AdenJax69 Archive

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0	Alot of guys dont have friends and that really hurts their dating life. I believe a big reason for it is two-fold: 1.) Political Conservatives are for passing laws that take away different aspects of women's rights (bodily autonomy, voting, etc.), and 2. More younger and even older men are turning towards Conservativism in the past 10 years. Fact is a lot of women are fed up with dating someone who's willing to shrug off their rights being taken away from them & it turns out that makes a lot more men "undatable" to them as a lot more men start to lean Conservative a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 04:20 PM
4	We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logic despite my (earnestly believed) insistence that most guys aren't like that. Most? Agreed. I also think that average percentage is way more than you think it is. Most men have no clue what to do when THEY'RE the ones being pursued and a lot of men out there would immediately be suspicious or freaked out because it's so against the norm for most men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 04:15 PM
6	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. Most men wouldn't have a clue if they were being hit-on because most men have either never experienced it or experienced it so little that the better option is to assume they're just being nice and courteous with no intention of dating or even flirting. That's of course a society-wide problem that will likely never be fixed so OP's idea, while not bad in-theory is like a lot of ideologies, which is they sound great on-paper but the second you try to make it a reality, all of the flaws either in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 04:12 PM
3	why aren’t men happier about the fact that they can improve themselves to be more likeable to women? Yep, and while most of that is hyperbole, it didn't get thought up out of thin air. It's because women do have it easier than men when it comes to dating because having lots of shitty prospects is way better than having almost no prospects whatsoever. Dating is a numbers game and women tend to forget that, intentionally or unintentionally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 01:14 PM
–	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt People forget that a lot of women "settle" for the man they're with, and while they can like, love, and even be attracted to him, a lot of times they don't really desire him for who he is. And if that desire's not there, then you'll eventually just have a roommateship-style relationship (or god forbid marriage) with no real passion, lust, or anything that makes a relationship go from mediocrely banal to amazing. We're actually seeing the effects in real time - more women are deciding not to sett…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 01:05 PM
–	Having female friends is absolutely a positive in dating And it must be a lot easier to be optimistic when you know you're an attractive person who's more likely to get his foot in the door to dating women than most average guys get. Your post reeks of rich men giving out financial advice while forgetting to mention they started out with a couple thousand in investments brought-on by their parents. Sure, it's not the end-all-be-all reason why they got rich but it sure as shit had way more of an impact than they're ever willing to admit. You being good…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 08:43 PM
3	If we are going to save modern dating, men need to experience an ego death in mass. Pretty much never, however there have been time periods (even including today) where women were literally forced to marry/not marry people so if given the choice, I'd go with not doing that every single time and let women still be the deciders regardless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 08:39 PM
9	If we are going to save modern dating, men need to experience an ego death in mass. I would argue the non-stop "boss-girl, 'yass queen'" is actually doing far more damage than uplifting women. That's just the women's version of men's red-pill but instead of acknowledging it, they champion it while also saying men following red-pill dynamics are unfuckable incels who should be single for the rest of their lives. The problem is we're transitioning to having more-equal roles for relationships, society, etc. however women are finally now acknowledging that there are certain roles t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 08:22 PM
–	Having female friends is absolutely a positive in dating I'm reasonably hot lol there it is. But that isn't the point here. Yes, that's absolutely the point. The point is that female friends increase any man's odds. ...if you're hot like you are. If they're average-looking? Sure, there's always a chance that woman will be interested in him, but there's also technically-speaking the chance you could get struck by lightning. Doesn't mean either of those things are gonna happen. As for your percentage examples, there's a massive difference between going …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 08:13 PM
5	If we are going to save modern dating, men need to experience an ego death in mass. No, because dating nowadays is like applying for a job, so even if you're a "qualified" person, it doesn't mean shit overall. The name of the game in the dating world is attraction and yes, women are just as looks-ist when it comes to dating as men. Sure, not entirely even but way more than they're willing to admit so even from the get-go men are being told one thing ("It's your personality that'll get you a date, not being the hottest!") but experiencing another ("still not a single woman showi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 08:04 PM
8	If we are going to save modern dating, men need to experience an ego death in mass. Because men are generally more desperate for attention, companionship, etc. than women since they receive way less of it. Our society has made men the pursuers & women the deciders for a few centuries so the average woman will always have options & the ability to pick the best of those options whereas the average man will take whatever he can get at this point, unless he wants to live the rest of his life lonely and sad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 07:39 PM
6	If we are going to save modern dating, men need to experience an ego death in mass. It could lead to droves of more men becoming content and checking out. No ego, nothing to strive for It's the "leave us alone in public" conundrum that happened in the last 10 years. Women told men emphatically & repeatedly to just leave them alone in public. Most good men did the decent thing and agreed. The shitty men kept right on bothering them. Do that to the dating world in-general? If women think dating apps & dating in general is awful NOW...	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 07:36 PM
5	If we are going to save modern dating, men need to experience an ego death in mass. Women are equally exhausted, especially when they can’t find men who have the emotional intelligence to actually step up and share the mental and domestic load. Statistics show that with every new generation, men are becoming more involved with chores, child-raising, etc. and for most younger women, finding a guy to share those things isn't anywhere near difficult - in fact a ton young men understand the idea of being a "team." The problem is there are a lot of women who don't want the "team" an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 07:28 PM
18	If we are going to save modern dating, men need to experience an ego death in mass. Because they want men to still want & desire them. They still all want the validation from men even if they don't want to be with them long-term and they want the benefits of not giving a shit about them too. They're essentially turning into those types of guys that want to use up the opposite for their validation & needs and then throw them away when they want to focus on their careers, not realizing that they hated when men did that to them. But because they're in the driver's seat, they want …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 07:19 PM
–	Having female friends is absolutely a positive in dating Plus people aren't living in sitcoms where they're ready to play "matchmaker" with their good friend Tom & Stacy from accounting. Most people don't think about matching people up romantically so even IF you'd be really good with some woman's friend, she's more than likely not going to ask, her friend is also not going to put her friend/co-worker/etc. in an awkward position, and most guys are oblivious and just assume a woman ISN'T attracted to him. I had practically zero women friends until coll…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 07:11 PM
–	Having female friends is absolutely a positive in dating Be honest - are you a short, stubby, not good-looking guy or are you pretty good-looking, in at-least good shape, and have found women to be attracted to you before? Because there's a massive step between "woman friend merged our friend-groups" and "ended up dating one of those other-friend-group women" and it's usually "other woman found me attractive enough to want to date me." And I'm not saying you have to be really attractive to have a woman give you the time of day however you have to be s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 07:06 PM
2	Men Care Way Too Much About Female Validation But that’s not true because all the studies show that testosterone is the main hormone in men and that it absolutely affects their sex drive. Just read the endless stories on Reddit of women whose husbands started testosterone therapy and suddenly their sex life was revitalized. They didn’t get that way through estradiol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 03:20 AM
5	Men Care Way Too Much About Female Validation Of course they do, because if they get a modern man who cooks, cleans, dotes on them, romances them, and provides for them, their lives get infinitely better without having to do anywhere near the work their future man will do to potentially be with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 03:16 AM
4	There's nothing morally wrong with the af/bb strategy. Thank you, that's what I was getting it & thought I was pretty clear on it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 05:38 PM
11	Approaching random women is a waste of time Sorry, tribe has spoken. They don't like it, they can go back to their tribes and undo that rule, but until then it's in place & it's not going anywhere anytime soon.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 03:19 PM
11	There's nothing morally wrong with the af/bb strategy. Most women around 50 are knee-deep in Perimenopause or Menopause so they on-average have no sex drive or major interest in romance, so why would they be unfaithful & seek out other men when they have no desire for even their own partners?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 03:13 PM
7	There's nothing morally wrong with the af/bb strategy. Interestingly, when men DO choose to stay single, they get hit with the "incel" or any other derogatory term/concept for wanting to be single. "He can't find a woman to do his bidding/be his sex doll so he's 'choosing' to be single." Are there men like that? Sure. Most men who want to stay single? Like women who choose to stay single, men out there probably don't like the choice of women, they don't meet his standards, and he'd rather be single. Both sides do like to demonize people for daring t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 03:12 PM
3	A Women being unchosen is a much bigger failure than men being unchosen. Or there is & she just isn’t up to his/their standards, so they take a “you can’t fire me, I quit” stance instead of the reality that a lot of people have high expect that they technically don’t even meet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 02:58 PM
2	Orgasm gap is not caused by men, its caused by women because they don’t close the gap of effort gap Exactly. Where is this giant population of women that love giving blowjobs? Cut the search to married women and you’ll be hard-pressed to find any lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 02:52 PM
4	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids lol if you think all it takes is the man being a good dad to keep the sex life alive, then I have a bridge in NY to sell you, because there's endless amounts of stories out there of men doing just that - being great husbands & dads, only to still watch their sex life, relationship, and even marriage slowly waste away because she's "too tired" or "too stressed" or "just wants to be alone." And then the "blindsiding" of divorce papers shocks them awake when they realize they inadvertently ruined t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:15 PM
4	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Go check certain subreddits and once a week would be paradise to those people. The land is littered with husks of previously-fulfilling relationship & marriages that were left to rot away because one partner (a lot of times the woman) decided that it was "the kid's time" and their connection together was no longer a priority or worthwhile to her from then on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:11 PM
15	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids From what I've seen, a lot of times "a few years of infrequent sex" turns into "the remainder of the relationship/marriage together" so men have a right to be guarded. And no, it's not just because they're man-babies who turn their gfs/wives into their new live-in mommies; lots of great, supportive, caring bfs/husbands get the "reward" of watching their sex lives slowly die away like an unkept garden. Tale as old as time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:09 PM
-1	The blue pill argument that women only care about men's personalities and do not care about a man's looks/status/money goes straight out the widow the second the man turns out be an abuser. By your logic, 80% of men who are disregarded by the average woman aren't "decent guys?" Seriously? You're saying less than a quarter of men are decent and the rest are completely trash? If you seriously believe that, then you're no better than the "all women want are Chad" incels who delude themselves into thinking the majority of women are awful. They're definitely not. Just like the majority of men are not awful. The truth is more banal and sadder, which is women have the luxury of being the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 05:00 PM
1	The blue pill argument that women only care about men's personalities and do not care about a man's looks/status/money goes straight out the widow the second the man turns out be an abuser. One guy who's a douchebag is your evidence, whereas dating apps have tons of data showing that the better-looking the man is, the more benefit of the doubt he gets than average looking guys. Get me as much data as that for good-looking men being disregarded by women in droves & then you'll have an argument. But you don't, because that doesn't exist. Nice one-note example though!	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:39 PM
1	The blue pill argument that women only care about men's personalities and do not care about a man's looks/status/money goes straight out the widow the second the man turns out be an abuser. Yes there is	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:38 PM
3	If you’re a man and can’t find a partner, it’s just natural selection The point is his argument isn't good, just like women's argument about how they aren't as "judgmental" isn't good either. They both suck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:37 PM
2	The blue pill argument that women only care about men's personalities and do not care about a man's looks/status/money goes straight out the widow the second the man turns out be an abuser. Again with that percentage quote. You're using an older-society example with women who didn't have the luxury of choice & control that they do now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:31 PM
4	The blue pill argument that women only care about men's personalities and do not care about a man's looks/status/money goes straight out the widow the second the man turns out be an abuser. So be a decent guy that also only goes fir decent women Most men are doing this & a lot of them are still single & dateless because women have the burden of too much choices & the majority of the time these decent guys get filtered out through no fault of their own. Being a "decent guy" is just being an actual nice person & not a "nice guy" but he gets the same results - nothing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:30 PM
-1	The blue pill argument that women only care about men's personalities and do not care about a man's looks/status/money goes straight out the widow the second the man turns out be an abuser. Unattractive people pull all the time at “last calls” in every Duce bar and club around the world. They just aren’t live streaming their lives like Clavy "People being desperate for human connection are willing to put on beer goggles and lower their standards for whatever's around them" is not the argument you think it is lol. Unattractive people can "pull" attractive people when that attractive person gets desperate enough & loses all their standards & hibitions. Awesome for them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:27 PM
2	If you’re a man and can’t find a partner, it’s just natural selection Yeah, last time I checked even overweight women can be selective with men more than overweight men can be selective with women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:22 PM
5	If you’re a man and can’t find a partner, it’s just natural selection Yes, older generations that aren't bound by the newer technology standards of dating. Of course they had lots of kids. Younger people like even in their 30's? They're having less kids, marriages, and even sex than their Gen X/Boomer Counterparts. Gen Zers & Alphas are even worse off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:20 PM
5	If you’re a man and can’t find a partner, it’s just natural selection It's the "women have lower standards towards & are less judgmental about looks" fallacy. While yes, maybe women on-average don't care about looks as much as men on-average. it's not a massive difference and most studies show only a small variation, meaning women can still be just as looks-ist as men are. The difference is men are more honest about their requirements whereas women hide it behind "compatibility" when in reality it's just a specific preference they'd prefer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:18 PM
1	I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes. I think ultimately, everyone is trying their hardest I would love to see any documented evidence of that because all I see are people addicted to their phones, scrolling on social media non-stop to get their next hit of dopamine, and more and more people are complaining about being in relationships or god forbid marriages with people who have replaced them with their phones. So no, I don't think "everyone" is trying their hardest and I even think the number is lower than people realize.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:14 PM
