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Adventurous_Wrap_343/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 02:17 PM
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Likely why they don’t rape you as “primary caregiver”. In the US it’s different
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 04:22 PM
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Man that’s wild
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 04:20 PM
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Wishing you healing and strength
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:17 AM
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Does the state replace you as the primary caregiver?
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:15 AM
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That’s a tough story to read. You mentioned that you carried her so I have a few questions. What kind of troubling/problematic behavior did she show during your relationship? Does her behavior during marriage match her current behavior?
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:13 AM
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Causes similar to mine. It’s their personal truth.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 08:22 PM
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This
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 03:41 AM
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Hate to say it, but I’ll be blunt. If it happened like this with two women it’s a you thing or at least who you attract. I’m struggling as well but trying to work on it, and it’s a long road to recovery. Good luck bro.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 11:51 PM
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Twice? Same woman?
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 12:23 AM
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I don’t think that it’s necessarily it. Clearly based on what OP said she’s trying to get his attention so her needs are met. Folks are too quick to project their experiences on others from a couple of words in post.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 06:30 PM
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The language is definitely disrespectful and it’s certainly hits the ego right in the nuts. I would address that as well if it bothers you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 05:29 PM
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She’s telling you that you’re not being attractive. It’s easier to communicate on it and make an effort than to go down the divorce path. Some things can be fixed. Maybe you have some asks if your own.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 05:27 PM
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I second all of this. My ex sees this and she’s trying hard not to show it but she’s seething. She called me out for my proactive approach, and my response was “there is nobody around to consistently fill my head with doubt and fear”. Thanks for the liberation wench.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 12:22 PM
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You cannot change their mind. You’re young and no kids. You’re in a better situation than most men. The person you met is no longer there. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 01:44 PM
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Good fuck her. She told him she wants out, she can go to therapy on her own time. He should waste no time to cut her off and block her out of his memory.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 05:22 PM
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I don’t know him, but on the surface I envy him.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 05:20 PM
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I pray you don’t have kids with her. And it’s good that you got her a career, she can’t leech off you after divorce. Kick her to the curb immediately, file quickly and abandon the captain save a ho mentality. And don’t make the mistake of taking her back. Don’t be understanding and empathetic, she took advantage and doesn’t know how to appreciate what she has, likely because she’s from junkie breed. Good luck. Ps. Speak to an attorney before making any moves. And don’t give any hint of what you’…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 05:18 PM
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Just don’t get caught. I’m still not divorced but I’m not a eunuch either, but the first few months I was paranoid. There are no rules, she asked for separation, you do what you have to. You’re a human male, you have needs, and those needs must be met on your terms. No more mr nice guy shit.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 02:00 AM
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And now the real fun begins. This is where many if not most of us go wrong. We put them on a pedestal and before we know it we say stuff like “she was my life”, but she isn’t, she’s part of your life, a piece of your identity. At this minimum this experience has you reflecting and that may lead to facing some personal demons, and that’s OK. Really, take a look at No More Mr Nice Guy.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 05:33 AM
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You don’t have kids with her, you already dodge the bullet.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 02:43 AM
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Simp only for yourself
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 02:24 AM
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No more mr nice guy book, a therapist and the mantra of “it’s going to be ok, I can handle it”. Find comfort in the fact that you’re not alone, there’s an army of men around to support you. Lean in them. Read their stories. I’ve been separated for over a year, but in the last few months I really started working on the inner me and I’m nowhere where I want. But I have found comfort in being wifeless.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 06:20 PM
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RM is highly recommended but based on his comment (he’s giving) he would probably benefit more from No More Mr Nice Guy.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 06:17 PM
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When I got heart surgery and told her to go home and rest because she had chronic pain, and she didn’t even put in a second thought. Then when I said I need a few days away from home to recover, she called in the first day to tell me she needs me to come home and help with our child. It escalated to such a fight that my blood pressure shot up to 190/100, day after heart surgery.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 10:29 PM
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Mine had the lap band. She lost no weight in the first year because her eating habits were awful and she wasn’t moving around. She stayed angry and resentful. Within a month into separation she changed her eating habits and started walking. There was no immediate monetary cost, but it all came at a significant emotional cost. I suspect that was the plan for her, leave and then she better herself. For the life of me I couldn’t understand why she just couldn’t do it while we were together, she wou…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 12:26 PM
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I too am a better father and person away from her. All coordinating and negotiating with her is tense, because she is a cancer who has spent our entire relationship in some kind of negative state. I had shut down a while back but couldn’t muster the guts to leave. She kicked me out and I came back, for the family, and it became so much worse after that. Now I have physical conditions and at times severe anxiety. And on top of it I find myself playing the husband role and being supportive. I can’…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 04:21 PM
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But outside of those friends did she have any of her own friends. Mine had a couple of friends but she never did any girls nights or anything, everything was dependent on me. I had my own friends whom I would go out with.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 02:51 PM
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Did she have non couple friends who were just her friends?
