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Women using boring, cliched dating app photos doesn't make men's boring, cliched dating app photos any less boring or cliched. This much I know is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 09:00 PM
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I’m in my 40s and remember a time when gape was just a word, but those days are gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:20 PM
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It’s this sort of weasel thinking that ends up making the news when we read about young lesbians being guilt tripped into dating women with dicks. The leverage you seek to apply is right there, you don’t even try to hide it: “It's just a logical inconsistency if you truly are supportive of the trans community.” Could be translated as “you are with us or you are against us”. Very coercive and, in certain contexts, rapey as hell. Congrats on doing your bit for the trans cause though!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:28 AM
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There's too many qualifiers that would need to be established in order for me to take that claim seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 03:12 PM
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Your words are sending conflicted feelings in a way I don’t think you even realise.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:51 PM
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And what about the guy who can get sex but wants to be a husband (literal or figurative). All of this homoerotic anguish about the different qualities of men, the 20%, etc etc, forget that there is a percentage of men who are attractive to women but who do not want casual sex or a harem. I suspect this percentage of men is larger than people might think. I’ve seen men turn down advances from pretty attractive women because there was something about the situation that seemed uncool to them many t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:58 PM
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I think everyone, regardless of sex, gender or political persuasion regards “male feminists” aka male pick-mes, with a great deal of suspicion at the very least, except for people on the most extreme end of the spectrum where a passion for ideology has caused a disregard for common sense. It’s in the exact same way that female pick-mes, tradwives etc are regarded with suspicion by everyone except those at the most extreme of the opposite end of the spectrum, ie Andrew taters, incels etc. These p…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:24 PM
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First love always feels like kismet. Comes with the territory. Each of the lives of one’s life is different, don’t throw energy away trying to compare or find one the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:59 PM
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Yeah this guy needs to gtfo of this sub with all this normie talking sense and shit smh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 01:56 PM
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It’s not even 5-6 attributes. It’s 3; height, looks, charm. If you score highly on one of those, and not be insultingly deficient in the other two, you’ll do okay. If you’re rich then it’s the money that will draw people to you, not you yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 12:09 PM
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Let’s be honest, the libido and cardio vascular function required to get it up and fuck degrade quicker than the seminal vesicles.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:46 AM
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The fact is that men continuously produce new sperm throughout their lives. As they age and their dna starts to degrade overall, the sperm will be of lesser and lesser quality, but there are plenty of instances of men in their 50s, 60s, 70s and older fathering perfectly healthy children. Women have a finite number of eggs which will be degrading from puberty onward, and at some point their viability drops off very steeply. So really, the likelihood of having a healthy child becomes more of a cra…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:41 AM
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Even in a subreddit already so rich in idiocy, the suggestion that we should use human bio hacking to “fix the dating market” is something special.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 04:36 PM
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Agreed but unfortunately in most cases the essential problem is still there- a high degree of risk aversion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:20 AM
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You’re moving the goalposts a little here. In your post it’s 40s & 50s, now it’s people in their 60s. How many 65 year olds are staying that they are MGTIW or 4B or whatever? This is millennial and zoomer shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:38 PM
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It’s not really about what I think, it’s just that, while rare, it does happen, and in my case I am very obviously broke. And I think that you need to allow that women of any age are no less likely to be dreamers, romantics and fools than are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 10:06 AM
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Wasn’t! Let me edit that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 07:59 AM
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Yeah, older women can be attractive, but they will usually be in a relationship. Same with attractive older men. But if you’re just looking for sex, then why would any man choose older if he can have younger. I understand that most older men can’t have younger women, but this is beside the point. There are outliers of course, but for the majority, if they could, they would. Just the way it is unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 07:55 AM
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As an older man who has shacked up with younger women, i can guarantee 100% it wasn’t because of my money, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 07:22 AM
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Eh, not sure. I think, rightly or wrongly, people will rush to condemn bad behaviour in men, when it comes to dating, as misogyny. It might often be misogyny, but I personally relate to OP, because I’m absolutely not a misogynist, but some of my behaviour towards women in dating has been labelled misogyny. In reality, I’m just crazy (ADHD or whatever label you want to put in it), dysregulated , and have poor levels of empathy. But I’m like that with everyone. And, fwiw, I’ve been on the receivin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 10:15 PM
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not a literal island (it’s the end of a peninsula), but good example.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 07:36 AM
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Yeah in Europe it’s the arrival of Christianity and the beginnings of polygamy, blood feud and slavery being prohibited, so actually more to the tune of 1000-1500 years, not 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:28 PM
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I’m sorry but I’m going to judge rapists all day long, I don’t care how natural it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:42 PM
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Unfortunately I think it’s more basic than that- men remain viable as reproductive mates much longer than women. Obviously many men are looking like shit in their 40s, but if you wear it well, you’re good to go, irrespective of your accumulated resources. I’d be salty about it too, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:33 PM
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I square it with myself very easily- I’ve always been compulsive and irresponsible, add sex into the mix and forget about it. Them? No idea. Optimism maybe, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:27 PM
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Very similar experience. Well educated, feminist identifying women will just hop right on. I mean I’m right there with them, but it’s still kind of crazy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 09:27 AM
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Do women want men to be sexually free? Because remove the parameters of social control and shot gets nasty real quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 08:00 PM
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Your point is that older women can compete in attractiveness with young women by maintaining a certain weight and by getting enough sleep, not drinking etc. The reality is that men find young women hot, end of story. And for clarity, do I wish it was different? Yes. Are some women in their 40s hot? Yes. Are most men in their 40s hot? Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:18 PM
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No. Young women are hot because they’re young and hot and fun. No amount of self care can stop the physical and emotional wear and tear of the years.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:09 PM
