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Field ReportActual_Dot_457/r/seduction17/05/24 06:32 PM
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This has been my experience as well. I was told on one date when we got back to my place “I have to go at ____ time and we don’t have time to have sex tonight” No worries. Just keep talking and hanging out, have a hand on the thigh, and just make subtle escalations as the conversation grows deeper. Eventually just look at her dead in the eyes and go for a kiss, and by this point she was obviously super turned on, that she immediately is grabbing me, wrapping her legs around my waist as it gets h…
/r/seduction05/07/24 07:07 PM
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You’re too focused on the end result and not building connection. Sex is the result of attractiveness, attentiveness, masculinity, and connection. Be confident, listen, and not pretend to listen to just get laid. find details about her, and ask how things make her feel, build emotional connection. You’re approaching this like a robot. “I went on date, where is my sex”
/r/seduction02/07/24 12:24 PM
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I’ve spent like $100 total on 5 dates in Los Angeles. What are you doing? Just get a drink or two and go for a walk. That’s it. Girls don’t want pressure of you spending a bunch of money and they feel like they owe you. That’s my cup of tea anyway, chill spots, that serve drinks, and let my personality do its thing. If it’s going well, I take them for a walk somewhere, escalate, and then suggest my place. If not no worries, at least the initial investment was low for both of us. Many of the girl…
/r/seduction27/06/24 01:21 PM
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You missed my point. The “feelings for her” that are so soon are really insecurity feelings in a lot of cases that you won’t find anyone else because this is the first woman to give you attention in quite some time. It’s not as authentic as letting it progress and see if you like each other naturally through dating. If you confess stuff like this early on it’s because it’s a void you’re filling and not genuine connection on the level you think it really is on. And this is where women can sense t…
/r/seduction09/06/24 02:00 PM
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You never spill your guts to a woman. This originally sounds like you have the hide yourself. But you realize once you’ve fucked this up before that it stemmed from insecurity because this is the first woman in quite some time that showed you attention. I have no idea what you told her, but if you sent a message last and she didn’t reply it’s time to move on. Maybe she hits you up. But the ball is 100% in her court and you need to not message her
/r/seduction09/06/24 01:05 PM
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Yeah this is what I was basically going to say. Imagine you’re a little more emotionally expressive. Get in touch with that part of you. You tell a secret you lean in, you don’t just say it next to them like it’s no big deal. You should be thinking from the perspective of a story teller almost. Women like to feel like it’s a movie. If this isn’t natural it’s going to sound weird. But once you do it a few times you’ll realize it will feel natural and women actually love it if you have been clicki…
/r/seduction08/06/24 02:13 AM
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Yeah man you sound like a gentleman, and you’re working to be the best version of yourself. I’m always taken back a bit because I used to be a lot less confident, have made a lot of progress and have way more to go, but I had a girl I dated for a bit ask me how she should handle interviewing people for a job she had to interview people for. And I realized that she respected my opinion fairly well if she was asking me that and was thinking I was confident with strangers which I still feel I have …
/r/seduction07/06/24 04:11 PM
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I’m also going to add in that doing posture correction exercises will make a huge difference in how your body feels, and make you look more confident. I do these foundation training 12 min videos on YouTube. Highly recommend. If you have back pain it will dramatically help, and is a good supplement for the gym to have better form with everything. And I think that carries over to life. And being pain free or close to it will make you in a better mood which is more attractive to everyone
/r/seduction07/06/24 12:05 PM
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You don’t even need to wear a suit or dress shirt. I bought some Lululmeon abc pants and I find them as comfortable as sweat pants, but they look like dress pants/ or really nice black jeans. So I feel confident in them. I’ve even rock climbed in them. So I feel like I could seduce or go into the mountains in them. And then I bought a few jackets from uniqlo that fit me great that I wear with blank colored shirts with the jacket unbuttoned. Same with a flannel. I found the flannel on me seems to…
/r/seduction07/06/24 12:00 PM
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Same bro. everyone thought I was 18 when I was like 24 and it frustrated the fuck out of me. Now I’m 31 and I’m starting to see it paying off. I still look younger than 31 but I get a lot more looks, handsome comments, and had a 2 girls I slept with tell me how hot I was. And I’ve never really heard this before so I almost thought they were making it up. Take that confidence with you because the confidence is a multiplier. Once I started dressing better I feel like I stopped looking way younger …
/r/seduction07/06/24 11:46 AM
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Yeah this is what I want to actual do with a girlfriend. But you need to make sure you can spend a whole day trip together for a hike. And if you find your special someone that you aren’t forcing that with you should take her on a mini vacation and get an air bnb or do a day trip. Something interesting and if you are a hiker type (which I am). Personally think you should have sex maybe a few times before you go on a hike. At least for me it was hard to build attraction through purely a hike. Wor…
/r/seduction04/06/24 08:04 PM
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Yeah I would focus on going out to dinner or just a drink or two and maybe ice cream first. I’ve tried this route before and I felt like I was constricted by being around people in day time to feel the sexual chemistry. I think the sexual chemistry is best achieved or found early in dates at night time like dinner, a walk, a drink. Something where anyone can leave whenever, and the night builds atmosphere. I took a chick I was into rock climbing once during the day and I would compare it to a hi…
