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She gets what she deserves then. Doesn't matter whether hot or ugly. She chose to be with the guy despite being strung out, mooching off her, and cheating on her. Realistically she'd be a terrible girlfriend and mother given how much of a doormat she is. If she has kids, those kids will easily walk all over her, especially when dad is too busy hitting the fentanyl and making kids with some other chick.
/r/seduction01/10/22 08:04 PM
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That's actually wrong. The conservatives of today were the bad boys of yesterday. They simply grew up
/r/seduction01/10/22 07:54 PM
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Silver lining with the divorce is that you have room for a person who will prefer you healthy and disciplined. It's all about mindset. You're not boring, it's just that her mindset of fun is different from yours.
/r/seduction01/10/22 07:48 PM
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Kingdom of Ass
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:23 PM
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I mean from a gambling perspective that makes sense. Would you play a game where you win a bit but your odds of winning are higher than 70% or would you rather play the game where you win big but your odds are less than 30%? You can only play the other one if you lose the first choice. Realistically most guys end up winning the game where you have a 70% chance. You say settling but most guys say "cash out while you're still ahead".
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:11 PM
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It's hard for them, facing the reality. Just because they downvote you doesn't mean you're wrong.
/r/seduction02/09/22 06:17 AM
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I getcha mang. Some where, some time, when we were kids, we somehow picked up the message that we're nothing if we're not getting women/laid and then internalized that message. That message alone has created so many incels and unhappy dudes like you. It especially doesn't help that some dickheads still think that way in this sub to the point where they'll also shit on other dudes just because they're not getting any. the message of this sub, first and foremost, is that you have value, regardless…
/r/seduction30/08/22 08:18 PM
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yes. Easiest way to get a girlfriend is to show her your fortnite KD ratio.
/r/seduction30/08/22 08:13 PM
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It is a scam.
/r/seduction05/08/22 07:30 PM
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Dumb statement dude, here's an L
/r/seduction02/08/22 03:17 AM
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Alot of people usually lean towards being extroverted, just naturally outgoing, while others lean towards being introverted, naturally keeping to themselves. The people in between are called ambiverts.
/r/seduction11/06/22 12:38 AM
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Introverted and shy are two different things. You need to deal with the shyness, not being an introvert.
/r/seduction10/06/22 10:42 PM
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You mean an ambivert?
/r/seduction10/06/22 10:42 PM
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These girls got with you because they just wanted to get laid like you. In their eyes, this was just a mutual sex exchange with no strings attached. Perhaps some of them might've started getting feelings for you so they detached by going away. If a girl is looking something for longer term, that's when she'll be trying to learn more about you overall.
/r/seduction22/05/22 09:55 PM
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I just Actually remembered that from the 70s to 90s, alot of people would do the playboy/playgirl lifestyle when they're young and then become family people when they got older. Thing is, I don't know how viable that plan is anymore given modern dating and the modern lifestyles
/r/seduction19/05/22 03:03 AM
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No prob mah dude. The other guys aren't wrong. Every choice has a pros and cons to it. You just gotta think through which one is worth the pros and cons. Good luck m8
/r/seduction19/05/22 01:11 AM
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I guess I'll give a serious answer. Women will never fully trust you or look at you at being loyal if word of mouth spreads about you. You'll still get women but other women will warn those who don't know about you. The other consequence is mental. Becoming a great seducer puts you into a mentality that makes it hard to form a long lasting, intimate relationship with women. IMO not every guy can be a great seducer and not every guy can be the long term husband so it ultimately depends on what yo…
/r/seduction19/05/22 01:08 AM
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I mean I try to the fun guy, making jokes alot.
/r/seduction15/05/22 04:02 PM
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Idk, one day I'm fun, other days I'm boring. Depends on my mood.
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:59 PM
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Where and how would I learn how to set energy? I have autism which impaired a good amount of my social skills development
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:55 PM
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How am I not being myself?
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:53 PM
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I'm not trying to get laid though, trying to get something more long-term
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:51 PM
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What? Seriously? And I've been doing it by accidentally for all these years with dating?
/r/seduction14/05/22 10:09 PM
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This comment doesn't make sense to me. Women get lonely and also have to do their part to get into a relationship. For alot of people... if it's easy to get into a relationship, the challenge is maintaining it. If it's hard to get into a relationship, it's easy to maintain it.
/r/seduction12/05/22 07:12 PM
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I have aspergers/autism. I never would've learned this had I didn't read it from your comment.
/r/seduction09/05/22 12:43 AM
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What if you got a fun, interesting personality but not the fun, interesting life?
/r/seduction09/05/22 12:02 AM
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And of those poly societies, which ones are dominant in their countries and cultures? I didn't say the past wasn't polygamous but that monogamy is a better option for humans
/r/seduction01/05/22 10:40 PM
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Ok since my shallow arguments aren't good enough. Gonna pull out the big guns! Natural selection encourages BIGNESS. Males usually are BIG in terms of muscles in terms of evolving to fight off competing males OR BIG in terms of testicles in order to spread their seed more. Humans are neither big in terms of muscles or testicles. Chimps have much larger testicles than humans and gorillas are much more stronger than humans. As humans, we evolved BIG in terms of intelligence. Human babies are compl…
/r/seduction01/05/22 02:30 AM
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Then how do you explain monogamous species such as mourning doves? They always lay 2 eggs at a time, mate for life, and have a population over 500M?
/r/seduction30/04/22 11:30 PM
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The only problem with your explanation is polygamous cultures were defeated by monogamous cultures
/r/seduction30/04/22 09:58 PM
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That's how it is but YOU can choose to be more moral about it. PUA is just the set of tools for getting a person but it doesn't keep the person.
/r/seduction26/04/22 06:44 AM
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Tell them the girls in their 20s are perfectly grown adults with independent agency as well as you are a grown adult with agency
/r/seduction16/04/22 03:38 PM
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Well I can tell you that being a virgin wasn't a problem but her communication sure fucking sucks. She's talking shit that you can't pleasure a girl but sex is a two player game. Doesn't matter how experienced a guy is, if the girl isn't communicating what she's into then she can forget about having a nice experience with you. Ditto vice versa. I do want to add that she doesn't want to do it again, not because of your inexperience but because she doesn't want anything more long term (she just wa…
/r/seduction14/03/22 11:02 PM
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doesn't the same apply for guys as well?
/r/seduction13/03/22 09:12 PM
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Well it depends how you say it. You don't say "I don't like ugly, fat girls". It's better to say "I'm not attracted to unkempt, lazy girls".
/r/seduction12/03/22 08:44 PM
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Because there are a certain amount of women who will say things as not to sound/look shallow but they actually are shallow (in denial). It's like a dude who says he likes good women but then fucks around with "baddie" types and club/party girls. Tinder is all about skin mang. You'll see shallow behavior because Tinder is shallow to begin with. When playing a poker game where you're disadvantaged, you either get up from the table or rethink your strategies and try again. It's like the song goes, …
/r/seduction12/03/22 08:41 PM
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Well for starters, get rid of this idea that you're "making up for lost time". You were fighting mental disorder(s). Many things in life is a skill. Some men catch on very early about how to seduce women, likewise vice versa with women. You didn't necessarily lose anything, you had to make a priority to improve your mental health so that you can then start learning the skill of seduction. Realistically, if you tried to learn seduction as a depressed man, you aren't going to have a fun time at al…
/r/seduction12/03/22 08:15 PM
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Alot of girls want what they can't have at the same time that a guy with a woman is typically not behaving thirsty. They see a guy that's taken so they'll flirt because they have an excuse "no he's married/taken/etc" if they get called out about it so it's "safe" whether the girl is actually trying to steal the guy or not.
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:09 PM
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You're not wrong but when you're a guy at that similar age range and you want to have some dating/sex/relationship experience, you're gonna have to take the piss and deal with insecure girls until you meet a girl who has her shit together. Of course, the problem is you can't tell what girl looks like she has her shit together or not so you're just gonna have to deal with it and we deal with it by knowing TWO rulebooks: 1st rulebook is the PUA/Fuckboy Bible, getting the girl's attention and peaco…
/r/seduction01/03/22 07:25 PM
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I disagree OP. There are plenty of insecure guys out there with game and babes. Realistically, you get and maintain longer term successes if you overcome your insecurities but the reality is that ALL of us are insecure. When girls say to "be confident", they mean don't be awkward. You gotta learn how to interact with people smoothly. After getting that down, you just calmly ask if she wants to grab something to eat with you, a drink, or SOMETHING. Look at that, you just asked a girl out, now see…
/r/seduction25/02/22 12:32 AM
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That's really not how they look at it though. You say "risk rejection" but guys who are successful with women look at it like "hey this girl seems cool and we connect pretty well, let's do more" Looking at as "risking rejection" already puts you in a position where you'll likely fail because you're already overshooting something you and her don't have yet. Guys who are successful with women actually build things up. The more senior experienced guys know each step. I'm at that point where I want …
/r/seduction20/02/22 10:20 PM
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Not with that attitude boyo. If you legit want help. I'm going to tell you to get counseling with a relationship therapist.
/r/seduction20/02/22 08:21 PM
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Looking at what you post in. You're not doing enough. You just need some help though.
/r/seduction20/02/22 08:12 PM
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Were you just trying to get laid or actually foster human connections? The successful guys don't hope for sex or have it as the first motive. You live your life looking for connections and get sex as a bonus. There's more to life than sex.
/r/seduction20/02/22 08:02 PM
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But successful men aren't really doing anything special other than just liking themselves either without self doubt or whatever self doubt they have is too insignificant to affect them.
/r/seduction20/02/22 05:04 PM
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This can be a stretch but my theory is that "bad" guys don't bullshit themselves, they know they're trash but they don't try to be more or fake anything. Guys who aren't trash and know they aren't trash don't understand this at first so they overthink and/or do too much, act like someone they're not, etc because they want the girl they like. The issue with the "good" guy is that he knows that he's better and can do better, so he puts himself at a disadvantage by putting too much pressure on hims…
/r/seduction15/02/22 07:09 PM
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Yes. Not exactly fit but just going from obese to overweight ("masculine thiccness") got me alot more attention from girls.l, now I'm just thinking how much attention I'd get if I got fit!!
/r/seduction27/01/22 02:18 AM
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By confidence, u mean how much you believe in your own abilities or your opinion of yourself?
/r/seduction13/01/22 12:18 AM
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Depends why you're crying. If your (grand)parent recently passed away, you cry, and she loses all respect and attraction for you, then she's straight up a bitch and a psycho. If you're crying over a situation that you do have control over such as a stressful job, then yea she'll lose respect and attraction for you. In that regard, cry in private or to family, not to your girl. If you want the best way, cry to a therapist. Their job is to help you sort shit out in life and sometimes life throws s…
/r/seduction12/01/22 05:35 PM
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Yes it's possible but there's a problem. If the relationship isn't healthy, your self esteem won't change; if the relationship is a negative, then your self-esteem will become even worse. Remember, your self esteem is your opinion of yourself. If you need a popular guy just to change your opinion of yourself, then it can revert back to how it was. Having low self-esteem, especially as a woman, puts you in a very vulnerable position as abusers can take advantage of your low self-esteem. Yes, your…
/r/seduction07/01/22 11:43 PM
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Probably This. Doesn't every guy have their own way of flirting anyway?
/r/seduction07/01/22 05:45 PM
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My biggest issue is just losing weight and financial situation. I never feel like I can really be myself because of my weight. The first thing my mind would jump to when I go out and meet women is if they see how fat I am. Out of the anxiety and nervousness, I'd just make jokes, even to the point where you can tell that I'm trying too hard. After losing half of the weight and at least getting some confidence, I noticed women were giving me alot more attention than they previously did. Although I…
/r/seduction07/01/22 05:40 PM
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IIRC, being goofy hurts more than it helps doesn't it? Or does it just depend on how serious the girl is?
/r/seduction22/12/21 04:07 AM
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how about "it's cuz they got good taste" or is it too complimenty?
/r/seduction22/12/21 03:54 AM
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so what do you do if you can't really see the signs of interest? Also for the last part, wouldn't the girl just assume the passivity is a sign of rejection, making her attraction decline?
/r/seduction21/12/21 05:48 PM
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you forgot to mention that it doesn't take too long. In just 5 years, you became a completely different person. A WIP but one that's worth it.
/r/seduction31/10/21 01:23 AM
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Yet there are many men who are virgins older than 25 and they gave it away at an older age. Socially unacceptable yet they're able to do it. What's your excuse(s)?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:52 PM
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How is it too old to be a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:20 PM
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That's not the point, the point is that if you have the qualities listed, don't be surprised if a guy is 25+ and still a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 02:51 PM
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"25 is way too old to be a virgin as a male" Unless you're fat, socially awkward, suffering from depression or anxiety, have low self esteem, religious, physically disabled, or a combination of all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:32 AM