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True, but also fucking multiple other people without him knowing it was like that is also a stretch. Be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:52 PM
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I’ve experienced people (usually men, often ones I know quite well) labelling me as a bit of a dog, when I’m absolutely not. Men see my sometimes chaotic love life and project their (unrealized) desire to “play the field” onto it, while what is actually happening is just a painful, embarrassing mess. The thing is that people are happier projecting than just asking “why are you doing this?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 08:11 AM
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I don’t think I can help you bud. When I was recently single I managed to date a few women. I didn’t do well in dating apps at all but had success outside of them. So either I’m just an offline alpha, or dating apps suck. Either way I don’t think women are to blame, certainly not any more to blame than thirsty men who are swiping on every single profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 04:00 PM
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Exactly this, you can be as sex positive as you like but there’s no pretending there isn’t a big difference between a woman covered in tattoos doing anal gang bang (or whatever) and a woman who is selling semi artsy photos of her ass and never shows her face. Both are OF girls, but the first one probably needs some hugs, while the second one needs to be my girlfriend. And I’m guessing gay women are probably thinking something similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:10 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 09:07 PM
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The only people who think like this are either idiots, autistic, or self sabotaging. I mean, the idea of a checklist for someone you’re not even with is not uncommon, but being an idiot is not uncommon either, so it figures. Most people get together, long term or short, because they find each other hot, fun and they vibe. The checklist only comes out when the relationship is on the outs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:51 PM
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FOUR SCORE AND SEVEN YEARS AGO… okay honest Abe.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:44 PM
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I’m out here spending ten minutes jacking a woman off so I can get my two hump jump afterwards. Just figure it out, people, it’s not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:40 PM
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He won’t quit till the women fess up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:35 PM
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I’m presuming your use of language was an attempt to lend gravitas to your frankly ridiculous idea that academics 14 years ago had backward (and now discredited) ideas about sexuality. It was 2011 not 1911. So I was making fun of that, rather than you being wrong, but then again, I wouldn’t have made fun of you if you were right, because you weren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 11:00 AM
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“Almost a decade and a half old” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:47 AM
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Ah yes, all the 20 something Redditor’s whose grandparents were going round in horse drawn buggies and petticoats. The premise of your argument is false. The average age of redditors is early 20s, by which we can surmise that their grandparents are mostly boomers, a generation known for loving divorce almost as much as they loved sex, drugs, rock n roll and capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:53 PM
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It’s actually something I’ve thought about, and obviously impossible to say how I’d do as a 20 something guy on dating apps. I’ve been on dating apps in the last year or two and they sucked. That said, I did okay finding people to spend time with via other routes, so I don’t know. If apps are solidly anyone’s default way of finding romance or sex, particularly a man, then yeah, prognosis not good.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:34 AM
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Why not use this energy and excitement of yours to educate yourself on how basic fractions work? You certainly seem to have a passion for the topic. But listen, I think we essentially agree that dating apps are very bad. Where we disagree is that I am saying that this is not because women are being disgusting shallow harlots. It’s because more men than women in the apps + lower swiping rates for women + EVERYONE swiping more readily on people with attractive profiles leads to the absolutely logi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:24 AM
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Which in turn are an expression (often indirect and elaborated) of our biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:18 PM
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Swiping rates is actually more important than the skewed app membership. As a non-thirsty man I swiped on maybe 10% or less of profiles I saw when I was on dating apps. That would mean only the “top” (to me) 10% of women would be getting swipes. I imagine women are swiping even less than that, while many men are swiping 80%+. I don’t care about that stupid graph. It says almost nothing. Just do the math.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 08:09 PM
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Instead of “the statistics”, say “this random, unattributed graph I found on Reddit, whose first reply is: “How world they score attractiveness and also access their message data. Smells like BS.”” Then you will have a better understanding of your position, and to help you along the way, I’ll give you a little suggestion- have a think about the difference in swiping rates of men vs women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:06 AM
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Statistics are hard for you. I understand. It’s okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:23 PM
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I largely agree, with the exception of your last paragraph (with which I completely disagree), but what you are saying is pretty much exactly my point. The difference between the existing power structure that keeps people in a state of serfdom, as you perceive it (primarily insufficiently controlled capitalism in the case of the US) is that there are feasible and actionable alternatives. Not so the case with extension of parity between the sexes beyond equality in the eyes of the law.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:55 PM
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In my experience if they find you attractive, turns out there’s a lot that can be swept under the carpet. That said, whoever you are, if you make your politics your whole personality it’s probably because you are a class A dullard. No offence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:41 PM
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Interview, full disclosure of finances and voting record, then marriage. Please, we’re not animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:34 PM
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Exactly, I don’t think being in lock step with your significant other is particularly healthy. My own partner would probably label me a Genghis Khanite paleo-nazi (I’m not), while she herself is very left, and we get along fine. As an aside, it’s been a long time but as I remember (probably incorrectly) Dworkin was kinda red-pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:32 PM
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I mention the bourgeoisie etc just as examples, of varying legitimacy, of perceived bulwarks against any given ideology’s given perception of justice, if that makes sense. As far as reading recommendations go, I can’t think of anything that deals with everything I addressed, but I guess any academic publishing analysing social movements of the last two hundred years I guess? Anything published before about 1995 will generally be more coherent, imo, but your tastes may differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:00 PM
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We are definitely at a strange nexus when it comes to each sex’s standing in society. Throughout the 19th and the first 1/2-3/4 of the 20th centuries we have seen the abolition of slavery and serfdom, the rise of social and national movements, the spread of universal suffrage and equal rights irrespective of class, colour and sex. What’s interesting at this point is that having rightfully won absolute parity in the eyes of the law in all civilised countries, with the necessary caveats pertaining…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 10:50 AM
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Cool rags to riches story bro, but as a metric to parse statistical data it is, to use your word, stupid. .