3	I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes. They gave them an app that let them take control and it cratered so badly they had to give control back to men to make dating easier	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:12 PM
1	I don’t agree with any of the pills but blue pill advice is far worse than red pill As a progressive man in my 40's who's becoming more far-left as I age, I can say that the one thing I've learned that for every woman who thinks they're like you, they actually want a more-masculine guy who does the traditional masculine things. My wife is also very progressive and utterly hates the Patriarchy and thinks most men are shitty (especially the ones in power). I've noticed that she likes the fact I do martial arts as well as the physique I've gotten from it. She likes me being the "M…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 01:52 PM
1	I don’t agree with any of the pills but blue pill advice is far worse than red pill Might as well refuse to believe in gravity…. Not the best example. Just because I don't believe in following it doesn't mean I can't think it's something that helps people. If I didn't "believe" in gravity, that doesn't make it any less true or ceases to exist, right? Gravity DOES exist whether I choose to believe in it or not. And Red Pill ideology does exist and has enough success for it to stay around, even if I don't think it'd work for me nor do I have any real interest in following it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 01:44 PM
11	If many women say you are a total catch but won’t date you, the harsh truth is that they are lying to you. Agree. It's just them being polite without giving him any signals that they're interested in him. Has no bearing on whether or not he actually is a "catch" but that he's a nice-enough friend they want to compliment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 12:49 PM
3	Q4M: What women-focused media to you engage with? I don’t think it’s “adopt” so much as “left with” given the current State of the world, economy, housing/rental market, etc. One man’s stoic choice is another man’s only real option to not feel completely miserable 24/7 while feeling at least a little bit in control of something in their lives.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 03:09 AM
3	Q4M: What women-focused media to you engage with? Part of the reason for that is that women love hanging out with the fun guy but they don’t really fall for him or have any intrinsic desire towards him. It’s more of a familial connection than an actual attraction towards him just as a person. He’s that “fun friend”you enjoy hanging out with and could even spend the rest of your life with him, happily too, but actual desire/want for him on any intrinsic level? Nah. He’s the safe-bet after you get all the good times out of your system. And there’…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 02:46 AM
5	“Men would love to be sexually objectified” Guys will get a compliment about their shirt or a haircut & ride that high for years	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 07:37 PM
4	“Men would love to be sexually objectified” Yep - the best way for a man to have regular desire and sex in their lives is to be a gay/bi man. Then a gay woman. Last is a hetero man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 07:36 PM
4	I don’t agree with any of the pills but blue pill advice is far worse than red pill I don’t think redpill men realise it’s their characters that make them so repellent to women. If "red-pill" ideology didn't work 100% of the time, it would've been discarded by now. Clearly it works enough to not only exist but to keep getting new people to sign on to it. I don't believe in it one bit but I'm also not going to pretend it's a garbage ideology that turns off all women. Sure, plenty of women don't sign on to it, but there appears to be enough success that guys still keep going with…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 07:26 PM
1	Q4M: What women-focused media to you engage with? How many of those are extremely popular & sought after by readers vs. being a small percentage that counts as "going against the grain" & viewed as more "niche"?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 07:20 PM
1	Physical Touch Love Language This whole thread seems like either men who married asexuals or men whose women have lost desire for him complaining about something they should've vetted for. There's the third option - men who married someone who absolutely did desire them, had kids with them, and then they decided sexual intimacy was no longer important and went into "parent mode" through no fault of the husband/dad. And this happens a LOT more than people don't want to believe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 12:15 PM
0	Physical Touch Love Language Most people that have genuine attraction fuck like rabbits in the beginning and then eventually it slows down a little as you see each other more often, but you're still having sex multiple times a week. That's been my experience, but I never really dated low libido types. Congrats on being in the top 5%! But no, most people on-average are having sex about once a week. The second largest stat after that is once a month. In fact, about 30% of couples on-average are having sex once a month or less…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 12:01 AM
0	Physical Touch Love Language Then they're bad, unhelpful, unsupportive partners who don't deserve sympathy & instead need to change, regardless of gender. See how easy that was? But the fact is there are plenty of women, like men, who suck at being supportive, dependable, romantic partners because they're either too lazy or too immature to sustain a long-term relationship or even marriage. Or start off good but get complacent and decide their partner is a means-to-an-end instead of someone they shouldn't be taking for grant…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 08:11 PM
1	Physical Touch Love Language However, one does not require the other. You can still have an active, healthy, fun, raunchy sex life and still make time for snuggling without it necessarily needing to lead to sex every time. Oh, 100%. But there's a fine line between "not needing it to lead to sex" and "this is the only way we have any real intimacy in our relationship/marriage" and the person who prefers the latter never says it out-loud. People should aim to be matched on both, IMO, among other things. Again, agreed, but peo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 08:07 PM
3	Physical Touch Love Language While there's plenty of men who inflict the sexless situation on themselves by being bad lovers/partners, there's still a ton of men out there doing everything "right" and still completely confused when their gf/wife slowly lets the intimacy dynamic rot away without any real explanation, but deep-down we all know what happened: They didn't want to admit out-loud that desiring their partner is no longer their "priority" and they're perfectly happy with the sexless situation, but can't say that ou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 07:15 PM
2	Physical Touch Love Language I look at the present and the future, not the past. If a woman is not adding value to your life like you want, then sure go to other women. If she is being the woman you desire then it's okay to reward her. "Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it" - George Santayana Once again, "rewarding" for someone who chooses not to desire you and only comes running back when they might lose you is just teaching her how short a leash she can give you, not how to treat you properly. Whe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 07:10 PM
2	Men are less sympathetic because they more readily display antisocial traits The only way something changes on a societal level is if a bunch of people decide they want things to be different and act accordingly. The real question is do women want that type of change? Go look at the last Presidential election and you'll see that the woman that wants a "modern" man who's in touch with his feelings and emotions aren't as many as you thought they were. Women generally only want that when it's convenient for them and when it's not they want the stoic, keep-his-issues-to-hims…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 07:03 PM
2	Physical Touch Love Language But when she gets back that desire, why wouldn't you go back to her, she is doing what you want. Because you're giving her what she wants, which is control over you. You don't go back to partners that treat you bad or don't meet your specifications/needs. You're just rewarding someone for their bad/non-existent behavior by sticking around. If you're a great partner, it makes sense why she'd want to keep you around, but is SHE a good partner when she stopped desiring you? Last time I checked, goo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 06:58 PM
2	Physical Touch Love Language I'm always surprised when women talk about how much some men don't do some of those things. And yet I'm not surprised at the endless stories of men having a gf/wife who loves to cuddle, hold hands, hug, etc. and have zero interest in anything sexual whatsoever. There are definitely shitty men who use "physical touch" as an excuse to get to sex. There are definitely women who use it as non-sexual intimacy only and have no desire for sexual intimacy with people they supposedly "desire."	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 06:54 PM
2	Physical Touch Love Language And sadly when I see people complain about the lack of intimacy, it usually boils down to sex. Because complaining about a lack of sex sounds entitled and coercive. Thats why people try to get around the assumptions by saying anything but "sex". Even if it boils down to a lack of sex. If you've been on those subs, then you know that it's not fully about the sex. It's about being wanted & desired. You ask any people in a dead bedroom or sexless marriage if they want to have sex with their partner…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 06:49 PM
4	Physical Touch Love Language Just find another woman who does and when your wife gets back her desire for you, stop. Why stay with someone who chose not to desire you at any point in time? You're just teaching them that they can stop desiring you but if you eventually show them desire again, they'll come back like the good little puppy that they are (and are acting like). Best advice is to leave the wife for that women that desires you and WANTS to desire you in the first place. The wife had that chance, and they discarded …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 06:44 PM
1	Men make long term relationships unsustainable Men realllllly are not attracted to their aged wives. Disagree, in fact it's usually the other way around - women stop desiring their husbands the longer the marriage goes on, and a lot of times regardless of how good he is to the marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/26 03:36 PM
1	Men make long term relationships unsustainable You actually desired your husband and were very attracted to him in the first place. A lot of women look at at what he does before who he is, so many women just end up settling for a guy they know will be "better" for them, even when they don't really desire him all that much. It sucks but men eventually figure out their wives don't desire them, and it's usually when the sex dies off and his wife is more interested doom-scrolling on her phone than paying attention to him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/26 03:35 PM
0	Men make long term relationships unsustainable Because women want stability and a good provider/parent as a partner, so they pick men that fit those needs. Notice I didn't include "desire" in that list because a lot of women don't feel the need to desire their partner, and that the relationship/marriage being good with each other is enough. Of course her man will eventually catch on to this and not be thrilled he's the one she's settling with rather than picking him out of attraction/desire to be with him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/26 03:32 PM
1	Do you think that women have responsive desire? I still initiate like 80% of the sex we have, but I don't get many rejections. This is the biggest issue when it comes to responsive desire. When therapists, counselors, etc. talk about responsive desire, THIS is what they mean - a person needs to be "warmed up" to have sex BUT they can get warmed up fairly easily and the sexual intimacy dynamic continues on regularly. Where people mess up is either attributing their partner or their partner attributing themselves as having "responsive desire" w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/26 01:11 PM
2	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them Unfortunately there’s a lot more people who are avoidant than we want to admit as well as more people who are awful at both communicating our issues to our partners & advocating for ourselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 01:40 AM
2	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them I would ask all those women if there was a time when he was still doing all those things but she slowed the sex down unilaterally until he stopped showing interest after getting rejected endlessly. Do men stop putting in effort due to laziness? Absolutely. Do women stop showing desire for their still-actively romantic partner and kill off their sex lives, and put the blame on their men for “not doing enough?” More than women are willing to admit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 01:36 AM
1	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them It’s not guaranteed that women’s drives come back after perimenopause and also men aren’t guaranteed to go flaccid, either. Stop projecting your own insecurities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 01:33 AM
2	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them And women still dominate the marriage, relationship, and sex subreddits because they’re more likely to talk openly about these issues whereas men aren’t. Also, visit the main marriage sub to see why men don’t share their feelings as much. I’ll give you a hint: most of these subs are run & populated by men-hating women who can’t wait to praise a woman and shit-talk men every chance they get.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 01:26 AM
11	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them Look around this site and when a man asks about sex issues in his marriage with his wife while indicating he does almost everything women claim is needed to create “desire,” women have no clue what to say. Know why? Because they HATE to admit when a woman is just being a shitty, unreasonable wife who bait-and-switched her husband. They hate it so much they just double-down on telling him to do more chores or date her more. Yes, man-babies shouldn’t get sympathy for creating a dead bedroom. Shitt…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 01:22 AM
3	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them And I’m sure every person thought the same thing until they actually got into that situation and then it was apparent that no, even people good at communicating can’t fix things when a.) there’s an incompatibility, and b.) the person creating the incompatibility is being non-serious & non-committal about fixing things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 01:17 AM
2	Women approaching men should be the norm. Just like there aren’t enough men who want relationships. It’s the vicious circle that will never end.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 11:45 PM
6	No woman who likes you is gonna make you wait or play “hard to get” Sometimes, unfortunately, we are not sure so it makes things take longer. If we decide no and it's been months, it's part of the process. Most men aren't waiting literal months to see if a woman is truly into him. If it seriously takes someone months to figure out if they desire/want someone, then the answer is "they don't" and both people are better for moving on. Women for the most part know whether or not they like/enjoy/desire a man on a romantic level, or at the very least if there's someth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 07:51 PM
2	No woman who likes you is gonna make you wait or play “hard to get” Yep, and if she DOES make him wait even though she's really interested, then she's a manipulate game-player and not worth your time in the first place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 01:49 PM
10	No woman who likes you is gonna make you wait or play “hard to get” We also approach men for dates if we really like them Another reality a lot of men don't want to acknowledge - if you can't tell whether or not she's into you, then you've got your answer & it's time to move on to someone who will.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 01:47 PM
14	No woman who likes you is gonna make you wait or play “hard to get” Many men go a long time before experiencing what it's like to be wanted, and some just don't get the experience. Without experiencing it at least once, they lack a point of reference That's a major point I don't think women on-average really comprehend. I wouldn't say most men but definitely a lot more men have never truly felt desired by a woman than they realize.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 01:44 PM
3	When the divorce was done, what did you do ? Lost many battles, knowing one day you would win the war, and you had your victory moment to celebrate. Didn't matter what it was, it was going to be wonderful all the same.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/02/26 07:58 PM
1	If she wants you, the sex doesn't matter And amazing sex is meaningless & a waste of time with someone who doesn't truly desire you, so which is worse?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 05:00 PM
-2	If she wants you, the sex doesn't matter I'd wager a lot of "incompatibilities" are because one person desires their partner while the other never really did and just assumed their partner would be cool with that. Hence why people leaving - they realize their partner doesn't/maybe never truly desired them and it was never gonna improve, so better to cut their losses now and find someone who WANTS to desire them and actually does.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 04:59 PM
6	The bar is in hell and the guy who swiped on 2 million women on Tinder proves it. "Guy who makes the worst dating profile in the history of profiles can't get a date." Not shocking there. Women have way higher standards on dating apps than in real life so of course he's not getting a single date. The shocking thing would be that he actually got one with his one-dimensional personality & inability to talk to women at even the most basic core elements. Now, if a woman did the woman-version of that? "I get bored easily, so you need to be interesting." "if you don't like me at my…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 03:18 PM
3	The bar is in hell and the guy who swiped on 2 million women on Tinder proves it. Yeah, this is a guy who's probably so bad at talking to women that it's almost impressive how bad he is at it, like the women aren't even mad at him, just surprised a guy like this actually exists in the world and has absolutely no self-awareness to get himself out of it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 03:12 PM
