AdvancedSquashDirect Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	My Valentine's Day gift from myself	WHOLESOME CONTENT	AdvancedSquashDirect	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/02/22 05:30 AM

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49	Why I DON’T EXPLAIN. On boundaries, disappointment, and self-shielding: You don’t have to explain to an emotionally abusive man why he isn’t allowed to hurt you anymore. Repay broken boundaries with your lack of presence. If your boundary is obvious (no insults,shaming,lying etc), normal (no cheating, poly, porn), or has been clearly communicated once. That's enough to expect them to not break it. If they break it, you walk away, don't answer the phone, block their number, they do not deserve your effort. . You are allowed to be hurt, cry, be angry or disappointed, they don't need to know that, (find a good friend to confide with) Sending them paragraphs of how …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/03/22 12:42 PM
183	What are some good dating green flags? Genuine listening and not turning the conversation back on themselves, being interested in what you have to say and when referring previous conversations, they correctly remember what you said. Happy to contact you how you want, doesn't push for phone number or begging you move to another app Messages you at a reasonable hour, doesn't double/triple text. Honest and trustworthy, meets you on time, or contacts you asap if might be late. Doesn't tell white lies or boasts or exaggerates the truth. P…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/03/22 11:17 AM
9	TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were Exclusive I personally don't get the unprotected sex... Was that her choice or more of his coercion? It doesn't matter if she was chatting to him for a year. Another woman came forward with the same story, he's a player using his tiktok "fame" to dupe and bed women while being a "woke feminist" She needs a pregnancy test and full STD/STI workup now and in 6 months I feel that she fell for him quickly as she was in a tough period of her life and needed support. He prayed on that, it's a common narc behavio…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/03/22 12:00 PM
54	Woman feels rightfully betrayed at her husband watching porn, advice columnist gaslights her into her 'past trauma' being the problem. This reminds me of past behaviour I ignored, I wasn't feeling up for sex so I had a nap while my ex watching TV next to me an hour later I woke up to them watching porn next to me and lazily figiting. I expressed that it made me felt disgusting and replaceable. They tried to make it sound progressive and that I wasn't required to have sex all the time. I tried to brush it off and thought I was being silly. But it made me feel sick. Trust your gut!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/22 01:00 PM
40	Taking “breaks” before holidays. (context: I'm lesbian) My ex did this, They totally forgot about Valentine's Day, I ordered a huge bunch of flowers to surprise them at work. By the end of the day, it was clear there was nothing planned I was disappointed, (but they complained about "a manufactured holiday this ... Consumerism that), I explained that it was important to me, and wanted more effort, they ordered some delivery for dinner. Sigh Next time they did the bare minimum for 1 year anniversary in March, (last min order bun…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/01/22 02:10 PM
22	What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive? They have no reaction or get annoyed/ angry when you show a strong emotion such as crying at a movie, or panic at a loud noise. They say your tears are manipulative or to stop crying They get so angry they are trying break or attack inanimate objects, throws the remote or phone, slams doors, drives dangerously, snaps at or yells at pets/children They get unhappy when you are happy (if they are not the centre of the happiness) they always find a way to neg you and bring you down. Eggshells! Pleas…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/01/22 10:56 AM
175	The Inverse Relationship Between Financial Maturity and Marriage Desirability I'm late to this idea of thinking, I'm going to turn 40 in a few years. I had my 20s and 30s wasted by 2 NVM in long term abusive relationships. I worked part time and wasted my money. 17 years wasted on men, I'm bi but I've chosen to no longer persue men, and I'm effectively a lesbian. I've rediscovered who I am and now I upgraded myself and found a decent full-time job and earning enough to start building a life. I have a careful budget and want to buy a house asap. Something small and simple …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/01/22 10:14 PM