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I legit prefer monogamy. Decent sex with a single girl I enjoy hanging out with is many times better than having ok sex with a bunch of hot women. A hot girl doesn't automatically make for good sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 02:30 AM
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"I already have a boyfriend, thank you though" "you're good looking but you're just not my type" Realistically, be polite and honest. If the dude isn't your type, just say so and explain. If it's because of his weight, be honest and tell him it's because of his weight. It may hurt but he'll be better off in the long run. The issue isn't rejection itself, the problem is when we get rejected but don't know why which sometimes causes us to overthink that it's something wrong with us when it's just …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 09:10 PM
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idk about you but if being single AND being a breadwinner is gonna make me pay the same amount in taxes (assuming I keep the same job, position, and pay) then I'd definitely be encouraging my wife to work, even if it's a minimum wage job just to file jointly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 01:28 AM
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Wrong, it's taxes. USA taxes sole breadwinners the same amount as single people while jointly filers get tax benefits, meaning both parents have to be earning an income
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:29 PM
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"Slim thicc" look, it just looks unnatural
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:27 PM
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A mask of validation, next
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:55 AM
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But is it worth the consequences?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 07:50 PM
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Idk what definition of catcalling you got but that's not what I've seen
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:00 AM
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Would've been nice if you explained that earlier instead of making me create assumptions of how they act...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:59 PM
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I guess another factor might be poor socialization between the sexes. These guys might've liked you back but had no idea how to approach/talk to you at first glance so they went with the catcalling.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:49 PM
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But again, they know that you're gonna reject that which will reduce hurting their confidence as well as self esteem. Rejection, especially when it's unknown why, will always hit someone's self esteem. People say don't take rejection personally but it's difficult to do that if you've mostly had unexplained rejections and little-to-no success. Like I said, being rejected for being an asshole stings alot less compared to if the guy was being himself. Most guys get rejected often so imagine how bad…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:27 PM
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Well ironically your insult and denigrating of them is the reason why. They'd rather be rejected acting fake than rejected being themselves. The same for alot of women which is why alot of women seem to act bitchy at first when I tell them I like them. Everybody's got insecurities and making fun of them won't make those insecurities go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:44 PM
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Explain for the knuckle headed please.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:38 PM
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Men catcall as a way to hit on women while also bracing against rejection because men who catcall know they're being dickwads and it's easier to take rejection knowing you were intentionally being a dickwad compared to just being yourself and still taking rejection for unknown reasons. Basically, catcalling produces a "behavioral shield" against rejection while allowing the guy to make his interest known.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:37 PM
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Define "looking" like a fkboy/douchey?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 05:35 AM
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As a guy who has been told that he's good looking while also not having much dates, this is painful to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 04:16 AM
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Clubbing is a hobby though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 03:51 PM
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Is there really a person that has absolutely no hobbies? I doubt any person exists
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:11 AM
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There are studies regarding what kind of men women find attractive during different parts of her period. They use the word alpha/chad for this archetypal man that women find attractive especially during peak fertility. the alpha-beta thing is unproven bullshit. You say there are these studies but at the same time, there are women married + having kids with guys who don't fit the alpha "look" and most of those women aren't ugly either. Not to mention that I'm willing to bet money that having kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 09:27 PM
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Nah, most of them aren't even true. The whole alpha-beta thing is complete bullshit stole from evolutionary biology. In the actual fucking animal kingdom, a beta is any male that supports and/or can replace the alpha... In the Chimpanzee world, the beta males are the alpha's supporters. If you lose those supporters, you're no longer the alpha, plain and simple. The whole alpha/beta thing does not and cannot apply to humans anymore due to how we've proven that a republic/distributed power system …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 08:23 PM
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To be exact, this is called being a "people pleaser"
/r/seduction16/10/21 04:04 PM
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Problem is what if you got Autism?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 04:55 PM
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Unwanted attention? Jealous/envious asshats? Expectation that you get plenty of women even if you have little-to-no game? Expectation that you just want to fuck around when you want a committed relationship? Expectation that you're a conceited dickwad when you're probably a very nice guy? Girls using you for validation?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 05:11 AM
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Your stuff, how you're feeling, thinking, etc, what else?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 12:19 AM
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You sure there's no downsides? Think harder
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 10:53 PM
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For the men in China, yea probably. Men in the West, especially on this subreddit, They're not "locked out". You need these 3-4 things if yoy want success in the dating market of today: Financial stability (make at least $60K/y). Be reasonably fit. You don't need muscles. Most women like a man who's reasonably fit and lean (<20% body fat) with a flat stomach. Be socially adjusted, have decent social skills. Have a partner mentality, know how and when to share and only share because you want to. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 07:59 PM
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This kinda doesn't make sense given that there's more women than men in the western countries, even if you adjust
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 07:30 PM
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There's pressure not to divorce only if the couple already have kids. Any idiot knows that it's easier to divorce if there are no kids involved because otherwise the divorce is going to seriously mentally harm the kids. Also, why would you think arranged marriages have dead bedrooms when the Middle East has a higher birth rate? No bullshit there's likely a good amount with dead bedrooms but the majority of them doesn't seem like it. Sex for procreation? Perhaps but that's alot of sex when you th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:13 PM
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They're supposedly nightmares yet they still do it outside the Middle East and it's a system that's worked for well over 4,000 years. You put a man and a woman together and they eventually fall in love. Despite the bullshit peddled in the West, Middle Eastern isn't forced or "random". Most couples know each and are given a chance to know each other before they're engaged. Many couples also use the engagement period as well as honeymoon to know each other further. As a rule of thumb, it's best no…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:46 PM
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That first statement is very dumb. HRs job is first and foremost to the company. The unattractive nerd with a degree will win over the attractive guy without one unless the attractive guy has experience. If they both have experience, the one with the higher years of experience wins out and typically the degree has the stronger weight. You're a red piller, what do you know about success? who are the successful people in life? The ones who are educated with a degree or come from educated parents..…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:21 PM
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Middle Eastern marriages prove that very wrong lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:12 PM
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Wrong. Even in a job where a degree doesn't matter, if the company has two qualified candidates and they're pretty much level, the one with the degree will be chosen.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:10 PM
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Attractiveness should be seen like a college degree. It carries alot of weight but isn't required
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:55 PM
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Why auto mod?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:28 PM
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Nah, it's from shitty people and you don't need a specific set of genitals to be a PoS (and that doesn't mean point of sale).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:33 PM
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Assyrian empire, Greek/Macedonian Empire, Roman Empire, Mesopotamian-Persian civilization, China, Mongol Empire, France, England, Russia. You know enough history but did you learn its lessons?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:03 AM
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I disagree. Men and Women need each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:56 AM
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but that's where the 2nd in command concept comes in. God forbid anything that happens to your husband, you gotta be mama bear and protect the cubs. Or in a less drastic, more financial situation such as your husband losing his job, while he looks for work, you gotta either up your current job or find one to help pay for bills or reduce money spent if you guys have alot saved up to keep afloat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:25 AM
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But that's the thing. You can't expect your husband to be 100% confident and 100% be there all the time. My family raised me on the idea that my wife should be a "2nd in command". In Mediterranean culture, the man is the head of the household but the woman is the neck of the head. (~quote is from "My Big Fat Greek Wedding")
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:04 AM
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According to how most civilizations and empires rise and fall, that saying is completely fucking wrong. Good times mostly lead to better men, dafuq you redpillers talking about? Immigrants are running from shit countries for ones that already have good times
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:24 PM
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For starters, needing a man to be their rock. Basically that tells me that if something happens to their husband like sickness/killed, they can't manage without him but the same American women will talk about "needy" men?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:22 PM
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That's sad though, I have the privilege of having a family of strong men and women and seeing how the average American man and woman acts is just depressing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:17 PM
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So basically, most American women are weak? That's what I just read from this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:06 PM
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That's not a nice guy, that's a "people-pleaser" and I know a therapist who actually specializes in helping treat men who are like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:46 PM
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And for kind of women who bullshit, all it takes is simply comparing their actions to their words.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:18 PM
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Regular nice guys are also considered unattractive, explain that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:12 PM
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Because that loud obnoxious person has "confidence"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:11 PM
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Because it's hilarious how red pillers basically take shit from sociology, evolutionary biology, and try to twist and blend that shit to fit their ancedotal experience with shitty women so they try to bullshit themselves and others. Red pill is basically astrology for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 07:34 PM
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That's still part of reputation. It's basically like when a wingman hypes you up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:23 PM
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Lol, I love how Redtard Pillers call this "pre-selection". It's called reputation dumbasses. And reputation doesn't just work on women, it works in alot of facets of society like getting a job easier (ie connections) and even finding a gf through mutual friends
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:04 PM
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That makes no sense given that sex and a healthy sexual relationship is a basically a requirement in a healthy marriage. Not to mention that times have. Since women can easily get a job now, financial stability and security is a moot point unless she's piss poor ghetto/redneck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:14 PM
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Lemme answer that question with a question as well. If she never desired me, why did she agree to marry me? Because she decided to settle? She's an idiot and a loser then. I'd be telling her off if she starfishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:00 PM
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So you're telling me that Left guy can't, at least once in a while, be a bad boy for his wife and give her hawt, exciting sex because she'll never see him that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:46 PM
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I'm not bitching dude. I don't have problems meeting women. I just let my personality, mentality, and charm do what it do. I'm just saying that there are certain things that can stop/ruin your chances of having successful relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:29 PM
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After giving the 1st part more thought... Most guys won't do it but what guys are you dating? In my experience, alot of women I've met either had ridiculously high or ridiculously low standards when it came to expectations in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:19 PM
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Idk about the first part but the second part makes sense because relationships go through phases. IIRC, alot of women cheat and destroy their marriages because their 1st guy didn't do as much like at the beginning so they met another guy who did but then 2nd husband becomes boring and cycle repeats. I call it the New Car Smell phenomenon where a person "drugs" themselves with the high of having something or someone new and the high dies down which creates a cycle in order to keep up that high.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:12 PM
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Ima be legit, what's actually stopping the guy on the Left from giving his wife great sex? For some reason, being loving and caring somehow equates to mediocre-ok sex. Nothing is stopping the Left guy from giving his wife sex as good as Right guy except himself and his wife putting up with it and being silent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:07 PM
3

