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CMVAceOfSpadesGymBro/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:48 PM
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But I'm a loner who is only awake at night. I don't drink and never go out in the presence of other human beings. I'm selectively mute and extremely socially anxious. I have to suck on a pacifier in order to not have a panic attack of I am within 20 ft of another human being. Why aren't there any safe places for me to stare at women and try to command them to come to me with the power of my mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 06:56 PM
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You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 06:26 PM
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It's for you. You will come across as needy and trying too hard and your success rate will be minimal. Women always chase the guys they can't get not their guys who are super easy to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:01 PM
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Picking someone up is a very specific process with a desired outcome. You pick someone up to take them home and have sex with. I am asking him why does he want to pick up a specific woman? His answer is basically "because she's hot". That's okay. He is attracted to body parts. Most men are. But that means that he has almost zero criteria and requirements from his potential sexual partners. It also means he is chasing trophies. After all, a hot woman will make every one else jealous, and sex must…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 03:18 PM
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He says that all he needs to want to pick up a woman (that is, he wants a specific outcome of going home with her) is that she exists and is attractive to him. No other criteria or requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:53 PM
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How do you know you want to pick a woman up if you don't know anything about her other than you liking her boobs or face?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:45 PM
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You again
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:39 PM
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Look, I have approached many women and have seen many women be approached in all walks of life. Approaching of in itself is not inherently bad or creepy, but it can be so if done without any emotional and situational intelligence. Here are the things that make approaching creepy: If you are a guy who specifically goes out to a place to "pick up" women. I've seen men jump out of the shadows or chase after a woman simply walking down the street to stop her. I've seen men lurk around parks and cafe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 11:03 AM
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If a man is not a victim does a man even exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 08:03 PM
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Start an OFs page.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 08:02 PM
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Oh boy oh boy. We need to defend our victimhood at all cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 08:01 PM
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Nothing wrong with innocent flirting. It leaves both sides feeling better about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:59 PM
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Getting rid of any anxiety necessitates that you do the thing that gives you anxiety. So if you are socially anxious, it means you need to expose yourself to social situations. For the autists out there, the preceding sentence DOES NOT MEAN EXPOSING YOURSELF IN A SEXUALLY INAPPROPRIATE WAY SUCH AS PULLING OUT YOUR PENIS IN PUBLIC.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:59 PM
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Women are all marrying the same 5 Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:56 PM
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I'm saying that you have an impulse to always paint yourself as the victim of external forces. In this case, those evil wimminz who are out to get you and shame you. Who are those wimminz exactly? Nobody knows. You will certainly never provide us with any specific names of people who have actually told you that. But it sure is awesome always being a victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:05 PM
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I think taking risks is just another way of saying "don't be a coward". I think fear is the real issue that is impeding men. Hence the coming of age rituals which involve a boy facing his fears so he can become a man. Someone mentioned therapy. The curious thing is that any therapist worth their salt will make the person who is trying to solve their anxiety do the very thing that makes them anxious: that's the only way to overcome fears/anxieties.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:26 PM
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I believe people are mostly serial monogamists. They pair up long enough to make a baby and raise it for a year before they get bored wjth their current partner and start seeking novelty.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:13 PM
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Okay, I don't understand why you are ranting at me about that though. Not sure what I did to set you off.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:00 PM
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Of course, I was born middle aged and have never been a 20 something!!! So sorry to hear that 50% of the human population is a total nuisance to you. Men should be ashamed just for existing and breathing the same air as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:52 PM
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I've never pretended to be a young guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:39 PM
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Did you just accuse me of being ESL? Should I also go back to my own country?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 11:06 AM
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I stopped reading your fiction after the first 7 words.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 10:56 AM
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It's so funny you talk about definitive timelines for a man to get sex while putting some arbitrary timeline for when you will have sex with the man, because otherwise he won't take you seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 10:53 AM
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Think about who are the guys saying it works and whether you want to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 10:45 AM
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Have you tried being an interesting person?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 10:33 AM
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Withholding sex is just as stupid as a guy waiting 3 days to call a girl he met at the bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:48 AM
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I mean you do you, but it's pretty nuts that you would want to withhold something that you want to do as badly as the guy you are withholding it from because of the idiotic idea that if you withhold it from him, he will magically turn into a more worthwhile guy who values and respects you more. That, honey, is called being delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:46 AM
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You only get desperate suckers who have no other options. Your pussy ain't that special.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 12:42 AM
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Don't call me Shirley.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:43 PM
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Wow one gender blaming the other about all their problems and then some. Wonder where I have heard this one before?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:50 PM
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Can you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:29 PM
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I mean that has served us well for hundreds of thousands of years to the point that humans went from a few thousand living in the savannahs of Africa to about 7 billion populating every known patch of land and even sending spaceships to the moon. I think this may be a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:57 PM
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Reddit in a nutshell.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:35 PM
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I disagree. The main obstacle to people being successful on dating is themselves. Being shy and socially inexperienced isn't a life sentence. It's not some immutable natural phenomenon like gravity or the speed of light. These are skills that can be improved with the right guidance and motivation. If people are lacking looks wise, there is a ton they can do to improve. Maybe they will never be Henry Cavill or hot convict guy, but they can be good enough for someone who matched them looks wise. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:56 AM
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They don't. But it's super hard to find men who are 1. Worthwhile 2. Actually good in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:48 AM
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So you expect the government to terraform the Midwest into the new Rockies? Are you high?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:49 AM
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The government will force them. Duh! Are you even paying attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:47 AM
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I recently commented on a post in the r/seduction sub. The post was from a guy who wants to start approaching women. He went to hang out at a mall and just prowled the mall for 30 mins before seeing an attractive woman who went into a cosmetics store. He waited around for a minute and finally got the nerve to walk up to her FROM BEHIND and mutter something like "wow you are so beautiful" or whatever. When I called him out and said that it's creepy and weird to be prowling a mall for women and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:51 PM
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Perpetual victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:47 PM
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CS Lewis wrote that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:46 PM
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Tell me you've never had a girlfriend without telling me you've never had a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:45 PM
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It's not the "you picked a man who abused you" that I have a problem with. That can happen to anyone. The thing I have a problem with is "I stayed in a relationship for 5 years with a guy who was abusive". Like that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:44 PM
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I like the job hunting analogy. Years ago I read this non fiction book about sales management. It was written by the VP of sales for this tech startup that he had joined. After their initial success, he decided to scale up the sales team, so he asks HR to put out a bunch of ads on LinkedIn, Indeed, etc. So he gets 300 resumes. Whittles them down to 50, phone screens them and brings in a dozen for interviews. He ends up hiring exactly ZERO of the 300. Why? He says that they were all pretty bad an…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:43 PM
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From an empathy point of view, I do empathize with lonely guys because I have myself experienced loneliness and frustration with dating and getting a partner. So I get it. What I don't empathize with is the utter refusal to do ANYTHING about their situation other than endlessly bitch and whine about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:37 PM
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I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:31 PM
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Men who have low self worth tend to attract dysfunctional women and since they are so desperate for a woman and have also normalized being treated like shit, they tend to stay with these women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:40 PM
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I mean most of the guys here have never had sex so how would they even know what they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:39 PM
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Because they are lying to you (and probably themselves) that they don't need men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:37 PM
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Narcissus fell in love with himself. Falling in love with myself was the best thing I could do especially for my dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:42 PM
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Bruh you know most human females can have multiple orgasms, one right after the other, vaginal, clitoral, they can have sex all night long while men cum and and to go take a nap. As Dr Robert Glover says, women are the sexual equivalent of a Ferrari and men are the sexual equivalent of a moped.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:08 PM
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Women are just as guilty in projecting their sexual arousal requirements onto men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 12:48 PM
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Yes, women only got for the top 5% of men yet somehow manage to have gang bangs with all Chads every weekend. And all these super rare Chads are still orbiting around them like they have no other women. Makes total sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:21 AM
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I just have a self satisfied grin that as a guy in his early 40s I fucked more women than a lot of you will ever fuck in your lifetime, lost my virginity at 16 and if I wanted to, I could go and meet another women in an hour or two, no problem. So yes, maybe dating has changed for young people. But I know the young stuff is still into me (I see them checking me out every day when I take my dogs for a walk or when I'm at the gym). I'm talking women in their prime, early and mid 20s. What's my sec…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:17 AM
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Girl, marry young so when you inevitably get divorced you are still cute enough to get another guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:10 AM
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Of course it's not. It's virtually brainwashed into boys since they are 3 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 02:18 AM
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Jesus Christ
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 02:17 AM
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Chads and sluts live in your heads rent free 24/7
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 02:16 AM
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Sounds like a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:14 PM
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It actually has nothing to do with morals or virtues. Absolutely nothing. Nice guys can do some very non virtuous or immoral things in order to avoid disapproval.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:21 PM
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Niceness doesn't come from virtue and morals. Niceness is the result of fear of the disapproval of others.0
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:56 PM
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Lol. Sure thing buddy. For millions of years. Maybe you should get your pussy looked at by a doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:21 PM
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They actually don't. It's just in our human nature to exploit those we feel weaker than us and who don't fight back. Here is an example: why do parents hit their kids? Go on, why do you think it happens. My answer will be at the bottom. Here is another example. Why does a woman who has the reputation of being easy, gets used by men for sex without anyone taking her seriously? Again, answer at the bottom. The answer to my first question is this: because a kid can't hit them back or really do anyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:11 AM
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Literally nobody cares but you. There is no post in the recent history at least of PPD that says "MEM WHO HAVE STANDARDS ARE MISOGYNISTIC". You are the one who made the post complaining about a problem that doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:04 AM
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Imagine the human race survived millions of years because women didn't enjoy the one thing that produces babies?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:03 AM
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Evolutionary choosing mates that closely resembled you and your family was probably a very poor choice genetically, since mixing your genes with those of a relative would produce more genetic errors. When women are in estrus, they seek out males who are different than the males she has at home. The familiar (family) males. Once a woman gets impregnated, she may then seek a male who closer resembles her family, because that kind of male will surely help her and be nurturing and help raise the bab…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:01 AM
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It's the victim Olympics yo
