ASinlifestyle Archive

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2	My tinder experience as a black guy. Tell me your online dating experience as a minority or person of color. Yeah man... I see it all the time some of these black guys here will take ANYTHING. Everyone needs love i get it but i’m in the gym 24-7 i’ll be damned if my girl isn’t looking sexy af lmao. I 100% relate to you. Just a matter of shifting focus i guess. I know bumble allows you to filter based on activity level that could be something you could try?	/r/seduction	14/02/21 10:29 AM
3	My tinder experience as a black guy. Tell me your online dating experience as a minority or person of color. A lot of those women do that because a lot of black guys will take “anything” and i’m in America. This has been true for a long time. Black guys tend to be more accepting of thicker girls whereas white and asian guys not so much.	/r/seduction	14/02/21 10:23 AM
8	approaching women at the gym? Firstly any place you go out where the women are plenty will probably still be majority men so scrap that excuse. 90% men does not mean 90% men hitting on them. A portion of those men are gay, a portion are uninterested, and another portion are thinking the same as you therefore do not take any action which leaves a small portion of that percentage to be the men who will do something. Talk to them about something they're doing in the gym and start learning about their journey. Is this the first …	/r/seduction	30/01/20 10:32 AM
1	Opened ended questions "If you had to choose between playing every instrument, speaking every language or visiting every country which would you choose and why?" Not necessarily the definition of open ended but it works for me often.	/r/seduction	30/01/20 10:28 AM
3	Need help with dancefloor game for tomorrow night. Go dance with some girls and see which one is more receptive to you physically. If things are going well and you are being very physical without much opposition try to kiss her and from there you just keep pushing the tension up.	/r/seduction	30/01/20 10:26 AM
2	Keeping interest over distance Honestly it's a tricky situation because she is going to entertain something if it comes up being that it's closer to her and I'd expect you would too. I think keep doing what you're doing but understand that it's highly likely for something else to happen with someone else on both sides. In other words I wouldn't over invest in this one girl.	/r/seduction	16/01/20 08:21 AM
1	I’m doing self-improvement but I still find myself worshipping girls despite putting so much effort towards myself I honestly don't think so man, but if it's that or you improving mentally it's definitely worth it.	/r/seduction	03/01/20 07:34 AM
1	I’m doing self-improvement but I still find myself worshipping girls despite putting so much effort towards myself Don't take offense to this man but you might want to pursue therapy it COULD be helpful but it's not always the answer. The simplest I can make it is you have to figure out the why behind the why. You feel anxious due ti weed addiction but why? Also loneliness is normally associated with not wanting to be left alone with your own thoughts because they're more often destructive/negative. You want girls to validate you but trust me that is a never ending hamster wheel man. You should try to forget…	/r/seduction	02/01/20 08:54 AM
1	I’m doing self-improvement but I still find myself worshipping girls despite putting so much effort towards myself Once you figure why it's happening I imagine you'll know what to do from there. If not I'd say you need to go talk to some of these girls you're really into and explore it all. I could be overanalyzing but have you been with girls before and become clingy or codependent?	/r/seduction	01/01/20 10:30 AM
1	Need help with seducing girl! [M16] As a rule of thumb if she sends something revealing you compliment on it or comment on how it makes you feel. She might want something in return as well. Eventually you need to try to see those things in person	/r/seduction	01/01/20 10:28 AM
1	[FR] First two public approaches in my entire life! Awesome man keep working on improving!	/r/seduction	01/01/20 08:34 AM
1	Ignored text Move on to the next one don't put up with a girl who blatantly ignores your text. Move on, or hit her up saying "why did you ignore my text about hanging out?" Don't bullshit around with her be straightforward.	/r/seduction	01/01/20 08:32 AM
6	I’m doing self-improvement but I still find myself worshipping girls despite putting so much effort towards myself Girls are pretty much never going to "Chase" you the way men chase women society has not conditioned us to behave in this way. The exceptions are if you're rich/famous/have high status. IF you started self-improvement mainly to forget about girls well then you aren't really self-improving as much as you're distracting yourself. If you are worshipping girls you are putting them on pedestals because of how they look which is a common thing guys do. No matter how much you self-improve or stay "busy…	/r/seduction	01/01/20 08:31 AM
