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All the guys I hung out with that were hotter than me and got more girls than me are either married or engaged to girls they met in their late teens that are now mega fat. I've ended up with a higher n-count than any of them just by virtue of staying single most of the time for the past decade, and I'm still not a great looking guy or great with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 06:14 PM
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Like someone else said, inside every nihilist there is a dissappointed idealist. Most red pillers are spurned former blue pillers. But honestly, you're right. If your goal is to screw around and casually fuck girls and form zero attachments, you should ADORE slutty women, because without them you'd never get what you want. The "degeneration of society" or whatever should be a great fucking thing if you want to spread your seed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 06:05 PM
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I figure that most women aren't fucking around on the side while you court them, but I figure it happens often enough that you should keep an eye out for it. IMO it's one of those things that's technically fine if someone wants to do, but it's a red flag for future relationship prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:29 AM
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god, yes. I learned the depressing realities of everyone finding out you got rejected way back in junior high. shit sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 02:16 AM
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It still seems rare for college-aged women to get with 30+ year old guys, but it seems like, while a 24 year old guy will have more success with the 18-25 crowd, the 30 year old guy will have more success with the 25-35 crowd, which, let's be real, there are still a huge number of super attractive high-status women at that age. The whole narrative of "yeah I'm gonna hit my stride at 39 and then lock down a dimepiece 19 year old virgin" is just lunacy, but you'll still be able to date hot, age-ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 10:11 PM
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there is a portion of women who have a fetish for tall guys there's an equivalent for lots of different body types. if you appeal to a niche, you're going to get a LOT of women that are VERY interested, even if you don't actually appeal to a majority. that said, I definitely think taller is better up to a point. I think for like 80% of women, if you have two guys and they're basically identical except one is 5'9 and one is 6'2, the 6'2 guy always wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:17 AM
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Conditioning, the promise of a single day (the wedding) where they get ALL the attention, and the potential to take half his shit if things go south. Literally every reason to get married is toxic, and I would (ironically) never marry a woman who demanded we get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:50 AM
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Maybe a hot take (probably not, around here I guess): If you aren't okay being a forever girlfriend, you aren't wife material. If the major dealbreaker for you in a relationship is whether or not he'll sign a piece of paper that will allow you to take half his shit if you ever break up, you need to reassess your priorities, because that's really not a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:49 AM
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One of the darkest moments in my life was when I was having a bad time in my early 20s and started ignoring my girlfriend, or speaking horribly to her when I wasn't doing that. I never hit her, but things got nasty verbally. We had the craziest sex of my life, the best, most often. It was unreal, and honestly extremely disturbing. I'd never been happier with my sex life than when I was treating my girlfriend like human garbage. I think, in the long run, it's still better to be a decent person, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:43 AM
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Honestly I'm trying to do the AFBB thing, but as a guy. I want to screw around in my 20s and early 30s and then settle down around 35 with a cute mid-20s housewife type with a desire for kids and a super low N-count. Is it gonna happen? Probably not. But I can dream, can't I?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:41 AM
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Yeah, I know quite a few 20-24 year old girls dating 30-35 losers who can barely keep down a job. I know a couple 30-35 year old losers who have a bunch of young hot girls on rotation lmao. It's amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:39 AM
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Personally the way I do it is half your age plus seven until both parties are at least 25. At 25 your brain is fully developed, so get after it. That being said, if a 40 year old and a 21 year old got together I probably wouldn't think it was that weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:37 AM
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The kinds of young women who tend to date older men for money are usually shallow sluts, yeah lmao. Obviously they don't represent the entire population of dating women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:36 AM
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Yeah it's funny, once you get out of college it starts being really common to see men aged 30-40 dating women aged 22-28. Seems to work out for all parties, the women want resources, the men want a hot young girlfriend. The way I figure it, X/2 + 7 is good, and then once both parties are at least 25 you can even throw that out the window and date whoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:34 AM
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This should just be a universal thing. "If you're attracted to X, you can't get upset about people who do X," etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:32 AM
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I was definitely one of those guys who had absolutely zero boundaries with how my girlfriends acted with other guys, and put up with ALL of their insane jealous bullshit at the same time. It's kinda fucked, I always felt like I was a bad evil jealous guy if I told a girl to stop acting like a hoe around other guys lmao, but if she told me to stop talking to the girl at the Subway counter I would listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 07:51 PM
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This. Growing up, I was always taken care of, but love and affection was always conditional. My parents had absolutely no problem comparing me to every other kid and making it perfectly clear that I didn't stack up, and the myriad problems that would cause me in life. I had absolutely zero inherent value.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 07:47 PM
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This is just more "women have higher standards because their investment in childbirth is much higher than a man's, so they have to be pickier with their resources," which everyone already knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 07:45 PM
