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The biggest disparity is the pay gap between mothers and non-mothers. Women without children make close to the same as men who do or don't have children. If paternity leave were forced, this would close the gender pay gap, but would likely increase the parent/non-parent pay gap.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/22 12:00 AM
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I know it's easier said than done. I try to be Stoic with a capital S. That doesn't means I'm un-feeling. It means I decide how I will react to the world around me. If you're interested, this will be lesson one. If you're not interested, that's okay, but I'll share it for anyone who is. I want you to imagine a life without a romantic partner that would still be worth living. What would you focus on? What would give your life meaning? What would you do for fun? What platonic relationships would m…
/r/seduction21/09/21 12:43 AM
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I don't know. I think mine reached its full development when I was ten.
/r/seduction21/08/21 06:53 AM
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"My dry spell? Meh. I'm pretty picky, even for casual sex. How's my sex game? I'll be honest -- every woman I've been with has had such different turn ons and things they like, that unless they were good at telling me what they liked, the first couple times were only a little amazing. The ones who knew what they wanted and could tell me -- those were the most fun and so fucking hot! So, what things do you know you do or don't like?"
/r/seduction19/08/21 04:05 PM
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The advice you received is meant for guys who fawn all over women, and seem desperate and unappealing. You didn't need that advice, because you weren't giving creepy levels of unearned attention -- you were giving them as much attention as felt natural. You were already in balance, so this aspect of your life didn't need a correction.
/r/seduction11/08/21 12:17 AM
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Aristotle taught the Golden Mean. The path of balance between vices of extreme that become virtues when balanced properly. Too little courage is cowardice. Too much is recklessness. Almost every piece of advice out there is trying to correct for an imbalance by pushing people in the other direction. So the miser needs encouragement to be willing to spend, but the spendthrift needs to be taught the value of saving. But what usually happens is that the spendthrift runs across advice designed for t…
/r/seduction11/08/21 12:14 AM
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I'll defend OP by restating his question. Where are you putting most of your effort? In trying to improve yourself according to your own values? In trying to improve yourself in the ways you think will matter to others? In creating an illusion that you're the kind of man you wish you were? In creating an illusion that you're the kind of man that you believe women want? If most of your effort is going into creating an illusion, you won't feel worthwhile, even if it works. As far as how to balance…
/r/seduction16/02/21 06:26 PM
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"Am I gay? I dunno. All I know is that I haven't been attracted to any men yet."
/r/seduction12/02/21 08:49 PM
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Okay, you're right -- I didn't disambiguate enough. If you're really okay with just being friends, then it's okay to just be friends, but like I mentioned later, you should still be upfront if about being romantically interested in them if you are. If you wouldn't be okay "being friend zoned", then don't act like that's an option to her face. Don't use the guise of friendship as a Trojan horse for your real desires. And it's okay to be honest with yourself and her that you wouldn't be interested…
/r/seduction12/02/21 12:32 AM
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It's wonderful to be friends with women you want to be friends with. It's wonderful to be friends with women you'd want to be friends with and/or date, as long as you'd be happy with either. If you wouldn't want to be friends with her but would want to date her, that either means that something's off, or just that you've only got so much time, and have to prioritize romance, because you've already got all of the friendships you'll have time to maintain. But what is never okay is pretending to wa…
/r/seduction10/02/21 08:09 PM
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And we like being able to complain about their complaining. So it's a win-win situation!
/r/seduction10/02/21 07:47 PM
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Those are really good points. And to be clear, I don't think these are the reasons the women think they dislike men doing this, I was just trying to see ways in which their dislike could be seen charitably, maybe as a subconscious thing. More likely the subconscious thing is really "low status man tricked me into being attracted to him and that makes me feel stupid."
/r/seduction27/01/21 07:08 PM
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As far as women wanting us to "just naturally know this stuff", it's reasonable if this stuff is not the desired quality, but the test to see if the underlying quality is there. If someone who's not studied this stuff can walk up to a girl, put her at ease, make her feel special, and have s good conversation with her, she assumes he'll be able to be a fun date, be a delight at dinner parties, be able to charm her mother, and succeed in his career and at life in general. If it turns out he can't …
/r/seduction26/01/21 07:00 PM
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The best example of bad faith interpretations out there is "negging". People out there -- including most women you approach -- have heard about negging, and they've been told that it's insulting women to lower their self esteem. The nuanced origin of negging was that most guys insult each other and "take the piss" in playful ways with each other, but treat women like some wholly different species and fawn all over them. Negging was supposed to mean "just treat that gorgeous woman like a normal p…
/r/seduction26/01/21 06:54 PM
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There are ideas out there on social media and just between women talking that has given PUA and PUA adjacent things a very negative light, and you're not going to be able to reframe that enough to turn it positive. Your most understanding friend who has heard and seen all this stuff for years is at best going to think you're misguided, and hope you don't tell anyone else, last you drag their reputation down with you.
