38 PM
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I have talked to many women who have openly confessed they know and have used it as an excuse. I know one girl personally that like 4 months after her child she was back to gym 4/5 times a week and started getting her body back it’s an excuse if u could do it for a million bucks u can do it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 01:36 PM
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Not loosing weight after a baby at least 6 months after is an excuse. Idk why we keep saying this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 10:01 AM
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You can be yourself just be an ideal version of yourself that is maxed out in many stats
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:52 AM
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it’s easier tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:49 AM
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Why is being hot not important tho? If i was a woman I would want a guy who goes to the gym and has a flat stomach idk why this is such a huge issue, UNLESS i want it and i’m not willing to do the same in return
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:47 AM
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there are less high value men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:59 AM
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Truthfully that’s an issue that if we both sat here and dig into we would figure out why. But as long as a man has healthy attachments, vets well and is looking for good qualities before getting invested he is fine. Men are the prize in this current dating situation so they really have majority of the leverage because so many men are really shit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:48 PM
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Im convinced this is why the league of legends community is so bad. Ff mentality really is an issue for men atm i guess. It’s really easy but most men don’t wanna try, none of that stuff is hard. Be fit make decent money. Done the rest is simple shit that isn’t even real traits that basically get a pass long as you are fit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:34 PM
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lmao no
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:02 PM
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Once again major parental failure
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:08 PM
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ehhhh if u let urself go for any reason as a male u have failed regardless of age
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:43 PM
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it’s because that’s a scary word i guess? it is too broad, people need it broken down in steps normal isn’t a good term for it since it varies too much
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:43 PM
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based on ur history your a huge gamer into fitness and embrace feminine stuff, prob should lead with that and some man will snatch you up provided they are okay with the no kids thing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:41 PM
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or he used to look good but he let himself go and now she’s hoping things get better
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:35 PM
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idk why i would care
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:32 PM
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LOL Imagine being told you need to be fit, and be stable income, have passion, and have the ability to be social as too much work....man our parents really failed us
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:49 AM
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A male model is a different form of status. For an average male or rather a regular dude you don't need to be a gym RAT but you need to be fit. Men are delusional to think otherwise no matter WHAT women say their actions show you being fit is more advantageous than the alternatives. idk how many men have to become fit and say "guys this is night and day!" for men to wise up
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:48 AM
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In a perfect world you prob are correct. However in the current world where prob around 70% of men are not fit in NA it doesn’t matter so much. Fit short guy still slays compared to boring average taller unless we are talking 6 foot which is it’s own weird situation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:33 AM
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Because tbh usually that stuff is uhhh not “real?” If you are obese do the work. Height doesn’t REALLY matter as much as being fit does. I know guys who are 5’5 but jacked/fit and do fine Being fit is the only thing that matters to women consistently in terms of results It’s the same thing as a guy liking a woman with big boobs or a big but men are just in denial about it and women refuse to accept it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:29 AM
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BINGO but men refuse to believe it exists lol idk why
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:24 AM
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Same reason we don’t tell unsuccessful men to just lift or work out and that women desire a attractive fit body in most cases People like to live in lies or half truths it’s easier
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:22 AM
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i think there is some real merit to this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 02:16 AM
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fuck yes that’s def not a negative for me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 02:15 AM
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because it just doesn’t usually work like that unless both partners are fat etc men have a certain thresh hold they need to cross like 14% bodyfat and they appeal to tons of women cause most men are obese with “hot dad bods” which is a major half truth but w/e
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:56 PM
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That's very low level of thinking. Human beings have wants or needs the issue is people don't voice them and suffer silently. Any self respecting man wants a woman who desires him and is sexually turned on by his body. In that case being fit makes total sense. You are thinking of this from a way of I “deserve” not I want to give my woman the experience of a lifetime and vice versa. Could women do a better job of voicing the truth? Sure, could they help me build up more yes, but all these come wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:32 PM