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In an ideal world, monogamy would be the way to go, but this isn't an ideal world lmao. It's soooo much easier to get badly burned engaging in monogamy than in casual relationships. The only thing that's worse than straight monogamy imo is when you try and split the difference and have an open relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 07:43 PM
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Totally the opposite in my experience. In high school the tall hot jock dudes were getting all the girls and a HUGE proportion of women specifically weren't dating until college. Get into college and all those women who didn't date in high school start dating and the pool opened up big time. I did okay in high school but I wasn't really able to start dating in earnest until college just because of how few girls I knew in high school were actively dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 07:41 PM
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I looked for and engaged in LTRs almost exclusively for a long time. I've been burned so many times and watched guys be burned so often that I'm just super jaded about the whole thing. I really do think that it's possible to find an excellent LTR if you're the right person in the right place at the right time, but it seems like so few people at this point are interested in that type of relationship that it's a massive waste of time to even bother. Casual dating and soft harems are the way to go …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 07:37 PM
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I mean the major problem when dating as an introvert is finding another introvert to date. Where are you supposed to meet? All the standard lines, bars, tinder, events through a social circle, etc are all going to be filled with extroverts unless you get insanely lucky running into another introvert that is testing the waters the same time you are. Most introverts don't end up with extroverts because they want to date extroverts, it's because extroverts are the people that are visible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:43 AM
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"If he's not hot and doesn't make my life better in all measurable social metrics then I'd rather stay single, live with cats and get sport fucked by hot men on Tinder." This SHOULD be EVERYONE'S take on LTR's, regardless of gender. Maybe not taken quite to the extreme, but everyone should be comfortable being single, and should value themselves enough that they'd rather be alone that compromise to an insane degree. If you and your partner have small issues, sure, but so many people marry people…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:42 AM
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I mean you hear plenty of stories about men and women who had a very good first relationship and nuked it to play the field. Source: I did that, and while it was a mistake, it IS something people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:38 PM
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That's not what I said. I said a significant portion of the population was obese or deformed. That's not average, but a good chunk at the bottom, maybe 20-40% depending on how fat the area you're looking at is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 10:37 PM
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I'm always dumbfounded by how many guys around here exclusively look for partners on tinder or in clubs and are shocked that they only meet promiscuous women with commitment issues lmao. It's like it never ever occurs to them to, you know, maybe look somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 03:54 PM
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I mean a significant portion of the population is either horribly obese or significantly deformed in some way. Being above average isn't actually that hard, all you have to do is be a relatively normal looking person who isn't fat and you're in like the top 40% already lmao. If you actually work out and diet well and wear clothes that fit you're in the top 20% ez.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 03:45 AM
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Fat people are almost always fucked up by their parents. If you were fat as a kid you're basically playing catchup for life. It's a different story if you were fit when you were young and got fat, but also, those people have an easier time losing the weight again than foreverfats do. Fighting the eating habits I was taught as a child is a daily struggle that I don't think will ever go away, and people who weren't fat as kids and especially people who have never been fat at all are completely inc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 03:42 AM
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Also, people need to realize that lack of success NOW doesn't mean lack of success in the FUTURE, and success NOW doesn't mean success in the FUTURE. If you're grinding away at some degree and you have no money and no girlfriend and no free time, you're probably still better off in the long run than the drug dealer down the block with a different girl over every week. He's having more fun right now, but how long will that really last?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 06:07 AM
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I mean the difference between the lower numbers isn't terribly significant. What you really need to watch out for are people with insanely high numbers, but you don't need to vet for a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 06:06 AM
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The same rules as high school can apply to college, depending on what you want to do in your life. I knew I didn't want to stick around my college town forever so I did my best not to get too tied down. I dated, sure, but most of the girls I knew were content to get decent jobs and stay where they were, which didn't gel with how I want to live my life, so I was very casual with the for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 06:05 AM
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Yeah I've heard from multiple sources that if you 1) graduate high school 2) don't get pregnant/don't get anyone pregnant 3) don't get addicted to drugs or alcohol and 4) get a job doing, like, anything, you're probably okay life, statistically.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 06:03 AM
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People need to learn to flip the script. Men and woman aren't actually that different from each other. There ARE differences, but they aren't huge. If a guy thinks "well I'd fuck a 5 but the 5 would never fuck me because I'm not a 10 ever at any time because women only fuck chad" then they're totally completely fucked in the head. Newsflash fellas, if you would fuck a 5 and every guy you've ever met (who isn't insane) would fuck a 5, there are definitely girls out there who would fuck a 5 as wel…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 06:02 AM
