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| 2 | Just curiousNatalia Dyer, because she's my celebrity crush and is dating Charlie Heaton. IMO, Charlie Heaton isn't all that attractive, but that's just my male gaze doing the talking so take it with a grain of salt. I'm kidding, of course. Honestly, Natalia would probably be considered out of my league but the fact she's with Charlie is proof looks aren't all that matters. I'm more a believer of that women tend to have specific niche's they prefer when it comes to looks. I definitely fill out a niche for a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/21 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Question for those in this sub who keep saying partying and drinking is the key to finding partners and casual sex....women are just more likely to make new friends in general Not in general, only with other women. Generally speaking, women tend to be welcoming of other women but are suspicious/have their guard up around new men (which is understandable). Of course if a man they've never met starts chatting them up, most women would correctly assume he probably wants to sleep with at least one of them. But with all things it depends on the vibe you give off. I do think its possible to break the ice with a mixed… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Question for those in this sub who keep saying partying and drinking is the key to finding partners and casual sex....At 26, I still have no idea if I'm an extrovert or introvert. But on the topic of friends you're just going to have a much harder time integrating into a pre-existing, mixed-gender, friend group as a guy. There's just a much higher potential to have more subtextual power dynamics at play due to drama, exes, crushes, etc. Its becoming harder to find late 20s/early 30s adults that actually act like adults and not like they're still in high school. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 03:40 AM |
| 6 | Question for those in this sub who keep saying partying and drinking is the key to finding partners and casual sex....Let me guess, predominantly white with an upper class/upper middle class background? Not that I'm shaming but those types of groups tend to have been long established through college or high school friend groups by the time they're in their mid to late 20s and don't take kindly to newcomers, especially if they're men (and I can't say I'd blame them for that either). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 02:46 AM |
| 3 | Absolute dealbreakers for dating👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/21 05:30 AM |
| 3 | Absolute dealbreakers for datingNo, I would consider that inappropriate. Perfectly fine talking and hanging out with them in groups though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/21 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Absolute dealbreakers for datingDo sisters and SO's of friends count? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/21 12:28 AM |
| 2 | Hypothetical Discussion: How would you imagine a more matriarchal society functioning? What are some aspects of such a society that you as women have always dreamed would be true?You're missing the point. Social/welfare programs don't make a country an authoritarian nanny state. Having your mind being read by a machine under threat of disenfranchisement is. From a utilitarian and public policy perspective empathy is highly subjective. I'll even give you the benefit of the doubt. Maybe your morals and ethics are perfectly fine, but there may come a time when a strongman/dictator/autocratic political party gains control of what those mind-reading machines and decides what … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/21 06:17 PM |
| 8 | Hypothetical Discussion: How would you imagine a more matriarchal society functioning? What are some aspects of such a society that you as women have always dreamed would be true?Holy shit, you just described an authoritarian nanny state that forces people's minds to be read and a caste system reminiscent of Huxley's Brave New World. And empathy is terrible metric from which to judge policies. Some of the worst atrocities were committed by people with the best of intentions. How you can't recognize this fictional society as anything other than evil is astounding. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/21 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Should cosmetic surgery be encouraged more for men struggling to meet the physical attractiveness threshold with women?My guess is that they feel it’s a genetic trick. Another woman answering actually admitted to exactly that. Fortunately, I got lucky enough in the looks department where I don't feel cosmetic surgery is necessary. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/21 05:52 AM |
| 4 | Should cosmetic surgery be encouraged more for men struggling to meet the physical attractiveness threshold with women?We should instead encourage having a healthy self esteem, confidence, & overall mental health/wellbeing, all of which can be achieved without cosmetic surgery. Beautiful people tend to have higher self-esteem, are more confident, and have better mental health because their non-existent physical deformities aren't potentially yanking them back down into a spiral of depression or self-loathing. Now the first steps should always be: fitness, style, hygiene, skincare, hobbies/lifestyle, etc. But we … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/21 09:16 AM |
| 6 | Should cosmetic surgery be encouraged more for men struggling to meet the physical attractiveness threshold with women?Makes sense. Thank you for the honest answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/21 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Should cosmetic surgery be encouraged more for men struggling to meet the physical attractiveness threshold with women?Knowing this answer would come up: Yes, there absolutely could be a variety of non physical, personality issues preventing a person from having success in dating. That being said, cosmetic surgery could still solve the problem by proxy in that eliminating the physical insecurity eliminates any excuse they had. You can't blame your now fixed recessed chin for why women are rejecting you now. Time to work on that personality. Such is the case with some of the incel types obsessed with "bone struct… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/21 04:12 AM |
| 3 | Men struggle because they don't know the difference between attractive and sexually attractiveAnd no everyone in the manosphere does not put blame on men. All I read is that women, feminism, society, etc is to blame. Divorced men blaming it on hypergamy and Af/bb. Incels blaming it on tinder, sluts, chads and women having too much freedom and agency. GMAFB. False dichotomy. You can be critical of all those things and still acknowledge that men as a gender and/or you as an individual man are fucked up. (For every negative opinion or criticism I hold about women in the dating market, I hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/21 11:50 PM |
| 0 | Thoughts on transgender people?Good people to listen to since they've walked a mile in both genders' shoes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/21 06:12 AM |
| 7 | Do women just want men that are difficult to obtain?When I watch YouTube shows like Aba & Preach, or Fresh & Fit, I'm quite frankly amazed by what the majority of female guests say. Many of them openly talk about doing the things RP warns men about, or as OP said, admit to having a "ho phase" and "bad boy phase". It's almost like listening to accounts from an entirely different culture lol. Fresh and Fit podcast takes place in (and brings on women girls from) Miami. Nuff said. I feel bad for the guys that watch it and think its in any way represe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/21 05:36 AM |
| 2 | Do women just want men that are difficult to obtain?I feel like a lot of the women here are beating around the bush about it. Just the conventional personality and lifestyle qualities (not even getting into the physical aspect) that carry broad appeal among women are hard to find. And that's more a referendum on men than it is women. I'm just not buying this "There's someone there for everyone" bullcrap. It's not always a tastes, lifestyle, or "I just haven't found the right match" situation. Let's not lie to ourselves here: there are just some t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/21 05:31 AM |
