ARealDame Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
15	Is anyone else getting reminded of their ex narc during the Heard Vs Depp trial? Of course he said that. He knows how to project and twist. He also texted that he wanted to kill her and begged her on tape to knife him. He's an abusive creep. I don't know much about her but have no respect for a guy who has gone on TV and admitted he has assaulted people trying to sue her for defamation of whatever instead of going to therapy. He's turning it into a soap opera and it's a sample case that shows how much more empathy have for men than women.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/04/22 04:46 AM
68	An Ode to Living Alone The natural rhythm aspect is important...a whole other way of being and I love that about being and living alone, too.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/22 12:09 AM
9	What Are The Signs Of Porn-Sick Men? 😆	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/04/22 03:52 AM
52	I feel like I need to have a funeral I'm 56. Same. Sigh. Still...my life is better than ever. ☺	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/04/22 02:52 AM
19	all this going on farida.d. author is a reminder men are not our allies Yep. Woke men can be extra bad for us because they believe themselves to be virtuous...or they know how to pretend they are. Either way, don't trust them until you see evidence of respectful behavior towards women. Ongoing evidence.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/04/22 04:25 PM
16	Dating “inequality” “data analysis”-🤣 "What it says on the tin." 😆 🔥	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/04/22 09:00 PM
102	Giving Level Up advice to friends who then run that advice past their husbands before acting My ex husband gave me consistently bad advice when it came to career moves. Not on purpose, but because he just isn't great in that area. I learned to not listen to him about career options, then not to consult him. Maybe the 2 colleagues have partners who are good at career advice or maybe it's just that old grooming to validate thru a man at work. Either way, you did your colleagues a favour and good on ya.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/03/22 01:09 AM
1	TAKE UP SPACE, YOUR VOICE MATTERS I was working with a woman today whose request was reasonable, and for the thing I am paid to do. She apologized probably 6 times in 3 phone calls. I felt for her. I said "no apologies!" With cheer but she couldn't stop. All the women I work with -- including leaders, CAO, etc -- apologize reflexively, including me at times. Of course the men do not. Sometimes at work female socialization whirls up a sort of echo chamber where the women keep reflecting and amplifying both niceties and not-so-nic…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/22 03:56 AM
2	Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships. Yes! Boundaries should prompt respect. Intimacy can only build over time within a respectful relationship container. Intimacy is not based on confessions, particularly when traded at the beginning of a potential relationship.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/03/22 06:43 PM
28	Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over you Lol "a verbal powerpoint" 😆	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/22 06:58 PM
2	Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over you Solid advice! Took me way to long to grasp this.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/22 06:57 PM
37	He came back. Lol Mr. Lugnut	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/22 01:06 AM
24	Let's Talk About Woke Bros and Negging Yep... the enlightened ones are most manipulative...that is, the ones who portray themselves as such to manipulate you. If truly wise they would be able to hear your words of wisdom in return. It's them trying to condition you to think they are like the nice things they send. And yes, I think it's subtle negging, the assumption being that THEY are schooling YOU in the higher values of life. Woke bros are the worst in some ways.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/03/22 03:23 AM
3	A simple trick to combat negging... Brilliant! 💐💐💐💐 👍👍👍👍 'For extra flair, laugh at the end of your response if they were trying to disguise their neg as a joke." 😆 "Negs and unwarranted, underhanded advice are very intentional, are meant to put you up against a wall, and are meant to make you work to defend and prove yourself." Yes...this is the crux and can be the hardest to grasp for those of us who are not like that. We don't go around trying to put others up against the wall because we don't get our jollies or derive our este…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/03/22 02:32 PM
108	The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: What is he SAYING? Excellent advice. And their stories? If they manage to package themselves as both victim and hero, they are trying to play you. It can be subtle, but if it's there it's somehow in almost every story. All about "the portrayals" as you describe it, which is an excellent term.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/03/22 03:33 PM
42	Don't tell him what red flags are a deal breaker for you Yes... best to see the unadulterated behavior so you can spot the patterns.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/03/22 02:27 AM
22	What we can learn from model Paulina Porizkova (the latest Aba & Preach video) So a truly ugly dude uses a couple of mediocre radio hits to snag a supermodel. Turns out, he's a narc and spends the rest of his life trying to make her feel ugly, too. Tale as old as time...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/03/22 01:14 AM
