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Adorable_Worker5750/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:31 PM
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What do you guys mean with submissive? Like, in what context a woman should be submissive to her husband? Like, in the employer-employee example. Like I would not describe my relationship with my boss as submissive necessarily. Sure he describes what kind of tasks I need to perform but in the moment someone crosses the line I can quit and not listen anymore. Is that submissiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 09:38 PM
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): that’s very unfortunate, we should change that. You guys deserve thoughtful gifts too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:59 AM
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OMG why are YOU purposely not comprehending what I am saying. Of course having a career doesn’t change the shape of your butt. But there are men that are attracted to a women that can have a complex conversation with them, that can share interests with them, or that is very passionate about a subject. Yes, being smart can make you more desirable for some men, specially for long term relationships. Not only that, but having a career (specially engineering) puts you (as a woman) in THE CONTEXT to …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:58 AM
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Except when they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:49 AM
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Oh yes! I totally agree with that. If there was help and the husband split duties. I absolutely agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:40 AM
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Uhmm yeah. It might be unfair for the men. But I think it is just to compensate the disadvantages that a women will have after leaving the workforce for years. But maybe it is not fair for the husband to pay for it. I Can see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:36 AM
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Abrasive? Sometimes. Bitch? Always.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:34 AM
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In that case I don’t think you should value it that much
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:26 AM
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Okay I can see that, but why should she be compensated for the work on the household for the next years? Like even if she decides to stay
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:25 AM
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I mean it happened to me. But now I feel like super lucky. Or maybe this sub is not an actual representation of reality
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:15 AM
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I Can see that. I agree, I think at the end of the day, family is the most important thing. Thanks for your input
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:08 AM
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So I do think there should be some kind of compensation for giving birth. Maybe not what women get right now for divorces, but you will pay someone doing labor even if they are not professionals. Actually, what makes a cleaner a professional? Going to school? I don’t think most of cleaners go to school for that and they still get paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:05 AM
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Yes I agree. I think most of people that get into and Ivy League are pretty smart, but also a lot of smart people gets rejected from those schools. Anyway, I’m glad to hear that some people do care about other things and not only looks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:03 AM
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I guess the only way is to getting to know someone, getting the relationship to a deeper level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:56 AM
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But would that be enough for a long term relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:48 AM
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I guess the incentives are: more fulfilling relationships, longer lasting relationships, not feeling like for partner sees you as an ATM, not being screwed over a divorce. I’m not saying that you should care about looks at all. I’m saying that I don’t think it is the best strategy to JUST care about looks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:28 AM
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Like my point is that, okay maybe not just career, but valuing her hobbies, her passions, other things that make her unique
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:16 AM
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What do you mean with being the leader? I would never consider a man “my leader” . Under no fucking circumstances. Maybe my boss, in a professional setting and that’s the farthest I will go. But I do respect my husband don’t get me wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:14 AM
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But I mean, d wouldn’t it be a better idea to stop expecting men to be the sole provider and start valuing other characteristics on women too?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:14 AM
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I think you are very very wrong. Delusional even. Or maybe it depends on what you mean with submit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:05 AM
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A lot of men cannot. The economy is fucked!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:05 AM
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In a way, yes. Like I don’t think it makes a difference in a club maybe. But having a context were my coworkers and friends are high earners, definitely made easier to date a high earner. And that context was given by my career. And I truly believe that my partners did value that we could talk about technical things and do little projects together. At least for long term relationships. For example with my husband is not that good at math, and I’m sure he values that I can help him if he needs to…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:50 AM
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I mean, I guess you could just give her what you will be paying for house help. And it is and not volunteering, because if you want a family, she is the one who needs to give birth and breast feed, there is no way around it. Maybe just if you guys adopt a baby and share the chores, but otherwise, the women is the one pausing her career.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:37 AM
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But don’t you think that will put her in a disadvantage? Like for example, if she is a stay at home mom and you guys break up, you don’t think she should have some money for supporting the family from the household? Like you were only able to save money and have a family because of her unpaid labor in the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:22 AM
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I see, but then why caring so much about looks in the first place? Wouldn’t it be better idea to value other things about their personality and about the relationship if we all agree that people loose looks and age?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:17 AM
