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We haven't given up but she needs to date her own size or lose weight. Also while interacting with women we are walking on eggshells because approaches that would've been perfectly acceptable 10 years ago aren't anymore while women's expectations haven't really changed.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 12:26 PM
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Men have no fertility wall. But you should tell him that you want to be a mother, tell him that you are unhappy studying and that you want to devote your life to a family.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 11:45 PM
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Before panicking you should make your needs and wants clear to him and also have him explain more thoroughly what he meant with "under the same roof" to me you dont live with someone unless you don't want to settle. Also after only 4 months in a long distance relationship, asking for a man to settle seems weird. Idk how often you see eachother but with luck about 10 times or so? You are going too fast. Edit:typo
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 07:25 PM
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Maybe it's just an impression but at least in Switzerland I feel like couples take a good 3-4 years before getting married and building a family. The wall is always too close. If I were you I would be wary and really look for your match now but yeah you have to move first and find your place in a country you aren't used to and that is going to take some time too. I get the need to travel with a fiance and not alone, it's a way to build good memories together.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 07:10 PM
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If he actually asked for criticism on an intellectual matter, you should give him constructive criticism and try to find points that you can give him advice on. That or say that you don't think you are qualified to help but just saying that it's great makes it look like you are just a "Yes woman". In a writing process outside feedback on formulation/wording or thought building are very important. Maybe you could ask him to put comments on the texts he sends you where he has some doubts so that y…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 04:42 AM
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If you read the message and he sees the "seen at xxxx" and you dont answer that is playing games and yes it is passive aggressive especially if you usually answer right away.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 02:57 AM
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Geneva will gladly have you. Idk if this is RPW or RP but a lot of my friends and me have become wary of women whose sole interest is "I love traveling" "I want to travel a lot and discover cultures and live a little", because it kind of shows an unwillingness to be stable and can be costly and time consuming at a point where they want to settle. Obviously, going on a few vacations and weekend getaways is great and acceptable but the long traveling isn't attractive. Maybe I'm just extrapolating …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 02:52 AM
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There was a good post a few weeks back that explained that the whole confidence of a man rose out of the acceptance of the woman to have sex with him. If you deny sex you are primed for a bad relationship. I agree that sex must be enjoyable for both but since women control "sex access" it's up to her to be heard and be proactive for it to be enjoyable to her.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 02:39 AM
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The way I see it, the point of TRP is self-improvement to the point where you can have the kind of trust and abandonment in the support of your partner that makes it so that a relationship dynamic works. You perhaps see this as a bad thing because it might be unequal but the point of a relationship isn't equality. It's happiness through family. For a relationship to works there needs to be certain roles and power dynamics that for millenias have worked and that for the past 50 years the left has…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 02:18 AM
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Then a sport like badminton, natation, indoors rock-climbing stuff like that could give you an opportunity to meet more people while still having a full workout. Especially if you lift weights at home (some people I know do).
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 05:24 AM
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Where/how do you workout? And what is your hobby? You can find a sport that exposes you to new people.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 08:13 PM
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That's part of the vetting process and at your age you should make sure that they are looking for the same as you as soon as possible as to not waste time. Online you can simply ask what kind of relationship they are looking for. In person like in a bar, I think the second date should be fine. If you don't want to be too direct in person you can ask where he wants to be in a few years or what he is looking for, where is he at in his life.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 08:05 PM
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What is the man's situation? Age? Finances? Is he looking to build a family ? Are you?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 07:56 PM
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I agree but she was completely self centered and said that it’s not that she didn’t want to discuss it but that she didn’t have an opinion. You should have at least an interest in local politics and decisions that affect your life. I’m from Switzerland where we have to regularly vote on different topics. It was also part of the usual 1st date process of trying to find things to talk about and common interests.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 10:48 PM
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Went on a date with a gal that I met at a birthday, conversation was great at the bday because we were 4-5 people talking together. On the date we had a cofee and saw a movie. She completely missed the entire point of the movie and then talked about the most vapid and materialistic things, as in what kind of clothing brands she likes and how she was a strong and independent women but somehow had to interrupt the date to go ask her dad if she could have her allowance and money to pay for her rent…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 05:46 PM
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Hey ! Been single for a while, will I soon meet someone for a new relationship? Or is my future relationship with someone I already know ? Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 03:07 PM
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Well, maybe it's just a class thing where around me people would never think of "wasting" money by paying someone to help you for something that you can do properly by yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 11:18 AM
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He is obviously still attached to you and is using sex as a pretext to see you. If you tell him that you are redpilled and that you know that he is too, you can be more honest about both your needs. You can also apologize for your "shittests" and have a real discussion. Did you agree that you cannot wait that long for a family or did he just came to it by himself ? Even if it is in the future that he sees himself with a family you might have to discuss it and compromise and lose a few years of f…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 01:46 AM
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Maybe there is a way for him to take more photographing equipment and weight that would ease up your hike. You could both agree that he goes to his own pace up to a point and then backtracks to find you so that even if there is a problem he always comes back to you. As in, he goes for a 1km step in the hike and then comes back for you and you walk together to that point. He can share with you what he has seen, kind of like a scout, and enjoy at his own pace and you still get to spend time togeth…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 01:35 AM
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Sorry in advance for being rude/frank, but it looks like your real problem isn't bringing up relationship but not being relationship material. Overweight is a big deterrent to commitment, it's good that you are working on it although it would personally weird me off that someone needs a nutritionist and a personal trainer to better themselves. It shows that you aren't capable of taking care of yourself without help or lack the willpower to do so. It is also a bit in contradiction with claiming t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 12:39 AM
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You should either tell him that you do want to live together but make your position clear to him. Either that you want to live together but without roommates and looking for a place together could bring you close and prepare you to build your future together. You have to make sure that he wants to spend the rest of your life with you. You want to marry him but does he want to marry you ? That can be solved indirectly by saying that you don't want to live with him/someone without being engaged. T…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 01:06 PM
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It might not be a court of law but a court of peers. In a society everyone judges your actions, yourself first. Ignoring betas is amoral but chosing to cheat is immoral, even on the spur of the moment or because of a biological "imperative". Biology is not an excuse for being immoral. Even persons that "do nothing and hope for the best" have choices to make every day regarding TRP and sexual strategy, these choices result in actions that are moral or immoral. You cannot impose your conscious mor…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/18 12:05 PM
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This very interesting article from Quillette as a reply to vox's video on monogamy is a great insight as to why monogamy is healthy for society as a whole as well as for individuals. https://quillette.com/2018/06/07/explaining-monogamy-vox/
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/18 12:19 AM
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