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People on Reddit always think your hygiene or personality turns people off. They never consider looks, depression, neurodivergent behaviour, anxiety disorders, PTSD or attachment disorders.
/r/seduction27/12/21 12:31 PM
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Not a big deal. I am 23 and never even had a kiss, it is pretty much a big deal. Stop undervaluing your life experiences man
/r/seduction04/11/21 07:14 PM
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Yeah but toget to the golden period you need to lose your Vcard first. It is not like we want to lose our Vcard because we expect the first time to be the best, we want it because we know it will become good only afted you had your first time in the first place.
/r/seduction04/11/21 07:11 PM
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Plenty of people do. I think the way women dress is important but everytime I say that people say it's shallow to judge people by the clothes they buy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:17 PM
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I can imagine yeah. It's been weighing down hard on me too so I can definitely see how relieving it must be to get it over with!
/r/seduction08/10/21 06:51 PM
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If it's the wrong kinda crazy I can see how it would be a bad time. Don't know how much longer to hang in there though. My patience, and hope, are running out.
/r/seduction08/10/21 06:50 PM
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'This shit you are doing' Please elaborate. I am not doing anything but conversing with some people here and in PMs, and those PMs are going really well :)
/r/seduction30/06/21 12:40 PM
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I think you're missing the common thread here. You ask why I would think that graduation is important only to women who seek stability, and I said it's because I noticed it's not that important to girls as personality/fun/looks. If a girl were to find it important, it's usually because they want to settle down with someone financially stable. And that is an image I have been trying to shed all my life. Then when you ask how I am so sure how hypothetical girls would feel about me, since I am not …
/r/seduction29/06/21 08:21 AM
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Idk man. I got extremey lucky with a girl one time, missed by shot, and feel like I will never get an opportunity like that ever again.
/r/seduction28/06/21 09:06 PM
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Makes sense actually. Thnx!
/r/seduction27/06/21 07:14 PM
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If you think it's about not showing any neediness, you clearly didn't understand any of it. Not about showing neediness. BEING needy. Anyway, try to be more open minded about all the advice given here in this thread because you seem to instantly reject a lot of people here. Yeah my mind does this thing where it's like 'oh but I hate my looks therefore none of this works because I am not hold enough to get this advice to work for me, and even if it does I'll still hate my looks'. The surgery is s…
/r/seduction27/06/21 03:07 PM
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I actually read a 20 page summary of Models, and the main takeaway I got from that book is that attractiveness is inversely proportional to neediness. Which is strong advice IMO, but I think that if anything I show too little 'neediness' to the opposite sex. In fact, I hardly talk to them, so I can't even show desperation to begin with. But it's good to keep in mind nonetheless.
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:41 PM
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And paying for a hooker will fix that? I figure it will take some pressure off the kettle. Not having to worry any more about not having my first <...>s. Mate, you know what makes someone attractive? The ability to put yourself out there, do what you love and not giving a fuck about social standards and what other people think about you. Ok ok, but what do you define as 'getting out there and not giving a fuck'? Going to a club by yourself and dancing weird? Going to a party and throwing out con…
/r/seduction27/06/21 12:59 PM
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Because you aksed what comes to mind when I say things like "Graduation means nothing unless you want to attract a woman who just had her fair share of fun and now wants to settle for some wallflower financially stable guy." And then I answered by saying that always being considered 'good', non-dangerous, stable, safe, people will often tell you you'd make great husband material. But that's not what I want. I don't want to be the guy women complain about their BFs about, I want to be the man the…
/r/seduction27/06/21 09:45 AM
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But now you’re finished. Well done. Not yet. 4 more years to go (PhD). Kinda scary considering some people in my program have attempted suicide because of the stress but ok. The regrets you had back then will not matter in the long run. I disagree. I regret not being more social, being more edgy and giving less fucks. That would have solved like half my problems now.
/r/seduction27/06/21 08:47 AM
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Graphic T shirts are the worst haha, I wear better things than that
/r/seduction27/06/21 08:45 AM
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In my vision, masculine men get laid a lot, or at least have the opportunities. The fact that I graduated all of high school and uni without even as much as a peck tells me I am unmanly.
/r/seduction27/06/21 08:45 AM
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what value do you add? why should someone kiss you? I thought kissing had to do with emotions/lust, not value someone provides? If I made more money, or had more degrees, would I be more valuable to be kissed?
/r/seduction27/06/21 08:44 AM
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Why not? I heard that drugs is a great tunnel to some good friendships, casual sex, fun hangouts etc. Why not give it a shot?
/r/seduction27/06/21 08:43 AM
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Yes.
/r/seduction26/06/21 06:08 PM
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What was your field of study first of all? Physics. The worst study for your social skills/life. Second of all, just because you’re a virgin and haven’t been kissed doesn’t mean you’re a failure at all dude. No, I am not *a* failure, but I have failed at losing my virginity, something I have wanted since I was like 12. Do you have a job? Not fulltime, just some private tutoring. What are your current hobbies? I only work out and play some chess. Nothing more. Why do you consider online dating ga…
/r/seduction26/06/21 05:50 PM
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I have a Master's degree but thank you ^_^
/r/seduction26/06/21 05:35 PM
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No.
/r/seduction26/06/21 04:26 PM
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Thanks, pal. I have gotten an extensive guide from another Redditor which I will try to implement in the gym from now on.
/r/seduction26/06/21 01:50 PM
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LMAO I bet if you woke up super ugly tomorrow you'd sing a different tune man
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:40 AM
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But I don't feel good in my skin if my literal skin is ugly dude. What's so hard to understand about it. If you woke up tomorrow looking like a mixture between Danny Devito and Gollum, would you ever be confident? I doubt so. Extreme example but you're bullshitting me now. Looks are the primary source of confidence for me, especially in this lookist oversexualised society.
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:36 AM