1	Male highly driven predatory sexual appetite & drive VS women’s easily controlled, & sometimes non existent drive. Is this nature or nurture? Is there any coming back from generationally being hunted for sex from childhood? Good point... "They never think “but what about the females?!?” Unless it’s is to take away our agency."	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/02/22 05:08 AM
6	Male highly driven predatory sexual appetite & drive VS women’s easily controlled, & sometimes non existent drive. Is this nature or nurture? Is there any coming back from generationally being hunted for sex from childhood? "Get power and money, learn all the guerilla ways of birth control and abortion, band together with other women for forceful protection, and let's let the evil men die off. Let's either voluntarily go extinct as a species or change our future to a far better one." 💐💐💐	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/02/22 05:06 AM
57	Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle? 😆 "yes, but what if didn't...?" Babies.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/02/22 12:57 AM
9	FDS: From minimizing dating disappointment to averting life-derailing disaster - Or the power of sticking the hell up for yourself. Brilliant words. 💐💐💐	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/02/22 02:39 AM
66	Jordan Peterson + Childless Women He flips things around...projection. there is a greater chance his whole premise is more true of men than women. You are right in that he doesn't understand our psyche. I wish he did, cos he gets lots of attention and his popularization of cognitive behavioral type stuff can be helpful.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 02:22 AM
18	Why we shouldn’t have men as friends….a sequel. Yes, I have experienced this. They will mount intensive campaigns to convey they want a real relationship, too. Then the bread crumbing starts. It's a con, and it's on purpose.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/22 03:03 AM
10	Red and False Green Flags :: My Epiphanies from The Tinder Swindler "Simon exploited the very best qualities of these women; their compassion, loyalty and prioritizing his safety over their financial security. Anyone who judges someone falling prey to this is the perfect target because their arrogance leaves the blind spots these scammers capitalize on." Yes!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/22 12:36 AM
50	Women can be very kind to each other. I'm tired of society acting like were only catty to each other Yeah! The reality is women's shelters are full of victims of male violence...bit apparently it's women "scorned" that hell hath no fury like.... projection is coded into our culture all over the place. Glad we wising up.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/22 12:12 AM
13	Women can be very kind to each other. I'm tired of society acting like were only catty to each other Awesome post...it's true that society lies and tries to wedge us apart but come on, think about the instances in our lives when someone showed us empathy from a purely helpful place and it's more often women than men. Even nice men tend to lack the interest in being helpful in so many ways, as if it doesn't even occur to them.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/22 12:09 AM
1	What we can learn from Tinder Swindler & a field report on current dating apps I loved reading this! 🔥 🎤	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/02/22 07:26 AM
2	Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving him What a hostile thing to do to her. I am so glad she is leaving him. Aggression like that is so hurtful, scary and an attempt at soul-killing. He's an abuser and not her friend or lover. Yech!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/22 03:17 AM
101	Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you" This is an awesome summary!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/01/22 10:15 PM
73	Redpill/PUA tactic: breaking the touch barrier One user I met on OLD came in for a hug on our first date. Which was a walk. Damn, I am grateful for FDS. The overall dating narrative has become so tilted in favour of pushy creeps it can be difficult to even recognize these points of coercion and disrespect. OLD, walk dates, early touch, going Dutch...these are all things established to increase convenience for men.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/01/22 04:58 PM
1	Porn is neither harmless nor fantasy That so many people call footage of real women being injured, tortured and murdered "harmless" is heartbreaking.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/21 08:19 PM
7	Sons of single mothers = a huge red flag The enmeshment is real. I've noticed over the years that oftentimes mothers of sons are more indulgent with them than they are of daughters. "Can you believe it? My 12 year old son was sent sexts by a girl two years younger! She sought him out! It's happened with more than one girl! I must protect his innocence by giving him and his friends all the monster drinks and unsupervised gaming time and pizza pockets they want. THeY are GoOD KidZ."	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/21 03:08 AM
14	Was your dad an HVM? Alcoholic, hated having kids, suicide at age 55 when I was 9. My mom had to start with nothing, plus a broken heart, at 50. She worked very hard to support us. But he ruined her life almost.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/12/21 12:37 AM