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How sweet this would be, having to navigate the trials and tribulations of a dynamic thermostat and ensuring my breath does not come near her anytime we were in bed. Naw, perimenopause was the icing on top of the diagnosised PMDD for this pwBPD. Allow me to illustrate, the following hypothetical. She has cancer, that's nothing I would wish on anyone and its terrible. I'm committed to the end, I married until death do us part. Oh damn, she also has AIDS, how absolutely unfortunate and sad, what a…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 03:17 AM
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The thing is, you don’t know OP. You cannot speak in absolutes, nor do you have enough self awareness to understand just how your comment makes you look. Never mind OP’s situation. I hope she’s doing well also. I hope OP turns out as well as he wants to be. And for you, I hope you get the help or time you need to become a better you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 02:55 AM
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I’m nowhere there yet, but I too feel like between the kids and work, and more work, for the kids, there’s no time for anything else.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 04:45 AM
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This made me laugh.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 04:44 AM
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I have no issues with what OP said, and I’m thankful to read this today. I believe the message. I trust this is true. I am grateful. You could have flippin’ left out the, 1000 days, lol. That was a hard counter to the trust me bro! 🤢
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 09:21 AM
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You mean, wait, umm, like, you’re my brother in law?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 01:38 AM
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Yikes! I was tracking with you, until you went all loco and toxic at the end. While I can agree with their love being conditional, perhaps not all, but in my case and I shared that with her for years. I could feel it, it was palpable. I felt used, for many many years. Unsupported in a way that was showing any care or respect for the good I brought to the table. The entire focus was on the bar, while being manipulated, and I’ve come to learn the level of abuse was both unbearable in the moment bu…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 01:36 AM
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I expect to be quoted in this book of yours. You can’t use my words, my story, like that and not expect to payout royalties.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 04:16 AM
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Mine was horribly abused by her mom, and her upbringing was just sad overall. Now they are best of friends! The closer them become, the more the mom pushed for her to leave. When you make accusations and leave, because your mom is able to see clearly, now, as an alcoholic, without any awareness of the damage she caused in her daughter. Yes, this is the person you should follow for sound advice. *If they have property and inheritable wealth to pass along. Why wouldn’t you drop the person you didn…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 03:48 AM
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This. Was. My. Life. Now. She’s. My Ex-Life. I will not Re-Wife as I hope to find a life without strife.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 03:41 AM
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Damn. This is power and feels like a roadmap of sorts. Thank you, really, for taking the time to put out this much. I’ve read it three times before replying. I know you’re right, though the best analogy I can come up with so far, is that of an addiction to drugs. It feels, at times, as if I was addicted to the normalcy of that which was not normal. Leaving felt wrong and an as if doing so would be akin to intentionally tossing a grenade in the mix that would forever destroy my family. I did my b…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 04:05 AM
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Profound, absent any professional or educational background that you did not make known. This is an amazing summary of the reality in part, if not the entire story summarized. I’m saving this one for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 03:48 AM
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Heavy. Thank you for your share. To think 8 years later you’re still impacting in any way is discouraging, though I believe you didn’t intend it as so. I am in therapy but you raise a strong point. Having not been in therapy before, it never occurred to me to ask them their experiences in the various related topics.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 03:44 AM
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Dang, I know this story. The abuse that is something, I don’t know exactly, but controlling the narrative about their life now, so free and openly sharing their activities as they flourish “during this time.” I’m not a professional and I don’t know the truth about the matter. To me, it feels overly produced, fabricated, and certainly for the show of others. I don’t know if they are struggling with their decisions (doubtful), or if they are continuing the abuse by painting this false picture that…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 03:33 AM
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I read what you wrote and it’s clear. The takeaway however, I’m not sure I understand. I don’t know the answer to this question, I’m about to ask in a clarifying statement. Are you inferring there are no resources for men?
