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Relationships are not supposed to be easy. They're a call for growth, socially, mentally, spiritually. Not to say we should look for punishing relationships. It's about finding the right reason to suffer. “The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” ― Bob Marley
/r/seduction20/01/25 06:08 PM
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If you're really committed to getting this handled, have you considered training?
/r/seduction19/01/25 06:29 PM
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Well, I wish I could tell you to stop judging yourself, and have it work. But realistically your thought forms will be there until you dispel them yourself. If you feel awkward, come up with a few lines you can use when the question comes up. They don't have to be true. "my friends are coming later", "I'm just here having a drink until my friends show up", "I lost my friends, they'll come find me in abit" For me, I just straight up say I'm alone. People usually respond positively, I've certainly…
/r/seduction18/01/25 12:25 AM
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Gotcha. That's a valid reason I suppose. I'll try to put in as concisely as possible. What happened to you at the club was a state crash. It's a standard thing that comes up. Actually, it almost always comes up with almost all guys. What you need to do is feel your way through the emotion to the other side. The worst thing you can do for your own growth is go home when it happens because it reinforces the emotion as real. So even if the emotion really paralyzed you, you kind of just stand there …
/r/seduction17/01/25 11:44 PM
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so wait, you haven't gone out solo since that happened?
/r/seduction17/01/25 09:19 PM
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Yo brother, I have the answer to what happened to you and how you can overcome it. But let me ask you, what would have happened if you stayed there dancing with the girls?
/r/seduction17/01/25 06:55 PM
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This is accurate. I've been around the "community" since I was 15 in one capacity or another. Don't get me wrong, I have met a few guys who were great, even roomed with one of them for a year. But these are best-case scenarios, and few and far between. Most of the time, the guys you meet are just social misfits or weirdos. Fair enough, cold approach as a hobby is rather mentally unhinged for the average person. And chances are if you're starting out, you're also weird or socially misaligned your…
/r/seduction17/01/25 06:05 AM
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Yes, I agree that social media is most likely a detriment to society. However, how does social media prevent or inhibit guys from approaching in person?
/r/seduction15/01/25 12:00 AM
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As others here have mentioned, there is a stigma attached to approaching. As well as the feminist and "me too" movements, which have either scolded guys for making the first move or put them at risk of their advances being misinterpreted. What everyone misses is that both of these are symptoms, and there is an underlying root cause we are wrestling with within the culture. I'm certainly not a feminist with whatever that word has come to mean nowadays. However, I can definitely empathize with whe…
/r/seduction14/01/25 10:49 PM
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I think you most likely have a good diagnosis. I went through something similar, but for different reasons. Sufficed to say, you remember what it's like to achieve results, and you built up somewhat of an ego around it. Now you believe that you are entitled to the results before are unwilling to put up with the cost. Seem like an accurate description? Don't get me wrong, entitlement is good, but not to the point where we end up shooting ourselves in the foot. Putting effort in is good - actually…
/r/seduction10/01/25 04:04 AM
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Don't think you're toxic hombre. You're still figuring some stuff out but it seems you have a good grasp here. Kudos.
/r/seduction09/01/25 11:38 PM
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Have you thought about how to keep yourself in a good mood when you're out alone? For your consideration: I spent years going out solo because many wings I've found in the community to were weirdos (that's fine; at least they're trying to improve). But I have a way better time going out and winging with my buddies, who are natural - or going out solo. I consider myself a "natural" at this point. The only thing that's been left over from my PUA days is my ability to dissect social situations into…
/r/seduction09/01/25 10:33 PM
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She's there alone? that's perfect. She's most likely bored and receptive to an approach (as long as you're not a weirdo). Depends on where she is. Let's assume she's at the bar; I would walk up very low-key and pretend to have no awareness of her. Stand and order at the bar with my back to her or side, body language blocked off. Then, when I know she's aware of my presence, I act like I spontaneously noticed her and open with a simple "hey". If she's anxious and acting like I'm not there, I woul…
/r/seduction09/01/25 10:29 PM
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That's awesome man. Good to hear, it's important for guys - especially when we're younger, to not keep all our eggs in one basket. You can probably cruise through with women that you don't care too much with about with no issue. But when it's a girl you like this kind of stuff may manifest. It's okay, you'll get there in time. Wishing you luck dude!
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:17 AM
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Must be lame to live in a world where women only value you for your bank account. Fyi, for people who have money, you dropping your supposed net worth isn't impressive. For people who are good with women, your lack of skills is transparent.
