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I'm 23 (M) and I never had a girlfriend, never even kissed. I used to love women and I still love women. I know women are not perfect but I love them anyway. Honestly I have nothing in common with most other men (except a few close friends)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 12:17 PM
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What’s really important is that I can trust her and feel safe around her. I never had a girlfriend, never even kissed, I don’t want to be judged for my past the same way I’m not going to judge a girl’s past
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 01:57 PM
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You’ve got the power to choose the kind of men you want in your life. Redpillers won’t care about who you are and won’t treat you as a human, but other men are capable of loving you
/r/ExRedPill08/04/24 12:53 AM
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As I said I’m not looking for a relationship based only on money or superficial things. But I wonder why would a woman want me at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 04:14 PM
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Being average is not something that can be used as a particular advantage
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 04:13 PM
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Hello. I’m italian and 23 years old, I never had a girlfriend, never even kissed. I often feel the exact same way. I think that having a “dominant role” is completely impossible to me since I’m a virgin, and also because men who try this “traditional role” often end up divorced and very bad condition these days. So a dominant woman that takes care of me and earns more money would really be the absolute best. Anyway, in order to be liked, there must be something that makes a man attractive for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:51 AM
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I don't think that having to play games, using charisma and confidence all the time would mean to be loved. To me it sounds more as "man can't be loved at all".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:32 PM
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I know. I’m not guaranteed any woman. Women can just live their own lives waiting for men to do the first step, for me it’s pretty unlikely that women will do the first step so if I’m interested I have to ask girls out, face rejection and all this kind of stuff… if I don’t want to do it, I stay on my own
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:18 PM
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It’s not necessarily about having other women in your life, it’s more about having something else you really like, and not becoming completely addicted to the other person. An healthy relationship it’s not something that makes you feel like “I die if I’m not with you all the time”. But you don’t need to have a lot of women liking you to have an healthy attitude about this. Some men have their safety this way, it’s not possible for me since there are no women interested in me, but I can learn to …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:24 PM
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It took a lot of time to me to realize how true this is. I used to be clingy and care so much about girls since I had an empty life, I really felt inadequate because I never had a girlfriend and I’m a virgin. Now things are changing because I’m not thinking about this so much, I do some things I like on my own, like mods or other stuff. It puts a lot of pressure to another person to become the center of somebody else’s life, I finally got why it couldn’t work that way
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:31 PM
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Then there’s no way you haven’t seen men change their minds because changing one’s mind is a human trait. You’re just only paying attention when women do it. Of course, everyone can change his/her mind, the point is, if you give so much power to another person you're chosing slavery, because this person will have the power to make you miserable. And to a certain extent to ruin many things in your life. ​ There you go. Its because you’ll easily give up when a disagreement come up. I’ve known wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:48 PM
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Yeah, you’re right, marrying woman with far less money is a bad decision. And that’s surely something I’m not going to do. About the fickle women it’s just what I’ve seen, many women just change their minds. On my side, I’m not the kind of person who keeps relationships going when there’s nothing good coming out of it, I never had a girlfriend but I had arguments with some groups of friends and I stopped hanging out with them. I’m not alien to compromise and forgiveness but a lifetime relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 02:36 PM
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Well of course a man needs to be careful especially when women are just interested into money. But even when a woman seems to be serious she can just dump her husband because her mood feels like that. Many man would be perfectly fine settling if they know they wouldn’t be dumped. It’s not just insecurity, it’s numbers. There’s a 50% chance of being divorced and that’s really too risky
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 02:04 PM
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It’s not just about being settle, it’s more about being dumped and then forced to pay alimony and things like that. Marriage is very likely to end in divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 01:33 PM
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It would be right, but since the girl most likely had sex with somebody else without too much knowledge it doesn’t make sense. How could we stay with a girl who likes somebody else more ? Trying to do what you say probably means you’re going to pay same dates without getting anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 08:17 AM
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Many people are drawn to believe such changes are possible. There are countless movies about it. Well, it's not true. It's not possible. Many men would give more than a chance and even marry the model with a promiscuous past. But there's a very high chance things are going to end with divorce and cheating... So it's definitely not a wise thing to do IMHO.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 12:01 AM
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Well, I don't have friends to hang out with. I spend some time with my parents but most of the time I'm already alone. It's not that I'm afraid, I'm unhappy in being alone this way (not by choice).