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To get confidence you need to start working out and taking it seriously, dressing better and taking care of yourself as well as truly letting go and being yourself. I did all of this and still don't feel confident because of my face. I must fix my face before I will ever even think of becoming confident. Saving up for surgery then. You have 0 confidence as a result of living in your own bubble, not taking risks and putting yourself out there. No I have 0 confidence because I am not good looking …
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:22 AM
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And this attitude of yours is supposed to lift my spirits then? 'Oh you don't feel the way I described you would feel, oh well, guess you will remain unfullfilled for life!'
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:20 AM
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Even if you don’t know the girl, walk up and hug her. Cringe. That is how you end up on Twitter: "eew some weird rando tried to hug me at my ceremony"
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:13 AM
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OP sounds like he had a traumatic childhood and shitty parents. You're not wrong. And what does it take to shed such an image of yourself you have built into your mind? Moving out of the country and starting anew? Drugs? IDK.
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:13 AM
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Am I really me if I don't sabotage myself? ;)
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:11 AM
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I am just afraid I am not good enough. Most people have socialised well in HS. They know how things work and I don't, and this inadequacy makes me not wanna do things. What if I try to invite people to something and it sucks, and if only I had experience I could have foreseen and prevented that?
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:10 AM
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You know what? I will! I will sneak out of the house, and treat myself with something. IDK what. A cigarette or a small piece of cake or something, and just enjoy some alone time in nature. And celebrate my degree.
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:08 AM
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I still haven't gotten used to social rejections though. I have lost many friends, friend groups, ghosted, got talked about behind my back etc. Every single time it stinged equally hard. What, should I get rejected even more? You think that is good for my mental health?
/r/seduction26/06/21 11:07 AM
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"I have been made fun of because of who I am" "Ever considered them people, though?" What? Seriously, how the hell does your question even logically succeed my comment?
/r/seduction26/06/21 10:58 AM
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That isn't it. I do/watch a lot of 'mainstream' things myself. It's more about character, charisma, stories, experiences, life philosophy, the way I speak or see things, that makes me feel like I am the odd one out, rather than what I do or watch or listen to.
/r/seduction26/06/21 10:57 AM
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women just don't like you cause you're an ass lmao Nice assumption you made there mate. You do that often?
/r/seduction26/06/21 09:36 AM
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At least everyone knows what I mean when I refer to 'normies'. Just normal people.
/r/seduction26/06/21 09:34 AM
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I get nothing but praise in my life for being a kind and understanding person to others. Never once has someone IRl told me I am rude, or an asshole, or a prick. Awkward, at best, but not an asshole. But nope I must be a huge asshole in secret. Newsflash pal, I know 3 guys who get laid like warlords and they are the biggest assholes/misogynists I have seen. But they're handsome so nobody cares.
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:45 AM
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Yep, you got me. I am just a troll. Just wasting precious time of mine on the internet to troll some strangers. I am definitely not someone who desperately needs help... not at all.
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:42 AM
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Bonesmashing? WTF? Like... taking a hammer to the face?
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:40 AM
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I also do a lot of cardio!
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:39 AM
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Sorry to hear about your epilepsy. I know a friend who had it and it limited him so much in the most subtle ways. Hope you're doing better. How many times a week did you hit the gym?
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:38 AM
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I'd love to get your program!
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:36 AM
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I did start going to the gym for this reason. While it's really nice, it doesn't really distract me. You really think I feel less ugly, or horny, or lonely, when I come back home? Not at all. It keeps me busy for 1 hour and then it's right back to square 1.
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:32 AM
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lol no
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:31 AM
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I don't have a lot of common experiences with people. I don't go on holiday trips, I don't hang out with friends, I don't smoke or do drugs, I don't go out, I don't have sex.... that makes the majority of what people say unrelatable.
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:28 AM
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I actually see a lot of old people! They are different from young people though, and usually talk more than they listen haha. I'd rather train my skills with peers though.
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:27 AM
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Body fat doesn't change your nose shape, eye area, hairline, facial asymmetry, open bite, holes in your beard etc.
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:24 AM
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I really wish I could but this everywhere permeating feeling of being different and not belonging is holding me back. When I try to talk to someone, usually 'normies', they just feel so unrelatable most of the time. When they talk about their lives, their friendships, their sex lives, their partners, their trips, their HS stories, their finances etc, I just feel like I am too different. Very hard to pin down the feeling exactly, and you might be familiar with it yourself, but it is really discou…
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:23 AM
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Ok I may have never expressed myself well in this thread but the thing is that when I meet normies, I always feel off. Like I am so much different from them, I could never be a part of them. Doesn't help I have been ditched from several friend groups because I was always the odd one out. So yes, when I try to meet people, and I notice how again I am different, it just discourages me gravely. THAT is what I cannot overcome. Might add this to the main text too.
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:19 AM
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So what do I do? Grab some cake, fuck off into some desolate park, and eat it there?
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:13 AM
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You know what the 'good kid' is? Well, when you're the 'good kid', eventually people start pressuring you into staying that way. For crying out loud, the first time I swore was reported to my parents because it was not heard of from someone like me. That is how bad it was. I wasn't allowed to express myself because from an early age I established myself as pious, agreeable, obedient, having good grades, sitting still etc.