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If you are not fit and not working out minimum 4/5 days a week you haven't put the work in to be attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:27 PM
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Go to the gym is most important or shit just do 1 punch man work out at home for 6 months to a year
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:38 PM
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The trans experience is not typically go trans asexual, and I wont even get into that. Most trans women get used for fetishes so they settle on a different sexuality when that happens too much. But by default most trans women if you were to take a poll want a hot bf off the rip deep down inside
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 01:37 PM
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This isn't even a debate but yes most people on this sub are bad at self improvement its clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 01:10 PM
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I don't see that too often in the trans community tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 01:08 PM
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Feeling it? Perfect person? And no. First of ał if you even think of the last person currently it probably means you had an unhealthy attachment/relationship with him maybe. But assuming that isn't the case just because a guy is “perfect” doesn't mean he was perfect. If you go down the checklist he was missing something otherwise he would be a catch and not single
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:29 PM
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And feelings are something you can calculate and manifest. Once again you have two types of people. People who enjoy watching movies for the feelings they give randomly…. And the people who CRAFT movies knowing by using specific techniques, scenes and formulas they can elicit specific feelings from people at certain times I hate to break it to people but feelings are something anyone who studies can create, so yes love is feeling based but it's a feeling with a formula, and part of that is feeli…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:20 PM
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Yes yes yes. We know. That's okay some chubby women are hot to me too, but we are not talking about snowflakes. We are saying objectively if you want to be the best or reach the biggest margins and have a wide casting net being fit will do it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:14 PM
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Truth time? It's not love. So women have a few issues that men don't have. One is pride, leaving a man to a lot of women means she failed and many cant accept that so they claim they want to work on it. They feel they can be the special one to fix him Two sex. Women literally after having sex with a man feel more bonded and feel like he is special more mentally because they were willing to fuck him. It's why men who women are willing to fuck are naturally treated better. Three abusive families m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:12 PM
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It's not even crazy hard just get fit is enough to do majority of it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:03 PM
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No they wont because doing the work is scary
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:00 PM
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Feeling it comes down to value if you are objectively a catch women will want you. No woman wants to be the woman at a wedding party who another woman comes up to and says “WOW you let HIM get away? I'm shocked but hey that means I got him now so thanks!” If that scenario could happen to them u will never have a situation where a woman won’t feel for u
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:00 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 11:57 AM
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Nah the main reason some seem like it tho is lots of men will use them so its safer and easier to date other trans
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 11:56 AM
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Trans women are very honest tbh. They want a fit body and openly state it as a very big preference very often. It lets you know where women’s mindsets are but they just don’t voice it. IF MEN KNEW how badly women truly want fit men the gym business would break overnight with insane growth
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:06 AM
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That's your L then
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:02 AM
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Then you settled?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 05:17 AM
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Get fit holy shit guys that's all it is
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:23 AM
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It’s very easy to become attractive go to the gym for one year consume .7 protein shit u don’t even need the gym. Prison work outs using body weight for 30 mins a day is enough tbh. Watch sodium and calories
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 11:18 PM
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Sounds like a good foolish way to live OP. Just go through life relying on coinflips and living in the moment brah
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 07:54 PM
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Sigh. Okay. Yes women want these things okay. But the level of which they need to be AT is a lot of effort, so it's much easier to have a great body that takes one year to make or so rather than try to be “great personality/funny” that will naturally put the halo effect over everything you say and do and make her “magically drawn to you”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:40 PM
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I am committed to the idea because hands down, when it comes to it women will choose muscular fit(no dad bod) over dad bod. That doesn't meant they don't like it but they love the other one far more. I can't for the life of me understand why it seems so important to just not admit that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:26 PM
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He has status so that over rules that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:18 PM
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Why do people say this? Men with great bodies are lusted all the same
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:18 PM
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That are big aka muscular its still better to not have one tho
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:15 PM
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I don't get it either why not just do the work and be desired
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 12:14 PM