/r/ExRedPill21/02/23 07:38 PM
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Well, if you have a look at birthrates, it's definitely not western men impregnating women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 11:40 PM
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I'm not overwieght, I'm kinda short, I'm 5'8 and my jawline is not that good. Hitting the gym won't change this things. I'm a literature student, I'm improving myself as best as I can. I won't stop. Anyway, I'm not willing to accept some cheap relationship, I want to be really loved
/r/ExRedPill01/01/23 12:17 AM
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Thank you for your advice. I’m a former redpiller but of course self improvement is important I will keep improving myself. I’m not very physically attractive but I have much to improve socially because I’m very highly inhibited. So that’s one of the most important aspects I should continue work on. The way of approach I will look for will be definitely the mutual friends one, but if it happens I could also try other approaches
/r/ExRedPill31/12/22 11:46 PM
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I try… I don’t have many alternatives at the moment
/r/ExRedPill31/12/22 06:48 PM
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The “hunger” for love, for feelings and real connections cannot be satisfied by sex itself, if you masturbate, it doesn’t stop. It wouldn’t stop if you see an escort. It wouldn’t even stop if you have sex with a girl you don’t really love and have a real connection. It’s true this can never happen. But what would life become if we start assuming we can’t have the biggest joy ? There are no guarantees, I know, but I think the point is more about finding faith
/r/ExRedPill31/12/22 02:58 AM
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I have an hard time creating interactions in real life
/r/ExRedPill30/12/22 07:27 PM
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There is indeed a girl who I’m still thinking about, I opened up everything of myself to her but she rejected me in the end. I don’t think I’ll ever open up again the same way, I’m scared, people could insult me or else. I haven’t find any way to feel good with myself. I’m so weak
/r/ExRedPill30/12/22 05:55 PM
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If I was just horny, I would have just said I think about sex and only about it. But it’s the whole relationship that I miss, especially the more emotional part
/r/ExRedPill30/12/22 02:21 AM
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Very interesting perspective. Surely we’ll never know everything about the other person…
/r/ExRedPill30/12/22 12:01 AM
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Well, I may say I already “love” my families and my friends. But I never explored romantic love, and that’s what’s on my mind all the time
/r/ExRedPill30/12/22 12:00 AM
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I never tried it. It may be a nice thing to do
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 11:58 PM
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While some things make sense, your fear of guards has no sense. Guards are usually psychologically tested. It’s very unlikely that a guard will become crazy and spray bullets all around. As for your fear in general, men are even more violent against other men. And as a man, I wouldn’t feel safe in certain places only because “I’m a man”. I think you’re overestimating what being a man is. Very few men are so strong to feel safe everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:31 AM
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In most cases I think they care.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 12:24 PM
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Maybe I’ll watch that anime
/r/seduction30/10/22 07:59 AM
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How can I carry myself in order to not appear needy?
/r/seduction29/10/22 06:44 PM
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I’m not talking about sex. I feel the lack of emotional connection as I said before. Loneliness makes me feel bad
/r/seduction29/10/22 03:37 PM
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And what if I don’t have enough strength to invest emotionally in too many people? The person I invested in doesn’t give a shit about me. My emotional resources are now depleted, what can I do?
/r/seduction29/10/22 02:32 PM
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No. But I don’t think it would change anything
/r/seduction29/10/22 02:13 PM
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I’m italian and I live in Italy
/r/seduction29/10/22 02:10 PM
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How do girls work and think?
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:50 AM
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The abundance mindset means and only means that not just one woman has your full attention. Regardless of weather your talking to dating or sleeping with any women. You have your agenda you have your life to lead. Think like this, You go get a cup of coffee a woman is standing next to you you can choose to talk to her or ask her out, or you can choose not to be cause your there just for the coffee she becomes irrelevant to your purposes. The more you choose to ignore the woman to do your own thi…
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:49 AM
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Well, I can agree that being needy is negative and women don’t like it. But if I have no more attachment then why pursue a relationship? Isn’t the bond going to be too weak? I’m not into casual hookups, it’s not what I’m looking for
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:46 AM
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I’m not doing bad in other aspects of life. Anyway my post got upvoted a lot and has tons of comments. This condition is very common among men
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:34 AM
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Ok. But what makes you better than 80-90% of other men?
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:32 AM
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I don’t think there are many feelings and happiness in such relationships
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:28 AM
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Well, I got some phone numbers and I also got girls to say they would hang out with me. But they always changed their mind at some point and we didn’t have the date
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:27 AM
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And how can I avoid communicating this “need” ?