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:15 AM
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Oh look. Resentment from being kicked around by girls in your youth. Do you want a band-aid for your booboo?
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:09 AM
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This.
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:06 AM
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Correct answer.
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:05 AM
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Correct. The fact that she's sending a text like this shows she's not shallow and actually has some level of integrity. She senses he's grown more attached than she is, and she doesn't want to lead him on.
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:02 AM
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Lame. Wrong. Who hurt you b
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:02 AM
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Slow your roll partner. You've grown too attached too quickly. General rule of thumb: bringing up the relationship is the woman's job. If you're doing everything right, she will be trying to rope you in within the first 2-3 months. You've shown her a good time, she's determined you're not a psycho, and that she also won't lose her freedom by being with you. You do this by allowing her to broach the topic of intimacy at her own pace. You just hang out and lead the logistics and the emotions. Bein…
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:01 AM
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There is a temptation guys who are new fall into, which is to oversimplify the way things work. Part of it is not understanding the nuance (yet), part of it is frustration as the learning goes on. This is why the trope of "girls like assholes" gets peddled around by guys who don't really understand what's going on. "Game" is a pretty broad skillset, that requires years of learning to fully understand and appreciate. Though it doesn't need to take that long. To answer your question. It's entirely…
/r/seduction06/01/25 08:01 PM
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Hell yeah. That's awesome dude hahaha
/r/seduction06/01/25 06:02 PM
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I like the vein this post is written in. However, in interactions where both parties are more socially experienced (aka. have more game and/or older) the simple invitation of coming back to my place after a date implies sex, or at least the possibility of it - depending on if she's still making up her mind. Euphemism and innuendo is usually used sparingly or ironically. Here are a few examples of lines you can use to pull: Come check out my DJ set Come play Mario Kart Come check out my kitchen, …
/r/seduction01/01/25 10:04 PM
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Yo dude. For old RSD videos/programs, you should be able to find them kicking around on torrent sites. I have critiques of their stuff at this point in my career, but for a mass audience their content is still leaps and bounds beyond what's out in the industry today. It sucks they went down how they did. They truly were victims of their own success. As far as coaching, my mentor coached Julien and Alex before they went on to become who they became. Then he guest instructed for RSD for several ye…
/r/seduction30/12/24 08:50 PM
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This is a bad way to go. Realize that if she's willing to cheat with you, she's willing to cheat on you. The attachment you feel for her is smoke and mirrors and is probably her doing. She most likely plays hard to get with you, but keeps you hoping with bread crumbs of validation whenever she feels like you are sliding away. So while it's not all your fault you feel like this, it is your responsibility to change it for yourself. What I would do in your situation is, if you can't as of yet contr…
/r/seduction26/12/24 06:04 PM
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Save your sarcasm for someone else dickweed. The regulations professionals in the adult industry have to follow to shoot for large productions are clearly not required to create an account on OF and start posting porn. That is left up to the creators. There have already been several scares on a smaller scale. The logic is sound. You just want to start an argument for the sake of it. Kick rocks.
/r/seduction26/12/24 05:50 AM
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It'll never fully disappear, but the good news is it's already in decline. It is a far cry from what it was even 2 years ago. It'll only continue falling from here until it reaches a point where it will reach the a level of corporatization similar to the adult industry itself (except more disseminated of course). It will just take one really public event of an STD being spread of something of the like, and government will step in with regulations, which will also make it really unappealing to th…
/r/seduction26/12/24 04:01 AM
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For better or for worse, the thing we're talking about surpasses "seduction". It comes down to how a guy lives their life. Think of their internal wiring being the language, and then game is just translating that wiring to something a woman understands. If a guy isn't wired correctly, or trying to wire himself correctly (aka ambition, and strength) then there's little we can tell him. This is a major part of the reason RSD emphasized Tolle in the early days. Cultivating that mental / emotional c…
/r/seduction25/12/24 02:31 AM
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Yo broski. Really great question, really appreciate your self awareness. Yes, this is a stage that many guys go through due to their own insecurity. This is why I rail against red-pill coaches because they enable these kinds of thoughts and keep guys stuck at a certain level so they can make more money off them. Many guys do and have gotten passed this so don't fret. You will too. My recommendation is meditation and delving into Eckhart Tolle (specifically practicing the power of now). This can …
/r/seduction24/12/24 09:41 PM
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What the guys here don't understand is that comfort isn't for the girl. Comfort is their own need that they project onto the woman. It's weakness and should be called out. Guys ask me how I pull so fast. People are shocked when they find out the girl they think is my fiancé, actually just met me for a first date. What's the difference? I'm comfortable going fast. It's not something you can get by reading about seduction. It comes from doing the damn thing. In truth, I'm more empathetic than most…
/r/seduction24/12/24 08:43 PM
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Out of all the comments in this thread, this is the only thing worth of value. All the noobs will miss it, but that just showcases the pathetic state of the guys giving advice here. u/Glacier_Sama curious if you had this intuitive leap on your own or you had coaching. Either way, respect.