4	Being hookup/FWB material is better than being husband material. Women often tell a man he is “husband material,” not “hookup” or “FWB” material. I don’t understand why some women think this is a compliment. Because to them, "husband material" means "he's a great, loving, caring, supportive man who will be a wonderful partner as we grow old together," but what it actually means is "hey, here's a guy who will put up with all my issues so I don't have to put in as much effort as he will." It's not a compliment. Most women when they talk about how much of an ama…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 05:38 PM
–	Would you rather be someone's best sex or best partner overall? Complete piece of shit - fair enough	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 04:46 PM
–	Would you rather be someone's best sex or best partner overall? Let me guess - he was a lazy slob who did nothing around the house and turned you off? Totally understandable, FYI.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 04:40 PM
–	You should have to be sexually active or trying to be sexually active with the opposite sex to post or comment Sexually active women can talk about what their sex partners did to attract them. They were attractive enough for her to want to have sex with him. Sexually active men can talk about what worked for them. Their gf/wife continues to desire them & makes the sexual intimacy dynamic a priority so sex can continue. When it comes to straight relationships/marriages, men gate-keep relationships and women gatekeep sex, and this is a dynamic that hasn't really changed even with all the "gender norms" we'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 04:27 PM
–	Would you rather be someone's best sex or best partner overall? Best Partner, because as a straight guy there will eventually be a time when your "best sex" connection will stop desiring sex, so might as well have a good relationship/marriage when that eventuality plays out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 04:24 PM
–	Would you rather be someone's best sex or best partner overall? Spoken like someone who can get it anytime anywhere they want. If I had those unlimited options I'd probably feel the same way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 04:22 PM
4	People need sex the same way spoiled brats need the newest iPhone. You have reasoning for women being lonely and a stereotypical answer for men, hence your belief that women deserve the explanation and men deserve the scorn.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 04:20 PM
0	People need sex the same way spoiled brats need the newest iPhone. No one dies from a lack of sex. Society technically would. Hard to have one if most people aren't procreating and connecting to each other. Last time I checked that's pretty critical but what do I know.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 04:17 PM
6	People need sex the same way spoiled brats need the newest iPhone. And there it is - "men are evil and women are a monolith that can do no wrong"	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 04:15 PM
11	Men do not have “genuine desire” for their partners in the way they want for themselves Men desire variety, they feel they are settling if they’re only having sex with one woman. That is categorically untrue. Studies have shown that in long-term relationships/marriages, women are more likely to lose their desire for their partner, whereas men were found to have almost the same level of desire for their gfs/wives like in the beginning of the relationship. No offense, but your write-up sounds like a justification why women should bounce-out of sex, or more importantly, intimacy becau…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 04:09 PM
1	The "you are either attracted to them or not" people (mainly women) ignore one of the most basic things about attraction - it can be manufactured, learned and acquired. And women are a monolith that can do no wrong, I get it	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/26 02:52 PM
-1	The "you are either attracted to them or not" people (mainly women) ignore one of the most basic things about attraction - it can be manufactured, learned and acquired. They are, because men are more desperate and started for affection so getting affection from an "ugly" woman is still a win in his book whereas a woman getting affection from an "ugly" guy would seem like a waste of her time when she likely has more-attractive men at her disposal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:58 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire Nope, and I won't waste my time	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:44 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire Yes, I've seen that book touted a hundred times as well as her other books and the giant asterisk on those books is if the person who theoretically is the one who has the "responsive desire" doesn't read them, then absolutely nothing changes even if the guy did, because again, most women who think "I have a responsive desire" are mistaken and should be saying "I have almost no desire for my partner and don't really care that I do - it's mostly his problem anyway since I'm happy and fulfilled by …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:41 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire True, but if unless your partner changes their entire fashion-sense to something avant-garde, you probably wouldn't find very many people saying "I mean she's attractive, but that boot length just turned me off."	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:39 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire Where are these studies? Here you go! The study involved 4,839 men and 6,669 women making it one of the largest studies to look at the sexual attitudes among the population. The participants were aged between 16 and 74 years and had at least one sexual partner in the previous year. From this study it was found that 15 percent of the men and 34 percent of the women surveyed lost interest in having sex for three months or more in the previous year. Women who were in a relationship for over a year …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:37 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire Hey, you guys aren't lustful sexual people, I get it. Lots of people like a routine platonic relationship with each other where desire isn't something they both want in the relationship/marriage. Good that you two were compatible on that!	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:26 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire Oh I totally agree. Most women are capable of being way more sexual than they let on, but the standard of men they'd do that generally finds those women below those men's standards, and they'll never see it. So instead they just settle with a man they find pretty attractive, nice, sweet, and will be a good husband/father in the future, and once the kids show up, it's wind-down time and all that "lust" or "desire" she sort of had for you magically disappears because "responsive desire" or "reason…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:24 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire Depends on how long "getting to know someone" is and more often than not it's probably a sign that that person doesn't really prioritize sex/intimacy in a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:19 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire You think people are neurodivergent because they become attracted to someone despite their clothing choices on a day-to-day basis? Are you sure YOU aren't the neurodivergent one? Most people who have an attraction/lust for someone won't be put-off by their clothing unless they were dressed in full Nazi regalia or something. I guess the better question is: have YOU ever lusted/felt a strong desire for someone in the first place?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:14 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire So you'd rather be with someone along the lines of "Babe, when I first met you, I thought 'meh, she's okay I guess' and didn't really have any attraction to you whatsoever. But after hanging out with you a bunch, I realized you were a pretty nice person and easy to be with, so I figured 'why not go for something more comfortable than actually being hot for them for a change?' and here we are!" I'm not saying a relationship has to be all about lust, but you could probably find something like the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:10 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire Because women are fully capable of loving, enjoying, and even desiring their man, but not on any lustful, sexual level. There's a reason why they say most men have spontaneous desire & women have responsive desire - men are generally present & continually desire their gfs/wives sexually and most of the time keep that level of desire throughout the relationship marriage. But women? Women tend to go from spontaneous to responsive desire, meaning you have to "jump-start" their desire for sex with y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:06 PM
–	Slow burn vs genuine desire Unfortunately studies have shown women are more likely to lose their desire in long-term relationships/marriages than men so you're gonna be breaking up with/divorcing a lot more women than you think.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:01 PM
3	Men who left a long term sexless marriage with kids after meeting someone else how did it turn out but this is the only life you get so why spend it being miserable so you can make someone else feel happy? Your existence isn't confined to her & her happiness only. Yeah, it may suck to get divorced a second time, but at least you know that maybe you're just not the type of guy that wants to get tied-down and deal with all these issues while your partner gets to be happy & fulfilled.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/26 01:56 PM
–	Getting laid as a guy shouldn't be this difficult Ah, okay. Sorry, you put that "it's quite rare AND most of the time" there so I thought it was a continuation on your thoughts on men who want to pleasure women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 08:57 PM
–	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women Let me guess, you assume all aces are celibate, right? I'm sure answer isn't zero, but do YOU think the answer is actually a high percentage or are we just playing semantics with the idea that "well, it isn't technically zero" as the end-all-be-all answer you think it may be. I can answer that FYI - no, all aces aren't celibate, but I'm willing to bet I'd have a much much better chance of becoming celibate if I dated/married an asexual women vs. a non-asexual woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 08:56 PM
–	Getting laid as a guy shouldn't be this difficult Unfortunately, this mindset is quite rare and most of the time, the sex is going to be shit. So...men who want to pleasure their women results in shitty sex most of the time?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 08:49 PM
3	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women Most dating advice isn't useless IMO, but either way it has to be paired with the man having to learn how to live with rejection and stepping out of his comfort zone Ask women if they like the current job market of sending out a hundred resumes and getting no responses except for a few "nah"s here & there, and then ask them if they'd like to experience that in the dating world and see how many actually utter an answer through the horrified looks on their face. People who tend to give the advice …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 06:35 PM
2	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women Being an amazing guy who's marginally attractive is like having a twin-turbo V8 engine in a Pontiac Aztek - people can appreciate the engine but the model's exterior just isn't worth it. Sure there's basement-dwelling assholes lamenting their lack of "game" with women but there's just as many great guys who are sweet, kind, have interesting hobbies, etc. but only so-so attractive that rarely get their foot in the door for dating. It's a cutthroat system in place and if you're not looking physica…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 06:28 PM
5	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women True, but women slowly lose their desire for their partner the longer a relationship/marriage goes on while men tend to keep the same level of desire so it's not if-but-when a woman doesn't really care about being with their partner physically, emotionally, sexually, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 06:23 PM
3	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women True, but women slowly lose their desire for their partner the longer a relationship/marriage goes on while men tend to keep the same level of desire so it's not if-but-when a woman doesn't really care about being with their partner physically, emotionally, sexually, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 06:23 PM
8	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women And part of the imbalance is that men want to date women more than women want to date men. I thought it was women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of relationships, but apparently women are now the gatekeepers of that too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 06:22 PM
9	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women Curious - do you think there's women that should ascribe to the same idea that they're not social people who should completely change themselves in order to make themselves "good enough" to attract a man?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 06:18 PM
–	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women I would listen to them on how to keep a relationship though. Disagree. A lot of modern women have become TikTok-obsessed lazy doom-scrollers that have taken over the "lazy partner/spouse" syndrome so asking them for advice would only get you closer to that kind of situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 06:11 PM
2	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women If we're going to use this metaphor, it's like giving women the choice between a high-quality sports car that'll be pretty difficult to drive, or a modest sedan with scrapes, chipping, a baseline interior with no real bells & whistles, but will be perfectly safe and exactly what she "needs." If she has the choice, a lot of women would SAY "the sports car is too much for me and I don't want to deal with all that" but what they CHOOSE is different. I'm not saying all but a lot more women would cho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 06:08 PM
7	Told her last night It's hard to desire someone who doesn't desire you back. Your wife didn't desire you and all that time she didn't want to desire you. She made her choice, and now you're making yours. If she doesn't like it, well actions, or in this case, lack-of actions have consequences. She taught you not to desire her and it worked. You're better off finding someone who won't do that to you in the first place.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/26 06:51 PM
–	Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring. Reading is women's favorite hobbies, so they want their bf/husband to do the same thing they're doing. Swimmers generally have a good physique so they get to enjoy a partner who's in great shape. Astronomy is a weird one. My guess is they mixed up "Astronomy" with "Astrology" as they sometimes think that's the same thing and women love Astrology nonsense so of course they'd like their man to like it too. (the last one's a joke, kinda sorta.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/25 12:33 AM
–	Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring. More that it’s pretty selfish to want your partner’s hobbies to have some direct benefit to you over them doing it because it makes them happy. Video games may make a guy happy but women wrong like it because they don’t get any direct benefit whatsoever and don’t care that he enjoys it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 10:44 PM
15	Men say they just want a normal, decent partner and resent women for wanting ‘perfect’; Women are terrified of being chosen merely for being decent and acceptable That was amazing to see - a company gave women the ability to be like a man and be the pursuer for a change and they collectively went "nah, we'll stay being the choosers, way less self-esteem crushing." Can't make this stuff up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 09:22 PM
–	Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring. You get to take her on an international vacation and do all the work in planning, translating, etc. while she gets to sit back and enjoy all that hard work in a beautiful foreign Country. Pretty straight-forward really.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 09:16 PM
–	Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring. I already said it - she gets to be entertained by it. That's the benefit. If he restored instruments as a hobby, think she would like it the same amount? No, because she wouldn't get a direct benefit from it (unless it made them a lot of money, then it would delve being beneficial for her again).	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 09:15 PM
10	Men say they just want a normal, decent partner and resent women for wanting ‘perfect’; Women are terrified of being chosen merely for being decent and acceptable Congrats on putting in the effort but from all the stories & studies, most women don't do that unless she is 1,000% extremely interested in you. Any slight wavering and you're sent to the back of the line.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 08:35 PM
–	Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring. It's not about looking attractive, it's about benefiting them in some way. Any hobby that only benefits him is looked at as "problematic" because how dare he enjoy something regularly that doesn't give her satisfaction in some way. After all, his hobbies are her hobbies, kinda, not really, but yes!	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 08:27 PM
–	Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring. You're not far off. Women talk all the time about "toxic masculinity" but then later acknowledge they enjoy certain traits in men more than others and the top ones usually are very masculine & have the better potential to be toxic. So basically don't ask women what they want in a man because it's a moving target that changes day-to-day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 08:22 PM
–	Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring. Not shocking that all those hobbies directly benefit them in some way and not just because it's good for the guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 08:21 PM
–	Women who hate video games and reject guys because of it aren't mature, they're just boring. It makes her swoon & feel more attracted to him as well as entertaining her, so that's why it's in the top 5. No woman is going to pick a hobby for a man that doesn't benefit them in some way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/25 08:19 PM
