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my current city which is just filled with altenative types and hippies. Brighton?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 12:03 AM
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I agree the incentive is bad, but I'm not sure the effect is very big. The conception rate for women aged under 18 years in England and Wales has more than halved since 2011. Why would it have fallen if the economic incentive is a big factor?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:58 PM
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Oh I thought social security was like the state pension in the UK, where it's very loosely related to contributions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:41 PM
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Schools, subsidised childcare, child benefit payments.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:17 PM
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What about infertile couples who wanted children but couldn't have them? They shouldn't be punished for something that was outside of their control. If the purpose of the policy is to incentivize people to have children, it doesn't matter if there are some people it doesn't apply to. I would worry about a perverse incentive of this system where people are encouraged to have children they shouldn't be having just to gain access to state benefits. This probably already happens in countries which o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:15 PM
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In the UK the current plan is to maintain the state pension at a generous level, but they are increase the age of eligibility (it used to be 65, but is going up to 68) in order to try to keep it affordable. I think most countries are making - or will make - similar changes. Left-wing parties tend to be keen to keep generous state pensions, as poorer people rely on them. Right-wing parties tend to also be keen to keep generous state pensions, as older voters are more likely to vote right-wing. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:48 PM
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The EU, the welfare state here. Every person contributes to their future pension by paying social "insurance" or another form of tax. Once you introduce that older childless people will not receive a pension, then younger childless people will also stop contributing to pensions. Why should they pay when they know they won't get anything for it? And that collapses the pension system Which country is this? If it's a tax, young people can't just decide not to pay it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:17 PM
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There is social security and Medicare though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 10:06 PM
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I'm not sure this is gender-specific. I've rejected women and been rejected by women. In both cases the reason given is almost always generic (some variation on "no spark"). If you get a string of "no spark" rejections, you want to improve something, but you don't know what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 02:55 PM
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What do you mean by neoliberal culturally and socially?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:09 PM
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But if someone dies younger, do they miss out on the bad later years, or do their bad years come earlier?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:38 AM
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Correct. The problem with suggesting men become more selective is that it is a good strategy only if other men do it too. If only one man becomes more selective, he likely just reduces his dating options. As we act as individuals, people need to consider what strategy works for an individual, not a collective.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:41 PM
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You may be right that men don't realize the importance of something like eyelashes in whether they find a woman's face attractive. But how important do you think eyelashes, hair etc. are compared the most noticeable and most focused upon characteristics? Do you think many women in their 20s have eyelashes or hair which detract significantly from their attractiveness? In their 30s? (I assume these things would be much rarer than unattractive body size/shape/proportions)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 11:26 PM
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I'm sceptical that people can compare the attractiveness of men and women. If you're straight, you know at a glance whether someone of the opposite sex is attractive to you. It's harder to tell with the same sex. Maybe a bisexual person could, but if they say women are more attractive, couldn't that be interpreted as them being more attracted to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:00 PM
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Good points, but There is also a fear among extremely high-earning men, whether real or perceived, of being "trapped" by having kids with someone who lies about being birth control or whatnot. Doesn't this risk remain when paying for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 12:38 PM
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If she's getting lots of matches, and they convert into a combination of dates/sex/relationships that she is happy with, there's obviously no need to change. But if she isn't, filtering on height, but choosing shorter (e.g. 5f 8 - 5f 11, instead of 6ft+) might be a sensible strategy, if she can tolerate men in that range, as they will tend to have fewer matches, so are likely to have a higher chance of going somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 08:44 PM
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How old are they when this happens? I think the sudden loss of status will be hard to deal with, but Chad had high status for a long time, he will have had many good experiences and many memories.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 09:04 PM
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The swipe and match is about looks. But what about the messages which follow? On bumble the first message I receive is often "Hi" and I reply, usually with a question on one of her interests, something she has written about or that was in one of her photos. Then I often never hear from her again. It could be that I was not as good looking as some of the other men who responded to her first message. But it could also be that my message was less interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:57 PM