5'10 @ 200lbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:48 PM
2

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:11 PM
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Easy, you live your life with her. Travel with her. Assure her things are going to be ok when she's having a shitty day. Be a real sex machine for her. Encourage her to do more hobbies she's interested in. Build a family with her. Randomly order her flowers while she's at work so her bitchy, gossiping coworkers can writhe in envy. It's really damn easy to be a boyfriend/husband. The question is whether the guy has decided if the effort is worth it or not
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:11 PM
1

What if Left isn't just more talented and skilled but also has a better looking ass than Right? Right would only exist in my world to be secretary and HR in my startup.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:05 PM
1

For a week, you can post (almost) anything that's normally against the rules
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:54 PM
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It's easy unless you have any combination of bad social skills, anxiety, depression, major insecurities, or intimacy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:53 PM
10

Being desired to like being a sexual person is not the same as being "entitled to sex". I'm gonna be petty by also misinterpreting your words by saying you're not entitled to a good man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:51 PM
0

Yes, a meme... that's why they're still a thing right? The whole point of therapy is to help you solve your internal mental problems. If you can do that yourself, fucking great but not everybody is you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:09 AM
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Overall I agree with your statement OP, taking breaks from here has improved my mental health
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:21 AM
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I'd suggest everybody see a relationship therapist, even if you're single.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:19 AM
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A good question from a fellow man: a girl I like finds me attractive in every way except sexual and she has decided not to pursue a relationship with me because I don't make her vagina tingle. The question is why not just friendzone her back and some find some other girl? She ain't the only girl now is she? Think about it smooth brains, if she thinks you're attractive except physical and she rejects you because of the physical aspect, then it's obvious that she just wants to fuck. One woman I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:58 PM
1

Appreciate it deste
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 12:47 AM
1

I find limiting my time on this subr actually improved mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:34 PM
3

That just makes it more hot
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:31 PM
1

The pain is one that can't be seen
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:30 PM
2

If a girl was to ask me this in front of my face, my answer would be: I want a woman who can love and care about me, pushes me to be a better man such in so that I push her to become a better woman, a woman that I can trust and depend on exactly as how she'd trust and depend on me, a woman who has at least somewhat similar goals as me with life as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:28 PM
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Thought this was r/socialskills for a second
/r/seduction02/10/21 05:27 PM
1

Almost 70% of the USA is overweight with 40% being obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 03:55 AM
1

That's kinda what I already do, I just let the girl vent and ignore it unless it's a legit issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 02:35 PM
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So ignoring it isn't actually "weak". It's just how you deflect it, that's what you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 06:44 AM
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Is that it? how come ignoring drama/tantrums always gets a guy labeled as being "weak" then?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 11:03 PM
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All of that sounds like settling anyway. Can't have the guy to yourself? Settle by sharing him which means you never get his full attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:13 PM
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Yea, I already know. I've been in that situation and I'm always in that first situation at my birthdays.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:38 PM
1

Introvert - someone who is introspective, typically a quiet, reserved person. Famous introverts include Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, JK Rowling, Meryl Streep, Warren Buffet, Mark Zuckerberg, Steven Spielberg, Al Gore, Larry Page, Hillary Clinton, Barack Obama, Steve Wozniak.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 11:14 PM
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What's YOUR definition of introvert and extrovert?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 09:22 PM
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no, you went from shy introvert to confident introvert. You can't change from "introvert" to "extrovert" without a brain transplant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 09:06 PM
1

most "short ugly" introverts I've seen were because they were just fat. The fat made them look ugly and, as soon as they slimmed down, they were pretty decent looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 07:43 PM
1

yet it's a very observable behavior in humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 07:38 PM
1

So you went from depressed introvert to introvert with social skills? Being an introvert doesn't mean you can't talk to anyone...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 07:37 PM
1

Realistically, women don't dislike introverts. I'm a heavily introverted guy and I noticed that I don't really get far with women until they get to know me (for whatever reason/circumstance). I don't approach women unless I have a good reason to do so that doesn't feel forced (i.e. being introduced, circumstance-meeting, she approached me, etc.) For me, approaching women out of nowhere and on the spot has always backfired for me so I stopped doing that. My experience has been that you're more li…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 07:27 PM
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That's impossible, you can't change from being an introvert to an extrovert unless you got a brain transplant. If you actually were an introvert, then you simply became an outgoing introvert. You can't change introversion/extroversion, it's hard wired.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 05:40 PM
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I think buddy boi here is confused what introvert means.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 05:39 PM
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Because introversion and extroversion are personality traits. You can't change one into the other. There is no "male expectation" to be extroverted. American/Western Culture conditions women to never ask out a guy but let the guy ask them out. A cultural system that naturally favors extroverts. Even worse if you're a guy with depression, anxiety, or any mental attributes that get in the way of socializing and being confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:44 PM
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nice cap
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 06:05 PM
1