| 3 | Women don’t like men that look YOUNGER than themIf this was the 90's he'd be the talk of the town. It just so happens that half the country is overweight & the other half is Roided out like Hemsworth. Cultural vogue in America right now Times change, I guess. I don't make the rules, I just communicate them. It's weird women only have to be skinny & can't do that but guys have to be more apparently, the burden always falls us Preaching to the converted. It absolutely does require a lot more hard work and perfect dieting to achieve the ideal ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/21 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Women don’t like men that look YOUNGER than themJust because he's not overweight doesn't mean he's going to be successful in the dating market. I'm only an inch taller than OP. 140 lbs isn't underweight according to the BMI calculator but its definitely pretty thin. I'm sure skinny dudes fulfill a niche for a small minority of women so OP could keep trying, or he can cast a wider net into the much larger demographic of women that are into athletic men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/21 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Women don’t like men that look YOUNGER than themFor sure. Toned dudes with young looking faces do very well in my experience. People are surprised how much better your face can look too with a lower body fat %. As someone who can relate to OP (as a 25 yo dude with a young looking face), it takes a long ass time of consistent work before you can get to that point as a man. It takes most men 2-3 years before they reach 80% of our genetic limit, and maybe an additional 3-4 years before reaching 100% (and thats when PEDs come in). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/21 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Women don’t like men that look YOUNGER than themHealthy body, healthy mind. I'm almost exactly the same as OP's position. I have a young-ish looking face at 25. I knew I could either sit on my ass and complain or start picking up heavy shit and setting goals. The best part about lifting is the mental freedom from feeling that my life is stagnating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/21 12:06 AM |
| 3 | Women control the entire relationship realm, men have no say in anything.No, its that young women (18-22), generally speaking, don't know what they want and/or don't really see building a relationship with another person (which requires work) as a priority. A lot of women at that age group will casually date, but never with the serious intention of committing, or are comfortable just getting into a casual situationship with another guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/21 10:13 PM |
| 4 | Meet one of the most swiped men on tinderIme, a lot of (not all) black women assume non-black men already aren't attracted to them and so don't really see anyone other than black men as options. And even if you hit it off with a black woman, there may still exist an underlying suspicion you're fetishizing her because of her race. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 03:24 PM |
| 8 | How did the genders get to this point?Terminally online people (which is a lot of people that participate on this subreddit) tend to develop a negativity bias There was this thread a week ago where some of the women were saying that they'll never see men the same way again after reading some of the misogynistic comments on manosphere forums. But none of them ever stopped to think that they were, for some reason, compelled to want to look and if you search hard enough for something, you'll probably find it eventually. Besides, most (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 01:50 AM |
| 5 | Is there a "secret underworld" of sex going on all the time?He was just very conventionally attractive. (6'1" Italian dude from Orlando) Kinda like a bachelorette contestant. Just had a bit of that mischievous look girls at clubs would be really into. Maybe a bit like what you would think of when you hear "fuck boy", but had the self-awareness about his "look" and charisma to put most everyone around him at ease. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/21 10:04 PM |
| 6 | Is there a "secret underworld" of sex going on all the time?You implied you weren't American so maybe that's why you don't hear about it that much. I'd still say that that "culture" and the people who participate in it are an extremely small minority, even here in the sex-obsessed US. What city you're in also plays a big role. You just aren't going to find the same types of women with attitudes about casual sex in Wichita, Kansas as you are in Miami, Florida. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/21 08:44 PM |
| 18 | Is there a "secret underworld" of sex going on all the time?I'll weigh in. For the most attractive guy I knew in my last friend group, he did a bar bathroom hookup twice with two different women he had met that night in the year that I knew him. Really nice guy, overall. He's married now. If you had a woman friend or acquaintance that's ever done something like that, I doubt they would tell you out of fear of being judged. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/21 08:27 PM |
| 7 | Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy?Vasalgel works by being a gel injected plug for the sperm tube It's actually not a plug. The polymer injected coats the inner walls of the vas deferens and allows sperm through but ruptures the sperm membrane as it passes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 11:03 PM |
| 16 | Why do men take such interest in avoiding child support, but so little interest in avoiding pregnancy?Vasalgel is currently undergoing human trials in Australia under standards approved by the FDA here in the US. If all goes well, it should be approved for use within the next year or two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 07:48 PM |
| 8 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.First, I think we can both agree that male thirst is causing a significant amount of problems in the dating marketplace. Second, even if you got a huge portion of the male population to stop acting like thirsty, creepy, desperate simps (say 99%), that remaining 1% is still enough to spoil the attitudes of actively searching single women because, as I'm sure you know, creeps are persistent and cast a very very wide net. Believe me, if I could wave a magic wand and make all these types of men disa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 06:16 PM |
| 3 | “I can’t be open because they will use it against me” is a common thing I hear men say, but not women as much — why?I think its really just about risk mitigation. Like if you were about to jump out of a plane and knew there was a 20% chance the parachute wouldn't open. Sure 80% success rate is good and all but why take the risk in the first place when you have the option to just not jump. Better to just stick to the status quo, because we all know that what women people say they want can negatively impact their investment in the relationship, whether they want it to or not. Hypothetical: Its like if a guy wer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/21 04:10 PM |
| 5 | The name of the game is brutal, painful honesty on this prompt folks.Women also get into consensus circle jerks because they all want to agree with each other and can’t tolerate dissent. There's a reason its customary to forbid contact between women with eating disorders in psych wards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 08:50 PM |
| 7 | The name of the game is brutal, painful honesty on this prompt folks.Women's drive wanes, men start putting in less effort, and round it goes. I think if you were to ask most women on here they would claim its men putting in less effort that causes drive to go down (which defintely happens btw) but it's almost never mentioned that drive can go down regardless of any drop in effort the man is putting in. Its like living together is this tightrope walk over a pool of alligators. The slightest mistake can fuck up the sexual chemistry of that relationship and send it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 07:30 PM |
