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AdorableHyena/r/askMRP28/05/19 08:32 AM
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AdorableHyena/r/askMRP26/07/19 09:08 PM
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Why didn't you laugh as well? I'm laughing right here at your description of the situation anyways.
/r/askMRP29/03/21 09:31 PM
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My condolences. Not sure where you are in your grieving process, but it can happen that you've become fearful of your grief. You can get stuck in a depressed state if you avoid your pain. Investigate it by by allowing yourself often to be completely engulfed by it. The only way is through. You need to cry your brains out and not hold back. Shut down all rational thought. Just feel that grief and feel it through completely. Do this often and after a while each wave becomes less and less intense. …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/20 07:30 PM
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Great stuff man. Thanks a lot for taking the time to do these. I'm on my third read through and still learning so much from this book.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/20 12:37 PM
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Get your thyroid and vitamin B12 levels checked. I have seen cases where Lyme can cause Hashimoto's disease which is easily managed but debilitating when unmanaged.
/r/askMRP25/01/20 08:43 PM
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OYS 6 Background in my first OYS here Stats Age: 35, divorced, new LTR: 29. Together 3 years. 79kg (176lbs), 13% BF (according to scale). Lurking MRP since January 2019. OYS since December 2019. 5x5 current weights: SQ: 100kg, DL: 125kg, BP: 65kg, OHP: 47.5kg, BR: 50kg. Books Read: TRM1, 2 & 3, TWOTSM, SGM, The Game, Book of Pook, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, Practical Female Psychology, The Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Guide to the Good Life, The Lies we Tell Ourselves, Saving a Low Sex M…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 09:20 PM
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Absolutely correct.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 09:14 PM
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It's already on top of my list. Thanks for the other suggestions too. Bought BLS and Unchained Man as well. Sounds like good reads.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 09:11 PM
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Somebody recommended me that book in my last OYS. I found it easy to digest and helpful, although very minimal. But you're absolutely correct that being sold more crap in a book that I paid for is quite low. As everybody is trying to sell me shit everyday I didn't even notice at first..
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:32 PM
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OYS 5 Background in my first OYS here Stats Age: 35, divorced, new LTR: 29. Together 3 years. 80kg (176lbs), 1m85 (6' 1"), 13% BF (according to scale). Lurking MRP since January 2019. OYS since December 2019. 5x5 current weights: SQ: 95kg, DL: 125kg, BP: 62.5kg, OHP: 47.5kg, BR: 62.5kg. Books Read: TRM1, 2 & 3, TWOTSM, SGM, The Game, Book of Pook, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, Practical Female Psychology, The Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Guide to the Good Life, The Lies we Tell Ourselves, S…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 08:35 AM
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Interesting! Sounds plausible. Definitely gonna try paused squats, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 04:49 PM
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Really? Because it is VERY clear to me that my wife feeds directly off my moods, behaviors, boundaries, parenting style, etc. Therefore if I slack, she slacks. If I'm happy or owning shit, she's happy and owning shit. I think what you're getting at is the feeling that your wife should be obligated to follow you. She's not. But when she respects you and yoir vision and buys into it...she may. What I meant is that she can be moody anytime for a lot of things unrelated to me or my actions. I should…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 04:48 PM
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Thanks. I've been lifting at home, so I'm probably best off looking for some input on my form from a trainer indeed. I've discovered there is a cheap oldschool gym nearby that I'm going to visit this Saturday. But, meditation has also helped me catch many of those moments and pass them off and let it go. Good one. I installed the headspace app a couple of months ago but completely slacked in doing daily meditations. Going to put it back on the priority list.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 04:22 PM
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Check! Edited to add it (185 cm / 6'1")
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 03:43 PM
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OYS #4 Background in my first OYS here Stats Age: 35, divorced, new LTR: 29. Together 3 years. 80kg (176lbs), 1m85 (6' 1"), 13% BF (according to scale). Lurking MRP since January 2019. OYS since December 2019. 5x5 current weights: SQ: 95kg, DL: 125kg, BP: 62.5kg, OHP: 47.5kg, BR: 62.5kg. Books Read: TRM1, 2 & 3, TWOTSM, SGM, The Game, Book of Pook, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, Practical Female Psychology, The Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Guide to the Good Life, The Lies we Tell Ourselves, …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 08:56 AM
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No kids and a different legal system, but looking back, moving out as soon as possible was a great choice I made and worth every penny of all the extra thousands of euros it costed. It helped me to quit speaking about "my bed" and "my house" quite soon after. Even though I still paid for it, a couple of months down the road I couldn't care less who fucked who in that dirty shithole where I once lived. I was doing me somewhere else and that was fucking awesome.