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:53 AM
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There is a big f difference between being frustrated wjth the other sex because of stuff that happened and the outright hate you can sense coming off the posts here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:53 PM
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I mean if you let yourself be shamed by the faceless others, that's really on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:52 PM
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Yes, I think you are right. That's why I called out these common traps that men fall into so they can try and avoid them. But then again, that implies that the person receiving the message actually wants help, which is very rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:16 PM
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Good job informing your beliefs from TikTok and passing them as absolute truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:04 PM
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I don't think you answered to the right persons
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:02 PM
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You are welcome to have your own opinions on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:05 PM
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Not needing something doesn't mean you can't enjoy it. The majority of the stuff you do every day is not something you truly need but you do it either because you tell yourself you need it or because you enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:54 PM
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I met a woman, mid 40s, gorgeous, smart, successful career. Yet she's hung up on some guy that gives her the runaround, doesn't take her seriously. He has "commitment" issues. Yet she can't get enough, because deep down she is needy and desperate. And since she can't have him, she chases him even more. But the guy will always take advantage of her as long as she is so afraid of being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:53 PM
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All of this is neediness. Being "sold" too quickly on someone is neediness. Men are super guilty of this. They see a nice pair of tits or a nice ass and they are "sold" on the woman. Then they get into chasing/selling mode and the woman has only one option left to her, which is to get into the pursued/buyer mode, which means play hard to get, be skeptical about a guy's intentions, give him a hard time, etc. A non-needy guy sees an attractive woman, aknowledges it and says "what else, because tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:51 PM
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TRT
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:46 PM
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That's a great observation and probably the cause of 99% of dating problems for both men and women. The issue is that men especially will fall into one of several traps when they consider this idea. The first trap has to do with all or nothing thinking. You are either happy alone but that means you will never ever date or have sex OR you continue to make yourself miserable over not having a partner but at least you have some hope that your desperation will eventually get you someone. I keep aski…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:43 PM
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It could eventually go there. For example, if your girlfriend is a catch, you may think that other men would love to have her. If you think that if you take her for granted, she would have no problem finding a new guy in about 5 mins, that would cause you to take extra care in how you treat her (because you can lose her). However, imagine she is super clingy and wants to spend all time with you and gets sad when you are apart. To the point that her neediness starts weighing on your emotionally. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 01:48 PM
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Oh sure so I just haven't taken enough showers. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:10 PM
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It has nothing to do with standards. It is basic human nature. People never want this which they can get and always want this which they can't get. Neither men nor women are exempt from that. As a matter of fact, men often chase women who are completely uninterested in them, who are unavailable and keep blowing them off. Just go to the dating advice subs or even the dating over 30 and 40 subs (the latter is a bit depressing). It's full of countless stories of men who go after women who give them…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:59 AM
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Dude, you can't get police to show up unless someone's been shot or stabbed. This weird delusional fear that somehow you are going to get accused of harassment is there either as an excuse to never do anything or as another "wimmins bad" narrative. Does this stuff happen? Yeah, it does. Because the guy who did was a weird, socially regarded person who is incapable of reading social cues. If that's your problem, then go to therapy to learn to socialize.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:54 AM
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All I have seem are poor quality charts that look like they were made in Excel. No raw data has ever been released by apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:49 AM
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Well my mom likes me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 09:19 PM
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I am all of these things (6ft with heeled shoes on).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:54 PM
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My mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:54 PM
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My mom told me so
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:22 PM
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No. Women are supposed to like me just the way I am. If I have to change than I am no longer myself. That includes getting new clothes or cutting my nose hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:57 PM
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Are you gonna leave us hanging on what happened next with your girl date?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 12:54 PM
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For me it comes down to the idea that we need others (whether you are into men or women romantically) in order to be happy and complete as a human being. When you start viewing others as having something that you need that only they can give you and without which you are failing at being a normal human being, what do you think the outcome will be? If you guessed feelings of inferiority, you'd be right. If you guessed insecurities, you'd be right. If you guessed objectification and putting people…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 10:50 AM
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The fastest way to a woman's bedroom is by friendzoning her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 10:44 AM
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Very fascinating subject. Here is my completely controversial take on this. Do you like donuts? Or other types of sweets? Do you like to go to the movies or to high end restaurants? Do you like to dance or listen to music? What do all of these activities have in common? They are 100% NOT NEEDED for your basic survival. As a matter of fact, humanity has been able to survive and thrive without these things for hundreds of thousands of years before any of these things were invented. YET...we still …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:09 AM
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Have you truly lived to the fullest if you haven't yet injected meth into your penis?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:04 AM
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Aren't women supposed to like me for who I am?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 01:03 AM
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Then just buy a cucumber and leave us alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 01:02 AM
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Men are not satisfied with average women but want average and hot women to be satisfied wjth their average asses.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:42 PM
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The men who take care of themselves you can count on one hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:24 PM
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Oh no. Dating is so much worse now. Nobody is having any sex hence why the global population is at the highest it has ever been in the history of mankind.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 08:19 PM
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It's not that. It's that they spend all of their extra income on their looks, which men never do hence why women don't find 80% of men attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 08:11 PM
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Standards are LOGICAL, actual sexual attraction is EMOTIONAL. A guy can talk about wanting a thin, low n count good girl until he is blue in the face, but when he sees a pair of nice titties and a fat ass, all his standards fly out of the window (especially if he is horny and hasn't gotten laid in a while). Same with women. They can talk about their requirement for a sensitive, 6'+ millionaire who also does dishes, cleans the apartment and pays for all her the dates, but when they meet a man who…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:31 PM
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So I can still get the 5.4s and 7.6s?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:52 PM
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I can tell you what the number one challenge is and has been since the beginning of time. If you understand this one universal law, you will understand everything. People NEVER want this which they CAN GET and ALWAYS want this which they CAN'T GET. Work backwards now. What is the typical guy here on PPD like? Let me give you a hint. He has convinced himself that he needs love and sex like he needs food and water. He makes himself feel miserable wjthout those things. He puts women on a pedestal b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:07 AM
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It doesn't matter. There aren't enough 6'5 white Chads with 6 packs and million dollar salaries to go around for all women. Can a normal guy compete against guys like that or celebrities or famous athletes? Absolutely not! But again, there aren't enough of these men out there. They get the cream of the crop of women and even if they fuck a new woman every other day, these women go on to have their own dating lives and relationships. They don't stop being available because they had sex with Chad.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:01 AM
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I think any man whom informs his views of women and dating from TikTok's deserves not getting laid ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 10:57 AM
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Go away
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:39 AM
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People never want this which they can get and always want this which they can't get. If you understand this one simple rule and apply it effectively, you will #1 understand all female behavior as it relates to dating and #2 you will never have dating problems again.
/r/seduction17/10/23 01:18 AM
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Put a new record in the player. We've heard this one for the millionth time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:11 AM
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When even see robots start rejecting you, you will be back crying for real women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:10 AM
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The long story short is that it fries your dopamine receptors. With real sex the dopamine release is gradual, while with porn because you can view all kinds of sex, especially the type that you are not likely to ever have in real life and furthermore you can just fast forward to the most exciting spot for you, it will shoot up your dopamine unnaturally. No different that taking a drug and then coming down. Eventually, real sex doesn't really excite you anymore. You start seeing women as objects.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:09 AM
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You again with the endless self victimization? Don't you ever get tired of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:06 AM
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Nope. That's just being a nice guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 11:16 PM
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A man who can dominate other men by being smarter than they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:04 PM
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As another poster once commented on my post: I'm not lonely because I don't go out and socialize. I don't go out and socialize because I'm lonely. You can't make this shit up if you tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:04 PM
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The competition is truly fierce.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:00 PM
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It can't possibly be true because the human species has survived for millions of years and humans have grown exponentially since the dawn of man and woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:37 PM
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AlMost men who struggle with women aren't even that bad looking. Sure, they can upgrade their grooming, haircuts and style, but the problem is with something else. The problem almost always comes down to neediness and inferiority. If you understand this truth: women NEVER WANT this which they can get and AWLAYS WANT this which they can't get, it will make total sense to you why they don't want needy guys wjth inferiority complexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:36 PM
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The real problem with nice guys who are trying to buy a woman's love is that the act of doing so, communicates that they are not a worthwhile person who deserve love without having to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:33 PM
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You ain't trying to make things equal for anyone, you just scared
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 10:01 PM
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Just like walking, speaking and wiping your own ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 10:01 PM
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You should learn about the men who don't count.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 09:59 PM
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Have had more interest from women than Inknow that to do with the second I got engaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 09:19 PM
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Is there a specific point you are trying to make or refute my argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:53 PM
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I don't claim that this applies to children for whom love is definitely a need. But for adults - sorry but all of this to me is psychoanalytic mumbo jumbo. Being attached and needy comes down to how you think about those things. Needy people think love/sex is a need and without those things they are bound to be miserable and lonely, even inferior to their peers. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, because they often self isolate and avoid doing anything social because "what's the point of doi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:40 PM
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I mean sure, we are social animals. You will find it very hard not to be around people though unless you live on the moon. The point is that the more you tell yourself you need a romantic partner, the harder it is to actually get one. Women never want this which they can get and always want this which they can't get. A guy who is so needy is someone she can get - easily. That's why needing love is counterproductive. It actually makes you more unappealing. I've experimented with this and have pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:09 PM
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How exactly are you going to be rejected from your social group if you went to say hi to a girl and she wasn't interested? Can you explain your line of thinking? Cause to me it sounds like irrational anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:16 PM
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I mean people tell themselves they need all kinds of things and then make themselves miserable for not having them. Recently, a group of people murderer hundreds of peaceful ravers and families because they have a need to spread their religious beliefs to others who don't share them. You can tell yourself you need sex and love and that without them, you are bound to be lonely and miserable. But I have never met anyone who has needed those things badly and been able to get them on a consistent ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:15 PM
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Like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:11 PM
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So can you admit that the fear is completely irrational?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:37 PM
2