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:04 AM
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Lazy dreadhead suggests grubby stoner to me, ie not someone who I'm going to be falling over myself to take unsolicited hygiene advice from. No offence, I'm sure you're good! Pop over to r/bigdickproblems and do a search for UTI. You'll see it's not as uncommon as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 12:38 PM
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Username Lazy Dreadhead telling me I have a dirty penis because I was not subject to genital mutilation as a child, lol. Okay, maybe it’s that, or maybe the penises you’ve encountered were not as big as you thought they were. Facts are that genitalia are not sterile and nor are they meant to be, and a thick penis can irritate a woman’s urethra and also cause external bacteria to be forced into it. If you’ve never had a UTI from long PIV sessions with a big penis consider yourself lucky I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 11:09 AM
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Please, these generalisations sound weird to straight people too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:17 AM
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As a dude my view is that paying for sex is nasty and brutish, but understandable as an infrequent act of desperation. If you fall into that category, take that shit to the grave with you. There’s another category of men who do it BECAUSE it’s nasty and brutish and you can be assured that they are not telling their wives or girlfriends anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:12 AM
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60-40 is still skewed, and regardless you are still being shown who the algorithm wants you to see. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:56 AM
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Yeah no I’m not going to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 06:13 AM
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No, but I am fastidious about my hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 11:01 PM
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Must be my stank-ass wiener because it's happened with every woman I've been in a relationship with (ie had sex with for longer than 3 minutes, lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 10:28 PM
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UTI for her, yeast infection for both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 09:58 PM
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Exactly- as a man with fairly healthy self-esteem I can totally sympathise with women's position. I lasted maybe two weeks on dating apps, and swiped right on maybe 6-7 women. The profiles in which women were able to present themselves as sane, funny and sufficiently physically attractive were a minority, even though I know I was left swiping on many women who I'm sure would be perfectly attractive in person, but just had shit profiles. I imagine this is true for men's profile's as well. And of …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 09:49 PM
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If the numbers of male vs female dating app users is as skewed as we're led to believe, female users are probably not even being shown the bottom 80% (or whatever it's supposed to be). You are forgetting that the apps are showing you who THEY want you to see, which is profiles who get a lot of engagement, which in women's case will be super hot guys who are just real seeming enough to provoke speculative swiping even from sensible women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 09:28 PM
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I have a big penis and in my experience PIV for more than about 10 minutes has been a fairly reliable recipe for a UTI and/or yeast infection.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 08:55 PM
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Hitting on a woman and asking her to marry you are two different things, friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 10:56 PM
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Low(er) effort vs high effort. It’s not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:51 PM
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Body language, eye contact, that kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 01:28 PM
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I think it’s less the look than the behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:31 AM
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Ha ha yeah, the leather jacket and ripped jeans is hilarious. This is “dangerous dude” apparel from the 1950s. Edit: that and “prematurely nude”. Wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 10:44 AM
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Strong independent women will indeed find progressive men attractive. I think where your point fails is that you are not distinguishing between your regular, financially independent, strong, opinionated (within the bounds of social grace) woman and the kind of woman who needs to let the world know that she is strong and independent (cf social grace mentioned earlier), and indeed a third type of woman who puts her career and/or ambition before everything else. And this is of course a spectrum. Pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 09:28 AM
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Ha ha I knew a few types like that at college. One of them was a bloody menace. Lock up your daughters type.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 01:49 PM
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There is some asymmetry, true, and it is probably because dating apps will tend to give women (and perhaps some men) inflated views of their own attractiveness. BUT, I would say the blame, if there is need for one, would be much better placed not on the dating scene per se, but the pop discourse around lifestyle and what people imagine they should prioritise. Young men and women are both being sold fantasies of solitary fulfilment, almost entirely via social media- "hobbies", health and wellness…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:20 AM
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Wining and dining the woman? What woman? You got to go get one first, chief! It's a bit of a meme that women think they would slay if they were magically transformed into men, but these women themselves are just very average people, possibly with a sense of their own attractiveness inflated by their experience on dating apps. Their actual direct male counterpart would very likely not slay at all. But, whatever the case, as far as thought experiments go it's a very silly one, if enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:49 PM
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Nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 07:34 PM
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No, don’t. Really.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 07:31 PM
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Me neither, but what would women, particularly the ones on this subreddit, do if they woke up in a male body? They’d go outside imagining the wonderful world of possibilities afforded by male privilege, but after a week they’d probably retreat to their mom’s basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:10 AM
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Outside of lost little girls clamouring for attention on TikTok, the exact same is true for unattractive women. Either sex can make up for a deficit in looks with a surplus in personality, but yeah, as a piece of advice “work on your confidence” is pretty useless. Not sure what we’re supposed to be debating here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:02 AM
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Sorry that happened. I bet it’s way more common than people think.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 07:29 PM
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No, the thing is when we both want it to be. I explicitly said that eye contact was just an example, but it is a key expression of interest from another human being. If you’re not getting this from someone your trying to flirt with, you are probably wasting your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 07:21 PM
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Agreed. The idea that all attractive men want to be fuckboys is a myth. Many don’t, and will sometimes feel like they get used for sex. Checking someone’s boxes for physical attraction and then finding that you are somehow socially unacceptable to them for anything long term feels bad. I’m sure it’s a million times more likely to happen to women, but it does happen to men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 03:46 PM
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It’s very simple OP; you try an orchestrate a scenario where it’s just the two of you. If she swerved this a couple of times, she’s not interested. No harm, no foul. If she says yes, prognosis is good, and go from there. If you find that the two of you have been vibing for a few hours, shoot your shot, whatever form that might take. You might even repeat this process a few times and then shoot your shot. Not too many times though, otherwise you’ll just be warming her up for someone else. What yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 11:28 AM
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Nonsense. It’s 100% a two way street. I cannot make slightly over sustained eye content with someone who is not doing the same, for instance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:34 AM