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:12 AM
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Well I used to be told that Id make a great husband later, and they said this even back in HS. I have always wanted to break free of my good kid image, and things like that almost seem to convey 'you are onky good to provide, not to he fun with'. I als say it because buggest womanisers I know are blunt, edgy, very rebellious and disagreeable since a young age, etc. They do better.
/r/seduction26/06/21 06:34 AM
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When you say those numbers, is that max 1 rep? Because my numbers are all max 8 rep.
/r/seduction25/06/21 09:01 PM
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You are right. I did not take the gym serious enough for the first year or so. And I should drop body fat most definitely. But how is that all supposed to help me?
/r/seduction25/06/21 09:00 PM
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I am more bitter towards myself than anyone else tbf.
/r/seduction25/06/21 08:50 PM
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I am not that strong when it comes to compounds actually. I am 6'1, and weigh 175 lbs. My DL is 110 lbs, my SQ is 90 lbs, and my BP is 55 lbs. Partially thanks to a 6 month lockdown.
/r/seduction25/06/21 08:49 PM
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Well I think it's common knowledge that you don't get big after 6 months in the gym. I have been going for 1.5 years and only now do I begin to see some results coming up.
/r/seduction25/06/21 08:35 PM
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`Well you just reduced an entire lifetime of problems and struggle and bullying and depression to 'get a haircut and act friendly'. Kinda reductionist man. Maybe it worked for you. Maybe you were 16 when you lost your V. But it doesn't apply to me.
/r/seduction25/06/21 08:04 PM
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I am already hitting the gym as much as time allows me to. Still hardly see results. This will take years upon years before I see results.
/r/seduction25/06/21 07:55 PM
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Actually go celebrate your graduation - not because you'll meet the love of your life or anything - but because it is flipping the script you've lived by on it's head. No more sheltering yourself. No more wallowing in self-pity. I'm. Not. Celebrating. I have nobody to celebrate with. My family is god awful and doesn't support me so fuck them. Friends, well, I don't have them. And I am not eating cake by myself. You are young and in a great stage of life. Just graduating puts you in a position ah…
/r/seduction25/06/21 07:54 PM
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If you think just acting confident, getting a haircut, and lifting weights is 90% of the job, you're delusional. There is no gym for my face unless I pay 15-20K for various surgeries. And even then I can never get rid of asymmetries. Lifting weights is cool but takes a tremendous amount of time before you're distinguishable from normal people. A haircut is literally just that, a haircut. I spend a lot of time on it but since my hairline is beginning to recede I have had so many bad hair days I'd…
/r/seduction25/06/21 07:51 PM
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Why not go out and talk to people? IDK what to say, and I constantly get indications I should leave them be because I am not interesting or handsome enough to talk to. Constant micro-rejections like that make me wanna KMS.
/r/seduction25/06/21 07:35 PM
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I am graduating next week, what hope is there for me. People are settling down around me already and I just wanna have fun.
/r/seduction11/06/21 05:32 AM
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and it seems that not only you're desperate for a romantic relationship What is wrong with that? Can you blame him? Everyone wants relationships, but if you're a virgin, usually people tell you not to be so desperate for it. Weird.
/r/seduction31/05/21 09:58 AM
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love yourself unconditionally. I can't love the ugly loser that I am. However, I know this is hard and if you want to remove this label, just pay for sex? I am waiting until I am 25. If I hit that age I will do it in the first week.
/r/seduction25/05/21 07:18 PM
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Been working on that for almost 2 years. Never noticed any difference in how people treat me except for one single exception one day. 2 months is nothing BTW, not like there is still time for me to get AND ripped AND use it to my advantage.
/r/seduction25/05/21 07:17 PM
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That is what I am doing rn. I am getting one in 2 months.
/r/seduction25/05/21 06:43 PM
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/r/askTRP08/05/21 04:48 PM
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Sounds like a cope, why wouldn't those alphas maintain that lifestyle if they know what it's like to be high SMV?
/r/askTRP01/05/21 07:56 PM
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When did you notice the changes and how did you achieve them? What was the greatest thing you noticed in the way people treated you?
/r/askTRP30/04/21 06:46 PM
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How am I looking for an excuse? Just looking for some positive success stories here. Because let's be honest, the frat boys who slay in college and after, are usually also the soccer boys in middle school who did well socially. In comparison, I know virtually nobody who suddenly bloomed later in life.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 10:10 AM
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Netherlands.
/r/askTRP05/04/21 08:40 PM
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You can workout even without a gym. Doesn't feel like I am making as much progress, and the gym motivates me more. I am still working out but not the way I'd like to. Find your purpose. Seems like a good thing to do when you're stuck at home burnt out 24/7 for months without an end in sight...
/r/askTRP05/04/21 02:31 PM
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If they give you 1-word responses, or are only out to market their mediocre Insta pages, can you blame me for not being successful on OLD?
/r/askTRP03/04/21 09:58 AM
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You don't believe in time being precious? People change as you grow older. When you're 30, for example, the dating pool is mostly broken women and single moms. I just think the younger you start certain things, the better you'll end up. And the longer you wait, the worse it's gonna get. But that's just my two cents.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 08:45 PM
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You’ve got a lot of work to do. Yep. Stop focusing on other people. That is a bit of a problem for me. Seeing other people doing better can be a trigger for me to be down for the rest of the day. Today I saw someone I knew as a kid, walking around with his fresh new hot gf, and it made me sad because it triggers a spiral of negativity where I mourn the time when I was 18 and had nothing. Just chat to them with no expectation. I try to keep my expectations tempered, and I think I have been doing …
/r/askTRP27/03/21 07:11 PM
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You missed out on crucial social development etc. So what? Go out there and talk to people (not just women). Most men (yes even those who have been dealing with women for a long time) are actually very clueless. They have lots of experience but their blue pill lenses don’t allow them to learn from certain mistakes or see things for what they really are. You aren’t all that far behind. The fact that you’re this self aware already gives you a good head start. By the time you’ve slept with the 3rd …
/r/askTRP27/03/21 02:49 PM