1	I hate my body/looks and it's obviously killing my game Your looks are more or less fixed and plastic surgery traditionally only exacerbates the issue; most people can never just get one operation so i'd stay away from that. You need to figure out who you're comparing yourself to and why you're doing it. No one is objectively ugly. Also no matter how your face looks you can optimize it by shaving certain ways getting certain haircuts, wearing glasses, not wearing glasses etc. Work on your mindset and figure out whose definition of attractiveness you …	/r/seduction	01/01/20 04:45 AM
3	Need advice from you! Do nothing move on to the next.	/r/seduction	01/01/20 04:26 AM
2	Been out of the game for 1 year Of course man we've been there it's just like muscular atrophy from lack of use. Good thing is those skills are still there you just need to wake them up by doing "reps" for lack of a better phrase and once you start getting more positive feedback your confidence will start to come back.	/r/seduction	01/01/20 02:10 AM
1	Need help with seducing girl! [M16] Well if she is already sending things like this you probably are in good shape. I'd definitely compliment her on what she sends sometimes but feel free to playfully tease her. If she sends her bottom make a comment on something random in the photo like the dirty mirror or something. How have you been responding?	/r/seduction	01/01/20 02:09 AM
1	How to reply to affectionate texts I don't think you need to worry about losing frame. Reply how you feel is natural for however you two are progressing and stop overthinking it.	/r/seduction	01/01/20 02:08 AM
2	Dates from cold approach I think it depends on the vibe you put off when you first met them. If you were putting off player vibes then they probably weren't on the relationship wavelength and you lost them because they wanted the fun. I'm not sure if they all see being approached as playerish. I'm sure there's great variety in how it's perceived by women so be careful not to generalize. I'm sure they understand that you want something otherwise you wouldn't have gone up to them in the first place. Again, I'd say look at…	/r/seduction	31/12/19 11:42 AM
3	I just want to be genuine I think you're overcomplicating it possibly? If you can befriend baristas and bartenders then you can befriend random people as well. Many gamers are part of a social circle but you don't have to be restricted to any one circle. It comes down to what do you want your circle to look like? Are they gym goers, hikers, animal lovers, knitters, etc? Obviously it'll be something or some things you share interest in. Then it's a matter of either sharing those interest with the people you meet and/or fi…	/r/seduction	31/12/19 11:00 AM
2	Insecurities with other specific types of people? It's probably true to some degree that certain ethnicities prefer others but again that's select individuals within the entirety of the ethnic groups. Black girls and Latina girls have reputations of being stronger than Asian or White women so maybe this is what is affecting you. My thoughts are use being White to your advantage. Plenty of Latinas and Black women will go for White guys so just be yourself and avoid fixating on what you think is a limitation. Plenty of White guys even get "cool" …	/r/seduction	31/12/19 10:22 AM
1	A Rejection Doesn't Have To Be A Rejection Of The Whole Of Us Facts	/r/seduction	31/12/19 10:19 AM
3	I'm broken inside No it's not easier said than done you're just stuck in a pity party and it's comfortable for you so your brain justifies it. It's literally simple if you want people to care about you go out and give them reasons to and stop with all the BS self pity. Or you know, don't stop, keep posting self-pitying BS online seeking sympathy since that's easier than doing the actual work. Good luck g	/r/seduction	31/12/19 10:17 AM
2	I'm very good at getting girls interested, and very good at getting them loose interest No I meant more like tell her what you're feeling once she is already at the point where you "have" her. In my experience girls love this level of vulnerability but as you said definitely not too soon as they feel like psychologists. I would even word it something like "I just want to be the best I can if we do this" if you choose to express it at all. I think expression MAY help you by giving you a different outlet for it. If you were generally afraid of rejection i'm confused a to how you woul…	/r/seduction	31/12/19 08:54 AM
9	I'm broken inside Stop having a pity party and start taking action toward what you want. You want girls and friends then do the things that put you in position to get them. The new year won't change the previous year's bad habits bro don't expect a miracle. Start small and do the damn work.	/r/seduction	31/12/19 08:49 AM