/r/askMRP29/12/19 09:55 PM
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You're tripping over your shoelaces if you sprint like this. Quit the self hate first. Make a reasonable plan second. I suggest not going full out no carb / 1000cal, but something sustainable. Just 500cal under maintenance works wonders, and keep enough carbs otherwise you'll have more breakdowns like these. This way you'll only have to deal with a little hungry feeling here and there. So quit whining, reply with "I'm not a faggot and I can do this", and fucking start doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/19 12:58 PM
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she was finally happy to see you not LARPing anymore. You were congruent with the faggot that you still are inside and she was happy to see the faggot again. At least she knows that guy is authentic. ... You fake it until you make it. Then when you make it, you don't have to fake it anymore. So you're saying to keep LARPing anyway, even though I might come over as an emotionless robot until I finally get there? Would the incongruence/inauthenticity not hurt the progress?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/19 12:39 PM
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OYS #3 Background in my first OYS here Stats Age: 35, divorced, new LTR: 29. Together 3 years. 80kg (176lbs), 13% BF (according to scale). Lurking MRP since January 2019. OYS since December 2019. 5x5 current weights: SQ: 95kg, DL: 120kg, BP: 62.5kg, OHP: 47.5kg, BR: 62.5kg. Books Read: TRM1, 2 & 3, TWOTSM, SGM, The Game, Book of Pook, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, Practical Female Psychology, The Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Guide to the Good Life, The Lies we Tell Ourselves, Saving a Low S…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 09:34 AM
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Bought them both, interesting!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 06:02 AM
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On the down side - so much of what you're written is still in passive voice, where you're not a primary actor. You're absolutely right. I've been living my whole life in other people's heads. Allowing my sense of self to be fully out there is going to be a huge step for me. According to whom? The answer better eventually be "Me. I am my only judge." Eventually I'll hope to be in a position where that is my default setting indeed. For now it's hard work to keep that on top of my mind in any decis…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 08:25 PM
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OYS #2 Background in my first OYS here Stats Age: 35, divorced, new LTR: 29. Together 3 years. 81kg (178lbs), 13% BF (according to scale). Lurking MRP since January 2019. OYS since December 2019. 5x5 current weights: SQ: 90kg, DL: 115kg, BP: 60kg, OHP: 47.5kg, BR: 60kg. Books Read: TRM1, 2 & 3, TWOTSM, SGM, The Game, Book of Pook, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, Practical Female Psychology, The Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves, Guide to the Good Life, The Lies we Tell Ourselves, Saving a Low Sex M…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:45 AM
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OYS #1 (retry) Disclaimer: Fucked up last time by rage-deleting my post after getting a rule 9 violation ban. On probation now. Now hopefully with more owning of my own shit and less shit that's not under my control. Stats Age: 35, divorced, new LTR: 29. Together 3 years. 82kg (180lbs), 14% BF (according to scale). Lurking MRP since January 2019. OYS since December 2019. 5x5 current weights: SQ: 80kg, DL: 100kg, BP: 50kg, OHP: 40kg, BR: 50kg. Books Read: TRM1, 2 & 3, TWOTSM, SGM, The Game, Book …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 09:35 AM
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Edit: Nevermind
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 08:50 AM
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We need an update of course. Did she come home with the hot chick you requested?
/r/askMRP29/09/19 08:42 AM
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Look deeper into the reason why you have this urge to win. Were you often not taken serously in your childhood? Was your brother smarter? Did you have to live up to unrealistic expectations from your dad? Realise that this situation is in the past. You're an adult now and your own judge. You don't have to impress anyone or live up to anyone's expectations other than your own. Their opinions don't phase you at all, so why bother winning? You've already won the moment you decide that what you are …
/r/askMRP28/07/19 10:54 AM
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The fact that a red beret thinking I'm gonna make it is making me happy. Yes I recognize I'm still a validation whore.
