AddictionForPurpose Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
8	New here. Partner may have BPD. She has violent outbursts and hits me. I know about RSD, David Deida, John Wineland and BPD. Totally new to married red pill	AddictionForPurpose	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/02/20 06:37 PM
0	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend	AddictionForPurpose	/r/askMRP	31/07/20 10:19 PM
0	Are all women narcissistic?	AddictionForPurpose	/r/askTRP	10/09/20 05:18 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Are all women narcissistic? all book no street	/r/askTRP	10/09/20 08:20 PM
1	Are all women narcissistic? Narcs engage in acts that for them they gain pleasure from hurting you, emotional neglect and abuse because they have a fragile ego. I know women play power games, and I can change her behavior by winning that game. but there was this moment where I decided I expect women to treat me like a human being, with needs. any less than that and she's out. I found it fucked for my mental health to be seen as a tool and not a human being.	/r/askTRP	10/09/20 05:39 PM
1	Are all women narcissistic? No living together. Tell me more about that or link to read more would be helpful. I just kicked my gf of three years out bc living with her was toxic as fuck.	/r/askTRP	10/09/20 05:35 PM
2	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Yeah maybe I am. I'm gonna let these things land some more. I will be re-reading every post and I've saved your replies. I get that you are trying to speak to me directly, past all the mental defenses. I am wasting your time if I don't participate in listening. It's pretty crazy to me that you've all put in your time to help. I'm gonna take the time to absorb it and re-read the rational male.	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 04:26 PM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend I want my spine, but I let it go to be a parent to her. I don't treat her like an adult.	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 04:24 PM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend My mental models are fucked up. I realized through your post I view my LTR's as a dependent child. I attract people who need help to perpetuate this familiar pattern. The only fucking situation I would allow something like this to continue in is with a child. When my older brother visited me, it wasn't 6 hours before he was aggressive and violent about something. I threw him out, he didn't apologise, so i went no contact. With my girl, I treat her like a dependent child. If a child was abusing y…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 04:22 PM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Not at all. Don't expect every person who posts here to have identical frames of reality to what you expect is right, or to adhere strictly to every MRP principle, or just one frame of reality. I understand I'm in a place where there is a strong sense of a uniform reality but there is nothing wrong with discussing and debating realities to determine truth, especially for an intermediate level person on the journey of discovery and learning.	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 04:16 PM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Sure. I thought they were rhetorical but hey I don't think I'm wasting anyone's time. How fat? Not fat. Other way round, I've been losing weight because I haven't been eating properly. I've been fighting low appetite. Can I lift? Yes, I can olympic lift. I prefer martial arts so I don't really want to lift heavy. I do a lot of energy work, meditation, body work and yogic intimacy exercises. It allows me to create energy. I prefer that quality to physical strength, especially when it comes to sex…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 04:12 PM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend "It is a pointless endeavor to try and understand her motives. Even if she tells you, like you yourself might admit, she could be manipulating you. Again, this is all you living in your SO’s frame. Stop that shit. You are perfectly allowed to make decisions that she doesn’t like." I determine the value of my relationship not in just how that person treats me, but why. I determine whether they really care or not. If it's clear that person is just there to get something, and they are opportunistic…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 02:18 PM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Saving this post because you are 100% right about me living in her frame. My concern was of aggressive and violent behavior. Lot of direct great advice here personal to me. I do appreciate and will be using everything said here. My issue is being addressed. You say it is a pointless endevour to figure out her motives. I think it is very important to know who you are with and what their motives are before you invest 2, 3, 5 years of your life and time with them. The claim I am saying is not being…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 02:10 PM
-1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend The trend I'm seeing in these comments is that you guys are offering me useful ways to manage the uncertainty, and this works of course in any situation as a course of action. It doesn't look like this is an area that MRP people have clarity over, and I'm glad I posted about it. Do you believe that cluster B personality disorders exist in women? If so do you think that is not a major factor to consider in a long term relationship with a women? Do you think that the PD disappears if the man alter…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 01:57 PM
-2	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Not all doctors agree on mental illness. Some throw out diagnostic criteria completely. It doesn't really matter if you are a doctor, an alpha male would be able to answer the question directly instead of getting nervous, attacking the messenger and dismissing the topic.	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 01:46 PM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Nexting doesn't make sense if all women are PD with my co-dependent ass. If it's the women, then I gotta find a healthy girl. If all women are "unhealthy", and thus just women, then nexting makes no sense. Then I'm the problem. Maybe it's a bit of both. Maybe we're both screwed up and she can't work on shit while I'm being a faggot.	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 01:42 PM