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Agreed, absolutely terrible. The letter & flowers in particular is deranged.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:31 AM
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letter and flowers is a most deranged tactic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:00 AM
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Yeah it’s crazy, seems like people on Reddit think flirting means Benny Hill style innuendo. If I find a woman attractive I can flirt without needing to step outside the verbal parameters of discussing an oil change or whatever. Nothing sexual, just a mutually pleasing interaction based on good humour and non verbal affirmations.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:24 PM
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Agreed. The oft quoted 80/20 “rule” of paints a picture of this top 20% as boorish players, and neglects the reality that, in the case of dating apps, this top 20% will include many temporary users who quickly find relationships or leave them for other reasons, many who will be genuinely looking for relationships but making poor choices, many attractive but socially inept men, etc, who together would realign the notional 80/20 ratio to something more in keeping with empirical reality. As unpopul…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 07:41 AM
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Sad but seemingly true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:52 PM
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There is plenty of room to exist on the spectrum between fuckboy and married grandpa.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:43 PM
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Fair enough, parsing the philosophical definitions of these terms is above my pay grade too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:55 PM
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Interesting, I would say this particular take on redpill is pretty humanist. As in, acknowledging ourselves as biological beings with all the faults that comes with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:11 PM
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Unless she was bound by loyalty? Well, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:33 PM
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First of all, being a billionaire on a deserted island sounds fucking amazing. Second of all, you are misunderstanding the main point of self improvement and fitness- it’s for yourself. As a middle aged man I do these things because I need to, otherwise my body and mind will fail at a higher rate than they already are. If people are in a place where they have given up for whatever reason, then yeah, their relationships are going to suffer, but your premise is wrong because health and happiness a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:56 AM
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No need to argue preferences when you can just direct the curious to any one of the various porn subreddits dedicated to small boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:51 AM
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You need to expand your social circle. I know fuckboys in their 80s and chill family men in their 20s. Only other men can show you the different ways of being a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:55 PM
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Ah yes, advice on women from convicted rapist Mike Tyson! Or perhaps we can just accept that relationships between individuals of different sexes are very much dependent on the individuals involved, regardless of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:52 PM
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Men and women now have pretty much exact legal parity in Western democracies, absolutely so in property law and voting rights, but my point was that people will cast around for some shadowy structure to pin their woes on, be it patriarchy, the illuminati, wokeism, whatever, and it’s fuelled by social media brain rot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 05:18 PM
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Again, not relevant, but fyi; advertising.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 05:04 PM
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Ha ha, honestly, at this point you are just telling on yourself that you’re only able to attract low IQ, low EQ or inexperienced men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 05:03 PM
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I’m the guy who thinks of you two guys fucking each other while fucking a girl who’s thinking about the Roman Empire.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 04:27 PM
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No podcasts I listen to do this, but, that irrelevance aside, I agree with you about the nuance of reality, but disagree that the moral panic/brain rot boogeymen of “the patriarchy” and “the feminists” have no power or existence beyond the absolute fringes. Like ripples, they percolate through the public social discourse, and have for long enough that they are now, in modified forms, found in very mainstream media.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 04:21 PM
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No. You?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 04:15 PM
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I listen to a good number of podcasts aimed at women and, if they were from where I formed my world view, I’d believe the spectrum of male behaviour between “slavering rapist” and “benign dimwit” had a curiously empty middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:44 PM
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would you agree that “patriarchy” and “feminism” are two sides of the same miserable coin?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:35 PM
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Women don’t oppose patriarchy because patriarchy no longer exists in the West. What some might be expressing is dissatisfaction with what is probably better described as human nature, in all it’s often horrid glory. Men and women are fascinated with and drawn to each other, and always will be, snd with that comes disappointment and disaffection. The patriarchy (or conversely “feminism”) is just a handy boogeyman on which to pin this dissatisfaction. “Dukkha”, google it. It takes different forms …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:33 PM
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Honestly I don’t know if you’re just trolling or if you’re someone who can’t make a woman come or perhaps a woman who has never been given an orgasm by a man or what, but I wish you the best and will politely duck out of this conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:13 PM
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I’m not sure what you are replying to with this information.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:49 PM
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I’m not sure what you are replying to with this information.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:49 PM
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Doubling down on the bad faith and ad hominem arguments by making the clearly ridiculous suggestion that I write a tutorial? Whatever, my initial response was addressing your idea that men are somehow clownish for thinking the clitoris does not go beyond the clitoral glans, when in fact stimulation of the clitoral glans is the most obvious and easiest way of making the vast majority of women cum, just like it’s male homologue, the glans penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:48 PM
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Crocheted what?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:32 PM
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As I thought. Bad faith quickly degenerating to ad hominem. Well done.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:29 PM
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I am perfectly aware of the anatomy of the clitoris. It’s your lack of knowledge of the penis that is the problem in that regard. I’ve told you what the amplifies are- clitoris = glans. Now, there might be some subjectivity as to the importance of the clitoral bulb in achieving female orgasm, but I think you would be in a microscopic minority if your trying to suggest that stimulating it is not the easiest way to make a woman orgasm, and I honestly think the suggestion is crackers and not in goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:18 PM
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There is the little discussed (on this sub) scenario of two people getting together a few times and then one realises that they are just not that into the other. It’s not deception, nobody is necessarily “at fault” and it’s not just men doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:11 PM
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The clitoris and the penis are not analogous. That’s just bad anatomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:06 PM
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The answer is for men like this to seek out the company of men who are sexually successful. I’m not talking about fuckboys, just the nice, normal men who are also able to attract women. But, as with so much, this is a problem of an atomised society, lack of third spaces, lack of inter generational socialisation, particularly amongst men. But your premise is right, I think. Sometimes as the “cool boyfriend” hanging out with a group of female friends, I have occasionally found myself thinking damn…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:48 AM