You want to socially connect with girls? Here's a life hack for that: Work at a retail store that's marketed to women! Work at a place like a furniture/home store, makeup shop, shoe store, hell maybe even work at Victoria's Secret. Here's another life hack: Go to a strip club/titty bar and simply talk to the girls there. This is called Exposure technique. The goal here is to go and simply talk and vibe with the girls there. Don't pay for dances or anything, just have a conversation. Look up vide…
/r/seduction27/08/21 04:23 PM
1

Not to nitpick but there's no such thing as "too autistic". Autism is a development disorder where your brain is unable to build social skills so it compensates by having you learn about things that happen to interest you. You become super smart but barely matters because you won't be able to pickup hints unless you have the kind of autism that wears off in adulthood but that means you have to take more effort to learn social skills almost from scratch.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 04:32 PM
2

older women get less attention because most men their age, even the ""losers"" by that age, have learned not to get all mushy gushy over a cute face.
/r/seduction24/08/21 07:53 PM
2

It's not about not going to parties, it's knowing how to have fun with responsibility and self care. If you think that's boring then your idea of fun is skewed af.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 03:58 AM
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Easy, it's cuz they're not boring. Being wife material doesn't mean you sacrifice your personality
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 03:56 AM
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Wrong. Emotionally unavailable women are not wife material and, if you have kids with her, she'll damage them hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 07:51 PM
1

Then she was never wife material. You can only fake wife materialness for so long.q
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 07:23 PM
4

I don't mind some but too many is a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 04:51 PM
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Personal list for me: doesn't smoke isn't dating to just "have a good time" because she's just wasting time then doesn't get blackout drunk at parties has at LEAST a high school diploma (GED is a yellow flag) doesn't have too many tattoos doesn't play hot and cold would like kids (one day) doesn't have a friend group where more than 30% of them are toxic doesn't try to compete with me (can't build a relationship with someone who wants to compete against you) doesn't get insecure or jealous from …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 02:27 AM
1

the red pill is just the blue pill with red food coloring.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 06:46 PM
0

We all know he's not, it's just the success energy getting to his head. It always happens when a dude successfully gives his virginity this way.
/r/seduction18/08/21 09:02 PM
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Well damn dude, he just wants to share his success...
/r/seduction18/08/21 07:16 PM
1

another question is, why is there no "middle" quality? For some reason, TRP seems to put "average" at "low quality" when, average is average, you're as good as ALOT of people and alot of people are doing well in life. If that many people are doing good in life, that's NOT low quality then now is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:14 PM
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He has to have this list: A decent stable job, at least enough to support her and the kids (if they want kids). I don't mind if he has a trade job, as long as it's stable. Loyal, family oriented. Isn't afraid to ask for help. Doesn't have a big mouth. Doesn't flap his gums about something he has no idea about and, instead of talking, asks questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:57 PM
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actually you're half right and I half agree with you. Humans in general heavily lean towards monogamous and our evolutionary design proves it. Evolution in a nutshell favors BIG. Big muscles in gorillas and lions so they can enforce their territory and protect their harems. Big balls in Bonobos and Chimps so they can have as much sex and offspring as they can. Compared to these animals, humans don't have big muscles or big balls. Another piece of evidence is that polygamous/polygynous species ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 08:05 PM
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Realistically, there's no such thing as "traditional" gender roles because gender roles are constantly changing. The only thing constant is that every culture has gender roles. It's extremely obvious that men and women are different. Mentally, there are aspects where we can be considered the same but we're mostly different. Gender Roles (as well as gender-based double standards) were invented to smooth out the differences between men and women. If a woman has to cook, clean the house, and watch …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 06:46 PM
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they tell you. Most women don't though. If you do then I applaud you. desist when we say no. Most guys do stop after a stern no. Idk about catcalling because I don't do that. My point is that there are guys who do creepy things by accident when trying to interact with women. How would you even suggest a guy go about trying to interact with women when he doesn't have much clue what to do outside of what he saw from movies and tv shows
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:34 PM
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the problem with that logic is how do you know when you're crossing someone's boundaries? In old days, crossing a boundary was a slap. For alot of guys today, they wouldn't know if they crossed a boundary unless a girl made it super obvious and/or chastized him right then and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 05:26 PM
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that last paragraph though. Wow. It sucks that she was cheated on and how much it hurt her but for her to go and suggest others do the same and make other people feel hurt makes her just as bad as a cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 01:19 AM
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accused of being gay in a day and age where you can be openly gay af and nobody really gives a shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 09:26 PM
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I think the alpha/beta thing, especially applying it to humans, is not only incorrect but cringe as well. In terms of evolutionary biology, an alpha is nothing more than "the animal in charge". Best to think of alphas as dictators. They get replaced by opportunistic betas whenever possible. Betas are the figurative backbone of the alpha animal, without their betas, the alpha isn't an alpha. When an alpha is removed, it's always a beta who replaces them. Alphas get the most food and opposite sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 08:39 PM
1

According to your negative head, it's the truth but it's not the objective reality
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 07:58 PM
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Your negativity isn't helping either
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:36 PM
2

I know ugly, broke dudes who have gotten laid at least once. What's your excuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:24 PM
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Yes they do, they got personality and social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:18 PM
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It's called not learning. Failing 300 times means it's time to change up your strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 03:43 PM
1

And yet ugly guys get beautiful women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 03:42 PM
1

So you were able to keep count asking out almost 300 women and weren't able to get a single date? A good question I have is what did your friends and family say when you ask them about yourself? I remember when I asked my friend to give a brutally honest crticism of me. He told me that I slouched too much and I needed to work on my fashion. Then be told me to work on my social skills, have a healthy amount of confidence, and that I was very shy + timid.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 06:08 AM
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I pledge allegiance to the flag of The United States of Amer-thicc-a.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:13 AM
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This whole model is bullshit. It only takes one year of purposeful dating to become as experienced as people who have been dating their whole life. There are alot of guys late 20s and early 30s who've gotten their shit together and got relationships. Realistically it depends on what's holding you back. Sometimes it's social skills which you need to build, learn how to flirt, etc and work on them. Sometimes it's mental shit like anxiety, depression, low self esteem. You NEED to get help to deal w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:09 AM
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Both, in fact, I'll buy your entire stock! ahaha but my final, serious answer is Both. Both is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 04:44 PM
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Don't wanna hate on OP but it's just a little hard to believe.
/r/seduction04/07/21 11:55 PM
0

I'm a dude and I just want to say, there's no such as an "extremely" average face, you're either average or not and there's nothing wrong with being average.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 10:09 PM
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Women don't have that large of an advantage. It's a trade off. Women who make the effort to appear attractive will get more attention at the tradeoff that she won't always get the attention she wants. When you're being approached, you give up control in who approaches you by giving others the power in choosing you. As the "approachee" or employer, you have to filter out people. Basically, it feels very similar to a job interview. The individual woman has to filter people out based on whatever cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 10:03 PM
1

my physical preference is plus-sized girls (I don't mind thinner but I prefer plus-sized) but where I draw the line is obesity or if the belly is bigger than the butt and boobs. Looking anorexic. Smoker's skin. Missing teeth/meth mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 09:34 PM
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Easy, Low self esteem. They internally believe they're garbage and don't deserve decent treatment so they gravitates towards people who mistreat them. The problem with it is that it seriously leaves alot of open room for long-term abuse. Then there's the tarded girls who tolerate shitty behavior because their guy is physically attractive, rich, etc., which in turn encourages the guy to act like a bigger piece of shit because they start to think being that way is what attracts the girl... OR they…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 09:27 PM
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I guess I'll be realistic by pointing that being promiscuous in and of itself doesn't mean the woman has low self esteem. You don't need a low or high level of self esteem to get sex as a woman (unless the guy has a moral code that involves not sleeping with women that have a poor self image) The reason why promiscuous women have a stereotype of having low self esteem is because alot of women, who happen to have low self esteem, try to use sex to make a guy either commit to her or stay committed…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:42 PM
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Oh look, another ignoramus using the incorrect popular culture meaning of "survival of the fittest". Survival of the Fittest means the animal/organism that is best adapted to its environment will be the one that will likely reproduce and continue the species... In short, If you know how to survive in your current environment, you're biologically good enough to reproduce. So the actual term should be "survival of the good enough". You're also forgetting that there's Natural Selection, which is wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:58 PM
1