| 5 | The name of the game is brutal, painful honesty on this prompt folks.Do women have any agency according to your perception of the world? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Redpillers of PPD - What is your most "Blue Pill" belief? Bluepillers of PPD - What is your most "Red Pill" belief?Exhibit B: Arnold Schwarzenegger cheated on Maria Shriver, a woman who looks remarkably good for her age, with this woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 06:39 PM |
| 0 | Question for women: How many of you would feel more satisfied in your sex life if you could get away with a little bit of selfish sex from time to time; by that I mean you set aside a special night when your man's focus is all about your needs and yours alone. Your own special time.why I have not been in dead bedroom either in my long terms even though we didn't work out. Probably because you're an escort. Your bedroom is never dead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 08:02 AM |
| 1 | To what extent are modern female standards inflated or just revealed preferences?Cooking subs and cooking tiktoks? No, just being online in general. You yourself admitted the majority of your socializing is done through virtual media and that you recognize its a problem. There's your answer. Lower the amount of time you spend online and you'll encounter less woman-hating. The cure to a better life is right in front of you. The real world is calling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 03:03 AM |
| 3 | To what extent are modern female standards inflated or just revealed preferences?Problematic. I would lose almost all forms of socializing I have then. You don't see that virtual media being your main source of socializing is a problem? And I'm aware of all the negatives you say, that doesn't stop it from having an effect on me because I don't have grounding. So get some grounding. And if you don't know how, learn. And you might say it's an alternative reality, but is it really? Yes, absolutely. Like minded people congregate together. People with extreme views like to invade… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 02:47 AM |
| 2 | To what extent are modern female standards inflated or just revealed preferences?By being online? No, by not finding a way to ground yourself. Being online is fine as long as you can acknowledge that you're observing an alternate reality. You've admitted to being an introvert, which I can somewhat sympathize with because I also am one. Introverts have a habit of spending an unhealthy amount of time in front of a screen because virtual social interactions are seen as "safer". So you end up taking the misogyny (mostly generated by idiot trolls that get off on a reaction) you s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 02:14 AM |
| 3 | What would be the female equivalent of a man being traumatized by his wife/GF's sexual past?Vaginas come in various shapes and sizes and expand to different lengths during arousal, wouldn't you agree? Or are you doubting that from a guy's perspective, some vaginas feel better than others (just like dicks)? Would, "My ex-GF had way better looking boobs," be a better example? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 01:53 AM |
| 10 | To what extent are modern female standards inflated or just revealed preferences?At least you've admitted to everyone how you radicalized yourself. I read an incel post not too long ago that reads almost exactly like your comment. This is like the the FDS equivalent of a guy that defines his political identity by looking up "SJW OWNED" videos on YouTube. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 01:47 AM |
| 2 | To what extent are modern female standards inflated or just revealed preferences?You're entitled to your opinion but saying men ruined their own image. You can just go on any male populated places like reddit, manosphere, 4chan or literally everything else and read what men actually want and think. seems like you're seeking out the places where those men congregate. Its like saying, "You can go to any prison or jail. They're all filled with thieves, rapists, and murderers!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 01:40 AM |
| 5 | To what extent are modern female standards inflated or just revealed preferences?Do you ever think about how maybe the reason why it seems you are completely surrounded by this perceived misogyny and abuse is due to the fact that you live in an unprecedented time where all the information you could ever want is at your fingertips and women across the world are communicating their experiences in ways they never could? And maybe these same social media outlets are just acting as loudspeakers for assholes and trolls? Maybe what you're seeing is just the veil being lifted from w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 01:32 AM |
| 8 | What would be the female equivalent of a man being traumatized by his wife/GF's sexual past?If she’s having sex she’s attracted to you. Nah, women have pity/obligation sex quite often. You can usually tell though from the lack of enthusiasm. But you’re also missing the point that some men aren’t skilled enough to do certain things so shouldn’t be surprised that they aren’t getting the same things. You mean oral? Because that's the only thing I can think of that directly applies to this, but we are talking about something completely different at this point. I'd be more concerned about t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 12:35 AM |
| 4 | What would be the female equivalent of a man being traumatized by his wife/GF's sexual past?I wondered if I should just become a single mother by choice so that should a future partner be unfaithful, my DNA is not permanently linked to someone I want to cut out of my life. Thank you for NOT going down this road. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/21 12:17 AM |
| 12 | What would be the female equivalent of a man being traumatized by his wife/GF's sexual past?Her problem for settling for a guy she’s not that attracted to. But if you’re a guy and find that out it’s your duty to ghost from the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/21 10:11 PM |
| 14 | What would be the female equivalent of a man being traumatized by his wife/GF's sexual past?There’s also probably a reason that’s the case. Yeah she was more attracted to him than she was to you lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/21 09:49 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractI can go through each of the points if you want: Pts 1 & 2: I prefer to be physically attracted to my partner. I don’t think this is an unreasonable standard and many women in my age group would say the same. Pt 3. Kinda deserves its own post. I’ll just leave it at it just shows they have different values and their political opinions just diverge too much from my own. Pt 4. Needs no explanation. I’m not a home wrecker. Pt 5. Don’t worry this isn’t a “post-wall” thing. Women over 35 are just at d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/21 12:18 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractSo you think that by dating a woman who doesn’t fit into any of those categories, she’s bound to be a narcissist gold-digger? How did you come to that conclusion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 10:31 PM |
| 5 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractNarcissism is included as a Cluster B personality disorder. And just because I wouldn’t date a far-leftist doesn’t mean I would date a far-rightist (I definitely wouldn’t). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 10:13 PM |