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Weird and nonsensical take. The clitoris is analogous to the glans, and without it the enormous majority of female orgasms wouldn’t happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:25 AM
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and yet you expect others, including myself, to LARP along with your whacky “science” schtick. Fact is, vaginas do not get permanently stretched out from sex, but go ahead and believe what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 02:19 PM
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Sorry chief, vaginas go back to factory settings after a short period of abstinence. Source; I have an uncommonly large penis, have had sex with women, then had sex with them again after a period of abstinence.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:21 PM
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Exactly, being stingy and petty is not exactly hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 11:48 AM
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Lol, you know, it’s that planet where you’re eating dinner and a queue of women line up at your table to give you (or your date) fake compliments and weird bitchy looks. That planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 08:28 AM
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What about this sucks? She’s getting sex with hot guys. If she wants them to stick around she just needs to work on her personality, hit the gym, maybe bathe more often?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:23 AM
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I’ve done both, but I obviously can’t say what it’s like to be dating now as a guy in his 20s, but as a man in his 40s for sure it is a hell of a lot weirder now. That said, when I was at college 20+ years ago, pretty much everybody was paired up. I think dating apps and the loss of third spaces must have had some negative effect on dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:49 AM
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Exactly, and as we know, plenty of people looking for long term relationships will have shorter term or casual relationships along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:37 AM
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Honestly I don’t think people change that much in their dating habits as they age. A bit less frenetic maybe, but the underlying dynamics remain the same, and the brain rot affects everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:36 AM
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Women's sexuality is equally offensive when expressed in the same way that many men's is. Unwanted eye-fucking, comments, touches, just being in your face. I've experienced this on occasion, and I don't know if I'd use the word offensive exactly, but I just don't want it. Coming from a stranger, even an attractive one, this is not hot. I imagine if I was on the receiving end of this often, as many women are, it would be extremely tiresome. Add to that the difference of size and strength between …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:32 AM
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I'm a heterosexual man and have never flirted with a woman in a way that even remotely references sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:16 AM
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Incessantly? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:58 AM
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The litany of men who have blown up their lives and thrown their wife and kids under the bus for a taste of some forbidden poon is close to endless. Not so much with women doing the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:15 PM
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Who's we?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:13 PM
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Sure it does. Not often, but that's because most vaginas, like most penises, are not particularly noteworthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:04 PM
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You used the word "use". I forgive myself for presuming that included vaginal sex, which you allude to in your first paragraph. As for anecdotal experience, I'm afraid judging a woman's vagina by a man's experience of putting his penis inside it is only ever going to be anecdotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:03 PM
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If I may- I've slept with virgins who I would not class as particularly "tight" at all, and slept with moms who's vagina's were absolutely the same as women who hadn't had kids. Vaginas vary, both between each other and also the same vagina will be different from one day to another. One thing I can confirm, vaginas absolutely can return to factory settings. In the instance of childbirth, this is less certain, but in my experience by no means exceptional.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:43 PM
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Speaking for myself, it'd be because I grew up with older sisters, aunts, grandmothers etc. I grew up seeing women as just other people way before I became sexually aware, no more, no less.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 11:45 PM
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I don't know how old you are, but sticking with the over 25 age bracket OP mentions, you will, as your friendship group starts to pair off, see less and less of them. Hanging out with the guys will become less frequent. People move away. Their family and careers take over. Those left single tend to become isolated, sometimes seeking out the company of other isolated men with whom they might not have the same history and things in common. It's a story as old as time. OR, you never had much of a f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:49 PM
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This is true. It's really not about a romantic relationship per se. It's because men have social networks that are far more tenuous than do women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:33 PM
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To address your first point, about women stating that they looking for a relationship on dating apps, I think it's important to parse "need" from "want". I think men and women probably want relationships equally, but I'd say men need them more. Just on a purely social level, I have very very few male friends with whom the hang is the same as it is with women, and personally, as a man, I need that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:17 PM
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Exactly this. You frequently see it in men who are divorced or widowed, "crash out" is the perfect term. I've come close to it myself. For the many reasons endlessly discussed on this sub, women do not seem to suffer quite the same trajectory of singleness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:09 PM
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Sorry, but I still can't feel sympathetic. I understand that some men might be so lonely as for this to make sense, and I feel bad for them and their situation is indeed being exploited, but seriously, it's still a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:12 PM
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I still wouldn't feel sympathy. I have plenty of vices that cost me money and a degree of self respect but I don't expect sympathy. I'm happy for the general socio economic situation or the platform in particular to be demonised, but I don't demonise an OnlyFans person any more than I demonise the guy who works in the shop where I buy my stupid vapes or booze.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 09:12 PM
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10/10 answer. I hope you have a job where you are able to display your skill for articulation and clarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 09:04 PM
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We're all vulnerable to making shit choices, but, in the absence of diagnosable learning difficulties or something, giving your money to someone so you can see pictures of their bum/feet/tits is very hard to feel sympathy. I mean, I've been single and horny, but there's no fucking way I'm paying for porn in 2025.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 09:02 PM
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Nah, I'm guessing men who are better socialised with women before having sex will find it easier to get sex going forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 08:56 PM
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I'm not sure what you are replying to here, but to clarify, I do not subscribe to the "ran through" vagina theory. That said, and I hate to pull rank here, but as someone who has a penis and has been having sex with women for more than 20 years, I can state with confidence that, while most vaginas are way more similar than they are different, they do come in somewhat different sizes. I'd also note that vaginas do indeed get stretched out by having sex, but then they will go back to their origina…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 08:54 PM
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Tits are hardly a deal maker for me let alone a deal breaker, but I do like them, a lot. That said, fake tits would probably be an instant deal breaker, for me. To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:30 PM