/r/seduction04/06/24 07:21 PM
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I feel like you just know. If you’re in your room or at your place, and you start kissing her and she just loves it and you end up moving to a bed, and she’s hot and into it, it’s a yes without needing to be said. I’ve also had times where the girl had to go early and said we wouldn’t have time for sex which I told her no worries. 10 min later I kiss her and then it just naturally escalates pretty quickly. So if you’re going for it and they say no, then by no means proceed. If you got for a kiss…
/r/seduction02/06/24 12:02 AM
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I think sense of humor also can equate to good self awareness and that is where humor can be derived from in a secure person. You don’t need to be a comedian. You need be authentic and make observations and have fun while trying to have fun with someone without performing
/r/seduction01/06/24 08:24 PM
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Yeah it’s fucked up man. Don’t hit her up again unless she texts you because you sent your piece and that’s that. All I can say is just don’t repeat the cycle if you are in the opposite position next time. All this “don’t be needy” shit when it’s like bro you were literally inside of her, a text message saying they either saying she was just into a hook up or whatever is the bare minimum. I realize most people won’t do this, but you have standards, and if they can’t even say “yeah had a good tim…
/r/seduction29/05/24 01:19 AM
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Excellent post. I’ve come to the same conclusion as well, it does fucking annoy me still to be ghosted when it happens, but I know I am looking for someone that respects me, my time, and sees my qualities, and if they ghost, they aren’t the type for me. I do not ghost women, I politely tell them when I am no longer interested, and I expect anyone that has actual respect for me to do the same. If they don’t then it wasn’t meant to be.
/r/seduction28/05/24 04:21 PM
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Yeah I thought I was bad until I spent more time in this sub and realized I’m not so bad Jesus Christ. If you were inside of her would you be like “do you think she likes me?”
/r/seduction24/05/24 04:14 AM
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Just set up a date and time. Let the cake bake until then
/r/seduction20/05/24 08:04 PM
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Hit the gym, do yoga, idk about your height, but posture correcting exercises/yoga can really get you to stand with more confidence which I believe is half the battle, and can actually show your jaw line properly without it being all tucked in from being on computers and phones. Be funny, but you aren’t here to be an entertainer. Lift weights, do a shit load of pull-ups, maybe find an interesting sport that makes you strong. I found rock climbing. I frequently am told when I am doing posture cor…
/r/seduction20/05/24 07:48 PM
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You got it. Just don’t be jumping straight to it. Let it unfold naturally, but also don’t wait til the date is almost over to start breaking the touch barrier
/r/seduction20/05/24 06:25 PM
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You need to get comfortable touching first in a very casual way when you first meet. Look up the natural lifestyles touching and first date videos. They have the most helpful content that isn’t all aggressive alpha male bullshit. Just smooth low energy, but not boring. Grounded approach. Once you get comfortable here with touching the next step given she isn’t pulling away from you (also if this happens and most things are going well it could just be too soon, shake it off and try again as you b…
/r/seduction19/05/24 04:18 AM
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lol she just hit me up now. Wild world. I do agree. I was putting an unhealthy amount of pressure on myself and criticism especially considering I haven’t dated much in the last 2 years
/r/seduction18/05/24 12:59 AM
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It was the first date. She seemed super into me and was super receptive to escalation. Definitely wasn’t obsessed with sex with her. Chatted for about 2-3 hours before any moves were made. Tbh I think she probably just wanted to hook up because she was pretty aggressive once I initiated
/r/seduction17/05/24 11:37 PM
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Edited for readability. Yeah you are 100% right, working on that as we speak and how to be better at identifying types that I suspect may be this way, I seem to have dated a few women like this in the past and want to find someone more secure or stable
/r/seduction17/05/24 11:03 PM
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I agree. It is off putting that you are on the back burner though in that situation. And it says a lot about their character. But you also have no idea what is going on with them especially after one good date. They could have felt they got too close too soon, which is actually super fucking common, or they could just not be into you or found someone else they’re chasing. You don’t know. If you feel you were actually disrespected and they don’t even acknowledge their disappearance, then probably…
/r/seduction17/05/24 10:43 PM
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That dude is a want to be sigma/ligma/alpha dude. I know people like him, tough talk online but they actually have no friends because they’re actual just a dick
/r/seduction17/05/24 10:30 PM
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I never told her I was pulling back. She said a date when she would know her schedule and that date has passed and I left it at that. Not there to be like “hey are you free now you said you would be” if someone wants to reach out they will. Not going to keep pursuing if it isn’t mutual. Her silence is the response and that is what it is
/r/seduction17/05/24 10:24 PM
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Yeah. There’s mistakes a long the way that someone posted and they read me pretty well based off my post. Was a good set, likely my body language said I was too forward or not used to this, but you know I got in the game, hit some shots and lost in overtime. Can’t win them all, just trying to get better
/r/seduction17/05/24 10:03 PM
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You are 100% correct dude. You can fake it til you make it, but I guess you gotta fuck up like this to make progress. Thanks for real feedback. Stings like a mother fucker to read but you are reading it exactly.