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Your problem is living in the middle of a big city, seriously. "Small fish in a big pond" syndrome. Get out to the burbs or, god forbid, some semi-rural town somewhere. Not talking the boonies where you have to learn a new english dialect to communicate, just comfortably outside the city. You'll get laid more and you won't miss it, I promise. Big cities are not where humans are meant to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 05:59 AM
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This is a lot more than what most women do, but if you want to be part of that top 20%, that's what it takes. Yeah it can be a little frustrating sometimes that to be a top 20% guy it's like "track your macros, eat enough but not too much, lift weights at least four times a week, do bulk and cut cycles twice a year" and for a woman it's like "ride a bike twice a week and don't eat like a lardass."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 05:45 AM
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You're not wrong, but it's like Fit >> Skinny>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Fat. Like, you're factually correct that being fit is better than being skinny, but it's literal orders of magnitude better than being fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 05:43 AM
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I'll say this, if you can't get laid at 5'7" 245, the problem is either your personality or your standards. Obviously nothing wrong with having high standards but it is what it is. That being said, if you dropped 80 pounds and hit the gym hard it'll be a night and day difference that'll make your head spin so fast you'll permanently think anyone who says "the problem is your personality" probably has brain damage. It's literally not even the same planet dude, and no one who hasn't been on both s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 05:41 AM
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That's an excellent way of putting it. Great analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 02:02 AM
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Rule of thumb is that if people are still single at 30, there's a reason. Some people just genuinely don't like commitment and spend their time fucking around. Some people don't like dating and stay single. Some people are insufferable and no one can bear to be around them for any length of time. The third type is what you REALLY have to look out for (although it's usually pretty obvious).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:25 AM
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Yeah lmao it doesn't get talked about enough around here but literally everyone I know with a 'high n-count' is literally mentally ill. All the secure people I know are monogamous as fuck and most have been with people they met in their late teens-early 20s for years at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:23 AM
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Yeah pretty wide range of 'normal', and it's not like people hit 25 and their lives are over lmao. I'm 25 now and I feel like my life has barely even started. I plan on having a good 5-10 years at LEAST before I even settle down, and I wouldn't be surprised if I'm still running around in 20 years. Life is long, people need to quit freaking out about not having lived a full life yet and actually GO LIVE IT.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:21 AM
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I was always pretty blue pill as far as ideology goes, but I realized at some point in my late teens that all of my successful romantic/sexual encounters with women were when I was unknowingly using red pill shit. That was a shakeup in my mind, holy fuck. If I'd been more aware of red pill and what it can do when I was, say, 16 I probably would have done pretty well in high school. I have mild regret that I was slightly a "late bloomer" but it doesn't keep me up at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:20 AM
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I mean I'm 25, had a steady girlfriend from 19-22, successfully did some dating since then, have a >0 n-count... I still regret missing out on "high school romance", even though I'm not a foreveralone virgin and I know intellectually that I probably didn't miss out on much. Hell, I even fooled around with girls, but I was a virgin until after I graduated (still 18 though, pretty young all things considered) and I didn't have a 'serious girlfriend' until I was 19. It's weird how brains work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:16 AM
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Exactly, geography and social circle are incredibly important when figuring out people's n-count. I have circles of friends where people with a sub-30 n-count are rare, and I have circles of friends where they're all LEGITIMATELY saving themselves for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 04:05 AM
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Most people fail to understand that, while there ARE extremely promiscuous people out there, they're in the extreme minority. Most people either 1) date 1-5 people and get married, having a very low count, 2) are chronically single, having a very low count, or 3) never get married but jump from monogamous relationship to monogamous relationship, and by the time they're 50 have racked up a decent count, but won't be CLOSE to triple digits. Blackpillers will have you thinking 80% of women have a t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 04:03 AM
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I always find it hilarious how people in this sub will clutch at any survey that gives their personal theory credence and instantly write off anything that doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 04:01 AM
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The medians COULD be very different though, because the distributions could be vastly different. IMO they probably aren't that far off from each other in reality, but blackpillers gonna blackpill I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 04:00 AM
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I think being extremely promiscuous at a very young age is a very good sign of sexual abuse. Feels gross to me all the people saying that women are disgusting or this girl is gross for sleeping around young when it's extremely likely she's just acting out trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 03:58 AM
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Yup. Plus, these are all people in the same social circle. Obviously there are promiscuous social circles and non-promiscuous social circles, OP obviously exists in the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 03:57 AM
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Literally just straight up projection. The standards for a guy to "have his shit together" is 'have a good paying job (varies depending on location), have your own place, have a decent car, have hobbies, be in shape, have a vibrant social life.' The standard for a girl to "have her shit together" is 'don't be on crack. That's it.'
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 03:44 AM
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