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I mean, i didn’t mean that. I don’t filter career either. That doesn’t mean that I don’t care about my partners career.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:03 AM
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Hahaha I see. Maybe “control” is not the best word then
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:02 AM
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Yeah, I mean, there is a point specially in long term relationships when having sex is just not enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:01 AM
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I dont want to control my partner ):
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:58 AM
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You see guys! It is in your best interest to care about her income!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:56 AM
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It can’t be. There is no hope
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:55 AM
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I see. Interesting. So I have a hot take about that. For me, I value more a guy who is balding but does something to look better than a guy who just looks good. Because the first one knows how to manage his body changing (and it will, because people age) that the second one that just exists. Like I don’t care how you look when you wake up, I care how you look most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:54 AM
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I agree! A job is not necessary that deep into someone’s character!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:50 AM
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😩😩😩
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:49 AM
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I do WFH, that’s the magic of being an engineer. thank you so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:48 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:47 AM
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I mean don’t be sorry. I didn’t go to school because of men 😂 but what you guys are forgetting is that if you go to college and share spaces with successful men, you have a better chance to date one of them. Maybe in a dating app it wouldn’t make a lot of difference, but getting to know people in real life… context is everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:46 AM
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I get what you are saying. What about a girl what is pretty but fucking stunning when she dresses up… does that count as a pretty girl or a stunning one? What if she is willing to dress up everyday? What if she is very pretty but she doesn’t put a lot of work on her appearance? Are those different?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:42 AM
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Thank you for the kind words. I mention the thing about being around wealthy men because a lot of RPs call women delusional for wanting a man making 6figs, and then women will say: but I make 6 figs, and men would say: we don’t care. But they forget that a lot of women who make a lot of money are around men that make a lot of money. You don’t get a partner randomly, it has a looot to do with your context, ao even if men don’t care directly about your career or money, you have a better change get…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:38 AM
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Gotcha. I mean, if you don’t like your job of course it sucks to be reduced on that. But if you work hard, you have a job that you love and are passionate about, and it overlaps your hobbies. It SUCKS that your partner tells you that they don’t care about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:29 AM
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I mean kind of… the traits are behaviors… without the behavioral part they are just words, so of course you need to do something to prove the traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:27 AM
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Definitely there are more things that make us unique and valuable than a job title <3
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:10 AM
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I agree with that. I would love my husband the same if he decides to have a change of career right now. It is not the career itself, but him being passionate and smart what makes me love him. But also if he looses his job, or gain weight, or has an accident and gets a scar in his face. What I don’t like is that some of this takes come as… he just care about if you look good. I feel that some comments just want to devalue women to a pretty face. I don’t think that looks make a person, either. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:08 AM
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But you guys act like a women cannot bring more to a relationship that their looks. Also act like fat chicks don’t date or don’t get married. They do!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:59 AM
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You are right. But for some people, there career is their ambition, their passion, what makes them happy and fulfilled, something they are proud of. Telling them you don’t care about their career is like telling them you don’t care about their hobbies and passions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:56 AM
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Thank you for bringing me hope
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:55 AM
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Just male chauvinists think that. Thank God there are men out there who don’t think like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:48 AM
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And you truly don’t care about that value? For you is literally the same if she wants to stay at home out of laziness vs tradition?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:44 AM
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Thank you, you give me hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:38 AM
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I wouldn’t date a guy who doesn’t care about my engineering degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:37 AM
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Maybe you don’t like your job that much. And shared goals is somehow shared values, isn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:29 AM
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I’m crazier ☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:24 AM
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Because apparently that’s the only way to get our jobs recognized.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:23 AM
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Crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:22 AM
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Maybe it is just me, that I would never date any guy that thinks that my engineering degree is the same as me drinking water fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:20 AM
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Because you can work on something you are passionate about! And there is some fulfillment in doing hard/complex things. I’m glad for you! Very nice you found someone that shares your values!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:18 AM