/r/seduction24/12/24 08:33 PM
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Amazing post. Mad respect. I get a bad rep sometimes because I use harsh words with guys that want to sulk. All of what you said is true, and still it begs the question what now? You seek the win anyways. Someone out there is winning, why not me? It's a mindset shift that needs to occur to be successful with women. Shit, I don't blame women one iota for not giving guys that want to sulk any action. It's a coaching style that brings the best out of the best, and doesn't deliver if someone refuses…
/r/seduction24/12/24 04:37 PM
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This exactly. Though there's still older guys fucking up plenty. Just have to look at it on a case by case basis.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:18 PM
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Yo bro. Listen to this carefully. Show the texts you're sending!!! There is a very high likely chance you have no friggin clue whether what you're sending is too flirty or not. Even less of an idea if she was creeped out or not. She was telling your friend all the "crazy things" she wants to do to you, and you're worried you came off too strong with a text? see the flawed logic? Only pointing this out to highlight how many knowledge gaps this post showcases. You're posting hypotheticals asking f…
/r/seduction23/12/24 08:05 PM
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how would your suggestion change if the guy isn't picking up on that communication? it's highly likely he's oblivious considering they're in college
/r/seduction23/12/24 06:33 PM
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Yes, though of course if the woman doesn't drink I'll pivot and probably won't even have a drink myself. General rule of thumb is bar, shisha, lounge, or a nice scenic part of town that you can walk through together. Other great options are Dave n Busters (believe or not) because you can do a shared activity. Boardgame cafe's - evening though for the love of G-d. Something like a pool hall works great as well. Plenty of fun and different dynamics can form between you and the woman if you're play…
/r/seduction21/12/24 11:09 PM
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Bingo, and those of us that are boring or not socially skilled (men & women).
/r/seduction21/12/24 10:37 PM
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Hate it. Sitting and chatting with someone over coffee is generally a bad way to get to know someone. I'm sure the women that have voiced their opinion in this thread will disagree with me. But most likely I'm too intense of a personality for these women anyways, and they're too mild for my taste. So I suppose different strokes for different folks. Objectively speaking though, coffee dates are suboptimal. Unless your game is tight (which if you're asking this question, it's not) how are you goin…
/r/seduction21/12/24 10:35 PM
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Keyboard jockey topic. Looks don't matter. Furthermore, you can't be rejected if you're not trying to be accepted. Sit on that one for awhile.
/r/seduction21/12/24 08:46 PM
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Most of the guys posting advice here, shouldn't be. Yes, you're correct. Attempting to keep these concepts in mind and also having a conversation is an oxymoron. That's why I stress meditation (and RSD stressed Tolle). Because theory is good, and at the same time you need to cultivate enough mental and emotional control to banish all thoughts when it's time to perform. This isn't exclusive to game. This is an understanding most if not all high performers in any field have developed. My training …
/r/seduction21/12/24 08:44 PM
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Please explain to me, what's the difference is between your mindset and what you are? By physically dominant I mean, I'm not afraid to get physical with women (and in-fact, after the aforementioned attention, there are girls that expect it). Perfect example of the nice guy being afraid to touch women is the hover hand trope. The guy isn't nice, he's just a pussy. Sorry, crude language. Btw, if you don't know how, I'm not advising you go out and try this on your own. Being so physically forward r…
/r/seduction21/12/24 05:40 PM
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Women approach men all the time. The mysterious, aloof archetype you're talking about ain't it. I've gotten more and more aloof over the years and it just makes you seem less approachable and more intimidating. Not a bad thing... if you know how to execute ;) On the other hand, when I was younger I was very care free, and extroverted. I wasn't a "nice-guy" per se. I still had a bit of a bad boy thing going on, but there was also alot of laughter and positive outwards emotions. It afforded me a c…
/r/seduction20/12/24 07:48 AM
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It's funny that we see things similarly and you bring up RSD. My mentor coached Julien, and Alex before they become who they eventually became. Looking back, my experience of seducing the women I've been in relationships with has been pretty much seamless. I'm very kind & loyal once someone gets to know me, but I do carry a tough outwards shell for better or for worse. I'd guess that women that don't have a strong sense of self can find me to be overconfident. In reality I don't go out of my way…
