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I didn't. still have no desire to meet anyone new, still no desire to " broaden my horizons". or " meet your next soulmate' just don't care to. but life is strange and I'll never say never.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 12:18 AM
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yes I take full responsibility for not wanting a threesome when I told her at the beginning of our relationship that I'm a one woman man. I am responsible for always putting her first and being who I said I was. i take full ownership for not being the bad guy when she started hanging out with male friends and not telling her "them or me". I don't regret being angry when she texted me. " just had a three way with guy and his girlfriend," wish you were here" when she knows that's not who I am. the…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 11:46 AM
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your not the only one. the optimist in me says never say never and I might not feel this way forever but for now I don't care if I spend the rest of my life alone.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 10:43 PM
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breath the freedom after the pain brother
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 03:53 AM
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if you must hook up, get it in writing. no strings no feelings and that she understands that this doesn't change your plans. if she's willing to sign it for you, she must want it with you pretty bad. but i feel like it's a Micheal Jordan baseball bad idea.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 01:52 AM
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She started it by saying she didn't care if our marriage burned to the ground and needed some time by herself to think.. she didn't need that much time because two days later she was banging the starving artist up the street. Then she said I should be the one to file the divorce because she didn't want to hurt me more than she already had. So I guess when you nutshell it I filed it because of infidelity....
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 11:18 AM
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Same. It might change later for me but for now, don't want to date don't want to hook up, don't want anything. I miss what we had but I'll live and die alone before I give someone the power to put me in that position again.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 11:24 PM
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The heart has a blind spot. You don't have to live dwelling on your mistreatment but trust someone who knows..if you allow yourself back down that rabbit hole.. your opening the door for more mistreatment. There's a part of you that will always see the version of your ex that you married. For good or I'll it will exist. But in a little bit when your place is not all cluttered up with their things. That sense of accomplishment will find you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 12:35 AM
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I did get mine appraised. Basically told I'd get a hundred bucks maybe assuming I could find an online interested buyer. Tungsten carbide is hard to reshape and so not a lot of market for resale. So now I have no idea what to do with it
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 12:09 AM
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I don't know about full on sixth sense but yes there were premonitions. A month or so after we got married, I dreamed that I woke up with n the place we shared alone and she was gone and her stuff was gone and "our stuff was in the dumpster. I told her these dreams and her response was always the same. That can't happen because we are going to be cute and old together... I knew I was in for it when she kept asking me to meet the guy up the block he was an artistswoon. He likes open relationships…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 12:24 AM
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Sorry. It hurts it's like twisting the knife. On the other hand it shows you the roll she expects you to play if your going to be in her life. I've heard it said that 'the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.. I don't hold to this aphorism but it sounds like she might.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 09:39 PM
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Is it spam if I repeat myself? Line from a different movie. "As good as it gets" with Jack Nicholson.. "how do you write women so well?". (Jack) " this first thing I do is I write men.. then I take away reason and accountability.". Yay movie quotes.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 07:44 PM
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This is a question that will get as many different answers as there are people. It depends on your own individual feelings and situation. For my own part I'm a hypocrite. Because I have no interest in dating anyone again. That said, I also recognize that might not be how I feel about it three years from now.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 10:45 AM
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I feel broken and jaded are not fair terms. Definitely damaged. (Speaking for myself. But I'm hoping it's temporary. ). But no it's ok to have standards. It's ok to say. You cheat on me once, we are done. Because at my worst I would never cheat on you. That's not being controlling or toxic. That is setting clear expectations. A partner (man or woman) who has cheated on you once is perfectly capable of doing it again. It's not jaded or broken to have a clear view of what you want in your relation…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 10:21 PM
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Yep. Posted it somewhere else "I don't want to feel like I'm doing anything wrong" was her exact words
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 06:37 PM
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Or he could " go out for a pack of smokes" at 3 am and no one sees him again?? Alien abduction, debt to the Mafia.. the possibilities are endless.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/23 06:43 PM
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Iv heard that new beginnings are cleansing. I hope so
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 02:53 AM
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My thoughts such as they are. You are running into small incompatibility issues that are really going to explode if you add kids to the mix. If you are shouldering all of the responsibility now you gonna be waiting on her and the kids hand and foot. If you are not ok with that arrangement it's time to spell out your terms. Be fair if you do still have feelings for her, acknowledge them but let her know that there are certain things that have to happen if she values your relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 02:13 AM
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I do know women for whom it doesn't apply. I used to think my stbx was one. Put it on another thread about how she tends to make choices and then tries to run away from the logical consequences of those choices. So it's de mos apropos in those situations. Like chosing to wait till I get home from work to go spend time with her friends and blaming me for us growing apart, or lending the neighborhood junky 500 dollars and telling me it's my fault our budget has a shortfall. I shouldn't door dash, …
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 12:39 PM
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Jack Nicholson in "as good as it gets" how do you write women so well?? Jack "first I write men, then I take away reason and accountability."