/r/seduction17/05/24 10:00 PM
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Fair on your other comment. It isn’t following her lead. If she isn’t reciprocating or getting back when she said she would, why bother?
/r/seduction17/05/24 09:48 PM
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Yeah I’ve read about “the phantom ex” my ex had something like this and would talk about the guy but he didn’t live in the same city anymore. I’ve been with these types before and seem to attract them or I’m attracted to them. They seem to have deep rooted issues, went through the phase to be the one that helps them through it but realized I was fucking myself over by dealing with that. Best advice is to run in that scenario or keep it casual. Once someone has shown you their true colors you sho…
/r/seduction17/05/24 09:32 PM
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I suppose not being needy is being fine with them not matching your energy. A paradox of itself
/r/seduction17/05/24 09:24 PM
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Yeah noted. It’s just a bit annoying, because I wouldn’t say I’m an open book but I am fairly direct, and actively try to avoid it being needy but just expressive/to the point. I’m sure she got the vibe I liked her. But I don’t bang girls I’m not interested in. Every time I’ve done this I’ve felt shitty about it and realize I’m only making my life more complicated and potentially wasting time with the wrong person. How do you be genuine while also not scaring them off and it being interpreted as…
/r/seduction17/05/24 09:20 PM
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Fair. I care(d) too much
/r/seduction17/05/24 08:15 PM
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Yeah that’s the move. Obviously won’t do those text samples you said for the bad ones, if I do reach out in another week or two it’s right before I leave for a month so I’ll probably leave that in as I have a short window and would to see what she’s up to and invite her out. If not it’s not a big deal because I won’t see her regardless if she’s interested since I’ll be away
/r/seduction17/05/24 08:00 PM
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Yeah this girl vaguely mentioned an ex but it sounded long ago. She’s moved around quite a bit and is new to the city I am in, so I don’t think the dude is in the city but who knows. At least we got some, but it does fuck with your head when you feel you were really on your game, especially when you have disaster or fumbling experiences that you can contrast from.
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:57 PM
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Yeah that’s where I am now. I’m a little annoyed by the situation obviously or I wouldn’t have written all this, but also trying to learn for the future and see where I went wrong. To be honest though, not sure how good of a woman she is, and maybe that’s why I should have waited to reach out, because I really don’t know, and me reaching out may have said “I really don’t know you but I want to be with you” without actually saying that. Which is obviously a turn off. Now that I’ve had time apart …
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:53 PM
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I at least pulled back at the slightest inkling of her pulling back and just left the last text as basically a no worries do you, hit me up when you know your schedule. Not contacting again less that is reciprocated. I’ve done that dumb shit in the past before when I continued to pursue, and from a logical point of view, I don’t want to go out with someone that isn’t putting the same effort or feel like I need to convince. I sent my invitation and that’s all I can do
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:46 PM
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Yeah thanks for the real talk. I agree. I didn’t start the cuddling for the record but I agree. I probably should have just got her out of there asap and said I need to go to bed because I had work in the morning. I’m a recovering nice guy, and have weeded most of this aspect of my personality out as I’ve gotten older and it’s translated into career success and just being more firm with friends/family. I don’t fall over myself for the girls, but I’m sure I may have some body language or said som…
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:40 PM
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Yeah I believe that was the mistake. Make have been interpreted as clingy or I was too available... It wasn’t meant to be and I didn’t send some sappy long ass text. And got a solid text in return that she had a good time too.
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:25 PM
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Cool, you’re probably right
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:01 PM
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Well the verbal and physical feedback after in person would tell me otherwise. I didn’t ask her to compliment my performance. She did it herself. But sure something went wrong, but whatever. I wasn’t saying I was James Bond or something. Just everything seemingly went well, I do feel I am pretty objective when I’ve had a bad performance. And this one wasn’t one of those times.
/r/seduction17/05/24 06:56 PM
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Yeah I’m working on it. Have my own work to do with feeling adequate. Honestly just need more reps. I gave it my all in a non needy way, so I can hang my hat on that.
/r/seduction17/05/24 06:55 PM
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Yeah that’s what I’m thinking. I’m kind of like yeah I’m looking for a relationship, but if they just want to hang out that’s also cool with me. I’ll probably hit her up in another week before I go out of town for a month and if nothing o well, I’m gone anyway. Thanks bruv
/r/seduction17/05/24 06:52 PM
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