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u know if ur brother is “hot”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:25 AM
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Looks matter. They matter prob the most. And they are the same thing in this context. If someone is attractive to you they are hot to you. Okay looking or decent looking is not attractive and yes you wouldn’t some women would but that’s not the point you value those qualities good that’s healthy doesn’t change the fact hot matter is ur current partner 🥵 or just good enough/decent looking
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:23 AM
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Cause it's what people do a subconscious level and don’t think about it. Lots of people go by feels but don’t dig into what causes or triggers it it’s why when you crack the code people are very easy to manipulate etc. They have patterns. https://youtu.be/Lk4g3cippOo?si=wCei1YSe2PMwUcHl Yes majority of people are content to just being clueless and tryna wing it. But when you break it down it’s very simple If you “settle” you will be fast track to a DB one day as you will always resent the person…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:21 AM
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Become hot and the risk goes out the door
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:16 AM
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He was not hot. You can have hot siblings who you know objectively they are not. If you showed us a pic this man would be a 5-6 and you know it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:14 AM
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If I asked that guy he would prob have a different story to tell. He was not hot. Maybe you felt tingles during the forbidden feelings phase of not wanting to break the friendship circle but truthfully he was not hot
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:14 AM
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He was not hot just admit it damn
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:12 AM
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Yes a catch is a once in a lifetime chance, hence why they are a catch you know if you let them go your chances of doing better are lower and their chances of finding someone else is high. This is basic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:11 AM
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It's not a real friendships. It's a form of dating that is implied dating with no title a precursor to talking with decent flirting
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:10 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:08 AM
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No the friend zone is not mutual that is delusion. The woman frienzones the man and he MUST accept friendship thats it. He is there not by choice hence how he got there. It's not mutual at all LOL You MADE the choice he accepted. If you tell me the apples cost 20 dollars and I really crave them Ill do it but that's not my mutual acceptance that's me taking what I can get the fuck? Cause if you offer them far cheaper ill def do it with more enthusiasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:08 AM
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https://gyazo.com/6b208274a705b378691f79fc0192ee48 https://gyazo.com/215582a4bec8194eb46b78c3f6842fa9 this is you in two different posts using the same exact WORDING you EVEN SAY HE WASNT BAD LOOKING ---bro if I say the MOVIE was not that bad... it doesn't mean it was fucking good or great LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:05 AM
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U literally said you “let him out of the friendzone” multiple times….
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:02 AM
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And they are not hot
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:02 AM
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The human brain doesn't lie. “Let him out” This means your brain at the deep subconscious level felt above him, you were doing HIM a favor, that means the power balance was never fair and it wasn't him being hot and you wanting him, it was he was “eh okay lets give it a shot” A man is still repulsive if he's repulsive, women can't control their brains enough to fix that. Men can fix it by being very attractive by demonstrating that they are a catch that MULTIPLE women would want. If you aren't t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:59 AM
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Human beings do not pass up on opportunities they view as once in a lifetime chances. Human beings do not let trivial things stop them from enjoying life IF it's worth it. He was not attractive to you. If he truly was you never would have let him go. That brother shit is an excuse everyone uses but if a man is truly hot its done.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:52 AM
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Ur trolling single motherhood is a nightmare people just lie
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:48 AM
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He wasn't hot enough then, If he was hot enough u wouldn't care/some women would be turned on more/and you def would be jealous about some other woman claiming him if he was a prize Gun to your head you know he wasn't a prize(and the way u phrase it sounds like u feel were doing him a favor)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:47 AM
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Honestly and sadly I agree OP. But I only agree if you are 100% in a situation where you tried everything. Loosing weight, counseling, boob job maybe, or dying your hair, building muscle etc etc. If all else fails and she/he doesn't want sex and your trapped AND you can show how you have a billion options and people who value you….eh your partner is delusional at that point do what u gotta do. At this point they are trapped with u since they can't value you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 10:32 PM
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getting “hot” takes less than 6months to a year to do and so many men fail at it women can’t help but fall for the ones who do dunno why men cry
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:58 PM
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bingoooo
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:53 PM
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just be honest lol plz
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:53 PM
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basically
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:52 PM
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he just was ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:52 PM
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or idk why not just self improve as a man and show her she made an amazing choice and ur not like the other shitters???
