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I would try to avoid paying attention to your calories and maybe instead focus on like protein/iron/vitamin goals instead? Like maybe focus on eating three types a greens a day or whatever.. that might be less triggering with similar results! Goodluck!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/26 01:11 AM
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I think this is a super hard topic for many. Your maintenance calories could be someone else’s weight loss cals ya know? For me, when I am actively trying to lose weight I focus more on cutting out processed foods, snacking through out the day, and of course keeping my calories at no more than 1500. Just don’t push yourself too hard or make your goal about weight itself. Focus maybe on a size goal like wanting to fit into a size or medium etc. I know all that is a lot easier said than done
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/26 01:02 AM
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Don’t blame yourself for a week long chat fling. You hardly invested any time into that and it’s only upsetting you because it feels like rejection. You probably would’ve broken it off with him eventually had it gotten more serious due to his sexual “pushing” I would follow the above persons advice though and not mention any redpill stuff or even past relationships unless he ask directly. Don’t feel shaken by this just be more casual in the talking stage, it’s supposed to be fun and flirty. Yes …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/25 12:14 PM
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I’m obsessed with historical romance. Lisa kleypas has devil in winter, marrying winterbourne, and chasing Cassandra which I thought was really great. All of those were wonderful. There was also A Week to be Wicked but I can’t remember who wrote it, a bit feminist but the most feminist a historical romance can usually get is by saying women should vote lol There are many others. Harper St. George does some good ones. Recently read Duke of sin and it was ok, not as good as I’d hoped. Lord of scou…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 12:03 PM
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I feel this is a good step! OP, a lot of people here are saying “leave him!” Which isn’t really what I thought we did in this subreddit… I would also remember that you made VOWS. What would’ve happened if his member got blown off in some sort of insane accident? I understand the situation isn’t “exactly” the same buuuuut… what’s the saying about women in the department store. First floor is attractive men who make good money and aren’t dicks. Second floor attractive men, make good money, aren’t …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 10:12 PM
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I’m gonna go on a different branch and say while you don’t love or seem to enjoy dogs, if you do love him I would not voice this issue. The dog is short term, most live to be like 10 at the maximum depending on the size. Idk how old the dogs are. Also the dog is excited because you don’t live there. If you lived there the excitement would die down and it would start to just ignore you. He obviously does love dogs. You’re basically saying “choose me over something you obviously love” which doesn’…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 10:00 AM
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Sooo I recently had baby number 2 (5mo) My tricks to losing weight after each kid… No seed oils in any foods I eat. I do manage with sunflower oil but I really try to live on only olive oil and butter/ghee. No fast food at all, literally zero. I haven’t had McDonald’s in probably six years. I don’t eat more than 1500calories a day. My regular daily limit is 1200 but some days ya can’t really help it. Pilates! Don’t pay for a class! The gentle Pilates beginners work outs on YouTube are incredible…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/25 11:51 AM
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You’re welcome! I hope you get it all worked out mentally. One of the hardest parts about healthy relationships is learning what to bring up when it bothers you and learning to stfu about stuff that’s really just ourversion of an issue. I used to be such a nagger and honestly in your position I would’ve (in previous relationships) been kind of an asshole at the restaurant. When I entered this relationship with my husband though I really did a lot of soul searching about how to make it work and r…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 12:10 PM
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In his eyes, he got you nice flowers last year and he may not want to repeat his gift as it can come off lazy to just do the same thing every year. I would def not bring up your disappointment with this years lack of flowers, but next year or next time your anniversary comes around begin saying things like, “Oh that bouquet you got me two years ago was so beautiful. I know our anniversary/Valentine’s Day is coming up, I’d LOVE to get one of those again!” “Oh I just loved those flowers you got me…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 12:56 AM
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I’ve never been on the brink and my relationship is fresh (5years total) but I do listen to dr. Laura’s deep dive podcast which I find helpful, and I always recommend her books. She narrates her own Proper Care and Feeding of husbands and I NEVER get tired of listening to it! I wish she narrated her other books because her voice/delivery is so so great. Not everything she says in podcast is perfect but I’ve really never found her advice to be wrong so far. I’m sure you’ve already give it a shot …
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 10:45 AM
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I agree with this but it also seems like he was offering to pay for things before without her asking and then he would end up asking her for money after the fact, so I find that to be a slightly different situation than her being like “I want this buy it.” It feels more that it’s him saying “Oh you think a vacation sounds good? Yeah I’ll take us on one!” She offered him money after that toward the trip and then he declined her offer. To come back later and ask for money toward it is indicative t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 09:59 PM
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If you really like him and don’t mind contributing financially right now, because at this point you are only “dating” and want to salvage the relationship and good vibes, I would (in your shoes) offer to contribute a little in some way for the trip. What’s left to pay for? Maybe you can cover Ubers or something more minimal? In a way this helps him out a little without hurting his masculinity. It sounds like he wants to be the provider and stuff but he goes over his actual financial comfort leve…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 05:19 PM
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This is a complex situation as he is your boss. Does he own the company you work at? I think I would simply back away a bit from the situation and maybe think if there were any previous moments he may have expressed discomfort paying for things that you could’ve missed. You pay for your own living expenses and such, so I don’t think expecting him to buy you gifts that he originally agreed upon is bad. That’s like if you were to say, I made you a home cooked meal! Then as soon as he sits down to …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 11:20 AM
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You definitely will. Some advice I have as your baby ages is to encourage independent play if possible. My toddler had a toddler tower I purchased pretty early so she’s always been able to be up at the counter cooking with me. I’ve kept our house extremely accessible so she’s never really been closed off from any space. Up until very recently (I had a new baby) she was seriously so independent. She loved being in her room alone and doing things by herself. You’ll miss this time a lot though, at …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 11:50 PM