/r/seduction20/12/24 07:35 AM
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I think the correct way to phrase that would be what they perceive to be loser-esque men. There are plenty of gorgeous women I know, that are with, what I would personally consider losers (drug-dealers, onlyfans managers, bartenders). Either the girls have nagging emotional issues that they aren't aware of, or frankly not intelligent enough to address. Or they prefer having someone to be with and being in a mediocre relationship as opposed to stepping out and trying to get with an assertive ambi…
/r/seduction20/12/24 05:54 AM
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Correct and great insight. Though I will say, I coach some guys that are oblivious to style and personal hygiene. Some of these guys need it haha That being said, looks-maxing and it's kin like thinking that money or "status" will get you laid or make you attractive to women, are a noob's approach. Women judge us by a far fairer measuring stick than we judge them. I know this instinctively because I take girls off of taller, better looking guys than me in-field all the time. I just express way m…
/r/seduction20/12/24 02:58 AM
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Solid advice. Reduce penis thinking is great phrasing. Consider trademarking it.
/r/seduction18/12/24 07:36 PM
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Bingo.
/r/seduction17/12/24 09:22 PM
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Yo dude, great question. As someone here said already - indirect approach. Newsflash, if you only do direct approach that's a sure sign of a journeyman (noob). I usually never do direct approaches anymore. Amongst many reasons, the primary one is it puts a lot of pressure on the girl to make a decision on the spot from very limited information. Not only is it reducing my chances to close, it can also backfire and give the girl negative emotion. In essence it's shooting yourself in the foot. When…
/r/seduction17/12/24 09:22 PM
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"ten years ago everything was easier" is just another rationalization. Build a time machine then.
/r/seduction16/12/24 10:31 PM
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Amazing response. Right on the money. To be honest, I used to coach so I probably put in way more effort than most guys need to, because I aimed to teach. But even just doing what u/liftingnstuff said will get guys so much farther than the rest of the masses that are swimming in their own bs. P.S. I wrote some of those old openers people are going to look up hah!
/r/seduction16/12/24 10:22 PM
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The perspective of "bending over backwards" is actually the entitlement that guys project onto women. It's a boyish trait. The other truth is that women have intrinsic value, we don't. What does this mean? Regardless of how much mom may have told us we're special, the world doesn't care. This either holds you back or sets you free. Our value is based off of performance. That is our burden. That is also why those of us who step up, are leaders. Being a leader means going first. I don't expect my …
/r/seduction16/12/24 08:52 PM
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Yeah, but you also didn't write what you actually open with. I love (sarcasm) how guys are so quick to shit on women but don't have the cojones to show their own work. Most of what passes for good text game here is pretty pathetic. Past that criticism, someone already said, they get 1,000s of matches. Dating apps are a numbers game. Like it or not, that is unfortunately what it is.
/r/seduction16/12/24 08:24 PM
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I don't believe men age like fine wine unless we actually take care of ourselves. Same goes for women. For some people, it seems the older they get the more they fall apart. For others, it seems the older they get the more refined, worldly, and yes attractive, they become. For me, the older I get the better it gets. To the point that I'm consistently surprised. Each time I've fallen in love it's been a deeper and more fruitful relationship. It gives me faith (not through theory, through experien…
/r/seduction16/12/24 08:14 PM
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It's okay bro. It's not that deep.
/r/seduction10/12/24 03:39 AM
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see my response to u/nikvid above
/r/seduction10/12/24 03:27 AM
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Sorry boys, I share my inner game stuff freely because it's easy to grasp and generally more palpable to a wider audience. The texting is technical and requires effort, so I don't give it away for free and only to those who are willing to work and fix their issues. If you think that's you, shoot me a DM and let's see if we can work together.
/r/seduction10/12/24 03:25 AM
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Yes, ofcourse. Shoot me a DM
/r/seduction09/12/24 10:24 PM
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Texting is one of my specialties. Shoot me a DM.