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I'm largely agreeing with your last comment, except that the "loose vagina" accusation can and does hit hard with some women. As for being too tight, I will have to disagree. I mean yes, it can work from one individual encounter to another, but it can be draining to deal with longer term.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:27 PM
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Listen, it might be a plus point, but it would be just one of a constellation of plus points, and not necessarily one of the major ones. Unless you are unfortunate enough to have a penis that is too big or too small for sex, it's all in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:17 PM
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Well there are plenty of women who are paranoid about the tightness of their vaginas or rather lack thereof, but, from my own experience they needn't worry because I will pick the slip n slide option over too tight every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:08 PM
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Whether you think fake tits look good or not is highly subjective. I think they look awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:02 PM
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PPD ladies are going to have to flip the script and start spamming this sub with posts insisting that men prefer tight pussies and are lying, gaslighting and settling when they say yeah, an averagely tight pussy is cool, outliers can pose challenges, but it's mostly the person who is attached to the pussy that matters. Might be a nice little project, akchually.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:35 AM
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Just your average "nice, well socialised men who like and get along with women get laid more often" shocker. Unfortunately many men on this sub think that only psychopaths are getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 09:40 AM
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Because people of either sex can be upright, moral humanists who think sex robots are uncool, terrifying and gross in equal measure?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 12:57 AM
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Cheating is very obviously worse. That doesn't mean that lying about being in the KKK is good, of course, but, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 12:50 AM
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I think your two forms are a bit limiting. Plenty of single moms where I live were just young and working class. Doesn't mean they are trash. Quite the opposite even. Perhaps they took responsibility for their pregnancy and had the social support network to back it up. Some are pretty hot, too. Way hotter than the middle class divorcees if I'm honest. There is the woman of r/tinder memes who is clearly physically unattractive and has wildly unrealistic expectations but that is just what she is, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 12:34 AM
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I guess the alternative is that she's being given the slip by men slightly out of her league (by whatever fucked up metric/s you want to adduce that).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 12:12 AM
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They're college age. Why not waste time? Also fwiw instagram does not necessarily reflect reality to any great degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 12:00 AM
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Women of that age bracket are being exposed, via podcasts, social media etc (ie The Womanosphere) to a narrative that encourages them to focus on self growth and in particular the cultivation (and I would say idealisation) of their female friend group. This narrative holds that relationships with men become intolerable if they impinge on this ideal. The ideal relationship is painted as two completely equal individuals with equally and independently rich lives who can, basically, take it or leave…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:57 PM
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I don't have any sources but I'm guessing most people become more religious or spiritual as they get older and as they have families (two separate phenomena). I don't see, personally, that this has any parallel to women choosing same sex relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:46 PM
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Quick question- how does "going back to church" differ from just going to church? I haven't been to church in 20 years, but if I ever go again, it'd just be me going to church. And I'm guessing me going to church won't be turning any women gay, either. How is this a debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 10:47 PM
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Triple fermentation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 06:52 PM
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I have to say I feel a bit attacked because Sovereign Citizen tinfoil haters is totally my jam but, that said, there are crossovers, and I think they have a common root in the commodification of an increasingly low-trust and atomised society where corporations and government are increasingly in cahoots to fuck all of us over. And I'm sure there must be an appropriate Big Lebowsky quote, but seriously, who, like, gave them permission? You know, man?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:57 PM
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Let me reiterate, I know I'm only one person, but I personally have both kids and options and whether a potential romantic (or sex) interest has kids or not does not factor into any decision I might make. But, having dated childless women as a single dad, there are considerations that make them less good options. Firstly, childless women (and men, presumably), as much as they might try and as much as they might think they do, they just don't get it. They don't get what it is like to be a parent.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:30 PM
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I'm saying it's normal if the man already has kids of his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:22 PM
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In real life that's not what I see play out and I'd be surprised that "competition for resources" plays much of a part in people's emotional choices. Single moms in my area (lol) are generally don't seem to be looking to marry or remarry. It happens, but mostly they seem to conduct their dating lives like everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:17 PM
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I'm a man with kids and options and single moms don't bother me. For a single mom who could pull better before she had kids, she can still pull those guys, if they themselves also now have kids. Childless dudes in their late 30s and 40s are usually not quite the catch they imagine themselves to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:09 PM
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Let me just jump in here and say that a woman who has kids (so usually late 20s or older) would possibly prefer a single dad to a childless man, for dating anyway. The level of common ground, understanding and, perhaps above all, perceived safety of a man who has been vetted by another woman is going to count for a lot. For something casual, then yeah, anything goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:04 PM
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Exactly, the whole question becomes completely redundant if the man in question is a card carrying irl norm who has kids of his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:58 PM
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It's weird because their immunity to the "childless and forever alone" threat doesn't work on single moms seems to aggravate (call them what they are) sexless men on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:37 PM
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This is honestly just pure fantasy. Maybe it's the circles I move in but it seems single moms just looking to date, fuck, party just like they did before they were single. They just need to do that when the kid/s are at their dads or grandparents or whatever. And many are happy to be single. The threat of becoming a "single, childless cat lady" does not work on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:33 PM
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Yes I think this thought process must be the domain of men who have achieved the single, childless and chronically online trifecta.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:29 PM
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Firstly, it's presumably pretty much only childless men who would think this way, and I'm guessing single/coparent dads would frankly thank such men to stay the fuck away from their baby mamas and their kids to begin with. Secondly, single moms can be single for a million different reasons, and while they might be moms, they are also single women who, shock horror, might just want to fuck. This narrative of single mothers being tragic figures casting about for a saviour might sometimes, somewhat…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:27 PM
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True enough, and I respect it too, except that I've seen plenty of women who say that but they're still looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 10:56 PM