But winning the lottery will definitely get you laid with some gold digger so win-win.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:25 PM
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That's not the point... The point is we live in a society and culture where successful dating requires being social and having those social skills. Anything that can disrupt or block that from happening ruins it. Given that anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, etc are outside one's control, it's utterly retarded to stigmatize people for not doing an act by a certain age. It's like stigmatizing a handicap guy because he's never danced before. A guy who is having issues with himself is not going …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:24 PM
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It's stigmatized because people will think you're a weirdo who puts people off. If you're clearly a normal guy who has little-to-no trouble being social, having friends, holding down a job, etc. then there's legit nothing wrong with being a virgin, you just tell people you didn't meet the right person yet. You and so many other pill-heads are making this is a bigger deal than it really is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:15 PM
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Yes but how do you become competent? You practice, which means being incompetent at first...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:11 PM
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But given the law of red pill, a woman hitting the wall in her thirties and forties means she can't be as picky with her partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:09 PM
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Reminds me of jobs where the entry level requires experience but you can't get the experience without the job lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:04 AM
1

or improve to get better cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:01 AM
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the "why?" is understandable but again it's easy to see why the dude is a virgin if he had untreated anxiety, low self esteem, depression, etc. If you don't understand any of these mental health issues, then be quiet and go research into them. Secondly, I never mentioned being socially awkward, I said social anxiety. Anxiety and Awkwardness are two separate things. In the context of social awkwardness though, since you conveniently brought that up for me, social awkwardness is a simple case of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:54 AM
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and this is where you and 95% of society are wrong. 5% of virgins are because they're weirdos that nobody wanted. Most older virgins are completely normal guys, their issue is because they have some type of anxiety, depression, or other mental block that has caused them to either avoid, ruin, or reject relationships. A guy who is a virgin due to social anxiety. Might've had a good handful of girls that had a crush on him. His avoidant behavior from said social anxiety made all the girls think he…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:32 AM
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If it's any compromise, I'm of the opinion that older male virgins should at least educate themselves on sex, especially on foreplay and positioning, learning how to listen, etc. If a woman likes porn-like sex then she better communicate that to the guy. Sex isn't what a guy does to a girl, sex is a two-player, coop game. If you're not or can't communicate your needs, you either picked the wrong partner or you have personal issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:26 AM
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gotta start somewhere. Many times the first car is a hunk of junk.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:17 AM
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Easy, anxiety, trauma, or some type of mental block. No male role model to teach them about game. Bad experience with shitty women. There are a million and one reasons why any guy can be a virgin. Being a virgin doesn't matter unless it actually bothers you. Not only that, for any dude that is a virgin, the least he can do is go read up and learn how to actually sex. Read up online or books about foreplay, positions, all that shit. I don't really give a shit if a girl or guy is a virgin but if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:16 AM
1

That reminds me, what about those "virgin-hunter" women?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 03:58 AM
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Are you sure they don't know how to properly do it or they don't care to do it properly? Men are physically hardwired to "listen" to their sexual partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 03:57 AM
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why would it be shameful? Even the dumbest fuck of animals knows how to put its dick in a female.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 03:30 AM
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I mean, it's pretty much a deficit. If you as a man are failing at social skills, flirting skills, you don't have "game", can't sexually escalate, etc., are shy/awkward, etc..its basically you failing at being a man. Dumbest thing I've read. Failure is part of being a man. You gotta fail in order to learn and become better. Social skills, flirting skills, and "game", you gotta learn/practice that. Not to mention that no two guys will have the same exact game, you have to find the style of flirti…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 03:23 AM
3

Realistically, society won't collapse. It'll just go into a gradual decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 06:30 PM
2

That's not fat, that's thicc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:43 PM
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I agree. It's fear. Women are raised that they're approached so they don’t develop the courage to approach themselves and the lack of practice keeps them on this. Same exact reason how alot of guys that are scared of rejection themselves continue that way because they didn't get much practice to remove that fear. That fear is ultimately via anxiety and there's different ways to remove that anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:42 PM
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so what I've compiled from alot of the answers (from the girls and not the guys whom shouldn't be answering...) The ideal body type is lean with the acceptable body fat range between 13% to 20%. must not have man boobs or a gut. Body builder look is considered disgusting/excessive, basically don't be overly muscular (overly visible muscle definition).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:13 PM
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that's with alcohol though. Also, did you miss the part where I said to make sex work legal? Realistically, if you ban porn but make sex work legal, what incentive would there be for a guy to stay home to watch porn when he can go experience actual sex without getting arrested, whenever he wants?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 06:00 AM
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Imo, porn should be banned or at least make it illegal to produce and sell porn with whatever porn left on the internet being left alone. I'd rather sex work become legal instead, at least it'll get these addicts with a real life woman and interacting
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 12:15 AM
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in that case, the only person I can think of who fits your definition of "Alpha" would be Arnold Schwarzenegger back when we was governor of California. Even then, he was physically strong, aggressive, and a leader of the public (you didn't mention being leader of the public in your definition btw).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 12:31 AM
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We're not wolves, we're primates...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 11:06 PM
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leader is a job... You're not really making much sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 10:46 PM
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the only ones I can think of are police chiefs and criminal gang leaders.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 09:49 PM
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so a Fire Fighter Captain or Military Officer? Most leaders in the world are usually elderly and not much physically powerful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 06:35 PM
2

still didn't answer the question, what is an "alpha" to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 06:26 PM
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Yes because taking down a mammoth simply required throwing spears, no real strategy like gaiting it and attacking blind spots which requires coordination because you need to keep it occupied with spears in its face so that your guy can get a stab under the belly. Rinse and repeat until it drops, enjoy BBQ later. Given this level of coordination combined with our brain power, why would a bunch of guys risk their life to follow some jackass who's banging the women they wanted? They're not, they're…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 06:24 PM
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Well a good question I should ask is how do you define "alpha"? Different people define "alpha" in differently ways. To an "average" American, being "alpha" is just knowing how to get with women, nothing more, nothing less. To some other Americans, being "alpha" is being wealthy, physically fit, and having women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 06:14 PM
1