/r/seduction26/01/21 06:54 PM
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If she's apologetic and wants to reschedule, I recommend playfully asking her how she's going to make it up to you. Just about anything she offers will be good. If she gets indignant that you're suggesting something more lewd than she'd want, you can offer suggestions like fresh baked cookies, an "apology dance", a shoulder rub, whatever.
/r/seduction16/01/21 01:38 AM
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Sure. It's not a 90's fighting game where the stats are all balanced.
/r/seduction02/07/18 06:29 PM
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Yep. I think we actually seek beautiful women not for how much better the sex or even just being with them is: I think we seek them out as validation and to elevate our own status. Think about who you'd rather spend five years with: an incredibly hot bitch that makes you feel like shit, or an okay looking girl who's kind and fun to be around. The fantasy of the hot girl is how others will perceive us. The reality of the kind girl is we will be happier.
/r/seduction02/07/18 05:18 AM
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Hey, if you go for it, send me a message in a few months to let me know how it's going. Or hit me up for advice in the mean time. I'm primarily a fusion and blues dancer, but I'm taking WCS classes right now to improve some of my basics for fusion dancing: I asked a bunch of girls who their favorite fusion leads were, and most of them have WCS backgrounds. I think fusion is more fun, but it's the most fun when you have a solid background in another style.
/r/seduction17/04/17 09:37 PM
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Oh man. The Bay has some of the best dancing in the country. And great communities. I'd look into West Coast Swing, based on what you've said. I don't specifically know about WCS there, but I'd be very surprised if it weren't fantastic.
/r/seduction17/04/17 08:36 PM
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This fits your style so well from what I've read. The hardest thing for beginner dancers is they aren't willing to focus and put the time in at the begining to get over the steep early learning curve. You seem to enjoy music and physical activity. What types of music do you like? I've been a social dancer for years, and I'd love to help you find the right dance for you. How big of a city are you in? (Or, if your willing to disclose, what city are you in?). What's your evening schedule like? Do y…
/r/seduction17/04/17 05:43 PM
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Well, if we have this conversation without using the word rape, that might help. Having sex with a girl who wants to have sex with you and she's in an unaltered state is obviously moral and good. Violently forcing a girl against her will; obviously bad in immoral. Every man (and State) has to decide for themselves where the line between those two is not to be crossed.
/r/seduction10/03/16 09:17 PM
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Especially at night time when the woman is drunk and most likely dtf. Had a drink and in a good mood? Awesome! Actually drunk and you fuck her? Likely rape.
/r/seduction09/03/16 10:14 PM
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it can't be hateful to speak the truth. Sure it can be. It is true that I fucking hate the show Captain Planet, when people think that Trump's biggest flaw is his hair, and Fox for being ass hats about Firefly. All of those truths are filled with righteous hate.
/r/seduction21/01/16 05:05 AM
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This video is where I learned of the concept.
/r/seduction11/12/15 08:49 AM
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Women are people. Do you give your guy friends shit when they say something stupid? Give women shit when they say something stupid. Don't worry so much about always saying the right thing: just talk to 'em.
/r/seduction28/09/15 04:21 AM
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"All women are beautiful, but practice on the ugly ones." -my friend's dad
/r/seduction20/09/15 08:35 AM
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Sure that could easily be part of it, but if he hadn't worked on himself, this wouldn't've happened just because of his foreigner status.
/r/seduction15/09/15 10:21 PM
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Exactly. It's nearly impossible to treat a girl just like anyone else, when you never interact with anyone else to have a reference point.
/r/seduction28/05/15 06:53 PM
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"No matter how attractive a girl is, there's some guy out there who is sick and tired of her shit."
/r/seduction26/05/15 11:27 PM
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Yes, humor can be developed. My dad specifically taught me about humor, helping me analyze conversations he'd had at work and how the flow of responses created the connections in people's minds that make us laugh. He also let me stay up late if there was going to be a good comedian on The Tonight Show, and he'd help me understand the techniques the comedians used. All of this paid off: when I was 18 I became the co-host of the #1 local radio morning show. If you're serious about developing this,…
/r/seduction01/05/15 11:47 PM
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A guide to emoticons, circa 2003.
/r/seduction02/03/15 10:06 AM
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Meh. It's a common phrase in the poly world.
/r/seduction25/01/15 09:21 PM
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Outcome independence. Figure out what y'all can do that you'll be happy with if sexy times don't happen. If you have to choose, know without hesitation whom you'll choose. If it's true, start it off by saying you wish you didn't have to choose. If double sexy time is in the cards, the good time will take care of itself.