/r/seduction09/12/24 10:23 PM
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Yo broski. Dating coach of 8+ years, 2 psych degrees. Though it's not the most common one, what you're dealing with is an archetype many younger guys fall into (I'm assuming you are late teens to mid 20s, but correct me if I'm wrong). I'd ask you to post more details about yourself; Specifically your age, what you do for work, and the absolute hardest thing you've ever accomplished in your life. There's several different ways to tackle this issue depending on your personality. For me personally,…
/r/seduction06/12/24 07:40 AM
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Do I? well, thanks for your input
/r/seduction24/11/24 09:00 PM
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I don't lie for sex, that's low value behavior. Besides 99% of the time the girl is having a better time than I am in bed ;) I will lie to have a laugh though. So if a girl is into tarot, I'll craft a 15 min story about how I'm a 33rd degree warlock who uses black magic. She'll go from thinking I'm full of shit, to being on the fence, to being fully bought in. Then when her eyes are wide open and she's waiting for me to reveal the hidden secrets behind whatever she's into, I'll casually but matt…
/r/seduction24/11/24 12:50 AM
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this.
/r/seduction22/11/24 07:47 PM
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Not weird at all, and it will probably be an integral part of your journey if you want to have a stable longer term relationship. I don't advocate for guys to spend too long in the hook-up phase because I see guys get stuck in it in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. yes, new women are great but there is more to life. It just comes off like they missed an integral part of their development. At the same time I also see guys who have been in relationships their entire lives and their women are sexually unfu…
/r/seduction22/11/24 05:56 AM
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No. For a woman to cheat, so many other things must have gone wrong in the relationship that it's unsalvageable. The cheating is just a symptom of a much uglier root cause. Outside of freak occurrences, it falls into two buckets: a) either she's not a cheater and she cheated on you because you're mismanaging the relationship b) she is a cheater, at which point the question is how were you gullible enough to not see the signs The freaks occurrences I mentioned are because she is human at the end …
/r/seduction20/11/24 05:41 PM
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Negative. This is overcomplicating something that is actually very simple. I'm always physical with my friends, that includes guys and girls both. I'm just a physically affectionate individual. When you're this way with women, the "friend zone" simply isn't a thing. The only people I'm not physical with are my close friend's girlfriends. A polite handshake and that's it. For the same reason stated above. The issue is that guys that don't get laid aren't physically expressive. Fix that, and this …
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:37 PM
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This exactly, just be physically expressive from the beginning. Guys see a woman they find attractive and treat her like she'll shatter at the first point of physical contact.
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:33 PM
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"Actually, I'm more of a maroon" - said matter of fact, minimal expression or if I want to tease her back "So the rumors are true." She'll ask what rumors "You're colorblind"
/r/seduction09/11/24 06:36 PM
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I change my answer. Bring her in, slap her on the ass and tell her that she's fired.
/r/seduction09/11/24 07:14 AM
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What culture? It doesn't ultimately matter because the force you're dealing with is biology. It overrides cultural conditioning. That's why I can go to a new country, learn 3 phrases and still pull. You got that right, women don't sleep with someone they consider 'maybe'. For a woman the act of spreading her legs is an act of submission. So she will screen to make sure she doesn't go to bed with a weak dude, and damn right she should. As far as a deeper connection, you're projecting. It's a trai…
/r/seduction09/11/24 07:13 AM
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You have a couple ways to go about this. I usually just fade out, not a ghost, but busy, taking longer to answer calls and texts, eventually reaching a 24 hour or several day mark. This sucks the momentum out of the interaction and makes it anti-exciting even if she's all about you. She'll get the message that you're not interested and stop initiating (to guard herself). The reason I prefer doing this is that it's less of an ego hit to the girl than an outright rejection. If the above fails, I w…
/r/seduction09/11/24 06:44 AM
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forreal.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:14 AM
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u/no_catographer4874 what this guy said. Speaking in a way that captivates attention is more about the emotion carrying it than about the logical context. When I train guys I have exercises specifically teaching them to divorce the logical from emotional. That's really the key to having a million dollar mouthpiece. That is a skillset most guys never develop simply because they don't even understand it's a problem. Then once you're good at that you can reintroduce and remarry logic with emotions.…
/r/seduction09/11/24 03:21 AM
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It's not only possible, it's very pervasive when you're starting out on this journey. Maybe not for your particular example, but I encounter 40 - 50 year old men AND women that still haven't registered that were born wired very differently, and have very different needs. Treat others how you want to be treated is very wrong when applied to male-female dynamics. Read and write more on the topic and you'll start to see the gap.