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Great comments here already but I thought id chime in! We have a 4mo and a toddler. It can be incredibly hard the first few months. With my first and even now I took on almost all baby responsibilities. My husband would’ve helped had I asked but I could tell and still can tell when he is out of his element. He now handles the toddler more confidently. With our first things really got better and less “mama” focused around 10-11months. Baby feeding was easier and though I was still breastfeeding, …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 10:20 PM
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Ooof I’ll never forget the sting of a guy I was seeing telling me he didn’t want to be my sugar daddy after I had been living with him and doing all wife expected responsibilities. Needless to say I was heart broken and did major soul searching… then I met my husband like five months later. God did I feel like a total idiot for believing I was wrong in the previous relationship. Gaslighting me into paying for everything and doing wife stuff? ANNOYING!!! My husband really made me realize how much…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 10:09 PM
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My grandma met her first husband in the nursing home (had my grandpa with a sailor.) She was in her 80’s and he was visiting his friend. He met her and said, “I have to marry you!” They got married and he died when she was in her late 80’s. She lived to be 98!! I always thought it was a very sweet story
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/25 08:27 PM
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Hi! Reversing what was mentioned earlier about a “man cave” is there perhaps a way you can make a space for your boys to play/be messy away from the home space?? I have a 2yo and a 4mo (this is a trying time for us too.) we also just moved. It’s been insane. One of the ways I’ve mitigated messes and just general mind clutter is keeping my 2yo visually impairing toys upstairs and out of our main area. She gets her play space and I keep the foyer and living room tidy without the extra junk. For me…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/25 01:15 AM
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Thanks! It might not be ideal for people who get really overwhelmed by housework though, or if someone has a partner who is really picky about the smaller details like ironing or whatever. I really just see our task as each of us taking on our own household responsibilities. I was raised with a women handling housework mentality though, so again this could be really hard for someone who didn’t get that in their childhood upbringing😅
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/25 04:52 PM
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Like what? I have to do laundry anyways? I don’t sort by color or anything, I certainly don’t iron. I think it’s already going to be washed so I dunno why I wouldn’t throw his in too. My husband has better things to do, like make money. For me. To spend 😅 the less he has to care about at our house the more he can focus on work. Plus when everything is done he is able to give me more time to have breaks or he is able to spend more time with our children. I really think each relationship can benef…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/25 04:47 PM
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I haven’t ever expected my husband to pick up laundry, he’s very tidy but leaves socks everywhere. I’m the worst about leaving clothes around. He ignores it or lets me get to them at my own pace. Passively he bought me a new laundry hamper for our bathroom a few weeks ago. I’ve still got clothes everywhere but I’m doing better. Today he comes to me and says, “I just realized today that I haven’t had to wash or fold my own clothes in years, like four or more years. Thank you.” Which is true, I’ve…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/25 02:32 AM
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Great advice!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/25 02:28 AM
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Omg let me tell you!!! I got on the depo shot originally at 16yo. I went from a size 00 to a size 12 in three weeks. THREE WEEKS. I was like uhhh okay and lived with it. I stopped taking the shot around a year later and I didn’t lose the weight until I caught the flu at 20yo. I went from like 150 back to 111 and in college it was insane. People were nicer, I felt great. It was awesome. Well I ended up not being smart and got the depo shot again sometime around 22. Same story. I didn’t even notic…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/24 01:00 PM
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I don’t think you’ll have to do it more than a few times. Eventually he will make it a habit to remember and since he will look forward to the dates he will remember more on his own. Once he starts taking more initiative with it, he will just add it to his mental process…. Although, that depends on your man. I know my husbands weaknesses, or rather the faults I have with him. If I KNOW my husband forgets birthdays is it bad for me to casually say, “Oh what are you planning on getting your mother…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 01:34 AM
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Yes. It’s like a trap if you wait and wait to see if he’s gonna remember. You’re testing him and in a way instigating your own disappointment. I’ve learned to stop doing this thankfully but I understand where the thought to do it comes from
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 03:39 PM
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Honestly this sounds like you are a horrible judge of character. You had several “friends” that slept with someone they knew you were with or at the minimum liked?? You continued to bring this man around people in your life despite knowing he had no respect for you?? Even if he is a narcissist, you accepted that behavior from your “friends” and from him. You need to care about yourself more and cut ties from the people that surround you, they clearly don’t care for you at all.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 01:29 PM
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This. I feel that the reminder is gentle. Maybe even ask, “What should I wear on our date this weekend? Something sexy or cute?” Etc… a reminder that isn’t like “DONT FORGET YOU SAID WE WERE GOING ON A DATE!!!!!!!” Also making the date something he looks forward to, that way he cares just as much. Some men aren’t “date” guys. They see other outings or events as just as special. My husband isn’t a “date” guy but we go play pool sometimes, or we try restaurants. I don’t think either of us consider…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 09:46 AM
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Love yourself first. You cannot expect a healthy person to love you if you don’t even love yourself and you cannot expect anyone to believe you love them if you don’t love yourself. Start with what you can worth on at a surface level that will improve your self worth. I started by doing small amounts of (YouTube) Pilates and cardio. I cut out junk foods and beer/wine (mama still loves her vodka soda 🤷‍♀️ just not 9 of them before noon.) Make your bed and clean your room everyday/morning before y…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 09:24 PM