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What's MBB?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 08:57 PM
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I think I recall psychologist Jonathan Haidt writing about this in The Righteous Mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 11:19 PM
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For me, I would have to say the number of women who would say yes is probably around 3 to 8 women. I'd guess about the same, based on my bumble swipe data.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 09:51 PM
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Yes this is the most obvious answer! But I suppose it's harder to prove that that was the motivation if they have a child. Whereas if there was no possibility of children it's more obvious she wanted the resources for herself. That's why I gave that example.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:39 PM
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Do you think someone who can have multiple sex partners whilst contributing to a system where others don't have that opportunity is an asshole? Do you think someone who can own multiple houses whilst contributing to a system where others don't have that opportunity isn't an asshole?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:19 PM
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A landlord?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:13 PM
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I think this kind of hypocrisy is quite common in other areas. For example, landlords and renters: Property can be a good investment, so if someone has enough wealth to buy a primary residence and additional investment properties, that might be sensible for them. But consequently it becomes harder for renters to eventually buy their own house and accumulate wealth. I don't think there is much chance of constraining hypocrisy. I think there is more chance of changing behavior by changing incentiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:05 PM
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I didn't think we were talking about any specific scenarios. I thought we were talking about the phenomenon of hypergamy in general. I don't know how common it is for women to seek high status men and not want children. But the fact that some do implies that it could be a factor when they do want children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:02 PM
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OK. Consider a women who knows she is unable to have children. I'm sure there are examples of 50 year old women marrying rich 70+ men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:30 PM
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This is highly dependent on the legal system and culture. If there is fairly effective birth control, men are more likely to prefer more partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:17 PM
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How would you explain women who prefer high status men, but don't want children? I think men and women are the same in that what they are attracted to is informed by what would be a good strategy for passing on their genes. But they are still attracted to those features even if they don't want to have children! For example men prefer attractive young women as they appear most fertile, but most of the time they are trying to avoid getting them pregnant. I think it would be odd if women didn't exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:12 PM
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Drinking and watching porn once a week sounds a bit arbitrary.
/r/AllPillDebate30/07/23 12:06 AM
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I don't think it was implied she necessarily had a rotation. In fact it seems unlikely she would have been so upset if she was having sex with someone else. Not to mention it would have been hypocritical given that she considered herself his girlfriend!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 10:16 PM
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I tried it and didn't think it suited me. I saw a suggestion several years ago that a lot of young men are growing beards to seem more masculine and grown-up, as it's harder to do so in other ways (e.g. get a good job, buy a house, settle down etc. - all these things are tending to happen later and later). ​ I do understand there may be female equivalents. Feel free to bring those up if you'd like. It's not strictly an equivalent because it's not part of their body, but nose rings seem to split …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 09:40 PM
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In most cases they would have a hard time finding each other though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 08:59 PM
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Unironically this is why I think if most male incels and female incels would just 'go gay' they'd be happier. I thought you were going to suggest males dated the females. Wouldn't that be as feasible, with the added advantage of corresponding to their sexual orientation?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 07:02 PM
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I wonder if there were similar - but smaller - differences between countries with slightly different economic systems. For example, do women have better sex in western Europe countries which are more social-democratic than the USA?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 08:59 AM
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How come the general consensus is that men who struggle with dating have no valid grievances with society, if at the same time the biggest ideological pillar of the cultural left is "gender roles are utter bullshit"? I think partly due to concern that grievances could lead to calls for unpalatable solutions. ​ How do we OBJECTIVELY determine which societal asymmetry around the genders falls into the "unfair" category, and which is irrelevant? Unless there is a solution, I'm not sure fairness mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 12:44 PM
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The issue with wage gap specifically is (1) wage gape occurs within a single field between the sexes So, at one extreme the wage gap within a single field could be entirely due to discrimination (i.e. men and women in the same jobs could be equally productive) and at the other extreme the wage gap could completely explicable by productivity differences. Or it could be explained by some combination of discrimination and productivity differences. If we could perfectly measure the productivity of i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:36 AM