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:21 AM
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Good point
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:20 AM
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I’m 5’8, my jawline is nothing exceptional. My physique is average…
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:17 AM
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Thank you but I’m afraid we’re too distant for this
/r/seduction29/10/22 08:16 AM
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Very funny, but completely wrong. I'm not doing bad in college, I already got a degree. When I need to do an exam, I study, I have to learn a few things. I spend the time I need, I try and if I fail, I'm learning something. Maybe there is something I havent considered. It would be fine if everything in life was easy and simple as college and jobs. Human interaction is completely different. Every person can have different values and ideas. Just to make a stupid example, a girl coul love a certain…
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:47 PM
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Yeah, very toxic. Blaming ourselves for society's problems.
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:41 PM
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Sadly, yes.
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:40 PM
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My oneitis is not a girl I've just met. I felt an emotional connection, but things didn't worked out. And I can't find another girl. So 8 bilions? Half and more, are males. Now, remove from the equation all women who are too young or too old, or lesbian or already in a relationship, or not willing to have one... Now remove the women who are too far from me geographically, and the women I'll never get to know because of "luck". The result? Well, it's not 0, but probably is kinda low. Less than 10…
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:37 PM
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Because having a relationship is what I lack and that's why I'm so focused and worried about it
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:32 PM
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So you suggest me to believe something we know it's not true and expect different results by doing the same thing over and over again... "oh, I'm so amazing, there are plenty of girls who love me and adore me"... And in the real life, I just get rejected over and over 100%... Keep trying, keep getting rejected. It sounds kinda insane to me.
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:09 PM
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Unless you're experienced or voluntarily celibate, a young virigin boy is most likely to appear needy. That's something you can get only with experience...
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:01 PM
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Oh, the "law of attraction"
/r/seduction28/10/22 09:55 PM
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Thank you :) I don't want to give up, that's sure. I just feel stuck at the moment.
/r/seduction28/10/22 09:53 PM
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Being attractive alone can lead to hookups, but if there's nothing else beyond that it stops there. I'm not uncapable to talk to other people, but this "small talk" doesn't lead to anything in the long run. Not many girls catch my attention. And not because of look standards, but many girls have nothing to do with me, having a real connection feels impossible.
/r/seduction28/10/22 09:52 PM
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I may become worth loving, but it's not necessary to be "worthy" to be loved. It's up to what the girl is looking for. In casual hookups is simple, it's only about looks. But if we consider a serious relationship then it's impossible to understand, since there are different opinions, different values, it's hard, next to impossible. On the emotional level I struggle a lot to create a connection, and being rejected for who you really are, for being yourself, is 100 times more painful than being re…
/r/seduction28/10/22 09:48 PM
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And where is this "better and perfect woman" who loves me? I can picture it in my head, but that's so far from truth to be ridiculous... In most places there are more men than women so as a mathematical fact, some men are not going to reproduce. It feels like I need to drop an delusion (my oneitis) to get another one (an unreal oneitis who exists only in my fantasy)...
/r/seduction28/10/22 09:43 PM
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And what's the point of trying if I don't care about the outcome? I don't just randomly try without liking the girl... there would be no happiness doing so
/r/seduction28/10/22 09:39 PM
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I learned it with logic. Even if it may not be a perfect logic
/r/seduction28/10/22 09:00 PM
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True, but I’m fine with all the other segments of my life
/r/seduction28/10/22 08:59 PM
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Easier said than done
/r/seduction28/10/22 08:58 PM
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Well, thank you :)
/r/seduction28/10/22 08:58 PM
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Every time. And I don't think I'm the only one who never get even a single positive answer. So it sounds kinda impossible to view myself as "the prize", if everything on the outside says the countrary.... Yes, a dimond doesn't stop being a diamond, even if it's in the dirt... But the external circumstances have a huge impact...
/r/seduction28/10/22 07:42 PM
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I don't know exactly. Maybe trying not to think at all, but this can only work to a certain extent. Not very much..
/r/seduction28/10/22 07:39 PM
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So we need to touch all water in the world to know it's wet?
/r/seduction28/10/22 07:37 PM
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But this sounds more as a brainwash than actual improvement...
/r/seduction28/10/22 07:36 PM
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I have a degree, I've improved myself going to the gym, but nothing improved my dating. I got rejected anyway
/r/seduction28/10/22 07:35 PM
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Yes, but itsn't it insanity, to believe in something you know it's not true?