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That makes things a little different as you had planned in advance! (Which is seriously good on you for being prepared.) obviously you really want children and while It sounds like this guy is great and I don’t think it would be easy to find another partner, I do think you should prioritize having a baby if you want one. It seems like you really do. At the end of the day motherhood is the most wonderful thing I could’ve ever done but I doubt it would be anywhere near as great if I didn’t have su…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 10:18 PM
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I’ve actually grown up and lived in rural areas until I was an adult. So I do know quite a bit about this dilemma. I just don’t use the internet for meeting people. I stand by the idea that if she isn’t having luck online than trying in person is better. She could go out to events in nearby cities, she could try and attend events through her friends. Obviously if she’s online she is willing to drive a bit to possibly meet these men so why not take a night and visit a nearby city book a hotel for…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 08:43 PM
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I would not depend on the Internet and “dms” for dating. It seems like you would have better luck going out in person and meeting someone. If there is a nearby upscale bar or place like a marina you could try and meet someone there! I honestly have NEVER considered dating anyone who tried to speak to me through an internet app, but I’m super weird about the internet 😅
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 07:12 PM
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I don’t want to be an AH here but realistically the health issues that can stem from a 40+ birth could also pose more issues later on. You have increased risk for lots of things and raising a baby with disabilities by yourself seems extremely hard. Are you considering adoption or a surrogacy? I don’t think there is anything specifically wrong with a single mother still in her youth 35< but I know that When I met my husband he had always said dating a woman with children is a complete no for him.…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 07:06 PM
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I would definitely just do the dark blonde or light brown just for men’s, let it sit for 3-4 minutes and then stop. I did dark brown from my first time and i went the full 5minutes…. It was NOT a good look. It only lasted around two weeks though! I would love to be able to mend things, my grandma would charge very low prices to mend men’s clothes at her church or in the area, I think that’s such a handy skill!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 06:31 PM
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I’m doing something super dangerous and not approved by the FDA. My husband is helping lol. I bought one of those laser removal machines on the Internet from eBay for like $500. I got really nice eye protection for around $40 or so I think. Then some lidocaine! My husband mans the laser (it’s extremely easy but my tattoos are in hard to reach places ahem) Anyways I wear suntan goggles and seal my eyes shut and let lidocaine sit for a few minutes. Then my husband zaps at them on low setting while…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 06:29 PM
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Start with a light color. I use just for men’s beard dye for my brows and I do it for like 3-4 minutes with the auburn color (I’m a ginger soooo) the refectocil works on eyebrows too but I’m not switching to that until I’m out of the just for men’s! It doesn’t hurt and is super duper easy. The tint is enough for me. You can do the lash lifts at home but I’m not skilled enough for that. I try to DIY most of my beauty stuff for affordability. I’m successfully removing tattoos, I do my own hair stu…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 03:12 PM
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I’m a natural redhead, so I have super light lashes and brows. Doing this small thing every two weeks or so Makes a giant difference for me. I also henna my hair to keep it fresh looking every six months or so. I wanna look good at the pool or in the shower, I wanna wake up pretty. I wasn’t a super attractive teen and didn’t really “bloom” until probably 23-24.. my husband is very vocal about liking natural features. I also just don’t have tons of time to apply make up or do my hair really nicel…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 02:14 PM
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So I was terrified but I went ahead and got refectocil in blue/black from the sleek shop online. Then I bought the oxidizer. Literally all you need to purchase from them and with shipping it was like 15$ tops. I got little under eye patches from dollar tree and then some disposable spoolies. To do it I just mix 1:1 the oxidizer and some of the lash tint in a GLASS or plastic container with either the spoolie or a qtip. Don’t use stainless steel or silver when mixing, idk if it effects it but I j…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 02:08 PM
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I think making long term beauty investments is key. I tint my eyebrows every two weeks or so, and I tint my eyelashes at home as well (surprisingly easy.) I have a skincare routine that keeps my skin good and I basically only need sunscreen and tint moisturizer to look nice. Recently I splurged on a keratin treatment to get a more effortless hair look. I liked it the first week but I don’t know if it was worth the cost overall, as my bangs just curl regardless. If I wanna look nice though I can …
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 10:37 AM
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My self care ritual depends on my needs. Usually it’s a loooooong process. I do a henna hair mask for roughly 1-3hours. Then while I wait on that, I tint my eye lashes (10 minutes for each eye) and then I will tint my eyebrows (5 minutes for brows.) i plan on eventually throwing teeth whitening into the process but I’m pregnant right now and my gums are sensitive. After that stuff is wiped off I usually paint my nails (I do a simple nail hardener with no real color outside of a pink tint.) After…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/24 09:07 PM
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Just sell your assets, not your flaws. When I was young and dating I usually didn’t open with, “I’m an unemployed alcoholic!” 😅 Instead I discussed my college degree, my hobbies, etc etc. a woman’s interest are (imo) more important than her job. I’ve worked in several fields and never felt that those jobs were my identity. If someone says, “Oh what do you do?” “I work in such and such, but I LOVE to garden (insert your interest.) I’d really love to do (insert random goal trip or whatever.)” Topi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 10:41 PM
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I believe looks and personality will be key in this endeavor for you! I dunno your age, but if you go and make a good impression it’ll be more than enough. If anyone ask about your employment you can tell them what field you work in, you don’t have to say you’re unemployed outright! Do your best to represent your best facial features and focus on dressing in a way that showcases value, it doesn’t have to be extremely expensive! I really think you’ll shoot yourself in the foot if you let your ins…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 10:26 PM
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Is there a consignment shop that will take them like Plato’s???? They take men’s clothes. Then there is also like once upon a baby! Sort into separate sections of baby, woman, man and take to one of those stores. Yes value is slightly lower but at least you’re walking with something. At the end of the day you’re letting a pile of clothes dictate your life rather than setting a goal of posting 1-3 items a day.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 08:30 AM
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No problem!