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I am fine talking to women. I am not fine escalating with them. I don't understand hints and when I think I see them they're not actually there. No idea how to flirt succesfully or have the confidence to go further than just talking. Other friends who are more succesful often show me texts where they suddenly go sexual and it works for them. Not for me, I am easily called desperate for sharing a sex meme, for example.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 02:40 PM
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You said it yourself. You’re compensating. I’ve never understood the fascination with sleeping with a certain number of women. I would understand if you said you want to give yourself the best chance of getting laid with the type of women that you want but you want to reach a specific number. You’re trying to fill some void which probably won’t go away even once you reach 50 lays. You’ll just feel miserable and shitty and constantly craving more. Yes I am. I missed out on crucial social developm…
/r/askTRP27/03/21 12:22 PM
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Care to elaborate?
/r/askTRP27/03/21 11:39 AM
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Got 4 years to do it. If 15 year olds nowadays can get laid, then I don't see in principle why I shouldn't.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 11:34 AM
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I don't give a fuck about plating supermodels. I give a fuck that I have never been able to plate anyone or come even close to it. Despite having a lot in my favour. It's fucking discouraging and it doesn't help that I haven't been able to do jackshit for a year now thanks to my retarded government closing everything. I like TRP but I think they are being unrealistic. Not everyone can score a threesome despite all the effort they can put in, unless they pay. I myself have gotten some sporadic at…
/r/askTRP25/03/21 02:01 PM
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Doesn't sound like you were ever truly unattractive after all... I mean if you can rock OLD apps then you're just set.
/r/askTRP25/03/21 01:45 PM
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So what happened afterwards? I assume you were done studying and worked a job already at that age? Where did you meet women? How much attention do you get from them? Are they openly sexual with you or is it still your task as a man to pry them open yourself first?
/r/askTRP25/03/21 01:18 PM
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Be high value and girls will claw for your attention. Then I am still not high value enough, and I still have a long ass road ahead of me. Right now I couldn't even *dream* of getting lingerie shots from girls. Maybe I am just whack. At your level, strive for quality plates. Build a connection, take them out for a walk or grab coffee. These are more rewarding and fulfilling IMO. And way less risky than smashing some girl in the restroom at a party. I have never had anything close to a plate, whe…
/r/askTRP25/03/21 12:37 PM
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Don't know what RM is but last time I deadlifted (december) I could end with 6x60kg, so a single rep max weight would be like 70-80 kg I suppose. Lockdown fucking sucks, I have no heavy weights around that are convenient to lift.
/r/askTRP25/03/21 12:35 PM
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Yes, he was a friend. And the girl opened up to me and showed me the text messages and all. She even started self harming because she felt trapped and she couldnt speak up because he would find it. But his act came to daylight anyways and he retreated. She told her friends but some still harbour a crush on him. So yeah something he is doing must be attractive. And he has average looks but a top 1% social status
/r/askTRP24/03/21 10:39 PM
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I am not saying the people that score pussy are manipulative assholes. I say that actual manipulative assholes also score pussy. I know someone that preys on the insecure, isolates them from their friends, then blackmails them into shutting up about their emotional abuse. And not gonna lie, what he did was really fucked up, But he scores nudes like crazy, and gets women crazy for him by playing this charismatic agreeable persona, then striking hard when they're finally with him. It's not really …
/r/askTRP24/03/21 08:06 PM
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You are looking at these “assholes” through a BP male lens. You see asshole, jerk, selfish, manipulative. Women may be seeing confident, high value, socially intelligent and a guy who “gets it”. I am not talking about your average high status male, because usually I don't think they are douchey, though I understand why I thought so back in the day. I am talking about the actual manipulative men who actively seek out vulnerable women (such as goth girls or e-girls) because they have an easier tim…
/r/askTRP24/03/21 02:19 PM
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Wait, until you become the "asshole", you will look back this post and laugh at yourself. Why? If that's what you think kind is, then you ain't kind No. I feel like I still need external validation so I act kinder than I sometimes need to be. Do you tell those girls that to their face? Or you just judge them on the internet? Yes I judge them. Nose rings, coloured hair, 'gamer' girls etc. Their insecurity leaks through the screen in the way they act and type. Is that not what you want? Yes. But A…
/r/askTRP24/03/21 09:58 AM
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TBF I know quite a lot of theory. If I were 14 I would have definitely fucked up but I think that now I have a good grasp on things to do and especially what not to do. But still, I need practise. Can't believe you say that is the *easy* part haha. I think I need to embrace and incorporate my sexuality into my character. I am always afraid of showing it. In the past that had a different reason but right now it's more the shame of being called desperate, needy or perverted. And yes I need to be m…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:20 PM
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I know, but things like kissing and sex just seem weird to me. IDK, I have only 'experienced' it in porn. It's supposed to be this thing you familiarize yourself with in high school or so, so to be in this position at this age just makes it mysterious...
/r/askTRP01/03/21 08:49 PM
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Bro I am serious. I never really had a social life so some things are not that obvious to me.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 06:00 PM
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Because a PhD takes four years. But my bad, you said *future* doctor, so it makes sense. I am just a bit confused, but I am a bit new to this stuff. I know TRP holds the truth better than the crap I have been spoonfed during my childhood but to me it is still unbelievable that I can one day be a high SMV male because I have never known that kinda lifestyle or attitude. Literally cannot imagine a girl actually wanting me because I have never seen it for myself.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 05:07 PM
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I have no idea where to meet women. Honestly. I loathe cold approaching in public space like grocery stores because honestly unless you are a megachad nobody wants that. That is some cringy PUA stuff. I don't really have a lot of friends and they are all introverts so clubbing and festivals is off the table. I do sports but either it's male dominated or the few women don't want to be bothered. And I also don't want to be guy number 100 to approach them for those girls.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 05:04 PM
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You’re too focused on sex bro Is it really that weird when you've been sexually aware since you were 11, and now half your life later you are in still inexperienced while everyone around you talks about this world you have never been part of even though fucking teens are?
/r/askTRP01/03/21 04:59 PM
1