/r/seduction09/11/24 01:43 AM
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It's not detachment that turns women on, it's strength. To a young girl that doesn't know her ass from her coochie, detachment looks like strength. That act would quickly fall flat in front of a girl with some experience, or even a younger girl that was raised right by her dad. Glad you learned from the experience.
/r/seduction09/11/24 01:41 AM
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That's great man. I've read and written ALOT but everything is grounded in experience. That's how I came up with that list. I've seen it all pretty much. So when I see a red flag I don't ignore it because I know exactly what's downriver from something seemingly innocuous. For you dude, keep going on your journey. The more hard stuff you do in life, the more you overcome your own weakness the less you'll tolerate it in others. That's why excellence can be a lonely road. However, when you encounte…
/r/seduction08/11/24 03:59 AM
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Hi Jesse, do you like Huey Lewis and the news? Their early work was a little too new wave for my taste. But when Sports came out in '83, I think they really came into their own, commercially and artistically. The whole album has a clear, crisp sound, and a new sheen of consummate professionalism that really gives the songs a big boost. He's been compared to Elvis Costello, but I think Huey has a far more bitter, cynical sense of humor.
/r/seduction07/11/24 06:47 AM
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Hi Liz, I live in the American Gardens building on West 81st street. My name is Patrick Bateman. I'm 27 years old. I believe in taking care of myself, and a balanced diet and a rigorous exercise routine. In the morning, if my face is a little puffy, I'll put on an ice pack while doing my stomach crunches. I can do a thousand now. After I remove the ice pack, I use a deep pore cleanser lotion. In the shower, I use a water activated gel cleanser. Then a honey almond body scrub. And on the face, an…
/r/seduction07/11/24 06:45 AM
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I understand the struggle because I've been there. Was a very late bloomer with crippling anxiety. That being said I hope you understand that your experience and your friend's experience is not indicative of the objective truth. Clearly there's someone out there getting laid and getting into relationships. Why not you. I don't say that to point the finger, I mean they are doing something you're not. Our actions lead to our results. That simple. When you say "having do everything pretty much perf…
/r/seduction07/11/24 05:46 AM
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Why is modern dating "garbage"? and how do you "know" this? It could be several factors. Could certainly be location, could be your profile, could be that online dating is going out of fashion. Match group stock is at a five year low, the apps are rigged and people are fed up. If I were you I would rig all factors in my favor: move to a busy city get a professional photographer for my profile hit the gym hard approach more in person If you're feeling like your city is stale, traveling in general…
/r/seduction07/11/24 02:08 AM
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Bingo. I screen girls constantly (people in general). When you have value and have something to lose, you don't want to let the wrong people into your life. The guys that say it's only about hotness in this thread are snitching on themselves - in that it tells me more about them, than about men in general. Then again, the style of coaching I do I only deal with guys who want the best. Some guys are okay just getting some pussy and it keeps them satisfied. The advice I give isn't for them and tha…
/r/seduction06/11/24 11:34 PM
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I will comment as someone who's been around for a decade and more in the space in various forms including coaching. I've seen and experienced all sides of the spectrum from the kinds of toxic relationships that ruin lives, to blandest of the mediocre, to beautiful healthy couplings that leave both people better off whether they end in marriage or not. Other guys may screen for other qualities, this is my list: Non negotiables (won't keep around even for a fling): if she's argumentative if she do…
/r/seduction06/11/24 04:35 AM
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You can't. For you to be able to pick up on someone's tells and interpret their body language correctly you need to know the baseline. Simply put - for one woman batting her eyelashes might be an IOI, for another woman it may be a sign that she's creeped out. The more empathy you have, the faster you can intake data and establish and emotional baseline. Then there are those who don't show anything. Ice-Queens, girls who know they're hot and don't need to react or flirt back (and they're also lik…
/r/seduction06/11/24 02:34 AM
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There's a third option he's not considering, which is the girl doesn't know herself if she's flirting or not (she's still making up her mind). First interactions are pretty dynamic. Why overfly flirt and expose your hand prematurely?
/r/seduction05/11/24 06:19 PM
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Sorry bro, the only real answer is to develop ESP so you can telepathically project your dick over long distances.
/r/seduction04/11/24 05:57 AM
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Yep, you got it.