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 03:57 PM
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Nope. I am on my second child now (I’m pregnant currently) I dropped down to 120lb and then got pregnant. After I had my first I did the same technique only I threw in Pilates for toning. I made it down to 115lbs when my first was 22 months, which was my total goal weight! I bought a super cute dress and scheduled a date with my husband (got a sitter.) needless to say I was immediately pregnant again 🤦‍♀️ Now I’m at 28 weeks and I’m sitting at 138lbs. I don’t do any diet other than cutting out p…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 03:56 PM
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https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0CLY1KXGR?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title This is the one I’ve bought recently for this pregnancy! I find the top is just a bit too big for my bust, but it’s not noticeable enough to cause issues. My only problem is the bottom isn’t super flattering, but as I’ve said that’s usually the case
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 09:39 AM
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I always get the older style that are a one piece with the shorts. My husband likes them but it depends on what asset is your best. I have a nice hourglass figure usually (outside of pregnancy 🙃) so the shape looks great. If I had a nicer bust id probably do something that had a longer dress/cover bottom piece more like a nightie shape that accentuated that. I find that the bottom of the swimsuit never flatters me, so I actually prefer skirt styles usually to cover that up. I am a very lovely wo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 09:36 AM
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I feel that the real issue here is that you’re each getting 1 hour of free time. Wouldn’t a better compromise be Saturdays husband gets 2-3 hours off, Sundays you get 2-3 hours off? Clearly both of you want free time, how can you make this happen? can you afford a membership somewhere like a kids gym or something for your son? One of you takes him there one weekend and vice versa the next? I wouldn’t look at the problem as me vs husband. I’d try to view it as me/husband vs limited free time. How…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 09:23 AM
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What is your height and weight? I’m 5’2 and I was like 158 when I met my husband at 23. He told me straight up he had zero interest in dating/being with me sexually because I didn’t take care of myself, despite how well we got along. I knew he was right. I was depressed and blaming everyone else for my problems. So I left for a few months. I never ate more than 1200 calories a day. No processed foods. Low sodium diet. No pops, no added sugars. Cut beer and wine, traded for vodka and sugarless mi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/24 10:41 PM
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Have you gained any weight or has something happened that makes you less desirable to him? If you want Sex you need to initiate it sometimes, especially if his headspace is focused on work and life building. You already sound extremely negative about this relationship despite, what sounds like, an ideal set up. I can’t fathom you having a happy marriage if you’re already disappointed in this small lack of sex. What if you can’t have sex while pregnant? What if something physically prevents you f…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 02:26 PM
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As a person who has lived in both large cities and small communities, I want to relay how your post struck me. You say you don’t connect with the other women in town but it’s very much like you’re not trying. Women aren’t going to wanna spend time with someone who only finds the negative in their environment. If you want to have a group, MAKE ONE. Start a small social meet up at a church or community center. Make it a monthly thing with a theme maybe. Put flyers up, make a Facebook group. All my…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 10:52 PM
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I definitely have known some really messy ENFPS/INFPS who often justify their poor decisions and actions by pretending to be really good or overly caring “friends.” These folks tend to be the worst version of narcissists imo. Honestly I was super awful until after I was 21 (I think.) I was brainwashed by very liberal feminism that left me constantly feeling entitled and like I was a victim. Once I started owning my actions I became much more tolerable. I dunno if it’s related to MBTI or not thou…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 12:02 AM
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ENFP type T and my husband is INFJ type A I do feel our types fit both our personalities but I think people often act like ENFPs are all children with ADHD who are obsessed with unicorns and rainbows and stuff. I hate the stereotypes as I find myself not really into that sector of my MBTI, but overall it does fit me. I’ve taken the test several times over the years but always get ENFP ha. I’ve always been around INFP and ESFP friends but usually I’m attracted to INTJ or ISTJ types. Honestly my h…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 08:57 AM
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I apologize for assuming the nationality! Are your finances not combined, as you’re married?? If you’re pulling from your own account, can you discuss how you’d like him to contribute financially toward the baby stuff? Finances are so different for each family, I find this hard to navigate myself tbh. Honestly I was in a similar boat at first because I never said, “Can I have your card so I can pay for this?” Once I asked, my husband said yes. This made me feel a bit less like the whole process …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 12:13 AM
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Hello. As a pregnant person and STM I can give you some of my thoughts. Firstly it is upsetting about the sex I’m sure but really some men aren’t comfortable with the baby inside while they’re doing stuff. It’s truly luck of the draw with men on that I feel. Have you discussed it with him or asked what about the pregnancy is turning him off? My husband is a great father and didn’t care one lick about any of the baby prep. I handled registry, items, because it was my job. I saw it as my task. Btw…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 05:49 PM
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I should really invest then!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 05:18 PM