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 01:44 PM
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Even if she wasn’t having a physical affair she could have been having an emotional affair. I suspect that was my case, could have been yours as well.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 12:14 PM
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Most friends don’t check in. One check in regularly. Aside from my mother, nobody in my family checks in. My cousin who I grew up with, who I always considered an older brother, aside from suggesting that we use my house to have parties with paid women, hasn’t even checked in once in the 9 months. I think he blames me for the divorce. Support and emotional uplifting is a dry well in my family. I’ve been lucky to find groups like these.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 12:32 PM
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Its an opinion but it’s very believable.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 11:51 AM
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I also heard the “I’ve been selfless time to be selfish”, it’s absolutely insane. I could never imagine anybody in the previous generation saying that. Somethings in the water for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 12:54 AM
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When women are asking where are the good men are, they should read this post and see why some hoes have ruined it for the good women.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 01:35 PM
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Now if money is not an issue, then you can go move forward, but expect her to try to impoverish you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 03:07 PM
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If she’s still in it you have to find a way; counseling, spice it up (no swinging), new hobbies together (only you two). The alternative is way worse. Because if she decides to file, as the sole income earner with 3 kids, you’ll be paying out big time.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 03:06 PM
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It’s not just work, that’s just one part of it. That you can’t blame her. Where you can blame her is that she signed up for better or worse and she dropped out at mile 7. Move forward never back. And for gods sakes get your own place, feel like a king.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 03:00 PM
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Highly likely l. They’re just not built for the long run these days.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 02:58 PM
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Everybody’s going to be quick to say she’s has someone, because that’s the easiest thing to think. In some cases this does happen, but I wouldn’t go down that rabbit hole because it’s pure torture. To me it makes sense to just move on. The journey thing is to to find something/someone else, another situation that’s more exciting than what she has been experiencing. I went through something similar just without those words. They had a different dream and at 35 it hit them that they haven’t reache…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 02:57 PM
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To this day. I know she’s on vacation. She’s in spots that we visited together for the first time. Right now I suspect she went somewhere that was specifically our thing. When i first heard it didn’t trigger, but at night it’s gnawing at me. But it goes away once the routine starts up again. When I’m out living it’s better. I’m planning my own vacation so that should help. I need a vacation.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 01:15 AM
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Same for therapy. She resented the therapist for agreeing with me on anything and for not being biased even more so because the therapist is a woman. She felt that her complaints were not heard. I’m tired of this and I don’t think I can ever go through it again.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 03:16 PM
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I could swear she was keeping Amazon in business with all the random bullshit she bought “for our kid” and her “self care”. She left all the expensive creams when I told her to kick rocks and all the kid stuff was either barely or never used. And then she had the nerve to not understand why I wouldn’t commit to buying a house with her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 03:51 AM
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I’m making slightly more than I was with way more expenses. Somehow I have some money around and a significant improvement in my mental health. I can’t say that I’m “happy”, but I’m nowhere as sad and ashamed.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 03:42 AM
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Same got the “push present” bs which I’ve maybe heard of once in my life it and it was a really wealthy couple. And then eventually o got the “you’ll never get me a Gucci bag”, and I wouldn’t because that bitch doesn’t know how to appreciate nice things nor show gratitude past “thank you”.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 03:29 AM
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Always forward never back
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 06:12 PM
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And bring you down they will, slowly and painfully. You will see they really changed, just not the way they think they have.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 11:05 AM
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It’s only been 3 weeks, give it time. Stay committed to getting past the pain, lean on the men on these groups and watch some vids. Do things that give you meaning and you WILL feel better.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 12:52 AM
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Oddly enough without her around I’m somehow able to save some dough and don’t constantly feel stressed and depressed. The moment I think of her and the failed marriage it all comes back.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 12:50 AM
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Just talk to her. Don’t reach out to the guy.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 08:26 AM
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Right? Just tell her that you want nothing but for her “to be happy”. Help her get out of your life. You’re not going to fix this like ever.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 02:56 AM
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I wouldn’t bother messing with the other dude and his life. It’s not your duty to expose him unless you have evidence that he maybe preys on his clients. Just swiftly and as quietly as possible end your marriage and protect yourself
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 02:49 PM
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☝️👏👏👏
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 12:58 AM
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If you can record with her consent then do it. Exchange at the police station and lose that opportunity for her to gang herself. Give her the rope, best that it’s off camera (like over the phone), let her gang herself on camera.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 02:07 AM
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Yeah in my case it was just pure torture. A couple of times I gave in to weakness to check if she was lying about things, 80% was true, but that 20% hurt like hell. Ignorance is bliss, save yourself the pain unless absolutely necessary to protect your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 04:01 PM
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Curious where is she from?
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 03:58 PM
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No good deed goes unpunished. And I would t be advertising that this is not a real marriage if I were you, that’s more trouble than the money you’re losing. In the eyes of the state it’s a real marriage or you played the state, in which case it’s way worse. So lawyer up and do your best to give her nothing. Find a way to punish her ungrateful ass when you’re done.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 03:35 PM
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How do you hear it on the baby monitor if she moved out? I had some access to a camera when we separated but then I deleted the app because it was just causing heartache hearing the lies. I knew nothing good can come of it, it’s pure torture. It’s true what they say ignorance is bliss.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 12:29 PM
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It was t yours it was just your turn
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 12:26 PM
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Just me an my daughter. No depressing in laws with their piercing looks thinking im the problem (they just realized it’s her), no retarded wife. No fights no arguments no nasty tones. Sheer bliss.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 01:43 AM
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And then on top of it you’re also supposed to provide the intangibles as well. And if you don’t have bandwidth to provide the intangibles, then you’re nearly worthless.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 12:57 AM
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