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| 1 | Leaving red pill behindGoing to chime in with my experience. Im a 42yo woman and recently left my ex and his people pleasing tendencies were a huge part of it. I got so drained from effectively being in charge of the relationship. By trying to constantly guess what would keep me happy he ignored his own needs and would then get really resentful. Thing is I wanted a partner and he wasn't being that. The reason I'm sharing is there's a huge difference between a nice guy and a good man and I found out the hard way. I wil… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/26 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Once again,i find myself completely stuck in the redpillI can't speak for Brazil as I'm UK based but going from my experience here its important to be Media literate. By that I mean understanding who owns the media channels you're absorbing and do they have an agenda. For example many people think that the UK has no freedom of speech. We do. But certain outlets are twisting things. So for example a woman was arrested in Scotland for breaking a buffer zone outside and abortion clinic. The headlines read woman arrested for praying. She's free to go pra… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/04/26 08:26 AM |
| 3 | Why do men date if they are still subscribing to TRP content ? My bf does and it makes me feel like nothing i can ever do will change his deeply jaded view on women and love.One question I have in response to this is does he want to change? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/11/25 10:35 AM |
| 4 | Men we really are doing it to ourselvesI'd suggest taking a compassionate view of yourself. That goes along the lines of Im not who I want to be yet, but I am doing better than I was before. Or "I fell back into old ways of thinking, it happens, Im human, I'll learn from this." | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/25 10:36 AM |
| 27 | Men we really are doing it to ourselvesAlso inherent value is only applied to attractive women. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/25 10:33 AM |
| 13 | I have strong anxiety due to redpill content.Statistically what are the chances of every guy you see in that scenario being rich? | /r/ExRedPill | 23/04/25 11:47 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible for a 30 year old delusional, narcissist to stop being red pilledIts tough but he has to make the choice to believe you. You can be consistent and keep showing your care. However please do it in a way that doesn't cause you to suffer. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/03/25 11:06 AM |
| 7 | Help Me!!One thing I want to point out is if a woman can get laid easily if she chooses but that doesn't mean finding a good relationship is easier. I've met men who have told me "any hole's a goal." They'll happily shag a woman they wouldn't consider dating. And my take is that there is a lot of really shit expectations on everyone. There's a lot of men who say they don't want to date women over a certain height and weight. There's podcast bros telling women if they want a man they need to hide their ac… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/25 09:12 AM |
| 16 | What bothers me the mostThe whole thing about the Red Pill is it assumes that women only have worth for sex and procreation. It doesn't talk about any other role a woman might fill. So I'm in my 40s now and child free. I love spoiling my nieces and nephew. I do 2 jobs, one as a therapist, the other supporting vulnerable people access support. I provide friendship. I support my husband while he's starting his business. In short, I contribute my time to building the wellbeing of others and I believe that benefits society… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/02/25 09:13 AM |
| 1 | The negative impact of red pill ideas on women?I suggest you look up some positive masculine sources who are countering the Redpill. It's refreshing to hear men calling it out. Cyzor ans theSpeechProfessor and ProfessorNeil | /r/ExRedPill | 14/09/24 03:55 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with the bits of retroactive jealousy?So being attractive does not mean someone male or female is good in bed. Previous relationships have not worked out for a reason. The person you are with has that experience and is still choosing to be with you now. That is the thing you focus on. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/24 01:52 PM |
| 21 | Why???My take on it is some middle aged men aren't dealing well with how the world is changing. Growing inequality if affecting more and more people and those who were doing ok before are now struggling and looking for someone to blame. Men used to have more jobs available for them and were respected for doing jobs such as garbage collection or factory work in a way they aren't now. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/24 12:55 PM |
| 4 | Why does it seem like most women are in a toxic relationship?Yes thank you. I took a few years off dating, learned to love myself and done things I'd dreamed about like travelling. Doing that solo taught me a lot about myself. Its been 8 years and I'm engaged to a great guy and studying for a new career. My life is so much better now but it took a lot of healing. I hope you're doing well to. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 04:49 PM |
| 28 | Why does it seem like most women are in a toxic relationship?I've been in a codependant abusive relationship before. I was 16, I'd been bullied in high school, and I told I was ugly and had no self-esteem. None of the boys my own age were interested. Then I met my ex, he was 30 but he told me I was different. That he could see that and made me feel special. It didn't last but by the time his true colours showed he has already isolated me from my friends. When he didn't get what he wanted he punished me through either starting fights or giving me the silen… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 03:57 PM |
| 7 | When they say women have it easy, it makes me laughSorry its hard to always capture nuance online. I do understand that it's not all men, it's probably not even the majority. But those who think and act like that are vocal enough to give the feeling that I discussed. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 02:14 PM |
| 17 | When they say women have it easy, it makes me laughYeah the lack of empathy is frustrating. Men see women getting chased after and think wow I wish I had that. They associate high levels of interest as desirability in themselves. What they don't realise women are rarely persued for who they are, it's not that the women is desirable in herself, its that the man wants something from her. It's the equivalent of a shark chasing blood in the water, doesn't matter where it comes from, and all it means is lunch is served. I have heard men say any hole'… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 08:32 AM |
| 1 | Are RP standards realistic ?Dude the fact that 59% of men in the USA have been married at some point proves you're talking bollocks there. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/23 05:57 AM |
| 17 | Are RP standards realistic ?Just to add let's flip it and ask are RP standards for men realistic? Men are expected to be unemotional, be rich, have loads of sex and look like a body builder while they're at it. Doesn't seem realistic to me. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/23 12:25 PM |
| 9 | What is therapy supposed to accomplish?There are different types of therapy. If you went for person centered the idea is that the client talks and the therapist uses prompts to promote self discovery leading to change. Cbt is a more practical based therapy aimed at giving clients tools to help them change. It is more of a quick fix method. Psychodynamic is delving deep into childhood and how it affects us now. It's a lengthy process. All methods have pro's and cons. Essentially the point of it is by having an indepth non judgemental … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/04/23 08:36 AM |
| 24 | Are Female Spaces Becoming More Like Manosphere Spaces: Reflection of Reality or Resentment due to Deterioration of Gender Relations?I agree that some female spaces on reddit do encourage unhealthy discussion. There are subs dedicated to posting the worst experience with men and it creates a bias towards seeing the worst everywhere. However some of your arguments I believe have missed the point in what a woman was saying. A woman says she expects her partner to have a job and an idea of what he wants from life is basically saying a requirement for dating is he is a functional adult. I don't see how that is in any way unreason… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/04/23 11:53 AM |
| 3 | Is my friend a pedophile?I dated a 30 year old at 16 (in the UK so i was "legal") it wasn't a healthy relationship and I lost out on quite a few things because of it. I'm 39 and the thought of dating someone 14 years younger is disgusting. We'd be at completely different stages in life. At the time I believed him when he said I was mature for my age. I know he enjoyed boasting about having a much younger gf. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/04/23 05:24 PM |
| 1 | I feel like it’s too late for me too leave the red pill. Even though I want too believe it’s false and not trueThe Redpill is a mix of truth and lies. The problem is learning to sort through it. Work on yourself physically and you will feel better and probably be more confident as a result. This leads to being more attractive. However RP doesn't really address doing work to be emotionally healthy. The girl you mentioned might have been genuinely interested in you, did you share interests and have good conversations for example? What happened around the time she left, did she have a change in personal cir… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/04/23 09:09 AM |
| 9 | I recently found out that a guy I’m talking to has a high body count and I am repulsedHaving read you comments I want to suggest you think through some things. You are Christian, he's dipping his toe into the water to see if it appeals to him. How important is it to you that you are on the same page religiously? If you have children will he respect your wishes about going to church? How long ago did he stop sleeping with lits of women? If he's serious about changing when was the last time he had sex with someone else? You want a traditional marriage. My mum stayed at home to rais… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/03/23 09:38 AM |
| 7 | Gender War Is A String Of Unfortunate Events: I was Raped And Didn't Think It Was RapeThere is a book called The Secret, and while I think its been updated now it actually said that the people of Thailand attracted the tsunami because they weren't positive enough. Its part of toxic spirituality. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/03/23 06:41 PM |
| 12 | Can you hook up without being redpill?Yes you can, be respectful of your partner and honest about your intentions. Plus do what you can to make sure both sides enjoy it - the orgasm gap is real, and yes you can not only have hookups but are more likely to have them. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/03/23 10:06 AM |
| 3 | why do some men think birth control is a choice for women but they want to have sex with us without having children too?With that study there was at least one suicide so it was justified in stopping the trial. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/23 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Should a man show his emotions to a woman, especially if they are in a relationship?Thanks for sharing the article, it's an interesting read. My take on this is that while the majority of the article refers to behaviours such as weaponised incompetence, the emotions that are unattractive in this situation are unregulated outbursts, or tantrums. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/23 11:55 AM |
| 8 | I crawled out of a dark place and was forced back inIf it was a few weeks you don't really know each other. Something changed for her, it sucks she didn't communicate what but reading your post it does make a lot of assumptions about her thoughts towards you. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/23 12:11 PM |
| 4 | People say male privledge doesn't exist what are privledges males have that females don't in society? (List in bullet points)I recognise men face those challenges but I don't think that saying it balances itself out in this instance is the right way to phrase it. I recognise because of my gender I am likely to face some discrimination when applying for certain roles. I can also recognise that men can lose out on fatherhood due to circumstances related to their gender. They're both shit, but they do not cancel each other out. I would say its more different faces of the same old gender expectations coin. The one that me… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 09:19 PM |