Like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:32 PM
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More than 4 or 5 starts to get into pain in the ass territory. Women require a lot of attention and I still needed to have a life, hang out with friends, play video games, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:31 PM
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There is no scientific proof in Maslow's theories. They are just that - theories, aka opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:29 PM
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Yes, you are overestimating the importance of sex and painting it as a need. Basic needs are food, water, shelter and access to healthcare. Everything else is a plus, icing on the cake. The reason so many guys actually struggle obtaining sex is because they treat it like some need, therefore making themselves overly anxious and needy. Not getting it means to then that they must be missing something that is required to be a normal functioning human being resulting in more feelings of inadequacy. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:25 PM
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That's a lot of words for "I'm scared of girls"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:21 PM
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Because the word slut was created for one reason only - to hurt and to shame. What's so terrible about dressing sexy or enjoying sex? You also have to understand the word "slut" coming from a man is very different than the word coming from a woman. For a man a slut is a woman who has more sex than he would like her to, as evidenced by your post. Oh noes, she gave a guy a blow job and swallowed his load, what a terrible woman. When a woman uses the word "slut", she means: "You are lowering the ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:05 PM
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I don't ever remember getting rejected by a woman. I'm sure many have done it, but to me they simply don't exist. I only pay attention to the ones who like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:02 PM
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The only people who put others down are those who hate themselves. So whenever someone shits on men or women, it's an accurate indicator about what they think of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:30 AM
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That's not what you claimed in your OP at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:08 AM
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See, even a terrible, unremarkable dog can be loved unconditionally. But for some reason we have trouble extending the same love to ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 09:11 PM
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The opinion of of you of someone you don't admire or respect cannot possibly be anywhere near as important and valid as your own opinion of you. Peculiar that OP has not responded to you but has responded to everyone else!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 09:09 PM
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But it has never occurred to you to look into the mirror and figure out if the man staring back at you loves you. If that man can't/won't love you, why should someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 09:07 PM
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Your claim is that you can only be worthwhile if other people think you are worthwhile. I'm just saying that's a whole lot of baloney.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 09:02 PM
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Not true at all. You have to first like yourself and then others will like you. Also, try liking others and taking interest in them. That's the fastest and easiest way I've found of becoming more likable and interesting to others. Your post is total BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 06:12 PM
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If you view both male and female behavior through the lens of this universal law: people NEVER want this which they CAN get and ALWAYS want this which they CAN'T get, it will all make sense. Yes, a man who has other women or is wanted by other women is harder to get than a man who has none and whom no women want. The latter will be very easy to get. Also women have the whole tame him then dump him thong going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:37 PM
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Even if they were not lied to by their own standards it wouldn't change anything. Looks are more than height, yet none of these guys ever do anything beyond the minimum to groom themselves or look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 11:39 AM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 11:36 AM
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Yes we do
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 11:34 AM
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I mean if you can't handle some drama from your girl, you need to check if she has your balls in her purse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:02 PM
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Personally I'm drama free, but I understand women have a need for emotional tension. When you don't provide that for them, they will provide the negative side of it, aka drama. It's like a woman who doesn't provide sex for her partner, so the man acts out with porn, strippers or cheats.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 10:59 AM
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I see a problem that may be tangentially connected to what you are talking about. From a male perspective, way too many guys lack a clear purpose/mission in life that gives them fulfillment. When men lack that, they tend to look to women to fulfill that need. But this causes men to pedestalize women and purse them in neediness and desperation, which is a huge turn off. I harp on this quite a bit, but so far very few men really understand what it means to find your purpose in life and stop chasin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 10:55 AM
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I think there is a word for type of woman that men pay for. It's on the top of my tongue...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 10:47 AM
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What would you rather watch: The Godfather or a movie of paint drying? Would you rather watch a live football game or rewatch a recording of game when you already know the score? You failing to understand that women have certain emotional needs is on you. Everyone enjoys both sexual and emotional tension. If that's too "dramatic" for you, perhaps you'd be better off getting a dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 10:44 AM
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Infinitely more men suffer frond delusions of inadequacy than delusions of grandeur.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:44 AM
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I can figure out all your problems with women just from your first few sentences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:43 AM
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I will tell you a little secret. Most women don't go to college virgins. I've checked.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:42 AM
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I only hear men being scared of not being able to back their confidence. I just don't understand what they are so unconfident about? If you like who you are and consider yourself worthy and valuable, then you have all the confidence you need. You already know how to talk to people, it's the same talking to women. You already can do all of this. You don't need anything other than removing your stupid neuroses.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 12:09 AM
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And has a small dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:25 PM
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Nothing is going to please you losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:16 PM
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I'm so tired of doomercels.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 08:55 PM
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Another poster has already written extensively about this. But basically dress in a very archetypal male fashion, tailored suit, dress shirt with unbuttoned top two buttons, nice gold chain, fly haircut, good shoes and cologne. Or black jeans, black leather shoes, leather jacket, a nicely groomed stubble, nice watch. Again, these are things you and others will waive off as stupid, useless, they don't work, etc. So that's why I don't bother writing about this extensively.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 08:33 PM
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As I said, what's the point when you are already chomping at the bit to shit all over any advice that may be offered.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:28 PM
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Let me guess? I will take 15 minutes to write an exhaustive list, just so you can respond "Do you really believe this will get a 5' Indian janitor laid?"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:01 PM
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I'm pretty sure women just wake up looking like this:
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:59 PM
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But Chad can wear a simple white t shirt and a pair of ripped up jeans and still get the hot honeys. I thought women were supposed to like me for me. If I have to change ANYTHING about myself to attract women I prefer to just be alone for the rest of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:56 PM
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Man actually have a lot of things they can do, but they absolutely refuse to do them because "I thought women are supposed to like me for who I am, whaaaa whaaaa".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:16 PM
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Guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:32 PM
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Oh no, but women don't like sex and their libido is nonexistent. Oh noes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:32 PM
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It's not men's fault that they are not attracted to overweight women, the same way it's not women's fault that they are not attracted to wimpy nice guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:31 PM
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Am I arrested over thought crimes?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:49 PM
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Pretty terrible way of going about it if you ask me. What is the point here? To get over your approach anxiety? If that's it, then instead of trying to get a number, make up your mind to get 10 rejections. Don't try to force rejection by saying someone stupid or rude. Simply walk up to a woman and say "Hey I just saw you thought you were really cute. I'd love to take you out sometime. Give me your number and I will call you tomorrow" and just hand her your phone. Remember, your objective is to g…
/r/seduction09/10/23 11:43 AM
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I agree. Wait until you get to your 40s and are still in a good shape. A whole another world of possibilities opens up. I've had teenagers have crushes on me. Girls half my age, etc. As well as women my age and a bit older. I'm married but if I wasn't, my life would be a never ending porno movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 11:39 AM
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I've had my frustrations and even rage at women. I think anyone who dates other people will experience this. I've certainly met many bitter women as well. But I hold no ill will or hate towards women. I'm man enough to acknowledge that a lot of my early problems with women were caused by my own wimpiness and not because women are inherently evil or want to play with men's emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 11:36 AM
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I was going to say that too. He really did go out of his way to stall her. It's just being overeager and a little desperate. It could have very well caused the initial rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 11:34 AM
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Yes, women have a hard time saying no. I can go into why women are socialized like this, but don't want to make this into a huge post. Suffice to say, the majority of women are socialized to believe that their job is to make other people happy (especially daddy) and that means never disappointing them to their face. Women will equivocate making others happy by doing what you said. Instead of saying "I'm not interested" to your face, she enthusiastically agreed and then avoided you until you got …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 11:33 AM
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That sounds exactly like the opposite of what every guy on this sub talks about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:25 AM
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It's like saying "no guy wants to fuck a slut who has fucked a hundred men". Well, a hundred men would like to differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:04 AM
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It's not only that. It's that there is literally no law on the books. It's simply social conditioning. Nobody is putting a gun to your head making you provide for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:09 PM
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Is it? Or have you been told by countless songs and movies that it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:06 PM
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If you understand this one universal law, everything about men and women will make sense to you: people NEVER want this which they CAN get and ALWAYS want this which they CAN'T get. A high value man is one who values himself, his time and what he offers. When a man values himself and doesn't need women for validation or approval, he becomes very hard to get. These are men who are desirable. Men who are needy and desperate are by definition what any woman can get and therefore if no interest to w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:53 PM
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It has taught me that I have no real competition when it comes to dating and sex. If before I thought there are 10 women for every guy, not I think there are 1000 women for every guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:50 PM
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Mostly because your feefees are based on irrational thoughts. So by default, those feelings and emotions are irrational themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:48 PM
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Let's see: Tony Soprano, Walter White, probably a few more.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:47 PM
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Not a Chad at all. As a matter of fact, I used to struggle with women but I learned a thing or two because I was more horny than I was shy. These are skills and confidence that stay with you for life. I just know that I will always be able to get a woman if I wanted to. They are out there waiting for guys like me. There are infinitely more women out there waiting for a guy who can show up as a man, lead them, make decisions and make them feel like everything is under control, then there are men …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:31 PM
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You hate us because you ainus.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:37 PM
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All of it, except apps. They didn't have them when I was single. If I were to get divorced, I can find single women at gym classes, cafes, dog parks (if you have dogs), etc. Your attitude should be that you are always open to meeting a new and exciting woman, but you are not easily convinced or "sold" on anyone until you put them through their paces. Typically men get "sold" on a woman purely based on her looks or on what they imagine she is like, based on her looks. Once they are "sold" on her,…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:37 PM
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Oh no, I don't think there are any people who are not meant to find a relationship. But I do think there are men who believe that. I'm just saying your beliefs are distorted and irrational and self fulfilling prophecies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:21 PM
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Since the original comment wasn't made to you specifically, it doesn't apply to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:11 PM
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I said there are 1000s for a guy like me not a guy like YOU. Learn to read bro. The reason I said after I joined PPD I learned there are thousands for guys like me is because there are so many lame, scared men out there who barely even leave their apartments. That's why men like me will never run out of pussy. It's more abundant than air.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:48 PM
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It doesn't work that way for YOU.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:40 PM
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Fortunately, I've never had that problem. Pussy is as abundant as dick. Many lonely women out there waiting for a guy like me or you. Ripe for the picking. I used to believe there were 100 women for every guy like me. Since I joined PPD, I now know there are 1000s of women for a guy like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:44 PM
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I'm sorry, can you point out what law says that men must be providers for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:36 AM
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That's like saying that a short or chubby guy should r want a hot pornstar/Insta model looking girl. Makes zero sense. What is even stupider is implying that fat chicks are banging 6'5" Chads all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:35 AM
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Women get old. Men just get more interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:30 AM
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That's just circular logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:14 AM
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Why is no one giving men any compliments whaaaaaaa whaaaaaaa
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:32 AM
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This is total bs. The reason many men struggle with getting a relationship isn't because it's not for them or there is something inherently wrong with them. It's because they tell themselves they need love/sex/relationships and feel inadequate if they don't have it. As if they are incapable of satisfying some basic human need, which makes them feel like total failures. That breeds neediness which in turn makes people reject them. The needier a person is, the less appealing they are to others. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:02 AM
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I suggest you read Intimate Connections by Dr. David Burns. You can find a PDF copy online for free. A good introduction to the topic: https://feelinggood.com/2017/03/05/is-love-an-adult-human-need/amp/ Also this podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feeling-good-podcast-team-cbt-the-new-mood-therapy/id1171155453?i=1000606059732 And this one on loneliness: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feeling-good-podcast-team-cbt-the-new-mood-therapy/id1171155453?i=1000579171638 So to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:46 AM
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Around 27 or so. There are two aspects to it. One is the cognitive/belief aspect of it. Basically, you have to start thinking that women cannot make you happy, they can only contribute to your happiness or be icing on the cake of your life. It is consciously taking your power back that you used to imbue women with, believing if you just got a woman, if you got sex, all your problems will go away and you will be happy and confident, your dick will be 8 inches, you will be taller, etc. The flip si…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:19 AM
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I guess you don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 06:47 PM
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Stopped needing to be loved or be with a woman to be happy. When you need others, you give them all your power and since humans are inherently predators (our eyes are in the front), they will prey on weaker individuals and will take advantage of them. A man who truly doesn't need women to be happy or to enjoy his life is the biggest challenge there could be.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 06:43 PM
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Nice guys would get laid helluva lot more if they were actually honest with women, but they are too big pussies to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 06:35 PM
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Why do we need to be harsh on people who have more sex than us, or more sex than we want them to? If you made more money than someone else, should they be coming with pitchforks and burning your house down? Do you understand how fucking dumb you sound?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 06:34 PM
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Correct! We tend to equate success in the eyes of society = value. So we subjugate ourselves to the needs of the whole, but neglect our own needs. For a man it will make much more sense to go for a woman he's attracted to in a straight line. Instead, a man is conditioned to think "first, I have to show her that I have some money. Let me put on my expensive watch and my designer sunglasses. Then I have to show everybody that I work out and play sports, so they don't think I'm a nobody. Thirdly, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 03:44 PM
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Oh god I just watched the video another fucking whiny "woe is me" rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:26 AM
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I will tell you a little secret. Women have evolved to follow men who tell them what to do. A lot of times, abusive men are also controlling, which is very easily mistaken for being able to lead. Many women can't really distinguish between the two and usually the lower their self esteem, the easier it is for them to follow such men. But don't make the mistake - all women want to be told what to do. It's just their nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:23 AM
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The most ironic thing is this: women want this which they can't get. So when they meet a man who is very easily "sold" on her, mostly because of her looks, she actually has very little respect for him. Men who make women jump through hoops and work hard to earn his attention and his sex, tend to have way more sexy time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 03:36 AM
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The social blueprint for men is: sacrifice yourself, have something of value to society, work like mad and only then can you feel worthy enough and confident enough to go after hot girls. The high school quarterback, the rockstar, the millionaires son, all these guys have something that society values, so they give themselves permission to be confident. It is very hard for a man who doesn't have much value in society's eyes, like a man who is of average income and skill, who does not scale new p…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 03:32 AM
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The evidence is about procreation, not mating. We don't know and have no way of knowing how successfully people mated. It is very possible that I'm tribal times, multiple men tried to inseminate a woman within a few hours time, but only one managed to produce progeny. There is also the question of infant mortality which means that we cannot gather this genetic data to understand if certain cavemen were getting laid, but their progeny died shortly after birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:11 PM
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I actually lol at guys on PPD. Don't have to fight for survival, don't have to hunt their own food, don't have to fight off predators or enemy tribes, have central heating and cooling and every resource available to men at their fingertips. And they still can't figure out how to get laid! Lololol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 04:24 PM
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I just somehow can't comprehend how something that humanity has been doing for hundreds of thousands, if not millions of years, seems so out of reach for so many men. I mean, how did fucking cavemen get laid? Homo sapiens has existed for hundreds of thousands of years. His predecessors for even longer. All living creatures on earth have successfully fucked and procreated for us to be in existence at this very moment. Yet some of you can't figure this out? It's so easy, a Neanderthal can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:55 PM
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Honestly, this is probably the most beta/desperate/needy advice I have ever read. First of all, the idea that you can or should somehow make a woman who is not interested, interested, is basically putting her on the proverbial pedestal. She's the prize, then less interested she is, the bigger the attraction (because we all want what we can't get) and you lowly serf need to be out there fighting for her and using everything in your lame PUA arsenal to turn it around. Just thinking like that presu…
/r/seduction06/10/23 10:43 AM
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The most desperate I've seen women was during Covid. In my area the gyms were still open and I swear to god I must have been eye raped at least a dozen times. Sometimes multiple times by the same woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 10:10 PM
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Good looking to you does not equal sexually arousing to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 09:57 PM
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Look up Intimate Connections by Dr David Burns.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 08:20 PM
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I can tell you from experience nobody wants a "lonely" guy. Yes, I feel empathy for "lonely" people but they always come across as needy and wanting to latch onto other people. People are attracted to people who are happy, enjoying their lives, doing shit and going places. Not to the lonely guy who sits in the corner doing nothing on a Saturday night.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:28 PM
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You know why some guys never get signals? Because all they tell themselves is "I'm ugly, girls are not interested in guys like me, why would any of them want me, they just want Chads," blah blah blah. When all your focus is on women not being into you, all you will see is the disinterested women and none of the interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:04 PM
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Fuckbois are not fucking a lot of women because they are socially retarded and hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 03:39 PM
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That's not what the saying really means. It means a woman who is stuck up and used to being treated like a queen and like her shit don't stink, wjll always be turn led on by a guy who treats her like most men would treat a whore (a woman that is perceived as easy to good for one thing only). Meaning he ignore hers or let's it be known he is interested in one thing only, doesn't really give her time of day and when he does fuck herd he is not making sweet love to her as if he is lucky to be fucki…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 03:22 PM
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The reason women are rebelling against that is because there is always a group of socially regarded, uncalibrated men who spoil it for everyone. These are the guys who don't bother to look for signals of invitation, who just strut around and bother women in the middle of their sets and just ask for their Instagram or whatever without as much as getting to know the woman even for 5 minutes. These guys way outnumber the men who can read signals well and talk to women in a normal way. I see a guy l…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:10 PM
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When I was a kid, all the time. Women have said some of the nicest things to me (not my mom though lol) when I was a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:26 AM
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I think that's my problem! I look like a buff Chad and women avoid me everywhere. Makes sense now!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:25 AM
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Not any more than men are qualified to teach women how to apply make up, do their hair, dress classy sexy, wax their eyebrows and privates, flirt, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:07 AM
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I don't think older women give a shit about younger women other than being jealous that their tits are perkier and their asses tighter.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:12 AM
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Judging by the responses, it seems like men are kind of okay with the free market that they claim to espouse so much. They don't enjoy women having choices, but you better not dare take their choices away. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:11 AM
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Einstein said: there are two things in the universe that are endless - ignorance and space...and I'm not so sure about the latter!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 09:39 PM
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You need to read a biology textbook
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 09:17 PM
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People always want this which they CAN'T get and never this which they CAN get.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 09:07 PM
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This is a stupid thing to say. A nice ass and tits have no reproductive value either because modern medicine will ensure the birth of a healthy baby, but men still go after women they find physically attractive (in women physical attractiveness and youth is correlated with better reproductive health and ability).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 09:06 PM
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Rich =/= Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:28 PM
1