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 12:44 PM
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It's wierd isn't it how it shifts everything? She got me a table top model as a present . The kind you build and paint yourself. I've been into that kind of thing for a while (think d&d Warhammer etc) but she gave it to me shortly after announcing she had given up on us and didn't want to be married to me anymore. I've managed to build it, but I can't make myself paint it and a part of me just wants to throw it away or take it shooting.. it feels selfish and ungrateful.. and maybe it is but in m…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 05:54 AM
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It's hard to own what could have been different. What you could have done but didn't do to save the relationship. I spent a lot of time looking through that window. Read a few books listened to a few podcasts. All you can do is carry the weight of what was yours to carry, and put down anything that might have been thrust upon you. If you were loyal loving kind considerate patient and your other went off to go find another because being married to you wasn't the life ful of adventure that they we…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 07:23 AM
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Sometimes I feel like when we as men set boundaries and decide what we will and won't accept, we are labeled as controlling and abusive. (Not in the same way as real mental case men are) my ex knows id never lay hands on her in anger, I was never the type to tell her where she could and couldn't spend her time. But then when I had to go collect her because I didn't trust the people she was with to take care of her if she got pass out drunk, And had to help her up the stairs. (A couple of them ha…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 11:35 PM
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I'm sorry you are going through this. Seems like it's never easily digestible. Anxiety and depression make it that much harder. Take a breath take a couple moments for yourself. Try not to get lost in your own headspace the next few days. Easy to say hard to do I know. There's a whole group of us going through it. So your definitely not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 08:40 AM
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Your at a disadvantage because it's their place. They either don't care that you are there which immediately lets you know your place in the dynamic, or you make someone uncomfortable enough that they feel they must establish the dynamic when you are there. Either way not a place you want to spend a lot of time at.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 11:06 AM
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Thank you for all your thoughts . I welcome different opinions. Thing is as men we are or at least I was taught stoicism. Lifes gonna knock you down, man up and deal with it. Which has gotten me far in life. But I learned in my brief stint in boxing you can only take so much on the chin before you get knocked out, and today I am at my limit. I appreciate you all . Just venting here has helped me maintain some thread of sanity through all of this. I hope to pay it forward when I can.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 01:20 AM
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I can't say I know her intentions but she's setting you up for a fall. Maybe deliberate maybe not.. her asking you to be all in is like you telling her to not worry. If you want to stay with her and you feel like you can commit to that, then go for it. But I feel like this conversation is going to be ammunition against you later.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 04:19 PM
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Yeah we kind of agreed to the do it as it needs to be done principle.. except laundry shed pick fights over laundry. Because I'd do something in a way she didn't like... I'm being very specific here. It was not wrong the clothes were clean and hung and pressed and fabric softened and smelled good. But for whatever reason, she did not like the way I did it. First it was not enough fabric softener, then too much, then no I don't want fabric refresher with my unmentionables.. then why didn't you us…
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 03:42 PM
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Well I guess it's like this and yes I'll be the first to admit I made some decisions at the outset that I am regretting not going through not that here. But what it comes down to bis what I wanted was to grow old with her . She decided I don't get that. Is it maddening yes. Am I angry and hurt and betrayed... All yes. Does she have anything else I want? No. Does it benefit me in any way to make this a knock down drag out fight? Also no.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 11:38 PM
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Yeah I know how it looks, and I was dumb for agreeing to it. I acknowledge that. It was presented to me in context of " it's dangerous to stay there, and it's just a couple weeks until other arrangements can be made." And no there's no thoughts of "getting back together" I recognize and have for a little while now that that was not going to happen. When she said she would entertain the idea of marriage counciling but would continue an open relationship until counseling started was when I knew re…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 02:17 PM
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Fair question. Short version, her s.o. s living situation with her roommate/open relationship boyfriend got violent and untenable so I was asked if they could couch crash for a couple weeks while they made other arrangements... Because I'm a fool I said yes for a couple weeks.. that was about a month ago and yeah it's been a lot, but they are moving in together and will be gone Sunday.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 12:28 AM
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She gave him a lot of my shit while they were a thruple. I actually fought her while they were a thing because she wanted to give him my bbq grill and I fought her on it.. but your right, at the end of the day it's just a crockpot. But the grill is mine!!