| 8 | Should men control their emotions?Why do you want to know? You're posting a lot of questions on this sub and not engaging. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 04:38 PM |
| 7 | If RP men claim that it is within their biological nature to “exercise their options”, why are so many women still against it?To flip the argument, what's in this for a woman? There's decreased security for her and her children and higher risk of disease. For the other partners he's less invested in giving them high quality sex. From a biological stand point the survival of the human species requires both birth and successful child rearing. Successful child rearing tends to happen best in family groups. This requires trust and bonded relationships. Plus on a really practical level, I hope any guy doing this can pay chi… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 09:29 AM |
| 17 | People say male privledge doesn't exist what are privledges males have that females don't in society? (List in bullet points)Yes also if a woman has a heart attack the symptoms are different from a man, yet this is not common knowledge. More women die as a result- https://www.templehealth.org/about/blog/heart-attack-symptoms-men-women-differences Until fairly recently many drugs were not adequately tested on women. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/apr/30/fda-clinical-trials-gender-gap-epa-nih-institute-of-medicine-cardiovascular-disease If a woman is in a car crash she more likely to be injured as safety … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/23 07:18 PM |
| 59 | People say male privledge doesn't exist what are privledges males have that females don't in society? (List in bullet points)Men are unlikely to be judged on whether you will have children's when you go for a job - former recruiter and I have had hiring managers refuse to hire women of child bearing age. Its not legal but it happens. In the event men have children they typically received a wage increase, women typically see their wage decrease- https://www.businessinsider.com/men-earn-more-money-after-having-a-kid-2014-9 | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/23 06:51 PM |
| 4 | Advice- An Older Sister looking for helpIt might be useful to look up grey rock tactics for dealing with him. In short every time you react to him you're fuelling his desire and he's feeling more and more justified in his beliefs. Best way to look after yourself is to limit engagement. I know its tough but there's not much you can say or do that will get through. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/23 01:36 PM |
| 19 | “Why would he want you? He can get younger.”Why would you want him if he doesn't value you for who you are? Edit: I wrote this before reading your replies to others so I'll say more. Human nature tends to focus on the negative as that kept us alive. So yes it's hard to ignore those hurtful comments. And I get it, you wish you had a come back. I've been there but I reminded myself my worth wasn't determined by someone I barely knew. Relationships are about more than looks or fertility. Take some time out and find 3 things you have going fo… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/23 11:48 AM |
| 3 | People-pleasers and "nice guys"People can be deceived by how attractive someone is, or by tactics such as love bombing which can increase perception of attractiveness | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/23 09:24 PM |
| 4 | People-pleasers and "nice guys"My take is different, it can take time but a big give away about whether they're doing it for reward is how they react when you don't accept their act of kindness, or the kindness doesn't benefit them. Some examples was on a date with a nice guy and I complimented a pregnant woman's dress he later asked me why I had done that, he couldn't understand I was being nice withno expectationof reward, plus I genuinely liked her outfit. Another one was my MIL who "cut me out of the family" for not accep… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/23 06:09 PM |
| 4 | People-pleasers and "nice guys"There are people who are genuinely good kind people and those who see niceness as a transaction, and you're right those groups have different motivations. For the rest, I'm not Indian so i can't know what cultural factors you face so all I'm going to say is you seem to have a lot of self-hatred going by your post history. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/23 03:29 PM |
| 28 | People-pleasers and "nice guys"As both a woman who used to do this and someone who dated a nice guy, yes, you're right. The world we're in doesn't encourage people to develop self-confidence, the exact opposite, in fact. In my experience, we're not encouraged to find out who we are and what makes us happy. Instead it's get a good job, get married, have kids ASAP, keep the boss happy and never question if any of that is right for you. If you don't know yourself it's harder to find the right partner. We aren't taught what healt… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/23 01:50 PM |
| 6 | How does a redpiller go about dating compared to someone who actually likes dating?When I got to the stage I didn't care if I met someone or not dating was so much less stressful. Going on a first date with no expectations is very freeing | /r/ExRedPill | 11/03/23 10:48 AM |
| 7 | I need some advice from non red or blue pillersI didnt get much information when i read your other post so I'm going to ask some questions. How well do you know your crush? Just reading what you wrote you're making lots of assumptions based on a guy she maybe dated? What does it matter if you is still hanging out with him? They could have split up and still have friends in common. What are you wanting from her? | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/23 08:14 AM |
| 5 | 48 Laws of PowerMaybe the problem is you're around the wrong people. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/23 05:06 PM |
| 5 | red pill claims that women should give sex to men in a marriage as a trade offSo sex is complicated. First of all, many women enjoy sex. But generally avoid casual sex as its just not worth it. The risk outweighs the reward due to the orgasm gap. In a relationship yes there's a range of scenarios, our sex drive can fluctuate through the month due to our hormones. So there are times women are more likely to want sex. However as a broad baseline women need to feel turned on in order to enjoy sex, this happens when a partner puts effort into making this happen. The thing is,… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/23 01:17 AM |
| 9 | I legitimately hate men now and am heartbrokenI understand you're hurting and angry at the people who hurt you. You need to take time out to heal. From looking at your post history, you've had a brutal time of it recently, and it sounds like it's really shaken how you see yourself and the world. I'd suggest doing some work on yourself to understand why you dated abusive men, by healing that you can move forward. Looking at attachment theory might help. You can then choose whether to stay single or not in the future. I hope you can move past… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/03/23 09:21 PM |
| 37 | red pill claims that women should give sex to men in a marriage as a trade offThe thing is, it's becoming rarer for sole income houses. This has several knock on effects - women don't need men for stability in the same way they did in the 50s and often both partners are working yet often the majority of housework will still be done by women, especially where there are children. The rp completely ignores this reality though. In doing so it's putting women under more pressure, to both earn money be a good housewife and regularly satisfy their husbands needs while there's no… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/03/23 07:31 AM |
| 3 | How can you be attractive to women, but not from a redpiller/pickup artist's perspective?Good advice but just to put it in other words, when choosing your aesthetic, be authentic. For example don't go for a scholar type if the idea of visiting a museum or reading bores you senseless. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/03/23 03:13 AM |
| 62 | I'm 28F, and have really internalised the idea of "The Wall" to the point it's making me unable to enjoy life or do day-to-day tasks or feel motivated. Any support or similar experiences?Stop referring to him as the love of your life for a start. You deserve better than a guy who was chasing a barely legal girl while in a relationship with you. That says more about him than you. For me, my life began again at 31. I got out of an abusive relationship and found that even at 31 and plus size plenty of men were still attracted to me. I'm now 39 and getting married this year. I don't want kids so that's not a concern but I know lots of women who had kids I their 30s and 40s. The reas… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 01:44 PM |
| 15 | Red pill is literally ruining my marriageI've worked with survivors of Domestic violence and it's really complicated. The abuser is charming and loving to start with but over time it starts but the really twisted bit is that they make their partner's believe that they deserve the abuse. Look what you made me do, it's your own fault. And often by this point the abuser has isolated their partner so they don't have anyone to turn to, no help to see what's going on. Yet often the partner stays because they hope things will get better at th… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/03/23 07:20 AM |
| 36 | Why do you think young men seem way more worried about being undesirable and unattractive in dating than young women today?Part of the issue for the vocal community not getting dates is they often see women as status symbols at best, at worst they dehumanise women to objects. And women aren't willing to be seen the same way now. There is also the problem that young men feel have been left behind with movements such as me to and also late state capitalism is stripping them of value. People in general are having to work harder, to have less than previous generations and its hitting young men hard as they're still grow… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 09:14 AM |
| 5 | Why do you think young men seem way more worried about being undesirable and unattractive in dating than young women today?I saw the survey you mentioned and while it won't account for all the difference, researchers did note that there could be confusion around the definition of relationship statuses. For example on insurance forms your relationship often isn't counted until you are cohabiting. This means that there's potential for people to think that terms mean different things which can skew the data. As I said it doesn't explain the full picture but it is a potential margin of error. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 09:07 AM |
| 6 | What are everyone on here's thoughts on paternity testing?You can't safely do a paternity test on a child until it's born. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/02/23 10:33 AM |
| 5 | most of my terrible response to red pill is the whole "when youre younger you will never be happier and more atractive" themeI met my partner when he was 34, before me his longest relationship was 7 months. He'd had some experience but not much. Didn't move out of his parents until 29, had lots of fixed term jobs but was just getting by. We've joked that if we had met when we were younger we wouldn't be together as I'd have looked at things like him driving a corsa, being into dance music and following a certain team as fitting a bad Scottish stereotype and he does admit he had some of the traits of that stereotype. Y… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/02/23 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Is it understandable to dislike RP, PUA, Manosphere, but also dislike FDS?FDS is an absolute cesspit. You should despise it as much as the rest. The way men are divided in high or low value is usually just based on income, although they try to pretend there's more to it. It is teaching women to be leeches and that's not helpful to either men or women. Things I read there included "don't have sex before marriage as why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?" Um maybe become I enjoy sex and don't want to be in a marriage with something I'm not sexually compatible w… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/02/23 05:53 PM |