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You are crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:16 AM
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I wouldn’t worry about it too much if I was you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:15 AM
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Thank you! Best wishes for you too!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:08 AM
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But if she doesn’t have to work for money. She can work on this she like. Yes maybe it will take effort but it will be very fulfilling. Anyway, good luck finding your SO! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:07 AM
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Hahaha unbelievable. Maybe you can convince him to divorce me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:58 PM
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So she could work on those 8 hours if it is whatever she wants
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:56 PM
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That was also a joke…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:56 PM
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Oh cool! Glad you could make your investment work! And yes definitely not nice to date someone rude. I wouldn’t allow my partner to “shut up” me. Ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:54 PM
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So you want her whole word to be the relationship with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:52 PM
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I must learn how to belly dance then 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:50 PM
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I mean we fuck too, of course. And all the other things but I could do those with absolutely anyone… but nerdy projects? Nooo, that is the plus!!! And what is wrong with my husband being my friend too? Why is it making you look bad? Wtf🤣 And some men care more about having a family than keeping the money in a bank
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:48 PM
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But does it really make “absolutely nothing” to make you more attractive. I doubt that… a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:46 PM
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I agree with everything you said. But I hate it. But I do think that in long term relationships/ marriage women are definitely more likely to have an active role in the household finances. I did a little bit, but 80% of men I have dated have been engineers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:44 PM
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I mean but if you work what do you want her to do those 8 hours?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:36 PM
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Oh wow! How do you afford so many units? Yes that’s is a very good stand point. But is it really hard to find someone who is not a cheater? And it also depends on what do you mean by being disrespectful
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:26 PM
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Uff nooooo, submissiveness is something you won’t find here ): sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:23 PM
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I mean, that would be a little bit out of character for him. But if he says… I would love to date a chiropractor or a belly dancer in a similar context I will take it as it is… a joke!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:21 PM
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Yes. Too much time on Reddit for my own good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:14 PM
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Hahaha omg you got me!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:13 PM
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I mean not foooorce theeem, but having the ability if always welcomed! And I don’t care my partner touching other people tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:13 PM
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HAHAHAHHAHAHAHA I’m laughing so hard. I do stay yo late with my husband to watch documentaries. What do you guys do with their partners? Yes! Of course my husband is also my best friend. I agree, the wedding was unnecessarily expensive and I regret a little bit buying a house. But I mean, I care about money because it allows me do things and share experiences and provide for my family, it is not the money alone in a bank account.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:10 PM
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I absolutely do not believe in evolutionary psychology, nor I believe “insists” or “nature” should be a moral backbone or behavior guideline.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:07 PM
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Ohh, I see. Dating someone when you already have a very fixed idea of your dream partner can be very hard. Maybe you can compromise some things? Congratulation on buying a house! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:05 PM
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Things have changed so so much in the last 30 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:56 PM
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I see! Thanks for the input!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:54 PM
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Thank you for the correction. I really appreciate it. Yeah, we need the cultural shift to stop shaming men for not being providers and being more active in the household. I Can see how a women who that’s is getting more responsibilities in the office Can feel very frustrated if her partner doesn’t step up more in the house or with the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:53 PM
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You go boy!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:45 PM
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That’s true. I remember my dating decisions from college with cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:42 PM
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I’m just perplex of how you guys REFUSE to believe that women can bring more to a relationship other than their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:27 PM
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Yeah, if men where actually like this sub pretendes them to be, Id rather be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:22 PM
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Of course not, if I was a millionaire I would care about my partner bringing monetary value either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:21 PM
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Maybe is women getting in debt? Maybe your statistic is wrong? I don’t know where are you getting your numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:19 PM
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Uhmm more or less. I feel it is not fair to compare a woman’s career with a “guy collecting ties”.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:18 PM