-1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend I see a lot of personal comments and advice about me, understanding my sticking points has been very helpful. Not seeing any people able to actually answer an important question. I am not saying I am perfect alpha, or a complete beta. I would AMOG 95% here alone, but you are most likely way more alpha in your LTR. My sex is not lacking. I'm doing something right somewhere. it depends on the context and what I am doing. What I find challenging and beta over is love and codependance in love. I do …	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 01:31 PM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend I guess, but isn't going along frames without questioning them and making sure it represents reality, what got all of you into the original relationship mess in the first place? Isn't that what brought you here? That mentality works well as a solider but in life you have to know what you are dealing with before you take action. If AWALT then standardization makes sense. But not all women are the same. Isn't AWALT without any explanation or grounding whatsoever a little autistic? Is anyone here a…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 01:15 PM
-2	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend I read up a lot on it and it doesn't look like you've understood what the signs and behaviors are for each. Covert Narc are defined to display various behaviors and thinking patterns, each from borderline, narcissistic and histrionic PD. So, it is often difficult to recognize. She ticked every single box and sign for this condition. The cycle of abuse and behavior is so predictable by this point. Whether that is AWALT and just her normal women personality manifesting, and diagnosis for women is …	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 01:11 PM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Saved.	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 03:44 AM
0	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend There anywhere I can read more about how a womens personality changes depending on gay/not gay? I've accepted this in short term game, when I game, and I'm tested, I understand it's a personality she reserves for testing beta, l just pass the test. No confusion. Very rarely I'll talk to a woman who is just a bad person, and I don't think it's my game, I've associate poor treatment from women with their own personal character flaws or trauma. It's almost inconceivable to me that a women in LTR wi…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 03:43 AM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend I don't know if it's codependency or just a natural response to abusive behavior, but I'm too fucking tired after that shit happens. I'm only going to spend like 20% of my time with her from now on and prioritize my own life. It's difficult because I'm co-dependent. It's uphill. I'm ashamed to admit this but I've given years of my life to "help" her. Doing all the heavy lifting, while she was disengaged. When I would try to leave, she would promise things would change, and clearly I believed tha…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 02:54 AM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend That's a good point, you're right, she tries some shit and I let it ruin my day. The issue was she kept breaking rules, but I still had sex with her and gave her attention. I do find it very difficult to be a man because I let things go easily because I just don't like feeling all pissed off. I like to be in a positive energy and I end up forgetting that she's been disrespecting my rules. BUT, she feigns forgetfulness, anxiety, etc, so it doesnt LOOK like shes disregarding clear rules. Hard beca…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 01:16 AM
0	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Maybe. I know a fag out in relationships, but I'm pretty badass in life. Nobody fucks with me, I get a lot of attention from women, and I have been through some tough shit. But, in my LTR's, I am a huge faggot, in that context, it reveals the faggot inside. Thanks for getting my head straight. "Women do not love men in the way that men idealize. That type of love is reserved for their children. This is a cold truth of the red pill. Swallow it or not. IDGAF." How can I find out if that is true?	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 01:04 AM
1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Great advice. I will start doing that now. But, whether I am spending my time with somebody with a serious disorder or whether she's just being a woman is very important to me. Are all those therapists missing something? It can affect me and my life in ways that are hard to detect. I've heard constant horror stories of increased investment triggering increased crazy later down the line. It's a possibility that you condition a woman to hide these things from you when you are alpha enough and boun…	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 12:46 AM
-1	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Whys that?	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 12:12 AM
0	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend I hear you. Can you elaborate on the bluepill mindset I re-entered?	/r/askMRP	01/08/20 12:05 AM
0	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Is where you're coming from an accurate reality, or is it just a frame that is helpful for men who are in abusive relationships? Is all this MRP stuff real, AWALT, in terms of mistreatment, or are just all abusive and dysfunctional women like that? Very confused about AWALT and how that relates to mistreatment and abusive behavior. If it's AWALT then STFU makes sense, if it's abuse, then STFU is kind of a coping mechanism or counter force to something very malignant and destructive in your house…	/r/askMRP	31/07/20 11:59 PM
0	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend More truth. Glad I posted. Is being co-dependant and over-investing me being first officer? I'm starting to open up to the idea that she may be the captain. I feel like the leader, I do everything. Maybe there is something I'm not seeing. I read in a separate post that Narcs will resist my dominance like the plauge. I'm also hearing that labels are a way to avoid AWALT. In any case, one thing I know is that I am avoiding full responsibility. I did allow this and I did encourage it, and it was be…	/r/askMRP	31/07/20 11:54 PM
-5	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend You may be right. If interested, look up vulnerable narcissism, maybe I'm full of shit, but maybe it's really there.	/r/askMRP	31/07/20 11:43 PM
-2	My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend Thanks for all that truth. I am le fag. Are personality disorders real in women, and if so, are they even relevant? My girl would do these insane things, screaming at the top of her lungs late at night. She's really messed up, hurting herself, etc. That stuff only started to change as I started practicing MRP, stop adding fuel to the fire, stopped helping her, and started taking away my time and attentionto focus on me, even energy (there is this weird subtle thing where I can still be giving he…	/r/askMRP	31/07/20 11:40 PM
1	Comfort or STFU? I’d tell her to stop whining.	/r/askMRP	13/02/20 10:15 PM