| 3 | i feel like red pill is trying to destroy my relationshipLots of people don't have healthy relationships with themselves or with their partner, so get confused/angry or upset when they see others happy where they are not. My partner had never had a relationship last over a year before meeting me when he was 33. He was so scared meeting someone meant giving up friends and hobbies because the men in his life told him wives were the old ball and chain, they'd just be after him for money etc. And he wondered why the hell any of them were married when that… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/23 12:59 AM |
| 3 | Hey r/exredpill, question; How do I tell my girlfriend that she sucks at being a girlfriend?You're saying you want to say to her you might be better off single. I'm getting the sense you want her to end the relationship so you don't have to. If you're unhappy, why do you have to get her to end it? Are you conflict avoidant in general? Also I want to point out a relationship is a partnership not a competition. Its supposed to be the two of you versus the problem, so you may want to check your mindset. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/02/23 05:55 PM |
| 8 | im a girl and i kind of got over learning about it but what i cant really get over is that "every guy wants every girl and wont stick with one girl since she ages and guys want a young girl who he can impregnate"There are men who don't want children. There are men who prefer older women. There are men who stand by the same woman through thick and thin. Choose a man who loves you for who you are. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/23 08:38 PM |
| 17 | Deconstructing RP Claims : The reason women think most men are trash is because the majority are chasing the same small percentage of men and ignoring the rest.So the dating app data doesn't tell the full story. Firstly there's lot more men using the apps than women. Men were asked to rate how attractive women were and there was a broad spectrum but they mostly focused on the top 20% they found attractive and were unlikely to message someone they didn't rate as attractive Women only selected a small number of men as highly attractive, but they were open to messaging men they rated as unattractive if there was something else on his profile they found in… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/02/23 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Impossible standartsIts one that's more screen in person I'm afraid | /r/ExRedPill | 13/02/23 12:32 AM |
| 2 | Impossible standartsWhat appealed to me was he made things happen for himself, he's always up for trying to things and he really enjoys life. It helps me see things with fresh eyes. It can depend how your insecurity plays out. So I'll apologise if you don't do this but certainly I've come across a number of guys who'll say stuff like you'll leave me for another guy who is taller/better looking etc and it's exhausting proving your interest to guys like this. Because of past experience, I tend to avoid really insecur… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/23 11:41 PM |
| 4 | Impossible standartsIts something that builds up over time. One thing to look out for is how does he treat others? If he treats people well that he isn't trying to impress that's a good sign. Also does he have empathy, can he consult how it might feeling in someone else's shoe's? One to watch for is "nice guys" who are the type who are nice to people in the expectation they'll get something back. The difference is if they don't get what they expect they can become really resentful. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/23 11:32 PM |
| 3 | Impossible standartsThe thing is unless you're competing for maybe the top 10% of women (however that's defined) it sounds like you're doing a hell of a lot better than a lot of men so you've got a better chance than a lot of guys. Ask your sisters why they've decided to go on dates with guys... I'll give you some of mine - he had a really sexy voice, his message made me laugh, he asked a really thought provoking question. For my current partner I met online and the thing that stood out was his passion for life. At… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/23 11:27 PM |
| 3 | Impossible standartsHonestly dating as a woman can be awful. First loads of men just see you as a walking hole and direct quote "any holes a goal" second a number of men don't respect you, some don't even see you as human. That's before you even get into meeting men with similar values, who are on the same page about kids and life. I know men have different challenges in dating and it's harder for good men to stand out from the crap. There are some Chad types who are the full package. They've lucked out good looks … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/23 10:28 PM |
| 8 | Impossible standartsI was hoping you'd go in for specifics. OK some woman are looking for the Chad types, alpha male etc ignore them. What most women want is a man who is a functional adult (clean, paying his bills etc) shares some interests with her, sees her as an actual person and is going to be a good partner. Being a good partner means sharing life's challenges together, for example my mum died recently and my partner has done so much to help with funeral arrangements, looking put for my dad and generally maki… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/23 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Impossible standartsWhat standards do you believe women hold? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/23 09:57 PM |
| 7 | I'm worried about my boyfriendI would suggest having a conversation along the lines of "I watched the videos you mentioned and some of it really worried me because (put your specific reasons in). Can you tell me what this means to you?" Depending on what he says, you can point out that you thought you had shared values, but if he sees you as a lesser person than him that doesn't make you feel loved. Let him tell you how invested he is. He might not realise just how bad things get. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/23 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Where may I find women who do not care about looks/height?You are coming across as wanting someone unattractive because it's a security blanket for you that she won't leave you because she won't have options to do so. My point was that women were generally looking for things they could connect with in a partner over, such as shared interests, over looks. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/23 09:37 AM |
| 7 | Where may I find women who do not care about looks/height?I'm sorry, but I find that really depressing. I'm 5"3 woman and dated a 5"3 guy cause he was caring and funny, he was the one who broke things off. Most women care more about personality and how good a partner you are than looks. I know women taller than their husband. I know women who stood by their partner while he worked his way towards qualifications or went through bad times. All stuff that the RP says shouldn't happen The statistics that RP trots out about women only finding 10% of men att… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/02/23 06:19 PM |
| 10 | Where may I find women who do not care about looks/height?Going by this I think you need to work on your insecurity. Women are most likely to cheat when they feel neglect in a relationship, not the polygamy shite that rp feeds. Concentrate on building your self confidence, make friends with women, and drop the RP belief that women are just using you til they gey someone better | /r/ExRedPill | 08/02/23 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Is 26 too late to find love/relationship?Most women want to date a man who is a similar age or slightly older than her. https://www.thegentlemansjournal.com/article/women-attracted-men-age/ | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/23 12:09 PM |
| 3 | I just want to be happy. Why does everyone have it so easy? Why is life so painful? Why does everyone have it so easy?Its brave when you've been conditioned to think having feelings makes you a pussy. Things can change but it takes time and work and there will be times you wonder if its worth it but it will be. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/23 01:31 PM |
| 3 | I just want to be happy. Why does everyone have it so easy? Why is life so painful? Why does everyone have it so easy?I see your pain. It's horrible to hate yourself so much. Too feel like the things that society values are completely out of reach. Young men have it tough just now and I just want to say you've been very brave admitting you're struggling. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/23 11:34 AM |
| 8 | Dread - AKA how to manipulate and emotional abuse your wifeOh how nice of them to advise men not to freak out their wife when she's pregnant. /s | /r/ExRedPill | 01/02/23 04:00 AM |
| 17 | What is ya’lls opinion on the fact women file for divorce 70% of the time, 90% if she is college educated. The vast majority of the time for financial reasonsThe only time the article refers to women divorcing for financial reasons has been when they are already separated. The reason for this AS STATED IN THE ARTICLE is to reach financial resolution, e.g. finalise living arrangements etc rather than living in limbo. Women usually end up poorer after divorce. If money was all they cared about, they'd stay married, but over 70% don't regret getting divorced as per the article you shared. And yes, here is some peer reviewed research to back up my claims… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/23 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone woman that is in her early 20s or prime as the red pill would call it ever dumped a guy if she found out he was redpill or find men who are redpilled repulsive?I'm 38. When I was 16, I ended up with an older partner. RP wasn't really a thing then, but if it had been, I'm sure he'd have been right into it. RP would have played into many of his beliefs and insecurities. Looking back, he took advantage of how naive I was and also that I believed I was unattractive because I'd never fit in at school. I spent the next 15 years trauma bonded, constantly trying to prove I was good enough. He used many abusive tactics, such as undermining my self-esteem, silen… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/23 09:09 AM |
| 2 | Cringiest red pill phrasesIf you dig into statistics on dating sites then that is not giving the full picture. The stats that are often quoted are from Ok Cupid, which was mostly for hookups. For examples the majority of users are men by quite a number, so this skews what female behaviour may look like because of the small sample size. First of all, unless a man is saying what he earns and what his penis size is,, then there's no way of knowing if there is correlation between those factors. All that the 10% of men thing … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/01/23 11:19 AM |
| 7 | I think I am slowly becoming a misandristFor me, I've ended up hating the system rather than those caught in it. We live in a society that basically reduces self-worth to how much we can produce. Due to changes in the last 50+ years, the traditional role of men has been eroded, and typically, both partners need to be earning. But being a sole breadwinner is seen as a status symbol. Men face more competition for jobs and that's meaning that guys who were previously guaranteed jobs are falling behind. And they feel they've nothing to off… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/01/23 12:15 PM |
| 6 | Women of r/exredpill why would you want to have a relationship with a guy?I'm with my man because my life is better with him. I'd reached a place where I was content, I had my own place, a decent paying job at good friend's and was too bothered about meeting someone. I don't wanna kids. Then I met my partner. We have similar goals but the thing that stood out from me was how kind and considerate he was. On our first date, he briefly put the grand national on to check the results and ended up letting the staff watch it with him and having a laugh with them. I judge a m… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/23 09:39 PM |
| 30 | Do I stay with my boyfriend?You've said you want to have children. Do you want your daughter to grow up thinking her only value is in pleasing a man. Do you want your son to feel he has to excel in said ultra masculine competition to have any value? If being a mum is important to you, I suggest you find a partner who's values align with yours about raising children | /r/ExRedPill | 25/01/23 11:14 PM |