12	The days of men cold approaching random women in streets, malls, and grocery stores left and right are long gone and will never come back. Yep, this is it, and the real issue we're not talking about is that this method is also slowly being eroded away. Hard to meet friends of friends, co-workers, etc. when going out & doing things is borderline unaffordable. Plus online dating has given people the false sense of choice/access when in reality it's being run by greedy shit corporations doing everything they can to keep you swiping and never leaving. Men being turbo-rejected by dozens of women in less than a week instead of a few here…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/25 02:03 PM
–	“Male loneliness crisis” gets the attention it does because society fears lonely discontented men more than it fears lonely discontented women I was thinking more from a "stop using pharmaceuticals as a candy-spilling slot machine and actually curtail our over-reliance on prescribing them because it benefits a lot of different people, corporations, etc. financially" as well as "implement more treatment programs and wellness centers and actually fund them to exist more than a few years before we have to close them up because a millionaire's altruism disappeared when he realized he could take that money and turn it 10x over through pump …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/25 03:25 AM
0	Where do women want to be hit on? Then the solution is to recreate venues "Just build the infrastructure necessary for dating to be a better place for you men, why is that so hard for you to realize?" I mean, wow. I have tried to ask out men before. It ended up being a turn off. They all said yes tho So the reverse-process worked, but was a "turn-off." If men had this mentality, Apps & what existing venues left would die-off overnight.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 07:42 PM
2	Where do women want to be hit on? The problem is we're breaking down barriers except the "men must do the courting for women" one, while also getting rid of most of the avenues men had to court women. Bars, clubs, concerts, etc. are now all insanely expensive and most are now tailoring their experiences to friends & family get-togethers, not single people. So instead of figuring out gender-neutral ways to get BOTH sides to court each other, we've limited men's avenues while also telling them to "leave women alone in public & sto…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:59 PM
2	Where do women want to be hit on? You don't. You realize it's not gonna happen and you move on with your life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:54 PM
2	Where do women want to be hit on? Admit that he has no real avenue in meeting this woman so he should just cut his losses?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:54 PM
–	Women don't need a social circle or amazing social skills to get a boyfriend I am not discussing the problems with women, because there are a lot too. There are? Haven't heard anything but how shitty, violent, and awful men are, so it's news to me if women have real "problems," unless those problems are "men," in which case yes, I've heard that one too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:48 PM
–	Women don't need a social circle or amazing social skills to get a boyfriend And if men did that they'd immediately be accused of "holding women to too-high of standards to fit their desire for women be a certain 'way' to be in a relationship and now "toxic it is that men won't give 'good' women the chance they deserve without litmus-testing them."	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:38 PM
–	Women don't need a social circle or amazing social skills to get a boyfriend Of course she does, because women benefit from traditional roles, so why would they take away something that benefits them in the name of "equality?" What are they, altruists??	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:33 PM
–	“Male loneliness crisis” gets the attention it does because society fears lonely discontented men more than it fears lonely discontented women As if a "capitalist matriarchy" would be nothing but sunshine & rainbows with equality & prosperity for everyone, but go on & pretend like that would totally happen if women had total control over society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:01 PM
–	“Male loneliness crisis” gets the attention it does because society fears lonely discontented men more than it fears lonely discontented women Reductive and ironically a good example, because we have the data that shows how best to lower addictions from happening in society while also better-treating current addiction problems, but we don't bother to do either because 1.) it costs money that no one wants to be on the hook for, and 2.) Our "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" beliefs in our society will never get us a consensus on agreeing these are the best things to do...and that's not even including all the money certain companies m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 05:49 PM
–	“Male loneliness crisis” gets the attention it does because society fears lonely discontented men more than it fears lonely discontented women That's definitely part of this chaotic transition. Women are standing up for their worth and not being taken advantage of anymore, which is a good thing for them & society. Men are also starting to do this and it turns out when a specific gender is doing the harder, more dangerous, and more-critical jobs society needs, that tends to affect everyone no matter what your beliefs or ideals are. The sad fact is men have been doing the majority of the thankless jobs that need to be done for society to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 05:40 PM
3	Why don’t women like passport bros? Well, that's what happens when the Economy sucks, jobs are non-existent, you can barely afford your rent because costs went up, groceries/clothes/internet/etc. all cost more than ever, you can't get a major illness or you'll be bankrupt., etc. etc. etc. When all that's happening, AND you're trying to find happiness with someone other than just your friends/family, desperation can set in, and for a lot of guys out there, it's getting tougher because now you have to add-on to the fact that more wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 07:37 PM
9	Why don’t women like passport bros? I mean, I guess to me... Why not wait for a woman who is literally throwing herself at you? Because for a LOT of men, if they truly waited for a woman who practically "throw themselves" at him, he's either going to be waiting a very long time, or he might be waiting for the rest of his life. That's great that you do this, but most women? They don't do this, ESPECIALLY if the guy's an average-looking decent guy that doesn't have an over-the-moon skill set to impress women with. My wife was defini…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 07:25 PM
1	Our culture promotes consent and mindfulness more than ever in history, yet people fuck less than ever The "paths for men" for dating in-general don't seem too great if you break it down: Online dating - lots of "no's," ghosting, and very little success. 1:4 ratio of women to men so higher competition means higher standards/requirements. Cold approach - Meet women in public places. Majority of women don't want this, especially in non-social settings (grocery store, mall, etc.). Social settings like bars, clubs, etc. are also becoming less inviting; mostly friends & family get-together there nowad…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 07:19 PM
7	Why don’t women like passport bros? I constantly ask myself "Why don't men actually want to be wanted? Why would they rather be needed?" I can answer that one. It's because a LOT of men live their lives never getting to feel wanted, even if they've been in relationships. Men WANT to be wanted, but unfortunately sometimes they don't get that option. Women don't really desire men to the level that men desire women. So what's the next best thing? Being needed. So they're the "safe, secure" choice that can fix stuff around the house, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 07:13 PM
2	Our culture promotes consent and mindfulness more than ever in history, yet people fuck less than ever I'm willing to bet women willing to "play the game" so-to-speak made that easier. I mean the job market went from "meet the manager, hand in your resume, and get an interview that week" to "send your resume out to 100's of businesses to hear everyone either say no or dead-silence when they ignore you altogether." Which one do we think kids nowadays would prefer to do? Just like the idea of approaching women when society & women deemed it "part of the game." Now it's a no-go zone so send your per…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 06:58 PM
1	Men, what actually motivates you to be romantic towards a woman? I can tell you that since you're adding your anecdote as "proof" then I'll add mine as well, and no, almost all of the men I know and surround myself with are great men who do most of the cooking, cleaning, childcare, etc. and are great partners too, and the wives...not so much. In fact most of the time I see in my kid's school whenever there's school night activities or other events, Almost all the Dads are front & center either along side their wives or taking the helm on everything, and these…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 06:54 PM
-1	Men, what actually motivates you to be romantic towards a woman? I would add the caveat that while this is good advice for men, keep in mind that most modern women do NOT get this type of advice and only get the "men should be making romantic gestures towards you" narrative where they think romance happens AT them, not WITH them. I bring this up because a lot of long-term relationships/marriages run into the problem where the man is doing all the heavy-lifting keep the romance alive in the relationship/marriage while the woman pretty much just sits back & enj…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 03:48 PM
3	Our culture promotes consent and mindfulness more than ever in history, yet people fuck less than ever It's not just cold-approaching random women. Men are finding it harder to approach women period because of home much & how often women complained about constantly being pestered by men (which a lot of reasons were and are legitimate). The problem is even in friend circles, clubs/hobbies, etc., men are still apprehensive of making the first move. Younger men have had it instilled in their brain that "she's not just your sex doll for you to pester whenever you're horny," which is great, but it's a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 03:36 PM
–	What are your thoughts on promoting arranged marriages in the west? Sure, but we have laws creating consequences if they DO awful, violent things, so that it deters people from doing really shitty, life-ending things. Picking a bad partner? That's on you, unfortunately. No one is forcing you to date or marry anyone if you don't want to (at least if you live an a western Country). And sure, people make shitty decisions all the time, but if it's not to the level where they might end up killing someone/groups of people, why should I worry about them picking someone…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 09:03 PM
1	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. lol your take from women not stepping up is "clearly you're the problem for not accepting their awful level of contributions and 'yass queen'ing them every day." Yikes on a pogo stick. Now what? Warn as many young men as possible not to get involved with lazy, non-effort women just because they may fuck them every once in awhile. The juice is definitely not worth the squeeze and there's other women out there who will put in a concerted effort to create a good relationship dynamic between them. T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 06:52 PM
2	Did getting into a relationship change your views/approach? If that were true, then the number one reason men would file for divorce would be "she stopped being hot," instead of "a lack of commitment, constant conflict/arguing, and infidelity."	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 05:38 PM
1	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. And with thoughts & ideas like that, it's no wonder young men will continue to keep going in that direction with women standing around, pissed-off and still clueless as to why it keeps happening. (I definitely want it to stop too, but I also know the reasons it won't and it's probably our new norm for the foreseeable future)	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 05:06 PM
3	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. I know exactly what happens "after," and that's men having to continuously & constantly put in effort while their counterpart barely does anything. It's funny how Mother's Day & Women's Day are these celebrated cultural holidays while Father's Day & Men's Day are these forgotten days that no one truly cares about. Ask a lot of modern men "what did you do/get for your gf/wife on Mother's Day/Valentine's Day/Birthday?" and while Boomer men would shrug and give a shitty answer, modern men have that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 05:03 PM
0	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. People don't just become assholes overnight. It's nurtured. Finding ways to get rid of the Andrew Tates of the world is great, but what led them in that direction in the first place? Don't fix that problem then you'll get a brand new Andrew Tate 2.0 while people stand around wondering how to stop him, all the while treating the symptoms and not the illness itself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:58 PM
3	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. The false equivalence is thinking that dating opposite-sex people is the same as dating same-sex people is when it isn't. Different life experiences, standards, etc. for opposite-sex people while same-sex people get the benefit of dating someone VERY SIMILAR to you, even in gender requirements.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:56 PM
4	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. It’s kind of a breeze if I’m being honest. False equivalence. Gay men have way more sexual fulfillment & happiness in relationships than straight or lesbian couples because same-sex relationships make the dating process way simpler. Straight couples have the handicap of 2 different genders with different thought processes, standards in how they were raised, etc., so of COURSE you hanging out with other women is "easier." Men have to do all the heavy-lifting to court a woman because she's the cho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:24 PM
5	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. America? Most women are happy to just hang back while the man does all the courting. That's been America's Dating Culture for 100 years running and even with our "breaking gender & cultural norms" that ones STILL seems to stick around for someone reason, I can't quite put my finger on why....hmmm.....	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:17 PM
3	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. Shitty men don't, and they get relegated to the back of the lines, rightfully so. Decent, average guys? They're the ones getting left out in the cold so they're the ones who are developing a lot of these opinions long-term. People think young people's politics changed in a vacuum seemingly overnight when it was years of being told they were trash before they even had a chance to introduce themselves. A "consequence epidemic" is apt because it goes both ways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:15 PM
3	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. That's because nowadays the average man isn't capable of getting the average woman to even look over his way, much less "choose" her in any capacity. It's a seller's market and women have all the inventory, so-to-speak. They get their choices of who they want so right now most of them are looking for higher level men that are technically out of their league. Eventually they may look toward an average guy's direction, but he'll be competing like he's in a higher-than-normal weight class with all …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:12 PM
9	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. Because Reddit, like most other social media/forums, will adhere to the side of caution against men but give women the benefit of the doubt, every time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:07 PM
4	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. but assuming that you'll get sex eventually And you know what they say about assuming things...	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:03 PM
6	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. Spoken like someone who's never dated a woman before & doesn't understand how much effort men constantly have to put on while you get to just lay back & enjoy the fruits of their labor. Must be a great place to be in!	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:58 PM
6	The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships. Translation: "If you don't like constantly jumping through hoops just to get a sliver of desire while you have the same amount of desire for your partner then relationships aren't for you." If all men suddenly became aware of this, half of marriages/relationships would end overnight. Women LOVE being the choosers and not the pursuers because they get to enjoy the fruits of their bf's/husband's labor without them doing any work. Of COURSE women would have the "then relationships aren't for you" o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:57 PM
12	What are your thoughts on promoting arranged marriages in the west? And that “higher success rate” doesn’t specify whether or not people want to get divorced or not even married in the first place but don’t say anything due to cultural pressures. It’s like saying “Kim Jong Un has the full support of the people” and while they’re technically correct, there’s a major underlying factor not being talked about, which is “because they fear for their family’s safety if they don’t.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:43 AM
4	Did getting into a relationship change your views/approach? I'm married with a kid so I don't really consider myself "pilled" but being with my wife for 13 years (married for 10) has given me an interesting perspective on how women behave in regards to relationships, friendships, growing older, dealing with life's not-so-fun situations, etc. A main thing I've learned in regards to male/female long-term relationships is you can be the best partner you can be to the point they brag about you to their college friends they see a few times a year while said-f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:52 AM
9	Did getting into a relationship change your views/approach? More like he had to exceed normal expectations while she likely didn't. He has to maintain his physique because she could probably leave him for someone else pretty quickly while he'd have to go back to the drawing board.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:44 AM