/r/seduction03/11/24 10:15 PM
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Lmao
/r/seduction03/11/24 10:09 PM
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Yes I did. Gotta rewire all those reward pathways. Also bro, reread your post. Another word of advice if you're interested in monogamy for the future. Avoid sleeping with women in relationships. I know it feels powerful to know you can seduce her, but it will further your disillusionment and ironically cut down your ability to be intimate with a woman. Lmk if you want me to elaborate, but yeah, I think you get the gist.
/r/seduction03/11/24 10:07 PM
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Been there bro. Alot of guys can't relate. What got me out of it was abstinence. 3 years of it (not saying it'll take you that long). After that, I was able to have a healthy monogamous relationship. I highly recommend it and probably would never go back to sleeping around. Though I'm not disparaging it because it was an important part of my journey. I've found investing into one woman to be more fulfilling.
/r/seduction03/11/24 08:56 PM
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Oh, and yeah, a lot of guys will hang on to their girlfriends just to soothe their ego and avoid working on this aspect of themselves.
/r/seduction03/11/24 07:26 PM
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Yup, good observation. Being shy and totally reserved is not a natural state of being. Mind you, I'm an introvert, but I'm socially competent. It just means I'm more aloof and to myself than my extroverted counterparts. But still very social. That's natural and healthy for human beings. I'm not necessarily advising he go party every evening, but always in the room is not normal. Long-term relationships don't really make sense either unless the couple is going to get married. How connected can yo…
/r/seduction03/11/24 07:25 PM
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It's a skill to be trained. Verbal flow is something that starts in your body before you get your logical mind involved. First part is developing a mind-mouth connection. Like a muscle, you must necessarily force yourself to keep talking even when you can't think of anything. A big part of this step requires divorcing logical content from the words you're saying. Once you have that, you want to layer on varying your vocal tonality and adding expressiveness to your face and body. Once you have th…
/r/seduction03/11/24 06:41 PM
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I agree. Women and men both have their issues. I'm ambitious and strive to be my best. Coincidentally, I've found I attract the same quality of partners.
/r/seduction03/11/24 04:13 PM
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Can you be more specific? Is this something you're personally struggling with? If we were in coaching together, we could go into alot deeper detail. I'll try to just give a general answer: I don't think it's about becoming more pleasing per se. Moreso about being gentle and tender in the moments that require it. Little examples: -I open doors -I don't wait for the girl to text me first after we spent the first night together, I'll text her first and tell her I had a great time -women are often i…
/r/seduction03/11/24 03:34 AM
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Ayy man. Nice!
/r/seduction03/11/24 02:19 AM
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Number 3. Is a good observation, dude. I'm not sure if you've noticed yet or not; by learning to be less monotone, it actually adds dimension to your personality and character. I can absolutely whiplash strangers emotionally if they cross me. I can also tell women beautiful things that make them cry from joy. A lot of guys are stuck in one mode of being. Either tough guy jerk or simpy lover boy. Also, when I need to be stoic, I'm an emotional black hole. People can be freaking out around me, and…
/r/seduction03/11/24 02:09 AM
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There is only one way to know, bro. Instead of looking for IOIs and all this reactive nonsense. Ask for compliance. If the girl likes you, she will comply. That's the only actual measure that counts. Check it. Guys get upset that girls play games, twirl their hair, and flash their eyes, but then don't go out with them. Know why? They're (the guys) not after an actual romantic connection. They're after validation. Women don't sleep with men who need their approval. This mentality is all fine and …
/r/seduction02/11/24 10:45 PM
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Appreciate the recognition
/r/seduction02/11/24 06:58 PM
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Great question, most guys don't even realize it's a problem. Roger Love has a program called Vocal Power. You can get it on Amazon for less than $100, or you may be able to find it for free. It has a breakdown and excercises you can practice. Do those on a daily basis, and you'll see drastic improvement. The other key factor is diaphragmatic breathing. It'll make you a vocal power house. People tremble when I tell them to get out of my way. Women love my voice. This is why looks don't matter. Th…
/r/seduction02/11/24 02:04 AM
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P.S. don't worry too much about physical touch at first. But when it's time, physical contact sports like wrestling - or things like salsa where it's necessary to physically lead the woman are the way to go. Sports like wrestling and jiu jitsu will teach you dominant touch. Whereas the more subtle things like salsa will teach you the sensual side.