| 1 | I am not sure if I want a relationship .While it's OK to choose to be single if you prefer being on your own, or ate working on yourself that is completely OK. Hope you sound more as if you're avoiding something, can I ask what it is? Also what extent are you avoiding interactions with women? If you are avoiding talking to woman at all you're potentially setting up a very unhealthy dynamic for life. There will be times you have to interact with female colleagues etc whether in your studies or working life. If you are unable to do so i… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/23 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Out of redpill but still feeling bad about my heightSo you are insecure about something out of your control. Your options are; 1 surgery 2 Acceptance 3; carry on as you are Let's break this down. The surgery will be expensive, painful and makes minimal difference. Studies show that insecure people who get plastic surgery often end up fixated on something every and they just transferred the problem. Would the money and pain be worth it? Acceptance. You can't change your body so you work to accept it. You raise your esteem to the point you think an… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/23 10:44 AM |
| 7 | Help, I feel like I'm not allowed to be productive.Can I ask how was your mum's relationship with your dad? It sounds like she has some personal stuff going on but I appreciate that it's hard on you when you don't know what it is. If you feel able idea suggest talking to her. Opening with something like mum Ive noticed you don't seem comfortable when I do these things. Try to stay calm and understand her point of view, e.g. if she's too tired or if she's worried you're too young. Be gentle in expressing why you want to do this e.g. be fit or be … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/23 04:58 AM |
| 3 | ExredpillsAs time goes on figure out yourself. What are your values? What do you love doing? What kind of life do you want? And try your best to like yourself. It takes time to do that and it's completely normal. Late teens and early 20s are about trying new things. Try to have good people in your life | /r/ExRedPill | 19/01/23 10:40 AM |
| 10 | Men, you need female role models in your lifeI would normally agree with you but this post is grammatically correct on where it uses female and women. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/23 03:13 PM |
| 10 | You folks are hypocrites.I didn't go through all the comments but want to point to what I see as the difference. The man goes to the extent of avoiding going to a female cashier, the woman says she is done with relationships. That's quite a difference. The woman isn't so scared of men she completely avoids all contact. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/23 09:39 AM |
| 2 | My husband is ready to divorce me over TRP beliefsThere are some differences that are unable to be reconciled. Personally having a partner who thought I was a lesser being than him because of my genitals would be one of those. Respect for each other is generally a basic requirement for a successful relationship. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/23 08:51 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend of 3 months consumes Red Pill ContentYour boyfriend is showing you who he really is. You've been dating 3 months, this is him still on his good behaviour. If you marry him, what do you think your marriage would look like? If you're not sure, ask him what he expects from a wife and find out if that is a life you want. I'm only going by your post, but I think it would be worth you looking up what love bombings is. While there are good reasons to have conversations early in dating about what you want in life to find out if you're comp… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/23 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Found this on PurplePillDebate... JesusDamn that's a rough day having to look at some of the Female Dating Strategy rhetoric. Hope it gets better from here | /r/ExRedPill | 10/01/23 09:09 AM |
| 9 | One thing I can’t let go about red pill (making me feel very insecure about my sex life)I'm sorry your last girlfriend reacted like that it doesn't help. I can understand why you feel insecure. I just want to check what you think women want from sex? Porn has set lots of unrealistic expectations and hearing the phrase deep dark sexual desires does ring some alarm bells. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 12:02 PM |
| 3 | I (woman) keep wanting to hold back when I want to express myself, talk articulately, have an opinionTo go deeper into this, what do you fear will happen? As an example a friend of mine felt she was too much and constantly apologised for speaking up. But she'd been told by her dad she would be alone forever if she didn't tone things down. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/01/23 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that some guys get made fun of for not getting laid? (Brutal honesty is appreciated)There are terrible women's out there to. To answer a point above I'm a woman and when I was single lots of people seemed to think it was odd or even come across as before offended by it. My partner had similar experiences to before we got together. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/23 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Let's talk about RedpillYou do raise some very good points. Late stage capitalism is turning everybody into commodities. Men are perceived to be doing well when they have a good job, earn good money, have a six pack away a beautiful woman. Women are perceived to be doing well when they are super attractive and popular. So I can understand why there feels a disparity there. When I would say that while there are people out there who expect men to be the breadwinner, it's not as common as you think. Certain on my friend g… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/12/22 02:39 AM |
| 17 | I’m out of redpill but…Your problem isn't that you're not tall, rich or extroverted. The problems is you believe that's what women want. I'm a woman, I've dated a guy the same height as me (5"3), I've earned more money than most of the guys I've dated and can only handle extroverts in moderation. But I can tell you there's nothing appealing about men who see me as a potentially parasite looking to take their money. I have no interest in being financially dependent on anyone. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/12/22 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Height preferencesThere are news stories about this which took a study out of context. So generally women prefer to date men taller than them, but 51.1% would consider dating a guy who isn't taller than them. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/02/140210114542.htm So I'm in the UK where the average height for women if 5"3, so statistically you're taller than a significantly proportion of that population. So being 5"8 might narrow the dating field a bit, but academic research shows you've still got a chance… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/12/22 10:02 AM |
| 31 | Aging?The things that make a relationship last are rarely based on looks. Most people in general are looking for partners who have similar values, who are kind and caring and will go through the hard times together. There is the stereotypes of men trading in for younger models, but the answer to that is know what you want. If you're happy to enjoy that lifestyle while it lasts, go for it, but it's unlikely you'll feel secure. The thing is being attractive isn't solely about looks. Was last single in m… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/12/22 03:32 PM |
| 4 | I don't know how people can recommend dating apps for menDefinitely a good way of opening a conversation is to ask about interests a woman has mentioned. And yes it is showing that the guy is genuinely interested in me rather than playing the odds. Comments about my looks, like your so pretty or worse comments about my lips (usually the next line was where they'd like to see those lips go) or boobs etc were red flags that they were looking for sex only. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/12/22 09:46 PM |
| 9 | I don't know how people can recommend dating apps for menI can understand why it's frustrating for men. I did meet my current partner online but I genuinely have to say if he had messaged me a couple of days later, probably wouldn't have responded to his simple hey how are you? Because by that point I'd had 50 message and 200 likes. This isn't a boast as the system kept telling me I was in the bottom third of women getting responses, so what was their inbox like. I was basically spending my time doing basic screening such as are they looking for a rel… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/12/22 08:36 AM |
| 4 | How should one detox from the red/blackpill when their surroundings constantly confirm them?So the okcupid survey leaves more questions than answers. How many people were looking for hookups vs relationships in the data? What I might think pretty enough to shag could be very different to what I'd look for in a partner. The things I want in a relationship is support, love, laughter and some shared interests. If I found a partner had those qualities, looks matter much less. There are certain deal breakers for me, such as poor hygiene or smokers, very much falling into the basic self care… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/11/22 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Red pill teachings have made it impossible for me to trust my girlfriend. Seeking adviceIf you are marrying a woman who isn't having sex before marriage due to her religious beliefs, cheating on you is unlikely to fit with her beliefs as well. Ways to build a solid relationship. Communication. Talk to each other about your hopes and fears. Working together to achieve shared goals. Its good to have interests that don't involve your partner, its healthy to have other friends and on a practical level means you can enjoy the time you have together more. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/11/22 09:24 AM |
| 2 | Dear men, always take responsibility for your actions. If you were in an abusive relationship, it's your fault. You should've known better and dated that girl. Nobody has time for your trauma! Don't forget, it's your fault she abused you.Judgement like that is really unhelpful. No one is at fault for being abused and mindsets like that just means more people are afraid to speak up or seek help. Encouraging people, male or female, to understand why they got into an abusive relationship so they can learn to to heal is something completely different. I'm a woman and was in an abusive codependant relationship. My ex was manipulative and I realised when I left that I didn't deserve how I'd been treated. What I did do was figure out w… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/11/22 09:24 PM |
| 4 | Alright guys, it seems they finally admitted it. Come and watch the video. What do you guys think? How do you feel about what was said?I freely admit I only watched a few minutes as it was a Piers Morgan show, so they've probably went out of their way to find an extreme feminist point of view. So yes there are a minority who think like that but there's also a small minority of men who think women should be enslaved for their use. If we only heard those voices everyone would be scared of each other. I do believe there needs to be more understanding of both the male and females experience and recognition of the struggles everyone… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/11/22 02:14 PM |
| 6 | I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself?What is it you get out of Blackpill? Is it a sense of community, validation or something else? If you can start understanding the reason you're pulled into this then you can start working on getting that feeling from other sources. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/11/22 09:07 AM |
| 9 | Dating apps are Incel factories.I appreciate my experience a woman on the dating apps was different but honestly it sucked. Even if I was clear I was only looking for a relationship 90% of the message s I got were looking for short term only. It was exhausting. Also the fact that guys would straight up say wanna come round for sex just isn't appealing. There were some exceptions and i always responded to the guys who took time to read my profile and start a conversation. But they stood out because they were the exception. I wa… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/11/22 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Women of this sub, what advice can you give me to move on in a healthy way?It can really hurt being rejected like that. The thing is that you as a person is about so much more than just one person's perception of you. Get to know yourself, and figure out what is good about you and what you like. It sucks when the person you like doesn't want you back but that's just them showing you that they were never the right person for you anyway. The right person in your life will want you warts and all. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/11/22 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Stood up for myself for the first time in a relationship. My girlfriend has not contacted me in 4 day.I was in an abusive relationship. If I spoke to my ex he either nodded along and didn't actually change anything, started a big fight or gave me the silent treatment for days. Honestly it screwed with my head. I was left wondering was I a horrible person to be treated like that. In hindsight I can see that no I didn't deserve to be ignored for days on end. I realised my ex didn't have conflict resolution skills so basically acted in a way that turned any point I raised back on me. By the time he… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/11/22 07:25 AM |