7	Men aren’t inherently more desperate for relationships than women are, just more disadvantaged. but a woman isn't going to date someone they aren't sexually attracted to, that's the only thing that's 100% non-negotiable. They absolutely can & do. Women don't look at sex as the be-all-end-all in the grand scheme of things. Sure, there are lots of women out there who enjoy sex & think it's important, but there's a ton of women out there that have a take-it-or-leave-it approach to sex and honestly see it as a means to an end (aka pregnancy to start a family) and not much else. Plus how many w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:37 AM
13	Men aren’t inherently more desperate for relationships than women are, just more disadvantaged. It's always funny to me that women go right to the lowest common denominator because it's the easiest argument to throw out there & deflect from the real issue, which is there are great guys out there that either aren't "attractive enough" by women or worse, women are initially attracted to him but after years of being with him, slowly lose their desire for him and don't really care. Ask women "why do you lose desire for your man every time you're in a long-term relationship" and you'll either b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:29 AM
15	What are your thoughts on promoting arranged marriages in the west? So the divorce rate in America right now is between 40-50%, and that's with people choosing to be with each other. I can't imagine arranged marriages being any better here, especially since our culture of personal freedom probably wouldn't be that inviting to it. As for Government-issued marriages, horrifying idea. I don't need the Government (or god forbid Corporations) getting say over my dating life. I'm not anti-Government by any means but having my personal life controlled by another entity…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:18 AM
7	Men who don't approach women, why? Because the data is in and here are the findings: The vast majority of women out in the world do NOT want to be cold-approached in any capacity ...unless you're extremely attractive, then the rules are bent for you. The vast majority of men are not attractive enough to get a date out of it or would have to weed through an ungodly amount of rejections to get that one yes, making the juice not worth the squeeze Most Third Places are either too expensive or mainly just for friends & family get-toge…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/25 04:12 AM
2	Men who don't approach women, why? In a vacuum, this advice would work, but the real world is what it is, so unfortunately a lot of men aren't getting the "across-the-board" woman on the same level as him. They're having to lower their expectations to get a woman even remotely interested in him in the first place. It's a chooser's market and women are riding high.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/25 04:09 AM
5	Men who don't approach women, why? But if the rejection outweighs the success THAT much, then something is wrong. You're implying the success actually happens for a lot of these men when that doesn't really occur.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/25 04:07 AM
3	The number one problem with lonely guys is not cultivating a social life and social skills It's the usual playbook by women trying to fix men's problems. "You seem to be having trouble dating due to your lack of social skills. Have you tried not being a loser and just being social for a change?" No insight into how, just "do the thing you're supposed to do but do it better next time." That's why I laugh when women say "fixing the 'male loneliness epidemic' is not our responsibility," because even if god forbid it was, they wouldn't know the first thing about getting a lonely, no-self-…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/25 04:04 AM
–	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? Guys who are "red pilled" likely look at sex like that but it's not the norm. Human behavior, at least in our current reality, shows that both men & women want to be liked, loved, and wanted/desired. Any one of those missing? We feel incomplete. Men on-average aren't good at communicating so when they talk about how they want sex to return, a lot of times they probably communicate it in a way that makes it sound like they just want to get their dick wet. In reality, he's probably feeling the eff…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 04:32 PM
–	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? You got it. It's not about doing it out of spite, it's about the fallout from experiencing that. Women are generally unaffected by a dying sexual intimacy dynamic because in long-term relationships, women tend to not view it as important the longer the relationship lasts. They don't have the perspective of how that affects men's emotional state. Yes, lack of sex affects men way more emotional than physical. Sure we miss the physical act of fucking, however the emotional toll of your wife/girlfri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 04:06 PM
–	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? So Responsive Desire is defined as "when sexual arousal and desire arise after physical or emotional stimulation has already begun, rather than spontaneously before it." The point being in the beginning of relationships, both men & women can have spontaneous desire where both are in an "anytime, anyplace, at the drop of a hat" mentality about sex. As the relationship goes on, women tend to change-over to responsive desire, meaning they don't really think about sex as regularly as they used to (a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 04:01 PM
–	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? True, but women truly underestimate how taxing it is emotionally on men to have to help them get in the mood to desire sex with them. It's a foreign concept most men don't understand as most of the time we just have desire for you at any given time & day, however just go to any sexless/dead bedroom sub and read the stories of women dealing with men who have a low level of desire for them. I'll spoil it for you right now: It affects them mentally probably even more than men because the idea of th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:20 PM
–	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? The point is both men & women agree that non-sexual intimacy (hugging, kissing, cuddling, back rubs/scratches, etc.) are important in the relationship or marriage and should be present regularly. Men and women DON'T agree that sexual intimacy is important & should be present. However if men were to stop doing the former, their girlfriend/wife would be unhappy and fully aware of the issue. If women stop doing the latter, to them it's totally fine because the sexual intimacy relationship dynamic i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:16 PM
3	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? And what women don’t realize is even if the reasoning why the sex stopped was 100% because of that, and not a thing to do with them… the outcome is still the same - she doesn’t have enough or any desire for you to have sex. The “why” is irrelevant. But women think it completely changes things & therefore he shouldn’t be upset why she doesn’t desire him…as if that makes the situation any better. No desire is still no desire. The “why” doesn’t mean much unless women are doing something about it, a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 05:05 AM
2	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? Menstrual cycle. There is a week in a month where I'm horny, but have enough inhibition not to act upon it. The other 3 weeks I'm "meh" and don't give a damn about sex. So yeah, the guys who get hookups might be just "right place, right time". Interestingly I've had a lot of back-and-forth with women who acknowledge this as a very real thing, where they have a small window of desire for even their beloved partner. But I've asked the question "do you think it's overall a good thing that your long…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 04:11 AM
7	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? Here's another aspect women don't think of: Let's say the relationship is going good, but the sex starts to fall by the wayside. The man is confused, because he didn't change any pattern or behavior. He talks to his girlfriend/wife who tells him "oh sorry, I was just having a stressful week. We'll pick back up next week." He's reassured and he's good to go. So what happens if things don't "pick back up" next week? Most men's thought is the same: "Shit, did I do something to cause this drought?" …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:58 AM
1	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? There are thoughts. Sometimes it's just the stupidest things imaginable and explaining it to you will probably confuse the hell out of you because you personally would never randomly think of stupid things like that (things like "If I was somehow trapped in a room with a kangaroo, could I take it? How big do they get? Like deer-sized?" just inane nonsense). Other times, yes, there are times we're thinking of something about the relationship but we may realize that talking to you about it may jus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:50 AM
1	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? Oh, plenty of men realize that. We're also realizing that while women are creating litmus tests to make sure we're a mature, responsible, decent, romantic person, but in the end the man eventually just becomes a utilitarian entity to them - a landscaper, a chef, a butler, a maid, a contractor, car detailer, a chauffer, and eventual co-parent. Sure, there's romantic elements in there, but how many of that was created by her vs. how many he took the helm on for the sake of "romancing" her? The sex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:36 AM
0	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? Plus even being a decent-looking guy with confidence, a good job, etc., does NOT automatically mean he gets his foot in the door, aka he's even able to get a woman's attention in the first place. Because women just naturally assume that one of them will eventually look his way, but not notice that every single one of them is looking for someone else to do it as they had a chance at a more-attractive man that may or may not give them attention.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:29 AM
7	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? This is women giving advice to men on how to get women to a tee. "You seem to be having trouble getting any kind of relationship whatsoever. Have you tried getting into a relationship to fix that problem?" Amazing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:27 AM
0	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them Agreed, women may put in the effort at first but eventually, they stop, and interestingly even good attractive men aren’t immune to this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 12:08 AM
2	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them Again, keep thinking it's about the "how" and not about the "why," but women continue to remain conveniently oblivious to men's desire for regular, enthusiastic sex. As for why sex diminishes, part of it is men not romancing their women anymore, causing them to not desire them as much. We could also talk about why men have to do all the heavy-lifting when it comes to keeping the sex life alive while at the same time women don't lift a finger to keep things going, all the while stating that sexua…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 08:03 PM
36	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them Because women believe that the reason lonely men can't get women is because they're porn-addicted losers, and while some are like that, most have a casual relationship with porn as tool for masturbation. What women hate is how they have to "compete" with it meaning they have to be willing to desire their man on top of fucking them regularly, and they hate that men have an outlet for their sexual urges that don't require them if need-be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 07:58 PM
5	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them The fact that that was your takeaway shows how little women really understand (or care to understand) men. The physical aspect is a part of it but only a part, and mostly that has to do with enthusiasm. No, the real reason why men enjoy watching porn? They love watching a woman look like she DESIRES AND WANTS the man she's fucking. The fact that women forget this little critical detail is not shocking. Women think that every guy is just looking for a hole to stick their dick in. And while that's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 07:19 PM
-3	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them No, it's because women on-average don't care about sex even with someone they love & are attracted to so it's much harder for men to be with a woman like that, especially in a long-term relationship or marriage. Men are generally desperate for love & attention so they'll more likely get into a relationship with a women even just for the chance of sex. So more men turn to porn when they realize the odds of having sex on a regular basis are more likely in a committed relationship, but even then th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 05:08 PM
2	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them As opposed to people going to these places with a drink in front of them, staring a hole through a phone with a look on their face that says "fuck off." The other problem is people aren't as inviting as they used to be, especially in public, so that's another thing that needs to be reversed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 04:25 PM
5	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them That one got to you, huh? Eh, it happens!	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 04:17 PM
6	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them And a woman is much more likely to find that desired fantasy in a regular guy than a man will find his fantasy in almost all women he dates and marries. We already know this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 03:55 PM
9	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them And the same can be said for young women watching romantic comedies, romance novels, etc. All of them give young people a skewed view as to how the opposite sex works. Boys will think most women are sex fiends that need sex every hour of the day which is definitely not true, and girls think men are these tall, dark, handsome successful men who always say & do the perfect thing at the right moment when that's not remotely true, either. Older people here had this growing up but it was distilled be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 02:42 PM
11	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them There is no fast lane to consensual sex Sure there is! Be a gay man and you'll be in the express lane within the hour. There's also one other avenue you conveniently forgot: Be a woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 01:10 PM
33	Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching them Because men have been told repeatedly for at least a decade to stop bothering women in public. So instead of men maybe initiating a harmless conversation in public that a woman may even be happy to have, most men now think "nah, I'll be pestering her and bothering her for no reason." The problem now is men think they'll be upsetting/bothering everyone, especially if they have low self-esteem or confidence already. And I think women truly underestimate how many guys seem like they have a decent a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 01:06 PM
3	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Being able to make a woman laugh is ONE of the things that can make her attracted to them, but it's not the be-all-end-all that women claim it to be. They're more than happy having a friend that makes them laugh while they date a more-attractive man that only makes her chuckle once in a while.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/25 04:36 PM
6	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 66% of men between 15 and 34 years knows at least one red pill youtuber and half of them say that those content are speaking the truth. This should be the thing that everyone should be focusing on, and for the right reason. The way we focus on it is "why are these young men being so shitty?" which is the absolute wrong way to try & figure it out, which is why nothing changes and why they lean even more into it as time goes on. No, the question that should be asked is "what are the top reasons th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/25 04:19 PM
4	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 The dad got even hotter with age shoutout to him! Huh, I watched it and didn't think the guy really changed except for a different haircut/grayer hair as he got older. I guess that's just the usual "men & women see each other differently" situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/25 04:11 PM
4	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Just because you're interested in the same hobbies doesn't mean you're anywhere near compatible to foster a relationship. If one person is religious, conservative, & thinks sex is only for having children, and the other person is very progressive, an atheist, and desires sex on a regular basis, how is them both enjoying playing amateur volleyball going to bridge that divide?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/25 04:08 PM
19	"Both women and men believe that their gender disadvantages them. When so many men feel underappreciated and so many women feel mistreated, it creates a vicious cycle of resentment." → Research And none of those things you listed will happen because the thing women don't want to admit is they don't think men are in a "bad place" right now. They see men as a whole gender that controls a lot of Industries (they do but only a select group of men, aka wealthy men) so to them men don't need the "help" to be "better." Talk to a group of women about men's issues and if the looks of disdain and irritation don't make you feel like shit, their opinions about how "men are still controlling everyt…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/25 02:54 AM
1	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? 👍	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 05:21 PM
7	Men in college and early 20s should focus more on getting really good at sex than being a good relationship material to have more dating success and even relationship success a bit. I'll go against the grain and say I mostly agree with your statement. Long-term relationships are a great way to slowly watch your girlfriend/wife desire you less & less as most women eventually get bored of having sex with their long-term partner, so there's no incentive, sexually-speaking, at getting "good" at relationships if it'll increase your chances at hindering your sex life. Most importantly: Figure out who you are and what you want in life (not including women). Careers, hobbies, goals…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 05:15 PM