| 31 | CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attractDon't take dating advice from the demographic you don't want to date. Simple as. Most women I've seen on here have at least two of the following characteristics, many of them self-admitted since I recognize a lot of their usernames and stories by now: Are overweight/obese Are ugly Are extremely far left in their political opinions Are already in relationships Are past the age of 35. Are misandrist/FDS posters Have a type of Cluster B Personality Disorder, anxiety, or depression. Will self admit … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Do men enjoy being desired more?Ok elaborate then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Do men enjoy being desired more?I never said it exclusively applies to dumping either but dating and relationships is where the topic most frequently comes up. The Madonna/Whore complex isn't necessarily exclusive for men and in my experience I've seen more condemnation of women's sexual behavior coming from women themselves than from men but that's besides the point. In regards to your first comment: They want women to desire them… but demean the women who show them desire. How is this relevant outside of dating and relations… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Do men enjoy being desired more?If you read my comment, I said it was largely a myth and that some men do think like this. If a woman thinks there is no other reason a man would dump her after sex other than having that mindset, she's lying to herself. There's plenty of reasons a man could dump a woman that don't fit neatly under the prevailing narrative of, "you had sex with him too early so he thinks you're a whore." That's an uncomfortable truth for a lot of women because it suggests the woman might be at fault for him leav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 06:56 PM |
| 8 | Do men enjoy being desired more?I think what he means is having a hot girl simp for him. There was a (presumably very attractive) guy on this sub a few months back that talked about what that was like. He described the experience as transcendental and said he felt bad that most men in the world would probably never get to experience it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 04:32 PM |
| 6 | Do men enjoy being desired more?but if a woman “gives it up too easily”, they don’t respect her because she’s a whore. This is largely a myth perpetuated by women-written dating advice columns. I'm not saying there aren't men who think like this but... Men will almost never directly call a woman a whore to her face after they've slept together for the first time. The assumption, "Oh he thinks you're a whore because you gave it up too easily" is almost always insinuated by the woman. Honestly I can kinda understand why it becam… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 04:27 PM |
| 6 | Do men enjoy being desired more?We have no idea if it's fixable. We don't really know what he did or didn't do to get to that point or if its even his fault. And with some women you can't really recover from those kinds of mistakes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 7 | Do some men in the manosphere want to "turn back the clock" and dislike the modern world?Are we talking about women who are only willing to date up in income? Yes, up and across. "Financially self-sufficient" should be the standard but I can't make the rules or tell people how to select partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/21 06:44 AM |
| 11 | Do some men in the manosphere want to "turn back the clock" and dislike the modern world?The way I see it that feminine roles were redefined in mostly clear ways with tangible goals (right to vote, equal pay for equal work, etc). Women's role in modern society was built from the ground up brick by brick into what we see today. Meanwhile masculinity is still this dilapidated structure with bricks strewn everywhere and random people trying to put together some of the pieces and make something new but nothing is complete. Sometimes I feel its not necessarily tradcon values that are cau… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/21 06:06 AM |
| 2 | There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPYLol isn't that the same dude that got kicked out of his gym because he kept hitting on all the women there and caused a big scene? Edit: found his tantrum | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI wouldn't call Hegel a Lutheran or a protestant. He thought Christianity was an oriental religion that was corrupting "traditional german values." He attempted to redefine and deconstruct a lot of the established Christian beliefs such as the essence of God, the Trinity, and the holy spirit, which is why he was so controversial at the time. This is all found in his lectures compiled in "The Consummate Religion". He was essentially interested in the prisca theologia or "primordial theology" from… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 07:57 PM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThis is why all post-Hegelian political philosophies (Socialism, communism, and fascism) are quasi-religious in nature. "The state is the divine idea as it is expressed on Earth." - G.W.F. Hegel | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Women have more diverse tastes than men, and it makes little sense to try to appeal to some made-up universal standardThere's 2 ways to interpret "men don't value women's intelligence when it exceeds their own.": 1) Past a certain point, intelligence offers diminishing, "negative points" towards overall attractiveness. 2) Past a certain point, intelligence offers no points (neutral) towards overall attractiveness. Some men are in the first camp, others are in the second. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 03:10 PM |
| 20 | Do women genuinely believe that all of their friends are catches? Why do women seem to feel this way, but not men?Men can have friends over shared hobbies and interests and at the same time recognize that they have personality traits that would make them unsuitable for relationships. With some friends like "Bob" mentioned above, you're doing their potential relationship partner a favor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 04:18 AM |
| 1 | Are women capable of empathizing with men that they don't find attractive?You don’t need empathy to see certain forms of privilege in everyday life. I mean, if you've been psycho-pathologized to see oppression everywhere you look, I suppose you could see privilege while looking empathetic and virtuous. How hard was it for you to come to that conclusion while remaining "empathetic". Everyone should take everything after "I think white men are more privileged" with a grain of salt. But go ahead, please enlighten all of us on how white men have more collective privilege … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 12:59 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNo, you just want to have your cake without being called prejudiced. Black people (in the US): over-represented in regards to violent crime. Does this mean black people are violent? No, of course not. Men: over-represented in regards to sexual assault against women. Does this mean all men are sexual predators? No. (Well, depending on who you ask in this sub, you might get a yes.) Being wary of the first group = racist Being wary of the second group = not sexist? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Are women capable of empathizing with men that they don't find attractive?So you acknowledge that its impossible to notice the differences without seeing through someone else's lens but still believe white men (of which you are not one) are more privileged? That's a contradiction if I ever saw one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 11:15 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhy is it considered racist if you replace "unknown man on the street" with "black person" but this: If I cross the street at night, it's not because I think YOU are a rapist. I just know there are plenty out there, so to feel safe I need to keep my distance. isn't considered sexist? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 11:00 PM |
| 2 | Talking past each other: a specific example of how dating advice given to men from women can actively hurt a man's development.I see it a lot with men who were raised by single mothers. Being raised in that kind of environment can give boys a really warped view of how heterosexual relationships work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 09:45 AM |
| 5 | Talking past each other: a specific example of how dating advice given to men from women can actively hurt a man's development.Because he doesn't know yet that doing so is a bad idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 09:41 AM |
| 3 | Women not wanting to date you because you’re ugly, short, and not attractive are valid reasons to not want to sex/date you.So the sweat was just the straw that broke the camel's back and if there was any sexual chemisty the sweat wouldn't have mattered? And was this realization before or after you guys had sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 05:39 AM |