| 8 | Stood up for myself for the first time in a relationship. My girlfriend has not contacted me in 4 day.The thing about having boundaries is it shows you if people respect you. From your posts I get the sense that you're willing to be treated like shit in exchange for having someone in your life. Maybe its time to ask yourself what do you get out of being in a relationship with someone like that? There are people who use others out there unfortunately. Learn to discern who wants you for the person you are and who is using you is a skill that can take time to develop. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/22 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Help my bf has become redpilledA good starting point might be asking him what appeals to him about Redpill, might give you some insights. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that he is willing to do the work. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/22 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Help my bf has become redpilledI wonder what your boyfriend is getting out of Redpill? Does he feel like he's not manly enough or that he's not good enough in any other way? What insecurity is Redpill speaking to? If you can figure that out maybe you can have a conversation with him about that and reassure him. But if he's not willing to listen and address those insecurities you may have a challenging time ahead | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/22 03:31 PM |
| 3 | How do I get rid of my extremely sexist/victim blaming mindset?This is a great suggestion. Just to add women aren't as different as op thinks. Think of all the stuff you're just figuring out in your life just now. Women have to do that to. We make mistakes as men do. Ask yourself why you think its wrong for women to make mistakes but not men? What do you expect from a woman and how would you feel if something said that to you? If you ended up with a bad girlfriend who abused you, would it be all your fault? | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/22 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Liked by the parents, not by the girlOn Cinema therapy one of the hosts talked about how that had to him to. He did find things changed as he got older though. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/10/22 09:26 AM |
| 2 | According to a regular female poster in this sub, who has contributed with many long replies, it's true that women are instinctually pickier than men because of the costs of pregnancy. Is there's some truth to this and RP's "hypergamy theory"?The Orgasm gap is another reason women are pickier. One Night Stands are just more effort than they're worth in my experience and research shows that while women love sex factors such as pregnancy risk, safety risk and lack of orgasm put them off ONS. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/10/22 09:23 AM |
| 5 | I have a question exredpill. How come my girlfriend can yell, scream, and curse at me during an argument. But when I tell her to stop because it's abusive it's "Too bad".Is it better to be perceived as the baf guy or stay in a situation which is damaging your mental health? | /r/ExRedPill | 28/10/22 02:11 PM |
| 2 | I have a question exredpill. How come my girlfriend can yell, scream, and curse at me during an argument. But when I tell her to stop because it's abusive it's "Too bad".If you've spoken to her and she's not willing to manage changes then you need to consider if you want to keep living like this | /r/ExRedPill | 28/10/22 02:10 PM |
| 5 | How do I stop seeing my gf as a slut and resenting her because of it?In the future avoid those hypothetical questions. Its entirely possible she was kidding you, or just letting her imagination run wild, as she didn't do it when she was single before going by what you said. Do you have any reasonable grounds just now to suspect she's unhappy with you and exploring other options? I'm also getting a sense that you maybe feel you're not good enough for her? Why would she get bored of you? I know its hard but the more you distrust her the more you're actually creatin… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/10/22 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Brainwashed by the RP and have a question.I made a mistake cause hey I'm human to. I'm being honest about why I made that mistake. I wouldn't do it again because I've learned how to have healthy relationships and would never be with a man who treats me that poorly again. I cheated because after years of being taken for granted and never having my needs considered I was a mess. I'm not justifying what I done but I am saying there were faults on both sides. If my partner had stepped up when I asked him to I wouldn't have got to that point… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/10/22 09:48 AM |
| 1 | Brainwashed by the RP and have a question.Men and women generally cheat for different reasons. Yes there are some women who thrive off attention from men and cheat for the thrill but the majority of women who cheat in long term relationships are generally doing so because their emotionally needs aren't met. I'll hold my hands up and say I cheated after 15year relationship. It was a shit thing to do and i ended the relationship the same day. The reason I cheated was because I'd been telling my ex for a long time I didn't feel appreciated… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/10/22 08:07 PM |
| 4 | Trying to detox from redpill ideologyWhen you're having those thoughts learn to question them. So taking "she thinks I'm a pussy for opened up" what evidently do you have that's what she's thinking? Does anything in her attitude change to you? Learn to observe the thoughts and not react. Another useful tools is learning mindfulness | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/22 07:50 PM |
| 7 | The real red pill is that we live in a superficial society and 90% of people have poor judge of character and an inability to accurately self assess/ reflect.You would be surprised how many factors which indicate attractiveness is linked to wealth. For example in the UK having a tan is considered attractive, but you have to be able to afford to spend hours sunbathing. In Vietnam paleness is attractive, again this indicates wealth as a pale person wasn't out working in the field. There's a country in Africa (apologies I forgot which one) where the most desirable brides are obese, showing that the wife doesn't need to work. Height is often linked to ha… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/22 06:35 AM |
| 2 | Men claiming the'yre "a good guy but ignored" are usually not good in actualityThank you, you put it better than I did. It was the fixing him bit that put me off. I'm happy for mutual support but I'm not applying for manic pixie dream girl positions. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/22 07:34 AM |
| 6 | Men claiming the'yre "a good guy but ignored" are usually not good in actualitySome kind of hobby that got him out of the house once in a while. Not overly bothered what but someone with no friends and no hobbies wasn't of interest to me. The reason for that is that going by what I've seen in the past I'd end up being responsible for coming up with all dates plans, or be stuck in the house. I want a partner in my life not a tag along. As a perspective at this time I went to dance classes, meditation groups and had tried a medieval reenactment group, went traveling myself a… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/10/22 06:46 PM |
| 8 | Men claiming the'yre "a good guy but ignored" are usually not good in actualityI remember having a conversation on a dating app with a "nice guy" He had on his profile that he didn't want women who were after money or certain types of guys etc. When he messaged me I told him that I wasn't interested in guys with a chip on their shoulders. He proceeded to tell me I'm different from other girls cause I had beauty and brains (code for reasonably attractive geek) and he was a nice guy but had been used etc. Long story short he worked and gamed and done nothing else with his li… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/10/22 05:32 PM |
| 9 | Who came up with the idea that women like douchebags?For lots of people of all genders, they don't know what a healthy relationship looks like. Look at Twilight for example, there's nothing healthy about being jealous or stalking her but it's portrayed as romantic because he loves her so much. In reality it's a sign that he's trying to control her. Also it feels like the RedPill forgets that girls are teenagers to (as you referred to American Pie). As a teenager your brain isn't fully developed and what you want is probably going to change as you … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/10/22 09:39 AM |
| 4 | Girls say im very coldQuick sense check, where is she from? Things like my love can be quite common ways of referring to everyone in some parts of the UK. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/10/22 03:51 PM |
| 1 | It's hard for me not to fall to the redpillI understand you're really struggling just now and are looking for something to make it better. You sound exhausting as you've had no meaningful connections to help nourish you. You're doing well taking each day at a time and being aware of the temptation to take the "easy" route and blame everything else. I hope you find your reason for going on, some small spark of joy that gives you hope. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/10/22 09:19 PM |
| 2 | (Rant)I am so tired of how Red Pill men have a double standard when it comes to supporting men who have been sexually victimized by women but not men who were sexually victimized by men and how they can actually support male survivors.I just want to say thank you and I admire your courage to speak up. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/10/22 11:39 AM |
| 3 | I need to break free of this...Having self worth, recognising your needs and having boundaries will help you to avoid being manipulated. As an example of this you may say I need to see my friends at least once a week or get time to myself. If someone doesn't accept boundaries then avoid them. Having self worth means you know you are happy with yourself and you will not settle for anyone who doesn't see your worth. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/22 05:52 PM |
| 7 | Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter?I'm not denying there's differences between men and women, I and others are waiting for you to explain how those differences have led you to your conclusion. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/22 12:25 PM |
| 16 | Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter?OK pretend I'm dense. At the moment I'm just getting random sentences with no evidence to back those up. Your logic is income How do those sexual functions translate into being affected by different numbers of partners? What is different and how men and women process sex differently? Without the supporting evidence there you can't draw conclusion 3. Your argument also is very selective and ignores a number of other evolutionary and societal factors. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/22 08:59 AM |
| 8 | Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter?You say men and women function differently sexually then you don't explain further. Tell me why you think that sexual function translates into having different number of sexual partners. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/22 08:38 AM |
| 19 | Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter?Am I right in thinking that your implication is that a man can screw as many women as he wants but women should wait for a partner until they wake children? If that's what you're saying I'm genuinely gobsmacked you don't see your own double standards. Women are people to. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/22 07:35 AM |