/r/askMRP27/07/19 08:53 AM
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It's not about the nail. Awesome. That hits the nail on the head. You got fucked that night because she "rewarded" you for folding about going out. Yeah I got that gut feeling as well. You're still way too reactive to the things she does. Her frame, her issues, her emotional state, her insecurities, her selfesteem, her .... get the picture? Definitely. That's why I'm here. Thanks. The problem is that you've been her "yes man" for so long Not her yes man, but a yes man for my whole life indeed. F…
/r/askMRP27/07/19 08:50 AM
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Interesting that there is no clear consensus on more/less comfort here. People with flair all treating this as shit tests, but you're more on the comfort side. I can see both points, that's why I'm struggling with it. The 12-year old girl analogy is very interesting here. You guessed correctly I don't have one, I've even never had any young girls in my extended family so I'm not experienced in dealing with them, but it should be kind of intuitive right? And the which hole question was limited to…
/r/askMRP27/07/19 08:32 AM
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It doesn't mean a thing if you're not attractive. She lives in the moment and at the whim of her feelz. If she feels attracted to you, she'll do all those things without you having to state them. If you're not attractive, you can preach days and nights long what your vision of marriage is but that won't make her comply. More like the opposite.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 07:34 PM
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There is already an excellent post on this subject
/r/askMRP30/06/19 11:40 AM
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Your post struck home with me. Especially the fact that after all your work and getting where you're at, you still feel fear, uncertainty and doubt at times. I kept beating myself up for that, which did not help my progress. It's not at being your best where life happens, it while getting better.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 08:58 AM
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1 - You don't lift. Fix that shit. Tomorrow. Thanks for the reminder. Started today with a coached program at my gym. Started with deadlift technique. Today I found out my max weight to technically lift correctly 5x in a row is 200 lbs. Lots of room for improvement. I'm fixated on pushing myself in this area and keeping this going as it's a tangible thing I know I can do. ​ here's a kick in those atrophied little peanuts you need.... That's exactly what I'm here for. I'm touched by the effort ma…
/r/askMRP29/05/19 07:28 PM
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What goals have you made and accomplished with your therapist? For one thing I stopped blaming my now ex-wife for all of my issues and started with trying to own my shit. I 100% now understand and feel that whatever happens to me, it is my fault and my responsibility to change it. I managed to unwrap the spaghetti that were my issues and nail it down to irrational fear that clouds my emotions and prevents me from acting in a way that supports my own wants and needs. But now how to overcome that.…
/r/askMRP28/05/19 07:08 PM
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This right here. Think about this - what the fuck can your LTR actually do to hurt you? Rationally, of course nothing. But tell my subconscious that when it injects me with liquid fear the moment she's angry. The thing is I even recognise it now the moment it happens (which is a huge improvement coming from always reacting like a drama queen based on that fear without realising it was there), but that seemingly has only made it worse for now. Knowing she can't hurt me has not made me less want t…
/r/askMRP28/05/19 07:00 PM
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I admit, I was a lazy fat fuck 3 years ago. I have been doing crossfit/cardio ever since, which made me strong but not jacked. I definitely notice the physical and mental benefits, although confidence is still far from optimal. Would lifting change that a lot?
/r/askMRP28/05/19 06:53 PM
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Very kind reply, thanks. It’s good that you have a lot of self awareness. Good first step. Keep track of it. Journal your reactions and your triggers. Thanks, I have only passively read a lot of books and never dared to post here or write/journal. Making this post was a first step at taking more action and trying to hold myself accountable. Journaling is a very good idea. Will write something for OYS as well. Read books like Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonnigal or Self Authorship by Jordan Pet…
/r/askMRP28/05/19 06:47 PM
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I understand your reply, it sometimes feels to me too like I haven't made any progress in three years of reading, therapy, etc. But I have read it, probably not internalised it enough. Will read it again, thanks.
/r/askMRP28/05/19 06:38 PM
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