I don't believe this really isn't a gender thing, it's a culture thing. Many non-Western cultures have no issue with men having some\* feminine qualities as long as they have masculine ones. A good example is Middle Eastern culture. You can be more macho than Rambo and still kiss your dad, brother, or uncle on the head and nobody would think of you as less of a man. Another example from Middle Eastern culture is that, regardless of gender, you always kiss close relatives on the cheek when greeti…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 02:20 AM
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Huh, this is a pretty interesting take on the whole TRP thing. I'm what you might consider a "purple pill" guy. Personally, the only parts I follow concerning TRP is with the self improvement. Shit like work out, make money, focus on your hobbies & things you love, learn to stand up for yourself, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 12:04 AM
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It really isn't though. There are alot of people with high self esteem & shit personality as well as low self esteem & good personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 06:50 PM
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Do I need to point to post-WW2 USSR? After losing legit MILLIONS of men? USSR lost almost 10M soldiers and 14M civilians from WW2, the result? A taxing welfare system in order to support the widows and their children that would eventually bankrupt the USSR into giving up socialism. No Baby Boom and thus little actual "boomers" in the former USSR. The Soviets practically "Sovyeeted" their post-WW2 generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 07:40 PM
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TLDR. The idea of men being disposable is utterly ridiculous. If you have a society where there's a large population gap between men and women with women being the larger population, then that means each man has to work many times more in order to maintain the upkeep of that society. Each man has to work harder to make sure the women and children are fed, watered, safe, etc. Losing additional men in that society, especially men with experience and wisdom, is a greater loss than one who didn't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 06:04 PM
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But that's not the society we live in any more. We live in a society where a variety of factors such as feminism, technology, delusional idealogy from both sides of the political spectrum and other things have caused most women to believe that they are entitled to the very best and that they won't settle. Arguably though, from my overall perception in modern American society, it seems there's a significantly large minority of young, entitled people. Both for men and women. What I do know is that…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 05:19 PM
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and that's the part that weird me out. Natural Selection's motto is "survival of the fittest" - fittest meaning most adapted to their environment which means that if you're good enough to survive, you're good enough to procreate. My hypothesis with this situation that Government Assistance and other social programs are allowing such a phenomena to happen. Most "beta" men (I don't believe in the alpha-beta stuff) are usually good, mostly healthy, moral men with stable careers or have their own bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 07:28 PM
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I'm sorry but that just doesn't make any sense to me. It's genetic suicide to think like that when there are alot of men that are perfectly compatible with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 06:56 PM
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Because in today's world, if women don't have to be with a beta man, most of them don't want to. Most seem to get with a beta man in order to start a stable family. Up until then, they will happily date around and have casual fun. Also it's middle/upper middle class women who get with the beta men. Lower class women just sleep around and will have kids with the hottest alpha man they can (then often raise the kids as a single mum). In the lower classes of society, I think we still see a minority…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 06:50 PM
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That's practically suicide from a genetic perspective though. Women, just as men do, have to spread their genes as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 07:28 PM
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True, look at Commodus who had a dad like Marcus Aurelius.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 07:26 PM
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Or maybe I actually do know what I'm talking about but I didn't coherently organize all that information into something digestible for your smooth brain?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:14 PM
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oh nice, appeal to authority fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:06 PM
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Hypergamy or insanity? History has already proven that people who use an all or nothing strategy usually result with nothing...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 05:32 AM
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Good point
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 05:14 AM
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no but if someone's gonna insult me, I'd rather be insulted with a good explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:25 AM
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The last part doesn't make any sense. What sane woman would weed out 80% of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:24 AM
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namely the ancient, classical, and medieval periods.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:15 AM
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but don't forget, females also have to pass their genes on as well, so many of them don't get much of a choice but to settle with the best available guy or take on family roles like caring for the kids of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:14 AM
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Jews used to be so metal and badass.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:35 AM
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Oh ok, since you're just going to insult my intelligence like that, you seriously believe that 2 reasons alone are the explanation for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:33 AM
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Battle of Crecy was satisfying though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:31 AM
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yes, today that is true. Compared to guys thousands of years ago, today's "low value" men would be considered attractive as mates.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:30 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/science/comments/2zj0bv/8000_years_ago_17_women_reproduced_for_every_one/ https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success https://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/sep/24/women-men-dna-human-gene-pool https://academic.oup.com/mbe/article/21/11/2047/1147770
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:29 AM
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Science yes as it was brought up by geneticists that for every man that reproduced, 17 women reproduced but their explanation of the why was rather bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:57 AM
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As far as my knowledge of history goes. Most high-value people aka the Nobility didn't reproduce too much but that also helped them have good track of their family tree and allowed them to focus their wealth & resources on the few children they had (education, military training, music, etc.) I'm not sure about that last statement though. Alot of women were married back in the day to the best man that was available, which was sometimes the lowest value peasant as he was probably the only guy left…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:52 AM
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Most high value men of the past didn't fight wars. High value was determined by bloodline or power rather than looks btw. So how do you explain Knights? Many Elite soldiers of the past were from the nobility. Hell, Harald Hardrada himself was captain of the Eastern Roman Varangian Guard. For the battle of Hastings, there were the Housecarls. Then the French knights of the Crusades ofc. Let's not forget as well, War was a high-risk and high-risk endeavor. a peon footsoldier who survived and had h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:39 AM
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Because that's how the "alpha-beta" relationship works... Unless you're going to use your own "high value" men as soldiers alone. You're going to need the lower value men to help you in war, which means that you need these men reproducing in order to fill the next generation of craftsmen, farmers, and conscript soldiers. Without these lower value men, society will fall apart as it's the lower value men doing the farming, the garbage collecting, the electrical power maintenance, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:32 AM
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No, procreation wasn't reserved for the highest value. That is the myth that is dispelled here. The "highest value" men needs lower value men in order to help protect his status as a high value man which requires raising armies and economies, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:27 AM
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It has always been better to have a daughter if you wanted to preserve your blood line. Not exactly true if your kids die from dysentery or a cholera outbreak. I don't have exactly a source on this but I remember reading a long time ago that boys were more susceptible to diseases than girls were which probably also played a part in that less men reproduced. Females are successful at procreating but your successful reproduction means nothing if the kids themselves don't reproduce. Which is why my…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:20 AM
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And why would you listen to men of a crappy culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 10:46 PM
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Missing the core ingredient: self esteem. You can have the looks, personality, AND the money but you can't attract or even keep a woman without having at least SOME healthy self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 10:07 PM
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I guess I'm a different breed of man but I don't necessarily care for sex that isn't with a woman that I have a loving, emotional connection with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 09:55 PM
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When I had a shitty supervisor who was at first cool but started becoming low key verbally abusive. Saying stuff like how I wasn't working fast enough when I was working at the same pace as everyone else. Saying stuff behind my back. Going off on us and calling us the slowest crew he's ever had. Telling other employees how he's gonna get rid of me. Doing all of that while maintaining a polite and friendly facade. At the same time, the dude (36M) is almost 40 years old, playing and building toys …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 01:08 AM
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A. Bullying - yes but I was in an environment where most of the kids were from the ghetto (low income Mexican + Black kids). I wasn't the only one being bullied but the more mild and quiet kids were bullied by the loud, aggressive morons and I happened to be one of the former. B. Nope. C. Yes. D. Yes but I'm aware why. I have a strong personality with strong opinions, so I'm not gonna win over many people. I almost always go against the flow. E. That's the issue, I'm already attractive to alot o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 06:36 AM
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realistically, Red Pill people are basically polar opposites of Feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 01:38 AM
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I know the point but what does it matter when the vast majority of women aren't doing that? again I only listed a number I pulled out of my ass aka 5% of American women. According to this article (https://prostitution.procon.org/questions/how-many-prostitutes-are-in-the-united-states-and-the-rest-of-the-world/) There are 1-2M prostitutes in the USA. and according to this article: (https://influencermarketinghub.com/onlyfans-stats/) There's 1.1M OnlyFans accounts that create content and 3.5M regi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 09:56 PM
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So no jerking off either?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:06 PM
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It's not that big of a drop. A woman in her late 30s can still have healthy babies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:00 PM
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Half Wrong, half right , if a woman takes care of herself, even up to 40s she can still look great. More rarely from genetics, even past 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 10:45 PM
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I didn't mention that because that's something I never understood.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 10:06 PM
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well it's basic economics. These girls are doing this because: they know that guys are thirstier than ever thanks to social media, porn, and how people are psychologically using sex to try to fill a void in their lives. they know sex sells. It's a quick way for a girl to raise money, especially in poorer areas like ghettos (pretty much the female equivalent for a guy selling drugs) OnlyFans, is arguably a lazier alternative than doing porn for just as much, maybe even more, money. Also to slight…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 07:44 PM
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Imo, I think the best example of a positive male figure is Aragon from The Lord of The Rings.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 09:39 PM
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Well from what I could gather, I'm above average with looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 02:11 PM
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I guess I can argue that I'm a guy who follows the not-so-traditional masculine trait of being a "warm man" as opposed to being a "cool man". I am caring yet stoic, sensitive yet strong, friendly yet firm. For some reason my set of masculine traits aren't considered masculine by many American women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/21 04:40 PM
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Technically wrong, that's not how natural selection works. Females select for the males that are good enough to survive in their habitat, not exactly requiring to be the best. Always selecting for the best is evolutionary detrimental as males will not be able to care for all available offspring to ensure survival of the next generation, females selecting a small pool of males will cause a dangerous lack of genetic variety, possibly into inbreeding territory, and our society would look something …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 09:51 PM
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Dating is difficult be a there's a disconnect between socialization of men and women in relation with what men and women are raised and told to expect from the other gender, especially by their peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/21 03:06 PM