/r/seduction24/01/15 05:24 PM
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Just remember, if you have to make airplane noises to get a blow job, she's too young.
/r/seduction27/11/14 04:14 PM
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This. I'm barely above average in looks, and only because I worked hard to figure out what look works for me. I'm also in my mid 30's and am not at all wealthy (my car cost 1000 bucks). But I do just fine because I own who I am and I genuinely like women so I naturally treat them well.
/r/seduction23/11/14 01:13 AM
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You know, there's something to be said for knowing your audience (referring to the women we're interested in). I'm in Seattle and into more politically fringe types, who are big on consent culture, sex positivity, and in many instances polyamory. So with these girls, upfront and honest is where it's at. And here the ones who wouldn't sleep with me if they knew I just wanted a FwB situation, really would be hurt if I misled them: it's not the standard protocol amongst my circles. So I maybe can't…
/r/seduction03/09/14 05:49 PM
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How about "don't just use women for sex"? A relationship can be almost purely sexual, while still being a relationship. Friend is one type of relationship. Person you have sex with can be another type. The two can overlap, or they may not. If I give a girl all of my focus and energy while I'm with them, they're not being used even if that moment is all we share.
/r/seduction03/09/14 05:23 PM
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Link for the lazy, though to get any benefit you'll have to stop being lazy.
/r/seduction29/06/14 08:18 PM
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Escalating to let them sit on my lap is something I seriously need to work on. "Wanna dance?"
/r/seduction25/06/14 01:32 AM
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If you live in a big city or college town, look into blues or fusion dancing. These are social dances that are easy to start into (partnered, but less rigid than swing or salsa), really fun, and danceable to lots of different music. The modern style evolved from swing dancers learning the basics of old school blues dancing, then saying "we could totally blues to this song" about nearly every style out there (electronic, hip hop, dubstep, country, etc.).
/r/seduction07/03/14 09:44 AM
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Given your user name, is expect a different preference. It might be nice guyness, but I'm playfully a jerk most of the time. As far as when talking during a nice fuck, telling her to suck my cock just sounds like a teenager who learned about sex from porn.
/r/seduction05/02/14 09:09 PM
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I'd go somewhere in between these two extremes. For one, she read the situation spot on: he was okay with her doing that (not that we should really adopt the "she was asking for it" mentality). But OP should have at least given her some shit about it. "Excuse me?!?" while smirking a little. "What makes you think that is okay?" Though I don't know how seriously any man can be taken with an orange tie. ; ]
/r/seduction27/11/13 06:41 AM
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Turnabout's foreplay.
/r/seduction27/11/13 06:35 AM
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This. Of course this sounds terrifying for those of us who feel like we'll be rejected and seen as creeps and have to face awkwardness every class period. But as long as you're not slyly trying to trick her into isolation and dates, even if she turns you down, she and any girls that hear about it change the role you play in their minds. And that's worst case scenario. Best case scenario is fun enough to be worth the risk.
/r/seduction11/10/13 01:50 AM
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I would expand that it's sleazy and disrespectful to the girl if you befriend her with the intention of using that friendship to some day get with her. Falling for your friend and then letting her know that things have changed is fine. The stereotypical 'nice guy' routine is emotional blackmail and nothing an alpha or gentleman would ever do.
/r/seduction11/10/13 01:45 AM
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Way better than a Jedi. Lightsabers and telekinesis vs. sex? Tough, but... Yeah, I'd be a Sith.
/r/seduction05/07/13 08:47 AM
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First rule: leave them better than you found them. So you are right to consider this. Now it's up to you (preferably discussing with her) to decide which way does that best. You'll feel like a man either way if you do what you think is right.
/r/seduction05/07/13 08:19 AM
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Ok. You don't get it and don't want to get it. You've watched a few pua videos on YouTube and think you understand relationships. There are times when things are like you describe: the basic afc situation to a T. This wasn't that. He didn't just want sex. She didn't want everything but sex (hehe, I said buttsex). She wasn't friend zoning him; he wasn't foreplaying enough. He wasn't some chump she had on the side while fucking other guys; he was her husband that she loved, and she hated not havin…
/r/seduction05/07/13 06:51 AM
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I'm just going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not a huge troll or loser (which I think some people felt, looking at the downvotes). Op had natural game, but didn't know how he was supposed to play the role of 'husband'. Taking sex for granted, he stopped seducing her like he had every other time in his life he'd wanted sex. She went from being teased, revved up, and made to feel sexy, to being treated like a wife that should put out on demand. That didn't work for her emo…
/r/seduction05/07/13 05:04 AM
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upvoted to induce meta-ness.