| 25 | Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter?Correlation doesn't equal causation. For example people who are virgins at marriage are more likely to be religious and stick out a bad marriage because of their faith. So in that case it would mean that on paper the key to a long marriage is a low number of partners, but it's not considering whether the marriage is a happy one. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/22 07:29 AM |
| 3 | I’m so tired of hearing about how it’s impossible for women to be lonely, how women are always cared about and complimented, how easy it is for us to get attention, etc.Maybe they're lonely in their bed because they're navel gazing trolls like yourself who is incapable of considering others feelings. Loneliness is more complex that having access to a shag. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/22 07:49 PM |
| 3 | The red pill is bad but… what other option do we have?He'd had other girlfriends, was getting other interest on the dating app where we met where had his height listed and spoke quite openly about his height and that it had affected him occasionally with things like being bullied andbeingrejectedby some women. He was 29 at the time. He was the one who called things off between us. He attracted women because he was funny and showed genuine interest in them. I've also dated a guy at 5"4 who had previous been married to a woman at 5"7 and a guy at 5"6… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/22 10:44 AM |
| 5 | The red pill is bad but… what other option do we have?One of the coolest guys I dated, who had no problem attracting women, was 5"3, same height as me. He did say that tall women were more likely to reject him but he had dated women taller than him. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/22 09:02 AM |
| 5 | Many Red Pill coaches confuse "emotionally damaged" with "morally/ethically corrupt" and it confuses so many unnecessarily.Your comment makes it seem like that behaviour is exclusive to women. Yet there's plenty of men who just chase looks and excitement to. There's also plenty of men who cheat on good women. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/09/22 11:06 AM |
| 3 | Redpill experience - how to deal before rationalization?Ocd is listed by the World Health Organisation as one of the 10 most debilitating illnesses you can get. I've supported people living with it all I can't imagine how exhausting it must be for them to constantly be on edge. One day one woman broke down in tears saying she knew she didn't want to be like this but she couldn't help it. Justaskoosh thank you for sharing your experience. OP OCD is a very complex condition. I doubt the woman you're talking to has capacity to play games as living with … | /r/ExRedPill | 25/09/22 06:58 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone know the statistics for what percentage of marriages fail that have a prenup? Also, how often do women initiate divorce in a marriage with a prenup?I don't have the statistics you're looking for but generally women are worse off after divorce. The reasons for women initiating divorce are more likely to be that they are unhappy in the marriage. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5992251/ | /r/ExRedPill | 19/09/22 04:17 PM |
| 3 | is falling in love with a woman dangerous?If you're closing yourself off from others and avoiding love then yes that can be harmful as you're denying yourself emotional support | /r/ExRedPill | 19/09/22 12:02 PM |
| 9 | I’m so tired of hearing about how it’s impossible for women to be lonely, how women are always cared about and complimented, how easy it is for us to get attention, etc.The people who are telling you that women shouldn't be lonely are deep in them victim hood and lack basic empathy. My expectation of loneliness wasn't lack of company, I was at my loneliest in a relationship. My loneliness was from realising I wasn't supported or understood by the man who was supposed to be doing thst. After I left that relationship I was single for a few years and only experienced loneliness for a total for a day maybe in those 3 years. Your feelings are completely valid and I … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/22 06:36 AM |
| 5 | The wall for trans people.Not every man wants kids. Also you're acting like men don't have any baggage of their own. Or maybe you just think that men are entitled to have younger women support them unconditionally | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/22 06:27 AM |
| 8 | The wall for trans people.Many women I know only started gain confidence in their 30s and having learned from past mistakes raised their standards in dating. A decent man will care about the person he's with being a good partner, so age would be less relevant | /r/ExRedPill | 16/09/22 02:18 PM |
| 1 | On the verge of going down that path again, resentment is building.One thing I'm curious and is what are your standards for dating and do you know what your needs are? You were treated like shit but after something like that happens you have to ask yourself why did you accept that? I was in a codependant relationship for years and afterwards I had to look at myself and ask why I'd accepted so much less than I deserved. I'm not talking about having lots of money spent on me, I mean things like my needs constantly because ignored. There are women out there who tr… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/09/22 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Dating feels like pressureYour value is more than your sexual attractiveness. Plus the redpill ignores other factors about what makes people choose their partner, things like sharedvalues matter much more. Where I was last on the dating scene I was in my mid 30s. I'm Plus size and while I have some good features I'm not stunning. Yet people who spent time with me thought I was sexy because I felt confident in myself. Its OK to take time out from dating to work on yourself. Enjoy uni, get some new hobbies and find out who… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/09/22 07:07 AM |
| 5 | "dick is low value and abundant"Last time I was on a dating site I made it clear that I was looking for a relationship. Within a week I had about 40 offers for hookup. The men put no effort into getting to know me and it was really clear that as far as they were concerned any hole was a goal. That attitude is a complete turn off. Being used as a human fleshlight isn't appealing and I doubt I'd get anything out of it. And I have had FWB arrangements before but at least I got off to in those arrangements. So yes a woman can get … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/09/22 04:26 PM |
| 5 | How can i reverse TRP bullcrap out of my mind? I'm 29F, engaged to a wonderful man but can't help feeling that I am only ''useful'' for him in the next 4 years since when fertility goes, women have no value. I know this is false but cannot stop believing it and feeling self loathing.Culture is definitely a strong influence on what you value and how you see yourself. I'm white childless working/middle class woman in the UK. I grew up knowing I had choices and I'd be accepted whatever they were, so I appreciate that I'm biased in that view. In the UK now there's few families that can afford to have just one partner working, so there is less choice in the matter for women who would maybe like to stay at home. The wives I know who are unhappy are more trophy wives, they thought… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/09/22 07:43 AM |
| 7 | How can i reverse TRP bullcrap out of my mind? I'm 29F, engaged to a wonderful man but can't help feeling that I am only ''useful'' for him in the next 4 years since when fertility goes, women have no value. I know this is false but cannot stop believing it and feeling self loathing.Partners in a marriage offer way more to each other than the transactional sex, security and children youre describing. They emotionally support each other and give ease other a hand up. There a team. I don't know many women who went down the trad wife route but the ones I do know are miserable. They aren't valued for who they are and are keeping up a pretence everything is wonderful to keep their husband happy and ignor their own needs. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/09/22 06:04 AM |
| 4 | Is redpill really that bad?I'd argue that even in your own statement you've provided reasons why redpill is bad. Suicide is the biggest killer of men under 50. In your own statement you say that you've been told by other men you shouldn't express your emotions because it makes you look weak. Suicide is strongly linked to feeling isolated, unsupported and hopeless. If more men were allowed to seek support then it would likely have a knock on effect on Suicide rates. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/08/22 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Partner market and competitionThink absolutely what's on your list in a partner, e.g. kind, good career, takes care of herself, enjoys outdoor activities etc and then think what would be on her list in a partner. So in the above example are you working on yourself, would you be a partner to the woman on your list? As an example I had a conversation on a dating site with a guy who was waiting for a woman to come into his life and then all these magical things would happen and he'd do so much, but current worked and gamex and … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/22 06:39 AM |
| 1 | Partner market and competitionThere's other ways to have a good life than money. Personally yes I'd like to be secure and comfortable but beyond that money doesn't give my life meaning. It doesn't give me connection with other people and it doesn't give me self worth. The things I value and the person I am dictate those. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/22 06:29 AM |
| 12 | Would the world be a better place if Men were more like Women?I think you have a great point. Compassion and empathy are viewed as being feminine traits but are really good things for everyone to have. Showing understanding builds relationships. I really hate that it's seen as being weak to try to consider someone else's point of view | /r/ExRedPill | 19/08/22 08:45 AM |
| 28 | Is the 'bar' really on the floor for men?Respecting boundaries is a green flag in dating. If someone goes into a huff or worse when I say no to them it shows me I was right not to get closer to them. Especially in a scenario where sex might be involved, if something doesn't listen when I say no there's no chance I'm going to put myself in a potentially dangerous situation where a man ignores my no and doesn't use a condom or tries to make me do something im uncomfortable with. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/22 05:34 PM |
| 9 | Why is there a significant rise in red pill/black pill content?Life is getting harder, costs are rising but wages aren't. Working life has changed dramatically, jobs which were traditionally respected are gone. There's more competition for the "desirable" jobs now. Added to this society is changing, more and more women are working and they're part of that competition. So this is having a knock on effect. Men who in the 50s say working in a factory got respected and they earned enough to provide for a family. Now that same factory worker is seen as someone w… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/22 07:31 AM |
| 2 | Women do not engage in hypergamy. If anything they're probably worried about men doing it.There's a difference in saying women gatekeep sex and women aren't having casual sex because men can't be arsed making it enjoyable for both sides. Would you let a guy screw you just because he was horny, if you weren't going to enjoy the experience? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/22 01:20 PM |
| 6 | Women do not engage in hypergamy. If anything they're probably worried about men doing it.The problem with your statements is you're assuming just because women have options on Tinder, they're all good ones and that the value of the man is determined by his status, and that the man is offering something long term. I could go on Tinder just now and have an offer for a shag by lunchtime. But such an encounter is likely to be bad for me, going on past experience and research https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/insight-therapy/202205/the-truth-about-casual-sex. The majority of men on… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/22 07:04 AM |
| 14 | What do you guys think of sexual market value?Lots of cultural beauty standards are related to wealth, we just don't realise it. I'm Scottish and am really pale, here it's considered attractive to be tan - you have time to sunbathe but when I visited Vietnam they thought my skin was beautiful, because pale people were the wealthy ones. It was a real shock to me when I was getting strangers coming up asking for pictures with me and the guide explained they were fascinated by my skin and were saying I was beautiful. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/22 07:02 PM |