Thank you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:28 PM
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I mean life is fucking hard. Just because it's hard we should just roll over and die? I guess these guys aren't all that horny after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:04 PM
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And then men blame women for being hormonal and emotional?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:50 PM
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Not exactly. I think neediness/desperation usually has 3 different outcomes. A guy tells himself, what's the point of going out, I will be the odd man out, single, awkward. Why should I do anything enjoyable if I don't have someone to do it with? This leads to self isolation and then staying home Saturday night and playing video games and jerking off to porn. Ironically, a guy who doesn't socialize will have the smallest/nonexistent chances of meeting anyone. Second outcome is a guy who does go …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:47 PM
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I'd arrange a gang bang every weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:12 PM
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I don't think that's true at all, no more than men defining that women should all be getting fake tits, Botox and lip injections. Humans are attracted to what they are attracted to. Men are more attracted to looked by and large, women are more attracted to a man's behavior. But behavior is more easily influenced by social conditioning thus creating armies of nice guys and wimps who are in essence unattractive to women. The reality is women want to be with someone who is strong. Who has his convi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:12 PM
0

Yes that's what I'm trying to say. I think your fantasies of hundreds of women being in a Chad harem are a little overblown.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:06 PM
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So who is banging all the average plain Janes? Or let me guess? They are part of Chad's harem. The Chad who has no problem getting any babe he wants yet he is in a relationship with a bunch of frumpy average broads. Sure. That makes all the sense in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:38 AM
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You know something, vagina just isn't as valuable as you seem to think it is, where a man has to commit to you and promise you a ring just so gets to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:36 AM
1