| 4 | Women not wanting to date you because you’re ugly, short, and not attractive are valid reasons to not want to sex/date you.Were you thinking at the moment of the dumping it was because of the sweat & realize later the sweat was an excuse for the lack of spark with the benefit of hindsight, or were you already fully checked out when the sweating incident occurred? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 03:52 AM |
| 94 | Women not wanting to date you because you’re ugly, short, and not attractive are valid reasons to not want to sex/date you.I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than find out my SO settled for me. It's definitely my biggest fear going into a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 01:41 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI don’t know how anyone can argue that porn ISNT exploitative. Lots of women porn stars have explicity and repeatedly said they don't feel they were/are exploited and don't like that they're treated like victims with no agency by anti-porn feminists. Those same porn stars will also be the first to admit that the industry is far from flawless and definitely needs reform, but its also an industry that looks and functions entirely different from the monster it was 20 or even 10 years ago. You can’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 04:14 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadColor me skeptical. Everytime porn gets brought up you get the same answer: porn is inherently exploitative. And everytime you get the same response: not all porn is exploitative. Not even joking here: the position that straight women don't like their SO's watching porn because they dislike idea of their man receiving sexual gratification from another woman is a waaaay more respectable and defendable argument against porn than the "porn is inherently exploitative" position. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 01:50 AM |
| 32 | Men and women working together post-#MeToo movement – thoughts?My point is this: women use the phrase "Not all men, but enough men" to justify their cautiousness around men. Are all men a threat to them? Of course not. Are they still justified in their caution? Sure, it is their right to feel cautious, take any precautions, and draw any boundaries they deem necessary. Similarly: Do all women falsely accuse men of being creepy/sexual assault? No, only a very small minority do. But a man is still justified and well within his right to take whatever precaution… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 12:05 AM |
| 27 | Men and women working together post-#MeToo movement – thoughts?Lol "my creepy adjacent behavior"? Very presumptuous of you. I also don't think you understand the context of my comment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/21 11:57 PM |
| 42 | Men and women working together post-#MeToo movement – thoughts?Not All Women But Enough Women 💅💅💅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/21 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Podcasts like "Fresh and Fit" profit from the female sexuality they shame/criticize, and prove men's actions also contradict what they say they want.More comedic but it might scratch your itch: https://youtu.be/VKSnJhUdueM | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/21 12:25 AM |
| 2 | What has your experience been regarding women sabotaging other women's relationships?So what's a man supposed to do if he supects his SO is being influenced by toxic friend(s) but his SO doesn't want to acknowledge or isn't aware? Its not exactly an easy topic to bring up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/21 03:22 AM |
| 7 | Crux of young men’s anger towards dating market and women comes from different prices of admissions for sex for different men and the disinformation women put out about what they are attracted to.there’s not a single guy here that wouldn’t call her an easy slut Count me as one of those guys. I personally wouldn't judge a woman if she slept with me immediately on the first date. If I decide she's girlfriend material, how soon she has sex with me is a non-issue. At its core, this is really an issue about jealousy, perceived desirability, and not wanting to feel like we were settled for. I don't think this is a gendered issue. We all want to feel secure in our relationships. High N count ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 08:20 PM |
| 7 | Crux of young men’s anger towards dating market and women comes from different prices of admissions for sex for different men and the disinformation women put out about what they are attracted to.Men complaining about what other men get that they don’t get his equivalent to children whining because their sibling got a cookie and they didn’t. It’s childish, immature, and unattractive. It really all has to do with perceived desirability. I wouldn't fault a woman if she ever felt insecure that her current boyfriend treated his way more attractive ex better than her. It's a pretty natural response and comes from a very basic need to feel secure in our romantic relationships. I can acknowledg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Women in favour of vasectomy. Are you willing to do tubal ligation? Why?It’s going through human trials in Australia right now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Women in favour of vasectomy. Are you willing to do tubal ligation? Why?As a sidenote, Vasalgel/RISUG is finally coming to the US in a couple of years. Its way less invasive and way more reversible than vasectomies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 03:05 AM |
| 1 | Do your partner's sociopolitical beliefs matter to the relationship?If AnComs believe in the teachings of Marx, the state has to be empowered. Marx used the words "dictatorship of the proletariat" for a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Do your partner's sociopolitical beliefs matter to the relationship?How am I an edgelord? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Do your partner's sociopolitical beliefs matter to the relationship?Ancoms are tricky. If you want to live on a commune and make your resin ashtray art to sell on Etsy, I have no problem with you. If you want to drastically increase the power of the government as a means of one day achieving your anarchist world paradise, you're no better than a tankie. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Do your partner's sociopolitical beliefs matter to the relationship?Yes. Anyone at the radical edges of the Overton window is an automatic no. But I don't believe that putting an overarching label onto your personal sociopolitical beliefs is particularly constructive in the first stage of dating someone. If you're labels don't match, you'll probably just get dragged down into semantic word games of what it means to be a real liberal or real conservative. I'd rather just hash it out, issue by issue, until we can get a comprehensive view of where each of us lies o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 02:01 AM |
| – | Why is it that you always hear about women being very vocal about not wishing to date men of their opposite political spectrum (the vast majority of the time it's liberal women vs conservative men) but you don't see men doing the same thing nearly as often (mostly conservative men vs liberal women)?They certainly have some political power but the assertion many Redditors make that Evangelicals are conspiring to set up a Christian theocracy like The Handmaid's Tale is a fantasy. Also "Christian" is a very very broad category. Most Democrats identify as Christian. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 12:58 AM |
| – | Why is it that you always hear about women being very vocal about not wishing to date men of their opposite political spectrum (the vast majority of the time it's liberal women vs conservative men) but you don't see men doing the same thing nearly as often (mostly conservative men vs liberal women)?I don't think evangelicals have as much power as reddit tends to give them credit for. Most evangelicals I know, which is a lot of my family, are actually pretty apolitical but will still vote down ballot red. The crazy ones will of course get the most attention because they are the loudest. But no, I wouldn't consider evangelicals as the defining demographic of the American Right as a whole. But I can understand why liberals and progressives living in deep red areas would feel that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 12:49 AM |