1	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? If men told women in order for them to be in a relationship with them, they had to go through a series of coding lines like yours above, there'd be a ton of lonely, single men because women wouldn't even consider for a second to put up with that type of nonsense. But men are desperate for relationships and even more desperate for sex, so a number of them will read your byzantine instructions nodding along instead of thinking "all this just to get a chance at being with a woman? Waste of my hard-…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 05:10 PM
2	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? You're not wrong - it's way easier to get a job/partner when you have a friend who has an "in" for you, which is how a lot of people both get a job and start a relationship with someone. The other way is, of course, send out hundreds of "resumes" in the hopes you even get an interview/date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 04:14 PM
6	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? lol women giving calculus lessons to show a guy how to get one them is beyond hilarious	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 04:10 PM
0	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? "but maybe less" is doing so much heavy-lifting I'm seeing a hernia form.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 04:09 PM
1	Q4M: decision time - peace or love? Yes, hence why you can't depend on that stereotype, or any stereotype for that matter, because people are individuals and will do (or not do) what they want overall. The one consistent factor? If you want regular, fulfilling sex as a man, the best way to get that is to be gay. The second best way is to stay single, have friends with benefits, and rotate women out when they stop being interested in you sexually anymore. Keeping the same partner for decades is a crapshoot to get a good sex life (o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/25 05:22 PM
7	Why do women think that men have it easy compared to them? Yep, endless stories of women transitioning to men and they find out two things: 1.) Men are way hornier way more often than women ever realized, and 2.) how much more lonely being a man is on a regular basis.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/25 02:33 PM
1	Why do women think that men have it easy compared to them? Of course she would - lots of women settle for men they're not 100% attracted to but knows he'd be a good "provider" to them and their future family together. Why do you think so many marriages turn sexless once kids start showing up? Perfect excuse for women to stop being a romantic partner and just go into "mom mode" for the next 18 years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/25 02:27 PM
–	Exposure is by far the most important thing for success with Women, and its more important then any other metric by far. If you have high exposure u cant fail with woman. I think it's just the overall effect of everything being kinda shitty nowadays. When you can barely afford rent, can't afford most fun things to do, third spaces either too expensive or just completely removed, working yourself to the bone just to make ends meet, most people aren't exactly gung-ho to try and find a partner to make their lives better by wading into the same process as trying to find their job, which is send out countless "resumes" only to be either rejected or ghosted at almost e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/25 02:18 PM
–	Exposure is by far the most important thing for success with Women, and its more important then any other metric by far. If you have high exposure u cant fail with woman. I've never heard the stereotype that the party animal/barfly were happy, fulfilled people doing what they were doing for the "love of the game." More like they're the average result when you do this type of thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/25 02:15 PM
–	Exposure is by far the most important thing for success with Women, and its more important then any other metric by far. If you have high exposure u cant fail with woman. Exactly. Attractive man + Attractive job + attractive salary = way higher success rate than an average nobody. That's just how life is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/25 02:13 PM
12	Chasing validation from society and conforming to arbitrary standards at the expense of your own peace will leave you forever unsatisfied and scarred. lol love how it goes straight to the "typing away in Mom's basement" shtick the second a guy doesn't fall into the norm of just doing what society prefers them to do	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/25 02:03 PM
1	Q4M: decision time - peace or love? Sex isn’t happening in option 2. If you’re “not sure she loves you,” it’s because she shows zero affection, and sex is included in that. The “quiet librarian” stereotype being a secret “sexpot” is bullshit - quiet, timid women who show no affection shouldn’t be getting into relationships in the first place (unless the man she’s with is a eunuch like her).	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/25 01:32 AM
0	is there a solution to this duality? The solution that's always been there is still there and will likely always be there: Be at least decent-looking, hygienic, wear clothes that fit & look good too, have a fun/interesting personality & hobbies, & finally a good level of charisma, then it doesn't matter what generation you're from, you'll still have success. There is one minor detail though that a LOT of people get hung up on and it's most people's downfall: Don't get upset or defeated from rejection. Getting rejected sucks. There'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/25 04:17 AM
13	is there a solution to this duality? As long as your decently attractive and have a good personality & charisma to go along with that. You need at least a semi-above average level for all 3 for it to work. If you're shy, anxious, not that great looking, overweight/obese, nervous about talking to people, no real personality/hobbies, no charisma to speak of...yeah, you're gonna have a bad time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/25 04:09 AM
1	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths I'm sorry, what? although I prefer my man uses animated/drawn women, due to the human trafficking and abuse levels present in the live-action porn industry. I'm poly, though, so for me, the concept of my man being attracted to another actual real woman doesn't bother me. The fact that you have that "preference" and are still advocating for men to stop having any sexual desires whatsoever for adult film stars makes me think it actually does bother you on some level, otherwise why vocalize it? Sha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 08:56 PM
2	I think all women would be happier single lol cry harder while you're "at peace"	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 08:53 PM
1	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths So if a person's a really shitty partner, and they get cheated on, all their shittiness is wiped away clean? As if they're suddenly a good person/partner because of it? You don't happen to run a congregation, do you? Because then your point would make a lot more sense...	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 08:45 PM
1	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths And the person cheated on isn't always innocent and doesn't deserve sympathy/empathy when they're not being a good person/partner. "Dems da facts" along with it. Both people suck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 07:51 PM
1	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths And if women see their man getting off to a redhead while they have blonde/brown/black hair & their thought immediately goes to "he must not be attracted to me," the only reasonable time to think that is if the bf/husband shut off all avenues of sexual intimacy. When a man is happy with the sex life but using porn here & there? He's doing it because he's still horny but realizes his gf/wife isn't as horny as him/isn't in the mood/etc. and is doing this to "get the poison out" so-to-speak and not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 07:49 PM
-2	Men issues and female privilege are connected. Well, they don't have that AND they could potentially be stoned to death, tortured, or raped regularly and it's deemed "God's will" or "the Husband's married-right." So it can be incredibly worse for women. The fact that Kansas voted for Abortion rights & it was known it would pass the second the polls closed shows we've made a lot of progress in the past number of decades. Yes, there are still shitty men with antiquated views, and there are women, yes even women, who want to keep these antiquat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 07:42 PM
-4	Men issues and female privilege are connected. It is, but at least we're not at "celebrating a new law that allows women to finally drive cars"-bad or "You have to cover up almost all of your body because the men are incapable of controlling ourselves & it's dictated in our ancient book of beliefs so it must be true"-bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 07:33 PM
5	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths It's always funny when a woman finds her man watching porn with women that look nothing like her - she freaks out and wonders if he's cheating, no longer attracted to her, etc., and it rarely enters their though-process that maybe, just maybe, these are fantasies and not something he desperately needs in his actual life. Of course, she's allowed to fantasize about a half-man/half-devil creature with wings & 8-pack abs and yet her man never thinks "am I not devil-enough to make her happy?!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 07:30 PM
7	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths And the fun little secret women don't want to admit is there's absolutely a double-standard when it comes to this. They believe 18-year-old women are these innocent children being preyed upon by older men, but when they do it to 18-year-old men? "Oh they're technically adults, plus they want to have lots of sex with older women, where's the harm in that?" As if 18-year-old women have no desire for sex and are being assaulted every moment. It's always a double-standard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 07:28 PM
0	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths I was sarcastically pointing out that while there are shitty men that have a good marriage and ruin it by cheating, there's still a whole collection of great men in shitty marriages that became shitty later in their lives, and then some younger woman gives him even a fraction of attention his wife doesn't bother to do anymore, and then people are shocked, SHOCKED that he could do such a thing. I will never condone cheating, but I won't condemn it either, because if you're being a shit partner wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 07:21 PM
-3	Men issues and female privilege are connected. The USA does and women still aren't part of it: Last week, the House of Representatives passed an updated version of the National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA), which allows the U.S. government to automatically register men ages 18 to 25 into the Selective Service, or draft system. While it hasn’t been invoked in over half a century, it’s mandatory for all male U.S. citizens to register for the selective service, also known as the military draft, when they turn 18. Failure to register is clas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 07:16 PM
1	Men who have a healthy relationship with pornography, how? Whats it like? Porn addiction is like any other addiction - some are more susceptible to it while others aren't. It's harder for younger men because they grew up with it where I didn't start seeing it until the internet became a household thing, the late 90's specifically. So I know what it's like not to have it but I'm also not drawn to watching it like it's Netflix or anything. I only use it for masturbation reasons and it's gone the second it's over. It's a tool, a means-to-an-end and that's it. When you st…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 05:34 PM
2	What is your goal in dating? Do you pretend to want marriage just to have an access to pussy or do you actually believe in marriage? Go read the stories of men, or better yet, WOMEN who end up in sexless marriages and see how they fare emotionally-speaking. Interestingly, women are less affected by the lack of physical sex & more affected by the lack of desire from their partner after they've been told all their life that men always desire their woman and getting that desire is as easy as flipping a light switch. Most peopl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 01:47 PM
2	What is your goal in dating? Just having sex would be nice, but having reciprocal love (as well as sex) is better. Debatable. You need both to sustain a good, fulfilling relationship or marriage. Lose just one of them? Your relationship/marriage will feel unfulfilling and it's not if but when you eventually check-out mentally and decide to find someone who won't lose either one for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 01:42 PM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Wow, that one really got to you, huh? I'll remember to be more careful not to trigger you in the future. Therapy could really help you!	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 12:54 PM
1	Women don't love you, they love what you can do for them. Yep, not to mention she could easily find another guy to fund her lifestyle whereas the guy's gonna be spinning a fuckload of plates to get that same luxury.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 12:49 PM
0	Women don't love you, they love what you can do for them. Sure, for really hot men that they're really attracted to. Regular guys? Not a chance in hell a woman will waste their time trying to "fix" him when they know they can just upgrade to a guy who doesn't need fixing...unless he's really hot, then all bets are off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 12:48 PM
-1	Women don't love you, they love what you can do for them. i dont think it helps your argument if women enjoy fantasizing about romantic love more than men. It does, because those fictional romantic novels follow the same trope endlessly: Woman is drawn to the tall, chiseled, hottest man she's ever seen but doesn't go to him right away because she's "scared/confused/isn't supposed to love him or even like him" but eventually she can't ignore her feelings and finally falls for him after he saves her life/protects her from something/finds something lost i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 12:45 PM
5	Women don't love you, they love what you can do for them. Good luck with that because most women slowly lose their desire for their man in long-term relationships or marriages so banking that on her desire to want to have an orgasm with you is taking a big gamble.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 12:34 PM
-1	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths That's also because women were more likely to give you the time of day and actually hook up with you, of course it was "more fun"	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 12:25 PM
2	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths "Ewwww, that's gross, hooking up with someone who's younger, more vibrant, more positive, willing to give men attention their wives aren't giving them, not taking you for granted, going to actually desire you and WANT to desire you, willing to fuck you regularly because she still makes sex a priority..."	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 12:23 PM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Congrats on having regular sex for that long but your personal anecdote isn’t the norm for the average long-term straight relationship or marriage. if the sex is enjoyable for her she is going to want to continue having it …unless she’s on the birth control pill, anti-depression/anxiety/SSRI medications, going through perimenopause/menopause, had kids within the last 3 years, stress in her job, untreated trauma in her life… Other than those tiny examples, sure, they’ll never want to stop having …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 11:51 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Lol married for 10 years so dead-wrong on that, and good for you for finding a man who desires you as little as you desire him, since apparently his level of desire for you is the equivalent to a shoulder-shrug. Not the flex you think it is. Keep an eye on his testosterone though, because a lot of times men who aren’t interested in their partners is usually due to that, but of course if that gets fixed, you’ll have to deal with him wanting sex with you more often, and that would probably be very…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 03:55 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Good for you, but there are endless stories of guys having amazing sex lives, even into the marriage, but then they really want to start a family, they start popping kids out, and then he realizes they haven't had sex in 4 years with his wife saying "you know with so much going on, I guess I just don't think about sex ever!" As I've said, generally it's not "if" but "when" a woman decides she doesn't desire regular or maybe any sex with her long-term partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 03:35 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Usually happens around the 8-10 years into marriage after having kids, so for most guys they can't end things as quickly as they'd like, if at all (Cost of Living from 2-to-1 households is a bitch).	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 03:32 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Women barely show grace for that anyway. They'll just be way more subtle about it and come up with excuses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 03:25 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Don't worry, your only 13 years away from that, and you'll get there sooner than you think	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 03:24 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 No, because there is no way that will ever be sustainable, and I imagine having a drop-off from "she can't wait to suck your dick and have you rail her almost every night" to "sorry, I'm having a stressful week and I'm just not in the mood" will completely destroy your level of confidence I don't care how high it is. It's not "if" but "when" a woman starts to slowly check-out of sex in long-term relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 03:23 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Would it matter if she was lying every time she said it but would also never admit to it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 03:20 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 A relationship is spending time together because you - actually - enjoy each other, even if there was no chance of sex. And if this is all the relationship can be, that woman is gonna find her with a lot of dudes walking away for a woman they at least have the chance to make sex happen. In the beginning of things? Sure. Months later? He's gonna cool-off real quick and find someone who shows their desire for him. He remembers you like Taylor Swift and spring for tickets for your birthday, even if…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 03:17 AM