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God. I’m rocking a giant 90’s style mini mouse shirt that says, “Another Beautiful Morning.” Usually I’m much cuter, but my frugal self can’t come around to buying pregnancy sized slips (I’m usually a size small to medium but now I’m basically an XL to accommodate only belly.) The great news about husbands is that often times the most alluring thing you can do is cater to their needs, and then they’ll even find your oversized pajama shirt sexy too 🥹😅
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 03:16 PM
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I think the silky slip house dresses with a nice robe are classy. They look appealing, but if god forbid the door needs to be opened, you’re not on full display for everyone. It’s important to me as a parent that my kid can’t just see the goods, but you have to keep the magic alive and I am a stickler (outside of pregnancy) for trying to always be ready/look nice
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 10:21 AM
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Omg I love this for my husband. What site did you use??! I wouldn’t mind this but I’d also get something else more focused on his own interest, like tools or whatever as suggested before
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 04:55 PM
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I don’t think all men are like this. Most the men I’ve dated in the past, and my now husband, all avoid social media. My sisters current boyfriend follows lots of women his age but he’s also always posting about my sister and doesn’t engage with others content. I think it’s the age difference, as he is 24 and my husband is 35. Most men over 30 seem to have less interest in the social media vs younger under 30.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 09:16 AM
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I think it depends on the person. Everyone has a different love language, really love gifts (giving them and getting them!) and actions, while my husbands love language falls more under actions and words of affirmation. Because of this my husband is more vocal with praise which is sometimes stressful to me. I think issues arise when he wants more verbal praise and I simply forget to do that. Recently I’ve been making more of an effort, blah blah blah. Anyways, I think some people are just more v…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/24 11:32 AM
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I met my husband at a dive bar and then later remet him at a friends house. It was fate. I think you HAVE to go do things like the stuff you mention to meet men, but in general men are uncomfortable approaching women now. We have a recently divorced male friend and he is really struggling to meet women outside of apps which he hates. He is overall a catch, owns his home, handsome, in shape, employees, etc etc but he’s not super outgoing socially. He doesn’t want to go to events and his job makes…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 09:44 PM
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I would just ask before bringing it up, maybe start like, “Hey, can I talk with you about the weaning thing for a bit or is this a bad time?” I try to respect when my husband doesn’t wanna discuss something but sometimes it’s hard for me because it won’t leave my mind. I would ask if he’s open to talking about it first, and I’d even try and bring it up after having a really good day first. Also I’d maybe read some more tips/tricks and possibly show him some information about how much more the ba…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 09:33 PM
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I think you need to firstly accept that feelings/tensions will be high due to lack of sleep regardless of how things are handled. The best thing to do is be upfront with your husband about your feelings. I had to start sleeping with clothes. First step to keeping the baby away from the twins. Also I told my husband upfront what to expect, how long it would take, and how we may be really frustrated with the loss of sleep. I would start on a Friday if your husband gets Saturday and Sunday off, so …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 08:19 PM
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Awwwh man. I’m not sure how to approach that it’s really tough not to see both sides
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 07:49 PM
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Ahh I understand now! Is there any chance you and baby could sleep separately while the weaning happens? Or husband could sleep on the couch? It may help if he’s not at the front and center of the show during the wake up Thanks, it’s a blessing but also 🙃
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 07:44 PM
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Hello! I actually JUST started night weaning around two-three weeks ago. I don’t have much advice regarding how to handle your disagreement with your hubby, but I can say the first four nights were hell. We cosleep (we have a floor bed from Matsu store) and I’ve always just let her eat during the night to keep her asleep. Well new baby is on the way and I wanted to start getting a little more rest before having even less rest! So I decided to start the night weaning. She still gets the girls to …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 07:07 PM
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Omg! I love this!!
/r/RedPillWives16/03/24 12:06 AM
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Awh l have no advice here but I’m wishing you luck as you navigate this. Perhaps there is some information if you search this subreddit for the word “inspiration?” I imagine inspiring him to want to search for a job and be a provider would be a good start… not nagging but providing him with an environment in which he wants to work. Perhaps even bringing up the budget and discussing rebid getting casually? I’m not sure :/
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 12:32 AM
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Get a sealable container to store the snacks in near your bed!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 11:06 AM
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The recipe I use is celery and carrots, mix with chicken bone broth, chicken breast in crock pot or on stove until breast is cooked/carrots are softer. Then my dad usually strains all the celery out, but I eat it! My husband prefers some sort of biscuit/corn bread with this recipe. A good add is some Tobasco after it’s cooked for flavor!
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/23 10:11 AM
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No real advice here, sorry OP. My husband and my exes don’t do social media, and I find it to be a blessing. It doesn’t sound like he has any intention of dating her ever again? And I feel like you may be over reacting. Have you been cheated on in a previous relationship? Could your insecurities be at play?