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I don't think it's wrong, but you probably ought to have some idea of the purpose. I think chores are the most likely to be worth considering tracking. You aren't likely to forget if a major promises is kept or broken. The other things can probably be dealt with at the time, so they don't become problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 09:17 PM
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Feminism by definition is the movement for the equality of the sexes. It is impossible to support equality and be an antifeminist. I am interested in the different outcomes that men and women experience, but I am not sure we can know what causes most of these differences. For example, why are some school/university subjects and some jobs and career paths male dominated and others female dominated? And why are mothers more likely to work less to look after their children more? My understanding is…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 01:05 PM
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The data above is number of partners. It doesn't tell us how much sex they are having.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:57 AM
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If you've living in shared accommodation (e.g. in student dorms or with room-mates) you are quite likely to know a bit about their sex lives. I'd probably say the bigger difficulty is generalizing from this small number of people we've known to an entire population.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 11:26 PM
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When I said escalate, I was referring to on a date. Would you find it off putting if a man didn't physically escalate on a date? I would think it depends, and too little or too much, and too soon or too late can be an issue, and that's what can make it tricky.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 04:51 PM
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I think it's how and when to flirt, escalate and make a move that makes it difficult to communication with people your attracted to. I guess this is fairly common for men who otherwise don't have trouble talking to women they have no romantic interest in.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:21 PM
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a 32 year old woman won't date a 24 year old man, because in the vast majority of cases he'd be broke Do women go for younger men when they aren't broke though? When she's 42 and there are loads of affluent 34 year old men, is she more open to dating them? I think there is a more ingrained aversion to dating younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:18 AM
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Sort of, but being a wedding guest isn't social proof if you were invited by family out of obligation and not because they normally enjoy your company. It might depend on how you appear at the wedding. If you're socialising normally, that's probably considered social proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:20 PM
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How often has this happened to you? Were you unaware he was taking you to such an expensive place, or was it the choices he made at the place (e.g. a restaurant where you could have had a fairly cheap meal, but he ordered the most expensive Champagne)?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 12:09 PM
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There's a big difference between "you can choose who you're attracted to" and "no one has any agency on attraction." What we are attracted to is probably affected by what we are exposed to and prevailing fashions. But I think it's easier for other people to control that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 08:44 PM
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The interesting thing about this question is it seemingly assumes women are all becoming more independent. Whilst this is true of moderate to high earners, I don't think it's true of the rest. You probably have to earn close to the average salary (perhaps even above it) to be financially independent in most places. So there is almost certainly a significant proportion of single women who aren't financially independent. Or at least, can't really enjoy a comfortable life on their own. I don't see …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 12:27 PM
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I think it would probably be quite a bit lower than 45%, as search and mismatch are probably also big factors. Imagine you're single and go on a date (or several dates) with a woman. She wants to have a relationship with you. But you don't feel the same way about her - you decide you'd rather stay single. She found a single man good enough, but just not with mutual attraction. She will very likely experience this the other way around as well (men who she finds unattractive who want a relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:50 AM
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What are your thoughts on how ND compares to NT who are one or more of shy, socially anxious or unconfident? (I suppose this will be a hard question for anyone to answer as we all only have our own experiences)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 01:56 PM
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I see. What sort of things might have an epigenetic explanation?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:37 PM
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Will a monogamous environment "change" a child who came from 3 previous generations of polyamory? Vice versa? Will this person be deeply conflicted without fully understanding? If the environment changes a child, doesn't that mean it's not genetic?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:14 PM
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What are IOIs?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:06 PM
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50 is quite surprising. I'd assume 30s, as those who want to have children are beginning to get in a hurry to settle down and ratio of singles has changed by this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:01 PM
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I wondered this. But even if the average in an area is 6ft, you'd still expect some under 6ft to get dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 06:43 PM