Why a few? Wouldn't want to spend 100s of bucks on this, at most just 100.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 01:48 PM
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I am not really getting why you are saying this? You are trying to make me out as a top tier male in 4 years even though I am low tier right now trying to make my way up. I am being realistic here. Why the fuck would I accept the fact that I first need to pursue a fucking phd for 4 years before being noticed by women when fucking teens can do so just by being popular in HS? Seems unbalanced. Now if you said I was impatient instead of a victim, then you would be right.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 01:47 PM
1

I mean, I get that you're trying to show tough love but I had my own adversities to overcome to get where I am today. Unlike some people who managed to get laid just because they won the genetic lottery I have to work for my accomplishments.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 01:44 PM
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You don't want an excort, but you want someone to blame. Who am I trying to blame then? I used to blame society, now I blame me. IDK which one is a more uncomfortable truth. but say, "I should've taken care of my virginity earlier." I don't think I need more reason to be stuck up in the past. Yes there are some things I should have gone through with and dropping my standards but I cannot do anything about that any more. A PhD will take a lot of time. But you can wake up a bit earlier and do 100 …
/r/askTRP01/03/21 12:56 PM
1

Exactly what I am afraid of! Might as well go all out then.
/r/seduction18/02/21 03:18 PM
1

Holy fucking shit, just how lucky did you get? I can't imagine that happening to me in such a short time span.
/r/seduction18/02/21 03:17 PM
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I am a recovering nice guy yes and I do have unresolved mental issues. I have some neurotic behaviours considering my insecurities and I feel like I shoot myself in the foot everytime I have the opportunity to meet people or get close to someone because I fear getting too close (because of for example rejection). Seeing other men doing better than me, especially right before my eyes, just makes me wanna throw in the towel. And reading sex stats makes me depressed too, like the average age for a …
/r/askTRP18/02/21 01:15 PM
1

Right now not as hard as I'd like to since our lockdown is fucking endless. But I recently switched over to a Push Pull Legs program of 6 days. But I could always go harder and eat more/better than I used to. Abs are almost visible. Only girl I ever dated said I look athletic.
/r/askTRP18/02/21 09:21 AM
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I do hit the gym but they always ignore me and go for the good looking charismatic guys who don't hit the gym
/r/askTRP17/02/21 08:51 PM
1

I don't have many pics of me, I am not photogenetic and pretty insecure. The few ones that do look good are either grainy or not fit for OLD. I should ask the photographer at my next swimming competition to snap a good of me lmao, at least an excuse to show off my muscles. Thing is that on dating apps you have to sell yourself and that is something I am just not that good at when I am among many other higher SMV men that girls would rather give their attention to. It's a brutal merciless meat gr…
/r/askTRP17/02/21 03:50 PM
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I just find that women often don't pay me any attention, though I have been approached many times before and rejected more girls than that I got rejected. Apart from those rare cases, I feel invisible and they'd rather pay attention to other people. For example, I am in this online group where there is this German guy that literally has every single girl chasing him, he even got PMs from one with selfies. IDK what he has that I don't except that I can guess he radiates some charisma and has a fu…
/r/askTRP17/02/21 03:41 PM
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The way to address this immediately is via employing escort services. I have considered it and might use it as a nuclear option. But I am not sure how it will affect me in the long run. Yes it will depedestalise pussy but I am afraid it will make me think I can only get girls if I pay them. The better way is to forget about chasing pussy, that behaviour is keeping the females away from you as they can sense your desperation. They will not fuck you if you make them the focus. I second the latter …
/r/askTRP17/02/21 03:16 PM
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Yeah you are right. That was actually one of the very times I could test TRP for myself, and it's true. I got 1 girl and 1 older woman who wanted to cheat on their boyfriends with me last year and I kept both of them off because I have principles (though I should've gone for the girl, she was petite and hot). Scary stuff that girls do this shit but I guess that is their nature. You can use this as fuel to grow balls and make progress and talk to more girls. Perhaps yes. Because if not now, then …
/r/askTRP09/02/21 11:28 AM
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Nice way to get rejected and friendzoned bro. The most successful men I know are pretty emotionally unavailable.
/r/seduction07/02/21 11:01 PM
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That's the thing. IDGAF about all the good things that happened because the situations were suboptimal. To put it in a different way: I have never gotten a number from a girl my age that wasn't taken already and isn't bipolar. See? I don't care about those numbers because the girls were not for me anyways. I care about not having any sexual experiences, and not being able to make them because of lockdown. In a few months I will graduate university a kissless virgin, how the fuck do I forgive mys…
/r/askTRP07/02/21 08:02 PM
1