| 4 | Do women really freak out if they're still single into their 30's-40's?I've known a couple of women who freaked out that they were running out of time but generally they were more interested in ticking boxes than finding good partners. So it was more important to get married then have kids than to find someone who suited them. However the majority I've known would prefer to be single regardless of age than date someone not right for them | /r/ExRedPill | 07/07/22 04:22 PM |
| 2 | What do do if the cult tries to pull me back in ?If you're worried about slipping back it might help to write down why you no longer agree with RP and why you don't want to follow it any more. It's a visual reminder you can go back to in the future | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/22 07:44 AM |
| 1 | Why do women leave when men are in an emotional rough patch?True but he was still elected party leader and ran an election campaign with him as leader. While technically he wasn't voted in as prime minister the way a president is, it amounts to much the same thing. Especially the way the tories themselves jumped on Boris and told the world Boris would save them. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/22 07:22 AM |
| 15 | Why do women leave when men are in an emotional rough patch?Boris Johnson (UK prime minister) is an example of this. While his wife was getting cancer treatment he already had a mistress. He eventually left his wife and married the mistress and people still voted for him to become prime minister. If a woman had done the same can you imagine the headlines? There'd be no chance in hell she would get in power. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/07/22 06:23 PM |
| 2 | What are some hard truths you have accepted about life?Accepting what is in my control and what isn't. It done wonders for my anxiety but it was a hard road. I can do my best to be a good person, I can work on how I respond to a situation. I can't control other people. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/22 10:42 AM |
| 1 | I don't even know if I'm capable of change. I'm going to be an incel for the rest of my pathetic excuse of a lifeA good starting place is learning to show yourself some compassion and be gentle to yourself. For example if you wouldn't say something to a friend don't say it to yourself. Start each morning by putting an arm across your chest and pushing down slightly (enough to feel some pressure) and saying out loud "good morning (own name) and start learning mindfulness to notice the bad thoughts you're having. Ruby wax has written some good books on mindfulness. Also if you want to use some therapy tools … | /r/ExRedPill | 27/06/22 04:45 PM |
| 2 | I don't even know if I'm capable of change. I'm going to be an incel for the rest of my pathetic excuse of a lifeI have to ask do you really want to change? It sounds like where you are is familiar and comfortable. Above any time someone offers a suggestion you found a way to reject it. The way you describe your life sounds awful, I can't imagine how much pain you are in living that way. However the first step is seeing that change is possible and believing you can do it. It takes work. So you have to choose your pain, stay stuck or go through the painful process of unlearning your hatred. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/06/22 08:56 AM |
| 1 | Whats the likelihood a woman will dump you just because she finds another guy better? AKA hypergamy?I cheated on my ex. Its not something I'm proud of but I wanted to give my perspective. We'd be together 15 years and for the last year it was just becoming clearer to me that I was carrying him in the relationship and when I tried to change things my ex wasn't interested. I even said to him at one point near the end I was thinking of walking and he shrugged, to this day I couldn't tell you why I didn't just walk out the door. I'd stuck by him through thick and thin, got through so many hard tim… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/22 10:23 AM |
| 4 | Why does so much dating advice say that you can't feel sorry for yourself?For many of your arguments you haven't distinguished between temporary or long term attitudes. If I was dating someone who lost a job or was having a rough patch meaning they were struggling with their mental health then yes I would stick by. If someone has a long term situation such as an addiction or crippling depression and they have no interest in getting better then that's different. I can't love someone better, only they can do the work to get better. In that situation leaving would be an … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/22 02:46 PM |
| 1 | I was deep into RedPill, predominantly MGTOW, about two years ago before those subreddits got banned. I still consider myself MGTOW todayYou have assumed that only men want sex in your argument and implied that women don't. Because women don't want sex they only provide sex as a reward. I can't speak for every woman but I'm a bi woman, I love sex and so did the other women I've slept with. When I was single I tried one night stands with men and I stopped pretty quickly because it wasn't enjoyable because I didn't feel safe. By your logic why would I even have bothered with a ONS in the first place? I'm not going to get a man to d… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/06/22 09:42 AM |
| 9 | Can I deprogram my redpill boyfriend?You can challenge some of those beliefs, but your partner will only deprogramme if he chooses to. But it is possible to challenge views. My partner grew up believing women were either fragile princesses to be protected or had it easy getting pregnant at 16 for a council house. When we met he told me he wanted to treat me like a princess and I said what unable to make decisions for myself? He was genuinely shocked that was the implications of his belief. The thing that he was attracted to in me w… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/06/22 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Insecurity of girl leaving for a "bigger" dudeI've refused to hop on a 9" dick cause that just looked like it would hurt. I have another friend who is worried about meeting new men as sex with her 7" ex hurt like hell. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/05/22 11:56 AM |
| 3 | What do you think of guys who believe girls are turned on by creepiness and aggression like randomly choking, rape or forcing make out(RSDTyler/Julien fans)?I think they're abusive arseholes. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 04:43 PM |
| 2 | I would appreciate advice on confidence.There's a spectrum of confidence going from no self esteem to raging narcissist. Ideally you should be looking to work your way to healthy self worth. Its really important for your own well-being. It means you have the ability to say I don't deserve to be treated like shit for example. It also means you respect yourself enough to take care of yourself. It helps to identify the things you're insecure about and work through them. This could look like challenging your beliefs about yourself to gett… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/05/22 04:42 PM |
| 8 | Is life really much better when you actually have a pretty attractive girlfriend or a girlfriend period?It really depends on you. I've seen plenty of insecure people who think once I get a boyfriend/girlfriend life will be great, I'll feel better about myself etc. Yet when they get a partner they're so terrified of losing them their insecurity actually gets worse. If your validation comes from external sources you'll always need reassurance. If you're happy within yourself having the right girlfriend can enhance your life. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/05/22 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Would there be fewer incels if society was more honest?I think that more realistic expectations would benefit everyone. There's a myth sold that once you get into a relationship your worries are over, all your problems are solved and it's happily ever after time, and it's all bollocks. Being in a relationship changed my problems. Yes it's wonderful having someone to support me but being in a good partnership takes a lot of work on both sides. Yet we're told it should be easy, our partner should know what we want and magically meet all our needs. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/05/22 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Hello to all of you ladies. I want to ask you a question, but I want all women who see this to at least give an answer. And be honest, no one has the right to judge you for your choices.I dated a guy who was 5"3, the same height as me. He'd dated women taller than him and never struggled to get dates, but he was confident funny and considerate. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/22 10:15 PM |
| 10 | Why there is no lot exfeminsts as there is exredpillAs someone's said above there's a range with feminism. Feminisimn does not equal misandry, many people don't understand the difference. At its core feminism is about equality for both sexes (more recently there is recognition of trans/intersex/non binary to) yet it is often mistaken for being about trying to replace men. There's extremes out there and places like female dating strategy are cesspools, so I'm not going to say feminism doesn't have issues. I hope that there are women who've recogni… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/22 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Is it a turn off to women if a man lives with roommates?I'm curious as to why you've said that and what your evidence is? | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/22 09:11 AM |
| 3 | How much do you care about sex ?I'm a woman and I enjoy sex. But when I was single I quickly decided casual sex just wasn't worth it. The constant attempts to ignore or renegotiate my boundaries and the lack of consideration if I was enjoying just made me feel like I was just a convenient hole. It's also really hard to feel safe when a guy has asked a couple times to do it without a condom and you're now worried about stealthing. If my experience had been meeting guys who wanted to make it a fun night for us both then go our s… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 07:36 AM |
| 1 | Is that the consequence of hypergamy?It sounds like she's looking for validation after an argument, but not in a healthy way. Rather than attempt to reconnect with you she is trying to "punish" you for arguing and gets reassurance from online attention. It's not hypergamy though, it's lack of relationship skills and insecurity. I have seen men use tactics to get backed at their partner after an argument to. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/22 10:34 AM |
| 3 | Internalize that women are humansI was speaking to a friend recently as we're both training to be therapists. Neither of us is unattractive but not model material either. My friend talked about a session she had done with a woman was gorgeous and was amazed to find that she had problems and insecurities to. My friend genuinely thought beautiful people couldn't have problems. It's probably an extention of her own dream that if she were "beautiful" her problems would be solved. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/01/22 07:52 AM |
| 3 | Am I Wrong to be mad at my single mother for raising me without a dad and doing such a poor job?I completely understand why you're angry. It sounds like you feel like you've started life on the back foot and been continually let down. You said your mom got pregnant trying to persuade your father to stay. From that comment it sounds like your mom didn't have healthy relationship models in her life either. If she had more self worth she might have realised that she deserved better. She's probably stuck in the same trap you see yourself in. Often our parents are trying their best and just don… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/01/22 03:51 PM |
| 5 | Has TRP made me impotent?It sounds like after the redpill you've put a lot more pressure on yourself regarding sex. The fun has went out of it and it sounds like you see getting ready for sex almost as equivalent to preparing for battle. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/01/22 12:06 PM |