| – | Why is it that you always hear about women being very vocal about not wishing to date men of their opposite political spectrum (the vast majority of the time it's liberal women vs conservative men) but you don't see men doing the same thing nearly as often (mostly conservative men vs liberal women)?Are we talking about world religions or politics now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Why is it that you always hear about women being very vocal about not wishing to date men of their opposite political spectrum (the vast majority of the time it's liberal women vs conservative men) but you don't see men doing the same thing nearly as often (mostly conservative men vs liberal women)?So is the question why democrats are less tolerant? I don’t know the answer. "People on the right tend to view people on the left as people with bad ideas." "People on the left tend to view people on the right as bad people with ideas." Also, Jonathan Haidt once did an experiment where groups of people identifying as conservative, liberal, or moderate filled out questionnaires on morality and policy positions. They were then asked to fill out the same questionnaires with how they thought the oth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/21 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that you always hear about women being very vocal about not wishing to date men of their opposite political spectrum (the vast majority of the time it's liberal women vs conservative men) but you don't see men doing the same thing nearly as often (mostly conservative men vs liberal women)?I defintely think its more important to choose a partner that knows how to think and has similar epistemological methods as you instead of one that votes more or less the same way you do. I also lean libertarian, and by virtue of that most people on the left would see me as a "right-winger" but I don't think I could ever date a MAGA-Trumper woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/21 10:43 PM |
| 3 | We are headed for a huge population cliff mainly because men and women have been conditioned to hate each other.The world population is leveling out. Even in poor countries that used to have high birth rates, they've dropped precipitously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/21 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe single, straight women between the ages of 18 and 35 actually know what they want?Out of life? I'm not sure what that even means myself. It can mean so many things to different people. Like who they want to be? What kind of career they want? Whether they want kids? Do they want to travel? Does anyone know that rn? More as it applies to the women who have sworn off relationships with men. Are they at peace with that decision? Are they happy or content with their direction in life without a man or are there bouts of regret and bitterness? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/21 08:19 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe single, straight women between the ages of 18 and 35 actually know what they want?The bucket is your peer group of 18-35 women around you. You may further subdivide that category of women as you see fit to answer the question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/21 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Do women really care about social status?Perhaps you didn’t comprehend the title correctly. This is post is about women caring about social status, so your point is irrelevant to the topic at hand. Oh I understood the post perfectly. I was replying to your comment, not the original post because that's how reddit comment threads can work. More specifically, addressing this part: Basically you can make up for what you lack in one category by being “higher” in another. This is not unique or specific to women, everyone does this for all ty… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Do women really care about social status?It’s quite simple, things like money/occupation/university/etc are symbols of status to the overwhelming majority of people. Like I said in the second part of my last comment, I acknowledged all those things are important. Whatever "elite" university you went to needs to do a better job at teaching reading comprehension. Its not about whether those things are important but the weight people put behind those factors. If we're still talking about dating and relationships, there is a difference in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 10:42 PM |
| 0 | Do women really care about social status?How much do you think most hedge fund bros make? There are a few prestigious ones in NYC that pay well but you usually must have 10+ years of experience and they are the exception, not the rule. Most HFs pay about $50,000/year starting and maybe $70,000/year for accountants and analysts with a few years experience. Only a very small % of hedge fund jobs at the tippy top pay the big bucks. Average salary for a HF is comparable to that of a plumber, electrician, and CNC machinist with some skilled… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 09:36 PM |
| 2 | Do women really care about social status?Social status is defined as the level of social value a person has. It absolutely matters to me, especially in terms of education & social skills. I put in the effort to attend an elite uni and now work a high level job, I don’t think it’s so crazy to hold my SO to this same standard. Social value is an entirely subjective concept though. Sure, we could say that a biomedical researcher provides more social value than a McDonald's worker but what about a Hedge Fund finance bro versus a sewer main… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?This is maybe something we'll have to agree to disagree on. I can acknowledge that I have a huge blindspot because I've never been a woman but I have talked to a lot of women about this issue and the responses have been pretty varied. I'm not debating that there may exist a narrative (of which there are many, often conflicting ones in a society) encouraging subservience but the degree to which it has any power over any one individual woman's life in this day and age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 09:05 PM |
| 0 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?For me, your outlook is a major red flag. It sounds more like "If women get too uppity, we can't mistreat them anymore." You're clearly reading into it a bit much but you do you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?That is not my question. Work on that reading comprehension. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?The hostility is kinda cringe. Like, no shit I can't make a woman that wants a jacked 6'8" hot millionaire broaden her options anymore than I can an incel wanting a blonde, virgin 21yo with DD tits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?Your assumptions are that the woman in question “only brings beauty to the table in a relationship” In certain cases yes, women do think like this. (Not all women though. There, happy now?) the extreme over abundance of manipulative and emotionally unavailable predatory men is somehow a woman’s fault. Those are both your issues to work through. Uhh... where did I say this? A woman is worth what she will accept. If it’s not you, deal with it— stop trying to manipulate women to reduce their standa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?Because you are not a woman, you do not understand a woman's problems, or their thought patterns or their struggles. Well that's kind of why I asked the question and gave it a Q4W tag. Women chronically deal with slow self esteem issues, which is the root cause of them chasing the emotionally unavailable men. By telling themselves they deserve better, they aim to not fall into the pattern of settling for emotionally unavailable men. Low self-esteem is often NOT the root cause of why women settle… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?There was a viral youtube video back in 2014 titled 10 Hours of Walking in NYC as a Woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 06:53 PM |