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It is very hard to balance career, kids and husband. All those things are like a full time job. The only way this can work is if the man is willing to get more into the household activities and raising kids + getting help from extended family or paying for it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:15 PM
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Yes! That’s why values should be a very important factor while dating too :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:12 PM
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Make sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:10 PM
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Sure! Would you feel the same way if you had financial issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:08 PM
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I hear you and agree with you (except for the derogatory parts). It is a double standard that come from the idea that man have to prove their value by paying. It is wrong and it need to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:07 PM
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I Can see that! Thank for the input :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:02 PM
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Yes yes yes! I totally agree, if getting harder and harder to meet the standards. That’s why we need to re shape them and forget about the “traditional” household and start designing our families however it works for us
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:02 PM
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Yeah, maybe they care more than they want to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:00 PM
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Ooff, yes. Helping your partner to pay their debt and then they leaving must be a horrible horrible thing to experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:59 PM
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I mean I agree with the paper. We need to have a cultural shift and re establish gender role to work with women getting into the workforce
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:58 PM
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Haha I love the first graphic. It is chopped. The y axis starts at 0.75 but the actual difference between both graphics is just 0.1. Same for the second one. But let me read the paper. Thank you for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:51 PM
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Men are not disposable. I will not get a divorced just because I got promoted. What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:50 PM
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Maybe that’s the problem. Maybe you should care more about their values and morality more that their looks
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:48 PM
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Wouldn’t you rather to have one that is a truly partner and that has your back no matter what?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:47 PM
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Yes! You are right. For some internal reason I overlap those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:45 PM
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Would you rather date a hot (9) barista who is kind of shallow and not very educated than a woman who is not that hot (7) looking but super smart, kind and you wouldn’t have to worry about money again ever in your life? What if the barista was annoying but hot? And the other was kind. And viceversa? What if the barista was a 10 but the other one was a 9? Where do you draw the line? And if both were an 8, then you would care about career?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:45 PM
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We should make it 50/50 I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:35 PM
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We don’t mean it doesn’t exist anymore, we mean that is getting lesser and lesser the more the women get into the labor force.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:35 PM
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Just if she doesn’t have that status already. In the sense that now they take the status as a given and not as a plus. (I mean you still need to have the status as a man but it doesn’t give you extra points, it just doesn’t take them away)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:33 PM
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I Can see that happening. It is horrible. Definitely not cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:30 PM
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I get it. But it is both ways right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:29 PM
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Me personally? I think it depends on how much money I’m making at the moment. If I have enough money for both and we wants to be a house maker (or wants to keep washing dishes, or pursue something else) … sure, why not? I personally have this goal of making enough money so my husband can quit and start a video game studio that he wants. But I understand that this is NOT the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:28 PM
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I like your take. I think there is balance between: feeling full filled and having enough money for the lifestyle that you want as a couple. And that balance can come in very different ways and it is up to the couple to decide how to meet that balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:25 PM
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I completely agree with everything you say. I don’t think this sub is an actual representation of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:22 PM
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But do you agree that “traditional relationships” are less and less the norm everyday?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:20 PM
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Do you think that “women not sharing their money” is the case while dating but not if you are married? Like if there is not enough money for the household and the woman has a job, do you think she wouldn’t pay the bills?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:19 PM
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Good point. It in your best interest that your wife is independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:17 PM
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Fair
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:13 PM
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I guess you are right. There are more important things on a person besides their profession :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:13 PM
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So I hate when people compare women with cars but okay. I get your point. I’m sorry that happened to you. You are not less for not having a degree and I hate that your partner try to use it against you. I think it is very important to stop shamming man for making less that their partners or having less studies. It is very unfair and we need a cultural change ASAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:11 PM
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I see. I guess it make sense in some cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:08 PM