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Height might be unique in terms of filtering though. People usually know how tall they are, and it doesn't fluctuate. Women are likely to know the height they like as it's so easily observable. Men know what attractive women look like, but they don't necessarily have a good idea of what weight that corresponds to. So whilst I think a lot of men would like to filter by weight, I don't think it would work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 06:09 PM
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Could there be anything else going on? What kind of jobs are these? Is a job where physical appearance matters? In your opinion were the women with tall boyfriends attractive? What about the men - did they mostly bring girlfriends?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:48 PM
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That's comparing men to women though, instead of comparing before and after. Both will be worse off in a divorce as legal fees are expensive and they no longer benefit from sharing expenses as a couple. I realize people are often quite vindictive, but I don't think people would initiate a divorce thinking I don't mind being worse off as long as my partner does even worse than I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:22 PM
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Men get horny towards pretty much any woman who's decently attractive. Women get horny towards very very specific people, usually one person only. What happens when men don't see anyone they could find attractive and when women don't see the specific person they desire. If/when they get horny in these circumstances, does that mean that is their natural rate of sex drive? If so, do men and women experience this at a different rate? Or is it not that simple? (Could it be that they aren't desiring …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 11:12 AM
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I thought it's the other way around. In a marriage (or in a committed relationship which is expected to be for the long term, which you'd hope if they have children) what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine. If resources are shared it's not really meaningful to ask who is paying. Effectively the question becomes instead, should women be expected to earn half?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:11 AM
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Are you talking about before having kids or after? Don't most couples share resources (at least by the time they are committed enough to have children) so it's not his money and her money, but their money? In the early stages of a relationship a man will often pay, but I don't think children are one of the reasons. Do you think women should pay half if they don't want children?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:00 AM
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I agree 2, 3 and 5 are likely to be the most problematic. I'm surprised if women aren't complaining that men aren't funny enough. It's very common to say it's important (often on an OLD profile something like "you need to make laugh", or "if you make me laugh, you're halfway there") which suggests to me that a significant proportion of men aren't funny enough. If a man isn't commanding attention or respect, should he infer that he is doing some wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 05:14 PM
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He got tenure pretty much at the end (S10E15) and celebrated with "a bottle of Israel's finest!" (i.e. he couldn't afford Champagne).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:35 PM
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He wasn't wealthy. He worked at a museum, then lectured. I don't know what would be a likely salary, but realistically he would have earned less than people in corporate jobs like Chandler.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:10 PM
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But the thing is, what a lot of guys conflate with sex is a far more basic human desire for affection, by which I mean intimacy, positive touch, closeness, connection, and warmth, shared with another person. It's hard to fulfill these desires non-homoerotically with other men (because we all conflate it with sex), and the main culturally-accepted source of fulfillment for these desires in straight men is sex with women. In a lot of men's minds, sex and affection are very entangled. I think your …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:14 AM
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Age gaps are also a factor. On average women date a few years older, so especially at young ages there will be a higher proportion of men single.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 07:16 PM
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Being excessively available means you have nothing going on and so nothing to really offer her. Being excessively nice makes you look weak and like a pushover. Being willing to shower someone with unearned gifts again means you would likely be a poor provider for her, because you show poor discretion with how you spend time and resources. I think the first reason (seeming to have nothing going on) probably explains the most. I'm not sure gifts would be interpreted as poor use of resources, as su…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 07:07 PM
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I thought Chad was an American name (I'm from England and I don't think I've ever met someone with that name). But apparently it's from an Old English name Ceadda and means "protector" or "defender." For hundreds of years, Chad has been used as a short form for Charles, Chadrick, and Chadwick.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:30 PM
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I'm trying to clarify what should be compared. Say a man offers a women a hookup. She can either accept or decline. Is it relevant to her decision if the man expects to benefit more than she does?* I would think her decision is just based on a comparison of hooking up or not. There might be a broader question of hookups versus relationships. There certainly would be if having hookups prevents having relationships. But I'm not sure if that is the case. If a relationship with a particular man is n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:17 PM