I'm sure it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:03 PM
1

I don't know if it's bait and switch as much as just getting complacent with the lack of competition and taking your partner for granted. If he's already committed and will only be with you, what does an extra donut matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:02 PM
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Women have a much greater NEED to be in a relationship and have someone guarantee her security. You should always use the promise of a relationship as a bargaining chip the way women use sex. And by relationship I don't necessarily mean an exclusive, mono relationship. Just being a guy who cares for her and treats her like a girlfriend. This is not something you should give away freely and women should always be qualified for that role.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:11 PM
2

Treat a queen like a whore and whore like a queen. This advice has worked wonders for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:08 PM
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Men don't want any compliments. Men want compliments from hot women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:57 PM
3

Exactly! And this is not to say that you have to reject people. You can absolutely want others because you enjoy sex and intimacy but when you don't NEED them, the power stays with you and now they chase you!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:31 PM
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So basically you have to force people into "loving" relationships? Hmmm. Maybe pair bonding isn't all that natural after all. I thought love and intimacy were a need that men can't live without.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:12 PM
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I will start him on tren or dbol at about 12 along with HGH.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 11:55 AM
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You guys are hilarious, instead of worrying how to be competitive in the dating market, you are looking for a way to institute dating communism. Everyone gets according to their needs and everyone gives according to their abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 11:55 AM
1

100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 10:34 AM
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Case in point. Men misinterpret this advice all the time as just give up, shut yourself in and don't ever try to talk to or flirt with women. Just because you don't need something doesn't mean you can't enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 08:04 AM
9

So who are all these women dating, getting into relationships and marrying, exactly? Who are these alien life forms they are having sex wjth if not....checks notes....men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:01 AM
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When you stop looking, they will come. The reality is the more you chase people, the more you give your power away to them, the more they will reject you. The second you truly stop needing women and chasing them like their pussies are made of pure diamonds, the power shifts over to you. Of course, men who have convinced themselves that they cannot live without sex and love, find this advice extremely difficult to grasp.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:03 AM
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Always accuse women of trying to seduce you, get frisky with you and pull away from them until they rape you. Keeping saying in subtle ways that their beauty is not enough to get you in bed and they will try harder and harder. This approach has worked like magic for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:23 PM
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If you are a guy who never got girls when he was young you are not going to magically transform into a hot daddy. So your strategy of sitting around and waiting until you get old is obviously not working. Maybe try something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:48 PM
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No, they are simply not as confident and sure of themselves. The ones who are, do VERY well with girls their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:52 PM
1

Approaching and pursuing are two completely different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:58 PM
1

Well, you should try dating better women then.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:30 AM
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All women require is that you actually like and value yourself, which seems to be an issue for you since you are chasing some goal of being an "exceptional" man. It's not being exceptional that is that important. It's that you can only allow yourself to like and value yourself when you reach that goal. But that's an artificial condition: you can start liking and valuing yourself right now as you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:30 AM
2

Rule 9?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:27 AM
4

The girl I lost my virginity to was supposed to be slightly more experienced than I was. After she gave me my first bj and I saw that she left teeth marks on my dick, I swore I'd never be with an inexperienced girl again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:25 AM
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Lol. Yes. Men do compete. And so do women. Even more viscously. When you go to the club and you see a friend of your leaving with a hottie or even some random guy you say "oh well, it will be me next time". If that happened to a woman, they would destroy friendships and get green with jealousy. I've seen it happen. But you still live in the matrix. You still live in a world where women choose men which is the reality for 99.99% of men actually so you are not wrong. But it doesn't have to be that…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:24 AM
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Women have the whole taming you then dumping you thingy. It stems from the fact that a man who is out there living his life, doing manly things like playing sports, hanging out with buddies, riding motorcycles is seen as a challenge. But once a woman catches him and starts domesticating him and he goes out less and less, sells the bike, neglects his friends, etc., he just turns into another average chump. No different than a girl who keeps in shape, dresses like a sex kitten but once she gets in…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:20 AM
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As a very handsome man, I can totally relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:12 AM
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How do you stand out exactly when every single mother fucker between 15-55 has tattoos?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:47 AM
2

You got me. I'm still a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:53 PM
1

It actually does work yes. The more subtle she is about it the better it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:46 PM
1

Maybe cause women actually enjoy sex even more than men and they have been told their entire lives to hide their pussy from everyone instead of enjoying it. And why is it always women who are used for sex? You don't think women use men for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:35 PM
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It's real and it's real for men too. Go to any dating advice sub and 90% of the posts: "met this girl, talked to her for weeks, went on a couple of dates, now she's responding slower and slower and doesn't seem e try engaged. How do I get her interested again?" We always chase this which pulls away from us and this which we can't get. It's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:17 PM
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A billionaire athletes or actor will always get plenty of women. Thankfully, there aren't enough of these guys for them to be any realistic competition for most men. Even if they slept with a lot of women, these celebrities are not having 100 gfs they keep in a harem so these woman are still available for other men. So the guy that will beat out the other competition is the archetypal male. His status is not based on his profession or social standing. He doesn't flaunt wealth or access or power.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:15 PM
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You subtly check other women when you are out with your woman. You comment on attractive women on TV. Stuff like this. They can sense when other women are flirty with you and get jealous. Sorry you don't like what I have to say. It's a controversial topic and a hard pill to swallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:38 PM
0