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And how rampant was it? You'll never fully prevent or stop such things from happening but to at least reduce the frequency of the event.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/21 02:27 PM
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Quality, not Quantity. This is something I've known as a guy for many years. Women have the sexual advantage of being able to experience more than one orgasm. Us men though, we have the advantage of being GUARANTEED an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 08:16 PM
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> 500+ partners just imagining a super muscular chad calling everybody "honey"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 09:25 PM
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Hypergamy is not as big an issue as many of you nurds like to make it out to be. Being overly hypergamous is actually evolutionarily detrimental. Females of all species also have to spread their genes. They have to spread their genes by investing in healthy offspring that could increase the genetic frequency. Females that only mate with the VERY best is actually taking a huge gamble because the best males might not mate with her. It's like the case with Chad wanting to fuck a girl but he's not g…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 01:30 AM
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Well you're not a biologist so I'm going to say that, in terms of evolution, producing children is expensive. Women cannot be as picky as you think because they have to spread their genes as well. All a female has to do is choose a mate that, at minimum, can provide for her and her kids which alot males can already do. It's not "survival of the fittest", it's "survival of the good enough".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 01:23 AM
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very. I was obese myself. I'm 5"10 and my heaviest was 240lbs. I didn't significantly lose weight until I was 27 when I was motivated to join the Air Force. Air Force recruiter said I just needed to get to 180lbs so I ghosted him for a year, did low-carb diet, and got as low as 175lbs. Holy Mary, Jesus, and Paul did I feel amazing when I stepped on the scale and it registered into my mind that I was 180lbs. I actually felt confident for the first time that my awkward ass went to a club (mind you…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 10:16 PM
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Can I have a copy of your paper, I'd love to read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 12:14 PM
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See but what about the cases where the girl becomes attracted to you later? Sometimes attraction builds over time. Not every girl is going to be instantly attracted to you the first time.
/r/seduction18/12/20 08:00 PM
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...unless you meet other girls and guys who do the same thing.
/r/seduction18/12/20 07:34 AM
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I'm already taken. Her name is Depression and she's a real, abusive bitch.
/r/seduction14/12/20 03:26 AM
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At the same time, it's a good test to see what kind of person they are. You're not entitled for them to reciprocate your kindness but that shows their flaw and lack of empathy. If you do something for them out of kindness but they don't return with their own kindness, is that really the kind of person you want to invest in?
/r/seduction11/11/20 01:30 AM
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Easy explanation. Low self esteem combined with a narcissistic attitude.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/20 09:12 AM
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Don't want to be that guy but being a MGTOW doesn't necessarily make you a RedPiller. Yes there's alot of overlap with members of each group but I look at MGTOW more as a philosophy while Red Pill is an ideology. It's like saying Feminism is about being a controlling man-hater. MGTOW, at least in my view, is about realizing and understanding that you don't need a woman or society to tell you your worth. That a woman adds to your worth and your worth adds to hers and that you add worth to society…
/r/ExRedPill04/11/20 12:07 AM
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Tbh, he's funny but it's because of how he mocks things or via sarcasm but I guess that's not exactly being funny in a positive way. Also, can't really shit on the guy giving alot of his personal experience away for free.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/20 05:24 AM
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True, TRP kinda shifts that blame onto women though. The notion that being worthless for being unable to get laid is a judgement from women rather than men.
/r/ExRedPill26/10/20 06:26 PM
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Of course, but one of the things that TRP advocates will say is that people will be averse to TRP, so making fun of them only reinforces that belief which makes them hold onto TRP. Like I said in a different post, TRP exists because society has failed in trying to help men, creating a vacuum where men with life issues take up crazy ideologies to get a sense of belonging.
/r/ExRedPill26/10/20 12:21 AM
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Well in retrospect, you're kinda fueling the Red Pill by virgin shaming the guy. Making fun of a red piller isn't going to deprogram them.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/20 09:59 PM
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Well stuff like bad explanation of evolutionary biology, psychology of women, and even going so far as to promote buying sex dolls which irked me because I thought the point with TRP was to improve your life and get women. Some of evolutionary biology was is like the infamous 10 guys and 1 woman vs 10 women and 1 guy argument. TRP advocates will tell you the 10 women and 1 guy group will survive the best. Realistically, the 10 guys and 1 woman group would have a better chance of survival since t…
/r/ExRedPill21/10/20 08:21 AM
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a year or two for me. Like I mentioned many times. I was at a very deep low when I became part of it. Nobody reached out to me the way the Red Pill did and that's a failure I attribute onto society... I got out of TRP once my logical brain started noticing discrepancies and those discrepancies became bigger and unaddressed.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/20 01:22 AM
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Alot of guys were raised to believe that their definition of being a man is being able to get sex (sometimes no matter the cost) OR they grew up being judged by other men that they're not a man if they can't get sex.
/r/seduction02/10/20 09:37 PM
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Most women that have high standards are because they were spoiled or they purposely boost their standards to give themselves an excuse to reject a guy out of insecurity.
/r/ExRedPill20/09/20 01:46 AM
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The biggest fundamental issue that religions have against atheism is that atheists tend to be nihilistic (this is a stereotype in the eyes of religion). Nihilism and a general nihilistic mindset is a horrible thing for any population to have. Even back when I was a Red Piller, I made sure never to subscribe against nihilistic beliefs like black pill because how it destructive it can be. Like I mentioned (yet again) before, I was attracted to TRP because I had severely low self esteem, so I tried…
/r/ExRedPill20/09/20 01:45 AM
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tbh, I've thought about this alot. Is it that women really are pickier or is it that the bar for what is acceptable is just lower for men? Most women are acceptable of a guy who's well kempt, clean, doesn't smell bad, and is at least in an acceptable range of body shapes.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 07:49 PM
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Well kiddo, assuming this isn't a troll post. You gotta remember that women are individuals like you and me. Yes, men and women are different but we're still individuals. I'd say that women are worth as much as anyone else. There will be women you love, women you like, women you dislike, and women you'll hate. TRP has skewed your ideas of women but you can unskew it. I can tell you as a former red pill follower that you should only listen to the self improvement advice and disregard alot of the …
/r/ExRedPill12/09/20 01:36 AM
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crying internally
/r/seduction11/09/20 02:16 AM
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As an ex-redpill guy. If the talk has anything to do with dating and women, alot of times the discussion is misunderstood biology, generalizations, "she's going to divorce you and take half your shit + the kids", and then to just pump 'n dump. If the discussion has anything to do with self improvement like building self esteem or trying to find a purpose, then generally alot of solid advice is there.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/20 08:38 PM
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Looks do matter but it matters via a threshold. Alot of women actually do not mind a chubby guy as long as he's fit, has nice, fitting clothes, and is confident about it. Now would the girls prefer if that same guy was more fit? Sure but as long as his body type is within the (girl's) acceptable range, then it's not a problem. The one thing beautiful that TRP did teach me was that, as a guy, most of my qualities, that women are into are, qualities that I can change for the better! Have no social…
/r/ExRedPill08/09/20 05:15 PM
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yea, alot of his non-romantic advice is actually damn good. Only a few handful of his romantic/relationship advice is good at best.
/r/ExRedPill25/08/20 11:52 PM
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Yea, his advice is more geared towards introverts who don't have too much going for them. Compared to other Red Pill people, he never advised working out as a way to be successful with women but to learn game but yje game is where it gets dangerous.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 01:29 PM
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well in all fairness. At least you had one girlfriend. I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend because I'm too broken. I had opportunities to have a girlfriend but I let them slip away. As for other things, many guys were jealous of me but in my broken state, I never knew why since I don't really value myself well.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 02:51 AM
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Jealousy is a natural thing but don't let it upset you. Remember that these guys had to struggle just like how you're doing now. They were in your position once. If they can do it, so can you.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 02:27 AM
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bullying made me want to avoid people, shamed by family for being fat, a natural introvert, and used video games as a coping mechanism. This all happened during early childhood so yea....
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 02:12 AM
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I'd hate to admit this but Coach Red Pill (his name is Gonzalo Lira), back when I was depressed and latched on TRP, gave me alot of good advice that did help me get out of my depression and start doing things with my life. In fact, Coach Red Pill was the reason I was able to push myself to go to college, lose weight, etc. Realistically, his advice is rather oversimplification, generalization, or very specific but that's not to say he's wrong. The hard part with Red Pill is sifting through the bu…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 01:21 AM
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I like your post. ​ But women get approached, so the difference in difficulty between meeting someone and entertaining themselves is smaller than it is for men. This is only anecdotal, but I’ve noticed there tends to be an inverse correlation between how many hobbies and interests someone has and how much of a social life they have. Explain this one more please? I myself had life long social isolation so maybe you can ask me questions about it as well.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 12:27 AM
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Easy, they didn't experience the exact same life you did. There are guys who are more successful than you but also less successful than you as well.
/r/seduction15/08/20 09:55 PM
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but sex is a two-player game...
/r/ExRedPill15/08/20 08:24 PM
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How is it the guy's fault? If it's the guy's fault, then why doesn't the guy have a say in whether abortion takes place?
/r/ExRedPill15/08/20 04:47 PM
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Men also vote for men in power... Whoa, it's like everybody has the right to vote or something! ​ Yet women are always blamed no matter what. Yea because I totally don't read "men are trash" everyday on Twitter lol but then try to excuse that by saying "it doesn't mean all men1!!11!" So are they blaming all women in this case? I certainly hope not because blaming an entire group that have a certain genital set for something is irrational and everybody but the irrational know it... ​ Men create s…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/20 03:33 PM
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If you get pregnant at too young of an age, it's your own fault. Isn't sex an adult activity? Isn't it the woman's body and her personal autonomy? Her Body, Her Choice, Her Responsibility.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/20 02:47 PM
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You had a good run but then fumbled hard on the last paragraph. Patriarchy and Governments don't create poverty. Poverty is a mindset.... ​ governments (which is mostly male) Didn't women vote for those male's in power though? This isn't the 1920s anymore...
/r/ExRedPill15/08/20 02:44 PM
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just throw off his approach, "oh hey dude, how was that drunk girl you took home the other night?"
/r/seduction13/08/20 09:16 PM
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Problem is that usually it's redpillers who vocally tell people that romance is a numbers game. I never heard anyone tellme until I was sucked into the redpill during my depression stage.
/r/ExRedPill09/08/20 02:22 AM
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Idk about better health. Realistically, Phoebus worked as a Crusader soldier but Quasimodo spent alot of his life roof surfing so I'd argue both have the athletics down. Also Quasimodo was very brave in many ways on his own, even facing against certain death to save Esmeralda.
/r/ExRedPill09/08/20 02:19 AM
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you're still looking at it a wrong way. It's not that shit testing has to be perfect because perfection has a heavy cost when it comes to genetics. Women's shit tests are meant to test men that are good enough. If you're confident in yourself that you're capable to pass at least a good number of these tests then you're good enough in the eyes of that woman. Remember dude, women have to pass on their genes as well, not just the guys. In Middle Eastern culture, arranged marriages are usually done …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/20 04:43 PM
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That still doesn't make sense, also don't forget that women are not immune to bad genes and poor conditioning. If a guy is weak in an area, then he simply can train it be to strong and that's the best part about being a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/20 01:32 PM