/r/seduction28/10/22 07:33 PM
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I think is mostly about being rejected
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:19 PM
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Nobody ever gave me a satisfying answer on how to deal with this insecurity. I think it’s inevitable to feel insecure in such conditions
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:38 AM
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This sub is very accepting and rational. Instead Incelexit is very toxic
/r/ExRedPill17/10/22 06:01 PM
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Because “women are goddesses”. If someone is offended by this question, that’s their idea. Anyway, I think you should understand on your own what you want from a woman… physically and mentally and then you choose according to it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 02:44 PM
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Having unrealistic expectations is wrong. But imho there is no point in having a relation with a girl if you don’t like her at all
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 02:29 PM
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An average woman is very good for me. I wonder if she would love me or not
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:34 AM
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That depends on your definition of happiness. It couldn’t be the same for everyone, so this studies shouldn’t bother you
/r/ExRedPill14/10/22 03:01 PM
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Thank you ;)
/r/ExRedPill09/10/22 05:23 PM
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I see, thank you. I hope I’ll find love one day
/r/ExRedPill09/10/22 08:39 AM
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It’s not just a matter of age, it’s a matter of mindset. But yes, probably younger women are more into this mindset than older women if that’s what you mean
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 10:27 PM
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Experienced men mostly, for sex, for lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:55 PM
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I used to be like that. But nowadays things are changed… the women I’ve met are not interested in love
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 07:36 PM
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And where are this women? I've never seen even one woman saying or implying this
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 07:13 PM
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Yeah I think you're right but what if everything else doesn't fulfill me. I'm not a "loser", I'm doing great in college, I have some passions and I spend some time doing things I like, I even have some friends (mostly online)... but what really bothers me is my lack of success in finding a girlfriend. I want to love. I know I'm not entitled to anything but I want it and I don't find anything else worth focusing for me...
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 10:14 PM
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Whitepill already exists and is associated with religion. So I guess you’ll better find another name
/r/ExRedPill06/10/22 07:31 PM
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Yes, indeed
/r/ExRedPill06/10/22 12:54 PM
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For some people it works being in an open relationship. Personally? I think this cannot work for me. In my opinion love is supposed to be only between two people and nobody else. Monogamy or not is a choice, you should go after what's best for you.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 03:05 PM
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Only if I were a single father
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 06:22 PM
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Yeah, feeling unwanted and unloved can lead you to blame the opposite gender
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 06:10 PM
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Yeah. More superficial girls only care about looks and want casual hookups. There is nothing morally wrong with that, but this way most guys are excluded. In right environment, girls are not so focused on looks
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:34 PM
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This insane look requirements are for One night stands. In other type of relationships, is a little different since personality matters... But you need to have places and events to meet women compatible with you...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:28 PM
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Real life is not like dating sites, so I think you're right, it's not worth to try compete there...
/r/ExRedPill02/10/22 10:13 PM
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I think two partners should have the same past experiences. So a promiscuous man shouldn’t judge a promiscuous women. A virgin man on the other hand may be afraid of comparison with the previous sexual partners of the woman and have many insecurities…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/22 11:21 AM
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Well, I didn't understood women were the same species as men let's say so
/r/ExRedPill01/10/22 07:06 PM
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Exactly. A lot of times a woman may think “Oh I really don’t like this guy, he’ll never be my boyfriend” but then when she gets to know the guy she may like his personality, the guy may be very loving and kind. So she may fall in love in the end. As you said there is no logic in love. It may even happen to a man, thinking “oh this girl is nothing special” but after knowing the girl, feelings may arise
/r/ExRedPill01/10/22 02:59 PM
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Yes, they say women are only looking for lust or money, like animals. But women may also be looking for love that’s what redpill fail to understand…
/r/ExRedPill01/10/22 12:35 PM
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Yes. It feels so good. Unjustified hatred towards women made my life very miserable. I realize I love women a lot but understanding them has never been easy…
/r/ExRedPill01/10/22 12:28 PM
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It’s not necessarily true. But many virgin men probably have the same insecurity I have
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:25 PM
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If both people have a past there is no problem. If both people have no past there is no problem either. If one person is more experienced then the other may feel powerless, and yes It’s also a lot about insecurity. For example I’m a virgin male and I feel insecure about this. So I’m also afraid a more experienced woman could manipulate me and cheat more easily. Also a virgin woman could do the same things… but I think there it’s more unlikely in that case