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Right? Those are important qualities in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:06 PM
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Make sense. But doesn’t it work both ways?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:05 PM
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Haha it was a joke. A bad joke perhaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:02 PM
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Can you share the study? I’m curious
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:01 PM
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I mean. Im not used to having a post with so many responses and I feel that if people post something they want a response? I guess i don’t have to answer but I feel it is rude. I don’t know. Anyway, I just have this perception of RP having a cartoon of relationships in their head that’s is reinforced by the same community and not quite based in how relationships actually are in the real world. But who knows, maybe I’m wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:57 PM
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But sugar mommys exist and persist! What do you mean they CANT get a man
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:52 PM
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Yes I am from Mexico. I actually felt like not cooking anymore because I felt shamed. You know how some men tell women “go back to the kitchen” as an insult. Or if I was cooking someone would joke “im happy you are were you belong”. Yes of course I wanted to quit because of pride. But I had to overcome that and realize that not cooking is such and dumb and impractical thing for any functional adult. I just hate people who cannot fry an egg, ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:47 PM
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Maybe it is a problem with the gift giving culture. I also receive a lot of presents that I don’t like and I don’t need. We are so used to consume.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:44 PM
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Thank you for coming I almost got brainwashed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:43 PM
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Yes but is going down. That 50% of men paying most of the dates is less that 70% 15 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:43 PM
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You have such a great point!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:41 PM
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Probably
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:40 PM
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Yes! I have heard that too. I also saw a video or a Muslim girl who covers all her body and she says that her husband had to like her for her personality and achievements not her looks
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:38 PM
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Good take! I agree but it kind of goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:36 PM
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Some men I guess…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:36 PM
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Hahaha and I just want a PhD for male attention ):!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:35 PM
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Great! That’s what I mean(:
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:35 PM
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Apparently red pillers. But thank you for your input. Very appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:34 PM
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No, I am. Im actually getting a lot of insight from this post. People have different bars to people to fuck and people to marry. Fuck for looks and availability, and for marrying we have a higher bar, that’s where career or values are taken into consideration. Given that men have a harder time finding partners and because of social expectations, they tend to be less picky about career. Career and passion are not the same. For me they are but that is not for the most of people. Most of people jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:16 PM
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I see, we need a culture change for women to realize that if you want to be career driven/money driven, you should considere dating men that make less than you or that are willing to stay at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:06 PM
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You are right!! I guess I just considered as the same, because that is my case. But now I realize that that is not the case for everyone and that career is usually more related to money stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:03 PM
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Is what this subreddit is about? Asking opinions and then give your opinion over others opinions? 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:01 PM
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But not most of the people is in sugar relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:59 PM
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Oh you are right. Thank you! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:59 PM
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Uff a classic. HAHA!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:58 PM
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I’m sorry, I’m trying to answer the literal 100 comments in this post. But my point is that I haven’t met anyone who actually think like RP in real life. Just people on internet. And I see people not him that wealthy or not that hot having relationships and being happy, I feel that the strong feeling of the RP is a distortion created by social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:58 PM
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I love it! Happy for you and your wife :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:54 PM
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Maybe I could send my husband back to school so he can learn how to! 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:51 PM
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But it is a money thing. Are you telling me you wouldn’t have sex with a woman you don’t feel particularly attracted for a 20k? 50k?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:50 PM
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But I don’t mean necessary material things. But thoughtful things or experiences, I truly believe a good present is specific to the person and what they actually like.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:48 PM
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Maybe I’m bias because I’m Mexican and we cook a lot? Or at least I do. I’m sorry your gf wasn’t thoughtful ): you deserve better.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:47 PM
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I will start with myself <3
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:43 PM
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I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:43 PM
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And I really don’t think that having Poot finances is a gender issue. Some women are good with money, others are bad and the same goes with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:42 PM