I looked it up and the symptoms seem to match mine pretty well. If you're a so called "low smv male" then are you working towards increasing it? Yes, I used to work out ~6 times a week before lockdown. I have looksmaxxed too but I just feel inherently ugly no matter what I do. I mean, I did get numbers from girls without working for it and friends say I get flirted with a lot but I don't see it, so I think I got massive self esteem issues but I just don't know what to think really any more. I fe…
/r/askTRP07/02/21 02:59 PM
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Am I neurotic? Perhaps. But I cannot take being a low smv male any longer. I dont want to live but I have to. My energy is up.
/r/askTRP06/02/21 10:41 PM
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Most people got their first relationship in HS and I am about to finish grad school and I have less experience than your average 13 year old. So yes of course I kinda gave up after all this time.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 08:14 PM
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'Fucking do it' it is not that easy. Maybe I am too young to say that and maybe my life will radically improve after graduation, but your youth is your foundation and if I am invisible to girls rn I find it hard to imagine it will get significantly better after college. I am focusing on myself and myself alone which honestly I think is the true purpose of trp. Dont get me wrong, I definitely want to fuck as much asap before settling but I dont think it is realistic for someone like me.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 07:11 PM
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You are right... but it also has to do with the fact I have never experienced anything sexual. I bet my perspective will change once I get some experience but rn kissing and sex is just something that only happens in movies and porn (which I am trying to quit) and it just feels off to me to imagine it irl
/r/askTRP04/02/21 07:07 PM
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Socially I have had one the worst childhoods you could possibly imagine. Some parts my own fault, some part inflicted on me. As much as I try to stay optimistic I feel like I have missed out on such crucial development that it will never get better for me, and in the back of my head I've slowly given up all hope. I just cannot imagine a girl wanting me any more, no matter what I do. I live to get my degree, lift heavy and achieve other things but girls just have never been in my life right now a…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:18 PM
1

True, the longer you tell yourself that 'eventually I will crush it later on while the party dudes will fall from grace' the longer you delude yourself and hurt yourself. Working towards a degree and getting some aren't mutually exclusive, but it doesn't necessarily mean you will crush it either. Most people who get a degree will live a betabuxx life with someone who has spent her 20s living her best life: a boring and stale life.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:15 PM
1

Sounds like betabuxxx. Like OP I want fun now too, not just wait until magically girls who ignored me all their lives start lusting after my financial independence or so...
/r/askTRP04/02/21 07:21 AM
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I cant change my past, my popularity, my face, my voice, my wit, my natural charisma etc.
/r/seduction30/01/21 11:02 PM
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I know its a problem but idk how to solve it. I feel trapped in a person I would love to kill
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:59 PM
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I cant love an undesired pathetic loser such as myself. Not until I wake up one day as a popular model or so
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:57 PM
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Criminal? I am talking about mental health and increased risks of heart failure and strokes. And besides, I dont feel loved by anyone anyways, not even family
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:56 PM
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People need love, affection, validation and sex. Look it up. Look up what happens to young men when they severely lack it.
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:51 PM
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Love is dead.
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:45 PM
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Personality doesnt matter any more nowadays.Being handsome and charismatic do...
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:41 PM
1

I do lift but the gym is closed so I am literally losing 2years worth of gains rn. Also, never helped me attract someone
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:37 PM
1

What do you recommend? I mean, I am clearly not a natural casanova else I wouldnt be a 22yo virgin
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:36 PM
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Gonna be hard when you have to compete with 6'4 tanned ripped dudes with perfect teeth and perfect facial symmetry yes on shallow apps yes
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:34 PM
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I dont look like a model so I wont use that garbage
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:18 PM
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Ever since I turned 20, I realised I was late to the party and it started stressing me out. Seeing people around me succeed didnt help either. Right now it has been 2.5y since then and everyday I feel inferior to normal people who do get to fuck, all day every day. Especially with lockdown I cannot take it any more. I loathe myself so much
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:17 PM
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John Bartholomew and GothamChess got you covered
/r/askTRP21/01/21 04:45 PM
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Tell the truth or else don't. What matters is your frame about it either way. Guess this is the best answer.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 02:28 PM
1

What if they suspect you are bullshitting them, therefore making them believe you have a lower SMV than you're trying to project?
/r/askTRP14/01/21 02:27 PM
1