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/23 08:59 AM
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As long as you’re upfront with him about it, I don’t see an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 11:45 AM
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Hmmm. Im not sure if it’s “wrong,” but I understand where you’re both coming from. When I met my husband I was going on dates with a few other men, once I got to know him more and realized I liked him a lot, I dropped the others and let them know I didn’t see a future with them. I wouldn’t stop talking to guy A. You said he’s amazing and that you’ve enjoyed speaking to him etc… give it like two or three more dates. He could be great and you’re going to judge him in the actions of another person?…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 10:16 AM
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Omg i CANNOT find this Facebook group for some reason!!!! I really loved your suggestion but for some reason it won’t appear in my searches or anything 😑🙄🤦‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 12:45 PM
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I’m so glad to have the reviews here because I really wanna go see it but I wasn’t sure if I’d enjoy it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 12:33 AM
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I recently got a job as something to do for me and my child (Im working at a preschool as a teacher!) honestly the job is a bit tiring but it gives my husband some free time away from us (he works from home) Plus it lets my LO have some socializing time and I being in extra cash just for myself and it makes me SO much happier then I realized!! Like before with my old jobs I was constantly exhausted. Then as a SAHM I LOVED that but I wanted to find a way to give my husband some space and also ben…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/23 10:14 AM
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You seem self aware with your references to talking over others and such. My advice would be to put in the work. Find a female that you actually want to be friends with and EMBRACE the feminine experiences instead of scoffing at them. I used to be like this, and it is so cringe to me now. I have three very strong female friendships I maintain with effort and communication. My closest friend is blunt, always making crass jokes, always interrupting, and we love each other for it. Your issues aren’…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/23 10:24 AM
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I love this! I cannot do birth control as everytime I’ve taken it, I gain massive amount of weight. I’m talking jumping from 110lbs to 170lbs in under three months. I’ve tried bc three times in my life and each time was marked with weight gain, emotional instability, and mental health issues. Since I’ve stopped that and monitored my fertility, I’ve really been able to enjoy life and feel much healthier!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:45 AM
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Shoot for older me, think 30’s! I’d hit a more expensive bar and make friends with the bartender first, they can tell you who to avoid if there are regulars. As for the person in their thirties looking for love, shoot for men in their forties.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 11:02 AM
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My friend and I are both equally attractive, I’d say we evenly would be approached on a night out but we look VASTLY different so the men would be really different. We often used to go out with our friend, let’s call her K. Anyways every night we’d go out KNOWING guys would buy us drinks and every night K would complain the ENTIRE night. Generally she hooked up with more guys than us but the entire night she would bitch about how many more dudes were gonna give us drinks, how we were pretty, etc…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 11:27 AM
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Oooh I love the cosrx snail line, the snail serum is really good for next time you try it. I really wanted to try that dark spot stuff and the soon Jung but I got the illiyoons ceramide cream instead
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 09:29 PM
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Omg I’m so glad it worked out!! I love Jolse! Stylevana is great too!! What products did you end up getting?? (I’m always searching for something to add 😄)
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 07:23 PM
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I had a baby last April (she’s one now!) I breastfed, then combo fed. Honestly losing the weight wasn’t that hard for me as I made it a goal. I was 157lb when I gave birth and 117lb by December. (I’m 5’2) I made Pilates a bit of a priority and I never capped 1300 calories a day. I’ve also cut out all corn syrup and fake processed stuff. I’ll still eat occasionally bad things but mostly I try to avoid that stuff! This https://www.amazon.com/Actiiv-Recover-Thickening-Cleansing-Treatment/dp/B06X1GP…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 12:21 PM
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Love this energy!!! I’d skip the olaplex (I’ve done the treatments and honestly they’re not that great. My friend had hair loss from it, I can link what regimen she recently got and she swears it’s the best!) Since your pregnant I’d focus on skincare you can manage now! I used the r/asianbeauty (I’m a ginger but shopping on Jolse is sooo cheap and my skin hasn’t looked better I kid you not!!) You’ve already prepped for the baby I’m sure, some things to def invest in if you haven’t; a giant play …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 12:01 PM
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In regards to this, I believe women cheat less because they have more to lose. Catching a severe STD or having a baby with your “side piece” is much more problematic as a woman, imo. Also she plays a role in this, possibly. I doubt many older women have as many opportunities to cheat, while men who are older are likely to find those through means like seeking arrangement and such.. In my experience, the more attractive a man is, the less likely he is to want to commit in the first place if he is…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 12:53 AM
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Idk in our day and age, it’s easy to focus enough time on health/skincare that will slow the process of aging. I think it’s something you put effort toway
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 10:12 AM
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Honestly you haven’t had sex with him, you look at other men in a wanting way, it sounds like you already know that you don’t wanna be with him forever. My husband has a three year limit on relationships, we both agree that by three years you know if you wanna marry the person. So what feels natural and right but you’re being unfair to him, he clearly is very patient to not have sex and stay faithful to you, he deserves someone who will see the best in him. That doesn’t mean you’re a bad person,…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 12:24 AM
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My only thoughts are that they’re blaming a handsome husband for martial problems that likely stem from the wife’s insecurities… My husband is attractive (he got asked out in front of me yesterday because the cashier didn’t realize we were in line together 🤦‍♀️) he is one of the most extremely loyal men I know! Never has it been a problem that I was the super nerdy one out of the two of us (didn’t peak till 26 😂) while he has always been popular etc etc. I think peoples circumstances are always …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 06:25 PM