| 0 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?Except I wasn't making a generalization. Those were examples, not assertions of how I think the majority of women think. I explicitly stated they were examples and yet some of you still want to read in hostility where there is none. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?I tend to be skeptical whenever anyone says anything along the lines of, "society teaches (insert gender) to do/be (insert behavior stated as if it were fact)." All that tells me is your perception of society, not what society actually is like. How much more woman empowerment, girl-boss type marketing do you think we should be pushing because the advertisements I see certainly seem saturated with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 06:26 PM |
| 4 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?Where did I say that advice boosting a woman's self esteem is inherently bad? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?Well that certainly doesn't seem healthy. But thats also where self-care and personal hobbies should kick in when you start to have those self-deprecating thoughts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 04:47 PM |
| 3 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?Of course its normal. Also can you do yourself a favor and stop reading hostility into things where there is none? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?Will all of them really grow out of it? Do you really believe that? And do you believe that there could be negative effects and missed opportunities if women linger there for too long? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?All of that is good advice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?All of them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 03:34 PM |
| 4 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?It isn't about changing things that happened in the past. Its about learning how your past influences your current thought patterns so that you can be aware, analyze, and interrupt said thought patterns before they manifest as bad behaviors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 03:33 PM |
| 2 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?As guy, most of her takes on male behavior are pretty solid. And for some reason I just find her voice very soothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?You're assuming that most women with troubles have a pattern of pursuing unavailable men. No, I was only using Lue's book (which centers around emotionally unavailable men) as an example of what I thought good advice by women, for women looks like as a guy. Take from that what you will but Natalie Lue is held in high regard among women in dating advice circles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 03:26 PM |
| 3 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?You, understandably, would not grasp this because unlike women, you are not raised to believe you should be a submissive, self sacrificing, forgiving doormat. I'd have to disagree since clearly not all women were raised to be timid, subservient doormats. And I've seen boys raised in such a manner, often because they grew up in very sheltered and religious households. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 03:20 PM |
| 3 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?Shitty childhood. Absent/abusive father. Over-demanding mother. Those are just a few examples. Every woman has a different background so it all depends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 02:50 PM |
| 9 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?1) Nothing. Not settling is good advice. Determining your worth is where it gets tricky. 2) Not all women, but with some that is all they have to offer. 3) Should've clarified but this is in direct response to tribal knowledge over at FDS regarding what a man should do for the first date. There was a woman who posted her OLD conversation of rejecting a man who suggested coffee as a first date (because apparently coffee dates are low-effort and only broke LVM suggest coffee dates.) The dude was p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 02:47 PM |
| 4 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?Not mad at all. Some of the advice regarding self-care over at FDS is solid and I think most women can benefit from. I really don't care about the scrote-roasting and LVM shaming. I'd imagine its cathartic for a lot of women but eventually you need to grow out of that phase and look towards more productive outlets for your anger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 02:21 PM |
| 9 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?You seem to be assuming a lot about women in general and their dating issues--and based off a weird niche sub like FDS, of all things. No, I know FDS isn't representative of women. I was only using a type of advice often found there as an example. there actually are a lot of women who think very poorly of themselves, who will find themselves in a relationship with someone who cheats on them, or insults and berates them, or spends all the grocery money on video games and weed and then blames her … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 02:11 PM |
| 17 | Does an over reliance on advice hyper-focused on self-esteem and self-worth cause women to avoid the type of advice that may lead to painful realizations about themselves?And I think you know what I mean. I can sympathize with this. I remember that catcalling experiment they did a few years back where they could not replicate the same results in an affluent neighborhood that they got in a working class neighborhood. Accusations of classism and racism followed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 02:02 PM |
| – | FDS women's overlap with mental health subreddits (and other interesting subs)Or are you saying suicide isn't an indication of mental health? No, I'm saying that mental health issues don't necessarily lead to successful suicides. Two things can be true at once: 1) There seem to be a larger apparent number of mental health cases and incidents in women compared to men. Most of these incidents and cases among women do not progress to suicidal behavior. 2) Men are much more likely to engage in suicidal behavior when faced with a mental health issue, even though the absolute n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 08:43 AM |
| – | FDS women's overlap with mental health subreddits (and other interesting subs)You are aware mental health issues and suicides are two different statistics, yes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 05:31 AM |
| – | FDS women's overlap with mental health subreddits (and other interesting subs)None of the women I know IRL and in their 20s use Reddit. Its all Instagram and TikTok. If social media is to women as porn is to men, then a woman using Reddit is akin to a man watching porn without any tits. What's the point of approval and validation from internet strangers if its not connected to your real life identity? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 05:14 AM |
| – | FDS women's overlap with mental health subreddits (and other interesting subs)That was kinda the impression I got. I know it sounds a bit classist but my theory is that the quality of men varies significantly depending on where you live. A lot of these women seem like they got stuck in a location with a shit dating pool and couldn't get out. What was it that drew you away from FDS? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 05:02 AM |
| 3 | [Q4W] Has casual sex experiences changed you?With u/amidwestufohunter's situation, I think a better way to think of it would be "embittered". Which is the kind of feeling that leads a lot of women to FDS (and a lot of men to TRP if we're being honest). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/21 04:57 AM |