| 4 | I lose respect for girls with high bodycounts.I genuinely can't tell you why you have that belief and where you're going wrong as you are unaware of it yourself. So instead I'm going to give you some questions to think on. Where does this belief belong to? What's do I think about sex? E.g is it a loving act between partners, a transaction or something else? Why is it an achievement for men to have sex? Who initiates sex? What does this say about them? Are women gatekeepers of sex? Why am I disgusted by women I perceive as having a high body… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/01/22 08:51 AM |
| 10 | I can't stop going back and forth to red pill youtube channels because these cheating situations bring back serious trust issues.I don't know if this will help but I can give you my perspective as a woman who cheated. I was in a 15 year relationship and for the last year things were getting worse and worse (the problems ran longer than that, it just got really noticeable at that point) and I was the only one fighting for the relationship. I felt unappreciated and like I didn't matter. Then at work I met a guy who did show me those things. When I ended up making out with him on a night out and was seriously tempted to go b… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/12/21 10:28 PM |
| 9 | why/how do bad people get into relationships/have sex?People often wear masks to impress others. Often they aren't doing it consciously but put on the persona they subconsciously think will make others like them. In some of the examples you've given people are conditioned to look for certain things. I know women who value a guys income over kindness (thankfully not many) one woman in particular was actually encouraged to date high earners by her father as he'd be able to provide for their future children. She ended up in a couple of toxic relations… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/21 06:57 AM |
| 8 | Would most older men hook up with a younger woman if they could red pilled or not?When I was 16 I started dating a guy at 30. It lasted 15 years because, as you said, initially I had too little life experiences to understand codependancy and gaslighting. I thought no one else would want me. I did eventually grow self esteem and get out. I'm now 37 and I can't imagine dating anyone under 30 as they'd just be at a different stage in life to me and I don't want to shape someone's life to the extent mine was shaped because I didn't know who I was. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/21 06:42 AM |
| 1 | What is the emotionally healthy way to deal with girls going "cold" on you?I think that there needs to be more context here. When you say a girl is going cold please expand on what you mean. For example if she's saying to you I'm busy, I need time to myself are you thinking she's busy or are you thinking she's going cold? If it is the case that a girl is withdrawing spending more time apart, showing less interest then I would suggest having a conversation along the lines of I enjoy spending time with you, I notice you've not been in touch as much recently, I just wante… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/09/21 07:12 PM |
| 2 | How to support boyfriend who is ex red pill?There's a few things that may help. Look up attachment styles, it can be really useful to understand how people relate to others and that can give you an understanding. Be consistent. Keep showing up and show you want him for himself. Praise him for behaviour that break red pill ideas. Also if he starts with redpill ideas, find ways of gently challenging it. It doesn't need to be a full argument just sometimes like, what's made you think that? Or does that seem likely for everyone? Edit to add, … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/09/21 05:54 AM |
| 1 | I don't understand if there's any hope for real.Living with your parents at 22 is very different to living with your parents at 42. Most people understand that staying at home while you build your career and get finances in order, at 22 makes sense. Reading your comments and you are living in a self fulfilling prophecy. There's other examples on this thread and r/nice guys has a few as well. Guy says I can't get a girl cause I'm (insert reason, I'll use short this time) meets girl then spends all the time saying oh you won't like me, I'm shor… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/21 03:50 PM |
| 8 | Why dating strategies rarely workYou make many good points. I think a lot of people struggle to understand what healthy relationships look like. There's loads of reasons for it from religious views, old fashioned values, difficult family dynamic, low self esteem etc and attachment styles. Because of this many people fall into trap of dating someone who isn't good for them, then not learning the lesson and repeating the cycle. I can see why dating strategies appeal in these cases as you think you'll avoid those types by doing th… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/09/21 10:17 AM |
| 4 | Can a short man as desirable to a woman as tall man? Or am i just always going to be second option to women.I'm 5"3 and have dated guys ranging from 5"3 to 6"3. It was a bit odd when I dated the guy at 5"3 at first as it's rare to meet men my own height and I wasn't used to it. But he was attractive and I had a really good laugh with him, the reason it didn't work out was timing related. I am in a ltr now with a guy at 6"3 and honest I'd prefer it if he was nearer my own height. But he's a great guy so I'll accept he's not my ideal. There will always be some people who want a certain physical characte… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/09/21 03:26 PM |
| 13 | The normalization of casual sex culture among women encouraged the raise of TRPIn a nutshell that's the problem though. It's the fact women are seen as the gatekeepers. That's why women are so often blamed for being raped as they provoked it by that logic. Because women are seen as gatekeepers, sex is seen as something to be won or manipulated out of a woman, rather than something which is good for both parties. If it was more equal view then there'd be less need for PUA etc Edit; grammar | /r/ExRedPill | 16/09/21 07:08 PM |
| 2 | Is Female Dating strategy repackaged redpill?I looked at FDS and the main issue I found was that High Value Men was often synonymous with well paid men and dated values. Things like insisting the first date had to be dinner in a fancy restaurant and that he had to pay because I'm a lady feel really outdated to me. The tone of a meeting like that is that it's about flashing cash and impressing a woman based on money, but actually how often does that reflect either of their personalities. Another one being don't live with a guy cause why wou… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/09/21 09:47 AM |
| 4 | What do you guys think the average women wants in a man?There's a wide range of what women want so I'm just going to speak from my own experience and what I've heard friends say. To give you an idea I'm in Scotland, my friends and I are typically in our 30s and working Women want a partner. A man doesn't need to have a great job or earn loads of money but he does need to be doing something with his life. He should be taking care of himself e.g. does housework, looks after himself- by this I mean clean and presentable and is working towards something … | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/21 01:26 PM |
| 7 | I'm an incel. Please help meIn a nutshell that's part of the problem. You are coming off as so desperate you'd take anyone. There's a couple of things to that. 1st many women want to be loved for themselves, not just be with a guy who wants her because she's better than being alone. 2nd if your partner is relying on you for all their validation it is emotionally exhausting. I've been there and my partner was so insecure that there was literally nothing I could have done to convince him I loved him and it ended up sabotagin… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/21 07:59 AM |
| 9 | Something really weird just happened. Please, help.Reading your comments and I get the impression that you're much more interested in the second girl and that's OK. Your sister seems to be the one pushing the relationship with girl 1 and you've admitted it feels forced. If im wrong I'd suggest just speaking to girl 1 and finding out if your gut instincts are right. But if you prefer girl 2 go for it with her but let girl 1 down gently. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/21 10:35 AM |
| 1 | Recently found TRP, find it interesting wanted to hear the other side. Also former cult member, would like to know more about why some are calling it a cultI've seen it happen and workout, however the man who had been abusive done a lot of work. He sobered up and dealt with the issues that caused the drinking that led to the abuse. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/21 01:49 PM |
| 4 | Recently found TRP, find it interesting wanted to hear the other side. Also former cult member, would like to know more about why some are calling it a cultI'm a woman and have never withheld sex as a form of control. In fact I really enjoy sex. However I have refused to have sex if I don't feel safe, respected or wanted though. When I was single I tried a couple of hookups as I missed sex. They were rarely worth it as I constantly had to state my boundaries. I had guys constantly pressure me to avoid condoms or do things I wasn't comfortable doing with someone I didn't know well. Also those men rarely cared if I got off. So I stopped as honestly i… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/21 01:28 PM |
| 4 | Do women really like asshole type guys?There's certain signs to look out for such as how they treat others, how much they rush the relationship and love bombing which can indicate they may be abusive but ultimately it takes time to get to know anyone, which is true regardless of gender etc. As an example you'll only see what your partner is like when stressed when dealing with a crisis. You could see a completely different side to them. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/08/21 08:18 AM |
| 25 | Do women really like asshole type guys?A lot of the Asshole guys didn't come across as Assholes to begin with though. At the start of the relationship they presented a front that was lovable and many women get trapped in an abusive cycle where they try to behave in a way that will get the guy they thought he was back. There will always be a small percentage of women who are drawn to guys who are openly assholes but I genuinely believe it is a minority. There are parallels for men who are drawn to certain types of women. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/08/21 09:22 AM |
| 2 | How can I get over RedPill?There's a healthy balance that isn't talked about. Be yourself, know what your boundaries are and be a partner. In a relationship that means making time for your own hobbies and looking after yourself while pulling your weight. Share the housework cause you're an adult living there to. Your partner and you should be there for each other, sometimes the split will be 80/20 on effort but it will seesaw between you. As an example my boyfriend is currently doing extra housework and emotional support … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/21 07:40 AM |
| 5 | People have the right to live alone for the rest of their lives but...This is bang on. Its OK to be single, but it's sad to see people generalise that all men are bastards or vice versa. I had shitty codependant relationships and the biggest single thing I had to look at was why I ended up in and staying in those relationships, then change that. I'm not victim blaming in any way here but if a guy has a bitchy ex-wife who used him and took all his money, there were probably plenty of signs along the way that she wasn't the right partner for him. He has to look at h… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/21 05:19 AM |
| 1 | The -3 theory.I'm a woman and have dated men that objectively aren't that attractive. They had lots of other things to offer and I enjoyed being with them. At the end of the day even if a guy was the most gorgeous guy I'd ever met, if he wasn't someone I found interesting then I'd get bored quickly and would rather be with Mr 4/10 that I actually had fun with. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/07/21 06:31 PM |
| 2 | How the treatment of men with mental issues can lead to them taking the red pillThis is a brilliant comment. Last time I was dating I was approached my a guy with definite incel vibes and the short version was he would worship me for fixing his life. He couldn't see that this wasn't a good relationship basis for anyone. There's so many unhealthy relationship images out there that affects all genders. We aren't taught was a healthy stable interdependent relationship looks like. So you end up with rubbish like femaledayingstrategy or incels | /r/ExRedPill | 08/07/21 03:59 PM |
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