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 10:49 PM
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If she's already looking for other guys then that makes you an option... I think you are shooting yourself in the back by offering. Take the win and start over.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 07:13 PM
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For a while it's going to feel like a giant mood swing. Your going to experience everything from "ask the lonely" by journey to "divide" by disturbed. The good news is eventually the pendulum doesn't swing quite so hard and you'll have a few days that are liveable. Take time with your feelings, join a gym if you have the money and that works for you. Go for walks, vent here. It's easier to not make decisions that are ultimately self destructive if you actually take time to process what you feel.…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 02:53 PM
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It's kind of comical yet revealing. My stbx for example is already having that conversation with her new girlfriend. Supposedly pursuing a monogamous relationship together. But she caught my stbx flirting with the other neighbor.. the conversation went something like this : gf: I love you and I want this relationship with you. But I will not be second choice and I will not be blind sided if you want this with me and just me you have to act like it. If you don't that's fine I'll just leave. " STB…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 11:35 AM
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You mean like blaming you for not spending time with her but the truth is she leaves to visit her "friends" right after you get home from work so she is literally choosing to not be with you but it's somehow still your fault?
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 03:19 AM
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Clear your mind of expectations. You've talked on tinder so there's things to talk about. Unless you've declared romantic intentions at the beginning, I'd say treat it like a "getting to know you" initially and see how it goes from there.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 02:52 PM
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Take it from someone who heard it... I need time to find myself is code for "someone is waiting in the wings and the only real benefit to being with them is they aren't you. It's gonna hurt. Pain like you've never had. And you are left wondering "what did I do"? She may even blame you if you ask her. But (forgive a little projection here) what I'm slowly learning, and is probably true in your case because it tastes so familiar. It wasn't you. She's trying something different. And some of this ma…
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 01:38 PM
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I have no wisdom to offer, just experience. She whips out that laundry list of your failings and things you can do better. Before you know it every decision you make is the wrong one. Maybe she will be receptive if you stick to your guns , maybe she will get mad and leave but you owe it to yourself to ask.. is this how you want to spend the rest of your life?
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 11:30 PM
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No way never again. I miss the closeness feeling of belonging both to and with someone, but if nothing else, I have learned from this that I'm not relationship material. If this is how it goes. I don't want to date or hook up or any of that. I'll get my life untangled from hers and if I live and die alone so mote it be.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 12:34 AM
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For those who are convinced I'm trolling, I'm sorry. I wish I was. Your not living it. No beef with religious beliefs in general. But so much time was spent on taboos and donts that I was unprepared for kinks and other appetites. Sorry. The general consensus seems to be I'm not crazy for feeling abandoned and hurt. I appreciate the input.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 09:50 PM
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It's not. This has been my life sine about two months ago. I'm sorry if I gave the impression of malicious intent.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 11:42 AM
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To clarify, by this one bedroom apartment, I mean the apartment my wife and I have lived in together the last couple years. So yes now we all three share this space. And believe me there is nothing so painful as when your wife texts you because she needs you at the hospital, you get there and the guy she's replacing you with is in the bed (overdose,) and your wife introduced herself to the medical staff as his partner... And you as a "concerned third party."
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 11:33 AM
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Good advice on here. I never asked to see her phone. I didn't start getting suspicious until she started just grabbing her keys and coat about twenty minutes after I got off work and I wouldn't see her for three maybe four hours. Then she told me she didn't care if our marriage burned to the ground, and needed some alone time to sort things out. Two days later she said she was having relations of the intimate kind with the artist up the block and his girlfriend... Strange definition of alone tim…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 02:15 PM
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