6	I think all women would be happier single Keep in mind... You're using an AI Chat system to validate your feelings. That may not be the healthiest way to work through any of your issues, and there's plenty of therapists out there that can help you maybe work through any issues or traumas that might be hovering around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 01:35 AM
6	I think all women would be happier single Because most of the time women don't want to engage in a threesome and while most men are probably willing, it doesn't mean it's a "need-to-have," or a "requirement" like I showed in my example. My wife is straight and has no desire to have a threesome whatsoever. My interest in a threesome is not strong enough for me to throw away our entire marriage over it. Therefore I will never have one in my life but I don't really care, as I'm more interested in having a regular monogamous sex life with m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 01:27 AM
2	I think all women would be happier single No issues there - I validate and acknowledge my wife's ever-changing emotions, give her support when she wants it, space when she needs it, I don't smother her/need her to "take care of me" because I'm an adult who's capable of running the entire household, I also don't just ignore her whenever I feel like it, etc. etc. SOME men may have low emotional attunement but I certainly don't and most men younger than the Baby Boomer generation understand when to be sympathetic/empathetic with the woman …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 01:20 AM
13	I think all women would be happier single You’re right about men generally having higher sex drives but wrong about the variety aspect. Studies have shown that women over time will slowly lose their desire for their man in long-term relationships or marriages however men were found to have almost the same level of desire for their gf/wife long-term. It kinda sounds like you’ve had some bad experiences with shitty men and it’s colored your perspective among all men. I get it but at the same time there are plenty of low libido men that ju…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 12:59 AM
14	I think all women would be happier single That’s like asking “if you had your favorite ice cream, but you could also add hot fudge to it, would you?” I mean, sure, but it’s not a requirement for me to keep enjoying my favorite ice cream. And if I could never have hot fudge on it? Don’t care - still get to keep having my favorite ice cream.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 12:53 AM
5	Men need to be a compilation of masculine and feminine traits in order to be successful in relationships and they are having trouble grasping that fact And you don't technically need to eat your favorite dessert or unhealthy foods to live, or go to concerts/shows to be entertained, or a million other things I could list that aren't "needed," however the quality & enjoyment in life might be enough of a net-negative that you'd be better off experiencing those things instead. So while I get that women don't see sex as an important dynamic a lot of times, men could say the same for hugging, kissing, being romantic, etc., and could just as easily gi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 08:13 PM
7	Men need to be a compilation of masculine and feminine traits in order to be successful in relationships and they are having trouble grasping that fact I would say looks matter more in the short term. Character and shared values matter more in the long term. I'm gonna push back on this a tad bit and say "it depends where you are in the relationship/marriage." After our kid, I was having a health issue that took me a good year & a half to get under control. Afterwards, I gained about 35 pounds, wasn't working out, and my hairline is starting to recede a little bit so my haircut wasn't really working for me anymore. Around this time up until rece…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 06:53 PM
8	The blue pill gives you a better shot at happiness, for less cost, than the red pill. Oh, they say it to men too, specifically men they're not attracted to and have no interest in, but their belief is that someone could be interested in him and take a chance. Technically they're correct, but that's the thing about theoretical thinking - ANYTHING is possible if you come up with enough justifications. The problem is most women don't make the connection between what could happen and what is likely to happen, and if they do, it's in a begrudging fashion because they hate to admit tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 05:11 PM
6	The blue pill gives you a better shot at happiness, for less cost, than the red pill. a large amount of women, even ideologically progressive/left wing ones, do in fact expect the men in their lives to take the traditional role in a relationship. I would even dissect this further and say that women want some parts of men to keep up the traditional role, specifically the ones the benefit them the most: doing the harder outdoor jobs, repairs/projects around the house, dealing with smelly garbage, taking the helm in an emergency, etc. As for the non-traditional roles, women are happ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 05:05 PM
13	The blue pill gives you a better shot at happiness, for less cost, than the red pill. I’ve never heard anyone ever tell a MAN “the right person will come along” Sure you have - women say that kind of stuff all the time!	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 05:00 PM
24	The blue pill gives you a better shot at happiness, for less cost, than the red pill. There's a reason BPers moved on from this kind of messaging years ago. Yep. Too many people responding with "but things AREN'T great and they're not getting better!" and then crickets on their side when they realized having a positive attitude, talking in therapy-speak, and just "having patience" won't magically fix your issues in relationships, marriages, sex lives, etc. It comes down to compatibility, communication, and the desire to put in an effort into whatever the issue is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 04:58 PM
1	Women should compete for the Provider Position If they feel Men Have It Easier. ou think the husband telling his wife he doesn't have the money to take her to Paris wouldn't find the money if Sydney Sweeny popped up and asked him? You don't think he'd just put it on his credit card unconcerned if he would pay it back. For men in their 20's? Sure, probably. Men in their 40's with a wife and kids? Not on your life. He'd know a complete trap when he'd see it and not buy-in to that nonsense. There are no dishes with new hot guy, there is no kids, there is no work to do done Oh …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 02:57 PM
2	Women should compete for the Provider Position If they feel Men Have It Easier. Women need to be already having a good day to want to have sex. A day where you went to work and then make dinner and clean and put the kids to bed is a day you want to end with sleep not sex It has nothing to do with fault so no women don't 'realize the problem is them' because often there is no specific problem, adult life is just not very sexy Uh huh. Then take that same woman and put her up against a new guy she's attracted to sexually. Think she'll care about the dishes not being done, hous…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 01:32 PM
1	Women should compete for the Provider Position If they feel Men Have It Easier. This isn't really true as this only affects a small amount of women overall. Yes, there are women who would be more turned-on if she had less housework to do however those are few & far between. The majority of women don't feel that way sexually-speaking. Sure, they'll be happier with less things to do, but that doesn't automatically translate into sexual desire. The fact is when people tout "choreplay," it worked for them because that specific issue WAS the reason why their woman/they weren't d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 12:36 PM
5	Women should compete for the Provider Position If they feel Men Have It Easier. No, the notion that if you do your chores or even do a bunch of hers, she'll magically have the desire to fuck your brains out from domestic work. It's nonsense through-and-through. Of course both partners should be cooking, cleaning, etc. together. The issue is redditors think that by doing MORE than the usual chores or even just the regular amounts will make women horny. Some women may get that way, but the majority don't so there's no use believing in it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/25 03:23 AM
15	Women should compete for the Provider Position If they feel Men Have It Easier. That's why I never understood this logic because there are tons of guys who clean and do domestic duties already but I doubt they're going to be making women's panties drop This is why "choreplay" will never work and why redditors keep using that as a way to bring back people's sex lives is beyond me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/25 01:44 AM
–	Women do give great advice when men actually listen….and dont lie about their intentions. If you didn't care, you would've stopped responding hours ago. You clearly care & are bothered lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 08:48 PM
–	Women do give great advice when men actually listen….and dont lie about their intentions. man this one really did a number on you, again I apologize!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 08:43 PM
9	Let's say something nice about the opposite sex. Their ability to not really care about having a regular sex life. Seriously, it must be so peaceful not to have your hormones tap you on the shoulder for decades & decades telling you to do something sexual. To be able to just be in love with someone and not have to worry about desire or feeling wanted. I envy them. Just forget sex exists and focus on your life, hobbies, etc. Must be nice to not have to wait until your 60s/70s to get to that point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 08:42 PM
–	Women do give great advice when men actually listen….and dont lie about their intentions. lol wow those comments really got to you to have to tag someone else and talk about it, huh? I'll try not to upset you next time!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 08:36 PM
–	Women do give great advice when men actually listen….and dont lie about their intentions. Because they don’t realize they’re doing it. They just think they’re just getting their bf/husband to “stop bothering him” but they enjoy the validation that they are still wanted/desired. The problem comes in when they do it too many times, too long. Eventually her man stops desiring her because why would someone want to desire someone that doesn’t desire them back? Their woman loses all that validation and desirability and suddenly it becomes an important issue to deal with - not the death of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 07:47 PM
–	Women do give great advice when men actually listen….and dont lie about their intentions. The best is when a woman ends up with a man that wants no sex whatsoever - even if THEY don't want sex either, having a man not desire them/validate them fucks with them way more emotionally than the lack-of-sex does on a physical level. They can't comprehend the notion that a man wouldn't always be horny for them. That's also when women freak out when they teach their man to stop desiring them (i.e. rejecting them almost every single time), it sticks, and they have shocked-pikachu face that it …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 07:09 PM
1	4 Types Of Men Over 30 response bias is real "I don't want to believe the statistics so something something bias in reporting data, etc. etc. etc." I mean, you could TRY and prove that wrong but a flippant comment with a hand-wave away gesture works well too, I guess!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 07:03 PM
–	Women do give great advice when men actually listen….and dont lie about their intentions. Plus your using an extreme case of someone who is more then likely terminally ill. Yes, because women need to "terminally ill" for them to magically not desire their partners anymore, and not say starting/adjusting birth control, anti-anxiety/depression/SSRI meds, peri/menopause, hormone deficiencies, "stress," Weight gain, lack of exercise, etc. etc. etc. Love it when women use all those examples why "women may not want to have sex," and yet when a man uses any of those examples? "That's probab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 06:45 PM
1	4 Types Of Men Over 30 Stats & findings aren't on your side. Only 46% of men and 58% of women were satisfied with their current frequency of sex. Dissatisfied men were overwhelmingly likely to desire sex more frequently; among dissatisfied women, only two thirds wanted sex more frequently. Age was a significant factor but only for men, with those aged 35-44 years tending to be least satisfied. Men and women who were dissatisfied with their frequency of sex were also more likely to express overall lower sexual and rela…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 06:41 PM
–	Women do give great advice when men actually listen….and dont lie about their intentions. lol you just contradicted yourself in your own comment. "Don't be emotional now" proceeds to have an emotional reaction for daring to admit there are good husbands/fathers that exist in the world	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 05:07 PM
–	Women do give great advice when men actually listen….and dont lie about their intentions. lol yes because depression is vibes-based and not at all a chemical issue that needs to be rectified with medications. Also double-points for immediately blaming the man as the reason why women stop desiring sex, furthering the point the sex happens to women because most of them take zero accountability for their role within that dynamic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 04:07 PM
-1	4 Types Of Men Over 30 Again, congrats on having like-minded friends, but most men on-average never experience a long-term happy & fulfilling sex life with their girlfriends/wives. It's not if but when sex usually slows down or disappears for numerous reasons (and this is talking about good boyfriends/husbands, not the lazy man-children losers that do nothing with their partners).	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 03:59 PM
2	4 Types Of Men Over 30 They did, but only among other men when they were hanging out together during a cookout or at the bar for some drinks. Now with the internet, men can say their feelings out-loud for women to read and boy they don't like hearing the truth a lot of times.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 03:50 PM
-2	4 Types Of Men Over 30 You're a unicorn that most men have never experienced so congrats to your partner!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 03:49 PM
–	Women do give great advice when men actually listen….and dont lie about their intentions. You're right about that, but that's because men tend to think more objectively & on an analytical level whereas women a lot of times (definitely not most/all but more than they think) look at things subjectively and emotionally. So the man's advice, technically-speaking, should work however a woman will more than likely not adhere or follow-along with even their own advice, depending on the situation, mood, etc. I'll give you an example: A woman isn't interested in sex with her husband. She says…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 03:36 PM
4	For men, it isn't truly about sex. 100%, but you rarely develop public stature through sex (unless you were Hugh Hefner, and nowadays it's tough to do without today's puritanical judgement), so sex becomes a nice secondary outcome of that stature. Basically there's a giant line of nobodies getting way less access to sex than popular people that don't even consider a "lack of" ever happening.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 05:56 PM
1	Most men are not interested in romance. They just like to have a woman around and have sex with her. Thoughts? Most men are passively rotting away with video games, porn and online gambling. Interestingly, ALL 3 have exploded in popularity and profit (you can add weed in there too). My fear is how long this will last because I don't think it'll last forever, and when the bottom eventually falls out, what will that look like?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 05:54 PM
1	Most men are not interested in romance. They just like to have a woman around and have sex with her. Thoughts? Women want the the Chad that courts and provides if they don't get that they remain staying single True, which I agree is what's happening right now. women don't have the same drive/ desire for men like men do for women. There's a phrase that's used called "the biological clock" and it isn't used on men, so while yes, on-average women don't desire men like men desire women, they absolutely do have a biological desire that pushes them towards men anyway (and we have loads of medications shutting …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 05:25 PM
6	For men, it isn't truly about sex. Unfortunately, for men, sex is seen as proof that they are good enough to be in society. Personally, I'd wager (no pun-intended) that, at least in Capitalist Countries, wealth & public stature is the bigger influencer on whether or not you are good enough to be in society. Go look at a certain former NFL/current College Football Coach dating a certain woman young enough to be his grandchild and I'd bet my mortgage she's not with him due to his "sexual prowess."	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 05:12 PM
5	For men, it isn't truly about sex. It's like any other issue - when we "fail," we can feel like pathetic losers that shouldn't have tried in the first place (unless you have really good self-confidence & self-esteem), and I put "fail" in quotes because it's hard to truly and definitely fail something for the rest of your life. Dating & applying for a job go hand-in-hand in that you're gonna have to experience a shit-ton of "no's" before you get a "yes." The problem is the way society is at the moment, the cheaper, easier distract…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 05:07 PM
2	Most men are not interested in romance. They just like to have a woman around and have sex with her. Thoughts? It's more the societal rigamarole that affects us more than it should. I'm not saying men shouldn't date their women, but women should be doing that too. You look on reddit and you'll rarely ever see women asked "what are you doing to keep the spark up for him? Are you giving him backrubs? Do you buy him little special things when you're out?" Because to women, they don't understand that this isn't just a "man" thing to do. But that's the problem with transitions that we're making in society. Wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 04:54 PM
