I don’t remember seeing a single man ever showing his bulge in public where I live (UK), and it would not be considered acceptable if they did, especially around women or children. On the other hand young women often have their asscheeks exposed in skintight leggings.
Yes and most women find most men their age unnattractive. Also rejection, especially repeated rejection, is psychologically devastating. But as a woman you probably can’t fully understand that.
Imagine if society talked about women having to be “economically, emotionally and physically viable”. It’d be considered wildly dehumanising and misogynistic.
Patriotism is not equatable to romantic love. That’s ridiculous. What makes you think your wife cares deeply about you if she even admits to you that she would do nothing to help you even if she could?