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I agree with you partially. I get how my situation was specific because the alignment of hobbies and career. I Can see that. But I guess my post was more about men caring about other things other than their ability to have sex with you, as the red pillers want us to believe. But for example, I like singing and I can see a HUGE difference when I go to a karaoke bar and I sing vs when I don’t sing in regards of how much men try to hit on me. Or maybe it is because I’m advertising myself more? I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:41 PM
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Thank you for your input. I like your takes. So actually, this post kind of make think about the actual perception of work. For some people, work is just a way to provide resources, and in that way, I can see how it is shallow to care about your partners job. On the other hand, you can see your job as your passion, something that you really love and that also provides you. This is a ver privilege position and I now see how it is not everyone’s reality. I have wonder how good it to have my career…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:33 PM
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But then you guys come, say something and anything that might be against it is WRONG. Because YOUR experiences ARE the facts, Right? You can see in this posts some men saying that they care about their partners career but they don’t matter, right? And honestly, if you are a woman I truly believe that the best way to date 6figs engineers is being an engineer yourself and being in a context with a lot of men engineers making a bunch of money and not having a lot of competition. Even better strateg…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:12 PM
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I’m glad. My dms are open anytime if you need to talk. Best of all!!! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:06 PM
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Just because one generalization is true, doesn’t mean that all generalization are true. My summary of my ideas is the following: I think that the generalization “most human Can walk” is correct. I don’t think that the generalization “most men don’t care at all about a woman’s career” is correct. I do think that “men tend to care less than women about their partners career” is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:04 PM
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RIGHT? I agree with everything you say!(:
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:00 PM
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I agree this is the reality, but that is not the way they say it. Red pillers will be like “no men has ever love a fat chick with a degree”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:59 PM
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You guys have a very weird perception of relationships. Average people date average people and do cute things for each other under their means. That’s usually how things go.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:57 PM
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No by themselves, no
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:55 PM
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Absolutely agree with this. Yes yes to everything you say! I think it is not just the name in CV but all the layers it adds to your personality, your values and the household income. Definitely things worth taking into consideration for a long-term partner. Thank you for your input :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:54 PM
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Don’t we all want a sugar mommy?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:51 PM
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Great take! I love it!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:50 PM
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Dudeee yes I would absolutely love to date a massage therapist yes yes yes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:50 PM
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Hobbosexual? What is that? And what is wrong with wanting 50/50. That’s valid
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:46 PM
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And do you think this is for the way we have been socialize? Like… or course if I think about a situation where if I don’t want to work I can just quit and not starve to death, or I can dedicate my time to my hobbies or cooking, of course it sounds nice… but wouldn’t it also sound nice for men? Like for any person… and women saying that they work so they are not dependent on a man, I think they say that because it is usually what happens given the way relationships work right now, but if they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:45 PM
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I just don’t like the generalizations. Just because you don’t get aroused with a women intelectual potential it doesn’t mean men don’t. And actually, not that I know, but having a career can actually increase your price in apps sugar apps. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:39 PM
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Yes I know, that’s why I don’t agree with the “no men” has ever. There are overweight men that will date overweight women, or men that care about personality more than looks and that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:33 PM
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I see, we should change that. Let’s make women pay more equally!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:30 PM
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I mean, fucking my partner is something that I do usually I don’t need a birthday for that. And I don’t mean an expensive watch, you can spend money in experiences like a trip or something special.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:29 PM
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I see, I just feel if you are a women in the industry, then that “status” that a potential partner can give you just goes away. I have that status on my own, I don’t care about what status my partner could provide me. I THINK that SHOULD translate to women willing to date vet techs ( I would) but I don’t see that happening in general and it is sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:28 PM
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Whaaat? I mean, childcare is expensive but it is not the whole income of a person with a degree and years of experience. I kind of get the point but I really think there are ways around it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:25 PM
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This is a joke of course, I felt I need to clarify
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:22 PM
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HAHAHAHA so sad, I just went to school to be more attractive to men ):
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:22 PM
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I’m sorry, are you okay? You can dm is you need something.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:20 PM
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It make sense, if you are not going to see them again…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:19 PM