That's a lot of words for saying "I'm scared of girls".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:55 PM
1

I completely agree. But as I often say, women are victims to social conditioning as much as men are, just in different ways. Men assume that it should be easy for a woman to approach a man. Yet, they themselves are terrified of approaching because they risk rejection as if women don't risk rejection or being used for one thing then discarded to the side.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:55 PM
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Not sure that's how it works. People ALWAYS want this which they can't get. If a woman feels content that her man is not going anywhere and is even afraid of looking at other women, she will feel complacent and take him for granted. Because he is what she CAN get. The second she feels some competition, she realizes that he may not be someone who is easy to get and that she may lose him. Same idea behind why people pine after their exes. Once someone breaks up with you they become what you cannot…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:53 PM
5

Then she never really wanted you anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 11:39 AM
2

My favorite reply was from a user called: Latteissues who says: "Don't you know. We either date the best of them (Chad's, rich dudes) to the worst of them (abusers, jerks, criminals), but never the NICE GUYS like them. Lololool so true!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 11:36 AM
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I once worked with a guy who was pretty average and a bit on the shorter side. He had the worst halitosis that I have ever encountered. It was a biohazard just to have him speak to you from less than 3 feet away. At one of our holiday parties he showed up with his girlfriend who wasn't even bad looking. I just couldn't figure out how that was possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 11:27 AM
5

How hard it is to program a vibrator to say stuff like "how was your day, honey?", "what a bitch!", "another glass of wine?". You don't need AI for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 11:25 AM
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The easiest way to make a woman horny for you is to let her subtly know that other women are circling around you and she has competition. The more fierce the competition for your dick, the more she will make sure to please you. Brutal? Sure, but it's nature baby. Nature is metal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 11:21 AM
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Well I'm certainly not talking about psychopaths, which certainly exist. I am referring to run of the mill regular guys. Just like there are women who proposition men and don't give a fuck that they will be turned down.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 11:19 AM
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I responded to the OP who raised this question. Look up the answer, you may find it enlightening...or not. But you have to admit your view of men's value is actually pretty nifty from society's point of view. Society needs a bunch of members who will work very hard to make society forward, who will sacrifice their health, time and sometimes their lives for the good of the society. So they figured out: if we make men feel worthless and inadequate for not being productive members of society, we wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 11:15 AM
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I don't know where you got feminist values from in my comment. I simply said that women are socially conditioned to believe that their entire value as a human being is contained in their sex and ability to get a man of means. I didn't say it right, as a matter of fact I think it's a terrible thing for women. Just stating an unfortunate reality and the reason why many women are very hesitant to put themselves out there and be more aggressive with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 11:10 AM
1

Women love to pursue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 10:57 AM
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I assure you, I've approached more women that you probably come across in a month. I've been shot down numerous times and have succeeded numerous times. As I said, yes, rejection can sting. Rejection also really hurts when you approach women with a hat in hand wanting/needing something from them. Most men need approval, validation, they desperately want to be liked by women. I don't suffer from that affliction because I approve myself, validate myself and like myself more than I like others. So …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 10:56 AM
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Let me know how this has worked out for you to get you that wonderful girlfriend or wife that you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:14 AM
2

You dumb fucks think that the 50 men that are in her dms or texts are actual competition. If these women were really so turned on by all these men, they wouldn't have time to record TikTok's from all the sex they would be having 24/7. Instead, I see plenty of these girls go out every weekend night in my neighborhood and come home alone with their girlfriends (no guys).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:23 AM
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The less sex a woman has, the less she desires it. The less sex a man has the more he desires it. And vice verse, the more sex a woman has, the more she desires it and the more sex a man has, the less he desires it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:20 AM
1

This topic has already been answered to: https://youtu.be/Dk5zliabPjM?feature=shared
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:18 AM
1

Wait until you get married (don't do it!!!!)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:17 AM
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Yes I did. It was so incredibly misogynistic that I didn't bother responding to it and I won't bother responding to you at all any further than this exchanger.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:43 AM
1

Having a conversation or complimenting him is not approaching? What exactly do you think approaching entails?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:46 PM
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Please don't ever comment on one of my posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:42 PM
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Men starting off worthless is YOUR distorted self defeating belief. NOT mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:19 PM
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That's just a value system you have chosen to buy into. It has no real merit in the real world. You choose to believe that as a man you are worthless. Which also explains why you probably struggle with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:09 PM
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I don't know. I have never been to Sweden or tried to pickup a Swedish girl or rejected one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:53 PM
1

Because they tell themselves they NEED romantic relationships to be fully happy and that if they DON'T have them, they should feel miserable and worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:53 PM
1

Can you ask this a different way please? Not sure ai understand your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:14 PM
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Because women are taught from an early age that their only value in this world is their sex. That's it. It's everywhere in society. An actress must be young and hot. There is no famous actress at Robert Deniros age who is cast as a lead. A woman who looked like Tony Soprano would have never been that respected or voted sexiest woman alive by GQ (James Gandolfini was). Even the nicest guys all really care is a woman's looks. They never pine after the geeky, frumpy chubby girl. So when a woman off…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:11 PM
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I don't think anyone can deny that the majority of people want the very attractive minority. Same applies to men. The guys who claim that an average frumpy 5 gets the same treatment, attention and quality men as a hot 9 or 10 are not only delusional, they are 100% completely dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:51 PM
1

Look, I understand the desire for companionship and intimacy. We've all experienced loneliness, etc. However, people are conflating a natural urge, the urge to procreate, to be attracted to people of the opposite sex with something they absolutely NEED in order to experience complete happiness and fulfillment and WITHOUT which they are bound to be miserable and lonely. Humans have many such urges. We usually seek to conserve energy - a remnant of our primitive days when food was scarce and we ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:48 PM
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Not at all. We all are. But once you realize that the responsibility of yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:30 AM
2

And why do you think women are obsessed with commitment?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:04 AM
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Most of my friends are married and now with kids. The one single guy I knew got together with his ex. I was hoping to live vicariously through him, but whatever. My wife has a few chronically single female friends. Same story. They are okay, kind of mid, but are so tucking neurotic that they drive any guy that is remotely interested in them away by the end of the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:01 AM
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See, the problem is that needy people are too needy to be able to offer anything of value to others. They are basically saying "Please take me, I am worthless, I am nothing without someone caring for me". So if they see themselves as worthless, they obviously don't believe they have anything of value to give others. They only want to take, take, take and in the process they force others to reject them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:53 PM
3

Well it's not happening. So you either wait for the world to change according to your tastes and desires or you changed which one do you think is likelier.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:39 PM
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I do agree, that's all great and that's something an individual man can look into for himself. You are not going to solve this global problem for everyone. But individuals can take concrete steps right now to become detached from seeking sex and companionship as a source of happiness wjthout which they are bound to be miserable. Ironically, this lack of neediness will likely help them get girlfriends much easier. r
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:38 PM
5

One time a guy commented on something I wrote in a serious tone: I'm not lonely, because I don't socialize. I don't socialize, because I'm lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:51 PM
3

What if you are really uncomfortable with being a self flagellating loser, who blames everyone else but himself for his problems?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:48 PM
5

Good luck waiting on your government issue girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:22 PM
5

So the only man that matters, YOU, is also not giving a fuck? Then why should anyone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:21 PM
2

Not sure how any of this has to do with the original topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:01 PM
5

Precisely. And if they want better than that, then they have to figure out how to be what those hotter women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:00 PM
1

Even if what you say has some merit (it does not), it's the exact thing In talking about. Who cares about the societal problem. Solve your own problem here and now. Don't be concerned about society. You can't help everyone: they have to help themselves. You are no hero by sacrificing yourself for the good of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:57 PM
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The Middle East and Iran has all of these things you listed. Do you want to be a male in Saudi Arabia? If you think you don't see pussy now, wait until you move there. You probably can go your entire life without seeing a female exposed ankle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:41 PM
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Sure. Talking all your life about how the system should be more fair and poor people should be taken care of by the state sounds great on paper. But if someone is struggling with poverty and poor financial decisions right now, they can be helped on a specific, individual level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:39 PM
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It's doesn't matter if it is a problem with the fabric of the universe. It can only be solved on a personal specific here and now level. A specific person has a specific problem, let's solve it. That's the only way this works. Scientists have not figured out a way to solve world hunger. They can solve the hunger of a specific person right now who is going hungry.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:38 PM
5

This take makes zero sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:36 PM
8

Aaaaaamd you totally missed the point of my post. Good job.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:59 PM
10