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Second to that, men benefit way more from hookups than women. Hookups aren't as risky for them, men also need less of an emotional connection and are also significantly easier to please. Heck, even in LTRs, where there is a huge intimate factor women give more than they recieve from sex. Do men benefit more than women - sexually - from both hookups and relationships? That could be the case and both could still be beneficial to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:44 PM
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I think a decrease in sociability probably explains a lot. More tasks can be done from home and the entertainment options are better. People socialise less, so they meet fewer people. This leads to them having worse social skills and less opportunity to build attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:08 PM
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I think there is an interesting combination of negative and positive feedbacks. If you rent with room-mates because you can't afford your own place, does that reduce romantic opportunities (either because having your own place is important for status or for privacy), or does it increase opportunities because having room-mates can make you more social than you would be if you lived alone? Finding a place to rent is probably harder for men as so places in house-shares are female preferred. This pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:31 PM
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Since we should all know that the ladies do all the selecting, it is also assumed that they will also have full control on the men they will interact with There is still competition between women for the men they want. That gives those men bargaining power.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:33 PM
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On average, men rate themselves a 5.9 out of 10 when it comes to attractiveness - Study Finds People tend to over-estimate themselves, but I would have thought male attractiveness would be an exception to this, as the average man rarely receives positive feedback on his appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:01 PM
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That's a good list, but are you able to discern anything about these three points in a man you aren't yet dating? Go out of their way to provide for and take care of their families. Who show love and affection on a regular basis. Who aren’t porn sick and have sexual self discipline. Who make sex both gentle and enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:14 PM
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It's interesting that that calculator gives the same range for male and female, but different ideal amounts. For example, at 6ft, the ideal weights are 164.9, 161.2 ,171.1 and 177.2 for men whereas they are 153, 153, 161.2 and 158.5 for women. The range for both is 136.4-184.3.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:46 PM
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On paper, you are ok, but somehow, you struggle with dating; no girlfriend, no matches on dating apps, no female friends who want more, no girls who call you when horny - news flash - you are not average, you are below average. I think you can have some of these, but still struggle (e.g. no matches - some women swipe right on you, but you don't swipe right on them. Some female friends want more - but you don't want more with them).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:21 PM
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Which do you prefer?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:08 PM
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For me 4 is the least attractive, and it's difficult to decide between 1, 2 and 3 for the most attractive. 1 could be most attractive, but her legs aren't visible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:05 PM
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Dr. Peterson’s dating advice basically tells young men to become educated, develop goals and be financially secure, dress well, speak clearly and socialize with women He states men need to make themselves worthy of women as women pick from the tip of the dominance hierarchy. Self-improvement will tend to make people more attractive. But I wonder how important are relative standards and how important are absolute standards. If a man improves himself but so do other men so that his relative positi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:20 PM
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There isn't that much casual sex really, as an overall proportion of sex. The proportion of casual sex can be low and the proportion of people having casual sex can be low or high, and can vary a lot between men and women. If a low proportion of people are having casual sex (i.e. even attractive people who get a lot of matches and often go on dates aren't having sex) it's arguable if they are doing better than the ones who aren't dating or socialising at all. Perhaps how these people feel about …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:08 PM
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I think you're right that a shift to online socialization is a big factor. But doesn't this tend to affect men more than women? People who don't socialize much have two main options for pursuing sex/romance: make an effort to socialize more or use OLD. I think the barriers for men tend to be bigger for both. For men IRL it's more important that they demonstrate confidence and sociability and approach. Men on OLD tend to have far fewer matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:04 PM
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Do most men have an instagram account though?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:05 PM
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I think some people are mixing up single and sexless in these discussions (isn't the proportion who didn't have sex in past year the main statistic being quoted here?). There are probably quite a lot of people who had sex in the past year but are currently single. I don't think most of these are necessarily ONS/FWB. I think a lot were situations where at least one person was looking for a relationship and they had sex but never committed. If it is more often men doing this, that could be a signi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:21 PM
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Why did it peak at 27% in 2018 and fall to 11% in 2022? That's a really significant change. Wouldn't you expect it to be highest in 2020-21?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:06 PM
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What about this? " male selectivity is invariant to group size, while female selectivity is strongly increasing in group size." Gender Differences in Mate Selection: Evidence from a Speed Dating Experiment | Academic Commons (columbia.edu) The malleability of mate selection in speed-dating events - PubMed (nih.gov)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:34 PM