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Because you are saying that “no men” has ever done X. And I’m telling you that at least the ones around me have. And I do believe they are not the only one in the world. Also because adding layers to the personality of a someone can make them more attractive. You act like fat women can’t get married or will never be loved and I’m telling you, we can.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:18 PM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:15 PM
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I beg to differ. Like I get that is it not solely being an engineer, but the layers that it adds to the relationship. Like having a partner that’s is passionate about what they do and that has plans and ambitions can indeed benefit you romantically. I also think that some men are sexually attracted to women who can challenge them intellectually, so I don’t agree with that “no men”. You
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:14 PM
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No but I dont mean “money-driven” but having a partner that is fulfilled with what they do for living. Feeling that they are doing a difference or that are super passionate about something adds a very beautiful layer to the relationship, and I think that men care (or should care) about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:09 PM
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I see, but then you think that men don’t care because they cannot afford to care? Like if someone is already struggling with dating, then adding another layer is just going to make it more difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:07 PM
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I agree, social media is a very weird place that has fucked up our minds. And I understand that my case is unique, but honestly, I never thought that men didn’t care about career until I faced red pill context. Everything about my normal life tells me the opposite. That why I was wondering if this is in fact social media corrupting our perception of relationships… AGAIN.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:05 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:01 PM
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That’s a good point. Being able to take a couple years off work to raise your baby is definitely a plus. Good to take into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:01 PM
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Definitely! :) being kind to every kind is the most important part :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:59 PM
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But they did! At least with me, I think they liked that I was “smart” or whatever. Maybe I just had a weird experience because I just dated a ver specific kind of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:58 PM
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I see, I mean, but I don’t think that’s the majority of women, right? And that also has more to do with the values of the person more than the income, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:57 PM
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I see. Thanks for the input.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:53 PM
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I see, sounds reasonable. I don’t care about men career either if it is just sex. Do women in general care about men career if it is just sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:53 PM
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No man? Im a little bit overweight, not obese thou, and my experience would beg to differ. I truly believe man liked that I am an engineer.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:51 PM
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Horrible
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:47 PM
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I know right? Those extra bucks and building robots together are definitely fun. But part of my point in the post is that it was never hard for me to date someone 6figs because most of people in my context were doing that, and that context was provided by my career.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:47 PM
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???? What do you mean? Do you really think that women with jobs don’t pay bills in the household or buy something nice for their partners birthday?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:43 PM
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I mean, I guess that “past doesn’t matter” can apply if the person is willing to change. For example, I think there is a difference between someone who has cheated on the past and regrets terribly, questioned his morals and concluded they won’t do it again vs someone who cheated and doesn’t seem to care that much. For me, I wouldn’t care about the first one past cheating but I would care about the second’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:40 PM
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Scary to see a medical professional calling women “sluts”…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:52 AM
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what about camping? They are usually on weekends! Are you sure there is not a weekend cycling club? I find that a little bit hard to believe. Are you telling me that in your city there are not French classes or Spanish classes? What about a certificate in a community college? A conversation club is a group where people who want to practice a language meet just to talk. There are so many activities you could join. Just make sure you are not sabotaging yourself :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:02 AM
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I actually will never recommend you to go to yoga just to find a girlfriend. Women there are less likely to be expecting interactions with men, especially romantic interactions. Also, if you literally have 0 interest, it will show and that is the worst recipe for success. I don't know how beneficial it would actually be because of these reasons. The clubs exist! Cycling and camping clubs exist almost everywhere. Also, conversation clubs or language learning classes. Don't sabotage yourself, my f…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:12 AM
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I think you are falling too much into stereotypes. Yoga and dancing don't have a general gender mix; yoga will be mostly women and dancing will be mostly women or couples. That is not a normal gender ratio. I actually will never recommend you to go to yoga just to find a girlfriend. Women there are less likely to be expecting interactions with men, especially romantic interactions. Also, if you literally have 0 interest, it will show and that is the worst recipe for success. Buuuut, there are a …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 03:19 AM
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I mean, yeah. Money and time are a constraint to absolutely everything. But if you join a club you legitimately enjoy, you are less likely to feel frustrated if you don't get a partner immediately. If you want to meet people, you must put yourself out there. There is no way around it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 10:55 PM
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Well you can give excuses like that for absolutely anything you want to achieve in life.
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