That's a fantastic point actually and exactly what I'm talking about. Let's focus on your (not yours specifically but you get what I mean) problem and specific situation. And then work to solve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:58 PM
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The problem is everyone is looking to solve "loneliness" by getting more access to others. But women are out there. There are about as much women as men, so it's not like women are some scarce resource and there ain't enough for everyone. So if we give each lonely guy a girl then what? What happens when she leaves him? What happens if he figures out she is not all that? Everyone is proposing a low level solution. Just put more people together. Have women lower their standards. But the things tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:40 PM
2

So what? There aren't enough chads to go around for every single woman. Being so defeatist is turn off right off the bat anyway. What woman would want to be with a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:36 PM
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So just because Chad's exist and they snap their finger and get a 6 to go home with you, it means the rest of us less than Chaddy motherffukers should not bother and just stay home? We get it. Not everyone is 6'5" and super hot and has an easy time meeting women. Some of us have to work harder and strike out more than others. Such is life. I think your defeatist attitude is the real cope here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:09 PM
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There are a number of comorbidities that are part of the problem. These type of men are usually depressed, anxious and on top of that they wreck themselves emotionally over loneliness and trying to meet the expectations of society and their families. Here is the thing about loneliness. It literally has nothing to do with whether you are surrounded with people or not. People can feel lonely in their marriage, Im their big family, at work, among friends, etc. Loneliness is the distress one feels r…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:19 AM
1

Get deep as in deepthroat? Totally agree
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:05 AM
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See, guys give women way too power in their own imaginations. The reality is women are as much victims of social conditioning and insecurities and lack of self esteem as men are. I truly believe that the majority of women who say they have 109 standards for a guy that are set in stone are actually doing this because they are afraid of being vulnerable and afraid of intimacy. It's like the virgin who says a girl is not hot enough for him. It's just a self protection mechanism so you don't have to…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:04 AM
0

You are not gonna get far in dating and love if you think of yourself as unattractive and undesirable. It may be a blue pill trope, but people will think of you what you think of yourself. If you think you are ugly, you will not put much effort on your fitness, appearance and esthetic. Guys especially are extremely resistant to thinks like grooming themselves better and dressing in stylish sexy clothes. I guess they think they are above those things and they should be good enough as they are for…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:01 AM
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I mean don't get me wrong. I wasn't going to change this guy's personality or have him lie about himself. If he's a nerd and he's proud of it, then fine. We can find him a fellow nerd girl. I'd probably lay off the Pokémon shit because honestly that makes you sound like you are 6 years old. Little boys do this shit. The other stuff, can always be spun into something cool and interesting. At the same time, a guy has to understand that if he wants to date women, he may have to learn about subjects…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:57 AM
3

Literally the worse colors a man can wear along with brown and maybe beige.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:54 AM
3

You know something about traditionally masculine men. I lived in the Midwest and had enough of hunting/fishing camouflage outfits, cargo pants and football jerseys. You should hear how women talk about these type of guys when they come across their on a dating profile holding a dead fish.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:54 AM
8

Okay, so you seem to know that your looks are the problem and not your toxic attitude. How is this changing things for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 11:59 PM
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It takes roughly 40,000 years to see significant evolutionary changes. So we are still stuck with Hunter gatherer biology like it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 11:53 PM
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What's that going to change about your sex life (or lack thereof)?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 11:36 PM
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I guess. I didn't get to trying to fix the profile. Appearance was first and foremost. I understand that a lot of guys spent years focusing solely on the cerebral stuff and completely neglected the physical. Not only being athletic, but grooming themselves well, learning how to dress in a cool, attention getting way. Most guys dress to blend in. In shades of gray, green and brown (colors of camouflage).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:58 PM
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What do you want us to do about it? A user here reached out to me because I had offered to review anyones dating profile to see why they struggled and provide advice. In his posts and comments he kept referring g himself as ugly because he wasn't getting many matches. He sent me his profile. The guy is an Uber nerd. Like talking about Pokemons and building robots on his Tinder profile. He had obviously never put much effort in his appearance. No idea why he thought Pokémon, robots and 3D printer…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:48 PM
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Wow, helluva a straw man and ad hominem all in the same sentence! Fear of other people ( that are not criminals or soldiers that want to shoot at you) is largely irrational. It's not really valid. Not saying it doesn't exist. Just saying it's not an appropriate fear. Hence why OP is rationalizing it. Trying to make it okay. If OP told me "I'm scared to walk through the really bad neighborhood in town at night", I don't think anyone would think that fear is inappropriate or not valid. But saying …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:59 PM
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If his point is to rationalize his fear and anxiety, then yes. He does have a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:53 PM
3

That's a lot of words for "I'm too scared to approach the cute girl at the bar".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:36 PM
8

Holy overgeneralization Batman!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:59 PM
24

Imagine not giving a fuck about the opinion of someone who doesn't know shit about you and most importantly who you do not respect or admire.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:24 PM
1

Does not compute! Does not compute!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 10:18 AM
5

That a woman's ears are for hearing. I thought they were handles to hold on to while she's blowing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 10:15 AM
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I'm just struggling to understand OP and who exactly is gatekeeping stuff and not allowing him to be private stuff. That just seems like a made up problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:54 AM
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Who is exactly socially shaming you or peer pressuring you? Any specific names?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:48 AM
1

Who is not allowing men to do anything? What is this godlike entity that is not allowing men or shaming men or lying to men? What is it? God? The faceless others? Some nebulous idea like society? Who is it? Do you have names? Specifics? Where do those people that do the not allowing possible? Who is this entity that is all powerful and judging men's worthiness? Can you pin point it? Do you have a picture of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:36 AM
0