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Ahh this is my daily struggle. I wanna meal plan but my husband and I never know what we’re gonna be in the mood for!!! I do Turkey and Black Bean enchiladas Really easy. Just need lean ground Turkey, no sodium black beans, red enchilada sauce (store bought is fine.) a can of green chilis, and diced or minced black olives! Cool turkey first then add the rest of the ingredients. Mix up and add a bit of cumin if you’d like. More olives in this recipe the better! Mix together and the put on a low c…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 04:44 PM
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It sounds like the guy who told you is jealous in some way. Maybe that dude likes you? Idk but I wouldn’t call pushing scooters over an “angry drunk” I’d be more concerned with the overzealousness with girls but you friend that’s a girl said he was a good guy soo I dunno if that has much merit behind it! People change though, I’d worry more about how he treats you and if these problems become apparent to you later then you can cut things off
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 10:33 AM
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My husband is a reformed hoe! LOL I would only suggest you have him get an STD test for your peace of mind before you guys go too far, I know that sounds really bad but my husband and I both did it for each other (I don’t consider myself a reformed hoe but my husband was adamant about his conditions for a relationship!) It could be a cute double date, you guys go get tested together! I know that sounds silly but I knew a guy who got divorced after 30 years and the first girl He dated gave him ge…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 01:25 AM
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For me, gentle Pilates is more of a work out then yoga. Yoga is (for me) holding poses longer and kinda finding my center/relaxing and stretching out. Pilates is more about working those muscles that help me stay limber. I guess I would compare hot yoga with Pilates but for me they’re very different experiences. My regular routine is around 15-20 minutes of “gentle Pilates.” Which is kind of just getting a small burn on my legs/core work out. I do some yoga poses at the end of my routine though …
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 06:41 PM
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My trick for losing the extra baby pounds has been gentle Pilates!! It helps with the legs and core! I also think you’re doing fine, it’s probably just your hips being a little wider due to baby!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 01:34 PM
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Ah where to start?! My husband randomly picks me some flower up from the ALDIs which I love. He watches the baby so I can shower in the evening, EVERY NIGHT!) We recently took a trip to visit my father and he spent So much time helping my dad set up his new grill. It’s silly but since my dad isn’t able to do something’s himself, it’s lovely watching my husband help him out. He always helps me catch our toddler to put her pull ups on (yes it is now a two person job 🤦‍♀️) Of course he provides eve…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/23 01:19 AM
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Every time I wanna complain about the laundry situation I have to remind myself that I’m my biggest enemy, I’ll shower twice a day and I’m always like “whoa where did these clothes appear from??” Thanks for the tip!! I’m always so confused about storage and breakfast foods, I dunno why it stumps me🤷‍♀️😅
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 09:10 PM
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I def get it and understand. While the adult in you is responsible for “getting your shiz together” and “fixing your own problems.” A relationship is two people. It sounds like he knows about your anxiety and issues, and has been a good enough man to help you learn to trust again! I think you’re making good progress, I know therapy would possibly help but I can’t afford that and my husband doesn’t really believe in that. I think the best therapy is small changes within yourself, even if somethin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 09:08 PM
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Love this! I self care with taking care of my skin, maintaining my skincare routine has done WONDERS for my attitude! Love love the good energy from this post!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 12:27 PM
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Goodness I could’ve written this myself!! My husband as WFH and we have a 1yo. With a similar background (excluding your MIL because my husband grew up with cleaners, chef, and a nanny) For your breakfast quiches, is there a specific way your store them? Freezer or fridge and do you bag them or keep them in Tupperware?? The laundry everyday is real, I find that if I fall behind one day it becomes an avalanche in like three 🤦‍♀️ Buying a small daily calendar at dollar tree and preparing my entire…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 12:05 PM
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I think it’s brave of you to confront and begin dealing with your jealousy like this! I used to be incredibly jealous/insecure in my past relationships. My husband and I discussed my issues together and worked through them, now I’m hardly ever jealous haha I used to be the “snoop through his phone” girl with my exes (granted I was right and they were ALL cheating, but that’s before I vetted men and started dated MEN not boys) with my husband, I told him about this and we both have an open phone …
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 11:33 AM
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The key to any man’s heart is his tummy! My hubby loves hiking and whenever I whip out a surprise snack and drink, he’s like INSANELY happy! Just be careful if you’re in bear heavy areas haha no crazy amounts of meat! 😊
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 12:28 AM
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Not that it matters much but my go to right now( if I have acne) is Covergirl BB smoother in fair/light. It’s kinda sheer and not heavy, and it has sunscreen too. Just in case you don’t have a tinted spf! I use that and then regular sunscreen underneath 😅 I always swear by having tinted eyebrows and lashes so you don’t gotta wear make up. Men like “natural women,” but naturally, I am inclined to make myself the prettiest version of me 😂 saves me from thinking about whether or not my stuff is mel…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 10:02 PM
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Tinted sunscreen would be good if you’re worried about getting burnt and staying cute! Otherwise I’d focus on asking him questions about the area and his previous history with hiking. He may know a lot and want to share!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 08:41 PM
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Ugh gross. Guys on social media generally just irk me.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 04:20 PM
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I’m fortunate enough to have spent some time learning it while in college! So I am comfortable with pronunciations/reading, but it’s speaking with others that is nerve wracking 😅 Mostly I’ve been using Anki and https://learngerman.dw.com/en/learn-german/s-9528 this site to try and jog my memory on vocab and get a little more comfortable with hearing dialogue. I will check the videos out! Thank you for the recommendation 😊
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 05:00 PM
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Recently I’ve been trying to learn German! Learning another language is beneficial because I’m teaching my LO as she learns to speak 😊 it’s fun!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 03:32 PM
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The best bet is to find the local VFW and go on a night when it’s open to the public. You may meet a man you like OR meet someone you can be friends with that will lead you to your SO!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 09:16 AM