/r/seduction01/11/24 05:16 PM
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TLDR: because I see this in every thread over and over. Attraction doesn't get you laid. Guys think that because they want a sign from the woman to wave them, in and make them feel good about approaching. Fuck that! And don't feel bad, this issue isn't exclusive to you. But don't for a second think that you'll get the woman of your dreams while you're operating from this mode of existence.
/r/seduction01/11/24 03:01 AM
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ayyyyy, u/Loose-Engineering487 this comment right here is great bro. Right on the money.
/r/seduction01/11/24 02:57 AM
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Looks don't "open doors" per se. They're more of a form of advertisement. High cheekbones and height simply attract more eyeballs. We have much better advertising equipment, namely being the voice, facial expressiveness and body language. I'd ask how many approaches you've actually done. Believe it or not, attraction doesn't get us laid, leadership does. There are too many examples of the good looking guy from university who just can't get any luck with the ladies. Or vice-versa, the short chubb…
/r/seduction01/11/24 02:43 AM
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This is the only way to kiss close: https://youtube.com/clip/Ugkx5Divoj7ddQlLltvo1B9lEOGbVofZkThO?si=LwSbLsCH-PVCJF4X If you can't do that, I'm afraid you're hopeless.
/r/seduction01/11/24 02:26 AM
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if that's the "style" kiss close it's cringe. People gotta remember, those guys weren't naturals. They were socially awkward. Kudos to them for what they did, but not exactly the picture of masculinity one should model. At this point we've had way better examples.
/r/seduction01/11/24 02:25 AM
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Hey, good on you for visiting this dungeon. That's more than I can say for alot of girlies I know.
/r/seduction01/11/24 02:19 AM
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Fantastic hahahaha
/r/seduction31/10/24 09:21 PM
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Great post bro. These kinds of breakdowns are fundamental to get good at game. Most guys don't see the value or are too lazy to put in the effort. They deserve the results they get.
/r/seduction31/10/24 04:07 PM
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As stated here, it only works for damaged women. I'll do you one better. Every time you disrespect your intimate partner, you subconsciously disrespect yourself. If I hold myself in high esteem, there's no way in hell I'll disrespect the woman I share the deepest parts of my life with. Guys that do that are a joke.
/r/seduction31/10/24 06:22 AM
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I like your thread bro, I'll toss in another 2 cents. The reason younger girls are afraid is due to a lack of experience. However, that isn't to say their fears are fully unjustified. We as guys pose a way greater physical threat to women than vice-versa. Women understand this instinctively, regardless of what they say or would like to believe. Don't pay the lip service any mind. If you know women intimately, if women have been fully vulnerable with you. You know they get neurotic about the most…
/r/seduction31/10/24 06:17 AM
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It's NOT because they get less attention. There's plenty of chicks that get less attention which turns them even bitchier. And you'd still be surprised at how much attention hot chicks get, even when they're older. Older women are more experienced and better socialized. So they're more likely to excuse social faux pas, stumblings, and awkwardness. Just don't forget to appreciate them for it.
/r/seduction30/10/24 08:49 PM
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You can't get rejected if you're not trying to be accepted ;)
/r/seduction30/10/24 06:14 AM
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The moment is gone because she can tell you're waiting for her permission instead of acting on your own intuition. (Which is in fact a form of weakness. Sorry, it had to be said) A girl showing an IOI is actually the last thing she does before she decides a guy is weak. It's a female hail mary if you will.
/r/seduction30/10/24 06:06 AM
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I'm assuming you're a young guy in his early to mid 20s? Don't sweat too hard. It's not easy, and it's not simple enough for me to expound all in a reddit post. A good place to start is intense physical excercise. Bodybuilding, running, and mma are all good places to start. Meditation was and is a major part of my journey. I think it's one that most guys skip out on and never really learn. Then ofcourse doing the hard stuff in life. In regards to cold approach and also outside of it. So yes, go …
/r/seduction30/10/24 06:03 AM
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Is it asking alot? Perhaps. But for what we get in return, I think it's well worth it. Life is effort. Get used to it. Women are amazing. Become strong or look on from the sidelines.
/r/seduction30/10/24 05:56 AM
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Great post. In essence, it comes down to; social leadership. The leader does not wait for others to make him or her feel good about taking action. They just take it. So if someone waits for a signal, IOI, or other indicator to approach, then they're always reactive and waiting for others to tell them it's okay. Put another way, guys look for the woman's permission to approach. This is antithetical to good game. Real strong dudes step to their own rhythm. This does not at all mean we should be so…
/r/seduction29/10/24 01:39 PM
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