Can we ban virgins and incels from sharing unsubstantiated opinions about sex and relationships like they are facts?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:33 AM
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What you are saying is that you give women the power to be the jury, judge and executioner of your own self worth. You are making the opinions of total strangers more important than your own opinion of you, although those strangers know nothing about you and you have known yourself your entire life. Unless, of course, you happened to agree wjth the opinions of those strangers? In that case, tit may want to fix how you feel about yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:09 AM
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Yeah we don't need more fucking terrorists in this country.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:28 PM
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I mean what's your fucking excuse? I'm sure you have plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:00 PM
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Buddy unless you are out there dating actual women, you have no place writing these posts. You are here posting every day so I assume you haven't dated in a long time. Get real.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:50 PM
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Okay I see! So the biggest benefit of beating yourself up and making yourself anxiety ridden is that without it you wouldn't even bother talking to and flirting with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:48 PM
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What is the benefit of putting so much importance in it? I know the disadvantages! It makes you more nervous, unsure, anxious because the stakes are super high. You are more prone to put on a mask and try to impress a woman. You get more needy and desperate when you believe sex is so super important and needed for you to be happy and fulfilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:19 PM
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I think people put way too much importance and mystique into sex. Having it to be special and meaningful, etc. To be fair, the guys I knew who used to get laid the most in high school had pretty casual first experiences. The women fucked them and then moved on and that helped them see sex as something women enjoy just for the fun of it, instead of buying into this whole idea that it's super special and has to be with the right person, blah blah blah. I definitely see a correlation here between m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:58 PM
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The true Chad!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:55 PM
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The problem isn't porn or high standards. The problem is blaming something outside of yourself for your loneliness. I had someone say this to me on this very forum: I'm not lonely because I don't socialize. I don't socialize because I'm lonely. Actually, it's not about blaming yourself either, but about being accountable for your own feelings and your own life. Socializing and getting sex is not some impossible feat that only 5 men in human history have managed to achieve. There are 8 billion of…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:52 PM
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That's their problem. When you accept yourself, you also accept others as they are, you accept the world as it is. You give up the desire for things to be different than they are. You can't control what women want to do and if they get hurt. That's up to them. But this has been happening for unknown eons. Women fuck alpha males who are not the sticking around kind and then bitch and moan about it. What else is new?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:13 PM
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If a woman says "I will only date a 6'5" man who makes a million dollars a year" and she is able to go and date such men regularly (and not just having met one such guy at a club one time 5 years ago), then she is completely entitled to her standards wherever they are. Her standards are attainable for her. If a guy who is 30 and is still a kissless virgin and you take him to a bar and he says "none of the women here are hot enough", he has no leg to stand on. Beggars can't be choosers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:28 PM
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The best are Johnny Soporno's Seductive Reasoning 101 and 102, David X Toronto Seminar and anything by Dr. Robert Glover (Dating Essentials for Men). For more in-depth reading on how to fix inner game issues, find a PDF copy of Intimate Connections by Dr David Burns.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:25 PM
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Depends on what I'm looking for. For casual sex, FWB, the more experienced the better. I didn't care if a woman was a party girl or was seeing other guys. When I was looking for a serious girlfriend, it wasn't so much sexual history (experience is always a plus), but whether she's loyal, whether she drinks too much, does drugs and parties, etc. Values and other qualities were much more important. I got over the retroactive jealousy pretty early on after I started banging my first girlfriend. I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:58 AM
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Apparently everyone's ideal woman is an average looking, overweight, single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:53 AM
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Lol you may have a point
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:20 AM
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You are correct, but it's difficult to help guys fight these cognitive distortions. All I want them is to see themselves in realistic light. No, you don't have to believe you will attract supermodels only with your personality or that looks don't matter. I just want them to admit that while they are not going to qualify for Mr Olympia anytime soon or that they won't bang 17 girls in a row unless they pay, they are not all that bad. And that they are actually quite alright and maybe even better t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:54 AM
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"All or nothing thinking" is one of the ten cognitive distortions that make up the backbone of cognitive behavioral therapy. Essentially, it means thinking in extremes - you are either a 6'5" Chad with a six pack or you may as well give up ever smelling a pussy. You either get a girl by snapping your fingers or it's not even worth getting out of your house. You are either born perfect or you may as well be the lead I'm Quasimodo. Here guys never see any shades of grey. They never see nuance. All…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:55 PM
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That I will decide to sleep with her and she will be 1. Clingy and annoying 2. Terrible in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:37 PM
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You have given up before you even enlisted.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 07:47 PM
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You could say the same thing about women who fuck criminals, drug addicts, dead beats, etc. Oh I forgot, they are all 6'5" and have square jaws. Right. There are 8 billion human beings on this planet. I think we've had enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 04:18 PM
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And women pay good money to stick 12 inch black rubber dildos up their asses.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 03:43 PM
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Men don't really have wide preferences. Guys settle for what they can get. If all they can get is a chubby girl, then that's that. You are imbuing women with some magical powers they don't have. Most people have sex. Most procreate. The end of human civilization because a few nerds are not able to get laid is largely exaggerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 02:55 PM
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Don't get me started on pets. Sigh!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:31 PM
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Yes agree 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:30 PM
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No, I don't think a guy who has never dated can have any accurate views on dating. You are welcome to have views, but nobody should take them seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:01 PM
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I mean these dudes are self defeating at previously unseen rate. If they were an army, they would have surrendered before even completing basic training. That's how defeated they are. What woman would want THAT?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:52 PM
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no you don't. You inform your views from TikTok's and Chadfishing experiments. You can read all the books about how to ride a bike but until you have tried to ride one, you literally know nothing. And the problem is you just parrot idiotic takes and other unsuspecting men take your drivel for gospel truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:49 PM
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What happens between two consenting adults and their cameraman is their business.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:45 PM
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I don't agree that people are in fact inferior. They may posture pretending to be superior to Chad or whatever, but that's just overcompensation for feelings of inadequacy. But those inferiority/inadequacy feelings are just an illusion. Distorted thinking that keeps people stuck in loops.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:38 PM
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Maybe you should stop blaming women for being a wimp. It's not their fault you learned zero self respect your entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:53 AM
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I don't know if they are not interested or couldn't be bothered per se. I think the real reason is fear. Being a coward is pretty shameful, so I guess it's much more acceptable to say "eh, those bitches only want Chad anyway, what's the use, I'm not 6'5" or have a square jaw. My time is better spent sitting at home on a Saturday night and beating the new Diablo game". I say that as someone who has used those excuses a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:44 AM
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Womp womp
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 02:08 AM
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Womp womp
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:28 AM
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Lemmy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:54 AM
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Here are some men who have higher body counts than most Chads combined:
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:54 AM
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Well nobody wants to fuck ugly people even ugly people. That's why everyone should work on their appearance as much as they humanly can.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:36 AM
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Women sleep with shitty men all the time. So much for their high standards. It's just that those men usually have something in common. They have actual balls!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:34 PM
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Why do you think that a non-confident, low self esteem person who believes he is a loser and worthless is actually more real in his beliefs than a person who believes he is okay, women love him and he can get relationships easily?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 10:06 PM
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I may have shared my story online under different accounts but here it goes. I grew up in Eastern Europe and had a pretty normal childhood at the time: grew up behind the iron curtain in a small concrete apartment with an alcoholic father and mother who would scream at him at all times of day. Pretty normal for Iron Curtain countries :) I was super shy as long as I remember. Got bullied in elementary and middle school, etc. By the time I got to high school, I started running in with a relatively…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:36 PM
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It is true. Just like it is true that women love assholes. But not for the reason you may think. See, there is an immutable law of the universe that states: people NEVER want this which they CAN get and ALWAYS want this which they CAN'T get. Because of this law, men will often chase after women who don't give them the time of day, who flake on them and give them the runaround. Because these women are unavailable and scarce, they are of more interest to men. Of course, when someone is unavailable…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:07 AM
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They do too. But every girl is secretly a bad girl with the right guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 11:54 PM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:47 PM
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You don't have to wear masks, that's bullshit. You have to be honest. If you are talking to a woman because you find her attractive, tell her so. That's still treating her like a normal person. I don't tell my friends I find them attractive and want to see them naked, because...well, they are guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:42 PM
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These men are called autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:41 PM
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I stop listening to dating advice from my parents when I was about 15.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:52 PM
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Lololol. I've been to the Bumble and Hinge subs and I have fished out honest advice (not calling them ugly, but telling them exactly what to change). The reactions are almost always hostile and aggressive, such as "Go fuck yourself incel, I am not changing anything about myself for women, if they can't like me for myself I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life", "you are suggesting that I change everything about me that makes me" when suggesting to them things like getting a new haircut and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:51 PM
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Dude she's is a troll, stop being so fucking sensitive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:44 PM
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Well duh. You usually don't want to fuck your friends (I hope).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:40 PM
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You will find it when you stop needing it is the more correct way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:38 PM
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Like whom? Saudi Arabia? Russia? China? The US and NATO is still the most developed and militarily powerful hegemony out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:32 AM
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Some do. Many do. Maybe not most but enough for old men like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 10:20 PM
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Practically zero. It's just another excuse you have created to not take action and to keep yourself on your self built prison of anxiety and fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 10:20 PM
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This is very easily explained. When man presents himself as Mr Right, husband or boyfriend material, women's social programming goes into full overdrive telling them "they must play hard to get and appear to be a good girl for him to take her seriously". So does a woman do? She puts sex on hold and portrays herself as a good, respectable girl. Men who espouse this paradigm and don't offer themselves as boyfriend/husband material, give women no reason to play hard to get and to appear as good gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 10:18 PM
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A society where young men spend more time learning to suffer and work hard in order to supposedly create value for themselves through sports, math, sciences, finance, etc., benefits from the labor of such men. The whole society is moved forward when men are motivated to work hard and buy. Societies where men are only concerned with hunting an animal so they can fill their bellies and then fuck a bunch of women typically ends up remaining primitive and weak. A society where the work=sex equation …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 10:14 PM
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This has nothing to do with who approaches and who doesn't. And while I understand you not agreeing with the above statement, unfortunately or not it is somewhat of a universal law and I've seen it in action over and over and over. The more we chase, the more what we chase runs from us. And the second we stop chasing/needing it, the universe finds a way to give it to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:52 PM
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If a guy exists today, it means that his genetic predecessors successfully procreated continuously since the beginning of life on earth (just think about it). Which means that there is no real (genetic) reason for him to not be able to procreate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:39 PM
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I see what you are saying and will counter this with another example. Imagine you are conducting interviews for a job. You see one candidate and you ask him "why do you want to work here?". And he stars saying stuff like "well, see I really need a job, I have a mortgage to pay and kids to feed. Plus my current job is really lousy, it's a drag going to work everyday and I don't really get along with my boss. I just need to find a new job asap." And the next candidate who comes in answers the same…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:14 PM
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Which begs the question "what exactly is loneliness"? Is it the absence of others? Not really, since a lot people feel perfectly happy when they are alone/single. How come people can feel lonely when they are married or surrounded by loving family? If people really NEED love and intimacy so much why is there such a thing as divorce or break ups? Why are some people okay and others needy and desperate? My theory is that while connecting with others is a natural human desire, the idea of being "lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 12:02 PM
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I'm 42. I'm married but I'm pretty sure there are lot of women 10-20 years younger who would date me at the drop of a hat. I have a teen girl whose my neighbor that obviously has a crush on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:44 AM
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Tell me you are a virgin without telling me you are a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:42 AM
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Damn I'm 42 and look better than those ninjas.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:41 AM
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Holding your happiness and fulfillment hostage to what her you have a partner or not is your own choice. There are people who can walk and chew gum at the same time and there are people who can be happy in a relationship and without one. I do know one thing with absolute certainty. I've never met anyone (including myself) who has needed love and has been able to find it successfully, or at least not without major downsides. Another thing I know for absolute fact. People never want this which the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:41 AM
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These are not boundaries, these are requirements. I was just reading a post on another sub and a guy complained that he seeing a fitness "influencer" who lived on male attention on Instagram and then got mad that she didn't stop posting thirst traps once they become an item. It's like bro, if you didn't want a woman who puts it out of everyone to see than you should have never went exclusive with her. Typical scenario of trying to make a known hoe into a housewife. Men are ducking dumb. And OP, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 12:24 AM
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