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Yes for sure, brow or eyelash? Or both? For lash tint, i go get it done, but My sister Does hers at home unless she’s doing extensions (I don’t use extensions cause they’re over the top for me) https://www.amazon.com/Xshows-1-Eyebrow-Tinting-Kit-Eyebrow-and-Eyelash-Color-Kit-Black/dp/B0BHH1YYSD/ref=mp_s_a_1_7?adgrpid=55627318683&hvadid=617159783402&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=9012377&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=b&hvrand=10693711612466004009&hvtargid=kwd-295135198013&hydadcr=8552_13573700&keywords=permanent+eyelash+dye&…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 02:08 PM
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Okay!! Here’s what I suggest, start with the simplest thing, Skin Care. An easy routine Is oil cleanser, Face cleanser, toner, moisturizer, and then add a retinol thing at night every three days until your skin is adjusted to it. Don’t rush into the whole routine, but add one thing every day! Do you wash your face? I recommend finding a good and easy routine then working up. I suggest skincare because men don’t prefer women with tons of make up skills (usually in my experience,) to get around ma…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 12:00 PM
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I’m torn on this. I met my husband when he wanted to do van life and travel, so I literally just went with him. He has passive income so we went all over the US and camped in a van and enjoyed life together until we were ready to have a baby. That said.. most of the van life men I’ve met are NOT stable and NOT rpm, so I dunno if there’s a good way to do that. Also traveling van life with a cat sounds like hell, as someone who literally did this for like two years. It’s more normalized on the wes…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 11:35 PM
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Okay these are my tips for no beauty beauty! I think it’s important to start with skincare! Is your skin flawless? Amazing, that means less in the way of make up cost. I use r/asianbeauty for some great tips and affordable skincare. My entire skincare routine is at maximum $50 and that’s for like three or four months, sometimes longer. Staples are cosrx ph balancing cleanser, Kose Softymo oil cleanser, cosrx snail 96 serum, and then illiyoon ceramide cream. That’s pretty much all I need to survi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 04:46 PM
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18 went to college Dated one guy for three years and he was a douche. 21 moved out of state with strangers dated/got engaged because I felt pressured to start husband hunting. 23 made lots of friends and then met my current husband after partying a lot 26 married my husband after spending 23-26 traveling the US with him and my bestfriend. 27 my first baby!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 07:33 PM
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I was banned from a parenting subreddit too 😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 12:51 PM
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I’ll try to do this as well!!! Seems like a hard challenge! (also only lady in the house!)
/r/RedPillWives10/12/22 01:15 AM
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This! I love Pilates!! Feel like it’s man a world of difference for my work out routine, I Stil do regular yoga and it helps me feel very flexible and loose!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 11:01 AM
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Tint your eyebrows so they always look colored! I use just for men beard dye. Always do your skincare routine and then sunscreen and tinted moisturizer. The tinted moisturizer will make a huge difference in look naturally put together. Tint your lashes for a natural dark lash without mascara. I only say the tinting because it’s something you only do once every three weeks or so and it looks good when you’re at home or out or when you’re sleepy! I recently had a baby and I’m trying to get back in…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 11:22 AM
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I would look at Keto recipes! It sounds like that’s his focus diet. I would also make sure if he is doing a Leto diet you know his schedule for it because sometimes he will maybe have specific cheat days? If he does I’d see what he prefers to eat on those days. Investments In learning to cook that I’ve made are ONLY buying sale items (meats and veggies etc.) and seeing what I can make from that. I feel this has improved my pallet immensely and helped me find which flavors go with what! Also if y…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/22 12:06 PM
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Skincare is of upmost importance! Cut fake sugars from your diet if possible (no sodas etc etc.) I would try to start a good skincare regimen. I WISH I would’ve started tret or a retina product when I was 18! Practice yoga and be mindful of your body. You can have any man you want with a great attitude and a focus on your health! Don’t worry about your “looks” short term, focus on what you can do to make your skin/joints/muscles last long term.. I would recommend heavy make up as it only deters …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/22 11:34 AM
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My now husband and I met four years ago. I was 160lbs and 5’2… kind of heavier looking. I was a wreck. I basically was drinking from 6am to 3am everyday and I was miserable. I met him and I KNEW I couldn’t be this person anymore. I asked him if he would ever date me etc etc.. and he was upfront and said no. He said no woman should spend their early 20’s feeling badly about themself. He said he loved my personality and could see me as a great friend, but he was looking to settle down with someone…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 05:36 PM
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I hate putting the blame on outlying factors but perhaps once you find a new job it’ll help ease some financial stressors? More importantly is maybe now that it’s colder you both should put health and mental health as a focus! Have you made him his favorite winter meal yet? Or something hearty and warming? Did he ever say why he was going to respond like that anyway? I would try to do something kind for him and unexpected.. perhaps jotting down 100 reasons why you love him/respect him/ support h…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 05:24 PM
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Are they any new stresses in your day to day life?? How long has this behavior been occurring between you two?
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 05:12 PM
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Good luck! Hope this is going well!
/r/RedPillWives20/11/22 09:59 PM
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27, married 2 together 3 1/2! Today I started writing the things I was grateful for my husband for down in my notes! I saw it suggested on another subreddit and it’s really very nice. I’ve also started taking collagen supplements and this entire weak I drank a cup of bone broth each morning. I’ve read it’s good for skin and hair etc etc… I also am super thankful because I’ve finally hit my weight goal after having a baby almost 8 months ago. I’m now 115lbs! I have been dieting the best I can (I’…
/r/RedPillWives20/11/22 09:57 PM
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Is it possible to hire someone to come do a regular clean once a month? And then just minimize a bit into a lifestyle that’s easier to keep tidy?? We live by the 1 plate, one spoon, one bowl etc per person! So we never have dishes laying around or anything. We only have hardwood because I CANNOT imagine a world where I have to vacuum all the time! Some other tips would be having a set day once a month where you declutter, then downloading an App like TODY that helps keep track of what chores nee…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 03:05 PM
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