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:15 PM
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420?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:13 PM
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i say this all the time but no one believes me that it’s that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:11 PM
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very good point kylie, yep i agree most men r just playing bad so once u do the things to ply well u skyrocket
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:22 AM
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Get fit and you already have this
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 09:12 AM
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12-15 max
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:12 PM
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this
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 03:16 AM
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I did this before as well. If you want to make it easier on a college campus. Very simple method JUST get fit it makes it braindead. Women are not complex, be physically fit and they are putty in your hands same as how men are in front of big tits. Fuck all that body positivity shit get fit
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 02:07 PM
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Yes, or maaaaybe she can learn to be happy. Once you know what your max is you either change it or be happy you got your max tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:24 PM
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Yes BUT that % is possible to shift once a woman realizes what she envisions isn't possible. I want a level 10 sword till I realize it takes 24 hours to farm. I then happily choose the level 8 sword that takes 8 hours to farm.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:16 PM
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A lot of women vastly over estimate themselves sadly
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:15 PM
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You are correct OP but it would shatter the delusional women who think they are something special overall. And bring them back down to earth before they hit 30 and forced down
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:14 PM
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Okay so you picked a man who is lower value? There are a couple of plot points I could go into here but. Maybe you and 6 year guy were not a good fit and shouldnt have been married.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:54 PM
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The issue with doing that is if u do that when the person gets to the finish line too many people want their attention then. You have to invest when the cost is low to make your mark that's where most women mess up
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:12 PM
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That's not what I'm describing. Okay. You know that feeling when a friend does an amazing favor for you, and you feel naturally inclined or even emotionally satisfied doing something back for them? It's the same feeling men can give women by being high value (obtained easily by being fit) due to several reasons that go beyond just body.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:56 PM
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They do because it makes them feel an abundance of joy and gratitude. Passive dread is just you are objectively better than her due to being more in demand from women in large, which makes her feel “lucky” to have you. That's all And when she feels like this she wants to keep you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:44 PM
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It's soul crushing if the man doesnt care. It's just better if the man does care but still exerts passive dread which to a woman is “I'm so fucking lucky to have him”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:30 PM
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Because women tell me the truth but men don’t realize it's not exactly the objective truth
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:27 PM
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I had no push. Plus it took me a bit of time to really even accept the idea that it was that simple, I had a lot of stunted development sadly. Abusive childhood and all that jazz. But yes if a woman had come to me and urged me to be better I would have done it, it's why I also try to encourage others cause some people in one ear out the other but for some people it's the spark to a fire. Currently I've ramped up my training to a whole new level and I expect by December I'll be chad lite physical…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:41 PM
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A physically fit man. As that checks multiple boxes of attraction. It's also why men get confused when women say that being physically fit isn't everything. Women are being honest but men don’t get the nuance. A woman will gladly date a fat man who ticks certain boxes, and demonstrates an attractive persona. HOWEVER what men fail to realize is not all men are born with that or can obtain that. But being fit gives you the same benefits and people are subconsciously driven to you and will treat yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:06 PM
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Personally I love the look and feel of fake tits. And women don’t go for potential in physicality which is pretty much the only thing that matters. If you see a dude who is “nice” but unnatractice for specific reasons give him a nudge that's all it takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:00 PM
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Totally agree, but a lot of the kid reering stuff tbh just comes down to men not understanding what women want which is very very simplistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:58 PM
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You can punish in other ways and parentification is not being a good sibling it's vastly different I experienced it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:39 PM
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Boob job does that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:37 PM
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Good post OP. Women want men who check all the boxes without checking them themselves, men do it too. It's a big issue
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:26 AM
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This is a major excuse people say because the idea that the answer is that simple is extremely scary
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:56 PM
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If you train your body for 10-11 months you will reach a point of physical fitness women will be drawn to you. It’s just how it works for most men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:18 PM
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gonna agree with this tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 03:30 PM
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It’s not really frustrating because all it is is a test of how attractive you are, you want to be at a point where women feel like risking it all and being abundantly clear. if you are not there you have more work to do on yourself physically
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 03:28 PM
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not exactly you can work extremely hard to get one woman as long as in the process your becoming attractive to other women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 05:53 PM
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your pfp is some her gender bent i can’t remember who tho
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 05:52 PM
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ehh it’s the same basics be fit etc
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 01:02 PM
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good advice autistic women literally lose their shit over high value autistic men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:34 AM
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