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What's the goal here? Maybe that guy doesn't care about the girls he fucks and he just wants to fuck? Vagina is vagina, regardless how hot the girl is. If you go for girls that are 9s and 10s, you're gonna have a body count in the 10s figure, not 30s unless you've been an expert at game for YEARS, I'm talking child prodigy level game.
/r/seduction08/08/20 12:44 AM
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That doesn't make any fucking sense whatsoever. Being brainwashed into being a submissive, weak guy doesn't mean you have weak/bad genes. That's like saying the people who got conned by Hindu scammers have bad genes. These guys have been socially conditioned into thinking that expressing interest in women is a bad thing. Where the fuck does genetics come into this? Do you even know how genes work in such a case?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 06:33 PM
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Or they had sex with guys who put in the impression that they were top tier males and ghosted them before it came time for commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 09:42 PM
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I would've said the same but with more of a positive reinforcement spin as opposed to a tough love method but it works out unlike OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 03:42 AM
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you're doing good. Failure is a good thing, keep trying the same method and adjust as needed if it fails more and more.
/r/seduction25/07/20 11:08 PM
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And let's victimise women who were born to shitty fathers instead of holding the failed fathers accountable I also had a shitty upbringing but as a guy, everybody told me to take responsibility for my life instead of blaming others even though the blame on them was justified. If a woman had a shitty dad, it's not her fault but she has to take responsibility for her problems eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 06:21 PM
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Just don't be like Azula from Avatar, The Last Airbender and you'll be ok. A few other tips just in case: Don't tell the guy you'll have his babies. don't stalk him. don't say you'll marry him on the first few dates. don't attack other women for talking to him. try to carry a conversation at least a little bit. All you gotta do is smile at him, laugh at his (un)funny jokes, touch his hand or arm a little, stare into his eyes, tell him that you're gonna be bored on a certain day you don't have wo…
/r/seduction20/07/20 01:00 AM
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Perhaps because being masculine doesn't mean you need big muscles? What's wrong with a fit guy who gets shit done? How would he be more masculine if you slap more muscles onto him? Masculinity is delineated by culture and it's typically a set of characteristics, mostly defined by typical male behavior but cherry picked and sharpened by society.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 02:02 AM
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Unfortunately no.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/20 02:32 PM
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I've always wanted a family ever since I helped take care of my nephew when he was an infant and toddler. Made me experience the joy of fatherhood before I was even old enough to get a boner. As I grew older, I wanted a wife to live a memorable life with and our kiddos. Going on family vacations, life akin to that of a wholesome sitcom show, watching our kids become adults, grow old together, and support each other through any storm.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/20 09:06 PM
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Yes and those hunter-gatherer tribes got absolutely BODIED by armies of beta men commanded by alpha men who did nothing but form the betas into a block of men holding spears and told them to go forward. In your logic of Darwinism, Hunter-Gatherers have failed and been wiped out by the superior system of making everybody useful for something. So besides asking for sources about your "facts", you probably would've been better off defining what counts as "weak". If we're talking a person born with …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 04:28 PM
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I guess I'd be the oddball here but I've wanted monogamy since I was 13.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 01:28 AM
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That still doesn't make sense, the weak would've gone into building, foraging, making weapons/materials, etc. Also, what if the weak was also the smartest?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 01:27 AM
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that doesn't make any sense, why would the women of a tribe purposely kill off a man and cause the youngest women of the tribe to go without a stable mate that will take care of their offspring? Plus, killing off a man meant less men to help build and hunt. In a tribe, especially a small sized one, EVERYBODY is useful and has to pull their weight to ensure everybody's survival.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 12:05 AM
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Looks matter to a degree. As long as you don't look like Quasimodo and you're well groomed, then you're fine. What does matter is your mindset and personality. Realistically a significant amount of men are not really perceived to be good looking to most women so gotta rely on confidence and personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 03:43 AM
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Are you sure this is what caused her to ghost you? What even was the question? Also, she did you a favor and gave you another opportunity to find a better girl.
/r/seduction25/06/20 02:16 AM
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sexualize right away, even if I'm looking for a relationship rather than casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 07:54 PM
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I'm not that obese anymore, I'm just overweight now (185lbs "skinny fat") I can tell you now that I don't have a problem starting conversations with people or making friends but that's precisely the problem, friendly. I don't even know where to start to show interest to a girl. I do know that I should be friendly in the beginning but I also know that I should make a move but I'm not sure where to go about in that and when I do think about making a move, I start to doubt myself, my confidence dro…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 05:44 AM
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well my situation is I was obese for a very long time and I isolated myself so my social skills are rather lacking, especially in the man-interacting-with-women department. I like your advice here, going for an insta-date. What else would you suggest for someone like me to rebuild the social skills I used to have with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 12:54 AM
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Yea that makes sense actually, the more time one spends with people, the better their people skills get + alot more opportunities present to meet women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 08:56 PM
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so if what I'm reading what you're saying correctly, I could be a complete loser and all that's necessary is just confidence (maybe throw in a pinch of charisma & humor) and free time and I'd be getting laid as consistently as a porn actor?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 08:16 PM
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So marry young, I gotcha lolol
/r/ExRedPill20/06/20 02:58 PM
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Everybody has baggage and insecurities of some form, it's simply a matter of if you can tolerate that baggage and insecurities.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/20 11:06 AM
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This. I had depression for 11 years and those insecurities kept me from going out and dating (alot of details I'm leaving out). So now I've spent my entire 20s playing catchup and I do want to date. I know alot of women will be dissuaded by me not having much experience but silver lining for me is that I have no emotional baggage, I didn't learn any toxic behaviors, and I'll be dating women who want something serious.
/r/ExRedPill19/06/20 04:03 PM
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you're very damn right. Question is, how much social skills do I need and in what area do I need to improve so I can start dating?
/r/seduction07/06/20 10:29 PM
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You do have a point but I think it'd be better in the long run if he gets his man-woman social skills on point so that he is able to get a girlfriend at least.
/r/ExRedPill06/06/20 03:33 AM
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If I may add, the sex worker might also help with techniques and positions as well as safety and health knowledge since that's an occupational hazard. Also, an escort would probably help him with a better experience. Downside to sex workers though is that he might just go with sex workers instead of trying to create relationships with women.
/r/ExRedPill05/06/20 11:19 PM
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For men, you gotta be fit, well groomed, decent fashion sense, and maybe a wrist-watch. That's just the physical appearance obviously. What is mostly attractive is the mental aspect. Is he confident?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 06:28 AM
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Well besides the stuff you mentioned which are not exclusively red-pill ideas (hit the gym/lose weight, gain social skills, find work/hobby/purpose.) Some of the toxic stuff that the Red Pill says concerning men and women are true when it comes to insecure people with low self esteem or people who don't really know how to think for themselves so they follow whatever the crowd is doing. My own journey and realization from low self esteem has given me an ability to sense insecurity in others, even…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/20 02:43 PM
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yes I am. It started with the video games I played and got into game modding. Now as my interests have gone, I'm considering systems-level software or maybe even computer hardware.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/20 10:45 PM
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Put yourself in her shoes for a second. She’s a random girl walking doing her thing, maybe she’s in a rush to be there for a friend who isn’t doing well. Then you, some random guy pops up outta nowhere (probably uncalibrated) and says “hey you looked cute had to say hi” Makes sense, cold approaching is not necessarily the natural way to meet people. To lose that salesman vibe, gotta approach like "hey, excuse me, but I think you look cute and interesting, my name is XYZ, what's yours?". Gotta st…
/r/seduction25/05/20 10:53 PM
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I'm a live and let live kinda guy. I want to say that if you really wanna get action through trickery, then I won't tell you not to since you got urges and feel like you gotta jump through hoops to have them met. Just saying though, I'm going to assume that you're aware of the consequences and have accepted them if this trick goes wrong. So good luck to you sir.
/r/seduction13/05/20 04:30 PM
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I am serious, why care about something you can't control? Is it a shitty thing? Yes, duh but what can you actually do about it? It's his life, he's the one in control of it.
/r/seduction04/05/20 04:02 PM
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And he should care about your statement why? You're not wrong at all but in a society that overall judges a man based on whether he got laid or not, why would he care when he did what is socially acceptable as of currently? Especially when I can assume the sex was consensual between him and her? Insecure women will be taken advantage of by the sexually aggressive insecure men.
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:25 PM
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How much substance or personality does she have? Would you say she was relationship material or nah?
/r/seduction04/05/20 03:18 PM
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What if it's both? She's the one I've been looking for and I happen to be the one she's been waiting for?
/r/seduction17/04/20 02:07 PM
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incel alert
/r/seduction09/04/20 08:27 PM
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I wonder why they don't kill the females and kidnap the males. Could it be that the females are more valuable to a tribe? Could it be that he ability of a tribe to grow is directly linked to the number of females it has? Or perhaps they have to kill the men in order to kidnap without resistance? This still doesn't make males disposable. Men still have to do their biological role and weed out women with weak genes as well. Which means they were the ones weathering harsh conditions instead of the …
/r/MensRights31/03/20 03:29 PM
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before or after agriculture doesn't matter, most men died from violence, accidents, or disease. Chimpanzees still do this today, they raid other Chimpanzee groups, kill the males and kidnap the females.
/r/MensRights30/03/20 11:29 PM
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I know your post is 3 months old but... Most women who ever lived left a genetic offspring. Most men who lived didn't That's because most men in history died from war, accidents, and diseases. All those young lads who joined the Roman Legions looking for adventure, glory, sexy slave girls, and looted treasure? Many died before they could retire/have a family. That's not all, the civilian men who died from starvation due to prolonged sieges? The men enslaved as prisoners of war or captured by the…
/r/MensRights30/03/20 07:41 PM
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I'm assuming you mean the Quarantine thing, yea just wait till that's over or try talking small conversations or small talk at a store (within distance of course)
/r/seduction30/03/20 02:31 PM
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Take up a retail or salesman job. It'll force you to be social and learn social skills to the point where you HAVE to approach people in order to do your job. In fact, go do something part time at like Home Depot or some other job. Not only do you get to learn social skills but also get paid for it as well!
/r/seduction29/03/20 10:47 PM
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well you need to ask yourself, why did you get frightened? Are you afraid of making a mistake and messing things up? If that's the reason, it's because of your confidence/self esteem. A common symptom of low self esteem is perfectionism. Mentally you believe that if you can't do it right in only a few tries, then you won't do it at all. I know this because I had the same thing when I had low self esteem. Because of your perfectionism, you'll either give up or try too hard. The poor girl will thi…
/r/seduction29/03/20 08:31 PM
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you mean "Black Pill"?
/r/seduction29/03/20 07:53 PM
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Another thing is that the study is rather odd. If you have NO partners, you're looked at negatively but more than 2-3 partners brings you just as down? Alot of people are hating on virgins because alot of them either come off as desperate, insecure, or end up attached because that's how teenage virgins act so, seeing that in high school, they assume that's how adult virgins act. What really matters is whether the virgin makes it a big deal or not. A confident person, virgin or not, will be more …
/r/seduction29/03/20 06:27 PM
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