3	I'm very good at getting girls interested, and very good at getting them loose interest As crazy as this may sound I think you can use that exact sentiment (the one of wanting closeness and intimacy) to your advantage and make the girl invest in you even more than she already is. It sounds like you have some mental work to do regarding whatever scarred you before so that you can treat each new and unique situation as just that, new and unique. After all you're in this to enjoy yourself and so is she. Fear of rejection is counterproductive for most people unless we reframe it becaus…	/r/seduction	31/12/19 08:25 AM
1	I'm very good at getting girls interested, and very good at getting them loose interest If you were a virgin i'd maybe point to that. I've also heard this same thing from a friend who later found out he was gay. If neither of these are your issue then i'd say it's some form of perfectionism. You don't want to suck at sex or you don't want her to be bored/reject you at her most emotionally heightened state because maybe you feel it will hurt more. Definitely interesting seeing as how the beginning parts are what most guys struggle with. Are you unconfident in your skills sexually?	/r/seduction	31/12/19 07:53 AM
1	trying to slide in the dms It's in all of us. Doesn't make you a pussy bro you just lost to your subconscious mind as we all do from time to time. At this point I don't see any harm in just going for broke unless the rejection risk is that big but if you're prepared to say F it anyway then why not? Go for it.	/r/seduction	31/12/19 07:50 AM
2	Need some help getting out of a rut. I'm not going to waste your time with a lengthy reply when all you need is this: Stop feeling bad for yourself, get off your ass and go approach girls everyday. You don't need a course or essay to tell you that. Go take action.	/r/seduction	31/12/19 07:06 AM
1	How to invite girls to be a “part of your world?” Part of your world depends on what your world is like. Imagine a rich guy with a Tesla and a six pack. His world is one of money, fitness and adventure most likely. When the girl sees his instagram pictures of him flexing while sitting on his tesla his world is very clear. Think about "nerdy" gamers. Their worlds are quite different than tesla guy. It's the idea of having your own shit established and believing in the things you are doing and working toward in your life enough to not NEED to see…	/r/seduction	31/12/19 07:05 AM
1	First time meeting up help? Be your cool as self for one. Concerts are awesome ways to get physical so try to be gradually physical seeing what she allows and accepts. Just vibe out bro! Don't expect anything just go enjoy yourself and let the concert take you where it will BUT for sure be on the look out for opportunities to be physical.	/r/seduction	31/12/19 07:00 AM
2	trying to slide in the dms "I would’ve talked to her over the semester but it just seemed like she came from a different social group than me. She hangs out with fratty types of people and I hang with cool nerds. Also her IG is on fleek, mine has 7 random photos." This is a BS excuse and if you don't get what you're after point to this as the reason why and avoid doing this in the future instead next time take action like a man. You're already creating narratives in your mind before you even know anything about her settin…	/r/seduction	31/12/19 06:59 AM
1	Approaching and hookup on NYE Depends on where you'll be at but assuming you're at a lounge/bar etc it could be several answers: "Damn you look so much better than my girlfriend does." This clearly will get a excitable response but you tell her you're teasing (unless you can communicate that without blatantly saying it which is better), then reiterate the compliment, shake hands and try to hold her hand as long as she'll let you, and ask what she's looking for at the moment. If she asks the same question just straight up tel…	/r/seduction	31/12/19 06:54 AM
2	Learned a Rough Lesson About A Fundamental Daygame Principle Today: Don't Hover Not entirely true. If you already feel like you are capable of giving off those vibes at all then sure you're going to believe you are doing that. In my experience it's best not to hover for sure, however I have definitely "hovered" and still gotten great reactions from girls. It sounds like you are going there specifically to meet girls which is a vibe I'm sure can be picked up on if you're not too experienced at it. It'd be better to actually be interested in the books or even if you're nervou…	/r/seduction	31/12/19 06:51 AM
7	Am I supposed to go for as much women as possible in my early stages of learning? I'd say don't just go for as many women as possible but talking to/approaching lots of women will definitely sharpen your skills. If they don't spark attraction then don't force anything but you can still work on your communication skills with damn near any girl. "The girl of your dreams" mindset could also be holding you back. It's like in boxing and you're only looking for that one perfect punch to win the fight which might take several rounds to see an opening for when in reality you should b…	/r/seduction	23/12/19 10:29 AM