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Well this is the tragedy of the human condition. Sometimes the "wrong" guy turns out to have been the right guy in retrospect, and vice versa. This has always been the case, but it seems that dating is now very much a buyers market for women, so this will perhaps affect women more, especially if expectations are slightly skewed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:30 PM
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What I said doesn't pertain to any colour pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:58 PM
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No, men should be better socialised and understand that a soft rejection is still a rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:29 AM
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Not sure why you're asking this, but sure, we're all obligated to do everything nicely, if we want to be considered a serious, dignified person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 10:09 PM
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That's fine, but as a rule in life, irrespective of the circumstances, there's no need to announce your departure, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 09:28 PM
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So you would announce to a guy that you don't want to be friends with them anymore if they were uninterested in escalating your friendship? Sounds wild. I mean fair enough if they did something I found particularly obnoxious, I'd swerve them or possibly even have words, but the difference is, if you do that to a dude, maybe some other dudes will think you're a weenie, maybe not. Either way they'll forget about it soon enough. If you do that to a woman because you were rejected, you will be drawi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:49 PM
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If you have any social skills whatsoever you can just do a slow fade. No need to announce your departure. Would you ever do that to another guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:35 PM
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Yes it is. It's like saying "see you later" to someone you spoke to briefly in the supermarket and them expecting you to actually arrange to see them later. If you reject someone's romantic advances, of course you're not expecting to be friends. It's awkward af.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:28 PM
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this is reddit my friend, they don't need a reason to downvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:23 PM
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I'm kind of kidding. What I wrote is also "kind of" true, but I understand you mean rejection as in initial rejection, which I'm absolutely fine with. That said, I think you can be fine with rejection and also struggle with dating. Being fine with (initial) rejection is a good sign of a well socialised person though, and therefore a good start.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:19 PM
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cool cool
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:11 PM
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I guess I must be because my personality's a shitshow.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:06 PM
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No offence but this sounds like fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:05 PM
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Butt hurt and outraged? Are you sure? Saying that you just want to be friends with someone you rejected is very far from actually being their friend. It's a social nicety. Rejecting this nicety in some ridiculous and stroppy way suggests poor socialization.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 07:37 PM
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As a man who was always pretty successful in dating, I take rejection horribly. To be fair the rejection usually comes after a couple of weeks or months of me pursuing what should have just been a one night stand, when they can no longer tolerate my crushing neuroticism and mommy issues, but your mileage may vary.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 07:22 PM
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You speak about me "invalidating" you, when I think you mean failure to validate. It's no more my position to validate yours than it is yours to validate mine, otherwise you might trouble yourself to validate my position of not caring very much about the difference between "childfree" and "childless". Except you won't do that, because you're the main character, your position is the only one that counts, and failure to acknowledge it's supremacy is "invalidation", which in turn allows you to beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:14 PM
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Well I just had a look at your post history and, to use your crack smoking analogy, if someone made that many posts about their desire to never smoke crack, I'd guess they weren't 100% comfortable with the idea of never smoking crack.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:45 PM
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And just to engage in your weird pettiness for a moment, you imagined me saying "I bothered you multiple times to invalidate you". Suggests you are bothered. Your words.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:39 PM
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Person completely unknown to me without children = childless person. If they have some reason they want to call themselves "childfree" instead of childless, they can have at it. The only way I'll know this is if they communicate it to me, and the only way I'll use "childfree" instead of "childless" is if I care about the distinction, which I don't. Forgive me for not caring about the tiny distinctions that you care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:38 PM
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I'm sorry, you've lost me. There's way too much projection going on in your posts and I find it difficult to reply to things I haven't said and points that I haven't made, but I believe I got involved in this thread replying to someone else, and what they said is quite salient. I paraphrase but it was something like "women who can't find suitable men are choosing to be alone". Which is a bit like saying that people who can't find suitable food are choosing to not eat. And that's a hell of a choi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:19 PM
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You aren't pushing back, though. You're just pushing. You are pushing me to use your chosen language which reflects your subjective inner narrative, and I am simply using an essentially synonymous term which still describes your objective reality. I'm not seeing the problem, except that by using the word "childless" I'm demonstrating a lack of interest in your motivation to not have children? And, as you said yourself, this is a debate sub. If you are bothered by that, don't engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:55 PM
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Oh hi! Just as an aside, you are free to attach whatever label you wish to yourself, but the fact is that while not all childless women are "childfree", all "childfree" women are childless. Moving through the world I cannot know anyone's motivation for their decisions, and in the vast majority of cases I don't care, but to insist that I cognitively conform to your inner narrative is unreasonable. I believe in popular parlance you would be suffering from "main character syndrome", which unsurpris…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:52 PM
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My clearly expressed opinion is that someone's choice, whether they are a man or a woman, to not have children is rarely a simple one, and that there is no simple metric by which declare one group unambiguously happy (or happier). And honestly I don't judge you, but I absolutely do judge the rampant capitalism and the toxic effects of social media which work in conjunction to atomise society and commodify and exploit the human experience on every level. That you personally choose to be childless…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:46 PM
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Sorry to jump in here so late to the game, but you need to recalculate this by area, which will be pertinent to volume, not circumference; cross sectional area of a 6" circumference penis (radius nominally 1" = 3" x/s area of a baby's head (13", so nominally 2" radius) = 12" So actually a babies head is 4 times the thickness of a thick cock. All numbers used are rounded for ease of calculation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:35 PM
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First of all, "childfree" as you are using it is a neologism, so yeah, it's a made up word. Use it how you like, but the fact that it is so easily conflated with "childless" suggests that there is indeed nuance, no? I mean, I don't know you, I don't judge you, I wish you happiness, but I am making assumptions about your life based on your attempt parse "childless" from "childfree" that do not suggest a very high degree of satisfaction with the world. Therein lies the nuance, for you. You will ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:16 PM