Good advice. Especially the last part: The most important thing is that you say each of these with a relaxed and confident demeanor that conveys that you recognize everyone as sexual people, just like you, and you have no judgement for what anybody does. Thanks to being on average 1-2 years younger than my classmates ever since middle school, and the curse of being the good kid, I have denied myself to be a sexual person, or see myself as one, and this has always lead to unnecessary frustration …
/r/askTRP14/01/21 02:25 PM
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As for initiating keep going, persistence is key. Mhm, but I do feel sad that other people hit jackpot when they are 17 (half the population does) and I am still struggling at 22. Like why does it take so long for me? You finished university, thats a pretty memorable thing that not everyone gets to do Doesnt feel thát special to me, more like what I am supposed to do to have good finances later. There are a LOT of opportunities that will come up as long as you keep pushing ahead / working on you…
/r/seduction01/12/20 06:41 PM
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Are you overweight ? I have an athletic build. Have you ever been on a date ? One, but she used me for attention. She was taken all along. Do you regulary speak to women or are you starting from ground zero ? I speak to women sometimes, usually the same ones at places I visit a lot, but not in a romantic way. I am basically starting from ground zero as I have never had female friends. Obvious answer is a hooker... But don't do that. I am considering it if that is what it takes, but only as a las…
/r/seduction01/12/20 05:32 PM
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Yes, youth is subjective, but I am about to enter the 'adult world' and I do not feel ready because I have never lived my younger prime years to the fullest, so I am afraid I do not have the 'toolbox' to be ready for adult social life.
/r/seduction01/12/20 05:28 PM
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True. Nothing can give you the same validation as sex does.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 08:25 PM
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I feel the exact same way. Also 22 and feeling useless and crying every day. I am willing to drop my morality to stop feeling this way, so in your case, I'd say go for it if it makes you feel appreciated.
/r/seduction27/11/20 03:32 PM
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I did have not-so-close friendships yes but they gave me no confidence or interest to pursue them in college. I also dont like fake confidence: I tried it but ppl see thru the act.
/r/seduction14/11/20 08:33 PM
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I know my strengths but people don't care that much. Maybe I am either stupid or dealing with the wrong people, but I never found people reacting positively to my strengths, usually they try to downplay them or so.
/r/seduction14/11/20 02:35 PM
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On a second note, I used to go to therapy to fix panic attacks and an anxiety disorder. That helped, maybe I can apply the same methods to 'social' anxiety?
/r/seduction14/11/20 10:38 AM
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I do have depressive spells, like this week.
/r/seduction14/11/20 10:37 AM
1

And you won't believe how much they'll stab each other in the back to marry you if you're fat, ugly, and rich (nevermind how much they'll betray each other for a man who is fit, handsome, and rich). Sounds like, dare I say, betabuxx
/r/seduction14/11/20 10:36 AM
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I (20F) have always felt pretty good in my skin, and without meaning to sound cocky, I have been pursued by good looking/charming people my whole life. All of my girlfriends are good-looking and smart people as well, so if I understand correctly, we'd be the kind of girls you'd want to attract. And this is exactly what make me feel lesser. Attractive people are around other attractive people all the time. They get so much positive validation. They live lives vastly different from mine, I could n…
/r/seduction14/11/20 10:35 AM
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Spend more time with attractive girls Ok, where do I find them?
/r/seduction14/11/20 10:32 AM
1

Even if they fake confidence, their friendships and sexual relationships will make them actually confident. I never had those to begin with, so I cannot base social confidence on anything.
/r/seduction14/11/20 10:31 AM
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I close relate to that notion. I didn't have any girl friends either to 'replace' the feminine presence of my mom, so that didn't help either.
/r/seduction14/11/20 10:29 AM
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Could very well be possible. But people affect me worse because of all the shit I had to endure with them.
/r/seduction13/11/20 08:46 PM
2

Attractive guys get laid more. It's not rocket science. Chad is kinda a meme.
/r/seduction13/11/20 07:12 PM
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I do not even go for the super hot chicks. I think all girls I have ever fancied were around a 7-8. I never had a crush on a 10/10 bikini model. But even then they seem too attractive for me. EDIT: they have better personalities most of the time anyway. Believe me. The people who are most rude to me are also the ugliest physically.
/r/seduction13/11/20 03:53 PM
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Agreed. Parents used to try to put me into their own mold, and any deviation from that was punished with degradation. I couldn't turn myself into my own person, in who I wanted to be, because I'd be put down.
/r/seduction13/11/20 03:52 PM
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Yes I do PPL 6 days a week. On top of that I swim a lot. But that's not the issue. Just because I am confident in one aspect of my life, doesn't mean I can transpose it into other aspects of my life.
/r/seduction13/11/20 03:51 PM
0

IDK man.... I will think about it but I am afraid it will do nothing for me.
/r/seduction13/11/20 02:51 PM
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There are troves of women who's sole life purpose is to drain men for their gain. This year, I found this out for myself too. And that was the last straw. I dont know if I can ever be intimate with a girl ever after all of this. ​ What did you learn in therapy?
/r/seduction13/11/20 02:46 PM
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Yeah I can name like 10 events right now that made me feel worthless and inferior. And that's just the ones I can recollect right now, let alone if I give it some time... I'll give it a shot to work through that method.
/r/seduction13/11/20 02:41 PM
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A lot of those stories indeed contain weight loss. I have never been overweight and in fact am quite athletic. So I gotta pump that self esteem from somewhere else. “I’m tired of not trying, enough was enough no one was gonna change me but me” Yeah I definitely feel what he means there. Knowing what to do is one thing, but having the mental strength to overcome that barrier is another. Good luck my friend you are not alone v_v thanks!
/r/seduction13/11/20 02:39 PM
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They may be very insecure but it seems that they are more secure than me haha. So you reckon it's a deeply rooted problem that only professionals can help sort out? Man....
/r/seduction13/11/20 02:37 PM
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What can they do for me? I would feel like I'd be an even greater failure if I required professional help to do something that a lot of teens can do naturally.
/r/seduction13/11/20 02:24 PM
1

Use it as fuel to better your abundance mentality. Could you elaborate on what you mean by this?
/r/askTRP13/11/20 02:04 PM
1

