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Exactly
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 11:20 PM
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Great words!!! You have to keep pushing through the fire.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 07:46 PM
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I’m going to motion to modify my child custody order in a few weeks to give me more structure on the time including weekend with my kiddos. Going for 30% custody and then once I move closer to or in my kids school district then I’ll go for 50%. I don’t plan of giving any information to my ex until we go to mediation (CA requires mediation first) I have a few PP’s ideas that will be fair to show her and if she doesn’t agree, then we will get in front of a Judge and have them sign off on it. 🙏🏽
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 01:08 PM
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Trust in God. I still think about salvation even after my divorce but I still have to stay on my own journey and purpose. We share 2 children and a step son I’ve known since he was 3 (now 10). Stay strong and keep tending to your garden. 🙏🏽
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 07:40 PM
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What is your custody %. Anything that is a change in circumstance should be definitely motioned to get a judge to review. I’m in the same boat but going for 50/50 in CA. Didn’t have a good living situation for my kids at the time and agreed to let the kiddos stay with mom as I got a parenting plan agreed on with a step up. Started back to work in the mortgage lending industry 3/4/2024 from taking a year off and now starting to see my pipeline fund. My living situation has now improved as I now o…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 03:59 AM
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Nothing at all that you mentioned. During my divorce process, I didn’t have a good living situation when i separated. Also didn’t have good knowledge on the custody agreements. My dumbass agreed to having her sole custodial and 50/50 legal. We did keep a plan schedule that I was consistent on 98% of the time. Active dad mode was activated once I was served. Fast forward 2 years. Divorce finalized 2/2024. Now my living situation has now improved. I live in a house about 15-20 mins away from kids …
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 08:47 PM
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I’m in CA and I’m going to go for 50/50 custody. Wish me luck!
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 11:13 PM
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You need to just be a Co Parent. Anything outside of the kids, you should have a boundary up. Be there for your kid and be the best father for him. No else matters. Cut off her supply. Which is a strong front line of a family, emotional attachment, your resources. I can go on and on. You know what you are giving her. As long as you are around and convenient, she is feeling like a Queen. You have her on a pedestal. That needs to stop. Get some other pussy and stay away from her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 02:49 AM
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It’s dark and hell is hot
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 11:34 PM
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Where LA/OC? I have a good one I can recommend in OC. He is in HB.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:47 PM
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Separation is a time to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for the divorce process. You will then see that she is not the woman you married. However if you get agreements in writing before then, you should be able to stand on those as you go through it. Focus on your children. Be there for them always and despite how she might make you feel or how you feel about her, keep pushing. Stay on your path and journey. Do not let her manipulate you. We here have been through this so please lean o…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:45 PM
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Did we just become best friends? Lol same here man.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:32 PM
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I hear your brother. They are different creatures. You should know that by now. Everything by you are saying about your son and doing right by him make us all proud. Keep being there for him and remember he will only have 1 DAD and that is YOU. Finish the Divorce, get your custody and fight! You got this!
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:30 PM
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If you are fighting for 50/50 why would you expect to pay CS? I’m in CA, have 2 kids and right now she has all 100% custody and I pay 1,250/month. I will be motioning for 40-50% next month and I’m sure I’ll be paying way much less.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:17 PM
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Women are different creatures man. You will learn.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:09 PM
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Me too!
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:08 PM
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I’m in CA and was just divorced. It might be a long dance however get yourself right and figure out what you want in the divorce. When you get home remember, she is no longer your wife, she is an adversary and possible enemy if she tries to fight back on your divorce petition. My guess is she should be ready to settle due to her fucked up brain and heart of hers. Let your attorney hear everything you just mentioned to us and let them fight for everything you want. If it’s money or custody you fi…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:05 PM
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This can make anyone spiral if you allowed them to get a n this position. Im sorry and we are here for you. Get yourself together and stop being weak! If you need to get tested, paternity tested. Do it and she better comply. Lawyer up and start the divorce process.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 09:54 PM
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This is the way!