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:49 PM
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If you treat objects better than people then I understand what you mean. You can’t have full control on people, a person has free will… this aspect needs to be accepted
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:01 PM
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The same way there are superficial men there are also superficial women. The best way to avoid them is to look for intimate and solid connection, common interests, feelings, common values and ideas. Otherwise, if it's all superficial ONS it's kinda obvious that only looks and other external stuff are considered.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 07:12 PM
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Thank you very much for your precious advice. I honestly think she’s 100% worth all of my efforts. If I happen to know another girl I wouldn’t reject the new girl, but I’ll keep in touch with this girl even as friends. She needs things to be slow. I’ll be patient. Overtime she will appreciate all my efforts and all the love I’m putting into our “relation”. In this two years I’ve learned a lot about myself… things can go well… so I’m hopeful… thank you again
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 06:27 PM
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Yes it helps me really a lot. The girl I’m texting has probably had toxic relationships and she once said she would have spent hours texting me if I reached her in another period of her life. She doesn’t believe in love anymore.. she didn’t trusted me. I do what I can to make sure she doesn’t forget me and let her know, I still care about her… I don’t know if I’m doing something impossible or useless but I don’t want to give up. I’ll give up only if I found “a girl who loves me… “. You know? Tha…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 03:11 PM
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So you’re saying this girls feel like they don’t deserve me? I don’t know… Maybe because I seemed to be too nice and care a lot about them while they had a low self esteem
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 02:31 PM
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I have some social anxiety, it used to worse in the past but still I have some. I am somehow insecure since I never had a girlfriend. I’m not really ugly but I easily get ignored. I like solid and deep relationships, and many girls don’t want a real emotional bond as far as I’ve seen… and for a certain part of my life I was deep into the redpill and incel ideas… there is still an emotional wound inside of me and I think it’s not completely healed
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:12 AM
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I have no experiences in real life. I’m 22 and I never had a girlfriend. But I simply realized that the problem is not only about looks or money or status, is also about some internal factors and about mindset. Many people say to be confident, but if you never learned how to write you can’t be confident about it the first time. I think confidence can only come with experience. Fear and social anxiety make it really hard to meet girls and to get connections with them… a negative mindset like the …
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 12:08 AM
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I’m 22
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:04 AM
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I think that the point here is this: there are no guarantees. It’s very easy for a woman to say she’s conservative and traditional and then she’s just the opposite. I used to consider all progressive and feminist women as not serious and incapable of love… It’s not true. We should stop focusing on politics, it just divides people and makes things really difficult… try to see the person for what it is and not just as a political idea… I am a male and I feel very lonely. I am trying to avoid a neg…
/r/ExRedPill28/09/22 11:50 PM
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Well, no girl loves me... I'm really lonely and sad. I think I've failed in life...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 07:03 PM
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Yes exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:47 PM
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I think a LTR with a girl who loves me would make me happy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 12:16 PM
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I think there’s a difference between left-wing redpillers and right-wing redpillers. Left-wing redpillers just want to hock up as much as possible, while right-wing redpillers are conservative and would like just one woman to have a traditional family with.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 09:50 AM
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We can't deny our society is constantly bombarding us with sex. Not only in porn but also in all soft porn even in tv. In songs, it's everywhere
/r/ExRedPill19/09/22 11:10 PM
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We need to consider how much the woman likes you, for being you. The economical aspect is important, for the relationship, yes. But the point is, if the woman doesn’t like your personality, your ideas, your looks whatever… she is not in love with you and things are going to end up bad even if you have a lot of money…
/r/ExRedPill19/09/22 12:30 AM
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Everything in life is dangerous. If you want to earn something you have to take risks. The most important thing is to understand if it's worth or not.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/22 07:45 PM
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Not all women want to become mothers. It's kinda an individual thing in many aspects
/r/ExRedPill18/09/22 06:54 PM
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Even if you are a very good “player”. Playing your whole life doesn’t sound good to me. But yes, self improvement is good.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/22 11:42 AM
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I'm not 6ft and most people are not so tall. In the end is not just about looks. Even if you're very hot, you still have zero chances if you don't get out of your house and if you don't do the first move...
/r/ExRedPill17/09/22 12:16 PM
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Nice girls obviously exist. A nice guy if interested usually ask the girl out and get rejected, while nice girls rarely do the first move. Some of them do of course… nice girls don’t get noticed. It’s not even a matter of looks
/r/ExRedPill16/09/22 05:47 PM
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