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Irrespective of why they don't have kids, there's always going to be nuance. An excellent example is your use of the word "childfree". To me it means when I leave my kids for a sleepover at grandma and grandpa's house and I can go out on a date. I'm guessing you're using it to denote someone who has made a conscious decision to not have children. But, to me and most of society, that latter definition will always be "childless", because we don't know your motivation or situation. And that's why i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 12:47 PM
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I'm not sure about female comedians having to be attractive, but otherwise agree. I know lots of funny women in real life, but can't think of many funny comediennes, and as you say it's down to socialisation and perhaps to some degree neurological. Men are expected to push boundaries, and laughter is after all hypothesised to be a modified fear response, ie saying or doing something that causes some kind of social or cognitive dissonance, but in a safe context, and you get a laugh. Women's humou…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 09:39 AM
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Tbh it sounds like sugar baby-ing except using freaky sex instead of money. Except money is money, no matter where you got it from. Freaky sex can be good, bad or indifferent, and a woman touting a low investment relationship in return for sex is unlikely to attract anything but the worst type of man. Maybe that's what she wants, but I doubt it. Also bear in mind the factoid that was floating around that the average age of MILF porn actresses was late 20's or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 09:31 AM
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So they're choosing but it's not the option they wanted. One wonders why they were having lame dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:42 AM
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I think at this point women are being coerced and subjugated into LOW birthrates by out of control capitalism, under which aegis I will include social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:38 AM
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I know a few older women who never had kids and it's never a simple question. That said, there's not that many 70 year olds who are childless right now. In 40 years there's going to be a butt ton.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:35 AM
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I was actually suggesting the inverse- women with children are probably reporting lower levels of happiness because kids and family life can be stressful, thereby elevating the perceived happiness of the alternative, childless women. However I expect that most women with children would not swap it for the alternative. Happiness is not some monolithic and unchanging state of being. Also pertaining to happily single women, what are the parameters for this? Single women who are so by choice, and pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:33 AM
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I'm not sure if I personally put much store in self reported happiness, especially not for something as culturally loaded as being perennially single. It's too complex of a situation because singleness correlates fairly closely with childlessness, and having kids is a whole other challenge to superficial happiness, but one few would exchange for the alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:12 PM
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"Choosing" and "possibility" are not the same thing though, and honestly I find it hard to believe that many moms and grandmoms are encouraging their daughters and granddaughters to choose being alone and childless. That honestly doesn't sound true to me. I know lots of moms and grandmoms. It doesn't sound right.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:05 PM
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Impossible to say without sounding like either a liar or an asshole, but I'm an attractive man, women are very friendly towards me in real life, but from my experience on dating apps you'd think I was Quasimodo. It's just too easy to reject people on dating apps using some arcane metric, which of course is something I also did. Certainly if you're unattractive dating apps won't help, but I think women in particular are just overwhelmed with attention, and I honestly don't blame them for swiping …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:18 PM
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Are they choosing to be single permanently though? Because that can happen by mistake surprisingly easily. I'm not defending OPs misogynistic tone, but in a lot of ways I think young women have been sold a lemon by pop-culture. I think we all have, but in this context, yeah, lemon=sold. Edit- and that's a hell of a thing to choose when you're in your twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:01 PM
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I think this is true of both sexes. They're either fuckboys/fuckgirls or there's something getting in the way of them finding a long(er) term partner, eg personality, looks. I was on dating apps for a very short while but jacked them in because as soon as it became apparent that this was the case I did not consent to my desire being commodified, BUT, on a more basic level, I very quickly got bored of playing stupid games with strangers who, ugly thing to say, were probably not people I would ent…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 08:40 AM
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Actually there were only two others. All the rest of the sources were identified as relying on the first two.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 05:31 PM
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Read the OP- "Bad Girls Bible Survey". Real science, trust me bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 09:45 AM
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Long shot at pussy sounds about right. Before watching it I guessed that the person in the video was probably not very physically attractive and it turns out I was right. She sounds like a drag, too. Who exactly does she (or OP) thing she is going to attract with middling at best looks and a shitty attitude?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:33 PM
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No, it's not a fact. If there is insufficient evidence to charge someone, let alone convict them, then there is not enough evidence for it to be taken as "fact" that they are rapists.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:23 AM
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Yeah I was a little surprised by it to be honest. I wasn't on the dating scene for long but women in their 30s and 40s seemed either guarded, thirsty as hell (which is not for me) or otherwise hard work, while women in their 20s were not what I was looking for but kind of what I got.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:58 PM
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Yes, it's often labelled "whataboutism", but I think to call it that is missing the point. Male violence is a problem for all of us, and to suggest that all men should take some kind of responsibility for it is not much more than magical thinking, because violence is only ever a choice made by a single individual in a particular moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:37 PM
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So those would be people accused of rape only, not necessarily rapists. Obviously it's a horrible crime and a notoriously difficult one to secure a conviction on, but as flawed as it is I'd rather have the rule of law rather than people being convicted of crime based on mere accusation alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:25 PM
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It's an analogy for protection against male violence. For men the umbrella is their own physical strength, for women that can be the strength of good men. I think we are in agreement, except that I'm addressing the part that is usually left out, which is that the problem of male violence predominantly effects other men and unfortunately is not a coherent nor eradicable phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 01:58 PM
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This is my experience too. You just need to be attractive and have ways to meet people of different ages. I'm in my 40s and during a period of being single dated/slept with a few women in their 20s. I was more the chased than the chaser and tbh it borderline grossed me out. I don't think it would've lasted anyway as I think the cultural shift of the last 20 years is too great to overcome long term. My point being that if you're attractive people will overlook all sorts of shortcomings and I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 01:48 PM
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The tricky part is that men are also scared that men will laugh at them AND will kill them. I'd argue that a significant portion of what might be termed "patriarchy" is societal controls of, or attempts to control, male violence. The reality is that we are all affected by male violence. Unfortunately women are not naturally very well equipped to defend themselves from it. A useful analogy might be to think of all of us getting rained on, but only some of us have umbrellas. Most of those with umb…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 01:18 PM
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Who's being convicted of rape and not sent to prison?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 01:03 PM
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