| 1 | So where exactly are all these single women?(eg farriers, large animal vets, stud farmers/stallion handlers, hay and feed suppliers etc.) Don't all of those except for the last one require at least a few years of training? Also comes with the downside of being around horse girls 🤢. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/21 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long?My personal experiences, the experiences of other men, and the women I've talked to. I think maybe you're getting a bit too hung up on the % of women that think this way instead of the fact that its been widely written about and acknowledged to exist in sociology. Here are a few studies I found that you can read at your convenience: https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.sscnet.ucla.edu/comm/haselton/webdocs/pillsworth_haseltonARSR.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwjYia_kmcPxAhU1CTQIHVDLD… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/21 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long?For me, personally? About 20-30% of women if I had to guess. But even if it was as low as 1% I'd want men to be aware. Most women are serially monogamous but I've met quite a few that have admitted to commodifying their intimate relationships with men (i.e. this type of men for FWB, this other type for boyfriends). A woman amorally adapting her sexual strategies to maximize her reproductive success (securing the best genes and best provider resources for her children, which may not be from the s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/21 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long?Expecting exclusivity without communicating what you want seems like a separate issue. If guy #2 was also relationship material, I'd be going on dates with both and sleeping with neither. I already said guy #2 wasn't relationship material so why twist the scenario to make guy #2 and guy #1 the same? This isn't a question of exclusivity, its a question of standards. If I were guy #1 I wouldn't be upset with the fact that you had sex with guy #2. I would be upset at the fact that you had sex with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long?Hold up, I never said guy #1 "faked" his way into a relationship and only wants sex. Lets assume in this hypothetical scenario that he did earnestly want a relationship with you even if the two of you would have had sex on the first date. You said in your first comment that there is no point in waiting for the guy who is only good for sex (the cute dumb guy). So I'll ask again, do you have two different sets of rules/standards for two different types of guys? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 10:13 PM |
| 15 | So where exactly are all these single women?You are correct. To clarify, by the Pew Research study I'm basing it off of, single women are at 19% in the 30-49 age bracket, but that goes back up to 29% in the 50-64 bracket and 49% in the 65+ bracket compared to 27%, 27%, and 21% for men in the same brackets respectively. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long?So you hold 2 different "types" of men to 2 different standards with regards to how soon you are willing to have sex with them? How do you think that would make guy #1 feel if he found out you slept with guy #2 within a comparatively shorter period of time after meeting him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 09:46 PM |
| 69 | So where exactly are all these single women?There's actually less than you would think. Only about 32% of women ages 18-29 are single, vs 51% of men of the same age range. Women tend to date older (many late 20s women dating early 30s men), so that would account for at least some of the lower % of singleness among women compared to men. After 30 it gets even lower (to 19%) as women start wanting to get married, settle down, and possibly have kids with a stable longterm partner if they haven't already. And thats not even taking into accoun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long?Mind if I present a scenario to you? Say you have just started dating guy #1. You like him. You are physically attracted to him. He meets your standards for an actual relationship and you are interested in pursuing it further. You have not, however, made it "official" or had the exclusivity talk. You have also not had sex with guy #1. Following a second date with guy #1 you meet guy #2. He's cute but dumb. (In fact, way cuter than guy #1). You can feel there is sexual tension between the two of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long?If a guy is good only for sex, there's obviously no point to waiting. Assuming we're talking about men that have never had sex with you, how would you know that guy is good only for sex? He's just an incredibly hot dude? But then again, you hear all the time from women on here that even hot dudes are often terrible in bed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long?Examples are perfectly good evidence. You made the broad generalization that there is a type of women that behaves one way and another type of women that behaves differently. The point I'm trying to make is not that all women are like this but that enough are. Unfortunately for men, the women who possess dualistic mating strategies usually aren't as brazen as the woman in the first example I gave you and many of us don't find out until years of investment into a relationship. Strategic Pluralism… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long?Disagree Exhibit A Exhibit B Exhibit C | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Women having a dating rotation is working against women dating with marrige or long term relationships in mind.I understand. But then again guys are also sometimes faced with situations like this. Its stories like that that drive people towards TRP. Even worse, its a strategy that FDS encourages. If you want to keep your options open ladies, go right ahead. But please maintain the same standards and boundaries across all dudes you are involved with. The idea of finding out my SO slept with some other guy casually on a first date after we had started dating (but before we made it official and had sex) is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 03:24 AM |
| 3 | Are women progressively dressing skimpier by personal choice or by social influence?I would disagree with the assertion that most men see "sexy women" under the same lens as an inanimate sex object like a fleshlight. I can see that you're trying to make a point here but I think some nuance is needed. So allow me to add some to the discussion: I think women assert that men view women as a sex objects because of the correct assumption that men tend to place more emphasis on the physical attractiveness than the personality of a woman, at least when forming first impressions. This … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/21 02:17 AM |
| 3 | Are women progressively dressing skimpier by personal choice or by social influence?Doesn't that presuppose that the default male response to seeing a sexy woman is viewing her as an inhuman sex doll? Or maybe you can elaborate on the assertion "men don't see sexy women as human." Would it make you feel better if we all had an internal monologue regarding every woman's hopes, dreams, aspirations, or can we just appreciate the sexy woman and move on with our lives (what most of us already do)? The small percentage of simps posting the creepy comments aren't representative of the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/21 07:40 PM |
| 3 | Did men who felt "lied to by the media" miss the media that was right in front of them?I’ve read some studies on sexual brain dimorphism and development in infants and toddlers that agree with what you’re saying. It’s kinda tragic isn’t it? How we can acknowledge boys are slow in that department but in most cases parents do little about teaching their sons how to navigate complex social interactions and interpersonal relationships. I know my parents were more comfortable putting a Disney movie on than actually explaining how real life heterosexual relationships worked, which I bel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/21 02:16 AM |
| 2 | Did men who felt "lied to by the media" miss the media that was right in front of them?Probably because girls, for example 13 yo girls, are conditioned to be more attuned to social interactions that a 13 yo boy just can’t. Not to mention that girls mature and start puberty earlier than boys so we’re talking about girls having a 2-3 year head start on having a brain that’s even capable of interpreting complex social interactions and relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/21 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Any military guys on here feel like they're trapped until EAOS? How do you cope?Yeah. Nuclear electrician's mate on a submarine. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/18 07:51 AM |
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