/r/seduction23/04/13 02:13 AM
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I'll leave the sex for later, until she's emotionally invested in me. Then I'll get her for sure. This is not respectful. This is manipulative 'nice-guy' bull shit.
/r/seduction26/12/12 11:03 AM
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If your goal is sex, bail. If your goal is a relationship sans sex for now (or if that is completely okay, even if it's not the goal), stay in. She is being sexual without letting things escalate. Unless she cuddles and has this much physical contact with guys platonicly, this means that she is into you. This general advice is talking about girls that do have sex. If sex right now, or soon, is important to you, talk with her about it in a way that puts no blame or judgement on her choice, just a…
/r/seduction26/12/12 11:01 AM
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The fact is people freak out about this thing that isn't that important. It's just a fun thing to do. Agreed. (3.5 min)
/r/seduction30/11/12 09:48 PM
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Babe!
/r/seduction22/11/12 04:05 PM
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Stop it Peirce. That's not a saying.
/r/seduction24/10/12 12:19 PM
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I hear constantly here two things that in me are contradictory: be honest and authentic; be confident. Here are you saying that the honest part is more important? Is it okay to just be up front with how non-alpha I am?
/r/seduction24/10/12 12:17 PM
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Decide if that's the person you want to be. If it is, fuck everyone else; go hateful style. If it's not, work on that; others may have more advice for you on that, I personally don't have anything concrete off the top of my head. PM me if you want someone to talk to about it.
/r/seduction24/10/12 12:11 PM
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and I don't change my opinion based on what girl i'm talking to. Great thing. Which of course means you have to figure out your opinions beforehand. See: authenticity.
/r/seduction24/10/12 12:07 PM
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Ohhh. Never knew the source. Danka.
/r/seduction24/10/12 11:59 AM
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Social dancing. Blues is the easiest to get started in, and my favorite, but tends to be really watchful against guys just trying to get laid. Then there's swing and ballroom etc.. Tango is really snobbish; you pretty much have to take lessons for a while before you show up. All the others tend to be newbie friendly.
/r/seduction23/10/12 06:26 AM
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Yup.
/r/seduction31/08/12 08:00 PM
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Damn it! The one time I thought I was original.
/r/seduction07/08/12 06:35 PM
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I think many of us would be stoked to find out that'd get us women's attention. But that's not what Cubes are for.
/r/seduction28/06/12 11:52 PM
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So there is so sexual tension between us really. Freudian?
/r/seduction28/06/12 11:47 PM
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Obviously context dependent, but awesome.
/r/seduction18/06/12 11:11 PM
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Let go when she breaks eye contact. There. No overdoing it. Unless she's a headlight deer.
/r/seduction18/06/12 11:08 PM
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If you want to get good at something fast, then the key is to repeat, fail, repeat, fail, repeat, and fail, until you succeed. Hell's yes!
/r/seduction15/06/12 06:49 AM
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Once again, the best advice has to do with being a decent person.
/r/seduction24/05/12 04:53 AM
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"Respect."
/r/seduction11/12/11 07:44 PM
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I'm 12 years old and what is this?
/r/seduction31/05/11 07:11 AM
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I demand a rule 34! edit: I first demanded rule 42.
/r/seduction08/03/11 03:07 AM
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As an AFC, I approve this message.
/r/seduction07/01/11 12:43 AM
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Good. Step 4 is hard.
/r/seduction30/12/10 02:10 AM
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You sir, are a gentleman, a scholar, and a lover of fine art.
/r/seduction22/12/10 08:47 PM
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Reading this is honestly the only thing that's really ever made me want to drink. I can go to bars as a DD or to hang with friends, and it's no issue. But how do I explain being there if I'm drinking soda while reading?
/r/seduction22/12/10 10:07 AM
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It says it's from the author of The Bro Code. I thought that was written by Barnabas Stinson.
/r/seduction22/12/10 10:00 AM
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33 British Airways hostesses and countless young Japanese fans during his two-week stay Just the 33 stewardesses would've been lent for this guy.
/r/seduction19/10/10 10:50 PM
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I'm 6' even and I'd like to try dating a taller girl at least once.
/r/seduction19/10/10 10:39 PM
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Can anyone respond to this? I'm interested in y'all's opinions.
/r/seduction18/08/10 04:51 PM
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Did this. Went well.
/r/seduction13/08/10 08:59 AM
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I've just started practicing the advice in the article and thought I'd give a mini FR. Note: I am not yet a PUA by any stretch of the imagination. I was at a party Friday night and was feeling kind of out of place. I saw a girl that I'd met once before sitting on the couch by herself. I had no interest in her, but figured that having a good conversation would be better for both of us than awkwardly trying to look like we weren't awkward all night. I had read the linked article about "threading c…
/r/seduction02/08/10 01:53 PM
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