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 09:43 PM
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That is a good problem to have and most DD’s would like to be in your position. I’m close. I’m not living in my kids school district at this moment. I’m around. 15 min drive in OC, CA. However my office is literally 1 mile away from my kids place so right now I’m in a very good position to be active in their lives. Taking a lunch to take them to the park or get my boys haircuts, shopping etc. My goal is to keep renting until I’m ready to save up at least 3.5% down and buy a home (FHA) I share a …
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 09:36 PM
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You’re doing great! Where you’re at is probably where a lot of single men/dads want to feel and be at which at peace. I’m not there yet but I’m manifesting and praying daily to be there. I’ve been divorce for 4 months, but separated almost 2 years during that. I did have a girlfriend for 6 months, but I felt that I was putting her first instead of my 2 little ones. She was great with them and I cared for her a lot. I was going to move in with her, but she showed her true colors (drunken rage and…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 11:31 PM
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I’ll second that, dog parks are good (if you have one) to greet and ask about their dog.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 10:16 PM
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I’m gearing up to motion for 30% custody. Post divorce I had a bad living situation, now I’m good to go. If signed off by the judge, that should cut money out of my CS (I pay 1,250/mo). She also makes more money than at the moment. Also I play poker (low $40) tables just to see if I can make 2-3X my buy. I Door dash/Uber eats. I like it only because nobody is in my car and I get to listen to podcasts while I make some extra gas money/buy in money. I also love dipping in fantasy drafts ie draft k…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 09:54 PM
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No way. Men are weak to the flesh. I divorced my wife and we had a few sessions, then i started to feel the there might be a chance but women are snakes bro. F*ck me right? I got back on my path, rejecting her multiple times and now she “my ex wife” is going crazy. Texting me 10x day asking what im up to and expressing her emotions. Stay in your path, self control and sex control will make you a beast and then she will think in her f*cked up head why are you rejecting sex from her. She will thin…
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 01:00 AM
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I’m my DD it stated that i have to have insurance for my kids. After your divorce you have the power to remove her due to a “life changing circumstance” do it and make her pay for her own way.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 12:56 AM
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You’re doing great! Getting off the meds is huge! I understand the dating part, but you have to try to get yourself out there and stay confident. Not sure if you have kids, but don’t bring that up or bring them in. If you don’t have kids, the dating world is yours to conquer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 12:45 AM
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I second this. A lot of men are sad and being very emotional. We have to keep going and plowing through it. It’s tough but feel everything and when you’re feeling the pain, keep conquering the day and get better. I was that too NGL, but my faith in the Lord as he was the other person I could lean on going through my storm made me more calm and accepting that I put “EVERYTHING” in his hands and trusted him. Control your emotions and still be capable of love from other aspects of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 12:41 AM
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Fix your self brotha! Do it for you and do it for your kids. It might take months or years, but now you have the time to make it right with yourself and them. I’m divorced and finalized 2/24 and filed BK 4/19. Starting from the ground up and the most important thing is that I’m free. I have 2 kids ages 4/5 but my main focus is to be the best version of myself for me and them. We men have to move forward and keep living for a purpose. You have one. I feel you that you are heartbroken, but keep pu…
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 12:30 AM
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Women take NO accountability! Trust me. Even now my ex wife always try’s to talk to me with how “she feels”. We have 2 toddlers so yes I have to talk to her. Even when we have indifferences about our kids she still pulls that emotion card. If I did that I would plow her in the ground with what I feel, but I don’t do that. Women are different f*cking creatures. You have to understand that we men have to focus and stay of our journey no matter what happens in life. Good or bad you still have to pa…
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 12:07 AM
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I separated from my ex wife 4/2022 and rented a room with a person on Craigslist. Have 2 toddlers at the time 2 and 3 years old. Then she served me divorce papers 10/2022, sold my house and closed escrow 6/23 still living in my room going through everything, divorce finalized 2/024. After the proceeds she got 150k of it to take care of her CC’s that she racked up in her name only and all I got was 10k, but she has to pay our 2021 IRS debt of 180k. I filed for BK 4/19/2024 with 90k in debt and ha…
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 11:54 PM
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Harsh words. This is the storm! It will mold you or destroy you. Feel everything. Release if you have to. Nothing wrong with that. Cry it out and keep pushing as we Kings know how to. All these people responding to you been there and they will be still here. Lean on us. Walk with us and talk with us.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 11:25 PM
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F*ck the dating scene. No rush for that. Take it day by day. Make sure you keep working on yourself. You’re 40 man you have so much life to live. Be motivated to travel the world if you want. Remember that saying, “When you build it, they will come” or the Bible Genesis, God told Adam to tend to “his” garden. Keep doing you and focus. In due time brother, they will come….
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 11:19 PM
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Not the way King. Hold those feelings in a vault and keep living your best life. Be happy and be at peace.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 11:15 PM
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What’s the issue? You have a 3 year old. I did at separation with my now ex wife when my kids were 2 and 3. Life happened and I’m navigating through this post divorce with flying colors. However, why is the divorce discussed?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 11:09 PM
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Hell yeah! I however today was something i needed. I also will drink a few ultra’s and smoke some dab. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 11:02 PM
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Punching bag, shooting guns, screaming. Try to be positive and try to feel those feelings. You stay up King!
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:54 PM
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Nice work on 50/50. No the mother of my children is not gone and we do get along as co parents. I’m divorced and I will consider myself a single dad because I’m not a single man. I have 2 toddlers that I tend to still on the scheduled times for now. Not as much as I want to but hopefully that will change soon as a single dad with more custody.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:51 PM
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I’m into gym, yard/house work, and staying busy. If music therapy is what you need to realize, I’m all for it Brotha!!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:46 PM
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As a person that has been diagnosed with. Anxiety and Panic disorder, I do overthink it too. However my divorce was finalized earlier this year and these special days should be for them and for us coming up. Today I do not have my kids and this morning was tough. However as a man, you chose how you want to spend the day. I choose to relax in the CA sun, drink a couple of Ultras and smoke some dab and just know that my kids are with there mom and they’re happy. I’m happy and chilling at a distanc…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:43 PM
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Think about how you feel about her in regards to your life, your kids. Then think about how she makes you feel.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:13 PM
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Definitely get a planned schedule agreement that allows you to be with your toddler. Be consistent with that schedule and log your times so that eventually when you do start the divorce, you have a strong case possibly to get 50/50. What state?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:09 PM
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Yeah that’s the thing, in my divorce judgement, it that Dad will be doing a step up process in which now my living situation has improved now then before previously when the judgement was typed up. Meaning just having consistent visitation and taking them to my place on Sundays at that time in 2022-now.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:05 PM
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You think so? How? I guess so, it will be another mental challenge. You know women, they use their emotion reaction and not their logical/rational side.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:00 PM
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