3	Most men are not interested in romance. They just like to have a woman around and have sex with her. Thoughts? Then it's an incompatible way to be together long-term, because I'm pretty damn sure if you told women "hey, if you put in most of the effort in order to get my love, I'll let you have sex with me whenever I deem it okay and plus just being in the presence of my company should be a major win for you" would be either laughed at immediately or disregarded in an instant. Women unfortunately are hypocrites in this arena. When it comes to dating/chasing the person you love, women are so piss-poor bad…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 04:20 PM
2	Men will absolutely do things that do not benefit them. lol there's always another "how is your/are you doing x" after all the questions get answered. Just goalposts being moved all the way down by women. The answer is "sometimes you can do everything 'right' and still fail." He can literally change nothing, stop looking, and then a few months later trip ass-backwards into a relationship. It's luck-of-the-draw for a lot of men out there and completing endless "make me attractive towards women" lists creates one major problem that no one can fix: You …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/25 12:06 AM
0	How MAGA Hijacked The Manosphere! COVID proved if you just write a blank check, we can advance healthcare way faster than we currently do. More money is invested in general/men’s healthcare than women-specific.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/25 01:18 AM
3	How MAGA Hijacked The Manosphere! It's not that they won, it's the data about the election. They've found that anywhere between 9-12% of people who voted for Trump in 2024 voted for a Democratic candidate in this week's election. That's a MAJOR swing in just a year, especially when Trump was winning States with a 5-7% margin for victory. More Trump voters voted for Zohran than they thought so Republicans are getting nervous. 5.8 million California voters voted in favor of the redistricting measure in an OFF-ELECTION. That's pret…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 11:59 PM
2	How MAGA Hijacked The Manosphere! So where are the policies dedicated to helping men? Honestly? We don't need them because we already have them. Reproductive rights? Men can get a vasectomy anytime you need whereas in some States women need permission from their husband to allow them to have their tubes tied. Birth control? Over-the-counter in Aisle 23 for men, prescription only for women. Abortions? Not a problem for men, a major rights issue for women. And that's just reproductive stuff. Gender health? We figured out erectile …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 11:48 PM
4	How MAGA Hijacked The Manosphere! Sure, a number of Gen Zers will vote like that, but most of them? They'll vote the same way most people vote - whatever keeps more money in my bank account AND helps lower the cost of living from being "obscene" to "manageable." The midterms will bore this out. This year's election already has a boost of young Gen Zers who voted for Trump in NYC but voted for Zohran this week because, well, the Economy sucks and they're hoping he makes things better. Social issues will always be overridden by Ec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 11:41 PM
6	How MAGA Hijacked The Manosphere! Nah, he's right - at some point the snake oil's gonna run out and young men are going to be standing around pissed-off at Trump & friends when their wages don't magically go up or the cost of everything shockingly doesn't go down, but the Rich people that told them to "be patient" seemed to have gotten richer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 09:43 PM
5	How MAGA Hijacked The Manosphere! And it's usually the same answer year-in & year-out, and a reason why a President is still quoted repeatedly to this day: "It's the Economy, stupid."	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 09:41 PM
0	Most men are not interested in romance. They just like to have a woman around and have sex with her. Thoughts? This is kind of an indictment on your taste in men and maybe you should have someone else choose against your "type?"	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 09:39 PM
1	Most men are not interested in romance. They just like to have a woman around and have sex with her. Thoughts? There's "relationships are work" and "this relationship makes me feel like I have a second job." The first one is when both people are putting in the effort and keeping the romance alive. The second one is usually one person is keeping the romance/intimacy alive while their partner sits back and enjoys the fruits of their labor. Guess which one most long-term married men fit under? And guess how many of their wives would be totally oblivious to this outcome?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 05:13 PM
4	Most men are not interested in romance. They just like to have a woman around and have sex with her. Thoughts? He doesn't realize that she's romancing him when she packs his lunch every day And if that's deemed as "romance" or intimacy" by a woman, then she truly doesn't understand how romance/intimacy works in a relationship/marriage and it's not if but when her man is going to feel like an unwanted bridge troll. "What do you mean I don't 'want' you, I made your lunch for work, isn't that romance?...it isn't??? What do you mean it's a nice, sweet gesture in the relationship but NOT romance?!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 05:11 PM
8	Most men are not interested in romance. They just like to have a woman around and have sex with her. Thoughts? This is why romance eventually becomes well... unromantic for men. Romance is not a phenomenon, but instead a verb; it's a series of actions carried out by a man to earn a woman's affections... it's labor. And hilariously/depressingly, anytime a man is having sexual intimacy issues with his wife/girlfriend, what's the FIRST thing women say to "fix" the situation? "You should date your wife more!" or "Have you tried doing more chores?" Because women can't fathom the idea that sex doesn't have to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 05:08 PM
2	What's even the point for average woman to be in a relationship with average men? And ironically people don't truly get to know each other until the honeymoon period is over. That's when your flaws and faults start to show and allows the other person to figure out if these are dealbreakers or not. Most of the time for men, it's discovering she's not as sexual as she said she was and for women, it's discovering he needs a mommy-girlfriend/wife to take care of him, both of which are turnoffs and create bad relationships/marriages but more than enough people ignore these red fla…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 05:04 PM
3	It is entirely possible that humanity NEEDS "losers". You could improve their economic situation all we like, but if that doesn’t come with women it’s void. No, but it comes with a lot less stress in their lives, and stress can make you say & do really stupid things, and since young men are capable of doing this on a regular basis, it just compounds the stupidity. Will there always be men believing this nonsense? Of course? Would we be able to LESSEN this viewpoint with better Economic stability? Almost certainly. some are making the claim they vot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 04:17 PM
3	It is entirely possible that humanity NEEDS "losers". You'll always have people complaining about sex. The problem is the lack of sex AND the lack of money to get a mortgage/bigger apartment/newer-ish car go hand-in-hand. And I'm of the mind that even if these men were getting regular sex but no increases in wages, they'd actually be angrier at that outcome than if they had more disposable income but no sex, because getting rejected sucks a lot less when you can just go to your nice apartment/house, eat high-quality foods, or go out with your frien…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 03:59 PM
1	It is entirely possible that humanity NEEDS "losers". It needs more critical thinkers. More creators. More innovators, builders and contributors. Well here in America you're not gonna get any of that because you have one political party that absolutely detests people that want to be smart, critical thinkers as it ruins all of their garbage talking-point nonsense, and another political party that says they want this in their party, but then tells all the young people that have ideas through critical thinking to "shut up" and "stop trying to do thing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 03:55 PM
3	It is entirely possible that humanity NEEDS "losers". The way to live as bottom-rung is to reject the broad and shared culture, not see or denote any value in it's rewards or status markers whatsoever. Good luck doing that in a Capitalist Economy that makes you living in a box under the bridge & rife with illnesses. Money is our status marker and if you don't have it, you don't get to participate in society under ANY circumstances, so mentally you may be able to "disconnect," but you'll be doing so while trying to find a warm place to sleep and not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 03:52 PM
7	It is entirely possible that humanity NEEDS "losers". Because, historically-speaking, having a large collective of young men that don't want to participate in that current, curated society can usually start a revolution, especially when they don't have a decent level of incoming revenue to create a decent way of life. Adding the inability to have any sexual intimacy whatsoever just creates a powder keg on society. Same thing would happen if young women were suddenly deemed unimportant in the grand scheme of things. Oh wait, we DID that in the 1950'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 03:47 PM
2	I’m convinced that the only reason men want women to be more involved with fixing the “male loneliness epidemic” is because they genuinely do not care about one another’s problems. Thoughts? Yeah, this isn't just a men's-issue, this a society issue as a whole. People are just trying to scrounge up enough money to put food on the table...most people don't have the time or the money to take an elective on "how to have empathy for your fellow man," but they DO get non-stop advertisements from DraftKings before the next batch of games for college football!	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/25 02:53 AM
3	I’m convinced that the only reason men want women to be more involved with fixing the “male loneliness epidemic” is because they genuinely do not care about one another’s problems. Thoughts? Great post. We're seemingly in a transition phase in our society and we're not quite sure how it's all going to shake-out. The Me-Too Movement was the warning that society wasn't going back to the "deep down women are sluts who want to be conquered and love to tease all the men" which was and is a great thing. The downside is we as a society forgot that young men were also involved in this change & didn't really give them a lot of direction or advice on how to change decades & decades of dude-br…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/25 02:51 AM
1	If you could ask your partner one question and guarantee a truthful response, what would you ask? does he need more sex? On-average, straight married men’s answer would be “absolutely” (unless you’re already at 3x a week) but most aren’t dumb enough to say it because 1.) If she wanted to have sex more, they’d be having sex more, so this is the best he can get, and 2.) he doesn’t want to completely shut off the sex-spigot by being honest to his partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/25 11:55 PM
1	If you could ask your partner one question and guarantee a truthful response, what would you ask? It’s not If but usually when a woman stops desiring sex with their partner and a lot of the times it’s before their husbands are ready to “retire” so it’s good to figure that out beforehand to see if your marriage is going to start losing important dynamics sooner rather than later. Unless you’re asexual, in which case it won’t matter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/25 11:51 PM
1	If you could ask your partner one question and guarantee a truthful response, what would you ask? For you - the eventual dwindling of your sex lite with her. For her - you not accepting the eventual dwindling of your sex life with her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/25 11:40 PM
1	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). Because most people want to be desired by the people they love and desire. Not shocking at all. To me, it's the hypocrisy of their belief that sexual intimacy is an "important" dynamic to the relationship/marriage but not important enough for them to engage in it, much less keep it regular. If something is important to you, you at least try to make it happen. If you don't? Then you're a hypocrite who shouldn't then be shocked if your partner gets it from somewhere else. I'll never condone cheati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/25 12:42 PM
0	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). You're the exception, not the rule.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 11:16 PM
0	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). If you're suggesting that "taking a trip" and "the fundamental dynamics of your marriage/relationship" are on the same level, then I think I know exactly how important you rate the sexual intimacy dynamic in your relationships/marriage and how unimportant they probably are to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 08:43 PM
-2	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). It’s not really a control mechanism Sure it is, depending on your definition of a "control mechanism:" Systematic procedures or devices implemented to direct, adjust, or limit the operation of a system to achieve desired performance objectives In my example, a woman doesn't want to have sex, but she also doesn't want her husband having sex with anyone else, giving her the "achieved desired performance objective" of having a loving, committed partner that has as little-to-no sex as she prefers. H…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 07:28 PM
3	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). I think we often neglect to factor “how woman feels about herself” into the sexual frequency equation. Because the majority of women feel the same as men, which is "I don't think I'm really that attractive," the only difference is a man won't stop himself from desiring a woman where a women absolutely CAN AND WILL let self-esteem issues prevent her from desiring a man, even someone they love with all their heart. Throw it on the never-ending pile of things that need to "fixed" or "perfect" in or…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 07:13 PM
-2	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). I said often. Not always. It’s mixed bag for women. And the real question becomes if it's because their partner is awful (which absolutely happens) or it's because THEY'RE awful/clueless on how they enjoy pleasure on a sexual level (which is a LOT of women who aren't willing to admit it).	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 07:08 PM
-1	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). "lie to your spouse and never tell them they're not sexually desired and just a means-to-an-end" But no, women want sex just as much as men do! The truth always eventually comes out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 01:59 PM
0	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). So I see this come up a lot in discussion and I don't think people see the catalyst behind it. Women are MUCH more likely to talk about their issues than men, period. Even as we break down the walls of the patriarchy, men are still reluctant to talk about their problems en masse, even online/anonymously. Because of that, relationship, marriage, and even sex subreddits are generally (or eventually become) more populated by women because they're willing to foster more of a discussion with it. Men …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 01:09 PM
1	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). I do wonder if some women aren’t being more curious about if medication could be contributing to a drop in libido. Because a lot of women don't have the same interest, drive, and desire for sex as you do, and I'd be willing to bet any number of medications (anti-depression/anxiety meds especially) are causing it. My wife is on the birth control pill and anti-anxiety meds; we went almost 10 straight months with no sexual intimacy whatsoever until I had a sit-down with her to talk about it. She th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 01:03 PM
3	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). I wouldn't care if my husband never wanted sex again I'm curious - have you ever told him this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 12:46 PM
-1	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). Truth is most of sex is pure biological impulse, and its enjoyment is dependent on biological gender. What's interesting to me is that probably most (definitely not all) women don't really care about regular sex in a long-term relationship/marriage and could easily & happily exist in a sexless situation with their male partner, and yet if you asked them if they'd be okay with their partner having sex outside the relationship/marriage... suddenly sexual intimacy becomes a very "important" thing b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 12:41 PM
3	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). It genuinely just feels like he is expressing his love for me during sex by wanting to give me pleasure. It doesn’t feel like it’s something I’m doing for him. And I'd be willing to bet a LOT of women feel the same way you do, even the ones that love having sex multiple times a week, because in the end women generally don't see sex as an important dynamic in the relationship compared to all the rest, whereas men DO feel like it's very important and find sex to be a connective, intimate dynamic. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 12:32 PM
1	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). I've gone from happily having sex every day at the start to losing all interest in sex for 1-2 years at one point to wanting sex most days again Did you have kids? Birth control changes? Medication additions/changes? These are things that even women forget can absolutely change their sex drive or, most of the time, drop it off a cliff and make it borderline non-existent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 12:28 PM
8	Women only use natural selection to attack men forgetting it consequences won't be decent for them You know there is a middle ground between "became the town bicycle because every guy's had a ride" and "sequester her until she is of age to be handed off to the highest bidder that gives status to the family name." Most Dads just want their kids (daughters AND sons) to find happiness and be safe. The well-adjusted ones, anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/25 11:46 AM
4	Women only use natural selection to attack men forgetting it consequences won't be decent for them Withdrawing/doing nothing is still technically a choice, however it's a choice to NOT interact or do something with them, whereas coercion is threatening someone with consequences if they do not do X for them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/25 11:43 AM