How do girls magically become more interested if you don't care about their validation any more? A few years ago I had a DGAF phase but it didnt attract anyone per se.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 10:58 AM
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People dont know but the fact that I made it this far is just brutal
/r/seduction04/11/20 01:37 PM
1

Best way to reach that number is start loving yourself and stop worrying about some arbitrary number. You didnt say that explicitly, though a lot of people think that just loving yourself is more helpful than chasing girls, but then why did you say 'stop worrying about an arbitrary number'? OP wants 20 girls in 1 year. He needs to work for that. Just loving yourself isn't gonna cut it.
/r/seduction30/10/20 02:28 PM
1

Ok, explain to me what loving yourself entails, and how it magically makes you attractive to women. If you're stuck in a bubble where you like yourself but pay not attention to women whatsoever, you will die lonely. I had 2 periods in my life where I truly loved myself and I had never been lonelier.
/r/seduction30/10/20 02:20 PM
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OP, don't listen to this. Just loving yourself doesn't magically make you a girl magnet. You gotta be the most attractive man in the room at all times to get to an n-count of 20 in a year. This takes hard work and sacrifice and cockiness, not 'self-love' which brought me actually nowhere.
/r/seduction30/10/20 02:04 PM
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Same, man. Got into a bad snowball effect that lead me to the present day. Wish I could go back and take some chances when the opportunities arose, and maybe I would have been better off. But oh well, can't change it any more, I can only learn.
/r/askTRP27/10/20 08:55 PM
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Literally just learn to talk to other humans. Women are humans, and being able to talk to them is an essential part of dating them. I am working hard on this! Though it is tough right now, I am doing my best to talk to as many people as possible. I still find that others are more often the initiators, but that's also something I am working on (I am scared that people think I am a nuisance or something). Can you make a few hours per week in your schedule just to be around other people while not w…
/r/seduction18/09/20 06:24 PM
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> If you had a bad childhood, start going to Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families meetings. Get therapy (online is cheaper than in person). Eat relatively healthy and drink lots of water so that your body and skin look good. Get a good haircut. Shower daily and wash everything. Wear clean clothes that don’t look like you got them out of a trash bag. Learn to have platonic conversations with random strangers. Volunteer. Widen your horizons. I am working my ass off for my goals, I hardly have …
/r/seduction18/09/20 01:25 PM
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Try not being needy when you're the only person you've ever known to have never been in a relationship, or when you have never heard the words 'I like you' or 'I care about you' from a girl even though you have already graduated university...
/r/seduction18/09/20 07:34 AM
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Because after 22 lonely years I think it's about fucking time for me to get some.
/r/seduction09/09/20 11:54 AM
1

Sounds better yes. I should remember not to go overboard with it and keep the purpose of A&A in mind rather than just amplifying it to no ends.
/r/askTRP26/08/20 04:27 PM
1

Well, some reasons. For one, I am almost 22 and never had a gf or kiss or fling or whatever. I am into self grooming which honestly is rare in STEM, so you know: facial creams, actually taking good care of your hair everyday, perfume, that kind of stuff. My sexuality is not fragile so I am not afraid to give a genuine compliment to men (though I very rarely do it) or admire a great physique.
/r/askTRP26/08/20 04:27 PM
1

So how would you take this to an extreme so that it becomes obvious that you are lying and just bantering instead of being weird about it?
/r/askTRP26/08/20 02:56 PM
0

Interesting. So my mistake is that I take it to absurd measures, which turns people off? I think that plenty of shit test examples in the Encyclopedia in the sidebar are really absurd or rough too, yet they are used as prime examples. So in your example, if she actually believes you are gay, and if you later try to escalate and she says: 'wait hold on, I thought you were gay', what would you do?
/r/askTRP26/08/20 02:25 PM
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What I disliked about the book is that it was written as if I already had plenty of friends, and a sex life. I have none, so it's hard to apply his principles to MAINTAIN and IMPROVE relations instead of building them.
/r/seduction31/07/20 11:40 AM
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Oh yes. Maybe I would be too clingey then, but I am very eager to learn. Also, I think I would be keen om performing oral sex on women. Seems fun to me.
/r/seduction19/07/20 04:32 PM
1

What do you say when you approach a girl, what is your body language like? Where do you begin to build social circles, beyond starting off with small talk?
/r/seduction19/07/20 02:28 PM
1

Oh hey I watched that video, and the followup too! Though I can say that I didnt find the advice any useful in the end for application.
/r/seduction19/07/20 01:51 PM
1

What worked for you personally? Or what do you envision for working on yourself? I have been working on myself for years: reading books, braces, good haircut, fitting clothes, speech therapy etc. No results in terms of success with girls
/r/seduction19/07/20 01:29 PM
1

Yeah sorry but I am kinda tired of the 'join clubs' advice. Never worked for me. The only few friends I ever had were from school, and they dropped me as soon as we graduated. New people tend to ignore me when I meet them, as if I am inherently unlikeable. Maybe I should become a fuckboy?
/r/seduction19/07/20 01:27 PM
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But it is the past that has shaped me. I cant shake it off within the span of a few years.
/r/seduction19/07/20 01:25 PM
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Idk what to do. Even making friends is hard. I go to the gym, I go to the pool, I worked at my university and a restaurant... nothing works. (So far for getting more hobbies). I want to change but I cant and every day that passes makes it harder.
/r/seduction19/07/20 01:15 PM
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