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I didn't make any claims that the decrease in interest was driven by attractiveness. When you say they don't care there's less guys, do you mean blue pill adherents must be women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:48 PM
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ETA: Yes I know women can and do reinforce gender stereotypes and traditional masculinity but I’m asking men how they feel about it right now seeing as you guys are the ones doing it. Do we really know who is doing it? And what are they doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:37 PM
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Wouldn't a blue pill version of the wall just happen later and be a less extreme dropoff? ​ There is a small age gap in relationships on average (data on married couples tends to show on average men are 2-4 years older). On average women seek men their age or a bit older and on average men seek women their age or a bit younger (see for example the age ranges used for search on OLD - women searching up to 5 years older and men 5 years younger is common). These age gaps mean around early 30s there…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:46 PM
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You've cum to the right place
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 09:38 PM
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Never occurred to him that being nervous, awkward and bringing up weird topics of conversation was the problem Bringing up weird topics is probably fairly easily fixable. But I'm not sure that knowing that nervousness and awkwardness are the problem tends to help. Did you have suggestions about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:00 PM
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Nice versus literal thugs doesn't seem like a good comparison. People don't know whether to interpret that as actually nice guys or "nice guys" and there aren't many literal thugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:45 AM
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I'd choose the 10. I was slightly concerned that doing me a favor implied coercion. Does the enthusiastic 3 worry that I'm doing her a favor?!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 06:18 PM
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An IG model 10 who acts bored, is lazy in bed, just does the starfish, not willing to try anything new, will blame you if she doesn't orgasm, while feeling like she's doing you a favor? It's hard to imagine this scenario. If she's doing me a favor, would she care if she has an orgasm? That sounds like she's at least a bit invested in having a good time with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 06:03 PM
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I don't really see the purpose of being wooed. Is it just playing hard to get?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:44 PM
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There is also hearing enthusiasm (moaning, "Yes, yes!" etc.) and feeling enthusiasm (passionate kissing, caressing etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:23 PM
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I hadn't heard of a WASP butt! I just googled it and just get pictures of wasps - what am I missing?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:25 PM
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I suppose the other factors they were alluding to were probably funny, confident, sociable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:16 PM
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Is it really true that men who are less misogynistic get more sex? There was an interesting study discussed in this thread Are men unable to secure relationships with women due to their misogyny? A look at the data. : PurplePillDebate (reddit.com)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:33 PM
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I think you could still say it's hypocrisy, but it doesn't matter. A lot of men have a lot of body hair and/or are balding and most probably have preferences for women to have hair on their heads and minimal body hair. A lot of women have a preference for men to be tall no matter how short they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 12:02 AM
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I think both could be true, because of the variety of porn and the different effects it has on different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 09:42 PM
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The DVDs have a feature called "Notes about nothing" which provides some background on what is going on (e.g. this guest actor also appeared in ...) and it counts stuff like the number of partners the main characters have.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 09:11 PM
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But there seems to be this idea that a girlfriend will be available all the time anyways. Where does this idea come from? I think alleviating loneliness doesn't require having people available all the time, or even necessarily most of the time. It requires the knowledge that they will be there some of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:47 PM
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Isn't that what was under discussion? You quoted this from the previous poster The average number of sexual partners among heterosexual men va women does have to be the same, mathematically. And responded This isn't true.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:47 PM
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This isn't true. Consider a sample of 10 men and 10 women. All 10 women in this sample have slept with the same 1 man. The other 9 men have had no sex. The men's average is 0.1 (1/10), the women's average is 1.0 (10/1). Where does the (1/10) come from? In your example, the calculation for women is [(1+1+1+1+1+1+1+1+1+1)/10] and for men it's [(10+0+0+0+0+0+0+0+0+0)/10] The mean is 1 for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 12:40 PM
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Interesting thoughts, but was the impact of 20th century wars on US populations significant? Also, the relative post-Vietnam peace is presumably offset to some extent by an increasing prison population.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 12:26 PM
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