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 03:17 AM
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Brother, this pains me to read. I can only imagine the strength in numbers that unfortunately, at this period of humanity, will do nothing. When in fact it stands to change the world. We can’t get out from in front of ourselves, to stand out while speaking out, in mass.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 03:16 AM
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I know you’re right and I admit I have a lot of work to do. Thank you for the reality check. I accept it for what jt is, valuable.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 03:12 AM
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I wish I could say more, it’s best for now that I not. I see this, and thank you for sharing openly. I hope you’re on the path to better.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 05:32 AM
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That’s what is most surprising, second to learning was in a relationship that exceed just bad or toxic. This this is a somber fraternity that no one asked to be a part of. Now openly and willingly that is.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 05:29 AM
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I had the same weekend. Literally fun out and out with the family on Saturday, talking about plans for the upcoming week, “WITH THE KIDS,” and she doesn’t return home Wednesday that following week. Four five days and boom, “talk to my attorney.” She was a BPD high body count zero protection bar fly before I met her. My only worry is the rebound isn’t as bad as she was before I met her and my children don’t have to wade through the toxicity that this woman is literally her mother. Why someone wou…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 11:57 PM
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I’m sorry. I can understand. I realize there’s two sides to each perspective and I’m not ignoring hers. Though she would cause a fire, then get mad at how disgruntled I was to put out said fire, proverbially. This lead to her complaining to her family who had no idea how she treated me. Of everything she did, physical and mental, it was the emotional neglect that did me in, for which I couldn’t endure and that changed me over time. It was only natural in her world that she needed to leave to sav…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 11:23 AM
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Thank you. I’m trying to stay the course.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 05:07 AM
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I haven’t even begun the road of looking for resources, but I have already feared what you have outlined. That there may be little resources to help at various levels and needs.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 03:33 AM
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I’m a pussy because I’m emotional right now. Only now, I have to call myself a pussy just to ensure I don’t forget. God damn, if that ride didn’t screw me up.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 03:32 AM
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This says so much, in so few letters. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 03:30 AM
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I am, thanks man. That’s where I am discovering how jacked up I am and how much I still justify her actions of nearly 20 years. I’m dead inside. I hope it’s not forever. I know I’m not alone and I’m not more important than the next. I’ve never been hit this hard in life, never been knocked down this low.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 03:27 AM
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Thank you for the advice and sharing your experience. I know we’re not here to solve all things, of quick note, she wasn’t like that to begin with. Something happened that altered her hormones, that manifested into one confirmed and one other unconfirmed, yet possible mental health disorder. Perhaps why I stayed is the better question, but I know the reason, I could never bring myself to give up on her. Ultimately, she gave up on me. I tried, many times, and she pleaded every angle for my not gi…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 03:21 AM
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Most people hit the gym, but hey, weight is weight.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 01:55 AM
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Hey, I’ll pickup the cover change for you. Come’on in, you’ve done enough pan. MAN, sorry, you’ve been through enough man. I’m sorry you’ve been dealt cards from the same deck.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 03:39 AM
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Checking in. I’ve been fucked up. Some days, barely hanging on. But thankful she was able to get out and find herself. God forbid I had a heart attack due to stress, anxiety, depression, and the constant neglect, on her watch. That would be my fault too. Can you imagine? Not being able to truly apologize one last time, to fall on the sword to save face just so she could stop treating me like shit, if I were dead and unable to accept the responsibility so she didn’t have to? That would be absolut…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 03:35 AM
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lol, that doesn’t land as hard as you think it does. You’re grow up, in time, hopefully. 🤞🏼
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/25 03:35 AM
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I want to believe they will look back one day and see the good in my doing so, and the reality that is me vs their mother who has them fooled, for now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 06:55 AM
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Clear, and understood. Thank you for being open about this. It’s tough riding the line of integrity but I know it well. Decisions made at the expense of one’s self. Godspeed.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 06:51 AM
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Serious question, this scares the crap out of me. How do people divorce for three years? Massive assets, wealth? It seems unfathomable to me. I truly don't understand.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 12:57 AM
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GTFO, being all rational, and full of common sense, I mean really. What the hell do you think you’re doing, standing on your pedestal of righteousness and preaching to the masses like you carry the book of wisdom? Because that was really good and I'm not tracking with you coming to an end, there's got to me more in there. Keep going dang it, I'm taking notes and absolutely need to hear this, lol. Good stuff and thabk you!
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 12:56 AM
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Ahh, trigger away, trigger away! There's plenty out there that will take the bait. You read my point and your attention was garnered. Carry on, with me behind this nod and wave. Have fun!
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 12:52 AM
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Wow, just some dude. Browse the entirety that is r/PMDDPartners and see first hand story after story of what you wrote out, in reverse, to the absolute clinical letter. You're not wrong, in overarching possibilities, though you're incredibly off-base to come at OP without realizing or giving credit to the position you're defending, or otherwise bringing light to, is not a defacto one-size story fits all.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 12:47 AM
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“I lost energy, finances, my youth.” I built everything we had, and she had nothing when we met. Aside from debt that is and I paid that off too while planning the entirety of any ‘what if’ contingency plan. Meanwhile, a roster of mental health problem and undealt with, quite extream, childhood trauma never resolved ultimately destroyed me. Literally, broke me down to my worst rock bottom and I'm afraid now, that despite her being gone, I may be too. I don't know I have what it takes for exactly…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 12:42 AM
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“It’s a bit shitty how we met when you think about it.” “Whaaat? Why would you say that? I thought things were going good; what changed?” “Nothing at all, we just really have ourselves a rather shit based situation and, I'm kinda digging it.” “You’re an asshole.” “Hey! Be cool, don't get crappy on me now. I thought things were going good; what changed?”
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 02:01 AM
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31 months. How in the hell? That scares the crap out of me. That aside; great work staying in the game. Enjoy the reward that is your desired future.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 03:16 AM
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I am happy for you, and actually feel emotion for you, internally. To read someone has ran the gauntlet; and made out not just okay, but well or better than.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 02:06 AM
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